5 things you should know BEFORE dating someone in the Military

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  • Dating a military person can be rough! Here's 5 things you should know before you start! Enjoy!
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  • @BritCon2
    @BritCon2  3 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    If you’re seeing this in 2021 I wrote a book! It’s called, Finding Joy in Loneliness - Experiencing True Joy in the Midst of Difficult Seasons.
    If you are about to go through military life or you already are, I would encourage you to read it! It’s faith based, but I truly believe anyone can get something out of it! Love you guys! ❤️ amzn.to/35qYr6Q

    • @mirembeflavia7237
      @mirembeflavia7237 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for the book,let me get ready,l also need and want a military man read to marry me

    • @soothingwithshenz8789
      @soothingwithshenz8789 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I want to publish mines as well

    • @ashtonjairo2063
      @ashtonjairo2063 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You all probably dont care but does anybody know of a tool to log back into an instagram account..?
      I stupidly forgot my password. I would love any tips you can offer me!

  • @germainepuerto3444
    @germainepuerto3444 3 ปีที่แล้ว +236

    two years in a relationship with a navy guy and he does everything he could just to spend time/talk to me. I am so blessed to have him.

    • @annappleeater
      @annappleeater 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Awww That's great. I love to hear it

    • @nonhlanhlamaribe7050
      @nonhlanhlamaribe7050 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Im in lice with this guy im from South Africa 🇿🇦hes from Gorgia hes far bt we communicate like texting or calling, we love each other, so im waiting for him ❤️

    • @yolandamzizi4138
      @yolandamzizi4138 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@nonhlanhlamaribe7050😭😭omw, I’m watching this video cause I feel like the distance is too much for me, plus they undergo training at times and aren’t allowed to use their phones for a few hours, plus the time difference.
      How do you manage? I’m a fellow South African

    • @pepe340
      @pepe340 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@yolandamzizi4138me too ..mine is in German and I’m in USA ..not sure right now

  • @avogal3679
    @avogal3679 5 ปีที่แล้ว +238

    Just sitting here crying haha I miss my boyyyy

    • @thejazz338
      @thejazz338 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I feel your pain , we'll pull through and see them soon!! I hope your significant other already returned and you both are together already 😊

    • @sheesh2358
      @sheesh2358 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same here...

    • @catherinep664
      @catherinep664 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me

    • @rhiannamackenzie4011
      @rhiannamackenzie4011 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too

    • @sorakeke1442
      @sorakeke1442 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Saaaaame🥲

  • @aizamaesalazar9240
    @aizamaesalazar9240 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Before I started dating a marine, I really had to ask myself if dating a military man would be for me. I finally decided, I could. I definitely can wait for him because I know it would be so worth it. As for anyone who literally just wants to date someone just cause their in a military please do not do that. It’s not a fairytale. It truly is hard when along the way you gotta learn that there will be times you won’t be able to talk to them every single day. I’ve also learned how much commitment, communication, and trust that’s needed. If you have God centered in your relationship you guys will truly last. ❤️ God is love and love is eternal.

    • @pinzjoe17
      @pinzjoe17 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Azia, I am a casting producer who is working on a military show about long distance dating. We are going through the ups and downs of it and my job is to find people who are going through it. Below is the casting notice for the series. If you are interested, just email me.
      Do you want to tell your story about the ups and downs of dating someone in the military?
      Have you only met each other face-to-face a handful of times or haven’t met at all?
      Do you want to be an inspiration to those who are going through a long distance love connection?
      Then this is the show for you
      A new TV series for a major cable network are looking for people in a long-distance relationship in the military. We want to go inside what it’s like to date someone stationed in a different part of the world. Whether you are both in the military at different locations or you are working a 9-5 job while your partner is serving, when it comes to matter of the heart, how does distance and limited contact impact your relationship when you’re in love with someone who isn’t always close by. If interested, please email Joepinzone80@gmail.com

  • @ellie2041
    @ellie2041 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    1. Its gonnna be hard because you won't be able to have a lot of time together
    2. Can't always text or call them all the time
    3. You feel lonely a lot( need self-assurance/ confidence)
    4. They are dedicated partners
    5. They get stressed a lot you need to encourage them

  • @YazooYazii
    @YazooYazii 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I know what you mean... I was at a show 2 days ago.alone.
    the singer said "kiss your loved ones you're here with"
    everybody kissed and hugged. I sat there and hold the necklace he gave me. he's not here on my birthday
    I dont care about all that.
    I love him.

  • @Brittvnylc
    @Brittvnylc 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Girl YES!!! my husband got deployed when I was 6 weeks pregnant and he Missed the ENTIRE pregnancy . Super hard

  • @elliot3751
    @elliot3751 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I don’t like the statement “As a Christian I don’t feel lonely, because the lord is always with me.”
    Because I am too a Christian and do believe the lord is always with us.
    But feeling lonely has nothing to do with religion, and I feel lonely all the time, and no it’s not “A faith test” it’s human nature.
    Everyone feels lonely, because emotion is human nature.
    But as for this video, it was good.

