Thank you sister for your note worthy advice.. My biggest takeaways include your good points about false expectations, self awareness and accountability, and the point that no one can make you happy, if you can't make yourself happy.
these points are so valid, but it saddens me, only one party go through these lecttures and tries to educate themselves in turn to be a good spouse. who do tell the other party, who thinks yeah, we are getting married and thats enough, nothing more should be asked from us.
Masya Allah, finally, I have a clearer understanding of the "unrealistic expectations." Indeed, healthy communication and self-acceptance can help to avoid the crack caused by the "unrealistic expectations." ✨️ Thank you for this wonderful video 🥰✨️ fyi, I am single and living in Indonesia 🇮🇩 (written 18 june 2023)
Assalamu alaikum Sister. Allah does not want hardship for us. Alhamdulillah please start your day with adhkar and gratitude. For me this changed my perspective on our purpose in life and how to go about it in a sound way. Please read Quran daily as well. Believe me this is how Allah speaks to us and gives us comfort when we are feeling overwhelmed.
It may be exhausting sis but remember this dunya is only for a short while. What’s 60+ years compared to a whole eternity in Jannah? 💗 And that’s if you even live until 60 sis. May Allah bring ease into your life Ameen 🫶
Aslamoalicom Dear Sister Dr. The preparation before get involved with other parts we have known our masurty is capable missionary and materials wice. Thanks sister. Keep going forward Allah bless you always and your family aswell.
What about disability? I have epilepsy, due to my disability I have no job experience and dropped out of university in my second semester. I also don't have confidence and feel very unsure of what I want or need. Allah knows what's best for me, but I don't, I don't know if I'll ever have a wife or if I'll be worthy of one, I feel that I'd be a limitation, but I wish I could have a halal option.
@deea7843 First I was hoping I'll he able to find a wife, it feels THAT was shaitan in my head, the overconfidence and denial, if I had recognized how epilepsy was affecting me during university, maybe I could have found a path instead of spending 7 years out of school that lead of suicidal thoughts and feelings of uselrssness. I feel it's Allah's guidance that I'm now realuzing that I need to fix the sources of the problem that I can deal with. It's not that I shouldn't find a wife inshallah, I may be able to eventually, but I think I may not be able to be worthy right now while I'm on Canada's Disability support and need supervision to do everything. I hoped I would be able to find a wife, now I'm thinking I need to apply the hadith of needing to tie my camel, I need to return to school and get a job, Maybe once I can support a family, I can find a wife. Islam doesn't reject marrying disability, but the potential spouses would need to be introduced, I am rarely allowed to leave the house by my parents because I could have a seizure. There are requirements for spouses, I don't fit with most, I live off my parents, have no Job experience or Job, dropped out of a University program in science during my second semester. I try to find confidence, but don't find much to be confident about, maybe being kind, an uncle or a muslim. The one time I got a rishta was a mother in pakistan (this was me attempting to find a wife through a muslim marriage site) calling me in canada 6 years ago while I was sleeping who rejected when she realized that I was 19, I haven't got any more since then, I keep wanting my parents to try to get me married to the girls at our mosque (we used to go a lot more before the seizures) but I think they avoid it because they consider it hopeless as I do not fit the needs of a husband (it's not just the epillepsy, it's all the affects and limitations it has put) I am incapable, and my family won't bother trying to find me a wife.
@deea7843 Inshallah, last year a found out about Epilepsy Toronto, the group's been good, ET's Epilepst Employment's host suggested a college program that although not doing much career-wise was good for my confidence and not feeling like a drop-out (Transition to post-secondary education at George brown College), however the person we had accompanying me there was no longer able, inshallah now the employment group's host can help me find a career-wise program at the college just around the corner from my house. I feel this will fit with the idea of tying my camel, by returning to school Inshallah, I may be able to move on, I think that back in 2015, I was in denial of my seizures and I was trying to do my science program at full intensity and was rejecting the accomodations I needed. But I also find it interesting that that first year I didn't manage to finish was the same year my nephew was born, since then my main job as been the uncle, and the year I returned to school was the same year my niece started kindergarten. Inshallah I can find a good program and do it at the right intensity for my disability (I'm currently guessing that's 2 courses a semester, even if the usual course load for the program is 6)
May Allah SWT make it easy for you. It's all about mindset and confidence. Before seeking marriage, please seek ways to work on your internal state (especially around your self-worth). You can also meet up with support groups for people with epilepsy and find inspiration from people with similar conditions who continue to strive and are where you want to be one day in shaa Allah.
