As a cismale I'm very sorry you guys feel like this. I will be here if you need anything. I don't have a vent or anything I just want you guys to know it's alright man. Us guys don't usually judge you. I mean I definitely don't judge my brother is FTM and I still love him to death I love you guys too. :)
as a transguy, if you wanna have some masculine stuff, here:try working out, i use transmasc creators and use their workouts try taking vitamins, such as(i use these btw) iron vitamin d gummies CoEnzyme Q10 zinc magensium+vitamin b6 vitamin b complex cod liver oil vitamin e vitamin d3 woks for me
I’m gender-fluid, but I asked my mom if she would buy me a binder, and I thought she was supportive of me. But she said no, and it broke me. The reason she said no is because I’m not gender-fluid or trans masc. and I’m just following the media. But I’m not, I’m trying to be myself, I don’t feel right in my body, since I was little, I never felt that I was supposed to be a female.
I'm sorry, brother. I'm genderfluid transmasc too. It'll get better. I recommend ordering yourself a binder during the holidays, parents will be less suspicious of you asking them not to look in packages around that time.
people say that the teenage years are the best but this is hell, being trans with not supporting parents is ripping me apart. every night a part of me is just screaming inside and i know this is ruining me and my health, because of bad sleeping and sugar addiction
@@GangleGoneInsane this sucks and I hope you the best honestly. I was having a breakdown when i wrote that and I'm now much better mentally even tho technically I'm still in the same situation, but I managed to find comfort within my self, so I hope you can do it too when things get tough
For anyone who has trouble taking showers for gender dysphoria reasons, here are some things that helped me ^^ - Dimmer lights, you don’t see your body as much - I bring an extra towel to put over the mirror and take it down when I’m done in the shower, clips and good tape works depending on what mirror you have. - On bad days I sometimes will wear a bathing suit in the shower so I can wash my hair and stuff but it makes it easier for me at least idk - If you take baths bubbles or bath bombs work nicely - keep in mind these are things I’ve done and I’m not sure if they will work for you or if anyone will use these tips. Please let me know if I can add anything to this list, and make sure to have an awesome day
I also have a dysphoria playlist that makes me feel better so I play that when I'm feeling dysphoric. Songs that work for me are 1. Songs about being a gay man and how hard that is (helps me forget about being trans and I can just focus on being a gay man) 2. Songs by trans men 3. Any songs with the word "boy" or "man"
TW: RANT/VENT As a transmasc femboy, I occasionally find myself stuck in a position I feel like one side of me is like: "You should wear what you want," but then the little voice in my head says: "If you wear that you'll never pass." It's just absolutely fucking exhausting trying to feed both sides and I hate it. And being more comfortable with certain aspects of me than most transmasc people just makes it worse, makes me feel less validated, so much so that I just feel like a burden for merely existing in the community. If you read this, I truly appreciate you. Thank you. 💗
A boy is a boy, no matter if he has long hair or short hair, a larger chest or a shorter chest, a feminine face or a masculine face, muscles or no muscles, curves or no curves, a lower voice or a higher voice. A boy is a boy, forever and always. Even if his body doesn't look the way he wants it to. Love you bro's. Stay strong. ✊
as a trans masc turning 13 this year, id say I'm a lucky trans guy. when i had long hair people saw me as a boy still and i do have normal amounts of testosterone a woman has so its shocking, I'm quite flat anyway, I've now had my hair cut short and one time i was in school in English and the teacher came over and said "will this gentleman here be ok?" i was never so happy in my life
I got my haircut like a boys a while ago, probably a week, I've been much more confident in myself. My haircut helped me a lot and my friends calling me Jake has as well, but then I get a little voice saying, 'well you'll never be an actual boy, people will still see you as a girl.' and so on. It's annoying, I've done what i can and i wish i could do more but then it would possibly lead to me having to tell my parents and well i don't want to deal with that so the haircut's the best I'm gonna get for now. I hope things can get better and i hope things for the person reading this fo as well. Edit: It's been 5 months apparently since I got the haircut and all that, now I have short floofy hair lol. Still doing semi well, hope ya'll have a good day. :)
My dad says he supports me, but I know he doesn't, I know he doesn't want to let go of his "little girl" but I'm not a girl, I'm demi-boy, I'm trans masculine. And he still uses she her with me and refuses to use he him or even they them, and he even "slips up" on my name on purpose, and he never apologizes about it, ever. IM NOT YOUR DAUGHTER, IM JAIME, YOUR SON, IM STILL YOUR CHILD.
It's also really hard for me to take care of myself because I know deep down I hate my body, I pretend I'm fine with having boobs and a uterus, but deep down I know I just want to scream and shout about my body being wrong. Which is why I put off showers and or baths, because I never know when my breaking point will be.
(Vent) My name is Charlie, I am 13 and a trans boy. I have always known deep down that I am not a girl but I have been denying and suppressing those feelings for about two years now. My whole family is very transphobic and I am scared of them every finding out. I feel guilty and scared when I imagine how they will react. If I am being honest I don’t care what my parents say. I am scared that my brother will see me differently. He is my favorite person and I love him so much and the thought of him finding out makes me sick. Im so scared and don’t know what to do. So as I was writing this I thought about my cousin who is bisexual and also around 22 years old. Im scared but maybe I could come out to him and have some closure about someone in my family who could possibly accept me. I am going to text him and ask how he feels about trans people and then I will give yall an update if you want. Edit: Sorry I forgot about this!! It went really well actually, he supported me and said it was important to understand and accept yourself and be comfortable in who you are. I think that applies to anyone who is reading this You’re identity is who you are and you should be comfortable and happy with it because we only get one shot at life and you shouldn’t comply with what other people see you as. Be yourselves, if not for others then for yourself.
@TacoCat544 she's not your friend is she won't accept you - that's not a friend at all. you deserve better than her. and remember, you're never too young to know who you are :D
Hello, Charlie:) it was nice reading this and I hope things go alright with your family. If they don't, there will always be people who support, even if you haven't met them yet ❤️
@TacoCat544 If you cant find anyone irl to except you there are plenty of online communities that would support you. If you need to talk or vent I am here, ok?
recently my friends invited me to the beach, being a trans masc I said yes forgetting I’d have to wear a bathing suit. The day we were gonna go to the beach I wore a shirt and didn’t touch the water and I love the water and the waves.
TW: VENT AND $H when they say they understand what it's like to be misgendered and deadnamed but when their partner deadnames you (accident or not) and they stand up for them when you get angry and even tell u that you should calm down :/ (and the person that deadnamed u only apologizes after you apologize for getting mad. I struggle with SH and they say they care and "want me to get batter" but i've started not to believe them they just don't understand. they don't understand how bc of my parents violent outbursts i've inherited it even when i try to not get mad, them and their partner are trans and they've never deadnamed them. i just don't understand, it makes me so mad and idk what to do abt it anymore, my only solution is SH but ik its supposed to be wrong but what am i supposed to do with all this pent up rage and sadness. and i cant talk back or convey how i really feel bc it'll start an argument and i'll be the asshole. i just dont know what to do anymore
Hey ik what ur going through I'm in the same boat dude if there's an argument it's not ur fault it's there's for not accepting and for being assholes about u stating that u don't use that name for pronouns. Stick up for urself what matters is that ur happy and don't feel too dysphoric as they don't realise that it can lead to depression and that builds up to other things too so don't fuckng listen to what others say ur u and no one and nothing should change thefact that u live by that name and pronouns and u r strong enough to show urself u just have to find that strength and whatever happens there's people out there who'll accept u don't worry
Warning! Vent/rant!!!! I just want to do the things I already do but as a boy. I want to paint my nails as a boy. I want to wear dresses and makeup as a boy. I want to date boys and girls as a boy. I want to be a boy, but I’m stuck in this female body, it’s nothing I want to be. I can’t hide like some trans guys can because I’m not skinny, no matter what I wear I can see every curve. I hate it so much, I just wish I could be a tall, scrawny, alt boy. I just want people to me as who I really feel like I am. I’ve normalized my given name and pronouns but still each time I hear them it’s like everything else goes quiet and they stop all my other thoughts
if your hair is lower than your shoulders and you want to look like you have short hair, heres what i do - tie up your hair in a ponytail or braid - tuck it into your shirt - wear a hoodie, jacket, sweater, or something similar over your shirt - this is optional, but i wear a backwards baseball hat - VERY optional, but i love wearing sunglasses with all this lol
TW (sh, transphobia, gender dysphoria) rant on my transphobic-ish (?) parents Bruh. my parents are so f-ing weird. at one point they're like "oh it's aight you can be transmasc" BUT: -they won't call me by my prefered name -they misgender me -they wont let me buy clothes from men's section because 'i'll look weird' -they wont let me buy a binder And it makes me feel so bad. my dysphoria is just making me more and more miserable with every single day so i sh to shut it down just for a moment. It just hurts and i'm sick of it.
as a transboy only 13 i can feel this true i can't stand being called a girl sometimes i feel like i shouldn't be alive bc of it i be bullied and misgendered alot being called out many times and some girls only stayed near me bc they know my story most people just assume of me being a bad kid saying i shouldn't think of those thoughts yet but i do i wana be a boy so bad :(((
I want to be a long haired metalhead boy so badly. I don’t wanna be just another girl. That’s not me. I want my mom to realize I don’t feel good in my body. God get me out of my body. I’ll never be like those boys.
