Whenever they make a big deal about it, I ask what they do for their fathers, grandfathers, uncles, friends, etc. on that day. They don't care about fathers day either. They just want us (women) to make a big deal about it. It's basically just more "oh he's such an amazing dad" because he changed one pamper or posted a picture with his kid bs.
One of my daughters used a photo of a horses butt for her profile picture on Facebook. Someone told him and he had a fit. She left it up. It's been 25-30 years since the kids saw their sperm donor.
I as a single mother raising 2 sons by myself we celebrated (mother's Day) and ( Mather's Day) a mother's take over of father's day because the father didn't even care about his son's. He pretended they didn't exist.
I truly feel that men who abandon their children and then try to come back into their lives as adults is because the father is either getting old, has little to no friends, has low funds, or is ill. Also, he no longer has to have the responsibility of parenting (and all that comes with it) as they are an adult now.
I think it’s solely the last part for sure combined with either of the other things you mentioned. They don’t have to do any work, but want any and all of the glory.
_I agree Maceo, BM who are absentee FAthers don't want the responsibility for their children. They blame the Mother and say the Mother was cheating so they don't have to take the children or pay child support I see that on BM on Divorce Court Channels, and then BM smirks as if they get away with it hoping the child will overlook the decades of absentee behaviors which generally doesn't happen! _*_Most BM die alone without any support from their children who they abandoned_*
These men abandon their kids, so his kids should have that same energy to treat their father like a mistake and non-existent. Pathetic men abandoned helpless children. Then have the nerve to complain about how they were or weren't raised.
Rodman...to his kids and the mother of his children: You are using me for my money. Rodman: Spend money on random women, parties and drugs. People who cares nothing for him..Make it, make sense.
The fathers come back after the mothers have made all the sacrifices and put in all the work to raise their children. The fathers come back when the children are successful or rich. Or when the fathers feel their mortality and they are coming to that age where they need family to CARE for and SUPPORT THEM in their old age. The children are just another commodity to be used for their, that is the father’s, benefit and his benefit only!!!
@@beardpapa12And even when they are granted child support. How much of it gets paid? How many avoid work because of garnishing just to avoid paying to support the children?
They walk out then come back later trying to dodge that financial responsibility. Plus when they get older and less women want them, they come trying to tug on the heartstrings of the kids, especially the daughters
I think children of abandoned or abusive parents need to develop a strong indifference towards their parents. The other range of emotions like resentment, bitterness and even disgust will only play on the child’s psyche. Let the parent carry the entire burden of shame and disappointment themselves.
Agreed. My mom always wanted us to be as angry as her, and I understand why, she had to do everything for everyone on her own and that's just not fair. But what she doesn't understand is that the reason we don't even think about him is because she fulfilled our every need. We didn't feel we were missing anything...
As a child of a father who abandoned me and my siblings, yeah, I don't care anymore either. When I was a kid, yes, I did care. As an adult, I don't need or want him in my life at all. He is just a sad, pathetic man who pushed his own kids away by his own actions.
Men want the light that women build, their children build, anyone but them, builds. My ex is the same. He did NOTHING to help raise our son as "he had to work" but when my son graduated HS, and now has gone on to one of the Top 5 colleges for his choose profession (A very tough and rigorous program that many fail), guess who showed up for the light? He didn't even know, when his son was choosing a college, all of the work our son and myself put into weight the pros and cons, looking at each program, talking to current and former students, and the most important, what did our son WANT. He had no clue and was even shocked when our son choose the college he did. The want to do NO work and reap the sweet rewards.
Men after 50/60 suddenly start caring about a lot of things. But then it is too late. That's what happens when you live for superficial things your entire life.
Andropause, men's menopause and starting from 40s for some men. Those funeral bells gets too hard to ignore and they try to grab at life desperately, some wants to secure their kids "paychecks" and some divorces their spouses to creep on 20s or 30s years old women.
Another thing I see is the father’s wanting to come back into the children’s lives after the children no longer care to have them around. Now they wanna impart some kind of wisdom and play a role that they no longer fill. It’s really sad to see.
I said to my dad," As a child, i did not care if you were the poorest man in the world. All i needed was you the person to be present". I needed to be able to crack jokes with my dad and talk about things without fear of being shouted at or called names. I was terrified of him and would hide from him. This mans called me spoilt!!!! I gave up on that relationship. He was physically present in the home but disconnected in every single way. It was always about his ego. The result of this behaviour is that i love my step-mum more than the father i share blood with. My step-mum raised me from a tender age, she was a strict parent but also balanced it out with a show of pure love and care. I'm a full grown adult past my 20s and i cry with joy everytime i think about how my step-mum loves and care for me. If i ever lose her, my whole world will shut down!!!!
It's so strange to me that some parents feel that their child wanting a loving and affectionate parent or being emotional available is being spoiled. I'm glad you had your stepmother, though.
My mom is my ride or die, but I too love my step mom more than I do my father. Even my mom loves my step mom because she always showed that she loved me and now my kids without overstepping. My mom says my step mom is too good for my father, which she is.
Honestly, I would have rather lived in a car with just my mom than have her stay married to my father. She was so hard-working and I believe that the two of us, working together, would have climbed out of that with less damage than what occurred by her staying. But she stayed because she was afraid to be a single mom, even when he lost HIS job, and she was supporting all of us. Such a waste...
Well to be fair, he made it clear in his fame that he was a deeply fuqed up person…and he was abused pretty badly so, he can’t give what he didn’t get. But it does really suck for her…like damn.
@@amberlisa7365I was raised in a situation where I didn't get what I needed and yet here I am giving it to my children. Men can heal themselves too, they just don't want to and society doesn't expect them to. Trauma is a reason, not an excuse.
Because we're more willing to sacrifice. I gave up my goals and dreams to be a good mom, and I don't regret it, my kids and I are extremely close. I didn't get to travel at all, go on any vacations, I went to a club with my friends maybe two times throughout their childhood, and again I don't regret it because my kids and I were home on weekends playing charades, having pillow fights, etc. We created so many fun and funny memories and when we get together we reminisce and fall out laughing. I had a lot of fun with my babies, I didn't feel like I missed out on any of those things. Now, that all my teens are getting ready for college, I can pursue my dreams and goals. I can travel, but I'll probably always try to include them in my travel plans, they're my bffs.
22:22 - I say this to all the goofy dudes that ask why does a woman keep allowing him to come back? Why do you keep coming back if you aren’t going to do right? Just go.
I think those men believe that they’re not in control of their actions, and they can’t imagine not putting the blame on women. It’s infuriating and scary there are grown men who behave this way, and it’s not just some men, it feels like it’s almost most or the majority.
so much of this resonates with me. i remember when my father was like 'You have to respect me." i said something like 'i don't respect any man that puts his hands on a woman. and especially hands on my mother.'. that was his first attempt to get back in my life then the most recent second attempt he crashed out fully. acting like a 17 year old who doesnt want to look bad lol. i was like 'whatever helps you sleep at night because I know who you really are.'
My parents divorced when I was young, mostly because he was abusive to my mother. Growing up, he did the bare minimum for his kids just so he could say he did something. Now he wants the same credit that functional fathers deserve. I've thanked him for what he has done, but, he gets mad because I won't give him more credit than that.
One of my best friend's dad came back into the picture because he was old and sick. She asked about all of the back child support he owed. (We now in our 50's.). He laughed and told her the check was in the mail. She chose to allow him back into her life after decades. I would not have. I tend to be more logical and pragmatic and believe that in order for civilization to function properly, folks need to face consequences. I know what seems unrelated, but it makes sense to me. Everyone must pay their dues.
