How to Survive Strict Parents w/ Tara Yummy
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 พ.ค. 2023
- In today’s episode, Vereena sits down with her guest Tara Yummy, and together they dive into the topic of growing up with strict parents as first-generation Middle Eastern kids. Tara opens up about the challenges she faced, navigating the delicate balance between honoring her cultural heritage and asserting her individuality. Join them as they explore the cultural expectations, societal pressures, and personal growth that shaped their journeys, offering valuable insights and relatable anecdotes along the way. Tune in for an engaging conversation that sheds light on the complexities of identity, family dynamics, and the resilience of the human spirit.
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i LOVE that tara doesn’t fake laugh. i love it. so many girls feel pressured to laugh and giggle just because that’s the social cue so it’s so refreshing to see that
@@jese3779I think she’s just bubbly
LMAOOO foreign parents not apologizing is so crazy i remember my mom bringing me a plate of mango after yelling at me 😭😭
I didn’t speak to my dad for a week after a bad fight and he bought me a whole paint set cause I love to paint
yea 😭
Not Cesar doing his job and not taking the Alex part out 😂😂
I’m definitely gonna relate to this video. I’m not middle eastern, but I think anyone with foreign parents can relate 😂
Fr Me with my Mexican ass parents who moved here in their 20s 😭
Polish parents same way. Strict catholic
Anyone with strict parents can relate
literally!!
Everyone trying to protect vereena about the part not being taken out is so pure
As a first gen Latina, I absolutely love how we can relate to this no matter what culture we come from 😫lol Thank you!
as a teenage Middle Eastern girl this was so comforting to listen to/watch and I related to everything which felt so good to be understood
Yesss this comment deserves more likes
college will be ur freedom, just be patient LOL
@@razkia astaghfirullah
@@khaaadouj Yeah not all middle easterns are Muslims but "astaghfirullah" is just a rabic translation of "i seek forgiveness in god" SO stop trying to imply Arabic is a language only for Islam SMH
same
"wait what were you gonna say" that instantly told me you're that friend that makes sure ppl are heard and don't feel left out
even though i’m not middle eastern, vereena has been great representation as a POC and girl in general. i love being able to watch her and relate even if we’re not exactly the same. this episode was so good.
same im mexican but i relate alot my wella didnt let me do anything till i turned 18 LOL
if shes a person of colour then she is not middle eastern because middle easterners r not black/brown my parents r from iraq and middle easterners dont associate with african countries/Central Asia countries as Middle Eastern because they r not they have middle eastern influence thats all. Egypt which is vereenas background she is african and Egyptians r black people but with middle eastern influence but looking at her skin tone it looks like she came from middle eastern Arab descent and because her parents r from Egypt they most likely came from ancestors of the Middle East that tried to take Egypt for themselves look at South Africa u find white people there aswell
@@maryjaneminecraftqueenwella?? gurllll buela
@@peepeepoopoo8498every Latinx says it differently.
@@ritaa1359 egyptians are black people???? wtf are you smoking
Vereena’s definitely trolling us with the alex part😂
vereena babe the part where u read the last message sent to ur situationship was not cut out 😭
as a middle eastern girl i never had anyone like me to look up to on social media at all. im an adult now but im so happy that u are paving the way and being a source of inspiration for younger middle eastern girls. i wish there were someone like u to watch when i was younger. u are one of 2 girls like me that share content of similar interests on youtube. sososo happy and inspired cuz of u
vereena the part abt alex wasn’t cut out !!!!!!!! 💀💀💀💀
I was abt to say !!!
AINT NO WAY
right I was abt to say "_"
Time stamp?
@@3arth_4ngel @54:40
I was the eldest daughter in a 1st generation immigrant household and I stand by everything that you guys have mentioned…
Me too it really takes a a lot to survive
I can relate sm as a African American Muslim, like growing up with a strict parent was unbearable at times and now that I'm an adult I constantly feel like I missed out
that’s how i feel i’m not an adult i’m still a teenager but i feel like i’m missing out on so much
girl same but it shall pass *I hope*
@@sansmra if you’re Muslim if the things you think youre missing out on are haram I promise girl it’s not worth it❤️
@@Loola345 honestly so true there’s always a reason why it’s haram as well
i promise none of the things you think you “missed out on” are worth feeling fomo over and you’re better off without it.
the way your editor said i’m leaving that part in exposed 😅
No cuz I’m confused did they mean to leave it in?