You know that feeling where you can’t tell if ou like someone or if it’s just gender envy? Also my hair has been getting pretty long and my mom won’t get me an appointment to get it cut short and it’s giving me so much gender disforia and I,like, can’t function properly knowing I don’t look masculine
Personally, I would just cu my hair, that’s what I did my first time. And trim it when ever I needs trimmed. Or, if your school allows yet to wear beanies, put your hair up, and tuck your hair up. I’m sorry if it doesn’t help, but I hope it does.
I'm genderfluid and I feel like I cant identify or say I'm trans because some days I still feel like a girl so I feel invalid and then I get mad at myself for feeling invalid yk?
If you identify as anything but your assigned gender at birth, you are trans. For me, I just tell people I’m trans instead of explaining what being gender-fluid is.
That's not your fault you sometimes feel like a girl. You're still who you say you are, fellow human 🫂 It may not feel that shit's going to be okay right now, but it will be soon or at any point in your life.🫂
This comment is just for me to vent. I've been really exhausted and tired over the last couple of weeks. The election happened, I tried to come out to my grandma, and I realized that my mom might not be as accepting as I thought she was. Let me explain into further detail. First of all, the election was a sh!t show. Me and my friends found out at 5am, and we all started freaking out. I made a plan to get to Canada via bus, and was doing calculations on how much it would cost to escape. When I realized that I didnt have enough money, some of my friends volunteered to stay behind if we left. I went to school and asked my friends if they would just us if we left. The second big thing that happened was that I came out to my grandma. She was accepting, at least I think she was. But now I will probably have to deal with my christian trump supporting grandpa who thinks that COVID-19 was over exaggerated and lives in the middle of Arkansas, which is one of the most red states in the whole Usa. Third, I realized recently that my mom has only used gender neutral terms and pronouns for me, even though I fully came out as a trans guy and told her I used he/they pronouns. She also still calls me she and doesn't correct herself. She says she is trying, but she hasn't gotten any better at using the correct pronouns over the span of a whole year. Im constantly exhausted, and I don't know if I am exhausted because of how much I sleep, or because of all of the 💩 going on.
For the first time ever at school today I met someone who was a transmale too and accepted me, he had a friend who also accepted me and they even asked what pronouns I wanted to be refered as and a name (my real name is a super girly name). Theres alot of homophobic kids in my school, like one time I was brave enough to have a trans flag sticker on my computer and then a kid called me a fag and then said i was disgusting. When I got home after meeting the boy who was also trans and his friend, i cried happy tears and i was so fucking happy. Me and the two kids on that bus are really good friends now, an im really glad about it..
My mom is almost always supportive but Christian i told her because i thought she would support me but now she acts like im not her kid what i mean is shes nice to me still but when i talk about being a boy she says im just confused because of my autism
Your mom's weird she shouldn't blame in on your autism, and maybe show her vids of trans guys so she understands they're not bad I recommend the channel Jammidodger, and Noahfinnce (if she isn't homophobic) and they're vids on TH-cam of gender dysphoria and other things
Screw this. Screw a journey, or teaching others about their ignorance, these things. Screw 'character characterization'. This sucks. I can't see it positively like that. I didn't want to be born this way. No one should have to go through this. I am so damn tired. I want this over.
bit of a rant tw for dysphoria talk anyone else have this problem where they don't pass no matter what they wear as a trans guy, but you like to dress femm, but also that little part of your brian is like "you'll never pass like that" but you don't pass anyways so it shouldn't matter??? feeling like clothing should just be about euphoria but dysphoria gets in the way i guess? idk if this makes sense
It is so unfair... I already did the hard part and came out to her and yet still im her daughter and a young lady and she doesnt understand how awful it makes me feel. She just brushed over the fact that I am trans and told me that it might just be my autism or that I will probably grow out of it.
Im a trans boy and just to day i got in a lot of trouble because i was using my real name at school and my mom heard and she got so mad that she said no matter what i do I'll always be a girl and she will NEVER call me her son. When I first came out as transmasc two years ago she said no, she said she won't except me. Last year i came out again and she said i was mentally ill. Every day she purposely misgendered me. Every time i get called a girl, i feel like i wanna rip my skin off. I've thought about doing diy top surgery. But parents if ur reading this, pls at least try to understand and accept your child
I’m struggling with the biggest wave of gender dysphoria, and after the many breakups I’ve been through online, I don’t know what I am anymore, am I even male, or am I still the female I am? Or am I nothing at all?…
[short vent] go down here ⬇️ I wish I was a boy. being a girl sucks. why did I have to be like this my body, my voice, my hair, my face, me. why can’t I just change it? i miss being comfortable as a girl. it just.. changed one day. all the sudden I just felt wrong. why can’t I feel comfy again? why.. im using my dads email for the TH-cam account so let’s hope he doesn’t see this :(
TW vent: I wish my parents excepted me and didn’t make fun of me for “thinking” I’m a boy and so I can’t get a binder or top surgery and my friends are too embarrassed to use my correct pronouns and my school is a catholic private school so no perverted pronouns or preferred name so I’m just stuck in this endless loop of people either not understanding or blatantly ignoring my presence/making fun of me for being trans Thank you for reading this if you did I really need some boost of confidence probably at my lowest right now and could really use something to cheer me up!
Calling all trans men make this boy a happy boy (what I would say is to talk to online people that are apart of the community, and if you need a outlet to talk or vent, or whatever you can email me)
Vent I hate this body i am in. Its not always this bad, sometimes i am more ok with how i am or just dont think about it too much, but so often i just see an attractive guy and even tho i know i should want to be with him or something i just feel i want to be him. I want to rip open my skin and crawl out of this body. I know there exist surgeries and hrt but my body is just too feminine; my hips, thighs, voice, my round face and how short i am. I guess im just not meant to be a guy. I will never be able to pass. I have no one to talk to about this, im not even gonna try and imagine how it will go if i tell my family. My firends... well, most of them won't understand and im scared they won't accept me either, but i have this one friend who has made it clear that i can talk to her about any problems i have, but... me being trans... i am afraid of telling anyone, i dont know what to say and how it can possible go, but would telling anyone help. At this point i have just given up in all that "telling people about your problems" thing. It wouldn't change a thing, it would change the facts and it wouldnt change my body. I just feel so miserable. I know how everyone sees me and a can do nothing to change that. I look in the mirror and i can only feel disgust and at this point just hopelessness. I grasp after this small things that i can say makes me look i bit more masculine, like armpit hair and my brouder shoulders, but it is nothing, it isnt enough. I am so tired of feeling this miserable.
Everybody but my family accepts me- friends, teachers, even people i sit next to in class, even in a very republican state. My family (except for my cousin and aunt) call me she/her, call me my dead name, and call me a girl. I did get a binder though and i have short hair, but i can't get hormones (mainly to help my voice pass) or a name change yet. At least i only have 3 years to go until then :))
Im going to be honest, i have no idea if im trans. Ive been overthinking it for years and im trying to stop but i cant help it, i overthink everything. Its been tearing at me lately because im almost positive i need therapy or SOMETHING to help me figure this out, hut i cant tell my parents. Its like im not happy as a girl, but i dont know if id be happier as a boy either. I dont want to be non-binary either because that just doesnt feel right. Im so confused and i hate all of this.
My friend and I had a live broadcast today.Our viewers started calling us "lesbians", I tried to correct them, to which my friend replied: "Well, so far you really are a girl.Stop being angry about nothing.We've been friends with her for 7 years, I've never been so disappointed in her, that's all.
