As a 911 operator, I can 100% say with conference, technology has come a long way. With the tools that we have, we can pin point your location to within a 3m x 3m square.
I am so sorry you had to experience that event. I have grieved a few things in my life. I really appreciated your 😢explanation of the need to grieve your own way. No one can do that for you as you carry it with you the rest of you life and you will think of it every day. Thank you for sharing that with us.
Here in the UK our EMS now utilise what 3 words. Especially useful here on the moors where I live. One day your kids are going to see this Mike and they will continue I hope to appreciate what a great dad you are.
I’m a retired law enforcement officer from a small sheriff’s office in north Texas. When I was a fairly new deputy I was dispatched to investigate a welfare concern on an older gentleman several miles out in the county. The property was a fair sized farm with standing oak trees and mesquite flats. I found the gentleman lying on his back just a few feet from his still running dozer. From the scene it was determined that he was getting out of the dozer for some reason and slipped and fell. You could see the muddy impressions on the dozer where his foot slipped. He hit his head and was probably gone before he hit the ground. It was several minutes before the justice of the peace, the ambulance and other responders arrived so I had a few minutes there alone. I looked around at the property and it was obvious how much work this man had put in on his land and how much he had left to do. It was one of the most profound moments I had in my career. I guess because I was so young at the time I had never thought about leaving so many things unfinished. I pray for that man and his family still today. I’ll add your family in them too. “A society improves when older men plant trees under which whose shade they shall never sit. “
How can A society improves, when they NEVER get to sit under the shade they created? Gee-- Let me plant something and never see it come to fruition... Umm, NOT..... I wanna actually benefit from seeds we plant, Its called "reaping your harvest"
It's extremely brave to be vulnerable to the entire world kinda goes to speak about the values and principles that old man instilled in him wish I could give him a big hug
I know that feeling, I lost my dad when he was only 53, he was a old days strip mine, coal hauler with his first big truck. Then he began his transformation to trucking company long hauling nursery. I lost him in 94, not a day goes by I dont think about him or see something that reminds me that hes gone. I just lost my highschool sweetheart and wife of 42 years this past March 10th from a cancer biopsy gone wrong. She went from 164 pounds to 73 before she left me. I had to watch the love of my life dry up and starve before my eyes. When she passed, I bathed her, and help get her body onto the gurney to bring her back home. I miss her more than I could ever say, she was my angel, my love, my wife, my best friend. Now, I have to lie down to an empty side of the bed where once my love would turn to me hold me, and tell me she loved me, then kiss me goodnight. The emptiness that I feel is beyond any words. I know your pain, and I pray, that you never know mine. Dont be afraid to shed a tear, because by those tears and a broken heart we can draw closer to God if we so choose. That's Gods word. Because by a broken and contrite spirit we get drawn to our Lord. My dad and my wife left this world ready to see what God had in store and Jesus had made the way. My dad was my hero, although I never told him. My wife was my angel, saved by the grace of God and now I just have to hold on a little while longer. Then I'll see her when my chores are through. God bless you thanks for your openness about your dad. Our heroes will never die as long as they're in our hearts. So hold, love, and honor your wife, never fail to tell her and your kids how much you love them. Keep God and Jesus on your mind and in your home and never take one minute for granted with them. I would give all my worldly possessions to have my dad and wife back to just be able to tell them I love them one more time.
“When my chores are through” really struck me. I lost my mama back in July 2016, very unexpectedly and she was only 66 years old. I still wish everyday for one more chance to experience her hugs and tell her I love her. I’m so sorry for the loss and deep pain you’ve had to endure. But as you’ve mentioned, we will see them again. They’re just beyond the veil and are waiting patiently to be reunited again. God bless you and give you comfort. 🩷
I was not with my partner nearly as long. He was my fiancé. Been together 5 years and I lost him this past Christmas day. We werent married yet (because I was stubborn and didnt want to get married in a court house. We are in our mid 30s each with a child and I wanted to make sure we had a proper home together for us and our kids and then have a small backyard wedding.) Call me selfish but after everything in my life and never caring about marriage, it was different with him. I wanted to walk down the aisle to the love of my life with our kids and closest family. He was my best friend, my other half. I was the only one by his side the last two weeks of his life. I understand feeling so empty and alone. The loss of your future despite the beauty of the past. One of the songs i listen to most is that song by Colin Raye "if you get there before I do". The love of your life is simply the love of your life. I am only 35. This wasnt supposed to happen until we were old and gray. Our kids are what keeps me going.
@@robertandkristinhall5006 "I'll meet her when my chores are through." Love, me. Yes I listen to it often. Love the song. My bestfriend, my love, my wife, my angel. We were 15 when we started dating, she wouldnt go out with someone who drank, cause she was a Christian. She told me if I would not drink on those nights then she would go out with me. Then the first time I told her I loved her she told me she loved me also but, I had a choice to make, her or the drinking. Going on 43 years since I became sober. I loved my angel more than I loved the booze. She saved my life from alcohol and then she kept taking me to church, and Jesus saved my soul. Her and God blessed me with two great sons that are both living for Jesus now. She told me before she left me that she wanted me to find someone to love me and take good care of me. I told her, baby, you've loved me perfectly, I dont want anyone else. But she said "I dont want you to be alone." That's when it really hit me that I could loose my love. Then the day before she passed, i was laying my head in her lap, holding her arm and hand. She raised up and looked at me and said, "honey, you have to let me go." I just looked into her eyes, she knew what I wanted to say, "honey I cant, I dont know how." She said, honey you have to let me go, i have to go see my Jesus." I told her if she had to go, to go on that me and the boys would be ok. She told me she had fought because I had asked to but she just couldnt fight anymore. I had to go into the restroom and cry out. The next day I lost her. But I'm doing my best, I know she wouldnt want me to give up but, there are days when I am so empty. Half of me, the best part of me, has gone on. And I'm doing my best to hold on till my chores are through. By the grace of God. Through it all, God is still GOOD. He gave me a love, a bestfriend, a wonderful wife, and two great sons. I am still BLESSED. I just have to remind myself that I'll see her again as long as i hold on tight to the love that she and God has put inside what once was, this uncaring cold heart. God bless you, I wish you joy and happiness. Hang on.
My childhood best friend's Dad was killed when he had a farm tractor roll on him when we were 15. My friend saw it and could not get the tractor off his Dad. My friend was such a great student, great athlete, great friend and had a promising future. By the time we were 18, he had distanced himself from friends and family, quit all sports, started doing drugs, quit school, and was in/out of jail. I often tried to get him to talk about it, but he'd get pissed when I tried. Onetime, I had came back from college and stop by to say hello, his mother said he was on the run from the law and she hadn't seen him for months. She passed away shortly thereafter. It's been 40 years since that happened, and I have always wondered what happen to my friend and how his life MAY have been different had that event had not ever happened.
I grieve with you my friend . I lost my Dad when I was five years old . He was 34 years young . He died in a tractor trailer accident in the town of Tupper Lake , NY. He was hauling pulpwood at the time . I always went with him in the truck. Id love to see him come home with a load on the trailer . That meant he was going to the mill . He'd let me go to the mill , but when he came home empty I knew he was going into the woods and he wouldn't allow me to go into the woods . But that morning he wouldn't let me go . I didn't understand why . I said Dad you're loaded why can't I go ? He just said , not today boy. I remember crying because I didn't understand . I do now . He went over an embankment when he left the road . It took them about an hour to get him out of that truck. He had type one diabetes. The laws today say you can't have a CDL with type one diabetes. I wish they had that law back then . I miss him everyday .... I now am entering my forty year mark driving truck. He left this world way to early . I sure miss him. He saved my life that day . I'll always remember that . Thank you for letting me share my story . I'm glad you shared yours as well . Thanks Brother . We'll see our Dad's again Sir . That I'm sure .
My deepest condolences for your loss of your dad. Sometimes I think people are just somehow wired to get a feeling about that type of thing…a foreshadowing. Perhaps that’s what happened. He just got a feeling it wasn’t right for you to go that day. I wanted to say that maybe it’s a state thing for you re: T1 diabetics not being able to get CDLs? A good friend of mine is a T1 diabetic & drives semis & has for decades. No issues. He just has to be cleared on his DOT physical each time. Edit to add: we’re in MI.
@@tarantulady8565 as a T1D myself, who would very much like to obtain my CDL, it can be done but you basically have to show complete control of blood sugar levels, almost to FAA pilot levels. For T1Ds that is very hard, or impossible for most, due to the literal hundreds of things (most of which beyond our control) that effect blood sugars.
This is probably the most real thing I've seen on TH-cam in a long time. It takes a brave and real person to stand and deliver a message of pain and triumph. I appreciate and respect the message and thank you for sharing your heartache. Keep the videos coming because your people are waiting to watch.
Your shared most personal knowledge of your Dad has so affected me. I only wish I could do the same. Keep producing the great videos and this one is the best of all. You are an exceptional person in every aspect. 14:25
Thanks for sharing Mike although we dont actually know each other you have touched me deeply lost my Dad 4 years ago he was 92 god its hard but mate your truly an inspiration ,yor Father would be truly proud of the man you have become oh mate after this teary moment we need Aaron to make us laugh😊😊 Kym Adelaide
My father died in front of my brother and I. In 1978. I was 9 years old, and my brother was 11. We lived in a small country town, and of course, no 911. Wouldn't have helped. He died instantly anyway. He was crushed by equipment. We were also by ourselves, mother was gone to a teachers conference. The whole event tragically changed us and mom. Very tragic, very sad. Just identifying with you. Sorry for your loss, I get the debth of your loss first hand. Bless ya.
