Yeah, with all men gone I can walk home at 2am with all my anxiety also gone. I can probably travel the world alone to so many places currently unsafe for lone women to travel. The population will die out eventually and human being will go extinct, yes. But the last of us can live a good life here.
Exactly. Any jobs that they need to do we can. Most dumb and overly dangerous jobs don’t need to be done. Oil rigs? We don’t need that shit. Heavy lifting? Most things that need lifting a woman can workout to lift herself or team lift with another woman. Hunting? Women can hunt and teach other women to.
I have seen my boyfriend la best friend literally slap him trying to wake him up for new Year's jumping on the bed straddling his chest. Nothing. At least I have PTSD so I wake really easily and startle so I investigate and defend my space myself.
Exactly you trust him with your body without protection just for him to bring bk diseases, you trust him to protect your family that you lay down and risk you life to give him and repays you by cheating until you leave and then he tells eve you broke up the family and it’s no benefit for men to get married all because his everlasting cheat plan is messed up because you’re too masculine and done know how to be a good woman 😂😅 reeee tards
Also… we can protect each other. I am tiny, but I caught a guy sneaking photos of a woman on public transit. Moved seats so I was between them and gave him the stinkeye until he got off a couple stops later. He didn’t raise that camera again. She hadn’t realized.
@@tynaangelici3023 This has been my experience as well. I was mistreated to the point that I didn’t want anything to do with dating by the time I graduated high school. And, didn’t until I was 35. Even, then I dated for only a couple of years then tapped out. My life has been stress free ever since.
Exactly. They're either the predators or they supporters of predators, their words of "protection" mean nothing, because they Either do nothing or run off, leaving us to fend for ourselves.
Men would tell a guy if his wife cheated but they would never tell the wife her husbond is cheating. Men protect each other but not women. Talk about double standards.
On point! My ex was cheated on by his ex wife and he was really traumatized. However his brother is serially cheating on his wife with many women, and he doesn’t feel any need to tell the wife or to even really try to stop the brother from cheating
Like how are men protectors of the house if they’re not home half as much as the women. Women occupy homes way more than men do. Who’s really holding down the fort?? The performance of men annoys me the most cuz a lot of men don’t measure up to the standard and even the standard is doodoo
24:37- this is what I like to call “too late parenting” looking for signs of abuse in your child instead of looking for signs of abusive behavior in the man you chose to have kids with. He calls you “baby” all the time and ends up having sex w/ your literal babies while you simultaneously adores that he calls you a baby … The systemic design is deplorable
Just look at Tim Kennedy. He's a UFC figher, in special forces etc, he told ISIS his wifes and kids home address. He's off to work most of the time, leaving his poor wife and kids to fend for themselves. Such a great "protector" . And he's so proud of himself.
It's exhausting when they carry that mindset into relationships too. No babe, that's extra stressor always sleeping with one eye open, nitpicking and assuming the worst. And we should have the common goal of keeping the house nice and giving kids optimal survival odds, so what the hell is all that competition and sabotaging BS all about? If one of us "wins" we both should in theory, not make it resentful rivalry. Screams insecurity and perpetual teenage brain. Not sexy.
I'm a woman nearing her 40s and have never felt protected by a man. I have, however, felt protected consistently by my mother, who's fierceness to look after her daughter never came with the caveat of control or aggression, but from love, compassion, and loyalty. Mamma bears win all.
I live in women's only housing at the moment, I'm confident if my ex showed up here to hurt me he'd have a whole lotta angry women to contend with. Women so often won't stand up for themselves but mess with their children or their friends and family and it can be a very different story.
Please. Everytime I've been in danger in my life has been because of men. Either they were the danger or the men who were supposed to protect me didn't bother.
They're only protectors in their imaginary scenarios, that title is stolen valor as more often woman will protect the kids or other women via actions and awareness in this plane of tangible reality. I find it more often men piss their pants at confrontation, they're only tough with group back-up, try to threaten, divide and conquer their prey (women and kids), going for the weakest and meekest link like true predator would. If someone shows them fangs, they'll run with tail between their legs. Pathetic unevolved creatures at large, with rare exceptions striving for something more than animalistic games and chasing dopamine tails.
Let him first reach 80 years of age since that's the age majority doesn't reach. Does he even have son, can he be sure he is going to live as long. Too many "ifs", pure fantasy.
I have all sons, and get complimented on how well behaved my sons are; however, they are problematic in ways that others can't easily see. PLEASE BELIEVE - all of my sons stay trying to "tell me what to do" despite them not having the range or depth to do so. Furthermore, they think because they aren't yelling/screaming/hitting that "they did nothing wrong", but the wrong is feeling like you simply know more than a woman JUST BECAUSE you are a man. I understand they want to feel important and useful, but I tell them they need to fall back and watch their mouth when speaking on things they weren't asked to speak on. As their mom, I can respond aggressively and they will fall back to avoid the consequences, but women typically struggle holding those boundaries with men due to their fear of losing him. I love my sons, but I hope women leave them the SECOND after they try that shit - maybe the lesson will be learned once they feel the pain of her walking out of his life for good!!
You're the kind of mother in law I would want. I feel that you will stand up for what's right, even if it means being against the behavior of your sons. You're the real protector.
Your awareness is remarkable. I advise you to continue to maintain a realistic outlook about being a mother of sons and come to terms with the fact that many sons do absolutely nothing to support their mothers in chronic illness, long term health care needs. they usually feel justified and aren't particularly pressured to do so. That being the case, I'm not sure how old (you look young and healthy, but this matter pertains to w0mn of all ages) you are but it's probably better to start gradually researching various options that pertain to your well being. I've seen too many sons dish out excuses abt neglecting the same mothers who poured love and so much energy into them
Their entire world is their imagination, rarely are they functioning in reality especially around women. i.e. a woman is nice...she wants him. a woman wears a short skirt...she wants it, a woman ask for help...she's trying to control him 😂😂😂 Its their own crazy making.
I went into the comments to read how many men were outraged about the SA's in these horrific stories. There's about 3, they're basically silent. However, if women say childless, single, and happy, they're outraged, hmm.
Can I just take a moment to say that BRO!!! My eyes have become open!!! I was raised in a society that teaches men protect the household and if need be, he does so using combat to make sure the Mother and kids are safe… But the instant you said, ‘Why isn’t the man teaching the woman how to use a gun or combat to protect herself and the kids,’ I was like… “ . . . Bro . . . “
My dad happily paid for me to immerse myself in martial arts as a young teen. He wasn't much of a gun man, but I know he would always protect me. He wanted us to be able to protect ourselves if he weren't around, and it's a good thing, because, he passed away when my siblings and I were in our teens. ❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻
My mom raised me and my brother and our house was never broken into. 🤷🏾♀️I'm realizing men makeup scenarios to make themselves seem more important than they are in reality.
Obviously. And in those scenarios it’s always other men doing crazy shit. Even then living with a dog, another woman, and/or a gun would solve all those problems.
Definitely. Most houses are broken into when people are not home, like my house did, and my Mom’s house. No one was home. I lived by myself with kids, and had no problems, except for my creep neighbor. Eventually I chased him out of my yard. Cops didn’t help
@@tricitymorte1yep! My friends and I all know how to shoot. I never understood this “protect“ thing. We’re grown women, so what do we need protecting from? Decent men are out there. I’ve got one.
and also because they're afraid that their women will overpower them. i've seen tons of men comment under women body builders "no man would dare to date her because what if she hits them"
I STRONGLY suspect that that man was grooming his step-daughter because he essentially wanted that type of relationship with his own daughters, but instead found it less ‘immoral’ by doing it with his step-daughter. That man is a true ‘dyed in the wool’ predator. There is nothing cute or nice about this situation.
5:07 No wonder men are stressed. You're walking around on guard in case you have to slay dragons in the name of protection. God blessed women and men with brains. How do men think women get from point A to point B when they're not around? You trust the women enough to raise your children but at the same time treat her as if she's not capable of making a decision without you.
I for real just pictured the goofy guy from Survivor that gave himself the nickname: "The Dragonslayer." And yes, he would "The" like it was like a pronoun like "Mr. Or Ms.", lol.
Most actual heroes were in the right place, at the right time, with the right skills to help make a wrong, right. They don't strive to make it their entire existence as a person.
ive done a gang of heroic shit that not even my closest friends know about. helping vulnerable folks drive me not the attention. folks that want attention are busy showing off not helping people lol
@@lowlowseeseereminds me of an old truism about not doing performative public prayer. You're doing it right and I hope you get a lot out of it. I'm sure the recipients do.
@@lowlowseesee this reminds me of an annoying guy I used to hang out with that also used to end stories of frustrating encounters with people with a fantasy of getting in a fight with them. I got so annoyed one night at a bar for a mutual's b'day, this dude on one side of me and some other friend of the mutual on my other side. Annoying dude finished like his second fight fantasy in a row, and I couldn't stay quiet and finally said "Y'know I've noticed the guys that talk about getting in fights all the time have never actually been in a fight. Have you ever been in a fight?" He admitted no, he hadn't. I turn to the other guy sitting next to me, who has said nothing to anyone this whole time, and asked him "Have you ever been in a fight?" He grins sheepishly and says "Yeah, actually." I triumphantly cry "See? And this guy hasn't said a word all night!" Fights aren't fun, even if you win, so most people aren't gonna wish for more fights in their future.
These men are always the main character hero in a movie their brain wholly made up. In reality, if the bad guy got in, you already failed, big hero, and they already got the drop on you, and YOU'RE going to be their first victim.
Exactly this! If someone, anyone, can breach your home security, you’ve already failed in securing protection for it. Main character syndrome is really addictive I guess. 😂
I was grape by two of my male cousins when I was younger. When they were done they told me no one would believe me if I told on them. They didn't lie, their mom and my uncles never believe me. Not even my own mom and dad.
@@ItsOKtobeNormal That's fucking insane. Your mother cared more about getting things than protecting you by bringing it to court and getting restrictions on your stepdad from ever reaching back out to you. I'm so sorry.
@yuraraina, I believe you. I’m so sorry that you had to withstand the attack and the neglect of your relatives’ disbelief. It is my hope that you now live in both safety and freedom, and that you have loads of supportive people in your life as you heal.
Those adults do believe you but don’t want to deal with the consequences of admitting the truth. They’ll never admit they believe you. They do, though.
When we were young, we were told, don't depend on your man to protect you because who will protect you from HIM if he turns against you? I never forgot that.
I'm 46. I have carried pepper spray on me in public ever since i was 17. Just in case when walking in the park. Leaving work at night etc. I have never had to use it. However i have been physically abused by almost all the men i was in close proximity to most at home and in relatives houses by my father, brother, brother in laws and exboyfriends and my ex-husband. including sexual abuse. The main problem is not strangers. The problem is there is no protection from our so-called "protecters"
The lie of “stranger danger” protects the actual perpetrators. So do the racist lies that white women are in perpetual danger of being harmed by Black and Brown men. In most SA, the survivor and the assailant are of the same ethnic background. The greatest percentage of inter-ethnic crimes of this sort is perpetrated by white men. Once again, the lies protect the criminals.
Somebody needs to discuss the stats of Only Fans and how some top earners reveal their subscribers as former teachers, coaches and fathers of their friends, many of whom are married with kids.
If you look into s3x tr@fficking arrest, the men usually are teachers' doctors' lawyer swim coaches. They're usually able to afford that stuff, and they usually have kids of their own.