⚠️TW⚠️(vent,sh,depression,genderdysphoria) i just told my boyfriend about how i feel about myself (i‘m a girl i know..i want to be different so bad,i want to be a boy..it feels so wrong to be so..i hate being a girl i hate my body so fvcking much)he said he will think about it and that he only loves me as a girl..he‘s probably right and he also said he still loves me,but….somehow that triggered something and i started to cut myself again because i know that nobody will accept me when not even he does..it hurts even he didn‘t meant it like that 🙁
I would suggest to either talk about it with him, and if he says no/says I know you are trans but I love you for who you are then I would say break up with him (because you are a boy and no one can change that) (Also sorry for the late reply TH-cam flagged this as spam)
Hey man... I'm sorry that you are understandably scared to tell your boyfriend this. But... If you don't tell him, who will? Even if he doesn't accept you, there are people out there who will see you as the boy and man you are, not as a non-existent "girl" you aren't.
Vent!! Background information. I'm trans, female to male. I heavily dislike being referred to a girl. I asked some online friends (who don't know what I look like) what they think I look like and someone said "a white girl." Why does it hurt sm? It was just a fucking joke. But it hurt me sm. I don't wanna be seen as a girl. Why do i have to be like this? It was a simple joke. They and another person found it funny so why didn't I find It funny? Why am i so pathetic? I even said I used he/they and want to be referred as a boy. Yet they make that joke. It was just an joke yet it hurts sm.
Unrelated but I'm in the bath and my cats were crying to be let in so I opened the door and let them in, now they are asleep on the toilet snoring and it's hilarious I had to tell someone
Hello I am a person who wants to be a boy but don’t know what will people think… I don’t feel okay being a girl. But I don’t know what will my friends think.. I will vent here but I’m sorry if you don’t want me venting here. I am a girl who is like 14 - 15 years old I don’t feel comfortable being a girl anymore.. And I have been thinking about being a boy.. I am not sure but I don’t know what people will say.. Thank you for reading this..
Hey i'm fine with you venting here and I say ask your friends if they support the lgbtq+ community, and if you do want to be a boy I say change your name, and pronouns to see how you feel, if you feel good then that will confirm to yourself that you are/might be trans
hey! a lot of people feel that way, many of which in this comment section have gone through something similar, i want you to know you aren't alone. wilbur had some good advice, you can also mess around with expression (as long as its safe) as well to see what makes you the happiest.
Hey there! I'm sorry to hear that you've been feeling like this. 🫂 It's not the easiest and it feels like you have anchors heaving down onto you (and as an Autistic trans man, I used to perceive and present myself as an Autistic girl growing up while I used to like being one... I still get perceived as a woman by random strangers who see what they want to see, rather than what they don't see and it's easier said than done to not care about what people think of you as because... The most difficult part of transition is how other people perceive you, not the process itself). If you would like to try any labels other than "girl"/"female", I say go for it. You never know who you are until you explore and question yourself, right? You got this. 🫂👍🏻
I'm a genderfluid person but mostly male, but my body is that of a female. I have had self hatred for as long as I can remember. In elementary school I would pretend to be a guy to make myself happy. But other times I feel happy being a female. Others, I want to not be either. I wish I could shape shift so bad. I can't be how I feel all the time and it physically hurts. Sorry for venting.
TW: self-harm. As a funny little joke its like: "I wanna do diy top surgery hehehe" But having actual thoughts and thinking out the whole situation of cutting my chest out with knives and deciding the knives and what not, makes me crazy and not just a silly little trans bi boy. But then i think im just faking it and that i am a coward. I am probably faking it, idek at this point.
I saw this thing where it said " if you think you're faking being trans, you're probably trans" It helped me, I've doubted myself but I know now that I am a man, and that's okay
I got a question Am i too young to question my identity? Tw: sh, depression, gender dysphoria, derealization, mention of unaliving myself I am 12 and for the past few months i haven't been feeling the best. It wasn't because of my gender. It was just depression. But i've been feeling a lot of gender dysphoria which makes it worse. I am genderfluid so i get worried if i feel like one gender for too long and i wonder if i am trans or i am really just cis and faking it or its just my subconscious . Sometimes the gender dysphoria gets so bad that i want to sh-ing again. I get a lot of gender envy from wilbur soot to the point where sometimes its so painful that it physically effects me. I also experience derealization from time to time where i don't feel like my surroundings are not real or i feel very numb and empty. I also have urges to kms. I don't know how to deal with these feelings. Please help me.
It's the same for more but with schizophrenia and ADHD I looked for symptoms of both and have all of them. Im afraid to tell,because prob no one would believe me. Prob they're gonna say I'm just faking. Prob they gonna say I watched too much phone. But the monsters watch at night,even though they are night hallucinations. I'm only 12.. I'm only 12.
No, you're not too young to question your identity, dude. All those worries are very common for trans folks like you and I (It was pointed out to me by ex-friends that I'm not cis in 2020, so I get ya), and it sucks a lot to struggle with this. Hopefully shit becomes easier and better to manage the older you get, dude 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
I'll be honest, I've been having suicidal thoughts, and I'm not sure I can do this anymore I'm not even worried about my body, I just want to be called by a different name, and my parents are pissed
I'm trans masc 10 turning 11 this year and I have asked people to call me Levi or Ash and use they them /he him and people still call me my deadname I rlly hate it I asked for short hair and my mom and responded with it just can't be too short and it made me rlly sad my brother is also ftm and he said he was gonna legally change his name to Jack when he comes of age oh btw thanks for listening! Bye bye I love y'all!
As a transmasc, I’m questioning having body dysmorphia. The symptoms match, though. Although I just wanna make sure of something first, for you experts. I’m always looking at myself in the mirror when I pass one, then imagining having more masculine features (broader shoulders, flatter chest, wider upper portion of body, shorter, fluffier hair). It even gave me a mental breakdown just thinking about it. I’ve been told for years that I act more like a boy and have a such a deep voice (one time someone thought I was a man in my 20s-30s over the mic..), so maybe that’s part of it? And I also want to wear more ‘masculine’ clothing just to feel more comfortable. My leather jacket helps with it, but still. But my parents are transphobic, and I don’t want them to think that I think I’m entirely male, so I’m afraid to tell them anything. I just don’t want them to misunderstand me. Any ideas/conclusions?
Hey im Oliver trans male FTM came out to my mom about 6 years ago and she told me she cant accept me because she doesnt see me like that and only sees me as her "little girl" and my dad just yelled at me for it and now uses every moment he can to call me a girl or his "daughter" i suffer with depression anxiety and being suicidal and growing up like this makes it so much worse just keep pushing forward thinking about when ill finally be able to legally change my name be myself be able to say "first day on t!" (Testosterone) Be able to take my shirt off at the beach itll be worth the wait
i hate the fact that i was born a girl so much i literally never asked for this no one around me would understand or even try to listen to me if i tried to explain it to them im so tired honestly i cant even cut my fucking hair because of my mom literally most of my problems would be solved if i was just born a boy
I’m a 11 year old boy but I hate my body because I’m fat and I’m looking for me some how and I want to be a girl nice and pretty I live with my grandparents who are Christian and I’m Christian as well and want to stay a Christian but I want to Identity as a girl and they said if your gay ( as the call anything from LGBT+) that you will burn in h*ll I want to be a girl and I don’t know what to do I want to grow out my hair I love dresses and I want to paint my nails cry myself to sleep I want to tell my grandma but I don’t know what to do.;/
Dude I just watched a video about an anti-trans law passed in my local area and all it was, was just people agreeing that it’s unsafe to let trans women into the women’s restroom at school. It’s so annoying to see people agree with stupid nonsense like this. Trans women are women. Let them use what’s comfortable to them. (Edit) I wish that I could tell my parents I’m trans but I’d be kicked out and nobody in my family would take me in. It sucks having to worry about stupid crap like this. Why wasn’t I just a boy. Trans rights matter 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
I really want to cut my hair and get a binder so that I can feel more comfortable. I’m nonbinary though so I’m not transitioning FTM I just really really hate those parts of my body. Sure I hate certain parts of my face and arms but I really don’t like my chest or my long hair. I’ve been thinking about cutting my hair pretty short because my whole family and friends will most definitely be totally okay with me cutting my hair, that’ll make me feel better. I’m just very nervous about the kids at school, specifically in my class. Almost everyone in my class is either your typical sporty boy who wears weird shoes and shorts or it’s a popular mean-ish girl who loves volleyball and are annoying. There are some nice kids like this smart boy who people make fun of alot, two friends who are very different from other people, this new girl, and my friends. (I’m not trying to make fun of anyone here, I’m just trying my best to make specific features about them) I already have social anxiety so it’ll make everything alot worse for me at school. I’m already struggling in school so that’s not good. The binder would be completely okay. Nobody would notice. The binder being tight might also help me in some situations because of the pressure. I have sport bras but they do not work at all like a binder. I have tank tops too. I tried to pull a sports bra tighter and just held the fabric together and it worked then but I had no way of holding it together. I tried the same thing with a tank top. Asking for a binder and to cut my hair shorter would be really difficult to do. I think that if I did that then my entire family would think I was trans and wanted to be a boy. It would be nice for them to call me he and their son or brother sometimes but I prefer gender neutral terms like they and child and sibling. I really don’t know how to go about this. I’ll just cut my hair to shoulder length or something and try sewing a sports bra together in the back to make it like a binder. I’ll do the binder thing and try it out but I’ll have to ask my parents to cut my hair.
