"I'm Busy" is code for "I'm just not that into you," or "I'm busy dating other people." The moment a man tells me that shit, I'm OUT. I stop calling and contacting. I'm not here for it. Unless you are the CEO of Microsoft, Obama or a world renowned brain surgeon, ain't nobody that damn busy. If somebody truly wants to see you and get to know you, THEY WILL MAKE TIME FOR YOU. Bottom line. Get into it.
personally i think you're very old fashion, and you need someone similar. I can tell by your personal videos you have a big heart, very much into family values, you're down to earth. what you see, is what you get. lets be honest not many people can take "someone being real", always honest and out spoken. YOUR GUY IS WATCHING OR WAITING, JUST A MATTER OF TIME.
I watched/listened to this video 3 times while I was in the grocery store earlier tonight. Most of us single ppl can relate to you because the dating pool sucks right now 😥 But I did bust out laughing when u threw shade at one of ur exes for acting funny. I love these videos !
I'm a single black heterosexual woman and I have the same exact problem and feel the same dam way!!!! So cheer up Justin our prince coming ONE DAM DAY!!!
That's what I admire about you Justin. You give your truth from your heart. I can relate bc as a divorced mom the silence can be very loud at times, but I wouldn't trade it for all the bs and games men play. I spend the time enjoying my own company and being a better me. It will come when it comes.
I'm on my 3rd year of being single baby so don't feel bad. I just won't accept bullish*t from anyone. So if that takes me being single OH WELL. I've been watching your videos for awhile and I will say you're an attractive, smart, genuine man. Any man or woman will be lucky to have YOU. 😉
Chile, this video touched my spirit! I have been sayin for the last three yrs "my next relationship will be my last". I've been single since 2008. Its hard out here Justin, even for us str8 ppl. Everyone deserves happiness. Until someone else comes along to contribute to your happiness, u gotta do what u gotta do to make sure u're happy. I love that u made this video, u said everything i'm always thinkin about relationships.
I feel so sorry for you. you have so much to offer and your better than the treatment these men are treating you. i hope you find the man of your dreams.
Justin you are handsome, you have a sense of humor, and you are striving to do better in life. There is nothing wrong with you.you are looking for something of substance and to be quite honest that Is hard to come by these days.Keep your head up and that special one will come into your life😚😚😚
I think ppl only care about sex...sex....sex nobody wants to get to know u i'm so glad i'm engaged to a guy that I've been dating for 7 years we had our ups and downs but we finally where we need to be..but when I was dating I hated it..we get in an argument I've learned i'm not going anywhere...ain't nothing out there smh...ur going to find someone ur a great person Justin
We're really not all that different (gay/straight)...I'm going through the SAME THING YOU ARE! I want to build a real connection with someone but every time I try and let someone in a little in about 2 weeks they've either disappeared or showed me that I cannot trust them. Smh....
I am beautiful a black woman and I totally understand. Heterosexuals have the same problems. Since there or so many women out hear willing to deal with anything, men will flock to them . Communication is definitely needed. After 3 months we should know if we want a relationship. Most people avoid communication because they are trying to have their cake and eat it too. Those are warning signs that I dont ignore. So hang in there. The right person is out there, you just have to dig through the bad ones to find them. When you have standards and know your worth the lames will always be intimidated.
Without a doubt you are a handsome young man..I believe that when your not looking that's when love will find you. But you must be willing, it's often times where our "no list" overshadow the love God has loosed for up.. all our no fems or fats, only blacks,Spanish, whites..etc are love blocking. God may have sent the men we need but we over look them looking for the men we want and placed them in our friends pile. We have to stop letting our preferences prohibit God's promises. I hope this helps.. Much love keep up the great job.
This video speaks to me on so many levels, but I've realized that as a 20 year old I have lots of time to find that. Thanks for being so honest as always. 😘
You ain't the only one... ive accomplished alot and now...I wanna share it with someone. ... Crazy. ... I agree May Not Be Built For This Generation. ..
Justin, you never need to question whether you're attractive or not; you are! You know how shallow and visual gay men (men in general) are and how obsessed we are with body image. I can promise you if you were chiseled and cut up and dressing and acting like "trade", dudes would be beating down your door and blowing your phone up. But you have a natural attractiveness...handsome face and fun personality...anyway. You really are a cutie, Justin! But as I said, I think you are intimidating to most dudes, whether they say it or not...because you're so outspoken and honest! But you're *genuine*, and like me, you probably love hard when you do love, and because of that, you probably won't ever fit in with the typical gays but when love does come your way, it will be REAL and it will last...even if not forever, it will last long enough. As I said, just work on yourself, bro, and work on being more confident (not arrogant), as well. You are already very confident, but you still may have more (attractive) power than you think. You're also very busy, which isn't necessarily a hindrance (as long as you're managing your time well), but when you get to a place where you can maybe even delegate authority and you have more free time for yourself, study self improvement while working on your body, too (not just lifting weights but diet/nutrition, maybe calesthenics, yoga, meditation, as well). And when you come into your power/potential, you will attract the people you want and those who's energy isn't on your level, they'll be too low for you to even attract; you'll only attract those on your level.
