It's called accumulating adenosine which is a byproduct of cellular activity. It's basically sleep pressure that we build for 16 hours only to clear it off during 8 hours of sleep.
I haven't slept well in over 35yrs. Am 75, live alone, few stressors but still can't sleep. Started with peri-menopause. As flow lessened over the years, so did sleep. I don't get sleepy. Am as awake during the night as I am during the day. Looking forward to seeing if anything you have will work. Thanks.
Hi, it sounds like your nervous system is stuck in hyperarousal activation (fight or flight). So many things can cause our nervous system to stay stuck and give us that wide awake feeling all night. I would be interested in chatting with you. Go to my website (www.sleepsuccessacademy.com) and see if you can book a time to chat with me. I would love to hear more about your story and what was happening 35 years ago that might be the cause of your continued poor sleep. Big hugs your way. Carol
Yes, many people have this same issue. My first curious question is what is happening in your mind when you wake up? Are there any limiting beliefs showing up? Does your mind say things like: Now that I'm awake, I won't be able to fall asleep again. And then we can get frustrated and make our wake up time even worst. However, when we know that it's normal to wake up 5 or 6 times during the night, it takes the frustration away and we can go back to sleep easier. Here is a video I did a while ago about waking up in the night. th-cam.com/video/bI4PSMAAJmU/w-d-xo.html And I always suggest getting out of bed to do some tapping. I off 3 tapping meditations for free on my website, and one of them is about Tapping in the middle of the night. You can get them here: www.sleepsuccessacademy.com/FreeResources If you have further questions, don't hesitate to reach out. Hugs, Carol
Whatever you do, do not check the time when you wake up in the middle of the night! It always makes it worse. Just relax and try to stay in the sleepy mode.
After watching multiple podcasts with Matthew Walker and making huge changes in my sleep patterns for the better, I still had a few doubts lefts. And this little video cleared all of them. 😊 👍
Thank you for the video. I've always struggled with sleep all my life, even as a young, active boy. Recently, it has gotten worse since the pandemic/ Work-from-home. Some nights, I don't sleep, but then I can sleep for several days. It's so odd! It can be challenging. When you suffer with anxiety and beat your safety strategies, it does get better. But your advice definitely does help. But I know watching videos like this sadly increases one's anxiety. So I'd best go, but thanks for the video!
I am so grateful that my advice is helping you sleep better. I agree, watching videos like this can increase one's anxiety. However, it can also help you understand what you need to work on in order to get better sleep. I don't believe that emotions are good or bad, rather they provide us with information about our current life and by listening to our emotions, it can guide us in making the changes necessary to create a better life for ourselves. Thank you so much for commenting that the videos are helpful. ❤️
Hi Regina. I see naps differently. When we nap, it takes away from our sleep drive, so we should avoid napping as much as possible. My instinct is that it would not matter if we napped in darkness or daylight, but I have not come across any information on this so far in all my research and sleep education. Even if not napping would be the preferred way, I never say not to nap. Depending on what's going on, for example, if we are fighting a cold or sickness, we need more sleep, and a nap might be beneficial and not affect our sleep schedule each night. Does this help?
@@carolrichardsleepcoach Yes, thanks. I try not to. I really thought there would.be some.informarion somewhere on darkness or light during naps. Even Andrew Huberman says he likes to nap but I haven't heard him give these details. I avoid naps but when I do it's always for 3 hours which is so long and I usually don't feel very good when I wake up and of course it disturbs my bedtime that night.
The same old sleep hygenics tips we have hears a million times. And just btw chronic insomniacs can not take naps, they are not able to, just so you know
Hi @khole15 - here is a video I did to answer your comment. th-cam.com/video/g3e0dJvJ8cA/w-d-xo.htmlsi=kiGW_sFR5ANfdtLg You are right; severe insomniacs can't take naps. I've been there. But once we start sleeping better, we can do behaviors that help us create a stronger sleep drive to get even better sleep. Let me know if you have more questions after you watch the other video I created to respond to you. Hugs, Carol
My belief is that no - meditation is not the same as taking a nap on a biological level. Any tools we use like meditation, tapping, orienting, etc. or any type of mindfulness helps bring regulation in our nervous system and does not deplete our sleep drive. Unless we fall asleep during it, which I've done numerous times. 😁
I am 28 years old. I have 15 years of genetic learning to sleep at 2-5 AM in the night. Now, I play regular football at evening, do workout at home, clean from smoking 73 days and still can't sleep. Sorry to say but your video didn't help me.
