Being unhappy in a relationship is not an excuse for getting involved in another. If you're unhappy, just break it off. Society today is so hung up on the next best thing instead of trying to make their own circumstances better. Relationships are tough, and people rarely take responsibility for their part in the failure.
@@stonywilliams Not to my knowledge. You don't have to be a victim of infidelity to understand you're happier outside of a miserable relationship than staying in one. You also don't have to be a victim of infidelity to believe there are no excuses for cheating, and you should never do it. If you're interested in pursuing a relationship with other people, leave your current one. It's pretty simple. There's no grey area.
Meh…it’s her life. If she’s willing to deal with the consequences, leave. Sometimes you have to look at the long game. If your marriage sucks, 40+ years more of it “for the kids” is probably too great a sacrifice to make. But then again…I don’t have kids for this exact reason. I’m not falling on the sword for anyone.
Stav has some of the worse calls with some of the most terrible people. Confiding in another man you hate your husband that you have children with, yeah lady what a catch you are.
@@benk2755 People grow apart my man and can come to hate one another. Meanwhile you can still have feelings for other people you know. Don't worry. Once you hit puberty, you'll see it's a little more complicated than "let's go steady."
@@Professor_Pink I disagree completely. Judging by what this lady said this is not the case please listen to it again. Complexity in a relationship and being a person that outright wants to be devious, I see that being different. This has nothing to do with being in high-school. I would say being out of highschool, married with children would show you to be more mindfull and mature.
@@rezahosein7863he's saying that that's a high schoolers perspective because it's a naive presumption about relationships. She might suck. But relationships are complicated, and people grow apart. That doesn't make anyone shitty. Staying with and cheating on your husband does. But..... Life is also complicated and it happens more often than you think. So the proper response is to say it is what it is and move on with your life.
Notice what she said she was torn between….neither of those two options actually entailed working things out with her husband…she’s already left him mentally and emotionally just is torn on how to do it physically
"I'm still in love with him" He is trying to sleep with you and saying what you want to hear. Selfish emotionally immature behaviour. Lady: The hole is not in your life. It is not in your husband. The hole is in you. You cannot fill it. An emotionally mature person learns to live within a difficult life. They don't self-destruct over and over again because they want an excuse to walk away.
my thoughts exactly, she’s perpetually stuck on him and he keeps her around just enough for emotional validation and familiar sex. what a wreck, i hope their current partners leave them
Simply just leave. It’s crazy too me the mental capacity people put themselves through and emotional torment instead of saying your done and deleting info. Trash “woman” right here
@@Th3oSKthat’s the thing. Does she really “hate” him, or has this other guy convinced her that the grass is greener on his side and talks bad about his partner so she’s riled up against hers? She seems delusional so it could go either way imo
One of the toughest things I’ve ever learnt in life is that especially when it comes to love 9/10 times they’ve already made their decision. She’ll blow up her life for this guy and when it all falls apart will be left with nothing
It’s crazy to me how people can pine away for some loser for 15 years…. I’ll go on a limb and say if it hasn’t worked in 15 years, it’s not gonna work.
That's the funniest part. She herself said it didn't work out for reasons that were always his fault, but 10 seconds later she's completely forgotten that and is like "is this worth uprooting my entire family?"
Fr, I'm BAD about catching feelings, but even at my worst I got the hint after a year and moved on, carrying the torch for a decade and a half is INSANE
Tale as old as time. This is the guy the "bond" was made with and legit nothing you, I, Stav, the husband, the father/mother, or even the guy himself says can change it. It's legit why fathers were insanely overbearing in days of yore. It wasn't just oppression it was prevention of this. This isn't anything new, it's why some stay in obviously dangerous/toxic relationships. She loves him even though she knows she shouldn't. It's funny how people have to constantly refigure this stuff out.
Natural human function, its called pair bonding, when you have sex with someone when your young, that person becomes special to you. Sorry youve never had that.
I don’t think we can know that for sure one way or the other. It’s easy to mistake our idea of what guilt looks like for what it actually looks like in a lot of people.
This is what dismissive avoidance looks like in mental action. The "dismissive" part is the dismissal of her husband, the 'avoidance' is the lack of willingness to explicitly communicate. She's doing both because of the fantasy/limerence of reconnecting with this guy.
This isn't some beautiful story, despite what she seems to think. She should rather wholeheartedly try any and everything to reignite the spark in their marriage. Even if she went for it, exes are never as fun as they were the first time around. It always gets weird.
