Thank you for your insight. I feel like my cycle is a revolving door of narcs. I am self diagnosed codependent wanting to have a relationship so bad that I kept getting myself involved with the wrong people and overlooked the red flags. I am just thankful I finally learned about narcissism and codependents as to "break the cycle".
Mine oddly glorified his exes. He never said a bad word about them, and always admitted, "I made things so hard for her. She fought so hard." Also...should have listened to that!
I have never seen anyone discuss the problem of oversharing. It’s so toxic and I get called jealous when I ask guys to stop. I just don’t want to know every detail etc.
I had a gut feeling about him. When we were dating, I kept thinking HE'S TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE." I should have ran away then. My gut was right. 5 years later, being engaged, he had no intentions of marrying me. I left him. He rebounded and married her in 2 weeks.
I ignored the red flags because I was too desperate. How ridiculous is that? I won't ignore my gut feeling again. I wouldn't admit to myself that something wasn't right.
My x broke so many of my boundaries early on from demanding my time early on and pushing himself on me to dismissing my opinions. That first date i felt something was off about him. The conversation just didn't flow organically. I didnt find him particularly attractive either but wanted to settle down.
I hear this! Told him about a guy I had been seeing the year before and just seconds into explaining, he interrupted me about his ex and what an incredible woman she was. He couldnt even take me telling of a guy I had been seeing briefly bc I wanted to explain I had been through some things and to be nice to me. Had no idea it was a warning sign and here I sit today, 5 years later and my spirit is on crutches. This guys completely right about them not being able to take a no. I was raped by the narcissist when saying no to sex and when ending it, Ive been stalked for 5 years now. There is no "no" with a narcissist, they will eat your soul.
My Red Flags were, now I come to think about it was his jealousy if I sat with other men even though they were just friends. If I went out on my own and didn't text him for a while he'd dump me then come crawling back. He'd make plans for a date then stand me up. There were so many I lost count. 🍒
Same ! One time my ex dragged me out of town and when I wanted to go out he said ok . But once I got out of the shower and dressed up he was just sitting on the couch in pjs saying he didn’t wanna go . Lol so I left. He gave me the silent treatment when I came back from my night out . Then the next night he left me in the Airbnb alone to fly somewhere else in the middle of the night . 😂 and I still kept chasing him for like another year smh
My entire 20's was spent in relationships with narcissistic type abuse. I didn't really know what it was at the time with my boyfriend of 5 years. That was my first taste of just how much someone can tear you down and make you feel small. It starts being in and out... then small digs at your appearance, then you try and gain their validation by changing all the while they're putting you down about how you're doing it. Other women. The mistreatment I endured was really damaging. The next guy I dated was different in the fact that he was self aware and was "nice" to me. Portrayed a relationship type atmosphere all while avoiding any and all accountability. He may not have mind fucked me like the first one or the last one, but he still had a very self centered, child like demeanor... tantrums and all. It ended really messy and this is when I started to recognize my patterned behaviors and theirs. That's when I started learning about what I was experiencing. Fast forward a few years later and I found myself in yet ANOTHER trap but with more awareness. I admit I let some things slide... because he claimed to have been emotionally damaged from previous women. In that way he was able to bend my boundaries and keep the show boat rolling. The first time I came to him expressing I felt like affection was one sided that mask dropped. Totally different person... everything got flipped back on me. In that moment I recognized what was happening. I was discarded after he realized I was onto him. Every time he tried to come back I would not let up on him acknowledging how he behaved was uncalled for. In order to come out of all this and be at peace I had to go back and acknowledge why I stayed. I had to acknowledge why I would accept that treatment from another human being. It took me ten years to heal my own inner wounds and emotional damage inflicted by romantic partners. I had to learn that the only validation I need... is my own. People can only meet you as far as they have met themselves. I won't lie and say that leaving my last dating experience was easy... because it was not. I was still emotionally attached but I learned a while ago to attach to my own self in a different way. Go to therapy, watch these TH-cam videos, stay around people who support you and love you. You will build that sense of self again and be impenetrable.I promise 🥰 remember nothing that you experienced was deserved and was all a projection of someone looking at the world through a fucked up broken ass lense.