@bastogne315 that's a very kind response. Thank you. What I wonder most are things like, how would I have turned out had he lived? Or I'm not good mechanically, if he'd have lived would I be more of a man, more adept at manly things? Would he have liked me? Would I have liked him? etc. etc. Anyway thanks for the kind words.
@@Marine1111-p5x don't know where you are in life, if your married, have kids etc. , the point is everything that has happened since that tragedy would be different had it not happened. Hopefully you have had many good things to look upon and be thankful for. I had something similar happen, when I was 11...with no one around to help, ran for 3 miles just to find someone, and collapsed. I still can't talk about it..but now I'm 55 with 6 kids a beautiful wife, and that's all I focus on now, and rather than think.of the what ifs I'm thankful for the what is.
@fabiobigfoot I'm 56, married with two grown boys. Both are successful. I joined the Marines out of college and deployed to Desert Storm. I'm a college graduate, a Christian, and have a wonderful life. God has blessed me. I do have trauma from that day, and it haunts me occasionally when I let it. But, despite that day when I was 9, I have been blessed. My mother became a highschool principle, she was a very strong lady. She raised me well. God has been my refuge. He sustains me. Without his grace, I'd be lost. Ironically, I teach crisis intervention training to police and fire personnel in both the academy and college. I also teach class called trauma affected veterans for the state of Texas and the federal government. Thanks for your reply, and concern, be blessed.
@warrenbridges4095 My dad used to scoff at people who would say at funerals, "At least they are in a better place." He was a firm believer that being alive was a better place than dead! Tripple bypass in 98, stint put in 2002, 2 stints 2005 after a heart attack at the camp, 1/2 hour from cell phone reception, 1 hour from a paved road and another hour by ambulance to hospital in a snow storm. He "fell" in the bunk house where my brothers and I were at 130am! His nitro puffer was over 5yrs old and didn't even work! On mothers day 2010, at the hospital, he had his heart stop 10+ times, each time he responded to treatment and came back, trey ended up putting an external pace maker on him through his leg. They left him on the respirator for the night so he could rest. After all that, the family, were trying to figure out if a DNR order might be best, let him go... I went with the doctor.... Doc explained to him what happened the day before, all the CPR and advanced care he got. My dad being my dad, said "I was wondering, my chest is a little "tender"! We asked about the DNR order! He replied," I'm not going anywhere yet, keep doing what you have to"! He had a great summer surrounded by family at our cottage eating all his favorite meals and sitting by the fire. He passed on September 30th. Even that morning, he realized he was in palliative care and tried to get out over the railing of the bed to get out of palliative care!!! Lol, fought till the end! I believe it was pure stubbornness that kept him alive that summer! He never complained about pain, ever! I'm sure if he cut an arm half off, he would wait for a drive to the hospital and walk in and say, "Don't mean to bother you, but could I get a doctor to look at this?" That's just who he was... Don't make em tough like that anymore!
I'm 72 years old I too lost my dad when I was 16 then I lost my son when he was 21 which has been 30 years ago as I watched I said and cried with you through the whole thing God bless you
Hi Mike, Paul from England here. I just watched your post on your Dad's accident, very difficult but you did him and yourself proud...I lost my Dad in a road traffic accident 31yrs ago and the memories and emotions came flooding back. Anyways, I love watching you and Aaron's antics and laugh uncontrollably at the banter - keep up the good work sir...
I'm 76 and you just took me back to losing my father. I think I cried half way through your video to the end. I'll NEVER forget my dad and I know you won't either.
I worked with my Daddy in the late 80's when Hugo hit S.C. clearing storm damaged yards, rebuilding farm roads and clearing lots. About 2 years later we purchased a tract of ten year old pines and set in together sharing the cost of more equipment to clear the home lots, fields and roads through out the farm. As you said we butted heads a few times but ALWAYS forgave one another within a day or so. When you experience the highs and lows of working together, it really builds a special bond between each other. I was blessed to have him pass warm peacefully in his bed surrounded by his family ten days before Christmas in 2012 at age 80. I wiped my eyes several times listening to your story and feeling the pain you still carry with you, how could you not tell a story like yours and not tear up. I always worried about something like that happening to my father especially when he was in his 70's and I was working back in the Electrical industry. You are a better man than me for having the strength to share your story. I feel so badly for you having to find him like that. I'm sure you never pass that spot without remembering that tragedy. I pray God blesses you and your family with peace and prosperity and good health. Just subscribed also, take care.
It's very courageous for a man to speak about their feelings in a safe place, let alone sharing with us on U-tube. I am really honoured that you think of us as family. Bet your dad was a real character and is looking down on you and is really proud of what you've all achieved in his name. 👍
When it got to the really hard part i was already crying. Im going to keep crying for a few days at least. You and dad are worth that much.@DirtPerfect
Thanks for telling your story. I think everybody has one that is emotional in one way or another. Wishta coulda, shoulda. But, yours is an awesome change of events never to be forgotten in your family. May you all in all ways , be blessed!
My deepest condolences to you and your loved ones. My dad was a diesel mechanic but a dozer operator to. He was put on a tractor at age 6 by my grandfather and made to quit school to work the farm. He actually left home to join the army, finished high school and become a diesel mechanic. He was certified with Detroit, Cummins and Cat. We lost him 3:00 am Christmas morning. He had been to a party at my sisters, he had a live cedar tree every year with a big train garden under it for us kids then the grandkids. We went there that morning, the lights from the tree were still only half on. He had complained to mom about feeling bad, she said he was pushing to hard, not to worry about the tree. He fell over she called my sister, and she run him to the hospital, but he had a massive heart attack before she got there. They tried to bring him back, but it was no hope. I had seen him take a dozer on exit ramps they were building near Baltimore, and it would run sideways down the incline. We did site work for a big hunting lodge, and he would get 3 inches from a brand-new cedar sided building never once did he hit it, I took the transit to check it and it rang every square foot. I saw him pull transmissions out of equipment and rebuild them right on site, he didn't like it, but his boss insisted. He had to drive an hour and a half, across the Chesapeake Bay Bridge everyday just to get to work, and then summertime worked 10-to-12-hour days then back, drinking CLC all the way home. He did that for 26 years straight, then got into a business with my uncle doing dozer work and marine construction. He drank like a fish, but I never seen him act out of line, he treated my mother like a queen, and always worked hard to support his family. I am proud he was my dad, and I miss him still today. We love Christmas because we know he would want us to, it was his favorite day. But he is still very missed when it comes around. Thank you for your post, i feel your pain.....
I lost my dad by a skid steer 1/4/2000. He was a safe man too. And from this day still don't how it happened. The bucket fell on top of him. Thanks for the video.
@@user-rh9mh5kh3p Really! That's the kind of stupid remark you make to a man's death. If you had to say anything it should have been "so sorry for your loss". Same goes for those upvoting your comment.
That pain never goes away Mike. Grief has no time limit. I cried with you today. Thank you for sharing such a tragic life altering moment of your life. God Bless
I can relate to this story in many ways. My dad had his own business and a lot of heavy equipment. These were his "toys". Sadly he was forced to sell them because of my brother's health and move out of state. I think that the loss of his business killed him slowly. In 2003 he died from heart failure, broken heart, at the age of 66. I remember being up on his Cat HT4 many times with him. I also remember being on his Drott Yumbo where I was smashing cinder blocks. He was so so proud of that machine. He had bought it brand new, it was so new that they used his machine for their brochures on his job site. Yes I am old. Yesterday I just celebrated 3 months , August 10, the passing of my wife of 28 years. The tears are fine, I am tearing up right now and have been through out the whole video. God bless your dad. my dad and Suzanne, my wife.
You are 1000% correct, Grieving is not something you do naturally and can't be made to do it a certain way. Please don't apologize for emotions, they are part of grieving. You make a difference everyday with who you are today, because of the past. God Bless you Mike, your Dad is very proud of you and will see you one day in Heaven!
I feel your pain brother! My brother died February 3rd, 2013 around 9 am from a freak farm tractor rollover. I pray he felt no pain but I was the first family member to respond and see the tractor on top of him. 😔 still aches in my heart.
He left this world doing what he loved and wanted to be doing. There's no one to blame, and his memory to keep alive. God Bless y'all, and remember the good times you had.
It truly is the greatest advice. I know that people often mean well, but telling a person how to grieve or saying things like “they are in a better place now” can be so infuriating. Sometimes just being there to support someone and not saying anything, or just a simple “I’m sorry” is the best thing that you can do.
You are so right I lost my 21 year old son my only child 24 years ago and they can say what they want we never get over it I can't even imagine seeing what you had to see that day it is hard enough without having to see that.. God Bless..
You are a brave son, being able to relive that day and share your father's memory. It is something that is not easy. To live each day on the land he worked with you is doing him a great honor.
Thanks for sharing your dad’s story. I lost my dad in a plane crash just over 5 years ago. I was also the first one on the scene. Everything you talk about from the beginning to the end is spot on. It’s nice to keep his story going as I have tried to do for my dad. Keep up the great videos!
It was really just a Farm accident. Quite common out in the country. Your advice about respecting other persons grieving process....well taken. God Bless you and your family TODAY. Live for TODAY . It's what your Dad would want.
