Our Unplanned Pregnancy, Arguments, Regrets & Lessons from 20 Years Together
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- On this episode of New World Old Soul, Melissa and Jeremy celebrate Valentine's Day by taking a look back at their time spent together over the last 20 years and discuss the important lessons learned along the way.
The couple asks for viewer/listener advice when it comes to what makes for a successful marriage. There is also talk about the good, bad, and ugly moments of their relationship/marriage; their compromises, their arguments, even their unfortunate wedding mishaps.
You guys handled this subject perfectly, THANKS!! I'm now 81 and married 52 years to the same wonderful wife. As a widower now I can say my best memories are with my wife and kids. As you said, life isn't perfect, our marriage was not perfect BUT divorce was NEVER considered or on the table as options!! With my wife now gone, I feel like a bird without one wing!!
Props to you! Awesome that you had 52 years with your bride
❤️ I'm so sorry for your loss
Your tree could evolve to a shamrock tree. Then an Easter bunny tree. Do patriotic for Memorial, Labor, etc. Fall leaves, then Halloween, Thanksgiving pilgrims. Tada. Back to Christmas!
@@NewWorldOldSoulPodcast exactly!!!
We are coming up to 60 years of marriage. We met when 15/16 years old. It’s been a bumpy ride with 3 children but I wouldn’t change a minute. He is my soul mate, best friend nd dream guy. At nearly 80 I still sneak a peek at him and think how lucky I am to have married him, even though he drives me round the bend at times. Life is good. God has been so patient with me. God bless you both and we wish you many many more years together. Love always.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Interesting listening to your take and definitions and priorities of marriage. Having grown up with divorced parents who absolutely loathed one another, it was the one thing I wanted above anything else, was a good, secure, loving partner, for life. That was till I got married and suddenly realized I hated every single aspect about being married. Wish I was wise enough back then to realize I was in love with the production of getting married. The reality of it, what quite a different ball game. Hard life lessons. My son has found a really amazing life partner and I couldn't be happier for them.
Love your outlook on life & marriage. I was married for 39 years untill my hubby passed away. We had a similar outlook, and hardly argued. My daughter is married 30 years this year, and I have never heard them actually argue, or have a screeming match. If there is a difference of opinion, they sort it out behind closed doors, in a civil manner. My son inlaw is an awesome person too. So happy that you can make things work the way you do. You can feel very proud. Again love your outlook. God bless. Enjoy the rest of your Valentines day. ❤🎉
Love this!! My engagement/wedding ring came from Walmart Black Friday sale!!
Melissa, you unlocked a memory. I had forgotten about decorating a shoebox for Valentines but we did that at my school. The thrill of opening your box during the valentine’s party and seeing if the boy you secretly liked gave you a special valentine… and eating the homemade treats. Wow life was great when I was a kid, lol. Fun memories.
Love that!
Congratulations thank you for sharing your mischief. I love it.
Thank you! 😊
I decorate my smaller tree for Valentine’s Day. 💕 if your strange I am too! 🤪
Love it!!
We just celebrated 50 years together. I was married at the age of 16 to an alcoholic and abuser for almost 3 years. I had the strength to finally get out. The day my divorce became final I met my hubby. He kissed me that night and I told him "give me 3 months and we'll be married" 3 months later turned into 50 years and still on our honeymoon. We're both retired and are also together 24/7. Our secret .... never go to bed mad and communication. in 50 years we've had only 3 fights. How is that possible .... communication. if something is bothering us, we go to the other person and say "we need to talk". We never let that "hill" turn into a "mountain".
Our wedding was at the justice of the peace. We spent about $100 on our outfits. We will be celebrating 25 year anniversary will be in July.
We’ve been married for 42 years. My advice is before you get married, make sure your covenant does not contain an “ if”. Marriage should be two becoming one. Commitment to one another is the security you need with the guidance of the Lord.
It's been 40 years for us. I agree wholeheartedly with you!
