Update | Unintentional hiatus because I'm a terrible writer

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  • @rebeccadear9190
    @rebeccadear9190 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I can hear how sad you are and I feel so sad for you.
    And yes you can take the break..I am sorry about your pet and you are a good pet mommy for taking the time to care for your special friend.
    Writers write bc they enjoy ✍️ writing, We have characters or plots or worlds in our heads that need an exit.
    Publishing is only an extra.
    Getting paid is a bonus.
    And getting loads of royalties is the jaxkpot..
    But like the lotto winners, they are far and few between.
    Please don't judge your self worth on getting published!
    I have 4 books in a virtual drawer and one mediocre to really bad one published in 2016.
    I made about 20 dollars total lol.
    Now I write to write...and maybe..one day I may even reread and might even decide to publish again..and you know it's ok to take a break from that presure.
    Please, I beg you to base your self on who you are as a person..AND NOT what you produce or don't produce!
    Keep on vlogging!

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@rebeccadear9190 this is everything I needed to hear, thank you so much. I will definitely remember this whenever I get to feeling like I’m in a funk again, because you’re so right. I started writing in middle school and while publishing was always like a fantasy, it wasn’t what motivated me-it was my love of telling stories. I need to hold onto that and remember the fun of it all. Thank you again. 💖💖💖

  • @ninanatascha
    @ninanatascha หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The video just started, but that sweater is so cute and with the glasses??? Perfect outfit.
    Now onto the more serious stuff:
    It's the worst feeling when you realise you have to shelf a project you actually truly love...
    Glad the kitten is doing better. Sick pets can have such a huge impact on our mental health and creativity... I can relate to the "writing to publish" mindset very much and have also felt the way it takes away from writing and what I love about writing.
    I am happy you are finding the joy in writing again!
    I absolutely love your videos and even though I am a bit behind I have started catching up at the right time. I had some rough mental health days and have been struggling with writing, but your videos always make me excited to sit down and keep working.

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Omg thank you! I didn't even notice how well my glasses match that sweater. I'm about to become a cartoon character and work this outfit into regular rotation. 😂
      It really is such a crappy feeling. I just keep promising myself I'll return to those characters once I'm more confident, ugh. But for real! I think that probably contributed a lot to my writing, and now that she's doing better, it's been such a weight off my shoulders. "Writing to publish" is such a hard mindset to get OUT of, too, because everywhere you go, people are like, "you need to treat writing like a JOB, you need to write every day, you need to do this and that and hustle all the time" and you end up thinking, "well, I want to be successful, so I have to really grind, I guess." I do think I'm privileged enough to step back and find the joy in writing now, because when I had my old job and wasn't making much money, I was reallyyyy obsessed with publishing, because I was so sure it was the answer to my financial woes, so I'm really lucky that my current job provides me a comfortable enough lifestyle that I'm not as worried about making money on my writing.
      Thank you so much ugh, I'm always so worried that my videos are a whole lot of nothing sauce lol. I'm so sorry to hear you've been having some rough days! It always sucks because writing is one of those things you love, so you think it'll make you feel better, but then your brain just refuses to cooperate so it makes you feel even worse. I'm sending all the good vibes and love, and I hope things are looking up for you!! 💖💖💖

  • @AnnaRobbinsWrites
    @AnnaRobbinsWrites 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    April! I am taking the liberty of rewriting your title to "unintentional hiatus because I'm a human being, and not a machine" 💓

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😭😭😭 Oh my god, you're the best. 💖

  • @JoeyPaulOnline
    @JoeyPaulOnline 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I feel you on this. I keep publishing because I have some success with it, but at the same time, I'm probably never gonna be a big name and I'm okay with that, but I also agree about the race to publish, and how it can be exhausting and detrimental to mental health and the while creative process. You're a human being and needing breaks is not you sucking but you being human. Take care of you 💜💜

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      THANK YOU 💖I think my biggest problem is just comparing myself to others and that's what I'm really going to try to work on. I have to remember that the writing community is huge and we're all at different stages in it, and that's okay. Thank you again!!

