I wanted to hug her when she said that she never says ''hi'' to people because she assumes that people don't want to talk to her.....i can relate so much to that! Working on it though :)
I actually introduced myself to only ONE person through my whole life...it worked though - we are still very good friends) Being introverted is difficult af...not beacuse I'm not ok with it, but because you should meet everyone's expectations like "why you have no boyfriend?" "how can you stay at home for a week?" "why are you not going to the party?" "why are you so sad?"... I actually wish I was extraverted so I don't have to deal with this type of questions.
I did it and when u put that courage and just do it is so much easier, I was just like her, waiting to be approached and not talk, I am like that as well, but now, I am just sometimes a lot happier that way
I can be social and people tend to like me when I try but it's literally physically exhausting to be out going my nerves can't handle it for long periods of time😔😔
Shyla Saunders from my highschool experience, the movies were pretty damn accurate. All the "popular" kids were complete assholes and not likable in any way, but being popular doesn't mean you're likable.
Yeah, that's sometimes true😖 it sucks especially when ppl actually tell you, "hey you're really quiet/shy" or "you don't talk much do you" I'm just like 🙃
Invaluable advice. I'm a total introvert too, but no one would ever know :) ... Just need my alone time to recharge, than it's back to Super-Social Man!
I think it's fine being an introvert and enjoying your own company. I wanted to be one of those super popular well-liked people, but now I'm happy just being myself and not forcing myself to make friends with everyone. I think it's good to know how to interact with strangers but I won't do it if I don't have to 😂😂😂
I met Sara at Shane and Ryan's meet and hang at Midsummer Scream in July, she was kind off in the corner m i guess bc the people didn't recognize her and they were there for the guys. She made this cute joke about how its strange not being in the center of attention and got a picture with her lol. Honestly, she was so sweet, I am the same way i don't go up to people and say hello and have people come to me. I saw her and thought this is my only chance to meet and talk to her.
I don't quite agree. Being likeable usually means also being popular, you don't always have to be intimidating or supernaturally beautiful. You just associate being popular with being rude I am guessing? Or you have bad experiences?
Chocolatier No, not exactly. In my school I'm friends with a girl who is really popular because she's outgoing, weird, and funny. There's another girl who everyone likes but is more quiet. She isn't usually surrounded by people, but people still like her.
Well, take into account actions and body language, and yeah, there's a ton of quiet people that are popular. Half the people are shy. But of course they aren't going to be on top. Some people take subconscious advantage of shy people.
Laura it doesn't mean you have to wear them everyday but somebody with a completely black wardrobe is showing something that's happening with them. I own a lot of black but I also love hot pink and Royal Purple and have a lot of Jewel tone colors more than black clothes. I also have a cat and black doesn't do well with a gray and white cat. I love black and I have a number of pieces that I adore but an all-black wardrobe? Nope.
omg this was awkward af. Like I'm literally mentally exhausted just from watching sara interacting with ppl. i rly need help lmao my social life is nonexistent....i literally get tired from talking to people
I thought I was the only one, I've had trouble in school with my friends because we aren't that close. But now, I really dont care and that's been the best thing for me.
That's called being introverted. Extroverted people recharge by talking and interacting with others while introverts recharge on their own time and get weared out by social interactions. But there's an in between which are ambiverts.
Just started uni and I've been trying to be more outgoing. Sometimes I've made a real fool of myself but mostly it's been going okay. It just really isn't my thing to be overly outgoing however, I have now found a group of people I accually really like AND some other random people which is nice to have as well. Now I'll just focus on being approachable and nice to people:)
@@cortisol_induced_coma It went very well! I would say the best tips I have are that: 1- start talking to the other ''shy-looking'' people. Then you wont feel as intimidated. Most of them are just like us, they want to make friends but dont know how to start. This is how I made 75% of my friends. 2- but then also learn to let those shy people who dont become more open towards you go. I am still not outgoing enough to carry on a conversation with a wall and wasting social energy on them wont benefit you in the long run. This will build you a group of friends that will attract other potential friends :) I hope it goes well for you!
Someone who I am now friends with once said that before she knew me, she thought I was super negative and hated the world just because I was quiet. I hate assumptions like that.
Renard Ryan a lot of people think introverts are just shy and socially awkward people or stray away from social events and that's NOT TRUE. Introverted people just mean that they get their energy from spending time to themselves or in areas as to what they find relaxing. So say an introvert goes out to some parties or social events for a few days, well then they feel socially drained and just wanna be to themselves afterwards so they can regain their energy to go out again. Unlike an extroverted person, they get their energy BY going to these social events.
Yay! I'm so proud of you Sarah! Good job on trying to be more likable! I feel your struggle, I'm also bad at making friends. So I'm glad you made some new potential friends that week!
Sarah is cool just being herself, don't change for anyone and as you get older you will care less about what people think of you. Self esteem and confidence is sometimes hard to achieve if you think too much about it, just be you!
