This information makes so much sense. My 8 and 1 wings require me to do things that disturb my peace so often, which is so annoying to me, but necessary. The problem is when the 8 or 1 wing is not in proper alignment, it can be done in a harsher way that can make people unhappy with me and disturb the connection that I also desire. It will be so nice to get to the point in this walk where I am in alignment with God and walking in a healthy assertive place; making choices that honor myself as well as the people closest to me. I know what I need to do, but I need to move into action. Story of my life. Haha.
I can’t even imagine having healthy 3 energy in my life only because God has yet to bring people into my life that would help me have that experience, you don’t know what you don’t know…but it sure does sounds amazing! Like a dream come true.
Thank you! I'm a 9. I loved the idea of the "love box", I always need to remember that I make an impact on people, that my existence is useful (or deserved).
As an astrologer I can see the enneagram is 💯 a mirror reflection of one’s natal chart. My personal belief is that my creator created this life for me and the higher powers are fully responsible for every positive and negative thing that happened during my childhood to shape me and the basic traits I was born with. So when feeling low, It’s so easy for me to remember, it’s not my fault, this is all a set up, this isn’t truly me, this is gods game and I can say no to the parts I don’t want to play. It’s like the matrix is for real.
The comment about physically feeling like you take up more space when someone says out loud that they appreciate you, or believe in you, or acknowledge your importance is one of the things that causes me to withdraw and with hold. I don't like attention, but then I'm all kinds of sad when I don't get any attention at all.
This was so helpful, especially when Beth shared about the 3 and 1 ganging up on her with being "bad" or "wrong"...and then the 3 plowing over people. Wow! Thank you for helping me understand a little. The trouble is that I only see the bad in me and have a hard time seeing and focusing on the good and safety with an overflowed heart as His Beloved and to live loved.
Thank you! Totally relate, 3rd child of six, plus being an INFJ has led me to be misunderstood by people outside my circle. Defiantly an observer, kind of a kill joy when we were younger, looking ahead and letting others know what the outcome might be logically. But I am still the one person in the family, everyone comes to for an honest opinion. Just a shame that it has taken me so long to find out who I am and what my strengths are. Thank you for being there!
“Why can’t I just” , I get it, but for me it is more lIke I know the why or can figure it out fast but then I immediately rationalize it away as a means to accept it and find peace within the acceptance. Talking it out with the higher powers or my higher self always helps me release self criticism or feeling less then.
I’ve never had a desires to “shine” and for those who need to it’s kind of overbearing in a subtle way, so I’m like, dude I have no desire to compete with that energy, please let me step aside so you could just do your thing”
Thank you Thank you Thank you!!! I'm overwhelmed with trying to understand my 9-ness! This was so very helpful, learned about the 3 and 6 and what that looks like in my life!!
Ah! There you said it! nice things make us uncomfortable when we're living as the wounded child. Do you find yourself moving back and forth between wounded and healthy? I used to be my best self until some health issues had me isolated for a while, now it feels like who I was wasn't 'the real me'. This message offers hope and good advice Thank you.
Sharron, yes! We ebb and flow between the Wounded Child and the Beloved Child throughout the day, week, month, and seasons of life. One moment we can be living full and free in the acknowledgment of being the Beloved and then something can shift our mind and heart to a misaligned place where we find ourselves struggling to believe the truth. We can find ourselves believing false messages and operating once again in the Wounded Child space. But the amazing news is that God is never surprised. He is with us. He has taken care of us through Christ and we can come to him in our mess. He is always loving us, providing for us, and near to us. So, when you find yourself struggling, go to him instead of withdrawing and hiding (at least that is what I do). He is here and loving you right where you are at because, in his eyes, you are his Beloved Child based don't the finished work of Christ on your behalf. Come rest in him!
This is such a fantastic outlet , may it find great success. ❤
when that part of us speaks up for something, when we plow ahead for someone - or against someone! It SURPRISES people!
