I just can't understand how this young guy, I mean Ismael, can understand relationships so well, much better than I do in my 40+ )). But some of his pieces of advice are really deep and wise. Listening to him I feel myself pretty immature )). I wonder why I didn't realize all these pretty simple things before. Thanks Ismael.
Exactly! When you don’t like being on dating apps, you need to be out there, amongst co-workers and their friends, your friends and their friends, attending birthday parties and weddings. That’s how you’ll meet men.
All these points are spot on. But the last and most important one is missing. And that's your attachment style. We tent to feel attracted to guys who are avoidant. Most women always want to get that guys who seems to make them chase or don't want commitment. It's all points together somehow. So instead on focusing on the side effects we should cure the "illness": Past traumas. People who always have the feeling to attract the wrong ones need therapy if it's a pattern. I'm happy married and these kind of videos help me to find my man. But that's just the beginning. If you think you find the guy and everything is now fixed is totally wrong. If you haven't heal then problems will come because you won't be happy. You need to heal inside (in my case it happened with my husband besides me which wasn't easy for him) or you start before a relationship. Another person isn't the source of happiness. It's your own job...
One important thing: if he is not asking about your day to day life, or how you are doing, he is not into it. That is a red flag. A big one. A person who is not interested in you long term is not interested in knowing how you are. Another thing is that if you are sick, if I’m not wrong, he will provide help, ask if you need anything, that shows real interest, but if he is not doing that, well, even if he says the opposite, he is not seeing a future.
I agree, if he's not showing genuine interest in your well-being or offering help when you're sick, it's a clear sign he may not be invested in a long-term relationship.
great advice thank you Ismael. And especially the last thing you said about revisiting videos... that's such a good idea, i couldn't agree more. Have a beautiful day :)
Omg the last advice is just amazing you're right completely thank you for making everything a lot easier You're right about everything you said I start following your advice and now I meet my dreams man ♥️
Dating men isn’t about lowering your standards. It’s about finding someone who meets your values while staying true to yourself. I always say is like planting seeds-you’ll only see growth if you know what to water and what to weed out.
@@SaveTheMessenger But you can only weed out if it is planted in a small pot. If it is a big field, most seed are look alike when it starting to grow though; 2 leaves… just saying. But I love the analogy. It makes sense, but still hard to discern at the beginning. Trained eye will have it easier to recognize.
Create a Checklist of: his TREATMENT of you, not his TRAITS! Spot on, Ismael! Instead of: tall, dark and handsome - he will respect my boundaries, he will be patient with me, he will be showing he values me, he will be communicating with me consistently, he will cherish me, he will be there for me when I need his help.
Well if tall, dark , and handsome is what you're physically attracted to, then why try gaslight women into situations where they will compromise that part of their lives and preferences. If it's men, everyone will sya they are visual so women better starve and pay up all sorts of money to fit the standard of beauty or not even be considered valid women at all. So let women also have their preferences for physical looks. With that being said. Everything else you said is true. Tall dark and handsome, is not an excuse to be a terrible human being. There are good looking people with good character. So a woman should make sure she can be satisfied with the looks and well as pay attention to character as you mention.
1. Set your intentions 2. Visualise the treatment not the traits 3. Low effort vs high effort 4. Is he evaluating you too? 5. Set your deal-breaker 6. Friendships open many doors 7. Don't overshare about your past
I love your advice Ishmael. If it’s ever on your heart I would love to hear you go into more context when giving your tips! Maybe a few longer videos here and there! 😊
I just had a weird incident happen to me I was dating a guy that I’ve liked for 2 years from my last job the feelings were mutual we just started dating 3 months ago but he suddenly dropped me because he believed someone he’s very close to about something I said when I didn’t say it he chose to believe this guy he calls his brother I am utterly shocked and confused that he did that 💔
I would be mad. Ok, he doesn't know you as well as that guy but he should give you a benefit of doubt (or how it's called in English, it's not my native language). If a guy breaks up because such a thing. How should you rely on a him in other situations in life. Trust is fundamentally to have a relationship. I don't know what he said but if it was cheating or similar he's projecting his past at you which is unfair.
Well, it's not so difficult to figure out what a man stands for. See how he treats other people. The waiter... and so on. Genuine, respectful!!! That's how he will treat you.
I very well agree that you have to have non-negotiables for yourself as a woman. I know that a couple times recently, I met a couple guys who were a lot older than me, who already had kids, and that is a non negotiable for me! I want to meet someone who doesn’t have a family yet and wants to be a father and start a family with a woman. ❤Someone around my age, not someone who has already been there done that and is just looking for someone younger, after they have been divorced! I dont think so! If you guys know what I mean!
