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I used to get that. I didn't mind because I had zero self esteem..but now I try to pick people politely up if they are rude to me. I always think something worse will happen but recently I walk away feeling happier with myself that there is no residual harm on both sides . Thank you Marie X
you look like you help people and i really need help. my friend thinks i am bullying her and was ignoring me . its now got to the teachers saying we are not allowed to talk to each other but the teachers do belive i am not trying to bully her.
I really think it depends on the tone of voice, there are certain things when people say them might be elementary, but its the way they say it and come off. Where someone else might have the tone of voice and come off as "everyone is stupid and I am here to teach the world!" Example, your videos, some deal with basic concepts, yet cast a fresh new look at things, but I never feel talked down to.
Hey Marie, So I got in an argument with one of my best friends, I said one thing and she took it the wrong way, I decided not to get in her way and let it die down because I know what she is like, however, it's been about a month now and we are still not speaking and I really want to be her friend again but she is very stubborn and I am too afraid and I don't know what to say. Staying away from her didn't help so I don't know what will. She is still angry with me because she sent me a text with an annoyed face earlier today. what should I do? Thanks
Or what about those people that think they have to explain something to you in sooo much detail because they think you don't know anything about this topic? Sometimes the reality is that I have researched the topic even more than them. Surprise?! :P
Just say "Let me stop you there..." and when they ask what you were going to say, just say "Nothing. I just wanted to stop you speaking" LOL Works like a charm
I dont want to be condescending I also feel like it depends on the person. Some ppl get you others dont which warrants someone being condescending. I feel bad
There's this guy I was dating I asked him why he liked me and he said I was a typical dumb girl, I was so freaking appalled when he said that, most guys call me stupid... 💀
I like to just call out the bad behavior. E.g. Someone is talking slow to me (inferring that I'm slow to understand) I'd simply say "What's that tone of voice for? Are you suggesting I'm stupid?" - Make them explain what they mean by their nasty behavior. If they deny they mean anything by it, I'd point out that they didn't talk to the other people in the room that way, and even make it more uncomfortable for them by bringing others into the conversation LOL I also like to use humore. E.g. I will say "Let me stop you there!..." (as if I'm about to say something) - They usually say something like "What? Were you going to say something?" - I'd say "Nope. I just wanted to stop you" LOL
Yes 🙌 you’re speaking my language…My hobby is to call them out on it, embarrass them, use humor, facts etc and take them down a peg or two….I do this online, on TH-cam and in person if I feel someone’s judgemental. Growing up my mom was very judgemental 🤦♀️ . This is a huge trigger for me and I really dislike when people do this.
A lot of people are self absorbed they are not thinking about other people . They can't see past themselves . It's not about you it's all about them. They act superior to feel good.
I wonder how everything went with the coworker. I decided not to wait to see how things would go as it would just stretch the disrespect . I prefer to lose a job and maintain my peace.
I work at a hospital and regularly have patients make nasty personal remarks about me. I'm very petite and look younger than my 38 years but I very clearly have a woman's body and carry myself very confidently. Despite this, people feel the need to inform me I 'look about twelve' or 'look like a little girl/kid' 'shouldn't be working here because you look so young...' etc. These deliberately condescending comments usually come from middle aged women or crotchety older men. When I meet patients I am very friendly and try to make them as comfortable as possible, despite my role not being a medical one. I have no idea why people feel the need to attack me in this manner when I've done nothing to them. What really irks me is the fact that I'm viewed as fair game when none of these people would DREAM of commenting on my weight if I was obese. They can recognize that as being rude but what they do to me is ok? I just don't know how to deal with these people. I can't be rude as they are technically customers, but ignoring them doesn't help me either because I obsess on it the rest of the day and get angry that they feel they one-upped me or got away with it. What can I say to them?
Jessica, they probably don't know what to make of someone who speaks well and is also young and attractive. Since they don't know you and you don't really want to know them, keep the interactions extremely professional. Meaning, if they make a condescending remark, redirect the conversation back to the patient/procedure...whatever you are talking to them about, and then after you ask if they have any other questions, just smile and say,"Hope you have a wonderful day," and walk away.
People who are jealous of talent or good looks will try to ruin it for those with talent. Hold your head up high and focus on your talents and making them as good as possible.Instead of being angry on how people abuse your kindness,focus on your ever improving ability to handle the situation well with the creeps.
I really appreciate your replies. Thank you. I know that people are going to curious about me. As a professional woman with a British accent living in PA who is 4'10 inches tall and small framed I understand people's curiosity. I get it, you don't regularly see people like me walking around in flat shoes because I like myself just as I am and do not feel the need to hide it by wearing heels. I know people are going to stare. I'm ok with that I've been dealing with it all my life and try to make it a positive. I tend to make eye contact with the person, hold it and smile until they look away. What I don't understand is the deliberately nasty comments. Sometime these occur before I even open my MOUTH. I'll simply walk into a patients room, smile and before I can even say anything they will say 'what are you, like TWELVE?' In an extremely nasty tone. What is it about me that causes this reaction? Do they despise me on sight because I'm confident despite being 'a midget' as I've also been referred to? I've asked my friends if there was something I said or did that pissed them off about me when we first met. They all look at me like I'm insane. Is it simply because people see me and think 'why should this LITTLE girl be comfortable in her own skin, when I'm NORMAL but despise myself?
The problem is them-their pride.You being confident and secure in yourself shows them up for being essentially insecure.This exposes their weaknesses.So they want to be nasty to you.Not for anything you've done. I get this all the time.This week has been particularly bad. Focus on self-control to handle their bile-that's what I need to tell myself.Then I will have self-control as well as being secure in myself.
There must be something wrong with me.. the amount of ppl who think they have a duty to "correct me" is freaking unbelievable.. I swear I'm just trying to live my life, and it's like it's written on my forehead: "Judge me".. I can only think of 1 time when someone said something useful that wasn't them just trying to impose their own superiority 🤯
I deal with this all the time, especially with family members. I can really use this rant today ! LOL, thank you!!!! I do think they use that manipulation to control us, if we feel like they don't respect us, they believe we will bow to them.
My mom (that I live with since she is older now) told me a few months ago, "Of course I could never take you seriously....you're my DAUGHTER...." like it was some sort of unwritten rule that daughters don't deserve basic respect. I'm going to be 40 years old in a few months, so it's REALLY frustrating!
Usually the condescending person will perceive this as a challenge and just start using more technical jargon and explain things in a faster and more haphazard way to maintain the upper hand and their sense of superiority. The best way to deal with condescending people is to prepare yourself as much as possible by learning the fundamentals yourself before encountering them.
Word salad as if you're not smart enough to understand their so-called super smart terms. These people worship themselves on the wrong mountain and thank God I do not along with them
Belittlement has to be one of the most frustrating things to deal with. Particularly hate it at uni when a lecturer goes on a 10 minute rant telling you things you already know when you really want to talk about something else. We feel your pain
Why is it that everyone wants to criticise those who are condescending and put them in their place - but when I search how to be less condescending there is no help or support for those who wish to improve. Isn't that kind of condescending in itself?
