What's CODEPENDENCY And How To Heal It Quickly! [4 Steps]
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.ค. 2024
- Learn what codependency really is, the one key issue that causes it, and the simple but powerful 4-step process to heal codependency quickly.
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Codependency is one of the most toxic and destructive problems that I have found in working with thousands of people from all over the world.
And here's kicker:
Many people don't even know what codependency is or that they even have a problem with it to begin with!
And if this is you, don't worry because this video will help you come out of the codependency hole quickly and for good.
Here's what you'll learn:
💥 What codependency really is (and the truth may shock you). [01:36]
💥 The ONE key issue that causes codependency. [10:02]
💥 Top 10 signs of codependency so you can quickly spot it in yourself. [19:32]
💥 The simple but powerful 4-step process to heal codependency for good. [32:22]
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I definitely need that information. Ty dear.
@Don S hey, hopefully Christina answers, might try her on instagram, she is there more but, in my experience healing the wounds results in the other cravings to go away. 🤍 & light to you
@Christina you triggered a memory for me in this video. When you spoke about your personal experience with your father at a very young age caring for him when he was ill. Those words triggered a memory from my past that I was unaware of I had to stop your video because I was crying so hard. I don’t know where I would be without your videos and guidance. I’m so glad TH-cam suggested your videos to me at the perfect time on my spiritual journey. I had just woken up back in sept2020 and I almost immediately came across your videos 😍 so so much healing has occurred in my life since then through the guidance you give in your videos. Words can’t express my gratitude for you accepting this calling.
Yes please!!! ❤️
Hey Christina - great video, and useful tips that I will definitely use! I was wondering if you took requests for topics in future videos? If so, could you perhaps do one on procrastination? And how fear ties into it? I'd love to see how it is all linked energetically. Thanks in advance :)
I have been through years of therapy and went to school for psychology. I could not break through my codependency, being the giver, until I started chakra healing. I started setting boundaries without even thinking about it. It is one of the first changes I noticed in myself.
Good for you, keep going :)
@@heart2heart-nhataihy117 hello ng việt nam
Western psychology has been really limiting healing, change, realization and growth potential. As a monopoly it has also not recognizing and integrating much more ancient and powerful knowledge and practices. It is important to be aware and allow change in the healing sector. We are doing that at all levels.
That gives me hope! I need to really start working on my chakras. Thank you for your response here you shared to Christina. This helped me and I'm sure many others. I appreciate. Sending you love.
What kind of chakra healing did you do? Asking as a fellow psychologist:)
Being emotionally neglected by a narcissistic parent is a recipe for codependency.
How so? Could you explain further?
@@EMS01119 The narcissist is concerned only with what affects them. The empath feels others' emotions. So it is easy for an empath's power center to be drawn towards the narcissist. The power center being outside the self is one sign of codependency. Narcissists are energy vampires who feed on empaths' energy. The narcissist can convince the empath that the empath needs the narcissist to survive. The codependent person believes that another person is needed to survive. This is just a start. I see many similarities between codependency and the narcissist/empath relationship.
@Susan A Narcissist mother sets the path for a codependent. Lived in mental misery for most of my life, not knowing why? I thought my mom was the greatest thing, until I AWAKENED! I saw! I saw her mood swing, I saw how I spend a lot of wasted energy trying to help her see how negative she was. I came away most time like I am victimizing her. Not knowing, I needed to spend that energy on fixing me. I am not responsible for her and her crazy attitude.
@@sweetbabe3539 I never thought mine was the greatest thing. If I had of, in some ways, my childhood would have been much easier. I always knew something was off kilter. She just did not behave like other mothers. Now I know.
I was emotionally neglected by my narc father so I have always looked for a man to fill this void. I was obssessed with having a boyfriend and I still am. I have to get out of this pattern and see myself as enough. I AM ENOUGH !
I literally cried towards the end of the video. To know that I’ve spent the majority of my life being codependent and it’s not until now I realize I have so much work to do- so much unlearning and relearning. If it wasn’t for my spiritual awakening I would still be so miserable. I sincerely thank you for creating this video. It was extraordinarily helpful!
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Yes thats how I feel. Thank you Christina to bring to the surface what I deep down already know.
Same happens to me . I have not words to describe how glad I am feeling!
I feel you, I also just realised I've been codependent this whole time...
Many blessings and love to you. 💕
I have been healed by codependency in 2017, after a huge event that took place inside my family, which at first I deciphered as a failure..I was angry, hurt, depressed and felt powerless. But it was the very moment when I realised that everything and everyone outside of me cannot be controlled. I can only control myself, my reactions, my behavior..started constructing my borderlines and cultivating my creative power. Started yoga, meditation, started changing my habits, decided to follow a new career, I moved to a new house, followed a more spiritual path.. new things started happening in my life, that reflected the changes...one little miracle after the other. I broke the pattern and every aspect of my life changed to the better. Now, I am “here” for others when needed and asked, but in a whole different and much much healthier way, in a way that doesn’t drain me and makes me sleep like a baby, walking lighter, being happy.. Christina, your videos are triggering and truly helpful for people. Guys, go on and do all the little changes..it’s a path that starts with baby steps but these steps are the way to open the door for a happy life...and this world needs happier people during this amazing period
Thank you for sharing, the light at the end of the tunnel. It means a lot and it gives us hope!
