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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ส.ค. 2020
- Kenny & Jessica share how managing business finances bring up unique problems within their marriage.
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It's unfortunate that being at home taking care of your family has been so devalued. It's the most important job you can do. Your kids love when you are there for them and it helps to build strong adults.
Yes!!
Amen!
If you have school aged children(attending actual school) yes it should be devalued. How are you adding to the household by sitting at home by yourself.
@@Studio-ch3qc I can only speak for myself but I've done both. Working full-time and being responsible for managing my household did not produce my best results. Women tend to be responsible for more of the household duties and taking care of the children so when you work outside the home, you have two full-time jobs. When you stay at home full-time, then you only have one full-time job. Managing your home is a full-time job. When I was home, it allowed me to assist with field trips, volunteer at the school, have chores and dinner cooked, get kids to team practices, church activities, and not be too exhausted for sex at night. Not sure why you believe managing a household should be devalued. You are fully contributing to the well-being of your family. It's also a lot less stressful having one full-time job. You have better tolerance when helping with homework, you get dinner on the table at a decent time, and you get the kids to bed and enjoy time with your partner in the evening.
It only works if the man is not controlling and abusive.
She really looked out for him on the business side! Wow! Beauty and Brains..Very Smart!
She majored in Finance in college
“You’re a boss in your own right when you handle you’re business” Yes!! I am a stay at home mom. It’s so easy to get caught up in comparisons. But what’s best for your household? 👏🏾👏🏾
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A housewife is the most hardest unappreciated job in the world. Brothers take time out of your busy schedules for your wife and kids. Please show the love some appreciation. Show your family you care.
Men who slay the dragon, never understand your value as a Mom and homemaker. Men don't see your day to day. Being at home is not sexy, and is 24/7. Although you may love being home w your kids, it takes a toll
😅😅😅
She is beautiful 😍
I think it's her confidence and fashion sense shining through.
She is beautiful Indeed
Skin goals ❤️
Nina Star ... why can’t she just be beautiful? Why does it have to be a specific reason that makes her beautiful.. Sheesh. Not trying to come off rude or anything but I’m just tired of seeing all the she’s beautiful.. “..because her” and the “Only because of her..” comments like damn let the girl be.
She’s beautiful? She’s beautiful. That’s it.
Not if Not but Nor A why...
C’mon ladies we gotta start empowering one another, not bashes or criticisms or even limits for one another beauty...
I can think of younger prettier women. Her attitude make her older and uglier.
This lady is sooo beautiful!!
Living your best life doesn't mean that you're not working too, but be honest, a working, full time Mom is a HUGE job! Staying home with the kids while managing the business end of things is no small undertaking. So to minimize it by saying hey what I do makes your life possible, is just a load of misogynistic crap! Acknowledge what she does! Because absence from the home and lack of emotional support, and an unequal distribution of parental responsibilities is STILL happening. Even if what you're doing is technically work. Two things can be true at the same time.
A wonderful episode that actually displays the chronicles that couples go through as far gender roles, and roles that couples play in general in relationships. At the end of the day, we're all winners whether we're a stay at home mom, boss lady or a male breadwinner. All of our roles are important. 💯💯💯
She’s so beautiful
It's important to know your own strengths and those of your partner's and support them for the betterment of your union
First! Thanks you two for being transparent. She makes a good point--in the moment, it can feel off balance when one partner seems to be out "living their best life" so to speak because though it is work, within that, there can be some amazing experiences such as visiting interesting places and meeting cool people that can make the work fun also and the partner staying at home can seem to be missing out. In this snippet, it seems she was trying to convey that and wanted him to acknowledge that. I understand him wanting her to feel her role was truly important and that he didn't take her for granted but often times acknowledging someone else's truth and perspective can be healing to the individual (and the relationship). It would be interesting to see the interview in its entirety to see if the duality of both her and his experiences during that season of their marriage was acknowledged by him. Often times the acknowledgement alone can take a relationship to a deeper level.
You gracefully said some of the thoughts dancing in my head....space to just say and get it out can def be helpful...thanks 4 sharing!
