People Who Are CONTROLLING
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- People Who Are CONTROLLING
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Nah. If someone doesn't like my sweet and adorable cat, they gotta go-
Yeah, I mean like you can’t just move into someone’s house then make rules IN THEIR HOUSE, you aren’t the one that’s sweet and cuddly and cute
I don't like animals, or more specifically, dogs. So, if someone had a dog, I wouldn't date them, problem solved. You can't force them to get rid of their pet, they'll get rid of you first, so might as well just do the job for them and leave.
Even if you dont put up with it jeeze male diva in this case and i fear he might be possible of worse and not just with the cat
okay,bye!
That’s me bro I can relate cause I have a fancy goldfish and her name is Fanta I really adore Fanta so like if ur tryna get rid of my fish
Haha…
OUT YA GO-
For the first story, if he was my fiance, he'd come home to all his belongings on the front porch and a note saying "*Insert animals name" told me that we needed to make a major change and we agreed the change was you getting tf out of OUR house. Good luck finding a new fiance!" and take a picture of it and sending it to him after changing the lock to my door. No one is above my cats. My cats are my top priority before any partner.
Absolutely damn right they are!
hell yeah they are
Same with me but my doggy :)
I hate to say it but they are lucky he just put the cat outside and they were able to find her. He could have taken the cat to be put down. And if she doesn’t get rid of the fiancé he still could.
@@unrimeumeumeumeumeum I CAN BE YOUR FRIEND!
I can't believe in the first story the fiance is honestly being mad and controlling over a damn cat- 💀
right..?! leave the cat alone!!!!
@@Kyutie. yeah i'm wondering what did the poor cat do?
She should definitely run far and fast away from him!
If that’s how he treats a CAT then who knows who else he’ll treat like crap.
@@hiimapotato123 definitely i'm still wondering why he needs to be controlling over a cat.
@@quietworld2267 ikr? Like it’s a cat???
All the cat is gonna do is cuddle with Zoey, eat, sleep, play and meow.
Like it’s not like that cat is a dinosaur or something
Maybe he wants to feel powerful and he knows that they love their cat so if he got rid of the cat they would be sad and he could comfort them and then say it was for the best??
Idk but he’s definitely shifty
Second story- as someone who’s had an ED. She is not in the wrong at all! Recovery is extremely hard and even missing one meal or snack can make you fall back into the pit..
How do you know if you have an Ed?
As someone whit diabetes...i totally support you guys. Eat when you need to eat, i hate when someone ask me: mmmm why are you eating that.. it has sugar in it, and I am like : shut up mf, i am dieing here.
@Niabel ☁️You don’t eat even when you’re hungry or when you look at the mirror you think you’re too big and stuff like that.
@@Niabelxx I suggest you ask a doctor. Or if you are too young, ask your parents to call a doctor. Or maybe you could just do a quick google search but I'd recommend a doctor since some info that google has could be incorrect.
@@wajeehatoladele8206 that‘s not the only ED. There are many different kinds of ED, you‘re not starving yourself with every kind of ED.
Compromises should apply to a person’s health?
Glad she dumped him. She dodged a bullet.
Now I kinda want him to go through something(not as severe as anorexia because that's terrible when it's gotten to a certain point but something that still takes repeating the same treatment) and see how he likes it when his partner gets mad at him for trying to recover just because it may be in public or with their family
For the last story: I personally believe that house chores and responsibilities should be shared between both the partners in the relationship but the husband is here acting as if he's a irresponsible teenager, so I Don't think she's wrong to treat him like a kid as well
I would be like: it’s only your house as long as you’re paying for it, which you aren’t.
For the last story, I would tell the husband that as long as I'm the one making money and paying the bills he would have as much authority as the children did.
Agree. It's honestly unfair towards her. She's literally paying for everything meanwhile he's doing absolutely nothing.
Fun fact, I grew up with cats because of my mom and my dad would say he hated cats due to my step mom being allergic. Because I grew up with them, I loved them. My step mom actually suggested to get me a cat and my dad constantly jokes about hating cats while we have blackmail of him cuddling the cats (: we got two because of my step mom as well. and it turns out I was also allergic to my babies so fun times lmao
Maybe you could get hairless cats someday
My mom is allergic and we have 3 cats but she hasn’t reacted once
BRO THE SMILEY FACE IS BACKWARDS AAAAAAA
@@jillybean2722 the ones being allergic take allergy meds so we dont really react unless we skip/miss a day of the meds. But even then it's more of sinuses acting up instead of breaking out or anything like that
@@haleyolson8365 our furry babies are perfectly fine with us since we take meds. We're not deathly allergic or anything, just sinuses start acting up
I freaking hate and loathe people who are controlling.
Yeah the cat story is like when people say it's me or the animal. The animal wins every time.
Those people are so full of themselves. They think they can use it as the ultimate trap as in: "If you keep the cat, you'll lose me". Okay, start packing then. I can find a better guy who likes cats and treats me well.
