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i needed this, i lost everything many times over, and starting again from scratch, no friends no social life nothing, been taking losses for years, hopefully everyone reading this and myself, lets make it!
To actually feel what it is to lose that means you have won before. And if you claim to have lost multiple times over you have to had a few wins. Study the wins and try to repeat it again. It's not luck if it has repeated in the past, you just forgot how to win.
I think most high achievers carry this feeling. I look at the wins mostly but my mind is trying to make the best outcome of every situation which makes great opportunities as long as I am able to joogle family and near friends meanwhile. A big motivator for me is a closed community of only high achievers. Is it possible?
@costasgeorgiou5015 that's an interesting and twisted perspective of what he said. If you're just reading the comments, I can see how one might take things out of context and try to make sense of it. I'm not saying it doesn't apply... but I also know we often say things "about ourselves".
@@selfretired3025 well I'm part way threw it my mobile keeps ringing....... Also I reread it now and I'm off sorry I don't know how I thought it was "your" not "you" so I thought you were saying your not being 100 percent to you cause your fit. That is what I get for doin too much at one time sorry.
Exactly! Also, a lot of people have, unfortunately, grown cold/rude in their ability to be “genuinely” happy for other people’s success, or good fortune.
They’re also just more focused. Allen Iverson said Kobe Bryant was just a different dude. While he and most other players went clubbing, Kobe would be working out or practicing in the gym.
I find it has more to do with themselves. People who follow the rules and are still miserable, cant fathom that people who build their own path and do things differently end up more fulfilled. Plus success is usually a byproduct, which really drives them crazy.
“Reminder that if you want to be exceptional you are going to be different from everyone else that’s what makes you exceptional . You can’t fit in and also be exceptional both are uncomfortable. When you fit in you have internal conflict because you are not 100% you. When you are exceptional you have external conflict because everyone sees you as different. PICK one. When your friends start to say you have changed remember that’s because they do not know how to say you have grown.”
Really insightful discussion on the loneliness of high achievers. It's often overlooked that strategic networking can alleviate that isolation without compromising productivity; connecting with others facing similar challenges can create a support system that also serves as a sounding board for new ideas.
DUDE!!!! That PAUSE who make ALEX in the beginning?! Its INSANE and SPECTACULAR in PERSONALITY, CHARACTER, AUTENTICITY, OWNERSHIP and much more 🤯🤯🤯 its CRAZY....The BEST DUET OF ALL THE WORLD 🌎
@@runswithraptors I would add that Ester Perrel has a good modification to that statement. She says you learn who you are by being with other people which is true because your perception of yourself isn't the same as what others might see after they live with you.
Absolutely true! Makes me sad that people think improvement comes from comfort. Half way through 2019 I became my childhood dream of a professional knifemaker. It’s been nothing but challenges, failures and discomfort for almost 5years but I’m happy!
Most people will distract you from your mission. Everyone is going their own ways, sometimes they're going nowhere and happy to drag you down into the bucket...conscientiously or subconsciously, it will happen around people if they aren't where you want to go.
Those are words I live by: I believe the vast majority of people has the POTENTIAL to be exceptional at any given field if they put REAL EFFORT and -SACRIFICE- into it But the vast majority is also not willing at all to take those trade offs. Would you be Usain Bolt, Neil Pearth or Michael Phelps if you really gave it all? Probably not. But how would you or anyone ever know if you would if you tried, without trying? This thinking helped me and keep helping me majorly in life, next week im gonna go on stage four different times: 2 times on drums, I only did it once before, 1st as backing vocals, 1st as bassist, and possibly even one more on the drums I accredit a very big part of this to the mentality and of course putting in the effort Feels great to be alive and see the fruits of hard work, lets gooooooo 🔥
It's a balance. If you are a people pleaser, then yes, the temptation is go the completely opposite end of the spectrum. We do want to give of ourselves in a relationship; fulfillment comes through that. So yes, being yourself 100% is a great goal, but you will still hope that there are those that love that 100% you.
Alex's take is so relatable here! No friends or love can bring unlimited joy and success. Fake friends and fake love will bring depression, if not suicide.
With the number of idiots out there is better to be alone sadly it is hard to find people that dont act like idiots ... i eat healthy most people make fun of that ... i live frugal and invest my money again most peop0le make fun of this while they are broke ....
See the good for you..a failure or rejection always makes you more greatest and makes the win more joyful.. It's is the growth mindset that should drive you not the failure or rejection,,you don't care about the byproduct and feel satisfied by putting in and eventually you are attracting the supreme energy by doing it so you eventually get the materialistic pleasures..
