Marcus Aurelius' Advice if You’re Tired of Life
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Marcus Aurelius reminded himself in those very same pages of Meditations the reasons why he was here on this planet, what his nature demanded of him, what his duty was. He carried on and found relief and purpose and even joy in this.
No matter who you are or what you’re going through, the same thing is available to you. Inside your soul, Marcus would remind you, is peace that you can retreat into any time you like. It’s ok that you’re tired-it’s understandable and perfectly acceptable.
Just use the resources available to you and most of all, stick around.
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"The best revenge is not to be like your enemy." - Marcus Aurelius
Your AI produced content is insanely bad man, just delete.
Great advice unless your only enemy is yourself.
@@KaaneDragonShinobi”you have power over your mind-not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength” Marcus Aurelius
@@KaaneDragonShinobi”Look well into thyself; there is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou wilt always look” Marcus Aurelius.
Start reading his work and stop complaining.
This
You are not tired of life. You're tired of suffering.
I'm really tired of suffering. When will it end?
"To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering."
~ Friedrich Nietzsche
@@JigsawLoks770 I too have stuffered greatly in my life, stranger. Hardship is never nearly over but an ongoing endeavor. I can only encourage you to read Aurelius' meditations if you have not done so yet. It helped me greatly to accept that suffering in my life, which will hit me no matter how hard I want to try to avoid it. A big proportion of that suffering comes from within ourselves and the way we think about and look at things. Changing your approach and thought process to all what life throws at you can immensly alleviate the corresponding pain.
No book or speech in the world will make life free of suffering. Thinking about it the right way though, can make it a lot less unplepasant. Keeping a clear mind in these rough seas you might be sailing through these days, may even help to avoid unnecessary affliction in the future before it even araises.
If Aurelius' style of writing is not for you, you may have alook at John Sellars' "Lessons in Stoicism". A short and well structured read, outlining the stoic principles of thought.
@@nackjicholson1940 Absolutely. Yet I think the meaning does not lie within the suffering exactly, but in maneuvering around it, so it loses in relevance. You might be doing what you are doing in response to suffering, but it's not the suffering that gives you meaning, but the things you do to mitigate it. It's a moral duty to make life better, even if it is yours, it will positively impact those around you
Suffering is something that everyone must go through to become a strong person
"If it's not right don't do it, if it's not true don't say it."
Marcus Aurelius was such an inspirational figure.
Not even little lies to smooth everyday life experience?@@MC-24
Yep, this is for all the good people who seem to do bad things. If you feel ashamed, the need to hide your actions, then probably you should not do it.
you know, even tho he's just saying something pretty basic he still has true wisdom. no metaphors, no unnecessary adjectives, just straight to the point.
How do you know it's right tho?
How do you think?@@Sidecutt3
“I hope there are days, where you fall in love with being alive”
Me too.. I try to every day
It took me a while, but I am now at this place!
There never will be
I wish the same for you as well kind stranger.
"When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive - to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love." - Marcus Aurelius
That's if you're healthy.
@@TheFracturedfuturefr when i'm in dysphoric episodes life is definitely not a gift
Healthy or not - you can choose to be thanful. There are those who are ill and they never get to get up again in the morning.
If you can read this, you are able.
@@TheFracturedfutureyup. Literally had days where I just wished I couldn't breathe, I couldn't think, couldn't feel happiness nor sadness.
@@aleksahadzic9302 I think it's best that they didn't wake up, that's why nature got rid of them.
I’m ashamed of how fast I clicked
Idk if I’ve ever related to a comment more 😭
Hang in there! You're not alone
Lol same
Stay strong, don’t let anything breach your inner Matrix.
*Us bro us* ༎ຶ‿༎ຶ
"It is not death that a man should fear but never beginning to live"
- Marcus Aurelius
This once is masterpiece!
Don't fear death. If it comes embrace it as if you are lying down next to a beautiful woman."
Ragnar Lodbrok
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porass.
_"Only he who lives in darkness knows the true value of light"_
Well Said
Should be lived, if lives in darkness, then he knows nothing of light, and it is only pointless hope and a dream.
If there is anything you should know today it is that we live in a demon haunted world. External factors that influence us. I hope you all stay strong
I would say "experienced" not "lives in"
🎯
My brother took his own life when I was 12 back in 1998! I am my sisters only sibling left and our parents are both gone. So I HAVE to stick around for her! I live with being passively suicidal every day and mental health issues. Just find your reason and fight on no matter what it takes. Whoever is reading this you f*cking got this!
I pray that you'll find strength in your adversities 🙏🏾
Thanks for the thumbs up everyone. I lost my Mum about 2 wks ago, so things are difficult now. But we gotta keep living, focus on trying to be stronger and more gentle to ourselves.❤️🙏🏾
We made it this far, I just try to think about what can I do to help future generations get through their difficult mindsets, but first I have to have control over myself entirely
Inspiring for sure.
Keep on keeping on 🙌🏼❤️
Keep fighting! Life is full of ups and downs but it is life, the most precious thing we have. No matter how long and dark the tunnel is there is a light at the end of it. Even if that light is a small spark, it beats the dark.
I have struggled with depression and anxiety all my life. They’re my constant companions in life. As I get older I am almost proud; a weird kind of proud of continuing this life. I’m stubborn. Sad and stubborn.
Could you tell about what your life is like and why the anxiety and depression (of which I have had my fair share of?
Don't be sad, and do your best to let go of what you may think others think of you. They don't think anything. Be good, do what makes you happy - don't just think about it!