I have 2 guard dogs that are easier to deal with and more fun to be around than a man. I'm already protected. BONUS: animals are often portrayed in horror movies to be sensitive to the supernatural. Anytime I watch a scary movie at night and have to walk down a dark hallway, as long as my dog isn't flipping out, I'm golden. Men don't have that effect.
Dogs are better. Protectors kind of wish I had one. I have a cat. He likes to sleep between my legs and I'm told that that's him protecting me, but he's a giant mush
Why do we have to ask our men 50 times to fix something or take the lead if that’s what they claim is their role? If he’s a protector and the one to fix a problem then I shouldn’t have to ask him at all. If it’s his house that he’s worked hard for then he should be on top of the every day maintenance, and the most i should have to ask for help from him is once, that’s it. I have a little dog who protects me without me asking. If he sees a sketchy dude in our vicinity, he stands his ground and blocks the guy so I can safely get out of the situation. I don’t have to ask, it’s a given. He doesn’t care if the guy is harmless, my safety is his priority.
@@MindMelding-t5e Let’s do an experiment - impose a social structure on men that treats them similarly to what women experience under the patriarchy and then see how nurturing men feel.
@@MindMelding-t5elies. Men never ask because women are nurturing. If your woman isn’t nurturing you it’s because you have let her down and can’t trust you.
If they were protectors, they'd put sturdy doors and top notch locks into the house. But they don't want to be protectors. They want to be heroes. And the house, the gun, the kids and the wife are just props for their nightly intruder phantasy. But since they spend so much time on plotting about their hero moment they can't be asked doing the dishes or doing homework with the kids. Cause there's no tale of Thor doing the dishes. Only swinging the Hammer when need be. And while there is no need they practise their eye-hand coordination on the PS5.
@@dblr4931 Exactly, acknowledged for good or bad reasons, they are the main character, dammit! Look at him! Talk about him! That's why they tend to mistake fear and respect, while getting Aqua Tofana'd in the ye ole days.
Usually, the attacker lives in the home. If they were truly protectors, they would "go to work" on themselves to protect his family from the obvious threat, them.
That stepfather story...what a tragedy. That woman never got to be a child, he always isolated her from people her age. Even if he didn't do anything physical until she was an adult, he was abusing her and grooming her to accept his advances. I'm sure the rest of his family is going to turn a blind eye when he does the same thing to their daughters. The last woman is so powerful. It's terrible that the daughter will have to live with the scars of what her father did to her, but she was vigilant, found out early and protected her from further harm.
The numbers are the same in France : 96% of assaulter (or r*pe) are men. And one in 10 of french were victim of incest (160 000 childrens a year, 70% girls, 30% boys). There were a big research done (2 years ago) with lots and lots of testimonies. This research was done because a well known french woman wrote a book about her family story. Shame and guilt covers those insane acts. Since I began to see your videos (in order to understand), I tell myself, it's because most men don't see humanity in children, as they don't see it in women, to do this. It's sad...
Says the who say they exist when they clearly do . Plus how many crime reports turn false and with different attitudes depending who doing it. We sew how moral goal completly flipped when comes breaking the family when ref exposed files most divorces
Don't forget Gisele Pelicot, the French woman who dr*gged by her husband. Then he allowed other men to s*xually assault her while she was dr*gged. POS.😡😡😡
The abuse that women and girls have to suffer at the hands of men is so common, and has been for the longest time, that too many people just shrug it off and ignore it. We, as humans, have been so conditioned to it that we have become emotionally numb. The fact that this is a problem women have to suffer is why men do not take it seriously enough. Too many people are in the mind set of "if it does not affect me, then I do not care".
For decades! Just talking to your great grandmothers, grandmothers, aunties shows you how long women have been abused, not protected, by the men in their lives.
We have to stop the abuse of girls and women by men, it's imperative for the survival of our species. We must evolve into something better...or go extinct from our own apathy and stupidity. Men are destroying the world.
@@MindMelding-t5eclearly you've never seen a bear walk into town. I've seen one. As a matter of fact it was a famous one that got shot named petals. The locals were pissed about petals being shot
You nailed this. One of the things that makes it almost unbearable to date men is that despite the fact that I am an extremely successful, well educated, well traveled, exceptionally independent and competent woman, they so desperately want to tell me how to do things as if they know better. It’s maddening. Like you say, they treat us like we’re children. It’s like they just can’t help themselves. Or they want to feel useful. And I don’t need them for that.
They don't even protect themselves. Just degeneracy influenced by the patriarchy because they're waiting on their chance to get away with degeneracy like the men who probably victimized them
Are we surprised when Woody Allen is still out here playin in our faces? Humans enable the worst of us cuz money/power. If he was poor everyone would be upset. We're conditioned to expect men with money to do these things and no one does anything. People still misinterpret Lolita. Humans are a mess and need to do better.
Same here and it's bliss not having a useless abusive raging bully in your home ruining everything, abusing and traumatising you and your children and making you his mommy/daddy because he needs a new person to take out his anger he has for his actual parents on because he's too much of a coward to confront the people who actually caused him trauma. It's so much better to be in a position to at least try and have your children a better chance at becoming healthy, whole autonomous people. These men need to be left alone and it's sad that they get to destroy the lives of women and children and the system and society helps them do this
Most men are protectors, of other men foremost - a reflection of self. It takes a very strong man like the host to point this out. Women need to understand they have to be in charge of their own care, always.
I am a female psychologist, and it gets much more sinister. Judges overwhelmingly grant full custody of children to the father when he has physically or sexually abused his children. Even if he was charged or found guilty. Children are routinely murdered by these fathers, it just never makes the news. The amount of failed legislation to protect children from murder by these fathers is staggering. I have a friend whose prominent ex-husband has been r*ping their sons since they were infants. I have read every medical report, and the evidence is overwhelming. The father has been reported by numerous ER physicains, pediatricians, an eye doctor, a pharnacist, even the school principal . Yet, the courts made sure the mother could not see or have access to her sons for the past 4 years. We are pretty surethe children have been told their mother is dead, due to the number of people that she runs into by chance that are shocked she is alive. Thank God the P Diddy case has come to light and forced the public to see that the unimaginable happens all the time, and right under our noses. Mothers are not simply crazy golddiggers. To make matters worse, my education and training prepared me to be a part of the problem, not a part of the solution. I was lead to believe I know far more about domestic violence than I did. It wasn't until I experienced my own "Lifetime Movie Network" type of divorce and fight for my own children that I got a clue. I tore into 30+ years of scientific studies, amongst other things, to learn how rampant it is. No amount of education or success can make a woman immune to this kind of abuse. I would not have believed it if I had not personally experienced it. Not because I lack compassion or the drive to get to the truth. But because it is beyond the grasp of the human brain. To make matters worse, I have noticed there are scores of female judges, attorneys, custody evaluators, etc., that are just as bad, if not worse than their male counterparts. Why? Because it is the only way to become a part of the "good old boys" network. They see the plight of women and children, and they want no part of it. So, they "become" those men. It is beyond evil and soulless, but I see it all the time.
This is very accurate to my experience with an abusive ex husband and family court. Like you, i would not have believed my experience had I not gone through it myself either. I had always heard that the courts favored the mother and I was proven very, very wrong. He went through my journal where I had written down names of family attorneys and the next week he had taken my son, accused me of abuse and tried to make me homeless. He had hired a sociopathic “men’s rights attorney” who made my life a living hell. The judge was a woman who was new to family court and made the most insane calls that my attorneys were appalled by. My ex husband had unlimited funds to spend on his attorneys, who made absolutely insane, graphic accusations against me and had ZERO evidence to show for it whatsoever. But the judge did not seem to care about that. He also had a felony criminal record and I brought evidence of his drug use and cheating with prostitutes (to show his instability, untrustworthiness and impulsivity) to court. We were ordered to take a hair strand drug test. I passed mine. He would’ve failed if he had not gotten his hair cut multiple times between the court order and the actual strand test. The judge didn’t seem to care about those things either. I could go on and on… the whole thing was such a traumatic experience that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. After 2 years of fighting in court and spending thousands of dollars on attorneys, the judge decided to give my ex husband primary custody- even though I had been a SAHM and the primary caretaker of my son through the duration of his life up to that point. And then he took my son and moved in with a woman several states away. It’s been a nightmare. He is a scary person and I am not able to see my son the way I want to because I am still afraid of my ex husband and the drive + hotel is very expensive. He refuses to meet me halfway because he doesn’t even have a car. I am moving closer to family soon and hope to sue for joint custody once it is much harder for him to reach me and I can afford the custody fight. I am so sorry you’ve had a similar experience. It is the biggest heartbreak. There are few things in this world that are more painful. 💔
@advisorywarning I am sorry for your experience, too. I hope you can safely have more access to your son. I really believe your love for your son is powerful beyond measure. Children know when they are loved, and it goes a long, long way. You are your son's hero and his hope. Keep your head up. Motherhood doesn't end with childhood. You will always be his mom.
Calling themselves "protectors" is a great way for them to present a hypothetical as their primary value. They think they don't have to do anything in regular life, as long as they claim they would act a certain way in a crisis... even if it's not true at all.
@felixmae9201 Right, it gives them this false sense of inherent value when they truly don't have it. If they can call themselves "protector" it makes them feel validated.
@@9darshana Exactly! They gave themselves that "title" as "a badge of honour" without even earning it in the first place. It's like if everybody who got in the military automatically received medals (for bravery, for example), just for being accepted in the military, not by proving their worth (bravery) on the battlefield. lol Can you imagine! XD
The step dad/step daughter story is the reason men do not meet my children. I have all daughters. Edit: Court ordered visitation with your abuser is absolute insanity. I'm disturbed.
It happened with my own father who popped back into my life at age 12. Nothing physical happened because I hated him so he couldn't manipulate me, but he did everything he could to try. He'd even cry to my mother to get her on his side, saying because it didn't sit on his lap and hang all over him he didn't believe I loved him. She'd try to "explain how he felt" and I told her i didn't gaf, lol
@@EggsOnToastt Oh, eff no. My ex turned out to be a child molester (his young cousins). I kept him away from our kids and was always honest with them that he wasn't safe to be around.
The videos about the daughters that are being SA’d by the husbands is extremely disturbing. So many men would be defending these men and that they’re not SAing the daughters and that the mom is making it up and lying. That’s what the red pill men would be saying. He gets supervised visitation of the daughter?? How does a pedophile have any rights?????? That is INSANE!
Records crime reports proven false prove women lie more. Only 2%of claims of physical abuse have physical evidence. . And after red exposed the big lied men abdanoning their kids. The Moral goal post in breaking up the family completely flipped so still tye man's fault
I remember reading about a study that tracked certain families over several years - the families were headed by lesbians. I was struck by the fact that the rate at which the children were subjected to sexual abuse was ZERO. So, with a female couple heading the household, the kids are safer than they would be with a heterosexual couple. I assume this applies not just to lesbians but also to women who platonically join forces to form a stable household for raising their kids.
You make so many excellent observations. I’ve been saying for years, why do we say “one out of four girls” is SA’d instead of “one in 4 men” is likely assaulting a child. It’s a powerful way to focus the narrative on the men, and to also make the “other three” stop and think about how their “protection” is no protection.
Every pregnant child should immediately be reported to the police and Child services right? An 11yo cannot consent to so much as a school field trip, any pregnancy is rape. Doctors are mandated reporters, was there a police report?