I lost my Dad to a tragic accident as well. He was a logger and in construction trades his whole life. He was moving a round hay bale when it rolled onto him and broke his neck. My whole family was there when it happened. He was paralyzed (quadriplegic) in the hospital for 6 months before he finally passed from pneumonia. I feel the pain as you tell your story. It really makes you realize how precious and fragile life is.
So sorry for your loss. People often think "oh well they can just stay alive in a bed on life saving machines". They do not realize what actually happens. God bless you ❤
DP thank you for sharing, I agree 100% what you said about grieving. I lost my father to suicide right after I came home from my 3rd deployment to Afghanistan. I had a broken neck from a RPG hitting the unarmored vehicle we were in. I don’t know why he killed himself he was a great man a retired Post Master. I’ve lost men and great friends and as you were talking about grieving I grieved differently for each person I lost. I know how tough it can be but you and I are doing great i have no lasting problems from breaking C-2 thru C-5 in my neck and I was able to go back to Afghanistan for two more tours before I just got to old to operate anymore. I retired after 27 years. There is nothing you or I can do but live each day to be the best Person, Father, Husband, Son, or Friend that we can be and I know from watching your videos that you are knocking that out of the park. Thank you for sharing. I have a feeling that your Dad is looking down on you and is so proud of what you have done.
@@johnorrock3241 You are most welcome, in a time where there is so much hate in our country if we only take a few minutes you can always find common ground. Unfortunately the majority of our country won’t take the time to find that which brings us together.
You sir, are a great man. We lost our mother to a hit and run accident years ago and my brothers and sisters and I are actually closer than before her death. Thanks for sharing, that's how we were able to continue her legacy.
Sorry for your loss. I lost my brother. Fatal gun shot wound 12 years ago. I carried him for a bit until i realized he was gone. Then i lost my strength. I recently also lost my faith. Idk what our purpose in life is. I have a wife and kids so I've made them my purpose. I've experienced people telling me how to grieve, but worst of all days after my brother died i would carry my Bible everywhere and my extended family would tell that it was the wrong Bible and that i need to believe in the virgin mary. My aunt told someone that she better not hear me trying to tell her about Christianity because she's not afraid to hurt my feelings. It was rough. A friend of the family told them that they were nuts. "He just lost his brother!" She said. She was more family to me than anyone else. I've left it all now anyway. I feel like I'm healed from the tragedy. Thanks for your story.
A person needs to grieve how they can ,nobody can tell you how to grieve or what to believe in as far as religion is concerned. We never really heal from grieving,it just fades away for awhile. It's not up to us to judge people in what they want to believe. We that have lost a loved one, we move on slowly and we do the best we can in Life. So sorry for your loss.
@@XOXO-vd3bg Job had everything taken away because God made a deal with the devil. God said he was perfect. Where were the promises for Job? Oh , but God gave him more children after the trial was over. Why didn't God give Job the children that were killed? God the Father got His son back after 3 days. Wtf. If God wills that all be saved, yet not all will be saved don't you think he's shitty at his job? Jesus wants you to be serious about his words and if you say anything more than yes or no it's from the evil one. If you think a thought that might be temptation you've already committed sin in your hearts. Looking at a woman to lust or being angry with your brother are things that happen when you are tempted. Jesus took it a step further and made thoughts sins. If that's true then he's guilty because he was tempted also. In Ezekiel and Daniel or states that we will return to animal sacrifices perpetually, which means forever. That contradicts Jesus' sacrifice. No pastor will ever admit that. They'll try to explain it away. You better be glad Jesus isn't real because no one would make it. He will tell everyone that he never knew them. The problems of this world aren't ours to fix. The whole burden is for the so-called Creator to fix. He's the one that created it all. I'm more than 100 % sure that the God of the Bible Jesus and the Father are bull shit. God needs to punish himself for creating this mess.
God loves you and I am sorry for your pain. Praying for you. God is real and he is always with you pray to him he listens to all of us and cares for you.
Yeah, families can be nutso. When Gramps married Gram, one of the critters related to us said "Jerry, I never thought you'd sell your soul for a woman." With Death in his heart, Grandad reached up over the door and grabbed his shotgun. About then that cousin decided the scenery might look better somewhere else. Those two were married for Life. He was a good man, a farmer/farrier/blacksmith/neighbor/friend known around the countryside as "Honest Jerry," (Jeremiah) and I was named for him. Those were mighty big boots to fill, and it took me many years to learn to fill them. I'm an old man now, and I've buried the rest of the family. I've attended the deaths of most all of them too. Seems I always had to be there. It's never easy; even including one who outlived her goodness upon this earth. But I've learned that God's good timing is truly best.
I randomly came across this video for whatever reason... Thank you for sharing your story... Your dad's proud.... Until y'all meet again... I'm 60 years old, lost my dad when I was 13 under very different circumstances..🙏
My mom passed away last week in my dad and my arms in the driveway. Thank you for this I'm in tears right now for both your dad and my mom. Again thank you. God bless
Prayers to you.. I know it's hard to talk about your father's accident. No one wants to relive such a tragedy. Thank you for sharing your story. The way you honor your dad speaks volumes, and he would be proud of what you have achieved! Thank you for addressing the area of not telling someone how to grieve. I lost so many people from my immediate family, but my recent loss of my son has devastated me. Forever heartbroken 💔 to say the least.
As a farmer my self who has knowledge of several terrible accidents, I understand your situation. There is nothing you could have done. The log may have broken loose unexpectedly and grabbed a piece of your father’s clothing, it happens. My father was driving a truck with a tractor in tow. It broke loose and crushed his brother to death. He never got over it. I wish you the best - nice tribute to your father.
and the WHAT IF..... WHAT IF YOU SENT YOUR DAD ON TO THE REUNION LEAVING YOU BEHIND THAT DAY? what if... could have been YOU/DP under that stump, OR something like a CAR ACCIDENT could/would have happened on the way to the reunion.... >?? when the tickets date comes up, the ''ride is over'', EVERY ONE HAS A FINITE AMOUNT OF ''TIME'' TO EXPERIENCE LIFE AND WHAT IT HAS TO OFFER..... we spoosed to stuff soo much GOOD TIMES into that ride that EVERYONE HAS HAD A WONDERFUL TIME!! LOVE JOY COMPASSION
I have no words… I just wanted to say I’m sorry for your loss and that’s a pretty powerful story and I can feel the emotion. As a father myself I can see it from both sides and I couldn’t imagine my son going through that or me with my own father. I live in Indiana myself and was an operator for the military and a year or so outside the military. Its a dangerous buisness for even the most experienced. God called his number and it was his time….. I’m sorry and I’ll pray for you and your family
My father had a massive MI in 08’ in his sleep and never woke up. He was 62. Had no idea it was coming. Had been working on his model boats the night before..pieces of balsa wood on the back porch and saw dust. People go to bed the night before planning the next day, the next month, the next year with absolutely no idea that that day will never come. Whatever they had planned will never get done and the world just keeps on spinning. That’s the tough part of life. Time, at that very moment, just stands still for them and anyone who loved them. They will forever be that age and we keep moving on until our day comes. I know my life was forever changed on that day and I’ll never be the same. I think about him everyday! All of a sudden, you’re the man and have to make all the decisions and they’re no longer there to ask, “What should I do?”. Stay strong and keep looking at the horizon my man….
What a powerfully worded tribute to your pops. I think about life from this viewpoint often. All the projects we have planned, things we want to accomplish....just stops in time.
I think about this verse in Scripture often. Proverbs 27:1 Boast not thyself of to morrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth. We have no promise of tomorrow, or the future, but we can put our trust in the One who holds our future. :)
Thanks for sharing, I lost my father when I was 16, and you have made me realize I really haven’t informed my kids just how neat my father was. Hang in there, my friend I get it.
As an old man, I feel your pain. The "Don't tell me how to feel or grieve" hit me like a ton of bricks. I will remember that for the rest of my life. I hope everyone takes that to heart. Mike, I still grieve for my loved ones. And it is not easy to "Move On." You have a wonderful family. Outstanding friends. Just be Mike. Thank You for giving us the details of what has made you be the man you are today. Your Father is proud of you.
The Best thing to come out of this tragedy is that you are keeping your fathers memory alive! I also lost My father at a young age and I cherish every moment I was able to spend with him. Thank you for sharing you and your father's story. ❤
I'm so sorry for your lose. My dad was a heavy equipment operator too. He died in 1998 from cancer. Don't apologize for crying or being "sappy" . Sounds like your dad was a great man. Thank you for sharing your story.
When I lost my own dad, someone told me that from that moment, one becomes a different man. Godspeed to your dad, and please stay safe for your own kid's sake.
*"Don't tell people how to grieve!"* Great advice! A friend's son was diagnosed with cancer. He was busy/distracted with his son and couldn't get his lawn mowed. He reached out to the church family for help and myself and another guy cut it for him. Just be there for people when they're grieving! Bring them a hot meal. Allow them to grieve! Grieving is a necessity step to getting your life back together! There's a huge chunk of your life that's either missing or completely rearranged! No one is going to have the same chunk changed the same way!!! You are brave! You are strong!
