You guys handled this subject perfectly, THANKS!! I'm now 81 and married 52 years to the same wonderful wife. As a widower now I can say my best memories are with my wife and kids. As you said, life isn't perfect, our marriage was not perfect BUT divorce was NEVER considered or on the table as options!! With my wife now gone, I feel like a bird without one wing!!
Your tree could evolve to a shamrock tree. Then an Easter bunny tree. Do patriotic for Memorial, Labor, etc. Fall leaves, then Halloween, Thanksgiving pilgrims. Tada. Back to Christmas!
We just celebrated 50 years together. I was married at the age of 16 to an alcoholic and abuser for almost 3 years. I had the strength to finally get out. The day my divorce became final I met my hubby. He kissed me that night and I told him "give me 3 months and we'll be married" 3 months later turned into 50 years and still on our honeymoon. We're both retired and are also together 24/7. Our secret .... never go to bed mad and communication. in 50 years we've had only 3 fights. How is that possible .... communication. if something is bothering us, we go to the other person and say "we need to talk". We never let that "hill" turn into a "mountain".
We’ve been married for 42 years. My advice is before you get married, make sure your covenant does not contain an “ if”. Marriage should be two becoming one. Commitment to one another is the security you need with the guidance of the Lord.
I have been divorced for 38 years. I raised my three sons alone and have no regrets. I never wanted to remarry while raising them. I saw to many failures with the your kids, my kids issue. Now most men I meet are swallow and that does not interest me.
Our first real yelling fight was over laundry. We didn't have a washer and dryer so I had to go to the laundromat. I asked my husband to follow me and help me unload and then come back and help load it when it was done. He told me he wasn't going to help me. I was so mad that I dumped all the laundry on the living room floor and left. I spent the night with my sister and when I came home he had done all the laundry and then took me Sears and bought me a washer and dryer.
Agree with everything you've said! In May we celebrate 46 years. Fish together, garden together, spend evenings on back patio watching grandkids play together, and serve in church together! We are sooo blessed!! And don't critique each other in front of people! 😢 ❤❤❤❤
It was interesting listening to the two of you talking about marriage. We have had friends who spent a small fortune on their wedding only to divorce after just a few years. My wife and I married 53 years ago, we had very little money and our family were not in a position to help. But we managed to buy our first home, furnished it with secondhand furniture, but only after I sold my car to raise the capital. We raised two sons and are now blessed with four grandchildren. We have been through very difficult times, but survived and are still best friends.❤
Been married 50 years, raised 2 children ( and many other that we claim that lived in our home for a time), have 4 grandchildren ( and others we claim), have 1 great grandchild. Our advice is talk, laugh, love, pray and talk some more. When anger raises its ugly head, talk even if you really don’t want to. You and your family are awesome, keep doing what your doing.
Love the comments from everyone, love this community. You guys are so lucky to have a happy marriage and wonderful family. We are married now 57 years, like everyone there have been sad days. We have learned how to communicate our feelings, always sleep together, support each other thru sickness. Looking forward to our 60th anniversary. I married my best friend we are in it forever.
It's like "Hallmark movie" goals for the real world. Aka the homesteaders! ;) Love, respect, compromise, goal setting, friendship and more importantly both people are ever evolving. Love it guys!
This March 12th will celebrate our 36 year anniversary. My husband use to say Hallmark is the one that created these holidays. I thought he was just trying to get out of getting me a card. I agree with him now. To me I appreciate sweet things my husband will do randomly. Four adult kids later; one granddaughter and one grandson on the way; we couldn’t be happier especially after escaping Oregon in 2020 and buying our little homestead here in Sandpoint. You’re never to old for a new adventure and my husband and I have never been closer.❤
This March 17th. Hubby n I will celebrate 23 years of marriage w 29 years together... we can not go to sleep mad at each other... and in difficult times, we only seek out advice from our pastor or a Godly couple with the same mind as us... our disagreements will only take place in private....and 2 wrongs don't make a right...and in our marriage it's not 50/50 it's 100/100! And we agreed that we could disagree and that's OK too! Happy Valentine's Day!
As a first time grandma at 53, it is anything but terrifying. Imagine the deep love you have for your children and triple it! It is seriously the best ever
I tell everyone, the only reason to have kids is to have grandkids 😂 of course my kids are like " ok mom" seriously though grandkids are the best thing ever!!!!
So fun listening to you two!!! We were engaged for 18 mos, and then found out we were expecting...planned our wedding in 3 weeks, small family gathering/wedding in a chapel and an open house style reception. Then we stayed with family and opened all of our gifts with them. We went back to our apt and crashed. By our tenth anniversary we had a 9 yr old, 8 yr old and 2 yr old and bought our first and only house. God blessed us! And we are so thankful! We will hit 35 years in 2024. Healthy thing for a marriage, go to church together, hug every day, kiss every night before sleep.
Hearing you both talk about relationships is looking back at my life. My husband past 23 years ago and when asked why I never remarried, how can I do that in my mind I’m still married how could I betray my husband by a different person. 32 years of marriage I felt whole. Figuring out me has been a venture i still make decisions based on us not me. Stay blessed and happy always
So true on wedding expenses. Love the wedding cake story! Look at the memories! You are really amazing and your accomplishments are truly incredible! I’m so happy for you both..you’ve nailed it and are so young!!Such a great outlook on life!Thank you for sharing.
I met my wife, Claire, on the 26th May 2000 on a blind date that neither of us wanted to be on. A year and a day later I asked her to marry me on bended knee at the side of the road overlooking her home town. We got married on the 28th September the following year at a cost of just over £1000, and the dress cost 2500p, £25 but pennies sounds much more. We have been happily married for almost 22 years. A word of advice though, especially to guys. Always, and I mean always, pick dates that you can remember. We met on the 26th, engaged on the 27th and married the 28th. I never forget the dates. It has saved me no end of trauma forgetting and the associated consequences.
Mrs. Richards here...My husband and I will be celebrating 21 years in July. We are definitely best friends. Always have each others back (No matter what)...Laugh everyday...Communicate (talk about Anything and Everything)... And most important, WE ALWAYS TELL EACH OTHER, I YOU LOVE BEFORE WALKING OUT THE DOOR OR GETTING OFF THE PHONE because you never know if that's the last time you'll talk to them. ❤
My husband passed unexpectedly from silicosis after 37 years. The simple camping trips, beach trips, hiking and watching sunsets fill my memories without regrets. We had our wedding near a local waterfall, dressed in white Cotten. Don’t take yourselves too seriously….
50’s to 66 were some of mine and my husbands best years. He got sick at 66, and I took care of his every need for 4 years; he died in his sleep January 11, 2023. Now, his body is whole, and in the presence of Jesus. I am so happy for him. I profoundly miss him every day!
If marriage is a model of Christ and the church then the way we treat and care for one another should be a ministry mission marriage. Ministering to one another, encouraging one another to grow more in love and being an Inspiration to each other. There is a country song that has lyrics that say “you make me want to be a better man”. Love that! Thank you Jesus for showing us who believe, how to love one another as you have loved us!