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wappy Laughy Thanks for your comment! I 100% agree! This was 20 year old Brittani who was young and naive haha. In my newer videos I address my struggle with loneliness and how God has used that to deepen my relationship with Him. Also how we were created for relationship with the Father and so loneliness is a natural occurrence to our separation from Him. Thanks for pointing this out though. Wish I would have spoken this differently, but had no idea this video would be seen by so many people haha.

    • @CRISMELY
      @CRISMELY 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I could agree. I dont feel lonely because the Lord fulfills it. But I do miss him. But don't feel lonely. God has told me before, "You shouldn't feel lonely, I'm always with you." But of course we should or could miss them. ♡♡♡ But I love it. It is always blissful to see him. Known him for 11 years. Dated for 2 years. He just left back to the Fort today. 😍 I believe God can help with loneliness if we ask. Why wouldn't God give us that? He is the God of the impossible! But I still understand what you mean. Depends on the person I guess?

    • @brandyyoung5085
      @brandyyoung5085 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen to that x 2

  • @bf1321
    @bf1321 5 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    It's very scary for me because I don't want to lose my boyfriend. We met in highschool and knowing he's going to be far is a concept that hurts me.

    • @kalebmendez1460
      @kalebmendez1460 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same but for a girl because she wants to join the Army but I’m joining the Marines doing different jobs so it’s gonna be hard being away a lot of the time

  • @nikkirivera7541
    @nikkirivera7541 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Been on 5 deployments (infantry) with mine married 3 beautiful babies he is now a Drill instructor and comes home once a week! But couldn’t be any happier! Our relationship has come a long way. Ladies it’s possible, you both really just gotta support one another. Blessings to you all!

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for sharing your story!! Love hearing success stories! It is totally possible! ❤️

    • @nikkirivera7541
      @nikkirivera7541 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Brit+Con thank you! Also thanks for sharing a video about it not to many woman know what it’s like and how much more work it takes to be in a relationship with someone in military! Your awesome blessings your way

  • @BritCon2
    @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว +227

    Thank you everyone who has watched this video and commented! This was the very first video that I made about a year and a half ago and I have definitely grown in my knowledge of military wife life! For those of you that have added additional positive commentary, you guys rock! Being a young military wife I can't possibly know everything, but you guys have definitely helped me a lot. Praying for each of you as I see a new comment, positive or sad. Military life is tough, whether you are serving or the significant other. Let's continue to support each other!
    -Brit+Con

    • @probinsyanangexplorista9136
      @probinsyanangexplorista9136 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Brit+Con i feel you :)
      my man is a military too

    • @Sweetie_Bear
      @Sweetie_Bear 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Brit+Con my boyfreind just shipped off and this video caught my attention. Everything you say is so relatable and i one hundred percent agree with you. I am so happy fo your relationship and thank you for being the person to finally say what needs to be said about this.

    • @Joy-tu4yj
      @Joy-tu4yj 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Brit+Con : WOW your video and the way you said on it are really amazed me!!!
      Especially when you said: I never feel alone because I’m Christian and I have God! This is the point that I was waiting for from your words!
      Yes! I totally agree with you! We have the big God that accompanies us 24 hours! Even comfort us and keep us safe and feel loved!
      To be Christian must be very loyal to our spouse and God!
      I’m proud to be Christian as well!
      I’m married a navy guy! I was in that situation as well even worst. I was in my country before he took me here.
      You can’t tell how difficult it is on having the long distance relitionship, with the different countries and time zones! But thankfully I have a Great great God that made everything work for both of us!
      God is really Good!!!
      Keep praying and believing in God.
      May God bless your marriage girl 👍

    • @lanettacoppins685
      @lanettacoppins685 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hello Britt I have learned to deal with my husband delyopment we have been married for over a a year now have had some rough times in the past year a year ago I had a heart attack and had open heart surgery with the grace of God I pulled thru My husband has been always there for me and the best support system any wife could ever ask for Please never stop doing the videos they given me hope and strength

    • @Joy-tu4yj
      @Joy-tu4yj 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lanetta Coppins : Amazing testimony. God has blessed you with the wonderful husband. Keep it up and put your faith in God!

  • @iamkiaranicolee
    @iamkiaranicolee 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Having army gf/wives help a lot because they are experiencing the same feelings as you are

  • @williamjones2340
    @williamjones2340 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    As a Army retiree and been married for 37 years a military relationship can work. My wife faced most of what you said. However I also told her that there will be times that I will be gone extended length of time. Not because I want to but it is duty. Also told her that I could deploy and come back really injured or in a box. On my deployments she wore out some carpet praying. Thank you for your service. Yours may be harder than his.

    • @MinibiteTran
      @MinibiteTran 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi
      I have read your comments I dare to say this , but because I love my daughter so might to step up to ask
      Do you know any military man in about 35 to 47 that single my daughter just want to dating them man only yes serious lead to marry she is 32 Canadians VIETNAMES by the way
      THX for respond

  • @ViceN53X
    @ViceN53X 6 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Only the weak and disloyal would betray a soldier's love. It sickens me to know that there are people like that out there. They may be rare, or at least I think they're rare, but they still exist.