I agree with you. Old Men need to be accountable, so The Young Men ser this and know that once he abandoned his family there's no coming back. But most women always alow Men doing shit and coming back, they dont feel nothing because women always forgive and forget. Lets start acting like Men.
@@lcct635Women always forgiving and forgetting is why men still ain’t worth a dam. Women don’t hold men accountable. I believe women are the first cause and their actions are what makes the world go round.
Newport beach is old money. They usually have more money than Bevery Hills, they just don't flash it. They are holding it in investments and trusts. Generational wealth.
Growing up, I felt so torn because my dad only ever shared his side of their relationship, making me believe my mom was having a big affair. In reality, he’d already had multiple emotional affairs long before I even understood what an affair was. When my mom finally started seeing someone else, his reaction made it seem like she was breaking his heart, but he’d already ruined their marriage himself. It wasn’t until I heard her full story that I understood why she did what she did. She shared how he had hidden a second phone in trees and talked to other women inappropriately. If someone did that to me, I’d go feral, too. Despite everything, she kept going, supporting us as a single mom with barely any child support-sometimes not even that. Her strength and resilience are incredible. I don’t blame her at all. If he didn’t love her, he could have just left her alone. All those MLM scams he got involved in were just another way to avoid responsibility. He was an adult and should have known better. I was too young to see those scams as a kid, but he was an adult who should’ve recognized the signs. It’s hard not to feel let down by his choices-especially when he had the skills and experience to do something more stable. It’s frustrating to think about all those opportunities that seemed lost because of those choices. When it came to parenting, it always felt like he was trying to raise us via text messages. I don’t understand why he is surprised that we want nothing to do with him now. The lack of genuine, meaningful interaction made it hard to connect and build a real relationship. It’s like he was only there in bits and pieces, without being fully present. That kind of parenting doesn’t really cut it when it comes to forming any sort of meaningful bond. I’m not saying he had to live with us, but showing up only four times a year and calling that “co-parenting” just doesn’t cut it. Taking us shopping doesn’t make up for the everyday presence and connection we needed. It’s hard to feel like he was genuinely involved in our lives when the interactions were so infrequent and surface-level. Co-parenting means being there consistently, not just showing up occasionally for the fun stuff. I have major phone anxiety because of him. He was always phone obsessed-conference calls, multiple-hour phone conversations with random people several nights a week. After the divorce, he only ever called, expecting us to have so much to say, but when he was met with our silence because everything was so awkward to us as children and because we really didn’t do anything outside of school, we didn’t have much to tell him or update him with. He would get upset when we would stop talking, and now I don’t ever want to pick up the phone. He now lives across the street from the church I regularly attend, which is less than 5 miles away from where i live. Im now married and have a daughter of my own and he still thinks the only way to parent is via text messages. Ive seen him irl twice in the last 5 years, am i in the wrong for not answering the texts anymore??
Nah, that was his choice not to put in the effort to reconnect with you and take accountability for his actions. He was so close to you physically by being near your church, and he only has seen you twice in five years. You own him nothing and he doesn't deserve your peace and access to you.
Beware that the mother may have full custody during the years of vaccinations, flus, tantrums, daily grind of food prep, laundry, doctors, dentists, schools and more. Of course she has very low earning power. The father goes and gets his doctorate or law decree, buys a bigger house, new wife, and maybe a baby boy. Your kids are now at a fun age for sports! The father comes to take full custody. The judge agrees that the father has more advantages and more to offer the boys than the woman who raised them. Devastating tragedy for the mother who sacrificed her looks, and earning power and has her children ripped away from her.
I've seen this happen but I've also seen the judge deny custody as well. Men usually make more money than the women and so if they fight for custody, they usually win. Oftentimes when the man doesn't get custody, it's because the man isn't a good dad or he doesn't want the kids so he doesn't do what he needs to do with court processing. Women are left basically homeless and need to move in with a friend or family after a divorce, especially if the man doesn't want to help her out. Then he takes the kids because he has the finances and home plus, the kids are already in a school they like. It's actually hard to see because kids usually want the mom.
The men like to wait until they have a new wife so she can be the primary care provider for the kids when he gets custody. If he were alone, he would never try to get custody. He gets married to somebody else and then all of a sudden he wants to start talking about how the ex-wife is such a bad mother even though he never complained about that before. If he thought she was such a bad mother then why did he leave her alone to take care of the kids by herself for so long rarely ever even coming to visit them??? If he thinks the kids are in bad hands he would have wanted custody a long time ago, not only once it was convenient for him.
It’s hard to believe people love/like you for you if you’re not treating them well. It’s natural to think they have an ulterior motive. Be the kind of person you would want to be around.
My father was in and out. And he was very abusive physically when present. To this day he cries literal tears claiming how my mom kept me from him. He’s hit both me and my mother yet nothing is his fault only my mom. I grew up hearing that so when I hear men say a woman keeps her children away from him, I got questions and often time I’ve been berated or told to drop it when I start asking them. Truth is men and their enablers don’t like when the unspoken is said aloud. As an adult, I don’t give a damn. I live my life with dignity so there is nothing that can be said about me I’d be offended or embarrassed by. It’s not hard.
She was going to be in the news without him and he couldn't let that happen. He showed up for the photo op and then bounced when the cameras stopped flashing.
I say..if you're going to disappear then disappear, never to be seen or heard from again. BUT when a so-called Parent, intentionally plays mental & emotional games with the children, that's pretty sick & sinister!! Very manipulative, disgusting, and done purposely. Everyone knows how they wouldn't want to be treated, yet forget that feeling when they're the perpetrator? BS! Forgiveness is overrated! Yes unpack, deal with it, go to therapy, ect. But forgive?🤔 Ahhhh😒
That you for sharing your story of fathers coming in and out of children’s lives. I cried so hard when my father would do this to me. I am holding back tears now. They do not see the thousands of cuts and wounds on your psyche and the infection of low self esteem that festers for years.
23:11 your growth is shown in the way you intelligently and matter of factly expressed your father wound. I’ve never heard a man express his pain so openly like this.
A little context for folks: Beverly Hills Median Home Sold Price $3.5M and Newport Beach Median Home Price $3.9M. So living in your car in that neighborhood must have been rough. The kids may have blocked out all of the micro-aggressions that they experienced. I'm so sorry that he keeps abandoning her over and over again. I finally had to let my deadbeat dad go - it's safer for me that way.
Getting old. They don't have anybody real. If they were happy, successful, and living a fulfilling life, those kids most likely wouldn't hear from them.
@@Morgan24_7 Thinking that someone is happy, successfully living a fulfilling life when they’ve abandoned their kids is diabolical.😳 Their soul(if they have one) is always vexed. They live in an alternate reality, grappling with a serious case of cognitive dissonance.
@FreeBirdee I don't believe that. Everybody doesn't have the standard parts that a human should have. No conscience. Don't tell me you love someone or care, but you aren't there. You have to have a heart, and they never really seem to grow one until they've killed the kids.
My father left my mother when I was five to go play step daddy to some other tramps kids. I did forgive him, and showed him grace before he died, it was sad, but you cant miss something you never had..😩🤷🏾♀️
That man never loved that woman! That young girl needs to come to terms with the fact that man did not give two s***s about the mom or the children. I’m not surprised he’s always been a pos.
