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I think to me is not strange otherwise evn people in rural or ushaggis believes that those in cities especially Nairobi are gold dealers.. They keep on asking for money whereas live in cities especially Nairobi is not easy evn sometimes. If class advances to diaspora the more they expect. I think what we dnt know is bigger than us. People should renew their minds by thinking out of the box the comforting zone.
Still it depends on how we represent ourselves when visiting home. Let's not show off by creating a certain class otherwise the more you create expectations in their minds.
Correction... Not all Kenyans are beggers... I've no relative abroad & I work hard too selling boiled eggs in Ngong... A broad people should also humble and help respectful no one is forcing them... The can also choose not to communicate if they can😠
I appreciate this conversation. Its not a Kenyan problem but Africa as a whole and other 3rd world countries. One question am always asked " Why is it that Africans work so hard,double and triple shifts but are always broke?" Sometimes its our own who let us down. One has to draw the line and hardened their heart if they want to make something out of their lives while abroad. Don't neglect your parents and siblings but draw healthy boundaries. Its sad when family members don't care about your wellbeing and the day you see " Hi my sister" the next thing is " Nna shida kiasi"..." Nimefungiwa nyumba"...etc There is a devil called "Credit Cards" - by the time you get to understand how they actually operate,you are deep in debt.
Thank God the truth is finally being told about the struggles in the diaspora! We are not responsible for everybodys problems back home. I stopped stressing myself out by working day and night for my people sitting at home waiting for western union.
I have just returned back to Kenya after over 20 years abroad. I set the expectations right from the beginning. Only helped where there was a need and could afford to. When I visited tmy family and friend in Kenya, most of them were living a very good and comfortable life. I was intentional in focusing on my nuclear family and investing in Kenya. It has paid off and so glad to be back.
Funded myself to diaspora as an International student, life was expensive and difficult. Expensive tuition to pay, loans to repay,culture shock, zero social life, discrimination......Worked four jobs and still went to Uni full time, graduated top of my class. All this while, phonecalls were scarce but my phone would suddenly become busy, just as I was about to travel home. Bring me this, bring me that but when you're leaving Kenya, nobody buys you even a packet of tea bags as a travel back gift. Once when borrowed money, I genuinely said that I didn't have at the time and that's how I was shut out. Travelled home soon after, I was ignored na nikaongewa. Great eye opener, huge lesson learnt. Nlijiita kamkutano!!
Came to Canada as an international student too life was really hard , I struggled so much imagn after all that struggle my brother and father keep on telling me how useless I am , how I can’t help my family like other people in the diaspora yet I’ve been supporting them financially whenever I could but it’s never enough they say someone abroad should be sending lots of money , build houses for parents etc, the insults I get and the humiliation from my brother is insane to a point we no longer talk.
Hapo Kwa family calling you to know how you are doing it's miracle... Hata nikituma pesa no one will call and tell me I have received the money. I thought it's only me experiencing this kumbe tuko wengi
😂that’s so true there’s credit to demand not even ask because it’s always an act, after receiving, no thank you no credit no network, diaspora is like a prison outside a prison we are on a clock ⏰ every minute counts. Lynn sending u ❤from 🇮🇸✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿
In Uganda it is worse than in Kenya. Things in Uganda under Dictatorship of M7 movement is a threat to most lives of citizens of Uganda. Please do your own investigation and see how young people are suffering in Uganda, one African country where people are followed by Gun and Machete culture of M7 movement regime.
CONGOLESE people listen to this and learn and those phone calls at 3:30 am. Please before you call to ask for money number one learn to know the time difference. You think it's something important and it's money to party for graduation and buy pink suits gator shoes. Mungu anawaona. Thank you Lynn you are a God send to many. May the Lord bless the works of your hands.
I went to the US with no support from none of my relatives, and I thank God for that becuase ingekua deni na hadithi milele. I set up boundaries long time and only support on important matters once in a while. The only people that I have a monthly budget on are my aging & vulnerable grandparents. We can’t be doing double shifts here for some lazy bones back home.
I live in Nairobi/Town and my family from the village already treat me like am in Diaspora. Every phone call is someone asking for money. I had to grow a thick skin and think about growing myself and not carrying others' cross. I connect with this 💯
True. They forget you have your own financial issues. Growing a thick skin is the way to go. When they finally leave that village n start working watakuelewa.
That's why I've always been saying, anyone who's travelled abroad and cut off their families I'll never judge them. Even just moving from rural to urban people in the village stress you out.
Am one of them and am Happy to do me i go to kenya silent Coz everyone wants money (Empty my basket/ Milk the cow ) that they never grassed its annoying.
I appreciate that my siblings don't demand money from me even my dad. I help when one is in need. We pool our resources to help if one of us in need. We help according to individual's ability. They can help me even if I am the one abroad. I thank God for my family. 🙏🏾
Hey, am currectly in the U.K , and I understand how life can be in Diaspora! One can just become depressed, especially there is no time to socialise, it work study home
I wish my mum can hear this i bought her a house and she lives in Nairobi yet i still have to pay the morgage and support her everymonth and cant save wealth for my kids,it not easy living in the diaspora aki😭😭
I have a friend living in US Minnesota,she told me life isn't easy there, she told me there time is money and no time for social life even for the kids ,she changed my mind about how I was thinking diaspora life is. How I wish all people should understand how these people in diaspora struggle...Doris ,ulinichanua sana.
Hii Minnesota Niko tuna struggle kabisa? Oooh I did not know. Well I love it here. Not sure why your friend felt the need to put us all in one basket but kama ulikuwa umeturn omba omba she probably had to tell you that to get you off her neck.
My fellow Kenyans please listen to this carefully, I wish you can understand how we work hard for every single dime. Diaspora is not meant for the lazy and you have people asking you for money from all directions; family, friends, neighbors and even total strangers. Thank you LNN for this great show.
As much as I understand the struggle people in the diaspora face with high expectations from relatives back home, I'm one of the few people who can say I do not send money back home. I do it by choice, which is maybe a surprise birthday gift once in maybe 4 years. Sometimes, never. I decided all my siblings should look after themselves the way I'm looking after myself. I made myself clear by actions, not words. My actions were never to send money to help people out of their problems because I knew it would never end. Having said that, I have no stress in that department, and I have been able to invest and buy my property here in Diaspora.
@Lang And I do not feel guilty. My siblings do not even ask. They have their own jobs. They got the memo through my actions. I do not owe anyone anything.
Thats the right antidote .Even Warren Buffet a very very rich billionaire worth more than $100b said he'd never leave all his wealth to his kids bcuz they will never learn to work hard.
I am just thankful to God that my family does not demand support from me despite living in Australia for over 15 years. They are always grateful when I send support and they use it as intended. They rarely called in the early years but since WhatsApp was invented they call more often to check up on me. Thank you Lynn for this great content.
