we broke up
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ก.ย. 2024
- Hi friends,
Thank you for taking the time to watch this video. Please remember to keep your comments thoughtful and kind. This video was made to help me grieve, and to share and continue to be real with you all.
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Sending deep love to you both. A note to you Jess - My ex partner and I lived on the road, had a youtube channel, and shared our breakup publicly. It felt absolutely life shattering. After months of grief and growth, I can truthfully say that I have never felt more at peace with myself, more in love with where my life is going, and more hopeful about my future. Thank you for sharing your story, it makes us all feel more connected. Please reach out anytime.
Jess, you’re doing all the right self care…keep those daily walks, called ‘forest bathing’ in other cultures, and the intuitiveness of your pups will be a salve that will help you heal as well. You shine a beautiful light. It’s surrounding you now, and we’re all virtually supporting both you and Sarah. So much love sent your way….
I just came across this video randomly, poking around TH-cam. I’ve never seen your content before but I was intrigued, first by the tile, then by how genuine and thoughtful you are. I found myself thinking that I would love to see what you create next, which made me smile. It’s like a little beginning in the midst of a painful end. Beginnings are happening all the time. PS. When I was going through my big break up I read a lot of Pema Chodron and it helped keep things in perspective :) xo
Sending love to you and Sarah, and the dogs. I'm 45 and spent my whole life having my heartbroken...its time to focus on finding yourself - for you. Don't avoid the pain, use it as a force to learn from and use it to reshape a new imagined future. You got this girls. 💜
I can say that when my girlfriend of almost 9 years ended our relationship, because it wasn’t working for her, I was devastated, and so was she. It’s 10 years on now, and she continues to be one of my dearest friends, we know each other better than anyone. We don’t see each other all that often, however we are always available for each other. We are older by 15-20 then you & Sarah, so we are different stages of our lives, however I can’t imagine my life without her in it, and I know she feels the same. Take time to grieve, do something each day to that is for you, get out and exercise, you need to have the ‘feels’ all of them good bad ugly, so you can continue to move forward with love kindness respect. I don’t suspect that Sarah will be watching or reading any of this, however if by some chance she does. Sarah all of the above is directed at you as well.
Each new generation that comes along, makes our lives easier. I can not image having TH-cam, and all the amazing content, depicting positive examples of healthy relationships of LGBTQ couples when I was younger and discovering who I am in the 1980’s…., I have learned so much from the content that people choose to share: from VanLife, Mental Health, personal growth, Loss, Love, coming out as ones true self and being ok with that. Eamon & Bec, Lee MacMillan, Hannah & Sadie, Holly & Paige, Steph & Kristen, Elliot Paige, Sarah Ramirez, Elizabeth Clem (Clements) (created a powerful raw painful yet beautiful series on her channel about the loss of her mother) this list could go on and on……My point, that I am not making well, is that by sharing personal stories that are similar to many of us, you allow us to learn we are not alone, others out there in world have similar thoughts, feelings, experiences, and we each get through them differently yet the same.
Both you and Sarah are part of the culture that makes it ok, to not be ok. To be real and honest.
While you both take steps away from the lives you shared for 9+ years, you are taking parts of each other with you, you will become stronger individuals, and Jess, by you choosing to share you are telling people it is ok to let go.
I hope you both emerge on the other side of where you right now well and at peace.
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I fully agree that Hannah and Sadie would be perfect to listen to. While Hannah and Sadie remain a couple, how they met and the decisions that Sadie made might help. My heart goes out to you. I also experienced the loss of a long-term relationship, though in my case it was the end of a marriage. It was so hard. But I can also say that it got better. I can’t see what the future will bring for you, though of course I wish that it is full of happiness.
Fantastic letter T.Ann McElroy, just wonderful.
Get married already 🚦
Jess ♥️ I want to encourage you. You are NOT alone. You WILL get through this season in your precious, valuable life. You (and Sarah) are seen, known, and unconditionally LOVED. ♥️ 🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️
This exact scenario happened to me, as well. 7 years ago.
The reason I tell you that is because I want you to know that you will get through it. There will be days where you won't want to get out of bed, or walk the dogs, or eat, but there will also be days where you (and your heart) will make it through the day without feeling crushed.
It took 2 years for me (after 12 years together) to be able to go through a day without realizing I had gotten through the day (so to speak). You have to allow yourself the time to grieve in any way your body, heart, and mind decide. It's tough, I'm not going to lie, but you do eventually make it to the other side.
Right now it is all encompassing, understandably, but please know that your heart and mind will heal. So will Sarah's.
Continue being kind to yourself and allow Sarah the time to do the same - as hard as that is some days.
I wish the both of you nothing but healing, kindness, and love.
You WILL get through this. I promise.