Pub hitting it out the park with this one. I used to struggle with the same issues of not thinking I had anything to offer besides my utility. I could never see myself as someone deserving of actually be loved and cared for. It took so much work to be able to see myself as more than just an instrument to be used and once I had no more value, I could be discarded. I guess what helped me is that I knew what it felt like to deal with that so I never wanted anyone else to feel the same.
First off, it’s strange to see how she looks like her dad but she beautiful as hell at the same time lol But anyway Dennis Rodman been ain’t shit and the chasing the money crap IMO is an excuse to not be there because it’s funny how they manage to do what they want to do while neglecting their children. It’s like they just see children as an accessory and just something you’re supposed to have….
The absentee fathers are going on 1. Honor your mother/father 2. The now adult children are desperate for a relationship with the absentee parents they will turn a blind eye to being abandoned. 3. They are old, sick, busted, and broke they are of no use to whoever they were with.
All my family, and my daughter’s father played d1 sports. I told my bd not think he can show up when she’s on tv. She five… I had to get it out the way early. I’d shut the entire arena DOWN if he’d ever try to pull a Dennis Rodman
Ooh, complicated family feelings! My dad went to prison for posession of CP, and that really soured every hug. And apparently my twin sister and I was an experiment to see if my mom would have trouble carrying to term like her mom did, and in my brain, when I learned that, it explained when our dad said that we weren't planned, and he thought mom was trying to baby trap him, even though SHE said we were, and dad was kind of controlling and hid her car keys. He wasn't a factor in her decision making, it was entirely her wanting to know, and not bothering to get checked.
My ex showed up when my daughter made it to dental school to push drugs on her... Sometimes they show up specifically to destroy any advancements made so they dont feel alone on their loser level.
I feel like this with my father. Its crazy because I’ve tried to rekindle a relationship with my father all my life but I’ve just had to just deal with him when I FEEL like it & the majority of my life I don’t FEEL like it.
How is it that I watch all these videos by psychologists etc and it doesn't make me feel any better but literally 5min into one of yours I feel so validated and seen? Thank you for what you do ☺️
I wonder if part of the reason is because they can’t live with the feeling, going into old age, of the image of who they really are as a father, neglectful.
Dennis Rodman lived a wild lifestyle. We saw 👀 it in real time. Rodman is a very damaged and traumatized man. He couldn't be a father and partner because he didn't have those skills.
omg i am nearly at NC with my own parents and I relate so so hard with the bit where she said she can't even bear to listen to his voice because I am like that with my parents too. they be sending those voice messages and I ignore and delete them because it triggers an immediate anxiety panic. I've had to block them in the past because they bombarded my phone with nasty voice messages just verbally attacking me and now, every time I see a voice message from them, I can't get over that hurdle to open it. I am a little better when it is just text and I can read it in my head with a monotone and if I don't like it, can just delete it. These parents really do try to pry their way back into your life and expect you to just put the past behind you. Every time you say "no thanks" they be pulling out that victim card when they are the one bringing the rainclouds and ruining your day just by reminding you about the scars they gave you, which you still have to carry for the rest of your life.
Bad ppl in your life always gaslight situations. Whatever the problem is, they are going to flip it around to someone did something wrong instead of just being straight honest. One thing I know is you can’t change the past. We can acknowledge it and move forward with better intentions or just keep it moving.
My dad came back after my stepfather reported him to the IRS for working under the table and not paying taxes. Then when he was asked for child support, he wanted 50/50 custody just to avoid financial responsibility. He ignored me when I was rhere, and never paid for anything. Mom always took me to doctors or dentists, and paid for insurance, although she made much less.
I never understood why so many people equate love with material things. But everyone learns by example, which can be good or bad. I was *super* lucky to grow up in a household with both parents who were absolutely devoted to each other and me and my sister. We weren't always financially stable and dealt with a lot of other problems, but the *love* was always loudly and proudly proclaimed in so many non-monetary ways. I think that's a reason why I have never had a problem proclaiming my love for people in my life. Some of my friends were not as lucky and didn't really understand at first that my love for them doesn't have terms or conditions or require anything in return. Love, whether romantic, platonic, familial, or otherwise, should never be transactional.
Ive yet to meet a rich person that isn't super paranoid. They'll try to give you things. If you accept, they'll suddenly be suspicious. Even 20 yrs in, their insecurities can be triggered. It's why I generally don't accept any gifts unless they get something out of it, like my company on vacation.
My father came back right before I was 17 and convinced me to live with him cuz me and my mom had been having a rough time and I was vulnerable to his lies... Then I had to deal with him and hia current wife trying to make me hate my mom the whole time I was there. He tried to tell me my mother misused child support like I hadn't watched that woman work multiple jobs more than once just to ensure we could have the basic comforts and decent neighborhoods and even then still needed help making sure we got everything...while my stepmom tried to basically paint my mom as having got in the way of her and my father being together... needless to say I left as soon as I could and I haven't spoken to him since...
Some parents abandon their children by taking leave. Others are there physically but make their kids wish there was such a thing as "divorcing your parents". And some manage to do both.
I agree. I can't be around my parents without it impacting me negatively. Then again, I'm disabled bc they first forced me to give birth after refusing to let me take birth control and then didn't care about my pain leading to system CRPS aka the worst form of the world's most painful condition. It isn't the past. I'm living it every single day. They want to pretend it isn't their fault or isn't so much as occurring. Nope, I'm out.
Dennis Rodman's father, Philander Rodman, reportedly had 29 children with 16 different women. While some of his children may live in the Philippines, another over the United States."
Rich people's whole identities becomes wealth. They want everyone to want what they have or where's the ego? The downside is now they think everyone is out to get their money. This is why rich people usually date rich people. Which is weird bc thus far the only people I've ever seen try and scam money from a rich person is another rich person. No, while someone so in the public eye absolutely has more to worry about than your avg billionaire, it's always far, FAR less than men want to believe.
I'd prefer one to leave and stay away not pay child support etc. then have one use the court system and take the child away to continue to abuse you. I've been dealing with post separation abuse through the courts for a decade. My daughter used to be a secure healthy happy little girl and now she's a completely different person. She's brainwashed, depressed, anxious, overeats, addicted to video games, being taught not to have boundaries.
My son found that out the hard way. My ex broke up when my kids were small. He got married very soon after and had her moved in right away. I had to get child support taken from his checks because he didn't pay for the first year. Fast forward and the kids are 14 and 16. Their dad has 8 other kids with his wife and no longer wants child support taken from his check. Always complaining they are broke, but yet keep popping out kids. They take me to court for custody after the kids decide they don't want to play mom and dad for their brothers and sisters and that their dad only uses them in the summers so he and his wife can have a break and go off. My daughter had more anger than my son and he was more forgiving and wanted to build a relationship. My ex takes me to court for custody. Kids are old enough to choose. My daughter chose me, my son wanted to give his father a chance. It's been two years and my son has decided he doesn't like his father and the only reason he wanted him there was as a slave and a second income. He turns 18 in March and can come home.