  • @writerwithadayjob
    @writerwithadayjob 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Honesty and transparency are often in short supply on the Internet. I love creating and writing, but I figured out several years ago that writing is a hobby that may or may not result in a published book. I have a day job that I love, and I worked hard to get where I am career-wise. Writing is what I do for enjoyment. I really want to share my writing with others, but if it takes a really long time to get to that point, I'm okay. It sounds like you are, too, and you should embrace that.

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you!! I'm not sure why I was so attached to the idea of "I NEED to publish" because I have a good job that supports me, and I still have enough free time to pursue creative things, and I should really acknowledge how lucky and grateful I am to be in this position. And like you, writing used to be something I did for fun and because I just enjoyed the act of it, but ever since I became obsessed with publishing, it makes it hard to enjoy it like I used to. So I think you're so right! I need to get back to just doing it because I love it and have fun with it. If I publish, cool, if not, it's not the end of the world! Thanks again! 💖

  • @AnnaRobbinsWrites
    @AnnaRobbinsWrites 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    And now that I've finished the video oh man, i wish i could offer a hug because SAME. Listening to you talk was like listening to the inside of my own brain. You just woke me up a bit. Sounds like you were brave enough to face and consider all the pressure and feelings that I've just been stuffing down as of late 😬

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much! It seems like people who do stuff like this, filming vlogs and stuff, we get in our own heads because we feel like we should only share the good stuff, because that's what everyone else shares, and then it's like this endless cycle of everyone just biting back their doubts and insecurities. It's been eye opening to share this and see how many people relate!

    • @AnnaRobbinsWrites
      @AnnaRobbinsWrites 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@aprilkayauthorsooooo true!!! 🧡 I agree

  • @AnggiSahamCantik
    @AnggiSahamCantik 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I think hiatus is part of a writing process. Just enjoy the writig process and share your story. Take it easy on the publishing part. Feeling not good enough is everybody's problem. Don't take it too hard. Things will unfold at the right time.

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      True! It's too easy for me to get caught up in the negative feelings, and I often forget that I'm not alone in my journey--that the community is so big and we're all in different stages of it with different goals. I just need to remember to breathe. Thank you!! 💖

  • @writenowdream3882
    @writenowdream3882 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Im in my 30s too and publishing is the dream. I'm so proud of you for deciding what is best for you and reclaiming your joy. The industry is hard and ultra competitive. Thanks for your honesty and putting your heart on the line.

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@writenowdream3882 Thank you!! 💖 It really does seem like the industry’s gotten a bit more complicated, or maybe it’s just easier to see now with social media, but it’s scary and can be so overwhelming to think about. So I’m just going to put it off for now lol.

  • @Dolores_Madil
    @Dolores_Madil 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am glad that you felt up to making an update video. Remeber you do what is best for you and when you need it. The story and book is only as good as you like it. You are your projects first fan and if it take a while for it to come out then that is the time it needs. The best thing I did was write Hunger's Desire as my write what ever the fuck I wanted project. It help me embrace that I do like writing sextual things and erotica and exploring all that has to offer. Also not holding myself to the rat race that trad pub can be and putting those projects down for now. I hope you doing this helps you find that joy again and remember that is what is important.

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      THANK YOU! 💖💖I think I let myself get caught up in the tradpub side of authortube, too, where that's everyone's goal and I was watching so many videos about querying and getting ready for tradpub, and I let myself get sucked into the stress of it all. I wish I had the heart for tradpub, but I think more and more I'm realizing that that's just not me. And hopefully soon I'll come fully to grips with the fact that that's totally okay lol. I really appreciate you and you inspire me!

  • @heathermattern
    @heathermattern 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You may not want to hear this but… you are NOT a failure. You are a woman chasing her dreams and intuitively listening to the secret messages that arise. I refuse to force anything. Sometimes a story needs to stay pregnant in the belly longer than we think - this is not a bad thing this is a magical thing because us indie authors GET the privilege of trusting the timeline. I am here for all of this with you. Here for this journey no matter what it looks like. ❤️

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      UGH I'm going to cry, thank you so much!! 💖💖💖I have the worst habit of comparing myself to others, but you're right about us being able to take our time and actually listen to our intuitions when it comes to our stories. I can't even imagine the stress of being on a "traditional" deadline and locked into certain promises. Thank you!