@@Hjaelteomslag it’s wild how delusional people can be while trying to rationalize something. No one will think it’s cute. And behind your back your friends and family will be talking about how you broke up your marriage to blow some loser from highschool
She describes herself as hating her husband, assuming that wasn't hyperbole they absolutely shouldn't be together. The ex thing is almost certainly going to end badly, but staying with someone you hate is an awful life choice regardless.
@@libertariansasquatchShe almost certainly has better reasons to hate the guy she’s gonna blow her marriage up for. Her desire comes first and the rationalization follows. She *wants* to hate him cause it would justify her doing what she would do for other reasons anyway.
this isn’t ‘13 Going On 30’ or another early-00s romcom, he’s not going to suddenly realize he only wants her and also completely change his behavior to make a relationship work. he wants an emotional crutch + the validation of a woman that will do anything for him no matter what + a familiar but noncommittal sex outlet and she fits the bill. she’s in love with this dude that’s never gonna Pick her but also can’t/doesn’t want to be single so she’s fine dragging some other poor sod through her shit life AND procreated which is just great. they’re both self absorbed emotionally immature assholes so in a way, they deserve each other.
Caller obviusly needs to end her current relationship regardless of where these two end up. This should not go on, she's completely checked out of the current relationship. Its crazy how detached she is from her current partner and that whole idea like Stavy mentioned.
@@tony9146They know, they just lie with impunity. Favorite example is accepting drinks from a guy at a bar. They’ll say it doesn’t mean anything accept a drink, but then ask them how they’d feel if they saw their man buying a girl a drink.
Clearly she’s romanticizing something with the guy that never truly existed. They’re both just unhappy and are looking to the past with an unrealistic view. They also clearly never put each other first when they were together and why they never lasted. Move on bro
Honestly, I think the partner takes some responsibility in this. This is why when I ever meet a woman for the first time I always ask about previous relationships. If I even get a hint that she might be a bit of a narcissist, I cut things off. The rules of when you first start dating is if you get any bad feelings during the honeymoon phase that means they’re about 10 bad feelings you should’ve had that you missed.
What are the odds that the "other guy" begins to lose interest all over again once she leaves her husband and ACTUALLY becomes available? This is just a fantasy for her and she is justifying all of the reasons why they never worked out in the past with maybe some good nostalgic memories from when they were much much younger.
Shit like this makes me never want to get married or be with anyone again. People are so selfish and trifling. So many people don't get over folks from their past and fuck over good people going forward. This is insane lol.
@@leastselfawarepotassium I think you're taking the rantings of a random person on youtube a bit too seriously but yes, you're right, everyone has a choice of who they choose to interact with in any way, shape, or form. Cheers!
"We've been in and out of each other's lives for over a decade and for one reason or another it just hasn't worked." Fucking of course not, you're the "if all else fails" option. If he wanted to actually be with you, he would have been 15 years ago. This isn't a rom com, you aren't the main character.
Stav's completely right. This woman is living in a fairy tale. I feel super bad for her current partner. Women like this make me scared to even date these days
I've been married for more than a decade and we dated for almost 9 years. It's worth it these days still you just don't rush into things. I wouldn't trade it for nothing.
There’s many great partners out there. Just don’t get pregnant young (or ever) and don’t marry too soon. In your early 20s most people think they found the one but if you don’t rush into things all will be revealed. I didn’t get married until my 30s and honestly every day I love my life and my spouse. It’s amazing and I’m SO glad I never settled :)
I can safely promise you that most women are not like this. You just have to know what red flags to look out for. This is why you should ask them about previous relationships because odds are they’re going to be honest with you the entire time. Trust me, I’ve heard a lot of toxic guys complain about how terrible their exes are narcissistic. People will eventually be honest with you even if they don’t know it.
@Patrick.Weightman I miss my exgf too, but I'm not leaving anyone to see her. I'd rather be alone forever than let her suck me off again. At some point in time, you have to accept that you shouldn't listen to your feelings every time.
No, most people don’t think like this. I am someone who tries to be friends with my exes, but once they’re an ex, I don’t ever plan on dating them again. That ship has sailed and I was not on it even if we are still friends.
He’s legit just not the other guy, that’s his problem and she fucking hates that he’s not the guy she’s wanted for 15 years. She’s gonna fuck everyone involved up because she didn’t act on her feelings 15 years ago.