Sarah and I have a lot in common when it comes to talking and such and it's kinda weird seeing someone like me bc at my school I'm alone with this introvert personality. Everyone is very extroverted and friendly or extroverted and rude but some like them? It's weird lol
Same here.. I'm nice to everyone but I have anxiety that they don't like me talking and I end up being ignored while people who are extroverted and even rude, get a lot of popularity.. I kinda gave up, maybe it's me and I can't do this.. Ah
My mindset is: People can't hate me if I stay off their radar. I try to be the friendly acquaintance. Anything more than a "hello" with a smile and I start thinking I'm giving them a reason to dislike or judge me. ... Introvert + Anxiety = Paranoia
always love the way that sara edits the videos. not sure if its actually her editing since buzzfeed is confusing that way, but theres always this whimsical feel to them that i love
Sara, I relate to all your videos, especially anxiety ones since I am currently seeing a doctor about my anxiety. Thank you for going out of your comfort bubble and doing this experiment. It gives me hope that I can do he same one day. I get the whole awkward thing (reintroducing yourself to someone who knows you or forgetting they were at the same event as you) and it can really bring you down and outweigh the good but you pushed through it and didn't dwell on it which shows you fighting your anxiety. Thank you and please continue to do more.
Abbie glitterz Being a introvert does not have to be equal being quiet or mean. You should talk to people and make small talk if needed. You can't just say it's who I am I can't change it!
Introvert does not equal shy by default, nor does extrovert mean definitely no shy or hesitant. It’s more about how they are stimulated in the same environments with different outcomes.
She says she's too shy but from what I've seen with videos of her it seems more like anxiety. Idk, I think there are a few signs. what do you guys think?
I'm glad seeing the positive outcome for you. What some shy or low-self-esteem people don't realize is that they sometimes come off as self-centered or unfriendly. For example when people with confidence offer their help, their advice, make others feel welcome, respond to invitations ect. it's making them really likeable but it comes from a place of feeling confident that they actually can contribute something, that their opinion is important to someone or that the host is eager to know whether they come to the party or not. Whereas some shy or low-self-esteem people subcinciously think that they don't have anything valuable to offer, that Noone would want to hear their advice or that nobody will notice whether they actually showed up or not. But that us not the case! Others actually would like to hear from them, their help is needed and people wonder about it when they don't show up.. I think for some that is very important to realize 😉 I have some friends like that and I'm sorry but they often come off as jerks when they don't mean to in situations like the ones listed above and more...
Whoever is reading this popularity does not matter. Find a good group of people who love and support you! be who you are, and find friends that accept you for who you are ❤️
I don't think it's necessarily about making friends. For instance at work I always try and be friendly, my friend at work tends to rub people the wrong way. If I ask my boss for something she's really cool with me about it. My friend on the other hand tends to have issues when she asks. That's just one example but there are plenty of situations that pays to be friendly and likeable. I'm not saying to be fake to people either just be kind and treat people the way you want to be treated. You catch more flies with honey then vinegar :)
So I think that we might be the same person lol... but in all seriousness I really appreciate this video. I always feel like people like me don't belong in social, cool environments, but when I see Sara I feel like she belongs. They appreciate her for who she is even though she struggles with the social side. That makes me feel really good, and like putting in the effort is actually worth it. Whereas a lot of times I worry that I just don't belong in those kinds of environments. Thanks Sara!
How did she even get this job if she's so shy? Buzzfeed seems like they want mostly outgoing, likable people. I guess her work spoke louder than she did.
It's easier to talk to people in a job or in a scripted situation than it is to talk to people socially. I can talk in front of a group with no problem as long as I know what I'm going to say. But casually socializing with people is extremely difficult for me. Like her I think I'm bothering them. I'm terrible at small talk.
Chinchilla hats Spontaneous people are unpredictable so if you're quiet all tHe time tHey expect you not to talk for multiple reasons. I've been tHere...
that happens to me A LOT. Always is the hard work the main reason they want you just look at her Instagram all her creativity and her drawings are amazing!
Totally relate to her. I used to be a recluse in school. Mostly kept to myself and didn't really interact or went out. But then I moved abroad for higher education and I told myself I would change my attitude. And it's been 2 years and I have an amazingly diverse social life, some of the greatest friends ever and memories that I will forever cherish. It wasn't an easy journey, there were days when I felt really lonely and disgruntled, but I kept at it. I kept trying to be happier and more outgoing and now I am so much happier. I truly understood that we are social creatures and definitely better in a group.
I think a lot of people are like "don't even worry, you're introverted, it's okay!" but as an introvert I think it's easy to be so in our own heads that we don't realize or truly care if we offend people because of how much we feel our introversion is justified. Seeing this made me realize that it's not about popularity, but to bring people together and make connections is actually a really great thing. I never say hi to people or ask how they are and I assume I come across in a similar way, but it is so important to actually give a hoot. This changed my perspective a lot.
