Don’t get so caught up in marriage either. It’s better to be single than in a bad marriage or relationship that destroys your peace and pushes you off your walk with Christ
recently ended a relationship with a non-believer because I felt God calling me to no longer be unequally yolked. please pray for me to heal and trust Him with my kingdom spouse 💛
I did this a month+ a go....its not easy but God is pleased with you. Praying that you would draw close to God in this season and he would strengthen your faith walk ❤
I did this too. Found out about the unequally yoked problem, prayed about it, and God removed that relationship within 24 hours. I have been single ever since. I find it’s better to be in no relationship than to be in the wrong relationship.
Thank you, I needed to hear this. I haven’t found any single Godly women yet, but keep trusting that if it’s his will, He will arrange our paths to cross.
I'm a widow.i lost my husband in 2020.its been along time since I've dated and my husband and I kept God in the center of our marriage.i met a man at church and we went out several times and he explained what he was looking for.he wanted to sleep with me,be "casual monogamous "🙄.needless to say I RAN FAAAAST
It's sooo disheartening. I went through this exact issue in my last relationship. It does feel like there are no (or hardly any) Christian men who are willing to wait until marriage anymore.
I see so many ‘’Christian’s” that talk about their faith and say how God is important to them but when it comes to sex and marraige that’s when it becomes all grey and God hates lukewarm, it’s sad how alot Christian’s don’t truly follow Jesus anymore, your friend did a good job leaving that guy because he ain’t worth it, God has much better for her ❤️
This is so good and true! So easy to be lenient when we desire marriage, but our desire to glorify God should be stronger than anything. I'm in the waiting season now, and even though it is not easy, I trust in the Lord's timing and will instead of my own. Thank you Kaci. Love love love your videos btw. So encouraging. Merci!
Never heard about waiting. Mom was 14-15 yos & so was i. Took years & becoming a Christian to realize there was another way, the best way, God's way. I've 4 kids (one w/ Jesus by abortion) by 3 dads & 2 failed marriages. Best counsel I'd give younger ladies is the Word: don't be seeking after a spouse, but after your Heavenly Spouse, Jesus. Until one's hearing easily & regularly from the Lord, really, we're not ready for marriage. Even in deciding to marry 1st & 2nd times, I'd already given my life to Christ, but didn't know anything about being Holy Spirit filled & being able to discern His voice & follow His leading which takes a lot of renewing of the mind!
I lost count of the number of times I shouted amen. Since giving my life to Jesus I've noticed how many Christian men are like this. But I stay strong in my choice to wait till marriage even though I am a single mother. My past experience not define me but I stand firm in my future. I feel like the topic of sex won't even come up at all with the right man because he has no interest. No compromising whatsoever.
Kaci, I love and appreciate you doing these videos even though you’re married 💍🥰 They’re so helpful & encouraging to me in my season of singleness 🙏🏼 Thank you sister! 💕 I’m actually attending my church’s Single group for the first time this Sunday! I’m so excited to see what the Lord has in store for me & to just be surrounded by other Christ followers who are also walking in their single season, staying pure, & focusing on their relationship with the Lord. I believe there is so much time and opportunity for spiritual growth/maturity during this season! It’s important not to waste it. The Lord is faithful, let us keep our eyes fixed on Jesus & seek first the kingdom of God 🙌🏼❤️ AMEN!
Habitual sexual sin is a non-negotiable for me. Refusal to go to therapy or engage in couples counseling is a non-negotiable. Not having strong one another relationships or actively pursuing one another relationships is a non-negotiable for me.
Courtney , just to give you some encouragement I to am waiting for marriage not all "Christian" males are like that guy . God bless and don't loose hope 🙏🏻
@@courtneymccallion3770 please do not lose hope. I'm 26 and a Christian. God has kept me pure, even though I get constant interest from unbelieving women. I'd rather stay single my entire life for God than settle for someone and upset Him. One of God's wisest men, Solomon, made that mistake, and his life was ruined. I won't even kiss my wife before marriage, or be with her alone for extended periods of time. Never put confidence in the flesh, especially when God asks us to flee, rather than fight.