28:00 this right here hit home. I always joke around about my dad having a “sophisticated dr*g problem” 🌨️❄️….its funny and sad all at the same time 🫣…I hope Dennis leaves Trinity entirely alone. Continuing to break her heart is continued ab*se
A few things: (1) I feel ALL of this. My father is a self-involved narcissistic man-child. He spent zero time, all things considered, with me or my younger brother when we were children, unless he had to "for appearances". He'd come to awards ceremonies for Boy Scouts or for sports (until high school--that "man" never once attended an awards banquet after my parents divorced in 8th grade), maybe make a token experience for a play, but he would make zero effort to actually do more than a token picture. Shoot, he only went to either of my graduations because he was in the area--because it was convenient for him--he didn't even watch my brother graduate from high school or college. He shows up for our weddings, for an hour--you know, for the picture. I used to see him doing the same "once a year, maybe for 15 minutes" crap with my kids, and I watch my girls get so happy granddad said hi, and I'd think "maybe now---maybe now that there are these two grandkids he will see what he's missing and make an effort". Then I'd have to explain for 5 months to both of them why "granddad" (their name for him, which I started, because his father--"granddad" to me--was a nasty man who treated me like crap for most of his life I knew him) wasn't around or calling them. It broke my heart--HE WOULDN'T EVEN USE FACETIME TO SAY HELLO. I recently told him not to bother contacting them--or me--if he wasn't going to actually continue to be involved in their lives like a grandparent should be. My brother still comes up with excuses for him, and I can't understand it. (2) I used to love Dennis Rodman as a young kid. I was not the best shooter, but I was exceptional on defense and with rebounding, so Dennis Rodman was the person I'd watch in the NBA and whose jerseys I wore. When I heard about how he was as a man--not just the crappy husband/partner/father he was, but as a man--I was ashamed I had loved an athlete who was as terrible as my dad--only famous.
When we tracked down some lost siblings (different mom) in 2020 my dad was demanding their contact info with full entitlement as if he didn't have access to the same social media we used to find them. The youngest had already hit his 20s. It's unanimous that Mr Sprm Spender ain't sht to any of us.
It sucks that she experiences this especially with a father with so many resources. I observe the father wound is real. He didn't know his father so continues the cycle. Living in a car when you should have the money not to. Yes it is abusive behavior. She learns young though which is good. I learn in my 30s too. And hearing this and you talk validates my experience with my father, so much to say. Maybe I will make a video too. I could say a lot but a lot of this tracks for me. Yes many wounds are harder to heal than one. You even use the word I use, "wound". My father didn't know his father and was raised by another person who was essentially a father. And more, as I learn about relatives' stories too. I am 38 and understanding now how to speak, late, late, late. It is wonderful you have a platform and can articulate your pain. That his daughter articulates her feelings. I think articulating things is the start to transformation of the experience and the generational wound/inheritance. Thanks, such a validating video. Dennis Rodman, hmmmm 😔.
My dad asking us for money to try and save his failed business. I told my mom to tell him I could afford to pay his building out 3x and the answer is no. I wanted him to know it’s not that I don’t have the money, oh I have the money just none for you.
His family using him but goes into the street to get used by strangers. I’m sorry but men can miss me with that BS. Working class men have the same thoughts and actions. My ex husband did not want to be the man of our family but created another one he did not mind being one for. All types of excuses why and this is why he is now lonely and complaining about me leaving. I did most of the work and made the most money never made him feel less and still had that result. Never again. Waste of a decade and when he was ready to change it was too little and too late.
How the fuck do I feel so seen in this video? My father was that type of guy who would be gone all the time for work, leave at 5 am and return at 5pm. But, he would never be present while he was home. On top of him being misogynistic, "that's not what girls do" ect. Plan camping trips, but would tell us to fuck off on our bicycles. One of the last deep wounds he gave was telling me as an awkward, overweight 17-yr old "why i can't be like her" and pointed to a girl I had a low-key crush on in high-school. Mind you, i was never a bad child and made Honor Roll all the time. It turned out to be one of the last things he said to me before he died of cancer later that year. I couldn't even fake cry. The only thing that changed was it got quieter and money got tight, but that's it. I'm not even gonna get into all the fucked up stuff he and mom co-signed on what they did to my little sister. It took being separated from my mom at 31 (and her death the next year), going to therapy, and anti-depressants for a while, to sort that garbage out.
I’m sorry but your wife and kids can’t use a husband/dad for their money. Night be a hot take but I believe that, at that point, it’s not using, it’s you providing.
Listening to the story from the host, l feel like there was some either drugs or mental health issues at play. The moments or the times where he would show up for the good moments. Clean sober, aware. Whatever. The disappearances were the not so good, relapses, mental health issues. I'm not saying that this is always the case but it is in some of them. Parents would rather disappoint their children by being absent than to show up, look or disappointment in their kids faces. The Dennis rodman situation. I have no clue. I never followed him or his career. I didn't even know he had children. 😂 Wow! I was about to post this when I heard the ending where she says he's an alcoholic. I knew there was some type of substance abuse going on. It's very sad regardless.
29:40 Lol 🤣 Stop trying for god’s sake it doesn’t do anything for us except triggering our emotions!!! 🤬 I think they do that to feel good about themselves. It has nothing to do with us!!!
And men wonder why Father’s Day isn’t celebrated as much as Mother’s Day
Whenever they make a big deal about it, I ask what they do for their fathers, grandfathers, uncles, friends, etc. on that day. They don't care about fathers day either. They just want us (women) to make a big deal about it. It's basically just more "oh he's such an amazing dad" because he changed one pamper or posted a picture with his kid bs.
One of my daughters used a photo of a horses butt for her profile picture on Facebook. Someone told him and he had a fit. She left it up. It's been 25-30 years since the kids saw their sperm donor.
Facts. Their kids borrow money from them and buy them gifts with the Money they lent their kids!
I as a single mother raising 2 sons by myself we celebrated (mother's Day) and ( Mather's Day) a mother's take over of father's day because the father didn't even care about his son's. He pretended they didn't exist.
I truly feel that men who abandon their children and then try to come back into their lives as adults is because the father is either getting old, has little to no friends, has low funds, or is ill. Also, he no longer has to have the responsibility of parenting (and all that comes with it) as they are an adult now.
I think it’s solely the last part for sure combined with either of the other things you mentioned. They don’t have to do any work, but want any and all of the glory.
They dont want any real responsibility
It's definitely the responsibility part.
_I agree Maceo, BM who are absentee FAthers don't want the responsibility for their children. They blame the Mother and say the Mother was cheating so they don't have to take the children or pay child support I see that on BM on Divorce Court Channels, and then BM smirks as if they get away with it hoping the child will overlook the decades of absentee behaviors which generally doesn't happen! _*_Most BM die alone without any support from their children who they abandoned_*
These men abandon their kids, so his kids should have that same energy to treat their father like a mistake and non-existent. Pathetic men abandoned helpless children. Then have the nerve to complain about how they were or weren't raised.
Rodman...to his kids and the mother of his children: You are using me for my money.
Rodman: Spend money on random women, parties and drugs. People who cares nothing for him..Make it, make sense.
Random strangers can feed your ego, and when you mess up, you can replace them.
Your family, on the other hand... they demand better of you.
@@sydneyjefferson6278
Excellent point!
Exactly
An infidel
💯💯exactly!!
The dads who give their kids false hope are worse than the ones who stay gone.
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honestly like I'd rather you just leave me alone
The person I made a child with! I blame myself all the time! 🚮🚮🚮🚮
Oof true
The fathers come back after the mothers have made all the sacrifices and put in all the work to raise their children. The fathers come back when the children are successful or rich. Or when the fathers feel their mortality and they are coming to that age where they need family to CARE for and SUPPORT THEM in their old age. The children are just another commodity to be used for their, that is the father’s, benefit and his benefit only!!!
@@vanparker9344 story of your life, speak for yourself
@@vanparker9344 Just Because That's Your Story Doesn't Mean It Happens Majority Of The Time, Go Heal && Stop Projecting
@@vanparker9344so why aren’t men fighting for custody of their children? It should be easy to fight in court with evidence of their abuse.