Love, a 55 year old who got through it. xo
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Lean on the dogs as much as you can. They don’t know sadness and will always love you, no matter what!
Wow, this is hard to process just from a viewers standpoint. I know you will come out of this victorious & it will be ok. Feel your emotions Jess & you’ll get through this process. Sending you strength❤️
Holy moly this was painful to watch. I remember feeling much the same many years ago. Sounds like you're doing all the right things to survive this devastating time. Remember to love yourself.
Jess, I was crying while watching your announcement. Anyone who has been through this knows the pain you both are feeling. We are grieving with you and holding you in our hearts!
My heart goes out to you. I ended my relationship in February. I was depressed. Started taking antidepressants. Adopted a wonderful dog. Found an amazing therapist. And over time, I felt better. You will get through this and be better for it! I wish I could send you a hug…🤗 I know we don’t know one another but I’m here if you need a knowing friend. Be easy on yourself love….
AND BTW, you are crushing being absolutely real and transparent through this incredibly difficult time. Your lights shines through and you are leading even when you’re suffering. Well done. xo
Couldn’t agree more.
It’s okay to “not be okay” right now. Grief is grief. Be with it, just don’t make it your forever home. In 2013, my partner of 5 years left me and went straight into the arms of someone she met on FB. I thought my life was over. But I knew that if I loved her, then my love shouldn’t change because she was no longer with me. I learned how to live without her, and wished her well. You will too. A funny thing happened when I went about making a new life, 2 years after she left me, she came back into my life. I didn’t change my life, but the love was still there. 3 years later we got married. I don’t want to give you false hope, but rather encourage you to live your best life right now. You owe it to yourself. You got this. And we’ve got you!
I hope this is not the case here,....leaving because of there being someone else. The comment that Sarah "wants to make a different choice"? ->haunting. YOU are full of grace and did things the right way. So glad to see that there was another chance and that you are happy. LOVE the "Live your best life right now" comment. SO TRUE.
It is like a death, but the other person is still alive. It is a death of the relationship. You are smart to grieve the loss, and dear God it hurts like nothing else. I went through something similar a long time ago. I decided to focus on getting through the next hour, then the next day, then the next week until my heart healed enough to think about the future without the other person. You are smart to get therapy, medication and support from friends and family. You will get through this. I promise.
I'm really sorry Jess, you guys are the reason I got into van life. I hope Sarah is ok to
When my long-term ex and I broke up, I cried almost non-stop for three months, and I absolutely thought that I would never be okay again. I thought I was weak and a bad person if I asked for help. Finally I realized that accepting help was actually a strength. You are doing SO AWESOME. That experience was awful for me, but it was hugely helpful in making me realize that I am a much stronger person than I ever thought, and I trust that you will find something equally breathtaking about yourself. You have shown over and over again how resilient you are, and you're walking and going to therapy and looking at medicine, and talking and processing, all of which puts you miles ahead. Even if you are feeling light years behind. Love to you both, and to those pups of yours
I was the "Sarah" in your story and called off my wedding to the love of my life. Seeing your process has been both heart breaking and comforting knowing what it looks like since we are not keeping in touch to allow each other to heal. Knowing that there is love and loss on both sides is particularly beautiful because logically, I sometimes can't comprehend why I would left my love. How can someone leave someone that they love.. well I did and I am still grieving. So I imagine Sarah is too. We are truly embracing this tragic yet vital part of life.
Life is so much sweeter once we've experienced loss.. After the right amount of time, I think it makes us grateful for what we have and achieve. The best advice I have around grief is: keep feeling with every inch of yourself, try not to shy away from the pain as that's what makes you grow. And, whenever you're ready, acknowledge what you do have. I wish you strength and courage Xx
I’m so sorry to hear this news. When we love with our whole hearts, we always risk that our heart will be broken. It’s still worth the risk even though it doesn’t feel like it right now. You’re right - people come into our lives for just a season…and sometimes it takes a while to understand the reason. It’s right and appropriate for you to grieve and to do so loudly. Get it out and feel it all….every little bit.
Sweetheart, I know exactly what you are going through. Ive been in a similar situation after a 10 year old relationship. You will push through and when you finally get your head over the surface you will be stronger than ever. I am so glad you have done good decitions about seeking help and medication. We will be right here by your side along your grieving period and we got your back, even if its "just" through our screens , our hearts are with you.
I’m really sorry to hear that news. There’s no doubt it’s tough. Really tough. One day at a time. It will be ok and slowly but surely you will start to see the sunshine again. It is just a season. Really. A tough season but you are strong. Please take care of yourself and I hope Sarah is ok as well. Grieving is exactly what you have to go through. Take care. Love and hugs from Australia. 💖
Seems like there were too many huge things happening at once. The house, the wedding, the baby… she may have just freaked out and ran. It’s good that u are getting help to get throo this. U are a strong and fierce woman. I know that u know U will get past the hurt and grief. We are here for u!