@@vonBRS light always finds its way ❤️
I realise that I have become utterly co-dependent on my son after a bitter divorce from his toxic father whom I feel I have to save my son from. It is not healthy for him or me… but I don’t know how to create boundaries with my child who is solely dependent on me. I can’t say no to him, and it kills me if he is unhappy. 😢
Codependents also struggle to identify their emotions and especially to feel anger and express it. Guilt is number one trait of codependency. Usually codependents are raised by self-centered,selfless, narcissistic parents and choose partners with the same dynamics (aka narcissistics as well) because of the confirmation bias, until the trauma is healed
Up until now 😊
I've only just identified this pattern deep within me and it's very unsettling...makes you questions everything.
Can you go in depth about your first two lines. The struggling to identify their emotions and especially to fill anger and express it
@@FaithResurge search on internet or youtube about enmeshment trauma. Codependency starts from childhood
@@mandolaa4855 oh you meant identify the source. Ok.
I don’t think is addiction to people, is an addiction to all the emotions that the person make us feel.. Because I was co dependent in some of my relationships but I realized that I was not addicted to them, I was addicted to the ilusión of love and needy they generated in me. I believe 99% of empaths suffer some kind of co dependency when they are not awake of who they really are yet. After the awakening is other Story, absolutely everything change. 🌟 Great video Cristina!
This hit for me. From the video to reading this. I have a lot to work on. And if this had a heart button, I would push it!!
Same thoughts here! Well said.
@@dabreacacolson7904 Go watch the videos of EMPATH UPRISING , that guy will empower you !!!
@@iamdannita who is it by so I can click on the next video?!
Totally agree with you, bless you
When you mentioned a workbook I thought „I’m tossing coin for that“ but then you said it’s FREE and I thought „Wow Christina really loves us“ ✨☺️
Hi, where can I find the work book?
Ya I can't find the workbook
@@graziaromano3531 Link in video description
@@chasitybaugh3913 the link is in the video description
Sorry I still don't see it..where is the video description..just not on my radar I'm afriad
Explains why i held on to my ex-boyfriend for so long. Didn't need him AT ALL but yet i hung on. This was very helpful, Thank you!
I swore I was not codependent. Oh my goodness, I am full on codependent. Starting with my childhood through adulthood, I know now I have a major problem with my Mom. Thank you so much for all your advice and suggestions. I am also wondering if I picked nursing as a profession because of this? I am going to get this under control and take my power back. Thanks again.
I am a nurse too and used to be codependant. Now as e recovered cod. I left my work as a nurse after 32 years and i am free
I quit nursing at 50 and I feel so happy and relaxed. I really enjoy being alone and doing the things I want to do , not other people want. Freedom at last. Thanks Christina
I'm a nurse as well and for the last couple of days this has been my thoughts concerning nursing. Also, I think the nursing profession is full of codependents. In many ways nursing can be like a toxic relationship. We are abused by patients and staff, criticized often, and expected to still be nice while taking care of others when we experience mistreatment.
@@TheDstinfrared34 I couldn’t agree more. I’m trying to take one day at a time and put boundaries up when necessary. We still can be nice but we do not have to be abused. Good luck!
I can absolutely verify that the focus is outside of self. I call it "other focused". It is so deeply rooted that even with my awareness and much work, it is persistantly under the surface and I catch myself still doing it all the time. If anyone else is near, my default focus is on them. I had a revelation once where I realized I was the center but my awareness was outward, like I was on a stage for others. It woke me up and started my journey. Still traveling! Thanks for addressing this most important of issues Christina!
I love other focused...it is the perfect description. 🙏
@@susansilverstein889 Yes
Yeah, I have a similar thing. When i am with others, I always feel what they feel, and don't really feel my personality. Like I am dissolving in them. The other thing is that I can really feel the mood of another person, and it helps to build the conversation in the right direction.
This video popped up as I was deep in meditation. I opened my eyes and knew immediately this is one of those angelically-led synchronicities 🕊
Same here! Just finished meditating and it popped up 🥰🥰🥰
Love this!!! ✨💕
12 years ago I got 10/10 signs. Today I got 7/10. So I guess I'm slowly moving towards my real self? Thank you Christina!
This is spot on. One thing I'd like to add is that All of our emotions come to tell us something, anger included. Anger, in my opinion, means we aren't listening/we don't feel heard. I believe that when we feel anger- it is our inner being nudging to us that 'it's' not being heard. It shows we aren't listening to ourselves, we aren't validating ourselves.
I don’t have any words to describe how this resonated with me. I spend all the possible hours of the day trying to help other people and then get angry when they become insensitive, ungrateful or entitled. And then I wonder how I just pass out at night from sheer mental, spiritual and physical exhaustion.
Thank you 🙏🏻 thank you 🙏🏻 thank you 🙏🏻
me too😊
Learn to love yourself and you will heal the codependent!!! Thank you Dr Christina!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love you so much. I was adopted at 2 from third world country. My mom who adopted me was blind so and I was the only child she adopted. She was also badly treated being blind and abused and neglected by her own family. She was a missionary and had many good intentions but cycles still happen. I feel this so much. I have been healing for the past year and you have been such a large part of my healing. Thank you so much.