I love this Thank you Lynn. I remember I tried to unmask myself and shared with one of my family members on how life is hard here, she just stopped talking to me and said I was being mean
I just came from telling my mum I've been working 15hrs straight to meet my target, you'll find someone saying you are ignoring them or you became proud, God knows what's up, bless up My diaspora people, All in all we will make it for ourselves and/then for them family ❤️
What a timely conversation 😁this needed to be said coz people back home thinks those in diaspora just wakes up and finds dollars/Euros on the floor😌kazi ni kuokota tu.
May my mums soul rest in peace She couldn’t entertain any sheet from relatives who needed favor or help And at no day she could give my contact to anybody She said a big No to anybody who wanted money She could tell the “ana pata wapi!ako na watoto na ako na maisha yake ! Where were you when she wanted help most Let my daughter be
RIP sweet mama. I tell you me sijawai tuma and I will never send let them talk I care less.I can not trade my peace of mind and hard earned cent with anyone aki siezi.
After living in USA for 25 yrs, I relocated to Kenya unplanned. I found out that the money I was sending back home for my siblings to buy me land, was squandered. I fell into terrible depression.
Pole sana. I advise people to “keep your money” in a bank account in Kenya, that is, if you’re planning to go back before a retirement age. Otherwise, the temptation on them and the risk on our side is too high. For them to waste all that hard earned money, and to sever the relationship between the relatives. It’s a sad affair. Pole sana dear. I hope Mungu akuonekanie.
I agree raising kids in the diaspora is a struggle. I was paying $10 an hour for a nanny compared to back home my relatives helped without expecting anything. My child experienced the love of a village for free. I love my Africa. Priceless! 💞💯
Daycare is expensive here, last year I paid $15,890 for a 1 year 6 month old baby. Not easy at all and when you have more than one child then it is a struggle
The love of a whole village for free and it actually humbles kids and make them appreciate the world more than our western spoiled rotten kids we are raising in America 🇺🇸
I am in USA and I tried as much as I can to support my family but now we became enemies. I bought a car to my father. I paid school fees to my brothers,......university,..... Reached an extend I went to Bank to borrow money to send to my family in Africa. I supported them sending money every month and misunderstanding came the time I bought a plot, my family wanted to take my plot and I say No. They cursed me and now I want to sell my 3houses I built near them and buy house in another countries and change my phone number forever, we will meet in heaven I am tired now.
Good morning. I totally agree with Eric. Let's trust the professionals. While I was contracting my mum's house, I engaged a professional, true it is slightly expensive but the end product is phenomenal. I will recommend this young man anytime. At the moment he is running a project in Western Kenya for a diaspora client to the tune of 300million Kenya shillings and counting
Some people will keep in touch yes but their motive is not to know how you’re doing. The real motive is to keep you close so that incase they need money you will come through for them and the day you dare tell them you don’t have money, they vanish and never call or say hi.
YES, today's Topic nailed it. We the diasporans are very greatful for this convesation. Thanks to our Sir Eric from #MaridadyMotors, #LydiaTet for representing us and ofcourse you Lynn. The perception, expectation & the pressure from home pple is way too high for us. Give us a break!!! nkt! Regards from Bavaria 🇩🇪 Germany.
Wow this conversation is soo timely People back home feels entitled People in the diaspora trust easily U want to trust your brother for 5million project n he has never made 10k woooooi Naked truth
My situation is different. My siblings send me Christmas gifts from Kenya to the US! And the best of it all they each recently contributed a good amount of cash and bought me an Amazon gift for my birthday! Very humbling! So it all depends with mentality.
Thanks Lyn. This is close to home for me! I would love to share my experience. I am in the diaspora. I have experienced the good, the bad and the ugly. My mom, my sis and two of my brothers are my heroes. Having reliable friends is a profound decision. Kenyans in the diaspora pump money into the kenyan economy. It is terrible that the current government now wants to tax them too when they have already paid taxes in the diaspora!
Effective immediately, nobody will eat my money again. I will only send to my parents because they never beg and are the only ones that call to check on me.
Seriously do I just love Lynn or do I just love Lynn? Her humility, overall calm presence, and ever non-judgy approach in her interviews, is just top notch. This was an incredible show. We love to help our loved ones back home, but the entitlement and guilt-tripping (which is just plain olé manipulation) is nothing short of off-putting! Lynn next njooni California please! 💜
Waoooh! I have been complaining about this issue of frustrations from relatives and friends back home but I thought am becoming selfish. I wish all gulf crew can listen to this wise free advice..Lynn forever happy for you and proud that you are our sister.
Finally .Thankyou all for such a great show. I have been thru hell and back with my family back home, paid for commercial DL'S for brothers, paid rents for years, I have family members steal from me when I sent money to them to build for me but they fuck up my home, I have sent money multiple times for them to go abroad, sent brothers to rehab. God the list is endless. I struggling here in the US, I work 7 days a week ,raising kids , I never went to college so I have to work harder ..FINALLY I HAVE CUT EVERYONE OFF...I WILL NOT SEND A SINGLE DIME TO ANY FRIEND OR FAMILY. Thanks for this episode I will look into Maridad
Waah i thought i was the only one that my family told me that,watu wako majuu na wamejengea kila ndugu zao nyumba,na wewepesa unafanyia nini?And told me again siku hizi umesjika dollar zimekuchanganya kichwa,reason i asked about something,and i was wrong.Jesus!
I live in the US and sadly enough, calls from Kenya 🇰🇪 need to improve 😢 It's sad when one calls for money 💰 and as soon as they receive the money 💰 🤑 💸 they don't remember to call to say they received the money but they have the guts to call again and pretend nothing was wrong 😉 Where's the love wajameni😒🙄
I love these thank you Lynn. Atleast People back Home will know the truth. And those aunties back home who think it’s a priority to help them🤦🏽♀️ they should also work hard and see money doesn’t come easy every where.
I hope all people back home in kenya gets to see this. People in Diaspora and anyone out of their home country go through alot. Intimidations, racism and so on but still take it to get that one penny.
This morning after my night shift am going to sleep well after this show it made my day.I hope my entire family will watch this.Last year Christmas l chose to end this after 30yrs the only text l received was from my aunt as l never sent money as usual the rest until today no one has communicated as they have not received their entitlement and follow up phone .Guess what my people l realised my worth and l am not going coming back.Now my family is my husband and my children and l will not share their love again.
This conversation is so timely, black tax is killing me, thank you Lynn, you showed us how to give flowers and today I am giving you your flowers, pokea na ubarikiwe.
Someone is finally telling the truth about working in the West, especially the US. You will work, work, work just to give all your money in paying bills. It’s so expensive!
