Signs That Someone Has Autism
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- Hi guys! This is Alexa. In this video, I will be sharing the signs that tell you that someone might have Autism. If you have any questions or requests for me, please comment them down below. Thank you for watching!
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Best description i've found of the difficulty people with aspergers face with eye-contact.
"The closest I can get to describing how it feels to me to meet someone’s eyes is to compare it to the feeling you would get if asked to stare at a stranger’s naked body for several minutes. It feels embarrassing, awkward, invasive and socially wrong."
Who wrote that? The idiot who wrote that so called "description" is extremely immature!
That's how I feel, lol
+The Aspie Girl ... For me, as someone with ASD/Asperger's Syndrome, looking people in the eye was like torture. I'd actually find my head starts aching.
You might find it easier to look at their forehead, nose, or mouth. They generally won't notice. Also, it's usually considered fine to look away when you're talking to them. Just as long as you look at them when they're talking to you.
I often find myself looking at people's mouths to help understand what they're saying. And looking to the side when I'm thinking about what I'm going to say next.
It's cringe. That's the easiest way to explain it. It's exactly what cringe feels like to normal people, just severe.
I hate eye contact. I hate repeating noises like clock ticking. I hate certain smells. I hate being yelled at. I don't talk much usually.
Thanks for letting me know! :)
I used to have high-functioning autism but not aspergers, and I was afraid to talk to people unless they talked to me first, until fifth grade. But now I not only am not afraid to talk to anyone, I also don't obsessively act like a rapper or thug anymore like I did before. I even know how things I say come across to others now, unlike a year ago, when I would say stuff without even being mad when it actually came across as if I meant it as an offense. I'm not even a very cool person... so if I can get over all that, then so can you and millions of people! I'm just letting you know ;)
Certain sounds or smells will set me off to a meltdown if I can't turn it off, like radio or TV.
Tracy Hatch tell me your secrets
I HATE cereal. I ate it today because here was nothing else for breakfast and I thought I was going to throw up. I thought Frosties would be safe!!! 😭
Just to let you all know, it is NOT okay to cyber-bully people with special needs! If you don't have anything nice to say in a comment, just don't comment at all! This video is supposed to be an educational one where people learn about Asperger's Syndrome. Why are people so mean these days?
It took a long time for my co-workers to realize that I have Aspergers, they use to say lots of nasty things about me till I told them. One of my co-workers said "Why don't you ever say hello to anyone?" And I had to explain that greetings in general make me REALLY uncomfortable, it leads to small talk and I hate small talk that serves no purpose. So they say hello to me first.
They're nice to me now that they know, but this video helps me understand me better to. Thanks! :)
I apologize everyone! I try my hardest to reply to comments, but the amount of comments on this video is just so overwhelming! If I didn't reply to your comment, it's because I didn't see it! I'm sorry, but I just can't reply to everyone! It's too hard for me!
I have Asperger and it fucked up my self confidence im the guy who wears hood all day and leaves class last only place I can be confident in internet I love technology
And also eye sight is like watch ing a Horror movie
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same lmfao
Sherif Hamed lol same
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As a fellow Aspie, this really made my night knowing there are people out there kinda like me & who can understand me. Awesome video!!
Thank you! :)
I am 65 years old and have had Asperger's my whole life. Alexa, you did a great job and nailed the signs. I saw one comment about you always using your hands as you talk. I'm the same way and can understand how hand motions make it much easier to explain things. It sure works well for you!
For people who have Aspergers and wonder how your life will be: I used to struggle so much when I was younger,, like with shyness, feeling I was so different, and not understanding why people sometimes thought I was strange. But it all worked out fine. I am successful enough, career-wise and with my family. I now can fit in well enough with groups.
One of my Asperger's obsessive interests has been to figure out how to act like I am normal, to better fit in with all the neurotypical people around me. So after decades of working to fit in, people now rarely know that I have Asperger's. While I wish our types were more accepted by society, I do like the benefits of Asperger's: I easily come up with things which no one else thought of, which can be quite useful for one's career. While way beyond my level, people like Newton, Edison, Einstein, and Bell likely had Asperger's. And Nikola Tesla? He obviously had it.
As Nick Walker impressively argues in neurocosmopolitanism.com/, Asperger's and autism are not pathologies. Also, modern concepts for inclusion like diversity ought to include people with Asperger's. Mankind would benefit.
My foster kid can look me in the eye. Not *all* Aspies have problems with eye contact.
Amy Lynn and some can have eyecontact with certain people.
It depends on how much I trust someone
maybe they don't have Asperger's?
I agree they all don’t have that problem, my son either won’t look at me in the eyes or he’ll do the opposite and stare a hole right through me when I speak to him. Not in a bad way but just like in an intense way like he’s trying to hard.
Bethanie Boo omg her voice is kinda robotic like just wow
Hey guys! I'm sorry if you find this video to be misleading. I'm just trying to help! Basically, I took what I had learned about Asperger's throughout the years and explained all of it in a video. For those who have actually learned from this video, thank you! :)
The Aspie Girl I think you did great!
Tbh i avoid eye contact not because im scared of their eyes its because its awkward when i stare on someones eyes when he talks to me
I agree! Try looking at their forehead, but do not tell them you are looking at their forehead. They'll think you are looking them in the eye!
Thank you. That was very clear. I've been trying to understand autism for a while now. You might be happy to know that the autism spectrum is gaining awareness here in AL. That's a big step for us. Also make sure that you don't wrap up your identity in your diagnosis. Everyone is unique.
i was born in 73 and didn't get diagnosed till 2011. it made my life a living hell. i can only look at someone in the eyes for a split second even family and close friend well the 3 only friends i have lol. i can't deal with change. so many things here is so me. the first book i read on aspergers was a kids book called 'all cats have aspergers'. i would recomend it for anybody with aspergers and for those that don't understand aspergers. i'm super shy and hate crowds. it's weird cause 1 of my only ways i could make money was playing in bands. it could be 10, 100, or 1000 but it didn't matter cause they would be a blur and i didn't look at them cause all that i zoned out on was the music i was playing. but come break time i had to hide in my car. i can remember things that happened when i was 3. i can remember it like it was yesterday. remembering a painfull past is horrible. i can be doing anything and i have a flashback about 1 of the 1000nds of things that went wrong in my life cause i was different. the sounds the smells the sights everything like i'm in a movie reliving that moment. and i just wish i could do something different. say something different anything to change it. i could go on forever about it but i'm sure most stopped reading this a long time ago lol
Thanks for this comment! It feels good to meet a middle aged adult with Asperger's. I never read "All Cats Have Asperger's" when I was a kid, but maybe i'll read it someday. :)
i'm glad if i could have helped in anyway. when i was little and failed 1st grade my parents took me to shrinks for many years to find out what was wrong with me. i was put on so many different meds from different shrinks to help me be "normal". needless to say all those meds did nothing. some even made things worce.1 shrink told my parents that i show a little bit of autism but i'm even a bit different from them. so no one knew what to do with me. i'm 44 now got diagnosed at 39. looking at aspie websites it feels good to know i'm not stuck on this strange island world by myself anymore. before people knew what aspergers was it felt like being acused of witchcraft during the dark ages.