  • @shadeenah8791
    @shadeenah8791 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I dated the most amazing man for a month in person and then he deployed. currently he’s been deployed for 3 weeks. His job is super stressful as he works with explosives. I know a month is not a lot of time but from day one This man made me feel seen in a way no one else has but recently his work has had him busy and I’ve been hearing from him less. I know he’s not ignoring me but I can’t help feeling so neglected. I am trying to make a decision if I can handle this or not. I don’t want to hurt his feeling (part of me feels like he would understand). I also feel like I can’t come to him every time I feel like throwing in the towel otherwise he will make the decision for me. I guess I’m just here because I’m trying to decide if it’s worth it. 😢 this sucks.
    *edit* i wrote the post above in the morning. It’s the end of the day now and I decided he is absolutely worth it. 🥰

  • @JamesSmith-co1kt
    @JamesSmith-co1kt 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Watch out for Jody. Jody is at home while your deployed. Jody is always tempting your wife/ gf. Jody is everywhere. Always tempting your significant other. If your weak, Jody will move in and then there is trouble in paradise. Jody is bad.

  • @miamarie4402
    @miamarie4402 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    So I’ve been talking to this guy for 5 months and we aren’t dating yet cause we just haven’t made it official but he’s gonna be going into the military and so I’m searching for tons of videos about it so i appreciate this video cause i have no clue what I’m doing

  • @shermanwiggin
    @shermanwiggin 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i am in the army and i live in Germany and my girlfriend is in the us it is the hardest thing GOD has had us go thru. I had her watch your video it has really help us so thanks

  • @UCMarioAvila
    @UCMarioAvila 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    We need more perfect girls like her! Honest, religious, in love, and committed

  • @vikkeyzebra
    @vikkeyzebra 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I’m currently talking to a guy in the military and it’s hard and it sucks but it’s also not as bad as I thought it would be. We started talking the beginning of November and he’s currently overseas. He came home for Christmas so we got to meet and go out and I can’t wait for him to come back this summer💙

    • @pinzjoe17
      @pinzjoe17 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Tori, I am a casting producer who is working on a military show about long distance dating. We are going through the ups and downs of it and my job is to find people who are going through it. Below is the casting notice for the series. If you are interested, just email me.
      Do you want to tell your story about the ups and downs of dating someone in the military?
      Have you only met each other face-to-face a handful of times or haven’t met at all?
      Do you want to be an inspiration to those who are going through a long distance love connection?
      Then this is the show for you
      A new TV series for a major cable network are looking for people in a long-distance relationship in the military. We want to go inside what it’s like to date someone stationed in a different part of the world. Whether you are both in the military at different locations or you are working a 9-5 job while your partner is serving, when it comes to matter of the heart, how does distance and limited contact impact your relationship when you’re in love with someone who isn’t always close by. If interested, please email Joepinzone80@gmail.com

  • @rachelvasquez7826
    @rachelvasquez7826 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I can sense that you are such a kind and supportive spirit. That's something that is beautiful to see in such a young woman.
    I wish you all the best.

  • @aryllih.0311
    @aryllih.0311 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I’ve been feeling overwhelmed with my feelings lately. I’m engaged to a military man who I love so much. I’ve never done long distance before, so already that was something I didn’t know how to do and something I was inexperienced in. It’s been so so hard. The hardest battle of my life. If I didn’t see a future with him I would have raised my flag and left. But I haven’t and I don’t plan on it. I want to be with him and I see a future with him. A lot of things hit home while watching this video because I’ve felt and dealt with every single thing mentioned. Right now he’s out on the field and I have no way of communicating or hearing from him and vice versa. I miss him. He has another week out there. This is preparation for when he’s deployed in about a month or even less. I’m scared that I won’t get to see him before they send him off to the Middle East. I can’t stand when he talks about his will and whose names are on it. The thought of something happening to him while he’s out there brings tears to my eyes and I start crying. It’s the hardest subject for me to talk about or even hear about. I just want him home and within arms reach. I’m trying to remain strong. But it’s not easy. I’m just glad I’m not the only one who has gone through this and all the feelings it comes with. Knowing I’m not alone makes me feel less lonely. 🥺

  • @9yrsold526
    @9yrsold526 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    He will be leaving in 22 days for the training for 13 weeks. I dont think I can 'survive'. Pray for his safety thanks

  • @keeleysarver9375
    @keeleysarver9375 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    God I needed this, thank you! My mans is in the Navy and underway right now, haven't spoken to him in weeks until he gets to a port at some point. The loneliness is hitting me but picking up a hobby definitely helps. The best thing to tell yourself is "this isn't (their) fault" and "(they'll) talk to me when they can."

  • @littlelioness
    @littlelioness 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    You had me at "the Lord is with me"

  • @ImAFlirt839
    @ImAFlirt839 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Girl... your videos are so great!!!!! When you talk about loneliness and having the Lord there for you which makes it okay, my heart feels that!! Thank you for making these videos!!

  • @aienjamir89
    @aienjamir89 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Never in my life have I ever listened so closely and so attentively to any video on tips as paid my attention to this video without blinking my eyes even once...it was like we were discussing in real life. So good. Waiting eagerly for my bae's arrival in January 2019.... Can't wait...

  • @jonesusa1111
    @jonesusa1111 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I miss him so much. Your post has been a great source of comfort and support. Thank you for sharing it.

