Is "THE ONE" a Biblical Idea? || Do Christians Have Soulmates?
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- hi friends!
do I believe in "the one"?
Is there such a thing as christian soulmates?
does God have a perfect match for you, and He will do whatever it takes for you to be together?
let's chat about it!
Is the idea of "the one" a biblical idea? or an idea created by Hollywood and culture? Does God care about romance? What is the point of marriage as a christian? All of these are super important! Weigh in with any of your own thoughts and response to my beliefs as well!
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"Marriage is for our holiness" that's an excellent perspective, I love that 👏🏽 and "the one" is the one you choose indeed haha but of course we should still seek God's input on whether or not we should pursue a particular relationship. Nice take on this Kendra 💛
Thanks Nastasia!❤️☺️
“I chose him” it’s actually very romantic ❤️
I think so too ❤️
Before I listen to all this, I'm going to say that I agree- despite a lot of Christian books that indicate otherwise. I also think "The One" can be a destructive concept or fear driven. An ex of mine who was talking marriage, ended up leaving because he never got signs from God and it was a fear based mentality- instead of looking at our relationship in light of Scripture. "The One" can cause us to miss what's right in front of us, for fear there's something "better" out there. It's also dangerous after marriage because once feelings get a little less sparkly and more true life love where rubber meets the road, people can say well, maybe he/she isn't the one after all, because of whatever reason. Once you marry the person, they ARE the one! It's a covenant before God. Thankfully He gives us choice within reason, with His Holy Spirit to guide us as we work through choosing who we spend our life with ♥️love ya girl!! Hope you are well and let me know how I can pray for you 🙏🏼
Amen girl! I could not agree more!!❤️
What scares me more is after marriage, what if she feels i'm not enough and there is better out there in bad times or when it gets
'boring'.. all because of the concept of i want more and the 'one'
When she said “I’ll go to church and I’ll start to think if my future husband is here” I felt that to the T!!!😂 ❤️
Thank you! From the Netherlands. I will teach my daughters this..I now realize how important this subject is.
Love that!! Thanks Kelly!
Amen! They become the one once you get married. You choose the best candidate, there are many people that could be compatible not just one. You choose who you will glorify God with, who you will run the race with. Its about being holy and pleasing God :).
Amen!
Ehhh, but I’m pretty sure that was all in God’s will and plan for your life. It was in his plan for you to face life together. The Paul quote earlier about being single might counter an argument that everyone has someone to marry but it’s flawed because some people aren’t called to marriage. But someone doesn’t become the one when you decide it. The whole story of everyone’s life is already known to God. Who is to say that God didn’t know you were going to marry this person over the other? He already knew because it was in His plan for you. For those called to marriage, there is someone God has for you to walk through the troubles of life with and for people who divorce or become widows, it still applies because God has a sovereign plan that cannot be altered based on decisions you make in life. Whatever decisions you make are already part of the plan. That’s just my thought.
Ugh I wish I saw this video earlier! All young people or everyone needs to know this. Thanks for your honesty 💜
Thank you so much. ❤️ I've been having doubts and I've been living my life exactly the way you explained it. This does take the pressure of. Now I know "the one" is my choice and the only thing I can pray for is that I make the best choice 🙏
Hey girl! Thank you so much for addressing this! It honestly really does take the pressure off of literally seeing any guy and wondering if he’s “the one” haha! It’s such a toxic mindset and honestly it gets annoying😂 But God can still help us find a spouse and guide us, right? I don’t know, I just know that I need His help! I don’t know why I just feel kinda hopeless when it comes to finding a good Godly guy, so at the same time it comforts me to know that God can help me with that, you know? Anyway, thank you so much for your channel and being so Biblically sound!!💓💓
Absolutely! It’s not like God doesn’t care about who you end up with, and prayer is crucial when entering into a dating relationship! God wants to be at the center of it so that he can lead and help you ❤️ but it brings comfort knowing that you’re not set out to find a needle in a haystack haha😉😂
Super job, Sister Kendra! I agree wholeheartedly. Personally I never believed in the concept of "the one". I loved the emphasis on covenant. Now if only we Reformed folk can get you to embrace our covenant theology, then we'd be in real business.
Thanks Alan! I don’t know if I understood the second part of your comment though 😂
@@_KendraChristine You're welcome and it's cool. Excellent vid.
I *loved* this video. Thank you! 🧡
Thanks Samantha 🥰
I always learn something new from your videos.
You have such a simple and pure way of presenting the truth of scripture.
I have heard this concept presented by well meaning theological experts but never got any good enough points.
I appreciate the way you simplified it. I was just liberated by it.
I'm praying for you and your husband and i hope other subscribers can join me.
Thank you so much David!!
This is a great video! Thank you so much for posting it!! I think it’s something that I really needed to hear ☺️ God Bless 🙏 💜
Aww I’m so glad!!🥰
Hey babe, you’re “the one” for me;) haha. I’ll see myself out. 😘
And you’re “the one” for me, for the rest of my days❤️🥰
I believe there’s someone chosen by God for me because that’s always been my deepest desire and I know he won’t fail me.