It originated as a Christian feast day honoring a martyr named Valentine, and through later folk traditions it has also become a significant cultural, religious and commercial celebration of romance and love in many regions of the world. My wife and I have been married 31 years and we are pretty much as you have described. We don't even wear wedding bands, the ring does not make you married your heart and bond does. You have been married 20 years, I think what we each in our relationships have done and follow is successful where so many have failed. SO keep doing what you are doing, and don't worry about what others think... its working for you. OUR ADVICE: Separate BLANKETS for sleeping.
My wife and I put communication as a top priority. If we ever have a bad argument we make sure to hash it out and never go to sleep angry. We talk about everything and make most of our decisions as a couple. We are blessed to be together now for 17 years, married for almost 10.
You cant take back nasty words. Dont go to bed mad at each other. No public fighting. Talk to each other. Work towards your goals as a team. Great video ❤ Happy Valentine's Day ❤❤
This September will be 53 yrs. Pregnant and married 2 months before my 17th birthday. No regrets, still the love of my life and my best friend. We have 3 children, 9 grandchildren, 2 great grandchildren. Life is good. God is good!
Jeremy & Melissa, We've been married 50 years. There have been good times and bad times but at the end of the day, we had each other. I used to tell our kids friends when they got married, "The secret to a long marriage is a short memory. Remember the good things, forget the bad things and don't bring up the past because you can't change the past!"
Hi. You two are ahead of the life game. It has taken me until my 50's to extend grace "easily" to others and to myself. Myself ...was harder; but, I've gotten there. Thanks for your honesty and openness. Sincerely... ongoing good thoughts and prayers to your and your family.
I am 💯 in agreement with all you are saying about relationships! My husband and I will be married 46 years this year and he is still my best friend, the love of my life, and my safe space. Thank you for speaking truth!!!
Extend the tree to Easter and hang easter decorations on it. I have hung blown eggs that I have colored on a tree branch painted white, planted in an empty coffee can that was covered in wrapping paper. Was so much fun.
We have been married 46 yrs. And we have augment s but we get over it in half hour . And never go to bed without telling each other that we love each other . And we have always go together wherever. And sit together as a couple . Love you guys ! ❤😊
I think it is most important that you have your best friend as your partner in life. Someone who is there 24/7 for you. Married 50 this year. But together 55 years. Far too many marriages/relationships these days a disposable, get into an argument thats just too hard too work out, so they walk away. For better or worse does not mean a thing these days. Very sad really.
Richard and I will be married 62 years in June. Praise God. He is an important part of our life and marriage. So many good comments, also. God bless you. Margaret
Excellent podcast that I totally agree with! The two becoming one is critical for faith-based relationships. After 50 years of marriage my wife and I are like Jeremy! We hate stretchy spandex pants and Walmart customers dressed in their pajamas! My best advice is “ listening to each other” before getting angry or judgemental! Avoid bullies and worldly players. I agree do NOT keep track of the negatives and stress over it! Your work ethic and accomplishments as a TH-cam couple is the highlight of your channel. Your parenting skills and faith have raised four beautiful children that I am proud of!
Respect each other. I hear a lot that marriage is 50/50, that's not true. It's 100/100. I truly believe young adults now have a mind set that it's going to be all lovey dovey & a fairy tale. Melissa, I totally agree with you on going out to "bash" on your spouse. Unacceptable! I think it's wonderful that you & Jeremy want to do things together & together with your children. I love the idea of Valentine tree! Very creative & your kids will remember those special little things when older. Thank you for all you share & your honesty. I appreciate it & y'all.
God bless your marriage and family all your days! We love your channel! My husband and I have been married 25 years this September, and went on our 1st date 10 years before that (as freshman in HS). Melissa.... totally agree... marriage is not about the illusive "Happiness". Our best learned advice... "Eyes on Jesus" (in good times, bad times, fun times, hard times.) Keeping eyes and focus on Jesus will always draw you to the same GOOD point.
We just celebrated our 50th Wedding Anniversary. We don’t celebrate Valentines Day. We too feel like it’s a Hallmark $ making holiday. We take time every day to spend a few minutes together discussing the day, talk about things coming up for the week and just enjoying each others company. Love is a journey - enjoy the ride!
Loved this segment! So enjoy you both! Married 39 years this September. We both had prior marriages so decided our wedding would be very simple ( our families were half the country away). We did justice of peace, some meaningful words of our own and 2 friends as witnesses. Borrowed a simple dress and shoes, parents sent beautiful bouquet of flowers, I carried bouquet of nasturtiums from the garden, friend made us a wedding lunch as we went mountain biking. Only cost was wedding ring. We loved it! So almost 39 years married,41 together, and many phases of our life together it’s still working and so valued. Disagreements, arguments, exceptional adventures, schools, career changes, injuries, retirement and a love and respect for each other that continues. There is no other I want to be partnered with for the remainder of my life. It hasn’t always been easy and that’s life. And this life together has brought me such love, joy and partnership beyond words! Priceless!!❤️
My hubby and I are celebrating our 49th anniversary on the 15th of February...best advice...God first, spouse second kids 3rd..lots of prayer, laughter, compromise, and patience...I had a nephew and his brother was bugging him..Isaac turned to Jacob and said..I'm not going to talk about it !! Best advice ever!!❤🙏
#1…always take a minute or a breath and see the situation/argument for what it actually is! And always remember that being “right” should never come with the cost of hurting the one you love 😊
Really loved listening to you both discuss this, my better half and me have decided to finally tie the knot after 30 years (and 2 boys) of being engaged. It never felt right for my partner but we are now both 60 and now we feel it is. So this May we are going to the Registry Office in the UK whilst on Holiday.
We are coming up to 60 years of marriage. We met when 15/16 years old. It’s been a bumpy ride with 3 children but I wouldn’t change a minute. He is my soul mate, best friend nd dream guy. At nearly 80 I still sneak a peek at him and think how lucky I am to have married him, even though he drives me round the bend at times. Life is good. God has been so patient with me. God bless you both and we wish you many many more years together. Love always.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
53 years of marriage and we are so much like the two of you. We always were about the two of us and out kids. We have always gone out to eat or something on Valentines day but it was never fancy or stressful. It might even be a drive with fast food. And the kids might be in the back seat. Yall are amazing! Number one is put God first!
So enjoyed this podcast. Reminisced about my own wedding. We have been married 41 years. Our wedding was small because we chose to buy a house rather than have a big wedding. Family only. Mother-in-law catered the food. Our wedding cake was a sheet cake. Our day started off with a bomb scare at the church. We ended up holding the ceremony in the nun's chapel which was actually perfect.
Marriage and parenting is all about teamwork. Knowing deep inside you can always count on each other….and yes not expecting our life partner to make us happy all the time. Relationships do tend to work out more successfully when there is love, mutual respect, empathy, authentic listening, forgiveness, and a shared vision or goal for our lives together. Communicating our feelings , never hold a grudge, sharing laughs also helps !
First Valentine gift after we bought our house was a plumber! Roses would have been sooo much cheaper. Next year was my detached retina. We now just skip the whole thing and are going 32 years strong. Love you guys ❤
I am 81 and still have a sweat shirt that together with my 7 year old granddaughter painted with Artex paint. This was such a memorable day for me. It has been at least 35 years ago. The small things are the glue of life.