  • @ambervandenburg4380
    @ambervandenburg4380 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is such a great video. Some people don't understand how hard military relationships are. It's definitely not for everyone.

  • @gabejaramillo7938
    @gabejaramillo7938 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I don’t know how people do it. I really don’t. I get really attached to people easily. I just had to leave a purely genuine girl for this reason because I knew I couldn’t handle a situation like this. And trust me when I say I feel like a complete asshole thinking about it. But I’m hoping one day she can understand that me being at home and constantly having to think about the love of my life being gone for months on end. All military couples I wish you guys the best. And I wish nothing but wonderful futures for you guys. Way to hold it down for one another :)

  • @heyst13
    @heyst13 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for this. Most posts online have been about how your partner is 100% gonna cheat or something incredibly depressing and discouraging if you ever date a military man or woman. It's great to finally find a positive video that's honest and just... real. I appreciate this so much and I feel a lot better about going now. Hopefully she and I can stay as strong as you have with your man

  • @margaritegonzalez1169
    @margaritegonzalez1169 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This really helps...Thank you for sharing this for those like myself going through what your saying missing him and wanting to share my life with him. But it's like you say if your going to have a military man in your life it's a different life. You have to be ready for what comes in their life. It's military life either accept them or dont! Patience , love , care, trust, is vital of what is required if your dating a military man .

  • @adorable1122
    @adorable1122 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I’ve been dating my military guy for about 4 months and even though it’s not traditional like civilian men, I can tell you, he is probably the greatest man I’ve ever met. Sweet, attentive, honest, mature, driven, a gentleman, and he has shown me that he makes it a point for us to have open and thorough communication. And he does all of that as I see him on the weekends. He’s currently on a sub for a week and this is my first time not being able to talk to him everyday like I’m used to but it’s not as bad as I thought. I’m a nursing student so I currently have enough to keep me busy but I can’t wait till he comes back so we can go out again, I really enjoy my time with him. If he asked me to be his lady/gf, I wouldn’t even hesitate

  • @miyamonaee1577
    @miyamonaee1577 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I text my babes everyday goodmorning paragraphs and goodnight paragraphs and scriptures to motivate him. Gives him inspirational quotes. To let him know that I’m still here with him through everyday bad days and hard.

    • @kyriestone5850
      @kyriestone5850 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That's a really good idea my bf is going into the Marines in 6 months and that's scary but that a great idea thank you!

    • @miyamonaee1577
      @miyamonaee1577 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      You welcome

  • @ayakaamami4171
    @ayakaamami4171 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for sharing this video. I’m dating with a marine officer, and sometimes it’s so hard and lonely. Sometimes I have doubts such as he doesn’t love me because he’s not there when I need him, or my priority is so low to him... I’ve been feeling so down for an entire week, but I watched this video, and all I’m feeling rn is gratefulness and appreciations for you, my boyfriend, and my best friends. I’m not even an American, but I’m willing to go through this for the love of my life. Thank you.

  • @melaniekull5609
    @melaniekull5609 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This definitely helped a lot. My boyfriend is doing training for a while, we dont know how long. But, I carry a flash drive around my neck with all our pictures, songs and videos for when I miss him

  • @BauAshley
    @BauAshley 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Love how articulate you are and not stuttering. Very clear to listen to you. My neighbor was deployed and while he was gone his wife left him and took everything. How horrible. I think this a great video just for any relationship 👍🏼 Really encouraging

    • @theblackknight9783
      @theblackknight9783 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I love my wife, we but we have three bank accounts. Her checking account, my checking account and our checking account. Never let anyone have full access your money, except in certain circumstances.

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow, how sad Ashley ☹️...
      Thanks for sharing and watching our videos!

  • @yannieso4889
    @yannieso4889 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is a very balanced and realistic explanation on the situation. Thank you so much!

  • @trevorwalden6097
    @trevorwalden6097 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for this video! Being a military man myself, this helps me understand relationships from the opposite point of view.
    God bless you and your warrior!

  • @von-marieoliva4827
    @von-marieoliva4827 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Im currently going through this and am finding the shift in communication SO HARD. So it was relieving to hear you confirm that this was one of the toughest parts. Thank you! 😭

    • @pinzjoe17
      @pinzjoe17 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Von, I am a casting producer who is working on a military show about long distance dating. We are going through the ups and downs of it and my job is to find people who are going through it. Below is the casting notice for the series. If you are interested, just email me.
      Do you want to tell your story about the ups and downs of dating someone in the military?
      Have you only met each other face-to-face a handful of times or haven’t met at all?
      Do you want to be an inspiration to those who are going through a long distance love connection?
      Then this is the show for you
      A new TV series for a major cable network are looking for people in a long-distance relationship in the military. We want to go inside what it’s like to date someone stationed in a different part of the world. Whether you are both in the military at different locations or you are working a 9-5 job while your partner is serving, when it comes to matter of the heart, how does distance and limited contact impact your relationship when you’re in love with someone who isn’t always close by. If interested, please email Joepinzone80@gmail.com

  • @martaborn9051
    @martaborn9051 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Im dating a staff sergeant and he told me stories about when he was over seas. Scary stuff.... i cant relate at all and dont know how. So i appreciate you taking time to make the video. The stress part ive noticed is true. He seems always stressed.

