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Father tries to save 100 Rs by walking 20 mins, Son tries to save 20 mins by taking Uber ride spending 100 Rs. Beauty is both father and son are right.
Mathematicallly the son is wrong because he needs to book the cab, the cab needs to arrives and he needs to take the ride so he's not actually saving 20 minutes, 10-15 minutes depending on how soon the cab arrives. That's only break even or profit if he's paid at least Rs 10 a minute.
@@sreejithvk8478 which he probably will be, not directly but indirectly a lot of more productive things can be done in those 20 minutes. I am not saying that walking is unproductive, but it largely depends on the context and how busy you are at the moment.
You're very lucky dude! Btw what's the age gap? I am guessing it will be lower...in may case its almost 40 yrs...so becomes impossible to have similar perspectives on anything!
I can hug my mother anytime. But to hug my father still a dream. Our conversion ends till demand of money. I listen my father talking to my mom about me in my absence only. I want to hug him but a/c to me it demands my success.
"Forget the past grudges"..... Just one problem though (in some cases):- What if father used to hit mother,had extramarital affair, misbehaved with in laws, never took interest in child's hobbies or studies?? Can one still forgive these?? Is paying large school fees and giving comfortable lifestyle enough to compensate above points?? This happened to a friend very close to me(😅), is he right if he has stopped talking to his father?? And what should he do in future about about his father?
He’s not right. The father have paid for his everything. A father’s main job is make sure his children have a comfortable life, feel secured and make sure they become independent. And have done that. As such, your gains should at least have gratitude. Like saying : “Thank you for everything but won’t forgive for what you’ve done”. You should always be grateful no matter how the person is. He became his father if he’s not talking
@@train_xc you're wrong. Generally in these cases son is already grateful but the cons outnumber the pros so best is he shouldn't forgive his dad and he also shouldn't try to establish new relationship with him
Few people are lucky where there's a friendship between son and his dad. It's very rare to see where a guy can share everything with his parents without any fear. The fear of getting scolding or making the situation worse keeps children away from their parents as their reactions would be very harsh to any bad situation in life making him further weak, depressed and sad in opposition to a friend who if not useful to overcome the situation but can atleast make him feel light by sharing his situation without fear. Dad or son both are living in different generations which have huge gaps about the way life to be lived and with the power to take independent steps everyone tried to impose their believes on others. And hence the argument starts, but since parents sometimes loose temper and may hurt child with chappal or thappad, even a small scolding or harsh reaction will distant their child from them, call it fear of parents which a guy will never overcome untill and unless a miracle occurs. Main thing is in western countries parents show low even if it is morphed while in india parents show their anger but fail to show their love when their kid needs it the most. We as parents simply can't say i love u to our kids as they grew older. We stop understanding their point or try to say it's ok we can fix it, instead we shout and start beating them making them feel more sad and lonely.
I have not seen this video, just clicked on the link and wanted to share. I always loved but I couldn't show that much love to my father, may be beacuse of 'male ego issues' and biasedly taking my mother's side in times of conflict. Couldnt understand his importance until, one day he was diagnosed with blood cancer and I lost him within a month. Moral of the story is, nobody in this world can love you unconditionally, more than your parents. So always love and respect them. They are irreplaceable.
Me and my father belong to same engineering profession. Both have studied in IIT and NIT. But we are poles apart. Our discussion turns into a fight in just 5 seconds. The clash of egos is strong. Through the profession is same, i've learned not a single sentence from him but was still able to surpass him interms of technical knowledge. Bas, do sher ek ghar me honge to ladai to hogi. Fir bhi, hai to baap hi na.
Same goes with me and my dad both did mbbs and he did pg and I am studying for it now people just assume he helped in reality not a single sentence help i got from him always strained relationship
No matter how hard/rude our Father appears, One day we all are gonna miss them a lot. But, even after having such issues have due respect towards parents.❤ Because, none can replace them
kids can feel when their father is hard to let the kids learn, and kids can feel also when the father is hard cuz of carelessness and ego, in both situation the father is hard and strong, but both these have different result and impact on kids, father think their kids know nothing and can't feel the why the father behaves certain ways, but kids actually can feel, but sometimes fathers are themselves caring but still not caring
Today, I'm 39 years old and married. However, even today, my father has total control over me. He has two different tones; he speaks with my elder brother in a different tone, slightly higher, and with anger towards me. In my family, there are five people - my parents and three kids, two boys, and one girl. I was the middle child. Since my childhood, my father treated me as if I knew nothing, while my elder brother was seen as the one who knew everything. This same treatment continues today. This is the reason why I never eat with him at the dining table. I prefer to eat before or after him, but not with him. In the morning, whenever he wakes up and comes to the hall to sit on the sofa, I move back to my bedroom and wait for him to leave or go into his bedroom. In the meantime, I play with my daughter. Our relationship soured after I lost my mother to Covid. Thankfully, there are others like me who have a similar relationship with their fathers.