videogames have been a big escape for me since the late 80's. especially rpgs. and if there is an rpg i really like i'll play it 20 times or more. i'll search under every rock, tree, blade of grass, talk to everyone several times, come back after a few quests and talk to them some more. then go to sleep and dream about it. wake up rince and repeat lol. if it's a movie or song that i like i'll watch and listen till i memorize every nuance and sceen like a map in my head. then if a version is played where it is altered in anyway i can pick up on it. and it anoyes everyone when i go on and on about the change. the only change i can except is the kind that can buy you stuff.
Three's a reason why all those indie bands are called "shoegazers". Do please embrace your Aspergers. I'm on a crusade to get people to understand that it's not disability, but diversity.
thank you ..keep up the good fight. I'm so glad that people are aware of aspergers now, even tho we have a long way to go for the world to at least understand a bit about it. Haveing it when no one knew what it was people treated me like i was a bad seed of some sort. But it's a healing of sort to know there is an awareness and more and more people are able to see that we are not alone. Sort of feels like a family seperated all over the world and are slowly finding each other.
Well done presentation there Aspie Girl ! You've covered a lot of the points. In my case, I can remember my mother giving me lessons on how to smile and I would make a face and eventually got the idea, but it was very strange to me at first.
I learned to channel my rage and frustration into my work and became a really good programmer, after many adventures and failures. I was terrible at math, yet one day people from the American Math Society showed up at my home and asked me if I wanted to take another math test, because I had apparently scored at a genius level. That was news to me but sure enough, in my late 20's my "genius" math ability seems to have reappeared.
I still don't look people in the eye much, it's far too intimate but I think the way to evolve best for someone with this problem...or is it a gift ?...is to learn acting. By watching movies and getting an idea of behavior in various social situations, you can adapt what you learn there into social life. I mean good actors like Richard Gere or Julia Roberts and people of like ability.
You might want to look into foreign languages as a way of enhancing socialization. I don't mean simple languages like German, Italian or Spanish, each of which has a curious beauty of their own. I mean supposedly hard languages like Japanese, or Chinese. To me they are like giant crossword puzzles, but the sound of them is so beautiful, for example the tones of Cantonese, so elegant and beautiful. The problem with such langauges is not in learning them, one wonders how you could ever forget them.
Last but not least other disorders may go along with Asp. for example as I write this, I am constantly going back and correcting the spelling. Hree is hwo it lkoos when I dont' correct the splleing !! How I got through school with such so called "dyslexia" I don't know. I guess I got really good at correcting things just before I wrote them down or the poor nuns would have been appalled. Most of my teachers were good, they meant well, even the tough ones - except for the nun that wouldn't let me take Latin in the 9th grade, that still hurts but I studied it anyway on my own and took Russian the next year after i transfered to a public high school. Did fine, took it for 3 years and a year in college. Great language if you want to read the chess magazines (ha ha !!). We must play the hand that God has dealt us and follow the road wherever it leads.
Try not to wave your hands about so much, do that only when making a major point. Learn from your sisters or brothers, I had no siblings other than a half brother who did not live with us and didn't know I existed. You're doing fine.
Aspie Old Dude
This has helped me It took 53 years for me to understand something I thought was wrong with me. Thank you
I hope this video helped you! :)
I believe it also depends on other factors, such as your identity and the environment. I’m an African American male Aspie w/ ADHD and possibly major depression. Not to mention I live on the south side of Chicago, and I’ve been targeted for many forms of abuse from peers to those with authority. I have little to no friends and I’m severely struggling financially. My meltdowns can turn violent depending on the situation, but I try to excuse myself when I feel the tension surfacing. Most often I force myself to calm down when in front of police so I won’t get short or arrested. Most of my meltdowns are from a buildup of various triggers and lots of processing. Like a computer. But the biggest triggers would be bullies, liars, and even those that patronize me.
Nice video. I’m not sure how to put this into words properly, but, well, I’ve been undergoing depression from the past 5 years. Moreover, having a glance to the past, I always felt somehow different from my early childhood; the fact of being unable to understand body language properly, hanging out with friends and my struggles to communicate make me feel trapped inside a bubble quite often. Actually, it’s sad because I don’t seem to have control over it... I really don’t. Indeed, I often feel misunderstood because my way of handling social situations doesn’t seem to fit as acceptable for “normal people”, and hence, my interactions with the outside world are usually awkward. Despite that, I always try being nice to people I come across and I make sure to treat them (under my possibilities) just as I would like to be treated like, because I know how it feels to be ignored or rejected as I’ve dealt with it several times. I wish I could somehow make some people close to me understand how much I struggle to communicate sometimes, and the way I may even forget at times some social rules like saying “hello” because of the anxiety I put myself through. Anyway, my question is: From your experience, do you really believe that we could engage in a relationship as Aspergers, and find someone who really cares about us? Indeed, I need someone in my life who doesn’t judge me from an ignorant standpoint.
These views are subjective, but I especially liked this video because it is the viewpoint from an Aspie teenager. The points she makes are not the same old factors that can be found on any number of websites on the subject. There may not be the clinical research behind the views/opinions of Alexa's determining factors but this also allows for observations that may have not hit the radar of researchers ...yet. I thought the point about walking on the toes to be interesting. I know it may or may not be statistically "true" but I found the reasoning to be sound (in my opinion) .
Teenagers, by and large, having Aspberger's or not, are also very interested in categorizing and understanding people in a way that older people may not be (generally speaking) . The social life of a teenager is very important and many situations are new and need to be parsed in order to be understood. This aspect adds an element of personal honesty to Alexa's video that an adult may not have.
Good work kiddo!
Wow! This video has SO many views compared to most of my videos! Thank you so much everyone! Expect a new video on Asperger's really soon! :)
I have Facebook, but I can't friend people I don't know! Sorry!