Justin this video really touched me to the point that I cried, because I have felt exactly how you feel. I love this intimate justin video, and I really hope you do more. You can vent as much as you want and although I'm not a close friend, just know that I'm a subbie who cares and appreciates what you do very much. You are a wonderful guy and your man may not be in Memphis but he is out there for you, you just need a change of scenery. Stay positive boo! (Sorry for the novel I wrote...lol)
I have shared with him months ago that I find him attractive, enjoy his wicked, yet candid humor, his refreshingly truthful commentary he provides on a day to day basis for his supporters. I would love the opportunity to get to know him. Yes, I'm in Savannah, GA but who says I can't travel. I like you Justin and have liked you ever since I came across your first video. Maybe it's time to step outside of the box.
Justin, I can respect the fact that you even felt vulnerable enough to share your feelings with us. Your videos normally give life and keep people going who could very well feel the way you are feeling now. So if I can't speak for anyone else, I can honestly say that I care. But I want you to truly realize your worth and understand that having standards makes relationships harder to come by. Especially in this day in age when everybody is down to do whatever, whenever, with whoever. So, just keep ya head up. Your knight in shining armor will raise when you least expect. ( Is it me or did that last part sound like it came out of a fortune cookie or sumn?!)
Baby it's not just hard for you, but everyone. .I'm single and I don't mind it really but I won't accept bs!!! We're just picky and that's a good thing!! There's nothing wrong with knowing what you want
Hey Hun I feel you I have been there, I just want you to make your mantra "I do not compare myself to anyone else, I define myself, what is for you may not be for me right now, things will happen for me when it's time" .... Don't compare your situation right now to no one else's marriage or relationship.... I was single for five years before I fell in love again, you are still young honey... this is JUST one PhASe In your life..u WILL be happy again.
You said exactly what i was thinking.. It's so hard to find someone who actually want to get to know you these days... I just keep on believing there is someone out there for me....
Damn Justin I feel the pain all the way over here. I wish I could get my married and coupled-up friends to get that this single life is effed all the way up!!!
Awwww this touched my heArt forrel! I kno u dont need all this advice from strangers u jus wanted to open up and release some things. And be vulnerable. And Seeing that vulnerable part was beautiful baby. Good luck!
Do not be discouraged Justin!!!!! In due time God will bless you with the person who is right for you. Be patient. God did not bring you this far to leave you.
Justin you are such a light that not even time can dim it. Trust me your Mr. Right is just waiting for a good pair of sunglasses.. You deserve your happiness because you give so much joy, I know it's coming :-)
Its so crazy to me how the single men are great guys and are looking for someone to build and grow with. And all the guys in relationships dont value the ones they have. I cant seem to wrap my head around why this is. Its sad when you have someone who you are willing to give your all to and build a solid foundation with and they dont reciprocate. Money is an evil in this world that ruins many relationships and have people looking down on others. Love is Respect, Support and Understanding amongst other things. Its a sad state that people dont get it and arent willing to.
Justin you better preach hunnie!! I feel you on everything that you are saying. It must be black men in general bc I be going through the same things with these dudes. I'm a big chick so I feel like these dudes think they be doing me a favor by talking to me but I'm like just like I got you I can get some one else. I'm not chasing no dude if you want me then you'll show it if not then bye. But I'm feeling you on everything you are saying. Everyone I know have kids and a man and here I am single with no man in sight. But we're going to find our man don't give up bc I know I'm not
Awe Justin I love youuuuuu...I totally believe ur man of ur dreams is around the corner. You are everything that a man could want and desire, you have a wonderful personality, ur funny, compassionate, hard working, level headed, and a very handsome clean cut man might i add.Never second guess yourself and think that maybe something is wrong or maybe ur not handsome because u are. You make me wish I was a man so I could make u happy but honey I got a "snatch" and u ain't checking for it honey. But in all seriousness Justin you deserve the very best and believe me you the man of ur dreams is perfecting himself for your arrival.
Aww your amazing and you made me want to cry bc you are so real. I'm a straight woman and feel the same way as you- I wish you all the luck and know it will come soon!:)
Justin thank you for being honest I felt like that Amenia days when I was your age I shamed of the person I was dealing with because they really weren't committed to me but I wanted to be committed to them but you just keep doing what you're doing so that you're ready when Mr Right comes along. And please remember Mr Right doesn't always look like Mr Right. So keep both eyes open . I hope you feel better
You are ON IT!!! I always stress COMMUNICATION!!! I cannot read your mind....and your actions speak so much louder than the words you speak...or make the choice not to speak. I had a friend once that I thought was really close.....but clearly I hold personal relationship more importantly than most people do. When this heffa told me that she knew I was alright because she checked on me through FACEBOOK!!! -_-? HEFFA SAY WHAT?!?!?!?!?!
Texting is the devil!!!!! So of these girls and guys out here straight or gay do not know one thing about communication!!! Texting someone day and night is not cute,it's actually annoying. Also most people know nothing about the art of conversation they ask the same thing every single day!
Hang in there, Justin. Keep having standards and the bs will weed itself out. A lot of ppl don't have real standards when it comes to relationships and that's why they are unhappy now. Sounds your age I had those same frustrations. When I turned 28 somebody that I'd known for years came back into my life and we took a chance on each other. So there may be somebody in your life that God is staging them to be ready to come to you correct. You're handsome as shit and you have a bomb personality, etc, etc. It'll pay off in the end.