@@TheDSGroupSoroNo offense, I am 39, do you really think that I never thought about it? I do not know if you can understand this, it is in Gujarati 'પાકે ઘડે કાંઠા ન ચડે'
@@Rajpathhomeohh you are gujrati now I can understand you better... gujrati parents are conservative and have a lot of restrictions on their kid due to societal pressure..I have seen many kids growing like this there .
@@Rajpathhome why are you living under the same roof as him? Its possible that he is a narcissist. You need to find your own house to stay. Tomorrow your baby girl is going to grow up observing all this. It's bad for her.
How much accurate research you put in these video on ground reality level is awesome if any foreigners is seeing this video it's 100% accurate about India
I almost cried when he said that " ki beta tumhari jindgi kaisi chal rahi hai" this made me cry , i am 18 year old now my father never asked me , he ask only about how is my academic growth " ki beta padhai kaisi chal rahi hai "
@@R.K-s8mPadhai se naukri mil sakti hai,wisdom to a certain extent lekin jindagi acchi hona that's a different point. Iske liye love compassion or content hona sabse important hai. I do not agree with your point Bhai but I still respect your view❤❤
My father is my best friend , who supported me emotionally in my low phases and he bought everything for me which i want in my life ,i can understand about relatives and society but how people have arguments with his own parents ,they are the only ones who have selfless love for you.
my sister is closer to my father than me. She's a constant reminder to me that it's okay to come to my father with itsy bitsy demands and not just career related. That's why I am always be grateful to my little sister. She's gonna be married next month.
You kinda missed a very critical aspect of that puzzle. A lot of guys feel that their fathers are openly biased towards their sisters. This is a pain that runs in many many families. In cases where there are no sisters, some fathers are biased towards the son who is less successful.
मुझे लगता है यह Strange एक पिता के द्वारा ही बनाया गया है जो 80s और 90s के बच्चों में ज्यादा देखा गया। उसे समय के पिता अपने बच्चों के साथ बहुत कम समय स्पेंड करते थे। और बहुत कम बातचीत करते थे। जबकि आज की जनरेशन में बाप बेटा ज्यादा समय बिता रहे हैं और बेटा अपने पिता से ज्यादा ज्यादा कनेक्ट हो रहा है और कम्यूनिकेशन गैप भी बहुत कम हो। आज की जनरेशन के पिता यह सब समझ रहे। और बाप बेटा,बेटी के बीच की दूरी कम हो रही है। जो की एक अच्छी बात है मुझे लगता है।
Why not create video as well on relationship dynamics between daughter in law and mother in law. As this relation is mostly strain in every second household which impacts mental health of all family members
अगर पिता को नए जेनरेशन के विचार वाले अपने अपने बेटे के भावनाओं को समझने की जरुरत है तो हमें भी उनके पुराने खयालात को बदलने की नहीं बल्कि उनके साथ समंजस बनाने की जरुरत है , अगर उनका हम पर पुराने खेयालात थोपना गलत है तो हमारा भी उनको अपने खयालात जैसा बनना या अपने विचार उनपर थोपना गलत है
My father is my bestfriend.. We talks like best friend about any topics I teach new tech products to him ,How they can use and they provide me guidance on life decisions. We both listening songs at loudspeaker, dancing & goes to vacation together.
Nice presentation! But you forgot one crucial point! Which is "worshipping of dominant elders"! In the west, they don't confuse age with good personality! Being an elder, doesn't give you immunity to disrespect! If you do something wrong, people will call out on you and probably you'll get punishment too! But here, it's totally opposite, with age indian culture and society gives you unconditional respect even if you do something wrong! For example, if you're 65 years old and you slap someone in the street, people around you will directly accuse the young without thinking twice! Even if it was your fault in the first place! And if the young slaps you to defend himself the society thrash him asking "How could you slap someone of your dad's age?!" See? Being "dad's age" you're automatically immune to wrongdoings! Age is like a character certificate here! But in the west, everyone is equal to the society! If you're wrong, you're wrong! Age doesn't matter! Here, you can't even openly and fully question the elders! You'll be labelled as a bad boy/girl by the society! In west, new generations take control of the society like new leaves of a tree! Imagine what would happen if the old yellow leaves tried to dominate the new green leaves! The tree would face growth issues! Same with society! That's why the west has rich and sophisticated societies! They don't care what would the society or elders say! Best example is Elon Musk! One of the richest men in the world! He publically humiliated his abusive father in X ! Imagine what would happen in India! Everyone would call him evil and he would probably lose many investors!