Sad and stubborn is a bad combo, one feeds off the other
Do what I did. Work with the "Attacking Anxiety & Depression" home study program. It got me off all my psych meds. And I feel wonderful, I'm tripping over backwards! I can actually enjoy my life on this road to nowhere. Because for me, once in a lifetime turned into heaven on earth. All thanks to the wonderful "Attacking Anxiety & Depression" program. If it can work for me in my late 40s, it can work for anyone. For 20 years now. I am free!
Sad and stubborn is indeed very difficult to steer clear off. Sad to see an older gentleman that I know is a result of so from loneliness. As well as sad seeing myself turning the same albeit being much younger. Better way to tackle this would be mustering up the extra effort to overcome the real challanges in life. Hard to do but worth the value in the end.
I lost my sister and brother in law four months apart. They were both 22 and I was 20. They left a 1 year old behind that I had to raise. I dropped out of college and quit my job. I moved into my parents house to watch my niece full time. I tried to raise her how I thought her parents would have. I didn't think I would have made it another 5 years because how much I missed them. How do you explain to a 1 year old mommy and daddy are gone? I was in a dark place, but I couldn't show my suffering because my niece needed a foundation to grow on.
She's graduating from high school this year, and I'm so damn proud of her and her achievements. It does get better friends, you don't know it yet, but it does.
VERY sorry about the loss of your sister and of your brother in law. Very gracious of you to take care of your niece.
Sorry about your loss. I hope your niece brought you joy to see life in a positive way
Wish you all the best.
Well done powering through that. You are a gift to this child, I hope you're proud of yourself aswell.
Sir, you are the true definition of a stoic man
Congratulations on your child graduation 👩🎓 ❤you have done some things great 👍
In short: Start where u are, use what u have, do what u can.
It's hard. It's so fucking hard.
@@cyclinggirl3212 and thats why we need the daily practice of stoicism.
@@cyclinggirl3212 if its hard, u know its worth it.
@@satanwithinternet2753 Crawling through broken glass just so you can crawl through barbed wire the next day?
@@jasperzanovich2504 yup.
We’re actually kind of lucky we have information like this to keep us going
yes
It’s a blessing
Or it has been 100% made up.
What information? Extremely pithy aphorisms that you can also get from Chicken Soup for the Soul?
@@mingusmofaz5898 cry harder
"Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them" - Marcus Aurelius
That's good!
If there are no God's then you will have lived a noble life and be remembered fondly by your loved ones.
Or something like that.
Interesting, because I have found this myself. Inside your soul is peace you can retreat to anytime you want.
"Difficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body." - Seneca
Depression is different bro, it just eats you from the inside
@@mr.oblivious7034But only you can decide the fate of that battle
This is true. Had a real rough morning, but everythings clearer now. Thanks@@extrusdnterre1485
@@extrusdnterre1485 That's simply not true. As the video notes, even the great Marcus Aurelius needed help. Unlike in his case, not everyone knows - nor even CAN know - themselves as well as ol Marc. Not everyone can even know to ask for help. There are many who cannot decide the fate of their own battle.
Note, I didn't say "Won't" or "will not". I said "Cannot." It isn't in their power, and their choice won't make a difference. For many of us, if we don't have help that we can't ask for, we lose the war.
@@paladinrose What i meant is that YOU make the final decision, ofc you can use help from others, and probably you should. But if you just don't want to be better and get over that, you will never do it.
Sorry for Bad English btw
A year into my malignant cancer journey my wife left, right now am going through the divorce process in between my cancer treatments. I am leaning on the wisdom of Marcus to get through this. It gets better.
I have prayed for you to find complete healing, peace and joy.
I just prayed fir you that things WILL get better, you will have a FULL recovery, and that your new partner will value you and the time spent together under any circumstance. You GOT this!
My utter sympathy! To be left alone in a state of illness must be devastating! I am so sorry.
I am also severely ill from autodysfunction since 2020 and bearly function since. I saved alot and was hard working before, and now my spouse whent into a severe depression because she whanted to adopt a 3rd dog and i said no hence ALL my usable health is taken up by taking care of the two other dogs she begged for, leaving me in a state to take care of everything. Our 14 year relationship is now on the verge of destruction. Life is not always what you imagined it. Best of luck in your recovery and future!!!
Praying for you. You are not alone. Keeping you in my thoughts daily 🙏🫶
She left you because her parents didn't love her
I’m 29. I have lost three baby brothers. My father. My twin. My mother would beat us horrifyingly and starve us children. I have lost my son who was 16 years old. I have had health challenges and have an incurable disease. I struggle everyday to wonder why I was put on this earth. To struggle? I have a seven year old son and he’s the only light I have out of my dark tunnel I have walked. He brings me joy and he is my peace. Everyday I battle for him. I see myself on horseback full armour hair swinging wild in the wind fighting these demons just to reach my son on the hill, who always, always will
Be waiting for me ❤
May God give u needed strenght.
Corinthians 10:13
"No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it."
I believe everything can be cured, just ask Jesus for an answer, if convenient medicine doesn't help it does not mean there is no cure. Sometimes just changing the diet do wonders. What's your condition btw? Get to know your condition better and see other peoples testimonies, do heavy research. Natural remedies are God given but unfortunately forgotten and pushed aside by Big Pharmas...
Sry for my bad english.
Luke 11:9
And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.
For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent?
Or if he shall ask an egg, will he offer him a scorpion?
If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?
I hope that’s true as my adult daughter has just abandoned me at 73 😢
"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking."