I have been divorced for 38 years. I raised my three sons alone and have no regrets. I never wanted to remarry while raising them. I saw to many failures with the your kids, my kids issue. Now most men I meet are swallow and that does not interest me.
I love you and your sweet family. I just wanted to ask what Nevaeh thinks about the fact that you had her before you were married.
Amen 🙏
Well said. That is exactly what we say. 36 Years march 4
Agree with everything you've said! In May we celebrate 46 years. Fish together, garden together, spend evenings on back patio watching grandkids play together, and serve in church together! We are sooo blessed!! And don't critique each other in front of people! 😢
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And hopefully were on the same side when Covid restrictions and narrativ hit 😉
We were!❤
Our first real yelling fight was over laundry. We didn't have a washer and dryer so I had to go to the laundromat. I asked my husband to follow me and help me unload and then come back and help load it when it was done. He told me he wasn't going to help me. I was so mad that I dumped all the laundry on the living room floor and left. I spent the night with my sister and when I came home he had done all the laundry and then took me Sears and bought me a washer and dryer.
It was interesting listening to the two of you talking about marriage. We have had friends who spent a small fortune on their wedding only to divorce after just a few years. My wife and I married 53 years ago, we had very little money and our family were not in a position to help. But we managed to buy our first home, furnished it with secondhand furniture, but only after I sold my car to raise the capital. We raised two sons and are now blessed with four grandchildren. We have been through very difficult times, but survived and are still best friends.❤
Amazing ❤️
Been married 50 years, raised 2 children ( and many other that we claim that lived in our home for a time), have 4 grandchildren ( and others we claim), have 1 great grandchild. Our advice is talk, laugh, love, pray and talk some more. When anger raises its ugly head, talk even if you really don’t want to. You and your family are awesome, keep doing what your doing.
This March 12th will celebrate our 36 year anniversary. My husband use to say Hallmark is the one that created these holidays. I thought he was just trying to get out of getting me a card. I agree with him now. To me I appreciate sweet things my husband will do randomly. Four adult kids later; one granddaughter and one grandson on the way; we couldn’t be happier especially after escaping Oregon in 2020 and buying our little homestead here in Sandpoint. You’re never to old for a new adventure and my husband and I have never been closer.❤
This March 17th. Hubby n I will celebrate 23 years of marriage w 29 years together... we can not go to sleep mad at each other... and in difficult times, we only seek out advice from our pastor or a Godly couple with the same mind as us... our disagreements will only take place in private....and 2 wrongs don't make a right...and in our marriage it's not 50/50 it's 100/100! And we agreed that we could disagree and that's OK too! Happy Valentine's Day!
Love the comments from everyone, love this community. You guys are so lucky to have a happy marriage and wonderful family. We are married now 57 years, like everyone there have been sad days. We have learned how to communicate our feelings, always sleep together, support each other thru sickness. Looking forward to our 60th anniversary. I married my best friend we are in it forever.
So fun listening to you two!!! We were engaged for 18 mos, and then found out we were expecting...planned our wedding in 3 weeks, small family gathering/wedding in a chapel and an open house style reception. Then we stayed with family and opened all of our gifts with them. We went back to our apt and crashed. By our tenth anniversary we had a 9 yr old, 8 yr old and 2 yr old and bought our first and only house. God blessed us! And we are so thankful! We will hit 35 years in 2024. Healthy thing for a marriage, go to church together, hug every day, kiss every night before sleep.
I met my wife, Claire, on the 26th May 2000 on a blind date that neither of us wanted to be on. A year and a day later I asked her to marry me on bended knee at the side of the road overlooking her home town. We got married on the 28th September the following year at a cost of just over £1000, and the dress cost 2500p, £25 but pennies sounds much more. We have been happily married for almost 22 years. A word of advice though, especially to guys. Always, and I mean always, pick dates that you can remember. We met on the 26th, engaged on the 27th and married the 28th. I never forget the dates. It has saved me no end of trauma forgetting and the associated consequences.