@@Southern.Nappinessreligious no excuse for that. I grew up in the Bible belt with fundamentalists, the people who don't grow out of that mentality are simply bad people. It's not because they were raised that way (so was I, and nobody had to tell me it was wrong and evil for me to condemn it.) They see women and girls as property, and if fundamentalist Christianity didn't teach that, they'd cling to any other ideology that does. We need to stop making excuses and blaming people's evil on their religious beliefs, when it's clearly them themselves that are evil. They want to use their religion as the excuse for their evil, but don't let them. They are shitty people, and if they lost all faith tomorrow, they'd still be shitty people.
There was a recent study in Australia that found that 30% of adult men are attracted to children….not all will act on these feelings…but the stats are still scary!
In France, burglaries are very common. Most of the time, thieves enter while you’re not here or while you’re sleeping and just look for cash money. If you’re a bit rich, they’ll steal the computers. Real home invasions are rare and only rich people are concerned. Here, people are not scared of « home invasions », of course it’s not an enjoyable thing to live but insurances will pay you back your stuff. In my building, after 3 burglaries, we only installed a fake CCTV. Maybe French people are less scared because in France, most people don’t own guns. One thing is sure, no man will protect your house because he will be snoring and won’t hear anything.
I've told my daughter that she needs to follow you. Her husband of 19 years and father to their -3- children (11 6 2) left them. He keeps telling her that he's coming back, just to give him time. While he wants my daughter to wait for him, he is dating a drug addicted alcoholic, spending a ton of money on this woman, etc. He treats this other woman like a queen, but his WIFE, never really got anything. She says that she does want him to come home, wants him back and she doesn't know why. I've tried to help her, to talk to her, but I also know that a heart can be stubborn especially if you don't understand it. I've told her to think about WHY she wants him back. She says it's because he was her best friend. Then I asked her, what do best friends do for best friends? She's trying so hard, but her heart and soul are breaking.
She sounds like she was isolated and has low self worth. Could you help her get counselling and help her reconnect with her support system slowly to help build her up? He sounds like a manipulative lovebomber. Sounds like she's a bit overwhelmed and stuck in a sunk cost fallacy situation, 3 littles and a 20 year marriage is not easy to reroute and reframe. I wish your family well and hope she gets the courage to accept help. She's got to want it and it takes quite a few times sometimes to get out of that abusive dynamic, I hope sooner than later.
She's been brainwashed by a narcissist. Find her videos that help her understand what's going on. It's not her fault. She was manipulated. The person she loves doesn't exist. It was an act
Show her videos of narcissistic ab use. It's not her fault, she was skillfully manipulated. The guy is a con-artist. The person she fell in love with doesn't actually exist Because it was all an act
I don’t need a man to watch my activities and control what I’m doing to “protect” me. I’m an adult. I’m fully capable of making my own choices, of performing my own risk/reward analysis of any activity I’m going to engage in and choose appropriately. If I make the wrong choice, then, as an adult, I am prepared to accept and deal with the consequences of those choices.
This criminal behavior is normalized. Instead of being outraged by this behavior people are voting these predators into powerful positiobs in our government.
Predators have been in government for years, and we are ALL responsible. Predators come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. So what's your point? Unless you have NEVER vote, you, too, are apart of the problem. 😂😂😂
@@ShielaM-p1w the worst is that it's not just a grape problem. its deeper in mysoginist behavior, normalized sa, seshual harassment, "dark humor", normalized violence that we need to suck it up. i hope we can, - probably in a long time, become an actual egalitarian society, maybe ill be reborn in 6000 years and see the progress.
@user-sg4ov7ng4h yes you're right, it is. It is far worse than that. But you're still being delusional if you think you can create happiness with this amount of males on the planet. I've been studying different parts of societies of different countries and what makes them be as they are, good, bad or ugly and what I've discovered is ALL of them are bad. ALL parts of societies. The only parts that are good are the propaganda around them. For instance, upper class women have living the life and are lucky. No they are getting it as much as the middle class and poor class women, as long as they are attached to or around a MALE. I've also studied history and regional conflicts in the middle east, Asia, Africa, and that is important bc they show the rawest form of male nature. Do you know what the Middle East is like? It's far worse than you can imagine based on even the deluge of information we get in the west. There IS no community or society there. There IS no safety, there IS no good, there IS no happiness. There is only suffering, war, sex, regret, death. And when those males invade western countries. You would erroneously think "oh it's just Middle Eastern men". No it's not. It's ALL men. ALL of them. That's why those things exist at all in the US too. Africa too, Asia too. I watched a history of Japan and it mirrored exactly what's happening in the Middle East. I also have read and watch history of Romans, Europe, and they mirror exactly what we see in the Middle East That's why those same things exist where laws don't reach such as the beauty and entertainment, real estate industries - raipe, murder, sx trafficking, drug trafficking fraud, bribery, theft. That's why the US has colonies-bx these males are all the same. If you remove ALL these bad behaving males in these corporations who are poisoning people and you put in those "good males" who complain about those same corporations, the same exact result is what you will get. That's why we have even have "countries"-all these males who are power hungry and want to control people, land, resources and have no problem stealing, destroying muhdering, raiping, trafficking and breeding poison in our very environments. They lack humanity to such a level they don't even understand to not poison the foods!! What we are experiencing in the US as safety, was a mirage all along, achieved through laws and even with that, there was never any absolute safety. You HAVE heard of American men beheading and burning women? Trafficking them? Creating poison drugs? Trafficking children, guns?? Of cops ignoring crimes by men? And even what little safety we have, it's starting to unravel FAST. There IS no egalitarianism to be had while they exist, even ONE of them. There is only ONE solution to achieve that egalitarianism, and that is with them not on this plane of existence. As someone who has spent years studying them, THAT is the only solution. Barring that, WOMEN are going to dye in droves and ultimately our extinction will come. Or the entire human race will extinct. We are heading there.
14:37 Absolutely disgusting. Reminds me of Mia Farrow and Woody Allen situation. And I was arguing with people on social media who were ok with Woody Allen and Soon Yi relationship and didn't didn't find any of that weird. Smdh. It just shows me how sick a lot of people are..
@@nelliebly6616 Yes, she was of age, but she was also the daughter of the woman Allen was having a long term relationship with. So, the Woody thinks with his woody. Also, Dylan Farrow has a few things to say about Allen's pedophillic ways. The guy's a scuz.
I never got where the courts favor the women is coming from, the courts only ‘favor’ the women when the men don’t show. This is well documented, if the men bother to show up to court then they have court mandated rights to their children even when their behavior is suspect. On the flip side, the care of children is defaulted to the woman whether she likes it or not. The men have the agency of choice to show up or not, the only requirement placed on men is child support which is a bare minimum of responsibility and is notoriously badly enforced and the man can make the woman jump through hoops to obtain that bare minimum of responsibility, he can require a paternity test, he can make that funding dependent on access to the woman or child. He can make his financial responsibility an extension of his continued ab@se. he can make it so difficult for her, that she forgoes her rights just to break contact. Often the failure to pay child support doesn’t even have consequences on him until he gets in legal trouble for something else. That’s not a system that advantages the woman or child.
Right answomen being prime art care takers is a advantage to men. It’s an advantage in their career, dating, finances and so much more. They literally don’t raise the child and benefits the most from “raising them” it’s crazy.
I totally agree with your point but I'd like to jump in with another point that is also horrifying. While the vast majority of abuse is committed against children and adults by someone they already but the damage done by strangers is also shocking. The men who do these things don't stop and will keep doing it until forced to stop by law or death. But the strangers who attack women can destroy dozens of lives or more because they are compelled to be terrible. To illustrate, when one of the cities in the Midwest finally went through their backlog they found that ONE MAN was responsible for more than 60+ grapes over a several year period and a large area. How many women were attacked because the police didn't feel like processing the evidence? I think the ages ranged from Very young teen to post menopausal. Those women and girls have lost all sense of safety and no one felt the need to avenge their suffering not even to talk about protecting them so it never happened at all after the first. I'm sorry this is so disjointed but I'm listening to the video and trying to type at the same time and it's very upsetting of course.
Many years ago, while out shopping at a mall for Christmas gifts, & was SA'ed by an enormous 14 yr old kid with learning disabilities. The person that was supposed to keep an eye on him didn't, & he got away. I managed to wrestle myself away, looking at all the people in the mall just staring at me. Not one person came to help me. I drove across the street to another store to try & relax, but, that effing kid somehow came across the street with allegedly whomever this mystery person was that drove him there literally 5 minutes of my entering that store. So now I'm being stalked, & he was so quiet, he was right behind me, & just stared at me! I went to the front desk & reported what was going on, & to have a guard hold him, or remove him, so police could come get him. But as I was saying this to the desk lady, he walked out, & I pointed him out to her. She said, "Oh...I know him. He's been in a place that supposed to be helping him with these issues. He's done it a lot." Then she filled me in on the rest, & I called the police, & they didn't want to come to talk with me since he took off & was gone, even after I said the lady at the desk knows him, & I needed to file a report for S.A. She told me to call back the next day, they couldn't do anything for me. I was nearly crying hysterically, called my boyfriend & told him what happened, & how upset I was, & wanted him to come to where I was because I was too nervous to drive. He said, "What do you want me to do about it? There's nothing I can do." Not only was I astounded by people in the mall not helping me & just watching him nearly strip me naked, & no mall security was around....not only astounded the cops wouldn't help me....but my own MUTHAF***IN BOYFRIEND, who EXPECTED me to buy him a Christmas gift that day, wouldn't say, "Oh no, how horrible! I'm so sorry, I'll be right there in ten minutes." NOBODY FELT A VERY STRONG, OVERSIZED 14 YR OLD MENTALLY CHALLENGED MALE WITH RAGING HORMONES, GRABBING ME LIKE TRUMP, TRYING TO RIP MY SHIRT OFF WAS WORTH ANY OF THEIR TIME TO MAKE A CONCERTED EFFORT IN SOME WAY TO STOP THIS AND CONSOLE ME!!! At least the desk lady tried to help in some way. But even that wasn't enough to fix that problem. I should've went home, packed as much of my stuff into my car, & drove 135 miles back to my mom's place. And this is probably one of MANY horrible accounts I've dealt with from men that allegedly loved me, or, just random strangers, has me single, & NOT feeling wonderful about it. I try to remain hopeful my true love will be with me soon, to be the right kind of man I need.
Men also do not realize coercion is not consent. The number of men that are guilty of SA is a lot higher than they're willing to admit even to themselves.
I have been saying exactly what you have been saying for years. I’m glad to hear a man say it. Many people will not hear these things unless a baritone voice says it. But yes, I have never been protected by any man not my father, not my brother not my friends not my husband. Never. The people who have protected me up in women. Even publicly thank you for speaking the truth.
Medieval knights used to leave the defense of their castles to their wives when they were absent. As did the Japanese samurai. They didn't need to protect their wives personally because said wives were trained and could rely on the same soldiers/warriors their husbands did rely on. What we all need to protect, are small children. But rest assured most women will do anything to protect their children, no matter how bad the odds. The most dangerous bear isn't Papa Bear, it's Mama Bear.
I think this is funny strictly because most men will come back with a "yeah this woman hurt me because she rejected me" or "yeah i wanted children but she didn't so i felt like i wasted my life with her" Easily fixed with some communication, but nope. It's not even entirely their fault most of the time, the education system just really needs to be reworked and contain BETTER more informational things than just MATH. So much shit that could be avoided if education was better, and if the government wasn't so shitty.