1st story.
You’re not wrong for doing that
The cat is the equivalent to a child, and it’s basically the same as if he left your own daughter out to die. I’d leave him. Who knows what else he’ll try to do to that cat? And maybe even you and your daughter? Leave before it gets too messy
For the second one. I myself don’t have an eating disorder but I have a health issue where if I don’t eat something within a time window I get sick and can vomit. It’s a genetic thing cause my mom and her mom have it. It’s important to eat when you need to and not ignore it. Physical/mental health is important and there is no room for compromising. If he actually loved them then he would have explained to his family about why they needed to eat but in a discreet manner. Like “They have a health requirement where they need to eat within a window if time.” Or something like that. With him being upset at them, it showed he cared more about his image than the person he was dating. How despicable.
damn i have smth close to that where if i dont eat like 2-3 hours after i wake up i feel sick and want to vomit, its happened trying to go on holiday before cuz of the weird timings -_- its so annoying
I’ve never heard anyone have the same thing before. Usually it happens when I wake up since it happens when I don’t eat for a long time. I only have a few minutes to get something down before I vomit.
At first I thought the vomit feeling was just a feeling. But then I found out the hard way that I will actually vomit if I don’t eat something
She should have had tossed Eric's belongings OUTSIDE. And change the locks.
Where are these women finding these AHoles???? There ARE good guys out there.
+WJ67
Many aholes don't act like aholes at the start of a relationship though. They pretend to be the 'good guys' and they only start showing their true colours after a while or something big (like moving in together) to purposefully make it harder to leave.
Victims of abusive relationships don't 'choose the ahole' (this applies to any/all genders). They choose someone they think is good guy because they are being tricked by an ahole.
Wait, why are you blaming the women? Or am I just interpreting this wrong
@@changedmyusernameagain7654 I think it’s more of passionate encouragement to help others feel like they can be as picky as they want about their partner, but I can see how you read it like that
@@changedmyusernameagain7654 I see where you think she's/he's blaming the women, but this seems like aggressive encouragement XD. Kinda like, "You can fight back!". I think they're trying to say that these women should retaliate a little more and see how their idiot partners like it. That's how I interpreted it😭
@@zillycat8534 yeah that does makes sense
I've heard that how a person treats animals shows how they'll treat people. I think this is true because I've met some people who are nice to animals and help them, and are nice to people as well. I've met other people that are mean to animals and end up being manipulative and violent. This may not always be the case, but still, no one should abuse or neglect animals.
my mother has always had this rule: Never date anyone who hates cats.
They can be neutral or even dislike them, but they have to be willing to co-exist peacefully. If they're mean to cats, run.
It's often that controlling people hate cats because cats are a species you can't really control, unlike dogs that can be commanded or smaller pets you usually just lock up in a cage or terrarium. This is why I trust no one who hates cats.
My ex was great with animals but he was mean to his kids and me.
One of the most common "markers" or red flags for diagnosing a sociopath/psychopath is how they treated animals, especially when they were younger. The other is a home life which included no discipline, no boundaries, or no consequences for actions. They never heard "No" and they were never taught consequences for anti social behaviour. Also they always lied.
As a person with controlling parents, I resonate with all of them. I hate people who control
How are your parents controlling?
@@luvuiu1447 weird question to ask on TH-cam 🤔
I was on the path to develop an eating disorder. I would eat less and less every meal and even start to miss meals. My family didn't see anything though I would see my parents at least once to twice a week. My ex got worried and convinced me to go to a doctor and she told me to see a therapist. I was reluctant but did it anyways. After the first session he told me I was in a stage of early anorexia and if I was willing to treat it now it wouldn't become too serious. I absolutely hated my body at the time and did a lot of changes in my life thanks to my therapist. I only weighed 45kg for 1m60 and was losing weight. I realised my family was a part of the problem. My sister and father would constantly fat shame me and my brothers and mother would agree or just let it happen. I decided to see them less often and kept seeing my therapist. Anyone who would try to talk me or shame me out of my progress or treatment I would cut them of immediately. Fast forward 2 years later I am better. I eat when I want to and need to but I still fight against that little voice in my head saying I'm too fat to eat this or that. It's still hard for me whenever there are times with huge meals like Christmas and I can't help myself from feeling guilty or when all my friends want to go out to get something very fat like burgers or pizza. My therapist is still helping me a lot and today I know I'm strong enough to fight it and I'll keep fighting as long as the little voice will be there.
hey, i know this doesn't mean much coming from a stranger on the internet, but you're doing so good! keep it up and it'll all be okay one day, i believe in you
@@shinisnotonfire thank you it means more than you think
i am so so proud of you. keep your head up and do whatever the fuck makes you happy 🌸✨
that's amazing!!! i'm so proud of how you've taken initiative and worked to improve your health!! im really glad you're doing better, and i hope it stays that way
@@elbereth2738 thank you so much
Story #1-O HELL NO!!! HE moved into HER house. HE needs to be the one to adjust! Tell him to kick rocks! Love his family had her daughters back 😁
Good on the girl in the second story fir breaking up with that toxic piece of trash! 👏 👏 👏
1: Eric crossed the line the moment he laid a hand on Zoey's cat. Idk if they broke up, but they definitely should if not already. People who think just because they are with you and therefore have rights to everything you have are the worst. Sure, in relationships you split things, but there is a level of trust and privacy. He broke that, and suffered the immediate consequence. If he couldn't handle that then he should have thought twice before "loosing" the cat.
