Children, Violence, and Trauma-Treatments That Work
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ก.พ. 2013
- This video discusses the serious consequences of children's exposure to violence and trauma, such as substance abuse and mental health and behavioral problems, and the increased severity of symptoms experienced by children who have suffered multiple forms of victimization. It also features some of the evidence-based treatment strategies for children and their families that researchers and experts consider effective.
You realise how important it is to have a good childhood when you've lived a horrific one. You do anything you can to protect yourself and your children.
Couldn't agree more. I decided a while back to not have children because I don't want to be responsible for bringing them into this world however I always push my nieces and nephews to try their best in whatever they do. It was so wholesome one time when my niece asked me to open a bottle for her and she couldn't do it. I asked her if she tried her best and after really exerting herself, she opened it. Now every time she needs help she tells me that she tried her best and couldn't do it.
Oh my Lord, Yes ❤️🙏
But we need to fix ourself first for for functioning. Or we can't fight for our children if the world is against them, also when our kids when they need us the most but we can't function. We can't leave things on them. But thats what my parents did and now i am helpless
Some do. Some try. And some only repeat what was done. Bless you for wanting to make the difference though.
@@chinmayz6000 well said
I’m glad we are all trying to help the next generation. I’m so traumatized from my childhood.
What happened??
@@Nemarh child abuse. And lack of protection from others abusing me. From what I researched my mother is narcissistic. She hurt other kids as-well and was very jealous of other adults and children.
My abuser is my dad and he is a paediatrician and my step mum a GP... my biological mum neglected us and left us with my dad when were toddlers age 6... they have been acting like God over our lives! My suicide attempt failed when I was 15 but my brother shot himself at 15 and he died! You think doctors are people who can be trusted, who care, but some use their position to play God... in South Africa children are to be seen and not heard! I have a lifetime of issues they handed me.. some medical professionals are disturbingly evil! My dad and step mum denies everything and still walk free .. for me this is most disturbing!
Please tell me you’re out of that environment
@docbansky im sorry to hear what you've gone through. How are you right now?
Me too, honey. My mother was a teacher and my father the head of a big institution for education for when you complete school following high school (either apprentices or as gateways to uni for people who didn't get high enough grades at school). He was like an old school headmaster and SO ABUSVIE - it' just not fucking right! They let my brother BEAT THE SHIT out of me and I had to escape aged 16 bc my safety was at risk. I was constantly told what a piece of shit I was, slut, etc. At 16 I had to go and live with older me (insert vomit). My physical health has been fucked since my '20's, I'm almost bedridden and now have to live with my mother with my own child. My little one, aged 7. A few yrs before I had my son they found me by accident when I made a proper attempted suicide. I got brain damage and had to learn to walk and talk.....
So, girl, I hear EVERY word you've said. I know EXACTLY how that invalidation from EVERYONE, especially the abusers makes you feel utterly worthless and I am SO SORRY about what happened to your brother. That's just harrowing.
Just remember, THEY are the pieces of shit that did this, NOT YOU. And even though you love your brother and you miss your brother, I'm sure he's become an angel watching over you ever since he crossed over to the other side. Love from AU
I'm so sorry you have these struggles in your life.. sending virtual hugs ❤️❤️❤️
Completely agree with you about Doctors and God complexes. Some of them think they can do whatever they like.