This is so sad to hear, and I empathize with both of you. The only person I ever unreservedly loved left me also to follow a different path. Although it is devastating for the moment, I can say with certainty that you will survive this. It was in my darkest moment that I learned to love myself and realized that I am strong and can restructure my life into something worthwhile. Don‘t give up, you‘re o.k.. And don‘t forget, there are many of us out here who would be honored to give you whatever support you may need or desire. Don‘t lose hope!
You got this girl! I went through A brake up after 15 years and 3 kids! It’s been 15 years since that heart braking day and it feels like a life I never lived! I did And you WILL go on to brighter, bigger things! Be sad then live! Don’t forget you were happy before her and will be happy again!
We are here for you with support and love. I wish I could hug you right now. Deep breaths are hard but helpful.I have been through a very hard break up and I know it is overwhelming. Please don’t let some commenters make your grief harder and heavier. Sending all the love possible to you.
The strength you show her is beautiful. My heart goes out to you both
Very sorry for your loss and pain. I was with someone for 14 years when it ended abruptly and painfully. That was 10 years ago. Something that really helped me was watching a lot of standup comedy. I wasn't able to laugh for the first few months, but just knowing that people were eventually able to see humor past the pain was inspiring to me.
I’m old and been broken up with a number of times. I’ve never had to brake up with anyone but I can’t imagine how hard that had to be for her too. The beginning is always so painful. Time will heal your heart. Meanwhile, find the funny where ever you can. It’s ok to be friends still. But if it’s too painful, take the space you need. You’ll grow in leaps and bounds during your time alone. Learning to be comfortable with yourself alone is a huge blessing!
In our darkest hours when we cannot see the light is when the most incredible spiritual lessons arrive. It doesn't feel like anything good will come out from the struggle while deep in the muck but please trust that once you reach the solid ground, and you will get there, that you will look back at this difficult time with a heart filled with gratitude because of where the struggle has lead you. Be kind to yourself. Trust in your own process and just take things day by day or even moment by moment. If there were no darkness, we would never appreciate the light. Sending lots of love your way ✨💛✨
I’ve been through something similar and found a wonderful life on the other side. It’s a bumpy road but not one that you travel alone. Holding you in my heart. ❤️
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Dear Jess,
As I watched your video, your sadness and grief came through loud and clear. I just want you to know that you have my most heartfelt/soul-deep compassion and empathy. I know the pain of loving a partner who's gone as I lost my love over three years ago to death and yet I still love her as if we were together yesterday. But just know, you have all of the combined love and positive energy of all of us here and that we are standing with you and surrounding you with the most powerful collective band of love and strength and we will get through this, with you, together.
Hugs, love, and prayers!
I feel that undercurrent of strength you have in this video. During a very dark time, I stumbled into a volunteer oportunity (thru work). I don't feel overly dramatic saying it may have saved my life. Service to others changed everything for me. Your family, friends and pups all need you, if things get to dark, please reach out, you are absolutely not alone. Take hope from all these folks commenting, the take your breath away grief will ease.
This made me tear up with you. From the comments, you will come to understand you’re a human living a human experience. I am so stinking proud of you and your strength. I’m 43. Engagement and wedding was called off two years ago. My guy realized his “mistake” and we’re trying to build back that trust and mend the heart. It’s a journey. Glad you’re addressing the emotional and mental aspects. That shows your maturity. It’s one day at a time. Lean in to the love and support of the pups, family and friends. You deserve it! I’ll be here to cheer you along the way to find what makes your heart smile. Sending lots of ((Hugs)). ❤️
Jess I have never seen anyone smile as much as you and you make me smile things always get better over time. Stay strong
I'm so sorry Jess. You're such a strong person, and everything you're doing to help yourself just shows that.
I personally find it helps to write down questions for your future self in diary/ calendar - anything you'll be reading/ writing in in the future. For example - 'have I done this' 'do I still feel like this'. By the time you read it, you'll not only know the answer but be able to reflect back on it. Helps take the pressure/ enormity of the situation you're in at the moment and give it to your future self. Hope this helps, sending love
I'm currently going through the same thing. My husband of 20 years, kindly, told me he doesn't love me like a husband should love his wife but only like a bestfriend. My world was shattered. This was 4 months ago. I'm doing better today but the emotions come in large waves. I send you peace in your heart, sweet lady. Bug hugs♡
Prayers and Love your way..Time heals heart aches…
I am very sad to hear your news. It must have been very hard for Sarah to make this decision and even harder for you to have to face it. I have always admired how loving and open you are. This is your superpower that will allow you to live through the grief and come out on the other side able to love again. And who knows maybe this chapter is not fully closed yet. Love you both.