The Aspie Girl we could get to know eachother
I will NOT accept friend requests from people I don't know on Facebook! This is for my own safety! Don't add people you don't know on Facebook either, even if it's not me!
The Aspie Girl its not like ppl can do a whole lot on fb but ok
Not trying to pull a pickup line; but you look like someone I might have gone to school with, maybe it was a doppelganger affect.
Very good video! I always suspected my younger son has some mild form of an autistic disorder. For a long time I thought those qualities all came from my very introverted wife. I've come to realise, that I actually share some of the traits he has, even though my own "special interests" are much milder. He's a very precious little fellow and I naturally want to support him the best I can. Good to see you're doing well
As soon as she started talking about the Sims, I started to feel personally targeted. hehe. Same girl, same.
I know! The Sims is so addicting! :)
The Aspie Girl the Sims is awesome
Got it! - "Eyes are scary" - being frank fully brings the truth to light. Thank you. I got a better understanding of your explanation than experts - that's probably bc they don't contend with Aspergers. Or they just don't explain it the way I was able to GRASP it. My daughter 7 has HFA, my husband has Aspergers. Now I understand many things about him from your video. I've been married for 15yrs. (sep 2/kills me to say that), and now I see it all. All of it. I have to live near the beach (which I do), otherwise there would be large rivers all over - Saying ''cry a river'' - cry so much it would be like crying so much you would make a river flow from so many tears (for some who may not get the metaphor). Thank you
In 2002 I was diagnosed with ADHD. But due to the removal of the prohibition of ADHD and ASD being comorbidities of each other, I was reassessed as having AS.
Your videos are invaluable and helped explain many of my... idiosyncrasies. Especially the intensity in sensitivities, aversion to uncertain stimuli (meeting new people or sudden changes to environment), having a prolific memory (inclusive of seemingly random trivia) and rigid adherence to routine. Thank you for helping explain those.
I do; however, disagree that those with AS (or any form of Autism) are very self absorbed, that’s more of an immaturity or Narcissistic trait. If so, they’d never be bothered at the constant rejection by the bulk of society. Instead, we become absolutely absorbed in what piques our interest. Also, despite the anxiety attached to contact with others, like any other human, we all want meaningful, life affirming, (and sincere) intimacy with at least one person.
That being said, your videos are greatly appreciated, please do continue the great work!
Thank you so much! :)
I'm an Aspie with hyperacusis, sometimes I get stressed if there's a lot of people talking in a room. And while most people don't go out of their way to be noisy, some people love the sound of their own voice and couldn't STFU if their life depended on it; very stressful being around such a person. Imagine what it would be like if you lived somewhere where no matter what you did you couldn't escape the sound of a constantly barking dog.
I wouldn't call it a fear of eyes. Its that its too much to listen and look at someone's eyes. I'm not shy but I'm fearful of saying the wrong thing.
Actually, I have a fear of eyes! Even when i'm not listening to someone, it's still hard for me to look into their eyes!
I felt that fear of eyes was not accuarte as well for a general aspergers symptom.. I believe it may be sensory overload, not understanding all the facial expressions builds up anxiety quickly. Or maybe the inability to understand their perspective(what are they looking at? ) It may become confusing so looking down and listening makes it easier to concentrate. But in the end it becomed fear, so maybe accurate after all. 🤔
It's like do you want me to listen to you or look at you the whole time because I can't do both.
Not fear of the eyes, but fear of looking people in the eye.
It's not the same connotation.
Biologically, it's a predatory thing. Predators stare. when people stare at your eyes, unmoving, your reptile brain is processing this as if it's a tiger, that's going to eat you. So you have an internal conflict going on in your brain.
Try staring down a house cat. You'll see what I mean.
Nice job with the video Alexa. Great job with explanation about Autism. Very informative. Keep up the great work.
This was both extremely relatable, and full of excellent insight. You're awesome for making this.
Thank you! I'm glad your comment isn't mean like some comments i'm getting on this video! :)
I'm an Aspie girl too, but was only diagnosed a few months ago. The symptoms were worst around the age 8-9, when I knew how to react to things. I used to have temper tantrums and even the smallest pain, like after walking for a long time causing a pain in my foot would trigger huge meltdown and episodes of crying and screaming for help. When I was 9, I became obsessed with a video game too (but a different one to yours). I would wake up 1 hour early on school days to have enough time to play it, think about it at school, and then come home and play some more. This obsession only stopped at around 12/13 years old. I was also OBSESSED with maths (I didn't get good grades in it at school, though). I still kind of am now.
I'm kind of glad I got diagnosed, even though it's a tad late.
You are an amazing young woman. Thank you so much for the information.
Thank you so much! :)
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Thank you. My 17 year old daughter has struggled her whole life... and I believe now she has had aspergers the whole time.
You are very welcome! :)
Sometimes I get accused of staring into peoples' eyes too much ...probably because I am trying to do the "done thing" but am over-compensating. Really I prefer not to.
I’m high functioning autistic and my gf has aspergers and I find my relationship with her very different compared to the one neuro typical female it’s so much better with her we understand eachother a lot
My daughter has it. She has graduated from college and is now working full time.
I consider myself as an aspi (it took me for example years to train myself to keep eyecontact with other people and today it's still exhausting for me), but I don't consider myself as "shy". Normally I am not afraid to talk to other people, when I have to say something or have a question ("What time is it?" for example) - most of the time I just see no reason to talk to someone. When other people say "You just have to talk to people to get to know someone!" I normally answer "What reason do I have to talk to someone I don't know?". I can't personally understand why "normal people" just starting to talk to strangers "for no reason".