Give our abusers more jail time
Maybe as they try to humiliate children with signs around neck walking in public areas they should do the same. Sadly the most sadistic abusers vare those we pay at the very top. Sometimes uta better to get those cool tree climbing shoes w spikes to help get up and rather cut from bottom w rope and yell TIMBER. slowly as s group of considerate kind nin violet screaninf beings slowly climb each group aka branch hmmm as needed and get to the top and just surprise them as hello sorry you gots to to and start cutting from the top. Then rhe rest if us whom possibly afraid of heights!! Can collect these dead branches and watch as we work our way down as now they are stuck cant go up as they are gone nor down as they pissed on those below then already. And can't swing left or right. Nice analogy I feel I will write down as never viewed it before as such. But I recently was talking about those cool spike shoes! God source whomever you choose to say. As long as it's one if love kindness compassion fairness as humans. Not speaking animals as one needs to kill or harm the other for survival of life as seems the general majority of us have known this and only when the true minority 1% has forced us as if we are their puppets some esp particular groups or communities which btw they (the minority ) created get back to fear and survival mode bc as anyone of us xan easily be turned when we see iurbjuds cry drin hunger. Our loved ines shot and killed by eachother, or worse by those whom are here to protect and serve actually do the opposite as many hide behind their illusion of power regardless of the level where it is actually the worst crimes committed by the illusion of protection & power they thought they have and took but when we are shaken by the very beautiful earth who feeds and provides all of our needs( not them) and we re connect as once before such disgusting genocide occured and still is this very day. They will fear us. And they should B.C. the control power hungry narccistc beings whom we need cut down from the top will feel their true powerlessness and insecurities and esp vulnerability. That's their fear. I know it's hard for them to open their own door let alone sweat at work( not bx fear of being fired or jail) and grow own food and hope we do not decide to go to their shunned communities and say. Ok time to give us half and say it's for your safety we can't tell you what or whom we share ut with...in time we shall see major shifts ans changes which will result in benefiting those who it was indeed meant to! May peace and love be with us all!
Burn them
@@_Lillith_ yes please
More like death.....
@@britwhit5171 yes, death penalty! a dead adult is better than a child that shoots up schools due to trauma.
what made me angry as a child and teenage, while i said im scared and traumatize, my father and my mother deflect my needs, neglect and blame me if im being vulnerable
This is so heartbreaking. Some principles should be implemented at the highest levels.
I took abuse from many authority figures and I had seizures, Finally, to end the weakness cycle of bullies and teachers doing nothing, I wrote a vary harsh 15 page letter addressing the issues at school and having talked with My friend who is a principle, He advocated and informed the board and these other teachers on My behalf that I'm nearly at the end of My rope with high school, After the board tried to tell Me to have decorum, I finally said Myself to the school board quote, "I'm done, I've fucking had it, enough, no more". I went out, got drunk at home, attempted to go out to school in a drunken rage but thankfully My Dad talked Me out of it just kept Me home and We drank beers all night. So, I took a 4 week leave and just drank. Finally they did something about these bullies and the irresponsible teachers which got fired. So after that, there were no problems.
Did U have sesuires because of anxiety?
Now imagine you had went with your first plan , going to school in a drunken rage. I wonder if they would have took your claims less seriously or delayed taking it seriously. Either way I’m glad you resolved it and I hope you don’t get a drinking habit out of this, you have so much life to live free from stress and anxiety. You’ve finally been given the honour you deserve don’t let them still win by affecting your health in this way
I’m so sorry you had to experience this. My heart breaks for you. These systems (schools) have to be held accountable for the problematic behavior of teachers and students. We have this problem in Australia - and the “decent” teachers don’t want to intervene with the “abusive” teachers due to fear of reprisal. I even witnessed the “emotional health” teacher stand back and allow a problematic teacher to yell/scream/berate (abuse) grade two kids. Parents have told me they are “too scared” to say anything, and they basically walk away. It’s a dreadfully broken system causing further harm to children.
Drinking was not the answer, nor was truancy, or your folks encouraging both.... really says a lot about what truly was going on though.
I suggest that you shared this because this is a global problem and the aim is to understand these issues and forward them to the people who are suffering if this video is informative I will pass it to others
I have been abused. I was raised in a neglective and abusive home. When I was 8 I was talked to by a social worker. I remember they asked me one question, The whole time through the questions I had been lying. Finally a question “has anyone ever hit, bit, or scratched you?” I remember I nodded. Then the man said “Answer with words” I just started crying. I didn’t want to say anything. I was so scared. Because my whole life my parents had been telling me that they would take me. And I would never see my family again. I remember running home from school crying so scared to be hurt. I remember running to my mom just crying “I’m sorry I’m sorry I didn’t mean to”. I was beat that night.
we're the same, violence was norn back then, i was so alone with father and brother violence, while i was try to be kind to them, but they're doing no good instead put the hate and violence to me, i hide my pain, i feel numb, confused about all their behaviour, and im slowly saving hatred to them for what they've done to me....
know that you are not alone, some people out there gonna find you and accept you as you are...
make new friends, go to therapy....