Hearing you both talk about relationships is looking back at my life. My husband past 23 years ago and when asked why I never remarried, how can I do that in my mind I’m still married how could I betray my husband by a different person. 32 years of marriage I felt whole. Figuring out me has been a venture i still make decisions based on us not me. Stay blessed and happy always
My husband passed 7 1/2 years ago after being together for 30 years. I feel the same way you do. I can't imagine my life with someone else.
So true on wedding expenses. Love the wedding cake story! Look at the memories! You are really amazing and your accomplishments are truly incredible! I’m so happy for you both..you’ve nailed it and are so young!!Such a great outlook on life!Thank you for sharing.
It's like "Hallmark movie" goals for the real world. Aka the homesteaders! ;) Love, respect, compromise, goal setting, friendship and more importantly both people are ever evolving. Love it guys!
Keep doing what you are doing. You are blessed indeed. Plus you have blessed all of us by letting us know you
Thank you so much
If marriage is a model of Christ and the church then the way we treat and care for one another should be a ministry mission marriage. Ministering to one another, encouraging one another to grow more in love and being an Inspiration to each other. There is a country song that has lyrics that say “you make me want to be a better man”. Love that! Thank you Jesus for showing us who believe, how to love one another as you have loved us!
As a first time grandma at 53, it is anything but terrifying. Imagine the deep love you have for your children and triple it! It is seriously the best ever
Wow, the love for grandkids is greater than that for your kids?? I cannot even imagine that! ❤
I tell everyone, the only reason to have kids is to have grandkids 😂 of course my kids are like " ok mom" seriously though grandkids are the best thing ever!!!!
Mrs. Richards here...My husband and I will be celebrating 21 years in July. We are definitely best friends. Always have each others back (No matter what)...Laugh everyday...Communicate (talk about Anything and Everything)... And most important, WE ALWAYS TELL EACH OTHER, I YOU LOVE BEFORE WALKING OUT THE DOOR OR GETTING OFF THE PHONE because you never know if that's the last time you'll talk to them. ❤
You guys are awesome I can see that God lives in your hearts and family
Always ❤️
You cant take back nasty words. Dont go to bed mad at each other.
No public fighting.
Talk to each other.
Work towards your goals as a team.
Great video ❤
Happy Valentine's Day ❤❤
I remember the shoe boxes in K-5.
My husband passed unexpectedly from silicosis after 37 years. The simple camping trips, beach trips, hiking and watching sunsets fill my memories without regrets. We had our wedding near a local waterfall, dressed in white Cotten.
Don’t take yourselves too seriously….
Hi. You two are ahead of the life game.
It has taken me until my 50's to extend grace "easily" to others and to myself. Myself ...was harder; but, I've gotten there.
Thanks for your honesty and openness.
Sincerely... ongoing good thoughts and prayers to your and your family.
Treat each other with respect. Sometimes couples treat strangers with more respect than they do each other.
I think it is most important that you have your best friend as your partner in life. Someone who is there 24/7 for you. Married 50 this year. But together 55 years.
Far too many marriages/relationships these days a disposable, get into an argument thats just too hard too work out, so they walk away. For better or worse does not mean a thing these days. Very sad really.
Extend the tree to Easter and hang easter decorations on it. I have hung blown eggs that I have colored on a tree branch painted white, planted in an empty coffee can that was covered in wrapping paper. Was so much fun.
Fourth of July after Easter and then on to fall. You can keep the tree up all year long!
We keep ours up until after Valentine’s Day! But now it is coming down. Love your podcast and your YT Channel!
Are you guys debt free as to paying for things as you go along rather than putting yourself into debt? Just wondering?
Yes, we are 100% debt free
@@NewWorldOldSoulPodcastPraise God!!! That also helps your marriage more than you'll ever know!!!!!