Basically shame and izzat culture has forced both to remain silent all the time. Both can't express and thus the relationships are strained. Not just father son but entire family situations are like this
Thanks for bringing this video really appreciate the studyIQ thought process from recent fews week the topics on which you people are making videos are commendable. These are very important & sensitive topics which the society hardly like to talk about. Through your videos only might be a father & Son atleast thought about the same and try to make a better connection with each other.
My Father Was My Pride and Will Remain Forever. He was not just my best friend but my mentor too. Surya aur Pita ki Vajeh se hi hum sab is dharti pe aye hai...
Father should be like Mentor in son’s personal life… He should play a role like Ja beta jo karna hain woh kar le, sambhal ne ke liye mein hoon tere saath. Give that trust and confidence in him , Son will flourish then…….
I was also in search of the same question from a long period, but after reading the book "company of women" in corona lock down I learned the reason. This book is written by the famous journalist Author Lt Khushwanth singh at the age of 93. It's the mothers built wall between the children and father.
Today in a changing world it is true that the relationship between father and son is always a little strained . A father should understand his son' s thought and a son should also understand the condition of father. A father should be open but also should have a touch of strictness so that his son should not get indulged in any bad habit or activity . After all father and son relationship was a very important part of life and both should have an understanding between them to enjoy a healthy and good relationship
I have best relationship with my father. I share each and everything with my father. We talk a lot with heart. He share everything with me and I share almost everything with me. We talk hours and hours sometimes whole night. We should understand our father.
Pancha varsha lade, dasha varsha tade, prapto sodasho varsha mitravat aacharet..Sanskrit Subhashit. A father should not be a father but a best friend to his son as soon as the son enters adulthood.
Parents need to adopt this is as new normal. Just because our parents produced/Gave birth to us, does not mean I am their property. Kids have own choice on job , study , marriage , relationship , leadership , travelling , way of life and so on. I always wanted to be a single father but my parents rejected. I wanted to enjoy my life , earnings , savings but my parents disagreed. Time has changed. Parents need to understand the value of individuality. After 18 , I am responsible citizen of this country , I vote in election , I am free to choose my partner as per my choice and I have every right to live my life in my own way. Parents of this generation need to understand this. They must accept this change.
At 18 generally people are much less experienced. People get more matured after 25. I’m 31 and at 18, I also used to think “Now I am adult and can do whatever I want”. Looking back I knew I needed some guidance and luckily got some.
The more time goes the more advances the generation. Kids born in/after 2010 will be matured at the age of 18, whcih took 25 years for GEN Y or Z@@train_xc
Bottomline: You can choose who your neighbour can be but with family you can't. You r there as a part like it or not. So why not make the best of the relationship.
SOME Video not just video like this video , this problem know every father and son but no one know how to solve this , even many are not awarded that this is a problem . So this video is have power to put a mark on our lives and histories . thanks for this . i have good relation with my father but know many friends who face this issues.
Indeed my dad pushed me in open society but always stood behind. No matter what situation ahead always there to talk and act, gave advice. We often fight. Over the time he's the one who is one of close like friend to me.
This is because everyone including media movies tv shows celebrities promote father daughter relation much much much than father son relation even man also do that That's the main reason May be it's bitter but it's harsh truth
Baap bhi kabhi beta tha, does not mean we should stop improving the thoughts, we need to wisely improve the thoughts based on our historical mistakes which has done in past. Nice content as usual❤
What you make of yourself after you are an adult is totally upto you rather than end up with self pity & just playing the victim card. Once you are an adult you must think how I can be the ideal father one day that I didn't have & for that one needs to have success in their endeavors against all odds without any resentment towards the father. Rest assured your kids will learn from how you treated your dad without knowing all the past dynamics & will behave the same with you with a vengeance when they grow up & your elderly mellowed down dad will come across as a sweet innocent grandpa to them & they will hate you for mistreating him & will pay you back with interest when their time comes. & so the circle will continue...So focus on how to break this cycle for your next generation by carefully following the Do's & Don'ts rather than wallow in self pity & resentment & cast the shadow of your troubled childhood on your kids.
Respect is not demanded, it is earned. The tradition of worshipping elders and ELDERS CAN DO NO WRONG just bcz of age is also a major factor. Just by the virtue of being a father does not mean you can demand respect. Your acts earn you respect. Even fathers can be wrong, and they fail to acknowledge that the older generation can also learn from the younger one. This creates a major divide,
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You have nailed it perfectly in this video about father and son relationship. We must see Pursuit of Happiness movie by Will Smith to understand the sacrifices made by both father and son. God bless you bro 😊❤❤❤
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Father tries to save 100 Rs by walking 20 mins, Son tries to save 20 mins by taking Uber ride spending 100 Rs.