Exactly you attract people who like acting superior . If you are not polite and classy. Always keep it polite and respectful these days people are too concerned with themselves and like acting superior court boost their self esteem.
What about dealing with condescending customers? I had a really unnecessarily horrible customer at work who talked down to me like I was an idiot. I felt really belittled and I think he could tell and enjoyed that. I feel annoyed at myself that I didn't react in a better way.
How to deal with a person who keep poking me by being rude and condescending? That person always find reasonss to say that im wrong im stupid I'm doing things so shitty, tried their best to zoom in on my failures all the time, have no decency to remind me im nice way... But this person is already a rude person.. how to deal with this kind of person mam? 🙏🏻
hi how to handle people who stare at you 4no reason at all?n everytime u see them they do exactly same thing. its so annoying .they give u this bitchy look no u always meet them at work or mall or school.u can't avoid them so pls share ur thoughts...thnx
Yes!! There is definitely different treatment toward blondes. The few times in life I dyed my hair dark from my natural blonde colour I actually was treated as intelligent as I am. Ugh, so frustrating now that I'm blonde again. Great advice though, I will use this!!
I get what you mean Marie. At work, there are certain people who never stop. They get a trip doing this to you all the time, especially when they know that the manager will be walking by. It get the work environment very toxic.
Great video as always Marie! I deal with condescending people all the time, especially in my family and it drives me crazy! People would talk to me like I'm a baby and ask me a whole bunch of dumb questions like do you know how to crack an egg or do you know the address to your house smh. People think that just because I'm quiet and a homebody then that means that I don't know anything when that is so far from the truth. I may not be the smartest person in the world but I'm not stupid either.
There are always going to be people in this world who are insecure about themselves and chose a "victim" to put down in order to make themselves feel superior. If you are aware of this, then obviously you're NOT dumb. I'm sorry you experience this from people in your family. That really sucks. Family members who have behaved like this to me in my family have been dropped from my circle. I don't call, I don't write, I don't FB, I don't care. I'm done with phony people pretending to care while behaving in a way that totally says something else entirely. I matter just as much as they do whether they think so or not.
Tracy Brown Exactly and I also think that people are jealous of me is because I'm not afraid to stand out and be different and I'm more comfortable in my own skin and they're not. Thanks for understanding.
ugh I hate this. I have a friend who explains everything to me. He can barely have a conversation with me without stopping to explain every little thing he's saying. Last time he said "So, a presidential election is every four years" and "Billy Joel is a singer who. . . ". At first I thought he just thought we wouldn't know the same references because he is 15 years older than me (we're both adults) but now I'm like, no I think he just thinks I'm dumb! When I was like come on, I know a presidential election is every four years! He was like "Welll, I wouldn't think any less of you if you didn't", I was like what? I feel like that is just a way to put the attention back on himself to say "Oh, I'm so understanding!". I feel like he said that so I couldn't be upset. It's so frustrating!
I have a daughter inlaw who tries to dis me all the time with remarks like.... When werein a group of adults and if i say something she will say "Oh here we go again". Under handed remarks
Great video and good content! I deal with them slightly different. I let them figure out I'm an electrical engineer. I never mention it. I wait for them to ask me to what I do for a living....if they do. Smug people seem to be obsessed with other people's professions.
+SR2ify good question! I would tell them, "I get it." with a smile on your face. So, you are not being insulting, just letting this person know that you understand. You don't want to respond sarcastically at all, but you want to get the message across that yes you do comprehend the situation and will follow instructions accordingly. Once your boss realizes that you know what you are doing, hopefully, he/she will let up on the condescending tone.
Thank you I will give it a go, I always feel I need to go into big explanations of what I did and why I did it and I'm beginning to think that's part of my problem, I will try keeping it short xx
Hi Marie, thanks for this, you must be reading my mind, I get this from an acquaintance, and its really annoying because she does it in a group setting, so I feel even worse. 😕
I came across this video today and realized that in order to b taken seriously. I have to put a condescending person in their place. Often times, I'll wait for stuff to build up or too afraid to approach the individual in fear of retaliation. I use to trick my mind into thinking that I was overreacting and its all My fault why ppl act the way they do. Very good video. I'm going w/my gut feeling abt getting this issue resolved. My mental health is a priority.
My BF almost always, especially in an argument, talk to me like he teaching me something. Like I’m in a lecture and he’s educating me saying things like “it called this.., does that make sense, that’s not what it’s about” etc. if and when I do point out to him and say “I’m not stupid” he gets upset and yells “no one is saying you’re stupid! Where are you getting this? Are you even listening to anything I’m saying?” If I try and tell him, in the most gentle way I can think of, the way he’s communicating isn’t working for me, I don’t like the tone. He usually responds with, “that’s how communication works” and we find ourselves in this never ending cycle. 😔 I just want to be spoken to like he believes I’m capable of understanding. Skip the definitions and examples and just talk to me like I’m an adult. Doesn’t feel good.
My cousin is a doctor, short matured man who is in his 30's but looks young and black. He is always well dressed. There are really low class males -specially cafe floor managers who call him buddy. He doesn't care but we find it offensive. My friend nearly punch the cafe dosch once. I don't think telling these idiots to stop using buddy gonna work. What do you tell these people?
Ugh, I hate being condescended. The chef at my job was kind of hard on me one day, and then the next day, said, "How are you?" See, previously, she'd taken me to my boss's office--with the both of them--and told me that I've been touching my coworkers too much (CASUALLY on arms or shoulders). I was always very outgoing and tactile at work. She told me that we need the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment. That I shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school or tell my stories, because they may be inappropriate or upsetting (can't remember her exact words) to others. Now yeah, I pretty much didn't have a filter, but I don't think I said anything *_horrible._* I only meant to have fun with my crew. I really didn't get specific information from the chef about subjects and references. She likes that I'm outgoing, but she made it sound risky and in need of limits. And again, that I shouldn't touch anyone without consent. And then the next day, she asked how I was. Like, WTF? What did she think? That I was doing well after she practically shamed me? If I didn't know any better, I'd say she was patronizing me--or just plain nuts. I should've said, "Uh....I'm sorry, I'm genuinely curious to ask, why would you ask me how I am after yesterday?" I'd kiII to know her point of view. Also, for the record, I own my mistakes at work, so I don't want anyone twisting it around into I'm making the chef the only bad guy. I didn't _mean_ any harm or discomfort. If I had known anyone would feel either, (though technically no one showed signs), I would _not_ have touched them. I am not a creep. But the chef made me feel like one. See, she shouldn’t have been so firm and in my face. A gentle, respectful talk for a couple minutes was all I needed. She shouldn’t have restricted me to handshakes only. Casual taps or pats or whatever are actually ok, as long as you don’t overdo them and it’s to friendly people who clearly enjoy you. I always thought it was perfectly innocent and natural, and I still do, in certain ways. Happens a lot at the bar parties I go to-total strangers. Besides, two middle-aged workers from the dining department have done it to me; I don’t condemn it. Also, the chef did not have to ask my boss if there was anything she wanted to add. How did she think that would make me feel? Not disrespected and like a criminal? HeII, my boss shouldn’t have been in the room at all; I deserved some dignity and comfort. I felt horrible. But of course, whenever I expressed this side on other videos, people would continue faulting me or saying the chef was right. To them, it was this side over the other. I felt like no one understood me or the gray areas I still think exist.