My wife is allergic to wearing gold, so we spent 60 odd dollars on sterling silver rings , got married by the Mayor of out city, held the ceremony an party at her aunts house , where she had a huge back yard. We told everyone , well we called it a green back wedding , just give money , we didn't need stuff for house an that ,come dressed as you are, jeans, T-Shirt what ever , just come an celebrate with us. We had Tents set up , an we partied till we hrs in the morning . Total cost was around 2800 dollars, to me best wedding ever, family an friends.
It originated as a Christian feast day honoring a martyr named Valentine, and through later folk traditions it has also become a significant cultural, religious and commercial celebration of romance and love in many regions of the world.
My wife and I have been married 31 years and we are pretty much as you have described. We don't even wear wedding bands, the ring does not make you married your heart and bond does. You have been married 20 years, I think what we each in our relationships have done and follow is successful where so many have failed. SO keep doing what you are doing, and don't worry about what others think... its working for you.
OUR ADVICE: Separate BLANKETS for sleeping.
Happy Valentines Day NWOS and all the best wishes your continued story continues with awesome content on all your channels ❤️❤️❤️🇨🇦🇨🇦🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🌹🥰😎
Thank you so much 😀
Jeremy & Melissa, We've been married 50 years. There have been good times and bad times but at the end of the day, we had each other. I used to tell our kids friends when they got married, "The secret to a long marriage is a short memory. Remember the good things, forget the bad things and don't bring up the past because you can't change the past!"
We celebrate when the candy is 50% off or more my husband and I jabe been doing it for 20 years
We have been married in May 55 years. Like you...Valentine's day has not been a big day for us. I have a funny story though. 9 years ago my husband was having Physical Therapy for a shoulder operation. His cute and really nice therapist asked him what he was getting me for Valentine's day. Oh my...so I got a Orchid plant..my first Valentine's gift ever. The funny thing is that when he went back to his next appointment...she didn't even ask him what he got. He got the gift for no reason it seemed. His Therapist and I joked that I was going to send him every holiday for therapy so I will get a gift. We all had a big laugh over it. :)
We just celebrated our 50th Wedding Anniversary. We don’t celebrate Valentines Day. We too feel like it’s a Hallmark $ making holiday. We take time every day to spend a few minutes together discussing the day, talk about things coming up for the week and just enjoying each others company. Love is a journey - enjoy the ride!
That is awesome!
When you..get to #10yrs.on your Idaho home...
OR
Sooner..do a reWedding.
Respect each other. I hear a lot that marriage is 50/50, that's not true. It's 100/100. I truly believe young adults now have a mind set that it's going to be all lovey dovey & a fairy tale. Melissa, I totally agree with you on going out to "bash" on your spouse. Unacceptable! I think it's wonderful that you & Jeremy want to do things together & together with your children. I love the idea of Valentine tree! Very creative & your kids will remember those special little things when older. Thank you for all you share & your honesty. I appreciate it & y'all.
My kids mom and I also had our 1st child about 18 months after we 1st met. We got married when she was 4 months pregnant, and we were both very young...so it happens lol. We went to a JP and had the reception at my best friend's cottage. Very inexpensive. Our honeymoon was 3 days at Niagara Falls which was a 3 hour drive for us at that time. Unfortunately, we divorced after 17 years of marriage and 3 children. We still see each other at grandchildren`s birthdays etc and still are polite and cordial with one another. To be honest, I had some sort of midlife crisis in my late 30s and made some very bad decisions for myself and my family. I look back and wish I had not made the choices I made, but it is what it is. Wishing you guys a happy Valentine`s day! If you ever have problems that seem overwhelming, do yourselves a favour and work through them...even if you need some help to do so. You seem to have a great marriage and relationship...so always find a way to work out issues. I look back and really wish I had done the same.
I send my wife flowers at her work, then my wife and I just go buy some good ribeye steaks and have a nice dinner at home then drink some sparkling wine with chocolates. Just a nice quiet relaxing evening at home.
Love that!