@@goodvibezlogistics9312 yes indeed!
Church...Well said👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾! I agree 💯! My husband & I have been married 20 years & we have lived through & continue to live through this similar situation.I can’t wait to see the entire interview & show. Love this show! It shows great diversity in marital relationships. Because there’s definitely no one handbook, one class, one preacher, one married couple that does things the same. There are multiple layers & dynamics to marriage. Marriage is different to everyone & there are messages, experiences, & words of wisdom married folks can learn from numerous married couples (older & middle aged),divorced couples,relationship coaches, & pastors. Marriage is beautiful if u are with a person u genuinely like, love, & can grow with💗💗💗. Have an amazing day!
Lisa A. HighTower, I 2nd your emotion 💯%!
As a man when I hear a woman say "I definitely felt like he appreciated, I mean he definitely appreciated how what she was doing at home contributed to his/their success," how is he NOT acknowledging "the duality of both her and his experiences during that season of the marriage?" If the wife specifically spelled it out then surely I cannot be over r-reading that in some shape or form via verbal and in his actions, dude was acknowledging the significance/value of her role if he showed appreciation. I know the piece was edited and we didn't get to see the whole context, but I did hear her say that.
These two look so compatible ❤️
How is it that he heard only what triggered him, but not all the previous comments that she made? He became too defensive, instead of simply acknowledging her feelings as being simply her feelings.
Exactly because just before she said he was working and providing and if your doing what you love while working..its still living your best life
I agree. He has an arrogance about him that's not cool
Ego.
My ex husband of 20 wanted me to come up with the ideas and marketing for his contracting business. I supported him but I also worked a 9-5 and kept the house afloat and I did not have the creative edge. He resented me.
@@dijaworldworld3895 Glad you got out of there because he sounds abusive.
This was hard to watch. The way he recruited input from everyone else when she expressed she felt like he was living his best life was so unnecessary. She never denied that she said that’s what it seemed like he was doing so what was the point of trying to prove that’s what she said? He completely ignored the context in which she said it and what she was trying to express and focused instead on trying to prove a point.
What she was expressing was at the time she felt like all of the work when it came to the kids fell on her while he was out not having to make those decisions. It makes sense he would want to express that he wasn’t “living his best life” he was providing for them but how we went about expressing that was trash. This is the same man who said in another video he doesn’t believe in going to counseling because if they can’t figure out their issues no one can help them. He clearly needs to learn better communication skills. She’s beautiful, God bless her patience.
As a father of 4 and not growing up with one in my life probably made me more of a “ I just wanna work n come home” no matter how much money is out there, I’d rather be home. Creating income where u can do that is the most important goal. Most ppl get it twisted n think men want to work long hours or be away from parenting roles at home.
And what you are doing is how it should be done. I think that was her problem with him. I dont think he was living up his role at home.... A lot of time when one partner stays at home the other one kind of opts out of the everyday hardships or the household and parenting. Not saying they become totally absent, but they just do not do enough to support the other parent. I think that is why she said living his best life...
Her husband is cool😂however, she knows how to calm him down😉
I like them, no cookie cutter, cutesie fluff here lol. All that real work to make it work to keep the longevity. Everyone knows their parts to keep this going so strong. Respect ❤️
THANK FOR SHARING ❤️
I love everything she said!!
I'm a love love person and I love absolutely am so in love with your channel.. I love listening and learning from the couples.. Thank you guys for starting this.. It really lifts my spirit ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️✌️✌️spread the love 😍 😍 😍
These 2 are SHINING! Beautiful Khemistry. Divine, the way she gave him grace in her as she expressed her experience of him being away from the home responsibilities... How he honed in on her raw feeling of the same sentiment (although she had afforded him grace the first few times) though was a sign of (WORK AREA) 👁 she checked it though.
She’s flawless
19 years... Amen!! 🙌🏾
Tell the truth sis!! Classy👌🏽
Beautiful Couple and she seems very Smart 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Beautiful, deep , inspirational , makes you think and Lord I see you blessing your people , I'm your people too
He seems like a very strong, stern and stubborn man. He reminds me of a man I dated 😩
She helps balance him out
LOVE them!