Justin you're looking good! This video is on point. You said exactly how I feel. I've been single for 6 years. It's even harder for me because I am bisexual. I don't want both at the same time but people seem to think so. There's no commitment issues over here. I just want to be loved and given a fair shot. I understand you completely...
Trust and believe that everything you said and referring to at the end of your video has touch me as well. It is disappointing that so many of us gay and straight people are constantly dealing with so many failed attempts of the heart. I know that they say that is someone for everyone out there, but the way society is dictating how people should date it is going to be very difficult to find true love. I have been single for 3 years myself and the struggle is real, lol. However, there are times where I do want to just focus on me and say the hell with everyone else, but I know that person is out there that will love me for me as I will for him. It does breaks my heart that we have to continue to go through such turmoil just to date and be in love, but I know that these situations are making us stronger and more cautious to those we try to invite in our personal space. I know me personally I have gone through changes from finally getting my own place, to graduating with my Master's in Human Resources Management, but guys here just like everywhere else are so materialistic about looks, status, and power. But I digress because I can go on and on about this matter, lol, and make a video too, but just want to give my personal views on the subject at hand. But continue to keep your head up and know that he is out there for you.
Believe you me, you're far from ugly, trust me! I I always talk about how nice lookin and funny you are- my sister gets so tired of it. She's like, " I hope he does a meet-n-greet so you can attend and finally meet him cause I'm tired of hearing about JUSTINJ"!! Lol
Oh you ain't never lied!!!!!!!!! I KNOW that you will find someone and they will be your everything. Sometimes its difficult to watch others love blossom and you don't have one of your own. That's OK. Now is the time to continue working on yourself by doing what you love, working where you want, and enjoying life itself. I forgot how old you said that you were but you are just going thru the motions and the fact that warmer weather is here makes us want to have that someone special even more. Have you ever thought that maybe you are too mature for the people that you are dealing with? Have you ever considered that the ones that you are seeking can not offer you anything more than their bodies? Have you ever thought that most they just don't know how to come at you because you are more worldly and possess wisdom and you can carry on a conversation when all they have ever told others were lies? Have you even considered the fact that most men are immature and can't keep or hold onto relationships because they are always seeking more more more! Your day will come and that person will be the luckiest in the world to have you at their side. Keep the faith and remember don't ask God for what you want cause He already knows.
I think the main problem is that most gay men simply aren't happy with the person they are with because they keep fantasizing about the next best thing. The man that looks better, the man that has more money, the man with the better career etc etc, and they seek this without realizing that what they already have is the person that most likely intended to be with. Don't worry Justin, that man is out there for you. Hell right now somebody probably has a crush on you and you don't even know it.
OMG!!!! I know exactly how yo feel boo. This November will be 2 yrs since I've been with someone and 3 yrs since I've been in a relationship. My last relationship did not end well so now I'm at the point in mt life where I just don't feel like being bothered with men dammit. LOL. That's why I'd rather chill and wait until what's meant for me finds me. I'm content for now. Loneliness hasn't set in yet though. Keep your head up and be patient. Thatz what gets me through. I know some may feel that my comment is TMI but I don't give 2 fucks because I'm grown. Thankkksssssssss.
AMEN.🙌 Some of this applies in straight relationships as well... Im Not finna waste my time on these lil kid ass people... This aint no baseball its only one time and you out✌️
Vent chile vent... nothing wrong with it or you... it's cliche to say but the man that deserves you will come when you least expect it... just have to make sure your open to receive that person flaws and all... not saying choose a fixer upper... but examine everything about him and ask yourself can you grow with him... what is his conversations about?... what does he do with his time?... and i mean REALLY LISTEN... if it's clubbing every weekend then honey MOVE ON SWIFTLY AND PROFESSIONALLY and "friend zone" the hell outta his a** IMMEDIATELY... and keep your valuable time on reserve for someone who can make the actions match up with the talk...
The problem is with this new age vocabulary. WTH is talking? I talk to my momma, my daddy, my nieces and if I'm talking to someone that means we have had or are having a conversation. I don't do that "talking" thing. If we are friends, then we are just friends. I think that the bullshit vocabulary has allowed people to use words that mean something else and try to change the definition of it when it is convenient to them. Now if we are dating...that simply means that we go on dates. We may have some type of feeling for each other but once again we are just friends who just so happen to like each other, and enjoy spending time with one another. After that if we want to take things further, then yes I am your girlfriend and you are my boyfriend, with intentions of being together...forever...back in the day when relationships lasted 20...30...50 years, it was called courting. Thats the life I'm about. I think you're just old school like some people, not most but some, and the right one will come along who understands dating rhetoric and relationship vocabulary and you'll be glad that you won't have to go through the fuck shit anymore with men who don't know the definition or any definition of the word relationship.
Please do a relationship etiquette video!! I tell anyone that asks me for dating advice never ever ever give "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" benefits to folks their talking to. FYI when are you going to do a Memphis meet and greet?
What has happened is that you've come to a place where you want something more substantial and want a partner that treats you and sees you as an equal. What I think is you're coming to the realization that so few of your peers are too. Know your worth and never compromise.
awww Justin I certainly can feel you! I haven't had one date since before my divorce 4 years ago. Haven't met anyone special to talk to in the least. Made a good male friend. But that is JUST FRIENDS.