This reminds me, my grandma passed away almost a decade ago the day before Thanksgiving. My parents (especially my dad whose mom it was) were really devastated to the point they just couldn't function. Neither of them could get themselves to cook dinner for me and my 2 brothers. That night, despite no one asking, 5 different families from our church brought us dinner to eat, and given the short notice and the long cooking time of some of the stuff we got I suspect they sacrificed part of their own thanksgiving dinners just to help us out. It really helped our family out at one of our worst times.
When my husband passed away I wouldn't have wanted to be the person who told me. I'm the one who had to tell his mother and the scream that came out of her was almost animal like. Absolutely the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life.
I'm 60 years old and tears in my eyes, I have lost many family and friends over the years and it never gets easier and all we can do is honor them through our memories and sharing them as best as we can..... John F.
Amen on the grieving. My dad passed away 3 years ago from cancer and I just wanted to be by myself. I had the honor of getting to work with him for over 30 years. So when we lost him, I lost my dad and best friend. I still work where we worked together, it's where I feel the closest to him. I feel for you Mike.
In my 75 years God has had me in a place of a lot of dying and death with so many different families including my own. You are absolutely right about advising others on how to deal with the grief. What I have learned is there are no words you can say to someone in that loss. In Galatians it speaks of bearing one another’s burdens. What I learned is we don’t have answers to life’s tragedies, but one thing we can do is to cry with them, perhaps hug them or hold their hand as you share their hurts and burden. Just being there with them and letting them deal with it in their way. Listen, love and listen more. If they ask you questions and if you have experienced a similar circumstances you can let them know that you are with them through whatever they are going through. Be a compassionate friend not worrying about not having g all the answers. You don’t, and neither does anyone else.
When my grandfather was on his deathbed he told us grandkids not to cry. He reminded us that not only would he live in us by being family. He would forever be with us in the memories of him and through anything that reminds us of him. That land was all you and your Dad. Keep him alive in keeping the farm going.
Mike I have been a paramedic for 40 years no matter how bad your dads injuries were he knew you were there....he looks over you and your family. Trust you are a good man and your grief is specific to you and no matter what was the ultimate cause he is resting in peace. You are his legacy. God blessed you with the time you had teach your children the lessons you find are important.
My dad died in 2018. He was a kind man, carpenter and farmer. I miss him everyday. But had another person who came into my life. He became a good friend and mentor to me. He was a horseman, a stockman and rancher. He learned to work horses from Tom Dorrence and Ray Hunt. They are legends in the horse world. He helped me restart the horse in my profile picture and let me tell you the beginning was a rodeo. This summer i was at a clinic with her and someone saw her in a nice lope around the arena. That person came up later and said "You know he was looking down on you and that horse with a big ol smile". I'm quite sure based on your demeanor that your dad is looking down on you and the life you live and smiling.
You have honoured your Dads legacy with this testimony and can only think you brought him comfort by being present with him. Your words on grief are so right too. The videos are important mainly because the voices of passed ones are the most precious. ❤to you and yours, you’ve done Frank proud I’m sure
Thank you, I lost my dad when i was 15, I'm 30 now. I remember everything about that day. We need to love those that are here on this earth and show them how much we care before that day comes
Mike, you don't ever need to apologize for how you feel or expressing your feelings. Your dad clearly cared a lot about you and I can tell he'd be very proud of all you've done. Your tribute to your father was beautiful.
Tragic. My Grandfather was fatally injured when he fell from a tractor and under a plow while teaching an operator way back in 1952. I lost my Mother and my Wife's father in 2005 two months apart. I feel your loss. Although time passes we miss our beloved family members long after they have passed on.
Grieving the loss of your father is really a blessing. You were fortunate to have a father who loved you and that you loved. So many young people never experienced the love of a parent.
That's heartbreaking. I lost my dad recently, under devastating circumstances. Held his hand until he passed. I relate to your point about the need to allow people to grieve in their own way. I was REALLY pissed at other people's tone-deaf advice & suggestions. I heard everything , from seeking therapy, to heavily drinking, to exercising, to reading the Bible, and (especially) "talking about my feelings".. (My solution was going out in nature, alone).. thanks for sharing your dad's story. Sounds like he was a great guy!
My dad's 86 he still drives his Daully he still pulls his 36 ft fifth wheel and he and my mom go on short trips I try to go with them every chance I can just to help him do the things that he used to do without a lot of effort and of course spend time with them my my thoughts are with you and I feel so blessed to have him still here to do those things with THANKS FOR SHARING
I randomly came across this video… but this is one of the most human videos I’ve ever seen that a lot of us men can relate to. My heart goes out to you and if you need another 40+ year old with a bad back and construction back ground to help out for a weekend let me know.
A little over 16 years ago, I was at my Mom's side, holding her hand, when she took her last breath, it was the day before what would have been her 66th birthday. Colon cancer stole my Mom\s life from her, and deprived me of what should have been, the rest of her life. Since that day, I have learned that it takes a real man to show his true feelings. To this day, there has never been a single day that I haven't thought of her, or how much I love and miss her. Watching this video brought on a rush of emotions that normally do not surface, but you and I both know and understand what it feels like, to watch one of our parents pass away. Since I lost my Mom, I have learned, the hard way, that, showing your emotions, getting choked up, and shedding a few tears on occasion, is perfectly normal, and perfectly healthy for your heart and soul. Those emotions, feelings and tears, remind us of how much we love and miss that very special person .Thank you for sharing your story. God Bless.
I have written before how close I came to losing my dad to a tractor accident when i was 9 years old. The tractor lost traction and went flying down the hill and before it made it to the bottom of the it strated tumbling end over endand by the grace of God dad was thrown clear. The tractor continued over a 50 clift. I got to have my dad with me until he was 78 years old. The tractor was rebuilt and I grew up on it and still have it today. Fully restored looking better than it did when it was new. I'm 80 years old and still enjoy using it. I cried with you as I listened to your story. Thanks for sharing it with us!!!!!!
As a 911 operator, I can 100% say with conference, technology has come a long way. With the tools that we have, we can pin point your location to within a 3m x 3m square.
Good information thank you
@@DirtPerfect of course sir. Thank you for your story.
I am so sorry you had to experience that event. I have grieved a few things in my life. I really appreciated your 😢explanation of the need to grieve your own way. No one can do that for you as you carry it with you the rest of you life and you will think of it every day. Thank you for sharing that with us.
Blessings and Thank you Mike! Looking forward to thanking you next Sat at National Pike show in person!
Here in the UK our EMS now utilise what 3 words. Especially useful here on the moors where I live. One day your kids are going to see this Mike and they will continue I hope to appreciate what a great dad you are.
I’m a retired law enforcement officer from a small sheriff’s office in north Texas.
When I was a fairly new deputy I was dispatched to investigate a welfare concern on an older gentleman several miles out in the county.
The property was a fair sized farm with standing oak trees and mesquite flats. I found the gentleman lying on his back just a few feet from his still running dozer. From the scene it was determined that he was getting out of the dozer for some reason and slipped and fell. You could see the muddy impressions on the dozer where his foot slipped. He hit his head and was probably gone before he hit the ground.
It was several minutes before the justice of the peace, the ambulance and other responders arrived so I had a few minutes there alone. I looked around at the property and it was obvious how much work this man had put in on his land and how much he had left to do. It was one of the most profound moments I had in my career. I guess because I was so young at the time I had never thought about leaving so many things unfinished.
I pray for that man and his family still today. I’ll add your family in them too.
“A society improves when older men plant trees under which whose shade they shall never sit. “
@@jeremyclayton283 Thank you for sharing Jeremy. Id be lying if I said I didn’t shed a tear.
Oh Jeremy, my heart goes out to you, thank you for sharing. God bless you 🙏
How can A society improves, when they NEVER get to sit under the shade they created? Gee-- Let me plant something and never see it come to fruition... Umm, NOT..... I wanna actually benefit from seeds we plant, Its called "reaping your harvest"
God bless you, sir.❤
Thank you for your service. ❤ and sharing your story.
Mike do not ever apologize for showing emotion and shedding a tear. This is a very important event in your life.
Absolutely, don’t ever apologize for how you feel.
Never apologize!! One of the best videos EVER!
@@artiejohnson703absolutely true
@johnhorwath5629 you couldn't be more right
Never, I lost my Dad 40yrs ago when I was 21 at home with me to a heart attack while splitting fire wood and it still gets me buddy
🥺🙏🏻I lost my dad at age 11 and it never gets easier..TY for sharing and also giving insight on your grief, experience, and future.
To witness your father dying in front of you is a tragic, guilt ridden experience. Talking Bout such an event is so therapeutic
My deep condolences💔
That's a brave thing to reveal you dad's story of how he passed👍
You are a brave man...
Tough as hell.. And pushed through
God bless you! Jesus saves sinners!
It's extremely brave to be vulnerable to the entire world kinda goes to speak about the values and principles that old man instilled in him wish I could give him a big hug
My dad died from kidney failure when I was 5 from being a chronic alcoholic. Edit: may have been liver failure. Not sure wich one, maybe both.
Thank you. You have my deepest respect sir. You are your father's son.
Thanks
You are your dads son and thats the best gift he could have given you cause you are passing that onto your children ❤
Thank you for sharing! It had me in tears! I pray sharing your story helped in someway to feel even closer to your Dad!
Agreed@@jerrygoggins5663
@@jerrygoggins5663not only but finishing out that road to
My takeaway is Dad did a fine job of getting you ready to be a man. Rip Daniel.