In fact i deleted Facebook and Instagram from my phone but still i lay down hours and hours without sleep. It come at the same timing despite all these efforts
@@mansoorkhan3471 So sorry to hear of your sleep struggles. Not sleeping is hard. There is never just one solution to help someone figure out why they can't sleep. I am not surprised this video didn't help you if your root cause is not behaviors. I always talk about the 3 components we have to look at in order to figure out what is getting in the way for you. The 3 components are 1. Your emotional well-being - which is really looking at your nervous system. When we live in either the fight/flight mode or in the functional freeze mode, it's hard to seep. 2. We need to look at mindset. What are the thoughts and beliefs getting in the way of your sleep? and 3. We look at behaviors. It sounds like you are doing a lot of the right behaviors which can be frustrating when sleep still doesn't come. All this to say that I agree that this video might not have been helpful to you as it's only one small piece of the puzzle. We've got to look at the bigger picture by diving into the 3 components. Sending you lots of compassion and hugs. Let me know if any of this resonated with you.
@@mansoorkhan3471 Here is my website. www.sleepsuccessacademy.com/store On this page, you can find out more about my online program called Tapping Into Sleep or you can book an optimal sleep assessment with me and we can chat to figure out what your specific needs are.
Hi Arlene; so sorry to hear you are struggling with your sleep. This video is such a small piece of the puzzle, and I am not surprised this didn't help you if it is not addressing the root cause of your sleep issues. There is no one size fits all solution to fixing our sleep. We need to look at everything that is going on with your specific situation to pinpoint the root cause. In my work, I look at 3 different areas to see what might be getting in the way of our sleep. 1. Your emotional well-being, which is all about our nervous system and the level of stress we carry. 2. Our mindset - what our thoughts and beliefs are. and 3. Our behaviours.
Thanks for this informative video.
The "Sleep Drive Bucket" is a very interesting concept. Thanks for that!
It's called accumulating adenosine which is a byproduct of cellular activity. It's basically sleep pressure that we build for 16 hours only to clear it off during 8 hours of sleep.
video starts here 3:15
Lack of nutrition and uncertainty in life may be one of the casue
I haven't slept well in over 35yrs. Am 75, live alone, few stressors but still can't sleep. Started with peri-menopause. As flow lessened over the years, so did sleep. I don't get sleepy. Am as awake during the night as I am during the day. Looking forward to seeing if anything you have will work. Thanks.
Hi, it sounds like your nervous system is stuck in hyperarousal activation (fight or flight). So many things can cause our nervous system to stay stuck and give us that wide awake feeling all night. I would be interested in chatting with you. Go to my website (www.sleepsuccessacademy.com) and see if you can book a time to chat with me. I would love to hear more about your story and what was happening 35 years ago that might be the cause of your continued poor sleep. Big hugs your way. Carol
@@carolrichardsleepcoach I sent you an email 📧 so we'll speak soon.
@@jeanbush8791 I've replied. If you don't see it in your inbox, check your spam/junk folder.
how long is your maximum sleep every night?
how are you now?
I usually can fall asleep, but I wake up in the middle… like 1-3 am, and getting back to sleep becomes really hard!
Yes, many people have this same issue. My first curious question is what is happening in your mind when you wake up? Are there any limiting beliefs showing up? Does your mind say things like: Now that I'm awake, I won't be able to fall asleep again. And then we can get frustrated and make our wake up time even worst. However, when we know that it's normal to wake up 5 or 6 times during the night, it takes the frustration away and we can go back to sleep easier. Here is a video I did a while ago about waking up in the night.
th-cam.com/video/bI4PSMAAJmU/w-d-xo.html
And I always suggest getting out of bed to do some tapping. I off 3 tapping meditations for free on my website, and one of them is about Tapping in the middle of the night. You can get them here: www.sleepsuccessacademy.com/FreeResources
If you have further questions, don't hesitate to reach out.
Hugs,
Carol
Whatever you do, do not check the time when you wake up in the middle of the night! It always makes it worse. Just relax and try to stay in the sleepy mode.
After watching multiple podcasts with Matthew Walker and making huge changes in my sleep patterns for the better, I still had a few doubts lefts. And this little video cleared all of them. 😊 👍
That is so awesome to hear. I am glad this video was so useful for you. ❤️
Such a great video.
Thank you for this very informative video 🙏
Thanks.
Thank you for the video. I've always struggled with sleep all my life, even as a young, active boy. Recently, it has gotten worse since the pandemic/ Work-from-home.
Some nights, I don't sleep, but then I can sleep for several days. It's so odd!
It can be challenging. When you suffer with anxiety and beat your safety strategies, it does get better. But your advice definitely does help.