I'm still depressed, but I don't want to see some other kid sad and depressed just like this old folks
@@Peanuts76 good luck brother, you re important for yourself!
@@Peanuts76 but the sad part is..those who grow up with trauma will have some the same pattern since childhood..if he/she don't understand love growing up, he/she will having a hard time to give/receive love
@@Peanuts76 what is many case in bullying? The kid who had anxiety problem, or any mental health problem, it's usually cause of trauma or abuse at home, he suffer in pain at home, then he go to school, he suffer again because of course this kid had a lot of shame cuz of his parent and he had lowself esteem cuz of poor development growing up..recycle pattern
I wish i can go to therapy one day!
I went through trauma for 16 years, my mom and dad were alcoholics and my dad was very abusive towards my mom and saw her get beat on the daily then he left and never saw him again. I don’t remember most of my childhood as it included CPS and being away from my mom. I went through elementary and middle school being bullied. When I was 11-13 I was being sexually assaulted by my moms ex boyfriend who also beat her and they were drinking most of the time. Around middle school I started self harming as a call for help, but no one helped. Then my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer, she was always sick which made me have to grow up at such a early age, but she was still drinking. We moved around for awhile then we lived with her other ex boyfriend who was also very abusive and financially abusive too. I endured the abuse, the yelling, and the fighting till it got too much and I tried to take my life by overdosing but I woke up and no one noticed. I tried to get out of there by getting CPS involved again but he fooled them. I didn’t like going home and tried to stay out as long as I could. My mom was attached to him and always went back to him, I knew he was a very bad person. She lied to me so many times saying “I’m gonna leave him and we’re gonna get our own apartment” but that never happened. We later then moved into my grandparents, they didn’t like me. My mom spent most of the time with her boyfriend and I didn’t see her most of the time. During high school I was just living with my grandparents, but during sophomore year, my mom.. passed away, he killed her.. After that my brother became very abusive towards me and blamed me. I’m a junior now and my aunt took me in and is now getting me the help I need but I don’t want to live anymore, I want to be with my mom. I miss her so much.
I now suffer with severe depression, anxiety, PTSD, OCD, ADD, paranoia schizophrenia, psychosis, and BPD
@@1ns_mnia687 Im sorry to hear what you have gone through... I was abused also when I was 11-13, I kept that to myself for 16 years.. But now, Im on my healing process, what helped me a lot in this healing journey is telling and sharing my story to others. You are not alone in this journey of life.. connect with people who will help and uplift you. Be strong!! we can heal collectively
Your aunt took you in and providing the help you need ...she’s trying her best ...live for her to return her kindness
@@1ns_mnia687 WHAT THE HELL??!!! YOU SERIOUSLY WENT THROUGH ALL THAT???!!!!! THAT'S INSANE. OH MY GOD ARE YOU OK NOW???!!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭. YOU MUST BE FEELING SO LONELY RIGHT NOW. PLEASE TELL ME YOU'RE ALIVE. REPLY TO ME IF YOU'RE ALIVE. Sweetheart, you have been through literal hell and now I feel better about my life. Please, never kill yourself, EVER. I am literally crying right now...How could an innocent child endure all of this????
I know you have now some hard time but talking with people can help you much also here is an virtual hug
Stay strong and only think the good things in your life if you dont know any ill tell u one Here is ALWAYS soemone who loves u ALWAYS! never forget that
Why isn’t child abused the most popular social justice cause in America? Are the leading social justice causes really more important than child abuse?
My family should have given me up for adoption.
At 57 years old, I am still coming to terms with my traumatic, emotionally and physically abusive childhood by parents who still get their kicks out of hurting me.
I have limited contact with my parents who are in their mid-80’s and have completely cut off their flying monkeys!
I HAD AN AGGRESSIVE CHILDHOOD WHERE I AM BULLIED BY BOTH BOYS AND GIRLS!
IT GOT SERIOUS WHEN I STARTED FIGHTING WITH EVERYONE, EVEN THE GIRLS!
