Debra Fileta: Addressing the Root Cause of Your Anger | FULL EPISODE | Better Together on TBN

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  • @jewelzinbox
    @jewelzinbox 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

    People can debate if God is real or not but they can't take away your experiences with Him. There is no doubt in my mind that God is real and He sees me. This morning, I stayed home from my life group because of anger. I cannot fake what I'm feeling so I didn't want to bring that this morning to the group. Especially because what I'm going through has been talked about with these women several times before. I felt ashamed that I was once again dealing with my anger. I know that's good and bad to stay away from the community but today it was good because just as I asked the LORD about how to deal with my anger, this popped up. It had been posted 12 minutes before I asked Him for help. I cried from the depths of my soul and it was the cry I needed. This episode is full of Godly wisdom and wonderful action steps to take to unravel the roots of anger. I thank God for speaking but also for these precious women of God who were brave enough to share parts of their lives with us.

    • @TDJ8329
      @TDJ8329 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Thank you so much for your brief message… It’s good to know I’m Not alone and I have been praying about this and staying isolated because I’m really dealing with this ❤🙏🏾

    • @sabrinacampos857
      @sabrinacampos857 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Exactly

    • @shelleybouldin
      @shelleybouldin 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ephesians 3:14-21 speaks of this. I pray this over my children. And over people who are seeking God. As well as those who simply want to believe but can’t for whatever reason.

    • @donnadallariva8377
      @donnadallariva8377 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Absolutely, Amen 🙏

  • @roslyngraham5883
    @roslyngraham5883 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    This is just what I need bc last night God showed me my anger and jealousy issues. Thank you sisters for your transparency and honesty and rawness

  • @UnpopularAdvisor
    @UnpopularAdvisor 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Depending on who the anger is toward, it can be a challenge to control. I feel that the anger definitely seems more powerful when it is with a person I care about or have close relations to. I seem to be able to pause when the anger or frustration is with someone outside of my personal life. Probably because the people closest to my life know how to press my buttons, why they would want to do that is mind boggling. However, it is up to me to control how I react. I need to learn what triggers me when constantly encountering those certain people.

  • @OhItsSiennaFaith
    @OhItsSiennaFaith 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Thank you for addressing this topic today. I need to heal from unspoken boundaries and the grieve from feeling I won’t be provided for when I say no. Please help us Jesus to be empowered over a slave mentality so we can function from rest on a permanent basis

  • @roslyngraham5883
    @roslyngraham5883 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I don’t know how to deal with conflict and have the hard conversations. I don’t explode. I just let things go. I do go to God & cry out to & I really try to pray through it but there are still unresolved issues. Thank you again so very much. It’s like I smothered some things but not dealt with them. Help me Jesus

  • @viktoriastelmakh-to1mv
    @viktoriastelmakh-to1mv 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    This is such a powerful message! I actually got delivered while watching this program, I felt like something left me and tears went down my cheeks. I feel joy and peace in my chest area. I know now that the anger inside of me was from the hurt in my past. Thank you Lord for making me free 🔥❤️

  • @patjohnson2220
    @patjohnson2220 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Thank You Holy Spirit for this powerful truth.

  • @laurennicholsofficial
    @laurennicholsofficial 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Great pearls. Anger leading to sin takes too much energy. Surrendering my emotions to God and navigating my anger has been helpful. Thank you ladies!

  • @NakaggwaGorretPatience-dc6pt
    @NakaggwaGorretPatience-dc6pt 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    🙌 Thank you Lord, please help get rid of anger issues and fill me with your peace and love, Amen 🙌🙏

  • @jpope1981
    @jpope1981 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Thank you ladies for being vulnerable for the purpose of the betterment of others. You aren’t alone. We have these experiences too ❤

  • @breaunger5286
    @breaunger5286 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    As a single mother an adult orphan in my 30s, I glean so much from BETTER TOGETHER. ❤ It's become the very thing that has strengthen me from hopelessness and now it's shared with my kids father, my little sister, my younger cousin. I lost myself and I found their the pain this holy comfort and peace as I journey their the unknown. My hope is coming back. My life is looking more Christ like. My grief has been unpacked and is still being unpacked as I'm watching major transformation. I can't thank you enough for this ministry. I pray you are all so very blessed. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being my Godly council when I didn't know where to turn.

    • @zanetaivery1685
      @zanetaivery1685 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sis, keep seeking His wisdom and healing. So beautiful that you are a living testimony to Jesus’ transformative love.💜

  • @LS-cr2ek
    @LS-cr2ek 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I am experiencing this also with my son. It was to the point in one season when i pick my son up from school and right as im putting the key in the door my son say. Mom has was your day good or bad. When he got a older like a year or 2 later he now say stop yelling at me. So now since im aware of his feelings even in my pain and from how i was yelled at as a kid. I dont want to be like that with my kid. So im grateful my child was able to express this too me. Thank you everyone this is really a sensitive conversation

    • @alwaysloved6349
      @alwaysloved6349 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I too have heard that from my kids and I’m currently struggling as I type I have made strives towards improving myself but sometimes it’s tough to navigate the healthy way of expressing myself especially when I’m already stressed out and overwhelmed! I know by watching this it will enlighten me as to what God says and confirm I’m not alone!!! This was much needed I know God will pull you and I both out of it! I don’t want to be like this either😢I love my children so so much and I know when I get angry it hurts them but once I realize what I did wrong it hurts me even more…

  • @sharwis1468
    @sharwis1468 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I didn't come by this episode accidentally. Thank God for His Holy Spirit. He has enabled me to understand the reasons for anger. A loving, not a condemning, Father, but one who wants me healed and free, forever! Praise God.