The few time I felt threatened in the public transportation, it was by a man and every time, a woman came to the rescue. The men around only wanted to "mind their own business" , or did not perceive the threat. I have discussed this with other women and I am not the only one in this situation. As a young woman, I also recall going to the rescue of a youg men who was bullied by 3 men. I simply went by his side, held his arm and pretended we were together and it worked. Not that I was strong enough to defend him but the simple fact he was no longer alone was enough. Nobody else reacted.
Great point Pub. Men never think that we might need protection from the very men we are friends with or family with. Its always sum mythical rando man.
A mother can lose her children if she continues to allow the kids abuser or her abuser to be around (I am in agreement that the abuser needs to stay gone), but the courts turn around and make it a requirement that these same fathers/dv abusers (and others, who have not been caught/proven or ones who have not abused) have access to their children and will punish the women for contempt if they dont produce the children. I am just pointing out the different standards held for women and men.
But more she is the abusing man cases women lie about abuse from father so they can abuse the kids till find another man to abuse .but off course pub Made that up about proximity on the stop
The likelihood of a guy actually being around and helping you out of a tough spot is like 0.006%. I'd much prefer it if the man protected me from himself.
it's funny because a lot of men I've been with think they're the protectors. Usually they don't want to investigate the noises, its always the me. I'm the protector time and time again.
6:16 yeah, why are men so anti-water? I've met some that are anti-fruits AND vegetables. Like, how tf are you still alive? You haven't eaten a nutrient basically ever???? 😳
Some diets are carnivore or animal based, as humans can’t digest fiber themselves and absorption of plant based food isn’t optimal in the human body. I had digestive issues until I cut out fiber and haven’t eaten a single vegetable in many years. Every vitamin and mineral existing is found in animal food. Vegans and vegetarians are way more prone to having deficiencies, like fat soluble vitamines like vitamin A and vitamin B12.
@@desiree2086 Fiber is extremely important to most peoples gut and bowel health, so I don't recommend giving that misinformation out willy nilly that humans "can't digest fiber". If you want to be specific, it's INSOLUBLE fiber we shouldn't be digesting, like grass...... things like fruits and nuts contain DIETARY fiber, that IS important to colon health and gut bacteria.
These men describe themselves as my father. But I’m a 38-year-old woman who doesn’t need a father. I already have one and I can call him at any second. I don’t need you watching everything I do to make sure that it’s conducive to my safety. I’m 38 years old. I’ve been living this long without you trust and believe I’m not gonna choke on a toy or trip over my own feet. I need a man to be my man not my father.
I was young and living alone in a flat on the top floor of a building over two businesses. One afternoon I had gone out for coffee with a woman I worked with and met her boyfriend and his partner. They were both policemen. That night a knock came at my door and standing there was the partner. I was stunned as I had not given him my address. I managed to keep him from entering my place and he left. The next night, he returned. This time I told him not to come back. He continued this for 2 weeks, every night coming to my door and by that time I was sitting inside in the dark pretending I wasn't home. I didn't know what to do. How could I phone the police and report one of their officers? Who would they believe (I was 19)? Eventually I learned from the woman who introduced us that he had gone out of the country on a vacation with his wife and when he returned he gave up his stalking routine. To say this quashed my whole idea that men could be protectors was an understatement and from that day forward, I no longer believed the myth.
The idea of men as 'protectors' began when there were actual things to be protected from (that were not other men), like lions and bears. Because a man might protect a woman from that, but not protect ALL women from that, they started thinking of the one they protected as 'their' woman. Which carried over into the patriarchal society where they began to pose as protectors against other men. "Stick with me and that bad guy won't claim you instead." But it's much easier to 'protect' if you also control. So they came to believe they should control women also. Then they didn't even have to punish the bad guys any longer because any bad things happening to the woman became HER fault for slipping her 'protector's' control. And because the bad guys were never held accountable, it became something less 'bad' in men's minds and just something that 'some men do.' You can hear that lack of 'badness' when you listen to men talk about how younger women are better, how they wait until a child turns 18 (because the only thing holding them back - at least from what they say in public - is the law), and how they focus on the rare false rape reports instead of the plentiful true ones.
Lies. Men would be protecting the woman from another men. Same happens with chimps and lions. A male protecting a female is a way for him to protect his bloodline because other males might kill the offspring and mate with the female Men weren't there protecting women from lions and bears. Humans always lived in tribes so protection from wild animals was usually done in group but rarely happened. What do you think war defense is now? Males protecting their territory (resources and females) from other males.
I’ve just found you today, watched a couple videos (I will get to them ALL). Thank you, thank you, thank you for harping on the point that it’s usually people they know, and making tge obvious statement/connection that the math is simple - the sheer volume of SA means every man has a friend, relative or acquaintance who has committed SA. Nobody else ever says this!! You are my hero. Thank you. I am crying.
A favorite:
"Who would protect you if all the men are gone?"
"Protect us from whom?"
That, exactly. Most underrated comment on the subject matter, ever.
Yeah, with all men gone I can walk home at 2am with all my anxiety also gone. I can probably travel the world alone to so many places currently unsafe for lone women to travel.
The population will die out eventually and human being will go extinct, yes. But the last of us can live a good life here.
@@DL-idkI'm for that.
Exactlyyyy
Exactly. Any jobs that they need to do we can.
Most dumb and overly dangerous jobs don’t need to be done. Oil rigs? We don’t need that shit.
Heavy lifting? Most things that need lifting a woman can workout to lift herself or team lift with another woman.
Hunting? Women can hunt and teach other women to.
"If someone breaks into my house..." your wife would probably be the first one to notice and have to spend 10 minutes trying to wake you up anyway
I have seen my boyfriend la best friend literally slap him trying to wake him up for new Year's jumping on the bed straddling his chest. Nothing. At least I have PTSD so I wake really easily and startle so I investigate and defend my space myself.
He wouldn’t notice cause he’s too busy gaming to hear anything.
Men make fun of women for believing in horoscopes, but men BELIEVE they are superheroes
They hate astrology because it could give a glimpse into their toxicity, a playbook of their personalities.
Yes ma'am that astrology exposes a lot pitfalls if done correctly!!!
@@yakzivz1104HUH...mental health.
Predators can't be protectors
This!!!! Women need protection from the men who say, " I love you."
YESSSSS!!!!!
Them predators move in flocks.
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Not when they view you as prey!
"The most dangerous person a woman will ever meet is her husband" ~ Gad Saad
After dropping slavery papers most dangerous person to a slave owner is the slave himself
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Exactly you trust him with your body without protection just for him to bring bk diseases, you trust him to protect your family that you lay down and risk you life to give him and repays you by cheating until you leave and then he tells eve you broke up the family and it’s no benefit for men to get married all because his everlasting cheat plan is messed up because you’re too masculine and done know how to be a good woman 😂😅 reeee tards
Sad truth
No man has physically protected me. If anything, they harmed me.
Mr Smith & Mr Wesson have always protected me
Thank you. In fact, I've been in 2 near death situations caused by men.
Also… we can protect each other. I am tiny, but I caught a guy sneaking photos of a woman on public transit. Moved seats so I was between them and gave him the stinkeye until he got off a couple stops later. He didn’t raise that camera again. She hadn’t realized.
@@tynaangelici3023 This has been my experience as well. I was mistreated to the point that I didn’t want anything to do with dating by the time I graduated high school. And, didn’t until I was 35. Even, then I dated for only a couple of years then tapped out. My life has been stress free ever since.
Exactly.
They're either the predators or they supporters of predators,
their words of "protection" mean nothing, because they
Either do nothing or run off,
leaving us to fend for
ourselves.
Men would tell a guy if his wife cheated but they would never tell the wife her husbond is cheating. Men protect each other but not women. Talk about double standards.
On point! My ex was cheated on by his ex wife and he was really traumatized. However his brother is serially cheating on his wife with many women, and he doesn’t feel any need to tell the wife or to even really try to stop the brother from cheating
@ You need to have a serious talk with your ex and if he is not willing to do the right thing then you have to, 🤞❤️
men help other men protect their properties, men's friends won't tell their wives their men are cheating to protect the men from losing their wives.
Men protect themselves and each other
Men protect the patriarchy
@@Thepublicoffender100hence protecting each other
@@KatieLHall-fy1hw yup
@@KatieLHall-fy1hw the patriarchy is a system that hurts men as well so it doesn’t really protect us overall. In some ways it does though.
@ no, I agree, but I think a lot of guys THINK it protects them more than it hurts them
Like how are men protectors of the house if they’re not home half as much as the women. Women occupy homes way more than men do. Who’s really holding down the fort??
The performance of men annoys me the most cuz a lot of men don’t measure up to the standard and even the standard is doodoo
24:37- this is what I like to call “too late parenting” looking for signs of abuse in your child instead of looking for signs of abusive behavior in the man you chose to have kids with. He calls you “baby” all the time and ends up having sex w/ your literal babies while you simultaneously adores that he calls you a baby … The systemic design is deplorable
Just look at Tim Kennedy.
He's a UFC figher, in special forces etc,
he told ISIS his wifes and kids home address.
He's off to work most of the time,
leaving his poor wife and kids to fend for themselves.
Such a great "protector" .
And he's so proud of himself.
@@artis_1001you know a lot about incest huh?
Men acting like everything is a battle, everything is a war. It’s not. They don’t have a relationship to life.
It's exhausting when they carry that mindset into relationships too. No babe, that's extra stressor always sleeping with one eye open, nitpicking and assuming the worst. And we should have the common goal of keeping the house nice and giving kids optimal survival odds, so what the hell is all that competition and sabotaging BS all about? If one of us "wins" we both should in theory, not make it resentful rivalry. Screams insecurity and perpetual teenage brain. Not sexy.
Everything is a war. They're the ones waging it. They cause too many problems to think otherwise.
It’s always at war with life - no wonder - women life who are givers need protection from war minded men
I'm a woman nearing her 40s and have never felt protected by a man. I have, however, felt protected consistently by my mother, who's fierceness to look after her daughter never came with the caveat of control or aggression, but from love, compassion, and loyalty. Mamma bears win all.
This. This is my grandma. I aspire to be her.
Same 😊
Women are the real fierce protectors of their loved ones. The Mama Bear analogy doest come from nowhere
I live in women's only housing at the moment, I'm confident if my ex showed up here to hurt me he'd have a whole lotta angry women to contend with. Women so often won't stand up for themselves but mess with their children or their friends and family and it can be a very different story.
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I’ve also noticed this!
Please. Everytime I've been in danger in my life has been because of men. Either they were the danger or the men who were supposed to protect me didn't bother.
Exactly.
It's been the same for me and
So many others.
They're no protectors
same experience with me.
Ya I heard a woman say ok so if men are the protectors, then who are they protecting us from cuz it sure ain't Sally in HR.
They're only protectors in their imaginary scenarios, that title is stolen valor as more often woman will protect the kids or other women via actions and awareness in this plane of tangible reality. I find it more often men piss their pants at confrontation, they're only tough with group back-up, try to threaten, divide and conquer their prey (women and kids), going for the weakest and meekest link like true predator would. If someone shows them fangs, they'll run with tail between their legs. Pathetic unevolved creatures at large, with rare exceptions striving for something more than animalistic games and chasing dopamine tails.
That man is fantasizing about being 80yo and his son still being home..."Standing at the choke point, with a gun". Wow! The buffoonary?