Thank you so much for this conversation very timely and intentional. We really have to put the mask off and be willing to learn and listen from each other. Things are not easy from being separated from family and friends learning a new culture and settling in. What spoke to me is Help should be Healthy.
This was so helpful . This ought to be shared to all Kenyans and African in the diaspora. This is not only a Kenyan issue . As always Lynn you do a fabulous job .
I have lived in the diaspora since 2007, I cant even post a picture on FB without getting someone I barely know inboxing me to ask me for money! The struggle is real
Thank you so much for sharing this...i come from Uganda but live in the UK 🇬🇧. The pressure i have is killing me. I paid fees for the all family who wants to study. But after finishing the study they don't want to work they still need money from me..... My husband left me because of that. He is not from Africa. I wish I could get help to make me don't think of them
Yes, you can by first learning how to love yourself and to work on your low self-esteem and low sense of self-worth. If you work on these, then you will learn how to say NO. You should not waste your resources on others without considering yourself and your husband. You need to address these so that your next marriage will be successful. Above all, consider building a relationship with Jesus, Are you aware that Jesus Christ loves you very much and deeply cares about you and you need Him? Please consider inviting Jesus into your life as your Lord and personal Saviour♥️
Choose you. You have invested enough in them. Give strength and power to your own spirit. You will see how when you switch off your phone, their lives will go on without you. Tell them , "You are in recovery." And this time, ask them for money. Probably they will not offer anything, and will start avoiding you. Invest in yourself, please. When you thrive soon they will too. Love the others as you love yourself. Love yourself so you can love them.
This conversation is next level, this would be of the greatest help if implemented, Lynn you're taking us to prosperity from our pockets to our well-being, thanks Lydia and Eric for that educative and informative conversation that would take our country as a whole to a lifetime liberation, Eric is so insightful, kudos to everyone on set.
As a diasporan I pay a monthly mortgage and utilities but my people back home live on the farm rent free without any bills. My basic cost of living like food and shelter is more expensive so it's impossible for me to financially take care of my people back home.
Black tax is a reality and a heavy burden on the Diaspora.Our remittances are hard earned and should not be taken foregranted.Thanks Lynn Eric and Lydia for shedding light on the plight of Diasporans.
Thanks for bringing this up. one day iwas broke and my parents were giving me pressure. God talked to me and asked me( Am I not the one who heals !) because they were cheating me that they are sick then God asked me (why don't you teach your people to ask me?) Three times. We in Diaspora we think we are gods , we have to give what come from the heart not killing yourselves for people at home they should ask God.
11:40 I don’t think the people in the diaspora feel superior! Most of the people I know living the diaspora are stressed from the weight and pressure put on them to the point where they feel as though the people in their home country no longer are concerned about them beyond what they can provide. One of my co-workers was constantly depressed because of the pressure to provide! The more she gave, the more they wanted and oftentimes made her feel guilty and obligated to provide even for those outside of her family. Very sad!
I’m saving this video for all my African people who are desperate about coming to the US. I’m American and dying to get out and find a village away from stressful city life
For sure people back home think that we just get money on a sliver plate me till today I have some people that I don’t talk to just because they wanted me to give them money when I told them I don’t have that’s when our conversation ended thanks so much #Lynn for this show much respect ✊ from Uganda 🇺🇬
People also need to realize that after a month, the honeymoon face ya mapicha huisha. You start finding things like metro, nice cities, normal. Yaani unazoea. Mimi I used to live in a place with no inside shower . Lakini when I came here, I have a bathtub yenye I rarely have time to enjoy, and even if I have, nimeizoea, it's not fun anymore. I have no time to spend on my nice balcony either. Diaspora siyo mchezo. Na watu wa home keep calling with problems. Saa Hizo even getting sleep here is difficult.
I really appreciate the kind of professionalism in the way Lynn conducts the interview. This is a one of a kind that am sure every African would like to listen to.
Right on the spot, we need to talk about this more. We need to educate our family members that the struggle is real. The opportunities are here but that said it doesn’t mean that we have money to hand out whenever a phone call is made from home. Lynn and your team keep up the good work, may God continue blessing you! Salamu mingi kutoka Sweden🤗
This really hits home, I am going through this right now!!!! The message is pull down the mask and show the real pic. I am definitely sharing this with my family
This was really good Lynn at least our main stigma has been aired we even fear sharing photos in social media coz they watch it and when your shining well dressed then you are stingy so we don't know if we are to wear rags that's when the messege will be understood that your struggling
"What you allow is what will continue". I learned to set expectations and boundaries 10 years ago. I send money by choice and the word NO is a complete sentence period! Be honest, candid and expect mixed emotions. Its called tough love, they were resentful at first but they later learned to support themselves and not rely on me. They also learned not to call when its night time here unless it's an emergency.
As the lady said, "You do not have to!". If your relatives are ungrateful, sanction the HELP and let them fend for themselves. This is the best segment for suffering diasporas and guilt-filled relationships with relatives back home.
Lovely show, everything your guests have said about life in the diaspora is true. Am Zambian but the problems are the same, once again great show 👌 👍 👏
Great job Lynn. Been a fan last 4yrs. From your time in the Lynn Ngugi show. You are BIG TIME. Your stories are close to home. Wachana na mahaters of all kinds
I really like this due to the fact that i am in diaspora, pple home can be soooo frustrating.... as for my peace of mind i had to just block al of them... the fact remains that they only call u for money, nobody cares if u r okay or not, there is no supportive system u end up just feeling like u r just alone and no shoulder to lean on... its not really easy.... thank u lyn for this wonderful stories.... they keep us going... thumbs up and 🌸... 😘 😘
I have been told that my niece and my nephew they even said I have been here 30yrs when is only 20 yrs. It's so painful no one called me to ask me on my welfare. ..
The entitlement in some family members can be draining and if not careful can lead to depression. I have been dealing with this whenever I say I don’t have money the insults I receive God knows , I get humiliated and they ask me questions like what have you achieved for the years you’ve been abroad ? Comparing me with people who apparently have made it , being told I can never make it in life coz they don’t see any progress since I’ve been abroad . Mind you I have sacrificed so many times to support my family but they are so ungrateful. I’m told words like “ na huto tupesa unatupeanga .“ It’s sad that the people who should be supporting you mentally especially being far from them are the same people who put you down instead of encouraging you . I have tried my best to explain to them how life can be challenging over here. Everyone has their own journey I hate being compared to someone else success story . I’m more than money and it’s sad my family values money more than they even probably value me . I’m tired and if it means cutting them off I’ll do it for my own sanity .
