I lost 3 cousins by the hands of their husband,boyfriend,and baby daddy.2 of my cousins left behind 7 kids and one left behind 2 due to domestic violence,abuse,and control.Just recently my half sister fatally shot her husband in self defense because of domestic violence and abuse.When the detectives were done with their investigation they found over 300 pages manifestation of he hated her and describing how he had been planning to kill her and disposed of her body and at the end of the day no charges were brought against her but she has to live with this for the rest of her life!So please Children of God DO NOT LET ANYONE TELL YOU THAT YOU CANNOT DIVORCE IF YOU’RE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP “THE DEVIL IS A LIAR AND AIN’T NO TRUTH IN HIM!!!Abuse is Abuse rather it’s physical mental emotional verbal or Spiritual!..Get out and Get out Now!…JESUS IS LOVE ❤️❤️❤️Anything other than the Love of Jesus is of The ENEMY!
@@nicoleking8296 Sad story, but there is still no justification for divorce. Separate and work on the relationship. But they are under covenant for life.
Let’s rightfully divide God’s word.We cannot read a scripture and run with it.We have to study the word of God.If anyone woman or man is in an abusive relationship leave!Run!!!!
There is no way to divide that scripture. It was written very plainly for perfect understanding. It isn’t a parable that is written for the reason to confuse. Even the American definition of when or what it takes for a union of marriage to occur. You are bonded together once you lay down together. Some people are still married to the babymomma and baby daddies but out here another 20 unions in. The culture we have been taught is ungodly as ever…
@@beautifuljade4uNot everything is plainly clear. Some things require deeper study. The plainly clear are the things like the gospel and the divinity of Christ.
@@beautifuljade4uwhere’s the wisdom and practicality and solution in what you said? Just curious. You’d think the word ABUSE, would be enough for you “lovingL Christian’s. Yet and still you make exscuses for evil and you hold so tightly to this scripture and say it is what it is. But when any other sin occurs, y’all are ready to say “ no we must be firm and disassociate ourselves from this evilL. Which I agree with, but why not this SIN!? Is abuse not a sin. People with your mindset, immediately raise red flags to me. 1, could you be an abuser? And two are you a man who likes power and control and can’t stand when someone leaves your controlling self?
The Bible is filled with HARD truths that we/I will never understand on this side of eternity. You can’t divorce because of abuse according to the living word. Yes, you can Separate but not divorce. I’m a woman and have never been in a relationship. I’m a virgin
I love your teaching of the scriptures, Corey. I was in an abusive relationship that traumatized me to this day. I was pregnant with our child during one of his beatings! Our daughter was born with birth defects that took 4 surgeries to save her life. Horrible, horrible, experience. I wasn't saved during this time.
Sadly my wife was a grandiose narcissist with a personality disorder which meant she was verbally, financially, physically and emotionally violent towards me and the children.
@@perfectlymprfctdid you hear that catfight with those 3 women? One has long eyelashes 🤫 ALSO..in books of Ezra & Nehemiah, they were told to divorce their spouses.. (I believe, that's when the Hebrew alphabet, and music changed) Proto Hebrew was around David's time
The "Heffa Spray" took me out! But as a survivor of DV, I'm thankful for this video, because my church/Pastor actually tried convincing me to stay - despite of knowing the extent of what my husband was doing. Thank you, Corey. So grateful that I found your channel.
Sadly, I knew a couple where the husband beat his wife. Both Christian. He refused to change even used God's word at his wife for anything she did. It ended in divorce.
@@endtimesBiblechannel God warns the husband about abusing his wife. He says, He will not listen to the husband's prayers if he is abusive. Thats how serious God is about abuse. You do not want God to ignore your prayers. The husband only focuses on the part that says he is the head of the house and the wife must obey. Thats not what God says. Husbands need to read the verses about their treatment to their wives. God has plenty to say about that. This bible truth isnt just for the Jews. Its for all christians. Paul preached it, he came on the scene after Jesus died and rose again. This is for ALL of us that walk with Jesus. Thank You Jesus!!!!
Pastor Genning spoke on this ...and he's either out of his mind or has a gross misunderstanding of the scripture. He's claiming that you can't divorce for any reason. A woman asked...what if I caught my husband in adultery? He said...she can leave but has to remain separated. Nonsense!! So he believes she is to be punished for his indiscretions?? It doesn't make bibical sense! It's not even common sense!!
I just sent you a long previous comment dated May 29th 2024. I just wanted to give my first name so you can pray for me. My name is Dawn. I'm a 59 year old lady waiting on the Lord to send me a sincere man of God from the heart. Not in name only calling himself a Christian. It has to be a heart connection between him and God. God bless you and your family Corey! You are very very blessed to have a mate. I'm the lady who spoke about the physical and mental abuse and was married to a pastor. Peace and blessings.✝️🙏😊👍💯🙌
No man who’s TRULY a follower of Christ, is going to beat up on his wife. Because the Holy Spirit will keep his hands to himself. Abusive men are not saved. And any woman in my family being abused, will NOT put up with that for long. We’ve banished the few who dared abuse our women. And they’ve never been heard from again.
You can divorce only if your spouse committed adultery. If you leave your spouse and they have not committed adultery, and are alive you cannot marry again, unless your spouse gets another partner or dies. If you are being abused by your spouse, you can move out and leave them, you do not have to stay with a abuser, but you cannot divorce or marry or date anyone, unless your spouse has an affair during your separation from them. You must remain single, if you leave your spouse, only if they have an affair, you can then divorce. If seperated and you havr no proff thst your spouse has had a affair, you must remain single and you cannot divorce them. You cant divorce because your spouse you just dont want anymore. You can separate ftom a abuser, but unless your spouse has an affair you are not to divorce or date. Point blank.
I understand and agree yes choose better and seek wisdom from God in this area. I didn’t and suffer for it in an emotionally abusive situation. I am learning more and more and growing. Working on forgiving myself and my disobedience that lead to this situation and marriage. Focusing on Jesus and my son and praying for my husband to have a sorrow for his sins. Praying for my son who is 3 to get saved… at a young age and have a hunger for his laws and ways and not this worlds!