Yes. My mom was very sick (mental health) and I felt like I had to take care of her. This sheds a lot of light on things. Thank you.
I’m slowly healing from being a co-defendant. Partly because of you and your teaching and also because I’ve awakened to my spiritual self. My father was pretty much nonexistent in my life. Thank you for all you do for people. ❤️
This explains so much. Every single sign of codependency is checked off for me. Thank you for the healing suggestions. 💙
Who else has recovered from codependency? Raise your hand and be proud! 🤩🙋🏾♀️
Omg I felt my sense of self slip away one day after a serious traumatic relationship with a narcissist. As I healed I got the good feeling back in my stomach and could be in “flow” again... Wow not having a sense of self is uncomfortable af! Thanks Christina 🙏🏼
I was this person before I awakened. And I'm still working on this and healing from this. My parents always saw me as good enough when I was able to give, and me always trying to please them and it went on to relationships too. I'm single now working on Self-love.
I really needed this video today. I love how this topic was handled in a very straightforward way without judgment
I think I want to add one more sign of codependency, I realized now: it is difficult to take care of myself, while I can care of other people. For example, it is easy for me to wash dishes at my parent's or friend's home, but it is so hard to do the same for myself.
Now I understand better what's going on with my creativity. I was struggling to work with music, but now when I have time and even paid order for music, it is very hard to just sit and start.
Also I am sad and ashamed of myself. But I want to learn to really value myself.
Thank you for the video.❤️It is so important to know, that I really can help myself.
As a life long codependent and a very long term addict, this was very helpful. After completely burning my life down and making sure I was left alone. I finally learned how I gave away all of myself. Loving myself so much now and pray I can help my 15 year get through her codependent nature (that she got from having to grow up and take care of her sister) before she goes out into life. 💚
Take her on Zen retreats, practice mindfulness, encourage her to be active and dance! Buy her sage and crystals. Do all the things now, she will integrate it into her lifestyle now. A better chance for her to live a healthy lifestyle now. 15 is tough she needs all the positive influence she can get. much love and namaste to you and yours
@@mandydivine7035 thank you!!! I will definitely do that.
Thank you so much, this has been me for many years and many toxic relationships (family, lovers, friends). I resonated with you Christina and hold my hand up. I am a newly awakened empath well a year now and have been healing, setting bounderies and meditating. I will download the work book, you have helped me lots with my journey many thanks 💙👍🙏💐💕
I learned most of this through overwhelm and exhaustion and feeling unappreciated. What surprised me was that I had ulterior motives! I thought I was sacrificing for the people I loved and got little or nothing in return. I didn't see that my self worth was tied up in these relationships. I wanted out of them so badly at times that I was suicidal. I also learned much more about how and why I gave my power away. I thought it was just taken away in childhood and there was no way to reclaim it. I see now that I was that baby elephant tied to a stake that didn't know it could just pull it up and walk away once I had grown. My conditioning had those beliefs of powerlessness down so deep that I felt trapped in helping others and unable to ask for help myself. The abusers I ran away from, the addicts I felt that I could not abandon. I constantly felt abandoned myself, not realizing that it was really ME who had abandoned me. Thank you, Christina, for your guidance on how to heal this. Years of therapy have not helped as much as the wisdom you shared in this video ❤
Hi Christina just watched this video twice and to answer your question what surprised me the most was that I didn’t realize codependency was an addition! Also I was surprised that I didn’t value myself for many many years. I have been working on myself for about two years now and I have to say I’m much happier with me than I have ever been. I will never go back to being that person I use to be. I’m a good person and I have always been a good person. I don’t feel the need fix people anymore. And I realize I can’t control anyone but myself and that has been truly big for me. I still struggle with Anger sometimes, with the people that treated me so poorly and at myself for allowing those people to say such horrible things to me and never sticking up for myself. But I will never sit silent again. I will always stick up for myself. Thank you for this video. You really went into depth on this and I needed to understand this better. ❤️
Along with the "Anger" "Resentment" plays a key role in Codependency. Feelings of Resentment is what opened MY own eyes.
I knew something is wrong with because I ended up with narcissist and toxic people 2 times in my life... I never knew it is called codependency.. I love you Christina thank you so much for making me aware of this...
You were spot on with this one. From my childhood to now I've struggled. My biggest struggle is being a mother and knowing the boundaries I need. I second guess my parenting all the time.
Thank you so much Christina for this wonderful teaching. It’s helped answering questions about why I keep attracting people who’ve made me feel like I could/should helped them. I was a codependency (I exhibited all the symptoms you mentioned) 😳 😆 😌. I still am and now with awareness I’m going to heal heal it and gaining back my power as well as setting my boundaries. Thank you 🙏
This is life changing information, I hate to admit but I'm a copdependant and struggled with finding myself and my power. Your videos have helped tremendously in my healing journey and I can't thank you enough!
Crying while watching this video for the second time. I watched it a year ago but this time I understand it fully. I will overcome this!