This a truly amazing interview one of the best hongera 3 legends Lynn, Eric & Lydia. You have elaborated our cries, tumeliaaaa!!!. You have aired our biggest issue & made us feel like we are looking in the mirror indeed. Our people take kindness for foolishness I.e if the chore l want done costs 3k l consider that the person will use transport and l compensate for their time so if l send them 5 k just to uplift & appreciate them they think you are stupid cause the chore probably costs 1k but l may be trying to treat the person like a grown up rather than embarrassing them by ringing around to find out the exact price especially if it’s someone close to me. The thing is once they break the trust we see them as cheap liars with no morals. These days we are sharing info and we know I.e a bag of cement costs between 600 & 650shs.
This was the best show to me, asante on behalf of all diasporians. We appreciate especially where the government is taking us for granted. We need to have a say and not just business as usual stuff,enough is enough! Thanks so so much Lyn.
I am loving this conversation. This maridady guy is brilliant. We need a president like this one. Lynn kujanga utusalimie huku Northern England. Tuko huku pia.
This is the best show ever about diaspora people. Very educate, talking about real life, nobody calls to check on you any phone call ni mashida tu. You support them but not appreciative, but I've learnt it the hard way. Tough love , help from a distance and putting myself first. Lydia..you've nailed it, it's like you read minds , speaking the truth on what's happening. I've enjoyed the show thanks to LNN .....keep it up!
I hope this message is going to reach my Fellow Rwandans at home!!! This money begginng behavior and excpectation of iphone to us is very draining!!! Fun enough once i stopped sending money, everyone disappear
I can listen to ya'll forever...Eric is very wise, your ideas can change Kenya a big deal, please don't leave them here, channel themto the higher authorities even though i don't have faith in gava at all. Diasporan here and I concur.
Truth is finally out. We worship people who are in the diaspora we think they're better off we believe they're our economic saviours we see them like they are all gold coated..ngai. Life is more tough out there. Someone in Africa could be living better than someone in diaspora! Hard truth be told. There are greener pastures in Africa too. I appreciate all those in diaspora making it happen too.
True, my friends have a life in Kenya, while I in diaspora I don't even have social life I can 6 months without a phone call from anyone unless I make a call its draining
Those who worship those in the diaspora are themselves not in their right minds. I think there are some in the diaspora/a select few, who go in their villages and hold themselves in a higher place than their villagers, friends, relatives. The truth is, we in the diaspora, I.e, Uganda, South Africa, Rwanda, Botswana, US, China, etc, as much as there are more opportunities out here, we are you and you’re us. We still bleed the same. We get hurt the same way. Personally,sijagongwa vile, and I have to admit that the schooling for my kids through college out here, has been a blessing more than if I would have been in Kenya, I have to appreciate. With that said, hapo kwa kutuma pesa, wacha tu. Sometimes when we come out here, given the circumstances we left back home, we tend to think that sending money, and more monies, is a way of getting them out of poverty/elevating them. We sympathize too much and not empathize and before we know it, we’re taken advantage of. I personally came to realize that it cannot be forever. I used to feel bad for everybody. My friends, family, nk. Over time, I learnt, and I drew those lines. I decided to take care of me and my immediate family! I realized that I can spread the love, more love by loving myself first, immensely!
Good morning team LNN,
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I think to me is not strange otherwise evn people in rural or ushaggis believes that those in cities especially Nairobi are gold dealers.. They keep on asking for money whereas live in cities especially Nairobi is not easy evn sometimes. If class advances to diaspora the more they expect. I think what we dnt know is bigger than us. People should renew their minds by thinking out of the box the comforting zone.
Still it depends on how we represent ourselves when visiting home. Let's not show off by creating a certain class otherwise the more you create expectations in their minds.
Correction... Not all Kenyans are beggers... I've no relative abroad & I work hard too selling boiled eggs in Ngong... A broad people should also humble and help respectful no one is forcing them... The can also choose not to communicate if they can😠
I appreciate this conversation.
Its not a Kenyan problem but Africa as a whole and other 3rd world countries.
One question am always asked " Why is it that Africans work so hard,double and triple shifts but are always broke?"
Sometimes its our own who let us down.
One has to draw the line and hardened their heart if they want to make something out of their lives while abroad. Don't neglect your parents and siblings but draw healthy boundaries.
Its sad when family members don't care about your wellbeing and the day you see " Hi my sister" the next thing is " Nna shida kiasi"..." Nimefungiwa nyumba"...etc
There is a devil called "Credit Cards" - by the time you get to understand how they actually operate,you are deep in debt.
Thank God the truth is finally being told about the struggles in the diaspora! We are not responsible for everybodys problems back home. I stopped stressing myself out by working day and night for my people sitting at home waiting for western union.
That is the exact truth , with minimum pay job, you can never survive with one job.
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Thank you,that was me then,am now In a position to think about myself
Am glad that God has touched this lady 2 air such topics. Oh my oh my.
@@noemipius1574 True nilichoka nikakata mawasiliano 😊
I have just returned back to Kenya after over 20 years abroad. I set the expectations right from the beginning. Only helped where there was a need and could afford to. When I visited tmy family and friend in Kenya, most of them were living a very good and comfortable life. I was intentional in focusing on my nuclear family and investing in Kenya. It has paid off and so glad to be back.
Funded myself to diaspora as an International student, life was expensive and difficult. Expensive tuition to pay, loans to repay,culture shock, zero social life, discrimination......Worked four jobs and still went to Uni full time, graduated top of my class. All this while, phonecalls were scarce but my phone would suddenly become busy, just as I was about to travel home. Bring me this, bring me that but when you're leaving Kenya, nobody buys you even a packet of tea bags as a travel back gift. Once when borrowed money, I genuinely said that I didn't have at the time and that's how I was shut out. Travelled home soon after, I was ignored na nikaongewa. Great eye opener, huge lesson learnt. Nlijiita kamkutano!!
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@@carolinembithe4544 hugs right back at you my namesake. Thank you.
Are you writing my story? God will see u through
sending you love ! me too i experienced this
Came to Canada as an international student too life was really hard , I struggled so much imagn after all that struggle my brother and father keep on telling me how useless I am , how I can’t help my family like other people in the diaspora yet I’ve been supporting them financially whenever I could but it’s never enough they say someone abroad should be sending lots of money , build houses for parents etc, the insults I get and the humiliation from my brother is insane to a point we no longer talk.
My fellow Zambians 🇿🇲 please listen carefully to this message! Thank you Lynn and panel guests 💯
All Africans
Ba zed kuno 🔊
Thank you so much for supporting our queen.
Same for Zimbabweans and many others not just Kenyans
Fellow zambian here living in Belgium 🇧🇪
Hapo Kwa family calling you to know how you are doing it's miracle... Hata nikituma pesa no one will call and tell me I have received the money. I thought it's only me experiencing this kumbe tuko wengi
😂that’s so true there’s credit to demand not even ask because it’s always an act, after receiving, no thank you no credit no network, diaspora is like a prison outside a prison we are on a clock ⏰ every minute counts. Lynn sending u ❤from 🇮🇸✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿
The worst feeling is when it's your own mother that's squandering the little you earn.Guys, let's take care of ourselves first...