I heard miss conception over and over . I don’t like when specialist brush under the rug how so many Arabs are so narcissistic and cunning to get any young woman to abuse . they are race with the mentality that they can treat their wife like garbage and if she doesn’t comply just find another one and marry secretly. Teach young woman to marry someone they know, a classmate they grow seen at school etc. a lot Muslim woman are online catching fish a.I. money dating man over the phone like that is halal dating . There is so much to talk about then examples from the passed . Back in the days people fear allah not anymore! Now Muslim man young or old follow woman, make friends with them, watch porn etc. 18 years dealing with someone like that, instead of change he was dating and pushing me to move to his country so he can bring his girlfriend to America . It’s funny the love ended because I didn’t go !! Jajaja she was not going to marry for going back to his country, she wanted papers, better life, little did she know, she was dealing with a malignant narc.
That's the last thing they will do for husbands. For shopping. Going out or going to a wedding three hours in front of the mirror no probs at all that's why some marriges are at breaking point.
@43 being single is very hard 😢 May Allah bless me to get married soon😢😢😢😢
Amen
I experienced same .may Allah grant you kind righteous spouse who fear Allah.ameen
@@138littleangel Thank you Dear may allah grant us best spouse in sha allah🙏🙏
May Almighty Allah grant you sabr to pass this test and a righteous spouse if it's good for your dunya and ahkirah.
@@naimahibrahim6109 Ameen, Thank you for your concerning about me Dear🙏🙏
38M and single as well 😢
Thank you sister for your note worthy advice.. My biggest takeaways include your good points about false expectations, self awareness and accountability, and the point that no one can make you happy, if you can't make yourself happy.
these points are so valid, but it saddens me, only one party go through these lecttures and tries to educate themselves in turn to be a good spouse. who do tell the other party, who thinks yeah, we are getting married and thats enough, nothing more should be asked from us.
49, I wish to get married soon, when the almighty wills! ameen
Please remember me in your sincere dua's
Sister do lots of istagfar like saying (Astagfirullah) @@mohammadislam6772
MashaAllah, the content of this topic was so beneficial and informative about marriage…❤
Masya Allah, finally, I have a clearer understanding of the "unrealistic expectations." Indeed, healthy communication and self-acceptance can help to avoid the crack caused by the "unrealistic expectations." ✨️
Thank you for this wonderful video 🥰✨️
fyi, I am single and living in Indonesia 🇮🇩 (written 18 june 2023)
Did you have unrealistic expectations?
@EV-EV-EV I think, yes. Not consciously, but maybe sometimes unconsciously happened.
As an Indonesian live in the West pretty much understand these.
currently watching this. subhanallah! Ustazah has definitely made me takeaway a lot of useful tips as a Muslimah looking for marriage ❤
Assalamualikum
Awesome content MāshaAllāh
Thank you my sister for your beneficial content
Every point made here were so needed and wholesome. Thank you so much for this content.
Amazing content and nice to hear it from a female too ❤❤❤ may Allah bless you
Mashallah excellent conversation
This Dunya is exhausting 😢
Assalamu alaikum Sister. Allah does not want hardship for us. Alhamdulillah please start your day with adhkar and gratitude. For me this changed my perspective on our purpose in life and how to go about it in a sound way. Please read Quran daily as well. Believe me this is how Allah speaks to us and gives us comfort when we are feeling overwhelmed.
It may be exhausting sis but remember this dunya is only for a short while. What’s 60+ years compared to a whole eternity in Jannah? 💗 And that’s if you even live until 60 sis. May Allah bring ease into your life Ameen 🫶
Tell me about it
@@zahraahmed3601 Thank you 💞 You guys are so comforting and encouraging may Allah give you goodness.
@@zahraahmed3601totally agree don’t chase dunya
Aslamoalicom Dear Sister Dr.
The preparation before get involved with other parts we have known our masurty is capable missionary and materials wice.
Thanks sister. Keep going forward Allah bless you always and your family aswell.
Allah is always there
SubhanAllah, such a wholesome video.
What about disability? I have epilepsy, due to my disability I have no job experience and dropped out of university in my second semester. I also don't have confidence and feel very unsure of what I want or need. Allah knows what's best for me, but I don't, I don't know if I'll ever have a wife or if I'll be worthy of one, I feel that I'd be a limitation, but I wish I could have a halal option.
@deea7843 First I was hoping I'll he able to find a wife, it feels THAT was shaitan in my head, the overconfidence and denial, if I had recognized how epilepsy was affecting me during university, maybe I could have found a path instead of spending 7 years out of school that lead of suicidal thoughts and feelings of uselrssness. I feel it's Allah's guidance that I'm now realuzing that I need to fix the sources of the problem that I can deal with. It's not that I shouldn't find a wife inshallah, I may be able to eventually, but I think I may not be able to be worthy right now while I'm on Canada's Disability support and need supervision to do everything. I hoped I would be able to find a wife, now I'm thinking I need to apply the hadith of needing to tie my camel, I need to return to school and get a job, Maybe once I can support a family, I can find a wife.