Beauty is both father and son are right.
Mathematicallly the son is wrong because he needs to book the cab, the cab needs to arrives and he needs to take the ride so he's not actually saving 20 minutes, 10-15 minutes depending on how soon the cab arrives. That's only break even or profit if he's paid at least Rs 10 a minute.
@@sreejithvk8478 which he probably will be, not directly but indirectly a lot of more productive things can be done in those 20 minutes. I am not saying that walking is unproductive, but it largely depends on the context and how busy you are at the moment.
It depends on the economic situation cannot judge without understanding the situation.
In my home I save money and my father is extravagant
@@sreejithvk8478 Even if example is wrong what is stopping you from saying both father and son is right no but you are into example??
Me & My dad are poles apart.
We can't stand each other.
But that doesn't change the fact that HE'S MY FATHER AND I AM HIS SON.😊❤
Same goes to me 😌😌
almost everything he say we disagree but the fact is we all love our father
Same here
Lucky bro
Same here 😢
Ego clashes as the son grows into an adult, he starts on to take lead of the family, father does not want to lose power.
My father is my bestest friend we share our thoughts everytime even when one is in dilemma he takes my advice and i take his advice....... ❤
You're very lucky dude! Btw what's the age gap? I am guessing it will be lower...in may case its almost 40 yrs...so becomes impossible to have similar perspectives on anything!
You are lucky man!
Same bro,my dad is 52 And I am 17
Lucky asf
I can hug my mother anytime. But to hug my father still a dream. Our conversion ends till demand of money. I listen my father talking to my mom about me in my absence only. I want to hug him but a/c to me it demands my success.
Same
But I'm quite lucky in this case.... I get to hug him twice in a year
@shahabuddinkhan4974 father & her ?? 🙄🙄
@@saqlainmushtaq360is it on Eid lol
@@RomanReigns-be9jj Jane do yrr suggestion shii diya h unhone ne
"Forget the past grudges".....
Just one problem though (in some cases):-
What if father used to hit mother,had extramarital affair, misbehaved with in laws, never took interest in child's hobbies or studies?? Can one still forgive these?? Is paying large school fees and giving comfortable lifestyle enough to compensate above points??
This happened to a friend very close to me(😅), is he right if he has stopped talking to his father?? And what should he do in future about about his father?
He’s not right. The father have paid for his everything. A father’s main job is make sure his children have a comfortable life, feel secured and make sure they become independent. And have done that. As such, your gains should at least have gratitude.
Like saying : “Thank you for everything but won’t forgive for what you’ve done”.
You should always be grateful no matter how the person is. He became his father if he’s not talking
@@train_xc you're wrong. Generally in these cases son is already grateful but the cons outnumber the pros so best is he shouldn't forgive his dad and he also shouldn't try to establish new relationship with him
@@ambarpal70pal2 I do not share your view, but I respect it .
Exactly this happens to one of my friend tooo..
@@train_xcthis kind of father will traumatised there kids for lifetime no way u r serious with your argument
Few people are lucky where there's a friendship between son and his dad. It's very rare to see where a guy can share everything with his parents without any fear. The fear of getting scolding or making the situation worse keeps children away from their parents as their reactions would be very harsh to any bad situation in life making him further weak, depressed and sad in opposition to a friend who if not useful to overcome the situation but can atleast make him feel light by sharing his situation without fear. Dad or son both are living in different generations which have huge gaps about the way life to be lived and with the power to take independent steps everyone tried to impose their believes on others. And hence the argument starts, but since parents sometimes loose temper and may hurt child with chappal or thappad, even a small scolding or harsh reaction will distant their child from them, call it fear of parents which a guy will never overcome untill and unless a miracle occurs. Main thing is in western countries parents show low even if it is morphed while in india parents show their anger but fail to show their love when their kid needs it the most. We as parents simply can't say i love u to our kids as they grew older. We stop understanding their point or try to say it's ok we can fix it, instead we shout and start beating them making them feel more sad and lonely.
It is the bitter truth dude
I am one of them 😊
Can feel it
sensible comment.
I can feel it
I have not seen this video, just clicked on the link and wanted to share. I always loved but I couldn't show that much love to my father, may be beacuse of 'male ego issues' and biasedly taking my mother's side in times of conflict. Couldnt understand his importance until, one day he was diagnosed with blood cancer and I lost him within a month. Moral of the story is, nobody in this world can love you unconditionally, more than your parents. So always love and respect them. They are irreplaceable.