Awww honey it will be ok, at least you been in relationships before, I never had a boyfriend before. Once you stop wanting something then it comes, much love xoxoxoxoxoxoxo!!!
I feel the same way like I'm not built for this day and age. Iv let myself get sucked up with someone for SIX yrs and we have made some progress communication wise but other then that NOTHING........ i tried to date Smh that's another story idk I'm just taking my time now.
I. Feel. U! Smh. But it's cool. It has a purpose. Look around you. Look at everything that has grown and improved while you have been single. It will come. Enjoy single. Yeh it sucks at time, but it's coming. Be thankful that those previous relationships didn't work. This thought helped me: with everything that you know now "what if you we're still with them?" That right there should give you your life LOL. God Bless
it's just not your time yet! I guarantee once you get yourself together mentally and financially, everything will fall into place after that and you will find who you're looking for. I'm saying this bc you don't wanna jump into a relationship and have to deal with those problems and also deal with the ones going on in the home with yourself. HE won't give you anything you know you can't handle!!
Thank you for this video this is exactly the same thing I'm going through and its been since 2012 since I had a bf thank you for letting me know I'm not the only one
I feel everythng ur say n thts wit any person, friendship r relationship. Certain ppl Just don't get it & ur only 27, I'm old enough 2 b ur mom & the men my age don't get in neither. It's s/ thng n the water. Lol
The struggle is not only in Memphis. It is also in Houston and I am sure everyone else. It just takes a special person (no shade) to find and love another special person. The gay life is so superficial and about how many hot dudes you can sleep and date with. Little do they know that's how diseases get spread as well. I would just say continue doing you and getting you life together, because before you know it someone will be trying to hunt you down. OK!
I feel ya, I understand you completely. Ita wonderful to just listen and relate. I guess do as the saying says,dont LOOK for love,let it come to you. When you arrnt looking,when you least expect it BAM. I know you saying "Well bring it bish, where ya at ni88a ". Baaby, Im saying the same thing. Ha! If I were male,Id holla at you_fa show_ on some real . Nice listening to u,thanks for venting to us and being so open
I've been watching you for months now and have been able to like videos but not comment....lol. Well now that I got that out the way. Gay pride is this weekend in NYC, you should come up. Come to the tri state and he may fall into your arms. Good luck either way.
OK bu, I'm not going to woo -woo you,But,I've been like u for 5yrs.yes 5!! So with u,I think he is out there but not in Memphis. So Yeah Move away and I bet HE WILL FIND YOU!!! N THAT WAS SOME DEEP SHIT ABOUT OTHERS GOING ON TRIPS N BUYING HOUSES N U ASKING "WHAT'S UR FAVORITE COLOR "THAT SHIT WAS DEEP! BUT U WILL FINALLY GET YOUR CHANCE TO WATCH THIS VIDEO and Cry Together WITH THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE AS SOON AS U START MAKING THAT MOVE!!!BECAUSE YOU SOOO DESERVE IT!! LUV YA BU,IT'S (MECCA-NECOLE)
Its okay Justin, the reason why you are not in a relationship is because someone is coming but you have something to take care of before they show up, Oh boo I'm in my fucking feelings too. Just remember that we love you boo.
"I'm Busy" is code for "I'm just not that into you," or "I'm busy dating other people." The moment a man tells me that shit, I'm OUT. I stop calling and contacting. I'm not here for it. Unless you are the CEO of Microsoft, Obama or a world renowned brain surgeon, ain't nobody that damn busy. If somebody truly wants to see you and get to know you, THEY WILL MAKE TIME FOR YOU. Bottom line. Get into it.
personally i think you're very old fashion, and you need someone similar. I can tell by your personal videos you have a big heart, very much into family values, you're down to earth. what you see, is what you get. lets be honest not many people can take "someone being real", always honest and out spoken. YOUR GUY IS WATCHING OR WAITING, JUST A MATTER OF TIME.
Nothing wrong with you Boo, you just have standards and most people cant deal.
I watched/listened to this video 3 times while I was in the grocery store earlier tonight. Most of us single ppl can relate to you because the dating pool sucks right now 😥 But I did bust out laughing when u threw shade at one of ur exes for acting funny. I love these videos !
I'm a single black heterosexual woman and I have the same exact problem and feel the same dam way!!!! So cheer up Justin our prince coming ONE DAM DAY!!!
That's what I admire about you Justin. You give your truth from your heart. I can relate bc as a divorced mom the silence can be very loud at times, but I wouldn't trade it for all the bs and games men play. I spend the time enjoying my own company and being a better me. It will come when it comes.
"miss whirlpool is washin dishes" LOL!!!
I'm on my 3rd year of being single baby so don't feel bad. I just won't accept bullish*t from anyone. So if that takes me being single OH WELL. I've been watching your videos for awhile and I will say you're an attractive, smart, genuine man. Any man or woman will be lucky to have YOU. 😉
I agree BC is r so smart and handsome w/your pretty eyes and has a sweet smile,boo can't wait when u tell us I find him!!!
