thank you for saying you dont need to fully know and love yourself before a relationship. and that trauma does find its way to the surface when starting a new relationship. it can be so isolating to constantly hear the rhetoric that you almost need to be at your peak before you introduce someone into your life. you had some great advice!
Kailee! You should make a podcast! This helped me so much and I feel like I needed to hear that! I was listening to this on the way to work and it was really comforting and relatable. I would love if you started a podcast and just talked about how you’re feeling and topics like this
Thank you so much for sharing that you met your boyfriend on a dating app. I met my current boyfriend of 2.5 years on one and I used to feel the exact same way as you! The more people I look up to that share that they’ve also met partners on dating apps, the easier it has been for me to feel more comfortable and less “embarassed” of that fact. Like you said, it’s so normal for people our age to meet online, there should be nothing to be ashamed of. Cheers to you xx
always enjoy watching ur videos and have for the past 6+ years..always so calming and genuine and real. its been really amazing to see ur growth and evolve into who u are today! i really admire how independent and level-headed u are. so inspiring and i love ur taste in design :0
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on relationships. I got into my first relationship at 19 and we were together for a little less than a year. I’m 23 now and I still look back and wish I knew myself then as well as I do now. I haven’t dated seriously since then and I’m honestly terrified of doing so…kudos to everyone in happy healthy relationships right now!
ive been watching u for years and years and i’m so glad you were so open with us about relationships! i struggled with codependency a lot and sometimes still do so this rlly was so nice to watch
Just want to say I’ve been watching your TH-cam videos since I started watching TH-cam as a pre-teen/teen (I’m now 24) and your videos have always felt so honest and refreshing. It feels like I’ve grown up with you, and I will always appreciate the advice you give. ❤️
I felt that, like being in relationships does bring up so much stuff and you also have someone to hold you accountable, but it is nice to have someone there for you when you are not doing your best. It feels like it has helped me heal a lot. That's why I do not think anymore that healing alone and being your best version is always the healthiest, you need to sometimes just be in a relationship to see things that come up. Also, I feel like for me, I have to stalk their socials to have an idea of what the person could be like, I don't make big assumptions yet but it helps to have a window into a small part of what their life could be like. I feel like it personally cuts a lot of corners to seeing if I want to date them or not. Lately I have been a fan of men with no social media though lmao
Wow this was such a great vlog and I loved your thoughts on relationships. Have you ever considered starting a podcast? I could listen to you talk for hours on end.
love the haircut!! also lol at the dating app part, i know what you mean although him and i didn't enter into a official realationship i've defiinitely met someone really special via a dating app. i think there is some serendipty there which i think is special and sweet. also have made really close friends via platonic social apps (bumble bff for example) so like you said it's the world we're living in. esp as someone who primarily lives abroad :p also lazlo is so adorable like always 😭
Ahh so nyc apt prices are so expensive and i’m trying to move in with my bf soon but i’m still unemployed! If i do get a job in my field, I prob still won’t be able to afford the whole rent but prob more than half the rent. Are you saying don’t move in with a partner if you can’t afford the rent in case they lose their job or something like that? Are there other reasons? 😢
That and sometimes breakups can be messy! What if your lease isn't up and your partner leaves early, leaving you the responsibility of the apartment? Terminating a lease can be so pricey. Hopefully not of course :) And we always figure it out. I understand being able to afford an apartment on your own, especially in places like NY isn't always possible. Emergency savings are the most important! I think it's always a good idea to have a safety net in some way, because breakups are hard enough without financial problems. And it can leave you staying in a shitty situation for far too long.
@@kaileemckenzie truee lmao completely forgot about the possibility of a messy breakup! ofcourse i trust we would be civil if it were to happen but makes sense to be financially sound/have a backup!
hey Kailee! loved this vlog! whenever u have chats and tips or advice in your videos, u are like the older sister I never had because I'm the oldest sister in my family (of 2 little sisters). I'm totally on the same page as u when it comes to relationships. I agree with all of those things, my boyfriend and I met on a dating app as well. We didn't talk very much before we met, we texted each other maybe twice. very short conversations and hanged out a couple days after. and then moved in together shortly after that haha some red flags/deal breakers for me: not being financial stable, not having a drivers license, being disrespectful to their own family and my family, not having similar or close to similar political beliefs, not investing time into me or the relationship, lack of confidence, ignorance. also, about your ticket situation police usually have a quota to meet every month for ticketing so once it gets closer to the end of the month, police tend to scramble and are quicker/eager to find people to ticket.