My now ex husband didn’t want to get help from anyone including the church even though we both are Christian. I stayed for over 30years. Then he decided he wanted a divorce. I’m know I’m a great awesome woman, so after doing everything according to the Bible, he wanted out. Btw, I was told to stay because he’s a good man, he’s nice and what I needed was not important. The Bible doesn’t say I should be happy in my marriage.
We are not to be unequally yoked.It’s not in the heart of God for anyone to be in an abusive marriage..Did you went before God and prayed before getting married??Everyone who’s married God did not joined together that’s why we have to die in our flesh and death is not only PHYSICAL there’s Spiritual DEATH!Please let’s rightfully divide God’s word
The scriptures say, God has called us to peace. I you are divorced from a wife, seek not a wife, if you are divorced from a husband, seek not a husband. But if you marry you have not sinned. 1 Cor 7:27-28. The woman can depart, but if she departs, she should remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband. It is better that she remain unmarried, but if she be divorced, it is still better that she remain unmarried, but if she marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless, such shall have trouble in the flesh. We must read carefully these verses, and place no burden upon our brothers and sisters that they cannot bear. It is better to marry than to burn. Every man has his proper gift. Again, God has called us to peace, and if any be in an abusive relationship, they are not forced to remain in it. God is a God of mercy.
Corey, domestic violence is a crime. Point blank the police need to be called and the wife needs to protect her safety. She may not have time to seek help from the church. Her life may depend on it.
Corey you didn’t make clear the point of if you do divorce NEITHER ONE OF YOU CAN REMARRY OR HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER PERSON OR THEY WILL BE COMMITTING ADULTERY
Says who? The women were remarrying in Jesus day. That was 11:50 what the divorce certificate or "get" allowed.That was the context of Jesus's statement.
So she/he is tied to an abuser forever and the abuse was due to no fault of their own?! This was not in cases of abuse. Is this the nature and character of God?
@erickaransom236 only death ends a marriage bond. The sins of one spouse do not. You can physically separate or even legally separate, but you're still married in God's eyes.
@@Tatiana-cp1fc That's the rule....marriage is for life. What about exceptions? Didn't Jesus say that divorce, though not desirable, was allowed when the husbands hardened their hearts against their wives? It was permitted in those ciumstances. Isn't an unrepentant, unchanging abuser hardening his or her heart? Read all of scripture and apply sensibly.
I think its adultry to divorce and remarry under any circumstances other than adultry. But thank God for his mercy grace and salvation thru Jesus Christ finished work on the cross. Because yes it is a sin but God has made a way of escape. If you gotta leave to avoid abuse then go
The modern church in America is ill equipped to deal with situations of wives abusing their husbands. The presumption is always the other way, and when it’s he said/she said, he will not be believed. The police also will not side with the husband, but rather he will be seen as the abuser and taken to jail. It is a very difficult and lonely place to be.
I sometimes feel like these questions dont even need to be validated by the bible Abuse of any kind is deadly. You dont need the bible to tell you to leave before you leave. Thats becoming unwise. 🙂
The question is, did you overrule that freedom with your promise because God hold you to what she said and you said we’re better off worse sickness or health until death you part how do you know God‘s not gonna hold you to that?
So while you were at Wilbur Wright, I was at Robert Fulton on Palmer and Center. While you were at North Division, I was at Milwaukee Trade and Tech High School. It's crazy how our paths could have crossed but we didn't know each other.
I also don't think remarriage is possible after divorce because whenever remarriage is mentioned in Scripture, it's mentioned in a negative light. For example, Jesus said "yea Moses allowed yall to remarry because ya hearts were HARD ***a negative!!!*** (see Matt 19:8)...He goes on to say the person who remarries commits ADULTERY ***another negative***(Matt 19:9) 😖 even the disciples were like "well dang, might as well not get married!" And Jesus was like "Not everyone can accept this word...." (Matt 19:10-12) I think this is a heavy word from the LORD that most Christians cannot accept because people (even church folk) love sex. Annnnd this word from Jesus puts more accountability on them for who they CHOOSE to marry.
Yes please leave,it physically, spiritually and mentally drains the person.Both men and woman suffer from abuse,this is the times where respect even given by one partner is unappreciated by the other.
It’s not right, but I don’t believe that’s cause for divorce. If that’s the case, there’s other problems that can likely be solved with counseling, repentance on both sides.
Alot of people will be disappointed when they realize they werent supposed to get divorced and only supposed to separate and give yourself to God wholly until your spouse passes away. If the bible says God hates divorce but we justify divorce by way of the decree of Moses because a hard heart, why do what God hates? Separate and go back to God and devote yourseld to Him and His purpose.
"For I hate divorce, says the LORD the God of Israel, and covering one's garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So take heed to yourselves and do not be faithless." Malachi 2:16
Pastor we just had a coworker divorce her husband to whom she started a beautiful family with two young daughters because she felt she was living in adultery after he and her first husband split on the grounds of him being coming out as homosexual and sleeping with men. What can I say to someone who doesn’t want to hear anything outside her own understanding?
Is she a believer? If she divorced him because of adultery, that is biblical grounds for divorce and be remarried. If she be a believer and the husband is not a believer and the husband desires to depart, that is biblical grounds for divorce and remarry (and vice versa). If one spouse has deceased, that is biblical grounds to be remarried. Anything outside of this, is unbiblical. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). However, if this person is not of the faith, I recommend you just preach to her Christ and him crucified. Preach the Gospel to her.
@@4Waridi She did not STATE abuse...lets stay in context of the scenario....active abuse and adultery are two different things. If she is a believer, have her go before the church....if she is not, preach the gospel to her....She is without Christ in this regard and obviously, so is her husband. But if she is worldly and refuses to hear....what makes you think she will take advice concerning her marriage? If she is being actively abused...YES of course get her help! But the OP does not state that...its Adultery....which is not you or none of our business...PERIOD DOT! If she is not a believer, preach the word and if she comes to faith, get her before the church. If not...Its not your business.