Great video
Hey Kendra, well done video. I was in the same boat as you always worrying about what I need to do to find her. God reminded me over and over in Scripture to be still and know that He is God. In Proverbs it says that we are to trust in Him and not to lean on our own understanding meaning that I am not going to trust my feelings over someone as the foundation of a relationship but to rather pray and pursue should that someone demonstrate a love for God, His Word and His church. Just got off of work so I'm a little tired, hope this makes sense.
Totally agree Christopher!! Love that
@Trisha Manalo Thank you for this wonderful reminder :)
i think i need to read the book, you mention about it in here too :D
Haha I know! It’s because it’s the one I’m currently reading so it’s fresh in my mind!
I feel like I DO have a soul mate, I feel like however that not everyone does, and it’s not all this ultra romantic out of this world movie type relationship we can have. This is the real world and God does give us a choice. I do know who my soulmate is. Our paths just weren’t aligned. He believes in God but doesn’t follow and engage in a relationship like I. But we flow together so very well, we have an extremely deep connection. Not felt with not one other single person . Not even who I am Married to now. Marriage IS hard, mine is SUFFERING. I was pleased to be with someone who would go to church with me, who would serve at church with me. But as of lately, I found him doing things behind my back . I am heartbroken. This person would pray with me before going to sleep , then get back up and go behind some other area of the house , or behind a closed door to hide the things he REALLY likes to do. I feel as if all this time he was just behaving as a Christian to impress me, then as time went on, it’s like who he really is started to peak through, he would complain about serving I’d have to explain to him he shouldn’t feel burdened. I explained that serving for me isn’t a job. Then things get worse with the sneaking around . I have cried every day since June 19th, when I found even more of the things he had been doing. So I’m currently lost. I don’t feel I’m with a man who genuinely turned his heart over to God. And I do wish I was with the one who I know life would be smoother with . It’s so very hard. I wonder if I should just be alone. Even the one that really is perfect in nearly every way….still isn’t walking close enough to God as I’d likeThings are VERY hard, very heartbreaking, it just makes me want to just go home and be with Jesus. 😢💔
This is good! It's encouraging in a way but also kinda scary like it almost feels like there's more pressure on me to find or pick the person. Buuuuut what is to be will be, am i right ;)
That’s true, that can be nerve racking too. I think the main thing that relieves my pressure is not worrying that I married “the wrong one”, and then wondering if I’m with the “right” person, if that makes sense. Cause if there’s only one person out there that you’re supposed to be with, there’s a lot of pressure that you might not meet them or settle for someone that wasn’t the one God had for you, if that makes sense
What I realized when I got this revelation is that God through his wisdom grace and knowledge will help us decide! I have a candidate and God has given me wisdom on how to see if we would work in marriage. So I don’t feel pressure or anxiety anymore! Can take my time slowly with Jesus and be at peace! I hope that helps
If you say that there is no the one: How do you explane that God made Eva from Adams bone, than Eva wasn't made for Adam, she was just made of Adams bone, but could have been with someone else?
Hackiko waited by the train track for his master forever and that’s the idea of true loyalty. If I can’t love someone like that cuz God would love someone like thay. Then I don’t want to love at all
Thanks for pointing out where "the one" originated from. I didn't understand what people meant by "the one". I wonder what your friends' arguments for it... I have no experience with relationships apart from when I met Keven.. I reckon Christians who are for it would use Ruth and Boaz' love story to justify their position.
I think it can be confusing when you know that God is sovereign, and He is in control, and we can think that He will control everything so we end up with a certain person
@@_KendraChristine Yes I think it can be confusing. Not because of God's sovereignty but our selfishness to want what we think God wants for us.
You should've believed what your heart told you when you were younger....your just being impatient- soulmates absolutely exist from God totally!!
Thank you
I just don’t agree in trying people out. I’ve never believed in that and I never will. I love . When I love I love someone for everything they are and I don’t throw people away like a pair of shoes. I respect someone’s heart.
Wow Kendra thank you for this video! SO so helpful! Would love to know your thoughts on "praying for your future husband"? It's a common practice among Christian women but is it really biblical?
Hmmm, that’s actually a really good question! I might dive into that a little more and maybe do a video on it! Thanks Mariana!
Wow I'm so glad I found this video I totally hate the idea of romantic destiny it does nothing but ruin my peace and mental clarity I had settled this before but it started up again because I was reflecting in the uniqueness we have and I was kind of getting pulled back into believing that the solution was a perfect match. I just hate the idea of how someone else would define my purpose in life it just felt so stupid and vain. But it was good to remember Paul saying stay single and that definitely doesn't sound like oneitis.
He says we have a purpose , he chooses us but why wouldn’t a partner be the same
Biblical marriage has confused me for a long time. Polygamy marriage. Contract marriage. Covenant marriage. And the need to leave a toxic abusive relationship that's not biblical. But now I think I get it. Faith and Works for a spouse. I have a hard time relying on the holy spirit for a romantic relationship and simply still rely more on mutual feelings and opinions instead. I never been in a courtship or a serious relationship. I had 4 boyfriends but they weren't really good ones. I'm not sure if I call them boyfriends/exes. I really didn't like 2 of them! They both pressured me into dating them when I didn't want to. The first & the last. The first one, I dumped him the next day after he asked me out cuz obviously I didn't like him and he was a desperate player. He did the same thing to other girls. The last one was the same. I ghosted on him, he blew up ny phone while I was on vacation, and his family ended our short term dating which I didn't mind at all because I didn't like him at all other than just a friend.