  • @MegaTrex3
    @MegaTrex3 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow this is amazing. I think a lot of women and men need to see this.

  • @CoolVioletOcean101
    @CoolVioletOcean101 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this video, I needed to hear all of this for comfort and support. I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling this way!

  • @MiszLexiBaybee
    @MiszLexiBaybee 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Omg, I am so glad I found this video. This put me at ease about my situation. I met a soldier memorial day weekend while I was out with my friends. Our first encounter he told me I would be in his girlfriend within 2 months lol. Everything just started from there, but after that first initial week he went back to his base and everything you said has been happening. Not being able to talk or text is a big one. We have only gotten to hang out one good time since. Fortunately, he isn't stationed too far from me but every time we have planned to get together work comes up for him or me. This last time I really felt bad about the whole thing. I thought maybe he's not that into me like he says but you explained everything to the tee of what's going on. We really haven't gotten to talk about everything yet which is why I was probably feeling clueless as to what was going on. I feel a lot better knowing that I'm not crazy and this stuff is common when dating a military man. Now I understand a lot better. Thanks!

    • @denig2000able
      @denig2000able 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly. I just learnt alot from the videos. When mine went on exercise only after meeting weeks before and telling me I was his girl I honestly thought he had ghosted me. And when he said on some exercises mobiles are not allowed until I saw this video I seriously thought he was winding me up. Cos as you know in the regular world when a guy wants to disappear he sometimes quietly reduces communication. I feel really horrible now I thought these things. He should be finished shortly so hopefully will see him as when he managed to get in touch a few days ago he ...said some really nice things to me.

  • @hanna4806
    @hanna4806 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    OMG i loved every min of your video and i respect you so much for how you think,the strong principles you have and for how noble and strong you are for supporting a military guy. You look so in love and really missing him....with all my heart the best to you both:)

  • @KK-fj8qk
    @KK-fj8qk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I really needed to hear this today! The not hearing anything sometimes for days on end drives me crazy! 4 months can’t go fast enough 🙄

    • @KK-fj8qk
      @KK-fj8qk 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Ragnar Odinsson I have no idea what your experience is but I have met plenty that are not assholes. I’m married to one, disciplined yes but no asshole .

  • @Dimes..
    @Dimes.. 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    My girlfriend is currently on her 7th day of basic for the navy and we’ve been dating for almost 3 years and man is this hard during those 3 years we’ve spent almost every single day with each other and man I’ve been through some tough shit and this is one of the toughest things I’ve ever had to do I love her to death every day has been dreadful hopefully this passes by fast

    • @chickamint4125
      @chickamint4125 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Armani ಥ_ಥ is she in boot camp?

    • @Dimes..
      @Dimes.. 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Pluto Echo yes sir

    • @chickamint4125
      @chickamint4125 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Armani ಥ_ಥ cool! My boyfriend left exactly a week ago on Wednesday.

    • @milinha665
      @milinha665 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      My bf left this Monday for the navy and I feel you, let me ask how long did it take for her to send you a letter and how often do you send/get letters. He hasn’t sent one yet cause he’s only been there for three days and apparently you have to wait till the sunday after you get there but I just haven’t heard anything from him and it’s so haaard after being used to talking everyday

    • @milinha665
      @milinha665 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lets all talk here 😢 we’re all on the same boat

  • @tatianazaharia3208
    @tatianazaharia3208 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You have no idea of how much I needed this video

  • @CerahBear11
    @CerahBear11 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    My man is coming home soon 😭 I want to see him so bad

  • @ruthpablo3588
    @ruthpablo3588 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I also live in Marysville, just started dating my boyfriend in the navy. Really happy to have someone online to watch that’s gone through what i’m going through.

  • @flowersoftarot
    @flowersoftarot 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I just started dating someone in the service, and this really helped…because the stigma is definitely out there about military men. But I just want to date him, and for you to say that clarifies the approach of how I pursue this. And he just left for deployment, I’m so glad I found your channel.

  • @444lovexpain
    @444lovexpain ปีที่แล้ว +14

    The constant texting was so real , he was on break and we were chatting so much then all of a sudden it stopped , but I definitely understand he has a job that is his priority

    • @J-in-Japan
      @J-in-Japan ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes, that makes potential dating hard. I’m the one in the military and have a hard time connecting and messaging any guy since there are times I’m cut off from my phone.

  • @weeballiance2138
    @weeballiance2138 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    You can be alone and not lonely because loneliness is a state of mind, it doesn't matter how many people you have around you. I think feeling lonely is more or less an inside job. We need learn to be fine with our own company. We can be our own best friend, but also our worst enemy.

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Agreed! As this was my first video, I still had much to learn. We have to learn to love being alone, but also relationship is important!

  • @_vs100
    @_vs100 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love your little rant at the beginning because I 100% agree. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for 9 months and she is coming back from marine bootcamp in three weeks and I can’t wait! Thank you for the video ❤️

    • @be246
      @be246 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      how long bootcamp lasts?

    • @_vs100
      @_vs100 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      bia 13 weeks!

    • @be246
      @be246 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@_vs100 hahaha fuckkk, and they cant communicate with us during that time?