Me and my father belong to same engineering profession. Both have studied in IIT and NIT. But we are poles apart. Our discussion turns into a fight in just 5 seconds. The clash of egos is strong. Through the profession is same, i've learned not a single sentence from him but was still able to surpass him interms of technical knowledge. Bas, do sher ek ghar me honge to ladai to hogi. Fir bhi, hai to baap hi na.
Daaang!
Same goes with me and my dad both did mbbs and he did pg and I am studying for it now people just assume he helped in reality not a single sentence help i got from him always strained relationship
😂
Baap ka ego problem yahi ek reason hai strained relationship ka 95% cases mei.
There is no communication in today's relationship
Father is like a sun , if he is there , there is heat but it hurts but with out sun we are nothing 😢😢
True ❤
This will not be applied to all.
dekhna sunstroke na jaaye
True
Son
Am so lucky to born in my family and my father is real world super hero for our family 😊
Either u r a son of Amitabh bacchan or Mr Deve Gowda or Mulayan Yadav 😅
@@sathyanarayana887 I only know Amitabh bacchan🤣
No matter how hard/rude our Father appears, One day we all are gonna miss them a lot. But, even after having such issues have due respect towards parents.❤ Because, none can replace them
I won't miss him . If I'll miss him surely not in positive ways.
kids can feel when their father is hard to let the kids learn, and kids can feel also when the father is hard cuz of carelessness and ego, in both situation the father is hard and strong, but both these have different result and impact on kids, father think their kids know nothing and can't feel the why the father behaves certain ways, but kids actually can feel, but sometimes fathers are themselves caring but still not caring
@@samiersamier8889 same
Appreciate such content in social media. These are much needed in India. You are doing a valuable service.
Today, I'm 39 years old and married. However, even today, my father has total control over me. He has two different tones; he speaks with my elder brother in a different tone, slightly higher, and with anger towards me. In my family, there are five people - my parents and three kids, two boys, and one girl. I was the middle child. Since my childhood, my father treated me as if I knew nothing, while my elder brother was seen as the one who knew everything. This same treatment continues today. This is the reason why I never eat with him at the dining table. I prefer to eat before or after him, but not with him. In the morning, whenever he wakes up and comes to the hall to sit on the sofa, I move back to my bedroom and wait for him to leave or go into his bedroom. In the meantime, I play with my daughter. Our relationship soured after I lost my mother to Covid. Thankfully, there are others like me who have a similar relationship with their fathers.
90%your situation matching with me
Brother, Try talking to your father a little little words... Distances will end. God bless you.
@@TheDSGroupSoroNo offense, I am 39, do you really think that I never thought about it? I do not know if you can understand this, it is in Gujarati 'પાકે ઘડે કાંઠા ન ચડે'
@@Rajpathhomeohh you are gujrati now I can understand you better... gujrati parents are conservative and have a lot of restrictions on their kid due to societal pressure..I have seen many kids growing like this there .
@@Rajpathhome why are you living under the same roof as him? Its possible that he is a narcissist. You need to find your own house to stay. Tomorrow your baby girl is going to grow up observing all this. It's bad for her.
This is also my story. I also love my father but after many years now I have no feelings for my Father because of mental traumas.
Me too
Me too
How much accurate research you put in these video on ground reality level is awesome if any foreigners is seeing this video it's 100% accurate about India
I almost cried when he said that " ki beta tumhari jindgi kaisi chal rahi hai" this made me cry , i am 18 year old now my father never asked me , he ask only about how is my academic growth " ki beta padhai kaisi chal rahi hai "
Sad but its reality
Because Padhai se hi jindagi achchi banti hai
@@R.K-s8mPadhai se naukri mil sakti hai,wisdom to a certain extent lekin jindagi acchi hona that's a different point.
Iske liye love compassion or content hona sabse important hai.
I do not agree with your point Bhai but I still respect your view❤❤
I really appreciate that STUDY-IQ is bringing this topic to public. That really awesome . I have the same relation with my father and mother .
My father is open minded and listen every word of me. I also obey my father in a way of respect. bond between me and father is more strong.
My father is my best friend , who supported me emotionally in my low phases and he bought everything for me which i want in my life ,i can understand about relatives and society but how people have arguments with his own parents ,they are the only ones who have selfless love for you.
We all feel this.. Thx for making a video on this topic
my sister is closer to my father than me. She's a constant reminder to me that it's okay to come to my father with itsy bitsy demands and not just career related. That's why I am always be grateful to my little sister. She's gonna be married next month.
Best wishes for you and for her too, enjoy the marriage. May God bless you all
But be careful father sometimes ignore sons if they have daughters.