I know that feeling, I lost my dad when he was only 53, he was a old days strip mine, coal hauler with his first big truck. Then he began his transformation to trucking company long hauling nursery.
I lost him in 94, not a day goes by I dont think about him or see something that reminds me that hes gone.
I just lost my highschool sweetheart and wife of 42 years this past March 10th from a cancer biopsy gone wrong. She went from 164 pounds to 73 before she left me. I had to watch the love of my life dry up and starve before my eyes. When she passed, I bathed her, and help get her body onto the gurney to bring her back home. I miss her more than I could ever say, she was my angel, my love, my wife, my best friend. Now, I have to lie down to an empty side of the bed where once my love would turn to me hold me, and tell me she loved me, then kiss me goodnight. The emptiness that I feel is beyond any words. I know your pain, and I pray, that you never know mine.
Dont be afraid to shed a tear, because by those tears and a broken heart we can draw closer to God if we so choose. That's Gods word. Because by a broken and contrite spirit we get drawn to our Lord. My dad and my wife left this world ready to see what God had in store and Jesus had made the way. My dad was my hero, although I never told him. My wife was my angel, saved by the grace of God and now I just have to hold on a little while longer. Then I'll see her when my chores are through.
God bless you thanks for your openness about your dad. Our heroes will never die as long as they're in our hearts. So hold, love, and honor your wife, never fail to tell her and your kids how much you love them. Keep God and Jesus on your mind and in your home and never take one minute for granted with them. I would give all my worldly possessions to have my dad and wife back to just be able to tell them I love them one more time.
“When my chores are through” really struck me. I lost my mama back in July 2016, very unexpectedly and she was only 66 years old. I still wish everyday for one more chance to experience her hugs and tell her I love her. I’m so sorry for the loss and deep pain you’ve had to endure. But as you’ve mentioned, we will see them again. They’re just beyond the veil and are waiting patiently to be reunited again. God bless you and give you comfort. 🩷
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I was not with my partner nearly as long.
He was my fiancé. Been together 5 years and I lost him this past Christmas day. We werent married yet (because I was stubborn and didnt want to get married in a court house. We are in our mid 30s each with a child and I wanted to make sure we had a proper home together for us and our kids and then have a small backyard wedding.) Call me selfish but after everything in my life and never caring about marriage, it was different with him. I wanted to walk down the aisle to the love of my life with our kids and closest family. He was my best friend, my other half. I was the only one by his side the last two weeks of his life. I understand feeling so empty and alone. The loss of your future despite the beauty of the past.
One of the songs i listen to most is that song by Colin Raye "if you get there before I do".
The love of your life is simply the love of your life. I am only 35. This wasnt supposed to happen until we were old and gray. Our kids are what keeps me going.
@@robertandkristinhall5006 "I'll meet her when my chores are through."
Love, me.
Yes I listen to it often. Love the song.
My bestfriend, my love, my wife, my angel. We were 15 when we started dating, she wouldnt go out with someone who drank, cause she was a Christian. She told me if I would not drink on those nights then she would go out with me. Then the first time I told her I loved her she told me she loved me also but, I had a choice to make, her or the drinking. Going on 43 years since I became sober. I loved my angel more than I loved the booze. She saved my life from alcohol and then she kept taking me to church, and Jesus saved my soul.
Her and God blessed me with two great sons that are both living for Jesus now.
She told me before she left me that she wanted me to find someone to love me and take good care of me. I told her, baby, you've loved me perfectly, I dont want anyone else. But she said "I dont want you to be alone." That's when it really hit me that I could loose my love.
Then the day before she passed, i was laying my head in her lap, holding her arm and hand. She raised up and looked at me and said, "honey, you have to let me go." I just looked into her eyes, she knew what I wanted to say, "honey I
cant, I dont know how." She said, honey you have to let me go, i have to go see my Jesus." I told her if she had to go, to go on that me and the boys would be ok.
She told me she had fought because I had asked to but she just couldnt fight anymore. I had to go into the restroom and cry out. The next day I lost her.
But I'm doing my best, I know she wouldnt want me to give up but, there are days when I am so empty.
Half of me, the best part of me, has gone on. And I'm doing my best to hold on till my chores are through. By the grace of God.
Through it all, God is still GOOD.
He gave me a love, a bestfriend, a wonderful wife, and two great sons.
I am still BLESSED. I just have to remind myself that I'll see her again as long as i hold on tight to the love that she and God has put inside what once was, this uncaring cold heart.
God bless you, I wish you joy and happiness.
Hang on.
My condolences to you..may your wife and dad rest in peace
My childhood best friend's Dad was killed when he had a farm tractor roll on him when we were 15. My friend saw it and could not get the tractor off his Dad. My friend was such a great student, great athlete, great friend and had a promising future. By the time we were 18, he had distanced himself from friends and family, quit all sports, started doing drugs, quit school, and was in/out of jail. I often tried to get him to talk about it, but he'd get pissed when I tried. Onetime, I had came back from college and stop by to say hello, his mother said he was on the run from the law and she hadn't seen him for months. She passed away shortly thereafter. It's been 40 years since that happened, and I have always wondered what happen to my friend and how his life MAY have been different had that event had not ever happened.
I grieve with you my friend . I lost my Dad when I was five years old . He was 34 years young . He died in a tractor trailer accident in the town of Tupper Lake , NY. He was hauling pulpwood at the time . I always went with him in the truck. Id love to see him come home with a load on the trailer . That meant he was going to the mill . He'd let me go to the mill , but when he came home empty I knew he was going into the woods and he wouldn't allow me to go into the woods . But that morning he wouldn't let me go . I didn't understand why . I said Dad you're loaded why can't I go ? He just said , not today boy. I remember crying because I didn't understand . I do now . He went over an embankment when he left the road . It took them about an hour to get him out of that truck. He had type one diabetes. The laws today say you can't have a CDL with type one diabetes. I wish they had that law back then . I miss him everyday .... I now am entering my forty year mark driving truck. He left this world way to early . I sure miss him. He saved my life that day . I'll always remember that . Thank you for letting me share my story . I'm glad you shared yours as well . Thanks Brother . We'll see our Dad's again Sir . That I'm sure .
My deepest condolences for your loss of your dad. Sometimes I think people are just somehow wired to get a feeling about that type of thing…a foreshadowing. Perhaps that’s what happened. He just got a feeling it wasn’t right for you to go that day.
I wanted to say that maybe it’s a state thing for you re: T1 diabetics not being able to get CDLs? A good friend of mine is a T1 diabetic & drives semis & has for decades. No issues. He just has to be cleared on his DOT physical each time.
Edit to add: we’re in MI.
Sorry for your loss
Sorry for your loss
@@tarantulady8565 as a T1D myself, who would very much like to obtain my CDL, it can be done but you basically have to show complete control of blood sugar levels, almost to FAA pilot levels. For T1Ds that is very hard, or impossible for most, due to the literal hundreds of things (most of which beyond our control) that effect blood sugars.
This is probably the most real thing I've seen on TH-cam in a long time. It takes a brave and real person to stand and deliver a message of pain and triumph. I appreciate and respect the message and thank you for sharing your heartache. Keep the videos coming because your people are waiting to watch.
Your shared most personal knowledge of your Dad has so affected me. I only wish I could do the same. Keep producing the great videos and this one is the best of all. You are an exceptional person in every aspect. 14:25
Sorry for your loss, I lost my dad suddenly when I was 15 and it’s the hardest thing that’s ever happened to me
Great testimony of your dad I’m sure he would be proud of you and the man you’ve become.
Thanks
Thanks for sharing Mike although we dont actually know each other you have touched me deeply lost my Dad 4 years ago he was 92 god its hard but mate your truly an inspiration ,yor Father would be truly proud of the man you have become oh mate after this teary moment we need Aaron to make us laugh😊😊
Kym
Adelaide
Sounds like him and ur mama installed in u some good wisdom.
Never be sorry for loving deeply and showing emotion. You are your fathers son, and he is proud of you.
@@Slubbernard 🎯👍✊️
You didn't have to do this. What an honor from a son for his father. We all so blessed to be worth sharing.
My father died in front of my brother and I. In 1978. I was 9 years old, and my brother was 11. We lived in a small country town, and of course, no 911. Wouldn't have helped. He died instantly anyway. He was crushed by equipment. We were also by ourselves, mother was gone to a teachers conference. The whole event tragically changed us and mom. Very tragic, very sad. Just identifying with you. Sorry for your loss, I get the debth of your loss first hand. Bless ya.
Jesus. I can't even imagine being alone in that situation at that age.
I wish it was my father..sorry for your loss!
@bastogne315 that's a very kind response. Thank you. What I wonder most are things like, how would I have turned out had he lived? Or I'm not good mechanically, if he'd have lived would I be more of a man, more adept at manly things? Would he have liked me? Would I have liked him? etc. etc. Anyway thanks for the kind words.
@@Marine1111-p5x don't know where you are in life, if your married, have kids etc. , the point is everything that has happened since that tragedy would be different had it not happened. Hopefully you have had many good things to look upon and be thankful for. I had something similar happen, when I was 11...with no one around to help, ran for 3 miles just to find someone, and collapsed. I still can't talk about it..but now I'm 55 with 6 kids a beautiful wife, and that's all I focus on now, and rather than think.of the what ifs I'm thankful for the what is.