  • @lexxib9471
    @lexxib9471 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Taking a step back isn’t giving up in fact I think in your time away from publishing you should write a short fan fiction for fun. You don’t even have to share it but I think that’s apart of the enjoyment for you so do it for fun and yea don’t think about it too much. I think then you might be able to go back to these other stories you’re working on. Good luck x

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much, you're so right! I don't know why I have such a fatalistic view of writing and publishing, but I think it's a good idea to take a deep breath and, like you said, just write something fun. Thank you! 💖

  • @Shadowflyght
    @Shadowflyght 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi, I usually don't comment on videos, but I wanted to reach out and say that I'm a writer who has decided not to publish as well. I've found a lot of fulfillment in writing solely for myself and my friends, and I really hope that whether you choose to publish one day or not, you find that same fulfillment in this period where you aren't focused on it. Sometimes it's really nice to have that cleared out of your path. Best of wishes, Cove

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much! I really appreciate it! I think that's the biggest thing I have to focus on right now, rediscovering my passion and what I liked about writing in the first place, back when publishing wasn't at the forefront of my mind. It's my favorite hobby and the thing I default to when I have free time, so I have to make it fun for myself again. Thanks again!! 💖

  • @baharhoshyar6752
    @baharhoshyar6752 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I totally agree that writing & publishing feel like a race as everyone tells you. Six figure author channel on YT, is one of the most helpful and more realistic advice on publishing. You’re doing great. 😊

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you!! I appreciate it! 💖 It's been so nice to see how many people can relate. And I'll definitely check them out!

  • @mangaluver2010
    @mangaluver2010 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was thinking of where you'd gone but I didn't want to intrude. I'm glad to hear that you're alright, and I'm glad your kitty is doing better.

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ugh, you're so right. I love the internet, but it's made it so easy to find people to compare yourself too--and like you said, hustle culture is definitely a big part of it. It does feel like sometimes I've forgotten that I can just be creative and do creative things for fun--I've played around with polymer clay and digital art and it's always in the back of my mind that I need to get good enough to make money, and that just ruins everything. I have to remember that it's okay to just create for the love of it--god knows that's how I got into writing in the first place. Thank you so much, I really appreciate your kind words--and the reminder that writing isn't publishing. I don't have to write to publish, and I don't have to publish to be a writer. Thank you! 💖

  • @BookishTexan
    @BookishTexan 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I think you made a good choice. For right now. I think you do need to write without thinking about publication. That is clearly harming your love of writing. Just write for the joy of it (like you are doing). Then when your joy is replenished take the completed draft down and see if you can’t find joy in revising it with no thought towards publication.
    There are very few traditional or self published authors that are full time writers who depend on sales and royalties to support themselves. I think you need to separate the desire to publish from the dream of being a full time author. It seems like your dream is preventing you from seeing publication/self publication as an achievable goal.

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wow, thank you so much! You've hit the nail on the head, really. I always seem to forget that when I see the success stories on the internet, they're carefully curated and that I'm not seeing the other side of it. I don't know why I let myself feel like there's a ticking clock on my success, but I think you're right--this is the path I need to go down for now and I need to rediscover my passion. Thank you! 💖

  • @beccatobar
    @beccatobar 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    April!! oh my goodness you've been on my mind these last few week because i missed your videos! While i don't want to discredit how you're feeling (trust me, i've been there too

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      AH thank you!! I really appreciate it. 💖💖💖 I always try to remind myself that comparison is the thief to joy, but I feel like it's just human nature for us to compare ourselves to others--especially with a community as big and active as a writing community. But I really do have to remind myself that all of us are at different stages in our writing lives. Thank you so much!!