@@rajpawar9343but sons are never ignored by mothers 😂
But not every son get mother's love.
You kinda missed a very critical aspect of that puzzle.
A lot of guys feel that their fathers are openly biased towards their sisters. This is a pain that runs in many many families.
In cases where there are no sisters, some fathers are biased towards the son who is less successful.
We can see some mothers pamper sons more😅 ,i think father wants their son to be responsible person especially if he is eldest kid,
4:58 Maa ❤❤
My Friend take bear with his father and share many thinks to eachother
मुझे लगता है यह Strange एक पिता के द्वारा ही बनाया गया है जो 80s और 90s के बच्चों में ज्यादा देखा गया। उसे समय के पिता अपने बच्चों के साथ बहुत कम समय स्पेंड करते थे। और बहुत कम बातचीत करते थे। जबकि आज की जनरेशन में बाप बेटा ज्यादा समय बिता रहे हैं और बेटा अपने पिता से ज्यादा ज्यादा कनेक्ट हो रहा है और कम्यूनिकेशन गैप भी बहुत कम हो। आज की जनरेशन के पिता यह सब समझ रहे। और बाप बेटा,बेटी के बीच की दूरी कम हो रही है। जो की एक अच्छी बात है मुझे लगता है।
Why not create video as well on relationship dynamics between daughter in law and mother in law. As this relation is mostly strain in every second household which impacts mental health of all family members
Right sir
Sir aapne man ki bat kahe di
I haven't decided
What do you
अगर पिता को नए जेनरेशन के विचार वाले अपने अपने बेटे के भावनाओं को समझने की जरुरत है तो हमें भी उनके पुराने खयालात को बदलने की नहीं बल्कि उनके साथ समंजस बनाने की जरुरत है , अगर उनका हम पर पुराने खेयालात थोपना गलत है तो हमारा भी उनको अपने खयालात जैसा बनना या अपने विचार उनपर थोपना गलत है
Videos on Social and moral issues suit you well, just personal opinion.
Great video 🙌
My father is my bestfriend.. We talks like best friend about any topics I teach new tech products to him ,How they can use and they provide me guidance on life decisions.
We both listening songs at loudspeaker, dancing & goes to vacation together.
Nice presentation! But you forgot one crucial point! Which is "worshipping of dominant elders"! In the west, they don't confuse age with good personality! Being an elder, doesn't give you immunity to disrespect! If you do something wrong, people will call out on you and probably you'll get punishment too! But here, it's totally opposite, with age indian culture and society gives you unconditional respect even if you do something wrong! For example, if you're 65 years old and you slap someone in the street, people around you will directly accuse the young without thinking twice! Even if it was your fault in the first place! And if the young slaps you to defend himself the society thrash him asking "How could you slap someone of your dad's age?!" See? Being "dad's age" you're automatically immune to wrongdoings! Age is like a character certificate here! But in the west, everyone is equal to the society! If you're wrong, you're wrong! Age doesn't matter! Here, you can't even openly and fully question the elders! You'll be labelled as a bad boy/girl by the society! In west, new generations take control of the society like new leaves of a tree! Imagine what would happen if the old yellow leaves tried to dominate the new green leaves! The tree would face growth issues! Same with society! That's why the west has rich and sophisticated societies! They don't care what would the society or elders say! Best example is Elon Musk! One of the richest men in the world! He publically humiliated his abusive father in X ! Imagine what would happen in India! Everyone would call him evil and he would probably lose many investors!
The Sentence "AGE IS LIKE CHARACTER CERTIFICATE " ❤
You are completely right about this. 100% agree with it.
Ya you are right
People always gives the example of Shree Ram and Raja Dashrath but they always forget about Prahlad and Hiranyakashyapu
We are the generation ( Around 55 to 65) who sacrificed for Father & also for the Son, We do the things please our Father, & now same thing for Son
Often I think am right and my father is wrong but after some time I realize father was most of the time right.
Basically shame and izzat culture has forced both to remain silent all the time. Both can't express and thus the relationships are strained. Not just father son but entire family situations are like this
Thanks for bringing this video really appreciate the studyIQ thought process from recent fews week the topics on which you people are making videos are commendable. These are very important & sensitive topics which the society hardly like to talk about. Through your videos only might be a father & Son atleast thought about the same and try to make a better connection with each other.
Your videos always hits me.. Like everything which are in my conscious or subconscious mind.
This is a nice topic. Maybe little difficult, but We should be open with our family as much as we can.
That's why I love this channel you guy's have answered many of my questions thankyou.
VERY INFORMATIVE AND RELATABLE VIDEOS
My Father Was My Pride and Will Remain Forever.