I used to be this guy when I was younger. I didn't understand the weight of my actions and words an I kept a girl at arms length until I needed emotional intimacy that I was not receiving somewhere else, She ended up randomly leaving the father of her three kids for me without my knowledge until it happened. This shit isn't a game and I hope these two come to their senses. It eats at you forever.
because one person in those situations (this woman) always wants a second shot, a third shot, a fourth shot and will quite literally do anything to be with that person, including breaking up a 15 year marriage. wild
We all know those women who can't spend even a day being single in between relationships. They have to end one relationship and immediately transition into a new one, or else they panic. This woman clearly isn't happy in her current relationship. But won't leave until she has another suitor lined up. This lady annoys the hell out of me.
The lack of self awareness is astounding. This guy she’s enamored with is such a jerk but oh yah I treat my husband EXACTLY how I describe this other guy.
This is literally happening to my brother right now, 14 years four kids and she left him for a loser she used to hook up with in highschool because they started talking while she bartended.
She's already made her decision, she's just looking for validation. Romanticizing real life like it's The Notebook doesn't typically work out well for anyone.
Yeah, that's the only way she'll see this relationship doesn't work. She only wants him because she can't have it, the only antidote to that is actually having him.
I'm sure the guy going through the voicemails is cherrypicking the juiciest ones, not saying it wrong or anything, it is a show after all, but it isn't a fair judgment on all of staavys audience
What a disgusting horrible person. I would be so ashamed if that was me and if this person was in my friend group she would be excommunicated immediately if anyone heard this.
Damn bro, you move through life without compassion? Couldn't be me. Yeah she's no ray of sunshine but there's understanding for even the worst mindsets. They can be changed, easily.
@@PhotoEnhancer-uf6bo a person who understands that every single human is flawed and has the capacity for redemption? Good, I'm glad people know that's the kind of person I am. You're immature.
@@idab6864 Lol ok jabroni. This woman is beyond flawed and you can't change people that easily. You keep throwing around immaturity, I think it's a glaring issue for you subconsciously.
@@idab6864 idk, you have plenty of time to think about all this before marrying someone and then having a child with them. I'm not saying she should be dead or in prison or anything at all, I just wouldn't want them in my life as a friend. I expect a little better out of the company I keep.
Kyle Dunnigan!!! One of my favorite newest comedians, along with Stavy of course!! Of course Dave Attell will always be my #1, but these two guys are carrying the torch for gods of Comedy like him
"Everyone would probably say 'fucken finally'." LOL. That's how I think about myself when daydreaming about being made CEO or selling out arenas - everyone would say "Oh boy, finally! Why did it take so long to recognise the brilliance?".
Lady, yes. You should leave your husband. No, you shouldn't go be with the other guy because he doesn't deserve your nonsense either. Be lonely and reflect on why. Don't blame your ex, don't blame your husband, this is all on you.
I was involved with my last ex for like five years, and I remember her struggling at the beginning with some unrequited feelings from some asshole she’d been entangled with throughout college. Surrealist moment of my romantic life was catching up with her after we’d broken up and she talked about him again like shit was yesterday as though we hadn’t just been involved in a longterm relationship. Which, honestly, kind of explained a lot.
People fumble true love every day. You don’t get to void your responsibility as a mother because you messed up. At the very least wait till the kids are out of the house.
So she wants to throw away her husband and kids for a relationship with a loser man that has already failed multiple times? I have no faith in the world anymore. Imagine explaining this to your kids.
I feel bad I know the feeling my ex had this hold on me for the same amount of time and until it finally set in my mind that I was the one he came too when his current relationship went to crap and I finally said no I'm better than this... It was obvious he had this hold on me to every other man I was with during that time despite my denial... We Also had two children together which made things harder but you need to cut ties he's just using you for when he's unhappy until he finds the next victim.. It was a great feeling the first time he realized that wasn't going to work anymore very empowering feeling... I also suggest maybe getting some therapy to help you work past it and see that it is not the best situation for you
If she decides to get with this guy and say “we’re going to do this differently” the other guy will lose interest. He goes back to her because she’s his security blanket. If she starts setting boundaries and acting like a woman who demands respect, he’ll look at her like the other women he’s dated/dating and will pick a different security blanket to cheat on her with.
Delusional, party of one lmao. "You're not Jim and Pam" 😂🤣😭☠️
Yeah summed it up perfectly
The Jim and Pam comment had me rolling 😂😂😂
If Jim and Pam were real, they wouldn't be good people.