Hello Ben! I loved this video, and I'm looking forward to the next one. Nothing wrong with a guy being the king of the castle - as long as I'm the queen, not the peasant. 🏰
I couldn't identify the flags as red, because those were the common ones growing up. I didn't know that there are decent people in the world, who are kind, and don't put down someone innocent. I thought this is how the world is.
Ben, i agree with u but not totally. I had relationships with psycopath. I was telling "no" everytime I didn't want to do something and etc. But he was 100% respecting that(even if i see from outside). And i though he is nice and he loves me. But when I needed him the most, he showed his real face - that he is psycopath. So not everytime saying "no" is saving us, unfortunately. Thats why i trust only in God and i pray to him to show me what I should do.
Wow red flags 🏳 just wow she had me, and on top of it all I broke my boundaries all the time to please her. Just wow. Thanks for this atlease am not with her anymore.
Im so glad i ran across your video.. my wife and i going thru hell. Im on my last my last string. Now today she love bombing me now. And she said she trying to change.
Dustan oh my gosh, make peace, than secretly plan your escape. She will destroy you in the end, they simply love to cause us pain, they get off on it. And, sorry to say, they only get worse. Don't run back in a burning building. Not worth it. Good luck to you dear one.
My very first red flag was immediately- I was a little afraid of him. Plus the first date involved me listening to his childhood abandonment and ex-wife horror stories. When he met my psychologist daughter, he was quite rude. Just the beginning of the relationship from hell.
I dont even know who i am no more. 8 yrs of hell. Last year she made me lose all my friendships with friends, and my daughter. Im just getting my daughter back. But it not the same. It hurt bad to me
Exactly what I did. Way to fast met Oct 16 he ask me to marry him Thanksgiving. Married 7 month's later. The Red Flags were there I ignored them. Didn't have a clue what a Narcissist was. 3 1/2 year's later I told him it was time to go our separate ways after 3 separations in less than a year.
Wont bring anyone around my kiddos and family until I know at least 90 days for them to show me who they are!! My kiddos, family and me deserve respect! Not a damn revoling door of drama and chaos!! No One Will Come around until they have earned it by being a genuine good person Definitely not Narcissist !!
This just made me not go on a first date. Man: ill pick you up from your apartment Me: no ill just meet.you there Man: are you sure? Me: yes... Man ok ill see you in two weeks. We will see about me picking you up then. Me: i told you no! .ill meet you at the restaurant! Man: im driving past be easy to pick you up Me: no i dont need you to pick me up. Man: ok ill see you in two weeks Weirdo so insistant on picking me up . I text him just now and cancelled.
All my Ex's previous partners were described as "Nutters" ......... After 2.5yrs of the biggest emotional rollercoaster of my life. I realised the ex partners has just been abused. A couple reached out and ...... Yes, the experiences they d had were shocking. Each had needed therapy and agreed he had strong Narcisstic traits! Id started researching this after about 8 months. The mind f××kery was horrific. Realised im co-depenant. Want to help/fix people. Its taking me a long time to break the trauma bond. But im determined. But each day im less broken and maintain living in TRUTH not lies. Focussing on my growth, development and happiness. I dodged a bullet Thankyou Ben. 🙂
I realize now how much i justified those red flags and as you say when i would set my boundaries , he would manipulate andbturn it around so that there was something wrong with me.
So true what you saying. My ex narc on our first meeting he started talking about his previous relationships and explained why didn't work out and if us wanted try something different and make it worth 😂and start saying exs names etc and never stops in 3 years of relationship to saying about exs or txt s txs update our relationship with his exs, saying he was connected with his exs then i could understand he's reasonshe from the beginning talk about exs all the time, shared our life with exs daily, updating his private life with them even he hasn't children,business together with them, he was so hang up with their family as always like if he still being family related, always reasons to be in contact find any reason to be in constantly touch with his exs so thats reason we finally finished, split up and i sent his back to his exs but she knows him and she also doesn't want him aswell 😂😂🤣🤣🤣.