I still don't get it, please be condescending while explaining it to me. I believe that some people are magnets when it comes to meeting condescending people, like the woman in the video, for example. People that don't know her are condescending to her as well as people that know her best. Is it ALL of them, meaning you are in fact a magnet to these folks, or are YOU the problem, meaning these folks aren't condescending to other people, just the ones they believe they can be condescending to? If Person A has won the Blue Ribbon for her chili at the fair four years straight, and Person B hasn't finished higher than 20th place ever, then how can Person B be condescending to Person A when it comes to making chili? [severe mental illness excluded]
I hate when men do this me I have landlord who belittles and patronizes me he even said I was awful for smiling ? I said his name in conversation and he said do not say my name I know my name 😂??? I said I’m very confused he’s like well concentrate he was so belittle and verbally abusive I couldn’t believe it I’m leaving in December I’m a single mom and these are red flag!
I've been in the same position similar to the investment people you are talking about or the tech people like your husband. It is not our intention to talk to you like you are stupid, and we are not trying to be condescending. We are trying to ensure that you understand the flow of information that we are giving. It doesn't mean that they think that you are stupid (even if you take it that way). It means that they want to ensure that you understand in detail everything that they are trying to explain to you. Too many times people complain that "nobody told me I was supposed to do that". Even if they were told but refused to listen. Sometimes it is necessary to break things down in detail to ensure nothing gets missed. Once again, its not because they think you are stupid. Its because they want to avoid an error that can occur to even the brightest people on earth.
Hi Marie! I have a question. I have just "broken up" with a friend. This girl and I were in a friend trio (recipe for disaster) and the third girl and I were never super close. The third girl is still holding on to me but I don't really want to be in a relationship with her. The friend I "broke up" with took it really well. On the other hand, the third girl won't take it well if I try to end the relationship. I go to a school where there are 20 people in my grade so I can't exactly escape. Any thoughts?
+C.C. Walker I would turn the friendship into more of an acquaintance. So, you can talk to her when you see her, but also meet new people. She will eventually get tired of you always being busy with your new friends. In the mean time, I would stay in contact with her because she could change.
1:47 A good humor is always appreciated XD Amazing video and yes you were right. I'm part of investment businesses and I'm dealing with condescending people. So annoying. This video helps Thank you Marie ❤️🙏🏾
My bf is teh biggest condescending sounding asshole ive met. Hes alr said that sometimes people mistake him for being condescending when if fact in his eyes “he is not”. He doesnt make an effort to change tho, how can i leave or deal with him?
see what you did there?....about your husband...he's the smartest person on the planet ? that's hyperbole, no he's not. He's another person, talk about creating the problem you have to deal with later when retorts, but you said i'm the smartest person on the planet. this another way we give permission to people to think they are smarter than us. i have a work situation, but your throw away comment really resonated with me...people without self esteem say things like that, you were just being clever, but words matter, and low self esteem ppl don't need to even think that's ever a good idea to say
My case is random but the day my lead I'm not a victim but a target this individual insults me I'm what you said another worker heard takes me outside n tells me to leave I'm uhh all I did was to remind him about I was just asking for the training he promised me.. he talked to the point IL be honest if I met I person that spoke me outside of work IL tell him but I hold it cause I needed the job. I worked hard I would wake up 3 hours before I clocked in to catch the bus and walked one thing is that people don't see is the effort of the things we go tru get to work I saved n got myself a nice car for the price I see it as I hold on till the end n as a reward I saved some money that after that people started changing. That caught me out of the blue when the lead told me something I was like only if u knew I'm tru a temp agency once u do ur 90 days you get hire...I reported him after that I get accused of doing my work bad. I don't have the training.. I told this people I have more respect to someone so get on my face n will tell me I don't like u but I need a favor can u cover this position until further notice but IL be more then a month I respect that then to make u feel good n they see everything goes good for u n their jelaouse Its a small building but I can tell something is up cause once I expose them that day I had permission to leave an hour before I clocked out.. I leave an hour after I get called by the agency I'm like soooo quick they do an " investigation " a month after the insident they are innocent I was terminated no one approach me to interview me about it. One thing is this sometimes this happens I would walk in the building on an area that I don't go Tru there I was walking n I see two workers talking like whispering " hey sooo are they gonna hire him" it kinda seem like undercover because this individuals know something about me because cause the female when she asked where I stayed I was on some trailer homes oh ur infrot by the liquor store I pretend I didn't heard that but they used the same tactics prior the employer who I worked before.
I have a friend who does this ...AND also overexplains minutiae...and interrupts and THINKS he knows where I'm going in conversation and most times does not know my direction ... I feel I can't even get to my point.. I've called him on both things ...and I don't think he realizes he does this ..im at the point I don't like talking to him anymore. Ugh...it feels like he's a know-it-all ..but maybe it's not that...insecurity? Or both
Necroposting here. As a person with a lot of ADHD symptoms, it took me many years to a) not interrupt people or finish their sentences b) WAAAY over explain things. I've trained myself to breathe, to stop when I was info dumping, and listen intently, but it took me years. Not saying anyone who does this is neurodiverse, that the behavior isn't obnoxious, or that your guy wasn't condescending.
Ahh I have a weird situation in my life. One of my very good family friend's girlfriend is always rude to me and my other girlfriends also.We like the guy , he is very nice quite and we invite him in our parties (birthdays / halloween etc) but he comes with his girlfriend and she brings a lot of negative energy with herself. We stopped inviting him few last year but we felt his absence bcz we all like him a lot.We always feel happy to see him and sad to see his girlfriend .. very complicated :(
I hate people that do this like how dare you, it’s so disrespectful and shows how judgmental and insecure they are in themselves, its their own psychological projection of their perception of the world through their own experience but it’s complete and utter bullshit and they act like their opinions are facts when they’re not
Marie, for me it's a new approach and it comes from taking care of myself; I have not felt this good since I was a teenager; happiness does come form inside. the people and situation s that used to bother me bounce off now. affter all these years I understand what people mean by "taking csre of your self. today my dental student finished my bridge work and I feel great. thanks.
Yes, I have been dealing with this issue for quite some time. a close relative is a MD. Whenever we are out together in public, restaurants etc. he will ask the staff, sales people, ticket takers at events, "So, what are you going to do when you grow up"? I just want to slap him. He then goes on to inform these individuals in less than 30 seconds, "I am a MD." The encounters are so embarrassing, he appears so childish and desperate for attention. All the while, his finances, professional and family life are in a shambles. I often wonder, how a person can be so oblivious to his negative self-image and so desperate for validation that he goes out to his way to demean almost everyone that he encounters. I keep my distance and rarely open dialogue or offer an opinion lest he attempts to cut me off or disputes my opinion.