Really loved listening to you both discuss this, my better half and me have decided to finally tie the knot after 30 years (and 2 boys) of being engaged. It never felt right for my partner but we are now both 60 and now we feel it is. So this May we are going to the Registry Office in the UK whilst on Holiday.
I was only married for 28 years , 2 months and approximately 3.5 weeks. My marriage ended the way God intended. My wife was a juvenile onset Diabetic since 1970. She got sick the Sunday after Thanksgiving in 2009. Saw the doctor next day and all the readings came back good. She was quite nauseous however so the doctor prescribed meds to try to help with that. Well that Tuesday she got sicker and ended up in the hospital. Body temp was 95, irregular heartbeats, throwing up so violently her stomach was bleeding. Electrolytes was off and blood sugar went to 1098. Normal is between 80-120. A day later Linda came down with 100% staff pneumonia both lungs 🫁. 4.5 weeks later she passed awY
I'm so sorry
ENJOYED WATCHING THE VIDEO LADY AND GENTLEMAN 😊
We did Valentine boxes when I was in grade school, this was in the 40's... also May Day baskets. Good fun for children.
Excellent podcast that I totally agree with! The two becoming one is critical for faith-based relationships. After 50 years of marriage my wife and I are like Jeremy! We hate stretchy spandex pants and Walmart customers dressed in their pajamas! My best advice is “ listening to each other” before getting angry or judgemental! Avoid bullies and worldly players. I agree do NOT keep track of the negatives and stress over it! Your work ethic and accomplishments as a TH-cam couple is the highlight of your channel. Your parenting skills and faith have raised four beautiful children that I am proud of!
It works when both people are committed and equally yoked. I made the mistake of marrying someone who hid that he had no morals or ethics. You can’t hide who you are forever. What you two have is rare and you are blessed.
My wife and I put communication as a top priority. If we ever have a bad argument we make sure to hash it out and never go to sleep angry. We talk about everything and make most of our decisions as a couple. We are blessed to be together now for 17 years, married for almost 10.
#1…always take a minute or a breath and see the situation/argument for what it actually is! And always remember that being “right” should never come with the cost of hurting the one you love 😊
You (both) look marvelous! ❤❤
We have been married 46 yrs. And we have augment s but we get over it in half hour . And never go to bed without telling each other that we love each other . And we have always go together wherever. And sit together as a couple . Love you guys ! ❤😊
yesterday was our 48th anniversary. Love you guys. watch everything
Happy Anniversary ❤️
Totally agree about the company we keep separate from our spouse. It can cause problems.
So enjoyed this podcast. Reminisced about my own wedding. We have been married 41 years. Our wedding was small because we chose to buy a house rather than have a big wedding. Family only. Mother-in-law catered the food. Our wedding cake was a sheet cake. Our day started off with a bomb scare at the church. We ended up holding the ceremony in the nun's chapel which was actually perfect.
I have to ask- do you guys have make up Six after a fight?
Im 42 and have been praying for a husband. Hopefully Im relatively normal, please introduce me to someone....you guys seem normal and solid and I would trust your judgement.
I cant believe how much you two are like me and my wife! I wish i had a couple/family like yall that lived by us!
First Valentine gift after we bought our house was a plumber! Roses would have been sooo much cheaper. Next year was my detached retina. We now just skip the whole thing and are going 32 years strong. Love you guys ❤
I heard a wedding now cost $30,000 CRAZY
When we got marriedbin 1974 my mom & aunts & uncles made the food. It was chicken long rice, kalua pig, rice, mac salad & Lomi lomi salmon & Poi.
We got married in San Diego so many people never had any of that besides rice & they LOVED it EXCEPT for the Poi. A friend thought it was gravy & poured it on his rice LOL
Happy Valentine's Day from Loveland, Colorado!
Same to you!
coming up on 50 yrs STILL regret doing wedding and reception. moms wanted that. we're not group people. but we caved. tuxs bridesmaids and groomsmen.... weird DEFINITELY DO NOT SPEND TONS OF MONEY!