Hi, I wrote this comment in another video, but I saw this video and I wanted to share my experience with you: I'm past my 30s and my psychologist has suggested that I might have Asperger's. I haven't gone through a formal diagnosis yet but I find many things I can relate to, and as an explanation for many issues of my life it fits quite well and it could be a really game changer. Ok, here it goes: above average IQ (I went through exams in the University without ever having to study when other people had a lot of difficulty), poor social skills (I literally suffer at parties, like to spend most of my time alone and I tend to avoid people), it is very difficult for me to participate in conversations, although over time I learned to "fake" things, like spotting the proper moment to talk and the intensity of my voice tone, or purposely look at the faces of all the people talking, which confuses people at times in different and surprising ways. I'm a software developer and concert pianist, and particularly with the piano I'm very good because I can spend hours and hours playing really repetitive and monotonous exercises (Hanon and others) which are unbearable for most people, but really good for technique. I get really anxious if my expectations are broken even in minimal ways, like people arriving some minutes later than they say they would, or last minute changes of plan which for me can take hours to assimilate (example: some person changes the time or day for a date, and could literally spoil my entire day). I find really difficult to recap work if somebody interrupts me, and I suffer quite a lot if somebody moves something out of its usual place. Often people tells me that I have bad temper, or they ask me if I'm angry, and I never understand why because for me I'm just OK. I'm over sensitive to certain lights and sounds which other people just plainly ignore, like the sound of a computer cooling system, the refrigerator, or the blinking light of the PC when it's not fully turned off; these things can irritate me and prevent me from sleeping, and also some textures of clothing, which prevent me from wearing certain things, not to mention the clothing tags which I have to remove from every piece of clothing I use. I have some books which I've read many many times and I never get tired of reading them, just like some movies and music sets. I could go on and on, but I think this quite summarizes my condition really well. It can be really confusing for people to understand, but it is really helpful when you finally put a name to all this and communicate to people around you that if certain minor things are respected and properly understood our whole quality of life can change tremendously, for both us and them as we have to co-exist, and we are talking of really minor details which make all the difference. Hopefully a proper diagnosis will help me to understand this even better. Thanks for the videos!
I used to have "meltdowns" quite a lot, although now I've managed to cope with it and I have several strategies to deal with it in a way that doesn't translate in a socially awkward situation...
Thanks for sharing! I can relate! :)
I forced myself to look people in the eyes. I went into acting. It helped me overcome much of Aspie. One of my friends is a professional comedian and he has it. I overcame Aspie, dyslexia and ADHD.
I have aspergers...but i have forced alot of the traits out of myself...but when i am doing something that makes me so uncomfortable like looking people in the eyes...or talking to anyone..i feel this clinching feeling in my chest...I never complement people...till they get mad...so again something i have forced myself to learn.
you can learn to un learn the traits...so you appear to be more normal...I HATE CHANGE...but i force myself to do these things to have the appearance of being normal. but i have my silent melt downs..away from people.
but i still cant get past loud noise, crowds, parties, or large groups of people...
Thanks for sharing! I feel you! :)
Thank you for opening yourself up and putting your own symptoms on display for the benefit of others. Hope you continue coping with Asperger’s.
Thanks! :)
Autism is something that greatly interests me. I've written stories that deal with Autism. Videos like these build even more interest on the topic. Great video.
Thank you! :)
I'm here from a diss track and I'm really excited to watch this. Learn better about my condition, perhaps.
Thank you for this video. We need to raise awareness for who we really are. Keep in mind that many of these traits can be different from person to person. Even if these are all true within the broad diagnoses of autism and/or Aspergers, we are still diverse and distinct people. many people forget to mention this, and it can make viewers believe we all share these symptoms and traits, when I myself only have perhaps one third or one half of them, and have met others that shared even less, or all to a high degree.
Other than that, I think you are doing a great job of spreading awareness and helping people understand us better. Thank you!
Thank you! :)
i know your probably not going to see this comment, but my family is really struggling. my brother is out of control, he displays some signs of ASP but not all of them. however the symptoms he does display (meltdowns, social cues, lack of sympathy, speaking difficulties) are very VERY strong at moments. the only thing is he is really social, and likes to be out with friends.
I have SUCH a problem with looking people in the eye. The most that I can look at someone in the eyes at a time is at least 2 seconds and then I look at something else for a really long time. I’ve noticed it happens when I stay after school with a teacher and I can’t look them in the eyes all the time.
Since I live in New York City there’s a lot of noise so it’s really hard to not cover my ears during class haha
Thanks for sharing! :)
As a person that has worked with many children with Aspergers, I have taught them to look at a person’s eyebrows as opposed to looking them in the eye. Most people do not notice the difference and think you are giving direct eye contact.
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Hey thanks! I’ll definitely have to try that. Little by little, I’m working on making eye contact with people.
As an Aspie, I used to have trouble with eye contact, but I found a trick that works for me in particular:
I don't try to look at both eyes at once.
Instead, I choose 1 eye and focus on it like I would focus on an object.
The biggest issue for me seems to be that, ever since I learned to shoot a bow, I now find myself always compelled to keep both eyes focused on the same thing.
Trying to look at two things at once confuses my eyes, so I look at a single eye the same way I would look downrange with a bow.
Now, I realize this doesn't help much with the shyness aspect, but I think I may have worked through a bit of the shyness by attending a week-long clothing optional festival.
I realize this "jump in with both feet" method will not work for everyone, for reasons obvious to the intended reader(s), but in my case it was a LOT easier to maintain eye contact when there was something even more embarrassing in plain view.
Also, I was wearing slightly more clothing than everyone else at the event, so I still had that extra layer of emotional security.
I have diagnosed Aspergers and my brain is so obsessed with ‘fitting in’ with society that I actually make too much eye contact, someone once told me I need to look people in the eye when I speak to them so I took that literally hahha! It’s been years now and my current asd therapist is having to teach me that continually looking someone in the eye is just as bad as not looking at them at all 😂😂
Also, saying hello - I see how my husband never says hello. He either says it w/o eye contact, with eye contact with a high level of anxiety, or not at all. Now I know not to take things he does personally - I'm learning that. If you have a husband or wife w/Aspergers, don't take things personal. Patience, love. You don't want to lose him/her over not understanding. Love and patience
I have to disagree with you on Aspergers being self centered. I think they have an ability to sense the emotions in a room. They can become overwhelmed by too much empathy towards other's that they don't know what to do about it. You can sense others very well it's hard to look in someone's eye's. You may see the evil in their eyes or the love in their eyes. You can see their soul. That is freaken scary to be able to pick up good and bad frequencies from people. I fit many characteristics of aspergers, but only have a non verbal learning disability diagnosis. I have obsessions, but more than one. My Cats, job, nutrition. You forgot to mention eating the same food all the time. Lol NLD sucks at mathematical spatial sense, working memory, cognitive functions are slow, problems where Aspergers is better at it. Yet I am highly verbal and quite astute in everything going on around me. I never forget a person's birthday. Or what I was doing the entire day of the challenger explosion, when princess Diana died or during 911. As I get older it's harder to remember things now maybe it's because it is more frequent... I hope you focus on your strenghts with Aspergers. It doesn't hurt to work on our weaknesses too. I have a college math and science course under my belt. So it can be done...
micks336 that's how I feel a lot of the time
I agree. Aspies are more prone to getting lost in their own thoughts. That's not the same as malicious & selfish, premeditated self absorption.