@@davidm2031Jim and Pam are arguably the worst people in the series
@@b3dazzl3 right? Pam is just the worst. And Jim bullies his coworker. Very cool 🙄
Being unhappy in a relationship is not an excuse for getting involved in another. If you're unhappy, just break it off. Society today is so hung up on the next best thing instead of trying to make their own circumstances better. Relationships are tough, and people rarely take responsibility for their part in the failure.
Sounds like someone got cheated on.
@@stonywilliamsNah. Sounds like someone just has common sense and empathy.
@@stonywilliamsGot his ass
@@stonywilliams good work, Columbo, now make a point!
@@stonywilliams Not to my knowledge. You don't have to be a victim of infidelity to understand you're happier outside of a miserable relationship than staying in one. You also don't have to be a victim of infidelity to believe there are no excuses for cheating, and you should never do it. If you're interested in pursuing a relationship with other people, leave your current one. It's pretty simple. There's no grey area.
Drama like this needs to stay in your youth, once you got kids n shit that's your priority, not this perpetual teenager shit. Clean it up
My exact thought.
The two kids (his and hers) are going to have a weird family
You are 1000% correct. I don’t even understand how adults have the energy for this BS.
I don't expect this junk from teenagers either.
Yeah, thinking you are “in love” with a distant person you don’t even interact with regularly, for 10+ years, as an adult, is fucking insane
Imagine the parents
"I'm torn between blowing up our families for this or facing reality...." - if this is the way you think you don't deserve a loving family.
Well, she's female, so she'll still get to take her husband's kids away from him.
First time caller long time listener I gave my husband AIDs as a prank for my TH-cam channel
This is the type of chick who says she can’t understand why her kids won’t talk to her anymore when there all grown up.
Meh…it’s her life. If she’s willing to deal with the consequences, leave. Sometimes you have to look at the long game. If your marriage sucks, 40+ years more of it “for the kids” is probably too great a sacrifice to make.
But then again…I don’t have kids for this exact reason. I’m not falling on the sword for anyone.
Stav has some of the worse calls with some of the most terrible people. Confiding in another man you hate your husband that you have children with, yeah lady what a catch you are.
Yeah, it happens bro. When you're not in highschool, you'll find relationships can get messy.
@@Professor_Pink It happens to shitty people, mostly.
@@benk2755 People grow apart my man and can come to hate one another. Meanwhile you can still have feelings for other people you know. Don't worry. Once you hit puberty, you'll see it's a little more complicated than "let's go steady."
@@Professor_Pink I disagree completely. Judging by what this lady said this is not the case please listen to it again. Complexity in a relationship and being a person that outright wants to be devious, I see that being different. This has nothing to do with being in high-school. I would say being out of highschool, married with children would show you to be more mindfull and mature.
@@rezahosein7863he's saying that that's a high schoolers perspective because it's a naive presumption about relationships.
She might suck. But relationships are complicated, and people grow apart. That doesn't make anyone shitty.
Staying with and cheating on your husband does. But..... Life is also complicated and it happens more often than you think.
So the proper response is to say it is what it is and move on with your life.
"The shoes I rent at the bowling alley are real comfortable" Jesus Christ Stavvy.
We all know Stav is too heavy to put on footwear unassisted anymore...
@@billepperson2662bro what😭
@@billepperson2662He isn’t Bert
@@gavinmcconnell1219He's even fatter than bert
It really is what she needs to hear
Notice what she said she was torn between….neither of those two options actually entailed working things out with her husband…she’s already left him mentally and emotionally just is torn on how to do it physically
this is genuinely diabolical
Typical really.
yet so true
@@ZippoMann who hurt you?
@@lgbtthefeministgamer4039 With a name like that I wouldn’t be talking.
@@ZippoMann what? o.o
"I'm still in love with him"
He is trying to sleep with you and saying what you want to hear.
Selfish emotionally immature behaviour.