2: what the heck. Why is the BF willing to risk their health for familial approval? Why does their relationship ride on their appearance to their family members? If he can't acknowledge or even try to understand the things they're going through then they shouldn't be together. I'm glad they broke up.
3: bro. Dude was really freeloading and tried to justify it by saying "but it's my house!!" Or whatever he said. He straight up lied to their face. If he can't let the kids use the pool even for a day then he should start looking for a job ffs. THEN he put the blame on op and antagonized them in front of his friends?!? What a selfish jerk.
So I’m guessing that pool guy’s friends don’t work either if they’re able to hang out in the pool with loser hubby daily 🤷🏽♀️. Boy bye 👋🏾
Totally fine if you don't like animals but at least tolerate them. I don't know what I'd do if someone I was with couldn't at least tolerate my cat 😔💔
The only places my cat isn't allowed are the dining room table and places that aren't safe for her (ex: the window sill with the weak window...we don't allow her in it if there's nothing holding the window up, or the storage room in the winter because it gets super cold in there.) Anyplace else (IN doors) is fair game.
My cats were not allowed in the kitchen and on the kitchen counters.
@@ireh_12 my cat isnt either. Any place where human food is consumed/prepared.
@@Astra-Moon Exactly.
The only place my cat isn't allowed is like the counters and table besides that there's no problems
Same
That first woman should not waste energy worrying about being wrong. She should be using that energy packing his crap up, and putting it by the door .
First story. No the woman was not wrong. The man did what he did deliberately, no doubt hoping the cat would wander off or be killed on the road, luckily the neighbor saved the cat from harm. When confronted, this fellow tries to turn it around to make it seem like he is the victim, and the fact that his family got mad at him, tells that there is some sort of history there concerning this guy and animals. After the texts and staying at his friends place, this woman should just pack up his stuff and send him a text telling him his stuff is outside where he left the cat and he can either collect it or it will go in the trash. Make a clean break of it and count herself lucky she did not marry the jerk.
I saw my phone turn on when I get your notification and I yelled “go away” but then i saw it’s you and i apologized to my screen 😭😅
Sounds really familiar but I dont know...
Haha 😂😂😂😁
For the eating disorder one:
I had an eating disorder a while back and in order to recover it’s so important to eat as soon as you feel any hunger. Because when I had the ED I saw being hungry as a sign of “progress”. The mere feeling of hunger felt a bit like a reward because it meant I hadn’t been eating. When in recovery it’s important to change your mindset about the feeling of hunger. You have to eat when hungry in order to start seeing hunger as a sign of “I should eat” instead as a sign of “it means I’m making progress”
Good on her for breaking up with him 🙌
There wouldn't be an argument. He would be moving out before the sun set. That woman is so desperate to have a man that she let him stay. She went over to his parents' house without the rest of his things. She was wrong for letting him stay that long and emotionally hurting her daughter. These men's ** aren't made of gold. It's not about the pet; he's just controlling. He would have found something else to be controlling about. I can understand people who were taught negative behaviors by their family, but not people who have negative behaviors and come from good families. Where did they pick up those harmful behaviors?
There is no compromise when it comes to someone's health. I bet if he told his family what he said and the conversation; they would have given him a good tongue lashing. Another controlling boyfriend story.
Third story, she left work right then and there. ROFL It reminds me of a tom and jerry cartoon when Jerry called Mammie two shoes and told her Tom was having a party at her house with his friends. She ran all the way home in small heels. She was so angry she came through the door. ROFL. The dad left. Good. The trash took itself out. He so immature. I hope he enjoys being homeless.
Where does it say that the woman in the first story was so desperate to have a man that she let him stay?
Well duh!! It's context clues!!! If she wasn't desperate than why didn't she leave and why would she let a man control her?!!!
@@ArtIsDrawing +OP Dude, that's victim blaming. Anyone can be targeted by a sh***y/controlling/abusive person. This mentality of "It'd never happen to ME, because I'd never put up with it, so I'll look down on people who have been treated badly" seriously contributes to protecting and enabling abusive people, by participating in the abuse towards their victims. Because if someone stands up for themselves, guess what? They'll get people putting them down for having experienced the abuse/bad behavior in the first place. They get stuck between staying in a bad situation or leaving the situation and being ridiculed for having been in it. The stigma against victims that if someone is treated badly, they must have 'deserved it' or 'let it happen' therefore being treated badly is 'their own fault', they must be 'desperate' or 'weak' or some other attributed character flaw to belittle them with --- which is bs. No one deserves to be treated badly or abused. The abuse/bad behavior is the fault and responsibility of the person DOING that sh*t, not the person who was wronged.