Stuck between "calm down, youre pushing yourself too hard" and "time is limited". Feeling lost, fatigued, unmotivated but also guilty of not doing anything. No checkpoints to know if this is still right, no one pointing out my flaws or saying "youre almost there", no one understands but nevertheless, i can't quit
Pinpoint.
I understand brother, how you feel, but this is part of the journey, stay strong
Pick first one and screw societal pressure
Do you have a goal? Or at least a structure to your day? These help, also a journal helps too, 10mins in the evening to reflect on your day and a list of what to do in the morning. Do what you can in that day, tomorrow isn't promised, just do what you can without judgement of yourself and continue in that fashion
Exactl how im feeling, you nailed it on point!
Was called too old at 50! Started training in crumbling garage lifting rocks doing PUSH UPS on paint cans pull UPS on beams got ripped af at 52 years old!!!
Just checked your channel garageman BRUTAL training keep it up grandpa🔥
@@charliehaven8517you will be 50 sooner than you think.
I was worried 30 was too old to properly commit to calisthenics.
Your comment tripped the switch mate, you just shifted the boulder down the hill big time.
🫡
@@WhoThisMonkey I've seen many 60+ years old calisthenics athlete in social media. 30 is not even old.
Damn 50? looking good bro
‘Stick around’, I can think of far too many a good men I wish I could turn back time and tell this to. Life is precious and hardship can always be overcome.. Stick around!
Thanks for this.
Tell that to the 30,000 dead Palestinians. Platitudes are all good and great but do they really match up with reality?
"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." - Marcus Aurelius
Thank you for having lived, Marcus.
@@BurnsThornton That I absolutely know.
@@BurnsThornton That's called being Grateful. I guess no one taught you what it is or how to actually be grateful.
@@BurnsThornton haha you've got a lot to learn from the Stoics lol I can tell... You'll get there dw
@@BurnsThornton Yes i can see that with your responses
@@sumitdalavi if you’re a stoic why are you letting me get to you and wasting so much time responding to a meaningless stranger on the internet? Something to think about lol
Thanks for this. Lost a job today. Betrayed by people I thought were friends. I needed this.
I know the feeling. Hard not to be pessimistic about humans when you get stabbed in the back.
lesson learned. work is for money, not friends
Thank You for Sharing. I wish you the best future.
I was betrayed by someone at work. Although I have since forgiven this person and am on friendly terms, when encountering her, I will NEVER trust her again.
I would text those people who stabbed me in the back and tell them how their actions wounded you. And just say “I thought we were friends. Why?”
Joy.
That’s what kept me going.
One of my worst moments, I went to a thrift store. I bought some little wooden bird houses that I would give to somebody. Why?
You can make yourself kinda happy, but the only way to feel true joy is to make someone else happy.
The best part! You can do it for free. Give your time. A smile and a “hello”. Look for those as down and out as you, and spring a smile on them. Talk to them.
It won’t work on everyone, but smile are contagious. Make someone else happy if you want joy.
You’ll never get over the wall if you don’t get up.
Excellent advice.
I'm thankful for my old cats. One just died sadly too young at age 11 and it broke my heart. But his three brothers are still hanging in there. I am the center of their universe and that keeps me getting out of bed in the morning. Without them I'd have nothing to get up for.
Give a chance to Jesus, his deeds and Words are real instructions how to cope with life. Asking Him for help is a way to go. Also, I would recommend you the story of Nick Vujicic. That is one true motivation. I know that feeling when is hard to get out of bed. Many people have won in the battle with anxiety and depression with Jesus help, testimonials are available.
Luke 11 9;
And I tell you, ask and you will receive; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives; and the one who seeks, finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.
Corinthians 10 13:
No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.
God bless.
I lost my only cat recently I feel your pain
I imagine that you're a very kind and caring person -taking care of those cats like you do. God Bless You.
I have a 10 year old yellow lab from birth. It's gonna kill me when she's gone. We are inseparable. I live for her as she lives for me. I hear what you're saying. Love our fur babies! Humans just don't cut it.
Pets can bring love into your world. Try it - rescue a life.
I literally just had a conversation about how tired I am at life, then this popped up. I’m 40 lost three siblings before I turned 35. Been in combat in Iraq and my wife, who is younger that me just had a stroke. I’m alone with a very autistic son. Life has never been easy. I’m tired of the loss and things I can’t control.
Cast your burdens on Yesus because He cares for you. He will provide you needed help. God bless.
Even though we know we will have good moments, we get tired of the tough ones and tired of being tired. Oh, the relief when we get past the tough moments!
Damn bro, I just want you to know I’m sending you some positive vibes right now. I’m praying to universe for some peace to come your way. Ohm mani Padme hum
You are never alone friend.
Stick around.
I came to the conclusion many years ago I was placed here in-part to take care of many important things. When siblings, family and friends were of no help and had no concern I was there to take care of things that mattered most. You are the designated person who will take care of what matters most and that is your mission. See it through with dedication, be strong and on the other side you will be rewarded. Those around us who live life without a care and without a conscious thought of right, wrong and what is honorable will fall apart in their lives and drift away much as dust in the breeze.
Timely. A half blind old woman in the last days of her life, grieving for lost loved ones she'll never see again in this lifetime, terrified of where the world appears to be going, feeling so helpless, worthless and hopeless that each day becomes a make it or break scenario...many of us don't have Marcus' stamina (or stoicism) but, maybe I can try. At least, for another day, maybe I can try.
Just stick around and look at the bright side❤
As they say, you're mind is dyed by the color of your thoughts.
If you want the struggling to cease, discard your sense of injury.
I know it may seem like it's not easy, everything is a process, it takes time.
I even still struggle but giving up isn't worth it, we made it this far.