I feel like it was kinda hinted at before, but I wonder if they actually meant to cut it out ??
As a hispanic first generation immigrant eldest daughter (mouthful, i know), I related to this soo much 😭 One of my friends, who is also the eldest and a first generation immigrant, also got their phone smashed with a hammer lol. I also got my wired earphones ripped and cut up once, only for my dad to go out and buy me airpods not even a day later 😭😭 This is great representation, loved this episode 🫶
I love your jacket in this ep 😍
the queen herself commentsss
does anyone know where it’s from 😩🙏
Omg they didn't edit that part with Alex's message...I'm in shock💀💞💞 @54:40
Yeah I was seeing if anyone else noticed
FR WTF
I know right
im wondering if they left it in on purpose 😭
i fear it might be a joke, I’m hoping it’s not
as the only black girl in my family, I relate to this sm. my parents are more lenient now that I'm 16 but middle school was rough for me. tysm for this. 💗
ADVICE FOR U BABIES OUT THERE: My parents weren’t that strict, especially after they divorced. But, I have experience w living an alcoholic/verbally abusive parent (living w only them n my sibling). I feel like I can speak on feeling trapped in a household; it is hard, like, so fing hard living in that environment. All you can really do is wait and bide ur time until you are old enough to move out. I spent a lot of time with my grandparents, friends, and in extracurriculars during that time. Also, my relationship w god/great spirit-whatever that means to you-is what gave me hope. The best thing is to keep your space in the ways that u can. When you move out you will feel so much better and your relationship with your parents will improve. My parent still struggles w this addiction, but it has gotten a lot better, and I am distanced enough to support them. All I hope is that sharing this statement will help someone. ❤ You got this and MANY people have gone thru it before. You will overcome!!!❤
(2 weeks later…jk the alcoholism is worse than ever, but it doesn’t effect my life anymore. Take care of your younger siblings tho! They need u!)
It's me worried if Vereena knows that parts still in
Being the only child of immigrant parents really is a pressure like no other!! I’m Mexican not middle eastern but I too was compared to other first gen kids accomplishing the most academically and behaving and being what their parents wanted them to be. I’m 24 now and moved out, and realizing that my life is for ME is the best thing ever. Thankfully I have a good relationship with them now, and they have come to terms with who I am, and the love is and always has been there.
Lmao I get Tara on such a deep level. I didn’t know her personally, but we went to the same high school/ middle school. Kids in that area were wildddd. Parties, drinking, “fashion show” attire. The culture was so different than your average high school.
On the note of disappointing your parents, what has helped me is remembering that my parents immigrated here in hopes of their kids having a better future and they want us to be happy and to have opportunities to grow that they never had. I agree that you’re going to keep disappoint them because you are growing up in a different culture to theirs but if you’re doing whatever it is for the right reasons or bc you know it’s going to give you a better future or make you happy then do it bc they came here so that you could have that opportunity
its crazy how someone’s relationship with their strict parents doesnt get better until you are living out of their house
This
I'm Middle Eastern and my whole entire family is Muslim. My parents are extremely strict. No makeup, no nail polish, we have to wear muslim clothing, Hijabs, etc. I realized I wasn't Muslim around 15 and when I told my dad, I was on house arrest for an entire year. I wasn't allowed out unless I agreed to be Muslim again. No appointments, I was forcefully homeschooled, and I couldn't even go out to shop or anything. I agreed and I was finally allowed out. Now I just sneak around with clothing and everything. This was really very relatable and fun episode!