@@vanparker9344 Most women don't get alimony and a third of custodial parents get $0 support.
@@beardpapa12And even when they are granted child support.
How much of it gets paid? How many avoid work because of garnishing just to avoid paying to support the children?
They walk out then come back later trying to dodge that financial responsibility. Plus when they get older and less women want them, they come trying to tug on the heartstrings of the kids, especially the daughters
Exactly. It's manipulation
They’re hoping their daughters will take care of them, that happens a lot unfortunately.
@@Raven.MadnessI’m more unforgiving than my brother. I will definitely never speak to my deadbeat dad
@Raven.Madness yep.
I think children of abandoned or abusive parents need to develop a strong indifference towards their parents. The other range of emotions like resentment, bitterness and even disgust will only play on the child’s psyche. Let the parent carry the entire burden of shame and disappointment themselves.
Agreed. My mom always wanted us to be as angry as her, and I understand why, she had to do everything for everyone on her own and that's just not fair. But what she doesn't understand is that the reason we don't even think about him is because she fulfilled our every need. We didn't feel we were missing anything...
I agree. Stop the longing. Stop the hopefulness. Stop wishing for an alternate reality.
I am indifferent. Idc tbh. I want zero contact
As a child of a father who abandoned me and my siblings, yeah, I don't care anymore either. When I was a kid, yes, I did care. As an adult, I don't need or want him in my life at all. He is just a sad, pathetic man who pushed his own kids away by his own actions.
Men want the light that women build, their children build, anyone but them, builds. My ex is the same. He did NOTHING to help raise our son as "he had to work" but when my son graduated HS, and now has gone on to one of the Top 5 colleges for his choose profession (A very tough and rigorous program that many fail), guess who showed up for the light? He didn't even know, when his son was choosing a college, all of the work our son and myself put into weight the pros and cons, looking at each program, talking to current and former students, and the most important, what did our son WANT. He had no clue and was even shocked when our son choose the college he did. The want to do NO work and reap the sweet rewards.
So is it safe to say men women are the true builders
Wow! I can relate! Congrats to your son, and you for putting in the work too….y’all did that!!! 🙌🏽🎉🤩🫶🏽
i know men like this.gross
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Congrats to your son.🎉🎉🎊🎊🎊🎊💥💥
Men after 50/60 suddenly start caring about a lot of things. But then it is too late. That's what happens when you live for superficial things your entire life.
Andropause, men's menopause and starting from 40s for some men. Those funeral bells gets too hard to ignore and they try to grab at life desperately, some wants to secure their kids "paychecks" and some divorces their spouses to creep on 20s or 30s years old women.
D.L. Hugeley's father tried that. They met once, had dinner and D.L. never spoke to him after that.
D.L. is a piece of shit rape sympathizer and hates Black women.
GOOD
He would rather spend money on the parties, then to make his children safe. Living in a car/hotel, geez. 😳 😐 😑 😒
This comment literally hits hard.
Another thing I see is the father’s wanting to come back into the children’s lives after the children no longer care to have them around. Now they wanna impart some kind of wisdom and play a role that they no longer fill. It’s really sad to see.
I said to my dad," As a child, i did not care if you were the poorest man in the world. All i needed was you the person to be present". I needed to be able to crack jokes with my dad and talk about things without fear of being shouted at or called names. I was terrified of him and would hide from him. This mans called me spoilt!!!! I gave up on that relationship. He was physically present in the home but disconnected in every single way. It was always about his ego. The result of this behaviour is that i love my step-mum more than the father i share blood with. My step-mum raised me from a tender age, she was a strict parent but also balanced it out with a show of pure love and care. I'm a full grown adult past my 20s and i cry with joy everytime i think about how my step-mum loves and care for me. If i ever lose her, my whole world will shut down!!!!
Wow what a beautiful woman she is to receive such glowing praise.
I hope you tell her this it really was beautiful !
It's so strange to me that some parents feel that their child wanting a loving and affectionate parent or being emotional available is being spoiled. I'm glad you had your stepmother, though.
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My mom is my ride or die, but I too love my step mom more than I do my father. Even my mom loves my step mom because she always showed that she loved me and now my kids without overstepping. My mom says my step mom is too good for my father, which she is.
Honestly, I would have rather lived in a car with just my mom than have her stay married to my father. She was so hard-working and I believe that the two of us, working together, would have climbed out of that with less damage than what occurred by her staying. But she stayed because she was afraid to be a single mom, even when he lost HIS job, and she was supporting all of us. Such a waste...
Awww, sweet girl. Such a heartbreak when you realize your dad doesn't care about you. 💔
I know from experience.
Same.
Well to be fair, he made it clear in his fame that he was a deeply fuqed up person…and he was abused pretty badly
so, he can’t give what he didn’t get. But it does
really suck for her…like damn.
@@amberlisa7365I was raised in a situation where I didn't get what I needed and yet here I am giving it to my children. Men can heal themselves too, they just don't want to and society doesn't expect them to. Trauma is a reason, not an excuse.
Women work too but manage to spend time with kids and complete everything else.
Men want the appearance of being a family man, but not the actual responsibility of it.
Because we're more willing to sacrifice. I gave up my goals and dreams to be a good mom, and I don't regret it, my kids and I are extremely close. I didn't get to travel at all, go on any vacations, I went to a club with my friends maybe two times throughout their childhood, and again I don't regret it because my kids and I were home on weekends playing charades, having pillow fights, etc. We created so many fun and funny memories and when we get together we reminisce and fall out laughing. I had a lot of fun with my babies, I didn't feel like I missed out on any of those things. Now, that all my teens are getting ready for college, I can pursue my dreams and goals. I can travel, but I'll probably always try to include them in my travel plans, they're my bffs.
The part that I find incredible is the fact that the court system allowed it. Rich men will miraculously find money when they are in jail.
But they always find time to cheat 🤷🏽♀️
That part! Priorities all types of messed up 🤦🏽♀️
22:22 - I say this to all the goofy dudes that ask why does a woman keep allowing him to come back? Why do you keep coming back if you aren’t going to do right? Just go.
I think those men believe that they’re not in control of their actions, and they can’t imagine not putting the blame on women. It’s infuriating and scary there are grown men who behave this way, and it’s not just some men, it feels like it’s almost most or the majority.
"Allow it" if there isn't a court order you don't have the power unfortunately to make them stay away.
so much of this resonates with me. i remember when my father was like 'You have to respect me." i said something like 'i don't respect any man that puts his hands on a woman. and especially hands on my mother.'. that was his first attempt to get back in my life then the most recent second attempt he crashed out fully. acting like a 17 year old who doesnt want to look bad lol. i was like 'whatever helps you sleep at night because I know who you really are.'
the AUDACITY! 🤬🤬🤬
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@@lowlowseesee Men think they deserve respect . . .for existing. It's dangerous for anyone around them.
My parents divorced when I was young, mostly because he was abusive to my mother. Growing up, he did the bare minimum for his kids just so he could say he did something. Now he wants the same credit that functional fathers deserve. I've thanked him for what he has done, but, he gets mad because I won't give him more credit than that.
You’re not wrong. Go no contact.
One of my best friend's dad came back into the picture because he was old and sick. She asked about all of the back child support he owed. (We now in our 50's.). He laughed and told her the check was in the mail. She chose to allow him back into her life after decades. I would not have. I tend to be more logical and pragmatic and believe that in order for civilization to function properly, folks need to face consequences. I know what seems unrelated, but it makes sense to me. Everyone must pay their dues.
I agree with you.
