Parents, this may take a while until you see the turnaround! When kids are used to a routine - especially one that works in their favor - it can take some convincing to change. They dont need us to keep telling them its going to work. As this man said, we nedd to MODEL how we want it to look, and STAY consistent. When kids see their parents aren't budging, they'll adapt accordingly! The only reason they were reliant on prompts before is because it was made easy for them. Parents, it's worth it for the whole family!
You can also touch base with their teachers/coaches at the beginning, to let them know there are changes being made at home so the teacher might see side effects. For example, kids at first might AT FIRST totally fail at getting their homework done without the prompts, might AT FIRST not get ready for school or practice on time, etc. If the teacher can know this beforehand, they can prepare themselves to give the right kind of support. This way theyre not reprimanding the children for the lapses, but instead offer them support (thats not prompting 😉). Your choice if you want to let them know what exactly you're doing. Personally, I would, as then the teacher doesn't end up accidentally undermining your work by over-prompting your kid as you withdraw. More often than not, teachers and coaches WANT to help kids succeed, and WANT to work with parents to make that happen!
Please answer to this....the question is how to take out the distractions, laptops or phones when the kid is already immersive into this things, which most are, since if you take them out most likely they will become more annoying, wondering throughout the house doing and practice bad behavior, which usually leads to confrontation. Solutions for the problems not solutions with clean slate since most parents dont start from that point. Thank you.
It is your responsibility as the parent to remove the tech, because you know it’s terrible for them and dysregulates them. You then must preserve through the TEMPORARY withdraws behaviors. They will not last. Kids are resilient and anti-fragile. Eventually, the will go outside, read, go out with friends and do actual kid things that are HEALTHY
I know this is going to sound harsh and my kid wasn't ADHD, but he wanted to watch really dumbed down content on YTKs. For example, people crushing things under car tires, or repetitive music from the tiles game. Weird things were getting recommended to him. Things that taught him nothing but bad behavior. Making him seem autistic, but he wasn't. It even recommended him autistic kids to watch. I swear, TY is working against us. Even scary stuff like siren head, which he now sadly loves. Most of this content he saw when he visited his older cousin who at the time was 5. My son was 3. So when I tried to find him a show he wasn't happy with anything I got for him, I wasn't about to let him watch the majority of what he pointed to, so I took the tv from him when he screamed about it, and forced him to watch from disney, pluto or tubi's kids channels. You don't have to remove all the cartoons, just ones that teach them nothing at all and set time limits. It seems harsh but they move on and forget it eventually. I promise. You just have to have the strength to keep with it. Relace it with things that are more fun. Let them deal with the frustration in a safe, quiet environment. I think Grownowadhd is talking more about older kids but it looks to me like you're talking about a toddler. Now is the time to teach them how they watch and learn from content.
This all sounds great, I’m not being sarcastic when saying this except it doesn’t work lol What do we do when we have to leave in 15 mins and we find out that even without screens our child just sat there staring at the wall?
Same. When I've got them all ready and ask them to go out the door and sit in the car while I get another sibling ready I will come out a few minutes later to find them playing in a puddle and in need of a new outfit or in the chicken coop. Doesn't matter where we are going or how much they want to go.
I do wonder if he's referring to older children. It sounds like you have younger children who are still learning the process of getting ready and who would need supervision to process through those tasks. Otherwise, with older children, I think he's saying we need to leave the emotion and shame out of our speech and focus on the information. i.e. "This is how much time we have. You need to be doing the tasks required to leave in that amount of time."
Keep the channel going! Valuable!
Parents, this may take a while until you see the turnaround! When kids are used to a routine - especially one that works in their favor - it can take some convincing to change. They dont need us to keep telling them its going to work. As this man said, we nedd to MODEL how we want it to look, and STAY consistent. When kids see their parents aren't budging, they'll adapt accordingly!
The only reason they were reliant on prompts before is because it was made easy for them.
Parents, it's worth it for the whole family!
You can also touch base with their teachers/coaches at the beginning, to let them know there are changes being made at home so the teacher might see side effects.
For example, kids at first might AT FIRST totally fail at getting their homework done without the prompts, might AT FIRST not get ready for school or practice on time, etc. If the teacher can know this beforehand, they can prepare themselves to give the right kind of support. This way theyre not reprimanding the children for the lapses, but instead offer them support (thats not prompting 😉).
Your choice if you want to let them know what exactly you're doing. Personally, I would, as then the teacher doesn't end up accidentally undermining your work by over-prompting your kid as you withdraw.
More often than not, teachers and coaches WANT to help kids succeed, and WANT to work with parents to make that happen!
This is good for kids without ADHD to.
Wise words ! 👏🏼👏🏼
Please answer to this....the question is how to take out the distractions, laptops or phones when the kid is already immersive into this things, which most are, since if you take them out most likely they will become more annoying, wondering throughout the house doing and practice bad behavior, which usually leads to confrontation. Solutions for the problems not solutions with clean slate since most parents dont start from that point. Thank you.
It is your responsibility as the parent to remove the tech, because you know it’s terrible for them and dysregulates them. You then must preserve through the TEMPORARY withdraws behaviors. They will not last. Kids are resilient and anti-fragile. Eventually, the will go outside, read, go out with friends and do actual kid things that are HEALTHY
I know this is going to sound harsh and my kid wasn't ADHD, but he wanted to watch really dumbed down content on YTKs. For example, people crushing things under car tires, or repetitive music from the tiles game. Weird things were getting recommended to him. Things that taught him nothing but bad behavior. Making him seem autistic, but he wasn't. It even recommended him autistic kids to watch. I swear, TY is working against us. Even scary stuff like siren head, which he now sadly loves. Most of this content he saw when he visited his older cousin who at the time was 5. My son was 3. So when I tried to find him a show he wasn't happy with anything I got for him, I wasn't about to let him watch the majority of what he pointed to, so I took the tv from him when he screamed about it, and forced him to watch from disney, pluto or tubi's kids channels. You don't have to remove all the cartoons, just ones that teach them nothing at all and set time limits. It seems harsh but they move on and forget it eventually. I promise. You just have to have the strength to keep with it. Relace it with things that are more fun. Let them deal with the frustration in a safe, quiet environment. I think Grownowadhd is talking more about older kids but it looks to me like you're talking about a toddler. Now is the time to teach them how they watch and learn from content.
This all sounds great, I’m not being sarcastic when saying this except it doesn’t work lol What do we do when we have to leave in 15 mins and we find out that even without screens our child just sat there staring at the wall?
Same. When I've got them all ready and ask them to go out the door and sit in the car while I get another sibling ready I will come out a few minutes later to find them playing in a puddle and in need of a new outfit or in the chicken coop. Doesn't matter where we are going or how much they want to go.
I do wonder if he's referring to older children. It sounds like you have younger children who are still learning the process of getting ready and who would need supervision to process through those tasks. Otherwise, with older children, I think he's saying we need to leave the emotion and shame out of our speech and focus on the information. i.e. "This is how much time we have. You need to be doing the tasks required to leave in that amount of time."