Thank you. I needed to hear this today. I am still guilty of not going back to church and not really being used to being around others (especially Christians).
This is video was so good Kaci! A non-negotiable for me is someone that seeks to give God glory in everything he does. Out of that mere desire to live a life that honours God I think it will show in his heart and decision making.
It stood out to me when she said there’s good Christian men out there. Because it makes me think of the fact that there’s just not a big young adults present in the church.
SO GOOD! It’s also so wild to me how many church boys justify pushing physical things before marriage. Many of us, (myself included) are guilty of picking out certain rules of God’s word that don’t quite line up with our agendas and twist it around. We may think (in the case of a relationship) that if it’s someone we can SEE ourselves lasting with, then we can cross the line with them and not have to hold off until marriage, but yet it’s wrong. It can be hard to believe that there are still single Godly men out there too, even if there are! Some of my non-negotiables are first & foremost men who don’t live a Christian lifestyle, men who like to take full control (because in my opinion, a relationship should consist of equal effort & leadership amomgst man and woman), those who are dishonest or consistently distant, and those who don’t have goals or ambitions in life.
Wow, this video came at the perfect time. I've been thinking about this topic these past few weeks. Thank you!!! I just get discouraged sometimes because I feel like it's quite hard to find someone who really has a strong relationship with God and doesn't just go to church every Sunday and that's it.
Love this! Thank you, Kaci! I looove your content, watching (and then re-watching) your videos almost every day 😍 My non-negotiables (apart from what you have already spoken of) are faithfulness - being faithful to me and also to his duties - and very important one is being a guy who stays, who doesn’t leave (his family/duties etc.) even when it’s difficult and uncomfortable.
Fantastic. What I really appreciate about you Kaci is that you deal with the hard stuff in life. You don't coax over it with vague "Christian" quotes and pretend like life is easy. You bring up those hard things and really delve deep into what the Lord through the Bible has to say about them. LOVE IT! ;)
Ok where have you been my whole life! Thank you for the videos that you make. I recently found you and I love watching your videos. I take so much away for each one 🥲🥰
Love you Kaci! Thankyou so much for this much needed message. You are SO RIGHT, This is not an area where people can afford to compromise at all! It will truly only lead to deep pain and destruction. Waiting on God's timing is not always easy but it is well worth it, and when you choose to deny your flesh daily you will see the blessings from that overflowing in your life. God is faithful💖
I liked this video. This is good and has sound doctrine. One thing to add on your reference to love spouse on the foundation of their love to God, which I think will summarize what you have said. In Ephesians, Husbands, 👉love your wives, as Christ 👉loved the church and gave himself up for her, (Ephesians 5:25) The word love used is ἀγαπάω (👉agapao) which if I am correct means the act of the will for the good of the other (despite how good or bad they are). And it's used for Jesus's love for his bride (Church/Elect/Believers) and this serves as the blueprint for earthly relationship between husband and wife. **Emoji not present in the Bible just to be clear
This is such a good video! I love your friends response! Great idea for sharing, and big up to your friend 👏 will be praying for her to meet the right partner 🙏
I run into so many videos like this and I get side swiped because it then reminds me these messages/videos are for women.. 😂 it saddens me to a degree because it’s like, yet again, men have to figure out themselves and then lead. Even though these messages can be put in a way to target both genders..