Hi, I've been watching you and some other TH-camrs talking about Narcs, and one thing that comes up is that they are dangerous. How dangerous are we talking, like physical harm/murder, maybe steal money dangerous, or just need to protect my heart?
100000% right. trust your gut. in fact. the neighbor covert narc who wound up later semi stalking me i have spoken about on here. i go back to one day 1.5-2 years ago ish. now i had seen this neighobr every once in a blue mon and talked to him in his dive way for a few minutes and that was all it was. thne one time in middle of winter 2021 i think he asked me to walk i was trying to get exercise so was he. and after that first 20-25 inute walk we did in winter. it felt nice during the walk, but yet for whtever reason i can't explain it. he didn't say or do anything wrong in any way shape or form. but something came over me. a gut feelng. i immidiately felt unfomforbale somehow. maybe he was standing to close, maybe it ws posture. may a wierd look in his eye or some combo. i honestly have no idea. all i know if my gut felt wierd. i literally avoided him for a few months . then on eday i thought maybe i was wrong. i probably shouldn't but... so i wen tto go say i would. it went great no wierd feelnig. then he did the loveboming ish type of stuff. charm and then even things dind't feel right but i enjoyed it. to some level enough to keep going and within 3 months after it wsa regular something wsa lurking where i flet very toxic even thinking of him . and thought he was going to be a nightmare. and he was. i ony hung out regularly for 4-5 total months. and maybe 150 hours or less of actaul time spent around him or even on th ephone. but it has been 14 monhts now since i last gave him any interaction repnse of any kind. i had to blcok 8 varoius numbers including his over time as he kept using various numbers after i blocked him to randmoy text me
When I said no he would guilt me, say things like you don’t like me, you probably talking to someone else .. He was covert, always the victim. Replaced me overnight with a girl 20 yrs younger. He told me she’d brush everything under the rug. Apparently her self respect too. I heard she says her life is a dream come true with him. They are together 6 yrs so far. She was 25 he 45 . He’s very convincing, tons of gaslighting, guilting & zero responsibility. She being so young probably buying it as love, hook line sinker.🤦🏼♀️ Easier to groom the young?
One month and he asked me to marry him, then it was a long engagement. Still stayed very covert that whole time. It wasn’t until we married that the mask came off.
Its like that . I just met with a therapist this morning and the microexpressions and contempt she was talking to me where not making me feel safe or contained for a therapeutic relationship.!!!! She was a class A asshole. Her reasoning ??, a person goes to therapie to get help, and I as a person with 3 years in healing know how important empathy and safety is to create a safe rapport. SHe was contemptuous about how we were not going fast enough, she worked with the body also but would be judgemental, stop and stare at me. Get angry, oh man. Im glad i picked up all those red flags and would stop her and ask her about them and tell her that she needs to ease in if she wants me to feel safe, i think she was a narc so entitled, that she thinks she could bypass the rapport element of therapeutic trust building. She tried to blame me for it. I said she never created safety and understanding, how can a person relax with her when she's so contemptuous. I think she tried to play on either urgency, or whatever. But such an important part of my healing is being in safe, reciprocal, relationships with healthy boundaries and connection, that , even if sort of can use therapy, I have a lot of support in place, and enough healing and integrity towards myself and my inner children, that I'm not going to let her be putting me down with microexpressions, and agressions and contempt or anything , that fucking NARCKY contemptuous bitch ass therapist lol. Authentic healing is so good because having your perception back, and a strong connection to your sense of self your emotional center, your inner children, and the willingness to express them in sharing , and voice if something feels off, with firmness and staying true to yourself, over time, for sure, we can see who the right people are for us. Wow , a contemptuous cruella deville complex narcisist in trauma therapy, i wonder how many people shes conned or abused. Glad i stopped her a couple times and finally decided it wasnt working, she tried to blame me, but i told her fuck you basically over it. You can't blame me if she never built the therapeutic and empathic rapport to start relaxing and she was getting angry because i didnt. Judgemental and gaslighter. Nasty feeling really. Im going to try someone else now. Honor yourself , honor your gut, honor your inner children, talk about the red or orange flags, say no, and keep boundaries, it will tell you if the person is healthy or not.