What about when God had Isaac’s servant go to a different town and God said he would show him which girl it was that he should bring back for Isaac to be his wife. Seems pretty clear to me, that God does have provide the one.
God bless
Whats wrong with believing God has someone special out there for you! I believe in it and I know he does. I don’t want just anyone. I want a special person for just me and I don’t know why there aren’t many love testimonies out there that are shared.
God does gift love, James 1:17.. I believe he gifts it to the humble... There have been forbidden unions..people that weren't meant to be together... like Abraham and Hagar, versus Abraham and Sarah who were in Gods promise/will for each others lives.. the bible says to not take marriage lightly so you can't just marry anyone just because they're a christian and your a christian... also sometimes God can bring an unbeliever to Christ through the believing spouse and their good conversation... Jesus died to save all, and sometimes he helps to save unbelievers through their believing partners, and sometimes two Christians meet who were already Christians before they met and that's good too, it depends whatever is in Gods will... my advice before anyone gets married to someone they should always pray and ask God to make sure that they are marrying the right one... God bless xo
Wow! Coming from a single girl who for her whole life thought that God had "the one" for me. I have honestly found it so discouraging. And to be completely honest its really hard to be single. Like extremely! Ive always doubted whether I will get married or be lonely for the rest of my life. It's difficult. :(
Abigail, I’m so sorry. Singleness is so hard. Especially when you have a desire to be married and everyone around you is getting married... that was me for a long time. But singleness (even with all its challenges) can be beautiful, and God loves to grow our dependency on Him when we are faced with the hardest challenges (like singleness)! Marriage isn’t the “goal” and as a married person, I see that even more clearly! My problems didn’t go away when I got married, they intensified because I had to deal with them out in the open and be vulnerable with someone else (which is a challenge for me daily). God loves you, God sees you!❤️❤️
Hi Kendra..I just found your channel and I 'm already learning alot. I like how you emphasized the convenant-keeping side of marriage and "the one" pressure. I used to be like that too, always wondering and fantasizing about meeting "the one" and it's really toxic. I have a question though..so if there's no particular person God has chosen for us to be married to, then how about verses that say He has ordained our days ahead of us before one of them came to be, that he has prepared good works for us to do in advance. Isn't it possible that marriage is included in that? Isn't that why we pray for his will to be done, not ours.
That’s a great question! I think we need to be able to make a distinction that God knows who we’re going to be with, but that’s different than Him only having ONE person we can be with. Because there’s still choices we make every day that change who we would interact with. Some are good choices and some are bad. God knows who you’re going to marry but that’s different than Him moving mountains for you to be with a specific person. Hope that makes sense :)
@@_KendraChristine Thanks for replying me in such a short time! And yes I am more clarified now! The pressure of "the one" is off!
I haven't met my soulmate yet. God please help me
Love from india💖💖🇮🇳🇮🇳
Yeah, my idea of marriage and soul mates changed when I read Jesus telling the sadducess that marriage is of the flesh not of the spirit.
I don't think you necessarily have a "the one," but I also think that God might have a certain person He wants someone to marry, but I think it is the people's choice in the end. But I do believe no matter who it is that you should pray and ask God if He wants you to marry the person. I believe God is supposed to lead our every moves. If we pray about moving, buying a house, taking a job offer, going to a certain college, why wouldn't we pray about marrying a specific person?
I want to stay single, married to Jesus
I disagree , both people in my life I didn’t find. God brought them into my life and I wouldn’t have missed it if I tried.
I found the verse for you right here:
And the devil shall smell it, and flee away, and never come again any more: but when thou shalt come to her, rise up both of you, and pray to God which is merciful, who will have pity on you, and save you: fear not, for she is appointed unto thee from the beginning; and thou shalt preserve her, and she shall go with thee. Moreover I suppose that she shall bear thee children. Now when Tobias had heard these things, he loved her, and his heart was effectually joined to her.
Tobit 6:17
I pray God shows you who your soulmate is.
May I ask you this…just want your opinion. Dated this women who was a Christian like me. And one day I asked “lord is she the one” I felt God told me a clear “no”…but I need confirmation. So I asked God to give her a dream of what would happen if we got married and the misery that we would experience. Well let me tell you 24hrs after that prayer she had a dream and asked to talk to me urgently! So lol when I told her I prayed for that to happen we knew God was not down with us being together at all! After that total strangers would prophecy to me who never knew about my situation and would confirm exactly what happened lol! How can you explain this ? Would like to hear your opinion? Btw I am a man…I say for some God chooses and for others he gives them free will…just speaking from my experience and many others who experienced supernatural intervention. If God kept you from a bad relationship or person can be not give you a spouse as well ?