😂😂😂
He’s going to be put in a nursing home by that son 😂
@@SD.797 - Yes, I agree with your comment 😂😂😂
Bafoon!!! So true!
Let him first reach 80 years of age since that's the age majority doesn't reach. Does he even have son, can he be sure he is going to live as long. Too many "ifs", pure fantasy.
I have all sons, and get complimented on how well behaved my sons are; however, they are problematic in ways that others can't easily see. PLEASE BELIEVE - all of my sons stay trying to "tell me what to do" despite them not having the range or depth to do so. Furthermore, they think because they aren't yelling/screaming/hitting that "they did nothing wrong", but the wrong is feeling like you simply know more than a woman JUST BECAUSE you are a man.
I understand they want to feel important and useful, but I tell them they need to fall back and watch their mouth when speaking on things they weren't asked to speak on. As their mom, I can respond aggressively and they will fall back to avoid the consequences, but women typically struggle holding those boundaries with men due to their fear of losing him. I love my sons, but I hope women leave them the SECOND after they try that shit - maybe the lesson will be learned once they feel the pain of her walking out of his life for good!!
You're the kind of mother in law I would want.
I feel that you will stand up for what's right,
even if it means being against the behavior of your sons.
You're the real protector.
Mom… I am in awe and I THANK YOU! 🥹🙌
Your awareness is remarkable. I advise you to continue to maintain a realistic outlook about being a mother of sons and come to terms with the fact that many sons do absolutely nothing to support their mothers in chronic illness, long term health care needs. they usually feel justified and aren't particularly pressured to do so. That being the case, I'm not sure how old (you look young and healthy, but this matter pertains to w0mn of all ages) you are but it's probably better to start gradually researching various options that pertain to your well being. I've seen too many sons dish out excuses abt neglecting the same mothers who poured love and so much energy into them
My oldest son who is 17 does thee exact same thing to me and its infuriating
@@theoreticalviews2939 thank you for the advice. I'll certainly keep that in mind as well. ❤️
These grown men all sound like adolescent boys imagining scenarios.
Their entire world is their imagination, rarely are they functioning in reality especially around women. i.e. a woman is nice...she wants him. a woman wears a short skirt...she wants it, a woman ask for help...she's trying to control him 😂😂😂 Its their own crazy making.
The all idea of red pill is base in imaginable scenarios, because in reality they know they all sucks
Big imaginations!
It's a hero fantasy
That’s exactly what they’re doing. Yuck!🤢
I went into the comments to read how many men were outraged about the SA's in these horrific stories. There's about 3, they're basically silent. However, if women say childless, single, and happy, they're outraged, hmm.
Good point! 👏🏼🫂
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I don't believe this is a healthy channel for women. Just a den for men to spew more hate at Women. Manipulation.
Can I just take a moment to say that BRO!!! My eyes have become open!!!
I was raised in a society that teaches men protect the household and if need be, he does so using combat to make sure the Mother and kids are safe…
But the instant you said, ‘Why isn’t the man teaching the woman how to use a gun or combat to protect herself and the kids,’ I was like…
“ . . . Bro . . . “
My dad happily paid for me to immerse myself in martial arts as a young teen. He wasn't much of a gun man, but I know he would always protect me. He wanted us to be able to protect ourselves if he weren't around, and it's a good thing, because, he passed away when my siblings and I were in our teens. ❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻
My mom raised me and my brother and our house was never broken into. 🤷🏾♀️I'm realizing men makeup scenarios to make themselves seem more important than they are in reality.
Oh wow- sooooo true 😳
Obviously. And in those scenarios it’s always other men doing crazy shit.
Even then living with a dog, another woman, and/or a gun would solve all those problems.
Definitely. Most houses are broken into when people are not home, like my house did, and my Mom’s house. No one was home. I lived by myself with kids, and had no problems, except for my creep neighbor. Eventually I chased him out of my yard. Cops didn’t help
Who’s gonna protect the woman from the man “who really loves her?”
Exactly. Loves the woman to death in most cases.
At least men don't put victims on child support as often
@@ThinkAndquestion-e2nI don't understand your point
@@ThinkAndquestion-e2nI don't understand what that means
Faaaccctttss!!! Men will harm you and go, “-but! But I LOVE her!!!” Oh? Is that why you emotionally tortured her??? Make it make sense!
He wouldn't teach his wife to shoot or protect herself, because that would hurt his ego, believing he's the "boss" of the family.
I've been to the range with my husband.
I'm a better shot than him, and he's happy about it.
@@tricitymorte1yep! My friends and I all know how to shoot. I never understood this “protect“ thing. We’re grown women, so what do we need protecting from? Decent men are out there. I’ve got one.
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He sleeps and lives easy knowing you got yourself handled sis!
@@zenwolf1046 it’s smarter to have a spouse who can back you up. Two are better than one.
and also because they're afraid that their women will overpower them. i've seen tons of men comment under women body builders "no man would dare to date her because what if she hits them"
I STRONGLY suspect that that man was grooming his step-daughter because he essentially wanted that type of relationship with his own daughters, but instead found it less ‘immoral’ by doing it with his step-daughter. That man is a true ‘dyed in the wool’ predator. There is nothing cute or nice about this situation.
5:07 No wonder men are stressed. You're walking around on guard in case you have to slay dragons in the name of protection.
God blessed women and men with brains. How do men think women get from point A to point B when they're not around? You trust the women enough to raise your children but at the same time treat her as if she's not capable of making a decision without you.
Mythical dragons 😂😂😂
@@Southern.Nappiness😂
I for real just pictured the goofy guy from Survivor that gave himself the nickname: "The Dragonslayer." And yes, he would "The" like it was like a pronoun like "Mr. Or Ms.", lol.
@@TeamLexana😂😂😂
@TeamLexana first I thought u were talking about Alex but his name was vaginaslayer then I remembered fox not vh1 n remembered 😂
Most actual heroes were in the right place, at the right time, with the right skills to help make a wrong, right. They don't strive to make it their entire existence as a person.
Seems like their existence helped everyone.
@@drstone3418women are often said heroes men don’t like to acknowledge.
ive done a gang of heroic shit that not even my closest friends know about. helping vulnerable folks drive me not the attention. folks that want attention are busy showing off not helping people lol
@@lowlowseeseereminds me of an old truism about not doing performative public prayer. You're doing it right and I hope you get a lot out of it. I'm sure the recipients do.
@@lowlowseesee this reminds me of an annoying guy I used to hang out with that also used to end stories of frustrating encounters with people with a fantasy of getting in a fight with them. I got so annoyed one night at a bar for a mutual's b'day, this dude on one side of me and some other friend of the mutual on my other side. Annoying dude finished like his second fight fantasy in a row, and I couldn't stay quiet and finally said "Y'know I've noticed the guys that talk about getting in fights all the time have never actually been in a fight. Have you ever been in a fight?" He admitted no, he hadn't. I turn to the other guy sitting next to me, who has said nothing to anyone this whole time, and asked him "Have you ever been in a fight?" He grins sheepishly and says "Yeah, actually." I triumphantly cry "See? And this guy hasn't said a word all night!" Fights aren't fun, even if you win, so most people aren't gonna wish for more fights in their future.
The men are not well.
@barbara6840 never have been!
And their god understands,approves and forgives it all!
When have they ever been? Stories in the Bible...Greek mythology stories...Any war that ever happened.....
@@Dark_Harmony preach!👏
@@Dark_Harmony we still are and where the 1st slaves.
These men are always the main character hero in a movie their brain wholly made up. In reality, if the bad guy got in, you already failed, big hero, and they already got the drop on you, and YOU'RE going to be their first victim.
Exactly this! If someone, anyone, can breach your home security, you’ve already failed in securing protection for it. Main character syndrome is really addictive I guess. 😂
Stepfamily Corn Is A Popular Search Request On Corn Sites For A Reason, Same Thing With "Barely Legal" 🤢 They're SICK
Or when the girl is petite or has pigtails and braces, we know how old the male viewers are imagining she is🤢🤢
Ewww
I was grape by two of my male cousins when I was younger. When they were done they told me no one would believe me if I told on them.
They didn't lie, their mom and my uncles never believe me. Not even my own mom and dad.
Right. They all protect each other - the predators.
But none of them are actual protectors,
I'm so sorry.
We're all left to fend for ourselves
We told our mom about our stepdad and she believed us then told him she wouldn't press charges if she got the house and a car so there's that 🤷
@@ItsOKtobeNormal That's fucking insane. Your mother cared more about getting things than protecting you by bringing it to court and getting restrictions on your stepdad from ever reaching back out to you. I'm so sorry.
@yuraraina, I believe you.
I’m so sorry that you had to withstand the attack and the neglect of your relatives’ disbelief.
It is my hope that you now live in both safety and freedom, and that you have loads of supportive people in your life as you heal.
Those adults do believe you but don’t want to deal with the consequences of admitting the truth.
They’ll never admit they believe you. They do, though.
When we were young, we were told, don't depend on your man to protect you because who will protect you from HIM if he turns against you? I never forgot that.
I'm 46. I have carried pepper spray on me in public ever since i was 17. Just in case when walking in the park. Leaving work at night etc. I have never had to use it.
However i have been physically abused by almost all the men i was in close proximity to most at home and in relatives houses by my father, brother, brother in laws and exboyfriends and my ex-husband. including sexual abuse.
The main problem is not strangers. The problem is there is no protection from our so-called "protecters"
Upgrade to the gel form please. Lower chance of blowback.
@@psyolytesaille I will, thank you!
Sad, but true.😢
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The lie of “stranger danger” protects the actual perpetrators.
So do the racist lies that white women are in perpetual danger of being harmed by Black and Brown men. In most SA, the survivor and the assailant are of the same ethnic background. The greatest percentage of inter-ethnic crimes of this sort is perpetrated by white men. Once again, the lies protect the criminals.
Somebody needs to discuss the stats of Only Fans and how some top earners reveal their subscribers as former teachers, coaches and fathers of their friends, many of whom are married with kids.
Yep. They are gross.
Their dads are probably their biggest fans. Joe Simpson style.
Not surprising
If you look into s3x tr@fficking arrest, the men usually are teachers' doctors' lawyer swim coaches. They're usually able to afford that stuff, and they usually have kids of their own.
I hadn’t thought that, it doesn’t surprise me. And, it would definitely be worthy of a documentary. I would most definitely watch it.
I have 2 guard dogs that are easier to deal with and more fun to be around than a man. I'm already protected. BONUS: animals are often portrayed in horror movies to be sensitive to the supernatural. Anytime I watch a scary movie at night and have to walk down a dark hallway, as long as my dog isn't flipping out, I'm golden. Men don't have that effect.
Dogs are better. Protectors kind of wish I had one. I have a cat. He likes to sleep between my legs and I'm told that that's him protecting me, but he's a giant mush
Take good care of your dog, and your dog will take very good care of you.
I 2nd that, I sleep great with my dog at night
@@Ellis-t4y Yup, feedback loop with animals seem to be way more predictable and rational than with men 😂
Why do we have to ask our men 50 times to fix something or take the lead if that’s what they claim is their role? If he’s a protector and the one to fix a problem then I shouldn’t have to ask him at all. If it’s his house that he’s worked hard for then he should be on top of the every day maintenance, and the most i should have to ask for help from him is once, that’s it.