*True story:* I knew this couple. She was a kind Christian follower of God. And he was indeed the same. As it appeared. She absolutely refused intimacy before marriage. Long and short of it. Things ended very abruptly, & disturbing. After their honeymoon her husband left a note one morning. Actually, he left divorce papers. And a note, explaining how since he felt she wasn't..."experienced" enough on a high intimate level, he no longer wishes to be with her. Indeed. Revolting. Upsetting. WOW. So, tread lightly when someone assumes to be Christian like. Only to get you in a corner😳😣😠
I trust that if you have the desire God seeks to answer that...maybe check out some local Christian singles ministries, Christian singles FB groups etc
I was single at 27 as well, and have faced both rejection and heartbreak too. But that isn’t where my story ended and I don’t believe it’s where your story will end either. Remember you never know someone’s whole story 💛
wait this is similar with my experience. I had a few dates with this guy and we talk a lot through text but he said to me what are your thoughts on friends with benefits? I mean I told him I wasn't ready and certainly don't want that. that dwindled our conversations. Months later I moved to Utah due to toxic behaviors from my sister, he texts me again but he deeply regrets what he said and apologized for all of that. Do I give him a second chance or run? Idk what to do? I need to seek God from this cause I am ever so confused
Hi Kaci! I sent an email to you cause the e book said downloaded too many times. I haven’t saved it yet though. Sorry but I didn’t receive a reply :( hope you can help me. The email was Aug 15, 2023 thanks!
I'm a guy who is a virgin and waiting until marriage. I have accepted Christ as my savior. I do try to be a Christian and I fail because I'm not perfect of course. I pray that if God wants me to be married that I be married to a good Christian woman that wants to wait until marriage too even if she is not a virgin and if she is not a virgin that is fine with me as long as she wants to wait to be married.
Don't marry a non virgin please. It doesn't matter if it's 1 or a thousand. Women's ability to pair bond will be destroyed by the time she gets to you and will wreak havoc on your life.
If you’re open to sharing: comment below some of your non-negotiables-I’d love to hear! 💛
The same with the woman you just shared the story of.
Don’t get so caught up in marriage either. It’s better to be single than in a bad marriage or relationship that destroys your peace and pushes you off your walk with Christ
recently ended a relationship with a non-believer because I felt God calling me to no longer be unequally yolked. please pray for me to heal and trust Him with my kingdom spouse 💛
I did this a month+ a go....its not easy but God is pleased with you. Praying that you would draw close to God in this season and he would strengthen your faith walk ❤
Did this too and I know it’s hard! God is with you and pleased with you!
I did this too. Found out about the unequally yoked problem, prayed about it, and God removed that relationship within 24 hours. I have been single ever since. I find it’s better to be in no relationship than to be in the wrong relationship.
Thank you, I needed to hear this. I haven’t found any single Godly women yet, but keep trusting that if it’s his will, He will arrange our paths to cross.
I'm a widow.i lost my husband in 2020.its been along time since I've dated and my husband and I kept God in the center of our marriage.i met a man at church and we went out several times and he explained what he was looking for.he wanted to sleep with me,be "casual monogamous "🙄.needless to say I RAN FAAAAST
Praying for healing! That man needs to repent and check his heart if he's gonna be in church for doing that. Prayers for him as well!
@@stephforchrist4867 amen! Many will say"Lord,Lord "
It's sooo disheartening. I went through this exact issue in my last relationship. It does feel like there are no (or hardly any) Christian men who are willing to wait until marriage anymore.
I see so many ‘’Christian’s” that talk about their faith and say how God is important to them but when it comes to sex and marraige that’s when it becomes all grey and God hates lukewarm, it’s sad how alot Christian’s don’t truly follow Jesus anymore, your friend did a good job leaving that guy because he ain’t worth it, God has much better for her ❤️
This is so good and true! So easy to be lenient when we desire marriage, but our desire to glorify God should be stronger than anything. I'm in the waiting season now, and even though it is not easy, I trust in the Lord's timing and will instead of my own. Thank you Kaci. Love love love your videos btw. So encouraging. Merci!