I HAD TO LEAVE THAT SCHOOL AND IVE BEEN SEEING A PSYCHIATRIST AND IM GOOD
You are not the only one. My mom also abused me. She almost enjoyed it. But i could not fight, because she told me. “Endure it, but don’t fight” and she never explained why. So i endure it…. Now i’m afraid even to start a simple relationship and i’m 35! Cool huh? These types of people should not have any kids!! (Her father was abusive and angry motherfucker) she’s also traumatised, but she carried this burden on to me. Well, that’s what you get for beeing abusive. Now she always asks “where is your girlfriend? Where are my grandkids “ And i always say “I’m afraid even to talk in public with women. how i never recieved any compasion nor love from you. So what do you expect?” She watches and told me only this “something is wrong with you” and till this taht i live alone and when i come to meet my mom just to help wtih something and a few words. No love, no compation, very firm without any emotions. Only few words: hi, yes, no, i don’t know. No explanations, nothing. Just beeing very stoic.
@@artursiniavskijDamn! Sorry man!
Thank you for the very useful and informative piece.
The problem might be because of cultural oppression too and though times , also the parent might have been also neglected by his own parents . I think it doesn’t only have to do with kids , but also parents , idk some parents know how to provide really good , but they have no emotional help , because they likely had the same issue in their childhood . It would be good if both sides are taken care off .
With therapy and social workers for both parent and child traumas through the world
Albany Ga has high cases of this which is a shame. This can lead to depression, anxiety and insomnia
I was a CCW/Case Manager at two treatment hospitals. The first one was a child short treatment center. The average stay was about 3 Mos. I was a Case Worker. We reviewed progress based on shift notes. Etc. If the child was ready for discharge, we reviewed the client's case. If the child does not have a diagnosis, we would give them one. The team would usually give him the catchall diagnosis, 'Childhoo schizophrenia'. This label irritated and angered me. I fought for those kids. Let say the is 5. The label of schizophrenia likely be his whole life. Even worse he would get the proper treatment.
I left there to work at long term treatment Hospital. I took a client to be admitted there. After a tour I was amazed with treatment of client's. Very few received medication. The program there was based on behavior modification. I was with 16 hours a day. If the adolescent acted out inappropriately. Then they were put restricted. Some of his privileges would were denied until the restriction was completed. Most of the time a staff help. Once completed, privileges were given back. If clients get in a fight, they wore 1 lb gloves, or there be a 3 round boxing. Usually the other staff and clients would make a circle for the as the ring. By round 3 they were exhausted. After the fight staff and clients would fight 1 round. We were one of the top treatment hospital in world. The director was often the director or on the board with many treatment hospitals. We literally top tier hospitals. Many treatment centers visit the ranch to observe our technique. 1 example, TJJ came. Another was a Russian hospital. One more thing we worked on a 365 acre ranch.
This didn't really offer solutions or healing steps.... If anyone has any info or vids on that, would be helpful.
ive suffered traumas but am an adult now what do i do?
Renan Vianna chose the right path
You can still go to therapy to talk about what happened to you! You are never too old for therapy, and there is no shame in seeking help, especially if it still bothers you.
Heal thyself, face the wounds, emotions, energy trauma stored and release them back to NEUTRAL, back to the fluidity of being love as a verb, and only interact with such, are some needed steps.
Be smart, talk about it. Report it, seek guidance on how you should behave/handle the situation.
I’ve also suffered and still suffering traumas and I’m 14
I see . I finally understand why i behave like this. This will help me counter my own non-social tendencies and habits .
My mum and dad hurts me and says how dumb I am all the time and sometimes does not even care about bully and says I'm fat:(
I was one of these kids, I drew a bunch of crazy war pictures and they were all over me. I remember it
I find dialectical to be far more helpful in therapy regarding neglect or abuse cases. Afterwards, CBT (cognitive) can be helpful after dialectical.
Jumping straight into CBT can often lead to poor participation in applying corrections to learned (mal-adaptive) patterns. If the child is not heard first from a non judgmental aspect by allowing them a voice, they are more likely to be combative during the healing process.
I suppose I think of how these wounds are created: in order to effectively meet the needs the victim has the abuse may have deprived from them, to be heard and valued FIRST is crucial. Then when enough time has passed and the child begins to heal in the self worth and esteem areas introducing CBT could be more effective than if dialectical was skipped, entirely.