My kids mom and I also had our 1st child about 18 months after we 1st met. We got married when she was 4 months pregnant, and we were both very young...so it happens lol. We went to a JP and had the reception at my best friend's cottage. Very inexpensive. Our honeymoon was 3 days at Niagara Falls which was a 3 hour drive for us at that time. Unfortunately, we divorced after 17 years of marriage and 3 children. We still see each other at grandchildren`s birthdays etc and still are polite and cordial with one another. To be honest, I had some sort of midlife crisis in my late 30s and made some very bad decisions for myself and my family. I look back and wish I had not made the choices I made, but it is what it is. Wishing you guys a happy Valentine`s day! If you ever have problems that seem overwhelming, do yourselves a favour and work through them...even if you need some help to do so. You seem to have a great marriage and relationship...so always find a way to work out issues. I look back and really wish I had done the same.
We have been married in May 55 years. Like you...Valentine's day has not been a big day for us. I have a funny story though. 9 years ago my husband was having Physical Therapy for a shoulder operation. His cute and really nice therapist asked him what he was getting me for Valentine's day. Oh my...so I got a Orchid plant..my first Valentine's gift ever. The funny thing is that when he went back to his next appointment...she didn't even ask him what he got. He got the gift for no reason it seemed. His Therapist and I joked that I was going to send him every holiday for therapy so I will get a gift. We all had a big laugh over it. :)
So cool conversation. I agree totally with you on not needing or wanting to go out with the girls when I would rather spend my moments with loved ones. It is called acting single-married when one spouse goes out to party and leaves the other spouse behind. Number one advice pick the right person and watch for red flags ..holding grudges after a spat major red flag. Do not make your spouse feel like you have a back up plan.
This is the absolute best discussion I've watched you both do. Honestly, pure commitment and love you have for eachother. You both were meant to be. God blesses you both and your family! Your advice on relationships, marriage is so precious!
I hope others will learn from this. It's like this has been lost and now relationships are in a mess. Keep up the good info out there. We need this. Thank-you.
You are So Right about speaking out against your spouse. Talking down about them. I have been married 4 times. My first husband was from Peru. I really got married to get away from home. It wasn't right but I was pregnant when I met my 1st husband but I went back home and we never stayed in touch after I left. One day he ended up at my door, I didn't know how he found me but there he was. I was shocked because I lived in this little small town in WV. with under 500 people. I didn't even know he knew where I lived. I left Washington DC by Grayhound bus and didn't leave my address with him. Idk but even now 54 years later i don't know. Anyway, he was good to my son and that's what mattered. He came with a friend and they spent the weekend and they went back to VA. We talked every few days and he came in to see us usually every other weekend. We had really good times and one weekend he asked me to marry him. A couple months later we got married. He then told me to see if my sister could keep my son until we could get an apartment. I didn't know that he didn't have his own apartment.. She said yes and so we got married and flew to Washington only to get there and his friends wife ended up in a mental hospital because she was jealous of me. I should have left then and there but didn't want to go back to WV. Anyway long story short, he didn't really want my son, I wasn't stable enough financially to raise my son by myself and my sisters husband was badgering me to adopt my son and was threatening to take me to court for child support or let them adopt him and I was too scared and weak and I let them adopt him. I actually hated my husband by that time. He wouldn't let me get a divorce bc he used me to file for citizenship and you had to be married for several years before you could get a divorce. IDK, I wish I could erase all those years. My 2nd husband was a gem. He was amazing. He was everything my 1st husband wasn't. He was also a great father to my daughter from my 1st husband. He was the daddy she loved until he died 6 years later. Yes he was an amazing husband and father and I still miss him terribly. I don't want to even talk about my 3rd husband (who ended up cheating on me and becoming an alcoholic or my 4th husband who was an addict to Crack Cocaine)! I now have been divorced for over 15 years, I'm 71 no more men in my life YES!!! I live my life for Christ now and am happy with my life choices !!!
i am subscribed 👍🏼and i just love you two ♥️ married 40 years this november . got married in the house my husband built & still are living in it . we met in church at young ages of 13 & 15 & our house is built in an area we walked many a sunday afternoon when i got to go home with him till back to church for our youth group ♥️ it certainly is a continuous learning process & one that gets a little harder as you age .we are 67 & 69 ... but so appreciate hearing your views cause it certainly sounds as you are a family with a firm foundation 👍🏼❣️ thank you as always ‼️
We have never prioritized Valentines Day in favour of celebrating our anniversary on February 18th (30 wonderful years this year!). We also paid for our own modest wedding--the best part of which was that we wrote our own vows, and our officiant was our dear, dear friend. We HAVE however always prioritized "date night" (food together on Fridays after the kids have gone to bed) since we became parents 21.5 years ago. Our kids have always understood that our family began with their Dad and me and that, while our mission is to raise thoughtful, kind, independent humans, it all hangs together because our foundation is rock solid. Guys, many roads lead to Rome. From where I sit you are doing an incredible job all around. Every relationship has its seasons. If you keep turning toward each other the way you obviously have, you'll always know just what to do, and when. It's such a pleasure to watch your wonderful family, and the marvelous home you have built together.❤ Edited to add: "don't keep track" bang.on. We call it "score-keeping". Doom right there. My husband always says that a healthy relationship is never 50/50, it's 100/100. Both people. All.In.
I really liked your take M on girls hang outs! A valuable point in the context of what keeps your partner and marriage the most important relationship. I learned something today.
I love your love story. My husband and I have been together 40 and married almost 35. I can’t see myself without him although he’s been working away half the 40 years. Our absence makes our hearts grow fonder. He is my rock and I am his boulder. We’ve gone through a lot and I believe we’re still growing as a couple,faith,hope,trust and love and of course letting things go is what helps us grow. 🙏🏻✝️💜☮️☯️
Don’t settle. Marry your best friend. We don’t like to be apart from each other. We truly miss each other when we are apart even when it is a few hours. Great discussion! ❤
Fortunately for you two, you are liked minded. I didn’t realize what a true partnership looked like until I watched my daughter and her husband navigate through life with jobs and kids. I didn’t have that to observe when I was a kid/teenager and it’s a miracle that my daughter found it. I am so thankful for that. You are blessed and so are your children as they see what a true partnership should be and what to look for in a future partner.
This coming March 14 my husband and I have been married for 20 years. Our advice for marriage is to always choose love. There will always be hard days or weeks but you have to choose love during the good times and bad. Always keep God the head of your marriage! A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12
September 17th will be 47 years. Divorce was and is never in our vocabulary. We have our money,our family,our friends. We spend 24/7 together, and we love it!!!
One of the best pieces of advice when planning my wedding was "something will go wrong, but no one knows but you so your guests don't have a clue" Your wedding day has so many wonderful memories & it sounds like it was a lot of fun.
Interesting listening to your take and definitions and priorities of marriage. Having grown up with divorced parents who absolutely loathed one another, it was the one thing I wanted above anything else, was a good, secure, loving partner, for life. That was till I got married and suddenly realized I hated every single aspect about being married. Wish I was wise enough back then to realize I was in love with the production of getting married. The reality of it, what quite a different ball game. Hard life lessons. My son has found a really amazing life partner and I couldn't be happier for them.