I live with 2 other people with autism, one of them drives me up the wall. One of them who is the son of the house owner, thinks HE owns the house, doesn't clean, is extremely lazy. (You hit the nail on the head with "thinks the world revolves around them") he plays video games all the time. It got so bad that I almost moved out of the house last year, but we resolved the situation. Thanks for making this video it was very informative.
Here's a trick I was taught as a kid, since I didn't like to look people in the eyes either: Look at their forehead when meeting people and speaking to them. They'll think you are looking in their eyes. I hope this is helpful for some of you too.
Sarah M gosh i can’t even look at their goddamn face
Nicely Described Alexa! I also am Aspie, with Dyscalculia, not diagnosed until 2006. My Daughter born 1991 was 6 y/o when she was diagnosed, her meltdowns are very severe. Very good video.
Thank you! :)
Thank you for making this video. Hopefully the people around us can understand our alternate thought process through education (such as this video). I hope I can meet like-minded people with whom I can relate to; I believe this is the ultimate "treatment" for our condition :)
I hope this video helped you! :)
I don't have problems with eye contact, initiating conversation, or complimenting people(which is why sometimes others don't realize I have aspergers) I get very upset when something changes, like melt down. I cannot handle TV's on in the house or crowds. And I am obsessed with music and gymnastics. Thank you for making this video
Thankyou for a most informative Video Alexa! 👍 You would make a really outstanding Teacher! I am 57, and I think I could have Aspergers', because for as long as I can remember, I couldn't stand Change, I also have my own Words for things, I get nervous around People I don't know, I also like to "zero" out, if I like a certain Song, I have to play it over and over again, and I hate certain Textures and Scents. Some Sights and Sounds frighten me. I go to Work and when Bosslady puts me on something other than front Register, I get so confused and start flipping! My Mother told me I had Autism when I was little. She said I hated being held, I loved rocking back and forth, would sit in a Corner and draw for Hours on end. It is hard at Times but I guess thats the Way the Great One made me and I'm used to it. All I know is my Daughter, Husband, and Grandbabies make me happy and yes, we all have our Moments, but we overcome Life's little Obstacles with Patience, Perserverance, and most of all Love. Thankyou for sharing your Channel! You are awesome! I really enjoyed your Video! I'm subscribing! 👍 Keep up the good Work! 👍☺💜
Thank you so much! I can relate to you, although I don't really mind change all that much! :)
a lot of us of a similar age have gone undiagnosed as the specific diagnosis of Aspergers didn't appear until around 1983, I think, and autism back in the sixties and seventies was poorly understood and thought to be a "disorder". Modern thinking is more enlightened. My parents sent me to a psychologist when I was 9 or 10 because I started speaking Russian and they didn't understand what was going on. I was just trying to learn Russian, out of curiosity! I now consider myself "borderline" Aspergers as I was fortunate enough to have a friend take me to one side and explain to me that the reason people found it hard to connect with me was because I didn't make eye contact and that constantly correcting their grammar was annoying, so I set about learning about body language and tempered my pedantry a bit. You may be interested in the work of Simon Baron-Cohen (yes, Borat's brother) who is one of the leading researchers into autism. SB-C theorises that there is not really a specific disorder called "autism", but a bell curve with, at the one end no autistic markers and at the other so many that it's actually disabling, with most people at the median point around the crest of the curve. Aspergers and HFA people are perhaps on the high side of the curve but my experience suggests that it may be possible to shift one's position on the curve closer to the median point that represents what we call "neurotypical". i know that at 61 I'm considerably less "Aspie" than I was at 12 to 24, although I think I will always have the hyperaesthesia (sensory overload) and the aversion to intimacy as well as the eccentric personality traits that has kept me unable to form relationships.
I know someone who I think has it but he is not at all shy. He loves to meet and talk to people but will talk nonstop, and seem to be talking to himself and not to the other person. Also while he loves to talk he barely listens. He will dominate the conversation allowing the other person very little to say. Theres no neatness fetish or sensory problems but an obsession with talking about bad memories from his past and about the ills of the world. His memory is exception so he's brilliant in many areas. Those are just a few signs.
Some people ram their heels into the floor: how weird is that! Shake the whole floor, and don't even notice... noise is a pain... Hash burgers? I used to obsessed with my interests, but that was a long time ago. Now I just learn and remember and try to put it all together. Thank you for making this video. I might have Aspergery, one of my nephews does.
Thanks! HAHA! :D
That actually makes me feel uneasy when it is a concrete floor in a multistory building as I start thinking of the engineering aspects that maybe the floor slab is too thin and the rebar is either sagging or wasn't tensioned or worse the building is dangerous which in the end makes me feel unwell.
thanks for putting this up :) i was diagnosed as 50/50 being NT/aspie, and only this last year have i really started coming to terms with this aspect of myself. great job ^_^~!
Here's my deal with eye contact: I always tell myself to practice, and I do, constantly. but sometimes it's hard to focus on the conversation at hand. I remember I was at a restaurant once and just thinking "eye contact, eye contact" but then I stumbled on my words. It was kind of embarrassing lol. but yeah, I'd like to get better with eye contact. Strangely I'm better at it with strangers than my family, but still difficult.
Obsession is another word for focus. Success at my job was in part because of my ability to focus on problems for hours, days, months, even years at a time. I am a retired physicist and my greatest professional achievement was after working on a problem for 10 years. One needs to have the ability to consider many things at once and put them into proper perspective in order to solve complex problems. Good memory and focus are requirements to solve difficult problems.
Humans have evolved as a population with distributed skills to support one another since we live and support each other in families, clans, tribes and communities. Asperger's is in part, an expression of evolutionary pressure to solve difficult problems as our species adapts to changing environments. Evolution has determine that Asperger's attributes are useful and necessary parts of the human race.
My daughter suspects that her and I have mild forms of Asperger's. She walked on her toes when she was young. I still don't look people in the eye unless I force myself. As we get older, we both have fewer of the classic signs.
Thanks for sharing.
I have a lot of these traits. 🤔 Nice video gorgeous.
Thank you! :)
Nikki Schumacher Official Shy people have these traits too.
As a result of collecting watches I'm rarely late for anything anymore, I have THE worst sense of time and always used to be late or early for appointments and stuff like that and another one of my ongoing and probably never going to stop obsessions is cooking! Oh my god I have loved to cook since I was really young, like six years old. Sorry for the aspie ramble posts and I love your channel and have subscribed! You're awesome.