I fully agree that the woman should call off that engagement, but quit with the jeering towards the woman standing up to the pos. It gives power to the pos to leverage over the people they're sh***y to.
It is also about the pet though. You don’t leave a cat out to die unless you deserve it yourself.
The first story sounds like a real life wicked stepmother from "Cinderella."
I feel bad for those people 🥺
1st Story: It was wrong of the guy to ban the cat from certain places/areas. It was very wrong of the guy to put the cat outside. I think OP was right when she said that the guy put the cat outside because he wanted it to get lost. It wasn't wrong of OP to blow up on the guy in front of his family. I hope that OP didn't marry that guy. OP should also put his stuff outside and change the locks.
2nd Story: The guy cares more about his image than he cares about OP. There was nothing wrong with the person having a snack before the meal. Eating when hungry is part of their eating disorder recovery. Breaking up was the right thing/decision. OP was right when they said that compromises don't apply to their health.
3rd Story: The guy is acting like a kid. If OP hasn't divorced her husband already, she should do so asap. OP wasn't in the wrong. Her husband was putting his & his friends' needs/wants over the needs/wants of his kids.
My cat, Eclipse, would like to send a hug to Coco. He grew up with a miniature Irish Jack Russell and has lots of dog-friends as well as cat-friends. He is getting old now but he will still break up fights. He also yells at me when my blood sugar goes too low. Pets (and children) come first when starting a new relationship. If the new in doesn't like it; they become the new ex. Simple as.
The first story?!. Ha! It wouldn't end with me shouting at that guy....It would probably escalate to a physical violence. That's how I freaking love Cats.
The 2nd story made me furious. No one should ever compromise their health just because of another person's opinion. For F*CK sake that's their OWN HEALTH they know what's good/bad for them!...Unless the person is mentally ill then that's the only way another person can take the decision away from them.
The third story should have the Wife called the police to arrest her Husband and his Friends....would have been hilarious if what she filed as her complaint. " Won't let our KIDS use MY RENOVATED POOL " or! " Him and his friends are Hogging the pool too much & he's bullying my children..."
As a cat lover the car story pissed me off. That's literally the worst story ever. I feel bad for the owner I'd tell him to f off honestly lol 😆
Coco is so cute and if anybody tries to take Coco away then get them out of your life.
I have a dog too, he just turned a year old, I will not let anyone who is like this in my life.
Lucky you, I miss my dog so much. It's been 6 months. My dog, Amy, was a Chihuahua. She was bitten by a big dog, and she didn't make it. I wanted to cry, but my dad yelled at me not to cry. I am a man, and I shouldn't cry over a pet, he'll get me a new one.
@@Nameless82284 I am sorry that you lost her, it is okay to cry, no matter what anyone else says. I lost my senior dog in 2019, it was devastating for me, but I was able to adopt my current dog after 2 years, I am happier with him. If you want to cry for her you should be able to, a dog is more than a pet, they are family. It’s difficult but she is not hurting and has crossed the rainbow bridge and will be waiting for you. I hope that you feel better soon, it will take time to heal but hopefully you can help another animal because that is what she would want.
@@kaisalidstrom I had Amy for 8 years from middle school to college. My parents found her at the grape field they worked at. She was a stray and we rescue her. Amy made had been old but she still had a full life ahead of her.
Three stories of dudes with weak and fragile egos that take priority over their “loved” ones’ health and happiness. My first husband was like that. That’s why he’s an ex.
People who are controlling, GET OUT!!!!
literally every controlling person here: "uhh you should compromise, yk . no we cannot compromise things to work both ways, it can only work my way, so YOU have to compromise to alter to my wishes. WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU CAN'T?! OMG YOU ARE CONTROLLING ME. I HAVE RIGHTS TOO. FINE I WILL LEAVE HOME AND REFUSE TO TALK OR ACKNOWLEDGE MY SHIT BEHAVIOR"
so yes, controlling people do have the thing where they victimize themselves to make other person feel guilty. if you constantly feel like you have to ALWAYS put down your need, comfort, or wishes to alter to someone else's needs....and if they make you feel bad and guilty if one thing goes your way, they are controlling you. its not always easy to recognize these situations, so i recommend you to talk to someone trusted, like a friend, family or therapist. sometimes anonymously posting your situation on social media can help too. you will get to know both perspectives and know for sure who is in the wrong, just be careful though, sometimes people online can be wrong or rude and stuff.
You just summarized all three videos in one perfect comment. Yeah, compromise is a two way street. a shame most people don't get that,, TvT
Had a man try to tell me my dog couldn't be on the couch in my own home. The couch I especially bought because it was cheep and can be washed so I can have my dog on it without worries.