Oooh yes you worded that so well! Amen! Thanks for your encouragement too-I’m so happy to know you enjoy the videos ☺️💛
I love your videos on singleness. I am still single and I’m trusting in God that he has the best for me :)
He truly does! I’m glad you like the singleness videos-will definitely still try to make them from time to time 😊
@@kacinicole how do I know if God has what’s best for me
Never heard about waiting. Mom was 14-15 yos & so was i. Took years & becoming a Christian to realize there was another way, the best way, God's way. I've 4 kids (one w/ Jesus by abortion) by 3 dads & 2 failed marriages. Best counsel I'd give younger ladies is the Word: don't be seeking after a spouse, but after your Heavenly Spouse, Jesus. Until one's hearing easily & regularly from the Lord, really, we're not ready for marriage. Even in deciding to marry 1st & 2nd times, I'd already given my life to Christ, but didn't know anything about being Holy Spirit filled & being able to discern His voice & follow His leading which takes a lot of renewing of the mind!
I lost count of the number of times I shouted amen. Since giving my life to Jesus I've noticed how many Christian men are like this. But I stay strong in my choice to wait till marriage even though I am a single mother. My past experience not define me but I stand firm in my future. I feel like the topic of sex won't even come up at all with the right man because he has no interest. No compromising whatsoever.
I made a playlist about Jesus
I hope you would listen to it 🤍
th-cam.com/play/PLinLM3tHjYbwYryU9jDQa_FFe3T7ZAZv7.html
I can tell you were so passionate about this!!!
Thank you for sharing; me and my girlfriend literally wrote down our boundaries and prayed over them!
Kaci, I love and appreciate you doing these videos even though you’re married 💍🥰 They’re so helpful & encouraging to me in my season of singleness 🙏🏼 Thank you sister! 💕 I’m actually attending my church’s Single group for the first time this Sunday! I’m so excited to see what the Lord has in store for me & to just be surrounded by other Christ followers who are also walking in their single season, staying pure, & focusing on their relationship with the Lord. I believe there is so much time and opportunity for spiritual growth/maturity during this season! It’s important not to waste it. The Lord is faithful, let us keep our eyes fixed on Jesus & seek first the kingdom of God 🙌🏼❤️ AMEN!
Habitual sexual sin is a non-negotiable for me.
Refusal to go to therapy or engage in couples counseling is a non-negotiable.
Not having strong one another relationships or actively pursuing one another relationships is a non-negotiable for me.
Love you 💕 Glad you could use my recent dating experience to share with it others to NEVER SETTLE.
Thanks so much for letting me share it court. Love you so much!!! 💛
Courtney , just to give you some encouragement I to am waiting for marriage not all "Christian" males are like that guy . God bless and don't loose hope 🙏🏻
@@mackenziemiranda1779 Thanks Mackenzie! Yes there are good ones out there and praying for you as well that God brings you that man 🙏🏻
@@courtneymccallion3770 please do not lose hope. I'm 26 and a Christian. God has kept me pure, even though I get constant interest from unbelieving women. I'd rather stay single my entire life for God than settle for someone and upset Him. One of God's wisest men, Solomon, made that mistake, and his life was ruined. I won't even kiss my wife before marriage, or be with her alone for extended periods of time. Never put confidence in the flesh, especially when God asks us to flee, rather than fight.
Thank you. I needed to hear this today. I am still guilty of not going back to church and not really being used to being around others (especially Christians).
I’m so glad this was encouraging to you! There is so much life to be found in being deeply rooted in Christian community 😊
This is video was so good Kaci! A non-negotiable for me is someone that seeks to give God glory in everything he does. Out of that mere desire to live a life that honours God I think it will show in his heart and decision making.
The timing of these videos is a Godsend. Thank you so much! I feel Jesus transforming my heart ❤️
It stood out to me when she said there’s good Christian men out there. Because it makes me think of the fact that there’s just not a big young adults present in the church.
Preach it Kaci!! 🙏 I’m waiting on my Godly man ☺️☺️
SO GOOD!
It’s also so wild to me how many church boys justify pushing physical things before marriage. Many of us, (myself included) are guilty of picking out certain rules of God’s word that don’t quite line up with our agendas and twist it around. We may think (in the case of a relationship) that if it’s someone we can SEE ourselves lasting with, then we can cross the line with them and not have to hold off until marriage, but yet it’s wrong. It can be hard to believe that there are still single Godly men out there too, even if there are!