You are doing great ❤
@f.goossens8118 I hope today has been going much better for you. I believe there exists a cure for all forms of blindness that our science just hasn’t discovered. As for how the world is going: have a little faith, at least, and take care my friend
Please do. I will too.
"To live your brief life rightly, is that not enough for you?" - Marcus Aurelius
I really appreciate the comments section on this video
Thank you to those who took the time to post the stories,
The strength.
Thank you ❤
In theory it all sounds great and poetic. We all know if you find a purpose in your life you will be happy. But that's the thing: finding that purpose is the hard part.
I'm a former nihilist and I found my purpose in making this place better than when I found it and/or die trying.
The parallel purpose was: If there's no point in living, there sure as hell is no point in dying.
For you to have an "excuse" to die you must first find a cause worth it. Your life shall not be in vain. THAT is a reason for living.
@@SebHaarfagre I am very happy for you that you have found a purpose for living
I found finding my purpose to be very easy. Helping injured animals has always come naturally to me. It starts with birds, maybe mice, it always does. Eventually someone shows up to your house with a fox and then you end up being the local wildlife refuge. I’ve embraced that role.
That's actually really profound, well said!
The chief end of man is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever. I don't worry about my purpose - it's to do the best I can, in whatever circumstance God has placed me in. It's very freeing. I hope you find that freedom.
I’m a recovering alcoholic, 11 years sober. I was suicidal by the end of my drinking. One thing I can offer anyone struggling with the will to live is that you have no idea how valuable you will find yourself at some point in aiding someone else through their suffering. Everything I’ve survived I’ve found myself at some point helping someone else survive. Without even looking for it, it just kind of happens when you find peace after suffering: you get the opportunity to be of service. Sometimes it’s our pain that makes us uniquely qualified to help another 🙏
You are part of the annoying examples that merolic book sellers always bring up.
Congratulations on your sobriety. Keep doing a great job!😁
The 12th step. So so so true. I haven't been tired of living since I surrendered
@@1badombre82 You just gave the example of slave submission.
@@blackisblack22 You got so much hate, pain and misbelief in your hearth buddy, everybody followed on that route sometimes.
i really wish that you can find real love, friendship and happines in the path that you chose today.
“Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.” Will Rogers
Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday
I lost three homes and one family and it’s content like this. That keeps people like me going; much love to all, remember to be a light.
How are you doing?
At least you had that. Some of us never had the possibility of losing a home and a family.
@@mkNf-uk8py if you have never had a home or a family, you don't have to miss or be afraid of losing them because you haven't made the experience yet.
And only if you have a family you will realize whether you like them or not
or if they like you or not.
Befor it: its only your imagination.
If you're jaded that there's not more good in the world, choose to be that. You can be the type of flame you admire. Fuck darkness, be the light, even if you're the only one in your current vicinity. 🙌🙏 All the best to everyone reading this!
That's fantastic advice, thanks!
A man who walks a thousand miles wishes he had a heaping plate of biscuits and mustard waiting for him, umm hmm.
@@ianstuart5660 You're welcome bro
I tried that. Watched my hero die painfully and unappreciated. Realized that if the world was capable of doing the things it did to him… I don’t want to be part of it any longer. But life is not about getting what you want but making the best out of the worst. So yay!
I was a beast until I got a hernia... The way ppl treated me in my HVAC job after I got hurt ..I felt defeated. Before I was told I was a badass worker. That all turned around. Protect your physical well being, I'm only 33 and got injured at 31. Ppl treat hurt ppl like another lazy worker. It's insane
There is no peace inside my soul. Just pain, disappointment, anxiety, and rage.
Marcus was exceptional. His emotional strength was incredible. To compare one's self to him is generally unrealistic. But if aspirations help you... grasp them by all means.
All people have the capacity to be exceptional.
The only difference between him and us. Is he succeeded. He was where we were, and… Probably was even worse off… Yet, he found his purpose and fought on.
You may not be as strong as Marcus, but you don’t have to be… None of us have to be as strong as he was.
Just strong enough to live on. Despite the pain and hardship.
I feel as though I’m stuck in place, working tirelessly till one day I’ll fall. And I won’t have the strength to stand back up.
But… I fight on anyways, because there may not be peace now, but… When will there ever BE peace? In death? That in itself is a mystery. I cannot say for certain I shall find anything but oblivion then.
So I’ll live my life, prolong that end. Even if it serves no purpose I can live and die saying I tried. And I didn’t give up.
It’s fine to fall of course, just… Make sure you don’t stay down. Small as it may be, there is always a chance to get to a better place if you just keep walking. And I hope it’ll be an easier road for you than it’s probably going to be for me. Most folk really do deserve better than what they’ve been dealt.
My friend, your soul is an enormous expanse that transcends dimensional limitations and even time itself.
Best of all, your soul space is yours to manipulate through your own will.
Envision a tall and majestic tower, completely ringed by an immensely tall wall.
Inside the wall is an idyllic and peaceful landscape. Small houses are scattered throughout that landscape, and the spirits and memories of those closest to you live within them. These spirits and memories are only the best times with these people; times when you felt safe and happy with them.
Now envision all the rage , hate, and anxiety in your self. Remember that it is YOUR rage and anxiety. It is YOURS to harness and control. It exists ONLY because you create it and allow it to remain.
Harness all that rage and anxiety and set it to guard the wall against all negative influences.
Yes, it takes work, but you can not only create a meditative space in your soul space, but you can also harness all the negativity within yourself and use it for your benefit.
