Here is a winner of the Nobel Prize and the world's number 1 biological modeler confirming to the Los Angeles Times what I have been saying for a week now on my TH-cam channel: www.latimes.com/science/story/2020-03-22/coronavirus-outbreak-nobel-laureate instagram.com/p/B-HO6uUD_9U/ The WHO issued a warning that the COVID-19 pandemic is "accelerating" when in effect it is decelerating and over its peak, including even in Italy and the USA. And its trajectory has little to do with social distancing. How to explain such inaptitude? Epidemiologists are very poor mathematicians but too grandiose to seek help. The WHO doesn't employ even ONE mathematician! Consequently, their predictions are driven more by anecdotal optics and panic than by any crunching (analysis) of the numbers in highly complex mathematical models Remember: the infections we are diagnosing today occurred (were transmitted) A FEW DAYS AGO! It is like star light: it takes time for light to traverse the distance, so we never see the present - we can only see the past (rearview mirror). Like a tsunami wave, the pandemic will crest in the next 10 days as a result of OLD infections - but NEW infections will decline precipitously. RESPONSE TO A VIROLOGIST Virologists like you are part of the problem, not part of the solution. You got almost everything wrong both in my video - and in reality. When I say "COVID-19 virus" it like saying "AIDS virus" (when referring to HIV). I said in the video that RNA (which is made of nucleic acids, exactly like DNA) helps to translate DNA into proteins. You are confusing case fatality rate with mortality: SARS-Cov-2 is far less virulent than SARS because of lower transmissibility, growth factor, and doubling time. Graphic descriptions of disease contribute to panic: all diseases are ugly (at least they were when I studied medicine). No one said that the young don't get infected and even die. But it is a numbers game: the young overwhelmingly survive, the old with comorbidities overwhelmingly die. FACT. Finally: I am also have post-graduate education in physics and mathematics. So I do a lot of modelling which includes ultra-complex and sophisticated extrapolations. The majority of medical professionals suck in math and get the models and their predictions utterly wrong.
I am a borderline...I react exactly like that. He treats me like a child...this has made me understand what is going on. I never cheat, I don't trust though.
Critical thinking and scholarship vs panic and histrionics is a Rx discipline for healing a fractured self. Unconditional love is for pets and children, not adults. Adults function on trustworthiness. If one did not get unconditional love in childhood, then to become an adult one must commit to a heroic journey to fill that empty hole through a disciplined commitment to healing one's self. Sometimes you just gotta go it alone in Quarantine.
@@lottesrensen8004 Your grandmother became a sympathetic witness. Once we heal, YES, we too can become sympathetic witnesses to others especially unloved children. Your point is vital!
Cyndy LEE Damn! This rang that bell for me. You pretty much summed it up in a few sentences, which for me, wasn’t as easy to do. I just couldn’t connect the dots, if u you will. But great description! Fragmentation, though. How do you heal something you don’t know needs healing. Or where it sprouted from? Thanks for the insight 🙏
Lotte Sørensen As a man who was not really emotionally present during my children’s early years I’ve come to recognize how my parents were not ever emotionally present for me. After years of complex relationship disfunction in my marriage, resulting in divorce, I have worked hard at renewing relationships with my adult children. I am determined to be there for them without judgment or “what about me-ism” as a father who loves them. Their lives, in turn, have been tulmutuous but each has found a place of stability in life which suits his/her lifestyle. I like to think that I have contributed to that by finding my own long-standing wounds healed and deepening self acceptance.
Will a day come when fathers will be emotionally available to their daughters in the healthy ways that will prevent us from the demoralizing repetition of codependent relationships? My mother married two men who had no interest in children yet she had four kids. And of course, it’s all their fault (the men). I’m glad I was born but my father didn’t want me or my sister and he was so enraged about my mother’s third pregnancy he tormented her daily and my sister was stillborn. Clearly my father was just interested in my mother for sex, not family building. Her second husband abandoned his first family for my mother and drank all day every day and found a mistress and abandoned his second family as well. But, again, it’s the men. She’s a victim of men. She doesn’t see that she is the one who chose them.