Thank you for sharing your heart with us. You are wise and strong and honest and brave and resilient. And also, it just completely sucks. And this isn’t the end of your story. Sending you so much love and strength as you navigate this journey.
Jess: I, too, recently went through a breakup with my fiancé. I can’t say it will be easy, there were many dark days, coupled with days of immense light. Dealing with grief and loss is a unique juxtaposition of emotions. It’s been 6 months since my engagement ended, and each day gets a tad bit easier. Things don’t feel as heavy as they used to. You will get to this place, too!
Of course, small moments will trigger you-a song, a picture, a scent, walking past a familiar place, waking up alone, a complete stranger who resembles them. Nostalgia will definitely set in and knock you off course some days. But, in those moments you learn new coping skills and how to show up for yourself. This journey is about you, now. You can find comfort in knowing that what’s meant for you will not pass you by. You two will find your way back to one another if that’s how the story ends, but if you never do, your new individual stories, are still just as beautiful. (I am learning to accept this nugget of knowledge myself!)
I want to thank YOU for being so transparent with where you are in your grieving. Even though I’m a few days ahead of you in the healing process, your video still helped me to not feel alone.
Love & light to you as you navigate a new life and routine. Healing is underway, I promise. I like to say: “be where your feet are”-celebrate your victories, big or small, embrace your range of emotions, highs & lows, and you will look back and see how much of the mountain you’ve climbed.
Tap into your inner strength and find gratitude for something each day!
-T
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Sorry for your loss. You are young and it doesn’t seam like it now but it will get better. I have divorced 2 times before I found the love of my life. We have been together for 17 years.
Hi Jess, thank you for sharing your story and feelings, it is so brave showing yourself vulnerable like that while it is still really raw. As hard as it is right now, there will be brighter days, I promise. You are so strong, and this will only make you stronger. And while you feel weak, it is so okay to be weak as well. I am glad to hear you have support around you and are reaching out for it and taking care of yourself. You will make it through this and whatever your next mountain top with sunrise will be, walking through this valley and struggling uphill is worth it. I guess, this is a different kind of uphill adventure.
All the best to you and Sara on this leg of your journeys. And yes, please keep making videos, I will certainly keep watching.
I married at 19 and was with her 24 years when she decided it wasn't what she wanted anymore. It was hard and confusing after being with someone that long. I had never thought about life without her. As time passed I did get over it. I've tried to have other relationships but nothing has worked out yet. You will get through this. Keep doing what your doing now and communicate here and with others. After my marriage ended one of the relationships that didn't work out, left us still friends. This coming November will be 1 year that I found her dead when I was checking on her. I'm still trying to work through that loss now. Your not alone. You will be in my prayers.
Times like these are all encompassing and earth shattering. And rightly so. But it has always helped me at times like these to try to put yourself into the shoes of your future self…who will WITHOUT A DOUBT look back and see the bittersweet value of this experience and why it was an integral part of getting you to an adventure and life you never dreamed possible and cannot imagine living without. Only with endings are there rebirths. For now, from my experience, you are doing everything possible to maximize your potential to transition well into this next chapter…therapy with someone you trust and brings you by old value, exercise, focusing on nature, meditation, the dogs, friends, family. Self soothing activities that are positive for your growth and well being and elevate you. And when all else fails, recognize the transitory nature of grief and let yourself for short periods experience it and it’s waves. Try to feel the waves of feelings and note them like a scientist studying, a little detached, if that makes sense at all. Been there. You are so much more mature and have such a high emotional IQ…I have no doubt that you will transition well. If ever things get too low, reach out. You are never alone. You are loved. We each have our own cross to bear, including Sarah. This is not a rejection of you; it is her journey. I do believe we have the greatest chance for lifelong love when we find we do not need it for contentment. You are enough. Period. PS have you thought about giving dog training advice virtually or in person in your area? I have five rescues and looked into dog training - was shocked to find that good, loving trainers like yourself are in such high demand right now. For example, some in my area easily command up to $2,000 per week to take in just one dog for board-and-train while owners are out of town, etc. maybe a great way to supplement your income AND give you rewarding challenges to focus on for the near term?! We are all here for you both. The best to you and hope we keep hearing and learning from your journey in life. I am older and have already learned so much from you both. Human connection is a beautiful thing, even from afar. Much love!
PSS why oh why don’t I ever read and edit before pressing reply? Apologies for where I was nonsensical Bc my thumbs couldn’t keep up with my thoughts! :p
I have been through this, it broke me open. It was the worst and the best thing that ever happened to me. You are incredible. You are doing all the right things. You are going to be ok. Better than ok.
Big hugs from Australia. Dumped everything as soon as I saw the video title. You are epic. Of course I will stand by you.
