The LORD is so safe, it's unbelievable. He can seriously handle anything you have inside that needs to be released. He takes it all into Himself graciously and then gives you His peace and healing in that place. He is honored for you to trust Him enough to share things with Him that you'd never share with another person. He's just too good to be true!
I've watched this video many times and cried while hearing someone say what I've felt and longed for for soo long. Thank you, John, for sharing this. This video has kept me trying many days, and still
Helen Chen , I am sorry you have never experienced love. I was in the same shoes with you years ago until I found Jesus. His unconditional love healed me and through his living words, He taught me how to love. I pray that God will meet all your needs and soon you will experience His unfailing love so you will be able to love others. Blessings to you!
The church I was in, was just as dysfunctional, if not more dysfunctional, than my family and I had a horrible upbringing and abuse in my life. The church I belong to, I finally left,they put me through allot of what i went through as a child and their rejection was only half of the problem, just as I was abused as a child I had a husband that was abusing me to, so just as a child the church rejected me as the other children had rejected me as a child and I was being abused just as my stepfather abused me. I pray there is help for me, to go through everything twice, once in childhood, once in adulthood, I just really don't see that there was any love for me ever, how could anyone believe God loves them with what i went through. Because of all My abuse, it's really hard for me to even listen to this guy. Tough love doesn't help me it just throws me into despair. Even if you held me and told me that you loved me and you wouldn't leave me I wouldn't even believe you. I don't believe any human being is capable of really loving a person the way they need to be loved and no one is trustworthy.
Having never received the love I needed, I can empathize with you. Many believers are not good representations of Christ and His love. But many are. Since your observation that mankind is incapable of loving as Christ loves, the upshot is, our experience of God's love must come not from man but from His presence. In my case, after surrendering my life to Jesus for salvation, I then sought the Lord with all my heart, challenging Him to keep His promise in Jeremiah 29:11-14 and He came through. (Hebrews 11:6 is another good one). I realized that my initial surrender to Him had been conditioned on Him performing in the way I dictated and answering the questions that I had been demanding of Him before my surrender would be total, which never works. Then, one night, as I was complaining to Him about why He allows the suffering of children in particular, He replied: "What you really want to know is how can I love you and allow you to suffer." I replied, "Yes Lord, that is exactly what I'm getting at!" He responded: "Agreed, you don't know the answer to that and must trust me that the answer is a good one - one that you will eventually know,. Why then don't you live out of what you do know rather than what you don't know. You do know that I love you based on the actions of my Son, who died a horrible death to not only save you, but to also demonstrate to you that He loves you more than you can know." Another good video that may be of help to you is one by Leif Hetland: th-cam.com/video/O41AbkNpB1o/w-d-xo.html
Hey, I resonate with what you said. I had a similar upbringing church wise. My parents were not physical but there was an undercurrent of emotional abuse and this was further cemented in the church where friends were hard to make and I lost friends. I felt alot of rejection and lack of love that I had no close friends during most of my teen years. It was when I started a new relationship that I started to heal. Even now its still difficult to believe he loves me even when he tells and that translates to God as well in broken areas of my life. Its hard But I through God nothing is impossible. Check out mark dejesus he has alot of videos on experiencing God's love and learning to love and trust others. I know by God's grace you and me can overcome. I'll keep you in prayer
Dr. Towsend, Thank you so much for sharing and also to Pure Passion for doing this website with tons of video testimonies and information for healing and more. I will share this with my group in Celebrate Recovery, Iron Man group in Church, Life Group, and my therapy Group. It helped me to understand and specially where I know that when you come to the Lord all thing are new and people still saying....... I struggle with!! Instead of " I used to struggle. Thanks and God Bless Tampa,FL
I'm quite impressed with these Pure Passion Media videos. The advice just seems so sane and balanced. It makes me feel comfortable to trust these folks.
Dr. Townsend and Cloud are the one's who wrote the groundbreaking book "Boundaries." One pearl of wisdom I took from that book was that we are not called as Christians to sit back and be taken advantage of and abused. If anything, perhaps it is the Christian who best understands our worth since we realize it is our Creator who establishes it.
Hope and redemption for those of us who thought we were beyond repair. What you have spoken of in these to segments is confirmed by the journey God has taken me on in finding his healing and freedom through him and his body the church. What an awesome, loving and redeeming God we serve.
always had a hard time with my babies crying ect. always felt so out of control. wasn't ever sure I wad enough or that powerful that my child just needed me.