I love my children. I had 2 with a woman, a boy and a girl. My ex pushed me out of our relationship and eventually my kids lives. She was jealous of my love for my daughter and she made my life hell for it. At the end she started accusing me of abusing my children, gaslighting me by pretending that I had hurt them and didn't love them. I was afraid of her calling the police on me (again) and so I finally left for good. I haven't seen them in about a year. I really love my daughter more than anything, but it's to risky for me to be around her. When I finally left I was mentally and emotionally broken from the non stop narcissistic abuse from her mother who made it clear that she would never stop. I was completely broke and couldn't go on anymore. She smeared my name and got me fired from my job. The community supports her and treats her like a victim and me like an evil monster. They call it parental alienation. It's pretty common. I'm so sad that my ex uses my kids to hurt me and was willing to deny them a father out of spite. She has full custody and doesn't want me in the kids lives at all. When I left I had no money, my health was shattered, everything I owned fit into a backpack and I walked away defeated. My ex hates me and was willing to deny my kids a father to pay me back. She also hates the kids, especially my daughter. Last time I saw her I was playing with my little girl and she was laughing and kissed me. Her mother gave me an evil look and told me to stop playing with her. Then she accused me of abusing her. It really breaks my heart. I love that girl so much. Her mother is an evil woman and the community supports her against me. I tried my best, but I couldn't go on any more.
I found out that this girl I was taken advantage of was borderline! She terrified me out of no where one day and split on me. Then I also found out that I have a lot of narcissistic traits and feel really bad now . I really want my ex girlfriend back. The pandemic has really become a true lens of self discovery for me.
OMG I laughed so hard at the beginning about the twin pandemic joke. One of my close friends has strong borderline traits but never got a formal diagnosis who was dating an undiagnosed NPD. After learning about the dynamics of that couple, it scared the crap out of me. She got out and has more grandiose traits and behaviors than before.
Here is a winner of the Nobel Prize and the world's number 1 biological modeler confirming to the Los Angeles Times what I have been saying for a week now on my TH-cam channel: www.latimes.com/science/story/2020-03-22/coronavirus-outbreak-nobel-laureate
You said “they tend to each other’s archaic wounds...” I told my narcissistic (vengeful - “my bloodlust shall be satiated”, he “enjoys watching me suffer”, he “will never not hate me” and he’s completely rewritten our history. And the torturous cruelty continued a year, I suspect it’s not done. Even though he had a new gf immediately. But I told him that he had torn an ancient scab and opened a deep wound. That now I get to face the core of my insatiable need for love, acceptance, stability. Strength. Self confidence. I have been diagnosed with dissociative disorder. Rage disorder. Self mutilation. PTSD. And there were some whispers of borderline. But I was 13. I tested with the Intelligence of a post grad. And the emotional maturity of a 3 year old. I do have empathy. Too much. I can sense and tend to the needs of another. But I began blacking out with my narc. And once in my life I became angry. To an abusive and unrelenting Degree. I don’t ever want that again. It’s amazing and a miracle that I came out of it. With years of devoted loving therapists that saw something worth their time and effort. Baffles me. The narc seems to be able to turn his hate and empty, his disconnect and cruelty, off and on like a switch. I can not. I devolved into hate when I was 13... and if I felt bad or hurt for you I would redouble my cruelty more so for your attempt to make me feel guilty. I was wounded. I’ll suited for life. But I fought through it and even went to college and spoke at treatment centers. Now I can’t even open a bill or hold a job. CPTSD is the new diagnosis. I was hospitalized 3 times by 14 yrs old. My childhood was painful, my mother was abusive and my father died a drug addict. Violence, instability, fear, and secrecy was our life. And I lived to protect my younger brother. I love my narc, I see the wounded in him. I wish he had seen me. So I can concede that even if some one did unconditionally love me, I wouldn’t feel it, it’s a risk I can’t take. But the tit for tat, the desire to make him break us, the stealing... I did not have that. Could that be due to all the treatment and therapy and spiritual/metaphysical/philosophical studies, practices I have done since 14? What is wrong with me? I identify with many of the borderline traits you discussed. But I most definitely do not want vengeance. I do not want him to hurt. But I want to see worth in myself, not be terrified or angry... and I find myself becoming that again. Any insight or book recommendations are appreciated. Thank you.
I'm borderline, he is a narcissist. He discarded me, abandoning our marriage, he's in his home country. It's been 8 months, I have never felt such pain and I'm just shattered. I know this is due to my emotional attachment and instability but never would I imagine it like this. With quarantine I'm now losing my mind as it gives me time to overthink what happened and want to reach out but he'll never answer. These videos help. I've avoided seeing your videos as it hurts to be confronted with the truth and even with the titles of your videos, I acknowledge the fact it is just like him. I admire your intelligence but mainly your immense ability to make this comprehensible.