  • @magicmya
    @magicmya 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thank you ❤ this conversation is a wonderful blessing

  • @vroruth
    @vroruth 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Ladies, thank you so much for this amazing episode! I have had an anger issue for as long as I can remember. I never understood why God would not take it away, no matter how much I prayed and rebuked it. I learned so much, and now I know I can begin my journey to learning how to control my anger. God bless you all!

  • @godisgreat982
    @godisgreat982 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Wow, God is good I was praying about this topic and I saw the notification right after ❤🎉

  • @joanneregan787
    @joanneregan787 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you sistas.. I have unresolved anger..I am aware of it and of course it's stems from childhood.. I was not allowed feelings so I was always crying from anger.... enormous responsibility as a child..again thank you ladies God is using these sessions with you 5 specifically.. I am so grateful he is going to help heal me. 🙏🙌

  • @rosewright-scott5469
    @rosewright-scott5469 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Yes there’s a big difference between responding & reacting!!

  • @BrennonOne
    @BrennonOne 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    AMAZING discussion. Had me looking in the mirror the entire time. Never heard anger discussed so intently. Thank y'all for this.

  • @nicolamair6549
    @nicolamair6549 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I lost it yesterday at famiy and loosing it at work. Then the next day this came up. God is definitely trying to tell me something

  • @Tiffy-d7j
    @Tiffy-d7j 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is deep spiritually is positive powerful

  • @ginaulloa1828
    @ginaulloa1828 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Quiet and Calm that's what I'm working on for myself as God has me going through a very tough season 🙏 it has not been easy after 30yrs of marriage. God is definitely working in me and God convicted me that I had to apologize which humbled me and after apologizing, what a difference it has made, thank you God 🙏

  • @09bclement
    @09bclement 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The more I walk with the Lord, he brings clarity that I need to address my temper. Toward my kids especially. Anger is a 2nd hand emotion !

  • @natashab706
    @natashab706 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for talking about how anger internalised can manifest as depression and bitterness.

  • @emilyn7572
    @emilyn7572 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Amazing discussion and trinkets of wisdom.
    On a side note: beautiful yellow earrings.

  • @RiseUpTheKingdomOfGod
    @RiseUpTheKingdomOfGod 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Hallelujah!🙏🏼Thank you Holy Spirit for this much needed conversation that is much needed we praise you lord! Help me God that anger does not take me out help me to heal from anything hidden inside my heart continue to help me take everything to you when I’m upset and hurt and wash me clean from within help me to be more Christ like in Jesus mighty name I pray amen! Thank you woman of God❤

  • @takera7
    @takera7 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    this episode brings total awareness. I love it, thank you for this.

  • @Evelyne888
    @Evelyne888 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Love it love it love it. Thank you soooo much for this discussion ❤💃😘

  • @adalainechoi2641
    @adalainechoi2641 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much for this conversation ladies! We appreciate all that you do for Gods kingdom! This has helped me greatly 🙏🏾❤️

  • @jeaninerichardson7179
    @jeaninerichardson7179 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is such a much needed 🙌 message of Revelation. I believe from personal experience that we've got deep seated anger festering within is because the LORD implores us to worship Him in Spirit and Truth, but we steadily lie saying that we're good when we know we absolutely are not!!! Its sometimes intermingled with unrealistic expectations or expecting you out of others, and/or lingering in one sided relationships, and not setting healthy boundaries. It can also stem from our brokenness & rejection whereas we're overdoing things driven by our people pleasing which many times can be incessant unfortunately. What we don't identify or acknowledge cannot be dealt with because the lies 🤷 we tell and ignoring the Proverbial elephant in the room. We desperately need the Holy Spirit absolutely 💯% 😫

  • @UnpopularAdvisor
    @UnpopularAdvisor 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You ladies all look clean and crisp 🌸 absolutely pleasant. The woman with the green pants look so cute, my fav look. Thanks for this message 🙂

  • @donaldschaefer6860
    @donaldschaefer6860 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you ladies for this discussion. I have struggled with anger in the past. It may have been tied to grief. Actually, listening to the discussion was comforting to me. I learned a lot today

  • @nitabangar4676
    @nitabangar4676 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Listening a minute in and already blasted by this talk !!!!

  • @rachelwebster9933
    @rachelwebster9933 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I have no anger just tears

  • @daedae181
    @daedae181 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Alexandra for sharing your story . I had just paused the video and apologized to my daughter alittle before you shared your journey with your son. It was me and my daughter that I had a hard time with. I just thank you mm for being vulnerable.