You have a point, however people listening to motivational interviews of Chris and Hormozi talking about exceptionalism, most likely are taking chances at growth.
Your podcasts with Alex are some of the best podcasts ever recorded. I’ve listened to many pods..there is so so much value shared when you guys get together man. Thank you
The feeling of rejection when you are alone and have that sad thought, just take it casually as a though and be fearless bcz you did something to make yourself accountable.
We are all exceptional in our own ways. We are all the same, yet we are all different. It's not about fitting in, but about being grounded in being yourself.
I don’t know Chris. Nobody says that stuff in eulogies even if they were predictable and normal. The mortality framework is mainly to assess your priorities not to hate on everyday folks.
That’s true about being different and all. Tbh I just like people much to be away from them. 😂 I have people who know ME and people who know me just enough.
I use to do a game with myself way back in the 90’s when people went to night clubs and danced and got layed . I would call it “ getting binned (aka rejected ) in 10 minutes. I would time myself 10 mins or get a mate to time me and I would approach a girl I liked the look of and just go up and talk to her and ask her for a dance 💃. It’s a facing rejection and it makes you more mentally stronger. I would get rejected 2 or 3 times but would get a bite on girl 4 or 5 and I would get that dance 💃 and al lot of the time I’d get much more. I never got to 10 rejections. This is such a good adrenaline rush and great for your confidence. Rejection does not kill you it makes you stronger . Women like confident men and walking up and talking to them makes you attractive to them even if your not there type they appreciate it because you have the balls to go over and approach her. I remember just being yo scared to approach a women because of the feeling of getting rejected. And one night I approached this chick and yes she was cool and I didn’t get any where with her but I felt so fking proud of myself just by going over to talk to her I was buzzing. And that was it I just I was hooked win loose . I would highly recommend it to young lads who are scared of approaching a women . Rejections won’t kill you and hey we all die anyway. Hope this Canto I’ve just typed helps someone 👍👍
True loneliness is when nobody co-operates with you, nobody acknowledges you, nobody visits you. When you are always wallpaper in everyone elses existence. Not everybody in this place is treated the same. Meritocracy pales before Appearances...
School gives us the false reality that friends make you “happy and popular”. As you become older, you realize seclusion is better than inclusion when achieving goals unless the ones around you are on the same path.
3-4 yeard ago i left my job , without any plan I am depressed till now But instarted my business and now in earn 3 time amount i earned in my last job , and will by my first home next year But i feel depressed and stress all the time
😂😂😂 sorry, I laughed I just.. came here for wisdom cause I am suffering from my emotions over my ambitions.. cause I am building multiple business alone, working 16 hours a day.. almost every day.. and I wanted to listen to Alex, and when this guy reads out Alex’s quotes, and Alex was like so disconnected when camera switches on him, and he was so durpred (zoomed out thinking) I laughed.. love him so much❤😂
Just put in the mind that it is possible to love and work on ourselves without hating others.. Loving and growing ourselves is just not our efforts it is also the effort of shit people who negatively motivated you to be great. Moreover distancing ourselves from others doesn't mean to shit others..
There is another subgroup you do not quite mention Those who are completely fine with themselves but others keep insisting they need to be different or that they are antisocial by rejecting the social constructs. I do not agree there is a normal-only people abiding.
I have also changed, dropped 30lbs, got to a 315lb deadlift. Still growing, but not while abandoning or using people. Spend a ton of time with my kids and friends. Well I should clarify I made some new friends and let go some old ones. I'm more into fitness now and my old friends weren't.
I learned that I don’t like my millionaire bosses and don’t agree with their point of views in life. .. please do never value someone else opinion over your own truth.
This is what makes trans people soooooo different. We have to go through this, no choice. We have to dig down into ourselves and do our math and be absolutely sure we want to be happy more than we want to not get spat upon by everybody every day forever. And then you do, and after a while you go through so much rejection, and so much violence, and yet you are alive and happier than ever, and you just have to much love for everyone still trapped...
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i needed this, i lost everything many times over, and starting again from scratch, no friends no social life nothing, been taking losses for years, hopefully everyone reading this and myself, lets make it!
To actually feel what it is to lose that means you have won before. And if you claim to have lost multiple times over you have to had a few wins.
Study the wins and try to repeat it again. It's not luck if it has repeated in the past, you just forgot how to win.
I think most high achievers carry this feeling.
I look at the wins mostly but my mind is trying to make the best outcome of every situation which makes great opportunities as long as I am able to joogle family and near friends meanwhile.
A big motivator for me is a closed community of only high achievers. Is it possible?