Lady: The hole is not in your life. It is not in your husband. The hole is in you. You cannot fill it. An emotionally mature person learns to live within a difficult life. They don't self-destruct over and over again because they want an excuse to walk away.
my thoughts exactly, she’s perpetually stuck on him and he keeps her around just enough for emotional validation and familiar sex. what a wreck, i hope their current partners leave them
I mean she should leave her partner for sure - so weird to be with someone you hate regardless of kids
Slags
Simply just leave. It’s crazy too me the mental capacity people put themselves through and emotional torment instead of saying your done and deleting info. Trash “woman” right here
@@Th3oSKthat’s the thing. Does she really “hate” him, or has this other guy convinced her that the grass is greener on his side and talks bad about his partner so she’s riled up against hers? She seems delusional so it could go either way imo
One of the toughest things I’ve ever learnt in life is that especially when it comes to love 9/10 times they’ve already made their decision. She’ll blow up her life for this guy and when it all falls apart will be left with nothing
Yep, and this dude will never actually love her.
Yep. She's an absolute dumpster.
But 40 middle aged women on Facebook will assure her she did the right thing and it's all her ex husband's fault.
Just ask Giselle Bunchen or whatever tf her name is. She's gonna fuck her life up even more than it already is
It’s crazy to me how people can pine away for some loser for 15 years…. I’ll go on a limb and say if it hasn’t worked in 15 years, it’s not gonna work.
That's the funniest part. She herself said it didn't work out for reasons that were always his fault, but 10 seconds later she's completely forgotten that and is like "is this worth uprooting my entire family?"
Fr, I'm BAD about catching feelings, but even at my worst I got the hint after a year and moved on, carrying the torch for a decade and a half is INSANE
Tale as old as time. This is the guy the "bond" was made with and legit nothing you, I, Stav, the husband, the father/mother, or even the guy himself says can change it. It's legit why fathers were insanely overbearing in days of yore. It wasn't just oppression it was prevention of this. This isn't anything new, it's why some stay in obviously dangerous/toxic relationships. She loves him even though she knows she shouldn't. It's funny how people have to constantly refigure this stuff out.
Maybe this time is the time though!
Natural human function, its called pair bonding, when you have sex with someone when your young, that person becomes special to you. Sorry youve never had that.
She ruined her husband's life and is shockingly fine with that.
I don’t think we can know that for sure one way or the other. It’s easy to mistake our idea of what guilt looks like for what it actually looks like in a lot of people.
This is what dismissive avoidance looks like in mental action. The "dismissive" part is the dismissal of her husband, the 'avoidance' is the lack of willingness to explicitly communicate. She's doing both because of the fantasy/limerence of reconnecting with this guy.
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Speak my brotha
exactly, very disheartening for everyone else involved
That's a really fancy way of saying she's a scumbag.
Big words
Stavv gave good advice here and was very empathetic despite letting her know she is fucking up. Good stuff, Stavvy baby.
Of course a woman would give this advice....
Lmao sometimes I really feel like stavys voicemails are basically "how do I tell the world I'm a terrible person without me knowing ???"
This is a textbook miserable person. She’s always been unhappy, she always will be unhappy, and the only way she’ll change is to be even less happy
Nailed it. She's unhappy cause, from the sounds of it all she knows is to chase pleasure and comfort. She will never grow.
This isn't some beautiful story, despite what she seems to think. She should rather wholeheartedly try any and everything to reignite the spark in their marriage. Even if she went for it, exes are never as fun as they were the first time around. It always gets weird.
@@Hjaelteomslag it’s wild how delusional people can be while trying to rationalize something. No one will think it’s cute. And behind your back your friends and family will be talking about how you broke up your marriage to blow some loser from highschool
She describes herself as hating her husband, assuming that wasn't hyperbole they absolutely shouldn't be together. The ex thing is almost certainly going to end badly, but staying with someone you hate is an awful life choice regardless.
@@Brendan-tx3lg but does she hate him because she’s fantasizing about this other man? We just don’t know
@@libertariansasquatchI’m sure if she’s idolizing this asshole she’s definitely demonizing her husband unfairly
@@libertariansasquatchShe almost certainly has better reasons to hate the guy she’s gonna blow her marriage up for. Her desire comes first and the rationalization follows. She *wants* to hate him cause it would justify her doing what she would do for other reasons anyway.
this isn’t ‘13 Going On 30’ or another early-00s romcom, he’s not going to suddenly realize he only wants her and also completely change his behavior to make a relationship work. he wants an emotional crutch + the validation of a woman that will do anything for him no matter what + a familiar but noncommittal sex outlet and she fits the bill. she’s in love with this dude that’s never gonna Pick her but also can’t/doesn’t want to be single so she’s fine dragging some other poor sod through her shit life AND procreated which is just great. they’re both self absorbed emotionally immature assholes so in a way, they deserve each other.