Please add volume 🙏 thanks for saying that..
But that is your mum, she gives you more than ever, and she take care of you before herself. *Remember that*
@@Som-Hanoolaato aaaiii....sasa ani nyonge,just send her money to buy food,100 dollars is enough
don't let her chock you plss
In Uganda it is worse than in Kenya. Things in Uganda under Dictatorship of M7 movement is a threat to most lives of citizens of Uganda. Please do your own investigation and see how young people are suffering in Uganda, one African country where people are followed by Gun and Machete culture of M7 movement regime.
My beloved mother bless her heart was the only person that never asked for money coz she knew my struggles in the diaspora. 💞
CONGOLESE people listen to this and learn and those phone calls at 3:30 am. Please before you call to ask for money number one learn to know the time difference. You think it's something important and it's money to party for graduation and buy pink suits gator shoes. Mungu anawaona.
Thank you Lynn you are a God send to many. May the Lord bless the works of your hands.
I went to the US with no support from none of my relatives, and I thank God for that becuase ingekua deni na hadithi milele. I set up boundaries long time and only support on important matters once in a while. The only people that I have a monthly budget on are my aging & vulnerable grandparents. We can’t be doing double shifts here for some lazy bones back home.
I live in Nairobi/Town and my family from the village already treat me like am in Diaspora. Every phone call is someone asking for money. I had to grow a thick skin and think about growing myself and not carrying others' cross. I connect with this 💯
😂 Hii ni kali Waah stay strong 💪
Hahaha hawajui ni shamba la mawe
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
True. They forget you have your own financial issues. Growing a thick skin is the way to go. When they finally leave that village n start working watakuelewa.
Diaspora 😂😂😂 mimi hapa Nairobi nafanya cleaner I only earn 15k buutt 😩😩😩,I think one day I will wake up Dead😢😢😢😢
That's why I've always been saying, anyone who's travelled abroad and cut off their families I'll never judge them. Even just moving from rural to urban people in the village stress you out.
Am one of them and am Happy to do me i go to kenya silent Coz everyone wants money (Empty my basket/ Milk the cow ) that they never grassed its annoying.
You can't compare that with working abroad. It's different.
I appreciate that my siblings don't demand money from me even my dad. I help when one is in need. We pool our resources to help if one of us in need. We help according to individual's ability. They can help me even if I am the one abroad. I thank God for my family. 🙏🏾
Hey, am currectly in the U.K , and I understand how life can be in Diaspora! One can just become depressed, especially there is no time to socialise, it work study home
I wish my mum can hear this i bought her a house and she lives in Nairobi yet i still have to pay the morgage and support her everymonth and cant save wealth for my kids,it not easy living in the diaspora aki😭😭
Make sure you establish boundaries otherwise you will be the sufferer. When it's too much then it's financial abuse.
I hope the house is in your name so you and your children can inherit it when your mother is gone.
@@blessedwachera7133 exactly
But why Nairobi
Do something about it
Nigerians 🇳🇬 please come and hear this and learn. God bless you Lynn.
ALL AFRICANS MY DEAR
Not only Nigeria my dear all over Africa uts always the same and it hurts 😢 how our family treats us
Kenyans too
@@Amira1977-y Jamaican too.🇯🇲🇯🇲
Please don’t leave my fellow Rwandans behind , this behavior is very sickening😩😩😩😩
"Stop begging for handouts" I totally agree with Eric and wish my people back home would see this.
I have a friend living in US Minnesota,she told me life isn't easy there, she told me there time is money and no time for social life even for the kids ,she changed my mind about how I was thinking diaspora life is. How I wish all people should understand how these people in diaspora struggle...Doris ,ulinichanua sana.
Ukweli
Hii Minnesota Niko tuna struggle kabisa? Oooh I did not know. Well I love it here. Not sure why your friend felt the need to put us all in one basket but kama ulikuwa umeturn omba omba she probably had to tell you that to get you off her neck.
@@joannejames2855 you misunderstood me,she was telling me how relatives and friends don't understand her.
@@Kasweetie_254 she needs to cut communication and live her life. We can’t please everyone.
Lynn thanks for the discussion, people back home will never call unless they want money.
Message is usually "hi tuma kitu"
My fellow Kenyans please listen to this carefully, I wish you can understand how we work hard for every single dime. Diaspora is not meant for the lazy and you have people asking you for money from all directions; family, friends, neighbors and even total strangers. Thank you LNN for this great show.
They will never understand unless you tell them that categorically and stand your ground
@@MyJOSE2013 Sometimes I let it fall on dull ears, I just ignore it coz it's too much , they never believe unaweza kosa.
We do understand our diaspora brothers and sisters, the hard work you put and the misunderstanding you get back home
Any vacancy please?
As much as I understand the struggle people in the diaspora face with high expectations from relatives back home, I'm one of the few people who can say I do not send money back home. I do it by choice, which is maybe a surprise birthday gift once in maybe 4 years. Sometimes, never. I decided all my siblings should look after themselves the way I'm looking after myself. I made myself clear by actions, not words. My actions were never to send money to help people out of their problems because I knew it would never end. Having said that, I have no stress in that department, and I have been able to invest and buy my property here in Diaspora.
Waaao waaao wiseness reloaded
This is exactly what I want to do from now. Disappear for a while and love myself build up .
😂😂you really meant business
@Lang And I do not feel guilty. My siblings do not even ask. They have their own jobs. They got the memo through my actions. I do not owe anyone anything.
Thats the right antidote .Even Warren Buffet a very very rich billionaire worth more than $100b said he'd never leave all his wealth to his kids bcuz they will never learn to work hard.
I am just thankful to God that my family does not demand support from me despite living in Australia for over 15 years. They are always grateful when I send support and they use it as intended. They rarely called in the early years but since WhatsApp was invented they call more often to check up on me. Thank you Lynn for this great content.
Hello
I love this Thank you Lynn. I remember I tried to unmask myself and shared with one of my family members on how life is hard here, she just stopped talking to me and said I was being mean
I just came from telling my mum I've been working 15hrs straight to meet my target, you'll find someone saying you are ignoring them or you became proud, God knows what's up, bless up My diaspora people, All in all we will make it for ourselves and/then for them family ❤️
Very true
What a timely conversation 😁this needed to be said coz people back home thinks those in diaspora just wakes up and finds dollars/Euros on the floor😌kazi ni kuokota tu.
😂hilarious!
@@LynnNgugi For real Sis😟😪am throwing this on our family WhatsApp group 🙃
@@WanjiruMuya that’s the reason they milk you. Stay away from those groups and focus your life where you’re right now.