Peace and freedom aren't given, only taken. I do feel sympathetic towards you and your plights.@@Starlitsoul0359
You tryna be edgy so bad
Yesterday is history
Tomorrow is a mystery
But today today is a gift
You cannot change the past.
Accept the facts which are now.
Change the future.
(Martti Ahtisaari)
And that is why it is called “present”
Another version;
The past is a memory
The future is a promise
The present is a gift
I lost my dad in 2016 to cancer before my 21st birthday.
I had to give up college to pick up a job to help my mother with health issues to keep the house and forgo my dreams.
I got up to 200 lbs, hit the bottle daily.
Contemplated death so many times.
Covid 19 had us locked away and I witnessed the death of two close pets. My cat Tiggy, and my dog Lily all in close proximity between 2020 and 2021.
I’ve lost friends to heroin, health issues and suicide
I stopped drinking a while and worked out for a whole year in 2019 and dropped 70lbs
I got engaged to my high school sweetheart we are going on ten years soon (2019)
My mother suffered a minor heart attack and stroke in 2019. Now me and my fiancé both take care of her.
I worked in a kitchen that was highly volatile and gained most of my weight back and resumed drinking and smoking a pack a day.
I started weightlifting again (too heavy) and got costochondritis at 26 which feels like a heart attack every day so I had to give up weightlifting. Costochondritis causes chest pressure, benign heart palpitations daily, left arm nerve pain, panic attacks, back pain, due to chest wall inflammation.
I lost another father figure to cancer after he just got a heart transplant.
2023 has been a fight. For seven long years I’ve fought, fell down, and stared into the void. As of November my costochondritis has stopped after a year. I found new friends, had a reunion with old high school friends. Made stronger bonds in my relationship with my fiancé. I’ve resumed weightlifting carefully. I’ve cut down my cigarette intake to only 4-5 a day versus a pack, and a quarter pack. I’m drinking only one beer a night sometimes two (starting to cut that out). I’ve seen multiple concerts. I’m taking multivitamins, fish oil. I platinumed Elden Ring and got to play the resident Evil 4 remake. At 27 with the costochondritis: I wanted to die, and then… I didn’t. The costo made me feel like everyday would be my last. I realized I didn’t want to die. I’m too young to die. I kept on everyday. At work, with a smile on my face. I’m finding my strength again. With Christmas near, it reminds me that it was my fathers favorite holiday. Instead of losing my will, I’m going to celebrate this Christmas for him. I’m going to live long and celebrate and be there for my family and fiancé. Life has knocked me down. It’s time to climb back on the horse.
Try yoga - it can be healing - mentally as well as physically.
You are not alone.
God bless.
You know what's worse than losing your parents? To wish they were gone and they are not.
I bet it was hard making changes but you got this. I wish you the best of luck for your future
I'm definitely NOT tired of life I'm TIRED of having chronic PAIN. MY life quality has declined the past 5 year's and I'm 46.
I am so sorry to hear about your pain. I wish I could give you a gentle hug. ❤❤❤
Sorry bud, hope you find relief. Edibles are something to try if you're legally able. Much better then other ways people choose.
I feel your pain....I'm in the same situation.....just trying to make it through each day....one day at a time
I am 57 years old i am chronically tired.50 was a mofo for me.I am making better food choices ,but still crave the garbage.
ya i used to skateboard too
If you are reading this comment, I hope you have an amazing day!
I hope that for you as well. Thank you.
I am giving my brothers eulogy today. He unalived himself. This came at the perfect time
Keep pushing forward bro. That's all I'll say.
I am sorry for your loss
I first read The Meditations when I was about 19 years old. It gave me a lifelong peace. My favorite are his thoughts on the emerald and how it’s only purpose was to remain green. That’s all it had to do in order to be itself.
When sadness comes, it comes not as single spies, but in battalions.
- Shakespeare
Damn...that's deep.
@@Welmosca How well I know.
Dat true!
Another good quote is "dont argue what a good man should be, be one" which i think a lot if people could learn from
Just found out our family business is closing due to economy and the government isnt supporting small businesses anymore. I love my job and letting go people Ive cared and worked for more than ten years. Gone. Anxiety is getting more severe. I didn't want to leave bed today. Its so hard. I really needed Marcus Aurelius. Thank you
Had a similar story too. Anxiety for whole of last year. Dragged myself out of bed daily. Attended 4 funerals. One of which was my Dad's. Took each day as it comes. Hang in there! Things will be better. Hug!
Government doesn't support small business? Is that a joke? They are working hard to destroy small businesses, because big business bribed them to do so. Welcome to the world 👍
Beautifully done...thank you. 🎯
Never Surrender . Amen 🇬🇧🇮🇪
If your life is full of misery, those moments of joy become all the more valuable. Live to see more of those moments.
No tf they dont? They become blights. Greater poisins saying why you arent better even with good moments.
'Why the fuck arent you happy? You had a great time with your family! Was it great? Were you just lying to them and yourself? were you smiling? Is that a sign of happiness? Or did you find something funny?
Deppresion and other illnesses do not let go of the mind because you get a little better or have a good day or find the love of your life.
There is no point in fighting an immortal and recurring enemy
@@godlyhax4172All enemies are immortal and reoccurring because they take different shapes and faces. Without dark, there can be no light. Good never triumphs over evil, it is impossible. But it works both ways. That means evil will not win over good. Life is about balance, and balance is hard.
@@bambicrandi Interesting thought. Much of this human experience seems to be about acceptance of what is, not what we wish it to be. This is hard because there is much evil, loss, and suffering in this world. As the Buddha said, life is suffering. But sometimes it gets to be too much.