I have like ten minutes worth of homophobic shit my mom just said going through my head and what's worse Is that I'm not even out to her and she's saying it
Vent Tw I hate being trans. I am not right. I'm lucky, though. I have a loving and accepting family, but I still feel like they still see me as someone I'm not. Especially my mom, she calls me the right name and the right pronouns, but she's said that this is most likely a phase and that I'm just a tomboy, when I know i'm not. It's the one thing I know 100% about myself, and that still is possibly a lie to her. I don't know what she wants from me, Ig, she doesn't think I'm "trans enough," but I know that I am trans. And the dyphoria is the fucking worst, it gets so bad that I don't even wanna shower or change clothes(ik it's gross you don't have to point it out) I hate it, I hate my chest, my legs, my face, my voice, my height, my hands, my entire fucking body, ik this isn't mine and i hate it. I just wanna be what I'm supposed to be. Sorry for venting
Today I went to the beach with friends, and I randomly looked down and saw my chest. I’m not out to anyone, so I was wearing a girls swim suit. I’m flat, which I’m happy about, but I look like such a girl. My big lips.. my freckles.. my eyelashes… my small body. I hate it… “girl.” I hate that word. People get mad when I forget they’re responding to “she”. I’m sorry. I really am and I just hate myself for it.
Edt: it hurts when you are going through a lot like a friend leaving you or your favorite grandparents dying or being called the wrong pronouns and other stuff
I’m agender! I have went thought so many sexuality’s and genders. Such as trans! It lasted 6 months till I realized I was a ‘girl’. Then I went through Demi-girl! Then Demi-boy.. then… .. well. Gender-fluid, bigender, non-binary, gender-fluid again, then.. well. I don’t know what was after.. well I don’t know my sexuality!!.. haha. Hah?. Then I’m ashamed of being a so tall ‘girl’ at 6,3+.. I just hate it sometimes! Yk?. Then hated hated and hated! So I “had”to rel@p$e. I quite then! And so on, I still have thought of being a straight out boy. (Not straight lol..) but I go he/they!.. then I like girls.. I don’t be straight? I still wouldn’t rlly be. I used like rlly don’t wanna be straight, as if it was a fear!! REMINDER, IT SHOULDN’T RLLY BE! Be who you are. But I don’t wanna be girl! Then I hear she!! She. SHE. SHE!..??! No. I never, ever will be.
Vent Y do I have 2 be trans? Y can’t my parents call me their son? Y can’t the normal boys in my class like me? Y can’t I just be cis and leave it at that?
i feel so bad for the other trans folk in this comment section :( yinz seem like such great people (´；Д；`) but here’s a few things that have recently happened in my self-made man journey :)) 1: im rather smaller chested, so i bought some smaller sports bras and they bind so well omg :))) 2: my sister helped me choose a new name !! im still trying to pick between Peter, Parker, eddie, Bruce, or the one my sister picked, victor 3: i came out to my mom!! she still doesn’t use he/him on me though :( she’s older so i kinda expected it 4: i recently went to a 5 below in my area and i met a cool as fuck non-binary person and we talked about Jojo’s bizarre adventure. :))) (ill post more if anything else happens or if anyone else wants some more little snippets)
i´m really sorry that you feel like this, you deserve to like being alive. i wish i could give you some advice on how to cope with that feeling/how to feel better. if it gets too much, please seek out for help, okay? you do not have to go though this alone, even if it feels like this sometimes. idk if it helps you, but from personal experience i can tell you that it will get better. maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next week, and maybe it will take some tears and some hard decisions, like leaving people who hurt you behind, to get better, maybe it will be pretty exhausting, but it will get better. definetly. please stay safe!
As a cismale I'm very sorry you guys feel like this. I will be here if you need anything. I don't have a vent or anything I just want you guys to know it's alright man. Us guys don't usually judge you. I mean I definitely don't judge my brother is FTM and I still love him to death I love you guys too. :)
This comment is so sweet, I hope you know this means alot to me as a ftm and I hope you have a good day/night!
Hey man, thanks for this ❤
you dont know how much that means to me, a trans guy, thank you.
Yay supportive cis people! :D
As someone from the Transmasc community I can confirm we appreciate your kind words and love you for this.❤️❤️
as a transguy, if you wanna have some masculine stuff, here:try working out, i use transmasc creators and use their workouts
try taking vitamins, such as(i use these btw)
iron
vitamin d gummies
CoEnzyme Q10
zinc
magensium+vitamin b6
vitamin b complex
cod liver oil
vitamin e
vitamin d3
woks for me
I’m gender-fluid, but I asked my mom if she would buy me a binder, and I thought she was supportive of me. But she said no, and it broke me. The reason she said no is because I’m not gender-fluid or trans masc. and I’m just following the media. But I’m not, I’m trying to be myself, I don’t feel right in my body, since I was little, I never felt that I was supposed to be a female.
I'm sorry, brother. I'm genderfluid transmasc too. It'll get better. I recommend ordering yourself a binder during the holidays, parents will be less suspicious of you asking them not to look in packages around that time.
@@miraculous_lady_noir2179 i literally got a binder today without my mom know, I'm f-ing cry.
@@The_animeweeb Omg im so proud of you! Congratulations 💛
@@miraculous_lady_noir2179 dude, you don't know how happy I was to finally get out of the house without feeling dysphoric
@@The_animeweeb Ikr? It really makes all the difference. Wait'll you get mistaken for a cis dude for the first time, it'll be amazing.
Its nice to be brought out of a little world thinking this only happens to u.🙂
people say that the teenage years are the best but this is hell, being trans with not supporting parents is ripping me apart. every night a part of me is just screaming inside and i know this is ruining me and my health, because of bad sleeping and sugar addiction
Bro teenage years is bad for me also and I'm cis. Like I think I'm bi but my parents are homophobic.
@@GangleGoneInsane this sucks and I hope you the best honestly. I was having a breakdown when i wrote that and I'm now much better mentally even tho technically I'm still in the same situation, but I managed to find comfort within my self, so I hope you can do it too when things get tough
@@yohan505I'm so sorry you feel like that... But also same. I wish you the best and hope you'll be able to be yourself one day ❤
I want all of these boys to know they are not alone I’m a trans kid and I constantly feel alone so this video really made me happy.
For anyone who has trouble taking showers for gender dysphoria reasons, here are some things that helped me ^^
- Dimmer lights, you don’t see your body as much
- I bring an extra towel to put over the mirror and take it down when I’m done in the shower, clips and good tape works depending on what mirror you have.
- On bad days I sometimes will wear a bathing suit in the shower so I can wash my hair and stuff but it makes it easier for me at least idk
- If you take baths bubbles or bath bombs work nicely
- keep in mind these are things I’ve done and I’m not sure if they will work for you or if anyone will use these tips. Please let me know
if I can add anything to this list, and make sure to have an awesome day
Ha, this is actually kinda funny,I literally just opt out of the shower. I wish I knew to do these
I also have a dysphoria playlist that makes me feel better so I play that when I'm feeling dysphoric. Songs that work for me are 1. Songs about being a gay man and how hard that is (helps me forget about being trans and I can just focus on being a gay man) 2. Songs by trans men 3. Any songs with the word "boy" or "man"
TW: RANT/VENT
As a transmasc femboy, I occasionally find myself stuck in a position I feel like one side of me is like:
"You should wear what you want," but then the little voice in my head says:
"If you wear that you'll never pass."