@@4Waridi No, the definition was already given by Cory....the question was asked regarding active abuse...aka, beating on someone. However, the OP of the question above did not state that.
Here’s a scenario of someone I know…. She divorced him because of his adultery. A time later, I hear he is preaching so I assume he’s repented and sought forgiveness. Great! But then, he’s enagaged. Soon he is remarried and having kids. Does the forgiveness mean he’s free to remarry? Is he now forgiven but in an adulterous relationship with his new wife? It’s all so confusing to me.
Bro, in Mark, the verse excludes the clause of "sexual immorality". Can you please explain on that. So practically in Mark, it gives no room of divorce.
If you touch me… I’m leaving you. If you speak down to me, after I’ve already told you once to watch your mouth. I’m leaving you. If you neglect me, I’m leaving you. It just amazes me, how we stand so firm in the church on so many sins being EVIL , and we say “we must disassociate with any sin”! And I agree. But keep that same energy when it comes to the SIN of ABUSE!!! Any form of it ! Emotional, physical, financial, verbal, spiritual. I’ll get some flack for this, but I don’t care. Most times the ones advocating staying in dead relationships, are MEN. Men who want to hold on to this, while picking up new things (women). Men who don’t want to file for divorce, because by nature they are naturally lazy. Men who want to save face in the community, so they don’t want the embarrassment of a divorce ( pride and ego). Men who like controlling the weaker vessel (women) and can’t fathom someone leaving them first. Those are the ones who like advocating this (no divorce at all mess) . And they do it by hiding it behind false loyalty and commitment. And they’ve got women in the comment section who are silly, doing their dirty work, by telling other women “no work it out”. No one who loves God and chose to get married and chose to be fully committed to their spouse went in with “oh do one thing and I’m divorcing you”. No, the problem is sin and a lack of repentance and acknowledgment of wrong doing and entitlement is what leads people to this! I’ll take my chances, I’m sure if God is righty and holy like the Bible says, that he will hate wickedness and sin in marriage. And because of that, we should HATE evil as well. Folks don’t get it right sometimes until they get LEFT! stop playing with people and stop playing with God.
my wife left me last Wednesday, sighting emotional abuse. She took my kids, and my furniture, while I was at work. There’s no way to play the “the wife has to have a sense of peace, and happiness” game or she is allowed to leave. that is subjective, unstable and quite frankly very unbiblical.
This is why it’s so important to consult with God before being in a relationship with anybody. If it is in Gods will for you to be married amen it will be for his purpose however, if not learn to accept that with the help of the Holy Spirit. Please people consult with God before being with anyone for he knows what is best for you.
I don't believe that's what he's saying. If you have a husband who is not living up to the scriptures, pray ernestly for him to step into his role and yourself that you treat him no different.
What about when the woman initiates the divorce? And in a no fault state? She wants it she gets it. Most women these days use divorce as a financial tool. They marry a guy, have his kids and then he’s on the hook for child support and becoming a part time parent. Now she gets to go after the Chads. That happened with my first divorce. The second she became a total druggie. Both of them got remarried. The first wife got divorced again and the guy killed himself. The second one as far as I know is still married. So what is the deal? I’m done. Stick a fork in me? God hates divorce. I hate divorce. Sometimes it is thrust upon us and we are helpless to do anything about it.
Yes the church should support the abused wife; it must be done with safety in mind. First we have to get the wife and family in a safe place first. Domestic Violence calls for the police are the most dangerous calls for them. Once the family is safe, then begin to point the abuser to a domestic violence batterer’s intervention program. Meaning taking classes for 52 weeks. Safety first for the abused.
Forgiveness under the blood of Christ is a powerful thing. The Lord forgives murders, "s" assaulters, and every other crime out there. But people seem so determined to want to gloss over that fact which is literally the crux of the entire Gospel- forgiveness and salvation in the blood of Christ. Just remember that.
These are not just issues of faith, but also an issue of law. And white the church needs to get involved, it can go wrong in so many ways and if the law gets involved, the church might not have as much influence in the situation especially if there are children involved.
Mr. Corey is it true, I was informed by a Pastor that I was married to another woman's husband because she is still living. Therefore, I needed to get a divorce.
Yeah I wish I had not chosen at all my ex busted my lip so badly I had to have 7 stitches and he broke my wrist and I have two kids with him I really wish I could change it but here I am
An abusive husband, wife, or spiritual minister are not from God! I repeat, An abusive husband, wife, or minister is NOT from God. We are God's saints. We cast out demons, and we cast out their pathetic representitives. OUT YOU GO!
Of course a wife should divorce an abusive spouse, that should go without saying. However, Biblically she cannot remarry if he is still alive and there was no infidelity. The problem is the issue you are addressing is a contemporary issue that would not have been deemed an issue in the ancient world. In the Ancient world women did not divorce men, men divorced women. In Ancient Rome the wife was deemed the property of the man. He could beat or even kill her without recourse. The Bible does not address abuse because it would not have been a legal reason to end a marriage.
Corey?! I say this respectfully. You can't assume that only women are abused in marriages. Women are and can be just as abusive. Your argument comes off as sexist. I believe since you may not be married to an abusive woman; it's careless to say men only beating women. Women are just as accountable as men. God will judge both. Women abuse emotionally, mentally & spiritually. I'm aware that men can be abusive however, Corey needs to address both sexes.