That man is gone.
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Story 1 - I would have told him to get out and not come back as soon as he started issuing demands. my cat and where s/he goes in the house would be a non-negotiable rule that ANY partners, potential or otherwise, would be allowed to have absolutely ZERO say in. I hope she NEVER lets him back into her life and I'm really glad his family blew up at him. He thoroughly deserved it - and we need some Coco tax! :)
Story 2 - This whole family is trash. Because the BF didn't tell his family beforehand is shameful on him and he has no understanding. OP was doing what was best for HER body and HER health. He does not know the meaning of the word "compromise" and she's better off without a millstone like him around her neck.
Story 3 - That "man" is nothing but a man-child. I hope OP dumps his arse because he doesn't care about his kids and isn't willing to contribute to the house or finances. I believe that the 16 months of joblessness is nothing but an excuse and he just wants to revert back to childhood. What a vile specimen he is! I really feel for his wife and (actual) children.
1:20 that ain’t a red flag, that’s a red banner 0.0
A psychopath 0-0 Send him to the electric chair & toss out the body! I have two cats & two bearded dragons (one has special needs & came from abusive/neglectful owners :( ), & if my s.o. ever thinks of pulling what that guy did, not only will I call off the engagement, I'd be out for blood. I know people don't have to like animals, but something about that really rubs me the wrong way- that's just me. I'd also change the locks. If anything, reading these stories makes me thank the Lord I'm single 0-0
Never compromise your health for some else
An today a star was born....... Auntie Ellan!!!!!!! You were sassy girl. Had me laughing and just loving it. Want to see more!!
Hey, Kyutie! 😀I was just watching one of your videos! 😃I love the beanie! I love the earrings, too! And you’re right, I can’t believe someone would be so controlling over a cat.🙄I have a Yorkie named Axel. I love him so much, and if someone tried to hurt him or control him….let’s just say that person better run faster than me and pray to God that I won’t catch them.😄😂Stay awesome, Kyutie! Give Coco a big hug for me!😀
I agree! I also have a yorkie named Jake. He's small, spoiled but if someone hurts him Im gonna commit war crimes.
@@yurikokaneshiro LOL Jake sounds like a good dog.😃And it sounds like Jake would get along well with Axel. Axel is only 6 pounds, but he thinks he’s a giant Doberman.😄
@@kimtaehyungswife9272 My dog does that too! Maybe its a yorkie thing? Lmao i dont know, but Im glad to hear that you think Axel could along with Jake.
@@yurikokaneshiro Oh, I think it’s DEFINITELY a Yorkie thing. 😄Axel also has a brother named Tucker that weighs less than him because he was the runt of the litter. He’s only like 4 pounds. But he acts like a big dog, too. He’ll run up to big dogs barking at them like he’s bigger than them and I always have to run after him and catch him to make sure he doesn’t get into a fight. On an episode of Dogs 101, dog experts even said that Yorkies will take on a big dog and that they’re a big dog trapped in a little dog’s body.
I just now got my food and you posted. This is perfect; also, another great video!
We all love you so much Ellen
You make our days. Youre amazing
I love that after 5 or more years she hasnt changed 🥹🥹🥹❤️
How are you doing my friend? How are you feeling? Can you please start showing some more of the things that you do with Coco throughout the day? I just love seeing the both of you!! I am a very huge dog person, and I just love them so much. In the first story Eric was just a huge prick because he knew Zoey loved her cat with her all, and for him to just be so disrespectful is just so truly disgusting. Zoey's cat was there before he even got with her mom. In the second story the boyfriend is just a complete piece of sh*t because he knew that his girlfriend was dealing with an e.d, but yet he had the audacity to say that she embarrassed him because she ate a granola bar. He doesn't even deserve her. I love you!! Stay safe!!
Make sure you put all your accounts in your name and take his name off of everything. If doesn’t come back soon get everything in your name. If he does come back and still is acting like he owns every thing tell him to leave. Let him learn that he has been acting controlling and that is not what you want in your life. Good luck.
For some people, it's impossible to acquire a job no matter how hard they try. :( Though, the wife was in the right about the pool.
It wouldn’t be you without Coco!!
If they complain abt my cat they gotta go… like THROW THE WHOLE MAN AWAY-
Controlling people are the worst!
FR. My step-dad is allergic to cats -- but I have one, and he's still nice to me and my cat --- and respects our boundaries.
Why are so many men like this? Why are so many of them this selfish and unbearable? I’m getting so sick of it. These men have terrible parents I swear- if this is the kind of man you’re raising, take a hard look in the mirror
Kyutie..Your freaking amazing never forget that 💕
I definitely have a love hate relationship with pets like they're cute and adorable but a pain to take care of and I'm not sure if i could ever get a pet and take care of it ive found I'm more a cat person though over dogs. I love dogs but they're so hyper and require so much attention and want to play and I just don't have that energy and id feel bad getting a dog and not playing with it whereas most cats are independent and don't require much attention and idk i just like them better and find them nice to cuddle with and play with them using the lazer pointer and what not and hearing them purr when getting petted or having their belly rubbed
A good recognition! It's good to recognize things like that about yourself so you can make proper accommodations. When in doubt, talk it out!