It's just absolutely fucking exhausting trying to feed both sides and I hate it.
And being more comfortable with certain aspects of me than most transmasc people just makes it worse, makes me feel less validated, so much so that I just feel like a burden for merely existing in the community.
If you read this, I truly appreciate you. Thank you. 💗
im the same way man it rlly sucks im so sorry
I'm so sorry you guys have to feel like that :) you guys r men even if you r a femboy r just r feminine you gay r men no matter what people say ❤
Is transmasc ftm or mtf? Sorry it’s a dumb question I’m new to all these terms and still not sure who I am
Transmasc is Ftm
got it thank you@@Wilbur_1_
A boy is a boy, no matter if he has long hair or short hair, a larger chest or a shorter chest, a feminine face or a masculine face, muscles or no muscles, curves or no curves, a lower voice or a higher voice.
A boy is a boy, forever and always. Even if his body doesn't look the way he wants it to.
Love you bro's. Stay strong. ✊
Thank you so fucking much. Genuinly. I almost started sobbing
No problem dude. Bros gotta support bros.👍💜
Thank you so so much you have a heart of gold ❤
as a trans masc turning 13 this year, id say I'm a lucky trans guy. when i had long hair people saw me as a boy still and i do have normal amounts of testosterone a woman has so its shocking, I'm quite flat anyway, I've now had my hair cut short and one time i was in school in English and the teacher came over and said "will this gentleman here be ok?" i was never so happy in my life
Same
I'm turning 13 this year too! For me unluckily it's the total opposite but I'm happy for you, man!
I love that for you ❤
You're so lucky...
Why are you so lucky??? :( i wish i could go on T..
When your scared to die but your suicidal
This. All of this I feel so much. I relate too much to these insecurities
I just had to be born a F*cking girl...
Yeah for me the only good thing about being born a girl is that liking men is normal for girls so even tho I'm gay my dad won't notice
@@Wilbur_1_ Oh I hadn't thought of that... Thanks :D
Your welcome
Fr…
That's a mood dude (from an Autistic trans man)
I hate it when non trans people claim tv characters are trans and somehow get into these completions
Fr fr
Wait a min, ur talking abt hunter!?!? Dude ur sick
I got my haircut like a boys a while ago, probably a week, I've been much more confident in myself. My haircut helped me a lot and my friends calling me Jake has as well, but then I get a little voice saying, 'well you'll never be an actual boy, people will still see you as a girl.' and so on. It's annoying, I've done what i can and i wish i could do more but then it would possibly lead to me having to tell my parents and well i don't want to deal with that so the haircut's the best I'm gonna get for now. I hope things can get better and i hope things for the person reading this fo as well.
Edit: It's been 5 months apparently since I got the haircut and all that, now I have short floofy hair lol. Still doing semi well, hope ya'll have a good day. :)
OH NO NOT THE CANON EVENT OF THE FIRST TRANSMASC HAIRCUT
(nvm if it isnt your first masc haircut-)
@@qu1gsley It was lol
My chest hurts, I didn't plan to cry tonight too, but yeah... It's been complicated days.
Hope y'all are doing well.
My dad says he supports me, but I know he doesn't, I know he doesn't want to let go of his "little girl" but I'm not a girl, I'm demi-boy, I'm trans masculine. And he still uses she her with me and refuses to use he him or even they them, and he even "slips up" on my name on purpose, and he never apologizes about it, ever. IM NOT YOUR DAUGHTER, IM JAIME, YOUR SON, IM STILL YOUR CHILD.
It's also really hard for me to take care of myself because I know deep down I hate my body, I pretend I'm fine with having boobs and a uterus, but deep down I know I just want to scream and shout about my body being wrong. Which is why I put off showers and or baths, because I never know when my breaking point will be.
(Vent)
My name is Charlie, I am 13 and a trans boy. I have always known deep down that I am not a girl but I have been denying and suppressing those feelings for about two years now. My whole family is very transphobic and I am scared of them every finding out. I feel guilty and scared when I imagine how they will react. If I am being honest I don’t care what my parents say. I am scared that my brother will see me differently. He is my favorite person and I love him so much and the thought of him finding out makes me sick. Im so scared and don’t know what to do.
So as I was writing this I thought about my cousin who is bisexual and also around 22 years old. Im scared but maybe I could come out to him and have some closure about someone in my family who could possibly accept me. I am going to text him and ask how he feels about trans people and then I will give yall an update if you want.
Edit: Sorry I forgot about this!! It went really well actually, he supported me and said it was important to understand and accept yourself and be comfortable in who you are. I think that applies to anyone who is reading this You’re identity is who you are and you should be comfortable and happy with it because we only get one shot at life and you shouldn’t comply with what other people see you as. Be yourselves, if not for others then for yourself.
If you don't mind, how'd it go? You alright?
@TacoCat544 she's not your friend is she won't accept you - that's not a friend at all. you deserve better than her. and remember, you're never too young to know who you are :D
Hello, Charlie:) it was nice reading this and I hope things go alright with your family. If they don't, there will always be people who support, even if you haven't met them yet ❤️
@@Ihatecardboard8 This reply was so sweet I hope you have an amazing day.
@TacoCat544 If you cant find anyone irl to except you there are plenty of online communities that would support you. If you need to talk or vent I am here, ok?
I, a non binary person who just started their period, im starting to develop dysphoria and im so so scared. I dont know what to do and im terrified.
recently my friends invited me to the beach, being a trans masc I said yes forgetting I’d have to wear a bathing suit. The day we were gonna go to the beach I wore a shirt and didn’t touch the water and I love the water and the waves.
TW: VENT AND $H
when they say they understand what it's like to be misgendered and deadnamed but when their partner deadnames you (accident or not) and they stand up for them when you get angry and even tell u that you should calm down :/ (and the person that deadnamed u only apologizes after you apologize for getting mad. I struggle with SH and they say they care and "want me to get batter" but i've started not to believe them they just don't understand. they don't understand how bc of my parents violent outbursts i've inherited it even when i try to not get mad, them and their partner are trans and they've never deadnamed them. i just don't understand, it makes me so mad and idk what to do abt it anymore, my only solution is SH but ik its supposed to be wrong but what am i supposed to do with all this pent up rage and sadness. and i cant talk back or convey how i really feel bc it'll start an argument and i'll be the asshole. i just dont know what to do anymore
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OMG I LOVE YOUR SONIC PFP SM BRO🩷🩷🩷🩷😭
Hey ik what ur going through I'm in the same boat dude if there's an argument it's not ur fault it's there's for not accepting and for being assholes about u stating that u don't use that name for pronouns. Stick up for urself what matters is that ur happy and don't feel too dysphoric as they don't realise that it can lead to depression and that builds up to other things too so don't fuckng listen to what others say ur u and no one and nothing should change thefact that u live by that name and pronouns and u r strong enough to show urself u just have to find that strength and whatever happens there's people out there who'll accept u don't worry
These one’s hit way to close to home for me, I’m so fucking jealous of them it hurts. 5:55 6:54 15:38 15:50 0:50
This is so wholesome
Warning! Vent/rant!!!!
I just want to do the things I already do but as a boy. I want to paint my nails as a boy. I want to wear dresses and makeup as a boy. I want to date boys and girls as a boy. I want to be a boy, but I’m stuck in this female body, it’s nothing I want to be. I can’t hide like some trans guys can because I’m not skinny, no matter what I wear I can see every curve. I hate it so much, I just wish I could be a tall, scrawny, alt boy. I just want people to me as who I really feel like I am. I’ve normalized my given name and pronouns but still each time I hear them it’s like everything else goes quiet and they stop all my other thoughts
if your hair is lower than your shoulders and you want to look like you have short hair, heres what i do
- tie up your hair in a ponytail or braid
- tuck it into your shirt
- wear a hoodie, jacket, sweater, or something similar over your shirt
- this is optional, but i wear a backwards baseball hat
- VERY optional, but i love wearing sunglasses with all this lol
TW (sh, transphobia, gender dysphoria) rant on my transphobic-ish (?) parents
Bruh. my parents are so f-ing weird. at one point they're like "oh it's aight you can be transmasc" BUT:
-they won't call me by my prefered name
-they misgender me
-they wont let me buy clothes from men's section because 'i'll look weird'
-they wont let me buy a binder
And it makes me feel so bad. my dysphoria is just making me more and more miserable with every single day so i sh to shut it down just for a moment. It just hurts and i'm sick of it.