Yessss! Thank you for this one, really appreciate... This actually confirms a lot of my self work that I've already been doing and my own former realisation that this has been my main addiction! When I started to realise this within myself, I did not initially expect or understand the sudden existential crisis that I was thrown into and am still thrown into again and again whenever I realise that I've fallen into old patterns. However when I started to support my own work with therapy, chanting, acupuncture and spiritual work I started to experience a very physical reaction, a sort of dizziness and feeling of nausea in the gut... Sometimes heaving without throwing up as if clearing the energy in the body. I believe I have been recentering myself and stand these days more within my own power. Thank you, your videos are always insightful, helpful and encouraging. 🌱🙏🌟✨
I justed to say that the fact you made the workbook free almost made me cry! I'm so grateful to you for that. I am dealing with this and boundaries and I really want to heal that issue. Thank you! ❤
Would you say an empathic person without healthy boundaries is codependent? Because I just started my spiritual journey & discovered I'm empathic & this video also helped me realize why I put up with my narcissist husband (whom I'm leaving soon b/c he drained my energy so much I developed manic depression & attempted suicide 2x) but found my power & relearned & learned myself & am stepping into my own💖💪🏾🤗
You always release what I need to hear on the first place!!! Damn thank youuu sooo much. I’ve been codependent all my life, and now I’m understanding what exactly is happening with me from all the time. Can you please please keep releasing more videos on this and how to completely eradicate this problem from the root?
Hi Christina, thank you! I just want to add a reason what creates codependecy. In my case and I think in many others as well : besides being neglected the child doesn't get any compliments ONLY when she helps or does sth good for others. I remember that I was thinking all the time what I could do to make my mom happy or to get compliment. Also nothing was good enough for my dad. Even if I did my best: for example very young age I cooked but my dad - not rude but - always found something to criticize.
Oh my God ... this is me ... my whole family... my whole life ~ hit a major cataclysm of mass, life-heart-wrending shock, confusion yesterday. Huge. This video is the hugest miracle. Just ... thank you
THIS!!!
A THOUSAND TIMES THIS!! OMG!!!
Perfect explanation!! I’m familiar with codependency and has been working on this especially intensely in the last year, but this information is so important! Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m familiar with the sacral chakra but didn’t know that it is is the beginning of individual power and is connected with relationships.
I am loving these insights!
My Sister is a codependent. She in a relationship that has been draining the life out of her. I can see that somewhere deep down she knows it, and yet she still somehow will not allow herself to admit it. For it is exactly as you said, a type of unhealthy addiction. And once she admits it, she knows she will have to decide what to do about it. It is like she would rather live in denial of it, than face the reality.
Well it's a few things. We call it The Hole.. The thought of going back I to that hole is so daunting, that we put up with alot of bs. Try to change and make it work bc we hate that hole we go into. I was in it for 4 years. She pulled me out from a previous relationship, and it didn't work, now this one pulled me out which I was eternally grateful for. And stayed out for 13 years. But she became very toxic. Also finances play a huge role in things. And if u have no one to goto until u get a new place.. Yeah.. U try to make it work then secretly try and save money. Even that doesn't work..
The pain and utter loneliness that lurks behind the denial is excruciating... that is the reason for the denial.
@@joankennes3230 oh God yes. I'm feeling it now. Badly. They left April 23rd. It hurts alot. 13 yrs just gone like that. They go on like nothin happen.
@@daviedood2503 I am so sorry you were not seen, heard or acknowledged for who you were and are. I am so sorry you were not appreciated for your love, commitment, efforts and gratitude. You deserved and deserve all of that! It is your birthright.
@@joankennes3230 oh wow hey thanks Joan! You're a very nice person. :) I try really hard to tell myself that there IS life outside the narcissist. 13 yrs is a long time. Very loyal and dedicated. Telling myself that it's OK to talk to other people now, it's OK to let loose and have fun and be happy. I wish I could just see a hypnotist and have these 13 years erased or pushed soooo far back in my memory, that I don't even think twice about it. Even if I see a trigger I'd just shrug like nothing. I told myself do NOT get attached to her. It's very hard not to after being w them so long. You doing things for them and even them doing things for you. Thoughtful things to keep u hooked. It's also hard to put that label on them. Hurts but I have to stop lying to myself.
Thank you so much Christina, you have brought me a so many other beautiful souls so far, please keep doing what you're doing! I thank the universe for you and this wonderful community!💗☯️🌻🦋Love and Light to all🥰🥰
What surprises me most is that codependency ties into the second chakra, besides the first? Never heard of it before! But maybe it will help to add it into my regimen, though I listen to Hz music for the lower three.
It's fascinating how and why it can manifest in people in several ways. For me, I was raised and conditioned into it. If I didn't do what my mom (grandmother really) wanted, I was threatened and manipulated. I was told that nothing was ever mine. I couldn't do this. I couldn't do that. No good guy would ever want me. Things like, "If you don't do ______, then I'm going to _______" were frequently used. If I wanted to do something for me or didn't want to give something away, I was being selfish and I ought to be ashamed of myself. At 9+, I had to clean part of my aunt's place, take care of her animals, and then 2 years later help with her kid. Later, I had to watch my dad (grandfather), and while I appreciate that time I got to spend with him, I was usually never asked, but told and manipulated.