Love this
This information makes so much sense. My 8 and 1 wings require me to do things that disturb my peace so often, which is so annoying to me, but necessary. The problem is when the 8 or 1 wing is not in proper alignment, it can be done in a harsher way that can make people unhappy with me and disturb the connection that I also desire. It will be so nice to get to the point in this walk where I am in alignment with God and walking in a healthy assertive place; making choices that honor myself as well as the people closest to me. I know what I need to do, but I need to move into action. Story of my life. Haha.
I can’t even imagine having healthy 3 energy in my life only because God has yet to bring people into my life that would help me have that experience, you don’t know what you don’t know…but it sure does sounds amazing! Like a dream come true.
Thank you!
I'm a 9.
I loved the idea of the "love box", I always need to remember that I make an impact on people, that my existence is useful (or deserved).
@Genesis You're existence truly matters!
Keep the panels coming!!
As an astrologer I can see the enneagram is 💯 a mirror reflection of one’s natal chart. My personal belief is that my creator created this life for me and the higher powers are fully responsible for every positive and negative thing that happened during my childhood to shape me and the basic traits I was born with. So when feeling low, It’s so easy for me to remember, it’s not my fault, this is all a set up, this isn’t truly me, this is gods game and I can say no to the parts I don’t want to play. It’s like the matrix is for real.
The comment about physically feeling like you take up more space when someone says out loud that they appreciate you, or believe in you, or acknowledge your importance is one of the things that causes me to withdraw and with hold. I don't like attention, but then I'm all kinds of sad when I don't get any attention at all.
This was so helpful, especially when Beth shared about the 3 and 1 ganging up on her with being "bad" or "wrong"...and then the 3 plowing over people. Wow! Thank you for helping me understand a little. The trouble is that I only see the bad in me and have a hard time seeing and focusing on the good and safety with an overflowed heart as His Beloved and to live loved.
Thank you! Totally relate, 3rd child of six, plus being an INFJ has led me to be misunderstood by people outside my circle. Defiantly an observer, kind of a kill joy when we were younger, looking ahead and letting others know what the outcome might be logically. But I am still the one person in the family, everyone comes to for an honest opinion. Just a shame that it has taken me so long to find out who I am and what my strengths are. Thank you for being there!
I am a 9 and this talk resonated with me so very strongly!!!!
This was awesome stuff! Thx so much for sharing! I’m a type 9 and this podcast brought so much clarity to my type.
“Why can’t I just” , I get it, but for me it is more lIke I know the why or can figure it out fast but then I immediately rationalize it away as a means to accept it and find peace within the acceptance. Talking it out with the higher powers or my higher self always helps me release self criticism or feeling less then.
I’ve never had a desires to “shine” and for those who need to it’s kind of overbearing in a subtle way, so I’m like, dude I have no desire to compete with that energy, please let me step aside so you could just do your thing”
Oh my gosh love this!! Thank you for putting this out. 🤗💕 My people you totally get me!! Lol
Yes it's so nice to know we aren't alone! People who understand us!❤
Thank you Thank you Thank you!!! I'm overwhelmed with trying to understand my 9-ness! This was so very helpful, learned about the 3 and 6 and what that looks like in my life!!
Glad it was helpful!
Wow!! Nailed it! Amazing
Ah! There you said it! nice things make us uncomfortable when we're living as the wounded child. Do you find yourself moving back and forth between wounded and healthy? I used to be my best self until some health issues had me isolated for a while, now it feels like who I was wasn't 'the real me'. This message offers hope and good advice Thank you.
Sharron, yes! We ebb and flow between the Wounded Child and the Beloved Child throughout the day, week, month, and seasons of life. One moment we can be living full and free in the acknowledgment of being the Beloved and then something can shift our mind and heart to a misaligned place where we find ourselves struggling to believe the truth. We can find ourselves believing false messages and operating once again in the Wounded Child space. But the amazing news is that God is never surprised. He is with us. He has taken care of us through Christ and we can come to him in our mess. He is always loving us, providing for us, and near to us. So, when you find yourself struggling, go to him instead of withdrawing and hiding (at least that is what I do). He is here and loving you right where you are at because, in his eyes, you are his Beloved Child based don't the finished work of Christ on your behalf. Come rest in him!
i love this 🙏