Girl!! This video is wonderful. I also deeply think that even if you did want to do the “really bad things”, you deserve to be and feel loved regardless. A parent’s job is to support you as their child and love you. It’s really that easy. Also, you’re not alone in that lonely feeling with being the Black Sheep when you decide to choose your happiness. People don’t like that if they don’t get what lights you up because it’s different than the norm. Thanks for bringing light to these topics!
New subscriber and have come to realise how quickly I love your channel! 😍 Your content is soo relatable and I'm learning how to navigate the South Asian culture. I'm not even Indian but my mum acts like it very much looool
I relate so much to you! It's like we had the same life growing up! None of my friends went through this and no one could really relate to what I was going through. Thank you for this video, it makes me feel so seen and heard. I am 31 this year and I am also slowly learning to forgive my parents now. They are living their lives for the first time too, just like me. :)
I relate so much to this, my dad is the same , a sharp memory so I had to be really careful with anything that I was saying & he's also a violent person so it was scary AF whenever I was lying because I can't imagine what he would have done to me if he found out I was lying
I totally agree...i grew up in India , my parents wer much more protective wen i was doing my bachelors. I guess primarily to protect me from falling in love with a guy who they could not approve of ( caste, age , other issues) .
Caring and overbearing are two different things. You can care for someone without being overbearing. Unfortunately my parents raised me the only way they were taught how which was under strict rules with no room for mistake. Not their fault it was just the circumstances of their environment. I’m grateful they cared deeply for me and I’m also sad that I didn’t feel safe enough to have an honest relationship with them. If you’ve never gone through that experience you will never understand the emotional (and sometimes physical) toll that takes on someone.
Caring is key, but so is balance. Love without freedom can feel like a cage, even if it's gilded. Understanding this isn't victimizing-it's recognizing that care must nurture, not stifle. If this wasn’t your life experience then you should just say that instead of diminishing other people’s experiences
@@Essbeexo20 no- not to compare, but I will because, I’ve been through things way, way worse. What she’s describing is her just whining. Not everyone is a “victim” although people love to pretend they are.
So real.. It's scary how lying becomes second nature. At the age of 30 I still do it to avoid backlash and lectures.
It’s actually wild how second nature it becomes. I feel you cause I still do it sometimes too
Girl!! This video is wonderful.
I also deeply think that even if you did want to do the “really bad things”, you deserve to be and feel loved regardless. A parent’s job is to support you as their child and love you. It’s really that easy.
Also, you’re not alone in that lonely feeling with being the Black Sheep when you decide to choose your happiness. People don’t like that if they don’t get what lights you up because it’s different than the norm. Thanks for bringing light to these topics!
So glad you enjoyed this video! And I totally agree with you - you should love your kids as they grow and learn and make mistakes. ❤️
I think this is one of your best videos yet. I hope it'd reach a wider audience, especially the new immigrant parents.
Aww thank you so much! This means a lot to me ❤️
New subscriber and have come to realise how quickly I love your channel! 😍 Your content is soo relatable and I'm learning how to navigate the South Asian culture. I'm not even Indian but my mum acts like it very much looool
Awww this makes me so happy! Thank you so much. Glad my videos bring you comfort and are helping you navigate through life ❤️
I relate so much to you! It's like we had the same life growing up! None of my friends went through this and no one could really relate to what I was going through. Thank you for this video, it makes me feel so seen and heard. I am 31 this year and I am also slowly learning to forgive my parents now. They are living their lives for the first time too, just like me. :)
I relate so much to this, my dad is the same , a sharp memory so I had to be really careful with anything that I was saying & he's also a violent person so it was scary AF whenever I was lying because I can't imagine what he would have done to me if he found out I was lying
Loved watching this and resonated with a lot of what you shared 💓 alsoo can you share your lip combo 😅❤
such great advice and life experiences that im sure will help a lot of people!
Thank you! I really hope it does ❤️
I totally agree...i grew up in India , my parents wer much more protective wen i was doing my bachelors. I guess primarily to protect me from falling in love with a guy who they could not approve of ( caste, age , other issues) .
I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. I hope things are better now ❤️
@@hemalimistry Thanks . Am good. But your content is super relatable . It is relatable to people who grew up in India as well . Thanks for speaking up
My mom threatened to break my phone because I got caught chatting-
So… you had parents that cared. Wow. It’s insane to see the privilege some people have and they’ll still turn around and victimize themselves.
Caring and overbearing are two different things. You can care for someone without being overbearing. Unfortunately my parents raised me the only way they were taught how which was under strict rules with no room for mistake. Not their fault it was just the circumstances of their environment. I’m grateful they cared deeply for me and I’m also sad that I didn’t feel safe enough to have an honest relationship with them. If you’ve never gone through that experience you will never understand the emotional (and sometimes physical) toll that takes on someone.
Caring is key, but so is balance. Love without freedom can feel like a cage, even if it's gilded. Understanding this isn't victimizing-it's recognizing that care must nurture, not stifle.
If this wasn’t your life experience then you should just say that instead of diminishing other people’s experiences
This comment is an example of what she meant when she said you won’t understand unless you’ve been through it.
@@Essbeexo20 no- not to compare, but I will because, I’ve been through things way, way worse. What she’s describing is her just whining. Not everyone is a “victim” although people love to pretend they are.
@@hemalimistry I personally think what you described in this video is along the lines of average/normal parenting.