Nadia Sending you love and light. I know the pain you speak of. Only other borderlines can understand that level of pain and I’m so sorry you’re going through this
THANK👏YOU👏SO👏FUCKING👏MUCH👏SIR!!!!!👏 The part on the borderline/narcissistic relationship is SOOO spot on its fucking creepy. But in a good, revelation having kind of way. I want my bf to understand this so bad, our relationship has been EXHAUSTING to say the least, and Sam you took the literal actual words right out of my mouth. I don’t want to give up on him, we have made it through so much in a year and a half, but sweet baby Jesus, I’m so tired of arguing with him. And I have noticed what I am doing as well, maladaptive behaviors and bpd traits and all, and have recently made the decision to work through my issues and have been trying to change some of my less appealing behaviors and it has been so incredibly difficult, especially because he provokes me daily and constantly. We are currently not seeing each other because of this type of thing. I know if we both really tried as hard as we argue, we could absolutely achieve some sort of healthy relationship type thing for both of us. We have the potential to be THAT power couple if we could just work together instead of against each other. He is not so open to working on himself however, or so he says out loud. But in my experience I have found that they are not incorrect when they say knowledge is power! So I am dedicating my extensive research to both of us, as a team, and we shall see how it plays out, I suppose. So again, Sam thank you ever so much for all your divine wisdom and knowledge, it has already helped me immensely! Keep em comin’ !!
I have a question. You say here that a narcissist is able to give unconditional love when in other videos you have said that narcissists are incapable of loving.
They mislabel their emotions and dependence as "love" and give it unconditionally to secure a long-term source of high quality supply. You see this behavior in the love bombing phase, for example.
Thank you Sam for the video I hope when you have time if you can talk more about the first 2 years of a childhood in details Also about mental growth and the different in normal person Thanks a million
Sam I really appreciate how you described so bluntly and don't sugarcoat anything I was diagnosed borderline in January but was totally convinced the that was just because they only had literally eight boxes different disorders and I have to fit into one but everything you say is so is dead on and very relieving to hear and understand about myself so I can continue 2 avoid hurting men as well as myself for this borderline that means abstinence from serious monogamous relationships for eight years now and I'm okay with it
I was diagnosed as bpd and i have to say what i wanted was to merge … infact it was one of the most important things for me… anything i did anything bad was because i discovered the narcissist was playing me and infact didn’t feel what he had told me he did 🤷🏼♀️
Wow you nailed it even the cloud shape shifting part I literally shape-shift like a pixelated Cloud on camera I wonder if you think the best option for borderlines is to not be with anyone that's what I've chosen to do for 8 years because rejection I cannot handle
Thank you. You and Amesh Adalja are the only scientists I've heard offer this reasonable point of view on the mortality rate of this disease. The logarithmic trend lines of this disease's death rate in the countries worst struck by this pandemic have already flattened or are starting to flatten. I don't get why the CDC and the WHO ignore this in their estimates of the fatality rate.
Oh wow, felt like you were describing me better than I would be able to myself. Uncomfortable listening, but very insightful nevertheless. Definitely got my mind off the hysteria around Covid 19. Thanks.
Enjoyed video. Yep, I had 'daddy' issues w/the narc but discarded him as he was discarding me. What freaked me out is he'd go from being a little boy who wanted mommy to being my daddy. Yeah, it got weird and I ran 😢
The still image of you for this video sort of struck me like you just had an argument with a narcissistic girlfriend. I can relate to the non-verbal expression of seemingly endless stress when encountering with varying magnitudes of unpleasantries some carry with them.
The narcissist that I know just make me follow my own way....is a manipulator and a story teller....and I like interesting stories....as a visual artist, nothing better at the moment.