Some of my non-negotiables are first & foremost men who don’t live a Christian lifestyle, men who like to take full control (because in my opinion, a relationship should consist of equal effort & leadership amomgst man and woman), those who are dishonest or consistently distant, and those who don’t have goals or ambitions in life.
Thank you for the timely encouragement Kaci 🖤
I’m so glad it was encouraging to you Katie 💛
Wow, this video came at the perfect time. I've been thinking about this topic these past few weeks. Thank you!!! I just get discouraged sometimes because I feel like it's quite hard to find someone who really has a strong relationship with God and doesn't just go to church every Sunday and that's it.
I made a playlist about Jesus
I hope you would listen to it 🤍
th-cam.com/play/PLinLM3tHjYbwYryU9jDQa_FFe3T7ZAZv7.html
Love this! Thank you, Kaci! I looove your content, watching (and then re-watching) your videos almost every day 😍 My non-negotiables (apart from what you have already spoken of) are faithfulness - being faithful to me and also to his duties - and very important one is being a guy who stays, who doesn’t leave (his family/duties etc.) even when it’s difficult and uncomfortable.
Fantastic. What I really appreciate about you Kaci is that you deal with the hard stuff in life. You don't coax over it with vague "Christian" quotes and pretend like life is easy. You bring up those hard things and really delve deep into what the Lord through the Bible has to say about them. LOVE IT! ;)
This is a good, solid, and encouraging video. One of my non-negotiables is that the guy must be actively pursuing Christ.
Truuuthhhhh. Thanks for sharing Kaci. God bless you
Yes! 🙌🏼 God bless you as well 💛
This gave me holy spiritual tingles. So encouraging, wonderful video❤
Ok where have you been my whole life! Thank you for the videos that you make. I recently found you and I love watching your videos. I take so much away for each one 🥲🥰
I made a playlist about Jesus
I hope you would listen to it 🤍
th-cam.com/play/PLinLM3tHjYbwYryU9jDQa_FFe3T7ZAZv7.html
Love you Kaci! Thankyou so much for this much needed message. You are SO RIGHT, This is not an area where people can afford to compromise at all! It will truly only lead to deep pain and destruction. Waiting on God's timing is not always easy but it is well worth it, and when you choose to deny your flesh daily you will see the blessings from that overflowing in your life. God is faithful💖
I liked this video. This is good and has sound doctrine.
One thing to add on your reference to love spouse on the foundation of their love to God, which I think will summarize what you have said.
In Ephesians,
Husbands, 👉love your wives, as Christ 👉loved the church and gave himself up for her, (Ephesians 5:25)
The word love used is ἀγαπάω (👉agapao) which if I am correct means the act of the will for the good of the other (despite how good or bad they are). And it's used for Jesus's love for his bride (Church/Elect/Believers) and this serves as the blueprint for earthly relationship between husband and wife.
**Emoji not present in the Bible just to be clear
Your unconditional love for Jesus is so inspiring 💛
I made a playlist about Jesus
I hope you would listen to it 🤍
th-cam.com/play/PLinLM3tHjYbwYryU9jDQa_FFe3T7ZAZv7.html
This is such a good video! I love your friends response! Great idea for sharing, and big up to your friend 👏 will be praying for her to meet the right partner 🙏
SO GOOD, Kaci! This message needs to be shared over and over and over again.
Thank you for this video Kaci :) Such encouragement x
Aw thanks Charlotte! I’m so happy it was encouraging to you 😊
THIS IS SO NEEDED FOR SO MANY PEOPLE THANK YOU!!! BE BLESSED!!!
Would’ve been nice if I saw this when it came out. May have saved me some heart ache
I run into so many videos like this and I get side swiped because it then reminds me these messages/videos are for women.. 😂 it saddens me to a degree because it’s like, yet again, men have to figure out themselves and then lead. Even though these messages can be put in a way to target both genders..