But I know watching videos like this sadly increases one's anxiety. So I'd best go, but thanks for the video!
I am so grateful that my advice is helping you sleep better. I agree, watching videos like this can increase one's anxiety. However, it can also help you understand what you need to work on in order to get better sleep. I don't believe that emotions are good or bad, rather they provide us with information about our current life and by listening to our emotions, it can guide us in making the changes necessary to create a better life for ourselves. Thank you so much for commenting that the videos are helpful. ❤️
Thank you
You are welcome.
Amazing video!
Very good
If I do nap, should I nap in total darkness? Or is napping with sunlight coming through the windows helping my circadian rhythm stay okay?
Hi Regina. I see naps differently. When we nap, it takes away from our sleep drive, so we should avoid napping as much as possible. My instinct is that it would not matter if we napped in darkness or daylight, but I have not come across any information on this so far in all my research and sleep education. Even if not napping would be the preferred way, I never say not to nap. Depending on what's going on, for example, if we are fighting a cold or sickness, we need more sleep, and a nap might be beneficial and not affect our sleep schedule each night. Does this help?
@@carolrichardsleepcoach Yes, thanks. I try not to. I really thought there would.be some.informarion somewhere on darkness or light during naps. Even Andrew Huberman says he likes to nap but I haven't heard him give these details. I avoid naps but when I do it's always for 3 hours which is so long and I usually don't feel very good when I wake up and of course it disturbs my bedtime that night.
The same old sleep hygenics tips we have hears a million times. And just btw chronic insomniacs can not take naps, they are not able to, just so you know
Hi @khole15 - here is a video I did to answer your comment. th-cam.com/video/g3e0dJvJ8cA/w-d-xo.htmlsi=kiGW_sFR5ANfdtLg You are right; severe insomniacs can't take naps. I've been there. But once we start sleeping better, we can do behaviors that help us create a stronger sleep drive to get even better sleep. Let me know if you have more questions after you watch the other video I created to respond to you. Hugs, Carol
@@carolrichardsleepcoach thanks, I will check out your video
Is meditation the same as napping?
My belief is that no - meditation is not the same as taking a nap on a biological level. Any tools we use like meditation, tapping, orienting, etc. or any type of mindfulness helps bring regulation in our nervous system and does not deplete our sleep drive. Unless we fall asleep during it, which I've done numerous times. 😁
🙏🏼
I am 28 years old. I have 15 years of genetic learning to sleep at 2-5 AM in the night. Now, I play regular football at evening, do workout at home, clean from smoking 73 days and still can't sleep. Sorry to say but your video didn't help me.
In fact i deleted Facebook and Instagram from my phone but still i lay down hours and hours without sleep. It come at the same timing despite all these efforts
@@mansoorkhan3471 So sorry to hear of your sleep struggles. Not sleeping is hard. There is never just one solution to help someone figure out why they can't sleep. I am not surprised this video didn't help you if your root cause is not behaviors. I always talk about the 3 components we have to look at in order to figure out what is getting in the way for you. The 3 components are 1. Your emotional well-being - which is really looking at your nervous system. When we live in either the fight/flight mode or in the functional freeze mode, it's hard to seep. 2. We need to look at mindset. What are the thoughts and beliefs getting in the way of your sleep? and 3. We look at behaviors. It sounds like you are doing a lot of the right behaviors which can be frustrating when sleep still doesn't come. All this to say that I agree that this video might not have been helpful to you as it's only one small piece of the puzzle. We've got to look at the bigger picture by diving into the 3 components. Sending you lots of compassion and hugs. Let me know if any of this resonated with you.
@@carolrichardsleepcoach do you have any website or counselling session i can attend?
@@mansoorkhan3471 Here is my website. www.sleepsuccessacademy.com/store On this page, you can find out more about my online program called Tapping Into Sleep or you can book an optimal sleep assessment with me and we can chat to figure out what your specific needs are.
@@mansoorkhan3471how are you now? how long is your average sleep?
This didn't help me ! I take 2to3hrs just to fall asleep only to wake up in 1hr or less.
Hi Arlene; so sorry to hear you are struggling with your sleep. This video is such a small piece of the puzzle, and I am not surprised this didn't help you if it is not addressing the root cause of your sleep issues. There is no one size fits all solution to fixing our sleep. We need to look at everything that is going on with your specific situation to pinpoint the root cause. In my work, I look at 3 different areas to see what might be getting in the way of our sleep. 1. Your emotional well-being, which is all about our nervous system and the level of stress we carry. 2. Our mindset - what our thoughts and beliefs are. and 3. Our behaviours.