@@adriennea1348 A bit passive aggressive there friendo. This was a state matchmaking or at least introduction service, did you actually watch the the clip?
@@SandrasSpicySpanishSalami it wasn't for the purpose you stated, though. You assume the government actually cares. That's a silly assumption. The only thing the government cared about was natality rates.
@@adriennea1348 You have such a myopic view of this whole discussion that further conversation will be entirely fruitless. Enjoy lonely retirement years in a care home under the Nurse Ratchet like care of "new british" imported as policy instead of encouraging native fertility. Have a good day.
What are you doing about it to change your situation? How many people have you spoken to? Or are you waiting for someone to speak to you first? How many classes have you taken? Take action. I respect and hear that you feel lonely, but nothing changes without action🙏✨
I feel less lonely now that I have become my own best friend, found ways to meet my own needs and wants, followed my interests, reached out to others, focused on what I have to give, done volunteering, etc.
I saw an archbishop for the Church of ENGLAND today who was speaking in an African accent and wearing a giant wooden primitive looking cross garishly painted in bright colors. It was just jarring.
And please remember the number of especially women who wished they hadnt, but simply couldnt leave..yes,people sometimes leave to fast, but not everything was rosy posy just because of the lack of Tinder.
Divorce was heavily frowned upon and, depending on the laws in your area, required consent of both partners to get approved. This was also a time when it was still legal to pay women less for the same work as men, that (in most places) a woman could not open her own bank account, many industries were not open to hiring women, etc. This created an environment in which women could not escape an unsalvageable/abusive marriage as easily as they should be able to. And an environment in which men who wished to abuse their spouses greatly benefited from the unequal power dynamic. Of course many people were happily married, but also too many people were miserably married as well. Some people would argue to "pick better", and I agree to a point. A higher average age of marriage (as shown in the video, compared to the decades that followed) does tend to lead to more long lasting marriages. But people did (and still do) actively try to misrepresent themselves and sometimes even get their parents to do the same. Living together before marriage makes it easier to recognize if someone has been misrepresenting themselves or not, but this was often not socially acceptable (sometimes referred to as "shacking up", a term that had negative connotations) and many companies would refuse to rent or sell to a couple if they did not have a marriage certificate. Some people would argue that people these days get divorced too easily, and that they won't even try to work it out. Even if that was true I still think that no-one should be able to force you to stay in a marriage that you are miserable in, no matter how frivolous they think your reasons are or how much time they think you should have spent trying to make it work. Even if both spouses wanted a divorce they had to come up with a reason that the court thought was satisfactory. Considering that "we're not a good match/our personalities clash" is not a good enough reason they had to lie and show the court evidence of wrong doing. "No fault divorce" is definitely a good thing, I do not understand why anyone would complain about its existence. I don't think people have changed. If you create an environment in which people can abuse their SO more easily then more of them will do so if they want to. We've never had it as good as we do now, even taking into account our current hardships. Quality of life has been increasing for everyone. I do not understand why, apart from aesthetics, people romanticize the past.
@@itsalwayshalloweenexceptwh5118 And how to pick better when many married right out of school or Uni because it was needed because of having gotten in the "family way " or because it was the only goal worth pursuing because of needing an apartment ( couldnt get pne in my country unless married literally) so either find a partner or stay with parents ot family or in some pension for "sad" women/men without a partner, so how to pick better when most married without any any type of life experience, I will never understand how people just think as a possibility because they literally have no idea of how bad things was on so many many levels.
@@adriennea1348well yes but actually no. Companies require using apps at work, some restaurants need you to scan a code to order, and in some gov departments, your papers will be done faster should you had e-ID... Installed on your smartphone.
@adriennea1348 I resisted until I had to get my own. It seems that these days you're expected to carry one. I tried using a dumb phone (just calls & SMS texts) but everything you do or sign up for requires more, apparently. School, university, work, courses, banks, bills, medical treatment & meds, online stuff.. Probably differs to some degree depending on where you live, but I found it damn near impossible & it made life for me & even those around me that much harder. We can definitely minimise usage though x
Kind reminder that women couldn't open a bank account in their own name back then, and that men would get away with spousal abuse without issues... So no, things weren't better then
@@SandrasSpicySpanishSalami you're insane. Being married or having a child doesn't show you have good judgement. In many cases, it's quite the opposite
@@adriennea1348 It shows you have at least some commitment to the future of your nation. A little collectivism rather than today's hyper-individualism.
Met my wife through a dating service 50 years ago. Still together.
That’s cool
I am very glad for you
we might actually need this today
Bring back the Marriage Bureaux!!
It's just called online dating websites now LMAO
Bro was fumbling
@@makomadeira5799no you're right about that, they wouldn't, they would have used different ones!
Tinder without the smartphones.😂
1939, just in time for the guys to go to war. See you later, maybe.
epic
This kind of thing is still around to some degree.
My husband and I met each other through a singles program through our church.
Very sweet!
Imagine having a government that actually wants to strengthen the individual & family unit! Must be nice.
That's not what was happening 😂. Your mind did a massive leap there
@@adriennea1348 A bit passive aggressive there friendo.
This was a state matchmaking or at least introduction service, did you actually watch the the clip?
@@SandrasSpicySpanishSalami it wasn't for the purpose you stated, though. You assume the government actually cares. That's a silly assumption. The only thing the government cared about was natality rates.
@@adriennea1348 You have such a myopic view of this whole discussion that further conversation will be entirely fruitless.
Enjoy lonely retirement years in a care home under the Nurse Ratchet like care of "new british" imported as policy instead of encouraging native fertility.