Thank you, Jhon! Unfortunately, we don't have such supporttive small groups in Russian churches (at least not to my knowledge). That is why lot of people left behind or just leave the Christian communities, where they can only have "brownies and coffee" and learn some passage from the Bible...but they don't really feel healed or accepted with their traumas and addictions.
Luba Luba and Colleen, I am sorry you have not found a supportive lifegroup. You are right. It is hard to find but I believe that they still exist. I pray that God will you with a group of brothers and sisters in Christ who can be your supporters soon. Blessings to you!
I guess maybe I am not a safe person because there are things a person could say to me that would make me want to push them away/not accept them. I’m confused about the need to have boundaries (limits) but also be accepting of whatever comes out of a person. I understand that acceptance does not equal approval, but this seems to say that I’m supposed to keep hanging around and siding with the person, even if my natural reaction to that person bringing their issues into the light is disgust and to move away.
You have opened a new world to me and my husband. A new relationship after 40 years of marriage. We are working through "The Mom factor". I am from South Africa and the book stores say it is out of print. I personally feel very passionate about the content in this books. Is this book out of print?
About the 12 steps program: I am praying for a miracle for someone I know, that God would heal him of his drug addiction. They want to send him back to where he came from, and there is no treatment program or support there.
Al these things are so true but healthy and experienced life groups, someone who’s Jesus with skin on......those qualities are really hard to find. This is a very dysfunctional world and someone needs to spend a lot of time and discernment to find that
The LORD is so safe, it's unbelievable. He can seriously handle anything you have inside that needs to be released. He takes it all into Himself graciously and then gives you His peace and healing in that place. He is honored for you to trust Him enough to share things with Him that you'd never share with another person. He's just too good to be true!
We all need to have safe people who will love us despite our brokeness to heal.
I've watched this video many times and cried while hearing someone say what I've felt and longed for for soo long. Thank you, John, for sharing this.
This video has kept me trying many days, and still
matthewdnorris this was so incredibly validating🙌🏽 I hope this comment finds you doing well in 2020🙏🏽😊
This video just set me free
"How can you give love when you've never experienced it?" Thank you for sharing this.
Helen Chen , I am sorry you have never experienced love. I was in the same shoes with you years ago until I found Jesus. His unconditional love healed me and through his living words, He taught me how to love. I pray that God will meet all your needs and soon you will experience His unfailing love so you will be able to love others. Blessings to you!
THIS. IS. LIFE. CHANGING!!👏🏽
....this is utterly unreal. Im hooked.
I agree totally that we should never accept that we are what we are, we should be striving to leave that behind.
The church I was in, was just as dysfunctional, if not more dysfunctional, than my family and I had a horrible upbringing and abuse in my life.
The church I belong to, I finally left,they put me through allot of what i went through as a child and their rejection was only half of the problem, just as I was abused as a child I had a husband that was abusing me to, so just as a child the church rejected me as the other children had rejected me as a child and I was being abused just as my stepfather abused me. I pray there is help for me, to go through everything twice, once in childhood, once in adulthood, I just really don't see that there was any love for me ever, how could anyone believe God loves them with what i went through. Because of all My abuse, it's really hard for me to even listen to this guy. Tough love doesn't help me it just throws me into despair. Even if you held me and told me that you loved me and you wouldn't leave me I wouldn't even believe you. I don't believe any human being is capable of really loving a person the way they need to be loved and no one is trustworthy.