What is the main difference between borderline and narcissistic personality? For my understanding they are very similar, i think that borderline are somehow narcissistic in his border personality. In borderline everything is emotional and zero racional, everything is taking to the limit, he thinks is always the best in everything, but in deep feeling they are with a very low confidence and self estime. What borderline don’t need, they despised immediately without any problem like narcissistic people. So, what is the main difference between the two? And by the way, do you think they can change with appropriate therapeutic and psiquatry treatment? Are they good persons with true feelings? Thanks in advance i much appreciate your way of explaining thinks
WHY WOULD MY Narcissist BROTHER HIDE THE FACT THAT HE AS PUT LIFE INSURANCE ON HIS LITTLE BROTHER LIFE WHO HAS A MIND OF A 10 YEAR OLD , WHO I HAVE BEN LOOKING AFTER FOR THE LAST 5 YEARS SINCE MY MOTHER HAS DIED , AND I HAVE ALWAYS BEN THERE FOR THE BOTH OF THEM , MY MOTHER AND LITTLE BROTHER ALL MY LIFE , AND THAT I HAVE SACRIFICE MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY WIFE OF 23 GREAT YEARS TOGETHER TO KEEP A PROMISE THAT IVE MADE TO MY MOTHER SINCE I WAS 10 YEAR OLD , AND MY OLDER BROTHER HAS NEVER ACCEPTED HIS LITTLE BROTHER CAUSE HES IS NOT NORMAL, AND HE ALWAYS AVOIDS THE QUESTION , DID YOU OR DID YOU NOT PUT LIFE INSURANCE ON OUR LITTLE BROTHERS LIFE EVEN AFTER 5 YEARS HE STILL WILL NOT ANSWER THE QUESTION . AND I THINK , NOW HE WANTS TO TAKE MY LITTLE BROTHER AWAY FROM ME , SO WHAT DO YOU THINK HE HAS PLANNED FOR , WHAT I DO KNOW IS , THAT HE IS MONEY CRAZY , HE EVEN KEPT OUR MOTHERS LIFE INSURANCE MONEY FOR HIM SELF , WAS SUPOSE TO BE FOR MY LITTLE BROTHER IF I WOULD NEED THINGS FOR HIM ,IM 52 YEARS OLD Y LITTLE BROTHER IS 51. ( WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THAT )) SO YOU TELL ME.
I've watched hundreds of your videos however I haven't come across money that talk about narcissistic fathers and borderline daughters and repressed memories of ritual incest would be awesome if you could explain what goes on and they incest father's mind I've heard recently that he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong can you explain that and also if he like my father for example I'm the third female and the family my two aunts also have accused him in the past molesting them but I had no idea he had sexually abused me up until about age 7 until this past January when my body started to remember and I had smell memories of his private parts and so long but I have been watching him with my toddler niece and the first time suspected him of even being creepy like that but now with everything I've learned I see how he has groomed us and grooms the little ones in front of their own mother is his daughters I'm the Chris break her of the family of the generational incest on both sides incest suicide murder Irish people
Sam Vaknin true but that’s not really love and we feel the difference. As you said before in other videos they feel like robots or aliens and it’s very creepy. This is mainly my reason for wanting to run away from them.
Here is a winner of the Nobel Prize and the world's number 1 biological modeler confirming to the Los Angeles Times what I have been saying for a week now on my TH-cam channel:
www.latimes.com/science/story/2020-03-22/coronavirus-outbreak-nobel-laureate
instagram.com/p/B-HO6uUD_9U/
The WHO issued a warning that the COVID-19 pandemic is "accelerating" when in effect it is decelerating and over its peak, including even in Italy and the USA. And its trajectory has little to do with social distancing.
How to explain such inaptitude?
Epidemiologists are very poor mathematicians but too grandiose to seek help. The WHO doesn't employ even ONE mathematician!
Consequently, their predictions are driven more by anecdotal optics and panic than by any crunching (analysis) of the numbers in highly complex mathematical models
Remember: the infections we are diagnosing today occurred (were transmitted) A FEW DAYS AGO! It is like star light: it takes time for light to traverse the distance, so we never see the present - we can only see the past (rearview mirror). Like a tsunami wave, the pandemic will crest in the next 10 days as a result of OLD infections - but NEW infections will decline precipitously.
RESPONSE TO A VIROLOGIST
Virologists like you are part of the problem, not part of the solution. You got almost everything wrong both in my video - and in reality.
When I say "COVID-19 virus" it like saying "AIDS virus" (when referring to HIV).
I said in the video that RNA (which is made of nucleic acids, exactly like DNA) helps to translate DNA into proteins.
You are confusing case fatality rate with mortality: SARS-Cov-2 is far less virulent than SARS because of lower transmissibility, growth factor, and doubling time.
Graphic descriptions of disease contribute to panic: all diseases are ugly (at least they were when I studied medicine).
No one said that the young don't get infected and even die. But it is a numbers game: the young overwhelmingly survive, the old with comorbidities overwhelmingly die. FACT.