Of course I will keep watching the channel. You have become someone I really care about.
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Been in your situation befor, and my only tips would be: alowe yourself to feel what ever is coming up, don't judge yourself for hating her even if it's for 1 minute, to judge yourself for hoping that she'll be back, don't retain yourself for crying or laghing, all those emotion are part of the process and won't be their in few days or weeks. Aurora have a strong song that is ''the river'' and sais: let the river go wild, who missed the sadness when it's gone? It's ok to be mad, to be releif, to be sad, to be lost, to be angry, to be happy, to be hopefull, to be... to be. Take care xx
I haven't made it to the other side, I'm still in the dark, but I can tell you some of the lessons I've learned.
- I've listened to a lot of TEDx talks; many of the speakers will tell you to write a list of things that you do not like about the other person and review it often. This does not work for me. Hate/anger will help to get rid of the sadness faster, but then the resentment stays with you for much longer.
- The movies lie - alcohol and ice cream don't work. It's okay to treat yourself, but substances will never heal the sadness. In my case, casual encounters don't either (though I would never judge anyone for that, they just don't work for me)
- Progress may not feel like progress.
- Find a genre of music that doesn't remind you of everything. For many months, the only music I could listen to was Amaranth Cove and nature sounds (rain, ocean, etc).
One more thing. Please please please, only post when you feel like it. You don't owe us content. We are happy to watch your videos and be here for you, but only when you wish.
Many hugs.
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So kind. Love to you, as well.. ♡
You are so amazing. I am still in utter shock, so can’t imagine what you are going through. Sending love and comfort to the both of you and your families. Just sending so much love and nothing else.
This is very sad, you are a beautiful person and deserve happiness, I have a feeling that you will find it eventually.
My heart aches for you. You are so brave to be so vulnerable. Especially so publicly, and also to be so kind and respectful, despite the pain you are in. You are a strong woman. With the best heart. An hour at a time. A day at a time. A minute at a time when that's what you need. It's so great you have your dogs, they will save you in your darkest moments. They will be there, knowing. They will help you so much.
You are strong and beautiful inside and out. It’s normal to feel off centered. You will get your bearings and as time passes you will be even stronger. We love you!!
Sending love, light, and joy your way, Jess. Thank you for being brave enough to share your grief with us ❤️
Thank you for your courage in sharing your raw real pain. We look forward to walking with you on this path 🙏🏼
My husband left me after our first child was less than a year old, we were 16 and 15 years old when we met, he was my first love and I thought he would be my last , the devastation was all consuming but time is a great healer and little by little I put myself back together with the love and support of family and friends and I started to live again, it’s better to find out before children are involved as it was very difficult for my daughter loosing her father in her life everyday and I was not fully unavailable to her as I was depressed. Many years on I still love him but as I would any member of my family, we both have new spouses and are happy, and happy for one another. You will get there, it’s not a pleasant journey to undertake, your dreams are shattered, your heart and sole ache for her 24/7 but it will get easier. You are beautiful inside and out and I’m sure you will look back in times to come and see this was the right thing for you, someone will come along and together you will be blissfully happy, raising your kids in a home full of love and dogs 🐕😍🥰. I am thinking of you and sending lots of love and healing from Scotland xx
Ditto
I have only just found your channel. Sending love and strength across the miles. i went though an unexpected marriage breakdown after 8 years together some 15 years ago now. You sound like you are doing everything you can and in such mature way. I learnt that it takes time to heal and grieve the lose of the life you thought you were going to have. But through the darkness can come light. New directions and meaning will come into your life and new perspectives present themselves.
Give yourself time and allow those around you give you support and love. Please be kind to yourself and heal. xxx
I had lost track of your content lately, but seeing this was a shocker for me. I wish you both the best in finding the best way forward in your lives. All my love.
Praying for you both! Don’t hide your feelings from us, social media needs to start representing the truth of life’s struggles! You will take it one moment at a time at first, then hours, then a full day, etc. Glad you are in counseling, walking and have your beautiful pups! Look up all kinds of self care and build a strong toolbox that suits you! You are strong and will move past this at your own pace....
Thank you for your courage in sharing this very difficult journey with us. I'm concerned that i'm heading into a similar situation in my own relationship and listening to your express your feelings so clearly and with so much strength gives me hope in weathering the storm ahead.
Please don't feel an obligation to us. If you need to take a break to focus on you, please do so without guilt or hesitation. Sending virtual hugs and healing vibes your way, you've got this!
You are loved more than you know, more than you will ever know. This is not the end, this is not the end, this is not the end. This is just the beginning of what is next. What is next will have its incredibly hard moments and moments when you will feel joy again. Eventually, sooner than you think, the moments of joy will be more frequent than the hard moments. That is healing and that is what you can expect, because you are loved. I promise- you are loved, and you will know joy again- it just takes time. ♥ Be happy. Your friends, Mike and Lisa.