Someone has to meet those needs in order to get the child to a more psychologically receptive place where CBT is effective.
What are your thoughts?
Lauren Simon I agree, BUT without the ENVIRONMENT they are in to be as much nurture, feedom, normal as ANY child; it sends mixed messages, as does the environmental factors of psychotropics and non constant staff/drs coming in for their paid visits, not treating the child as a human value to give consistent love. ALL environmental variables need to be consistent refufe sanctuary that all other children have, to not isolate and demeanor the soul, mind, body dignity of the child.
Also, as I did provide refuge to abused children, WITH animals they were freely allowed to bond with, without me ever forcing my own interactions or making them talk; each child first went into a rage, that I did not reject not punish then; then fell into a infantile stage thru each development stage where I recreated the neuronal pathways by nurturing each to rebuild the pathways to their appropriate age development
Only when state system came in, did any re regress as all valuable trust bonds and environmental refufe sanctuary was taken away and destroyed, violating the child's sacred trust and dignity, yet again, by the big system of PAID peeps. All I did, I did for free.
Thank you!
By the time I was 3 I had 4 aces by like 6 I had 9 aces so I had alot done to me alot of the aces continued on until I was like 20 something I'm 29 now no wonder I have alot of issues I have developmental delays mental and physical health problems alot of it does have alot to do with my childhood traumas adversities and some of the bad coping mechanisms I use to deal with it
let’s end this toxic generational cycle let’s forgive them first by looking at how they were treated in childhood then we become more clear on why we are like this.
First step is forgiving second is taking your on action and stop blaming
I hope all of u the best on your journey and it’s all about the marathon not the sprint !!!!!
You don't always have to forgive in order to heal. Forcing victims to forgive abusers and making them feel guilty for not being able to forgive is toxic. If you don't want to forgive then don't, it's okay. Do what is good for your healing.
BROKEN SYSTEM. .....THAT IS WHATS WRONG!!!
L G the system makes it way worse for a long time it just fucks them up more child care system is legal human trafficking very little amount of kids find loving homes
Broken homes.
Could they be taking drugs when meeting up with their friends..just asking
oh, this is me....
experiencing violence from father and brother
I pray for peace and happiness and harmony 🙏💜
Why do not teach the adults the conséquences of their anger or attempts on the children ?
Children can become abused adults in the future.
Abused children become abusive parents.
Abusive people usually know the consequences of their actions, but they don't give a frick, especially if they're narcisistics.
make children's thoughts become violent, out of control, unable to control their behavior. and in the future will become people who are not good for society. Please help young children stay away from movies that are not suitable for their age.
I have been abused by my stepdad he... He hurted me in so many hurtful ways and i have been bullied since first grade to fourth grade... It's just too much for me i have grew up having no memory of my childhood and real father and having emotional trauma isn't helpful.... *Cries* i wanted to just die at such a young age now i'm 13 and my parents are more nicer
Look at the positive side of things. You are stronger than other kids your age. And most likely you'll protect and love your own kids a lot more than other parents without traumas
@@elizabethvargas9156 yeah, i have friends in school now and i'm more happier
How many school for such victimized children are there present globally?Or are we still building robots for warfare!
2years he has beaten I am tired 😩 of beaten plz I am not joking
My name is zoey I am 12 years old shoe size I think it’s 4 to 5 and I think I need therapy
Ive heard all these good sounding ideas. Guess what. Its a bunch of shit
The kids are a lucrative commodity and the ones being horrifically abused are ignored by CPS, but the ones they can label as troubled, is desirable. Every label added is another dollar added to the score.
Exactly, Alaysia.
Thats what you should never have kids until you ready to give all the love in the world to them...
I better was never born then born in abnormal childhood and affects adult life too which is asocial fear anxiety isolation
My children wasn’t abused!! They where stollen then abused by adopting family!!
Terrible
the academic sniveling shit bags like the talking heads in this video stole your children and handed them to rapists, because they are dogs, they want all children and families to be under the control of the state therapists and use sophistry to keep their boot on the neck of society and keep you in terror
@@DollySvengali you are scary and delusional.