Really enjoyed this video!! My husband and I are soon to celebrate 48 years together.. And You guys NAILED IT on so many levels..🙌🏻 🙌🏻
My peace of advice is this.. Marriage is Not
50/50 It’s 100/100.
Diviorce is 50/50
The two of you would be AMAZING marriage counsellors !
Just think how rich you would be.. lol 😆
Cheers 🥂 to Your Wonderful marriage ❤
This September will be 53 yrs. Pregnant and married 2 months before my 17th birthday. No regrets, still the love of my life and my best friend. We have 3 children, 9 grandchildren, 2 great grandchildren. Life is good. God is good!
Are you going to decorate the tree for St. Patrick's Day or Easter, or Memorial Day or Flag Day or 4th of July? You get a reprieve. for August, but then back to Memorial Day and Halloween, then Turkey Day, and last but not least back to Christmas.... Just helping out...LOL
We're seniors & have been married 33 years. We spent Valentine's day watching your podcast!❤ I liked what you said about knowing when you're not valued. Great advice! 👍👍Questions about Jeremy's mom . . .& maybe address in future??👍
❤ I think someone should make up a questionnaire. It should contain basic fundamental scenario questions. Simple things like, do you believe in God? Do you believe that behavior modification is a sound child training mechanism? You know, things that are common sense stuff 😂. And here's a little strange F.Y.I. Ancient sources reveal that there were several St. Valentines who died on Feb. 14. Two of them were executed during the reign of Roman Emperor Claudius Gothicus in 269-270 A.D., at a time when persecution of Christians was common.
How do we know this? Because, an order of Belgian monks spent three centuries collecting evidence for the lives of saints from manuscript archives around the known world.❤ Happy Valentines ya'll. ❤
God bless your marriage and family all your days! We love your channel! My husband and I have been married 25 years this September, and went on our 1st date 10 years before that (as freshman in HS). Melissa.... totally agree... marriage is not about the illusive "Happiness". Our best learned advice... "Eyes on Jesus" (in good times, bad times, fun times, hard times.) Keeping eyes and focus on Jesus will always draw you to the same GOOD point.
Y'all may not understand each others feelings; however, its very important to VALIDATE the feelings of your partner/children. Feelings are real..I was married 48 yrs before losing my hubby.
Find a way to have fun, show the importance of that person. Pray together, love our God.
Peace and blessings over all y'all and yalls family and adventures.
Blessings, julie
Going out with five girls is definitely a nightmare, LOL!! Add in the marital drama/divorce, just no, no, no!! I'm with ya, Melissa!
SAINT VALENTINE: He married young Christians when it was forbidden in Pagan Rome. Amongst other things he did.
My thoughts, Marriage isn’t at all 50/ 50%. It needs to be
100/ 100% from both partners. When you are both giving your all things always can be worked out.
Here in New Orleans people take down the Christmas lights and ornaments from the tree and put up the Mardi Gras lights and ornaments, They put up Mardi Gras lights on the outside of the house Purple,Green ,and Gold. my wife has giant tubs full of decorations for every single holiday, Easter, valentines which have given way to mardi gras, Memorial Day and Veterans Day because we are a military family and it's the right thing to do, Independence Day, Thanksgiving, oh and don't forget Spring , Summer, Fall, and winter. Oh yes and Saint Patrick's day, and Halloween ....I'm sure I'm forgetting something else.
We've been married 48 1/2 years and we had a very basic wedding at her grandfather's church and a small Cake and Champagne in the Room in the back of the Church property and I had to work the next morning. I was in the Navy we had to wait for 6 or 7 months before we could on our honeymoon...a camping trip. LOL
Nothing wrong with a small, "cheaper" wedding. We got married in the back yard with just family. Hubby was Seminole, so we had a native part and a "white guy" part. Rings cost $69 each. We did have a simple BBQ for friends the next day. I made the invites.