Chile, this video touched my spirit! I have been sayin for the last three yrs "my next relationship will be my last". I've been single since 2008. Its hard out here Justin, even for us str8 ppl. Everyone deserves happiness. Until someone else comes along to contribute to your happiness, u gotta do what u gotta do to make sure u're happy. I love that u made this video, u said everything i'm always thinkin about relationships.
I feel so sorry for you. you have so much to offer and your better than the treatment these men are treating you. i hope you find the man of your dreams.
Justin you are handsome, you have a sense of humor, and you are striving to do better in life. There is nothing wrong with you.you are looking for something of substance and to be quite honest that Is hard to come by these days.Keep your head up and that special one will come into your life😚😚😚
I think ppl only care about sex...sex....sex nobody wants to get to know u i'm so glad i'm engaged to a guy that I've been dating for 7 years we had our ups and downs but we finally where we need to be..but when I was dating I hated it..we get in an argument I've learned i'm not going anywhere...ain't nothing out there smh...ur going to find someone ur a great person Justin
We're really not all that different (gay/straight)...I'm going through the SAME THING YOU ARE! I want to build a real connection with someone but every time I try and let someone in a little in about 2 weeks they've either disappeared or showed me that I cannot trust them. Smh....
I am beautiful a black woman and I totally understand. Heterosexuals have the same problems. Since there or so many women out hear willing to deal with anything, men will flock to them . Communication is definitely needed. After 3 months we should know if we want a relationship. Most people avoid communication because they are trying to have their cake and eat it too. Those are warning signs that I dont ignore. So hang in there. The right person is out there, you just have to dig through the bad ones to find them. When you have standards and know your worth the lames will always be intimidated.
Without a doubt you are a handsome young man..I believe that when your not looking that's when love will find you. But you must be willing, it's often times where our "no list" overshadow the love God has loosed for up.. all our no fems or fats, only blacks,Spanish, whites..etc are love blocking. God may have sent the men we need but we over look them looking for the men we want and placed them in our friends pile. We have to stop letting our preferences prohibit God's promises. I hope this helps.. Much love keep up the great job.
Exactly! You said that!!
This video speaks to me on so many levels, but I've realized that as a 20 year old I have lots of time to find that. Thanks for being so honest as always. 😘
You ain't the only one... ive accomplished alot and now...I wanna share it with someone. ... Crazy. ... I agree May Not Be Built For This Generation. ..
Justin, you never need to question whether you're attractive or not; you are! You know how shallow and visual gay men (men in general) are and how obsessed we are with body image. I can promise you if you were chiseled and cut up and dressing and acting like "trade", dudes would be beating down your door and blowing your phone up. But you have a natural attractiveness...handsome face and fun personality...anyway. You really are a cutie, Justin! But as I said, I think you are intimidating to most dudes, whether they say it or not...because you're so outspoken and honest! But you're *genuine*, and like me, you probably love hard when you do love, and because of that, you probably won't ever fit in with the typical gays but when love does come your way, it will be REAL and it will last...even if not forever, it will last long enough. As I said, just work on yourself, bro, and work on being more confident (not arrogant), as well. You are already very confident, but you still may have more (attractive) power than you think. You're also very busy, which isn't necessarily a hindrance (as long as you're managing your time well), but when you get to a place where you can maybe even delegate authority and you have more free time for yourself, study self improvement while working on your body, too (not just lifting weights but diet/nutrition, maybe calesthenics, yoga, meditation, as well). And when you come into your power/potential, you will attract the people you want and those who's energy isn't on your level, they'll be too low for you to even attract; you'll only attract those on your level.
Justin this video really touched me to the point that I cried, because I have felt exactly how you feel. I love this intimate justin video, and I really hope you do more. You can vent as much as you want and although I'm not a close friend, just know that I'm a subbie who cares and appreciates what you do very much. You are a wonderful guy and your man may not be in Memphis but he is out there for you, you just need a change of scenery. Stay positive boo! (Sorry for the novel I wrote...lol)
I have shared with him months ago that I find him attractive, enjoy his wicked, yet candid humor, his refreshingly truthful commentary he provides on a day to day basis for his supporters.
I would love the opportunity to get to know him. Yes, I'm in Savannah, GA but who says I can't travel.
I like you Justin and have liked you ever since I came across your first video.
Maybe it's time to step outside of the box.
Justin, I can respect the fact that you even felt vulnerable enough to share your feelings with us. Your videos normally give life and keep people going who could very well feel the way you are feeling now. So if I can't speak for anyone else, I can honestly say that I care. But I want you to truly realize your worth and understand that having standards makes relationships harder to come by. Especially in this day in age when everybody is down to do whatever, whenever, with whoever. So, just keep ya head up. Your knight in shining armor will raise when you least expect. ( Is it me or did that last part sound like it came out of a fortune cookie or sumn?!)
Baby it's not just hard for you, but everyone. .I'm single and I don't mind it really but I won't accept bs!!! We're just picky and that's a good thing!! There's nothing wrong with knowing what you want
I just love you Justin!! As a single heterosexual female I share your feelings!!! Keep your head up!!! And stay true to yourself!!!