Question: why do men understand that in order to have a career & money they have to spend their time and energy to study and then work hard for it, but they don't understand that to have quality relationships requires the same? Why do they excell at work but are so incompetent in personal relations?
I just met a guy 1.5 months back... he's literally the dream guy ( the one who I've always wished for) he tells me everything we're on a call 24*7 but he hasn't asked me out yet!!! Should I ask him out? ( It's a LDR) ISMAEL please help me out
Sir , is that okay that Im asking my lover to give the password. When we meet he didn't give me his phone just to click one picture . Is that okay ? When am asking repeatedly for password he says alot of excuses. All that confusing me very much. I just want to know how he talking with his female friends. Pls give me an explanation sir 🙂
Hey Ismael-was the last one my suggestion, when I asked you (at your short videos) how about the past-that I have to tell every new potential boyfriend that I was a sex worker (prostitute, escort) and that I went on a lot of swinger parties. I was really owesharing all this, because I wanted to be honest. And I wanted that they hear this from me, not from some other person. After this video I will tell them only the facts (swinger, prostitite) - for all the details they will have to ask me. No more oversharing hot juicy stories from my past, if they don"t ask me for the details...but if they will, I still want to be honest ❤
Hmm...if I tell it too late (when is both side emotional connection) I risk that it will hurt me, if he will not accept it and if he will change his behavior because of that information (from consistency to inconsistency, it allready happened to me). My opinion in that I want to tell it as soon as possible-just to feel relaxed and burden free (within 5 dates to find the right moment, firs check his opinion about prostitutes, ask him if he allready tried this...and than tell the whole facts about my past). Than he can decide if he wants to contunue the dates or not. For my opinion is more fair like this than waiting, that we are in love and than tell him something what can destroy our relationship. What do you think, Ismael ?
@@marusakoser7793 Maybe share after the third or fourth date. Gradually lead into it giving scenaros about different situations to see his mindset about your former lifestyle. Does he believe in forgiveness & your past being behind you & not a part of your future?
Yes, I would never cheat. That's against all my values and morals where I stand by. Then I even prefer she would cheat, but that would mean the end of the relationship.
Iam married to a man who has followed many actress in insta then i fought and he quitted again i saw women follwers and when i asked he called me cheap then he said idk how she came he said take a screenshot i will remove i dont have any time to remove them .he don't share anything about his home,he dont care about my safety all he want is just to protect his mom and dad. And whenever i ask him why u did like this or something he will say idk it was misunderstanding by you. Is he cheating me
Hey Ismael, you’re not getting much views on your videos even after 140K+ subs. Audience gets bored of raw and unedited videos. I’m willing to edit videos for your channel and I’m re-editing a video of yours, I’ll point out a few mistakes too, as I’m an experienced editor myself. So if you actually want to hire an editor and take your content to the next level, kindly provide me a way to reach out to you so I can show you my skills and we can discuss further. Peace.
unfortunately most american dating coaches give the most toxic untrue destructive advice it seems... i usually stay away from everything american as much as possible....but i am american and live in america 😂... but at least i have access to good advice from a beautiful spanish man on youtube ❤
Dating a mature man who is secure, emotionally available and ready for a serious relationship is easy if he is not this it is difficult dating men.
Amazing advice. Best dating coach on TH-cam!!
Thank you. I'm humbled.
These are all great advice. However, the problem is only a few men meet these qualities and they are so hard to find.
I just can't understand how this young guy, I mean Ismael, can understand relationships so well, much better than I do in my 40+ )). But some of his pieces of advice are really deep and wise. Listening to him I feel myself pretty immature )). I wonder why I didn't realize all these pretty simple things before. Thanks Ismael.
Exactly! When you don’t like being on dating apps, you need to be out there, amongst co-workers and their friends, your friends and their friends, attending birthday parties and weddings. That’s how you’ll meet men.
All these points are spot on. But the last and most important one is missing. And that's your attachment style. We tent to feel attracted to guys who are avoidant. Most women always want to get that guys who seems to make them chase or don't want commitment. It's all points together somehow. So instead on focusing on the side effects we should cure the "illness": Past traumas. People who always have the feeling to attract the wrong ones need therapy if it's a pattern.
I'm happy married and these kind of videos help me to find my man. But that's just the beginning. If you think you find the guy and everything is now fixed is totally wrong. If you haven't heal then problems will come because you won't be happy. You need to heal inside (in my case it happened with my husband besides me which wasn't easy for him) or you start before a relationship. Another person isn't the source of happiness. It's your own job...