Shelby Badette enjoy it and practice being outgoing now because it's so much worse once you're out. *cries* Especially since career success can come down to networking and knowing people.
I can't be the only person who feels really proud of Sara right? Ironicly I was doing the same thing around the time this was posted (due to starting college/highschool ) so its nice to know that someone else was doing something I struggle with. Proud of you Sara!
I'm just like Sara... Honestly I relate to everything she said in this video. I'm really glad she had the courage to get out of her comfort zone and be social, I wish I could to the same thing.
I'm too shy to function girl this gave me anxiety I can relate I can't talk to people. I even get scared when people know my name but I don't know theirs.
Also the smiling thing is sooo crucial x) Sara has her corners of the mouth going down all the time and when she talks to them it's obviously painful for her (hearing it in the voice and the forced smile), but I think that is something you can learn! Start smiling at yourself, think about what makes you smile and think about what you like about the person you are talking to. That makes it way easier than the thought "oh God I have to smile so that he or she will like me". What makes you actually happy? Share it, let it shine ;)
baby, just don't push yourself over your limit. it's okay to be you. if you're insecure, just THROW all your insecurities from the start. don't change your image in the middle.
This was a real eye opener. Although I need my quiet days, when there are people around I cannot help being sociable and doing all these things Sara worked on. And just to think that, wow, how strange that I never thought of these characteristics as not necessarily coming naturally. But I, too gotta admit: it's tiring!!! Really cool video. I def thought you were super nice! 😘. (Just remember to not change the important things about yourself! 👍🏻)
Ok, i call bulls*it on the "to do" list because literally i do that. I wear bright clothes, i ask a few questions, i smile a whole bunch, i tell jokes. But i'm the most ignored person in school. People forget i'm there. The TEACHERS forget i'm in class. Once my science teacher was doing attendance and he called out for me because he apparently "didn't see me". He asked "Has anyone seen Gaby today?" And EVERYONE SAID "no" WITH THE MOST BORED LOOK!!! I HAD TO RAISE MY HAND AND SAY HERE! Quite loudly too!! Everyone turned around and said "oh" and turned back.. And it hurt... Me being quite an introverted person, it still hurts to be forgotten... Because my goal is to be more "out there". Make more friends beyond the three friends i have... But it just sucks to be forgotten...
IGotARMY TaeJin Hi, yes i understand, the not recognizing thing is really bad but if it doesn't work out for you to have a large bunch of friends, don't force yourself to it , in school I spent years thinking something was wrong with me because some teachers and some kids made me think so. luckily I found some things about introversion, for example a book (Susan Cain "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking") and this website introvertspring.com/ which helped me a lot at least to understand introversion and what had happened. I'm just a girl who is glad to have found this and wanted to share it with you.
love yourself and be who are and try to have fun, dont take it too seriously. try to find whats in common with you and the people around you. take it from me, i was just like you. you grow up and you realize not to take socializing too seriously, nor what others think of you. have fun and be confident in who you are, the good friends will stick around and everyone else you dont need anyway
Honestly she is one of the people who seems the coolest. She seems calm and cool to talk with and I relate to her a lot. Person's own personality is the most important and you shouldn't lose it just to fit.
Aw I LOVE Sara!!! she's like my bestie. I met a shy, quiet, friendly and funny girl at school who I felt was on my level and we have been best friends since 2001! still going strong :) I think sometimes it's not the shy/introverted people who need to make the effort, it sometimes has to come from someone with confidence to approach them and let them know you are interesting and liked.
Staying quiet, always helping people and not insulting them, is an AWESOME way to become likeable. I may not have ANY friends, but everyone knows my name, and I never get bullied. No friends, but no trouble.
Sarah is so naturally lovely and obviously shy I would appreciate just the intention of her being more friendly and sociable towards me. I hope she continues the effort and it becomes easier to her. Good for her.
This is such a great video. Will try out this challenge but when I leave school, I done made my mark as a socially awkward introvert to try this. Oh and btw, Sara, you're actually so cool! Dw, you'll be fine, just be you my girl :)
This is an older video but I love it! I love your quirky personality girl, just be you and let your freak flag fly! I think you're pretty damn down-to-earth and you seem like a sweet caring person but you're just a little shy. I feel odd sometimes talking to people too but I always look at it like this, that's their loss!
THESE ARE THE VIDEOS I WANT FROM BUZZFEED - RELATABLE, ACTUALLY GOOD AND WHAT PEOPLE DONT KNOW THAT THEY WANT. also i realy like sarah's videos anyway. this reminds me of the few videos - other than the worth it videos - that stephan(?) has uploaded to the channrl
This was very interesting to watch. I fall under the shy/reserved spectrum and when at work we were recently talking about what makes each of us different or shine a bit i was surprised to hear that I am very likeable and when people see me they want to talk with me, at events clients search for me or ask for me... I think I never realised about that before and now, it gave me confidence.