  • @edenfortae7935
    @edenfortae7935 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Imposter Syndrome will make think you're not a failure, but you're not. It sounds like life has your creative well running dry. Taking a break from your main project to work on something else or spend time doing things that make you happy will help you get back into the swing of things. We support you here regardless of it you achieve everything or fall short. Give yourself some credit and grace.

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much! I always forget that I'm not the only person who deals with this. A lot of people only take to the internet to share their successes, but it's been eye-opening to see how many people can relate. I'm trying to remember that the writing community is really big and there's a lot of us in different stages of it, and all of us are here because we love writing. I'm ready to find my love for it again! Thanks again! 💖

    • @edenfortae7935
      @edenfortae7935 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@aprilkayauthor You're welcome. Be kinder to yourself. This is normal growing pains. You go this.

  • @MrRosebeing
    @MrRosebeing 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are not a failure. Writing a book is a massive undertaking and is something I will never do.
    I write short fiction and sometimes poetry, not for publication, but just for myself. It really takes the pressure off you.
    Writer's block is definitely a real thing. Perhaps take some time away and come back to your writing.
    Good luck with your writing. I wish you well.

  • @TheKoffeeVerse
    @TheKoffeeVerse 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sorry you've been struggling with your writing. I've decided to shelve my current WIP too. I plan to look at a different story that I started a few years ago. Glad to hear that your pet is doing better. Vet care can be so expensive. Love your FNAF hoodie!!! You can always revisit the idea of publishing at a later date. I'm in my late 50's and just started my self-publishing journey. I don't know if I'll ever make money at it but I'm giving it my best attempt.

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I used to never shelve projects, and I'm realizing now that that was probably to my detriment. I think we're being smart by making that choice, because no one's ever going to want to read something we forced ourselves to write. Thank you! I was fortunately able to put a lot of the vet expenses on a credit card so I can pay it off a little more slowly, but it really is so much. 😭 And double thank you! It was a gift from my brother and FNAF is one of those things that other people consider cringe but I'm gonna wear it with pride! 😂But I really appreciate it! It's so easy to get caught up in all the people who are fresh-faced and succeeding in their twenties that I forget it's never too late. All we can do is keep at our passion!

  • @lilseasalt
    @lilseasalt 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm really proud of you for the progress you made so far. I believe that hard work brings results. You'll also never know what result future hard work will bring. I believe you will be satisfied someday and it's ok to take breaks and say this is hard because it is. Work is hard and I think it's amazing that you have decided to keep doing it.

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      THANK YOU! 💖It's so easy for me to get caught up in the negative feelings, that I forget that it's not all negative--I'm still creating and I still have so much time to succeed, even if that success doesn't look the way I think it will. Thank you again, I appreciate it!

  • @taylorj2574
    @taylorj2574 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is very relatable! Thank you for your honesty

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank YOU! I always get embarrassed after I share something like this, but then I'm always surprised to find out that a lot of people actually know exactly what I'm going through. It's been a bit of a relief to see so many people relating, honestly! 💖💖💖

  • @Bama_Bill
    @Bama_Bill 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    April, you are not a failure or a terrible writer so please do not give up. Writing is not easy and there will many times you will feel this way but there are others you can lean on when in a slump. Do not give up on your publishing career either. There are many Authors out there, myself included, that is working on their first novel and over 40.
    I would love to help you if needed and advice as well so feel free to reach out to me by replying here, I will email you!
    Have Faith!! ~William aka The King Pen

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Bama_Bill Thank you SO much! You’re so right, I don’t know why I always feel like there’s some ticking clock breathing down my neck, telling me it’s too late to publish. But thank you!! I appreciate knowing you’re here! 💖

  • @penelopeward706
    @penelopeward706 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Your honesty is inspiring.

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ahh thank you!! 💖💖

  • @EmmaBennetAuthor
    @EmmaBennetAuthor 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    your title made me so mad!!! I'm sorry you've been struggling.x

    • @aprilkayauthor
      @aprilkayauthor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      AH thank you! 💖I'm realizing that I'm not alone in how I'm feeling and that there's no need to be so hard on myself.