We don't really celebrate ourselves but we do stuff for the Grandchildren. We dis when kids were here. We did shoe boxes in school. It was great, with a little party. I love watching you guys. Lv and Prayers.
We will celebrate 35 years this year...❤ we got married in Hope Idaho. I wore my Moms dress. We spent maybe $1000. We have 4 children and 4 grandchildren. ❤ we love watching your family!! You are living our fantasy! We so want to move back to Idaho someday.
I loved this conversation, and share in the same beliefs about marriage and family. I appreciate your willingness to share so openly about your journey and have much admiration for the both of you!
My husband and I celebrated 52 years of marriage a month before he passed away. Marriage was a series of ups and downs but through it all we always went through it together. I have no regrets and only have the peace of mind knowing we made a wonderful life one day at a time together. Valentine's Day always came and went without any special attention from either of us. May God continue to bless and keep you.
Been with my partner almost 14 years the best advice I can give is communicate don’t let things simmer don’t let little things build up just lay it all out as it happens and work through it and secondly boundaries set down boundaries and stick to them and if needed come to a compromise that is good for both sides so no one feels like there giving more or giving up something for the other person if someone isn’t willing to accept a boundary or even work through it then it will end in resentment and frustration i think a lot of people are so scared to set boundaries because there worried about the other person leaving they let everything slide and that never ends well 💚
You have made great decisions for your kids and accepting of what will or will not come. I was always active in adult sports as was my wife so we never felt older until we reached our 60s, and while I gave up basketball at 50 due to an injury, I never felt age until maybe 65. However the 70s quickly let you knw you are in the senior years... It knocks you down so hard so fast, or at least for us. Veterans day, and maybe Memorial day may be the least commercialized holidays, however any three day weekend is great for campgrounds, BBQ sales, and gas stations, not to mention all the retail stores with their "sales" which may or may not be actual reduced prices other than on paper. When I was in school in the late 50s and early 60s, we had the candy hearts there and at home, and we addressed Valentines cards to everyone in the class and exchanged them... My dad even exchanged joke valentines with friends and work buddies.
My advice is to know what things to let go and what things are worth being upset or hurt about. I have been married for 23 years. We got married at age 23 and had our first child at 25 and second at 27. We both love watching you guys and adore your partnership and love that shines through all you do!
Love your outlook on life & marriage. I was married for 39 years untill my hubby passed away. We had a similar outlook, and hardly argued. My daughter is married 30 years this year, and I have never heard them actually argue, or have a screeming match. If there is a difference of opinion, they sort it out behind closed doors, in a civil manner. My son inlaw is an awesome person too. So happy that you can make things work the way you do. You can feel very proud. Again love your outlook. God bless. Enjoy the rest of your Valentines day. ❤🎉
My husband and I met the week I turned 18 in June, we were engaged in August, and married in November. We will be married 46 years this year and we celebrate our anniversary every year by going someplace special. We also go on a date every month on the 19th (the date of our wedding), usually a museum, thrift stores and dinner. We also live in North Idaho and there are a lot of really nice museums up here!
Y'all may not understand each others feelings; however, its very important to VALIDATE the feelings of your partner/children. Feelings are real..I was married 48 yrs before losing my hubby. Find a way to have fun, show the importance of that person. Pray together, love our God. Peace and blessings over all y'all and yalls family and adventures. Blessings, julie
We made a commitment to be together and to both work on our marriage. We were friends first, we spent our first few years together without kids and we became a united front. We stand up for each other, and we still have "date nights". Our children are married now, and they waited to get married to someone that accepted who they are and that they could be themselves - warts and all. When we use to argue, when the kids were younger, they were comforted by the fact that we would do a "time out" and then talk it out. We also agree to disagree on certain things - as long as it does not affect our relationship at it's core. And we absolutely trust each other. We've known each other since I was 7 and he was 12. We started talking when I was 15, and dating at 16 (my mom set us up!). Got married at 22, and been together for over 40 + years. I'd still marry him, still (mostly! LOL) enjoy our time together. Couples need to have just couple time, and be allowed individual time and interests too. If I could change one thing - I'd be more pushy about him taking his health more seriously. The last few years have been rough since he fell and had to have several brain surgeries, but he's almost totally back to himself... And it's been hard work, but now we are looking forward to the go ahead for traveling, and doing what we had planned for our retirement years.
It works when both people are committed and equally yoked. I made the mistake of marrying someone who hid that he had no morals or ethics. You can’t hide who you are forever. What you two have is rare and you are blessed.
You guys deserve each other. Your values are so good. So right on about so many things. My wedding cost $500.00. We had flowers made out of toilet paper. They were pretty. We've been married 26 years.
We will be married 49 years as of March 2024. We spent just over a $1000.00 on our wedding, including everything. My dress was $50.00. But we had a Wonderful time and so did our guests. Happily married still. Keep God first in your lives and He will see you through. ❤
You both talking about your wedding brought so many memory's back to our wedding 50 year`s ago. Many mishap's and adventure`s that day, Grandmother's hotel room robbed, husband late for wedding because Best Man's car caught fire, formal pictures of my grandmother and aunt`s no one could see two of hubby`s uncle`s drunk and out cold on the lawn 10 feet from us, we got locked out of parent`s house when we went to change for travel and the bride was lowered into the basement window to open door for the men, hotel room was given away and they could only offer a room with a single bed. All good story's to tell along the year`s.
You guys handled this subject perfectly, THANKS!! I'm now 81 and married 52 years to the same wonderful wife. As a widower now I can say my best memories are with my wife and kids. As you said, life isn't perfect, our marriage was not perfect BUT divorce was NEVER considered or on the table as options!! With my wife now gone, I feel like a bird without one wing!!
Props to you! Awesome that you had 52 years with your bride
❤️ I'm so sorry for your loss
Your tree could evolve to a shamrock tree. Then an Easter bunny tree. Do patriotic for Memorial, Labor, etc. Fall leaves, then Halloween, Thanksgiving pilgrims. Tada. Back to Christmas!
@@NewWorldOldSoulPodcast exactly!!!
We just celebrated 50 years together. I was married at the age of 16 to an alcoholic and abuser for almost 3 years. I had the strength to finally get out. The day my divorce became final I met my hubby. He kissed me that night and I told him "give me 3 months and we'll be married" 3 months later turned into 50 years and still on our honeymoon. We're both retired and are also together 24/7. Our secret .... never go to bed mad and communication. in 50 years we've had only 3 fights. How is that possible .... communication. if something is bothering us, we go to the other person and say "we need to talk". We never let that "hill" turn into a "mountain".
We’ve been married for 42 years. My advice is before you get married, make sure your covenant does not contain an “ if”. Marriage should be two becoming one. Commitment to one another is the security you need with the guidance of the Lord.
It's been 40 years for us. I agree wholeheartedly with you!
I have been divorced for 38 years. I raised my three sons alone and have no regrets. I never wanted to remarry while raising them. I saw to many failures with the your kids, my kids issue. Now most men I meet are swallow and that does not interest me.