Finally: I am also have post-graduate education in physics and mathematics. So I do a lot of modelling which includes ultra-complex and sophisticated extrapolations. The majority of medical professionals suck in math and get the models and their predictions utterly wrong.
I am a borderline...I react exactly like that. He treats me like a child...this has made me understand what is going on. I never cheat, I don't trust though.
Critical thinking and scholarship vs panic and histrionics is a Rx discipline for healing a fractured self. Unconditional love is for pets and children, not adults. Adults function on trustworthiness. If one did not get unconditional love in childhood, then to become an adult one must commit to a heroic journey to fill that empty hole through a disciplined commitment to healing one's self. Sometimes you just gotta go it alone in Quarantine.
@@lottesrensen8004 Your grandmother became a sympathetic witness. Once we heal, YES, we too can become sympathetic witnesses to others especially unloved children. Your point is vital!
Cyndy LEE Damn! This rang that bell for me. You pretty much summed it up in a few sentences, which for me, wasn’t as easy to do. I just couldn’t connect the dots, if u you will. But great description! Fragmentation, though. How do you heal something you don’t know needs healing. Or where it sprouted from? Thanks for the insight 🙏
Lotte Sørensen As a man who was not really emotionally present during my children’s early years I’ve come to recognize how my parents were not ever emotionally present for me. After years of complex relationship disfunction in my marriage, resulting in divorce, I have worked hard at renewing relationships with my adult children. I am determined to be there for them without judgment or “what about me-ism” as a father who loves them. Their lives, in turn, have been tulmutuous but each has found a place of stability in life which suits his/her lifestyle. I like to think that I have contributed to that by finding my own long-standing wounds healed and deepening self acceptance.
True.
🤙🏼🐋 well said! I had to screenshot that one.
Will a day come when fathers will be emotionally available to their daughters in the healthy ways that will prevent us from the demoralizing repetition of codependent relationships? My mother married two men who had no interest in children yet she had four kids. And of course, it’s all their fault (the men). I’m glad I was born but my father didn’t want me or my sister and he was so enraged about my mother’s third pregnancy he tormented her daily and my sister was stillborn. Clearly my father was just interested in my mother for sex, not family building. Her second husband abandoned his first family for my mother and drank all day every day and found a mistress and abandoned his second family as well. But, again, it’s the men. She’s a victim of men. She doesn’t see that she is the one who chose them.
I wish you a happiness . God bless you 😔
Im so sorry and wish you all the best xo
I love my children. I had 2 with a woman, a boy and a girl. My ex pushed me out of our relationship and eventually my kids lives. She was jealous of my love for my daughter and she made my life hell for it. At the end she started accusing me of abusing my children, gaslighting me by pretending that I had hurt them and didn't love them. I was afraid of her calling the police on me (again) and so I finally left for good. I haven't seen them in about a year. I really love my daughter more than anything, but it's to risky for me to be around her. When I finally left I was mentally and emotionally broken from the non stop narcissistic abuse from her mother who made it clear that she would never stop. I was completely broke and couldn't go on anymore. She smeared my name and got me fired from my job. The community supports her and treats her like a victim and me like an evil monster.
They call it parental alienation. It's pretty common. I'm so sad that my ex uses my kids to hurt me and was willing to deny them a father out of spite. She has full custody and doesn't want me in the kids lives at all. When I left I had no money, my health was shattered, everything I owned fit into a backpack and I walked away defeated.
My ex hates me and was willing to deny my kids a father to pay me back. She also hates the kids, especially my daughter. Last time I saw her I was playing with my little girl and she was laughing and kissed me. Her mother gave me an evil look and told me to stop playing with her. Then she accused me of abusing her.
It really breaks my heart. I love that girl so much. Her mother is an evil woman and the community supports her against me. I tried my best, but I couldn't go on any more.
This is my mother to a T.
@@connorlucfortier8010 I’m so sorry that this has happened to anyone. Praying for God’s mercy on you.
Good god. If your relationship was like this and you survived through it you are an incredible human being.
I found out that this girl I was taken advantage of was borderline! She terrified me out of no where one day and split on me. Then I also found out that I have a lot of narcissistic traits and feel really bad now . I really want my ex girlfriend back. The pandemic has really become a true lens of self discovery for me.
OMG I laughed so hard at the beginning about the twin pandemic joke. One of my close friends has strong borderline traits but never got a formal diagnosis who was dating an undiagnosed NPD. After learning about the dynamics of that couple, it scared the crap out of me. She got out and has more grandiose traits and behaviors than before.