I don't 100% agree with the idea that you can't work fully on yourself unless you are in a partnership/relationship. Close long term platonic relationships can bring stuff up in a similar way to romantic/sexual ones (with the obvious exception of sexual issues). Relationships of all kinds can also prevent people from growing in certain areas, especially if they aren't the healthiest. Definitely also a lot to be said for time alone, just depends on the person and the stage of their life.
For sure! I by no means think it’s impossible :) I’ve never had a platonic relationship nearly as emotionally intimate as romantic ones, but most of my stuff that comes up has to do with attachment and family dynamics (usually unintentionally) so it makes sense for me personally :) I’m not sure how that could naturally come up in a platonic relationship aside from conversations bc it’s not something you really play out. Not to say I don’t have great friends! And yes I love alone time and always have :)
Don't be stressed. I met my current boyfriend on a dating app and I've never been happier I guess there are ups and downs but I'd leave if there was a real deep problem.
Red flags: unhygienic, rude (particular to people in retail jobs), misogynistic mindset, inconsiderate/someone who inconveniences others, lack of self awareness, non critical thinking, unable to hold a conversation, uninspiring, no sense of humour etc.
Picky eaters and people with food allergies were also a dealbreaker for me! Some people tried to make me feel bad about it and I'm like . no. . I need someone with an iron stomach just like me and that is not a bad thing!
Have you ever thought that chemistry or being click with someone is rather easy to experience? I mean you can click with many guys as they can just make you laugh. I think chemistry isn't enough. It could be contrived from one/both side. And have you ever thought that you choose the wrong guy while missing the right one? bcs the right one doesn't make you laugh, perhaps bcs he's shy but can only be funny if you got to know him longer. Nevertheless, i wish you happiness. And one last thing, if you really love someone, and he loves you the same way, be resilient to any problem he has. And be careful of any situation that could lead to infidelity.
Hmm. I have a bit of conflicting opinions...in terms of breaking up and moving on to new partners, I think love is pretty abundant (as in there definitely isn't one person for you.) For chemistry, I don't think it's hard, but I don't think it's easy either. But certainly easier than finding someone that is relationship-material. It's super personal! I don't think chemistry is the most important, and it's definitely not enough! I just don't think I could move forward with someone if I didn't feel that physically - selfishly enough. Even if they were great! I've absolutely had experiences where there was chemistry and nothing else :)
@@kaileemckenzie don't you think that 'love is abundant' idea can manipulate you into thinking that you can change bf pretty easily when current guy doesn't show relationship-material? Love could be abundant if one person hasn't met the true love of her life yet. And yes, usually i think a person finds a specific detail in her/his partner that spark the love. Sorry for my english with edited comment, it's not my first language
as a guy, I got to totally agree with ur advice. personally, I like fashionable, strong women. if a girl isn't able to talk to me about clothes, art, or whatever (honestly, I could have a convo about fucking grass) its already a lame relationship. I think physical and mental attraction are the most important aspects of a relationship. trust too.
Maybe my favorite vid you've done Kailee, vulnerable in the right places and incredibly private in others. Sending many hugs from Dallas!
thank you for saying you dont need to fully know and love yourself before a relationship. and that trauma does find its way to the surface when starting a new relationship. it can be so isolating to constantly hear the rhetoric that you almost need to be at your peak before you introduce someone into your life. you had some great advice!
smartest, most beautiful, and capable woman I know ❤️
Kailee! You should make a podcast! This helped me so much and I feel like I needed to hear that! I was listening to this on the way to work and it was really comforting and relatable. I would love if you started a podcast and just talked about how you’re feeling and topics like this
Thank you so much for sharing that you met your boyfriend on a dating app. I met my current boyfriend of 2.5 years on one and I used to feel the exact same way as you! The more people I look up to that share that they’ve also met partners on dating apps, the easier it has been for me to feel more comfortable and less “embarassed” of that fact. Like you said, it’s so normal for people our age to meet online, there should be nothing to be ashamed of. Cheers to you xx
Wowwww our non negoitables / red flags are sooo similar haha. glad you found someone special x
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I just ended a toxic relationship today after having ignored red flags for far too long. Thanks for the chat, it was helpful for me to hear!