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Caller obviusly needs to end her current relationship regardless of where these two end up. This should not go on, she's completely checked out of the current relationship. Its crazy how detached she is from her current partner and that whole idea like Stavy mentioned.
Agree, she said she hates him
He wants to hook up again... Literally thats it
Literally that’s the ONLY reason. All men know this, yet NO women know this somehow.
@@tony9146They know, they just lie with impunity.
Favorite example is accepting drinks from a guy at a bar. They’ll say it doesn’t mean anything accept a drink, but then ask them how they’d feel if they saw their man buying a girl a drink.
the sighs and groans after each thing is hilarious.
Clearly she’s romanticizing something with the guy that never truly existed. They’re both just unhappy and are looking to the past with an unrealistic view. They also clearly never put each other first when they were together and why they never lasted. Move on bro
That poor partner of hers i feel bad for that person. She is a POS I hope she gets heartbroken and gets nothing in the divorce
Jesus someone got cheated on…
@@OttoVonBizmarkie you are saying that to everyone who is critical of her. are you the caller?
@@A-Mor-Graal I might be 👀
Honestly, I think the partner takes some responsibility in this. This is why when I ever meet a woman for the first time I always ask about previous relationships. If I even get a hint that she might be a bit of a narcissist, I cut things off. The rules of when you first start dating is if you get any bad feelings during the honeymoon phase that means they’re about 10 bad feelings you should’ve had that you missed.
It doesn't matter, the wife is the one actively destroying her family.
What are the odds that the "other guy" begins to lose interest all over again once she leaves her husband and ACTUALLY becomes available?
This is just a fantasy for her and she is justifying all of the reasons why they never worked out in the past with maybe some good nostalgic memories from when they were much much younger.
Shit like this makes me never want to get married or be with anyone again. People are so selfish and trifling. So many people don't get over folks from their past and fuck over good people going forward. This is insane lol.
Right. That's why you don't have gf
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There’s plenty of idiots in the world. If you choose to only see them then that’s your choice.
@@leastselfawarepotassium I think you're taking the rantings of a random person on youtube a bit too seriously but yes, you're right, everyone has a choice of who they choose to interact with in any way, shape, or form. Cheers!
@@wingdingdmetrius8025 Astute observation, wingdingus!
"We've been in and out of each other's lives for over a decade and for one reason or another it just hasn't worked."
Fucking of course not, you're the "if all else fails" option. If he wanted to actually be with you, he would have been 15 years ago. This isn't a rom com, you aren't the main character.
This might be the most scathing response to a caller on the show
And she deserves every second of it 😭
Not scathing enough tbh
Stav's completely right. This woman is living in a fairy tale. I feel super bad for her current partner. Women like this make me scared to even date these days
I've been married for more than a decade and we dated for almost 9 years. It's worth it these days still you just don't rush into things. I wouldn't trade it for nothing.
People* like this
There’s many great partners out there. Just don’t get pregnant young (or ever) and don’t marry too soon. In your early 20s most people think they found the one but if you don’t rush into things all will be revealed. I didn’t get married until my 30s and honestly every day I love my life and my spouse. It’s amazing and I’m SO glad I never settled :)
@scoobertmcruppert2915 no, women, because this is a woman that called and I date women. 😅😅🤣
I can safely promise you that most women are not like this. You just have to know what red flags to look out for. This is why you should ask them about previous relationships because odds are they’re going to be honest with you the entire time. Trust me, I’ve heard a lot of toxic guys complain about how terrible their exes are narcissistic. People will eventually be honest with you even if they don’t know it.
You’re not Jim and Pam🤣
Do people pine for their exes like this? Is this normal? What special kind of idiot blows up a functional family for a chance at an ex?
@Patrick.Weightman I miss my exgf too, but I'm not leaving anyone to see her. I'd rather be alone forever than let her suck me off again. At some point in time, you have to accept that you shouldn't listen to your feelings every time.
@@Patrick.WeightmanThese days? This is centuries old. Poems, books, plays, movies, have been written about this exact thing. Nothing new.
@@Patrick.Weightmanthey have never been less screwed up.
Yes it's pretty common, especially among women
No, most people don’t think like this. I am someone who tries to be friends with my exes, but once they’re an ex, I don’t ever plan on dating them again. That ship has sailed and I was not on it even if we are still friends.
The fact she didn't explain why she dislikes her current partner really tells me he isn't a horrible guy. Probably just boring.