I love you and your sweet family. I just wanted to ask what Nevaeh thinks about the fact that you had her before you were married.
Amen 🙏
Well said. That is exactly what we say. 36 Years march 4
Our first real yelling fight was over laundry. We didn't have a washer and dryer so I had to go to the laundromat. I asked my husband to follow me and help me unload and then come back and help load it when it was done. He told me he wasn't going to help me. I was so mad that I dumped all the laundry on the living room floor and left. I spent the night with my sister and when I came home he had done all the laundry and then took me Sears and bought me a washer and dryer.
Agree with everything you've said! In May we celebrate 46 years. Fish together, garden together, spend evenings on back patio watching grandkids play together, and serve in church together! We are sooo blessed!! And don't critique each other in front of people! 😢
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And hopefully were on the same side when Covid restrictions and narrativ hit 😉
We were!❤
Our wedding was at the justice of the peace. We spent about $100 on our outfits. We will be celebrating 25 year anniversary will be in July.
It was interesting listening to the two of you talking about marriage. We have had friends who spent a small fortune on their wedding only to divorce after just a few years. My wife and I married 53 years ago, we had very little money and our family were not in a position to help. But we managed to buy our first home, furnished it with secondhand furniture, but only after I sold my car to raise the capital. We raised two sons and are now blessed with four grandchildren. We have been through very difficult times, but survived and are still best friends.❤
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Been married 50 years, raised 2 children ( and many other that we claim that lived in our home for a time), have 4 grandchildren ( and others we claim), have 1 great grandchild. Our advice is talk, laugh, love, pray and talk some more. When anger raises its ugly head, talk even if you really don’t want to. You and your family are awesome, keep doing what your doing.
Love the comments from everyone, love this community. You guys are so lucky to have a happy marriage and wonderful family. We are married now 57 years, like everyone there have been sad days. We have learned how to communicate our feelings, always sleep together, support each other thru sickness. Looking forward to our 60th anniversary. I married my best friend we are in it forever.
It's like "Hallmark movie" goals for the real world. Aka the homesteaders! ;) Love, respect, compromise, goal setting, friendship and more importantly both people are ever evolving. Love it guys!
This March 12th will celebrate our 36 year anniversary. My husband use to say Hallmark is the one that created these holidays. I thought he was just trying to get out of getting me a card. I agree with him now. To me I appreciate sweet things my husband will do randomly. Four adult kids later; one granddaughter and one grandson on the way; we couldn’t be happier especially after escaping Oregon in 2020 and buying our little homestead here in Sandpoint. You’re never to old for a new adventure and my husband and I have never been closer.❤
This March 17th. Hubby n I will celebrate 23 years of marriage w 29 years together... we can not go to sleep mad at each other... and in difficult times, we only seek out advice from our pastor or a Godly couple with the same mind as us... our disagreements will only take place in private....and 2 wrongs don't make a right...and in our marriage it's not 50/50 it's 100/100! And we agreed that we could disagree and that's OK too! Happy Valentine's Day!
As a first time grandma at 53, it is anything but terrifying. Imagine the deep love you have for your children and triple it! It is seriously the best ever
Wow, the love for grandkids is greater than that for your kids?? I cannot even imagine that! ❤
I tell everyone, the only reason to have kids is to have grandkids 😂 of course my kids are like " ok mom" seriously though grandkids are the best thing ever!!!!
So fun listening to you two!!! We were engaged for 18 mos, and then found out we were expecting...planned our wedding in 3 weeks, small family gathering/wedding in a chapel and an open house style reception. Then we stayed with family and opened all of our gifts with them. We went back to our apt and crashed. By our tenth anniversary we had a 9 yr old, 8 yr old and 2 yr old and bought our first and only house. God blessed us! And we are so thankful! We will hit 35 years in 2024. Healthy thing for a marriage, go to church together, hug every day, kiss every night before sleep.
Hearing you both talk about relationships is looking back at my life. My husband past 23 years ago and when asked why I never remarried, how can I do that in my mind I’m still married how could I betray my husband by a different person. 32 years of marriage I felt whole. Figuring out me has been a venture i still make decisions based on us not me. Stay blessed and happy always
My husband passed 7 1/2 years ago after being together for 30 years. I feel the same way you do. I can't imagine my life with someone else.
So true on wedding expenses. Love the wedding cake story! Look at the memories! You are really amazing and your accomplishments are truly incredible! I’m so happy for you both..you’ve nailed it and are so young!!Such a great outlook on life!Thank you for sharing.
I met my wife, Claire, on the 26th May 2000 on a blind date that neither of us wanted to be on. A year and a day later I asked her to marry me on bended knee at the side of the road overlooking her home town. We got married on the 28th September the following year at a cost of just over £1000, and the dress cost 2500p, £25 but pennies sounds much more. We have been happily married for almost 22 years. A word of advice though, especially to guys. Always, and I mean always, pick dates that you can remember. We met on the 26th, engaged on the 27th and married the 28th. I never forget the dates. It has saved me no end of trauma forgetting and the associated consequences.
Mrs. Richards here...My husband and I will be celebrating 21 years in July. We are definitely best friends. Always have each others back (No matter what)...Laugh everyday...Communicate (talk about Anything and Everything)... And most important, WE ALWAYS TELL EACH OTHER, I YOU LOVE BEFORE WALKING OUT THE DOOR OR GETTING OFF THE PHONE because you never know if that's the last time you'll talk to them. ❤
My husband passed unexpectedly from silicosis after 37 years. The simple camping trips, beach trips, hiking and watching sunsets fill my memories without regrets. We had our wedding near a local waterfall, dressed in white Cotten.
Don’t take yourselves too seriously….
Keep doing what you are doing. You are blessed indeed. Plus you have blessed all of us by letting us know you
Thank you so much
Treat each other with respect. Sometimes couples treat strangers with more respect than they do each other.
50’s to 66 were some of mine and my husbands best years. He got sick at 66, and I took care of his every need for 4 years; he died in his sleep January 11, 2023. Now, his body is whole, and in the presence of Jesus. I am so happy for him. I profoundly miss him every day!
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If marriage is a model of Christ and the church then the way we treat and care for one another should be a ministry mission marriage. Ministering to one another, encouraging one another to grow more in love and being an Inspiration to each other. There is a country song that has lyrics that say “you make me want to be a better man”. Love that! Thank you Jesus for showing us who believe, how to love one another as you have loved us!
It originated as a Christian feast day honoring a martyr named Valentine, and through later folk traditions it has also become a significant cultural, religious and commercial celebration of romance and love in many regions of the world.
My wife and I have been married 31 years and we are pretty much as you have described. We don't even wear wedding bands, the ring does not make you married your heart and bond does. You have been married 20 years, I think what we each in our relationships have done and follow is successful where so many have failed. SO keep doing what you are doing, and don't worry about what others think... its working for you.
OUR ADVICE: Separate BLANKETS for sleeping.
My wife and I put communication as a top priority. If we ever have a bad argument we make sure to hash it out and never go to sleep angry. We talk about everything and make most of our decisions as a couple. We are blessed to be together now for 17 years, married for almost 10.