  • @abeerzainy526
    @abeerzainy526 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love your way when you explain the military situation and your feeling is real! Thanks

  • @georgia7689
    @georgia7689 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video has been amazing. My boyfriend is soon going to be going into the military, been with him for 3 years, I'm trying to prepare myself mentally, this has really helped, and all your other vids!!

  • @lucanton2088
    @lucanton2088 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    What a great speech dear.....i wish all the best. A divorced vet here. Hugs to you and your man.

  • @mailehoogsteen5721
    @mailehoogsteen5721 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you so much for making this video. Gave me great insight and preparation for my boyfriend to deploy. Hopefully it’ll work out, please pray. Love your faith in Christ, God bless you and Conner. Ur amazing. ❤️

  • @nurnessa
    @nurnessa 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That's a great video! I agree for the most part. It's hard but you can get through a lot if you want to!

  • @meganhunter5874
    @meganhunter5874 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi, I just want to Thankyou so much for this video. It really has been an encouragement to me. My boyfriend is going to be leaving for BT soon. we met working at a Christian Camp together. We are both Christians and we are both very committed to our relationship. I was feeling so nervous about the loneliness factor but I wanted to Thankyou for putting the reminder in your video that as Christians we have Christ and we don’t have to feel lonely. I’m so proud of my boyfriend for the decision he made in joining the Air Force and I know that God is gonna use this time apart to strengthen us individually and as a couple. I’ve been watching so many videos about what it’s like when he leaves and all that, but your videos are the best I’ve seen and the most encouraging and I appreciate that so much!!! Thankyou again!!

  • @jasmineberry4578
    @jasmineberry4578 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Very helpful! My boyfriend is leaving soon and I’m trying to prepare my mind as much as possible.

  • @pheliciagibson2042
    @pheliciagibson2042 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I am so happy I came across your video. I've just started dating a guy in the army, we were talking for about 4 months now.
    And recently I've been questioning if this is real. Like you said we don't get to talk like I'd want to and I only get to see him for a little while on Sundays. It's stressful at times not being able to see touch or talk to him often but I understand..... I'm in it for the long haul. Your video just gave me the comfort I needed. Thank you

    • @maugustus21
      @maugustus21 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here because im just trying to figure paperwork that my bf haves to pay when he before he comes home and trying retire too

  • @jo_5147
    @jo_5147 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm really glad I found your video. My boyfriend just left to boot camp, and your video really helped me understand/ answer few of my questions . Also I SOO agree with about the friend topic. I had no one to talk to, I didn't know who I was able to relate too or even talk to and know I wouldn't annoy with my sadness.

  • @jackymarie9759
    @jackymarie9759 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I don't know how I ended up watching this video. My boyfriend is going to be leaving soon too, this is an encouragement for me tbh. thank you so much.

  • @AnnaMichelle
    @AnnaMichelle 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Hii! I randomly decided to look up "dating someone in the marines" and when I clicked on your video I could almost immediately tell you were a Christian :) I got so much out of this video and I just want to thank you because it explains a lot! I have a friend that I like who is in the marine corps and everything you said is 100% accurate. I try to encourage him in the Lord, pray for and with him and talk to him when I can but I am a lonely person, I wish I could talk to him all the time but this video taught me that I have to find peace in the loneliness, and maybe I need to talk to God more :) He is a great friend, and even if we don't end up more than friends I will still support him and love him no matter what, because when God puts people on your life he puts them in there for a reason :)

  • @boom8954
    @boom8954 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This vlog has made me feel so much better I miss him soo much

  • @nicholesartor637
    @nicholesartor637 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for your tips my fiancé and I are talking as much as when can. I miss him dearly he’s deployed overseas. I gave him encouragement and let him know I’m so proud of him.

  • @holographiccowboy5271
    @holographiccowboy5271 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    My boyfriend is in the army and I love him so much but it’s getting really hard and don’t know what to do. But I’m glad that You posted this because it makes me feel like I’m not alone, so thank you.

  • @gilleanhombrebueno9644
    @gilleanhombrebueno9644 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Patience is always must😀
    Thanks sis

  • @MISSUNIVERSE1830
    @MISSUNIVERSE1830 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    you guys just wait until he comes back from a war zone. they come back different , war changes a man , a soldier, a marine, a sailor.
    They bring the battle home, it's very very hard life specially if he comes back home with ptsd

  • @ShayRoyster
    @ShayRoyster 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I needed this, thank you!

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are welcome! (:

  • @Laerke25
    @Laerke25 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Might have done all the things you told me not to... But I have a much better understanding now. Thank you, I hope it's not too late to fix things!

  • @marshamarshamarsha2477
    @marshamarshamarsha2477 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    you are such a light!!

  • @OnOurSleevesGaming
    @OnOurSleevesGaming 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I really love that you’re a Christian and have the same views on morale and love as I do. Life can be hard but it sure isn’t as hard with the Lord working in you. Great video! Stay positive, stay humble, and keep that child-like faith!

  • @TheBerr123
    @TheBerr123 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Grew up in a navy family and just finished army AIT(A-School), these videos still helped me understand more on what females have to deal with, especially sense I would probably not understand their point of view and situation. Thanks for the videos.