So we suppose to love each other not people. God didn't make love a one-sided deal. So no matter if you are save if you act right you deserve to to be treated right as well. Its not i suppose to love people and people don't suppose to love me. The key is love each other
YES I DID AND GOD JESUS CHRIST AND THE HOLY SPIRIT IS IN ME - MY EX SAID HE WAS A CHRISTIAN BEFORE I MARRIED HIM EVEN MARRIED IN A C/E CHURCH BUT HE LIED TO ME HE WAS NOT A CHRISTIAN HE ALWAYS SAID I HAVE NEVER MET ANYONE BETTER THAN HIMSELF I WAS NOT A CHRISTIAN AND I LEFT HIM AFTER 21 YEARS OF HELL IT TOOK ME A VERY LONG TIME TO GET WELL FROM HIS MENTAL GAMES HE PLAYED WITH ME 8 YEARS AGO I BECAME A BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN IN THE HOLY SPIRIT ITS THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME I DO PRAY HE GETS BORN AGAIN - BY THE WAY HE DID BEAT ME ALSO AND DID DO THE OCCULT STUFF OF SO-CALLED WHITE MAGIC
Is this an unforgivable sin? He forgives us everyday for sins, why not this? It’s so dangerous that Christians support people staying with abusive spouses, otherwise they are doomed to a life of single-hood. Do you think God desires for us to be in relationship with an abusive spouse, and potentially get unalived? It happens everyday, and people stay because of thoughts like this.
That's not using wisdom. Many women die staying with a "christian husband" beating them literally to death. No one should stay in a situation lile that.
Actually the verse Matt 19:9 states that the exception is 'sexual immorality '. It doesn't make reference to 'abuse', however sexual immorality is a form of abuse. If there is domestic violence, the scripture makes allowance for separation. I would never insist to someone in a domestic violence marriage which has become a habitual thing to physically remain with their abuser. Many spouses(mostly women) have unfortunately been killed in such situations. Those who say that the Bible makes no allowance for leaving violent situations are ignoring the scripture's acknowledgement that sometimes separation may be necessary. Let's remember that The bible says that a husband should love his wife as Jesus Christ loves the Church.
Unfortunately not; you are in covenant which is until death; but if one leaves their spouse you must remain alone. Divorce is sin; Divorce is not ordained by God.
NO GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE ever. What God has joined together is only separated through death.. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 [10] To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. [11] But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. "For I hate divorce, says the LORD the God of Israel, and covering one's garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So take heed to yourselves and do not be faithless." Malachi 2:16 All Glory to Almighty God in Christ Jesus name through the Power of His Holy Spirit Amen.
So woman she's supposed to stay in a marriage where she could be beat to death or mentally abused or a physically tortured? Same with the man He's supposed to stay in a marriage where his wife is physically abusive and mentally abusive? Then if they divorce they never get a chance at loving someone AGAIN? If you're being abused and physically violated that's not your fault
I don't think anyone should stay in a marriage where their physical safety is being threatened. However, I don't think divorce on the grounds of abuse is biblical according to Matt 19:9 and 1 Cor 7:10-15. I know of a woman who was abused, but did not initiate a divorce from her husband; however, she remains single because she is following these scriptures.....oh I forgot to say, she lives apart from him too! And is safe!
@tic8259 Correct, my husband left over 22 years ago, and Obedience is better than sacrifice. Be reconciled or stay single. The Bible doesn't say to stay and be abused, yet pray for those who hurt you.
@@ThecrosseyedTexan did you say or better or worse for sickness and health till death do you part? I believe God’s gonna say the scripture is true you could leave, but you made this problem. I’m holding you to your promise.
Yes. God will understand. Some women have lost their lives staying married to an abusive man.
I lost 3 cousins by the hands of their husband,boyfriend,and baby daddy.2 of my cousins left behind 7 kids and one left behind 2 due to domestic violence,abuse,and control.Just recently my half sister fatally shot her husband in self defense because of domestic violence and abuse.When the detectives were done with their investigation they found over 300 pages manifestation of he hated her and describing how he had been planning to kill her and disposed of her body and at the end of the day no charges were brought against her but she has to live with this for the rest of her life!So please Children of God DO NOT LET ANYONE TELL YOU THAT YOU CANNOT DIVORCE IF YOU’RE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP “THE DEVIL IS A LIAR AND AIN’T NO TRUTH IN HIM!!!Abuse is Abuse rather it’s physical mental emotional verbal or Spiritual!..Get out and Get out Now!…JESUS IS LOVE ❤️❤️❤️Anything other than the Love of Jesus is of The ENEMY!
Facts. I lost 3 and one recent of 3 years in June🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@nicoleking8296 Sorry for your loss dear 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 My heart goes out to you and your family ❤️
@@FemaleUser2024 thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@nicoleking8296 Sad story, but there is still no justification for divorce.
Separate and work on the relationship. But they are under covenant for life.
Let’s rightfully divide God’s word.We cannot read a scripture and run with it.We have to study the word of God.If anyone woman or man is in an abusive relationship leave!Run!!!!
There is no way to divide that scripture. It was written very plainly for perfect understanding. It isn’t a parable that is written for the reason to confuse. Even the American definition of when or what it takes for a union of marriage to occur. You are bonded together once you lay down together. Some people are still married to the babymomma and baby daddies but out here another 20 unions in. The culture we have been taught is ungodly as ever…
Agreed on with my whole heart. Abusive people aren't worth living with. Amen.
@@beautifuljade4uNot everything is plainly clear. Some things require deeper study. The plainly clear are the things like the gospel and the divinity of Christ.
@@beautifuljade4uwhere’s the wisdom and practicality and solution in what you said? Just curious. You’d think the word ABUSE, would be enough for you “lovingL Christian’s. Yet and still you make exscuses for evil and you hold so tightly to this scripture and say it is what it is. But when any other sin occurs, y’all are ready to say “ no we must be firm and disassociate ourselves from this evilL. Which I agree with, but why not this SIN!? Is abuse not a sin.
People with your mindset, immediately raise red flags to me. 1, could you be an abuser? And two are you a man who likes power and control and can’t stand when someone leaves your controlling self?
The Bible is filled with HARD truths that we/I will never understand on this side of eternity. You can’t divorce because of abuse according to the living word. Yes, you can Separate but not divorce. I’m a woman and have never been in a relationship. I’m a virgin
Abuse isn’t only physical and it is not only done by a man. Good topic.
Yeah I was thinking the same thing there's women that sexually abused physically abused and emotionally abused their husbands by not giving them sex
Amen women be like that too. I'm married to that!😢
I love your teaching of the scriptures, Corey. I was in an abusive relationship that traumatized me to this day. I was pregnant with our child during one of his beatings! Our daughter was born with birth defects that took 4 surgeries to save her life. Horrible, horrible, experience. I wasn't saved during this time.