I feel like middle eastern ppl r rlly strict when it comes to religion. Im a hijabi n muslim (not middle eastern) n my mom would never treat me like this n keep in mind shes like really religious. Im sorry you went through this, no one deserves to be controlled like that. But im confused with the nail polish part, i know we cant have it on when we pray buttt other than that theres no reason for them to not let u wear nail polish
@@yuh6008 they rly r, and tysm. as for the nail polish part, my dad doesn’t want us to wear it outside bc it “attracts” attention. When I went to Iraq and stayed with his family for a bit, his sister made us wear gloves and socks outside bc she said we need to cover ourselves completely for the same reason 😭
@@milk2455I think you just “left” Islam coz of the way your parents taught you it. Islam is beautiful but sometimes parents don’t teach it correctly.
Coz tbh being westernized and Godless will only lead to degeneracy and an empty whole in your heart. Hope you come back to the deen soon before it’s too late.
@@milk2455Your parents taught you Islam wrong it shouldn’t be forced like that. The western haram lifestyle will only give you a temporary high and leave empty inside at the end. Hope you come back to the deen soon.
Dude exactly my parents are Muslim and wth! They are so lucky
tara n vereena coming together are my two personalities becoming friends
is țară egyptian? i hâd no idea she was middle eastern
@@remasalhawari8077 think she’s persian -she’s mentioned it somewhere before
@@samyaahmed_ oh ok thanks
Only 10 minutes in and realizing vereena's parents aren't even that strict...they cared for her...she was able to go out to her friend "Jennifer's " house...I can't do that. Yooo I am 19 years old and unable to go out...I got asked out on a date two weeks ago and I am trying to come up with the courage to get permission to go out...tbh I don't think it's gonna happen.
You’re a legal adult just go. Will they get mad yeah but they’ll have to get over it at some point they legally can’t control you like that
@@Syaryde they will literally disown me!💀💞
@@ninagutierrez4376 they will not disown you well I guess if they love you at all they won’t disown you 💀 but Fr they can’t own you forever you don’t wanna be 25 years old still answering to your parents you gotta break their hearts now or never 😂
@@ninagutierrez4376no but Fr ask anyone who grew up with strict parents they will tell you they didn’t gain freedom from just obeying and waiting they gained it from just doing it anyways if your parents love you they will not disown you obviously if you aren’t in a safe situation the priory should just be to save and move out
@@Syaryde I have family members that are not spoken to because of this type of traitorous acts💀 lmfao fml
two of my most favorite people??? this was heaven to my ears
not Middle Eastern but East African girly 🇸🇴 & this podcast is soooo relatable ugh. the best advice truly, keep pushing boundaries- ask for forgiveness not permission
Yep 🇸🇴 , totally standing up yourself can be hard but it’s worth it
AYEEE somaliiiyey tooso
Do y’all take pride in disrespecting your parents or what. There’s a reason they forbid certain things. Especially when those things are haram. Wake up
@@TheRealNabil that's the whole point. Most of us aren't Muslims. If its so unrelatable why are you watching this
Most of my friends growing-up were either middle easter or Asian, I remember being my friends' alibi a lot because their parents liked me and trusted that their kid wasn't getting in trouble when they were with me, boy were they wrong. There was nothing more terrifying, than being out with a Tamil friend and spotting other tamils, it was like running from the Stasi.
I love both of you guys so much and this couldn’t have came at a better time. I’m not middle eastern but I have strict parents and I can relate SO MUCH. last year i got my whole summer taken away from me as well😭im also still in school living with my parents and also definitely am insane i can relate to tara sm
Best podcast episode ever. We need more Tara!! ❤
I love you Vereena! I was feeling very stressed out today, but watching your videos made me feel so happy ❤😘.
this episode is made for me fr 🙏🏽
vereena i hope u left the alex part on purpose.. ive been waiting for y’all to be a thing since 2019 don’t let it be a failed talking stage this time 😔🙏🏽
i’ve been watching you since i was like 12 (i’m 16 now) and i feel like i’ve grown with your content
I would live for alex and vereena 💖
Im not middle eastern (I’m Mexican) but I could relate to this so much. It is hard having strict parents but this is comforting knowing I’m not the only one that is going through it.
jamaican child of immigrant parents here, i’m so excited for this episode 🤭
the way they never edited the alex part
Vereena I feel you sm on the strict rules sleepovers, going places, & MY PARENTS SCARED ME SMM TOO I COULDNT DO ANYTHING SNEAKY cause it was just too scary
The editor did my girl so wrong by not cutting out the part with alex’s conversation
I need a Tara and Vereena podcast episode WEEKLY 🖤
The alex text not being edited out lmaooo
This podcast episode was so good! I really love Vereena and Tara’s dynamic
just wanted to say, im white af & i can relate to this conversation so much. im 23 & i WISH i had this in high school. you guys are wonderful, thank you for speaking on this. i hope this reaches all the right people 🥺🩷✨ i love you
I love how open Verena was being.