@@Justyouraveragechaosenjoyer taken the last 2 year's to actually think about it honestly and figure out how I actually feel about pets
We love you Ellen!
You are like a little ray of sunshine ☀️
I've heard somewhere that people who are controlling hate cats, because cats cannot be controlled 🤷🐈
Smooshy cutie puppy dog! The little face with chubby cheeks I wanna hug her 🥰
The fact that i am 13 this year and have more respect than these people is weird.
Speaking of pets, how is Coco? I wanna see her in your next video 😭💖
I HATE controlling people
first story: I understand not being the all time fan of cats, but if someone truly hates cats I instantly mistrust them. What people often mistake (in cats) for meanness and distain are really just cats wanting to have personal space and time to themselves. If you can't respect AN ANIMAL'S needs then you obviously can't respect mine.
PS I didn't mean for this to sound so passive aggressive, this is just my honest opinion.
The guy who didn't like the OPs cat. Not only did he try to institute rules on these women in their own home, and make unreasonable demands on where the cat was allowed, then put it outside to hopefully get lost, THEN worst of all, when OP called him out in front of his family (which was necessary, because they will hold him accountable and not let him bully OP) HE CALLED HER A LIAR!! What an incredible low life. Show him the door, OP. This guy is bad news, manipulative and will make your life miserable if you marry him. That's what narcissists do.
100% true but I’m just curious if he knows that a cat is. Like you can’t train a cat to not go on furniture and things like you can dogs…
The first story about the cat, when the husband tells his wife to go home and they would discuss it then was like "putting her in her place". yeah time to move on from that marriage.
I’m not even a cat person but the guy in the first story is just being a jackass. He’s not even willing to compromise? Why even say yes to marriage then? Sorry, my pets are my family and family over boyfriend/fiancé any day 😘
i wouldve called off the engagement. I mean, the fact he left the cat outside on purpose just is horrible. And, even his PARENTS were screaming at him and he still yells at his fiance! The audacity. He wouldve been kicked out
My family makes sure that we have snacks when we have family dinners for the guest to eat.
Kyutie i used to watch you when i was in middle school! I'm so glad you're still on here making videos!!! I do miss the lyric prank videos though, they were what pretty got me hooked to you.
Third edit to talk about the video:
THESE GUYS BELONG IN THE TRASH
Some people are plain jerks.
I’m late on this because I had to go to sleep. Fiancé in the first one is a red flag factory. Oh he should absolutely not marry him. It’s time for her to kick him out of her life, break off the engagement, and change the locks.
One thing I share with Kyutie, my pet’s name is Coco too. She is a cat tho😂
Every time Kyutie says Coco’s name, my Coco turns to the screen 😆💕
Hii ellen loved the video please stay healthy and happy and I wish great health for coco too stay being amazing love you 💜💜💜
Ok, I have an “Am I Wrong?” Story:
I had a boy in my class who recently moved out of state and is struggling to make friends. He had my number and we had talked for a little and became somewhat close before he moved, so we continued to talk after he moved. When my friend found out, she freaked out and claimed that he was a bad person. He had apparently called some of my friends names and got mad at one of them because she started dating his best friend. His best friend had stopped talking to him after he started dating my friend, and he was upset about it because he was his only friend. Not many people liked him because he has ADHD and got fidgety in class and people found it annoying. Anyway, after he moved, I stayed his friend and he would sometimes tell me about his family problems. I didn’t want him to feel forgotten after he left but my friends could not let it go. This disliked him for the things he said about them after they had “stolen” his best friend. Am I in the wrong for staying his friend?
in relation to the first story:
When I was 8, my dad was looking for a relationship. (him and my mom had divorced 4 years before.) When he introduced me to his girlfriend, 12 years younger than him, she was very nice to me. But, when she lived with us full time, she started complaining about my dads cat and my cat. She was allergic to them, so before that point we understood and kept them inside a bathroom. All day, all night. I was already upset about that because I loved to cuddle with my kitties. Then she explained to my dad how it was uncomfortable and she didn’t like them. We of course weren’t going to get rid of them, but my she said we should put them outside. Ok, they have never ever been outside, they are indoor kitties., as an 8 year old i didn’t understand and i got very upset. I knew my cats my whole life before her and they got me through a lot. I was an only child, they were my support in scary times.
They were outside for about a year until my dads cat passed away. It made me very mad, at that time I had barely turned 10. I blamed it on the fact she had to change environments and we couldn’t bathe them or groom properly. My dad said “atleast she got her last bit of life in nature.”