  • @graysondelong6663
    @graysondelong6663 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    THANK YOU! When you said "If you're dating a military man, just date him". I've had friends that have dated guys in the military and both my friends got married to after dating for less than a year. they both married their boyfriends jess than a year after they started dating, right before their boyfriends left for deployment. I just hope my friends didn't marry those guys just for the benefits.
    This is a great video. You give great advice. I'm not dating anyone in the military (or anyone in general, lol), but I still think you give very good advice. Your advice would have helped my friend out a lot.
    You're awesome! I can't wait to watch more of your videos! You have a great head on your shoulders and you are so smart.

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  8 ปีที่แล้ว

      OH no! Well definitely hoping there marriage turns out great! Thanks for the kind words❤️, Glad you liked it haha (:

  • @dorahmwabili9714
    @dorahmwabili9714 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Brit+Con i enjoyed watching this totally, I'm in Kenya, my man is in the US Army, right now is in deployment, we talk a lot through what's ap and video calls. I just can't wait to see him. Lots of love from +254. New sub💕

    • @thesweetvigil8444
      @thesweetvigil8444 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      How do you guys manage? With the distance?

  • @selenafolkerts379
    @selenafolkerts379 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This was so helpful! I just started dating someone around Christmas time and he is currently finishing his basic training which he had 8 weeks left of but now he only has 5 weeks left. I have never experienced something like this before but to me hes worth it and it's honestly like a life lesson for me learning how to cope and deal with loneliness and finding new ways to keep busy but since we are allowed to write letters I write to him as much as possible and get to talk to him on sundays if he gets his pass. Even though it's hard for me and I constantly miss him, it's all DO-ABLE. And I know all of this time I spent missing him will be worth it once he's back😊
    Also can you make a video on things you can and cant send like "care packages, etc." When they're deployed or stationed somewhere. I don't want to break any rules or have him get in trouble for anything so I've been sticking to letters but if he ever does get deployed I'd like to know what options I have since I've never dated or been with someone in the army

  • @abbae2308
    @abbae2308 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this was absolutely amazing. before he was my boyfriend and in the Marine Corps, we had been best friends for 5 years and never told each other how we felt until recently. he's been stationed in Washington for a year now, and it has been very hard to find peace knowing that i can't talk to him everyday or see him, but this video helped me so much! THANK YOU!

  • @bmo3522
    @bmo3522 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This all is quite true...I’ve never dated anyone in the military until now and it’s really interesting...it’s not so bad. You definitely have to be understanding for sure and have your own life in between I’m learning

  • @maridimples1842
    @maridimples1842 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I was talking with a Marine, and I know him since high school. We had been talking for a couple months now, and he had finally decided to ask me out but I was scared to lose him after he would get deployed. He said that wouldn’t happen, but just about a week ago, he decided to stop talking to me and he said he needed to focus on the marines and that I was a distraction for him. It really broke my heart. I was going to wait for him because I really do love him, but I feel like I already lost him. I feel like here’s nothing I could really do anymore. I’m really thankful that you made this video.

    • @xxslimjamiexx1646
      @xxslimjamiexx1646 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mari & Brenda I’m sorry to hear that 😭

  • @SouthernBelle888
    @SouthernBelle888 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It takes a special kind of woman to be a military gf or wife. I've been around Soldiers for the past 32 years, was a faithful Army wife for 23 years, and went through 8 deployments, very familiar with ptsd and their triggers and what to avoid, their were plenty of nights after deployments when i woke up with a knife on my throat, due to the flashback the ex was having... tbi and all the sacrifices the military lifestyle comes with, had plenty of long distance, weekend and cross country relationships, raising the kids on my own but wouldn't wanna miss it for the world.... I knew the military lifestyle was my thing the very first time I've ever stepped food on base when i was 18. And you also learn that no news are good news.... The military lifestyle isn't for everyone

    • @elisabeths.5059
      @elisabeths.5059 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      my marine bf tells me he has ptsd and i dunno what to do since we are faraway. do you have any tips for me?

  • @emmaabraham326
    @emmaabraham326 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for posting this, it helped me so much.

  • @heyyitsamyj
    @heyyitsamyj 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    hi!!! thank you for posting this! my boyfriend recently left for boot camp for the navy and I miss him like crazy. this video definitely helps me feel a bit better though! It feels good when you find other strong women who know how you feel. thank you❤️

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So glad this helped! 💕 Will keep him and you in my prayers during this bootcamp separation!

  • @shrlyc
    @shrlyc 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I’m new in a military relationship and it’s been rough, mostly because i can’t deal with emotional pain but I love him and I know that I’ll see him soon. I’m convinced that distance makes people realize how much someone means to them and I finally feel that.

    • @shrlyc
      @shrlyc 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Brician my friends can’t relate cause they’re not in a military relationship so sometimes I feel isolated. I learned that you just have to get through day by day

    • @shrlyc
      @shrlyc 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Brician where can I msg you? Yea I’m part of a few fb pages, it helps sometimes

    • @shrlyc
      @shrlyc 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Gotchu

    • @mayitapaz868
      @mayitapaz868 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      What are the groups called? Mine left a week ago and I’m new to this experience and so far it’s been rough.