  • @TamaraPearson-c9h
    @TamaraPearson-c9h 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I am so blessed by this i do struggle with anger.

  • @LS-cr2ek
    @LS-cr2ek 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You are on point Debra

  • @lesamoloi2045
    @lesamoloi2045 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love spending time here ❤

  • @laurac5021
    @laurac5021 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I need healing. I need freedom.

  • @josieannbernard638
    @josieannbernard638 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks Sisters in Christ; Always a Message listening to Better Together. I have learned and still learning to take my Anger to Christ and It is really Changing Me because He Who already knows will show me the Better Way to deal with it. Blessings to you, All❤

  • @lindadillard-mn3un
    @lindadillard-mn3un 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So true thank you 🙏🏽 for this amen 🙏🏽 praise God

  • @roslyngraham5883
    @roslyngraham5883 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This has been such a blessing to me

  • @tolufavour
    @tolufavour 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I really needed this

  • @karenegraycook8904
    @karenegraycook8904 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    A better understanding of my emotions.

  • @TenaciousB20
    @TenaciousB20 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Bless you ladies! This was excellent

  • @moniquetreasure9083
    @moniquetreasure9083 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    So many good nuggets!

  • @kav7218
    @kav7218 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Since being married I’ve been trying so hard to find the emotions that’s beneath my anger. I don’t want to be the stereotypical “angry black woman” I realize that a lot of it stems from fear. Fear of being hurt, fear of the past repeating itself. I never experienced this while dating my husband but being married now is showing me that all the issues I pushed under the rug years and years ago have to be dealt with.

  • @chandracoleman4911
    @chandracoleman4911 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for another great episode!

  • @nakyanzijosephine3042
    @nakyanzijosephine3042 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I pray that God will heal me of my anger

  • @shanellstrehlow7110
    @shanellstrehlow7110 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you ladies.

  • @jescajuma2590
    @jescajuma2590 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you ❤️

  • @sheilakgasa3271
    @sheilakgasa3271 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    “I sat with my anger long enough, until she told me her real name was grief.” C.S. Lewis

  • @amandakate1247
    @amandakate1247 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You can’t have the marriage you want without loving the marriage you have 🎯💯

  • @willarolen7581
    @willarolen7581 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love that she brought up about dealing with a child with anger issues!
    I didn't teach my children to turn the other cheek, because that allows bullies to keep picking on them. I started getting involved in the life of the bully, because they have an underline needs or issues at home that they don't know how to express, so they take it out on others. A unloved child sees a child being loved by their parents and they don't understand why they can't receive that love and support from their parents, they start acting out in schools and at home. I was a nanny for 31 years and I had to intervene, because the parents wouldn't. That is why children go to school with guns and shoot schools up because parents won't get involved. I told one little European girl you better keep your hands and mouth off the child I take care of. Her nanny said that her older sister bullies her at home and I said I don't care what goes on in your house, but this little girl, you don't mess with! I wasn't afraid of getting fired nor the little girl parents confronting me.🤔🤔🤔

  • @LS-cr2ek
    @LS-cr2ek 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Faith cho yes honey everything you said

  • @Beatrice.Sirleaf
    @Beatrice.Sirleaf 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank God for you ladies. I was blessed from this message.
    Thank you.

  • @kellyhatzo2301
    @kellyhatzo2301 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Trying to get past church hurt, that has lead to anger.😢 any advice

  • @тимяє
    @тимяє 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That’s the thing I don’t know what triggers my anger😩 I feel like it just comes on and then I’m ready to explode

  • @LS-cr2ek
    @LS-cr2ek 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yesss unresolved conflict because the person is still childless and still want to stay in pettiness and i unfortunately have to deal with this person because we have a child together and he likes to be a bully for 12years and this is so irritating which has turned into depression etc (because nobody is helping me and my child and the courts dont care about his actions )because I cant react. What if the person too childish and abusive to sit down with???

    • @Peacebewithu34
      @Peacebewithu34 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Pray to God for justice

  • @paulmin8579
    @paulmin8579 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for graceful sharing. !!
    The way to get out of anger is through faith in the gospel.
    The Gospel is Jesus Christ in me who has come as a mediator of the New covenant and fulfilled a Second covenant in me made with Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.
    (Deut.30:6~14)
    If you believe in the true gospel, you can see the Lord and hear the Lord's voice in you and be free from anger because the Lord gives you mind of Christ.

  • @TamaraPearson-c9h
    @TamaraPearson-c9h 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @WisdomSeekersofChrist
    @WisdomSeekersofChrist 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    😭😭😭💔💔💔🙏🙏🙏🙌🙌🙌

  • @LS-cr2ek
    @LS-cr2ek 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Debra where is your information to call u for a appointment

  • @rochellekendrick1416
    @rochellekendrick1416 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Respond vs React

  • @pdw4210
    @pdw4210 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I realize I was angry because I didn't feel loved as a child after I received Christ as my Lord and Savior