He was not just my best friend but my mentor too.
Surya aur Pita ki Vajeh se hi hum sab is dharti pe aye hai...
That's why we love mamma ❤️🥺
Ek ek chiz relatable hai 🥲
Mai yh Dukh 😢😢😢 Jhel rha hu... daily pr mai apne beta k sath aisa nhi hone dunga....❤❤❤❤
Father should be like Mentor in son’s personal life… He should play a role like Ja beta jo karna hain woh kar le, sambhal ne ke liye mein hoon tere saath. Give that trust and confidence in him , Son will flourish then…….
My father is so caring but our views are poles apart. I love him a lot.
A big ❤ to you sir for Acknowledging all these problems of today's world, and discussing in public. Thanks a lot.
The topics you're choosing ❤ respect
I was also in search of the same question from a long period, but after reading the book "company of women" in corona lock down I learned the reason. This book is written by the famous journalist Author Lt Khushwanth singh at the age of 93.
It's the mothers built wall between the children and father.
Today in a changing world it is true that the relationship between father and son is always a little strained . A father should understand his son' s thought and a son should also understand the condition of father. A father should be open but also should have a touch of strictness so that his son should not get indulged in any bad habit or activity . After all father and son relationship was a very important part of life and both should have an understanding between them to enjoy a healthy and good relationship
पिता के imotions को एक बेटा तब समझता है, जब वो पिता बनता है❤❤❤
मैं भविष्य में अपनी संतान के साथ वो कभी नहीं करूँगा, जो मेरे साथ मेरे पिता ने किया।😢😢😢
Fathers are also tend to be authoritative in normal indian families.
I have best relationship with my father. I share each and everything with my father. We talk a lot with heart. He share everything with me and I share almost everything with me. We talk hours and hours sometimes whole night. We should understand our father.
ThanK You sir..
Pancha varsha lade, dasha varsha tade, prapto sodasho varsha mitravat aacharet..Sanskrit Subhashit. A father should not be a father but a best friend to his son as soon as the son enters adulthood.
"PAPA KI PARIYO" KA SOCIAL RELATION STUDY BHI HONA CHIYA
I think saying "I Love You" to a girl is a little easier than saying "I Love You" to your Indian dad .😬
You can't say I love you to your dad. 💀
You can just show him. Take him to a cricket match if he love cricket, or take him for a vacation of his dream destination.
The present generation dads know what they missed and they do not want their kids go through the same situations.
Parents need to adopt this is as new normal. Just because our parents produced/Gave birth to us, does not mean I am their property. Kids have own choice on job , study , marriage , relationship , leadership , travelling , way of life and so on. I always wanted to be a single father but my parents rejected. I wanted to enjoy my life , earnings , savings but my parents disagreed. Time has changed. Parents need to understand the value of individuality. After 18 , I am responsible citizen of this country , I vote in election , I am free to choose my partner as per my choice and I have every right to live my life in my own way. Parents of this generation need to understand this. They must accept this change.
You are right bro 🖒🖒🖒🖒
At 18 generally people are much less experienced. People get more matured after 25. I’m 31 and at 18, I also used to think “Now I am adult and can do whatever I want”. Looking back I knew I needed some guidance and luckily got some.
Wow👏👏👏👍
The more time goes the more advances the generation. Kids born in/after 2010 will be matured at the age of 18, whcih took 25 years for GEN Y or Z@@train_xc
Well our relationship has improved a lot since past ....
India mein To ladkon ne Aaj Tak Apne papa Ko huge bhi nahin kiya hoga .Aur uss me se mai ek hu..🥹🥹😭😭
I lost my dad when I was 28 but never said to dad, I love you as much as I love mom.
Feel ur pain
Lovely session ❤❤
Proudly CAN SAY THIS IS NOT SO SAME IN MY CASE .
Best Video on this Issue😢❤
Thank you bro.
Very imotional but genuine topic
Now generation Father & Son life bonding like closefriend..
Not at all
@@USER74137 Mera mumi ko maarna chtta hai aur baccho ko sa nafarat krta hai .
@@yourdaddy510 your father?
@@USER74137 mera papa second wife bhi hai humko pta chl pr yeah papa ko nahi pta hai . Hum disclose nahi kr rha phir ghr sa nikal denga
This video will help everyone. 100 %
Right.
Very good topic..👍 ❤
Touched very sensitive and practical topic
Bottomline: You can choose who your neighbour can be but with family you can't. You r there as a part like it or not. So why not make the best of the relationship.
Boy child is prepared for service to his family & society. So he forget lot's of emotions.