The grace and kindness in this video is exactly why I started watching y’all. You got this. Chin up sweetheart. ❤️
Right? Telling everyone to not leave negative comments to Sarah was sweet. They still care for one another, it just wasn’t what one of them wanted.
My heart is breaking for you both. I can't imagine what is going on in Sara's mind, I hope she finds here way to her peace and recognition of the incredible unconditional love you have for her. Stay focused on your mental health, your growth and your inner peace. In time all things will be clear and as they should be whatever that is. Big hug, big big hug!
Great words of wisdom. Cannot even imagine the "why" with this,... what in the world is going on in Sarah's mind; but it is not for us to figure out. Time will make things much clearer.
Oh Jess this just breaks my heart. You a a beautiful young woman with your whole life ahead of you. I wish nothing but the best for you and Sarah. Stay strong and we are all sending love 💜💛💙💚
Awe Jess, grief is hard and it is different for everyone. My husband and I split after 6 years together AND we had a 2 year old baby boy. I remember thinking that he would miss us ad want us back. I remember driving past houses thinking that everyone belonged somewhere but I felt so outside and that I didn't have anywhere to belong. There is a light at the end of the tunnel for sure. It takes some time for you to find yourself and you are doing all the right things by talking to friends and therapist. One foot in front of the other girl. You will get through this and you will be stronger from it all. I am happy and have a whole new life that I wouldn't have if I was still with my previous husband. The universe has a way of leading you down paths that you may not have chosen. Thank you for sharing and thank you for talking it all out. I am sending love and light and healing for your heart. Hugs!
Hi Jess, if there’s one thing that I’ve learned when grieving and loss, there’s always a positive in a negative situation. It may take a while to find it, but it’ll be there💛
My heart is so very sad for you both and your families. Many have posted loving support and encouragement, I hope this helps during the darkest days of healing. You are not alone, you are loved, you are respected, you are admired...you are NOT alone. Sending you a big, swaying side to side mom hug!
💛💛💛 There's always been smthg abt your spirit that has always resonated with me. I know you'll make it through. Thanks for sharing. I love your content. I have watched many of your videos multiple times. I will surely continue to watch. You are in my thoughts & prayers.
A little over five years ago, me and my ex of 8 years (who I had been with since college) also called off our wedding a few months out. Almost immediately, I took the dog and moved back home with my parents and also felt like I was losing my entire world. More so scared at the thought of also losing my best friend- the one person who I shared my life with for 8 years. A handful of months after the breakup, love fell into my lap and I met the absolute love of my life (my now wife) and we’re trying to have a baby and buy a house. I was NOT expecting it and was terrified when it happened, but everything really truly does happen for a reason. I gave myself space to grieve the life I was losing, and the life I thought I was supposed to live. But then also gave myself permission to be happy and find who I truly was. I know my story is unique but just a reminder that it can feel so damn hard in the moment, but it always, always gets better and you’ll be so proud of yourself in the end for the growth that you see. Love to you both.
I took a strange path to this video as I came upon your traveling adventures and found my way here. My heart breaks for you, because that pain is natural and real. One thing I can tell is that you are sweet, mature, brave, and thoughtful. I am way older than you and I can tell you these type of things results in new directions, adventures, and personal growth that will be positive and the genesis of great things. Please keep on posting content, you are really a wonderful communicator. Best wishes.
i had a similar experience with my second wife. we were together for almost 12 years. i worked a night shift and she tucked me in, kissed me, and told me she loved me when i got home. i worked 10 p.m. - 10 a.m. at the time. i woke up at 2 in the afternoon because something felt weird. my wife was at the end of the bed and told me she wanted me to leave. no explanation, nothing. that was almost 22 years ago. i can't say you will ever get over it but it will become something in the past that you just grow and learn to accept. i wish there was something i learned through my experience that would help. just stay strong, take time for yourself with your dogs they understand more than we know. i'm glad you have friends and family to support you during this time. we are all thinking of you and here for you to reach out to and lean on.
Congratulations Jess. You have been soo blessed with such inner strength & courageousness. My mother once told me.. From the hardest pain comes the greatest strength.. Step by Step, Day by Day... Continue to Grow..
Your openness and honesty is just beautiful - life will get easier for both of you after such a heartbreaking & tough decision. I have been here myself, close to a marriage myself and felt like my entire world had crumbled… it took some time, but I found happiness again and my entire life changed - all so positively. Allow yourself to cry & feel sad, it’s a huge life change. This is very much a season and you have a new one owed to you. Sending you so much love xxx Jo
Just checking in. Hope you're doing well. Dogs have healing powers, and their support is unconditional. Be well and happy. Mike and Lisa.