I still think about it. It still hurts me and I feel guilty for my cats. But should I have been more understandable towards my dads girlfriend (at the time, now wife.)? She said I was a brat, I wonder if it was true.
Talking and compromising are really important in any relationship. I can't make a good judgment since idk her overall tones throughout the ordeal. However, if you've had a cat that has lived inside its entire life, I personally think it should stay inside. But that's just coming from personal experience ^^;;
Oh no honey, your dad’s little b*tch girlfriend left his cat out to die essentially. You had every right to be upset. If I was in your shoes I would’ve taken the kitty back inside and caused a riot until the gf left or something.
I can somewhat relate to the first story. The only difference is my mom’s boyfriend made us get rid of our three cats (who were all very sweet and quiet as well) now we have two dogs that constantly destroy my stuff.
What do you mean “get rid of”? Your mom should get rid of that sick menace.
8:52 for this one if i was the wife i would have told him to get his shit together or leave because she's already working her ass off and also raising two kids. She doesn't need to raise another one. Also i have trouble believing he couldn't find a job for 16 months, like even if it wasn't a "proper" job even a part time one could've helped a bit. So rather than not being able to find a job i think it would be more believable to say he just stopped looking.
if I was the wife with the pool... OOF. I'd have that pool removed completely, even if I had to pour out all my life savings for the cement and the builder who removes the pool, and replace it with a nice piece of lawn, and then I'd be going with my kids to the public swimming pool every damn day.
He can't have the swimming pool if he's not letting the kids use it!
She couldn’t do that though as she’s the sole breadwinner in the household. Who’s pay the bills if she’s at the public pool everyday?
For the second one-I’m autistic and have trouble listening to my body. Basically when I am hungry I need to eat because I don’t know when I’ll realize I’m hungry again. Also when I’m hungry I get anxious. Hanxious!
No. The first story is not wrong. Anyone that takes a sweet cat and tries to abandon it hoping it gets lost, deserves what happens to them.
These people is so horrible
Okay, first story, this woman hould be glad he's not texting or contacting her, she should cut her losses and pack her bags; if she thought he was being controlling about the cat, just think what he'd be like after they got married! If your partner is being controlling, get them out of your life and skip town, surround yourself with people who care about you because I doubt he'd just give up after one try.
Two reasons why he should never have moved it with her.
!/ The cats and
2/ her daughter.
Never never never, allow a cat or single mum into your life. Neither is a good situation.
As someone who recovering from anorexia that second story made me soooo angry. I started recovering about a year ago but during lessons and school in general, when I couldn't eat, it sent me like 50 steps back. Even just 10 minutes is bad for you a whole fucking hour is just insane. Also how the fuck is eating a snack before dinner impolite?????
And why didn't the family have a cheese n' crackers platter before dinner? That could have helped (unless the BF told them not to-just to be cruel to OP)
Relatable to the pet cat. That is so red flag. Except that it was an immediate family member; since he pays for the rent. He demands we "get rid" of them because of the smell. One day, he'd be nice to them and the next day he'd be raging at us telling us to get rid of them and he even made a threat whether it's him or the cats. I can't wait to get out of the house and take all of them with me.
These videos have been VERY useful to watch while I’ve been sick for the last 5 days 💗☁️🫧✨
My mom's third husband gave her an ultimatum. Either her kids or her cats had to go. So glad he left instead.
I love your videos so much!!
Cute hat 🤩🤩🤩 where’d you buy it?
Yep don’t hit you on the way out lol
about the cat. my uncle moved from the uk to south africa to visit us for 4weeks(i live with my gran, so thats her son. she is widowed and i never knew my dad and was abandoned by my mother once she could no longer abuse and sexually exploit me. being said i was only in my early teens when this happened) my uncle stayed for 2years. I hated drinking the last bit ok coke in bottles because gasless coke is yucky and also i hardly drank coke anyway because i saw him drink coke and milk out the bottle and carton making me uncomfortable and disgusted. basically he tried to force me out the house when i was 15. he kept new bottles of coke in his bedroom and locked the door. he went into my room when i was at school and snooped through my stuff. i had a new kitten my gran got me as a therapy pet and i kept it in my room which is big tbh, but i mostly kept him in my room because he could have gotten lost and my gran has allergies to him. one day i got home and my bedroom door was open. the slidingdoor outside was wide open, all the windows were open... because he wanted my indoor cat to go out. uhuh. i got into a fight with him where we both got into a chokehold and my gran didnt even tell him not to hurt me, i remember so clearly how she told me to get my hands off him and stop choking her son. he apologised almost 10years later and my gran said i must just accept it. fuck her and fuck him. ill pretend to for the sake of peace but i have to live with the memories and the trauma and i refuse to give them forgiveness everytime the memory hurts me. btw my cat was hiding under my bed and only came out when i got home. he is allowed outside now ofc because he is an adult and he knows where he lives and he has had all his shots but...yeah and since then my cat is no longer cool with being handled by anyone but me. my uncle left after 2years and much mental and emotional trauma later. every time i bring that 2years up i am shamed and accused of being shallow because i cant forgive something that doesn't deserve forgiveness. bear in mind my uncle also looks exactly like his father who abused me when i was a young child. i lived in terror those 2years to the point where i brought containers into my room in case i need to pee or poop because if he was home i was scared to leave my room. i also knew my gran wouldnt protect me from him and whats worse is that all my teenage friends at the time were completely fake and while i knew their moms would have helped me or listened to me, i was too ashamed back then to say anything and once i even showed up at my abusive mothers place where she lived with 6alcoholic druggies and slept there a few nights just hoping id be raped and killed because it would be better than living anymore in the "safe envirement" i supposedly had with my gran. it took me years to finally be able to tell my gran my trauma. she is 73 now and im 27. tried to kill myself so many times, hoped to die so many times and still do. she also broke my heart back then but now she is all i have and the only person in the world who knows me. imagining life without her kills me especially since she wouldnt let me die back then. what right did she have? i have to live with this. and then she'll book a ticket to the afterlife and whatabout me?? oh, THEN its okay for me to die right? i hate the world. i want to see the world burn.