Here is a winner of the Nobel Prize and the world's number 1 biological modeler confirming to the Los Angeles Times what I have been saying for a week now on my TH-cam channel:
www.latimes.com/science/story/2020-03-22/coronavirus-outbreak-nobel-laureate
This is so accurate. Wow. You do great work, Sam!
You said “they tend to each other’s archaic wounds...” I told my narcissistic (vengeful - “my bloodlust shall be satiated”, he “enjoys watching me suffer”, he “will never not hate me” and he’s completely rewritten our history. And the torturous cruelty continued a year, I suspect it’s not done. Even though he had a new gf immediately.
But I told him that he had torn an ancient scab and opened a deep wound. That now I get to face the core of my insatiable need for love, acceptance, stability. Strength. Self confidence.
I have been diagnosed with dissociative disorder. Rage disorder. Self mutilation. PTSD. And there were some whispers of borderline. But I was 13. I tested with the Intelligence of a post grad. And the emotional maturity of a 3 year old. I do have empathy. Too much. I can sense and tend to the needs of another. But I began blacking out with my narc. And once in my life I became angry. To an abusive and unrelenting Degree. I don’t ever want that again. It’s amazing and a miracle that I came out of it. With years of devoted loving therapists that saw something worth their time and effort. Baffles me. The narc seems to be able to turn his hate and empty, his disconnect and cruelty, off and on like a switch.
I can not. I devolved into hate when I was 13... and if I felt bad or hurt for you I would redouble my cruelty more so for your attempt to make me feel guilty. I was wounded. I’ll suited for life. But I fought through it and even went to college and spoke at treatment centers.
Now I can’t even open a bill or hold a job. CPTSD is the new diagnosis.
I was hospitalized 3 times by 14 yrs old. My childhood was painful, my mother was abusive and my father died a drug addict. Violence, instability, fear, and secrecy was our life. And I lived to protect my younger brother. I love my narc, I see the wounded in him. I wish he had seen me.
So I can concede that even if some one did unconditionally love me, I wouldn’t feel it, it’s a risk I can’t take. But the tit for tat, the desire to make him break us, the stealing... I did not have that.
Could that be due to all the treatment and therapy and spiritual/metaphysical/philosophical studies, practices I have done since 14?
What is wrong with me?
I identify with many of the borderline traits you discussed. But I most definitely do not want vengeance. I do not want him to hurt. But I want to see worth in myself, not be terrified or angry... and I find myself becoming that again. Any insight or book recommendations are appreciated. Thank you.
Wow what should we think now? Because he was completely wrong about the numbers in Covid19
I'm borderline, he is a narcissist. He discarded me, abandoning our marriage, he's in his home country. It's been 8 months, I have never felt such pain and I'm just shattered. I know this is due to my emotional attachment and instability but never would I imagine it like this. With quarantine I'm now losing my mind as it gives me time to overthink what happened and want to reach out but he'll never answer. These videos help. I've avoided seeing your videos as it hurts to be confronted with the truth and even with the titles of your videos, I acknowledge the fact it is just like him. I admire your intelligence but mainly your immense ability to make this comprehensible.
Nadia Sending you love and light. I know the pain you speak of. Only other borderlines can understand that level of pain and I’m so sorry you’re going through this
@@NuMindframe thank you, honestly it really means a lot to me because it's difficult for others to understand. I take it a day at a time.
Nadia Did you just find out you’re borderline?
I didn’t hear this term before. I’m borderline for sure!
THANK👏YOU👏SO👏FUCKING👏MUCH👏SIR!!!!!👏
The part on the borderline/narcissistic relationship is SOOO spot on its fucking creepy. But in a good, revelation having kind of way. I want my bf to understand this so bad, our relationship has been EXHAUSTING to say the least, and Sam you took the literal actual words right out of my mouth. I don’t want to give up on him, we have made it through so much in a year and a half, but sweet baby Jesus, I’m so tired of arguing with him. And I have noticed what I am doing as well, maladaptive behaviors and bpd traits and all, and have recently made the decision to work through my issues and have been trying to change some of my less appealing behaviors and it has been so incredibly difficult, especially because he provokes me daily and constantly. We are currently not seeing each other because of this type of thing. I know if we both really tried as hard as we argue, we could absolutely achieve some sort of healthy relationship type thing for both of us. We have the potential to be THAT power couple if we could just work together instead of against each other. He is not so open to working on himself however, or so he says out loud. But in my experience I have found that they are not incorrect when they say knowledge is power! So I am dedicating my extensive research to both of us, as a team, and we shall see how it plays out, I suppose. So again, Sam thank you ever so much for all your divine wisdom and knowledge, it has already helped me immensely! Keep em comin’ !!