I once had laryngitis for 2 weeks. Most of my co-workers did not notice. However, many of them spent a LOT more time talking to me, basically treating me if I were their best friend. While I understood that being a good listener made me more likable, I found it odd that I started liking them more as well. I also learned a very important lesson: you do a lot better job of listening if you aren't figuring out what you can say next!
I'm naturally shy and get anxiety nearly every time I'm about to have a social interaction with someone I'm not entirely comfortable with. But since I've moved from school to school so much, I've had to do what Sarah's doing in this video all the time. It gets easier the more you do it. The anxiety is always there, but at least you know you can overcome it.
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I wanted to hug her when she said that she never says ''hi'' to people because she assumes that people don't want to talk to her.....i can relate so much to that! Working on it though :)
Hi Iris :)
iris v omgfggg same
AngelOfDeath there's nothing wrong with being gay anyway!
I actually introduced myself to only ONE person through my whole life...it worked though - we are still very good friends) Being introverted is difficult af...not beacuse I'm not ok with it, but because you should meet everyone's expectations like "why you have no boyfriend?" "how can you stay at home for a week?" "why are you not going to the party?" "why are you so sad?"... I actually wish I was extraverted so I don't have to deal with this type of questions.
I introduced myself with a guy from my tutorial class and until now we still act like strangers idk why.
Sara always reminds me of the old Buzzfeed, the good times
Uncooked Fish the whole violet team and the try guys honestly
Uncooked Fish same
Uncooked Fish yeah, felt old school when the stuff costed less than $100 which is rare now....
Same
Ah Gosh, yea I really miss the original Buzzfeed cast mates!
I loved watching the Buzzfeed videos from 2013/ 2014/ 2015
Chris Reinacher etc
🙌
I admire her for doing this, it is so far out of my comfort zone to be that social I don't think I could've done it haha
I couldn't either in regular circumstances but i think it's a tad easier when everyone assumes you are making a video about it.
Sammy Edmondson yeah, especially the party
I want to cry 😂
I did it and when u put that courage and just do it is so much easier, I was just like her, waiting to be approached and not talk, I am like that as well, but now, I am just sometimes a lot happier that way
Too shy to function. Same girl same.
Cleo /// *too
School damn it 😴
Cleo /// cough cough/me I am the same way/cough cough
Same
Cleo /// yup yup same here 😭
I can be social and people tend to like me when I try but it's literally physically exhausting to be out going my nerves can't handle it for long periods of time😔😔
Irene Rodriguez same...
Same here ! People don't seem to understand that
Irene Rodriguez GIRL SAME!
Irene Rodriguez same
Kyla Cymone yea most people assume that ur mean or stuck up 🙄
Sarah your awkwardness is what makes you adorable and lovable, and one of my favorite people throughout OG Buzzfeed :)
Onizen she should embrace it
Onizen no offense but her name is actually spelled ‘sara’
Most people think shy = rude, when its really not the case.
Uhh, who thinks that?
Taciturn Insanity. Most people think popular = superficial & conceited. not the case in my experience, just in movies & shows.
Shyla Saunders finally!!
Shyla Saunders from my highschool experience, the movies were pretty damn accurate. All the "popular" kids were complete assholes and not likable in any way, but being popular doesn't mean you're likable.
Yeah, that's sometimes true😖 it sucks especially when ppl actually tell you, "hey you're really quiet/shy" or "you don't talk much do you" I'm just like 🙃
Fake it till u make it is one of my mottos as an introvert.
or until you become so exhausted that you can't take faking anymore and have a break down :)
Ritz Crackerz not unless you fake it so hard you look ridiculous.
Invaluable advice. I'm a total introvert too, but no one would ever know :) ... Just need my alone time to recharge, than it's back to Super-Social Man!
@@ashd5349 how come im social anxious even after that recharge
I think it's fine being an introvert and enjoying your own company. I wanted to be one of those super popular well-liked people, but now I'm happy just being myself and not forcing myself to make friends with everyone. I think it's good to know how to interact with strangers but I won't do it if I don't have to 😂😂😂
Chevi Doll yes
I met Sara at Shane and Ryan's meet and hang at Midsummer Scream in July, she was kind off in the corner m i guess bc the people didn't recognize her and they were there for the guys. She made this cute joke about how its strange not being in the center of attention and got a picture with her lol. Honestly, she was so sweet, I am the same way i don't go up to people and say hello and have people come to me. I saw her and thought this is my only chance to meet and talk to her.
There is a big difference between being likeable and popular.
Patience Kibblewhite so true! The 'popular' kids are usually the most disliked in truth, people are just superficial to them..
Psychedelic hallucinogenic relic of reality exactly!!
I don't quite agree. Being likeable usually means also being popular, you don't always have to be intimidating or supernaturally beautiful. You just associate being popular with being rude I am guessing? Or you have bad experiences?
Chocolatier No, not exactly. In my school I'm friends with a girl who is really popular because she's outgoing, weird, and funny. There's another girl who everyone likes but is more quiet. She isn't usually surrounded by people, but people still like her.