I went out to eat with my sister who I don’t really talk to and I brought my own drink and then she says you don’t save the can do you? Was she trying to imply that I’m broke?
Just found your channel and you've really got some great pieces of advice! I've got some pretty shitty "friends" that can ruin my day easily but I'm kinda stuck with them, I'll be able to put your wisdom to good use. Thanks Marie!
Marie, how do you deal with friends who agree to plans with you, only to cancel last minute, only to make plans with someone else? I have two people in my life who constantly do this and I'm absolutely sick of it. I don't know what to do. Please help :(
Hi Maria I'm kinda confused with a friendship (my best friend) , I'm not sure what should I do, I feel I can trust him with serious things, with money, with personal things but he keeps lying about the most little things even when I have proofs even when I show them to him he just sticks with this little lies until he just gets "angry" and stops the conversation. Do you think someone like that is not trustworthy?
SantiMeMusic No, this person is not trustworthy at all! Can just be using you. If you confront someone and he tries to blame you /gets angry, he's a jerk..Chances are you are dealing with a narcissistic selfish person. Definitely don't trust with money,either. If he asks why, say you are not comfortable lending money. Also say your parents don't want you to. If he gets angry and calls you names, time to say bye to this person. I know it's hard to end friendships but he is not a true friend if he treats you this way.
Marie i need help this sixth grader was being rude to me and he said mean things to me on the bus and I waited till he got off and started crying and he keeps doing it and says mean stuff like ( If your going to wear makeup at least look pretty) and I held it in school all day and at the end of the day I cried so hard my eyes started to dry up how do I fix this and make him stop please tell me he is rude to me and nice to other people and he makes me want burst in tears..
Whytnee Graham Have you talked this with your parents, or with someone you can trust?. Seems, that boy wants to get your attention and make you feel bad, insecure of yourself. Maybe you could tell him what's up with him, why is he talking to you like that?, what have you done to him?. And that if maybe a next time happens, you will be telling it to the scholar authorities. You'll have also to stand up by yourself. I wish you all the best and hope the issues with that boy, are better or it has stopped. All the best.
More often than not I get problems like this with ignorant people-for example:I remember when I was trying to prove to one of my rather dumb school mates that the meaning of the german word ''Zug''indeed translates as ''a train''-and he didn't believe me and just started making fun of me,even when our teacher said I was right-So my question is how do I deal with ignorant people who think they know everything and put the rest of us smarter people down with their ignorance? Is it just a coping mechanism they have developed when faced with their lack of knowledge?
Hi Marie, dance auditions for my school are in about a month. I was originally going to try out for drill team, but I'm thinking I'm not quite ready for that. So I think that I may really want to try out for dance company. Problem is, so many of the girls I know on the team. And I'm very intimidated by them, I feel like they're going to judge me if I get in. they've been dancing their whole lives while I've only been dancing for a few years. I really want this, but I'm seriously so terrified of them, I feel like if I got in, I wouldnt be included. Do you have any advice for me?
Thank you SO MUCH for making this! I've been fuming for the past few hours over all the patronizing abd infantilizing people I've had to deal with for so long now. This advice is great, perhaps finally I can put these people in their place. I haven't really seen many videos on this sort of thing before.
Vengeance627 Yes. I find many people in medical field like this. Doctors and staff can be very condescending to patients who ask a lot of questions. I find this behavior to be ridiculous in field of highly trained individuals. Very classist.
@@i.a.3393 Your comment describes it well. I have asked questions because information is key, but I also read and study, so I've gone into appointments knowing a fair amount when I've asked questions. With offense and the sound of interrogation in their voice, they've asked me how I could know about what I asked (apparently one is supposed to be ignorant), and I answered matter of factly, that I read and study. I reject their industry-exclusivity and matching attitudes, so the conversation should just be factual not attitudinal or proud. They haven't had any comeback to my answer of study; it closed their mouths. It's an industry.
i read thru some comments and heard your video. my comment is this- one is to use a knowledge you have they may not- like the investment thing- you say- 'oh it's much like the popliteus muscle unlocking the knee' if they are doctor- find a similar topic they may not know- 'oh it's like a whip stitch before you sit at the overlock machine' but best is when I have just said in all matter of factness- I see you are not a school teacher but you LEAD BY EXAMPLE NOT BY CONDESCENSION. which shows your overall intelligence. there is always something you know someone else doesn't.
then people do that to me by talking slowly , I start speaking slowly like their stupid. they cant deal with it. they ask why are you speaking to me like i am stupid. I then say dont like it do you ? thats how your speaking to me , if you dont like how i am speaking back to you then dont treat me like me that way ! they can dish out the crap but cant take it when its given back to them. my niese started talking over my head and then i told her hey I know what your talking about I am not stupid . lol
I once overheard a co-worker in a phone call say, “I’m actually an intelligent person. You can speak to me as if I am one.”
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They put on a facade of "you poor thing. You need my help". It takes everything to keep cool.
I hate that so much
I used to get that. I didn't mind because I had zero self esteem..but now I try to pick people politely up if they are rude to me. I always think something worse will happen but recently I walk away feeling happier with myself that there is no residual harm on both sides . Thank you Marie X
Everyone brings happiness...
some people your happy to see...others will make you happy when they leave.
Everyone brings happiness.
you look like you help people and i really need help. my friend thinks i am bullying her and was ignoring me . its now got to the teachers saying we are not allowed to talk to each other but the teachers do belive i am not trying to bully her.
I really think it depends on the tone of voice, there are certain things when people say them might be elementary, but its the way they say it and come off. Where someone else might have the tone of voice and come off as "everyone is stupid and I am here to teach the world!" Example, your videos, some deal with basic concepts, yet cast a fresh new look at things, but I never feel talked down to.
+nouveauspinster you're right, tone of voice makes a huge difference.
Great video, thank you.
Hey Marie,
So I got in an argument with one of my best friends,
I said one thing and she took it the wrong way, I decided not to get in her way and let it die down because I know what she is like, however, it's been about a month now and we are still not speaking and I really want to be her friend again but she is very stubborn and I am too afraid and I don't know what to say. Staying away from her didn't help so I don't know what will. She is still angry with me because she sent me a text with an annoyed face earlier today. what should I do? Thanks
Or what about those people that think they have to explain something to you in sooo much detail because they think you don't know anything about this topic? Sometimes the reality is that I have researched the topic even more than them. Surprise?! :P
This isn’t advice. In fact it’s bad advice.
tHKS
I hate when someone starts with a condescending, "Um".
Just say "Let me stop you there..." and when they ask what you were going to say, just say "Nothing. I just wanted to stop you speaking" LOL Works like a charm
Or “Yeahhhh”
I dont want to be condescending I also feel like it depends on the person. Some ppl get you others dont which warrants someone being condescending. I feel bad
Yeah the play dumb tatic
There's this guy I was dating I asked him why he liked me and he said I was a typical dumb girl, I was so freaking appalled when he said that, most guys call me stupid... 💀
I like to just call out the bad behavior. E.g. Someone is talking slow to me (inferring that I'm slow to understand) I'd simply say "What's that tone of voice for? Are you suggesting I'm stupid?" - Make them explain what they mean by their nasty behavior. If they deny they mean anything by it, I'd point out that they didn't talk to the other people in the room that way, and even make it more uncomfortable for them by bringing others into the conversation LOL
I also like to use humore. E.g. I will say "Let me stop you there!..." (as if I'm about to say something) - They usually say something like "What? Were you going to say something?" - I'd say "Nope. I just wanted to stop you" LOL
Thank you - these are gold!