Old Men need to be accountable, so The Young Men ser this and know that once he abandoned his family there's no coming back.
But most women always alow Men doing shit and coming back, they dont feel nothing because women always forgive and forget.
Lets start acting like Men.
@@lcct635Women always forgiving and forgetting is why men still ain’t worth a dam. Women don’t hold men accountable. I believe women are the first cause and their actions are what makes the world go round.
AGREED! They should not reap the rewards of a relationship with a fully raised child! I feel as if it’s a slap in the face to the children/mothers!!!
If she was the one sick he wouldn't have taken care of her 😑
My dad always "joked" about me taking care of him. Thank God he found a fourth woman to marry his old butt
Newport beach is old money. They usually have more money than Bevery Hills, they just don't flash it. They are holding it in investments and trusts. Generational wealth.
Aww that feeling when they draw you in and abandon you again and again 😢
Growing up, I felt so torn because my dad only ever shared his side of their relationship, making me believe my mom was having a big affair. In reality, he’d already had multiple emotional affairs long before I even understood what an affair was. When my mom finally started seeing someone else, his reaction made it seem like she was breaking his heart, but he’d already ruined their marriage himself. It wasn’t until I heard her full story that I understood why she did what she did. She shared how he had hidden a second phone in trees and talked to other women inappropriately. If someone did that to me, I’d go feral, too. Despite everything, she kept going, supporting us as a single mom with barely any child support-sometimes not even that. Her strength and resilience are incredible. I don’t blame her at all. If he didn’t love her, he could have just left her alone.
All those MLM scams he got involved in were just another way to avoid responsibility. He was an adult and should have known better. I was too young to see those scams as a kid, but he was an adult who should’ve recognized the signs. It’s hard not to feel let down by his choices-especially when he had the skills and experience to do something more stable. It’s frustrating to think about all those opportunities that seemed lost because of those choices.
When it came to parenting, it always felt like he was trying to raise us via text messages. I don’t understand why he is surprised that we want nothing to do with him now. The lack of genuine, meaningful interaction made it hard to connect and build a real relationship. It’s like he was only there in bits and pieces, without being fully present. That kind of parenting doesn’t really cut it when it comes to forming any sort of meaningful bond.
I’m not saying he had to live with us, but showing up only four times a year and calling that “co-parenting” just doesn’t cut it. Taking us shopping doesn’t make up for the everyday presence and connection we needed. It’s hard to feel like he was genuinely involved in our lives when the interactions were so infrequent and surface-level. Co-parenting means being there consistently, not just showing up occasionally for the fun stuff.
I have major phone anxiety because of him. He was always phone obsessed-conference calls, multiple-hour phone conversations with random people several nights a week. After the divorce, he only ever called, expecting us to have so much to say, but when he was met with our silence because everything was so awkward to us as children and because we really didn’t do anything outside of school, we didn’t have much to tell him or update him with. He would get upset when we would stop talking, and now I don’t ever want to pick up the phone.
He now lives across the street from the church I regularly attend, which is less than 5 miles away from where i live. Im now married and have a daughter of my own and he still thinks the only way to parent is via text messages. Ive seen him irl twice in the last 5 years, am i in the wrong for not answering the texts anymore??
Nah, that was his choice not to put in the effort to reconnect with you and take accountability for his actions. He was so close to you physically by being near your church, and he only has seen you twice in five years. You own him nothing and he doesn't deserve your peace and access to you.
Beware that the mother may have full custody during the years of vaccinations, flus, tantrums, daily grind of food prep, laundry, doctors, dentists, schools and more. Of course she has very low earning power. The father goes and gets his doctorate or law decree, buys a bigger house, new wife, and maybe a baby boy. Your kids are now at a fun age for sports! The father comes to take full custody. The judge agrees that the father has more advantages and more to offer the boys than the woman who raised them. Devastating tragedy for the mother who sacrificed her looks, and earning power and has her children ripped away from her.
I've seen this happen but I've also seen the judge deny custody as well. Men usually make more money than the women and so if they fight for custody, they usually win. Oftentimes when the man doesn't get custody, it's because the man isn't a good dad or he doesn't want the kids so he doesn't do what he needs to do with court processing. Women are left basically homeless and need to move in with a friend or family after a divorce, especially if the man doesn't want to help her out. Then he takes the kids because he has the finances and home plus, the kids are already in a school they like. It's actually hard to see because kids usually want the mom.
And, sadly, sometimes the kids want to go with the dad because he has more money and can buy them more stuff and experiences...
The men like to wait until they have a new wife so she can be the primary care provider for the kids when he gets custody. If he were alone, he would never try to get custody. He gets married to somebody else and then all of a sudden he wants to start talking about how the ex-wife is such a bad mother even though he never complained about that before. If he thought she was such a bad mother then why did he leave her alone to take care of the kids by herself for so long rarely ever even coming to visit them??? If he thinks the kids are in bad hands he would have wanted custody a long time ago, not only once it was convenient for him.
Look I told my ex he can have the kids. Don’t send them back. I don’t want to talk them. I want to live my life freely. He was furious.
It’s hard to believe people love/like you for you if you’re not treating them well. It’s natural to think they have an ulterior motive. Be the kind of person you would want to be around.
Yep well said 💯
My father was in and out. And he was very abusive physically when present. To this day he cries literal tears claiming how my mom kept me from him. He’s hit both me and my mother yet nothing is his fault only my mom. I grew up hearing that so when I hear men say a woman keeps her children away from him, I got questions and often time I’ve been berated or told to drop it when I start asking them.
Truth is men and their enablers don’t like when the unspoken is said aloud. As an adult, I don’t give a damn. I live my life with dignity so there is nothing that can be said about me I’d be offended or embarrassed by. It’s not hard.
She was going to be in the news without him and he couldn't let that happen. He showed up for the photo op and then bounced when the cameras stopped flashing.
And probably told himself he was doing her a favor by giving her that extra media recognition.
I say..if you're going to disappear then disappear, never to be seen or heard from again. BUT when a so-called Parent, intentionally plays mental & emotional games with the children, that's pretty sick & sinister!!
Very manipulative, disgusting, and done purposely. Everyone knows how they wouldn't want to be treated, yet forget that feeling when they're the perpetrator? BS! Forgiveness is overrated! Yes unpack, deal with it, go to therapy, ect. But forgive?🤔 Ahhhh😒
That you for sharing your story of fathers coming in and out of children’s lives. I cried so hard when my father would do this to me. I am holding back tears now. They do not see the thousands of cuts and wounds on your psyche and the infection of low self esteem that festers for years.
23:11 your growth is shown in the way you intelligently and matter of factly expressed your father wound. I’ve never heard a man express his pain so openly like this.
John Lennon's dad came out of the woodwork when the Beatles became popular.
So did Justin Bieber's.
Dennis and fathers like him are absolutely pathetic smh
A little context for folks: Beverly Hills Median Home Sold Price $3.5M and Newport Beach Median Home Price $3.9M. So living in your car in that neighborhood must have been rough. The kids may have blocked out all of the micro-aggressions that they experienced. I'm so sorry that he keeps abandoning her over and over again. I finally had to let my deadbeat dad go - it's safer for me that way.
They also will play dumb and say the mother spoke bad about them to the child as if the child didn’t grow up realize who they truly are.
The wisdom and drive that enables a woman to do IT ALL is an amazing thing. 🎉
Getting old. They don't have anybody real. If they were happy, successful, and living a fulfilling life, those kids most likely wouldn't hear from them.