Having never received the love I needed, I can empathize with you. Many believers are not good representations of Christ and His love. But many are. Since your observation that mankind is incapable of loving as Christ loves, the upshot is, our experience of God's love must come not from man but from His presence. In my case, after surrendering my life to Jesus for salvation, I then sought the Lord with all my heart, challenging Him to keep His promise in Jeremiah 29:11-14 and He came through. (Hebrews 11:6 is another good one). I realized that my initial surrender to Him had been conditioned on Him performing in the way I dictated and answering the questions that I had been demanding of Him before my surrender would be total, which never works. Then, one night, as I was complaining to Him about why He allows the suffering of children in particular, He replied: "What you really want to know is how can I love you and allow you to suffer." I replied, "Yes Lord, that is exactly what I'm getting at!" He responded: "Agreed, you don't know the answer to that and must trust me that the answer is a good one - one that you will eventually know,. Why then don't you live out of what you do know rather than what you don't know. You do know that I love you based on the actions of my Son, who died a horrible death to not only save you, but to also demonstrate to you that He loves you more than you can know." Another good video that may be of help to you is one by Leif Hetland: th-cam.com/video/O41AbkNpB1o/w-d-xo.html
Hey, I resonate with what you said. I had a similar upbringing church wise. My parents were not physical but there was an undercurrent of emotional abuse and this was further cemented in the church where friends were hard to make and I lost friends. I felt alot of rejection and lack of love that I had no close friends during most of my teen years. It was when I started a new relationship that I started to heal. Even now its still difficult to believe he loves me even when he tells and that translates to God as well in broken areas of my life. Its hard But I through God nothing is impossible. Check out mark dejesus he has alot of videos on experiencing God's love and learning to love and trust others. I know by God's grace you and me can overcome. I'll keep you in prayer
Dr. Towsend,
Thank you so much for sharing and also to Pure Passion for doing this website with tons of video testimonies and information for healing and more. I will share this with my group in Celebrate Recovery, Iron Man group in Church, Life Group, and my therapy Group. It helped me to understand and specially where I know that when you come to the Lord all thing are new and people still saying....... I struggle with!! Instead of " I used to struggle.
Thanks and God Bless
Tampa,FL
Wow! Power packed with lots of truth and deep teachings in this video. Well explained too.
You shall know the truth and the truth shall set u free!
I'm quite impressed with these Pure Passion Media videos. The advice just seems so sane and balanced. It makes me feel comfortable to trust these folks.
Dr. Townsend and Cloud are the one's who wrote the groundbreaking book "Boundaries." One pearl of wisdom I took from that book was that we are not called as Christians to sit back and be taken advantage of and abused. If anything, perhaps it is the Christian who best understands our worth since we realize it is our Creator who establishes it.
Hope and redemption for those of us who thought we were beyond repair. What you have spoken of in these to segments is confirmed by the journey God has taken me on in finding his healing and freedom through him and his body the church. What an awesome, loving and redeeming God we serve.
These are very powerful, helpful and insightful into sexual brokenness. Thank you
oh how much I wish I could work with someone like you
Last 30 seconds were magic!
always had a hard time with my babies crying ect. always felt so out of control. wasn't ever sure I wad enough or that powerful that my child just needed me.
Very helpful I thank you for the upload! I bet all can relate to something here something there......
This is so powerful and true and hopeful. Thanks you so much!
Thank you, Jhon!
Unfortunately, we don't have such supporttive small groups in Russian churches (at least not to my knowledge). That is why lot of people left behind or just leave the Christian communities, where they can only have "brownies and coffee" and learn some passage from the Bible...but they don't really feel healed or accepted with their traumas and addictions.
Luba Luba I feel the same way those people who are safe and non judgmental are hard to find
Luba Luba and Colleen, I am sorry you have not found a supportive lifegroup. You are right. It is hard to find but I believe that they still exist. I pray that God will you with a group of brothers and sisters in Christ who can be your supporters soon. Blessings to you!
Luba if you got this on utube why don't you share it with a friend over a coffee that be a start of a great friendship
Great video thank you
Great stuff, JT!!!
I guess maybe I am not a safe person because there are things a person could say to me that would make me want to push them away/not accept them. I’m confused about the need to have boundaries (limits) but also be accepting of whatever comes out of a person. I understand that acceptance does not equal approval, but this seems to say that I’m supposed to keep hanging around and siding with the person, even if my natural reaction to that person bringing their issues into the light is disgust and to move away.
You have opened a new world to me and my husband. A new relationship after 40 years of marriage. We are working through "The Mom factor". I am from South Africa and the book stores say it is out of print. I personally feel very passionate about the content in this books. Is this book out of print?
About the 12 steps program: I am praying for a miracle for someone I know, that God would heal him of his drug addiction. They want to send him back to where he came from, and there is no treatment program or support there.
Al these things are so true but healthy and experienced life groups, someone who’s Jesus with skin on......those qualities are really hard to find. This is a very dysfunctional world and someone needs to spend a lot of time and discernment to find that
He makes it sound so easy to find. Gives me hope