Yes 🙌 you’re speaking my language…My hobby is to call them out on it, embarrass them, use humor, facts etc and take them down a peg or two….I do this online, on TH-cam and in person if I feel someone’s judgemental. Growing up my mom was very judgemental 🤦♀️ . This is a huge trigger for me and I really dislike when people do this.
A lot of people are self absorbed they are not thinking about other people . They can't see past themselves . It's not about you it's all about them. They act superior to feel good.
I just want to like people. It isn't easy.
Lol
Over 4 years later but same, I try to think good of people but most prove otherwise
Save your energy, and dont put high expectations on strangers.
Same lmfao
Yeah, they don't co-operate
Reminds me of something that Dolly Parton said: "I don't mind 'dumb blonde jokes', because I know I'm not dumb, and I KNOW that I'm not blonde!"
+Tarragon that's a good one!
I love your facial expressions 😂 Thank you for making these videos.
Your hair looks very pretty! Loved this video
+tecx37 thank you for your kind words!
Thanks Marie. Im dealing with a coworker like that. I'll try it & see how things go...she seems a bit of a narcissist as well🙄
Condescending narcissists
I wonder how everything went with the coworker. I decided not to wait to see how things would go as it would just stretch the disrespect . I prefer to lose a job and maintain my peace.
More often than you think narcissistic people turn out to be condescending.
My supervisor does this to everyone in the department lol gonna try this out on her.
I work at a hospital and regularly have patients make nasty personal remarks about me. I'm very petite and look younger than my 38 years but I very clearly have a woman's body and carry myself very confidently.
Despite this, people feel the need to inform me I 'look about twelve' or 'look like a little girl/kid' 'shouldn't be working here because you look so young...' etc. These deliberately condescending comments usually come from middle aged women or crotchety older men. When I meet patients I am very friendly and try to make them as comfortable as possible, despite my role not being a medical one. I have no idea why people feel the need to attack me in this manner when I've done nothing to them. What really irks me is the fact that I'm viewed as fair game when none of these people would DREAM of commenting on my weight if I was obese. They can recognize that as being rude but what they do to me is ok?
I just don't know how to deal with these people. I can't be rude as they are technically customers, but ignoring them doesn't help me either because I obsess on it the rest of the day and get angry that they feel they one-upped me or got away with it. What can I say to them?
Please help. I'm getting so depressed about this.
Jessica, they probably don't know what to make of someone who speaks well and is also young and attractive. Since they don't know you and you don't really want to know them, keep the interactions extremely professional. Meaning, if they make a condescending remark, redirect the conversation back to the patient/procedure...whatever you are talking to them about, and then after you ask if they have any other questions, just smile and say,"Hope you have a wonderful day," and walk away.
People who are jealous of talent or good looks will try to ruin it for those with talent. Hold your head up high and focus on your talents and making them as good as possible.Instead of being angry on how people abuse your kindness,focus on your ever improving ability to handle the situation well with the creeps.
I really appreciate your replies. Thank you. I know that people are going to curious about me. As a professional woman with a British accent living in PA who is 4'10 inches tall and small framed I understand people's curiosity. I get it, you don't regularly see people like me walking around in flat shoes because I like myself just as I am and do not feel the need to hide it by wearing heels.
I know people are going to stare. I'm ok with that I've been dealing with it all my life and try to make it a positive. I tend to make eye contact with the person, hold it and smile until they look away.
What I don't understand is the deliberately nasty comments. Sometime these occur before I even open my MOUTH. I'll simply walk into a patients room, smile and before I can even say anything they will say 'what are you, like TWELVE?' In an extremely nasty tone. What is it about me that causes this reaction? Do they despise me on sight because I'm confident despite being 'a midget' as I've also been referred to?
I've asked my friends if there was something I said or did that pissed them off about me when we first met. They all look at me like I'm insane. Is it simply because people see me and think 'why should this LITTLE girl be comfortable in her own skin, when I'm NORMAL but despise myself?
The problem is them-their pride.You being confident and secure in yourself shows them up for being essentially insecure.This exposes their weaknesses.So they want to be nasty to you.Not for anything you've done.
I get this all the time.This week has been particularly bad.
Focus on self-control to handle their bile-that's what I need to tell myself.Then I will have self-control as well as being secure in myself.
There must be something wrong with me.. the amount of ppl who think they have a duty to "correct me" is freaking unbelievable.. I swear I'm just trying to live my life, and it's like it's written on my forehead: "Judge me".. I can only think of 1 time when someone said something useful that wasn't them just trying to impose their own superiority 🤯
Same here 😢
I had to come back to this video to remind me why I don't want to deal with a certain friend anymore!
Parents need to teach kids to be nice and polite and humble. So they won't be egocentric and disrespectful. I
I deal with this all the time, especially with family members. I can really use this rant today ! LOL, thank you!!!! I do think they use that manipulation to control us, if we feel like they don't respect us, they believe we will bow to them.
Dealing with this currently
My mom (that I live with since she is older now) told me a few months ago, "Of course I could never take you seriously....you're my DAUGHTER...." like it was some sort of unwritten rule that daughters don't deserve basic respect. I'm going to be 40 years old in a few months, so it's REALLY frustrating!
Usually the condescending person will perceive this as a challenge and just start using more technical jargon and explain things in a faster and more haphazard way to maintain the upper hand and their sense of superiority. The best way to deal with condescending people is to prepare yourself as much as possible by learning the fundamentals yourself before encountering them.
You're absolutely right. A condescending person will go to great lengths to maintain their image.
Word salad as if you're not smart enough to understand their so-called super smart terms. These people worship themselves on the wrong mountain and thank God I do not along with them
Belittlement has to be one of the most frustrating things to deal with.
Particularly hate it at uni when a lecturer goes on a 10 minute rant telling you things you already know when you really want to talk about something else. We feel your pain
I give it right back to them like they give it to me..works like a charm
Your hair looks awesome, thanks for the video😀😀
I have this problem from a family member who has even got worse since she graduated from University. Your hairstyle really suits you.
Why is it that everyone wants to criticise those who are condescending and put them in their place - but when I search how to be less condescending there is no help or support for those who wish to improve. Isn't that kind of condescending in itself?
Dignity is the answer to pretty much anything
Exactly you attract people who like acting superior . If you are not polite and classy. Always keep it polite and respectful these days people are too concerned with themselves and like acting superior court boost their self esteem.
What about dealing with condescending customers? I had a really unnecessarily horrible customer at work who talked down to me like I was an idiot. I felt really belittled and I think he could tell and enjoyed that.
I feel annoyed at myself that I didn't react in a better way.