Keep on getting after it. Respect! 🤘
"When you fit in, you have internal conflict... because you're not being 100% you" 👊❤️
That is a fancy way of saying you don't wanna stay in shape lol.
@costasgeorgiou5015 that's an interesting and twisted perspective of what he said. If you're just reading the comments, I can see how one might take things out of context and try to make sense of it.
I'm not saying it doesn't apply... but I also know we often say things "about ourselves".
@@selfretired3025 well I'm part way threw it my mobile keeps ringing....... Also I reread it now and I'm off sorry I don't know how I thought it was "your" not "you" so I thought you were saying your not being 100 percent to you cause your fit. That is what I get for doin too much at one time sorry.
Felt that one
That pause from Alex at the start right after Chris's words was powerful. Like he was re-living and remembering all the people who had doubted him.
Agreed
Yeah that pause, silence & his facial expression in the beginning was extremely powerful
I was just thinking the same thing. I appreciate them leaving in the full 14 second silence
kinda looked like he was cranking one out before he answered lol
Noticed it even listening to this at 1.5x speed
“For me, I was more miserable trying to make everyone else happy than I am now with everyone else unhappy.” - That hits hard.
It’s good that he’s less miserable now. Although still miserable.
High achievers are lonely for a simple reason: Everybody is jealous/envious of your success. People want you to succeed but not more than them.
Exactly! Also, a lot of people have, unfortunately, grown cold/rude in their ability to be “genuinely” happy for other people’s success, or good fortune.
also high achievers need to dedicate more time to results instead of friendship.
They’re also just more focused. Allen Iverson said Kobe Bryant was just a different dude. While he and most other players went clubbing, Kobe would be working out or practicing in the gym.
FACTS!
I find it has more to do with themselves. People who follow the rules and are still miserable, cant fathom that people who build their own path and do things differently end up more fulfilled. Plus success is usually a byproduct, which really drives them crazy.
These two have good chemistry and I always learn something new just listening to them chat.
People always talk about wanting to see you achieve the things you want not until you do and suddenly they have a problem with you.
Hormozi is one hell of a wordsmith!
“Reminder that if you want to be exceptional you are going to be different from everyone else that’s what makes you exceptional . You can’t fit in and also be exceptional both are uncomfortable. When you fit in you have internal conflict because you are not 100% you. When you are exceptional you have external conflict because everyone sees you as different. PICK one. When your friends start to say you have changed remember that’s because they do not know how to say you have grown.”
Thanks for this.
Really insightful discussion on the loneliness of high achievers. It's often overlooked that strategic networking can alleviate that isolation without compromising productivity; connecting with others facing similar challenges can create a support system that also serves as a sounding board for new ideas.
DUDE!!!! That PAUSE who make ALEX in the beginning?! Its INSANE and SPECTACULAR in PERSONALITY, CHARACTER, AUTENTICITY, OWNERSHIP and much more 🤯🤯🤯 its CRAZY....The BEST DUET OF ALL THE WORLD 🌎
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Elon Musk does it all the time 😀
@@Jojken Yeeaahh! Man That's TRUE...thank you for the reminder 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
@@mentalidaddeimpacto2110 But because he wants to be different I can imagine he 2xMusk_Pause 😄
We need more of these clips of different chapters of your podcast
You're lonely because you sacrificed the time to build relationships to build skills.
👍 had to learn to be a person before you can have a real relationship
@@runswithraptors I would add that Ester Perrel has a good modification to that statement. She says you learn who you are by being with other people which is true because your perception of yourself isn't the same as what others might see after they live with you.
Absolutely true! Makes me sad that people think improvement comes from comfort. Half way through 2019 I became my childhood dream of a professional knifemaker. It’s been nothing but challenges, failures and discomfort for almost 5years but I’m happy!
There's always a price to pay in cutting a different path
Incredible episode, thank you!
Most people will distract you from your mission. Everyone is going their own ways, sometimes they're going nowhere and happy to drag you down into the bucket...conscientiously or subconsciously, it will happen around people if they aren't where you want to go.
Those are words I live by: I believe the vast majority of people has the POTENTIAL to be exceptional at any
given field if they put REAL EFFORT and -SACRIFICE- into it
But the vast majority is also not willing at all to take those trade offs.
Would you be Usain Bolt, Neil Pearth or Michael Phelps if you really gave it all? Probably not.
But how would you or anyone ever know if you would if you tried, without trying?