I don’t look people in the eye when I talk to them because it’s SUPER distracting‼️‼️. It’s hard for me to concentrate and think of what I’m saying when I’m looking at their eyes. But when they’re talking to me, no problem. I’m basically listening and thinking
I always complement someone on their nail polish, hair, what have you. But l also don’t say hello to someone unless they’re friendly person or say hello to me first‼️
Wow! You just described my husband to a T. Sometimes I feel so bad for him, especially the stress he brings on himself. Thank you so much for explaining where some of his confusing behavior comes from.
when i was a kid i was terribly obsessed with club penguin lmao. id play it all day, 24/7, and my parents would sometimes just block me from playing it and i would start freaking out, run around the house, scream, hurt myself and it was really bad... also i had a huge obsession with my computer.
I understand! My parents would ALWAYS try to take my Sims games away from me all the time because of how obsessed I was with them, and I would get upset ad have a meltdown! :)
I got forced to make eye contact. But it was before I got diagnosed at seven. The main reason they finally got me the diagnosis was because by four years old, I could talk and talk to any and everyone but it's was just too hard to make eye contact. The tip toes thing is super true. I need to get and operation to loosen my tendons because of it. I'd say the sensory thing and the change of plans is so true. I can't stand new places. If I need to do something important somewhere new, I need to go ahead of time. The "freakouts" for me are not screaming. I have a form of "sensory shut down" like where instead of screaming and crying, I'd end up having trouble understanding what I'm hearing or seeing. Like I'm seeing it but the images no longer make sense, and the same with words. I play sims sooooo much to this day!! I'm currently avoiding cleaning my bathroom. :D
I feel you, but I don't really mind new places or stand on my tip toes. My parents had to limit my time playing Sims because of how obsessed I was back then, and I ALWAYS complained saying "But all of my friends' moms let my friends play Sims whenever they want!" when my mom wouldn't let me play it! :)
When someone is exceptionally good at work, reports accidents and his own responsabilities without false excuses or flat lies, tests the equipment according to the manuals, reports right after the tests, clean his machinery correctly, but without dragging the required time, never tries by themself something that is supposed to require assistance, and keeps a constant and reliable pace, exposes problems or accidents without panic or drama... I get the suspect they have Asperger's syndrome.
IMHO, whatever N.I.M.H. says, Asperger Syndrome is near the definition of "how a human brain is supposed to work."
I find really hard to accept the idea that lazy morons who skip tests, compile false reports, lie about how their equipment got broken or about the reasons that make them come late for work, can't keep a decent pace, get injured because they think they are too cool for manuals are the "sane" ones.
As a matter of fact i don't accept that funny idea.
Thanks for letting me know! :)
I ABSOLUTELY hate it if someone makes an arrangement with me and at the last minute (for example) phones me and says "I'm really sorry, I'm a bit tired" or "Sorry I can't make it, something has cropped up" etc I often have a "melt-down" if I can't find something ...to the point of smashing things up. Similarly, I have a meltdown if I am driving somewhere where I have to be at a certain time and I get lost ...and I'm talking "pull off the road before you do something stupid" into a car park then screaming and punching the steering wheel.
I am currently obsessed with fidget spinners ...really high quality ones and carry one around in my coin pocket every day.
I love fidget spinners too! It sounds like those friends you are making plans with aren't actually your friends. They are probably really nice to you in school/at work, but when you want to hang out with them outside of school/work, they probably ALWAYS make excuses not to come. I feel you! EVERYTIME I make plans with one of my neurotypical friends, they either say they can't come, or say they can come, but at the last minute, say that they can't come anymore because something came up. Try making friends who also have Autism/special needs. They'll understand you WAY more than your neurotypical friends!
I have Aspergers. o u o A lot of the things you describe I do without even realizing it. XD
-- I walk on my tippy toes (mainly if I'm barefoot)
-- I _cannot stand_ walking in rain and getting wet while I'm wearing clothes.
-- I don't like the texture of turkey or chicken. The best way I can describe it is, it feels like you're eating grass with gummified sand. Bleeeeehh....... However, I _will_ eat both of those if they're in like a sandwich with other condiments or something.
-- I can't stand certain sounds like silverware screeching against dishes. x_____x
-- I work at a call center, and when I'm working, I always hate the sound of my phone ringing and bang my desk when it happens. It's not the sound of the ring itself, but it's more-so the association with what the sound means: I have a call coming in and I _have_ to answer it, and I have no way of knowing whether the call will be pleasant or a frustrating nuisance. My boss also knows our job is daunting, and he's really awesome and lenient with us.
-- I am SUPER obsessed with Sega. And before I started getting interested in Sega I was SUPER obsessed with following news and updates about Windows 10. And before THAT, I was super obsessed with the Beatles. XDDD
-- Every night I enjoy just going into my basement and watching TH-cam videos about video games (particularly Sega-related ones). I watch RGT85, Spawn Wave, and Adam Koralik mainly.
-- I'm also really into game development, and I can get super-engulfed in a game project I'm working on. I'm about to release my first game on the Google Play Store soon.
-- When I tell somebody I'm going to be at their house at 8 PM, I actually do the best I can to _literally be there at 8 PM._ If I'm late, even by 5 minutes, I get pretty annoyed at myself. LOL
Thanks for sharing! :)
No problem! ^^
totally the SAME here 💕
I'm a diagnosed aspie since 3 years old and a lot of the things you mentioned like loud noises and eye contact and public places used to bother me but really don't anymore and as a kid I knew right from wrong but was always testing the limits of what I could get away with much to the dismay of my parents. As far as obsessions yes I do have them but they come and go and I often have a few at once, like I'm always obsessed with my cats, their awesome and my place is littered with cat toys and stuff, their quite happy pets and currently I have an obsession with wrist watches, mostly for the retro factor and collecting unique vintage ones from around the world is an inexpensive hobby.
I have noticed there is a recognizable difference in how the syllables of sentences are emphasized. If a person pays attention, when they meet a new aspie, three sentences in and he/she'd be like "Yep. Aspie!"
Nice! :)
A lot of these traits are that I share, but I don't think I have Aspergers, maybe I'm just a big introvert and the fact that I have been socially akward my whole life.
Still, great video and it's great that you took the time and effort to make it and educate others!
Thanks! :)
Im an Aspie girl too!! We are like Ligers...our own beautiful creature.You are awesome girl!!❤
Thank you! :)
Thank you so much for this video my son is on the spectrum and information like this helps me to better understand him. You are an amazing young woman. Keep up the good work!
I like you. You did a great job of being so sincere. My 9 year old son loves to play Minecraft. It’s been his obsession for about 6 months now. I took him out of public school to homeschool because of the Aspergers. It’s all he wants to do. When he isn’t doing schoolwork he is playing Minecraft. He would play from the time he got up til the time he went to bed if I let him. If he’s not playing it he’s talking about it. I’m not sure if it’s a good thing or a bad thing for him.