Vereena's laugh is so precious and cute 🥺
I started venting here😭
Wow, seriously gave me a new perspective because I thought that you were somewhat carefree during your early years, I was jealous back then. Not middle eastern but I've always had trouble hanging out with people other than my family. The first time i was able to go out with someone was my bf when i was 19 (I'm not allowed to have a bf but my parents just accepted it lol its been 6-7 years aha) I've been trying to be patient and obey my parents' rules but I'm starting to get over it now that I'm 20. I can't drive, get a job, and go on normal hang outs with friends/my bf. I was told that I'm lucky that they love me before and yes I am but that doesn't mean they have to force their past experiences on me. Last month, i turned 20 and was able to eat at a restaurant with friends. The first thing my mom told me not to do is avoid getting pressure to taking drugs, pills, don't drink and don't go off somewhere else. I understand that it is a reminder but the way she was talking to me was like I was a young teen, having no idea where I was going when I'm just going to a dang restaurant. I just feel very conflicted at how my parents haven't treated me any differently now that I'm 20. I just want them to accept that I'm growing up and to teach me what I need to learn since I feel very sheltered but I am trying to educate myself with things I'm not familiar with
truth is Vereena, i love you because you had the confidence to become someone who i've always wanted to be. growing up in a strict immigrant household made me a people pleaser. i could never, ever share parts of myself with my family for the fear of disappointing them or being judged. it takes me so long to open up to people - it's hard for me to be vulnerable. nobody close to me knows me for who i really am, i always have to keep a facade to cater to people.
but Vereena, you had the courage and the confidence to go beyond that. to break free from that. you chose to not become a shell of who you are and you embraced yourself freely. i love watching your videos because of how authentically yourself you are. Vereena, to women like me, you are SO inspiring. you're the woman of your dreams -- watching you makes me believe that i can become the woman of my dreams too.
thank you for everything, thank you for all the parts of yourself that you've given us. i pray for you, i think of you everyday, i know you're getting better day by day, but i really need you to know how much we appreciate you. i need you to know that everyday, you leave an amazing impact on people's lives. we love you so much Vereena. thank you for existing
yayyy I love u guys and vereena ur literally the sweetest im so glad u have a podcast
Omg this is so relatable to a girl who grew up with a filipino mom!!!
as a middle eastern girlie(persian): THANK YOU GUYS FOR THE REP🫶🖤
gonna watch this when i get home can't wait 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
THIS WAS SOOOO RELATABLE vereena i love you
i love all 3 of you, vereena you are literally so funny broooo😩🤣🤣 and eloquent af ur pod was such a great idea
we have very different definitions of strict parents 💀
hearing and reading you guys with foreign parents stories made me realize how easy i actually have it and im never gonna complain again😭
But also remember to realize that it is okay to validate your feelings too just because you're not going through it♡
I'm also an only child, so when my mom would compare me to everyone around me it would honestly hurt but also be like whelp damn but also when it comes to disappointing her sometimes it wouldn't be as bad as other times would be and honestly it would hurt more if I disappointed my grandma or my dad more than my mom, like I love her but I also know that the way she was born diffidently shaped how she raised me I just wish she would also heal and work on the baggage she has from growing up instead of just taking it out on me, I love you
this episode is perfect for me im the daughter of two dominicans and im also an immigrant as well it aint easy out here 😭
Vereena I can’t stop laughing at the “death groan” 😭😭
LMFAOOOOOOOO
child of haitian parents, and this was needed
My mouth dropped when I saw this two of my fav girlies together 😮
sending this to my sister who still has a year left before she moves out🫡
i loved this so much im cypriot greek and i related to this podcast so so much
As someone who has Hispanic parents, this was like rlly relatable and tbh I feel like this is like a big sister teachable moment 😭
cesar not cutting the alex part is KILLING ME 🫣girl was that intentional or not
FR LIKE IM CONFUSED, THIS LIL SECRET IS OUT OMG😭😭😭
what was it
It was quite obvious but I was surprised it wasn't censored.