Great points. Thank you for taking the time to write such a thoughtful and detailed comment.
@SaveTheMessenger You're welcome 😊
One important thing: if he is not asking about your day to day life, or how you are doing, he is not into it. That is a red flag. A big one. A person who is not interested in you long term is not interested in knowing how you are. Another thing is that if you are sick, if I’m not wrong, he will provide help, ask if you need anything, that shows real interest, but if he is not doing that, well, even if he says the opposite, he is not seeing a future.
I agree, if he's not showing genuine interest in your well-being or offering help when you're sick, it's a clear sign he may not be invested in a long-term relationship.
great advice thank you Ismael. And especially the last thing you said about revisiting videos... that's such a good idea, i couldn't agree more. Have a beautiful day :)
Thanks Ismael,with your videos you are opening my eyes more and more
every day 💕
Thank you Ismael for your wise advise and honesty about yourself. Very humble and meaningful. ❤
You're very welcome. I'm glad my words could resonate with you.
Happy holidays! Your videos helped me so much, thank you ♥
Happy holidays. Many blessings to you and your family.
Omg the last advice is just amazing you're right completely thank you for making everything a lot easier
You're right about everything you said I start following your advice and now I meet my dreams man ♥️
You are right!! The last message is really helpful.. reminders help
Many thanksss😊👏
Dating men is easy if you have awful standards. Dating men is impossible if you actually have any kind of self respect.
I disagree, it's easier bc you'll spot the red flags sooner and not allow them to continue
Dating men isn’t about lowering your standards. It’s about finding someone who meets your values while staying true to yourself. I always say is like planting seeds-you’ll only see growth if you know what to water and what to weed out.
@@SaveTheMessenger But you can only weed out if it is planted in a small pot. If it is a big field, most seed are look alike when it starting to grow though; 2 leaves… just saying. But I love the analogy. It makes sense, but still hard to discern at the beginning. Trained eye will have it easier to recognize.
You r amazing, I learned a lot from you. Thank you for your videos....
gracias Ismael
Very good advice! Thanks
Create a Checklist of: his TREATMENT of you, not his TRAITS! Spot on, Ismael! Instead of: tall, dark and handsome - he will respect my boundaries, he will be patient with me, he will be showing he values me, he will be communicating with me consistently, he will cherish me, he will be there for me when I need his help.
Well if tall, dark , and handsome is what you're physically attracted to, then why try gaslight women into situations where they will compromise that part of their lives and preferences. If it's men, everyone will sya they are visual so women better starve and pay up all sorts of money to fit the standard of beauty or not even be considered valid women at all. So let women also have their preferences for physical looks.
With that being said. Everything else you said is true. Tall dark and handsome, is not an excuse to be a terrible human being. There are good looking people with good character. So a woman should make sure she can be satisfied with the looks and well as pay attention to character as you mention.
1. Set your intentions
2. Visualise the treatment not the traits
3. Low effort vs high effort
4. Is he evaluating you too?
5. Set your deal-breaker
6. Friendships open many doors
7. Don't overshare about your past
Thank you very much .
maybe you dont realise but you help always
That's very kind of you to say. Thank you.
@@SaveTheMessenger welcome
u are really handsome❤❤❤ and u offer very unique insightful true advice . thank you❤..its really helping me already❤
This is a really good video. New year, new intentions! Thanks Ismail
Thank you. This is really helpful. I am missing the boat on so many of these points. 😅
I love your advice Ishmael. If it’s ever on your heart I would love to hear you go into more context when giving your tips! Maybe a few longer videos here and there! 😊
Thank you!
Thank you Ismael, great advice I wish i could have you in my ear all day long with your advice.
You're very welcome. I'm glad the advice resonated with you.
I just had a weird incident happen to me I was dating a guy that I’ve liked for 2 years from my last job the feelings were mutual we just started dating 3 months ago but he suddenly dropped me because he believed someone he’s very close to about something I said when I didn’t say it he chose to believe this guy he calls his brother I am utterly shocked and confused that he did that 💔
There must have been more red flags he was dealing with. A man who truly loves you wouldn’t do this so you dodged a bullet.
I agree. To me, that sounds like an excuse to walk away.
I would be mad. Ok, he doesn't know you as well as that guy but he should give you a benefit of doubt (or how it's called in English, it's not my native language). If a guy breaks up because such a thing. How should you rely on a him in other situations in life. Trust is fundamentally to have a relationship. I don't know what he said but if it was cheating or similar he's projecting his past at you which is unfair.