@fabiobigfoot I'm 56, married with two grown boys. Both are successful. I joined the Marines out of college and deployed to Desert Storm. I'm a college graduate, a Christian, and have a wonderful life. God has blessed me. I do have trauma from that day, and it haunts me occasionally when I let it. But, despite that day when I was 9, I have been blessed. My mother became a highschool principle, she was a very strong lady. She raised me well. God has been my refuge. He sustains me. Without his grace, I'd be lost. Ironically, I teach crisis intervention training to police and fire personnel in both the academy and college. I also teach class called trauma affected veterans for the state of Texas and the federal government. Thanks for your reply, and concern, be blessed.
Thumbs up for telling the story Sir. It never gets easier but at least he went out doing what he loved.
@warrenbridges4095 My dad used to scoff at people who would say at funerals, "At least they are in a better place."
He was a firm believer that being alive was a better place than dead!
Tripple bypass in 98, stint put in 2002, 2 stints 2005 after a heart attack at the camp, 1/2 hour from cell phone reception, 1 hour from a paved road and another hour by ambulance to hospital in a snow storm. He "fell" in the bunk house where my brothers and I were at 130am! His nitro puffer was over 5yrs old and didn't even work!
On mothers day 2010, at the hospital, he had his heart stop 10+ times, each time he responded to treatment and came back, trey ended up putting an external pace maker on him through his leg. They left him on the respirator for the night so he could rest. After all that, the family, were trying to figure out if a DNR order might be best, let him go...
I went with the doctor....
Doc explained to him what happened the day before, all the CPR and advanced care he got. My dad being my dad, said "I was wondering, my chest is a little "tender"! We asked about the DNR order! He replied," I'm not going anywhere yet, keep doing what you have to"!
He had a great summer surrounded by family at our cottage eating all his favorite meals and sitting by the fire. He passed on September 30th. Even that morning, he realized he was in palliative care and tried to get out over the railing of the bed to get out of palliative care!!! Lol, fought till the end!
I believe it was pure stubbornness that kept him alive that summer!
He never complained about pain, ever! I'm sure if he cut an arm half off, he would wait for a drive to the hospital and walk in and say, "Don't mean to bother you, but could I get a doctor to look at this?"
That's just who he was...
Don't make em tough like that anymore!
Well said Warren.
I'm 72 years old I too lost my dad when I was 16 then I lost my son when he was 21 which has been 30 years ago as I watched I said and cried with you through the whole thing God bless you
I'm sorry for your losses
My condolences
🙏 Bless you Brother 😞
22 year later, just like yesterday...condolences forever
Hi Mike, Paul from England here. I just watched your post on your Dad's accident, very difficult but you did him and yourself proud...I lost my Dad in a road traffic accident 31yrs ago and the memories and emotions came flooding back.
Anyways, I love watching you and Aaron's antics and laugh uncontrollably at the banter - keep up the good work sir...
God bless you for honoring your fathers memory. Im 65 yrs old and still honor mine whenever anyone will listen. Piece to you and yours.
Until my father passed, I didn't believe there was such a thing as waves of grief. They would hit me out of nowhere and were totally uncontrollable.
I'm 76 and you just took me back to losing my father. I think I cried half way through your video to the end. I'll NEVER forget my dad and I know you won't either.
I worked with my Daddy in the late 80's when Hugo hit S.C. clearing storm damaged yards, rebuilding farm roads and clearing lots. About 2 years later we purchased a tract of ten year old pines and set in together sharing the cost of more equipment to clear the home lots, fields and roads through out the farm. As you said we butted heads a few times but ALWAYS forgave one another within a day or so. When you experience the highs and lows of working together, it really builds a special bond between each other. I was blessed to have him pass warm peacefully in his bed surrounded by his family ten days before Christmas in 2012 at age 80. I wiped my eyes several times listening to your story and feeling the pain you still carry with you, how could you not tell a story like yours and not tear up. I always worried about something like that happening to my father especially when he was in his 70's and I was working back in the Electrical industry. You are a better man than me for having the strength to share your story. I feel so badly for you having to find him like that. I'm sure you never pass that spot without remembering that tragedy. I pray God blesses you and your family with peace and prosperity and good health. Just subscribed also, take care.
Thank you for that story with a good ending, much needed
Dont ever apologize for showing your feelings it takes a real man to show true feelings my hats off to you
You know Dad is looking down on his Family and SMILING knowing he was raising a fine Son!!!! and Family.
You can bet your dad would be proud of what you have made for yourself and family. Thanks for
sharing Mike......
It's very courageous for a man to speak about their feelings in a safe place, let alone sharing with us on U-tube. I am really honoured that you think of us as family. Bet your dad was a real character and is looking down on you and is really proud of what you've all achieved in his name. 👍
Appreciate that
When it got to the really hard part i was already crying. Im going to keep crying for a few days at least. You and dad are worth that much.@DirtPerfect
Thanks for telling your story.
I think everybody has one that is emotional in one way or another. Wishta coulda, shoulda. But, yours is an awesome change of events never to be forgotten in your family. May you all in all ways , be blessed!
Mike, Thank you for sharing about your father. Please never apologize for showing your emotions. Men can cry
My deepest condolences to you and your loved ones. My dad was a diesel mechanic but a dozer operator to. He was put on a tractor at age 6 by my grandfather and made to quit school to work the farm. He actually left home to join the army, finished high school and become a diesel mechanic. He was certified with Detroit, Cummins and Cat. We lost him 3:00 am Christmas morning. He had been to a party at my sisters, he had a live cedar tree every year with a big train garden under it for us kids then the grandkids. We went there that morning, the lights from the tree were still only half on. He had complained to mom about feeling bad, she said he was pushing to hard, not to worry about the tree. He fell over she called my sister, and she run him to the hospital, but he had a massive heart attack before she got there. They tried to bring him back, but it was no hope. I had seen him take a dozer on exit ramps they were building near Baltimore, and it would run sideways down the incline. We did site work for a big hunting lodge, and he would get 3 inches from a brand-new cedar sided building never once did he hit it, I took the transit to check it and it rang every square foot. I saw him pull transmissions out of equipment and rebuild them right on site, he didn't like it, but his boss insisted. He had to drive an hour and a half, across the Chesapeake Bay Bridge everyday just to get to work, and then summertime worked 10-to-12-hour days then back, drinking CLC all the way home. He did that for 26 years straight, then got into a business with my uncle doing dozer work and marine construction. He drank like a fish, but I never seen him act out of line, he treated my mother like a queen, and always worked hard to support his family. I am proud he was my dad, and I miss him still today. We love Christmas because we know he would want us to, it was his favorite day. But he is still very missed when it comes around. Thank you for your post, i feel your pain.....
I lost my dad by a skid steer 1/4/2000. He was a safe man too. And from this day still don't how it happened. The bucket fell on top of him. Thanks for the video.
That doesn’t just happen
He must have got out of the machine with the bucket raised up. Many have been killed by that.....
@@user-rh9mh5kh3p Really! That's the kind of stupid remark you make to a man's death. If you had to say anything it should have been "so sorry for your loss". Same goes for those upvoting your comment.
Sorry for your loss, bro
Great example of how a man should talk about stuff. Beautiful my friend.
Never be sorry for speaking from your heart and being emotional. Thank you for sharing. I miss my dad too.
I’m watching this as a dear friend of mine since high school died two days ago. R.I.P. Keith K. Thank you for your compassionate story.
That pain never goes away Mike. Grief has no time limit. I cried with you today. Thank you for sharing such a tragic life altering moment of your life. God Bless
I can relate to this story in many ways. My dad had his own business and a lot of heavy equipment. These were his "toys". Sadly he was forced to sell them because of my brother's health and move out of state. I think that the loss of his business killed him slowly. In 2003 he died from heart failure, broken heart, at the age of 66.
I remember being up on his Cat HT4 many times with him. I also remember being on his Drott Yumbo where I was smashing cinder blocks. He was so so proud of that machine. He had bought it brand new, it was so new that they used his machine for their brochures on his job site. Yes I am old.
Yesterday I just celebrated 3 months , August 10, the passing of my wife of 28 years. The tears are fine, I am tearing up right now and have been through out the whole video.
God bless your dad. my dad and Suzanne, my wife.
You are 1000% correct, Grieving is not something you do naturally and can't be made to do it a certain way. Please don't apologize for emotions, they are part of grieving. You make a difference everyday with who you are today, because of the past. God Bless you Mike, your Dad is very proud of you and will see you one day in Heaven!
@@B717virtual_pilot well said
My condolences Mike, I've been there before. No need to ever apologize for anything brother ❤.
It is a process that we go through. Each of us deal with, handle it differently. You don't have to apologize. The ones who understand, understand.
We never forget our Dad, ever. They decided we should exist and help give us our purpose in life. You are a good honest man, Mike.
I feel your pain brother! My brother died February 3rd, 2013 around 9 am from a freak farm tractor rollover. I pray he felt no pain but I was the first family member to respond and see the tractor on top of him. 😔 still aches in my heart.
Dam man sorry for your loss
Sorry you had to go through that. My condolences 🙏
I can't even imagine what you went through - sorry 😞
He left this world doing what he loved and wanted to be doing. There's no one to blame, and his memory to keep alive. God Bless y'all, and remember the good times you had.
That's so true ❤. Remember every cloud has a silver lining ❤
DP, allowing people to grieve in their own way, and simply supporting them however you can is the greatest advice you could give.