It's ironic that I don't feel I NEED a boyfriend, for example. Or that though I like spending time around others sometimes, I'm quite happy spending time by myself and thrive, and am then able to be happier around others. There were/are still negative affects though, such as getting into toxic relationships. And in the past, I used to behave like I could fix or help someone, and now I don't even want to try Lol. I've been learning to place boundaries and see red flags beforehand and look at the belief system that was cultivated within me and what I truly feel and believe about myself. I gave my power away because I believed that (you guessed it): I couldn't do this, I couldn't do that, and I must be selfish. Codependency has been my biggest Achilles heel when it comes to family members. It's not a true desire of my own to take care of them, take blame and responsibility, and put up with their crap. But it IS my responsibility to heal that part of me that feels like I have to help them or even say "F it" when they EXPECT it. Now that I'm older, I don't have to agree to it, and can pass their crap right back to them for them to deal with.
Codependency had also seeped into and attracted other undesirable relationships (friendships, dating, etc...).
Thank you for touching down on and exploring this subject in greater depth. What makes healing a little smoother is knowing that it was never my choice to begin with. My mom wanted to control me and make me do what she wanted me to do and she didn't care how I felt or what I really wanted.
Can you please possibly do a video of clients or contributors' success stories, how they dealt with it, and so on. And could you also do one video on the separate functions of the lower three chakras and how they work together. I always thought root was security, base awareness, and tribe. Second was creativity, birth, and sex. And solar plexus is personal power and self esteem.
I know this is a long comment, but I want to thank you for going into it more and providing some unique helpful tips. Much love and gratitude ❤️!
First of all....I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS 🙌🏾
I cant tell you how much you've helped me create an emotional and spiritual vocabulary through your work. And help me understand the "why". I had NO IDEA I was codependent. Severely! Never knew what it was or that I was a walking around in that space. Its a little embarrassing honestly. But better 33 than 53 right? Im so grateful I cant stand it! Thanks ❤
i just wanted to say thank you. I've been suffering from codependency for years and i've seen so many therapists and they couldnt help me at all! thank you for saving me.
I never really knew what codependency is and I'm so thankful that you created this video! This is something I've been dealing with without realising it
What surprised me the most was the 10th sign anger. It of course makes perfect sense. I just never made the connection like that. Thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you Christina ! This really resonated. Love how you communicate the information in your videos !
OMG how synchronistic !!! This is what I’ve been healing 🙏✨💕 can’t wait to to watch this whole thing .
Thank you very much.. I was not aware that I am having this issue.. My TF ran away because I have abandoned myself.. I forgot about what truly matters.. Now I am stepping into my power and gaining it back as I have realized that this journey is about myself.. The expression of the Divine in me.. I thank you.. O really need this..
I was so reluctant to see this video because “I’m not co-dependent” or so I thought I wasn’t. It all makes so much sense to me now. Thank you and now working on regaining all my power back! I’ve learned so much with your videos. Sending you lots of unconditional love with so much gratitude 💕 💕💕✨💫💛
This was absolutely amazing. Until about six months ago, I was so wrong about what codependency actually is. And it’s just been within the last week or so that I realized I am really angry…at myself. I have allowed this. I have invited these situations/relationships into my life.
I wish I would have learned these things so much earlier but it’s better late than never. One of the things I loved the most about this video was the 4 tips to healing. So many videos tell you why you’re a certain way but give no guidance in how to heal.
Thank you for this!
Thank you, Christina! What I found surprising is that in some of the characteristics of codependency, I mistook it as being nurturing. However, I have to completely reasonate in my spirit with what you expressed and I have some work to do. I am lovingly calling my power back and THIS TIME, I'll know how to keep it with Me. Thank you so much for this wisdom, Goddess! Blessings and Light!
Thank you so much! I Never saw myself as codependent but my eyes opened as I say yes to the 10 signs specially anger towards myself! Once again thank you!!!🙏🏽❤
My mother has bpd and she was heavily abused by her mother and it reflected alot in the way shs acted. She hated everything I was into and when I became a vegetarian she refused to cook for me or even try. This video taught me alot thank you.
I really look forward to your videos! Thank you for bringing your unique approach to this space.
I have been in co-dependent relationships all my life & it's exhausting! My brother & I were raised around drugs & alcohol. I then.met a man when I.was.20 & felt the need to save he & his son & you.know the story & addictions of one form or another....wow! It makes so much sense! Its like we are tidaly locked for 34 yrs & I have been afraid I won't escape & the self.sabotage & lack of self worth
Hi Christina, I can feel you totally! My mother got sick when I was 8 and she died when I was 11. My dad couldn’t handle it so I was his support, a lot of other problems ex, they were fighting all the time and I was the one who had to bring peace. My parents had a fight in the car, but I stayed home and eventually they had a car accident, where my mother died. I really understand you about feeling as a failure, because My dad was really forcing me to come too on the day of the accident. Thank you for sharing so much and interesting information! I’m so happy and grateful for ‘finding’ your YT-channel!!