I left a comment already but wanted to also mention that a few short videos that have helped me through a few heartbreaks are called "Heartbreak 101" by Lucie Elizabeth (which she made after she and a long-time girlfriend broke up just after she had moved to another country to live together), "How to Be Alone" by Andrea Dorfman which isn't specifically about breakups but shows how to be okay being alone, and Dodie Clark's video "how to feel (a bit) better in this really weird time" on her second channel doddlevloggle - this one isn't about breakups specifically but it has some solid advice (much of what you're already doing!). I've watched both of these many times and they always help. 💜
Sending you both love and the very best wishes. I wish Sarah well with her direction in life, and you Jess, you will survive and thrive again once more. Give yourself time and love. I'm walking with you virtually every day here in England. Dogs are a great therapy for me too. Keep positive.
We know it’s hard, and it is overwhelming, but take it one day at a time, set a goal to do something nice for yourself everyday. Day by day the sting will subside and you will be a stronger woman for pushing through it. You got this!!! Much love ❤️
You two have had major life changes in such a very short amount of time. Those events can weigh heavily, as you well know.. please take time to engage in things you find healthy. Plug in to folks you find love with. And do things that make you feel good when you do them. You’re brave. You both are. May you find small blessings in the beauty around you as you continue to grieve.
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Hey! I haven’t been watching your videos regularly, but this one just showed up. And I just wanted to tell you that you are so brave for showing up like that. Totally honest and authentic. Your are a strong and brave woman! Everything happens for a reason. Even all those incomprehensible and hurtful things. Just keep breathing and taking one step after another. The darkness has so much light and learning in store for us. Eventually the pain will change, nothing is permanent. No joy and also no pain. Meditate, breath, go out to nature and let go! Sending a big hug full of my love from Austria. You are light. You are love xoxo
I think it's really important to feel all the emotions that are going through you, take time to talk to them, accept them and cherrish them. Fill up your life with pretty things enjoy all the beauty of nature and the love you will recieve from your family, your friends, and your community. Time will be your best companion.
You are brave, my heart is with you 🌻
Oh my goodness. Jess, this video is such a priceless thing for you to share with so many people. It is a gift of sweetness and vulnerability and authenticity, and it will resonate hope to anyone who has suffered or is suffering. Thank you so much. Love that you are walking, snuggling the dogs, in therapy and making other good decisions. I’m a caregiver for my wife who has been getting progressively sicker for 30 years, so I’ve developed a “self-care toolbox”, and honestly, going on a walk is at the top of the list followed by creating something (music, a video, working in yard, various hobbies…). Meditation has also been a lifesaver when dealing with unpleasant feelings. The pain will come in waves, and like a surfer trying to get out past the rollers you can’t fight them. You have to dive through them as they come. Thank you again for giving this gift to anyone who watches.
Thoughts and healing prayers for you both. Give yourself some time to process and heal. Hug those beautiful dogs of yours and stay strong.
Hi love how are you feeling now 🌺🌼🌹🥀🌻🌺 your WhatsApp plz 🌹🥀 you have a horseyard I Lisa
JESS!!! You are stronger than you know! Keep up with those walks - yes, you are crushing it! Can't wait for the day when we look back at this video and see how far you've come. Looking forward to that day ❤
I am so sorry to hear this. The pain of this type of break up is devastating and heart wrenching. It is okay to cry and mourn the loss of what sounds like a wonderful relationship. It just takes time. Sometimes a lot of time. Film your walks. Film your dogs. Talk with us about how you feel, process your hurt and the loss you are feeling, but take care of you. Best wishes.
You have gone on some wonderful adventures together- that being said, you will continue to have adventures- they will just be in a new and different form than what you anticipated. Life throws us curveballs. You will come out of this just as you are meant to. You will find your soulmate.
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Heartbroken for you both. Sending love and strength. You are strong, resilient, and so honest about your feelings. Keep that amazing heart open.
Sending you both so much love & support. Thank you for sharing your truth & vulnerability. I am so sorry for what you are going through, both of you, and I just hope you find peace soon.
You have so many shoulders to lean on & we are here for you as you start this new chapter.
If you ever need support or a friend to chat with, my inbox is always open.
Jess, I hope the rest of your day treats you gently. And I hope both of you see something today that makes you smile or laugh- you both deserve a respite from grief, even for a moment. Take care of yourselves 💕
Jess when I went through a break up there were 3 things I did to help myself heal Number 1 was surrounded myself with my loved ones , Number 2 was I did not listen to any music for quite awhile as the songs took me ta painful place at that time , Number 3 I exercised so much that I honestly thought I could make the Australian Olympics team for the marathon event . Those things slowly but surely got me through don’t expect to much from yourself at the moment big hugs to you xxxxx
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your intro in which you clearly stated what your intention for this video is, and what is NOT your intention, really touched and inspired me.so clear and strong. your strength reached me through the screen, dear.