@@Morgan24_7 Thinking that someone is happy, successfully living a fulfilling life when they’ve abandoned their kids is diabolical.😳 Their soul(if they have one) is always vexed. They live in an alternate reality, grappling with a serious case of cognitive dissonance.
@FreeBirdee I don't believe that. Everybody doesn't have the standard parts that a human should have. No conscience. Don't tell me you love someone or care, but you aren't there. You have to have a heart, and they never really seem to grow one until they've killed the kids.
if he was happy and living a fulfilling life, they would have been in his life for years because he was being a good father.
@astrothsknot Happy, successful, and fulfilled mean different things to different people.
@@Morgan24_7 if that’s what you want to tell yourself
Rodman was not suitable to be a father let alone a relationship
I never knew Dennis had kids.
I stand with and support Trinity Rodman.
Her daddy is a famous bum
My father left my mother when I was five to go play step daddy to some other tramps kids. I did forgive him, and showed him grace before he died, it was sad, but you cant miss something you never had..😩🤷🏾♀️
That man never loved that woman! That young girl needs to come to terms with the fact that man did not give two s***s about the mom or the children. I’m not surprised he’s always been a pos.
Pub hitting it out the park with this one. I used to struggle with the same issues of not thinking I had anything to offer besides my utility. I could never see myself as someone deserving of actually be loved and cared for. It took so much work to be able to see myself as more than just an instrument to be used and once I had no more value, I could be discarded. I guess what helped me is that I knew what it felt like to deal with that so I never wanted anyone else to feel the same.
"I wish my kids would come see me." Ain't nobody coming to see you Otis!
What can we expect from someone who befriends a violent dictator?
He wants HIS KIDS on his jock like his groupies.
First off, it’s strange to see how she looks like her dad but she beautiful as hell at the same time lol But anyway Dennis Rodman been ain’t shit and the chasing the money crap IMO is an excuse to not be there because it’s funny how they manage to do what they want to do while neglecting their children. It’s like they just see children as an accessory and just something you’re supposed to have….
The absentee fathers are going on
1. Honor your mother/father
2. The now adult children are desperate for a relationship with the absentee parents they will turn a blind eye to being abandoned.
3. They are old, sick, busted, and broke they are of no use to whoever they were with.
All my family, and my daughter’s father played d1 sports. I told my bd not think he can show up when she’s on tv. She five… I had to get it out the way early. I’d shut the entire arena DOWN if he’d ever try to pull a Dennis Rodman
Ooh, complicated family feelings!
My dad went to prison for posession of CP, and that really soured every hug.
And apparently my twin sister and I was an experiment to see if my mom would have trouble carrying to term like her mom did, and in my brain, when I learned that, it explained when our dad said that we weren't planned, and he thought mom was trying to baby trap him, even though SHE said we were, and dad was kind of controlling and hid her car keys.
He wasn't a factor in her decision making, it was entirely her wanting to know, and not bothering to get checked.
My ex showed up when my daughter made it to dental school to push drugs on her... Sometimes they show up specifically to destroy any advancements made so they dont feel alone on their loser level.
I feel like this with my father. Its crazy because I’ve tried to rekindle a relationship with my father all my life but I’ve just had to just deal with him when I FEEL like it & the majority of my life I don’t FEEL like it.
How is it that I watch all these videos by psychologists etc and it doesn't make me feel any better but literally 5min into one of yours I feel so validated and seen? Thank you for what you do ☺️
nobody who loves their kids will suffer them living out of a truck when you have the means to give them a home...
Thanks!
I wonder if part of the reason is because they can’t live with the feeling, going into old age, of the image of who they really are as a father, neglectful.
Can Trinity get a restraining order against her father?
Dennis Rodman lived a wild lifestyle. We saw 👀 it in real time. Rodman is a very damaged and traumatized man. He couldn't be a father and partner because he didn't have those skills.
Thanks for sharing some of your personal story.
Death by a 1,000 cuts. 😢😢😢😭😭😭😩😩😩
That was deep
omg i am nearly at NC with my own parents and I relate so so hard with the bit where she said she can't even bear to listen to his voice because I am like that with my parents too. they be sending those voice messages and I ignore and delete them because it triggers an immediate anxiety panic. I've had to block them in the past because they bombarded my phone with nasty voice messages just verbally attacking me and now, every time I see a voice message from them, I can't get over that hurdle to open it. I am a little better when it is just text and I can read it in my head with a monotone and if I don't like it, can just delete it. These parents really do try to pry their way back into your life and expect you to just put the past behind you. Every time you say "no thanks" they be pulling out that victim card when they are the one bringing the rainclouds and ruining your day just by reminding you about the scars they gave you, which you still have to carry for the rest of your life.
Bad ppl in your life always gaslight situations. Whatever the problem is, they are going to flip it around to someone did something wrong instead of just being straight honest. One thing I know is you can’t change the past. We can acknowledge it and move forward with better intentions or just keep it moving.
My dad came back after my stepfather reported him to the IRS for working under the table and not paying taxes. Then when he was asked for child support, he wanted 50/50 custody just to avoid financial responsibility. He ignored me when I was rhere, and never paid for anything. Mom always took me to doctors or dentists, and paid for insurance, although she made much less.
I never understood why so many people equate love with material things. But everyone learns by example, which can be good or bad. I was *super* lucky to grow up in a household with both parents who were absolutely devoted to each other and me and my sister. We weren't always financially stable and dealt with a lot of other problems, but the *love* was always loudly and proudly proclaimed in so many non-monetary ways. I think that's a reason why I have never had a problem proclaiming my love for people in my life. Some of my friends were not as lucky and didn't really understand at first that my love for them doesn't have terms or conditions or require anything in return. Love, whether romantic, platonic, familial, or otherwise, should never be transactional.
Off topic, she looks like she could be Zandaya's sister lol
My cousin went to school with dj rodman. I always thought that was cool
Now finding out they lived in a car at that time it makes me sad 😞
Ive yet to meet a rich person that isn't super paranoid. They'll try to give you things. If you accept, they'll suddenly be suspicious. Even 20 yrs in, their insecurities can be triggered. It's why I generally don't accept any gifts unless they get something out of it, like my company on vacation.
My father came back right before I was 17 and convinced me to live with him cuz me and my mom had been having a rough time and I was vulnerable to his lies...
Then I had to deal with him and hia current wife trying to make me hate my mom the whole time I was there. He tried to tell me my mother misused child support like I hadn't watched that woman work multiple jobs more than once just to ensure we could have the basic comforts and decent neighborhoods and even then still needed help making sure we got everything...while my stepmom tried to basically paint my mom as having got in the way of her and my father being together... needless to say I left as soon as I could and I haven't spoken to him since...
Some parents abandon their children by taking leave. Others are there physically but make their kids wish there was such a thing as "divorcing your parents".
And some manage to do both.
Wow! That’s the same message my kids dad 😢about. Even has his girlfriend vouch for him. Same talking points, such a narcissist.
He was just so disruptive in their lives.
I feel like Britney Rodman is hiding a lot of hurt.
Who is Britney Rodman?
I agree. I can't be around my parents without it impacting me negatively. Then again, I'm disabled bc they first forced me to give birth after refusing to let me take birth control and then didn't care about my pain leading to system CRPS aka the worst form of the world's most painful condition. It isn't the past. I'm living it every single day. They want to pretend it isn't their fault or isn't so much as occurring. Nope, I'm out.
Your kids don't have to like you. That doesn't absolve a parent of their responsibility. He owed them security at the very least.