Hello you video was very helpful, how can we disconnect how can we leave .? I'm 11 years on with 3 kids mostly babies . I'm soo scared of him taking my babies please help with advice 😭
The lonelier one feels, the more vulnerable they are to a narcissist.
Follow what your body feels... many times your body knows that this person is toxic before you do.
I agree, that's what happened. I felt dissociated from the real me.
That is so true. I was often physically sick most mornings. My psychologist said it was caused by stress.
Got out of a narcissistic marriage of 16 yrs, 6 yrs ago.
I have definitely followed my gut moving forward. If something feels off…get out!!!
Exactly. When we look back, we see it. Horrific.
Thank you for your insight. I feel like my cycle is a revolving door of narcs. I am self diagnosed codependent wanting to have a relationship so bad that I kept getting myself involved with the wrong people and overlooked the red flags. I am just thankful I finally learned about narcissism and codependents as to "break the cycle".
You are an empath it's your light that attracts them empaths are a good source of supply
Mine oddly glorified his exes. He never said a bad word about them, and always admitted, "I made things so hard for her. She fought so hard." Also...should have listened to that!
I have never seen anyone discuss the problem of oversharing. It’s so toxic and I get called jealous when I ask guys to stop. I just don’t want to know every detail etc.
So true. Many times we ignore these things.
I had a gut feeling about him. When we were dating, I kept thinking HE'S TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE." I should have ran away then. My gut was right. 5 years later, being engaged, he had no intentions of marrying me. I left him. He rebounded and married her in 2 weeks.
Two weeks though?! What sane person even does that.
Sick as hell!! You dodged a bullet!!
I ignored the red flags because I was too desperate. How ridiculous is that?
I won't ignore my gut feeling again. I wouldn't admit to myself that something wasn't right.
Was there too. Tough lesson to learn.
We've all been there. You meet this gorgeous guy and get your hopes up...
I was exactly the same way putting too much expectation and efforts in the wrong person
1. Observation and sitting quietly while doing it
2. Walking on eggshells
My x broke so many of my boundaries early on from demanding my time early on and pushing himself on me to dismissing my opinions. That first date i felt something was off about him. The conversation just didn't flow organically. I didnt find him particularly attractive either but wanted to settle down.
wow you know your stuff, thank you for sharing. all true
You described my ex perfectly, I'm learning so much from you. Thanks!
I hear this! Told him about a guy I had been seeing the year before and just seconds into explaining, he interrupted me about his ex and what an incredible woman she was. He couldnt even take me telling of a guy I had been seeing briefly bc I wanted to explain I had been through some things and to be nice to me. Had no idea it was a warning sign and here I sit today, 5 years later and my spirit is on crutches. This guys completely right about them not being able to take a no. I was raped by the narcissist when saying no to sex and when ending it, Ive been stalked for 5 years now. There is no "no" with a narcissist, they will eat your soul.