My wife and I have been together for 28 years. In all that time NOBODY has EVER heard me complain about my wife about anything. Never. Not once. This is not to say that she’s not a flawed individual, or that we haven’t had our issues, but they are OUR issues. The problems were caused by us, and the solutions will be found within us.
Absolutely Melissa Valentine Day Is all about Spending money on candies like chocolates Bouquets exactra...to me it's just a Regular Day Nothing Special Cause If Your gonna love someone it's gonna be for life & I love my kids grandkids Great Grandkids every day of my life not just on Man Made Valentine's Day that's no holiday it's something people made up so is easter but I have nothing against it it's still nice...but thats just me ♥️🙏
🇦🇺My eldest daughter paid under $3000 for the dress, bridesmaids dress, cake, venue, flowers and food. I made the invitation with the engagement photo in it, I took a vintage 18 foot veil that I cut down for my daughter ($5). It had a beautiful scolloped edge, I added bling.
I'm sitting here listening to you guys thinking, "Dang!We are so alike." Hubs is retired law enforcement. We've been married for 37 years and lived in the same, small house instead of moving to something larger in order to save for our Idaho dream, which we fulfilled in 2013! We've been retired for 11 years and aren't 60 yet and spend 24/7 together. We enjoy being together and people think we are nuts that we enjoy always being together, which I think is sad for them. The 50's decade is pretty great too, except for the aches and pain of aging😅
Today is our 50th Valentines celebration. I met my wife 1/3/74. We got married 2/14/76. She was the first girl I dated. I was a college junior, she a sophomore. It is about us, there is no me in marriage.
Friendship, divorce off the table. 27 years married. 31 years together. Also having mutual goals!
Happy Valentine!
Same to you!
The true story of how St Valentine's Day came about is an account of clandestine marriages, imprisonment, miracles, salvation, and sacrifice. . . . Fascinating! Look it up!
Partnerships are extremely difficult and in many cases end with arguments and an ugly breakup. IMO, you’re better off without it. Of course I’m not familiar with the details so I’m speaking generally. My wife and I (married for 45 years) enjoy both of your channels. We’re about to enter our 70s and are having a blast. We’re both extremely active and healthy and travel around the country in our Airstream. You have many productive enjoyable decades remaining.
Hubby and my BFF, lost his wife seven years ago on Dec 9th. She had put up their tree early due to celebrating with all their adult kids on thxgiving. It is covered from so many years of decorations they'd accumulated. He left it up. It's still standing, fully decorated. He says his kids can take it down when he dies. I was like OMG. But he's in a big house alone with his dog, so I guess, why not......😁😁
Just go to the Justice of the Peace and save loads of money. For Valentine's Day just go to the store, pick out cards, exchange them, put them back and go home. Never criticize your spouse, especially in public.
Our last born made her arrival on Valentines Day, and since her birth 7 years ago, my husband and I forget Valentines Day IS Valentines Day! It’s our daughter’s birthday and that’s been our focus on February 14th for the last 7 years lol.
Both my husband and I show our love for each other throughout the whole year and have never been the couple that uses that day as a reason to show our love. ❤
Great points! Sadly, I had to experience divorce from my first wife after 16 years. It was an unreconcilable situation regardless of our covenant. My second marriage will reach 20 years in July. I completely agree with what you guys said.
Our wedding was also very small. Just our parents; my wife's sisters and grandparents. We spent less than $ 200 on the entire wedding. She wore her prom dress and I rented a tux. We just celebrated our 50th anniversary on Dec 24, 2023.