Thank you for bringing back the classic introduction!
Haha! The intro... Never change it. :)
Wow! Sam you are describing me, as a borderline woman.
I have a question. You say here that a narcissist is able to give unconditional love when in other videos you have said that narcissists are incapable of loving.
They mislabel their emotions and dependence as "love" and give it unconditionally to secure a long-term source of high quality supply. You see this behavior in the love bombing phase, for example.
Thank you Sam for the video I hope when you have time if you can talk more about the first 2 years of a childhood in details
Also about mental growth and the different in normal person
Thanks a million
Sam I really appreciate how you described so bluntly and don't sugarcoat anything I was diagnosed borderline in January but was totally convinced the that was just because they only had literally eight boxes different disorders and I have to fit into one but everything you say is so is dead on and very relieving to hear and understand about myself so I can continue 2 avoid hurting men as well as myself for this borderline that means abstinence from serious monogamous relationships for eight years now and I'm okay with it
Sam can you do a video of bipolar/Narcissist relationships? Thanks
Maybe they are perfect for each other so that normal people will have a chance to be with other decent people.
😹😹😹😹😹🫣
I was diagnosed as bpd and i have to say what i wanted was to merge … infact it was one of the most important things for me… anything i did anything bad was because i discovered the narcissist was playing me and infact didn’t feel what he had told me he did 🤷🏼♀️
Brilliant. Thank you Sam.
13:15 Everything you said in this video is pretty much accurate. It's crazy how I only have the awareness to realize these patterns in retrospect.
Wow you nailed it even the cloud shape shifting part I literally shape-shift like a pixelated Cloud on camera I wonder if you think the best option for borderlines is to not be with anyone that's what I've chosen to do for 8 years because rejection I cannot handle
What then for the borderline? Is there any hope?
Thank you. You and Amesh Adalja are the only scientists I've heard offer this reasonable point of view on the mortality rate of this disease. The logarithmic trend lines of this disease's death rate in the countries worst struck by this pandemic have already flattened or are starting to flatten. I don't get why the CDC and the WHO ignore this in their estimates of the fatality rate.
Oh wow, felt like you were describing me better than I would be able to myself. Uncomfortable listening, but very insightful nevertheless. Definitely got my mind off the hysteria around Covid 19. Thanks.
The fact that virologists would confuse case fatality and fatality is frightening.
Mortality. And epidemiologists.
Am I correct in assuming that these things all happen unconsciously until one becomes aware of it or one is made aware of it?
Usually it takes a few relationships for people to see patterns I've noticed
"You asked for it" haha! Youre too cute.
Thank you daddy 💕🕊
please guide to co parent with a narcissist during this Pandemic!
Hit a nerve with me. Just wow. Thank you x
Enjoyed video. Yep, I had 'daddy' issues w/the narc but discarded him as he was discarding me. What freaked me out is he'd go from being a little boy who wanted mommy to being my daddy. Yeah, it got weird and I ran 😢
Thank god some common sense. Thank you for this.
Does that mean in a Borderline and Narcissist couple, the Narcissist always has the upper hand or power in the relationship?
Wow! This is my son and his girlfriend. The Narcissist and the Borderline.
I read The Plague in 2020 when the pandemic first hit america! The similarities between the book and today were jarring.
Thanks for all your work and effort 💖🦋🌸💖🦋🌸🏵
WOW!!! Amazing Insight! Thank You!!!
The still image of you for this video sort of struck me like you just had an argument with a narcissistic girlfriend. I can relate to the non-verbal expression of seemingly endless stress when encountering with varying magnitudes of unpleasantries some carry with them.
Thank you. VERY very helpful! (And you look like Lacan!)
wow..great video! can you do a video about a Co-Dependent and a Borderline?..thanks!!
Ah sam i miss you're old introduction 😁
The narcissist that I know just make me follow my own way....is a manipulator and a story teller....and I like interesting stories....as a visual artist, nothing better at the moment.
Wow . Cosmic justice.
Wow, you just explained 2 of my ex wives and probably me! Lol
What is the main difference between borderline and narcissistic personality?
For my understanding they are very similar, i think that borderline are somehow narcissistic in his border personality.