Father compares his child to others so there is always fight ❌ comparison always lead to quarrel
*It seems that my mobile is reading what is happening in my life, what thoughts are arising in my mind🔎*
Same😢
AI is that very thought reader😅😅
I love my father
He is God for me 🙏
Very good vidio
I like it most
It was needed most
SOME Video not just video like this video , this problem know every father and son but no one know how to solve this , even many are not awarded that this is a problem . So this video is have power to put a mark on our lives and histories . thanks for this . i have good relation with my father but know many friends who face this issues.
Indeed my dad pushed me in open society but always stood behind. No matter what situation ahead always there to talk and act, gave advice. We often fight. Over the time he's the one who is one of close like friend to me.
This is because everyone including media movies tv shows celebrities promote father daughter relation much much much than father son relation even man also do that
That's the main reason
May be it's bitter but it's harsh truth
Baap bhi kabhi beta tha, does not mean we should stop improving the thoughts, we need to wisely improve the thoughts based on our historical mistakes which has done in past. Nice content as usual❤
What you make of yourself after you are an adult is totally upto you rather than end up with self pity & just playing the victim card. Once you are an adult you must think how I can be the ideal father one day that I didn't have & for that one needs to have success in their endeavors against all odds without any resentment towards the father. Rest assured your kids will learn from how you treated your dad without knowing all the past dynamics & will behave the same with you with a vengeance when they grow up & your elderly mellowed down dad will come across as a sweet innocent grandpa to them & they will hate you for mistreating him & will pay you back with interest when their time comes. & so the circle will continue...So focus on how to break this cycle for your next generation by carefully following the Do's & Don'ts rather than wallow in self pity & resentment & cast the shadow of your troubled childhood on your kids.
What are the do's and don'ts
Amazing video!!!
Respect is not demanded, it is earned. The tradition of worshipping elders and ELDERS CAN DO NO WRONG just bcz of age is also a major factor. Just by the virtue of being a father does not mean you can demand respect. Your acts earn you respect. Even fathers can be wrong, and they fail to acknowledge that the older generation can also learn from the younger one. This creates a major divide,
Ur videos are so relatable
আমার কোনো দিনো মনে পড়েনা যে আমি আমারা মাবাবার সাথে কোথাও ঘুড়তে গিয়েছি না কাজে ব্যাস্ত থাকার জন্য নয় তারা ঘুরতে যাওয়াকে কোনো দিনো প্রয়োজন বলে মনে করেনি। 😑
মাধ্যমিক পরীক্ষা রেজাল্ট বাড়িতে আসার সাথে সাথে ঠিক হয়ে গেলো আমি কি নিয়ে পড়বে আমার মতামতকে পাত্তা দেওয়া হলো না, আজ ও আমি পস্তাচ্ছি।
একজনকে ভালোবাসি কিন্তু বাবার ego র জন্য তাকে হারাতে হয়েছে আজ সে অন্যের বউ কিন্তু আজও ফোন করে সে কাঁদে।
ব্যাবসা করার চেষ্টা করছিলাম, তার সাথে শুরু হলো পারবি না হবে না।
সরকারি চাকরির পস্তুতি শুরু করলাম উঠতে বসতে কথা শুনি।
আমার বাবার একটাই কথা - "বেসরকারি কারখান বা অফিসে চাকর থাকো, ছুটির দিনে বাড়ির কাজ করো, বাবা যা বলছে সব ঠিক মেনেনাও, নিজের মতামত দিওনা, তার পছন্দ অনুযায়ী বিয়ে করো, বাচ্চা জন্মদাও, তাদের দেখা শোনা করো তার পর মরো।
আমি এমন ভাবে বাঁচবো না।
E toh amaro same case
Yes I accept this problem
Indian Gen z me kuch changes toh hain but after this generation most of the father becomes best friend of their son
What a beautiful topic❤
My father is my best friend since childhood.❤
That's good..kaafi ache communication rahe honge bro ke..
You're lucky
You have nailed it perfectly in this video about father and son relationship. We must see Pursuit of Happiness movie by Will Smith to understand the sacrifices made by both father and son. God bless you bro 😊❤❤❤
What a analysis ❤
Very good video, covrring most of the angles of this relationship
Appreciate your team for cominng up many important topics. Cant afford to miss any of the video from your channel.
Attachment in their own favorite things. . .
Sir aapki voice boht mast h .. !!!!
In my case, it's totally opposite 😅😊
We both are best friends ...We talks together,play together,eat together and fight together also 😉 ❤
Mirzapur city Night 11:35 Earthquake 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Because a father can't be so soft bcs he has responsibilities of whole family and if he becomes so soft then children may go into wrong way
R. K Hirani ka film khud ka ideas nehin hee, it's a dubbed film, but film story❤❤