Sadly my wife was a grandiose narcissist with a personality disorder which meant she was verbally, financially, physically and emotionally violent towards me and the children.
I didn't want to say this but you can leave your wife.
The heffas with the horse eyelashes are too be avoided. 😅
@@perfectlymprfctdid you hear that catfight with those 3 women?
One has long eyelashes 🤫
ALSO..in books of
Ezra & Nehemiah, they were told to divorce their spouses..
(I believe, that's when the Hebrew alphabet, and music changed)
Proto Hebrew was around David's time
@@perfectlymprfct bruh 😄🤣😂😆😄
This needs to dealt with more,I survived a similar situation.Shalom.
The "Heffa Spray" took me out! But as a survivor of DV, I'm thankful for this video, because my church/Pastor actually tried convincing me to stay - despite of knowing the extent of what my husband was doing. Thank you, Corey. So grateful that I found your channel.
Sadly, I knew a couple where the husband beat his wife. Both Christian. He refused to change even used God's word at his wife for anything she did. It ended in divorce.
He wasn’t a true Christian.
@@GracewithHumility you might have a point with him. Specifically I remember him. He thrived on his authority and knew God's word and he'd twist it.
@@endtimesBiblechannel God warns the husband about abusing his wife. He says, He will not listen to the husband's prayers if he is abusive. Thats how serious God is about abuse. You do not want God to ignore your prayers. The husband only focuses on the part that says he is the head of the house and the wife must obey. Thats not what God says. Husbands need to read the verses about their treatment to their wives. God has plenty to say about that. This bible truth isnt just for the Jews. Its for all christians. Paul preached it, he came on the scene after Jesus died and rose again. This is for ALL of us that walk with Jesus. Thank You Jesus!!!!
@@cherisemelf4758 Amen yes! And yes that's how that man was. Only about being a dictatorship.
@@endtimesBiblechannel I hope you are safe and very blessed. God bless you hun
Choose wisely- Treat kindly. ❤
Yes. But I genuinely don’t know if remarriage is permitted because God still sees the couple as one (unless the spouse dies).
not up to you. You are not the one being abused.
@@davidmckee533
Be reconciled or stay single.
@@davidmckee533 It’s not. It’s up to God and I’m just relaying the message.
@@davidmckee533 Bible is clear though. And while it may not be up to us, does not mean it's not sin
There are male or female in heaven. Of course you are remarry if your spouse dies.
Corey,
You have rightfully handled the Word and prescribed GOSPEL!!
Thank you and God bless your ministry
Pastor Genning spoke on this ...and he's either out of his mind or has a gross misunderstanding of the scripture. He's claiming that you can't divorce for any reason. A woman asked...what if I caught my husband in adultery? He said...she can leave but has to remain separated. Nonsense!! So he believes she is to be punished for his indiscretions?? It doesn't make bibical sense! It's not even common sense!!
I think u misrepresented what he said.
@@kcol3747 How??
Amen brother corey this is great and powerful. I sent to the married bros in my circle. Glory to God for the message
I just sent you a long previous comment dated May 29th 2024. I just wanted to give my first name so you can pray for me. My name is Dawn. I'm a 59 year old lady waiting on the Lord to send me a sincere man of God from the heart. Not in name only calling himself a Christian. It has to be a heart connection between him and God. God bless you and your family Corey! You are very very blessed to have a mate. I'm the lady who spoke about the physical and mental abuse and was married to a pastor. Peace and blessings.✝️🙏😊👍💯🙌
No man who’s TRULY a follower of Christ, is going to beat up on his wife. Because the Holy Spirit will keep his hands to himself. Abusive men are not saved. And any woman in my family being abused, will NOT put up with that for long. We’ve banished the few who dared abuse our women. And they’ve never been heard from again.
You can divorce only if your spouse committed adultery. If you leave your spouse and they have not committed adultery, and are alive you cannot marry again, unless your spouse gets another partner or dies. If you are being abused by your spouse, you can move out and leave them, you do not have to stay with a abuser, but you cannot divorce or marry or date anyone, unless your spouse has an affair during your separation from them. You must remain single, if you leave your spouse, only if they have an affair, you can then divorce. If seperated and you havr no proff thst your spouse has had a affair, you must remain single and you cannot divorce them. You cant divorce because your spouse you just dont want anymore. You can separate ftom a abuser, but unless your spouse has an affair you are not to divorce or date. Point blank.
This is an outstanding video, for men, and women of God.
God bless you, brother Corey.
I understand and agree yes choose better and seek wisdom from God in this area. I didn’t and suffer for it in an emotionally abusive situation. I am learning more and more and growing. Working on forgiving myself and my disobedience that lead to this situation and marriage. Focusing on Jesus and my son and praying for my husband to have a sorrow for his sins. Praying for my son who is 3 to get saved… at a young age and have a hunger for his laws and ways and not this worlds!
My now ex husband didn’t want to get help from anyone including the church even though we both are Christian. I stayed for over 30years. Then he decided he wanted a divorce. I’m know I’m a great awesome woman, so after doing everything according to the Bible, he wanted out.
Btw, I was told to stay because he’s a good man, he’s nice and what I needed was not important.
The Bible doesn’t say I should be happy in my marriage.
If your spouse is beating you, you need to divorce. Period
We are not to be unequally yoked.It’s not in the heart of God for anyone to be in an abusive marriage..Did you went before God and prayed before getting married??Everyone who’s married God did not joined together that’s why we have to die in our flesh and death is not only PHYSICAL there’s Spiritual DEATH!Please let’s rightfully divide God’s word
Paul said if you are married to an unbeliever and they wish to be with you then you are to stay married. Isn’t that unequally yoked?
The scriptures say, God has called us to peace.
I you are divorced from a wife, seek not a wife, if you are divorced from a husband, seek not a husband.
But if you marry you have not sinned. 1 Cor 7:27-28.