You guys are awesome I can see that God lives in your hearts and family
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You cant take back nasty words. Dont go to bed mad at each other.
No public fighting.
Talk to each other.
Work towards your goals as a team.
Great video ❤
Happy Valentine's Day ❤❤
This September will be 53 yrs. Pregnant and married 2 months before my 17th birthday. No regrets, still the love of my life and my best friend. We have 3 children, 9 grandchildren, 2 great grandchildren. Life is good. God is good!
Jeremy & Melissa, We've been married 50 years. There have been good times and bad times but at the end of the day, we had each other. I used to tell our kids friends when they got married, "The secret to a long marriage is a short memory. Remember the good things, forget the bad things and don't bring up the past because you can't change the past!"
Hi. You two are ahead of the life game.
It has taken me until my 50's to extend grace "easily" to others and to myself. Myself ...was harder; but, I've gotten there.
Thanks for your honesty and openness.
Sincerely... ongoing good thoughts and prayers to your and your family.
I am 💯 in agreement with all you are saying about relationships! My husband and I will be married 46 years this year and he is still my best friend, the love of my life, and my safe space. Thank you for speaking truth!!!
Extend the tree to Easter and hang easter decorations on it. I have hung blown eggs that I have colored on a tree branch painted white, planted in an empty coffee can that was covered in wrapping paper. Was so much fun.
Fourth of July after Easter and then on to fall. You can keep the tree up all year long!
We keep ours up until after Valentine’s Day! But now it is coming down. Love your podcast and your YT Channel!
We have been married 46 yrs. And we have augment s but we get over it in half hour . And never go to bed without telling each other that we love each other . And we have always go together wherever. And sit together as a couple . Love you guys ! ❤😊
I think it is most important that you have your best friend as your partner in life. Someone who is there 24/7 for you. Married 50 this year. But together 55 years.
Far too many marriages/relationships these days a disposable, get into an argument thats just too hard too work out, so they walk away. For better or worse does not mean a thing these days. Very sad really.
Richard and I will be married 62 years in June. Praise God. He is an important part of our life and marriage.
So many good comments, also.
God bless you.
Margaret
Excellent podcast that I totally agree with! The two becoming one is critical for faith-based relationships. After 50 years of marriage my wife and I are like Jeremy! We hate stretchy spandex pants and Walmart customers dressed in their pajamas! My best advice is “ listening to each other” before getting angry or judgemental! Avoid bullies and worldly players. I agree do NOT keep track of the negatives and stress over it! Your work ethic and accomplishments as a TH-cam couple is the highlight of your channel. Your parenting skills and faith have raised four beautiful children that I am proud of!
Respect each other. I hear a lot that marriage is 50/50, that's not true. It's 100/100. I truly believe young adults now have a mind set that it's going to be all lovey dovey & a fairy tale. Melissa, I totally agree with you on going out to "bash" on your spouse. Unacceptable! I think it's wonderful that you & Jeremy want to do things together & together with your children. I love the idea of Valentine tree! Very creative & your kids will remember those special little things when older. Thank you for all you share & your honesty. I appreciate it & y'all.
God bless your marriage and family all your days! We love your channel! My husband and I have been married 25 years this September, and went on our 1st date 10 years before that (as freshman in HS). Melissa.... totally agree... marriage is not about the illusive "Happiness". Our best learned advice... "Eyes on Jesus" (in good times, bad times, fun times, hard times.) Keeping eyes and focus on Jesus will always draw you to the same GOOD point.
We just celebrated our 50th Wedding Anniversary. We don’t celebrate Valentines Day. We too feel like it’s a Hallmark $ making holiday. We take time every day to spend a few minutes together discussing the day, talk about things coming up for the week and just enjoying each others company. Love is a journey - enjoy the ride!
That is awesome!
Loved this segment! So enjoy you both! Married 39 years this September. We both had prior marriages so decided our wedding would be very simple ( our families were half the country away). We did justice of peace, some meaningful words of our own and 2 friends as witnesses. Borrowed a simple dress and shoes, parents sent beautiful bouquet of flowers, I carried bouquet of nasturtiums from the garden, friend made us a wedding lunch as we went mountain biking. Only cost was wedding ring. We loved it! So almost 39 years married,41 together, and many phases of our life together it’s still working and so valued. Disagreements, arguments, exceptional adventures, schools, career changes, injuries, retirement and a love and respect for each other that continues. There is no other I want to be partnered with for the remainder of my life. It hasn’t always been easy and that’s life. And this life together has brought me such love, joy and partnership beyond words! Priceless!!❤️
My hubby and I are celebrating our 49th anniversary on the 15th of February...best advice...God first, spouse second kids 3rd..lots of prayer, laughter, compromise, and patience...I had a nephew and his brother was bugging him..Isaac turned to Jacob and said..I'm not going to talk about it !! Best advice ever!!❤🙏
#1…always take a minute or a breath and see the situation/argument for what it actually is! And always remember that being “right” should never come with the cost of hurting the one you love 😊
Really loved listening to you both discuss this, my better half and me have decided to finally tie the knot after 30 years (and 2 boys) of being engaged. It never felt right for my partner but we are now both 60 and now we feel it is. So this May we are going to the Registry Office in the UK whilst on Holiday.
Love your videos!
We've been married 41 years + and agree with you, No Out, our journey together is For Life!
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We are coming up to 60 years of marriage. We met when 15/16 years old. It’s been a bumpy ride with 3 children but I wouldn’t change a minute. He is my soul mate, best friend nd dream guy. At nearly 80 I still sneak a peek at him and think how lucky I am to have married him, even though he drives me round the bend at times. Life is good. God has been so patient with me. God bless you both and we wish you many many more years together. Love always.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
53 years of marriage and we are so much like the two of you. We always were about the two of us and out kids. We have always gone out to eat or something on Valentines day but it was never fancy or stressful. It might even be a drive with fast food. And the kids might be in the back seat. Yall are amazing! Number one is put God first!
Are friendships also important in your Life?
So enjoyed this podcast. Reminisced about my own wedding. We have been married 41 years. Our wedding was small because we chose to buy a house rather than have a big wedding. Family only. Mother-in-law catered the food. Our wedding cake was a sheet cake. Our day started off with a bomb scare at the church. We ended up holding the ceremony in the nun's chapel which was actually perfect.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. It’s all a learning experience this life of ours. All the best to all of you. 🥰
We did Valentine boxes when I was in grade school, this was in the 40's... also May Day baskets. Good fun for children.
Marriage and parenting is all about teamwork. Knowing deep inside you can always count on each other….and yes not expecting our life partner to make us happy all the time. Relationships do tend to work out more successfully when there is love, mutual respect, empathy, authentic listening, forgiveness, and a shared vision or goal for our lives together. Communicating our feelings , never hold a grudge, sharing laughs also helps !
I cant believe how much you two are like me and my wife! I wish i had a couple/family like yall that lived by us!
First Valentine gift after we bought our house was a plumber! Roses would have been sooo much cheaper. Next year was my detached retina. We now just skip the whole thing and are going 32 years strong. Love you guys ❤
I am 81 and still have a sweat shirt that together with my 7 year old granddaughter painted with Artex paint. This was such a memorable day for me. It has been at least 35 years ago. The small things are the glue of life.