This message from Marcus Aurelius is so ancient and refreshing at the same time. It is easy to come through tough challenges, not seeing results (or barely) and still thinking that everything will work out because “you think positively” or through “motivation” and bs like those. Marcus Aurelius advices really help you go through the most difficult moments in your life. I’m so glad to be able to discover the stoicism and that he wrote his personal diary. I’ll be forever grateful for that knowledge.
The fact that stuff like this video exists is proof enough that there is relief from suffering no matter how much you go through and no matter how seemingly impossible it may be to survive it
Not even joking I needed this, I'm on the verge of giving up every day, I don't think I can keep going surprised I've made it this long
Give yourself some credit, brother. You're stronger than you realize. I'm proud of you. 👊
Dirtbike, only reason I still exist on this rock, nothing else comes close. If you rode a 2stroke supermoto you would question reality.
@@goon_eg1089 I love bikes, they were my therapy, but I can't ride at the moment due to a physical problem in my left arm. If this happens you have to find another way. But nothing comes close to the feeling of riding a bike, it's just sublime. I've still got my two classic Hondas, hopefully one day I can get myself sorted out and ride again. Ride safe bro.
I feel the same way, I'm sorry there are so many of us, but I care that you find better days. Love from a stranger to heal your broken heart
Keep going friend, things will get better
In 2019, I found out that my dearest older sister has ALS, a deadly neurological disease. I cried a lot. My dad died in 2010, and my mom was going through a heart failure. Instead of giving up, I decided to help my sister, her husband, and her to boys to make it through this difficult time. I have had two major back surgeries and now have thyroid issues. However, I am thankful to have my health and my life. At least I am not paralyzed and bedridden 24 hours a day like my sister. I spend every day being thankful and trying to help others around me as much as possible. My point is that even when you're feeling really down, there is always hope, and someone needs out out there. I send love to all those who are reading this.
Amen. Self sacrifice is a true balm for all involved. Everyone can at least smile to brighten someone's day. I always smile at every stranger I see. The whole world changes.
Why do you think all those misfortunes came to you? For interfering in the lives of others. I don't know anyone who serves others and doesn't pay with their own misfortune.
@@blackisblack22 Incredible. It's always been the opposite for me. Someone trying to save everyone can be a problem.
@@RunninUpThatHillh We live the opposite reality where evil is rewarded and the opposite is punished.
@@blackisblack22Yes, this world is completely controlled by the Devil. The "true" Hell is here!
"Nothing happens to any man, that he hasn't by nature been fitted to bare" - Russle Crowe, Gladiator
Reading the Aurelius meditations, I really can't see this man of being tired of life or depressed - he kept expressing how amazing and beautiful life is over and over again, yeah he had 'some' thoughts on the less fun parts of life, but he never really saw them in a depressive way and they seemed to be a small part of his ways easily to be brushed off.
My kids. I can’t break my kids’ hearts by leaving them. I lost my father recently, it was incredibly painful even as an adult. I can’t put my young kids through that. Good video.
I'm sorry for your loss. Stay strong, I know it's not easy, but with life comes death. That's the deal. That fact has helped me cope a bit whenever I think of loss.
I lost my grandfather recently, and watching my mom suffer from the loss of her father is especially difficult. All I can do is be there for her, and hope that one day I'll be ready when I suffer the same loss. While your kids may not fully understand that pain, I'm sure they want you to be okay too.
Your kids will be thankful you stuck around, they need you. Be a good father, and that love will stay with them forever.
And what about your father? You think he would want you to die? It would break his heart too.
I'm sorry for your loss. Please pray for healing. And yes, God exists. You are not obligated to believe me, but I will nevertheless share my story. I used to be agnostic and mentally mock religious people. But when I was going through difficulties (personal insecurities), God spoke into my heart and helped me. It wasn't a physical voice. It was neither in my ears, nor in my head. But in my HEART. It sounds absurd, and there are no words to describe it, but it was true. And the love I felt in my heart was the greatest feeling in the world. It is stronger than the kindest mother could ever love her children. A love that takes away any sadness. Now I don't just believe, I KNOW He exists. At that moment, I wanted to hug Jesus as tightly as I could and thank Him for all His blessings. He will help you through struggles. Even if you don't believe, still talk to Him, like you would talk to a friend. Ask Him to reveal Himself to you. And if you TRULY want it, it will happen. I can't tell you when or how. That's different for everyone. But He will guide you to the truth. And He will ease your pain. He is the only one who can. JESUS CHRIST IS OUR SAVIOR. Wishing you the best.
Your kids need you I have 5 kids myself,I lost my dad 3 years ago he was the best dad it killed me we were so close and I couldn’t imagine living without him and had thoughts of ending my life but my friends said to me imagine what your kids would be like I ended my life they would be distraught I couldn’t put my kids through that I know I will see him again stay strong mate it gets better it does hope this helps ,live for your kids 🙏❤️🩹
Anything we can do to help.? I've been through hell and back. Still have my ups and downs.
"and most of all, stick around." Meant a lot to me tbh thanks
"most of all, stick around"......That line hit hard.
Marcus Aurelius calls us to invest in ourselves, to enhance our virtues, and to live not for mere pleasure but for the profound satisfaction that comes from self development and providing better quality of life to our equals.
The older I get, the harder it has been for me to find a reason to stay. I'm trying everyday though.
Same. But my trying is pitiful to be honest.
My goal in life is to see just how much I can take without dying. When my time comes, I'll know exactly how strong I am.