I'm so very sorry, Jess. It sounds like you are taking care of yourself and allowing yourself to feel what you feel. It will get easier. You should be proud of showing the world (or at least the 33K of us who subscribe) that it's ok to be vulnerable in front of other people. It is a sign of maturity and strength. Sending love to you and Sarah (and the puppies.)
I’m sending you my heartfelt, healing thoughts. Relationships are very hard. Please allow the dogs to help you heal. I will pray for you and Sarah.
I can feel your raw pain Jess. No one is ever ready for something like this but it sounds like you are doing all the right things to help move yourself forward. Time heals all wounds. Keep saying that to yourself. Lots of love. x
Jess, my heart breaks for both of you! Sending much love and support your way! You are a strong woman and will get through this one step at a time.
It's not "just you", it is "new you" now! As a person who has been single for a long time I had and have to explain a lot that it is not "just me". People can be happy alone and there are so many couples that are not happy either. try to find new you and what she likes. You got this!
What you are going through is so real. You will hurt for some time, but the love and grace you have shown in this situation shows what a positive human you are. It will get better. There are so many of us “strangers” that you graciously let into your life that are cheering for you.
My wife and I split earlier this year because our marriage wasn’t what she wanted anymore. I was devastated. It seemed to have totally come out of the blue. We lived together for several months before I was able to move out to make our split official and it was the most heartbreaking months of my life. I’m still heartbroken and trying to cope each day. We still had a lot of love for each other but I couldn’t be what she needed. I gave her the gift (?) of freedoms. It seems like that’s what you did for Sarah. And you clearly did it out of the love you have for her. After my wife and I made the decision to split, I reached a level of sadness that scared me. Truly scared me. I reached out to a therapist and talked to my doctors and went on medication as well. I still take a long walk each day too. I spent a lot of those earlier walks being so angry that she took my whole life away from me. Everything I had worked so hard for. The family and life that we worked so hard to build together. I felt so betrayed and lied to. I found that I had to forgive her for my own well-being. If you are having or have feelings of anger, but know that’s not the place you want to be, forgiving for selfish reasons is okay too. It’s helped our friendship. Of course we sat and poured our hearts out to each other for hours several times. We still have some tough conversations even a year later. We just kept working at it and we’re better parents to our kid now. We are still very close friends. We know each other better than anyone and that can sometimes make it really difficult to think that the person you know better than anyone in the world and the person that knows you better than anyone, is also the person that has played a major part in the pain you are feeling. It’s possibly to still be friends. You’ll get there. It will be hard. It will be agonizing at times, but I believe you’ll get there. You are both beautiful souls. Sending so much love and healing to both of you. ❤️
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@@UphillAdventure Thank YOU for sharing! Watching this video made me feel less alone knowing there are other people out there that have broken up but still want the best for each other, who still have so much love for each other but it just can’t work for whatever reason. I felt like I was doing something wrong or wasn’t mad enough because others were telling me I should have been feeling. Please don’t let others tell you how angry you should be. Decide that for yourself. Or choose to be compassionate and understanding with yourself and your grieving, but also to what Sarah is going through to have brought her to this point. It couldn’t have been easy for her.
Sorry, I rambled on again lol. I wish you the best of luck in your process and I will definitely be one of those people here supporting you!
There is a very old yet very true old saying which goes, if you love something set it free if it meant to be t will come back to you. Huge gentle hugs, now go out and find out who just me is again. Do whatever makes you feel good, it will work out I promise my second husband and I just celebrated our thirty year anniversary. There is happiness after sadness be strong and find you God Bless
this morning my friend was telling me that when forest fires burn down an entire area... it promotes new beautiful growth. i assume us humans are no different. sending you love
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You are so incredibly strong and brave to feel your feelings. To process the flood of feelings now is going to prepare you for so many blessings in the future. Prepare to meet a whole new you. The spaces that are grieving now will be filled with versions of yourself you never imagined or had space to cultivate outside of relationship. I can't tell you the pain stops, because for me it hasn't and it's a reminder of the great capacity I have to love. What makes it easier is all of the magic, love and resiliency I have found within myself. Peace on your journey
You will rise up better and stronger. What a lovely decent person you are. Life has many many, twists and turns, and there will be many more. Look forward x
Hi Jess and thank you for sharing your story. You are a very strong women for doing that. I divorced 6 years ago after a 24 year marriage. One thing I learned in my healing process that the healing comes in form of waves. Somedays the waves are hopeful light and calm, other days the waves are hard and dark. My advice is not to be scared of the waves. In every wave there is a process towards healing that will be personal for you.
Embrace the waves. Hugs