In borderline everything is emotional and zero racional, everything is taking to the limit, he thinks is always the best in everything, but in deep feeling they are with a very low confidence and self estime.
What borderline don’t need, they despised immediately without any problem like narcissistic people.
So, what is the main difference between the two?
And by the way, do you think they can change with appropriate therapeutic and psiquatry treatment?
Are they good persons with true feelings?
Thanks in advance i much appreciate your way of explaining thinks
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WHY WOULD MY Narcissist BROTHER HIDE THE FACT THAT HE AS PUT LIFE INSURANCE ON HIS LITTLE BROTHER LIFE WHO HAS A MIND OF A 10 YEAR OLD , WHO I HAVE BEN LOOKING AFTER FOR THE LAST 5 YEARS SINCE MY MOTHER HAS DIED , AND I HAVE ALWAYS BEN THERE FOR THE BOTH OF THEM , MY MOTHER AND LITTLE BROTHER ALL MY LIFE , AND THAT I HAVE SACRIFICE MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY WIFE OF 23 GREAT YEARS TOGETHER TO KEEP A PROMISE THAT IVE MADE TO MY MOTHER SINCE I WAS 10 YEAR OLD , AND MY OLDER BROTHER HAS NEVER ACCEPTED HIS LITTLE BROTHER CAUSE HES IS NOT NORMAL, AND HE ALWAYS AVOIDS THE QUESTION , DID YOU OR DID YOU NOT PUT LIFE INSURANCE ON OUR LITTLE BROTHERS LIFE EVEN AFTER 5 YEARS HE STILL WILL NOT ANSWER THE QUESTION . AND I THINK , NOW HE WANTS TO TAKE MY LITTLE BROTHER AWAY FROM ME , SO WHAT DO YOU THINK HE HAS PLANNED FOR , WHAT I DO KNOW IS , THAT HE IS MONEY CRAZY , HE EVEN KEPT OUR MOTHERS LIFE INSURANCE MONEY FOR HIM SELF , WAS SUPOSE TO BE FOR MY LITTLE BROTHER IF I WOULD NEED THINGS FOR HIM ,IM 52 YEARS OLD Y LITTLE BROTHER IS 51. ( WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THAT )) SO YOU TELL ME.
Excellent!
I've watched hundreds of your videos however I haven't come across money that talk about narcissistic fathers and borderline daughters and repressed memories of ritual incest would be awesome if you could explain what goes on and they incest father's mind I've heard recently that he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong can you explain that and also if he like my father for example I'm the third female and the family my two aunts also have accused him in the past molesting them but I had no idea he had sexually abused me up until about age 7 until this past January when my body started to remember and I had smell memories of his private parts and so long but I have been watching him with my toddler niece and the first time suspected him of even being creepy like that but now with everything I've learned I see how he has groomed us and grooms the little ones in front of their own mother is his daughters I'm the Chris break her of the family of the generational incest on both sides incest suicide murder Irish people
Please excuse the typos throughout that after using voice to text my fake thumbnails too big correct it right now my cat snuggling under my other arm
I would like to know if you have found anything on this because you just told my story.
Ooh ive also read love in the time of cholera but that was pre pandemic.
Great stuff
🙏 I agree this is all fear
Why 'she' when talking about psychopathy in borderlines?
Because 75% of diagnosed Borderlines are women and because 100% of secondary psychopaths who are also borderlines are women.
@@samvaknin Thanks for answering Sam and acknowledging a quarter of all borderlines are male. In my experience male borderlines are highly dangerous.
Sam u mention some narcissist can give unconditional love ...?i was thinking they are not able to give unconditional love bit confused
Narcissists can and will do anything to secure supply. They tend to become codependent on their sources. Watch the relevant vids on my channel.
Sam Vaknin true but that’s not really love and we feel the difference. As you said before in other videos they feel like robots or aliens and it’s very creepy. This is mainly my reason for wanting to run away from them.
@@lt8664 I agree, they like act like robotic alien I know.
Do U think its possible to end up narcissistic abuse any other way than running away from the person with the problem?
Do you think you can do your homework and search this channel before you waste my time?
@@samvaknin 🤔yes, sure.. sorry I wasted ur precious time...
15:33 Identity Cloud
Great video
@7:41 you will thank me later
If you’re a lesbian & your mother was the narcissist does that mean it can translate to “mummy issues?”
you likely have both
All Lesbians want to replace their fathers role!
Great video