Islam doesn't reject marrying disability, but the potential spouses would need to be introduced, I am rarely allowed to leave the house by my parents because I could have a seizure. There are requirements for spouses, I don't fit with most, I live off my parents, have no Job experience or Job, dropped out of a University program in science during my second semester. I try to find confidence, but don't find much to be confident about, maybe being kind, an uncle or a muslim. The one time I got a rishta was a mother in pakistan (this was me attempting to find a wife through a muslim marriage site) calling me in canada 6 years ago while I was sleeping who rejected when she realized that I was 19, I haven't got any more since then, I keep wanting my parents to try to get me married to the girls at our mosque (we used to go a lot more before the seizures) but I think they avoid it because they consider it hopeless as I do not fit the needs of a husband (it's not just the epillepsy, it's all the affects and limitations it has put) I am incapable, and my family won't bother trying to find me a wife.
@deea7843 Inshallah, last year a found out about Epilepsy Toronto, the group's been good, ET's Epilepst Employment's host suggested a college program that although not doing much career-wise was good for my confidence and not feeling like a drop-out (Transition to post-secondary education at George brown College), however the person we had accompanying me there was no longer able, inshallah now the employment group's host can help me find a career-wise program at the college just around the corner from my house.
I feel this will fit with the idea of tying my camel, by returning to school Inshallah, I may be able to move on, I think that back in 2015, I was in denial of my seizures and I was trying to do my science program at full intensity and was rejecting the accomodations I needed. But I also find it interesting that that first year I didn't manage to finish was the same year my nephew was born, since then my main job as been the uncle, and the year I returned to school was the same year my niece started kindergarten. Inshallah I can find a good program and do it at the right intensity for my disability (I'm currently guessing that's 2 courses a semester, even if the usual course load for the program is 6)
May Allah SWT make it easy for you. It's all about mindset and confidence. Before seeking marriage, please seek ways to work on your internal state (especially around your self-worth). You can also meet up with support groups for people with epilepsy and find inspiration from people with similar conditions who continue to strive and are where you want to be one day in shaa Allah.
Keep saying "astaghfirullah". Insh'Allah, it will open doors for you and cure you.
You said have family talk to the potential spouse. What if your blood family are morally corrupt?
Can you let me know of a very short dua advise for Marriage
Avid from Zimbabwe 🇿🇼
Nahid from Zimbabwe
Mashallah!! 💕
Either my spouse is going to strive for better or there is no marriage
Ramla from uganda
But after what period of getting to know each other should you get married?
It is a good question
YESSSSSS ❤️ 👁
Alhamdulillah
I am ready. Marriage you❤❤❤
Hi assalamualikum dear I m.from uk I was looking for merry any religiouse female or girl 👧 😉 💗
I am ready 100% conference.
I love you and marriage you💓💞😍💕❤️👌
“Hard Landing” is marrying a Saudi Muslim! I’m not a religious person but learning about Islam.
Hi dear I’m Muslim I’m currently in Dubai but I’m from Africa if you are interested can I share you with my number
❤
Alhamdulillah
I am ready. I love only Muslim foreigners. Amin 😍😍😍😍
She loves good questions. I think it challenges her brain to come up with a better answer 😂
I heard miss conception over and over .
I don’t like when specialist brush under the rug how so many Arabs are so narcissistic and cunning to get any young woman to abuse .
they are race with the mentality that they can treat their wife like garbage and if she doesn’t comply just find another one and marry secretly.
Teach young woman to marry someone they know, a classmate they grow seen at school etc.
a lot Muslim woman are online catching fish a.I. money dating man over the phone like that is halal dating . There is so much to talk about then examples from the passed .
Back in the days people fear allah not anymore! Now Muslim man young or old follow woman, make friends with them, watch porn etc.
18 years dealing with someone like that, instead of change he was dating and pushing me to move to his country so he can bring his girlfriend to America .
It’s funny the love ended because I didn’t go !! Jajaja she was not going to marry for going back to his country, she wanted papers, better life, little did she know, she was dealing with a malignant narc.
I marriage you🌹🌹🌹
off topic- why do you put makeup on your face?
isn't your beauty only for your husband?
That's the last thing they will do for husbands. For shopping. Going out or going to a wedding three hours in front of the mirror no probs at all that's why some marriges are at breaking point.
@@mrorn8199 how they give lecture on sunnati marriage!! when they do not follow the guidance about covering themselves?
i feel surprised.
Yes it is tabarrujj but let’s not shame, let’s advise. Alhamdulillah.