Have a good day.
@@SandrasSpicySpanishSalami well they needed someone to work all the mine jobs and kids died at an alarming rate so..
I’m very lonely 😢
Have a hug 😊
Here's a Hug
What are you doing about it to change your situation? How many people have you spoken to? Or are you waiting for someone to speak to you first? How many classes have you taken? Take action. I respect and hear that you feel lonely, but nothing changes without action🙏✨
Oh. Hugs
I feel less lonely now that I have become my own best friend, found ways to meet my own needs and wants, followed my interests, reached out to others, focused on what I have to give, done volunteering, etc.
Women used to see marriage as a goal in life. Now it's an "option." And there's a lot of lonely women.
England used to be so nice and English.
I saw an archbishop for the Church of ENGLAND today who was speaking in an African accent and wearing a giant wooden primitive looking cross garishly painted in bright colors. It was just jarring.
Before mobile phones
Everything old is new again, lol.
There is nothing new under the sun
Different days when relationships lasted til the death
But times have changed and so did the people
And please remember the number of especially women who wished they hadnt, but simply couldnt leave..yes,people sometimes leave to fast, but not everything was rosy posy just because of the lack of Tinder.
Divorce was heavily frowned upon and, depending on the laws in your area, required consent of both partners to get approved. This was also a time when it was still legal to pay women less for the same work as men, that (in most places) a woman could not open her own bank account, many industries were not open to hiring women, etc. This created an environment in which women could not escape an unsalvageable/abusive marriage as easily as they should be able to. And an environment in which men who wished to abuse their spouses greatly benefited from the unequal power dynamic.
Of course many people were happily married, but also too many people were miserably married as well.
Some people would argue to "pick better", and I agree to a point. A higher average age of marriage (as shown in the video, compared to the decades that followed) does tend to lead to more long lasting marriages. But people did (and still do) actively try to misrepresent themselves and sometimes even get their parents to do the same.
Living together before marriage makes it easier to recognize if someone has been misrepresenting themselves or not, but this was often not socially acceptable (sometimes referred to as "shacking up", a term that had negative connotations) and many companies would refuse to rent or sell to a couple if they did not have a marriage certificate.
Some people would argue that people these days get divorced too easily, and that they won't even try to work it out. Even if that was true I still think that no-one should be able to force you to stay in a marriage that you are miserable in, no matter how frivolous they think your reasons are or how much time they think you should have spent trying to make it work.
Even if both spouses wanted a divorce they had to come up with a reason that the court thought was satisfactory. Considering that "we're not a good match/our personalities clash" is not a good enough reason they had to lie and show the court evidence of wrong doing. "No fault divorce" is definitely a good thing, I do not understand why anyone would complain about its existence.
I don't think people have changed. If you create an environment in which people can abuse their SO more easily then more of them will do so if they want to. We've never had it as good as we do now, even taking into account our current hardships. Quality of life has been increasing for everyone. I do not understand why, apart from aesthetics, people romanticize the past.
@@itsalwayshalloweenexceptwh5118 And how to pick better when many married right out of school or Uni because it was needed because of having gotten in the "family way " or because it was the only goal worth pursuing because of needing an apartment ( couldnt get pne in my country unless married literally) so either find a partner or stay with parents ot family or in some pension for "sad" women/men without a partner, so how to pick better when most married without any any type of life experience, I will never understand how people just think as a possibility because they literally have no idea of how bad things was on so many many levels.
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Very interesting
Back in the days when forms asked simple questions, no pronouns in sight! 😮
Is she still in business? Lol
400 likes!
The really value of this was the women running the service. They would carefully screen the guys and look after the women. The original algorithm
Wish smartphones were never invented.
You don't have to use one
@@adriennea1348well yes but actually no. Companies require using apps at work, some restaurants need you to scan a code to order, and in some gov departments, your papers will be done faster should you had e-ID... Installed on your smartphone.
@adriennea1348 I resisted until I had to get my own. It seems that these days you're expected to carry one. I tried using a dumb phone (just calls & SMS texts) but everything you do or sign up for requires more, apparently. School, university, work, courses, banks, bills, medical treatment & meds, online stuff.. Probably differs to some degree depending on where you live, but I found it damn near impossible & it made life for me & even those around me that much harder. We can definitely minimise usage though x
Not sure if those agency ever worked. It was on TV years ago that most were a scam.
Believe me it much better than tinder old time is good times
how does yous gets t' in d'err
The narrative sounds strangely like it's from Adrian gray comedy
Did women back then still hold the ridiculous standards of a man being at least 6'4", making 6 figures, too?
No
Well, I'm quite sure men with absolutely nothing to recommend them were dying single back then too
Yes but the 6 figures were 37 pounds, 12 shillings, and 11 pence.
@@Secretgeek2012😂
@@adriennea1348 Well, I'm quite sure women with absolutely nothing to recommend them were dying single back then too as they do today. Its life.
This and cultural norms was far better
Kind reminder that women couldn't open a bank account in their own name back then, and that men would get away with spousal abuse without issues... So no, things weren't better then
@@adriennea1348 Women should not have the vote until they've had a child, Men should not have the vote until they are married.
@@SandrasSpicySpanishSalami you're insane. Being married or having a child doesn't show you have good judgement. In many cases, it's quite the opposite
@@adriennea1348 It shows you have at least some commitment to the future of your nation. A little collectivism rather than today's hyper-individualism.
@@adriennea1348 You deleted your first reply?
I need a Japanese woman