    • @mayitapaz868
      @mayitapaz868 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Brician thank you!

  • @EmilyLxxxx
    @EmilyLxxxx 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My boyfriend left for basic this past week and my life has seriously felt like it was upside down, and your video has pushed me to smile and know I am going to be okay. Thank you for making the video

    • @shayanderson8842
      @shayanderson8842 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      _emilyyy_xoxo mine too and it's hard really hard like a part of me left with he did 😓sucks

  • @Ana-ck6cd
    @Ana-ck6cd 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Feel you sister! 🙌🏼 but that love can overcome everything! We met in college, became friends, had to stop going due to family/financial issues, we continued great communication, became best friends without seeing us face to face, he joined the military but we continued talking, after 2 and a half years without seeing us he told me he had feelings for me and came back to town to meet up with me and talk, next day he asked me out, we started dating long distance ( IT IS A LOT OF WORK AND REALLY FREAKING HARD AT TIMES) but we fell in love more and more each day. ( and yes, videocalls are heaven sent for couples doing long distance, mail becomes very important too!) months after I went and visit him for Christmas break and he proposed 😍, and finally a couple of weeks ago we got married the day after I graduated with my Bachelors in Biomedical Sciences! I will be moving in on post in Colorado next month! I'm so happy to see that there are other girls living similar experiences and are happy with their decisions ( just like you!) Love your videos 👏🏼💗

  • @tcheyanawalke7936
    @tcheyanawalke7936 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for this video this really opened my eyes and helped me to be more understanding because I am dating someone in the army

  • @lovemecom3832
    @lovemecom3832 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I idolized you for being tough you give encouragement to other women out there who marries a military. Wishing you happiness forever.

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much!

  • @wchase1969
    @wchase1969 7 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    My wife and I were both in the Army at Ft Bragg when we met. We were young 20/19 we we got married after knowing each other for 5 months. Statistically we were doomed. This fall we will be happily married for 28 years. I don't know the secret to a happy marriage. I just know they exist. Good luck to all. Airborne All The Way.

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      wchase1969 I think it's the awesome commitment y'all have for each other. Congrats on the 28 years!

  • @lifematch
    @lifematch 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel like this video is very therapeutic for the viewer and well as for her because she let out a lot of her thoughts to share.

  • @MAMMASALI86
    @MAMMASALI86 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Brit and I'm proud of you 🙏🏾

  • @ll273
    @ll273 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    always grew up in a military based unit, dating one is completely different. it will be one of the hardest and most awarding periods. get close to his friends' girls in the squad it makes it so much easier to connect with people who understand, civilians never understand no matter how you explain. Watch documentaries to understand what they are going through (a ton on netflix, showtime, HBO) because it helps you understand even more.

  • @berlianabilqiis4706
    @berlianabilqiis4706 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    omg me too he's so busy but he said "i love knowing everything,so please let me now what you doing every single day" i just gotta do that everyday even i know that he wont be able to online like 24/7. its been 2 weeks since the training begans and i hope it'll finish soon! be patient to all of you guys whos in the military reationship . please do not cheat. thanks brit ur helping!

  • @dreamynn
    @dreamynn 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I absolutely love this video. I'm generally an optimistic person but my boyfriend just recently got deployed to Syria, and it's been pretty hard for me to cope. But this definitely helped remind me why I chose to be with him from the beginning. Thank you!

    • @youngstreetstudioz3922
      @youngstreetstudioz3922 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      it really isnt a regular relationship... please listen to my song I've made for military dating

  • @Babylexx27
    @Babylexx27 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love this!! I make similar content like this & I love what you said in the beginning!! Soooo true ❤️

  • @crazykitten4845
    @crazykitten4845 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Recently started dating someone I've known for a LONG time but he is in the military but I'm getting used to not being able to talk to him all day everyday but it really is an adjustment. Honestly he is so worth it though 🥰🖤 I care about him so much and I'm working through any lonely feelings

  • @emmamcmahon1738
    @emmamcmahon1738 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I haven’t been able to see my partner because of corona and it sucks seeing couples online not social distancing despite not living together and not having friends to be there sucks. But I knew what I was getting into and I would never take it for granted. I’m lucky enough to be able to call them twice a week and those days are the best part of my entire week and I can’t wait to see them😊 A few more months it’ll be hard but I’ll be strong and you can to.

  • @dianaperez5384
    @dianaperez5384 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am a new subscriber and I absolutely love your videos! Especially these military advice videos . My boyfriend is in the Air Force tech school , so its going to be a while before we see one another but we both know it is worth it. Im going to college right now so it helps occupy my time. I agree with everything you said here. The Lord is who i turn to when I am having a hard time. Thank you so much for this.

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Welcome to my channel and glad you are enjoying my videos!
      That is awesome that you turn to God in hard time. You've got this!

  • @sonohrina2012
    @sonohrina2012 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I actually always avoid dating military men because didn’t want the misery of no knowing if my husband would one day not come home that huge fear made me not pursue many guys specially cuz I live between I used to live near an Air Force base. Little did I know that the guy I dated for 4 years would end up wanting to join the Air Force. We got married and now I have to go through what I avoided cuz it’s too late I’m already too in love with him to ever leave him.