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My kids mom and I also had our 1st child about 18 months after we 1st met. We got married when she was 4 months pregnant, and we were both very young...so it happens lol. We went to a JP and had the reception at my best friend's cottage. Very inexpensive. Our honeymoon was 3 days at Niagara Falls which was a 3 hour drive for us at that time. Unfortunately, we divorced after 17 years of marriage and 3 children. We still see each other at grandchildren`s birthdays etc and still are polite and cordial with one another. To be honest, I had some sort of midlife crisis in my late 30s and made some very bad decisions for myself and my family. I look back and wish I had not made the choices I made, but it is what it is. Wishing you guys a happy Valentine`s day! If you ever have problems that seem overwhelming, do yourselves a favour and work through them...even if you need some help to do so. You seem to have a great marriage and relationship...so always find a way to work out issues. I look back and really wish I had done the same.
We have been married in May 55 years. Like you...Valentine's day has not been a big day for us. I have a funny story though. 9 years ago my husband was having Physical Therapy for a shoulder operation. His cute and really nice therapist asked him what he was getting me for Valentine's day. Oh my...so I got a Orchid plant..my first Valentine's gift ever. The funny thing is that when he went back to his next appointment...she didn't even ask him what he got. He got the gift for no reason it seemed. His Therapist and I joked that I was going to send him every holiday for therapy so I will get a gift. We all had a big laugh over it. :)
So cool conversation. I agree totally with you on not needing or wanting to go out with the girls when I would rather spend my moments with loved ones. It is called acting single-married when one spouse goes out to party and leaves the other spouse behind. Number one advice pick the right person and watch for red flags ..holding grudges after a spat major red flag. Do not make your spouse feel like you have a back up plan.
This is the absolute best discussion I've watched you both do. Honestly, pure commitment and love you have for eachother.
You both were meant to be.
God blesses you both and your family! Your advice on relationships, marriage is so precious!
It’s 53 years today we had our first date. We have been married 51 years. Love your podcast
32 years always be able to laugh with each other and respect each other’s feelings. Treat them how you want them to treat you!❤
Totally agree about the company we keep separate from our spouse. It can cause problems.
I hope others will learn from this. It's like this has been lost and now relationships are in a mess. Keep up the good info out there. We need this. Thank-you.
You are So Right about speaking out against your spouse. Talking down about them. I have been married 4 times. My first husband was from Peru. I really got married to get away from home. It wasn't right but I was pregnant when I met my 1st husband but I went back home and we never stayed in touch after I left. One day he ended up at my door, I didn't know how he found me but there he was. I was shocked because I lived in this little small town in WV. with under 500 people. I didn't even know he knew where I lived. I left Washington DC by Grayhound bus and didn't leave my address with him. Idk but even now 54 years later i don't know.
Anyway, he was good to my son and that's what mattered. He came with a friend and they spent the weekend and they went back to VA. We talked every few days and he came in to see us usually every other weekend. We had really good times and one weekend he asked me to marry him. A couple months later we got married. He then told me to see if my sister could keep my son until we could get an apartment. I didn't know that he didn't have his own apartment.. She said yes and so we got married and flew to Washington only to get there and his friends wife ended up in a mental hospital because she was jealous of me. I should have left then and there but didn't want to go back to WV. Anyway long story short, he didn't really want my son, I wasn't stable enough financially to raise my son by myself and my sisters husband was badgering me to adopt my son and was threatening to take me to court for child support or let them adopt him and I was too scared and weak and I let them adopt
him. I actually hated my husband by that time. He wouldn't let me get a divorce bc he used me to file for citizenship and you had to be married for several years before you could get a divorce. IDK, I wish I could erase all those years. My 2nd husband was a gem. He was amazing. He was everything my 1st husband wasn't. He was also a great father to my daughter from my 1st husband. He was the daddy she loved until he died 6 years later. Yes he was an amazing husband and father and I still miss him terribly.
I don't want to even talk about my 3rd husband (who ended up cheating on me and becoming an alcoholic or my 4th husband who was an addict to Crack Cocaine)! I now have been divorced for over 15 years, I'm 71 no more men in my life YES!!! I live my life for Christ now and am happy with my life choices !!!
i am subscribed 👍🏼and i just love you two ♥️ married 40 years this november . got married in the house my husband built & still are living in it . we met in church at young ages of 13 & 15 & our house is built in an area we walked many a sunday afternoon when i got to go home with him till back to church for our youth group ♥️ it certainly is a continuous learning process & one that gets a little harder as you age .we are 67 & 69 ... but so appreciate hearing your views cause it certainly sounds as you are a family with a firm foundation 👍🏼❣️ thank you as always ‼️
We have never prioritized Valentines Day in favour of celebrating our anniversary on February 18th (30 wonderful years this year!). We also paid for our own modest wedding--the best part of which was that we wrote our own vows, and our officiant was our dear, dear friend. We HAVE however always prioritized "date night" (food together on Fridays after the kids have gone to bed) since we became parents 21.5 years ago. Our kids have always understood that our family began with their Dad and me and that, while our mission is to raise thoughtful, kind, independent humans, it all hangs together because our foundation is rock solid. Guys, many roads lead to Rome. From where I sit you are doing an incredible job all around. Every relationship has its seasons. If you keep turning toward each other the way you obviously have, you'll always know just what to do, and when. It's such a pleasure to watch your wonderful family, and the marvelous home you have built together.❤
Edited to add: "don't keep track" bang.on. We call it "score-keeping". Doom right there. My husband always says that a healthy relationship is never 50/50, it's 100/100. Both people. All.In.
Our family loves an excuse to celebrate! Perfection!!! I love it!!!
Love that!
I really liked your take M on girls hang outs! A valuable point in the context of what keeps your partner and marriage the most important relationship. I learned something today.
I love your love story. My husband and I have been together 40 and married almost 35. I can’t see myself without him although he’s been working away half the 40 years. Our absence makes our hearts grow fonder. He is my rock and I am his boulder. We’ve gone through a lot and I believe we’re still growing as a couple,faith,hope,trust and love and of course letting things go is what helps us grow.
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My husband and I have been married 36 years. best advice, is to ALWAYS communicate. talk about everything, Trust and Honesty is super important too.
Don’t settle. Marry your best friend. We don’t like to be apart from each other. We truly miss each other when we are apart even when it is a few hours. Great discussion! ❤
been married 51 years ... many ups and downs... communicate is a most. Bless you both.
Fortunately for you two, you are liked minded. I didn’t realize what a true partnership looked like until I watched my daughter and her husband navigate through life with jobs and kids. I didn’t have that to observe when I was a kid/teenager and it’s a miracle that my daughter found it. I am so thankful for that. You are blessed and so are your children as they see what a true partnership should be and what to look for in a future partner.
This coming March 14 my husband and I have been married for 20 years. Our advice for marriage is to always choose love. There will always be hard days or weeks but you have to choose love during the good times and bad. Always keep God the head of your marriage!