He seems obsessed with Minecraft! I don't know how to help you, but thank you! :)
Woah. I've been suspected of having Asperger's in the past by myself, my mom and my old therapist. This was because of my extreme interest in/focus on a few things, my difficulty relating to people, and difficulty understanding jokes and sarcasm. I have a time perception problem, too, and I've heard that's a symptom. (I.e. twenty minutes can feel like five, or twenty minutes can feel like an hour.) But I didn't realize until just now, watching your video, that having a good memory and being averse to changes of plans could be symptoms. Or if so, I didn't make the connection between that and myself. I get angry when other people change plans, and like you, I remember small things from a long time ago. Even eye contact is a little iffy. I may not have Asperger's, and idk if I can even afford to get tested, but it's good to see someone with whom I can relate. Thank you so much for making this video.
Thanks for sharing! :)
The Aspie Girl :)
I don't know that I have AS, if I were to guess I would say no.
On the looking in the eye thing ... I am known for looking people in the eye, so most would not assign an AS label on me. However, as a child I would be attacked by my parents and forced to look them in the eye to the point where I was terrified. I learned to look at their nose and the face would "blur out" to the point where I would not and still do not, see the person. I bring this up because so many medical people have stopped me from investigating AS for this very reason.
As a secondary note, I am not shy' I am terrified of greeting people and talking to them because of the terror I experienced as a youngster and remember to this day. At best I was a dwork in school and my life and never figured out that I was being ridiculed and scorned; or worse, I was the favorite scapegoat.
My point is that if someone does not have a symptom of AS I would recommend asking myself "is there a reason I don't".
Thanks for sharing! :)
I struggle with eye contact. If there was a cover of a book with people or eyes on it, I always turned the book over or covered it.
Bright light, too many people and high pitched noises were a major thing and are usually bothersome as an adult.
I was obsessed with my beanie babies growing up. Now it's jewelry.
The walking on my tip toes thing is something I did as a kid and still do sometimes when I'm not wearing shoes. For me I'd do it cause it felt like I made less noise since I'm a heavy walker and my steps didn't feel as heavy as well.
I understand! Walking on tip toes is quieter.
I don't think you have a problem, sounds like your a real person, not a fake small talker like the rest of society.
This was helpful, as I know people I think may have Aspergers. Thank you. Also, I don't have Asperger's but I do share some of the issues like getting agitated when there is too much noise in an enclosed place. So I can relate in part.
Thank you! :)
My family has always wondered if maybe I have Aspergers actually. I am extremely sensitive to certain sounds and will get either angry or anxious because of them. And when I was younger I used to either have meltdowns or lash out because of them. I can’t make eye contact well at all without feeling awkward and anxious. I have an INCREDIBLE memory for random trivia like facts: and for seemingly no reason. I also remember insane amounts of details of what people have said to me. I hyper focus on things: I tend to always have one thing that I do constantly if I can, and that I talk about all the time. Sometimes it’s video games, sometimes it’s a show I like, other times it’s things I collect. I also stim! I use repetitive hand movements a lot and also I like to chew on certain textures (I have a necklace for this haha). Also certain textures I can’t handle: like bananas and beef and eggs as some food examples, and then things like chalkboards, certain fabrics, and the feeling of sand on my feet. I also notice when I’m barefoot I tend to walk on my toes and honestly I never knew that was an aspie thing! I’m considering maybe getting a diagnosis. I’d really like to know
Thanks for sharing! :)
Great video! I learned a lot, thanks for taking the time to create it :)
Thank you! :)
Indeed, lighting is most certainly a big deal, especially with interior design. I too don't like looking people always in the eyes; it's frankly terrifying. My mother forced me to do so in order to instill the habituation of this social behavioral process. I struggle with maintaining constant eye contact. I never liked it except and only in certain instances. However, the desire of acceptance trumps my natural inclination, so to appear more "normally" than I feel; I practice doing the eye contact to fit in, grow and adapt... Hugs with cuddles to the furbabies, always. Yes, I too worry oftentimes about the lifespan of my doggy; she is the world to me. I have wondered about neuroscience, due having mild cerebral palsy aka. CP, which is a different neurological disorder. CP is a little bit like what I imagine an Aspie is like, there are some similarities, and I imagine vast differences from what I have read in journals at the university, library, and online... I understand having a fabulous memory, because of the ongoing gaslighting within abusive relationships. Getting good grades is easy too, having a high IQ is also helpful, so I have been told. I do believe that most people struggle with grudges and forgiveness, which is a self protection mental construct to keep oneself safe from harm. I like your videos. Thank you for sharing and caring. It's good to be uniquely blessed, despite certain challenges of people, who statistically enJOY taking advantage, because of their lack of compassion, conscience, and inability to maintain morality. Perhaps, bullies and evil people have their own disabilities, like the lack of respect, dignity, honor and integrity. I don't know anything about anything, really. Creative people do have great big hearts of kindness, which is oftentimes mistaken for weakness. I know such things being a little bit older and hardened by life. Chin up! We're all in this together. Remember specifically, that no one is better, nor worse than anybody else, better off or worse off most certainly, but NEVER better nor worse. We are all differently the same, being human equals.
All you really did was describe every male Sagittarius. At least the vast majority of us. P.S. dude down below was right. You are super cute.
I have asperger's and all of your descriptions apply to me. However, and I'm not advocating for other people to take my route just sharing my experience, with the use of psychedelic drugs and other consciousness altering techniques I managed to overcome some traits. For instance I used to hold grudges for very long periods of times, whereas nowadays I let most stuff go after relatively short times. I still am deeply shy but compared to 10 years ago I'm much more sociable (when it is required for me to be).
Basically psychedelics taught me to let go, and not being able to let go, however common in "normal" people, is much more problematic for Aspies.
Oh, and it made a HUGE impact on my empathy. I still am self centered but have learned to put myself in other people's shoes.
Thank you for sharing! :)
No problem. Actually after reading this comment I made some research and it seems I am not the only one who experienced this. Again, not advocating drug use, but I think there might be some interesting things in that regard.
You're gorgeous! Hitting on chicks is always easier with words... I have to force myself to be extroverted. It really sucks. It wears me out. Great video by the way. Keep 'em roll'in!
Thanks! Please don't hit on me! :)
What kind of hit? Like physical? I guess I'm trying to figure out if you're joking or not.