My Red Flags were, now I come to think about it was his jealousy if I sat with other men even though they were just friends. If I went out on my own and didn't text him for a while he'd dump me then come crawling back. He'd make plans for a date then stand me up. There were so many I lost count. 🍒
Same ! One time my ex dragged me out of town and when I wanted to go out he said ok . But once I got out of the shower and dressed up he was just sitting on the couch in pjs saying he didn’t wanna go . Lol so I left. He gave me the silent treatment when I came back from my night out . Then the next night he left me in the Airbnb alone to fly somewhere else in the middle of the night . 😂 and I still kept chasing him for like another year smh
My entire 20's was spent in relationships with narcissistic type abuse. I didn't really know what it was at the time with my boyfriend of 5 years. That was my first taste of just how much someone can tear you down and make you feel small. It starts being in and out... then small digs at your appearance, then you try and gain their validation by changing all the while they're putting you down about how you're doing it. Other women. The mistreatment I endured was really damaging.
The next guy I dated was different in the fact that he was self aware and was "nice" to me. Portrayed a relationship type atmosphere all while avoiding any and all accountability. He may not have mind fucked me like the first one or the last one, but he still had a very self centered, child like demeanor... tantrums and all. It ended really messy and this is when I started to recognize my patterned behaviors and theirs. That's when I started learning about what I was experiencing.
Fast forward a few years later and I found myself in yet ANOTHER trap but with more awareness. I admit I let some things slide... because he claimed to have been emotionally damaged from previous women. In that way he was able to bend my boundaries and keep the show boat rolling. The first time I came to him expressing I felt like affection was one sided that mask dropped. Totally different person... everything got flipped back on me. In that moment I recognized what was happening. I was discarded after he realized I was onto him. Every time he tried to come back I would not let up on him acknowledging how he behaved was uncalled for.
In order to come out of all this and be at peace I had to go back and acknowledge why I stayed. I had to acknowledge why I would accept that treatment from another human being. It took me ten years to heal my own inner wounds and emotional damage inflicted by romantic partners. I had to learn that the only validation I need... is my own. People can only meet you as far as they have met themselves. I won't lie and say that leaving my last dating experience was easy... because it was not. I was still emotionally attached but I learned a while ago to attach to my own self in a different way. Go to therapy, watch these TH-cam videos, stay around people who support you and love you. You will build that sense of self again and be impenetrable.I promise 🥰 remember nothing that you experienced was deserved and was all a projection of someone looking at the world through a fucked up broken ass lense.
Hello Ben! I loved this video, and I'm looking forward to the next one. Nothing wrong with a guy being the king of the castle - as long as I'm the queen, not the peasant. 🏰
I couldn't identify the flags as red, because those were the common ones growing up.
I didn't know that there are decent people in the world, who are kind, and don't put down someone innocent. I thought this is how the world is.
I appreciate your honesty, it takes courage.
Ben, i agree with u but not totally.
I had relationships with psycopath. I was telling "no" everytime I didn't want to do something and etc. But he was 100% respecting that(even if i see from outside). And i though he is nice and he loves me.
But when I needed him the most, he showed his real face - that he is psycopath.
So not everytime saying "no" is saving us, unfortunately. Thats why i trust only in God and i pray to him to show me what I should do.
Mainly with narcissists (not psychopaths) it normally shows a lot. But I agree others might not react that way.
Wow red flags 🏳 just wow she had me, and on top of it all I broke my boundaries all the time to please her. Just wow. Thanks for this atlease am not with her anymore.
Im so glad i ran across your video.. my wife and i going thru hell. Im on my last my last string. Now today she love bombing me now. And she said she trying to change.
Dustan oh my gosh, make peace, than secretly plan your escape. She will destroy you in the end, they simply love to cause us pain, they get off on it. And, sorry to say, they only get worse. Don't run back in a burning building. Not worth it. Good luck to you dear one.
Also, they all say they will change.
My very first red flag was immediately- I was a little afraid of him. Plus the first date involved me listening to his childhood abandonment and ex-wife horror stories. When he met my psychologist daughter, he was quite rude. Just the beginning of the relationship from hell.
I dont even know who i am no more. 8 yrs of hell. Last year she made me lose all my friendships with friends, and my daughter. Im just getting my daughter back. But it not the same. It hurt bad to me
Yes. I saw the flags, but I ignored them.