The best thing about my body is that it’s more masculine than other biological females’ bodies. (I depend on it when dysphoria hits me😭)
3:23 so I’m not the only one who used to envy Henry from Henry danger when I was little?
A think a lot of people envied the Henry danger characters (and even some of Danger force characters)
Now I'm just sad my mom says that I have to have long hair because I'm a "girl" and I'm scared to say I'm trans😭
don't come out if you scared and guess what your mom's wrong guys can have long hair, live the best you can, man
@@Wilbur_1_ thanks :)
Your welcome
The people who used to genuinely vent about being trans are the real ones. Not the ones who claim it was a "phase"
I have a pretty masc body (height voice jawline facial structure) but I still get a lot of dysphoria.
as a transboy only 13 i can feel this true i can't stand being called a girl sometimes i feel like i shouldn't be alive bc of it i be bullied and misgendered alot being called out many times and some girls only stayed near me bc they know my story most people just assume of me being a bad kid saying i shouldn't think of those thoughts yet but i do i wana be a boy so bad :(((
Comfort content. Thank you :> I love it when my comfort creator makes things I can relate to and enjoy/love.
Wait. I'm your comfort creator?
@@Wilbur_1_ Yea
I want to be a long haired metalhead boy so badly. I don’t wanna be just another girl. That’s not me. I want my mom to realize I don’t feel good in my body. God get me out of my body. I’ll never be like those boys.
Bro that would look so cool metalhead boy
I look at any guy. A character, a person, any cis male I get such bad gender envy no matter who it is
You know that feeling where you can’t tell if ou like someone or if it’s just gender envy?
Also my hair has been getting pretty long and my mom won’t get me an appointment to get it cut short and it’s giving me so much gender disforia and I,like, can’t function properly knowing I don’t look masculine
Personally, I would just cu my hair, that’s what I did my first time. And trim it when ever I needs trimmed. Or, if your school allows yet to wear beanies, put your hair up, and tuck your hair up.
I’m sorry if it doesn’t help, but I hope it does.
@@Ely-sian I got a friend of my to cut it, but thanks for the advice!! I really appreciate it!
we need a part 2 🗣️🗣️🗣️
I'm genderfluid and I feel like I cant identify or say I'm trans because some days I still feel like a girl so I feel invalid and then I get mad at myself for feeling invalid yk?
If you identify as anything but your assigned gender at birth, you are trans. For me, I just tell people I’m trans instead of explaining what being gender-fluid is.
That's not your fault you sometimes feel like a girl. You're still who you say you are, fellow human 🫂
It may not feel that shit's going to be okay right now, but it will be soon or at any point in your life.🫂
This comment is just for me to vent.
I've been really exhausted and tired over the last couple of weeks. The election happened, I tried to come out to my grandma, and I realized that my mom might not be as accepting as I thought she was. Let me explain into further detail.
First of all, the election was a sh!t show. Me and my friends found out at 5am, and we all started freaking out. I made a plan to get to Canada via bus, and was doing calculations on how much it would cost to escape. When I realized that I didnt have enough money, some of my friends volunteered to stay behind if we left. I went to school and asked my friends if they would just us if we left.
The second big thing that happened was that I came out to my grandma. She was accepting, at least I think she was. But now I will probably have to deal with my christian trump supporting grandpa who thinks that COVID-19 was over exaggerated and lives in the middle of Arkansas, which is one of the most red states in the whole Usa.
Third, I realized recently that my mom has only used gender neutral terms and pronouns for me, even though I fully came out as a trans guy and told her I used he/they pronouns. She also still calls me she and doesn't correct herself. She says she is trying, but she hasn't gotten any better at using the correct pronouns over the span of a whole year.
Im constantly exhausted, and I don't know if I am exhausted because of how much I sleep, or because of all of the 💩 going on.
For the first time ever at school today I met someone who was a transmale too and accepted me, he had a friend who also accepted me and they even asked what pronouns I wanted to be refered as and a name (my real name is a super girly name). Theres alot of homophobic kids in my school, like one time I was brave enough to have a trans flag sticker on my computer and then a kid called me a fag and then said i was disgusting. When I got home after meeting the boy who was also trans and his friend, i cried happy tears and i was so fucking happy. Me and the two kids on that bus are really good friends now, an im really glad about it..
Omg I'm so happy for u I'm ftm too and also love ur Vox pfp!❤
I hate showers so much due to the dysphoria thing I just don't look at the mirror or use my shirt to cover
Something I just want to feel like a girl for not having to face the fact that I'm trans and will always have to deal with it
My mom is almost always supportive but Christian i told her because i thought she would support me but now she acts like im not her kid what i mean is shes nice to me still but when i talk about being a boy she says im just confused because of my autism
Your mom's weird she shouldn't blame in on your autism, and maybe show her vids of trans guys so she understands they're not bad I recommend the channel Jammidodger, and Noahfinnce (if she isn't homophobic) and they're vids on TH-cam of gender dysphoria and other things
This video really let me know that I’m not the only one being a trans boy and going through gender dysphoria, thank you for this video ❤
My nana is transphoic and asks me why we dont hang out more.
Screw this. Screw a journey, or teaching others about their ignorance, these things. Screw 'character characterization'. This sucks. I can't see it positively like that. I didn't want to be born this way. No one should have to go through this. I am so damn tired. I want this over.
Transmasc videos and dreamsmp in it :0 this is what I want 😭💙💙💙
Being a trans ftm is pain
It is
@@Wilbur_1_ yes
bit of a rant tw for dysphoria talk
anyone else have this problem where they don't pass no matter what they wear as a trans guy, but you like to dress femm, but also that little part of your brian is like "you'll never pass like that" but you don't pass anyways so it shouldn't matter??? feeling like clothing should just be about euphoria but dysphoria gets in the way i guess? idk if this makes sense
Yes I understand and I also have that problem
sorry you also deal with that, thanks for replying :)
3:17 "I will never ever be like the other boys" that hits hard, ouch.
It is so unfair... I already did the hard part and came out to her and yet still im her daughter and a young lady and she doesnt understand how awful it makes me feel. She just brushed over the fact that I am trans and told me that it might just be my autism or that I will probably grow out of it.
Jus to let u know minors In Texas can't get transition care anymore as of today. Tha is so fucked up.
What? That is fucking stupid minors could start killing themselves because of it
same with Idaho
damn good thing my dad changed his mind abt moving to Texas worse part is he wants to go to Utah
I just found out I was trans and not to long ago I threw up because of how bad my dysphoria was and how much I hated my body 🥲👍
Im a trans boy and just to day i got in a lot of trouble because i was using my real name at school and my mom heard and she got so mad that she said no matter what i do I'll always be a girl and she will NEVER call me her son. When I first came out as transmasc two years ago she said no, she said she won't except me. Last year i came out again and she said i was mentally ill. Every day she purposely misgendered me. Every time i get called a girl, i feel like i wanna rip my skin off. I've thought about doing diy top surgery. But parents if ur reading this, pls at least try to understand and accept your child
I’m struggling with the biggest wave of gender dysphoria, and after the many breakups I’ve been through online, I don’t know what I am anymore, am I even male, or am I still the female I am? Or am I nothing at all?…
Dysphoria be hitting hard rn!
[short vent]
go down here ⬇️
I wish I was a boy. being a girl sucks. why did I have to be like this
my body, my voice, my hair, my face, me. why can’t I just change it?
i miss being comfortable as a girl. it just.. changed one day. all the sudden I just felt wrong. why can’t I feel comfy again?
why..
im using my dads email for the TH-cam account so let’s hope he doesn’t see this :(
TW vent: I wish my parents excepted me and didn’t make fun of me for “thinking” I’m a boy and so I can’t get a binder or top surgery and my friends are too embarrassed to use my correct pronouns and my school is a catholic private school so no perverted pronouns or preferred name so I’m just stuck in this endless loop of people either not understanding or blatantly ignoring my presence/making fun of me for being trans Thank you for reading this if you did I really need some boost of confidence probably at my lowest right now and could really use something to cheer me up!
Calling all trans men make this boy a happy boy (what I would say is to talk to online people that are apart of the community, and if you need a outlet to talk or vent, or whatever you can email me)
YOU ARE A REAL MAN. YOU'RE A PRETTY BOY.