Hey Hun I feel you I have been there, I just want you to make your mantra "I do not compare myself to anyone else, I define myself, what is for you may not be for me right now, things will happen for me when it's time" .... Don't compare your situation right now to no one else's marriage or relationship.... I was single for five years before I fell in love again, you are still young honey... this is JUST one PhASe In your life..u WILL be happy again.
Everybody deserves to be happy!! That guy is somewhere, trust and believe!!!
Please do a relationship/potential relationship etiquette video!
Good request I'd like that too
You said exactly what i was thinking.. It's so hard to find someone who actually want to get to know you these days... I just keep on believing there is someone out there for me....
Damn Justin I feel the pain all the way over here. I wish I could get my married and coupled-up friends to get that this single life is effed all the way up!!!
Awwww this touched my heArt forrel! I kno u dont need all this advice from strangers u jus wanted to open up and release some things. And be vulnerable. And Seeing that vulnerable part was beautiful baby. Good luck!
Do not be discouraged Justin!!!!! In due time God will bless you with the person who is right for you. Be patient. God did not bring you this far to leave you.
I love these types of videos. This type of video is the reason I subscribed to you. I love you all the way from Dallas!!!!
Justin you are such a light that not even time can dim it. Trust me your Mr. Right is just waiting for a good pair of sunglasses.. You deserve your happiness because you give so much joy, I know it's coming :-)
Justin those are the dame problems women have. Some men just don't want to settle down.
MakeUp4Lyfe So true 🤦🏻♀️
I can relate to EVERYTHING you're saying Justin! It will get better, at least that's what I tell myself.
I love watching and listening to you. You make my day. Thank you
Cat fish ahh hey!!"
***** Lol that was too funny
Its so crazy to me how the single men are great guys and are looking for someone to build and grow with. And all the guys in relationships dont value the ones they have. I cant seem to wrap my head around why this is. Its sad when you have someone who you are willing to give your all to and build a solid foundation with and they dont reciprocate. Money is an evil in this world that ruins many relationships and have people looking down on others. Love is Respect, Support and Understanding amongst other things. Its a sad state that people dont get it and arent willing to.
I needed this video I feel the same way king of reads you speaking the soul truth period ✋🏽👍🏽💯💯💯💯💯🍸
This is a straight issue too. Just wanting to talk nasty and I don't even know you! ugh I don't understand it. It is just irritating.
I love you Justin J.. Expressed everything I'm going through and feeling.
Justin you better preach hunnie!! I feel you on everything that you are saying. It must be black men in general bc I be going through the same things with these dudes. I'm a big chick so I feel like these dudes think they be doing me a favor by talking to me but I'm like just like I got you I can get some one else. I'm not chasing no dude if you want me then you'll show it if not then bye.
But I'm feeling you on everything you are saying. Everyone I know have kids and a man and here I am single with no man in sight. But we're going to find our man don't give up bc I know I'm not
Awe Justin I love youuuuuu...I totally believe ur man of ur dreams is around the corner. You are everything that a man could want and desire, you have a wonderful personality, ur funny, compassionate, hard working, level headed, and a very handsome clean cut man might i add.Never second guess yourself and think that maybe something is wrong or maybe ur not handsome because u are. You make me wish I was a man so I could make u happy but honey I got a "snatch" and u ain't checking for it honey. But in all seriousness Justin you deserve the very best and believe me you the man of ur dreams is perfecting himself for your arrival.
Aww your amazing and you made me want to cry bc you are so real. I'm a straight woman and feel the same way as you- I wish you all the luck and know it will come soon!:)
I feel your pain. Single. Not by choice.
Justin thank you for being honest I felt like that Amenia days when I was your age I shamed of the person I was dealing with because they really weren't committed to me but I wanted to be committed to them but you just keep doing what you're doing so that you're ready when Mr Right comes along. And please remember Mr Right doesn't always look like Mr Right. So keep both eyes open . I hope you feel better
You will be alright. Just keep being yourself and good people will eventually come around you.
This is the Justin I fell in love with
You are ON IT!!! I always stress COMMUNICATION!!! I cannot read your mind....and your actions speak so much louder than the words you speak...or make the choice not to speak. I had a friend once that I thought was really close.....but clearly I hold personal relationship more importantly than most people do. When this heffa told me that she knew I was alright because she checked on me through FACEBOOK!!! -_-? HEFFA SAY WHAT?!?!?!?!?!
+KMcCoy1976 smh. i hate fake friends like that
I totally relate to your situation Justin J, its a hard knock life in the dating world. Gay as well straight. Good luck to us all!!!
I felt this on sooo many levels.....Its like I cant relate to any man that talks to me or they play too many games.
Texting is the devil!!!!! So of these girls and guys out here straight or gay do not know one thing about communication!!! Texting someone day and night is not cute,it's actually annoying. Also most people know nothing about the art of conversation they ask the same thing every single day!
Hang in there, Justin. Keep having standards and the bs will weed itself out. A lot of ppl don't have real standards when it comes to relationships and that's why they are unhappy now. Sounds your age I had those same frustrations. When I turned 28 somebody that I'd known for years came back into my life and we took a chance on each other. So there may be somebody in your life that God is staging them to be ready to come to you correct. You're handsome as shit and you have a bomb personality, etc, etc. It'll pay off in the end.
Aww. This one made me feel for you. A lot of those things happen in the straight world too. There's nothing wrong with you!