Timely video, thank you for letting God use you
I made a playlist about Jesus
I hope you would listen to it 🤍
th-cam.com/play/PLinLM3tHjYbwYryU9jDQa_FFe3T7ZAZv7.html
Such an amazing video...thank you Nicole ❤ ♥ 💖....the man God has for me will be worth the wait 🤗😊
I made a playlist about Jesus
I hope you would listen to it 🤍
th-cam.com/play/PLinLM3tHjYbwYryU9jDQa_FFe3T7ZAZv7.html
So true!!
🙌🏼😊
hello Kaci, can you talk about true modesty???
*True story:*
I knew this couple.
She was a kind Christian follower of God. And he was indeed the same. As it appeared. She absolutely refused intimacy before marriage. Long and short of it.
Things ended very abruptly, & disturbing.
After their honeymoon her husband left a note one morning. Actually, he left divorce papers. And a note, explaining how since he felt she wasn't..."experienced" enough on a high intimate level, he no longer wishes to be with her.
Indeed. Revolting. Upsetting. WOW. So, tread lightly when someone assumes to be Christian like. Only to get you in a corner😳😣😠
Wow! Just wow! 😨
Thank you Kaci!❤️
So good!
Proverbs 12:2
A good man obtaineth favour of the LORD: but a man of wicked devices will he condemn.
Hi, off topic - what notebook do you use to make notes? I’d like to get the one you’re using in your Philippians 2 bible study video :)
So..what if I am in my 30s *ahem* and want to find the partner for me..but am scared there will be no one for me?
I trust that if you have the desire God seeks to answer that...maybe check out some local Christian singles ministries, Christian singles FB groups etc
She has never faces rejection or heartbreak. Every woman that married before 30 hasn’t, I’m single at 27 and can say
I was single at 27 as well, and have faced both rejection and heartbreak too. But that isn’t where my story ended and I don’t believe it’s where your story will end either. Remember you never know someone’s whole story 💛
@@kacinicole oh I thought you were like 23
@@AmberDennis001 I’m 29 - we got married a month after my 29th birthday 😊
Claw clip hairstyle 💇♂️ when?
How do you make things right if you didn't wait? Or I'm just doomed . I'm lost so lost
I’m struggling with lust as a single 27 year old
wait this is similar with my experience. I had a few dates with this guy and we talk a lot through text but he said to me what are your thoughts on friends with benefits? I mean I told him I wasn't ready and certainly don't want that. that dwindled our conversations. Months later I moved to Utah due to toxic behaviors from my sister, he texts me again but he deeply regrets what he said and apologized for all of that.
Do I give him a second chance or run? Idk what to do? I need to seek God from this cause I am ever so confused
Hi Kaci! I sent an email to you cause the e book said downloaded too many times. I haven’t saved it yet though. Sorry but I didn’t receive a reply :( hope you can help me. The email was Aug 15, 2023 thanks!
Single Christian male looking for a lady who wants to be a missionary
HalleluYah!!!!🙌😄
I'm a guy who is a virgin and waiting until marriage. I have accepted Christ as my savior. I do try to be a Christian and I fail because I'm not perfect of course. I pray that if God wants me to be married that I be married to a good Christian woman that wants to wait until marriage too even if she is not a virgin and if she is not a virgin that is fine with me as long as she wants to wait to be married.
Don't marry a non virgin please. It doesn't matter if it's 1 or a thousand. Women's ability to pair bond will be destroyed by the time she gets to you and will wreak havoc on your life.
goodness, Girl, what are you doing ?
Thank you for this encouraging message Kaci, I can truly see the wisdom of the Holy Spirit in you. 🤍
I made a playlist about Jesus
I hope you would listen to it 🤍
th-cam.com/play/PLinLM3tHjYbwYryU9jDQa_FFe3T7ZAZv7.html