I have a little dog who protects me without me asking. If he sees a sketchy dude in our vicinity, he stands his ground and blocks the guy so I can safely get out of the situation. I don’t have to ask, it’s a given. He doesn’t care if the guy is harmless, my safety is his priority.
And why do men have ask you to nuture
@@MindMelding-t5e Let’s do an experiment - impose a social structure on men that treats them similarly to what women experience under the patriarchy and then see how nurturing men feel.
FACTS
@@MindMelding-t5elies. Men never ask because women are nurturing. If your woman isn’t nurturing you it’s because you have let her down and can’t trust you.
@@MindMelding-t5ebecause men never have to.
Patriarchy is a protection racket.
That is so well said
@TheVeggiekat It's not original to me. I don't remember where I heard it. I think it was in the comment section of another video.
More like a predatory racket
Wheelchair ramp for XYs.
If they were protectors, they'd put sturdy doors and top notch locks into the house. But they don't want to be protectors. They want to be heroes. And the house, the gun, the kids and the wife are just props for their nightly intruder phantasy. But since they spend so much time on plotting about their hero moment they can't be asked doing the dishes or doing homework with the kids. Cause there's no tale of Thor doing the dishes. Only swinging the Hammer when need be. And while there is no need they practise their eye-hand coordination on the PS5.
Also, because they yearn for being the hero and those instances don't often arise, they turn into the villain to satisfy a weird dynamic within them.
@@dblr4931damn
@@dblr4931 Exactly, acknowledged for good or bad reasons, they are the main character, dammit! Look at him! Talk about him! That's why they tend to mistake fear and respect, while getting Aqua Tofana'd in the ye ole days.
Usually, the attacker lives in the home. If they were truly protectors, they would "go to work" on themselves to protect his family from the obvious threat, them.
Most child abuse is committed by single mothers
do not respond to degenerates
That stepfather story...what a tragedy. That woman never got to be a child, he always isolated her from people her age. Even if he didn't do anything physical until she was an adult, he was abusing her and grooming her to accept his advances. I'm sure the rest of his family is going to turn a blind eye when he does the same thing to their daughters.
The last woman is so powerful. It's terrible that the daughter will have to live with the scars of what her father did to her, but she was vigilant, found out early and protected her from further harm.
Single mother black single mothers do that more often
@@MindMelding-t5edo point out the stats of single black mothers who have married their step sons….
Don’t worry, we’ll wait.
Yup. The stepfather was a serious groomer. The most upsetting thing is the family turning a blind eye. Enablers are just as bad as the perpetrators.
@@lisalinnow4402My mother was the enabler.😤
@@MindMelding-t5eit doesn’t make it right when men do it. All children have to be protected.
The numbers are the same in France : 96% of assaulter (or r*pe) are men. And one in 10 of french were victim of incest (160 000 childrens a year, 70% girls, 30% boys). There were a big research done (2 years ago) with lots and lots of testimonies.
This research was done because a well known french woman wrote a book about her family story. Shame and guilt covers those insane acts.
Since I began to see your videos (in order to understand), I tell myself, it's because most men don't see humanity in children, as they don't see it in women, to do this.
It's sad...
Says the who say they exist when they clearly do . Plus how many crime reports turn false and with different attitudes depending who doing it. We sew how moral goal completly flipped when comes breaking the family when ref exposed files most divorces
Don't forget Gisele Pelicot, the French woman who dr*gged by her husband. Then he allowed other men to s*xually assault her while she was dr*gged. POS.😡😡😡
Was it the older woman who was drugged and SAed by her husband and he recorded it and let other men do it to her?
Yes. Sexism and childism are connected and those statistics are things beyond anyone's capacity for processinf😭😨🫂
The abuse that women and girls have to suffer at the hands of men is so common, and has been for the longest time, that too many people just shrug it off and ignore it. We, as humans, have been so conditioned to it that we have become emotionally numb. The fact that this is a problem women have to suffer is why men do not take it seriously enough. Too many people are in the mind set of "if it does not affect me, then I do not care".
And men well little boys and old men and old women and provider men suffer at the hunda of women
For decades! Just talking to your great grandmothers, grandmothers, aunties shows you how long women have been abused, not protected, by the men in their lives.
We have to stop the abuse of girls and women by men, it's imperative for the survival of our species. We must evolve into something better...or go extinct from our own apathy and stupidity. Men are destroying the world.
We need to train empathy, mostly men.
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I have saved that acronymn!
That's a shitty acronym.
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Well, I'm a Mildly Aloof Nobody...
Yep, where were all those "protector men" to protect her from that rare, lone "not all men" one- off predator who gRaped her???😡
Reason bears don't just walk into town
@@MindMelding-t5eclearly you've never seen a bear walk into town. I've seen one. As a matter of fact it was a famous one that got shot named petals. The locals were pissed about petals being shot
@@MindMelding-t5ebears walk in back yards…and STILL aren’t a danger to women.
They were watching, bc they're into it. Go check their Internet history if you don't believe me.
@@bdott1538yup they always go to my trash bins in the back
You nailed this. One of the things that makes it almost unbearable to date men is that despite the fact that I am an extremely successful, well educated, well traveled, exceptionally independent and competent woman, they so desperately want to tell me how to do things as if they know better. It’s maddening. Like you say, they treat us like we’re children. It’s like they just can’t help themselves. Or they want to feel useful. And I don’t need them for that.
They only protect one, themselves.
Their egos mostly and access to female labour.
Who else would
They don't even protect themselves. Just degeneracy influenced by the patriarchy because they're waiting on their chance to get away with degeneracy like the men who probably victimized them
@@drstone3418that’s the point, they aren’t protectors.
The ego of the imaginary hero is something else
Are we surprised when Woody Allen is still out here playin in our faces? Humans enable the worst of us cuz money/power. If he was poor everyone would be upset. We're conditioned to expect men with money to do these things and no one does anything. People still misinterpret Lolita. Humans are a mess and need to do better.
Vladimir Nabokov was disturbed by men's reaction to that story
17:46 wow. I feel so bad for that stepsister. Groomed since 3 years old with no one to protect her. Wow.
"You were put here to protect us. But who protects us from you?"
- Women, 2024
I actually feel more protected since I chose to protect myself and leave my abusive (ex) husband 14 yrs ago. He was no protector, he was the threat.
Me too. 😢
congrats to you both for escaping.
Wrapping presents as a single mother and watching this....pub, I feel absolutely blessed......😮😮😮😮😅...
❤ Merry Christmas. When I divorced my husband, I never brought a man to my home.
@crissylynch333 I wish you heaven sis! Hug those babies and merry Christmas 🤶
Yes you have degrade men to feel better about yourself
Same here and it's bliss not having a useless abusive raging bully in your home ruining everything, abusing and traumatising you and your children and making you his mommy/daddy because he needs a new person to take out his anger he has for his actual parents on because he's too much of a coward to confront the people who actually caused him trauma. It's so much better to be in a position to at least try and have your children a better chance at becoming healthy, whole autonomous people. These men need to be left alone and it's sad that they get to destroy the lives of women and children and the system and society helps them do this
@@drstone3418oh pl ease
Nice fantasy the first man has. He has no idea what he will do.
The only one who has protected me and my kids, has been me. I'm my own hero
Yep. Most people got no clue how they’d react.
Most men are protectors, of other men foremost - a reflection of self. It takes a very strong man like the host to point this out. Women need to understand they have to be in charge of their own care, always.
I am a female psychologist, and it gets much more sinister. Judges overwhelmingly grant full custody of children to the father when he has physically or sexually abused his children. Even if he was charged or found guilty. Children are routinely murdered by these fathers, it just never makes the news. The amount of failed legislation to protect children from murder by these fathers is staggering. I have a friend whose prominent ex-husband has been r*ping their sons since they were infants. I have read every medical report, and the evidence is overwhelming. The father has been reported by numerous ER physicains, pediatricians, an eye doctor, a pharnacist, even the school principal . Yet, the courts made sure the mother could not see or have access to her sons for the past 4 years. We are pretty surethe children have been told their mother is dead, due to the number of people that she runs into by chance that are shocked she is alive. Thank God the P Diddy case has come to light and forced the public to see that the unimaginable happens all the time, and right under our noses. Mothers are not simply crazy golddiggers. To make matters worse, my education and training prepared me to be a part of the problem, not a part of the solution. I was lead to believe I know far more about domestic violence than I did. It wasn't until I experienced my own "Lifetime Movie Network" type of divorce and fight for my own children that I got a clue. I tore into 30+ years of scientific studies, amongst other things, to learn how rampant it is. No amount of education or success can make a woman immune to this kind of abuse. I would not have believed it if I had not personally experienced it. Not because I lack compassion or the drive to get to the truth. But because it is beyond the grasp of the human brain. To make matters worse, I have noticed there are scores of female judges, attorneys, custody evaluators, etc., that are just as bad, if not worse than their male counterparts. Why? Because it is the only way to become a part of the "good old boys" network. They see the plight of women and children, and they want no part of it. So, they "become" those men. It is beyond evil and soulless, but I see it all the time.
This makes so much sense. But is incredibly disheartening.
Hierarchy is inherently corrupt
This is very accurate to my experience with an abusive ex husband and family court. Like you, i would not have believed my experience had I not gone through it myself either. I had always heard that the courts favored the mother and I was proven very, very wrong.
He went through my journal where I had written down names of family attorneys and the next week he had taken my son, accused me of abuse and tried to make me homeless. He had hired a sociopathic “men’s rights attorney” who made my life a living hell. The judge was a woman who was new to family court and made the most insane calls that my attorneys were appalled by. My ex husband had unlimited funds to spend on his attorneys, who made absolutely insane, graphic accusations against me and had ZERO evidence to show for it whatsoever. But the judge did not seem to care about that. He also had a felony criminal record and I brought evidence of his drug use and cheating with prostitutes (to show his instability, untrustworthiness and impulsivity) to court. We were ordered to take a hair strand drug test. I passed mine. He would’ve failed if he had not gotten his hair cut multiple times between the court order and the actual strand test. The judge didn’t seem to care about those things either. I could go on and on… the whole thing was such a traumatic experience that I wouldn’t wish on anyone.
After 2 years of fighting in court and spending thousands of dollars on attorneys, the judge decided to give my ex husband primary custody- even though I had been a SAHM and the primary caretaker of my son through the duration of his life up to that point. And then he took my son and moved in with a woman several states away. It’s been a nightmare. He is a scary person and I am not able to see my son the way I want to because I am still afraid of my ex husband and the drive + hotel is very expensive. He refuses to meet me halfway because he doesn’t even have a car. I am moving closer to family soon and hope to sue for joint custody once it is much harder for him to reach me and I can afford the custody fight.
I am so sorry you’ve had a similar experience. It is the biggest heartbreak. There are few things in this world that are more painful. 💔
@advisorywarning I am sorry for your experience, too. I hope you can safely have more access to your son. I really believe your love for your son is powerful beyond measure. Children know when they are loved, and it goes a long, long way. You are your son's hero and his hope. Keep your head up. Motherhood doesn't end with childhood. You will always be his mom.
God itd just awful..
Calling themselves "protectors" is a great way for them to present a hypothetical as their primary value. They think they don't have to do anything in regular life, as long as they claim they would act a certain way in a crisis... even if it's not true at all.
A crisis that statistically will never happen
@juxtaposebeauty247 exactly.
@felixmae9201 Right, it gives them this false sense of inherent value when they truly don't have it. If they can call themselves "protector" it makes them feel validated.