The woman can depart, but if she departs, she should remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband.
It is better that she remain unmarried, but if she be divorced, it is still better that she remain unmarried, but if she marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless, such shall have trouble in the flesh.
We must read carefully these verses, and place no burden upon our brothers and sisters that they cannot bear. It is better to marry than to burn. Every man has his proper gift. Again, God has called us to peace, and if any be in an abusive relationship, they are not forced to remain in it. God is a God of mercy.
Corey, domestic violence is a crime. Point blank the police need to be called and the wife needs to protect her safety. She may not have time to seek help from the church. Her life may depend on it.
Leave! Run! Don't come back, never, ever!
Oh, but I remember you said, I can't do without him/her. I love him/her. I will die without you!🤣
Corey you didn’t make clear the point of if you do divorce NEITHER ONE OF YOU CAN REMARRY OR HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER PERSON OR THEY WILL BE COMMITTING ADULTERY
Does verbal abuse count?
Abuse of any kind
Rule number 1, No one should be hitting anyone. Everyone should keep their hands to themselves.
You can leave but you cant remarry.
Says who? The women were remarrying in Jesus day. That was 11:50 what the divorce certificate or "get" allowed.That was the context of Jesus's statement.
So she/he is tied to an abuser forever and the abuse was due to no fault of their own?! This was not in cases of abuse. Is this the nature and character of God?
@erickaransom236 only death ends a marriage bond. The sins of one spouse do not. You can physically separate or even legally separate, but you're still married in God's eyes.
@@Tatiana-cp1fc That's the rule....marriage is for life. What about exceptions? Didn't Jesus say that divorce, though not desirable, was allowed when the husbands hardened their hearts against their wives? It was permitted in those ciumstances. Isn't an unrepentant, unchanging abuser hardening his or her heart? Read all of scripture and apply sensibly.
@@marshamarshalyn163 don't conflate divorce with remarriage. If divorce just means separation, then it is allowed.
I think its adultry to divorce and remarry under any circumstances other than adultry. But thank God for his mercy grace and salvation thru Jesus Christ finished work on the cross. Because yes it is a sin but God has made a way of escape. If you gotta leave to avoid abuse then go
Just call the police, DV is a crime. Abuse is unacceptable.
Absolutely. Flat out. It's a crime
Look at you telling on yourself! JR & SueEllen!! I thought I was hearing the Dallas theme song in the background!! I think I just told on myself! 😂
The modern church in America is ill equipped to deal with situations of wives abusing their husbands. The presumption is always the other way, and when it’s he said/she said, he will not be believed. The police also will not side with the husband, but rather he will be seen as the abuser and taken to jail. It is a very difficult and lonely place to be.
I sometimes feel like these questions dont even need to be validated by the bible
Abuse of any kind is deadly.
You dont need the bible to tell you to leave before you leave.
Thats becoming unwise. 🙂
The Bible say if they are cheating you can leave
You can leave but it never says you can remarry
Matthew 19 and 9: if he allows you to leave, you should be able to marry again
Cheating and abuse are different
The question is, did you overrule that freedom with your promise because God hold you to what she said and you said we’re better off worse sickness or health until death you part how do you know God‘s not gonna hold you to that?
It's broken, by adultery
So while you were at Wilbur Wright, I was at Robert Fulton on Palmer and Center. While you were at North Division, I was at Milwaukee Trade and Tech High School. It's crazy how our paths could have crossed but we didn't know each other.
I also don't think remarriage is possible after divorce because whenever remarriage is mentioned in Scripture, it's mentioned in a negative light.
For example, Jesus said "yea Moses allowed yall to remarry because ya hearts were HARD ***a negative!!!*** (see Matt 19:8)...He goes on to say the person who remarries commits ADULTERY ***another negative***(Matt 19:9) 😖 even the disciples were like "well dang, might as well not get married!" And Jesus was like "Not everyone can accept this word...." (Matt 19:10-12)
I think this is a heavy word from the LORD that most Christians cannot accept because people (even church folk) love sex. Annnnd this word from Jesus puts more accountability on them for who they CHOOSE to marry.
Ezra & Nehemiah
Wrote, for people to divorce wives
It could be, because their wives weren't like Ruth
Who became a Jew
Yes please leave,it physically, spiritually and mentally drains the person.Both men and woman suffer from abuse,this is the times where respect even given by one partner is unappreciated by the other.
How bout spouse denying sex to each other...is not that abuse?
oh yea, that's an abuse, right!😊
It’s not right, but I don’t believe that’s cause for divorce. If that’s the case, there’s other problems that can likely be solved with counseling, repentance on both sides.
Alot of people will be disappointed when they realize they werent supposed to get divorced and only supposed to separate and give yourself to God wholly until your spouse passes away. If the bible says God hates divorce but we justify divorce by way of the decree of Moses because a hard heart, why do what God hates? Separate and go back to God and devote yourseld to Him and His purpose.
"For I hate divorce, says the LORD the God of Israel, and covering one's garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So take heed to yourselves and do not be faithless."
Malachi 2:16
Pastor we just had a coworker divorce her husband to whom she started a beautiful family with two young daughters because she felt she was living in adultery after he and her first husband split on the grounds of him being coming out as homosexual and sleeping with men. What can I say to someone who doesn’t want to hear anything outside her own understanding?
Is she a believer? If she divorced him because of adultery, that is biblical grounds for divorce and be remarried. If she be a believer and the husband is not a believer and the husband desires to depart, that is biblical grounds for divorce and remarry (and vice versa). If one spouse has deceased, that is biblical grounds to be remarried. Anything outside of this, is unbiblical. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). However, if this person is not of the faith, I recommend you just preach to her Christ and him crucified. Preach the Gospel to her.
@@4Waridi You preach the gospel....if this person is not a believer. Otherwise, that marriage is not their business....