How to deal with a person who keep poking me by being rude and condescending? That person always find reasonss to say that im wrong im stupid I'm doing things so shitty, tried their best to zoom in on my failures all the time, have no decency to remind me im nice way... But this person is already a rude person.. how to deal with this kind of person mam? 🙏🏻
hi how to handle people who stare at you 4no reason at all?n everytime u see them they do exactly same thing. its so annoying .they give u this bitchy look no u always meet them at work or mall or school.u can't avoid them so pls share ur thoughts...thnx
Yes!! There is definitely different treatment toward blondes. The few times in life I dyed my hair dark from my natural blonde colour I actually was treated as intelligent as I am. Ugh, so frustrating now that I'm blonde again. Great advice though, I will use this!!
I get what you mean Marie. At work, there are certain people who never stop. They get a trip doing this to you all the time, especially when they know that the manager will be walking by. It get the work environment very toxic.
The worst is when women use a tone they use for children. I instantly know these women are petty and stay away from them.
Great video as always Marie! I deal with condescending people all the time, especially in my family and it drives me crazy! People would talk to me like I'm a baby and ask me a whole bunch of dumb questions like do you know how to crack an egg or do you know the address to your house smh. People think that just because I'm quiet and a homebody then that means that I don't know anything when that is so far from the truth. I may not be the smartest person in the world but I'm not stupid either.
There are always going to be people in this world who are insecure about themselves and chose a "victim" to put down in order to make themselves feel superior. If you are aware of this, then obviously you're NOT dumb. I'm sorry you experience this from people in your family. That really sucks. Family members who have behaved like this to me in my family have been dropped from my circle. I don't call, I don't write, I don't FB, I don't care. I'm done with phony people pretending to care while behaving in a way that totally says something else entirely. I matter just as much as they do whether they think so or not.
Tracy Brown Exactly and I also think that people are jealous of me is because I'm not afraid to stand out and be different and I'm more comfortable in my own skin and they're not. Thanks for understanding.
You bet! Hang tough Mark. You are not the Lone Ranger by a long shot. :)
Thanks Tracy ☺
I feel your pain :\
I deal with this crap daily!!!
I’m in Seattle so…
ugh I hate this. I have a friend who explains everything to me. He can barely have a conversation with me without stopping to explain every little thing he's saying. Last time he said "So, a presidential election is every four years" and "Billy Joel is a singer who. . . ". At first I thought he just thought we wouldn't know the same references because he is 15 years older than me (we're both adults) but now I'm like, no I think he just thinks I'm dumb! When I was like come on, I know a presidential election is every four years! He was like "Welll, I wouldn't think any less of you if you didn't", I was like what? I feel like that is just a way to put the attention back on himself to say "Oh, I'm so understanding!". I feel like he said that so I couldn't be upset. It's so frustrating!
+Keke exactly!
I had a classmate who read out loud whenever he gave me answers to our group worksheet and I'm like why are you so loud?
Sounds like a narcissist announcing how "intelligent" they are to those within earshot.
I have a daughter inlaw who tries to dis me all the time with remarks like.... When werein a group of adults and if i say something she will say "Oh here we go again". Under handed remarks
Great video and good content! I deal with them slightly different. I let them figure out I'm an electrical engineer. I never mention it. I wait for them to ask me to what I do for a living....if they do. Smug people seem to be obsessed with other people's professions.
I love your uploads, so good I have learn,t so much, thank you x
Your hair is always so beautiful! Thank you for your videos🙏🏻✨
+Mias Vega thank you so much.
Pretty hair Marie Dubuque! Umcondescnding people are jerks who think they're superior egotistical manics better than us. Diva and plus alert!
People always do that to me. I have no clue why. Just let's me know that they make poor judgments so we should do it back.
Don’t do it back, they’re not worthit. They’re unhappy and you don’t wanna get that on you
Your hair is lovely in the video, how would you deal with someone like that in your work like a supervisor?xxx
+SR2ify good question! I would tell them, "I get it." with a smile on your face. So, you are not being insulting, just letting this person know that you understand. You don't want to respond sarcastically at all, but you want to get the message across that yes you do comprehend the situation and will follow instructions accordingly. Once your boss realizes that you know what you are doing, hopefully, he/she will let up on the condescending tone.
Thank you I will give it a go, I always feel I need to go into big explanations of what I did and why I did it and I'm beginning to think that's part of my problem, I will try keeping it short xx
Hi Marie, thanks for this, you must be reading my mind, I get this from an acquaintance, and its really annoying because she does it in a group setting, so I feel even worse. 😕
I came across this video today and realized that in order to b taken seriously. I have to put a condescending person in their place. Often times, I'll wait for stuff to build up or too afraid to approach the individual in fear of retaliation. I use to trick my mind into thinking that I was overreacting and its all My fault why ppl act the way they do. Very good video. I'm going w/my gut feeling abt getting this issue resolved. My mental health is a priority.
My BF almost always, especially in an argument, talk to me like he teaching me something. Like I’m in a lecture and he’s educating me saying things like “it called this.., does that make sense, that’s not what it’s about” etc. if and when I do point out to him and say “I’m not stupid” he gets upset and yells “no one is saying you’re stupid! Where are you getting this? Are you even listening to anything I’m saying?” If I try and tell him, in the most gentle way I can think of, the way he’s communicating isn’t working for me, I don’t like the tone. He usually responds with, “that’s how communication works” and we find ourselves in this never ending cycle. 😔 I just want to be spoken to like he believes I’m capable of understanding. Skip the definitions and examples and just talk to me like I’m an adult. Doesn’t feel good.
Maybe he views you as a bitch, not a woman
so cute the respect for your hubby, "he's the smartest person on the planet "
My cousin is a doctor, short matured man who is in his 30's but looks young and black. He is always well dressed. There are really low class males -specially cafe floor managers who call him buddy. He doesn't care but we find it offensive. My friend nearly punch the cafe dosch once. I don't think telling these idiots to stop using buddy gonna work. What do you tell these people?
Ugh, I hate being condescended. The chef at my job was kind of hard on me one day, and then the next day, said, "How are you?" See, previously, she'd taken me to my boss's office--with the both of them--and told me that I've been touching my coworkers too much (CASUALLY on arms or shoulders). I was always very outgoing and tactile at work. She told me that we need the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment. That I shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school or tell my stories, because they may be inappropriate or upsetting (can't remember her exact words) to others. Now yeah, I pretty much didn't have a filter, but I don't think I said anything *_horrible._* I only meant to have fun with my crew. I really didn't get specific information from the chef about subjects and references. She likes that I'm outgoing, but she made it sound risky and in need of limits. And again, that I shouldn't touch anyone without consent. And then the next day, she asked how I was. Like, WTF? What did she think? That I was doing well after she practically shamed me? If I didn't know any better, I'd say she was patronizing me--or just plain nuts. I should've said, "Uh....I'm sorry, I'm genuinely curious to ask, why would you ask me how I am after yesterday?" I'd kiII to know her point of view.