At some point all the pain and suffering did this to me as well. I became determined to witness my breaking point. To hit it and see what's beyond it. There are absolutely a series of these moments, as many addicts will tell you. You think, "Man, how could it get worse than this?!" And then it does. But somehow you're still alive. I want to know just how much it takes for me to completely lose all hope. Then, and only then, will I give in to death.
'To reduce life to it's bare minimum to see if life is worth living' springs to mind but whose quote is it?
@@sahamal_savu Yes
For me it was indignation at the unfairness of life that eventually got me out of the pits of despair...where my anger at the stupidity and craziness of it all superseded the pain and suffering. "This is MY life, my body, my thoughts, my time. Even if I don't have it figured out....I'm sticking around until the end because nothing has the right to trick me in this way".
It may sound weird, but that's been my motivation. Sheer indignation. At god if you will or the cosmic play we are in.
@@jeanjacqueslundi3502 I used to feel similarly until I realized just how rich I am. It's hard to cry about your life when you realize an American making $34k/yr. is in the top 1% of income in the world today. Higher than that when you look at history.
No matter how rough life gets for us all it will be over in the blink of an eye. May as well enjoy the ride as much as possible.
I never thought things like “perfect timing” exists but to see this when i needed it most makes me take back all my words about perfect timing not being real
Depression and bipolar runs in my family, and my cousin (a captain in US Army Intelligence) once told me “every day you make it, every day you stay alive, you’ve won.” Sometimes just that simple little affirmation is enough to push through around the next bend in the road.
That is extremely helpful to hear. Thank you for sharing that.
Yay, you won. And then?
And what are you pushing through for? Another day of winning?
@@KK-sg5gl I think that's the problem life doesn't and shouldn't be goal focused! you have no control on the future. This is all a very modern concept. This is what Marcus Aurelius is telling you that the belief in fate is more important than whatever human goal you have! That the everyday is the point of life and to accept that. This new modern way of looking at the world-- through goals, through rationalization, standardization, progress. These are all modern ideas of what life is (as if we can control it all!), it should be making us happy?, but it doesn't We look for futures that are not attainable in circumstances, we can't control We look for happiness with people we can't keep They die. They get old, they get sick There is no certainty of tomorrow There is no plan!! throw those off they are illusions! enjoy each day as it is. So yes today was a win! "When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive - to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love." - Marcus Aurelius
@@KK-sg5gl another day of life. I want to live.
My daughter was three y/o and she knew I was hurting. She knew I was sad. She told me "Daddy, look at the sky and the clouds and the trees, beautiful. So I looked and a calm came over me. Lookat the beauty in life. I learned that from a three y/o.
I had my 2 year old in the bathtub under his crib bed during a tornado. I could hear it directly over my head. At any second, I expected the roof to fly off and us sucked out of the house. My son put his hands on my cheeks and said, "Don't be scared, Daddy." He then kissed me on the forehead 3 times. It was the sweetest, most selfless thing I'd ever seen a child do. I actually forgot about the situation for a few seconds as I was dumbfounded at what was happening. A few seconds later, the sound was gone, and we climbed out of the tub unscathed. These toddlers will blow your mind sometimes.
Wise beyond her years. Beautiful.
@@Butterb0ne a lot of the kids a special. Saviors of the planet if raise right.
@@kaleighp7723 indeed, she is. It's crazy sometimes. They say a child can't smile after birth. I got a picture of her smiling 10 minutes after she was born. With her blue/sometimes indigo eyes.
She's mostly attached to me and my great grandmother. My grandfather just passed in Sept. I didn't even know she knew what a rosary was but I walked in and she was praying for our Poppy to come back. She was the the moment he died. She loved her Pop just like I did.
The teachings of Marcus Aurelius should be standard lessons in all of our schools, along with the teachings of many other great classic philosophers and thinkers.
Very true. But that doesn't fit with their agenda.
They used to !!
Good grief! you mean you want children to.....THINK?
No, no, no. they are there to do the homework and pass exams.
Thank YOU 🦾❤️🦾
"Most of all, Stick Around"
That's one of the most meaningful things i've heard.
My two cents.
#1 Wake up everyday and do something for yourself.
#2 Just show up
#3 Please and thank you will make your days easier.
#4 Cook something you’ve never cooked before
#5 Get 3 Christmas greeting cards and send them to the 3 people you like in this world. Make sure you hand write them all and sent them.
#6 Read a book
Beautiful. Sound advice. I hope you have a good day.
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I dig this.
Please do more of these videos Ryan. You are so creative and these videos make me so alive. Thank you Ryan. Cheers
It put tears to my eyes. "I shall soldier on!" I promise.
This worked for me during 50 years of construction work.... "In the morning, when thou art sluggish at rousing thee, let this thought be present....I am rising to a man's work."-- Marcus Aurelis.
This is going to save someone's life. Thank you.
God bless you, keep the fight on. Guy Nick Vujicic is inspiration aswell.
Gibran, " To wake and give thanks for another day of loving"
I too clicked on this. Just wanna let everyone that’s suffering as I am, it doesn’t matter who’s suffering more but what more you can do for those that are suffering. You are not alone.
I love you guys, stay strong. ❤️
I think you're a beautiful person. Good luck with you too
I wish I could believe that. I lost all hope and trust in people.
These comments make me tear up. I deeply feel you all. I’ve been battling just being unhappy with life lately and some occasional suicidal thoughts. A lot of me can’t wait until I’m old and I pass and it’s finally over. It’s exhausting and I’ve just decided to keep going even on autopilot if I have to. Life is bitter. It’s got so many amazing things out there but yes I’m very tired but this video helps me and my faith in God. It’s going to be one of my crutches for sure and I’m thankful for Marcus Aurelius. We’re in this together 🌹
Beautiful. Thanks for sharing your compassion 🙏
@@deadreckoning6288 Of course! 🌹🌹
What's the difficulty you're experiencing?