Well, take into account actions and body language, and yeah, there's a ton of quiet people that are popular. Half the people are shy. But of course they aren't going to be on top. Some people take subconscious advantage of shy people.
"wear bright clothes"
nope, i'm out
Same lol. My wardrobe is almost entirely black.
Laura T.O.P is bae tho
black and anything dark that will make me invisible are my colors
Laura I'm mostly into black like no!
Laura it doesn't mean you have to wear them everyday but somebody with a completely black wardrobe is showing something that's happening with them. I own a lot of black but I also love hot pink and Royal Purple and have a lot of Jewel tone colors more than black clothes. I also have a cat and black doesn't do well with a gray and white cat. I love black and I have a number of pieces that I adore but an all-black wardrobe? Nope.
I felt anxious just watching this
Rin L Yee same
Rin L Yee EXACTLY
Rin L Yee same when she was going around and telling jokes 😬
Rin L Yee omg yes haha same
Rin L Yee same omg
omg this was awkward af. Like I'm literally mentally exhausted just from watching sara interacting with ppl. i rly need help lmao my social life is nonexistent....i literally get tired from talking to people
Olga Pasternak Jesus is a great friend invite Him into your life and heart
K Channel It’s been about a year, and I still can’t figure out if this is a joke or not.
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I thought I was the only one, I've had trouble in school with my friends because we aren't that close. But now, I really dont care and that's been the best thing for me.
That's called being introverted. Extroverted people recharge by talking and interacting with others while introverts recharge on their own time and get weared out by social interactions. But there's an in between which are ambiverts.
"Too shy to function"
Me everyday
And night
Same 😖
Aura 225 ugh yess :(
Same!
I relate so much
Just started uni and I've been trying to be more outgoing. Sometimes I've made a real fool of myself but mostly it's been going okay. It just really isn't my thing to be overly outgoing however, I have now found a group of people I accually really like AND some other random people which is nice to have as well. Now I'll just focus on being approachable and nice to people:)
Hey! I'm going to start as a Freshman at uni in two months and planning to begin being more outgoing as well, how did that end up going for you?
@@cortisol_induced_coma It went very well! I would say the best tips I have are that:
1- start talking to the other ''shy-looking'' people. Then you wont feel as intimidated. Most of them are just like us, they want to make friends but dont know how to start. This is how I made 75% of my friends.
2- but then also learn to let those shy people who dont become more open towards you go. I am still not outgoing enough to carry on a conversation with a wall and wasting social energy on them wont benefit you in the long run.
This will build you a group of friends that will attract other potential friends :)
I hope it goes well for you!
@@Arthe5 Thanks for the tips!! I'll keep them in mind :D
ill stick to being alone and silent
Lauren Payne same
Thats not good, try being social. Its fun
Shane Heaps you ever heard of the word: shy?
Yup, same here, definitely 😂
Lauren Payne same here. Virtual high five
AHAHAHA
*tries to be social*
“ARE YOU HOARDING ALL THIS FRUIT”
Fruitcup94 😂😂
Sara is me- except likeable and cute
yeah, dont sell yourself short. Our own worst personal judge will always be ourselves. Give yourself a break because no one is perfect.
As an introvert, this is exhausting to watch.
She's so relatable I love her❤️
Someone who I am now friends with once said that before she knew me, she thought I was super negative and hated the world just because I was quiet. I hate assumptions like that.
But most introverts know socializing can be tiring and pointless?
sometimes I want to say something to someone and I never do it cause I'm bored 😂
It was exhausting just watching this 😬
Pointless? Not necessarily. Tiring? You betcha 😴
I would get anxiety trying to be social.
Renard Ryan a lot of people think introverts are just shy and socially awkward people or stray away from social events and that's NOT TRUE. Introverted people just mean that they get their energy from spending time to themselves or in areas as to what they find relaxing. So say an introvert goes out to some parties or social events for a few days, well then they feel socially drained and just wanna be to themselves afterwards so they can regain their energy to go out again. Unlike an extroverted person, they get their energy BY going to these social events.
"Smile more" *Oh god help me*
yeah sara!
how do you know my name? are you stalking me
This doesn't apply to your comment but I love your icon picture!!!!
Lek la yea!
I love the purple hair
I don't even need notifications. I see sara, i click
I guess the video worked then.
*Sara
i smack daily
comment on my latest vid what i should post next
Pinky Chunky if
I click. Then I click away.
Yay! I'm so proud of you Sarah! Good job on trying to be more likable! I feel your struggle, I'm also bad at making friends. So I'm glad you made some new potential friends that week!
This looks like a nightmare
I don't think people realise just how tough this challenge can be for shy people. Well done Sara! You honestly did a great job, props to you girl :-)
your aesthetic is lizzie mcguire's lil bro and i'm in love with it
❤️ I'm 27 and I still fall into that "shouldn't I have more friends by now?" feeling too.