Also, for the record, I own my mistakes at work, so I don't want anyone twisting it around into I'm making the chef the only bad guy. I didn't _mean_ any harm or discomfort. If I had known anyone would feel either, (though technically no one showed signs), I would _not_ have touched them. I am not a creep. But the chef made me feel like one. See, she shouldn’t have been so firm and in my face. A gentle, respectful talk for a couple minutes was all I needed. She shouldn’t have restricted me to handshakes only. Casual taps or pats or whatever are actually ok, as long as you don’t overdo them and it’s to friendly people who clearly enjoy you. I always thought it was perfectly innocent and natural, and I still do, in certain ways. Happens a lot at the bar parties I go to-total strangers. Besides, two middle-aged workers from the dining department have done it to me; I don’t condemn it. Also, the chef did not have to ask my boss if there was anything she wanted to add. How did she think that would make me feel? Not disrespected and like a criminal? HeII, my boss shouldn’t have been in the room at all; I deserved some dignity and comfort. I felt horrible. But of course, whenever I expressed this side on other videos, people would continue faulting me or saying the chef was right. To them, it was this side over the other. I felt like no one understood me or the gray areas I still think exist.
really adored this video as I've experienced this especially from narcissistic people of whom I have detached from...thank you
They’re all insecure.
I still don't get it, please be condescending while explaining it to me.
I believe that some people are magnets when it comes to meeting condescending people, like the woman in the video, for example. People that don't know her are condescending to her as well as people that know her best. Is it ALL of them, meaning you are in fact a magnet to these folks, or are YOU the problem, meaning these folks aren't condescending to other people, just the ones they believe they can be condescending to?
If Person A has won the Blue Ribbon for her chili at the fair four years straight, and Person B hasn't finished higher than 20th place ever, then how can Person B be condescending to Person A when it comes to making chili? [severe mental illness excluded]
I hate when men do this me I have landlord who belittles and patronizes me he even said I was awful for smiling ? I said his name in conversation and he said do not say my name I know my name 😂??? I said I’m very confused he’s like well concentrate he was so belittle and verbally abusive I couldn’t believe it I’m leaving in December I’m a single mom and these are red flag!
I've been in the same position similar to the investment people you are talking about or the tech people like your husband. It is not our intention to talk to you like you are stupid, and we are not trying to be condescending. We are trying to ensure that you understand the flow of information that we are giving. It doesn't mean that they think that you are stupid (even if you take it that way). It means that they want to ensure that you understand in detail everything that they are trying to explain to you. Too many times people complain that "nobody told me I was supposed to do that". Even if they were told but refused to listen. Sometimes it is necessary to break things down in detail to ensure nothing gets missed. Once again, its not because they think you are stupid. Its because they want to avoid an error that can occur to even the brightest people on earth.
+Kyle P that is so well put. Thank you for your perspective....Makes sense now.
Hi Marie! I have a question. I have just "broken up" with a friend. This girl and I were in a friend trio (recipe for disaster) and the third girl and I were never super close. The third girl is still holding on to me but I don't really want to be in a relationship with her. The friend I "broke up" with took it really well. On the other hand, the third girl won't take it well if I try to end the relationship. I go to a school where there are 20 people in my grade so I can't exactly escape. Any thoughts?
+C.C. Walker I would turn the friendship into more of an acquaintance. So, you can talk to her when you see her, but also meet new people. She will eventually get tired of you always being busy with your new friends. In the mean time, I would stay in contact with her because she could change.
+Marie Dubuque Thank you!
1:47 A good humor is always appreciated XD Amazing video and yes you were right. I'm part of investment businesses and I'm dealing with condescending people. So annoying. This video helps Thank you Marie ❤️🙏🏾
My bf is teh biggest condescending sounding asshole ive met. Hes alr said that sometimes people mistake him for being condescending when if fact in his eyes “he is not”. He doesnt make an effort to change tho, how can i leave or deal with him?
see what you did there?....about your husband...he's the smartest person on the planet ? that's hyperbole, no he's not. He's another person, talk about creating the problem you have to deal with later when retorts, but you said i'm the smartest person on the planet. this another way we give permission to people to think they are smarter than us. i have a work situation, but your throw away comment really resonated with me...people without self esteem say things like that, you were just being clever, but words matter, and low self esteem ppl don't need to even think that's ever a good idea to say
My case is random but the day my lead I'm not a victim but a target this individual insults me I'm what you said another worker heard takes me outside n tells me to leave I'm uhh all I did was to remind him about I was just asking for the training he promised me.. he talked to the point IL be honest if I met I person that spoke me outside of work IL tell him but I hold it cause I needed the job. I worked hard I would wake up 3 hours before I clocked in to catch the bus and walked one thing is that people don't see is the effort of the things we go tru get to work I saved n got myself a nice car for the price I see it as I hold on till the end n as a reward I saved some money that after that people started changing. That caught me out of the blue when the lead told me something I was like only if u knew I'm tru a temp agency once u do ur 90 days you get hire...I reported him after that I get accused of doing my work bad. I don't have the training.. I told this people I have more respect to someone so get on my face n will tell me I don't like u but I need a favor can u cover this position until further notice but IL be more then a month I respect that then to make u feel good n they see everything goes good for u n their jelaouse Its a small building but I can tell something is up cause once I expose them that day I had permission to leave an hour before I clocked out.. I leave an hour after I get called by the agency I'm like soooo quick they do an " investigation " a month after the insident they are innocent I was terminated no one approach me to interview me about it. One thing is this sometimes this happens I would walk in the building on an area that I don't go Tru there I was walking n I see two workers talking like whispering " hey sooo are they gonna hire him" it kinda seem like undercover because this individuals know something about me because cause the female when she asked where I stayed I was on some trailer homes oh ur infrot by the liquor store I pretend I didn't heard that but they used the same tactics prior the employer who I worked before.
I have a friend who does this ...AND also overexplains minutiae...and interrupts and THINKS he knows where I'm going in conversation and most times does not know my direction ... I feel I can't even get to my point.. I've called him on both things ...and I don't think he realizes he does this ..im at the point I don't like talking to him anymore. Ugh...it feels like he's a know-it-all ..but maybe it's not that...insecurity? Or both
Necroposting here. As a person with a lot of ADHD symptoms, it took me many years to a) not interrupt people or finish their sentences
b) WAAAY over explain things.
I've trained myself to breathe, to stop when I was info dumping, and listen intently, but it took me years.
Not saying anyone who does this is neurodiverse, that the behavior isn't obnoxious, or that your guy wasn't condescending.
@@grmpEqweer thank you for sharing. 💗That is thought-provoking and helps explain some things to me
How do you reply to … “no you don’t get it” hidden behind a joke?
Ahh I have a weird situation in my life. One of my very good family friend's girlfriend is always rude to me and my other girlfriends also.We like the guy , he is very nice quite and we invite him in our parties (birthdays / halloween etc) but he comes with his girlfriend and she brings a lot of negative energy with herself. We stopped inviting him few last year but we felt his absence bcz we all like him a lot.We always feel happy to see him and sad to see his girlfriend .. very complicated :(
I hate people that do this like how dare you, it’s so disrespectful and shows how judgmental and insecure they are in themselves, its their own psychological projection of their perception of the world through their own experience but it’s complete and utter bullshit and they act like their opinions are facts when they’re not
Marie,
for me it's a new approach and it comes from taking care of myself; I have not felt this good since I was a teenager; happiness does come form inside. the people and situation s that used to bother me bounce off now. affter all these years I understand what people mean by "taking csre of your self. today my dental student finished my bridge work and I feel great. thanks.