Vent
I hate this body i am in. Its not always this bad, sometimes i am more ok with how i am or just dont think about it too much, but so often i just see an attractive guy and even tho i know i should want to be with him or something i just feel i want to be him. I want to rip open my skin and crawl out of this body. I know there exist surgeries and hrt but my body is just too feminine; my hips, thighs, voice, my round face and how short i am. I guess im just not meant to be a guy. I will never be able to pass. I have no one to talk to about this, im not even gonna try and imagine how it will go if i tell my family. My firends... well, most of them won't understand and im scared they won't accept me either, but i have this one friend who has made it clear that i can talk to her about any problems i have, but... me being trans... i am afraid of telling anyone, i dont know what to say and how it can possible go, but would telling anyone help. At this point i have just given up in all that "telling people about your problems" thing. It wouldn't change a thing, it would change the facts and it wouldnt change my body. I just feel so miserable. I know how everyone sees me and a can do nothing to change that. I look in the mirror and i can only feel disgust and at this point just hopelessness. I grasp after this small things that i can say makes me look i bit more masculine, like armpit hair and my brouder shoulders, but it is nothing, it isnt enough. I am so tired of feeling this miserable.
Sending hugs 🫂🫂🫂🫂
Everybody but my family accepts me- friends, teachers, even people i sit next to in class, even in a very republican state. My family (except for my cousin and aunt) call me she/her, call me my dead name, and call me a girl. I did get a binder though and i have short hair, but i can't get hormones (mainly to help my voice pass) or a name change yet. At least i only have 3 years to go until then :))
6:23 someone is dark Larrier 😂
1:52 hit so fucking hard
i would rather be called the f-slur or gay when i wear "feminine" stuff than "girl"
Im going to be honest, i have no idea if im trans. Ive been overthinking it for years and im trying to stop but i cant help it, i overthink everything. Its been tearing at me lately because im almost positive i need therapy or SOMETHING to help me figure this out, hut i cant tell my parents. Its like im not happy as a girl, but i dont know if id be happier as a boy either. I dont want to be non-binary either because that just doesnt feel right. Im so confused and i hate all of this.
From the age of 7 I wanted to be a boy, my parents didn't want to believe me, I waited several years and..Nothing has changed since then.
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12k teens crying over the opposite gender
Now it's 28k 🦖
My friend and I had a live broadcast today.Our viewers started calling us "lesbians", I tried to correct them, to which my friend replied: "Well, so far you really are a girl.Stop being angry about nothing.We've been friends with her for 7 years, I've never been so disappointed in her, that's all.
You guys will always be men to me
⚠️TW⚠️(vent,sh,depression,genderdysphoria)
i just told my boyfriend about how i feel about myself (i‘m a girl i know..i want to be different so bad,i want to be a boy..it feels so wrong to be so..i hate being a girl i hate my body so fvcking much)he said he will think about it and that he only loves me as a girl..he‘s probably right and he also said he still loves me,but….somehow that triggered something and i started to cut myself again because i know that nobody will accept me when not even he does..it hurts even he didn‘t meant it like that 🙁
I would suggest to either talk about it with him, and if he says no/says I know you are trans but I love you for who you are then I would say break up with him (because you are a boy and no one can change that)
(Also sorry for the late reply TH-cam flagged this as spam)
@@Wilbur_1_i can‘t break up with him.. i love him so much:( he is the only one i can trust and he us the only person that cares about me
Okay then talk about it with him (because you shouldn't stay with someone that doesn't support you for who you are)
@@Wilbur_1_ tysm but i‘m scared😓
Hey man... I'm sorry that you are understandably scared to tell your boyfriend this. But... If you don't tell him, who will? Even if he doesn't accept you, there are people out there who will see you as the boy and man you are, not as a non-existent "girl" you aren't.
Vent!!
Background information.
I'm trans, female to male. I heavily dislike being referred to a girl.
I asked some online friends (who don't know what I look like) what they think I look like and someone said "a white girl."
Why does it hurt sm? It was just a fucking joke. But it hurt me sm. I don't wanna be seen as a girl. Why do i have to be like this? It was a simple joke. They and another person found it funny so why didn't I find It funny? Why am i so pathetic? I even said I used he/they and want to be referred as a boy. Yet they make that joke. It was just an joke yet it hurts sm.
Unrelated but I'm in the bath and my cats were crying to be let in so I opened the door and let them in, now they are asleep on the toilet snoring and it's hilarious I had to tell someone
2:02 today I got all sweaty but I can't shower I can't do it looking at my body makes me want to claw my way out of it
tbh i rather get told to go back to my country or get called the c or f slur than be trans. im so exhausted.
Hello I am a person who wants to be a boy but don’t know what will people think…
I don’t feel okay being a girl.
But I don’t know what will my friends think..
I will vent here but I’m sorry if you don’t want me venting here.
I am a girl who is like 14 - 15 years old
I don’t feel comfortable being a girl anymore..
And I have been thinking about being a boy..
I am not sure but I don’t know what people will say..
Thank you for reading this..
Hey i'm fine with you venting here and I say ask your friends if they support the lgbtq+ community, and if you do want to be a boy I say change your name, and pronouns to see how you feel, if you feel good then that will confirm to yourself that you are/might be trans
hey! a lot of people feel that way, many of which in this comment section have gone through something similar, i want you to know you aren't alone. wilbur had some good advice, you can also mess around with expression (as long as its safe) as well to see what makes you the happiest.
@@Sprinkles-is-confused thanks :)
@@Wilbur_1_ Thank you :)
Hey there!
I'm sorry to hear that you've been feeling like this.
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It's not the easiest and it feels like you have anchors heaving down onto you (and as an Autistic trans man, I used to perceive and present myself as an Autistic girl growing up while I used to like being one... I still get perceived as a woman by random strangers who see what they want to see, rather than what they don't see and it's easier said than done to not care about what people think of you as because... The most difficult part of transition is how other people perceive you, not the process itself).
If you would like to try any labels other than "girl"/"female", I say go for it. You never know who you are until you explore and question yourself, right?
You got this. 🫂👍🏻
My question is why is Carrera in the background of this video 😂 3:16
I'm a genderfluid person but mostly male, but my body is that of a female. I have had self hatred for as long as I can remember. In elementary school I would pretend to be a guy to make myself happy. But other times I feel happy being a female. Others, I want to not be either. I wish I could shape shift so bad. I can't be how I feel all the time and it physically hurts. Sorry for venting.
TW: self-harm.
As a funny little joke its like:
"I wanna do diy top surgery hehehe"
But having actual thoughts and thinking out the whole situation of cutting my chest out with knives and deciding the knives and what not, makes me crazy and not just a silly little trans bi boy.
But then i think im just faking it and that i am a coward.
I am probably faking it, idek at this point.
If you feel like you don't belong in your body, and you feel like a guy, then you're not faking it
I saw this thing where it said " if you think you're faking being trans, you're probably trans"
It helped me, I've doubted myself but I know now that I am a man, and that's okay
Feeling terrible today guys
I got a question
Am i too young to question my identity?
Tw: sh, depression, gender dysphoria, derealization, mention of unaliving myself
I am 12 and for the past few months i haven't been feeling the best. It wasn't because of my gender. It was just depression. But i've been feeling a lot of gender dysphoria which makes it worse. I am genderfluid so i get worried if i feel like one gender for too long and i wonder if i am trans or i am really just cis and faking it or its just my subconscious . Sometimes the gender dysphoria gets so bad that i want to sh-ing again. I get a lot of gender envy from wilbur soot to the point where sometimes its so painful that it physically effects me. I also experience derealization from time to time where i don't feel like my surroundings are not real or i feel very numb and empty. I also have urges to kms. I don't know how to deal with these feelings. Please help me.
To answer your question, you are never too young to question your identity
@@Wilbur_1_ But I still feel like it was the wrong time. It was already hard. Now it's even harder.
It's the same for more but with schizophrenia and ADHD
I looked for symptoms of both and have all of them.
Im afraid to tell,because prob no one would believe me.
Prob they're gonna say I'm just faking.
Prob they gonna say I watched too much phone.
But the monsters watch at night,even though they are night hallucinations.
I'm only 12..
I'm only 12.
No, you're not too young to question your identity, dude. All those worries are very common for trans folks like you and I (It was pointed out to me by ex-friends that I'm not cis in 2020, so I get ya), and it sucks a lot to struggle with this.