Sarah is cool just being herself, don't change for anyone and as you get older you will care less about what people think of you.
Self esteem and confidence is sometimes hard to achieve if you think too much about it, just be you!
Slowlikehoney Too I agree. It's also good to get out the re and meet new people. She's not changing herself just being open and making new friends
Sarah and I have a lot in common when it comes to talking and such and it's kinda weird seeing someone like me bc at my school I'm alone with this introvert personality. Everyone is very extroverted and friendly or extroverted and rude but some like them? It's weird lol
Same here.. I'm nice to everyone but I have anxiety that they don't like me talking and I end up being ignored while people who are extroverted and even rude, get a lot of popularity.. I kinda gave up, maybe it's me and I can't do this.. Ah
My mindset is: People can't hate me if I stay off their radar. I try to be the friendly acquaintance. Anything more than a "hello" with a smile and I start thinking I'm giving them a reason to dislike or judge me. ... Introvert + Anxiety = Paranoia
:(
Haha same
People can hate you if you stay off their radar
always love the way that sara edits the videos. not sure if its actually her editing since buzzfeed is confusing that way, but theres always this whimsical feel to them that i love
Yay! I love seeing Sara in BuzzFeed videos!
Sara, I relate to all your videos, especially anxiety ones since I am currently seeing a doctor about my anxiety. Thank you for going out of your comfort bubble and doing this experiment. It gives me hope that I can do he same one day. I get the whole awkward thing (reintroducing yourself to someone who knows you or forgetting they were at the same event as you) and it can really bring you down and outweigh the good but you pushed through it and didn't dwell on it which shows you fighting your anxiety. Thank you and please continue to do more.
I don't like talking to people...
THANKS FOR THE LIKES :D
_TunaFishxMSP_ Same, this is probably y I don't have any friends at school...
_TunaFishxMSP_ i became like that and i'm so distant to my friends rightnow thaat i dont saay more than a sentence a day
_TunaFishxMSP_ wow this is depressing ^^
yall are tragic
SubRedditNe stfu
Very weird timing. I realized over the weekend how much I've ignored friends to stay in bed and watch Netflix.
i feel like this isnt who you are you are more reserved and you dont have a big group of people but thats a good thing
you dont decide who she is
Being an introvert in our world freaking sucks but it's who I am. I can't pretend to be anything else! Neither should any yall!!!
Abbie glitterz Being a introvert does not have to be equal being quiet or mean. You should talk to people and make small talk if needed. You can't just say it's who I am I can't change it!
sena x ? They never mentioned anything about being rude to anyone..
Introvert does not equal shy by default, nor does extrovert mean definitely no shy or hesitant. It’s more about how they are stimulated in the same environments with different outcomes.
SHANE
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She says she's too shy but from what I've seen with videos of her it seems more like anxiety. Idk, I think there are a few signs. what do you guys think?
who is she?
I said no out loud when it asked me if I would do this challenge...
your profile pic made me think i had hair on my laptop screen...i actually tried to brush it away hahah
I would to just get me out of my comfort zone
I'm glad seeing the positive outcome for you. What some shy or low-self-esteem people don't realize is that they sometimes come off as self-centered or unfriendly. For example when people with confidence offer their help, their advice, make others feel welcome, respond to invitations ect. it's making them really likeable but it comes from a place of feeling confident that they actually can contribute something, that their opinion is important to someone or that the host is eager to know whether they come to the party or not. Whereas some shy or low-self-esteem people subcinciously think that they don't have anything valuable to offer, that Noone would want to hear their advice or that nobody will notice whether they actually showed up or not. But that us not the case! Others actually would like to hear from them, their help is needed and people wonder about it when they don't show up.. I think for some that is very important to realize 😉 I have some friends like that and I'm sorry but they often come off as jerks when they don't mean to in situations like the ones listed above and more...
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Coworker giving advice: "I like when people make eye contact with me".
Sarah: *instantly looks away*
Whoever is reading this popularity does not matter. Find a good group of people who love and support you! be who you are, and find friends that accept you for who you are ❤️
Yeah, good advice, but the finding real friends part you are underestimating
I don't think it's necessarily about making friends. For instance at work I always try and be friendly, my friend at work tends to rub people the wrong way. If I ask my boss for something she's really cool with me about it. My friend on the other hand tends to have issues when she asks. That's just one example but there are plenty of situations that pays to be friendly and likeable. I'm not saying to be fake to people either just be kind and treat people the way you want to be treated. You catch more flies with honey then vinegar :)
*watched this video because I am an introverted event planner and need all the help i can get*
Alexandra Mei but it's tough to find a group of friends to connect with if you're hella shy like Sarah is.