Exactly what I did. Way to fast met Oct 16 he ask me to marry him Thanksgiving. Married 7 month's later. The Red Flags were there I ignored them. Didn't have a clue what a Narcissist was. 3 1/2 year's later I told him it was time to go our separate ways after 3 separations in less than a year.
This is very good advice and explained in a clear way.
Thank you
Wont bring anyone around my kiddos and family until I know at least 90 days for them to show me who they are!! My kiddos, family and me deserve respect! Not a damn revoling door of drama and chaos!! No One Will Come around until they have earned it by being a genuine good person Definitely not Narcissist !!
This just made me not go on a first date.
Man: ill pick you up from your apartment
Me: no ill just meet.you there
Man: are you sure?
Me: yes...
Man ok ill see you in two weeks. We will see about me picking you up then.
Me: i told you no! .ill meet you at the restaurant!
Man: im driving past be easy to pick you up
Me: no i dont need you to pick me up.
Man: ok ill see you in two weeks
Weirdo so insistant on picking me up . I text him just now and cancelled.
Block him
All my Ex's previous partners were described as "Nutters" .........
After 2.5yrs of the biggest emotional rollercoaster of my life. I realised the ex partners has just been abused. A couple reached out and ......
Yes, the experiences they d had were shocking. Each had needed therapy and agreed he had strong Narcisstic traits! Id started researching this after about 8 months. The mind f××kery was horrific.
Realised im co-depenant. Want to help/fix people.
Its taking me a long time to break the trauma bond. But im determined.
But each day im less broken and maintain living in TRUTH not lies. Focussing on my growth, development and happiness.
I dodged a bullet
Thankyou Ben. 🙂
TRUE
You r number one Ben, thankyou! I'm teaching my daughter about this...so Important!
I realize now how much i justified those red flags and as you say when i would set my boundaries , he would manipulate andbturn it around so that there was something wrong with me.
So true what you saying. My ex narc on our first meeting he started talking about his previous relationships and explained why didn't work out and if us wanted try something different and make it worth 😂and start saying exs names etc and never stops in 3 years of relationship to saying about exs or txt s txs update our relationship with his exs, saying he was connected with his exs then i could understand he's reasonshe from the beginning talk about exs all the time, shared our life with exs daily, updating his private life with them even he hasn't children,business together with them, he was so hang up with their family as always like if he still being family related, always reasons to be in contact find any reason to be in constantly touch with his exs so thats reason we finally finished, split up and i sent his back to his exs but she knows him and she also doesn't want him aswell 😂😂🤣🤣🤣.
Hi, I've been watching you and some other TH-camrs talking about Narcs, and one thing that comes up is that they are dangerous. How dangerous are we talking, like physical harm/murder, maybe steal money dangerous, or just need to protect my heart?
They will kill, steal, and destroy. It's who they are.
All of the above dangerous.. they are terminally fucked up
@@spoton8247 deranged and totally mentally ill!!!! Yes sir!!
Depends on the individual, but all of the above qre a possibility... as well as destroy reputation or try to do other types of harm to your life.
Love your channel!!!!
100000% right. trust your gut. in fact. the neighbor covert narc who wound up later semi stalking me i have spoken about on here. i go back to one day 1.5-2 years ago ish. now i had seen this neighobr every once in a blue mon and talked to him in his dive way for a few minutes and that was all it was.