As a middle eastern in a middle Eastern country I'm excited to see how this goes:3
as a egyptian i can confirm about everything and girl i love you and tara you guys are so iconic
GIRL FROM WHERE TARA YUMMY IS LIKE FROM THE MIDDLE EAST ??
@@denaalshbaki2863she’s persian
I hope Vereena recovers I miss her sm
not him not cutting it outttt😭😭😭😭😭
if I ever see these girls one day and if they look like they aren't okay I wouldn't ask for a picture but Say "Are you Vereena or Tara?" I'd give them a hug instead if they accept one and say I love your content and I hope your day gets better :)
Yesss my favs together
this is so relatable
It’s weird bc as a Persian girl i can relate to this so much especially the sleep over thing to this day… and im turning 18 this year but my mum doesnt like the idea of me sleeping over at friends houses if they have dads and older brothers
Vereena is super mature for her age.
Yayaya I'm super early. Love you Vereena ♡
I had a similar lifestyle during puberty and it was so stressful 💀 I‘m glad that it’s over now and I‘m just chilling at home. Tbh being outside all the time can give the wrong impression to others.
strict??? that’s nothing y’all had easy life y’all can wear anything you want & not forced to wear hijab. i’m middle eastern & can’t wear anything i want or even post on social media but i am doing that secretly behind my parents back…
Allah knows what your doing regardless. They may have taught you Islam wrong but why lie to them and sin still? Forcing hijab on you is haram ofc but other certain things are haram for a reason. Hope you realize that
Exactly bro I have to wear hijab and can risk getting 🪦
@@TheRealNabilshe probably isn’t Muslim? Neither am I but my parents still make me wear hijab
as a libyan girl i was so excited for this episode omg
im libyan too!
i’m lebanese, libyan, and italian haha 😂 i was way too excited for this
omg me tooo
As a Libyan too. There’s better influences than these people. They’re just normalizing haram, don’t let it sway you
me, a hispanic girlie w strict parents getting ready for a party while listening to this: so true
it is now 4 am and i just got home let’s see how tomorrow goes
I have strict parents and I related to this, I just find it difficult that I’m an adult and go to college but I somehow still have a curfew so I have to “sneak out”
This video HITS 😭🙈
Strict parents raise stealthy kids who learn how to lie and hide things really well. Once you get past the mental and emotional trauma honestly its a useful skillset im glad to have😂
My Hispanic parents were crazy strict like some of these stories too . I was hella sheltered .
your idea of strict parents is so different from mine lmao
What's your definition? Genuinely interested
I can relate to vereena sm with the phone smashing and being locked up 😂
Vereena you’re therapy to me
I really relate to this and I'm not even middle eastern
Vereena they didn’t edit the part about alex out girl take it down !!!!!
The sponsorship yasss get that bagggg
It’s a weird dynamic because Tara still lives with her parents. I think that’s why she doesn’t say much. 😅
As an African girl, I can relate so much
my parents aren't foreign and literally white but I relate to this video in so many ways, 42 mins in and everything applies to me
T giving jealous vibes so much 😫! Vareena is so sweet!
bro tara's parent ain't even that strict lmao
I kneeewww this one was gonna be with Tara
dude for me the worst pain as a kid was that I never did anything bad but my mom would create these ideas of what i “did” to excuse how abusive she was😂it’s crazy how fkd minority families stuck in generational trauma are, im so glad genz is able to speak up about shit and break those generational chains now, my mom def broke at least 3 phones and the funniest story is when one time she was pissed cuz she found out I had a crush on a boy she tried smashing my phone on the floor but it bounced on the floor to the ceiling and didn’t break, even she ended up laughing and you could tell my dad had hardcore second hand embarrassment i laughed too even tho i got my ass beat before that