Dennis Rodman's father, Philander Rodman, reportedly had 29 children with 16 different women. While some of his children may live in the Philippines, another over the United States."
Talking about living up to a name..😂😂
Yet they call women 304s.
Rich people's whole identities becomes wealth. They want everyone to want what they have or where's the ego? The downside is now they think everyone is out to get their money. This is why rich people usually date rich people. Which is weird bc thus far the only people I've ever seen try and scam money from a rich person is another rich person. No, while someone so in the public eye absolutely has more to worry about than your avg billionaire, it's always far, FAR less than men want to believe.
Fantastic topic.
I'd prefer one to leave and stay away not pay child support etc. then have one use the court system and take the child away to continue to abuse you. I've been dealing with post separation abuse through the courts for a decade. My daughter used to be a secure healthy happy little girl and now she's a completely different person. She's brainwashed, depressed, anxious, overeats, addicted to video games, being taught not to have boundaries.
My son found that out the hard way. My ex broke up when my kids were small. He got married very soon after and had her moved in right away. I had to get child support taken from his checks because he didn't pay for the first year. Fast forward and the kids are 14 and 16. Their dad has 8 other kids with his wife and no longer wants child support taken from his check. Always complaining they are broke, but yet keep popping out kids. They take me to court for custody after the kids decide they don't want to play mom and dad for their brothers and sisters and that their dad only uses them in the summers so he and his wife can have a break and go off. My daughter had more anger than my son and he was more forgiving and wanted to build a relationship. My ex takes me to court for custody. Kids are old enough to choose. My daughter chose me, my son wanted to give his father a chance. It's been two years and my son has decided he doesn't like his father and the only reason he wanted him there was as a slave and a second income. He turns 18 in March and can come home.
RODMAN...WAS MENTALLY F'D UP smart and athletic rebounder.
You have to be a special kind of sociopath to live your life like you don’t have children
28:00 this right here hit home. I always joke around about my dad having a “sophisticated dr*g problem” 🌨️❄️….its funny and sad all at the same time 🫣…I hope Dennis leaves Trinity entirely alone. Continuing to break her heart is continued ab*se
I know for a fact my father will do that to me when I’m successful.
not to mention his ties with the dictators. he is all around cooked
A few things:
(1) I feel ALL of this. My father is a self-involved narcissistic man-child. He spent zero time, all things considered, with me or my younger brother when we were children, unless he had to "for appearances". He'd come to awards ceremonies for Boy Scouts or for sports (until high school--that "man" never once attended an awards banquet after my parents divorced in 8th grade), maybe make a token experience for a play, but he would make zero effort to actually do more than a token picture. Shoot, he only went to either of my graduations because he was in the area--because it was convenient for him--he didn't even watch my brother graduate from high school or college. He shows up for our weddings, for an hour--you know, for the picture. I used to see him doing the same "once a year, maybe for 15 minutes" crap with my kids, and I watch my girls get so happy granddad said hi, and I'd think "maybe now---maybe now that there are these two grandkids he will see what he's missing and make an effort". Then I'd have to explain for 5 months to both of them why "granddad" (their name for him, which I started, because his father--"granddad" to me--was a nasty man who treated me like crap for most of his life I knew him) wasn't around or calling them. It broke my heart--HE WOULDN'T EVEN USE FACETIME TO SAY HELLO. I recently told him not to bother contacting them--or me--if he wasn't going to actually continue to be involved in their lives like a grandparent should be. My brother still comes up with excuses for him, and I can't understand it.
(2) I used to love Dennis Rodman as a young kid. I was not the best shooter, but I was exceptional on defense and with rebounding, so Dennis Rodman was the person I'd watch in the NBA and whose jerseys I wore. When I heard about how he was as a man--not just the crappy husband/partner/father he was, but as a man--I was ashamed I had loved an athlete who was as terrible as my dad--only famous.
When we tracked down some lost siblings (different mom) in 2020 my dad was demanding their contact info with full entitlement as if he didn't have access to the same social media we used to find them. The youngest had already hit his 20s. It's unanimous that Mr Sprm Spender ain't sht to any of us.
It sucks that she experiences this especially with a father with so many resources. I observe the father wound is real. He didn't know his father so continues the cycle. Living in a car when you should have the money not to. Yes it is abusive behavior. She learns young though which is good. I learn in my 30s too. And hearing this and you talk validates my experience with my father, so much to say. Maybe I will make a video too. I could say a lot but a lot of this tracks for me. Yes many wounds are harder to heal than one. You even use the word I use, "wound". My father didn't know his father and was raised by another person who was essentially a father. And more, as I learn about relatives' stories too. I am 38 and understanding now how to speak, late, late, late. It is wonderful you have a platform and can articulate your pain. That his daughter articulates her feelings. I think articulating things is the start to transformation of the experience and the generational wound/inheritance. Thanks, such a validating video. Dennis Rodman, hmmmm 😔.
My dad asking us for money to try and save his failed business.
I told my mom to tell him I could afford to pay his building out 3x and the answer is no. I wanted him to know it’s not that I don’t have the money, oh I have the money just none for you.
Guys you have just reminded me that I have a father! How appalling!😯😯. I litterally forgot I had a father.🙈🙈
What movie is that clip from?
That was hilarious.. He really came to pick up(literally) his son..
Narcissistic abuse.
That was my experience with my father, except my dad is broke😂😂
His family using him but goes into the street to get used by strangers. I’m sorry but men can miss me with that BS. Working class men have the same thoughts and actions. My ex husband did not want to be the man of our family but created another one he did not mind being one for. All types of excuses why and this is why he is now lonely and complaining about me leaving. I did most of the work and made the most money never made him feel less and still had that result. Never again. Waste of a decade and when he was ready to change it was too little and too late.
How the fuck do I feel so seen in this video? My father was that type of guy who would be gone all the time for work, leave at 5 am and return at 5pm. But, he would never be present while he was home. On top of him being misogynistic, "that's not what girls do" ect. Plan camping trips, but would tell us to fuck off on our bicycles. One of the last deep wounds he gave was telling me as an awkward, overweight 17-yr old "why i can't be like her" and pointed to a girl I had a low-key crush on in high-school. Mind you, i was never a bad child and made Honor Roll all the time. It turned out to be one of the last things he said to me before he died of cancer later that year. I couldn't even fake cry. The only thing that changed was it got quieter and money got tight, but that's it. I'm not even gonna get into all the fucked up stuff he and mom co-signed on what they did to my little sister. It took being separated from my mom at 31 (and her death the next year), going to therapy, and anti-depressants for a while, to sort that garbage out.
I’m sorry but your wife and kids can’t use a husband/dad for their money. Night be a hot take but I believe that, at that point, it’s not using, it’s you providing.
Do or do not. There is no try.
18:08 he did that shit for the cameras
Listening to the story from the host, l feel like there was some either drugs or mental health issues at play. The moments or the times where he would show up for the good moments. Clean sober, aware. Whatever. The disappearances were the not so good, relapses, mental health issues. I'm not saying that this is always the case but it is in some of them. Parents would rather disappoint their children by being absent than to show up, look or disappointment in their kids faces. The Dennis rodman situation. I have no clue. I never followed him or his career. I didn't even know he had children. 😂 Wow! I was about to post this when I heard the ending where she says he's an alcoholic. I knew there was some type of substance abuse going on. It's very sad regardless.
29:40
Lol 🤣
Stop trying for god’s sake it doesn’t do anything for us except triggering our emotions!!! 🤬
I think they do that to feel good about themselves. It has nothing to do with us!!!
he's not healthy anymore he's only worth 500,000