Decent video 😄
Yes, I have been dealing with this issue for quite some time. a close relative is a MD. Whenever we are out together in public, restaurants etc. he will ask the staff, sales people, ticket takers at events, "So, what are you going to do when you grow up"? I just want to slap him. He then goes on to inform these individuals in less than 30 seconds, "I am a MD." The encounters are so embarrassing, he appears so childish and desperate for attention. All the while, his finances, professional and family life are in a shambles. I often wonder, how a person can be so oblivious to his negative self-image and so desperate for validation that he goes out to his way to demean almost everyone that he encounters. I keep my distance and rarely open dialogue or offer an opinion lest he attempts to cut me off or disputes my opinion.
WOW. Sounds like my brother.
I went out to eat with my sister who I don’t really talk to and I brought my own drink and then she says you don’t save the can do you? Was she trying to imply that I’m broke?
Thanks Marie, this will defiantly help me with my nephew. His poor students at the college. And....... Love your pretty hair in this video.
+Barb Chapman thank you so much!
Tx Marie. You a light of solace in a cray, troubling world.
Great video, my god we're do you get all the different dresses from !! Your skin and hair looks fantastic, keep up great the videos,
the way you talk, puts off the I'm a ignorant blonde vibe.
It is our culture and society to gossip and be Petty what's new Gemm
Just found your channel and you've really got some great pieces of advice! I've got some pretty shitty "friends" that can ruin my day easily but I'm kinda stuck with them, I'll be able to put your wisdom to good use. Thanks Marie!
Honestly the condescending people are dumb and they don't get it lmao
My husband is a tech wize too. Same thing . Ugh what to do
Marie, how do you deal with friends who agree to plans with you, only to cancel last minute, only to make plans with someone else? I have two people in my life who constantly do this and I'm absolutely sick of it. I don't know what to do.
Please help :(
Nice distinction. Same difference. P.S. Nice necklace.
Thank you for great advice 😊
I think your blonde hair is beautiful!!!
Hi Maria I'm kinda confused with a friendship (my best friend) , I'm not sure what should I do, I feel I can trust him with serious things, with money, with personal things but he keeps lying about the most little things even when I have proofs even when I show them to him he just sticks with this little lies until he just gets "angry" and stops the conversation. Do you think someone like that is not trustworthy?
Be careful. It might start with little things right now, but lies have a way of growing bigger and bigger.
SantiMeMusic No, this person is not trustworthy at all! Can just be using you. If you confront someone and he tries to blame you /gets angry, he's a jerk..Chances are you are dealing with a narcissistic selfish person. Definitely don't trust with money,either. If he asks why, say you are not comfortable lending money. Also say your parents don't want you to. If he gets angry and calls you names, time to say bye to this person. I know it's hard to end friendships but he is not a true friend if he treats you this way.
SantiMeMusic why are you friends with this toxic person. Get rid of them honey.
What if neighbours says bad things about you
Marie i need help this sixth grader was being rude to me and he said mean things to me on the bus and I waited till he got off and started crying and he keeps doing it and says mean stuff like ( If your going to wear makeup at least look pretty) and I held it in school all day and at the end of the day I cried so hard my eyes started to dry up how do I fix this and make him stop please tell me he is rude to me and nice to other people and he makes me want burst in tears..
Whytnee Graham Have you talked this with your parents, or with someone you can trust?. Seems, that boy wants to get your attention and make you feel bad, insecure of yourself.
Maybe you could tell him what's up with him, why is he talking to you like that?, what have you done to him?. And that if maybe a next time happens, you will be telling it to the scholar authorities.
You'll have also to stand up by yourself.
I wish you all the best and hope the issues with that boy, are better or it has stopped.
All the best.
I had to yell to get my Mother-In -Law and Dad to hear me,so I get where you can continue the yelling one gets used to having to be heard!😂💖
My sister has that and she makes us feel so dumb
More often than not I get problems like this with ignorant people-for example:I remember when I was trying to prove to one of my rather dumb school mates that the meaning of the german word ''Zug''indeed translates as ''a train''-and he didn't believe me and just started making fun of me,even when our teacher said I was right-So my question is how do I deal with ignorant people who think they know everything and put the rest of us smarter people down with their ignorance? Is it just a coping mechanism they have developed when faced with their lack of knowledge?
I love this woman. Great video👍👏👏👏👏
What if you actually are dumb?
I know her and her friend Judy Gem
Hi Marie, dance auditions for my school are in about a month. I was originally going to try out for drill team, but I'm thinking I'm not quite ready for that. So I think that I may really want to try out for dance company. Problem is, so many of the girls I know on the team. And I'm very intimidated by them, I feel like they're going to judge me if I get in. they've been dancing their whole lives while I've only been dancing for a few years. I really want this, but I'm seriously so terrified of them, I feel like if I got in, I wouldnt be included. Do you have any advice for me?
I always say “I’m blonde today”
Thank you SO MUCH for making this! I've been fuming for the past few hours over all the patronizing abd infantilizing people I've had to deal with for so long now. This advice is great, perhaps finally I can put these people in their place. I haven't really seen many videos on this sort of thing before.
Vengeance627 Yes. I find many people in medical field like this. Doctors and staff can be very condescending to patients who ask a lot of questions. I find this behavior to be ridiculous in field of highly trained individuals. Very classist.
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Your comment describes it well. I have asked questions because information is key, but I also read and study, so I've gone into appointments knowing a fair amount when I've asked questions. With offense and the sound of interrogation in their voice, they've asked me how I could know about what I asked (apparently one is supposed to be ignorant), and I answered matter of factly, that I read and study. I reject their industry-exclusivity and matching attitudes, so the conversation should just be factual not attitudinal or proud. They haven't had any comeback to my answer of study; it closed their mouths. It's an industry.
i read thru some comments and heard your video. my comment is this- one is to use a knowledge you have they may not- like the investment thing- you say- 'oh it's much like the popliteus muscle unlocking the knee' if they are doctor- find a similar topic they may not know- 'oh it's like a whip stitch before you sit at the overlock machine' but best is when I have just said in all matter of factness- I see you are not a school teacher but you LEAD BY EXAMPLE NOT BY CONDESCENSION. which shows your overall intelligence. there is always something you know someone else doesn't.
then people do that to me by talking slowly , I start speaking slowly like their stupid. they cant deal with it. they ask why are you speaking to me like i am stupid. I then say dont like it do you ? thats how your speaking to me , if you dont like how i am speaking back to you then dont treat me like me that way ! they can dish out the crap but cant take it when its given back to them. my niese started talking over my head and then i told her hey I know what your talking about I am not stupid . lol
I love you.