@@WanjiruMuyaME TOOOOO!!!!! EVERYDAY NI PESA TUUUUUU!!!! MAFIA MBAYAAAAAA
Black tax yet inflation is worldwide. Everything is expensive
I wish everyone can come and hear this.... I support you guys 100%
May my mums soul rest in peace
She couldn’t entertain any sheet from relatives who needed favor or help
And at no day she could give my contact to anybody
She said a big No to anybody who wanted money
She could tell the “ana pata wapi!ako na watoto na ako na maisha yake ! Where were you when she wanted help most
Let my daughter be
RIP sweet mama.
I tell you me sijawai tuma and I will never send let them talk I care less.I can not trade my peace of mind and hard earned cent with anyone aki siezi.
May mama rest in peace, ❤
Wow bless your mum May she rest in peace. My mother is my warrior, exactly the same to this day.
This show was amazing
After living in USA for 25 yrs, I relocated to Kenya unplanned. I found out that the money I was sending back home for my siblings to buy me land, was squandered. I fell into terrible depression.
Pole sana. I advise people to “keep your money” in a bank account in Kenya, that is, if you’re planning to go back before a retirement age. Otherwise, the temptation on them and the risk on our side is too high. For them to waste all that hard earned money, and to sever the relationship between the relatives. It’s a sad affair. Pole sana dear. I hope Mungu akuonekanie.
I agree raising kids in the diaspora is a struggle. I was paying $10 an hour for a nanny compared to back home my relatives helped without expecting anything. My child experienced the love of a village for free. I love my Africa. Priceless! 💞💯
Daycare is expensive here, last year I paid $15,890 for a 1 year 6 month old baby. Not easy at all and when you have more than one child then it is a struggle
true
The love of a whole village for free and it actually humbles kids and make them appreciate the world more than our western spoiled rotten kids we are raising in America 🇺🇸
the maridaddy CEO has maintained that watch for a really long time.... Keep it up
I am in USA and I tried as much as I can to support my family but now we became enemies.
I bought a car to my father.
I paid school fees to my brothers,......university,.....
Reached an extend I went to Bank to borrow money to send to my family in Africa.
I supported them sending money every month and misunderstanding came the time I bought a plot, my family wanted to take my plot and I say No.
They cursed me and now I want to sell my 3houses I built near them and buy house in another countries and change my phone number forever, we will meet in heaven I am tired now.
That is not your family wow
Good morning. I totally agree with Eric. Let's trust the professionals. While I was contracting my mum's house, I engaged a professional, true it is slightly expensive but the end product is phenomenal. I will recommend this young man anytime. At the moment he is running a project in Western Kenya for a diaspora client to the tune of 300million Kenya shillings and counting
Some people will keep in touch yes but their motive is not to know how you’re doing. The real motive is to keep you close so that incase they need money you will come through for them and the day you dare tell them you don’t have money, they vanish and never call or say hi.
Very true....true indeed
Hau ni hega
🤣🤣🤣🤣the sad truth.
Naked truth
YES, today's Topic nailed it. We the diasporans are very greatful for this convesation. Thanks to our Sir Eric from #MaridadyMotors, #LydiaTet for representing us and ofcourse you Lynn. The perception, expectation & the pressure from home pple is way too high for us. Give us a break!!! nkt!
Regards from Bavaria 🇩🇪 Germany.
Wow this conversation is soo timely
People back home feels entitled
People in the diaspora trust easily
U want to trust your brother for 5million project n he has never made 10k woooooi
Naked truth
This is really truth . People call when the need money & they call again when it’s finished
true ooh
My situation is different. My siblings send me Christmas gifts from Kenya to the US! And the best of it all they each recently contributed a good amount of cash and bought me an Amazon gift for my birthday! Very humbling! So it all depends with mentality.
You are lucky. People only call me when you they need something.
Yup and your family must be wealthy they don’t need your money
Wow!! So humbling for real! What a blessing!!
Lynn, I am in USA but I was so surprised, my son who was intern bought me Dela and give a person to bring to me. I was really humbled.
the best thing in this plantform is we learn, we laugh , we cry, and we move on happy new month team lnn 🌹🌹
You can say that again, it's the best place to be
Thanks Lyn. This is close to home for me! I would love to share my experience. I am in the diaspora. I have experienced the good, the bad and the ugly. My mom, my sis and two of my brothers are my heroes. Having reliable friends is a profound decision.
Kenyans in the diaspora pump money into the kenyan economy. It is terrible that the current government now wants to tax them too when they have already paid taxes in the diaspora!
Effective immediately, nobody will eat my money again. I will only send to my parents because they never beg and are the only ones that call to check on me.
Kwani huna memo hadi wazazi wanakula pesa?
Seriously do I just love Lynn or do I just love Lynn? Her humility, overall calm presence, and ever non-judgy approach in her interviews, is just top notch. This was an incredible show. We love to help our loved ones back home, but the entitlement and guilt-tripping (which is just plain olé manipulation) is nothing short of off-putting! Lynn next njooni California please! 💜
Waoooh! I have been complaining about this issue of frustrations from relatives and friends back home but I thought am becoming selfish. I wish all gulf crew can listen to this wise free advice..Lynn forever happy for you and proud that you are our sister.
Finally .Thankyou all for such a great show. I have been thru hell and back with my family back home, paid for commercial DL'S for brothers, paid rents for years, I have family members steal from me when I sent money to them to build for me but they fuck up my home, I have sent money multiple times for them to go abroad, sent brothers to rehab. God the list is endless. I struggling here in the US, I work 7 days a week ,raising kids , I never went to college so I have to work harder ..FINALLY I HAVE CUT EVERYONE OFF...I WILL NOT SEND A SINGLE DIME TO ANY FRIEND OR FAMILY. Thanks for this episode I will look into Maridad
Put yourself first
Thanks. I involved a lawyer when I was buying a piece of land. Thanks God for that decision otherwise I would be crying till my tears run dry.
Waah i thought i was the only one that my family told me that,watu wako majuu na wamejengea kila ndugu zao nyumba,na wewepesa unafanyia nini?And told me again siku hizi umesjika dollar zimekuchanganya kichwa,reason i asked about something,and i was wrong.Jesus!
I live in the US and sadly enough, calls from Kenya 🇰🇪 need to improve 😢 It's sad when one calls for money 💰 and as soon as they receive the money 💰 🤑 💸 they don't remember to call to say they received the money but they have the guts to call again and pretend nothing was wrong 😉 Where's the love wajameni😒🙄
I love these thank you Lynn. Atleast People back Home will know the truth. And those aunties back home who think it’s a priority to help them🤦🏽♀️ they should also work hard and see money doesn’t come easy every where.