She brings the work of parenting so clear, behavior,pta
Even though she said she loved what she did with the kids. It seemed like there was still some bitterness because he was building his brand. She was honest the whole time until that point. Even though u love your kids and will do anything for them your more than just that and u know it. That's why you feel a way about what he has going on. *******Balance****** Your dreams matter too
You can't have balance in every situation, sometimes you just have to push through the situation and like she said do what's best for her household.
What you are saying is unhealthy. You don't just keep pushing and u know you have things you wanna do to. That brings resentment. This is why she jab him by saying he is living his best life. Then she came back around listing all the stuff she had to do like it was chores and said she wouldn't change it for the world. The way she said it is not like a house wife who feels their living their best life. You can have balance in every situation if you are married to a team mate. Where both of you considers each other's needs. That way no one feels left behind. He might have to do his first and then she does hers. Otherwise if she doesn't speak up, she is taking care of these kids and feeling like her life is going down the drain.
@@hopesmith572 No what I'm saying is what works for some may not work for others which is why she said "she has to do what's best for her household". It's unwise to measure your success based off of what look successful for someone else.
@@lovingme1st973 We are just going to agree to disagree. Because I feel like I keep repeating myself.
This is actually common with a lot of women. Giving up their dream to take care of the household.
Gorgeous couple
She's unbelievably beautiful ❤️❤️
Good stuff.
I quite like this couple
She is very sweet
He married up.
No, he just married
twotimesspecial absofuckinglutely
Some of I/us with college degrees didn’t go to college “to learn something “me/we already know”, me/we went to college to achieve and accomplish something I/some Black people growing up in low income housing never thought me/we could do. Some of us/I didn’t have the influences around me/us to help me/us to think differently.
I wish people without degrees just stop it already 🙄
It’s not that we didn’t know, I/We just wanted to accomplish something dang...🙄
Speaking for some who feels this way 🤷🏽♀️
...and I get Narcissist vibes from ole boy 🤷🏽♀️
I think if she had said initially, He's out there living his best life, and it took me a minute to process that and realize that even though I'm home with the kids and handling the finance side of the empire, I'm living my best life too...he probably wouldn't have gotten triggered. Nice how they recovered at the very end.
But she wasn't saying that though. She was saying that he was living his best life and that didn't involve being a parent 24/7 especially the way women are often required to function irregardless of what their dreams, hopes, and aspirations of their best life may be in support of their spouse. He was working doing adult things whether that's paperwork in his hotel room in silence or having adult conversations or a business lunch/dinner with drinks. All of these are in comparison to parent life, keeping a tight schedule to wrangle kids all day every day, waking up early to make them breakfast, to get them bathed, dressed, hair done, then keep them busy with an activity that gives you enough time to make lunch or answer a few emails until they're distracted again and you need to find a new activity and so on & so forth till bedtime when you can work uninterrupted. His day could be waking up to go have a breakfast meeting prepared by a top chef and although it's work, it's not waffles eggs and sausages that you prepared for yourself in your kitchen for you and your kids. It is what it is.
@@MsKnowitall if that is not what you think she was saying....please explain her statement "and listen, I wouldn't change it, there is no place I'd rather be...in hindsight....but again that is the mental conditioning of watching your peers.." You can speculate all day about what you think his day might be, but they really didn't unpack that so...that's just you speculating. I'm going by what came out of her mouth...and if in hindsight, "there's no other place she'd rather be," than she was living her best life as well. It just took her a minute to realize it in real time, and articulate it in the clip.
@@charles6724 that statement sounded more like the mom/parent guilt that creeps in when you hear yourself say anything other than "i love being my with my kids 24/7"
Oh..okay, so you doing some serious interpretation of what she means vs what was actually said. The problem is, we have an edited shortened version here, so its hard enough trying to glean meaning from what we have here compared to someone trying to read between/behind the lines. Not saying you way off base, but there's just not enough in this clip to conclusively make that kind of a leap.