Alexandra Mei I can't even talk to people ;-; but I still agree lol
So I think that we might be the same person lol... but in all seriousness I really appreciate this video. I always feel like people like me don't belong in social, cool environments, but when I see Sara I feel like she belongs. They appreciate her for who she is even though she struggles with the social side. That makes me feel really good, and like putting in the effort is actually worth it. Whereas a lot of times I worry that I just don't belong in those kinds of environments. Thanks Sara!
the not saying hi is so me. i'm so afraid that people won't remember me or say hi back. i get anxious every time i see someone i know...
How did she even get this job if she's so shy? Buzzfeed seems like they want mostly outgoing, likable people. I guess her work spoke louder than she did.
It's easier to talk to people in a job or in a scripted situation than it is to talk to people socially. I can talk in front of a group with no problem as long as I know what I'm going to say. But casually socializing with people is extremely difficult for me. Like her I think I'm bothering them. I'm terrible at small talk.
Work ethic booboo. Says alot
Chinchilla hats Spontaneous people are unpredictable so if you're quiet all tHe time tHey expect you not to talk for multiple reasons. I've been tHere...
that happens to me A LOT. Always is the hard work the main reason they want you just look at her Instagram all her creativity and her drawings are amazing!
Chinchilla hats that's exactly what happens to me, I don't try to talk to people because I think I'm bothering them... btw your name is really cool
Totally relate to her. I used to be a recluse in school. Mostly kept to myself and didn't really interact or went out. But then I moved abroad for higher education and I told myself I would change my attitude. And it's been 2 years and I have an amazingly diverse social life, some of the greatest friends ever and memories that I will forever cherish. It wasn't an easy journey, there were days when I felt really lonely and disgruntled, but I kept at it. I kept trying to be happier and more outgoing and now I am so much happier. I truly understood that we are social creatures and definitely better in a group.
But some of us already love you Sara! I met a lot of my current best friends by sitting on my own, reading a book.
I think a lot of people are like "don't even worry, you're introverted, it's okay!" but as an introvert I think it's easy to be so in our own heads that we don't realize or truly care if we offend people because of how much we feel our introversion is justified. Seeing this made me realize that it's not about popularity, but to bring people together and make connections is actually a really great thing. I never say hi to people or ask how they are and I assume I come across in a similar way, but it is so important to actually give a hoot. This changed my perspective a lot.
Being a introvert in college is SO hard omg like if u can relate
Shelby Badette enjoy it and practice being outgoing now because it's so much worse once you're out. *cries* Especially since career success can come down to networking and knowing people.
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I literally quit college because of this....I’m super shy and awkward ...I hate doing group activities or presenting in front of class...
Yessss. Attracted more bullies than friends lol
I can't be the only person who feels really proud of Sara right? Ironicly I was doing the same thing around the time this was posted (due to starting college/highschool ) so its nice to know that someone else was doing something I struggle with. Proud of you Sara!
We've ALL tried it once.... didn't go so well for me....
I'm just like Sara... Honestly I relate to everything she said in this video. I'm really glad she had the courage to get out of her comfort zone and be social, I wish I could to the same thing.
I'm too shy to function girl this gave me anxiety I can relate I can't talk to people. I even get scared when people know my name but I don't know theirs.
so true, people knowing your name or knowing something about you but you don't even know them or how they found out about it can be really scary 😨
Also the smiling thing is sooo crucial x) Sara has her corners of the mouth going down all the time and when she talks to them it's obviously painful for her (hearing it in the voice and the forced smile), but I think that is something you can learn! Start smiling at yourself, think about what makes you smile and think about what you like about the person you are talking to. That makes it way easier than the thought "oh God I have to smile so that he or she will like me". What makes you actually happy? Share it, let it shine ;)
baby, just don't push yourself over your limit. it's okay to be you. if you're insecure, just THROW all your insecurities from the start. don't change your image in the middle.
She is so adorable. I like her.
oh mai gaw sarah ruben
*whispers* i love you
This was a real eye opener. Although I need my quiet days, when there are people around I cannot help being sociable and doing all these things Sara worked on. And just to think that, wow, how strange that I never thought of these characteristics as not necessarily coming naturally. But I, too gotta admit: it's tiring!!!
Really cool video. I def thought you were super nice! 😘.
(Just remember to not change the important things about yourself! 👍🏻)
Why be popular? Just be you!
okay, sarah, that blue dress on day 4 is so freaking gorgeous on you. you are stunning. slay my life.
Ok, i call bulls*it on the "to do" list because literally i do that. I wear bright clothes, i ask a few questions, i smile a whole bunch, i tell jokes. But i'm the most ignored person in school. People forget i'm there. The TEACHERS forget i'm in class. Once my science teacher was doing attendance and he called out for me because he apparently "didn't see me". He asked "Has anyone seen Gaby today?" And EVERYONE SAID "no" WITH THE MOST BORED LOOK!!! I HAD TO RAISE MY HAND AND SAY HERE! Quite loudly too!! Everyone turned around and said "oh" and turned back.. And it hurt... Me being quite an introverted person, it still hurts to be forgotten... Because my goal is to be more "out there". Make more friends beyond the three friends i have... But it just sucks to be forgotten...