thne one time in middle of winter 2021 i think he asked me to walk i was trying to get exercise so was he. and after that first 20-25 inute walk we did in winter. it felt nice during the walk, but yet for whtever reason i can't explain it. he didn't say or do anything wrong in any way shape or form. but something came over me. a gut feelng. i immidiately felt unfomforbale somehow. maybe he was standing to close, maybe it ws posture. may a wierd look in his eye or some combo. i honestly have no idea. all i know if my gut felt wierd. i literally avoided him for a few months . then on eday i thought maybe i was wrong. i probably shouldn't but... so i wen tto go say i would. it went great no wierd feelnig. then he did the loveboming ish type of stuff. charm and then even things dind't feel right but i enjoyed it. to some level enough to keep going and within 3 months after it wsa regular something wsa lurking where i flet very toxic even thinking of him . and thought he was going to be a nightmare. and he was. i ony hung out regularly for 4-5 total months. and maybe 150 hours or less of actaul time spent around him or even on th ephone. but it has been 14 monhts now since i last gave him any interaction repnse of any kind. i had to blcok 8 varoius numbers including his over time as he kept using various numbers after i blocked him to randmoy text me
When I said no he would guilt me, say things like you don’t like me, you probably talking to someone else .. He was covert, always the victim. Replaced me overnight with a girl 20 yrs younger. He told me she’d brush everything under the rug. Apparently her self respect too. I heard she says her life is a dream come true with him. They are together 6 yrs so far. She was 25 he 45 . He’s very convincing, tons of gaslighting, guilting & zero responsibility. She being so young probably buying it as love, hook line sinker.🤦🏼♀️ Easier to groom the young?
Often does a narc reflect about themselves through other people is this a common tactic
How do you stop over sharing your wants and likes. So they do not use them against us.
One month and he asked me to marry him, then it was a long engagement. Still stayed very covert that whole time. It wasn’t until we married that the mask came off.
Of course it did. They are all so predictable.
When you hear the word, "like" take a shot.
Its like that . I just met with a therapist this morning and the microexpressions and contempt she was talking to me where not making me feel safe or contained for a therapeutic relationship.!!!! She was a class A asshole. Her reasoning ??, a person goes to therapie to get help, and I as a person with 3 years in healing know how important empathy and safety is to create a safe rapport. SHe was contemptuous about how we were not going fast enough, she worked with the body also but would be judgemental, stop and stare at me. Get angry, oh man. Im glad i picked up all those red flags and would stop her and ask her about them and tell her that she needs to ease in if she wants me to feel safe, i think she was a narc so entitled, that she thinks she could bypass the rapport element of therapeutic trust building. She tried to blame me for it. I said she never created safety and understanding, how can a person relax with her when she's so contemptuous. I think she tried to play on either urgency, or whatever. But such an important part of my healing is being in safe, reciprocal, relationships with healthy boundaries and connection, that , even if sort of can use therapy, I have a lot of support in place, and enough healing and integrity towards myself and my inner children, that I'm not going to let her be putting me down with microexpressions, and agressions and contempt or anything , that fucking NARCKY contemptuous bitch ass therapist lol. Authentic healing is so good because having your perception back, and a strong connection to your sense of self your emotional center, your inner children, and the willingness to express them in sharing , and voice if something feels off, with firmness and staying true to yourself, over time, for sure, we can see who the right people are for us. Wow , a contemptuous cruella deville complex narcisist in trauma therapy, i wonder how many people shes conned or abused. Glad i stopped her a couple times and finally decided it wasnt working, she tried to blame me, but i told her fuck you basically over it. You can't blame me if she never built the therapeutic and empathic rapport to start relaxing and she was getting angry because i didnt. Judgemental and gaslighter. Nasty feeling really. Im going to try someone else now. Honor yourself , honor your gut, honor your inner children, talk about the red or orange flags, say no, and keep boundaries, it will tell you if the person is healthy or not.
Hello you video was very helpful, how can we disconnect how can we leave .? I'm 11 years on with 3 kids mostly babies . I'm soo scared of him taking my babies please help with advice 😭
Enough Is Enough is a book by Dr. David Clarke that may help you...it lays out a plan to leave an abusive relationship.🫂
Must be so worrying. Melanie Tonia Evans narcissistic abuse support might be able to help you with parenting issues.
Go to family or a homeless shelter, save yourself and your kids!!
Mine broke up with me she was inraged of something small
👍
He actually asked me if I saw any red flags. Red flag ugh
I wanted to be a wife.