Hopefully shit becomes easier and better to manage the older you get, dude 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
just started working out to stop it but really its my hair left to fix but i got a fat forehead which is kinda manly
I'll be honest, I've been having suicidal thoughts, and I'm not sure I can do this anymore
I'm not even worried about my body, I just want to be called by a different name, and my parents are pissed
I'm trans masc 10 turning 11 this year and I have asked people to call me Levi or Ash and use they them /he him and people still call me my deadname I rlly hate it I asked for short hair and my mom and responded with it just can't be too short and it made me rlly sad my brother is also ftm and he said he was gonna legally change his name to Jack when he comes of age oh btw thanks for listening! Bye bye I love y'all!
I just turned 12 last month, I feel you bro...
As a transmasc, I’m questioning having body dysmorphia. The symptoms match, though. Although I just wanna make sure of something first, for you experts.
I’m always looking at myself in the mirror when I pass one, then imagining having more masculine features (broader shoulders, flatter chest, wider upper portion of body, shorter, fluffier hair). It even gave me a mental breakdown just thinking about it. I’ve been told for years that I act more like a boy and have a such a deep voice (one time someone thought I was a man in my 20s-30s over the mic..), so maybe that’s part of it? And I also want to wear more ‘masculine’ clothing just to feel more comfortable. My leather jacket helps with it, but still.
But my parents are transphobic, and I don’t want them to think that I think I’m entirely male, so I’m afraid to tell them anything. I just don’t want them to misunderstand me.
Any ideas/conclusions?
Hey im Oliver trans male FTM came out to my mom about 6 years ago and she told me she cant accept me because she doesnt see me like that and only sees me as her "little girl" and my dad just yelled at me for it and now uses every moment he can to call me a girl or his "daughter" i suffer with depression anxiety and being suicidal and growing up like this makes it so much worse just keep pushing forward thinking about when ill finally be able to legally change my name be myself be able to say "first day on t!" (Testosterone) Be able to take my shirt off at the beach itll be worth the wait
i hate the fact that i was born a girl so much
i literally never asked for this
no one around me would understand or even try to listen to me if i tried to explain it to them
im so tired honestly
i cant even cut my fucking hair because of my mom
literally most of my problems would be solved if i was just born a boy
I’m a 11 year old boy but I hate my body because I’m fat and I’m looking for me some how and I want to be a girl nice and pretty I live with my grandparents who are Christian and I’m Christian as well and want to stay a Christian but I want to Identity as a girl and they said if your gay ( as the call anything from LGBT+) that you will burn in h*ll I want to be a girl and I don’t know what to do I want to grow out my hair I love dresses and I want to paint my nails cry myself to sleep I want to tell my grandma but I don’t know what to do.;/
Wish I could fit i with all the other guys.
i want to be a boy or a trans tomgirl forever
Dude I just watched a video about an anti-trans law passed in my local area and all it was, was just people agreeing that it’s unsafe to let trans women into the women’s restroom at school. It’s so annoying to see people agree with stupid nonsense like this. Trans women are women. Let them use what’s comfortable to them. (Edit) I wish that I could tell my parents I’m trans but I’d be kicked out and nobody in my family would take me in. It sucks having to worry about stupid crap like this. Why wasn’t I just a boy. Trans rights matter 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
Guess who got harassed at school for being trans?!…
MEEE
Shit
i’m so sorry i hope your okay i know how it is :(
I really want to cut my hair and get a binder so that I can feel more comfortable. I’m nonbinary though so I’m not transitioning FTM I just really really hate those parts of my body. Sure I hate certain parts of my face and arms but I really don’t like my chest or my long hair. I’ve been thinking about cutting my hair pretty short because my whole family and friends will most definitely be totally okay with me cutting my hair, that’ll make me feel better. I’m just very nervous about the kids at school, specifically in my class. Almost everyone in my class is either your typical sporty boy who wears weird shoes and shorts or it’s a popular mean-ish girl who loves volleyball and are annoying. There are some nice kids like this smart boy who people make fun of alot, two friends who are very different from other people, this new girl, and my friends. (I’m not trying to make fun of anyone here, I’m just trying my best to make specific features about them) I already have social anxiety so it’ll make everything alot worse for me at school. I’m already struggling in school so that’s not good. The binder would be completely okay. Nobody would notice. The binder being tight might also help me in some situations because of the pressure. I have sport bras but they do not work at all like a binder. I have tank tops too. I tried to pull a sports bra tighter and just held the fabric together and it worked then but I had no way of holding it together. I tried the same thing with a tank top. Asking for a binder and to cut my hair shorter would be really difficult to do. I think that if I did that then my entire family would think I was trans and wanted to be a boy. It would be nice for them to call me he and their son or brother sometimes but I prefer gender neutral terms like they and child and sibling. I really don’t know how to go about this. I’ll just cut my hair to shoulder length or something and try sewing a sports bra together in the back to make it like a binder. I’ll do the binder thing and try it out but I’ll have to ask my parents to cut my hair.
I have like ten minutes worth of homophobic shit my mom just said going through my head and what's worse Is that I'm not even out to her and she's saying it
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I hate being trans. I am not right. I'm lucky, though. I have a loving and accepting family, but I still feel like they still see me as someone I'm not. Especially my mom, she calls me the right name and the right pronouns, but she's said that this is most likely a phase and that I'm just a tomboy, when I know i'm not. It's the one thing I know 100% about myself, and that still is possibly a lie to her. I don't know what she wants from me, Ig, she doesn't think I'm "trans enough," but I know that I am trans. And the dyphoria is the fucking worst, it gets so bad that I don't even wanna shower or change clothes(ik it's gross you don't have to point it out) I hate it, I hate my chest, my legs, my face, my voice, my height, my hands, my entire fucking body, ik this isn't mine and i hate it. I just wanna be what I'm supposed to be.
Sorry for venting
Today I went to the beach with friends, and I randomly looked down and saw my chest. I’m not out to anyone, so I was wearing a girls swim suit. I’m flat, which I’m happy about, but I look like such a girl. My big lips.. my freckles.. my eyelashes… my small body. I hate it… “girl.” I hate that word. People get mad when I forget they’re responding to “she”. I’m sorry. I really am and I just hate myself for it.
trans men are men 👍
Being anxious about being trans its fine I understand I'm a trans now I'm boy
Edt: it hurts when you are going through a lot like a friend leaving you or your favorite grandparents dying or being called the wrong pronouns and other stuff
I’m agender! I have went thought so many sexuality’s and genders. Such as trans! It lasted 6 months till I realized I was a ‘girl’. Then I went through Demi-girl! Then Demi-boy.. then… .. well. Gender-fluid, bigender, non-binary, gender-fluid again, then.. well. I don’t know what was after.. well I don’t know my sexuality!!.. haha. Hah?. Then I’m ashamed of being a so tall ‘girl’ at 6,3+.. I just hate it sometimes! Yk?. Then hated hated and hated! So I “had”to rel@p$e. I quite then! And so on, I still have thought of being a straight out boy. (Not straight lol..) but I go he/they!.. then I like girls.. I don’t be straight? I still wouldn’t rlly be. I used like rlly don’t wanna be straight, as if it was a fear!! REMINDER, IT SHOULDN’T RLLY BE! Be who you are. But I don’t wanna be girl! Then I hear she!! She. SHE. SHE!..??! No. I never, ever will be.
I wish I wasn’t fckin horrified of surgery…
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Y do I have 2 be trans? Y can’t my parents call me their son? Y can’t the normal boys in my class like me? Y can’t I just be cis and leave it at that?
i feel so bad for the other trans folk in this comment section :( yinz seem like such great people (´；Д；`)
but here’s a few things that have recently happened in my self-made man journey :))
1: im rather smaller chested, so i bought some smaller sports bras and they bind so well omg :)))
2: my sister helped me choose a new name !! im still trying to pick between Peter, Parker, eddie, Bruce, or the one my sister picked, victor
3: i came out to my mom!! she still doesn’t use he/him on me though :( she’s older so i kinda expected it
4: i recently went to a 5 below in my area and i met a cool as fuck non-binary person and we talked about Jojo’s bizarre adventure. :)))
(ill post more if anything else happens or if anyone else wants some more little snippets)
I wish I liked living
i´m really sorry that you feel like this, you deserve to like being alive. i wish i could give you some advice on how to cope with that feeling/how to feel better. if it gets too much, please seek out for help, okay? you do not have to go though this alone, even if it feels like this sometimes.
idk if it helps you, but from personal experience i can tell you that it will get better. maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next week, and maybe it will take some tears and some hard decisions, like leaving people who hurt you behind, to get better, maybe it will be pretty exhausting, but it will get better. definetly. please stay safe!