@@9darshana Exactly! They gave themselves that "title" as "a badge of honour" without even earning it in the first place. It's like if everybody who got in the military automatically received medals (for bravery, for example), just for being accepted in the military, not by proving their worth (bravery) on the battlefield. lol Can you imagine! XD
@@9darshanathat’s actually sad 😢
It is so refreshing heard a man acknowledge this.
The step dad/step daughter story is the reason men do not meet my children. I have all daughters.
Edit: Court ordered visitation with your abuser is absolute insanity. I'm disturbed.
been happening for at least 20 years from my count. that is at LEAST. plz do your research bc i have not done so in years. it was exhausting.
Thank god. Glad your daughter are protected.
You're a good mom, my mom married my stepdad who was a p edo and maid my and my sisters lives hell.
It happened with my own father who popped back into my life at age 12. Nothing physical happened because I hated him so he couldn't manipulate me, but he did everything he could to try. He'd even cry to my mother to get her on his side, saying because it didn't sit on his lap and hang all over him he didn't believe I loved him. She'd try to "explain how he felt" and I told her i didn't gaf, lol
@@EggsOnToastt Oh, eff no. My ex turned out to be a child molester (his young cousins). I kept him away from our kids and was always honest with them that he wasn't safe to be around.
The videos about the daughters that are being SA’d by the husbands is extremely disturbing. So many men would be defending these men and that they’re not SAing the daughters and that the mom is making it up and lying. That’s what the red pill men would be saying. He gets supervised visitation of the daughter?? How does a pedophile have any rights?????? That is INSANE!
Records crime reports proven false prove women lie more. Only 2%of claims of physical abuse have physical evidence. . And after red exposed the big lied men abdanoning their kids. The Moral goal post in breaking up the family completely flipped so still tye man's fault
Oh yes
Abusers and grapists have rights in patriarchy
Insane like they not traumatized enough already
I remember reading about a study that tracked certain families over several years - the families were headed by lesbians. I was struck by the fact that the rate at which the children were subjected to sexual abuse was ZERO.
So, with a female couple heading the household, the kids are safer than they would be with a heterosexual couple. I assume this applies not just to lesbians but also to women who platonically join forces to form a stable household for raising their kids.
Wow!!!
lesbians have the best child stats
reason
bc they plan their pregnancies
If you find the study can you send me the link?
US National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study (NLLFS), the longest-running study ever conducted on American lesbian families;
@@yakimalpiit's easy to find in Google
If you use the key words in OPs komment
You hit the nail on the head... Women should be able to protect not only themselves but the rest of her family.
Why do men have these wild, detailed fantasies about someone breaking into their house and them turning into a Marvel character?
Cuz women are destroying the family unit right? What a joke. lol. Thank you for being honest, introspective, and calling men out!
You make so many excellent observations. I’ve been saying for years, why do we say “one out of four girls” is SA’d instead of “one in 4 men” is likely assaulting a child. It’s a powerful way to focus the narrative on the men, and to also make the “other three” stop and think about how their “protection” is no protection.
thats tno really how that correlation should work
They sacrifice the innocence of girls to preserve the wickedness of men . 😢
Those parents made that 11 year old give birth?!! Jeeeeeeze. Real winners there.
That's SC, they're very religious. I used to live in the Bible belt. Some women in that area, still believe women shouldn't vote.
Sad asl honestly everytime she looks at her child she will remember
Every pregnant child should immediately be reported to the police and Child services right? An 11yo cannot consent to so much as a school field trip, any pregnancy is rape. Doctors are mandated reporters, was there a police report?
@@Southern.Nappinessreligious no excuse for that. I grew up in the Bible belt with fundamentalists, the people who don't grow out of that mentality are simply bad people. It's not because they were raised that way (so was I, and nobody had to tell me it was wrong and evil for me to condemn it.) They see women and girls as property, and if fundamentalist Christianity didn't teach that, they'd cling to any other ideology that does. We need to stop making excuses and blaming people's evil on their religious beliefs, when it's clearly them themselves that are evil. They want to use their religion as the excuse for their evil, but don't let them. They are shitty people, and if they lost all faith tomorrow, they'd still be shitty people.
@@TT_09Since we watched a clip on the bond hearing, I'd say there is one.
Spartans trained their women, and the men were all warriors.
Nowadays they want women to be weak so they can abuse them.
There was a recent study in Australia that found that 30% of adult men are attracted to children….not all will act on these feelings…but the stats are still scary!
I'm 47, and my home has never been broken into.
They always claim to do things that only need to be done once in a lifetime.😂
They think having your home broken into is more common than being assaulted or raped by a man you live with… unbelievably delusional.
@shakwon619 facts!
In France, burglaries are very common. Most of the time, thieves enter while you’re not here or while you’re sleeping and just look for cash money. If you’re a bit rich, they’ll steal the computers. Real home invasions are rare and only rich people are concerned. Here, people are not scared of « home invasions », of course it’s not an enjoyable thing to live but insurances will pay you back your stuff. In my building, after 3 burglaries, we only installed a fake CCTV.
Maybe French people are less scared because in France, most people don’t own guns. One thing is sure, no man will protect your house because he will be snoring and won’t hear anything.
Facts 👌🏾
I've told my daughter that she needs to follow you. Her husband of 19 years and father to their -3- children (11 6 2) left them. He keeps telling her that he's coming back, just to give him time. While he wants my daughter to wait for him, he is dating a drug addicted alcoholic, spending a ton of money on this woman, etc. He treats this other woman like a queen, but his WIFE, never really got anything. She says that she does want him to come home, wants him back and she doesn't know why. I've tried to help her, to talk to her, but I also know that a heart can be stubborn especially if you don't understand it. I've told her to think about WHY she wants him back. She says it's because he was her best friend. Then I asked her, what do best friends do for best friends? She's trying so hard, but her heart and soul are breaking.
She sounds like she was isolated and has low self worth. Could you help her get counselling and help her reconnect with her support system slowly to help build her up? He sounds like a manipulative lovebomber.
Sounds like she's a bit overwhelmed and stuck in a sunk cost fallacy situation, 3 littles and a 20 year marriage is not easy to reroute and reframe. I wish your family well and hope she gets the courage to accept help. She's got to want it and it takes quite a few times sometimes to get out of that abusive dynamic, I hope sooner than later.
She's been brainwashed by a narcissist.
Find her videos that help her understand what's going on.
It's not her fault. She was manipulated.
The person she loves doesn't exist. It was an act
Show her videos of narcissistic ab use.
It's not her fault, she was
skillfully manipulated.
The guy is a con-artist.
The person she fell in love with doesn't actually exist
Because it was all an act
@@TheLisclark Thank you for your advice!!
@@nussknacker9827 Thank you for your advice!!
And now that molesting stepfather is going to start doing that to his biological child. That family is DISGUSTING.
Smh. He groomed and isolated her for over 20 years and now everybody is okay with it because she’s 30 when the relationship is revealed.
I don’t need a man to watch my activities and control what I’m doing to “protect” me. I’m an adult. I’m fully capable of making my own choices, of performing my own risk/reward analysis of any activity I’m going to engage in and choose appropriately. If I make the wrong choice, then, as an adult, I am prepared to accept and deal with the consequences of those choices.
This criminal behavior is normalized. Instead of being outraged by this behavior people are voting these predators into powerful positiobs in our government.
That's how you know it's all of them. They don't have to all do the very same thing. They all just have to do some suspect behavior,
Predators have been in government for years, and we are ALL responsible. Predators come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. So what's your point? Unless you have NEVER vote, you, too, are apart of the problem. 😂😂😂
@@ShielaM-p1w correct! Many identify WITH the abusers.
@@ShielaM-p1w the worst is that it's not just a grape problem. its deeper in mysoginist behavior, normalized sa, seshual harassment, "dark humor", normalized violence that we need to suck it up. i hope we can, - probably in a long time, become an actual egalitarian society, maybe ill be reborn in 6000 years and see the progress.
@user-sg4ov7ng4h yes you're right, it is. It is far worse than that. But you're still being delusional if you think you can create happiness with this amount of males on the planet. I've been studying different parts of societies of different countries and what makes them be as they are, good, bad or ugly and what I've discovered is ALL of them are bad. ALL parts of societies.
The only parts that are good are the propaganda around them. For instance, upper class women have living the life and are lucky. No they are getting it as much as the middle class and poor class women, as long as they are attached to or around a MALE.
I've also studied history and regional conflicts in the middle east, Asia, Africa, and that is important bc they show the rawest form of male nature. Do you know what the Middle East is like? It's far worse than you can imagine based on even the deluge of information we get in the west.
There IS no community or society there. There IS no safety, there IS no good, there IS no happiness. There is only suffering, war, sex, regret, death. And when those males invade western countries.
You would erroneously think "oh it's just Middle Eastern men". No it's not. It's ALL men. ALL of them. That's why those things exist at all in the US too. Africa too, Asia too. I watched a history of Japan and it mirrored exactly what's happening in the Middle East. I also have read and watch history of Romans, Europe, and they mirror exactly what we see in the Middle East
That's why those same things exist where laws don't reach such as the beauty and entertainment, real estate industries - raipe, murder, sx trafficking, drug trafficking fraud, bribery, theft. That's why the US has colonies-bx these males are all the same.
If you remove ALL these bad behaving males in these corporations who are poisoning people and you put in those "good males" who complain about those same corporations, the same exact result is what you will get.
That's why we have even have "countries"-all these males who are power hungry and want to control people, land, resources and have no problem stealing, destroying muhdering, raiping, trafficking and breeding poison in our very environments.
They lack humanity to such a level they don't even understand to not poison the foods!!
What we are experiencing in the US as safety, was a mirage all along, achieved through laws and even with that, there was never any absolute safety. You HAVE heard of American men beheading and burning women? Trafficking them? Creating poison drugs? Trafficking children, guns?? Of cops ignoring crimes by men? And even what little safety we have, it's starting to unravel FAST.
There IS no egalitarianism to be had while they exist, even ONE of them. There is only ONE solution to achieve that egalitarianism, and that is with them not on this plane of existence. As someone who has spent years studying them, THAT is the only solution. Barring that, WOMEN are going to dye in droves and ultimately our extinction will come. Or the entire human race will extinct. We are heading there.
14:37 Absolutely disgusting. Reminds me of Mia Farrow and Woody Allen situation. And I was arguing with people on social media who were ok with Woody Allen and Soon Yi relationship and didn't didn't find any of that weird. Smdh. It just shows me how sick a lot of people are..
So Soon Yi are not allowed to choose ?
@@nelliebly6616 Yes, she was of age, but she was also the daughter of the woman Allen was having a long term relationship with. So, the Woody thinks with his woody. Also, Dylan Farrow has a few things to say about Allen's pedophillic ways. The guy's a scuz.
I never got where the courts favor the women is coming from, the courts only ‘favor’ the women when the men don’t show. This is well documented, if the men bother to show up to court then they have court mandated rights to their children even when their behavior is suspect. On the flip side, the care of children is defaulted to the woman whether she likes it or not. The men have the agency of choice to show up or not, the only requirement placed on men is child support which is a bare minimum of responsibility and is notoriously badly enforced and the man can make the woman jump through hoops to obtain that bare minimum of responsibility, he can require a paternity test, he can make that funding dependent on access to the woman or child. He can make his financial responsibility an extension of his continued ab@se. he can make it so difficult for her, that she forgoes her rights just to break contact. Often the failure to pay child support doesn’t even have consequences on him until he gets in legal trouble for something else. That’s not a system that advantages the woman or child.