Hitting on a girl means you're flirting with them! Nothing physical! :)
Yeah... I know... But I do things in reverse, which help me take it out in the real world. That way I can play with the "practical" approach and be creative with it. It just works for me. Nice dogs.
Thanks! :)
Thank you for the video! My therapist said that I probably have Asperger's, and so I have an appointment to get tested for it. I wanted to do some research about it, and I came across your video. Some of my main signs are not looking people in the eye, having major problems with most noise, I don't like to change my routine ever, I eat the same few foods because those are the only textures I like, I'm bad with social interactions, and artificial light really bothers me, but the sun is good. You seem really cool, and you did a great job on the video, so it makes me happy to know that there are other people like me out there, and some of those people are great people. Thanks again, and I'm subscribing.
Thank you so much! I am so glad i'm not the only aspie out there too! This made me happy! :)
I think my ex boyfriend had it. I asked him he said" I don’t think so" Bottomline we didn’t last. He was actually not shy at all but he hits all the other markers.
Thanks for sharing! :)
Change of plans at the last minute affect me a great deal. The main reason for this is that I've made myself a personal plan according to the event I'm attending and knowing that plan won't change is what keeps me from becoming anxious about being in a social situation....any social situation. I'll make any excuse not to go somewhere much to my own downfall because my friends think that I don't like them or they might feel insulted that I don't turn up to their event. This couldn't be further from the truth. When I was younger, being social in a sports club was almost mandatory. To overcome my anxiety and fear of social events I would get so out of it I actually numbed the feeling of anxiety. It didn't help me much as most people thought I was a drunk or whatever but I was there and in attendance and thats what I thought really mattered. The problem there was that it didn't help me socialise at all because I still needed replies to my conversation questions and what I thought were conversational queues....if a silence developed I became uncomfortable and usually ended the conversation and tried to analyse what I did wrong and ask myself why the conversation failed...Anyway this is rambling so that's all for now.
This is so informational!!! Amazing as always!! xoxox
Thank you! :)
Yes I think you just described my 4yr old grandson.
I hated the cafeteria and the mall. Still will refuse to go shopping at the mall unless it's dicks sporting goods cause it has a separate entrance
Wow, almost describes me to a T , I've never been diagnosed but I think I might have a mild case. I'm very shy, hate noisey places or people.. just want quiet, need a routine for everything, get obsessed with things , and omg I do walk on my toes when out of shoes, i never say hi or by to people , especially groups of people..ill just leave., i hate holidays,..And wow are you cute, the glasses are working and the red nails look great . Good vid
Thank you! Thanks for sharing! :)
I think i might have a mild case also thanks :)
This is such a informative and inspiring video! I don't know you however, I'm proud of you!! Well done!
Thank you so much! :)
Ilovefriday brought me here
Good stuff. I don't like socialising, can remember everything I had for Christmas in 1966, bear grudges and have an obsession with a male Swedish rock musician so I can certainly relate to a lot of this!
Thanks! :)
'aspie girl' you have no clue how much you've made me (and others) feel more comfortable and not alone. thank you a million times! ~oh oh im in love with a girl on TH-cam..i don't know her name and she lives far away oh oh yeah... lol
Thank you! :)
Hi. Being a mother of a child that hasn’t been diagnosed yet, I’d LOVE if you could or your mother could, give some insight as to how you were as a baby and toddler and as you grew up. That would be such an awesome video and helpful. Thank you for the videos you make!!
I had a behaviorist when I was a toddler. He helped me so much! :)
Just to let you all know, it's Asperger's, not "ass burgers"! Having Asperger's, I get really offended by the "ass burgers" joke! So do all the other aspies out there! You guys are making it so I never want to eat another burger in my life! :(
Why do people, especially adults who are supposed to be grown up, have to be so immature about the word "Asperger's"?
If I see even ONE more insulting comment about Asperger's, I think i'm going to scream! I put up these videos for EDUCATIONAL purposes so people can learn about the disorder! If you are an adult, ACT like one! PLEASE! :'(
I always pronounce it asp-pur-jers.
That's your preference! I prefer to use the real pronunciation! :)
+The Aspie Girl perhaps I can provide some explanation to your comment about adults being immature:
1. just because someone is a certain chronological age does not mean they are emotionally mature
2. some people who are uncomfortable with a situation or condition respond by trying to use humor in an inappropriate way; people who do this are usually unaware of themselves or how their actions affect others
3. some people are just stupid; ignorance is a lack of understanding/awareness, but stupid is a choice in that an individual refuses to learn and apply knowledge
I thank you for your video and for sharing your personal experiences. I learn more from someone who speaks from a position of authority rather than theory; as someone with Asperger's, you have that authority.
I can relate, I’m 22 and was diagnosed when I was 5 with Asperger’s syndrome it’s a long never ending journey. You tha best!
I have all but one (being nerd smart). Am I Aspie too? The main thing I have is I don't like change. I use the same coffee mug ( I have two identical in case one breaks), same dinner bowl, park in the same parking spot for work and home, and most times at the local stores. I'll even go a few days with the same clothes on because of this. I've carried the same wallet for 20yrs then bought another just like it because it ripped. I have to sit in my one spot in the living room and if the seat is taken then I'm not sitting in the living room.
Gonna investigate more and probably talk to my doctor about this too. thanks!!
I have a favorite spot too but will sit somewhere else when it's taken but don't enjoy it as much.
The aspie girl how can I get the medium functioning autistic child in my sunday school class to play in a group he will do things one on one but not in a group?
Sounds just like me! I’m an aspie too 😊
My son was diagnosed with having an ASD and eye contact is one thing he works so hard at maintaining with others. I also have a couple of family members I know are on the spectrum but have not had the courage to ask them to be tested. I know it will not end well imo if I approach them and only will discuss it if they ever ask me since my own son falls on the spectrum. Those 2 I believe are aspires due to they constantly like to discuss how they remember events in their life. While I am amazed at their memories with detail, such as their surroundings, colors and even cars, they don’t necessarily recall the social situation perfectly that conspired. I get this with my son as well and often have to explain what really happened on the social end.
I dont have autism that i Know of, but I don't make eye contact beacuse if I try I just feel overwhelmed and another thing is that I wear headphones all the time to shut other sounds out and so people won't talk to me. Also I have a hard time understanding other people but I have gotten better at it and last but not least I have a enormous obsession with animals and my hobby is watching animal documentaries and research about them especially sloths!!
Auditory Processing Disorder? Just wondering.
I think my mother had it. I used to walk on my toes too but I was copying her. The self centeredness and the almost schizoid way she hated change or anything different. She used to bore me to tears.