IGotARMY TaeJin I see you
IGotARMY TaeJin Hi, yes i understand, the not recognizing thing is really bad but if it doesn't work out for you to have a large bunch of friends, don't force yourself to it , in school I spent years thinking something was wrong with me because some teachers and some kids made me think so. luckily I found some things about introversion, for example a book (Susan Cain "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking") and this website introvertspring.com/ which helped me a lot at least to understand introversion and what had happened. I'm just a girl who is glad to have found this and wanted to share it with you.
love yourself and be who are and try to have fun, dont take it too seriously. try to find whats in common with you and the people around you. take it from me, i was just like you. you grow up and you realize not to take socializing too seriously, nor what others think of you. have fun and be confident in who you are, the good friends will stick around and everyone else you dont need anyway
Same.
Hang in there. Use it like a superpower. After you finish school, it'll seem different :)
Just wanted to say I think its really cool you did this Sara.. You've inspired me to work on this for myself :)
Sara is literally me. Thank you buzzed for this delightful video
"You can be pretty savage" "I'm savage in a fun way" "that's what you think" *me too* 💀
I got free beer, free cookies, and free cake.
Honestly she is one of the people who seems the coolest. She seems calm and cool to talk with and I relate to her a lot. Person's own personality is the most important and you shouldn't lose it just to fit.
I’m an introvert too so after the party I wouldn’t talk to anyone for like a month!
Aw I LOVE Sara!!! she's like my bestie. I met a shy, quiet, friendly and funny girl at school who I felt was on my level and we have been best friends since 2001! still going strong :) I think sometimes it's not the shy/introverted people who need to make the effort, it sometimes has to come from someone with confidence to approach them and let them know you are interesting and liked.
sara is without a shadow of a doubt is amongst the most likeable person
Staying quiet, always helping people and not insulting them,
is an AWESOME way to become likeable. I may not have ANY friends,
but everyone knows my name, and I never get bullied.
No friends, but no trouble.
omg she's so reletable :'D
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You did a great job. I love the new hair too. Keep on rockin girl!
Omg Sara is too cute and totally relatable!!
Sarah is so naturally lovely and obviously shy I would appreciate just the intention of her being more friendly and sociable towards me. I hope she continues the effort and it becomes easier to her. Good for her.
I felt so sad for her the whole time...from one socially awkward person to another😅
This is such a great video. Will try out this challenge but when I leave school, I done made my mark as a socially awkward introvert to try this. Oh and btw, Sara, you're actually so cool! Dw, you'll be fine, just be you my girl :)
Sarah is too freaking adorable
This is an older video but I love it! I love your quirky personality girl, just be you and let your freak flag fly! I think you're pretty damn down-to-earth and you seem like a sweet caring person but you're just a little shy. I feel odd sometimes talking to people too but I always look at it like this, that's their loss!
Sara look like an adult verson of the little girl from the bad neighbors movie! Thats so cute
This is so cool. Not even just being popular but the likeable part is important. Good job buzz feed. :D
The guys at 6:46 remind mE of the THREE BLIND MICE LOL
Best Buzzfeed vid in a while! Awesome job Sara!!
Sarah is literally me...😅
THESE ARE THE VIDEOS I WANT FROM BUZZFEED - RELATABLE, ACTUALLY GOOD AND WHAT PEOPLE DONT KNOW THAT THEY WANT. also i realy like sarah's videos anyway.
this reminds me of the few videos - other than the worth it videos - that stephan(?) has uploaded to the channrl
I hate when you go up to people and they stare at you
This was very interesting to watch. I fall under the shy/reserved spectrum and when at work we were recently talking about what makes each of us different or shine a bit i was surprised to hear that I am very likeable and when people see me they want to talk with me, at events clients search for me or ask for me... I think I never realised about that before and now, it gave me confidence.
Final question: definitely!
I once had laryngitis for 2 weeks. Most of my co-workers did not notice. However, many of them spent a LOT more time talking to me, basically treating me if I were their best friend. While I understood that being a good listener made me more likable, I found it odd that I started liking them more as well. I also learned a very important lesson: you do a lot better job of listening if you aren't figuring out what you can say next!
When you're an introvert who gets forced into social situations a lot so i basically become an amazing actor until i need to leave
I'm naturally shy and get anxiety nearly every time I'm about to have a social interaction with someone I'm not entirely comfortable with. But since I've moved from school to school so much, I've had to do what Sarah's doing in this video all the time. It gets easier the more you do it. The anxiety is always there, but at least you know you can overcome it.
6:25 shaaaaanne
Maggie Perry *wheeze*
She's Shane's girlfriend lol
that was very awkward but informative and quite refreshing and positive, thankyou Sarah
Good video keep up the good work👏🏻👍🏻
Yay for Sarah 💗💗 she seemed so happy to hear that other people noticed her kindness & manners shining through her awkwardness.