I hope all people back home in kenya gets to see this. People in Diaspora and anyone out of their home country go through alot. Intimidations, racism and so on but still take it to get that one penny.
Eric is very unique. The T-shirt, the ring and the watch ayaaa👌 I like the way Lydia say “ Africa” bcz Africa we are one ❤
This morning after my night shift am going to sleep well after this show it made my day.I hope my entire family will watch this.Last year Christmas l chose to end this after 30yrs the only text l received was from my aunt as l never sent money as usual the rest until today no one has communicated as they have not received their entitlement and follow up phone .Guess what my people l realised my worth and l am not going coming back.Now my family is my husband and my children and l will not share their love again.
Yaasss! Me too.
It's amazing how when you put your foot down, your phone goes quiet and they then start talking nasty about you back in Kenya.
Amen! Sister. I know how it feels.
Amen! I just worked 10 hours without a break.
I have to post this on facebook even before listening to it. This is long overdue.
This conversation is so timely, black tax is killing me, thank you Lynn, you showed us how to give flowers and today I am giving you your flowers, pokea na ubarikiwe.
Congratulations Lynn for winning your Awards! You deserved it❤🎉
Someone is finally telling the truth about working in the West, especially the US. You will work, work, work just to give all your money in paying bills. It’s so expensive!
Just recently l was telling my friend here in the USA,Kenya is better of for me.Wueeh Diaspora is no joke
Hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗 Keep Shinning Dear ...God Will Carry You
Let's build africa from within
Thank you so much for this conversation very timely and intentional. We really have to put the mask off and be willing to learn and listen from each other. Things are not easy from being separated from family and friends learning a new culture and settling in. What spoke to me is Help should be Healthy.
This was so helpful . This ought to be shared to all Kenyans and African in the diaspora. This is not only a Kenyan issue . As always Lynn you do a fabulous job .
I have lived in the diaspora since 2007, I cant even post a picture on FB without getting someone I barely know inboxing me to ask me for money! The struggle is real
I got off social media
It has just come the right time for me still new in the diaspora
OMG this is so real!!! I'm Kenyan, and I was blown away to hear this same story from a friend whose family is in Mexico!
Lynn I'm soooo glad your doing this. As a woman in the diaspora in the USA I completely agree with this.
Thank you so much for sharing this...i come from Uganda but live in the UK 🇬🇧.
The pressure i have is killing me.
I paid fees for the all family who wants to study.
But after finishing the study they don't want to work they still need money from me.....
My husband left me because of that.
He is not from Africa.
I wish I could get help to make me don't think of them
Yes, you can by first learning how to love yourself and to work on your low self-esteem and low sense of self-worth. If you work on these, then you will learn how to say NO. You should not waste your resources on others without considering yourself and your husband. You need to address these so that your next marriage will be successful. Above all, consider building a relationship with Jesus, Are you aware that Jesus Christ loves you very much and deeply cares about you and you need Him? Please consider inviting Jesus into your life as your Lord and personal Saviour♥️
I live in Canada & faced same issue. I choose to put my life first ‘ when they call me I don’t answer I text them after. Let’s help but not be fooled
@@nura1150 talk of setting boundaries. I usually text too.
ADAK, choose who to help. Parents first, that's all.
Choose you. You have invested enough in them. Give strength and power to your own spirit. You will see how when you switch off your phone, their lives will go on without you. Tell them , "You are in recovery." And this time, ask them for money. Probably they will not offer anything, and will start avoiding you. Invest in yourself, please. When you thrive soon they will too. Love the others as you love yourself. Love yourself so you can love them.
This conversation is next level, this would be of the greatest help if implemented, Lynn you're taking us to prosperity from our pockets to our well-being, thanks Lydia and Eric for that educative and informative conversation that would take our country as a whole to a lifetime liberation, Eric is so insightful, kudos to everyone on set.
Thank you on behalf of our CEO Sir.Eric
As a diasporan I pay a monthly mortgage and utilities but my people back home live on the farm rent free without any bills. My basic cost of living like food and shelter is more expensive so it's impossible for me to financially take care of my people back home.
Black tax is a reality and a heavy burden on the Diaspora.Our remittances are hard earned and should not be taken foregranted.Thanks Lynn Eric and Lydia for shedding light on the plight of Diasporans.
yes I say every conversation how hard-earned the money is in the West...they don't believe it...
Thanks for bringing this up. one day iwas broke and my parents were giving me pressure. God talked to me and asked me( Am I not the one who heals !) because they were cheating me that they are sick then God asked me (why don't you teach your people to ask me?) Three times. We in Diaspora we think we are gods , we have to give what come from the heart not killing yourselves for people at home they should ask God.
11:40 I don’t think the people in the diaspora feel superior! Most of the people I know living the diaspora are stressed from the weight and pressure put on them to the point where they feel as though the people in their home country no longer are concerned about them beyond what they can provide.
One of my co-workers was constantly depressed because of the pressure to provide! The more she gave, the more they wanted and oftentimes made her feel guilty and obligated to provide even for those outside of her family. Very sad!
Basotho from Lestho iwish you can hear these segment especially our kids thank you team LNS😍
I’m saving this video for all my African people who are desperate about coming to the US. I’m American and dying to get out and find a village away from stressful city life
Today's episode I'm going share to all my friends who are suffering like me sending what you have and nobody is appreciating
Lynn thank you so much for bringing out this discussion ❤️these people hawajui venye tunastruggle haki😭i don't want to talk much
For sure people back home think that we just get money on a sliver plate me till today I have some people that I don’t talk to just because they wanted me to give them money when I told them I don’t have that’s when our conversation ended thanks so much #Lynn for this show much respect ✊ from Uganda 🇺🇬
Let
This people are talking about my life!!!! God please help our families in Jesus Christ name amen ❤
People also need to realize that after a month, the honeymoon face ya mapicha huisha. You start finding things like metro, nice cities, normal. Yaani unazoea. Mimi I used to live in a place with no inside shower . Lakini when I came here, I have a bathtub yenye I rarely have time to enjoy, and even if I have, nimeizoea, it's not fun anymore. I have no time to spend on my nice balcony either. Diaspora siyo mchezo. Na watu wa home keep calling with problems. Saa Hizo even getting sleep here is difficult.
I really appreciate the kind of professionalism in the way Lynn conducts the interview. This is a one of a kind that am sure every African would like to listen to.
Right on the spot, we need to talk about this more. We need to educate our family members that the struggle is real. The opportunities are here but that said it doesn’t mean that we have money to hand out whenever a phone call is made from home.
Lynn and your team keep up the good work, may God continue blessing you!
Salamu mingi kutoka Sweden🤗
Kamau and I always say that would have portfolios of properties in 🇬🇧 if we didn’t have to give majority of our money to our thanklessness families.