@@charles6724 fair enough its the psychologist within, but agreed it's definitely a short clip so there may be more context that is missing before and after it to complete the picture, but women of all races express this same feeling of frustration that Jessica expressed in this clip with regard to being a FT parent on the playground, going to PTA meetings, being home with the kids while your spouse is out living their best life. And like she said, in hindsight you can appreciate the role you played, but it does not negate those feelings of frustration at your partnerbeing gone living their best life while you are at home which is what she explicitly expressed in the video. There are so many articles devoted to "solo parenting" targeting wives & military spouses for example and you can Google her words "attitude husband traveling stay at home mom" and solo parenting and how to cope comes up immediately because this isn't just some theory I conjured up. It's a widely recognized phenomenon that people experience all over the world hence why i interpreted it as such. But like u said there may be more necessary context.
I agree with many of you. But this is the perspective many of you are missing and this is why it works for them! Not you! She is obviously a very headstrong authoritative respectable woman and a man without his personality traits would get walked all over. So although things can always improve I think they have found what they need. They simply keep each other in check.
Whatupdoe Bro I remember when you introduced me to your wife on the phone at the fireball in Detroit 2008 John Jenkins
"You can be married and be happy and fly as a MF"- Kenny Burns
Yall these couples share parts of their lives with you but yall dont KNOW THEM. YOU CANT KNOW THEM FROM VIDEO CLIP'S. some of yall up here swearing yall psychology majors telling them about them. If yall dont stop...
Missed all of it being obsessed with her
Something don’t seem right here.....
Yeah, the elipsis. (...)
Yes she gives him an angry look like from pain Sexy beautiful couple but it’s a lot of pain within them I’m surprised they have been together for 19 years!
@@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473 the pain may stem from the business season and it really doesn't allow a man like that to fully grow up there's a adolescence to that hip hop music game.
@@404Miiks Haha
Because of 2:54..?
"That's B.S. 😏,
That's Your F'n Wife", 😱 Well he cusses!! 🤭
I can sense the resentment that thru the course of their marriage, he was pratically "on the road" too often so she had to be both parents to their then small children. For him, he's such an aloof and insolent for not tag teaming so she can work on herself.
Case in point, she wearing too many damn layers that says weak and unsure. Also, I disagree that in a family construct that couples should always have a "team" strategy on rearing children. Your children are not to be up above than the marriage.
A lot of judgment and sofa chair psychology going on here that is based on what someone thinks vs. what was actually said. This is a teaser trailer for the upcoming season that was tremendously edited for promotion. You may think you know how to read them....but if its solely based on that little clip...which was designed to make you want to see the full clip so you can truly understand their dynamic...unless you really "know" Kenny & Jessica, you really don't know.
“Too many damn layers”? LMAO. You don’t know this woman from Adam, but have the nerve to associate her sitting comfortably on her sofa wearing a cardigan as “weak and unsure”. Cut it out.
It is rough parenting young children by yourself. While she is at ho,e she is managing the finances and cleaning up his credit. All he had to do was go to work. He needs to be A LOT more appreciative of this queen that he got
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I like he snapped on her.And then she snapped him back in line.Too cute.
She looks like Nia Long.
I was thinking that when watching the other clip of them, they could pass for sisters.. 💯💯💯
That's you allow satan to send those demonic thoughts
Wooooooooooooo how do you men do it???????? The fuckin sound of her voice would drive me RIGHT into alcoholism
Y’all are acting y’all relationships are squeaky clean smh
Some women want power and control so bad that they will sabatoge a good situation. If yall in business together and he's a beast in business stfu and let him win. Damn...there's only one MVP on a championship team. Play your role and stay in it and like Scottie Pippen witnessed MJ will lead you to 6 rings.
But a marriage is not a GAME, nor is it MEN only, nor does it have an off-season to recover from the pressures ... and that very woman that you want to shut up may have in her mouth what you actually need to win. If either party in a marriage devalues the work put in by the other long enough, the marriage and generational legacy will be doomed -- both need to be MVP in their roles and need the other partner's recognition and support.