It truly is the greatest advice. I know that people often mean well, but telling a person how to grieve or saying things like “they are in a better place now” can be so infuriating. Sometimes just being there to support someone and not saying anything, or just a simple “I’m sorry” is the best thing that you can do.
Absolutely
You are so right I lost my 21 year old son my only child 24 years ago and they can say what they want we never get over it I can't even imagine seeing what you had to see that day it is hard enough without having to see that.. God Bless..
You are a brave son, being able to relive that day and share your father's memory. It is something that is not easy. To live each day on the land he worked with you is doing him a great honor.
I lost my Father in a logging accident on our farm, 42 years ago. My Mother and 7yo self found him. Your experiences/feelings really hit home. ❤
Thanks for sharing your dad’s story. I lost my dad in a plane crash just over 5 years ago. I was also the first one on the scene. Everything you talk about from the beginning to the end is spot on. It’s nice to keep his story going as I have tried to do for my dad.
Keep up the great videos!
Belated condolences…🙏🏿!
It was really just a Farm accident. Quite common out in the country.
Your advice about respecting other persons grieving process....well taken.
God Bless you and your family TODAY. Live for TODAY .
It's what your Dad would want.
I lost my Dad to a tragic accident as well. He was a logger and in construction trades his whole life. He was moving a round hay bale when it rolled onto him and broke his neck. My whole family was there when it happened. He was paralyzed (quadriplegic) in the hospital for 6 months before he finally passed from pneumonia. I feel the pain as you tell your story. It really makes you realize how precious and fragile life is.
I'm so sorry.
Sorry for your loss
One of those bales is 600 to 1,200 lbs. It's no joke. Sorry that happened
@@maxwellbarnhart1375 yes. Any it had been raining, so it was wet. Estimated weight was 1400#
So sorry for your loss.
People often think "oh well they can just stay alive in a bed on life saving machines". They do not realize what actually happens. God bless you ❤
No apologies. You are a great son as was your dad a great father.
DP thank you for sharing, I agree 100% what you said about grieving. I lost my father to suicide right after I came home from my 3rd deployment to Afghanistan. I had a broken neck from a RPG hitting the unarmored vehicle we were in. I don’t know why he killed himself he was a great man a retired Post Master. I’ve lost men and great friends and as you were talking about grieving I grieved differently for each person I lost. I know how tough it can be but you and I are doing great i have no lasting problems from breaking C-2 thru C-5 in my neck and I was able to go back to Afghanistan for two more tours before I just got to old to operate anymore. I retired after 27 years. There is nothing you or I can do but live each day to be the best Person, Father, Husband, Son, or Friend that we can be and I know from watching your videos that you are knocking that out of the park. Thank you for sharing. I have a feeling that your Dad is looking down on you and is so proud of what you have done.
God Bless you Sir , thank you for your Service and my Freedom 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
@@johnorrock3241 You are most welcome, in a time where there is so much hate in our country if we only take a few minutes you can always find common ground. Unfortunately the majority of our country won’t take the time to find that which brings us together.
You sir, are a great man. We lost our mother to a hit and run accident years ago and my brothers and sisters and I are actually closer than before her death. Thanks for sharing, that's how we were able to continue her legacy.
I'm very sorry for the loss of your dad.
My god man don’t ever apologize for your feelings your reliving a horrible experience,
Sorry for your loss. I lost my brother. Fatal gun shot wound 12 years ago. I carried him for a bit until i realized he was gone. Then i lost my strength. I recently also lost my faith. Idk what our purpose in life is. I have a wife and kids so I've made them my purpose. I've experienced people telling me how to grieve, but worst of all days after my brother died i would carry my Bible everywhere and my extended family would tell that it was the wrong Bible and that i need to believe in the virgin mary. My aunt told someone that she better not hear me trying to tell her about Christianity because she's not afraid to hurt my feelings. It was rough. A friend of the family told them that they were nuts. "He just lost his brother!" She said. She was more family to me than anyone else. I've left it all now anyway. I feel like I'm healed from the tragedy. Thanks for your story.
A person needs to grieve how they can ,nobody can tell you how to grieve or what to believe in as far as religion is concerned. We never really heal from grieving,it just fades away for awhile. It's not up to us to judge people in what they want to believe. We that have lost a loved one, we move on slowly and we do the best we can in Life. So sorry for your loss.
We still need Jesus… He is the way.
@@XOXO-vd3bg Job had everything taken away because God made a deal with the devil. God said he was perfect. Where were the promises for Job? Oh , but God gave him more children after the trial was over. Why didn't God give Job the children that were killed? God the Father got His son back after 3 days. Wtf. If God wills that all be saved, yet not all will be saved don't you think he's shitty at his job? Jesus wants you to be serious about his words and if you say anything more than yes or no it's from the evil one. If you think a thought that might be temptation you've already committed sin in your hearts. Looking at a woman to lust or being angry with your brother are things that happen when you are tempted. Jesus took it a step further and made thoughts sins. If that's true then he's guilty because he was tempted also. In Ezekiel and Daniel or states that we will return to animal sacrifices perpetually, which means forever. That contradicts Jesus' sacrifice. No pastor will ever admit that. They'll try to explain it away. You better be glad Jesus isn't real because no one would make it. He will tell everyone that he never knew them. The problems of this world aren't ours to fix. The whole burden is for the so-called Creator to fix. He's the one that created it all. I'm more than 100 % sure that the God of the Bible Jesus and the Father are bull shit. God needs to punish himself for creating this mess.
God loves you and I am sorry for your pain. Praying for you. God is real and he is always with you pray to him he listens to all of us and cares for you.
Yeah, families can be nutso. When Gramps married Gram, one of the critters related to us said "Jerry, I never thought you'd sell your soul for a woman." With Death in his heart, Grandad reached up over the door and grabbed his shotgun. About then that cousin decided the scenery might look better somewhere else. Those two were married for Life. He was a good man, a farmer/farrier/blacksmith/neighbor/friend known around the countryside as "Honest Jerry," (Jeremiah) and I was named for him. Those were mighty big boots to fill, and it took me many years to learn to fill them. I'm an old man now, and I've buried the rest of the family. I've attended the deaths of most all of them too. Seems I always had to be there. It's never easy; even including one who outlived her goodness upon this earth. But I've learned that God's good timing is truly best.
I randomly came across this video for whatever reason... Thank you for sharing your story... Your dad's proud.... Until y'all meet again... I'm 60 years old, lost my dad when I was 13 under very different circumstances..🙏
Legacy has significant value.
My mom passed away last week in my dad and my arms in the driveway. Thank you for this I'm in tears right now for both your dad and my mom. Again thank you. God bless
So sorry for your loss I lost my mom.She was also my best friend.
And there is no getting over that
Mike, love from the UK. it takes a man to bring himself to go through putting this sad story out for the world to see. RIP Pa.
Prayers to you.. I know it's hard to talk about your father's accident. No one wants to relive such a tragedy. Thank you for sharing your story. The way you honor your dad speaks volumes, and he would be proud of what you have achieved! Thank you for addressing the area of not telling someone how to grieve. I lost so many people from my immediate family, but my recent loss of my son has devastated me. Forever heartbroken 💔 to say the least.
Sorry for your loss. It is apparent while you had your father, he did a good job in raising his family.
As a farmer my self who has knowledge of several terrible accidents, I understand your situation. There is nothing you could have done. The log may have broken loose unexpectedly and grabbed a piece of your father’s clothing, it happens. My father was driving a truck with a tractor in tow. It broke loose and crushed his brother to death. He never got over it. I wish you the best - nice tribute to your father.
and the WHAT IF.....
WHAT IF YOU SENT YOUR DAD ON TO THE REUNION LEAVING YOU BEHIND THAT DAY?
what if... could have been YOU/DP under that stump, OR something like a CAR ACCIDENT could/would have happened on the way to the reunion.... >?? when the tickets date comes up, the ''ride is over'', EVERY ONE HAS A FINITE AMOUNT OF ''TIME'' TO EXPERIENCE LIFE AND WHAT IT HAS TO OFFER..... we spoosed to stuff soo much GOOD TIMES into that ride that EVERYONE HAS HAD A WONDERFUL TIME!!
LOVE JOY COMPASSION
The what if,s are the hardest but nothing that anyone can do, it's destiny. Everything happens for a reason, good or bad. I'm sorry for your loss.
Thanks for sharing.sharing is caring.thks❤❤😊
I have no words… I just wanted to say I’m sorry for your loss and that’s a pretty powerful story and I can feel the emotion. As a father myself I can see it from both sides and I couldn’t imagine my son going through that or me with my own father. I live in Indiana myself and was an operator for the military and a year or so outside the military. Its a dangerous buisness for even the most experienced. God called his number and it was his time….. I’m sorry and I’ll pray for you and your family
My father had a massive MI in 08’ in his sleep and never woke up. He was 62. Had no idea it was coming. Had been working on his model boats the night before..pieces of balsa wood on the back porch and saw dust. People go to bed the night before planning the next day, the next month, the next year with absolutely no idea that that day will never come. Whatever they had planned will never get done and the world just keeps on spinning. That’s the tough part of life. Time, at that very moment, just stands still for them and anyone who loved them. They will forever be that age and we keep moving on until our day comes. I know my life was forever changed on that day and I’ll never be the same. I think about him everyday! All of a sudden, you’re the man and have to make all the decisions and they’re no longer there to ask, “What should I do?”. Stay strong and keep looking at the horizon my man….