So my sister goes from Christmas to valentines to st Patrick’s day tree. Tell Spanky I asked for st paddy’s day tree! To honor my Irish birth. ☘️🇮🇪 ☘️
We enjoy your podcast, very interesting and insightful, we will be married 49 years and will have known each other 50 years this year… Also an interesting podcast to watch about life and horses, especially for Eli, is Dry Creek Wrangler, Dawayne Noel
keep it ‘humorous’ …it shows in your interactions…both of you demonstrate truth that is real, it makes it much easier to keep your love/relationship/goals/values at the center of your daily life…your current life style allows both of you to live a special life…give lots of credit to your parents/culture…lastly, both of you embrace the willingness to CHANGE…as you both grow and mature…much mahalos for sharing …Nui ke aloha a me ka hauoli…🤙🏽😊
Married 44 years. Love my wife. My advice to you both: I got none. IMO You have it right. Don’t change. Best friends, on the same sheet of music. Love each other. Same goals. Divorce is not on the table…work it out. Sounds like the right plan to me.
You are So Right about speaking out against your spouse. Talking down about them. I have been married 4 times. My first husband was from Peru. I really got married to get away from home. It wasn't right but I was pregnant when I met my 1st husband but I went back home and we never stayed in touch after I left. One day he ended up at my door, I didn't know how he found me but there he was. I was shocked because I lived in this little small town in WV. with under 500 people. I didn't even know he knew where I lived. I left Washington DC by Grayhound bus and didn't leave my address with him. Idk but even now 54 years later i don't know.
Anyway, he was good to my son and that's what mattered. He came with a friend and they spent the weekend and they went back to VA. We talked every few days and he came in to see us usually every other weekend. We had really good times and one weekend he asked me to marry him. A couple months later we got married. He then told me to see if my sister could keep my son until we could get an apartment. I didn't know that he didn't have his own apartment.. She said yes and so we got married and flew to Washington only to get there and his friends wife ended up in a mental hospital because she was jealous of me. I should have left then and there but didn't want to go back to WV. Anyway long story short, he didn't really want my son, I wasn't stable enough financially to raise my son by myself and my sisters husband was badgering me to adopt my son and was threatening to take me to court for child support or let them adopt him and I was too scared and weak and I let them adopt
him. I actually hated my husband by that time. He wouldn't let me get a divorce bc he used me to file for citizenship and you had to be married for several years before you could get a divorce. IDK, I wish I could erase all those years. My 2nd husband was a gem. He was amazing. He was everything my 1st husband wasn't. He was also a great father to my daughter from my 1st husband. He was the daddy she loved until he died 6 years later. Yes he was an amazing husband and father and I still miss him terribly.
I don't want to even talk about my 3rd husband (who ended up cheating on me and becoming an alcoholic or my 4th husband who was an addict to Crack Cocaine)! I now have been divorced for over 15 years, I'm 71 no more men in my life YES!!! I live my life for Christ now and am happy with my life choices !!!
Our wedding 38 yrs ago was essentially a catered cop party at a friend's mansion. When my mother-in-law found out that we were paying $500 for the whole shindig she insisted on paying for everything, slipping the money to my husband when I wasn't aware. We could all afford more, but that wasn't the point. All we wanted was a nice party for our friends and family. So much fun and much more memorable than the expected ceremony.
My wife and I got married at the county courthouse. Was a few of our friends and her parents (my parents live on east coast). Her dress was probably $30 at Target. I wore a dress shirt and tie that I had. Afterward we went back to inlaws for a reception that was cold cuts and simple snacks. Pretty sure we spent less than $300.
Although we couldn't afford it at the time, I did promise her we'd go to Disney World for our honeymoon. I made good on that promise 10 years later when we went for our 10th anniversary.
Last week was our 21st anniversary which, coincidently, we spent in Coeur d'Alene, Idaho finding an apartment. Been wanting to move to Idaho for years now, and it's finally happening next month.
This coming March 14 my husband and I have been married for 20 years. Our advice for marriage is to always choose love. There will always be hard days or weeks but you have to choose love during the good times and bad. Always keep God the head of your marriage!
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Ecclesiastes 4:12
I think with your children need to have a vow renewal and a family party. We married my daughter off in October and my son will be in May. Let me tell you are right. It could be so special and simple. I wish someone would have told my kids that. Venues are $8000 and up. My family is 167, that is just brother and sisters with their kids,so you need somewhere big.