Justin you're looking good! This video is on point. You said exactly how I feel. I've been single for 6 years. It's even harder for me because I am bisexual. I don't want both at the same time but people seem to think so. There's no commitment issues over here. I just want to be loved and given a fair shot. I understand you completely...
Trust and believe that everything you said and referring to at the end of your video has touch me as well. It is disappointing that so many of us gay and straight people are constantly dealing with so many failed attempts of the heart. I know that they say that is someone for everyone out there, but the way society is dictating how people should date it is going to be very difficult to find true love. I have been single for 3 years myself and the struggle is real, lol. However, there are times where I do want to just focus on me and say the hell with everyone else, but I know that person is out there that will love me for me as I will for him. It does breaks my heart that we have to continue to go through such turmoil just to date and be in love, but I know that these situations are making us stronger and more cautious to those we try to invite in our personal space. I know me personally I have gone through changes from finally getting my own place, to graduating with my Master's in Human Resources Management, but guys here just like everywhere else are so materialistic about looks, status, and power. But I digress because I can go on and on about this matter, lol, and make a video too, but just want to give my personal views on the subject at hand. But continue to keep your head up and know that he is out there for you.
You're doing exactly the best thing IMO. When you're happy with yourself, you're only going to accept a partner who will make your life better.
Awww justin i feel you we in the same boat,good things come to those who wait so u doing the right thing :-)
Believe you me, you're far from ugly, trust me! I I always talk about how nice lookin and funny you are- my sister gets so tired of it. She's like, " I hope he does a meet-n-greet so you can attend and finally meet him cause I'm tired of hearing about JUSTINJ"!! Lol
Oh you ain't never lied!!!!!!!!! I KNOW that you will find someone and they will be your everything. Sometimes its difficult to watch others love blossom and you don't have one of your own. That's OK. Now is the time to continue working on yourself by doing what you love, working where you want, and enjoying life itself. I forgot how old you said that you were but you are just going thru the motions and the fact that warmer weather is here makes us want to have that someone special even more. Have you ever thought that maybe you are too mature for the people that you are dealing with? Have you ever considered that the ones that you are seeking can not offer you anything more than their bodies? Have you ever thought that most they just don't know how to come at you because you are more worldly and possess wisdom and you can carry on a conversation when all they have ever told others were lies? Have you even considered the fact that most men are immature and can't keep or hold onto relationships because they are always seeking more more more! Your day will come and that person will be the luckiest in the world to have you at their side. Keep the faith and remember don't ask God for what you want cause He already knows.
I think the main problem is that most gay men simply aren't happy with the person they are with because they keep fantasizing about the next best thing. The man that looks better, the man that has more money, the man with the better career etc etc, and they seek this without realizing that what they already have is the person that most likely intended to be with. Don't worry Justin, that man is out there for you. Hell right now somebody probably has a crush on you and you don't even know it.
Straight men also.
Totally agree
Delaine Finley true true. I think that's actually most people in general tbh
coco marisco thank you. Just a perspective from a fellow black gay youtuber lol
That's a general statement but well said.
its the same shit going on on the straight side the dating scene is sad. Justin love will find you. you're a good man.
We've all been there. I home you and Mr. Man are looking back at this vid sooner than you think!
OMG!!!! I know exactly how yo feel boo. This November will be 2 yrs since I've been with someone and 3 yrs since I've been in a relationship. My last relationship did not end well so now I'm at the point in mt life where I just don't feel like being bothered with men dammit. LOL. That's why I'd rather chill and wait until what's meant for me finds me. I'm content for now. Loneliness hasn't set in yet though. Keep your head up and be patient. Thatz what gets me through. I know some may feel that my comment is TMI but I don't give 2 fucks because I'm grown. Thankkksssssssss.
AMEN.🙌 Some of this applies in straight relationships as well... Im Not finna waste my time on these lil kid ass people... This aint no baseball its only one time and you out✌️
Vent chile vent... nothing wrong with it or you... it's cliche to say but the man that deserves you will come when you least expect it... just have to make sure your open to receive that person flaws and all... not saying choose a fixer upper... but examine everything about him and ask yourself can you grow with him... what is his conversations about?... what does he do with his time?... and i mean REALLY LISTEN... if it's clubbing every weekend then honey MOVE ON SWIFTLY AND PROFESSIONALLY and "friend zone" the hell outta his a** IMMEDIATELY... and keep your valuable time on reserve for someone who can make the actions match up with the talk...
The problem is with this new age vocabulary. WTH is talking? I talk to my momma, my daddy, my nieces and if I'm talking to someone that means we have had or are having a conversation. I don't do that "talking" thing. If we are friends, then we are just friends. I think that the bullshit vocabulary has allowed people to use words that mean something else and try to change the definition of it when it is convenient to them. Now if we are dating...that simply means that we go on dates. We may have some type of feeling for each other but once again we are just friends who just so happen to like each other, and enjoy spending time with one another. After that if we want to take things further, then yes I am your girlfriend and you are my boyfriend, with intentions of being together...forever...back in the day when relationships lasted 20...30...50 years, it was called courting. Thats the life I'm about.