@@4Waridi She did not STATE abuse...lets stay in context of the scenario....active abuse and adultery are two different things. If she is a believer, have her go before the church....if she is not, preach the gospel to her....She is without Christ in this regard and obviously, so is her husband. But if she is worldly and refuses to hear....what makes you think she will take advice concerning her marriage? If she is being actively abused...YES of course get her help! But the OP does not state that...its Adultery....which is not you or none of our business...PERIOD DOT! If she is not a believer, preach the word and if she comes to faith, get her before the church. If not...Its not your business.
@@4Waridi No, the definition was already given by Cory....the question was asked regarding active abuse...aka, beating on someone. However, the OP of the question above did not state that.
@@4Waridi her leaving
Again death is not only physical
Would you a video about what you think about a Christian working under a big name pastor that believed false teachings?
Here’s a scenario of someone I know…. She divorced him because of his adultery. A time later, I hear he is preaching so I assume he’s repented and sought forgiveness. Great! But then, he’s enagaged. Soon he is remarried and having kids. Does the forgiveness mean he’s free to remarry? Is he now forgiven but in an adulterous relationship with his new wife? It’s all so confusing to me.
He ain't got no business getting remarried
@@TommyTomTompkins Just what I am thinking, too ....
No. In order to be forgiven, he needs to come out of his adultery.
So basically the answer is no, divorce isn't allowed if someone is being abused. However, separation is.
Romans 13:1-2 Obey the laws of the land .
i understand your anger with that man disrespecting your wife and daughter but what would CHRIST have us do ?
Bro, in Mark, the verse excludes the clause of "sexual immorality". Can you please explain on that. So practically in Mark, it gives no room of divorce.
The vow says for better or worst in sickness or in health until death do us part.
If you touch me… I’m leaving you.
If you speak down to me, after I’ve already told you once to watch your mouth. I’m leaving you. If you neglect me, I’m leaving you.
It just amazes me, how we stand so firm in the church on so many sins being EVIL , and we say “we must disassociate with any sin”! And I agree. But keep that same energy when it comes to the SIN of ABUSE!!! Any form of it ! Emotional, physical, financial, verbal, spiritual.
I’ll get some flack for this, but I don’t care. Most times the ones advocating staying in dead relationships, are MEN. Men who want to hold on to this, while picking up new things (women). Men who don’t want to file for divorce, because by nature they are naturally lazy. Men who want to save face in the community, so they don’t want the embarrassment of a divorce ( pride and ego). Men who like controlling the weaker vessel (women) and can’t fathom someone leaving them first. Those are the ones who like advocating this (no divorce at all mess) . And they do it by hiding it behind false loyalty and commitment. And they’ve got women in the comment section who are silly, doing their dirty work, by telling other women “no work it out”.
No one who loves God and chose to get married and chose to be fully committed to their spouse went in with “oh do one thing and I’m divorcing you”. No, the problem is sin and a lack of repentance and acknowledgment of wrong doing and entitlement is what leads people to this!
I’ll take my chances, I’m sure if God is righty and holy like the Bible says, that he will hate wickedness and sin in marriage. And because of that, we should HATE evil as well.
Folks don’t get it right sometimes until they get LEFT! stop playing with people and stop playing with God.
my wife left me last Wednesday, sighting emotional abuse. She took my kids, and my furniture, while I was at work. There’s no way to play the “the wife has to have a sense of peace, and happiness” game or she is allowed to leave. that is subjective, unstable and quite frankly very unbiblical.
What if the first marriage is that the wife doing witchcraft and he divorces the wife, can he married another woman?
On this issue; what if the wife wants to leave because of health issues.
God bless you Mr corey
There is a difference between a gown boy and grown Man. The difference is into the actions during good and bad times
This is why it’s so important to consult with God before being in a relationship with anybody. If it is in Gods will for you to be married amen it will be for his purpose however, if not learn to accept that with the help of the Holy Spirit. Please people consult with God before being with anyone for he knows what is best for you.
14:56 are you saying it’s ok to divorce if a husband refuses to provide for his household?
That's what it Sounds Like. And if so He's Wrong...💯💯💯💯
I don't believe that's what he's saying. If you have a husband who is not living up to the scriptures, pray ernestly for him to step into his role and yourself that you treat him no different.
@@ftmb1022 ...and who takes care of the needs of the family? The church? Yes pray AND leave!
This is why you maybe don't get married in the first place.
Divorce after 3rd time physical abuse when church is already involved and after many warnings.
What about when the woman initiates the divorce? And in a no fault state? She wants it she gets it. Most women these days use divorce as a financial tool. They marry a guy, have his kids and then he’s on the hook for child support and becoming a part time parent. Now she gets to go after the Chads.
That happened with my first divorce. The second she became a total druggie.
Both of them got remarried. The first wife got divorced again and the guy killed himself. The second one as far as I know is still married. So what is the deal? I’m done. Stick a fork in me?
God hates divorce. I hate divorce. Sometimes it is thrust upon us and we are helpless to do anything about it.
What if the believer left? Are they then doomed? If your church didn’t stop you does that mean God left you?
Maybe it wasnt God's choice for you to begin with.
I have yet to see a church functioning the way it was meant to, just business as usual, keep the sheeple busy and handing their money over.
Yes the church should support the abused wife; it must be done with safety in mind. First we have to get the wife and family in a safe place first. Domestic Violence calls for the police are the most dangerous calls for them. Once the family is safe, then begin to point the abuser to a domestic violence batterer’s intervention program. Meaning taking classes for 52 weeks. Safety first for the abused.
Forgiveness under the blood of Christ is a powerful thing. The Lord forgives murders, "s" assaulters, and every other crime out there. But people seem so determined to want to gloss over that fact which is literally the crux of the entire Gospel- forgiveness and salvation in the blood of Christ. Just remember that.
bet you never have been involved in that kind of abuse. who's not to say serious injury and even death could happen?
These are not just issues of faith, but also an issue of law. And white the church needs to get involved, it can go wrong in so many ways and if the law gets involved, the church might not have as much influence in the situation especially if there are children involved.
Somebody said it!! The long eyelashes!! 😂
Mr. Corey is it true, I was informed by a Pastor that I was married to another woman's husband because she is still living. Therefore, I needed to get a divorce.