He’s legit just not the other guy, that’s his problem and she fucking hates that he’s not the guy she’s wanted for 15 years. She’s gonna fuck everyone involved up because she didn’t act on her feelings 15 years ago.
“We’ve both had kids” UGHHHHH *Charlie brown voice*
Shout out to Stav for the genuine advice
Stavvy really does seem to attract the most bottom-of-the-barrel people into his fanbase lmao
Actual fact lmao. He has Ari Shaffir beat.
I think it's more that he manages to encourage the most bottom-barrel people to reveal themselves
Might be his chill attitude and unassuming presence
I used to be this guy when I was younger. I didn't understand the weight of my actions and words an I kept a girl at arms length until I needed emotional intimacy that I was not receiving somewhere else, She ended up randomly leaving the father of her three kids for me without my knowledge until it happened. This shit isn't a game and I hope these two come to their senses. It eats at you forever.
I feel awful for her husband. I can’t imagine hearing this.
Uploaded 29 seconds ago? Don't mind if I do......
I really like the part where she said they never worked out for reasons that were "mostly" his fault lol, yeah sure thing
Yeah that was insane lol
"And i dont normally recommend this" diabolical 😂
why do people feel obligated to stay friends after breaking up?
because one person in those situations (this woman) always wants a second shot, a third shot, a fourth shot and will quite literally do anything to be with that person, including breaking up a 15 year marriage. wild
@@oldenoughtowatchify seems crazy
@@sumguy8100% crazy
@@sumguy8
usually the other side of the coin is happily taking advantage of the situation so it plays into itself.
@@oldenoughtowatchify I always just remember why they became an ex and move on. It can be tough in the short term, but much healthier in the long run.
We all know those women who can't spend even a day being single in between relationships. They have to end one relationship and immediately transition into a new one, or else they panic. This woman clearly isn't happy in her current relationship.
But won't leave until she has another suitor lined up. This lady annoys the hell out of me.
They’re so pathetic
Every woman does this lmao it's called branch swinging
The lack of self awareness is astounding. This guy she’s enamored with is such a jerk but oh yah I treat my husband EXACTLY how I describe this other guy.
Yikes. How about you use all the energy you’re putting into your ex and use it to try and salvage your marriage.
This 100%
Put energy into something that will never work? 👍🤡
@@davidfaustino4476 Wonderful insight. Your way with words and emojis is top notch.
This is literally happening to my brother right now, 14 years four kids and she left him for a loser she used to hook up with in highschool because they started talking while she bartended.
She's already made her decision, she's just looking for validation. Romanticizing real life like it's The Notebook doesn't typically work out well for anyone.
I love Kyle! Thanks for having him on as a guest
Yeah, that's the only way she'll see this relationship doesn't work. She only wants him because she can't have it, the only antidote to that is actually having him.
It’s crazy what percentage of Stavvy’s callers are in the exact same narcissistic trauma bond cycle. It’s like an epidemic
I'm sure the guy going through the voicemails is cherrypicking the juiciest ones, not saying it wrong or anything, it is a show after all, but it isn't a fair judgment on all of staavys audience
This is literally one of the top causes of family annihilation murders
What a disgusting horrible person. I would be so ashamed if that was me and if this person was in my friend group she would be excommunicated immediately if anyone heard this.
Damn bro, you move through life without compassion? Couldn't be me. Yeah she's no ray of sunshine but there's understanding for even the worst mindsets. They can be changed, easily.
@@idab6864 Birds of a feather. The company you keep reflects on you, and you have let the world know what type of man you are.
@@PhotoEnhancer-uf6bo a person who understands that every single human is flawed and has the capacity for redemption? Good, I'm glad people know that's the kind of person I am. You're immature.
@@idab6864 Lol ok jabroni. This woman is beyond flawed and you can't change people that easily. You keep throwing around immaturity, I think it's a glaring issue for you subconsciously.
@@idab6864 idk, you have plenty of time to think about all this before marrying someone and then having a child with them. I'm not saying she should be dead or in prison or anything at all, I just wouldn't want them in my life as a friend. I expect a little better out of the company I keep.
Grass is always greener.
Wow. I like your answer very much Stavi
10:35 Bowling Alley shoes analogy was spot on😂😂😂😂
Kyle Dunnigan!!! One of my favorite newest comedians, along with Stavy of course!! Of course Dave Attell will always be my #1, but these two guys are carrying the torch for gods of Comedy like him
Kyle Dunnigan is 53 years old
This womans husband deserves so much better. What a horrible person she is..