Jesus Christ. I am so sorry girl… it’s as though bad things always happen to good people. Huge props to you for sticking though that living nightmare of a childhood. And I’m glad kitty was okay. Hope you’re doing better now xx
They're no longer allowed near me or my cat if they hate my cat
if I had a bf, and he starts complaining about my cats, I'd break up with him, because he can find a woman who doesn't have cats. My cats are what comforts me after work, and I will not let some idiot who is too dumb to get a catless gf take that away from me!
Honestly, I don't like to have pets in beds, couches or chairs. I have a bit of an issue with cleanliness and seeing hairs in those places really bothers me. Besides, enough exposure to animal's fur would make my throat feel itchy, so in my home my mom always had the rule that pets weren't allowed in bedroom. I like that rule and would be really upset if I found one of my pets in my bed. No offense, but they have their own comfy beds. Animal hairs just really bother me, but I'd allow them to go everywhere in the house except the bedrooms (excluding my siblings' ones, they have their own rules for their bedrooms and I don't control that). I care about my pets and would be really worried if anything happened to them. I want them to be happy and safe, but with some rules. So yeah... I'm not sure what would happen if I married a guy who was used to sleeping with his pets... I don't think I'd be able to accept that ever if we had to share a bed. I can't sleep with pets. Maybe breaking up would be easier since I wouldn't want to disturb his home life in his own house. His pets would come first too, and I wouldn't want it any other way.
As long as you're not crazy and hurt his pets? Idky you don't love your pets enough to be comfortable with them
yea like its understandable saying 'look i think ur pet is great but im just not comfortable with them somewhere we share e.g. sofa/bed etc', but this guy in the video wasnt even polite about it he just made a list
@@tacobell1299 I don't think it's about love. I have a cleanliness issue and I really can't touch some stuff without feeling the need to wash my hands. Pet fur is one of those things, and I think it's fair since when I wash my hands after petting my dog the liquid soap falling from my hands is brown, so my dog is dirty from the outside. And I can choose not wash my hands immediately after touching certain things. Sometimes a lot of time passes by and I even forget touching something dirty. I really can't remember, and yet I still feel like my hands are dirty and I need to wash them, even if they don't look dirty when I look at them. Besides, if I don't wash my hands after touching a pet my throat will feel itchy and I have throat allergies all year long. I love my pets. Trust me, I've had nightmares about them dying and it's the worst thing ever. I'm just not very cuddly in general and have all these issues...
That's a big difference. You aren't doing it just to do it, but because of legitimate reasons. Try to talk it over as calm as possible. If you can come to an understanding or compromise, great! If not, then hopefully you lot can move on peacefully. Talking is your friend!
If anyone is rude to any of my pets, I break up with them immediately. Big red flag tbh.
My husband was out of work for 5 years with exceptions to working a few months from December 2016 to mid January 2017 and in 2017 and 2018 he worked November to mid January. Oh and 3 days in February of 2019. He was out of work all of 2020 and 2021 as well. He got a job this year in February only because his dad was getting pissed off because he was having me or our early 20 something youngest daughter pay his bills and he and I separated in January of 2020. I paid them because he kept bagging or 2 daughters for money and driving my oldest daughter nuts and ticking her off. Also he was causing ou youngest massive anxiety issues and causing an eating disorder for an already picky eater. I did it to save my girls any more mental health issues and my babies physical health issues
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RED FLAG?? THATS A SIREN 🏃🏾
These people are awfull! Reminds me of a guy my mom used to date for 5years that once told her that he should be above me (like he should be more immportant to her then me).
If call of the wedding and end it with the first guy, a man who can’t accept nor appreciate animals is baaaddd. Especially if he can’t just respect that you’ve had your cat before he even moved in. Protect your home and protect your daughter, and PROTECT YOUR CAT