I am just so grateful for your videos Christina. They always arrive exactly when I'm ready. I have been healing my codependent tenancies for so long and I feel so happy with how far I've come. Your video just helped me break through that next glass ceiling. Gonna drum and dance tonight! ✨🔥✨
I just found you this morning as I was looking for a good description on Shadow work. And there you are. I love you ♥️ and appreciate your ability to share this Magnificent work❣️
You have NO IDEA how much I needed this today!!! I will be watching this over & over, I need this to marinate in my codependant brain. Cant live like a codependant anymore (48 years too long). Thankyou thankyou thankyou. ❤❤❤
I will watch your other videos now that you've created this thread. I am understanding it more bc you are giving it to me straight. I like that. I have done a lot of work on myself during the last few years and I have healed quite a lot but I see now, thanks to you, what more I need to do. Thank you.
ahhhmazing content! Thank you, thank you Christina! I am super excited to say that often when you launch a new video I find that within my last three days I have already naturally begun practicing the tips you share. Which makes me feel so aligned and having you, someone that inspires me reaffirm it well that is such a beautiful moment. It happens more and more with your lessons and my teachings. I always feel called to make notes of the material you share. Even if it is something I feel I have within, the way your affirmations align with my affirmations it is no surprise to me we are all connected. My soul feels honored to share space with your soul. Truly my soul tribe.
That what i needed to hear right now, specially when you talked about anger, i dint value myself and all the other signs. Now i'm in my healing with self love and self acceptance...
thank you for all the work it really helped me. ❤❤❤❤
Wow! Every symptom. Every single one! I’m gobsmacked, however, grateful too. I’ve been working on myself for 12 yrs, and to finally find this very clear, descriptive wonderful video, it’s my gift to find it right now.
Such a “ HUGE” codependent here, funny, I’ve never seen this idea before, I guess because Im finally ready for it at 58.
I literally knew you were going to post about this today..... And I needed it more then you could imagine. Thank you Christina. 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
LOVED this!! Hi, my name is Jim and I’m a recovering codependent!! Lol
Honestly though this is absolutely awesome information and I’d have loved to come across this 3-25 years ago! I still see some of the signs in me but I’m very aware of them and usually catch myself now. Still need work on my sacral though and now have some tools to go get. Thank you so much for your heart Christina, much appreciated!!🙏
My mom’s codependency with my stepdad ruined her life and I’ve never fully understood it. So glad you put this video out!! Can’t wait to watch it!!
This is what is happening to my mother, and I have no clue how to help her. Every time I say something it’s swept under the rug. “ she doesn’t know anything” is what everyone says to me. So I let it go I care for her but I have to move on with my life. I sent her this I hope she listens if she can’t listen to her own daughter
I can’t say THANK YOU enough Christina! You have no idea how much your video’s helped me🙏🏼
I'm on the fence with this one. Maybe Im not a full-blown codependent. I don't need people and don't seek out broken people. My motto is be your own hero and I live by that and tell others to do the same. BUT I do have a fear of abandonment and my childhood was full of emotional and physical neglect and abuse. I grew up early taking adult roles wayy before I should have. Having to cater to my Narcissistic mother's needs. I love helping people but it's not a need and I don't expect a thank you which ends up me being in toxic relationships where they are one sided and not reciprocated. Thank you for the video. I have a lot to think about. And a lot to heal.
Hi Christina! Thank you for hitting again straight to my pain point!
I have been wondering why I am so readily responding with intention to help others, and why I find myself drained from my energy when I actually start doing it.
What surprised most is that co-dependency is related to the 2nd chakra. This answered many questions for me.
I am also glad to hear that blocking my creativity is a sign of a weakened 2nd chakra (in addition to further weakening it). In fact I fully consciously chose to make this block.
You talked about the dysfunctional family, I believe that emotional support also counts as stepping into a caretaker role, when the child feels it needs to defend one of the parents from the attacks if the other?
I am also relieved to learn that the sense of self worthlessness is an illusion. I see that I don't need to constantly seek ways to be good or need the approval or acceptance of the others in order to feel that I am doing the right thing.
I feel I so much need peace, to be left alone but I am also restless, worried, ashamed and feel guilty for not contributing to the wellbeing of the world.. so I keep getting myself into situations where I want to help someone with something.
I keep falling ill or least, keep getting powerful headaches every few days .. I haven't had a period for many months now... Now I can see that maybe I need to get off this fast moving train, take time and repack my bags then when I feel strong and ready, chose which train I want to get on.
Warm big hug! Thank you
What surprised me the most about codependency was having the realization of how codependent I am😔thank you so much for your video I wrote almost everything down and will be doing a ceremony and unblocking my 2nd, 3rd and heart chakra so woo hoo !!! Thankful I learned this and thankful for you for making this and teaching everyone how to heal from it, and I’m about to watch the videos from the link right now thank you so much Christina🙏💚
What surprised me was this.. I have every symptom described! Thankyou so much christina
Wow great video 🤩
I found out I didn’t even realize what codependency actually was. I had my hand on my 2nd and 3rd chakras after you mentioned them and after a couple minutes I could feel my heart beat in both places and it felt amazing. The life that was coming back into me was like leaves growing on a bare tree in a time laps. I feel so clear and more life coming into me 😃 I will no longer say I am a codependent. I am Independent and will continue my life that way.