How about mental health we’re parent will look at a kid and say I didn’t say that I look at them even if you had proof and say you’re crazy mental abuse is highly horrible to in a bad thing about it is nobody can figure it out and nobody can see it. Because the abuser looks wonderful to the outside world sometimes they’re very successful in their job.
Perhaps heterosexuals should pass a test before having kids.
Perhaps everyone should. I've seen people who can hardly take care of pets properly, considering them to be disposable toys. What would surprise me about their inability to care for their children? This from years of being a nurse and more years of being a HUMANE, compassionate person who understands that food, love, and shelter are the very basics to start with and then move along to more important issues that should be obvious but seem to be mentally missing from the minds of way too many folks with children. You have to have a license to hunt or fish but anyone can pop out a "unit" and treat it with disdain and sometimes not treat them appropriately at all! Yes, I heard a parent refer to her kids simply as useless units that she never wanted but she fed because she had to according to the law. She wouldn't allow them to be adopted into a family who wanted them but eventually, that's what did indeed happen. Yeah, not like that was much of a surprise, really!
EVERY SINGLE HUMAN BEING SHOULD
Yes i can agree to that... My parents are pure heterosexuals.... Because of the physical abuse and trauma they did to me i resulted to become attracted to the same sex i think thats what happens to almost 60% of gay people before they knew their sexuality i mean i am not the bad type of gay... I can accept everyone whoever they are as long as they are kind people and because of the result of the abuse they gave me i have been pretty friendly with girl children because i grew up being secretly friends with girls and stuff because my parents would beat me if they knew i was a "gay"..... I hid my true personality from my whole family,relatives etc.... Because they all despised gay people and they would torment me for being gay because I am very weak and emotional......so i acted straight for 16+ years until i lived by my own...... I also had a rule stuck to my head to "Whatever child I might have in the future or if i adopt one, I will never inflict the same pain my parents has done to me" im scared i might become a bad parent i just hope i wont
Just want to share these youtube videos.
-Near Death Experiences -Jeff Mara
-Matias de Stephano- Gaia series INTUITION.
If a father abuses his children of under 13 years even at 1 year old
Would he get arrested?
I don't want my father begone anytime soon..even if i get a 1000 bruises!
Are you serious? HE did that to YOU. How do you not want him to get punished for his doings. I know it may not seem like much right now but sooner or later this might cause you PTSD. Trust me you dont want to experience it, its horrible to live with
@@ukiy01 yes I had this same mindset at one point but now I don't care what happens to my parents because the abuse has me falling apart basically.
@@xahsinor4364 yes well tbh same but considering the original commenter is young, i think they still have time to save themselves from all the mental trauma. And about me? I dont care much, i will be moving out as soon as i finish my studies and get a steady flow of income.
@@ukiy01 I have video evidence of my situation cause I want to take them to court though cause I no longer want to worry about what will happen to people who don't care about me at all.
@@ukiy01 also I know they are young but I feel bad cause that's a bad mindset to have i had it before and honestly telling yourself it's ok to be abused makes the mental strain worse my family gaslights a lot but I now have a good enough mind state to know they tell straight lies.Honestly my mental health was the worst when I played that everything is ok role.
You have no idea how cruil institutions are,. No idea
Child parent psychotherapy and trauma focused cbt
Missing persons,. Denmark
I need help my father beats me 😭😭
I am serious plz plz
What's your situation
Beat or spank if you’re being abused seriously call 911 secretly record your dad and know that this doesn’t last forever
Hey are you okay. How are you today
For extreme trauma and the person is having a great deal and hardship in overcoming such trauma, suggest seeking the help of a professional who is God-centred and wise and/or inquire submissively from a bona fide spiritual teacher who can guide you in your spiritual journey beyond this world of pains, sufferings, quarrel, chaos, and confusion.
Asi se interroga a una niña presunta victima de abuso sexual🤣🤣🤣
The solution to my mental issues is just.
"Shut the fuck up and deal with it you useless paper clip."
Works 100% of the time it's foolproof.
I read comments. So many hurt people here. Where God in all this. If anyone sees my message and would like to talk and be friends with someone who listen support you can trust message me. If you don't trust me I understand.
Hey