I think you're just old school like some people, not most but some, and the right one will come along who understands dating rhetoric and relationship vocabulary and you'll be glad that you won't have to go through the fuck shit anymore with men who don't know the definition or any definition of the word relationship.
Please do a relationship etiquette video!! I tell anyone that asks me for dating advice never ever ever give "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" benefits to folks their talking to. FYI when are you going to do a Memphis meet and greet?
What has happened is that you've come to a place where you want something more substantial and want a partner that treats you and sees you as an equal. What I think is you're coming to the realization that so few of your peers are too.
Know your worth and never compromise.
People so temporary that's why I don't really save numbers in my contacts anymore, Ion have time for the game's!
Kia 34 😜
Justin I'm a straight woman and I feel you on this whole dating thing.
I think ur problem is ur looking for it.... Get busy with ur life and be happy by yourself.... That attract what ur looking for
awww Justin I certainly can feel you! I haven't had one date since before my divorce 4 years ago. Haven't met anyone special to talk to in the least. Made a good male friend. But that is JUST FRIENDS.
Lol....I love your honesty
Awww honey it will be ok, at least you been in relationships before, I never had a boyfriend before. Once you stop wanting something then it comes, much love xoxoxoxoxoxoxo!!!
That piss me off to they ass don't be busy 🙅🙅
I feel the same way like I'm not built for this day and age. Iv let myself get sucked up with someone for SIX yrs and we have made some progress communication wise but other then that NOTHING........ i tried to date Smh that's another story idk I'm just taking my time now.
I. Feel. U! Smh. But it's cool. It has a purpose. Look around you. Look at everything that has grown and improved while you have been single. It will come. Enjoy single. Yeh it sucks at time, but it's coming. Be thankful that those previous relationships didn't work. This thought helped me: with everything that you know now "what if you we're still with them?" That right there should give you your life LOL. God Bless
"I just don't have the fucks to give" preach
it's just not your time yet! I guarantee once you get yourself together mentally and financially, everything will fall into place after that and you will find who you're looking for. I'm saying this bc you don't wanna jump into a relationship and have to deal with those problems and also deal with the ones going on in the home with yourself. HE won't give you anything you know you can't handle!!
Great Video much needed! You are not alone, trust, it is not only in gay and lesbian relationships.
Totally loved this!!!
Thank you for this video this is exactly the same thing I'm going through and its been since 2012 since I had a bf thank you for letting me know I'm not the only one
I feel everythng ur say n thts wit any person, friendship r relationship. Certain ppl Just don't get it & ur only 27, I'm old enough 2 b ur mom & the men my age don't get in neither. It's s/ thng n the water. Lol
You are smart, handsome, funny and talented! Your time will come!
The struggle is not only in Memphis. It is also in Houston and I am sure everyone else. It just takes a special person (no shade) to find and love another special person. The gay life is so superficial and about how many hot dudes you can sleep and date with. Little do they know that's how diseases get spread as well. I would just say continue doing you and getting you life together, because before you know it someone will be trying to hunt you down. OK!
keep ya head up boo....we all go through it.
I completely agree with you. I hate the fickle. You dropped a lot of clues about that guy though. It sounds like Brian.
🌈🧡💙💚💛💜🏳️🌈💋. Great wisdom. Ray from Chicago south side Hyde park. Love is not lust.
I feel ya, I understand you completely. Ita wonderful to just listen and relate. I guess do as the saying says,dont LOOK for love,let it come to you. When you arrnt looking,when you least expect it BAM. I know you saying "Well bring it bish, where ya at ni88a ". Baaby, Im saying the same thing. Ha! If I were male,Id holla at you_fa show_ on some real . Nice listening to u,thanks for venting to us and being so open
Aww ...boo don't worry... everything will work out!
you got to stay in the race I just met mine and I didn't think I would
I've been watching you for months now and have been able to like videos but not comment....lol. Well now that I got that out the way. Gay pride is this weekend in NYC, you should come up. Come to the tri state and he may fall into your arms. Good luck either way.
OK bu, I'm not going to woo -woo you,But,I've been like u for 5yrs.yes 5!! So with u,I think he is out there but not in Memphis. So Yeah Move away and I bet HE WILL FIND YOU!!! N THAT WAS SOME DEEP SHIT ABOUT OTHERS GOING ON TRIPS N BUYING HOUSES N U ASKING "WHAT'S UR FAVORITE COLOR "THAT SHIT WAS DEEP! BUT U WILL FINALLY GET YOUR CHANCE TO WATCH THIS VIDEO and Cry Together WITH THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE AS SOON AS U START MAKING THAT MOVE!!!BECAUSE YOU SOOO DESERVE IT!! LUV YA BU,IT'S (MECCA-NECOLE)
yaas do etiquette and social media vids
Etiquette On Relationships Video Would Be Great!
#ForTheLoveOfJustinJ
try all races...... hope you find love soon.
What about Jonathan from Edugaytion??? :)))))))
you remind me of Tamar.... such an over the top personality... lol
Yup and that's who he be bashing
***** ikr... But act just like the bitter messy ...Lady, and he's a man... Tis tis tis ..
Dating is over rated.
Its okay Justin, the reason why you are not in a relationship is because someone is coming but you have something to take care of before they show up, Oh boo I'm in my fucking feelings too. Just remember that we love you boo.