You are the Best Christina. Thank You 🙏🏾
I am so happy and grateful that I have found you ❣
Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart 🙏
It's not a surprise to me as I already know I had this codependency issues since years ago. But it really helps that Christina here gave us some tips to heal ourselves. Thankyou so much, Christina.
This was SOOOO helpful and well laid out. I realize that my codependency stems from being adopted and that inner child feeling like they're not enough. But also helped me understand where my narcissistic ex got HIS codependency...
Omg.... thank you so much for this video, I'm in complete shock and tears by learning that I am this codependent. It was like you described me in my life!!! I must say I always thought in life others controlled me, but in cold hard truth I just faced the fact it is ME! That's a hard pill to swallow, and I never really thought I ever had anger, but Christina you definitely ripped off that blindfold as well ... I have thought I was doing out of good and selflessness for others without " expecting"... but well I guess I lied to myself and others!!! VERY BIG EXTREME 'AH-HA ' moment here... thank you so much!!! Now I realize that my childhood may not have been as great as I thought.. I think I have alot I repressed.
Surprisingly, from your VDO I have just learned that I am a Codependent with 8 signs you stated. I'm so grateful to your kindness with compassion in putting all valuable information you experienced and researched for us. Many many thanks Christina. I love to listen all your VDO.
If I was a little nail, u were the hammer. A lot of truths resonated for me, and even though it hurts a little to admit I’m just as much of the problem as a codependent then I thought, now I can take action and grow! Giving ALL that love to myself and my son 🙌🏽💗
I am co-dependent and NOW I AM AWARE OF IT .. TAKING STEPS TO HEAL IT... Thank You 😊
Great topic Christina. Thank you!
Your video is extremely heartfelt, and about 99% applied to me. My childhood was good but I grew up without a good father figure, as my parents were divorced, and I only saw him some summers, with warnings from my mother, to call my grandmother, who lived near him, if he got weird, fortunately, he only ever talked about weird and sometimes inappropriate topics, and then would ask my opinion on it.
I may have unidentified issues of abandonment, as I have always been a people pleaser, always the first to say, YES, I’ll help. Then I made the same mistake 2 times in a row, two bad marriages.
The first time was not so bad, after 5 years, I realized I was doing most of the work in the relationship, both mentally and on a physical level, and there was a lack of communication, and I did all the chores and errands, and raising of our two kids, so I left him, I wanted more. He was arrogant, and did not participate in life.
In my second marriage I looked for a parter who could communicate and who had plans for his future, it is what I thought I wanted, ohhhh, so far from the truth. My second husband turned out to be extremely narcissistic and controlling. A mixture of the malignant, grandiose, and community (uses religion to control) type Narcissist. If I was only somewhat co-dependent before, I very quickly became addicted to the lifestyle. It took me 20 years to stand up to him and tell him to move out.
Of course my guilt was great, because of all the damage to myself and our 4 children, plus the 2 from my other marriage.and believe it or not, he feels damaged too,, hurt that I would not do what he said anymore, with no questions asked.
It was a long process, after the first ten years, I gave him an ultimatum that the physical abuse needed to stop, and it did, he sropped, but the emotional and psychological abuse did not ever stop. My pain built and built, layer upon layer, of being bullied, told I was inadequate, trying ro please him, being accused of awful things I was not doing. I felt I was literally walking on eggshells for 20 years,
I could not be myself, I communicated very little, as anything I said was twisted by him into an insult against my person. My ideas were always trampled on, etc......6 months ago, he got mad at some little thing, he wanted a cup, but I hadn’t done the dishes, I told him to find one and do something about it. He went into a rage and punched me in the face, just one time, and that was the moment that my guardian angels lifted me up,
I felt a surge of power, I spoke the truth, I said, “I told you 10 years ago to never hit me again, or I would leave you, get out, move out of my house. It took him a month to leave, but he now has his own place, so much healthier for me, and now separated for 6 months,
I found your videos 1 week ago, thank you so much for your wonderful videos. I have been feeling a lot of heat and overwhelming energy in my solar plexus and heart chakra, which for the last six months has been going on, I have to get up and do chores or gardening or something, as it feels worse when I just sit. I know , now from your videos I need lots of work on the root and sacral chakra, the solar plexus and heart chakra, all of them really, is the eventual goal. I downloaded your workbook for co-dependency!
Did I have some of the 10 problems from your video, yes, here is a list:
*I totally help people to try and feel better about myself.
*I have been feeling powerless for the last 20 years, literally.
*Very co-dependent addicted.
*Was feeling very very alone
*Possible unidentified-abandonment issues by father
*No self-worth, list over multiple years of abuse
*Total lacknof motivarion and direction in my life
*Have failed to take care of my healrh over rhe years, and have multiple problems, fortunately, for me, they are solvable with hard work, diet, exercise, meditarion etc.
*I do not feel angry at people I help, and I rarely do things, without being asked first, but I have a very hard time saying no, and often, on being asked, I felt obligated to help them, even though I did not necessarily want too.
So, I tend to over extend myself.