This thinking helped me and keep helping me majorly in life, next week im gonna go on stage four different times:
2 times on drums, I only did it once before, 1st as backing vocals, 1st as bassist, and possibly even one more on the drums
I accredit a very big part of this to the mentality and of course putting in the effort
Feels great to be alive and see the fruits of hard work, lets gooooooo 🔥
Monster Ink. University is a great movie, for this very lesson, sobbed through the whole thing
It's a balance. If you are a people pleaser, then yes, the temptation is go the completely opposite end of the spectrum. We do want to give of ourselves in a relationship; fulfillment comes through that. So yes, being yourself 100% is a great goal, but you will still hope that there are those that love that 100% you.
That pause: Damn!!!. Most hosts would have jumped in to kill the awkwardness, but Chris knows better.
Alex's take is so relatable here!
No friends or love can bring unlimited joy and success. Fake friends and fake love will bring depression, if not suicide.
What a terrible take. Love is so important, no need to lump that in with “fake friends”
@@YoelKiflezghi meant "fake love" too
Thank you for this video.
Wow - love the content
These seconds of silence in the beginning were worth it
With the number of idiots out there is better to be alone sadly it is hard to find people that dont act like idiots ... i eat healthy most people make fun of that ... i live frugal and invest my money again most peop0le make fun of this while they are broke ....
Bunch of normies
The Art of Not giving a fck
@@Mansory811 i dont give a fck but is lonely as you dont find people doing same stuff mindset ..
@@pentrubarbati Just stay positive man, they will come. If you become bitter, of course you wont find nobody, just stay on the grind
amazing content
I’m fine being lonely. It’s far more peaceful.
The dangerous part about going rogue is to be self reflected enough to still keep social feedback in mind so you don't become a lunatic. Fine line!
Lovely stuff chris, you've changed my life ❤. keep going brother
What is your believe?
Great video
See the good for you..a failure or rejection always makes you more greatest and makes the win more joyful..
It's is the growth mindset that should drive you not the failure or rejection,,you don't care about the byproduct and feel satisfied by putting in and eventually you are attracting the supreme energy by doing it so you eventually get the materialistic pleasures..
Tanks Guys!
“Just the idea of being weird is too much”
So good to see bros talking each other through their midlife crises.
simply extremely relatable
such an underrated content
Change doesn’t necessarily mean growth. That’s a huge assumption.
Wow amazing observation
@@egec4174 l love a sarcastic response!
You have a point, however people listening to motivational interviews of Chris and Hormozi talking about exceptionalism, most likely are taking chances at growth.
Your podcasts with Alex are some of the best podcasts ever recorded. I’ve listened to many pods..there is so so much value shared when you guys get together man. Thank you
any traders here? 🙋🏻♂️
The feeling of rejection when you are alone and have that sad thought, just take it casually as a though and be fearless bcz you did something to make yourself accountable.
yes!!!!!!🤩
Family and friends always used to be supportive until my networth was over $5million. Jelousy came qhen they saw my new house and sports cars.
Yep
Buddy I feel that right now. My stepdad is full of envy because he’s not on my grandfather’s will lol
Share with those who supported you ignore the rest
Estos clips con Hormozi, son in creí bles
We are all exceptional in our own ways. We are all the same, yet we are all different. It's not about fitting in, but about being grounded in being yourself.
Love your p.cast
I don’t know Chris. Nobody says that stuff in eulogies even if they were predictable and normal. The mortality framework is mainly to assess your priorities not to hate on everyday folks.
"But not all changes mean growth, in my opinion."
That’s true about being different and all. Tbh I just like people much to be away from them. 😂 I have people who know ME and people who know me just enough.
"...old people don't give a shit..." - This one earned my like
7:07 YES
I like how this dude is a muscleman wearing a kid hat speaking like a scholar
I use to do a game with myself way back in the 90’s when people went to night clubs and danced and got layed . I would call it “ getting binned (aka rejected ) in 10 minutes.
I would time myself 10 mins or get a mate to time me and I would approach a girl I liked the look of and just go up and talk to her and ask her for a dance 💃.
It’s a facing rejection and it makes you more mentally stronger.
I would get rejected 2 or 3 times but would get a bite on girl 4 or 5 and I would get that dance 💃 and al lot of the time I’d get much more. I never got to 10 rejections.
This is such a good adrenaline rush and great for your confidence. Rejection does not kill you it makes you stronger .
Women like confident men and walking up and talking to them makes you attractive to them even if your not there type they appreciate it because you have the balls to go over and approach her.