always enjoy watching ur videos and have for the past 6+ years..always so calming and genuine and real. its been really amazing to see ur growth and evolve into who u are today! i really admire how independent and level-headed u are. so inspiring and i love ur taste in design :0
Some of my red flags are:biphobia/homophobia or even strict view on gender roles, bad at making plans, not a lot of strong or longterm friendships.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on relationships. I got into my first relationship at 19 and we were together for a little less than a year. I’m 23 now and I still look back and wish I knew myself then as well as I do now. I haven’t dated seriously since then and I’m honestly terrified of doing so…kudos to everyone in happy healthy relationships right now!
Heyyyyy!! Love how positive you are after getting through all the bad luck lol... 👏🏾👏🏾 hope next week is better for you ❤️
Thank you!!
you seem very happy and mature now I like that you’re inspiring me❤️
ive been watching u for years and years and i’m so glad you were so open with us about relationships! i struggled with codependency a lot and sometimes still do so this rlly was so nice to watch
I just really admire and respect you, and I have since you started HIGH SCHOOL ❤️
insane!!
you got a $300 ticket for speeding? how fast were you going? what was the speed limit?
Just want to say I’ve been watching your TH-cam videos since I started watching TH-cam as a pre-teen/teen (I’m now 24) and your videos have always felt so honest and refreshing. It feels like I’ve grown up with you, and I will always appreciate the advice you give. ❤️
omg that kitty cat!! beautiful
Really appreciate your thoughts at the end. Also such a great look on you, the hoops and the hair and mu I love! Summer radiance!!
thank you for being so real
I felt that, like being in relationships does bring up so much stuff and you also have someone to hold you accountable, but it is nice to have someone there for you when you are not doing your best. It feels like it has helped me heal a lot. That's why I do not think anymore that healing alone and being your best version is always the healthiest, you need to sometimes just be in a relationship to see things that come up. Also, I feel like for me, I have to stalk their socials to have an idea of what the person could be like, I don't make big assumptions yet but it helps to have a window into a small part of what their life could be like. I feel like it personally cuts a lot of corners to seeing if I want to date them or not. Lately I have been a fan of men with no social media though lmao
Wow this was such a great vlog and I loved your thoughts on relationships. Have you ever considered starting a podcast? I could listen to you talk for hours on end.
always loved your videos, they are keeping me grounded at the moment during turbulent times. thank you xx
ur so smart been watching u forever
You remind me so much of Sydney Sweeney!!!
always love ur vlogs, thanks for sharing with us
Thanks for kindly sharing Kailee, much love ✨✨
ive seen that cat (sorry dont know how to spell her name) so far, in Lexie's and jenny's vlogs and omg THAT CAT IS SO ADORABLE ;))))
love the haircut!! also lol at the dating app part, i know what you mean although him and i didn't enter into a official realationship i've defiinitely met someone really special via a dating app. i think there is some serendipty there which i think is special and sweet. also have made really close friends via platonic social apps (bumble bff for example) so like you said it's the world we're living in. esp as someone who primarily lives abroad :p also lazlo is so adorable like always 😭
Sending you so much love🖤🖤🖤
kailee, you're amazing. just one question, what is the name of the black lamp on your living room?
Ahh so nyc apt prices are so expensive and i’m trying to move in with my bf soon but i’m still unemployed! If i do get a job in my field, I prob still won’t be able to afford the whole rent but prob more than half the rent. Are you saying don’t move in with a partner if you can’t afford the rent in case they lose their job or something like that? Are there other reasons? 😢
That and sometimes breakups can be messy! What if your lease isn't up and your partner leaves early, leaving you the responsibility of the apartment? Terminating a lease can be so pricey. Hopefully not of course :) And we always figure it out. I understand being able to afford an apartment on your own, especially in places like NY isn't always possible. Emergency savings are the most important! I think it's always a good idea to have a safety net in some way, because breakups are hard enough without financial problems. And it can leave you staying in a shitty situation for far too long.
@@kaileemckenzie truee lmao completely forgot about the possibility of a messy breakup! ofcourse i trust we would be civil if it were to happen but makes sense to be financially sound/have a backup!
is your bday 21st of march ?
hey Kailee! loved this vlog! whenever u have chats and tips or advice in your videos, u are like the older sister I never had because I'm the oldest sister in my family (of 2 little sisters).