*I became a person I didn’t like anymore, always trying to please my partner, my children and others, feeling caught in the middle.
*I was always so afraid that he would leave me, I was afraid to lose him.
I feel this whole experience may have stemmed from a possible contract with my husband, before coming down here, and the last time he hit me, I had the sudden feeling, that I was no longer obligated to be with him.
Growing up and into my 30ties, I was always a positive outgoing person, I certainly thought I was confident, but I never felt like I connected to people well, but even my friendships reflected codependency, I now, just realized, I was always giving and doing for other people, when asked, but they rarely ever reciprocated or returned the favor. I also was a very analytical, and logical, a person of the mind, too much ego.
Well I definitely feel my emotions now, the whole range the last 20 years: fear, love, rejection, grief, loneliness, rage, antagonism, guilt, mistrust, untrusted, accused, feeling vengeful, unmotivated, depressed, nothing like living with a narcissist to learn these truths......lesson learned, time ro heal and then move on, it is the beginning of the rest of my life. Writing is cathartic! I hope this letter helps others with their journey.
Since watching these videos by you Christina, and before this videos about recovering from a narcissistic relationship, by Dr Romano on TH-cam, I have been crying a lot, releasing my feelings. I did a meditation for the first rime using one of Christina’s guided ones with Mantras, where I was visualizing source energy coming into my body.
I feel so much better today. I also found a meditation for cutting negative energy cords online.
Thank you very much Christina.
May you receive many blessings for the work you are doing.
Peace be on you.
Just the fact that you said I have to take my power back… visualizing my power coming back to me has been so healing ❤️🩹 I can’t thank you enough
😮that hit home when you said we help others to make ourselves feel better and that is spot on ..I thought it was a good thing to help others but I do get burnt out and feel lost when on my own .. I save others and I can’t save myself
Absolutely grateful for being told about your videos. As usual, this one hits the nail on the head and I’m over here going “oof not again.” Here’s to resolving the codependent issues I have been dragging around since childhood. Yay! 😂🤦♀️
Just watched this.. So overwhelmed by it ! Feeling so much emotion! Married 27 years recently both decided to separate to confront are problems. Seeing the reality of this.. Brings on so much!!!
Once again, you are the answer to my demand to my spirit guide🙏. Always on Time. One thing I realised about being codependant... Some people in my life must have felt I was codependant and they thend to take a advantage of that. They feed on it as I feed on it as well. I kind of knew that I needed to adress this in m'y life and I starter to look at how I behaved and what kind of relations I attract un my life. For sure, your video is wright on time. Thank you for sharing . Sending you a big hug 💛🧡💙💙💗💖
I have been watching your videos for some months now..How beautifully you explain everything Christina! You educate n enlighten with so much clarity, sincerity , conviction full of wisdom..it helps us on a deep level..feels uplifting and powerful each time i listen to you..grateful to have found you!much love❤
I just found your channel and I LOVE what you're doing. THANK YOU SO MUCH for putting this life-changing VALUE out to the world. I am a huge fan and will be watching. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!! We need this so much in today's world. You got a fan.
Christina!!! I throughly appreciate you and everything you do. You have truly been an anchor for me during my spiritual growth.
I always find this channel very helpful on my healing journey. From psychology and spirituality points of view, my soul, mind and spirit are being reminded and empowered to be ready the path of recovery. In my case of codep, I grow up with a narcissist mother who completely torn my childhood. That's probably another sign of a codep. Other sign of codep: when everyone says a person is rude/toxic, you still keep contact and excuse his/her mistakes. When I found all my friends and coworkers are needy ppl or narcissist, I know how serious of my codep. Just like addict, codep will go through withdraw and repalse very often through the rehab journey. Need a support group such as this channel. Namaste. Still hope 🦋
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This is EXCELLENT! Thank you so much. When you talked about the “game” you played with your clients, the two questions you asked, I was soooo guilty of. Wow, what an eye opener! Thank you!
Thank you so much Christina. I never thought I wanted to be ‘needed’ by others because I’m always so afraid they will need more than I can give, and I don’t want anyone dependent on me. BUT my gut churns almost constantly. It feels like grief. Constant and never-ending grief. Almost the only time I get relief is when I’m working out in the garden. When anyone around me is angry, or unhappy I feel I have to fix them. Then I feel some relief. And I let others treat me like crap. No boundaries. So I am co-dependent after all.
Thank you so much for these videos. This one and the one on narcissism video were EXACTLY what I needed to hear. Thank you Christina for being you!
I big heart warming hug n thank you to you for making this video and making it available free of cost to those who wants to heal and are continously searching right and authentic content. Thank you ❤️
What a great video, what you’re saying about not valuing themselves completely agree! I’ve been experiencing this for years, since I’ve been doing some soul searching, I have learnt to realise that a lot of it is on my side but hopefully this is the start to the road to improvement! Thanks so much for all your videos reasonates so much and is so relevant
Wow! This is all so right on for me! I’m so glad I found your videos. I’ve done so much work in the past but this still continues to plague me however, it’s never been explained to me like this.
I smile from ear to ear every time I see you in your videos, you are such a bright and beautiful soul ❤️