It's true. It's called adultery. You need to come out of that.
I’m screaming 😂look at my hips in Jesus name … stop 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah I wish I had not chosen at all my ex busted my lip so badly I had to have 7 stitches and he broke my wrist and I have two kids with him I really wish I could change it but here I am
Yes. God agrees with it.
The KJV says fornication and the others say immorality?
An abusive husband, wife, or spiritual minister are not from God! I repeat, An abusive husband, wife, or minister is NOT from God. We are God's saints. We cast out demons, and we cast out their pathetic representitives. OUT YOU GO!
Lol That is so true cory with the door lol
Of course a wife should divorce an abusive spouse, that should go without saying. However, Biblically she cannot remarry if he is still alive and there was no infidelity. The problem is the issue you are addressing is a contemporary issue that would not have been deemed an issue in the ancient world. In the Ancient world women did not divorce men, men divorced women. In Ancient Rome the wife was deemed the property of the man. He could beat or even kill her without recourse. The Bible does not address abuse because it would not have been a legal reason to end a marriage.
The man didn’t beat her when they were first married. He got EMASCULATED by that female and now he’s last result is physical.
Yes she can
She can’t divorce only separate treat them like an unbeliever doesn’t mean they are an unbeliever. Everyone does sin unrepentantly. Stop.
Corey?! I say this respectfully. You can't assume that only women are abused in marriages. Women are and can be just as abusive. Your argument comes off as sexist. I believe since you may not be married to an abusive woman; it's careless to say men only beating women. Women are just as accountable as men. God will judge both. Women abuse emotionally, mentally & spiritually. I'm aware that men can be abusive however, Corey needs to address both sexes.
So we suppose to love each other not people. God didn't make love a one-sided deal. So no matter if you are save if you act right you deserve to to be treated right as well. Its not i suppose to love people and people don't suppose to love me. The key is love each other
12:08 you had it right the first. That's why you need soldiers in your churches!
Yes leave
YES I DID AND GOD JESUS CHRIST AND THE HOLY SPIRIT IS IN ME - MY EX SAID HE WAS A CHRISTIAN BEFORE I MARRIED HIM EVEN MARRIED IN A C/E CHURCH BUT HE LIED TO ME HE WAS NOT A CHRISTIAN HE ALWAYS SAID I HAVE NEVER MET ANYONE BETTER THAN HIMSELF I WAS NOT A CHRISTIAN AND I LEFT HIM AFTER 21 YEARS OF HELL IT TOOK ME A VERY LONG TIME TO GET WELL FROM HIS MENTAL GAMES HE PLAYED WITH ME 8 YEARS AGO I BECAME A BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN IN THE HOLY SPIRIT ITS THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME I DO PRAY HE GETS BORN AGAIN - BY THE WAY HE DID BEAT ME ALSO AND DID DO THE OCCULT STUFF OF SO-CALLED WHITE MAGIC
Why the shouting?
@@SMaamri78 SORRY IF I HURT YOUR EARS BUT MY EYESIGHT NOT GOOD IT HAPPENS WHEN YOU GET OLD GOD BLESS YOU
Obviously that wasn't your real spouse. Time to go.
I'm laughing at 20:27- 20:35✝️
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Unless it is sexual abuse, absolutely not. Bible is clear. The only reason for divorce is to remarry which is sin.
Is this an unforgivable sin? He forgives us everyday for sins, why not this? It’s so dangerous that Christians support people staying with abusive spouses, otherwise they are doomed to a life of single-hood. Do you think God desires for us to be in relationship with an abusive spouse, and potentially get unalived? It happens everyday, and people stay because of thoughts like this.
That's not using wisdom. Many women die staying with a "christian husband" beating them literally to death. No one should stay in a situation lile that.
Actually the verse Matt 19:9 states that the exception is 'sexual immorality '. It doesn't make reference to 'abuse', however sexual immorality is a form of abuse.
If there is domestic violence, the scripture makes allowance for separation. I would never insist to someone in a domestic violence marriage which has become a habitual thing to physically remain with their abuser. Many spouses(mostly women) have unfortunately been killed in such situations. Those who say that the Bible makes no allowance for leaving violent situations are ignoring the scripture's acknowledgement that sometimes separation may be necessary.
Let's remember that The bible says that a husband should love his wife as Jesus Christ loves the Church.
@@aoc092 you made a perfect point
The key word is separation. That is different
Unfortunately not; you are in covenant which is until death; but if one leaves their spouse you must remain alone. Divorce is sin; Divorce is not ordained by God.
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11:20, this example had me rolling, too.
NO GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE ever.
What God has joined together is only separated through death..
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
[10] To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord):
A wife must not separate from her husband.
[11] But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
"For I hate divorce, says the LORD the God of Israel, and covering one's garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So take heed to yourselves and do not be faithless."
Malachi 2:16
All Glory to Almighty God in Christ Jesus name through the Power of His Holy Spirit Amen.
So woman she's supposed to stay in a marriage where she could be beat to death or mentally abused or a physically tortured? Same with the man He's supposed to stay in a marriage where his wife is physically abusive and mentally abusive? Then if they divorce they never get a chance at loving someone AGAIN? If you're being abused and physically violated that's not your fault
I don't think anyone should stay in a marriage where their physical safety is being threatened. However, I don't think divorce on the grounds of abuse is biblical according to Matt 19:9 and 1 Cor 7:10-15. I know of a woman who was abused, but did not initiate a divorce from her husband; however, she remains single because she is following these scriptures.....oh I forgot to say, she lives apart from him too! And is safe!
@tic8259
Correct, my husband left over 22 years ago, and Obedience is better than sacrifice.
Be reconciled or stay single.
The Bible doesn't say to stay and be abused, yet pray for those who hurt you.
@@Abat-f6r Amen! It's a tough Word in my opinion 😔 but it's God's Word and is to be obeyed
@@ThecrosseyedTexan did you say or better or worse for sickness and health till death do you part? I believe God’s gonna say the scripture is true you could leave, but you made this problem. I’m holding you to your promise.