I'm totally on the same page as u when it comes to relationships. I agree with all of those things, my boyfriend and I met on a dating app as well. We didn't talk very much before we met, we texted each other maybe twice. very short conversations and hanged out a couple days after. and then moved in together shortly after that haha
some red flags/deal breakers for me: not being financial stable, not having a drivers license, being disrespectful to their own family and my family, not having similar or close to similar political beliefs, not investing time into me or the relationship, lack of confidence, ignorance.
also, about your ticket situation police usually have a quota to meet every month for ticketing so once it gets closer to the end of the month, police tend to scramble and are quicker/eager to find people to ticket.
Loved this
I don't 100% agree with the idea that you can't work fully on yourself unless you are in a partnership/relationship. Close long term platonic relationships can bring stuff up in a similar way to romantic/sexual ones (with the obvious exception of sexual issues). Relationships of all kinds can also prevent people from growing in certain areas, especially if they aren't the healthiest. Definitely also a lot to be said for time alone, just depends on the person and the stage of their life.
For sure! I by no means think it’s impossible :) I’ve never had a platonic relationship nearly as emotionally intimate as romantic ones, but most of my stuff that comes up has to do with attachment and family dynamics (usually unintentionally) so it makes sense for me personally :) I’m not sure how that could naturally come up in a platonic relationship aside from conversations bc it’s not something you really play out. Not to say I don’t have great friends! And yes I love alone time and always have :)
lovely video!
Could you please tell me where you got that office chair?! Please I beg you haha
she said in a previous vid it’s just ikea for practicality’s sake
Don't be afraid to travel, get a Tesla and travel through out the u.s with your dog. You can always go back to new York
Did you take the COVID vaccine?
Don't be stressed. I met my current boyfriend on a dating app and I've never been happier I guess there are ups and downs but I'd leave if there was a real deep problem.
Red flags: unhygienic, rude (particular to people in retail jobs), misogynistic mindset, inconsiderate/someone who inconveniences others, lack of self awareness, non critical thinking, unable to hold a conversation, uninspiring, no sense of humour etc.
I don't mean this to be weird but just noticed that you have like a perfect nose
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yew new vid
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kailee stay cute.
aight,, good advice . thx miss //
Picky eaters and people with food allergies were also a dealbreaker for me! Some people tried to make me feel bad about it and I'm like . no. . I need someone with an iron stomach just like me and that is not a bad thing!
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I'm saving up for a Tesla currently $2000 I'm almost there * think positive*
Have you ever thought that chemistry or being click with someone is rather easy to experience? I mean you can click with many guys as they can just make you laugh. I think chemistry isn't enough. It could be contrived from one/both side. And have you ever thought that you choose the wrong guy while missing the right one? bcs the right one doesn't make you laugh, perhaps bcs he's shy but can only be funny if you got to know him longer. Nevertheless, i wish you happiness. And one last thing, if you really love someone, and he loves you the same way, be resilient to any problem he has. And be careful of any situation that could lead to infidelity.
Hmm. I have a bit of conflicting opinions...in terms of breaking up and moving on to new partners, I think love is pretty abundant (as in there definitely isn't one person for you.) For chemistry, I don't think it's hard, but I don't think it's easy either. But certainly easier than finding someone that is relationship-material. It's super personal!
I don't think chemistry is the most important, and it's definitely not enough! I just don't think I could move forward with someone if I didn't feel that physically - selfishly enough. Even if they were great! I've absolutely had experiences where there was chemistry and nothing else :)
@@kaileemckenzie don't you think that 'love is abundant' idea can manipulate you into thinking that you can change bf pretty easily when current guy doesn't show relationship-material? Love could be abundant if one person hasn't met the true love of her life yet. And yes, usually i think a person finds a specific detail in her/his partner that spark the love. Sorry for my english with edited comment, it's not my first language
as a guy, I got to totally agree with ur advice. personally, I like fashionable, strong women. if a girl isn't able to talk to me about clothes, art, or whatever (honestly, I could have a convo about fucking grass) its already a lame relationship. I think physical and mental attraction are the most important aspects of a relationship. trust too.
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