What a powerfully worded tribute to your pops. I think about life from this viewpoint often. All the projects we have planned, things we want to accomplish....just stops in time.
@@TheSaturnVabsolutely. Time stands still and you will never get that time back.
I think about this verse in Scripture often. Proverbs 27:1 Boast not thyself of to morrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth.
We have no promise of tomorrow, or the future, but we can put our trust in the One who holds our future. :)
MI...do you even language
@@eduardosampoia5480 Myocardial Infarction... Do you even read? :)
It doesn't seem to ever get easier thinking about losing my dad! Ten thumbs up !!!!
Don't ever apologize sir.it was your dad. It's hard lost mine in 85.
Thanks for sharing, I lost my father when I was 16, and you have made me realize I really haven’t informed my kids just how neat my father was. Hang in there, my friend I get it.
Respect to you and your family sir
As an old man, I feel your pain. The "Don't tell me how to feel or grieve" hit me like a ton of bricks. I will remember that for the rest of my life. I hope everyone takes that to heart. Mike, I still grieve for my loved ones. And it is not easy to "Move On." You have a wonderful family. Outstanding friends. Just be Mike. Thank You for giving us the details of what has made you be the man you are today. Your Father is proud of you.
The Best thing to come out of this tragedy is that you are keeping your fathers memory alive! I also lost My father at a young age and I cherish every moment I was able to spend with him. Thank you for sharing you and your father's story. ❤
I'm so sorry for your lose. My dad was a heavy equipment operator too. He died in 1998 from cancer. Don't apologize for crying or being "sappy" . Sounds like your dad was a great man. Thank you for sharing your story.
When I lost my own dad, someone told me that from that moment, one becomes a different man. Godspeed to your dad, and please stay safe for your own kid's sake.
That is truth. Simple. Hard. Truth.
You do, no one is going to save you now or will want to see you succeed like he did.
You are a credit to your father, so brave to share such raw emotion, savour your memories of him no matter how painful. Respect from the UK
*"Don't tell people how to grieve!"*
Great advice!
A friend's son was diagnosed with cancer. He was busy/distracted with his son and couldn't get his lawn mowed. He reached out to the church family for help and myself and another guy cut it for him.
Just be there for people when they're grieving! Bring them a hot meal. Allow them to grieve! Grieving is a necessity step to getting your life back together! There's a huge chunk of your life that's either missing or completely rearranged! No one is going to have the same chunk changed the same way!!!
You are brave!
You are strong!
This reminds me, my grandma passed away almost a decade ago the day before Thanksgiving. My parents (especially my dad whose mom it was) were really devastated to the point they just couldn't function. Neither of them could get themselves to cook dinner for me and my 2 brothers. That night, despite no one asking, 5 different families from our church brought us dinner to eat, and given the short notice and the long cooking time of some of the stuff we got I suspect they sacrificed part of their own thanksgiving dinners just to help us out. It really helped our family out at one of our worst times.
When my husband passed away I wouldn't have wanted to be the person who told me.
I'm the one who had to tell his mother and the scream that came out of her was almost animal like. Absolutely the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life.
I'm 60 years old and tears in my eyes, I have lost many family and friends over the years and it never gets easier and all we can do is honor them through our memories and sharing them as best as we can..... John F.
Amen on the grieving. My dad passed away 3 years ago from cancer and I just wanted to be by myself. I had the honor of getting to work with him for over 30 years. So when we lost him, I lost my dad and best friend. I still work where we worked together, it's where I feel the closest to him. I feel for you Mike.
When you love someone and there life is cut short that pain and grief never fully goes away. God bless you and your family.
In my 75 years God has had me in a place of a lot of dying and death with so many different families including my own. You are absolutely right about advising others on how to deal with the grief. What I have learned is there are no words you can say to someone in that loss. In Galatians it speaks of bearing one another’s burdens. What I learned is we don’t have answers to life’s tragedies, but one thing we can do is to cry with them, perhaps hug them or hold their hand as you share their hurts and burden. Just being there with them and letting them deal with it in their way. Listen, love and listen more. If they ask you questions and if you have experienced a similar circumstances you can let them know that you are with them through whatever they are going through. Be a compassionate friend not worrying about not having g all the answers. You don’t, and neither does anyone else.
There is nothing more I can put into words other than "Thank You" for sharing this with us........ Your Dad would be proud of you DP
You are my hero, I'm 57 an lost my dad when I was 19. I would give everything up to have a brother like you.
When my grandfather was on his deathbed he told us grandkids not to cry. He reminded us that not only would he live in us by being family. He would forever be with us in the memories of him and through anything that reminds us of him. That land was all you and your Dad. Keep him alive in keeping the farm going.
Your Dad raised a great Son, I'm sure he'd be proud of you.
Mike I have been a paramedic for 40 years no matter how bad your dads injuries were he knew you were there....he looks over you and your family. Trust you are a good man and your grief is specific to you and no matter what was the ultimate cause he is resting in peace. You are his legacy. God blessed you with the time you had teach your children the lessons you find are important.
Your dad would be very proud of the man and father you’ve become Mike. ❤️
My dad died in 2018. He was a kind man, carpenter and farmer. I miss him everyday. But had another person who came into my life. He became a good friend and mentor to me. He was a horseman, a stockman and rancher. He learned to work horses from Tom Dorrence and Ray Hunt. They are legends in the horse world. He helped me restart the horse in my profile picture and let me tell you the beginning was a rodeo. This summer i was at a clinic with her and someone saw her in a nice lope around the arena. That person came up later and said "You know he was looking down on you and that horse with a big ol smile". I'm quite sure based on your demeanor that your dad is looking down on you and the life you live and smiling.
You have honoured your Dads legacy with this testimony and can only think you brought him comfort by being present with him.
Your words on grief are so right too.
The videos are important mainly because the voices of passed ones are the most precious.
❤to you and yours, you’ve done Frank proud I’m sure
Good morning Mike. Thank you for sharing this with all your followers on TH-cam. Blessings to you and family.
Thank you, I lost my dad when i was 15, I'm 30 now. I remember everything about that day. We need to love those that are here on this earth and show them how much we care before that day comes
There is absolutely no need to apologize. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Now we can all remember Frank.
Your a good man, smart, well spoken, kind, you have my respect sir
Mike, you don't ever need to apologize for how you feel or expressing your feelings. Your dad clearly cared a lot about you and I can tell he'd be very proud of all you've done. Your tribute to your father was beautiful.
Tragic. My Grandfather was fatally injured when he fell from a tractor and under a plow while teaching an operator way back in 1952.
I lost my Mother and my Wife's father in 2005 two months apart. I feel your loss. Although time passes we miss our beloved family members long after they have passed on.
Grieving the loss of your father is really a blessing. You were fortunate to have a father who loved you and that you loved. So many young people never experienced the love of a parent.
That's heartbreaking. I lost my dad recently, under devastating circumstances. Held his hand until he passed. I relate to your point about the need to allow people to grieve in their own way. I was REALLY pissed at other people's tone-deaf advice & suggestions. I heard everything , from seeking therapy, to heavily drinking, to exercising, to reading the Bible, and (especially) "talking about my feelings".. (My solution was going out in nature, alone).. thanks for sharing your dad's story. Sounds like he was a great guy!
Talk about one hell of a legacy. Your daddy would be proud of what you’ve accomplished. Thank you for sharing!
I pray that this video somehow gets back to Willy. What an important character in your life.
My dad's 86 he still drives his Daully he still pulls his 36 ft fifth wheel and he and my mom go on short trips I try to go with them every chance I can just to help him do the things that he used to do without a lot of effort and of course spend time with them my my thoughts are with you and I feel so blessed to have him still here to do those things with THANKS FOR SHARING
I randomly came across this video… but this is one of the most human videos I’ve ever seen that a lot of us men can relate to. My heart goes out to you and if you need another 40+ year old with a bad back and construction back ground to help out for a weekend let me know.
A little over 16 years ago, I was at my Mom's side, holding her hand, when she took her last breath, it was the day before what would have been her 66th birthday. Colon cancer stole my Mom\s life from her, and deprived me of what should have been, the rest of her life. Since that day, I have learned that it takes a real man to show his true feelings. To this day, there has never been a single day that I haven't thought of her, or how much I love and miss her. Watching this video brought on a rush of emotions that normally do not surface, but you and I both know and understand what it feels like, to watch one of our parents pass away. Since I lost my Mom, I have learned, the hard way, that, showing your emotions, getting choked up, and shedding a few tears on occasion, is perfectly normal, and perfectly healthy for your heart and soul. Those emotions, feelings and tears, remind us of how much we love and miss that very special person .Thank you for sharing your story. God Bless.
Much gratitude for allowing us to understand what happened and documenting a part of your families memories.
I have written before how close I came to losing my dad to a tractor accident when i was 9 years old. The tractor lost traction and went flying down the hill and before it made it to the bottom of the it strated tumbling end over endand by the grace of God dad was thrown clear. The tractor continued over a 50 clift. I got to have my dad with me until he was 78 years old. The tractor was rebuilt and I grew up on it and still have it today. Fully restored looking better than it did when it was new. I'm 80 years old and still enjoy using it. I cried with you as I listened to your story. Thanks for sharing it with us!!!!!!
What an amazing memorial to your father. I lost my Dad when I was 21 years old. Memories is all we have.