This really hits home, I am going through this right now!!!! The message is pull down the mask and show the real pic. I am definitely sharing this with my family
This was really good Lynn at least our main stigma has been aired we even fear sharing photos in social media coz they watch it and when your shining well dressed then you are stingy so we don't know if we are to wear rags that's when the messege will be understood that your struggling
"What you allow is what will continue". I learned to set expectations and boundaries 10 years ago. I send money by choice and the word NO is a complete sentence period! Be honest, candid and expect mixed emotions.
Its called tough love, they were resentful at first but they later learned to support themselves and not rely on me. They also learned not to call when its night time here unless it's an emergency.
As the lady said, "You do not have to!". If your relatives are ungrateful, sanction the HELP and let them fend for themselves. This is the best segment for suffering diasporas and guilt-filled relationships with relatives back home.
Lovely show, everything your guests have said about life in the diaspora is true. Am Zambian but the problems are the same, once again great show 👌 👍 👏
Great job Lynn. Been a fan last 4yrs. From your time in the Lynn Ngugi show. You are BIG TIME. Your stories are close to home. Wachana na mahaters of all kinds
I really like this due to the fact that i am in diaspora, pple home can be soooo frustrating.... as for my peace of mind i had to just block al of them... the fact remains that they only call u for money, nobody cares if u r okay or not, there is no supportive system u end up just feeling like u r just alone and no shoulder to lean on... its not really easy.... thank u lyn for this wonderful stories.... they keep us going... thumbs up and 🌸... 😘 😘
All my friends are Diaspora residents and others expat....I listen to them and I understand it an't easy...I always wish them best
I have been told that my niece and my nephew they even said I have been here 30yrs when is only 20 yrs. It's so painful no one called me to ask me on my welfare. ..
The entitlement in some family members can be draining and if not careful can lead to depression. I have been dealing with this whenever I say I don’t have money the insults I receive God knows , I get humiliated and they ask me questions like what have you achieved for the years you’ve been abroad ? Comparing me with people who apparently have made it , being told I can never make it in life coz they don’t see any progress since I’ve been abroad . Mind you I have sacrificed so many times to support my family but they are so ungrateful. I’m told words like “ na huto tupesa unatupeanga .“ It’s sad that the people who should be supporting you mentally especially being far from them are the same people who put you down instead of encouraging you . I have tried my best to explain to them how life can be challenging over here. Everyone has their own journey I hate being compared to someone else success story . I’m more than money and it’s sad my family values money more than they even probably value me . I’m tired and if it means cutting them off I’ll do it for my own sanity .
You have done your best. Change your phone number. Love yourself. Live. Thrive. Your well-being will help them too.
Sending you hugs girl!
@@sulwenyanam375 thanks you it’s time to take care of myself
@@jos_macharia thank you 🤗 .
Start investing mama,don't kill yourself
This a truly amazing interview one of the best hongera 3 legends Lynn, Eric & Lydia. You have elaborated our cries, tumeliaaaa!!!. You have aired our biggest issue & made us feel like we are looking in the mirror indeed. Our people take kindness for foolishness I.e if the chore l want done costs 3k l consider that the person will use transport and l compensate for their time so if l send them 5 k just to uplift & appreciate them they think you are stupid cause the chore probably costs 1k but l may be trying to treat the person like a grown up rather than embarrassing them by ringing around to find out the exact price especially if it’s someone close to me. The thing is once they break the trust we see them as cheap liars with no morals. These days we are sharing info and we know I.e a bag of cement costs between 600 & 650shs.
This was the best show to me, asante on behalf of all diasporians. We appreciate especially where the government is taking us for granted. We need to have a say and not just business as usual stuff,enough is enough! Thanks so so much Lyn.
Iam happy to hear this.Some people think money is full in the streets.Thank God my family is aware of my struggle and they are hard working back home
Thanks for this show Lynn you guys have spoken 😢life in diaspora is not a bed of roses 🌹 we work hard for each and every dime
Thank you so much, people at home should stop relying on people in diaspora, they should also work hard no free money
I am loving this conversation. This maridady guy is brilliant. We need a president like this one. Lynn kujanga utusalimie huku Northern England. Tuko huku pia.
Thank you for speaking for us diasporians, please people back home watch this ndio mtuelewe
This is the best show ever about diaspora people. Very educate, talking about real life, nobody calls to check on you any phone call ni mashida tu. You support them but not appreciative, but I've learnt it the hard way. Tough love , help from a distance and putting myself first.
Lydia..you've nailed it, it's like you read minds , speaking the truth on what's happening. I've enjoyed the show thanks to LNN .....keep it up!
Thank you for speaking to my soul this morning. The pressure of sending money is real😢
I hope this message is going to reach my Fellow Rwandans at home!!! This money begginng behavior and excpectation of iphone to us is very draining!!! Fun enough once i stopped sending money, everyone disappear
LYNN ur right many families back home they think money is coming from the tree. They doesn't know how people suffering everywhere they're.
I can listen to ya'll forever...Eric is very wise, your ideas can change Kenya a big deal, please don't leave them here, channel themto the higher authorities even though i don't have faith in gava at all. Diasporan here and I concur.
Truth is finally out. We worship people who are in the diaspora we think they're better off we believe they're our economic saviours we see them like they are all gold coated..ngai. Life is more tough out there. Someone in Africa could be living better than someone in diaspora! Hard truth be told. There are greener pastures in Africa too.
I appreciate all those in diaspora making it happen too.
True, my friends have a life in Kenya, while I in diaspora I don't even have social life I can 6 months without a phone call from anyone unless I make a call its draining
Well said🌍💪🏽✊🏽😊
If you are a friend, or a relative, love them for who they are, not how much you think they have. You could be doing way better than them
Those who worship those in the diaspora are themselves not in their right minds. I think there are some in the diaspora/a select few, who go in their villages and hold themselves in a higher place than their villagers, friends, relatives. The truth is, we in the diaspora, I.e, Uganda, South Africa, Rwanda, Botswana, US, China, etc, as much as there are more opportunities out here, we are you and you’re us. We still bleed the same. We get hurt the same way.
Personally,sijagongwa vile, and I have to admit that the schooling for my kids through college out here, has been a blessing more than if I would have been in Kenya, I have to appreciate. With that said, hapo kwa kutuma pesa, wacha tu. Sometimes when we come out here, given the circumstances we left back home, we tend to think that sending money, and more monies, is a way of getting them out of poverty/elevating them. We sympathize too much and not empathize and before we know it, we’re taken advantage of. I personally came to realize that it cannot be forever. I used to feel bad for everybody. My friends, family, nk. Over time, I learnt, and I drew those lines. I decided to take care of me and my immediate family! I realized that I can spread the love, more love by loving myself first, immensely!