I remember just being yo scared to approach a women because of the feeling of getting rejected. And one night I approached this chick and yes she was cool and I didn’t get any where with her but I felt so fking proud of myself just by going over to talk to her I was buzzing. And that was it I just I was hooked win loose . I would highly recommend it to young lads who are scared of approaching a women . Rejections won’t kill you and hey we all die anyway. Hope this Canto I’ve just typed helps someone 👍👍
Be limitless
True loneliness is when nobody co-operates with you, nobody acknowledges you, nobody visits you. When you are always wallpaper in everyone elses existence. Not everybody in this place is treated the same. Meritocracy pales before Appearances...
amazing
School gives us the false reality that friends make you “happy and popular”. As you become older, you realize seclusion is better than inclusion when achieving goals unless the ones around you are on the same path.
...the alternative was 'i didn't want to llive anymore'...
Think of people like crypto- by time someone sees the value in you they have missed the train
A lot of lonely people with bad social skills here think they’re high achievers.
That is a good one, which believe do you have by the way?, also best comment and yours was the last lonely comment😂
😂
Elon musk has entered the chat
Any high achievers want to weigh in?
3-4 yeard ago i left my job , without any plan
I am depressed till now
But instarted my business and now in earn 3 time amount i earned in my last job , and will by my first home next year
But i feel depressed and stress all the time
Thanks for the honesty
Holy Shit! This just made my day…..thank you both for just opening your mouths and saying it. 😎🦅💯💴
Love he mentions old people - feet and shoes.
Get some barefoot shoes now.
Vivos. Xero’s. Whatever.
Honestly, modern footwear is f**king up your feet!
My comment is so old, but Alex gets so much hate...which I totally understand. He transcends that, I promise, listen to him....please. I love all you.
I haven't watched the video, but of course yes.. it's all due to unreliability and time for most cases.
People take two showers?
Sometimes three…lol
Entrepreneurship isn’t for the lazy
Showering twice a day? I would be questioning life too.
I am feeling lonely right now
🎯
Are you fighting the world or are you fighting you
ALEX IS THE GOAT 🐐👑
😂😂😂 sorry, I laughed I just.. came here for wisdom cause I am suffering from my emotions over my ambitions.. cause I am building multiple business alone, working 16 hours a day.. almost every day.. and I wanted to listen to Alex, and when this guy reads out Alex’s quotes, and Alex was like so disconnected when camera switches on him, and he was so durpred (zoomed out thinking) I laughed.. love him so much❤😂
Just put in the mind that it is possible to love and work on ourselves without hating others..
Loving and growing ourselves is just not our efforts it is also the effort of shit people who negatively motivated you to be great.
Moreover distancing ourselves from others doesn't mean to shit others..
ALEX HORMOZI IS A MODERN DAY SOCRATES
Holy shit, i cant see this guy anymore, i literally blocked him and all of his content on any social media, and still i see this hormozi guy....
He will not be denied your attention!😂
The testosterone is all pervading
Stop watching and just listen…
Cool story bro. Tell it again
Why does this make me sad?
There is another subgroup you do not quite mention
Those who are completely fine with themselves but others keep insisting they need to be different or that they are antisocial by rejecting the social constructs. I do not agree there is a normal-only people abiding.
Fucking gold
Who is the author of 100 days of rejection
like in ancient Greece)) athletes reflect on the philosophy of life
A true high achiever never calls himself/herself high achiever
High achievers have HUGE egos. Why wouldn’t they?
Objectively achieving more... it's not a personal thing
Yes they are, I work with them and was married to one for 20 years. They see the world differently, people are assets/facilities for them.
I have also changed, dropped 30lbs, got to a 315lb deadlift. Still growing, but not while abandoning or using people. Spend a ton of time with my kids and friends. Well I should clarify I made some new friends and let go some old ones. I'm more into fitness now and my old friends weren't.
I learned that I don’t like my millionaire bosses and don’t agree with their point of views in life. .. please do never value someone else opinion over your own truth.
This could have gone from good to great if Chris would let the true “interviewee” talk more.
8:32 ok he said "housemate", thought he said "husband" at first. Not that it matters
I thought I heard husband also haha
Me too! I had to replay it. Hilarious
Same 😊
not true, I'm lonely
$100M per year keeping Alex looking big as hell.
i am pretty sure this guy spends all day reading alex hormozis lines wherever he can find them lol
This is what makes trans people soooooo different. We have to go through this, no choice. We have to dig down into ourselves and do our math and be absolutely sure we want to be happy more than we want to not get spat upon by everybody every day forever. And then you do, and after a while you go through so much rejection, and so much violence, and yet you are alive and happier than ever, and you just have to much love for everyone still trapped...
Is it me or is this guy nothing more than a smooth talker?
It's just you buddy
Interview with a Sigma 😂
Everyone is a high achiever nowadays😂🤡
Skool lol
Is this guy Natty?
No
this guy is the worst interviewer on average
How??
@@boxtable1212 yes you are wrong and im him