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Right answomen being prime art care takers is a advantage to men. It’s an advantage in their career, dating, finances and so much more. They literally don’t raise the child and benefits the most from “raising them” it’s crazy.
I totally agree with your point but I'd like to jump in with another point that is also horrifying. While the vast majority of abuse is committed against children and adults by someone they already but the damage done by strangers is also shocking. The men who do these things don't stop and will keep doing it until forced to stop by law or death. But the strangers who attack women can destroy dozens of lives or more because they are compelled to be terrible. To illustrate, when one of the cities in the Midwest finally went through their backlog they found that ONE MAN was responsible for more than 60+ grapes over a several year period and a large area. How many women were attacked because the police didn't feel like processing the evidence? I think the ages ranged from Very young teen to post menopausal. Those women and girls have lost all sense of safety and no one felt the need to avenge their suffering not even to talk about protecting them so it never happened at all after the first.
I'm sorry this is so disjointed but I'm listening to the video and trying to type at the same time and it's very upsetting of course.
Many years ago, while out shopping at a mall for Christmas gifts, & was SA'ed by an enormous 14 yr old kid with learning disabilities. The person that was supposed to keep an eye on him didn't, & he got away. I managed to wrestle myself away, looking at all the people in the mall just staring at me. Not one person came to help me. I drove across the street to another store to try & relax, but, that effing kid somehow came across the street with allegedly whomever this mystery person was that drove him there literally 5 minutes of my entering that store. So now I'm being stalked, & he was so quiet, he was right behind me, & just stared at me! I went to the front desk & reported what was going on, & to have a guard hold him, or remove him, so police could come get him. But as I was saying this to the desk lady, he walked out, & I pointed him out to her. She said, "Oh...I know him. He's been in a place that supposed to be helping him with these issues. He's done it a lot." Then she filled me in on the rest, & I called the police, & they didn't want to come to talk with me since he took off & was gone, even after I said the lady at the desk knows him, & I needed to file a report for S.A. She told me to call back the next day, they couldn't do anything for me. I was nearly crying hysterically, called my boyfriend & told him what happened, & how upset I was, & wanted him to come to where I was because I was too nervous to drive. He said, "What do you want me to do about it? There's nothing I can do." Not only was I astounded by people in the mall not helping me & just watching him nearly strip me naked, & no mall security was around....not only astounded the cops wouldn't help me....but my own MUTHAF***IN BOYFRIEND, who EXPECTED me to buy him a Christmas gift that day, wouldn't say, "Oh no, how horrible! I'm so sorry, I'll be right there in ten minutes." NOBODY FELT A VERY STRONG, OVERSIZED 14 YR OLD MENTALLY CHALLENGED MALE WITH RAGING HORMONES, GRABBING ME LIKE TRUMP, TRYING TO RIP MY SHIRT OFF WAS WORTH ANY OF THEIR TIME TO MAKE A CONCERTED EFFORT IN SOME WAY TO STOP THIS AND CONSOLE ME!!! At least the desk lady tried to help in some way. But even that wasn't enough to fix that problem. I should've went home, packed as much of my stuff into my car, & drove 135 miles back to my mom's place. And this is probably one of MANY horrible accounts I've dealt with from men that allegedly loved me, or, just random strangers, has me single, & NOT feeling wonderful about it. I try to remain hopeful my true love will be with me soon, to be the right kind of man I need.
@@Dark_HarmonyI'm so sorry. That's absolutely horrible.
@@suzannemcvicker617 Thanks.
Men also do not realize coercion is not consent. The number of men that are guilty of SA is a lot higher than they're willing to admit even to themselves.
Putting men in charge of protecting women is as laughable as putting lions in charge of protecting gazelle.
I raised myself right from little and i became my own protector and it created this woman that I am today ❤. I love myself ❤
I have been saying exactly what you have been saying for years. I’m glad to hear a man say it. Many people will not hear these things unless a baritone voice says it. But yes, I have never been protected by any man not my father, not my brother not my friends not my husband. Never. The people who have protected me up in women. Even publicly thank you for speaking the truth.
Medieval knights used to leave the defense of their castles to their wives when they were absent. As did the Japanese samurai. They didn't need to protect their wives personally because said wives were trained and could rely on the same soldiers/warriors their husbands did rely on.
What we all need to protect, are small children. But rest assured most women will do anything to protect their children, no matter how bad the odds. The most dangerous bear isn't Papa Bear, it's Mama Bear.
My daughter said today "Men take you out on the ocean like they know where they're going and then get lost and leave you to drown."
Hercules killed his wife and children no protector thete
I bet the only work at home these 'protectors' do is dream of ways to protect. Then they call that work.
So tell me men, why does every women have a story?
I think this is funny strictly because most men will come back with a "yeah this woman hurt me because she rejected me" or "yeah i wanted children but she didn't so i felt like i wasted my life with her"
Easily fixed with some communication, but nope. It's not even entirely their fault most of the time, the education system just really needs to be reworked and contain BETTER more informational things than just MATH. So much shit that could be avoided if education was better, and if the government wasn't so shitty.
I love the men in my life, but tbh, they weren't the ones that protected me. I did.
The few time I felt threatened in the public transportation, it was by a man and every time, a woman came to the rescue. The men around only wanted to "mind their own business" , or did not perceive the threat. I have discussed this with other women and I am not the only one in this situation. As a young woman, I also recall going to the rescue of a youg men who was bullied by 3 men. I simply went by his side, held his arm and pretended we were together and it worked. Not that I was strong enough to defend him but the simple fact he was no longer alone was enough. Nobody else reacted.
Thank you for sharing the last woman's story, Pub, because honestly, I may not have seen it otherwise.
Tic toc isn't real .its an Algorithm
@@Ellis-t4y do not reply to botz. idk y women keep wasting their time doing this.
Great point Pub. Men never think that we might need protection from the very men we are friends with or family with. Its always sum mythical rando man.
That is the most insulting thing for a man to say, "It's in your best interest." Excuse me, sir, I believe I'm an adult
A mother can lose her children if she continues to allow the kids abuser or her abuser to be around (I am in agreement that the abuser needs to stay gone), but the courts turn around and make it a requirement that these same fathers/dv abusers (and others, who have not been caught/proven or ones who have not abused) have access to their children and will punish the women for contempt if they dont produce the children. I am just pointing out the different standards held for women and men.
i studied this for years more than a decade ago. is it still happening?
@ra1nydr0ps The Patriarchy is still alive and kicking!!!
But more she is the abusing man cases women lie about abuse from father so they can abuse the kids till find another man to abuse .but off course pub Made that up about proximity on the stop
Physical abuse leads physical evidence its proof women lie more
The likelihood of a guy actually being around and helping you out of a tough spot is like 0.006%. I'd much prefer it if the man protected me from himself.
it's funny because a lot of men I've been with think they're the protectors. Usually they don't want to investigate the noises, its always the me. I'm the protector time and time again.
6:16 yeah, why are men so anti-water? I've met some that are anti-fruits AND vegetables. Like, how tf are you still alive? You haven't eaten a nutrient basically ever???? 😳
Yup I had a man happily tell me he doesn’t eat vegetables
Some diets are carnivore or animal based, as humans can’t digest fiber themselves and absorption of plant based food isn’t optimal in the human body. I had digestive issues until I cut out fiber and haven’t eaten a single vegetable in many years. Every vitamin and mineral existing is found in animal food. Vegans and vegetarians are way more prone to having deficiencies, like fat soluble vitamines like vitamin A and vitamin B12.
Most are against basic hygiene, too. Making us sick
Many men don’t take care of themselves don’t go tot he doctor
@@desiree2086 Fiber is extremely important to most peoples gut and bowel health, so I don't recommend giving that misinformation out willy nilly that humans "can't digest fiber". If you want to be specific, it's INSOLUBLE fiber we shouldn't be digesting, like grass...... things like fruits and nuts contain DIETARY fiber, that IS important to colon health and gut bacteria.
Men run a protection racket.
These men describe themselves as my father. But I’m a 38-year-old woman who doesn’t need a father. I already have one and I can call him at any second. I don’t need you watching everything I do to make sure that it’s conducive to my safety. I’m 38 years old. I’ve been living this long without you trust and believe I’m not gonna choke on a toy or trip over my own feet. I need a man to be my man not my father.
I was young and living alone in a flat on the top floor of a building over two businesses. One afternoon I had gone out for coffee with a woman I worked with and met her boyfriend and his partner. They were both policemen. That night a knock came at my door and standing there was the partner. I was stunned as I had not given him my address. I managed to keep him from entering my place and he left. The next night, he returned. This time I told him not to come back. He continued this for 2 weeks, every night coming to my door and by that time I was sitting inside in the dark pretending I wasn't home. I didn't know what to do. How could I phone the police and report one of their officers? Who would they believe (I was 19)? Eventually I learned from the woman who introduced us that he had gone out of the country on a vacation with his wife and when he returned he gave up his stalking routine. To say this quashed my whole idea that men could be protectors was an understatement and from that day forward, I no longer believed the myth.
At least the bear only kills you
I'd much rather be killed than r worded
And bears dont tend to want or try to kill humans, so there is that.
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Fr. Only dealt with black bears growing up but they just minded their business.
My question is why did they allow a 11 year old to put her life at risk by having a rapist baby? Are yew serious about this?
Girls so young usually don’t know they’re pregnant , they’re often already 5-8 months along before it’s discovered
This was my thought, too. It's absolutely disgusting on top of the already horrible acts from that creature.
Yes! That is so disgusting. Poor girl.
The bias toward 50/50 custody awarded by the courts is the worst thing that has happened to women and children in the legal space
The idea of men as 'protectors' began when there were actual things to be protected from (that were not other men), like lions and bears. Because a man might protect a woman from that, but not protect ALL women from that, they started thinking of the one they protected as 'their' woman. Which carried over into the patriarchal society where they began to pose as protectors against other men. "Stick with me and that bad guy won't claim you instead." But it's much easier to 'protect' if you also control. So they came to believe they should control women also. Then they didn't even have to punish the bad guys any longer because any bad things happening to the woman became HER fault for slipping her 'protector's' control. And because the bad guys were never held accountable, it became something less 'bad' in men's minds and just something that 'some men do.' You can hear that lack of 'badness' when you listen to men talk about how younger women are better, how they wait until a child turns 18 (because the only thing holding them back - at least from what they say in public - is the law), and how they focus on the rare false rape reports instead of the plentiful true ones.
Lies.
Men would be protecting the woman from another men. Same happens with chimps and lions.
A male protecting a female is a way for him to protect his bloodline because other males might kill the offspring and mate with the female
Men weren't there protecting women from lions and bears. Humans always lived in tribes so protection from wild animals was usually done in group but rarely happened.
What do you think war defense is now? Males protecting their territory (resources and females) from other males.
I’ve just found you today, watched a couple videos (I will get to them ALL). Thank you, thank you, thank you for harping on the point that it’s usually people they know, and making tge obvious statement/connection that the math is simple - the sheer volume of SA means every man has a friend, relative or acquaintance who has committed SA. Nobody else ever says this!! You are my hero. Thank you. I am crying.
I’m up Santa-ing my ass off about to die of exhaustion but enjoying listening while I wrap
@QueenL3606 hugs 🫂 and be careful shopping, and I hope you are able to relax.
Why? Are your children little?