“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” - MA meditations
"I can see no good in taking your own life when any moment Death calls."
Paradise Lost (the band)
That line really helped me out once so maybe will give someone else pause to think.
True Belief.
As long as you keep drawing breath, there is always the hope of things getting better.
Dum Spiro Spero
Last u got lung cancer. Then every breath hurts and you are reminded things are getting worse
“Have you seen my keys? Doesn’t matter; I have a horse.” - Marcus Aurelius
that's, like, so deep
one of the stoic quotes of all the time
okay I actually LOLed
Marcus Aurelius' words still ring true after all these years.
Even in this so-called modern times with our technology and innovation.
Thank you for your wisdom
Stay the course people, find your"True North" and Stay the course. We're all in this together! It may not seem like it, but your strength and my strength create "Our Strength. This might likely be the reason we came here at all. We have this.. Moment by moment, we're not just out there as seperate entities... We're in here ❤ as One! I feel for you and "With You" as well!
I’m trying not to be tired of life, but rather irritated. I want to be in a place where I know I will want to live and be accepting of the person that I am.
Sup my fellow twin
And be "yourself" not what someone else wants.
What have I adopted from stoicism? Don’t let anything or anyone be your ruin. Don’t let anything or anyone have you become undone.
Keep yourself in one piece…mind, body and soul.
What if there's nothing or no one that's the cause of my misery, but rather a combination of myself and my circumstances? What if I imagine the ideal future, yet I do not really show any feelings. What if I still have hope, yet I simply have no energy or enthusiasm to take action upon it?
It just feels like something is fundamentally wrong. Hopelessness is one thing, having hope yet no emotion or source of energy to act on said hope is completely unexplored territory. Maybe I do not have as much hope as I think I do. There's definitely a root cause for everything, but there's no clear path.
Then in that case my advice would be to simply do what’s in front of you mindfully, giving it your best, day in, day out.
@@tubax926 Your comment begins with self-deception. "What if there's no one that's the cause of my misery, but rather a combination of myself and my circumstances?" I think you answered your own question. You can change yourself and your circumstances (to some degree, at least). Get a piece of paper, a pen, sit down, and be bluntly honest as to what is making you unhappy. Then explore options and interventions and apply them. It's the sense of inertia that is causing your misery. Action is the antidote to the kind of depression you seem to describe here. Doing so little as taking a good walk or exercising or fixing a meal for an elderly neighbor.... You may be living with incessant judgmental brain chat so become conscious of what's going on there, starting treating your brain like any other muscle that needs to be disciplined, and stop putting yourself down. I was a hospital-based social worker for 34 years. What you are describing is quite common. Consider volunteering, it gets you out of all the self-focus and self-criticism. Self-creation is an adventure. Good luck!
@@tubax926Your circumstances are a thing and you are a person…
@@tcp8946 Im pretty sure the context is for external factors here.
Helped raise my brothers since I was 11, my best friend died of an overdose when we were 19, my mom is homeless and I am overcoming addiction problems. Yet through it all I push through every day and just got out of navy boot camp and am starting a new chapter of life across the country, living on my own for the first time at age 22. My finances are good, I’m in shape, but the internal pain I go through is almost unbearable. I still keep my faith strong and know God isn’t done with me yet, and he’s not done with you either.
I know the almost unbearable internal pain.
Thank you for having lived, Marcus
"Either way it's okay, you wake up with yourself"
~Billy Joel
Aahhh …Billy…. His music has a very special place in my heart. I have listened to it for nearly 42 years. Leave a tender moment alone… ain’t that the truth. 😮
Most of all stick around...keep the faith people, no matter how hard it gets...reward doesn't come to those that have it easy!
Buried too many children- OK already I'm in tears
Human life is a story of resilience
Appreciate the Bladerunner reference ( 0:21 ) in my daily reminder to be free.
A Great Man who is remembered. He lives on.
No. He's in hell.
a quote that really helped me in a tough time:
"It is not what you expect of life, but what life expects of you."
At 20 I lost both my parents i am 24 now 6 nearly 7 years without my dad and for without my mom and I try to keep that same positive attitude that I’ve always had just because I know that it isn’t gonna help me to just be sad about it but the times that I am sad I do let people know and normally they try to help me through that. I feel like that’s the point in life is to try to help others through their suffering, try to help people understand why they’re in the position there and how they can get out of it without having to feel responsible for being the one that put them in it but being responsible for being the one that got them out a bit. I miss both of my parents every day every day I wake up sad I lost them but happy I’m moving in their light still
When you are going through hell, keep going. -- WC
“Oh yeah, life goes on, long after the thrill of living is gone.”
- John Mellencamp
“Life should not be measured by the number of breaths you take, but by the number of moments that take your breath away.”
💯
I find that song to be depressing rather than comforting.
@@Zebulization To be honest, I HATE that damn song. 🤪
With the internet giving us the whole world at our fingertips, there are fewer and fewer things that take peoples breath away.
"The soul becomes dyed with the colors of its thoughts" - M. Aurelius.
Never Sit Around Feeling Sorry For Yourself!!!! Best Advice I was Ever Given by my High School Football Coach 🦅🦅🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
I've had too many experiences with people checking out of life. I think life can be well-lived by simply "being useful". If you're useful (to yourself/planet/others), everything else will fall into place. So, be useful and see what happens. Peace.