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Ecclesiastes 4:12
September 17th will be 47 years. Divorce was and is never in our vocabulary. We have our money,our family,our friends. We spend 24/7 together, and we love it!!!
We've been together 35 years and married 29. Our marriage is much like yours, we don't go out without each other.
One of the best pieces of advice when planning my wedding was "something will go wrong, but no one knows but you so your guests don't have a clue" Your wedding day has so many wonderful memories & it sounds like it was a lot of fun.
What a fun wedding story. Thanks for sharing! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Interesting listening to your take and definitions and priorities of marriage. Having grown up with divorced parents who absolutely loathed one another, it was the one thing I wanted above anything else, was a good, secure, loving partner, for life. That was till I got married and suddenly realized I hated every single aspect about being married. Wish I was wise enough back then to realize I was in love with the production of getting married. The reality of it, what quite a different ball game. Hard life lessons. My son has found a really amazing life partner and I couldn't be happier for them.
We don't really celebrate ourselves but we do stuff for the Grandchildren. We dis when kids were here. We did shoe boxes in school. It was great, with a little party. I love watching you guys. Lv and Prayers.
We will celebrate 35 years this year...❤ we got married in Hope Idaho. I wore my Moms dress. We spent maybe $1000. We have 4 children and 4 grandchildren. ❤ we love watching your family!! You are living our fantasy! We so want to move back to Idaho someday.
I loved this conversation, and share in the same beliefs about marriage and family. I appreciate your willingness to share so openly about your journey and have much admiration for the both of you!
36 years here and we are best friends, no secrets. Divorce not an option we work through anything and everything. Be there for each other ❤
My husband and I celebrated 52 years of marriage a month before he passed away. Marriage was a series of ups and downs but through it all we always went through it together. I have no regrets and only have the peace of mind knowing we made a wonderful life one day at a time together. Valentine's Day always came and went without any special attention from either of us. May God continue to bless and keep you.
Been with my partner almost 14 years the best advice I can give is communicate don’t let things simmer don’t let little things build up just lay it all out as it happens and work through it and secondly boundaries set down boundaries and stick to them and if needed come to a compromise that is good for both sides so no one feels like there giving more or giving up something for the other person if someone isn’t willing to accept a boundary or even work through it then it will end in resentment and frustration i think a lot of people are so scared to set boundaries because there worried about the other person leaving they let everything slide and that never ends well 💚
You have made great decisions for your kids and accepting of what will or will not come. I was always active in adult sports as was my wife so we never felt older until we reached our 60s, and while I gave up basketball at 50 due to an injury, I never felt age until maybe 65. However the 70s quickly let you knw you are in the senior years... It knocks you down so hard so fast, or at least for us.
Veterans day, and maybe Memorial day may be the least commercialized holidays, however any three day weekend is great for campgrounds, BBQ sales, and gas stations, not to mention all the retail stores with their "sales" which may or may not be actual reduced prices other than on paper. When I was in school in the late 50s and early 60s, we had the candy hearts there and at home, and we addressed Valentines cards to everyone in the class and exchanged them... My dad even exchanged joke valentines with friends and work buddies.
My advice is to know what things to let go and what things are worth being upset or hurt about. I have been married for 23 years. We got married at age 23 and had our first child at 25 and second at 27. We both love watching you guys and adore your partnership and love that shines through all you do!
I remember the shoe boxes in K-5.
I go by the belief that you can't rely on someone else to make you happy. That comes from within yourself.
Love your outlook on life & marriage. I was married for 39 years untill my hubby passed away. We had a similar outlook, and hardly argued. My daughter is married 30 years this year, and I have never heard them actually argue, or have a screeming match. If there is a difference of opinion, they sort it out behind closed doors, in a civil manner. My son inlaw is an awesome person too. So happy that you can make things work the way you do. You can feel very proud. Again love your outlook. God bless. Enjoy the rest of your Valentines day. ❤🎉
My husband and I met the week I turned 18 in June, we were engaged in August, and married in November. We will be married 46 years this year and we celebrate our anniversary every year by going someplace special. We also go on a date every month on the 19th (the date of our wedding), usually a museum, thrift stores and dinner. We also live in North Idaho and there are a lot of really nice museums up here!
Y'all may not understand each others feelings; however, its very important to VALIDATE the feelings of your partner/children. Feelings are real..I was married 48 yrs before losing my hubby.
Find a way to have fun, show the importance of that person. Pray together, love our God.
Peace and blessings over all y'all and yalls family and adventures.
Blessings, julie
Thank you for sharing. Continue being you and don't compare yourselves to others. Laughter, keeping a sense of humor!❤
We made a commitment to be together and to both work on our marriage. We were friends first, we spent our first few years together without kids and we became a united front. We stand up for each other, and we still have "date nights". Our children are married now, and they waited to get married to someone that accepted who they are and that they could be themselves - warts and all. When we use to argue, when the kids were younger, they were comforted by the fact that we would do a "time out" and then talk it out. We also agree to disagree on certain things - as long as it does not affect our relationship at it's core. And we absolutely trust each other.
We've known each other since I was 7 and he was 12. We started talking when I was 15, and dating at 16 (my mom set us up!). Got married at 22, and been together for over 40 + years. I'd still marry him, still (mostly! LOL) enjoy our time together.
Couples need to have just couple time, and be allowed individual time and interests too. If I could change one thing - I'd be more pushy about him taking his health more seriously. The last few years have been rough since he fell and had to have several brain surgeries, but he's almost totally back to himself... And it's been hard work, but now we are looking forward to the go ahead for traveling, and doing what we had planned for our retirement years.
Love this!! My engagement/wedding ring came from Walmart Black Friday sale!!
Hey, if y'all are weird than we're weird too!! And yes, do NOT keep score. Y'all are awesome, love you!
It works when both people are committed and equally yoked. I made the mistake of marrying someone who hid that he had no morals or ethics. You can’t hide who you are forever. What you two have is rare and you are blessed.
68 years married to my best friend! Do unto each other as you want done unto you.
You guys deserve each other. Your values are so good. So right on about so many things.
My wedding cost $500.00. We had flowers made out of toilet paper. They were pretty. We've been married 26 years.
I agree,my husband and i had small, very small, wedding.loved it full of love ...married for 40 yrs! And we married after dating 3 months 😊
We will be married 49 years as of March 2024. We spent just over a $1000.00 on our wedding, including everything. My dress was $50.00. But we had a Wonderful time and so did our guests. Happily married still. Keep God first in your lives and He will see you through. ❤
I absolutely loved you guys today. Good lesson for young people, great job. Love you❤
Thank you so much!
You both talking about your wedding brought so many memory's back to our wedding 50 year`s ago. Many mishap's and adventure`s that day, Grandmother's hotel room robbed, husband late for wedding because Best Man's car caught fire, formal pictures of my grandmother and aunt`s no one could see two of hubby`s uncle`s drunk and out cold on the lawn 10 feet from us, we got locked out of parent`s house when we went to change for travel and the bride was lowered into the basement window to open door for the men, hotel room was given away and they could only offer a room with a single bed. All good story's to tell along the year`s.
I borrowed my sister's dress too, and two months pregnant