And her children
"Everyone would probably say 'fucken finally'." LOL. That's how I think about myself when daydreaming about being made CEO or selling out arenas - everyone would say "Oh boy, finally! Why did it take so long to recognise the brilliance?".
Lady, yes. You should leave your husband. No, you shouldn't go be with the other guy because he doesn't deserve your nonsense either. Be lonely and reflect on why. Don't blame your ex, don't blame your husband, this is all on you.
Holy shit Stavvy hits the nail right on the head every time. Primo advice nuggets. 👌🏽👌🏽
"I've been stung by this bee over and over but I love his honey."
How many times has someone heard these and said “THATS MY GIRL!” 😂
This is why knowing your partner’s romantic past is important
dude, the bowling shoes bit had me in stitches. maybe one of the funniest things i ever heard you say. thanks man.
Not the Depression Multiplier 😂
Perfect score! 😂
Theres a reaon that it never worked out. She wont admit that there is one. Really sad.
Calling this woman rental bowling shoes is too nice
The different constellation of the full human experience is terrifying, sad, amazing and beautiful
It's interesting to me how someone can have an absolute psychological hold on an intimate partner for decades. LADY LET IT GO!
Don’t listen to them, gurl. They’re just hating on your relationship. You and him love each other, it’ll DEFINITELY work out this time.
20 seconds in and this is the worst thing I've ever heard 😭😭😭
“This is Dark” 😂💀
“Or is there a reason we keep finding each other?” This isn’t a fucking Disney movie, you’re not the main character.
Stavros nailed the guys perspective here, he calls her up uses her to feel better and then dumps her again. we all do it when we’re younger
The bowling shoe joke was funny😂
This is my ultimate fear
Stavy just saved two kids becoming step siblings
You know shit’s serious when Stavvy gives the most serious advice ever. He was for real locked in.
11:05 I was NOT ready for that comparison OMG HAHHAH
I was involved with my last ex for like five years, and I remember her struggling at the beginning with some unrequited feelings from some asshole she’d been entangled with throughout college. Surrealist moment of my romantic life was catching up with her after we’d broken up and she talked about him again like shit was yesterday as though we hadn’t just been involved in a longterm relationship. Which, honestly, kind of explained a lot.
"Perfect score!!!"😂
This should be the plot for a television movie.
Infatuated is the word, not love. He is stringing you along because you are an easy catch.
Actually great advice
Love stavys hair cut 😂😂😂
Damn Stavy good advice 👏
The fact she entertains the idea says it all.
People fumble true love every day. You don’t get to void your responsibility as a mother because you messed up. At the very least wait till the kids are out of the house.
lmfao you made your friend sad with the bowling shoes line
Another reminder to not get married.
So she wants to throw away her husband and kids for a relationship with a loser man that has already failed multiple times? I have no faith in the world anymore. Imagine explaining this to your kids.
This just came into my feed 🤭 oh my thank you
I feel bad I know the feeling my ex had this hold on me for the same amount of time and until it finally set in my mind that I was the one he came too when his current relationship went to crap and I finally said no I'm better than this... It was obvious he had this hold on me to every other man I was with during that time despite my denial... We Also had two children together which made things harder but you need to cut ties he's just using you for when he's unhappy until he finds the next victim.. It was a great feeling the first time he realized that wasn't going to work anymore very empowering feeling... I also suggest maybe getting some therapy to help you work past it and see that it is not the best situation for you
She should initiate a divorce so her husband can move on and find a decent woman.
8:20 "that conversation about kids being hard"
All jokes aside, I’m surprised at how good the advice is on this show
Thanks for reminding me to never get married
If she decides to get with this guy and say “we’re going to do this differently” the other guy will lose interest. He goes back to her because she’s his security blanket. If she starts setting boundaries and acting like a woman who demands respect, he’ll look at her like the other women he’s dated/dating and will pick a different security blanket to cheat on her with.
I feel like this woman could be anyone's "one who got away" like Stav said. It's just a yo nope situation every time.
I’m an idiot… *yes*
Notice the massive lack of accountability
Also 2:53 YES, YES YOU ARE
Damn this is the most brutal one I’ve heard
0:26 Immediate Thoughts: This is unhealthy, you should've never reconnected with him if you knew you still liked him.