Well, it's not so difficult to figure out what a man stands for. See how he treats other people. The waiter... and so on. Genuine, respectful!!! That's how he will treat you.
Any advice for shy people who are new to this dating thing?☺️
Thank you
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I very well agree that you have to have non-negotiables for yourself as a woman. I know that a couple times recently, I met a couple guys who were a lot older than me, who already had kids, and that is a non negotiable for me! I want to meet someone who doesn’t have a family yet and wants to be a father and start a family with a woman. ❤Someone around my age, not someone who has already been there done that and is just looking for someone younger, after they have been divorced! I dont think so! If you guys know what I mean!
❤ this is my nz
Question: why do men understand that in order to have a career & money they have to spend their time and energy to study and then work hard for it, but they don't understand that to have quality relationships requires the same? Why do they excell at work but are so incompetent in personal relations?
First ❤
The early bird gets the worm.
Good advice
Thank you, Yolanda.
I just met a guy 1.5 months back... he's literally the dream guy ( the one who I've always wished for) he tells me everything we're on a call 24*7 but he hasn't asked me out yet!!! Should I ask him out? ( It's a LDR)
ISMAEL please help me out
No dear... don't ask him out. If he can't plan the date for you, how will he even plan the future for both of you?
Sir , is that okay that Im asking my lover to give the password. When we meet he didn't give me his phone just to click one picture . Is that okay ? When am asking repeatedly for password he says alot of excuses. All that confusing me very much. I just want to know how he talking with his female friends. Pls give me an explanation sir 🙂
Social media password
Absolutely informative! Thanks for sharing such amazing tips, Ismael ! ❤✨
Hey Ismael-was the last one my suggestion, when I asked you (at your short videos) how about the past-that I have to tell every new potential boyfriend that I was a sex worker (prostitute, escort) and that I went on a lot of swinger parties. I was really owesharing all this, because I wanted to be honest. And I wanted that they hear this from me, not from some other person. After this video I will tell them only the facts (swinger, prostitite) - for all the details they will have to ask me. No more oversharing hot juicy stories from my past, if they don"t ask me for the details...but if they will, I still want to be honest ❤
Wait with that information until the guy is emotionally connected to you. Most guys are really insecure.
Hmm...if I tell it too late (when is both side emotional connection) I risk that it will hurt me, if he will not accept it and if he will change his behavior because of that information (from consistency to inconsistency, it allready happened to me). My opinion in that I want to tell it as soon as possible-just to feel relaxed and burden free (within 5 dates to find the right moment, firs check his opinion about prostitutes, ask him if he allready tried this...and than tell the whole facts about my past). Than he can decide if he wants to contunue the dates or not. For my opinion is more fair like this than waiting, that we are in love and than tell him something what can destroy our relationship. What do you think, Ismael ?
@@marusakoser7793 Maybe share after the third or fourth date. Gradually lead into it giving scenaros about different situations to see his mindset about your former lifestyle. Does he believe in forgiveness & your past being behind you & not a part of your future?
Yeah sounds familiar..😮
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we are in 11 yrs relationship, but he’s loosing interest in me during this 1 yr, we can meet only once in 2 weeks, what should i do?
Look up my videos on detachment. They should help you.
@ Thank you so much…
Loyal man? Does he exist?
Yes, I would never cheat. That's against all my values and morals where I stand by. Then I even prefer she would cheat, but that would mean the end of the relationship.
I want to meet my dream man
Can we clone you? I'll take 3!
Iam married to a man who has followed many actress in insta then i fought and he quitted again i saw women follwers and when i asked he called me cheap then he said idk how she came he said take a screenshot i will remove i dont have any time to remove them .he don't share anything about his home,he dont care about my safety all he want is just to protect his mom and dad. And whenever i ask him why u did like this or something he will say idk it was misunderstanding by you. Is he cheating me
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Hey Ismael, you’re not getting much views on your videos even after 140K+ subs. Audience gets bored of raw and unedited videos. I’m willing to edit videos for your channel and I’m re-editing a video of yours, I’ll point out a few mistakes too, as I’m an experienced editor myself. So if you actually want to hire an editor and take your content to the next level, kindly provide me a way to reach out to you so I can show you my skills and we can discuss further. Peace.
unfortunately most american dating coaches give the most toxic untrue destructive advice it seems... i usually stay away from everything american as much as possible....but i am american and live in america 😂... but at least i have access to good advice from a beautiful spanish man on youtube ❤
those men are NOT in US ….
I know many like that here. What state do you live in?
Gemm🤌🏻