Can you imagine if we were all taught these concepts at school. Perhaps one day, content like this will be on the curriculum. I hope so. Great video, so powerful. Thank you for creating/sharing.
After years of different therapy you are the 1st person who makes absolute n total sense..it’s insane as a lot of things are finally coming clear to me..Thank you for your videos.
You are so welcome. If you want to learn the full process I wrote a book on it. Here is the link. www.amazon.com/Your-Journey-Success-Answers-Discover-ebook/dp/B078JKSYPJ I also have online courses that people all over the world use and I go live twice a week to catch them through the healing process
You are amazing! You make so much sense. I’m so sick and tired of trying to explain myself to people that don’t deserve an explanation, who don’t have a clue, and fighting myself for feeling so much pain, everyday! Thank you so much Kenny!!!
First video of yours that I came up on TH-cam back November 2021 post abdominal surgery feeling like a broken toy I had made notes as I brought up your feelings wheel Ordered your worst say cycle book To truly look at my own real issues Now 30 months to present day I have emotional connection to myself Better movements in my body Working on my daily Journaling including the worse day cycle fear & resentment [trauma] This is such a source of emotional healing for me Like you always say Enjoy the journey Just simply saying Thank you Kenny
Not trying to blow smoke here but Kenny might be one of the most important people online. I feel like I will make some breakthroughs after following his advice. After all these years.
Oh Kenny, your video came right at the right time. I've been trying for decades to feel healthy. I know it is my responsibility to get healthy for not only myself but for my children and those around me as well. You are right, I did the best I could raising my children and tried to do 100% better than my mother; that just did not happen though; how could it? I've already written a rage letter to my mother and you are right, I sensed a release immediately. I wrote an apology letter to my son this morning. I hope he takes it well. I have been telling my friends about you. Your voice is truly needed in this day and age. Thank you!
Kenny is easily the most intelligent human being I have ever come across. He helped me in one video achieve what I've been struggling with for over 40 years to do and no one would or could help me. This man needs to protected. Its the only real truth anyone has ever really offered me. Thank you Kenny!
Because of you… I have healed the pain and hurt. What amazing information. Who would have thought about your worse day cycle? Now I understand it all ❤️
I appreciate this so much. I didn't realize I had PTSD from my childhood. After 30 years of marriage, I literally had a triggering event with my spouse and I had to leave instantly. My reaction was shocking to me then and I am coming to understand myself so much better now. I am starting to access my feelings of anger and rage and my parents and ex. It doesn't feel good to be angry when I know they are damaged also. But, it's time to be honest with myself about how they hurt me so I can feel the feelings and release them.
My grandmother raised me. I went home from school one day and my grandmother pretended to be dead. I was only 11 years old. That traumatized me beyond words. I can't get past that even today.
I know I need to do anger work. This is very helpful. I was about to journal about my anger but rage letters sounds better. Thank you for these videos.
You’re describing many aspects of EMDR treatment. I only know that bc it’s the only treatment thats ever began to help me. It was working but the feelings I started to access was too much, I stopped. It was extremely overwhelming and I shut down 2 light memories in. Yes, healing feels empowering and I know I deserve to be happy but you gotta get through the grief first. And most people can’t handle it. trauma pain is the worst pain in the world. There’s a reason they call it trauma.
Thank you Kenny I’m so glad I could finally find this ☝️ video as I’m in a foreign country Ive been doing inner work as of April when I had enough of narcissism in my life and meant it Before that I had almost no childhood memories and they’ve been flowing in steadily It seems like I need to begin to add forgiveness to the inner work when the memories come because I really can not control what comes in I’ve been on this recovery road a very long time (10 years) and I feel that the right alignment has occurred to make this ☝️ work
I am working throught your youtube, your book, your free course. My eye was open last year after 56 years of stuck in cycle. Didn't even know. Watching narcissist, jow to heal, all didn't work after one point. Because it just blaming other, didn't take responsibility, i choose them and why i choose them. You made all sense to me. Why i am getting sick when i try to look back past, i couldn't rven show anger, couldn't cry unless i put fake mask. All denial, disassociation, frozen feeling. I will keep watch, hear, read yours until my mind agrees ( in my thoughts/ brian understand and agree your course, my mind/feeling is not there yet) Once it get closer , i will book your private session so it would be more effective.
I am having a hard time to grief my relationship with my soon to be ex husband, is very hard to cry. I got the book you recommended about PTSD and is helping. Next step is get a few minutes a day to grief. But is hard life doesn't stop to let you recover. Thank you for your work
Oh my goodness! After this video I had a pivotal breakthrough!!! I wish I could explain it. I am two years out of a 16 yr abusive relationship and have watched every narcissist video imaginable. But today I started listening to your videos and I now know where my codependency came from. It was a memory I had suppressed since I was around 3 yrs old and today I remembered it. I am 49 now and just figuring this out! It wasn't even my parents, it was a babysitter that kept me then ..This has instantly changed my mind about this whole process. 2 years ago I was in denial about being co-dependant of the narcissist, now I know that I really was. Yes, I still believe they make it worse by beating us down, but now I understand why I allowed it to happen. I can't tell you what a wonderful moment this is for me. Many blessings to you Kenny!!!❤
You’re so welcome and I appreciate your diligence to keep confronting your self deception and denial. It takes tremendous courage to recognize and take ownership of the part we played. Until we do that, we are stuck in purgatory and they still control and own us. Once we see how our childhood created the attraction and we can own, the part we played, we can forgive ourselves and be free from the resentment and anger we have towards them. Everybody wins .
FUCKING LOVE THIS MAN!! I have been obsessively trying to change core beliefs such as "im not enough" etc.. I've been doing affirmations etc but the shit laid out in this video instantly works if you do it right. Thank you so much 😭
At last. The missing intuitive emotional component! I cogniioned my way to the moon and back with zero healing. I knew I was right as a child in what I experienced but was talked out of it by the perpetrators. Now I get to grieve and give the pain back.
I'm so glad I stumbled upon your videos. I like that their simple and easy to follow. I also like that you focus on releasing suppressed emotions and trauma, especially in the body. It's not really talked about in most traditional therapies. It's been very helpful to me so far, thank you Kenny!
What a powerful video... I cried my eyes out. I will use this process... After years of researching and studying all this stuff, and a particular deep-dive into CPTSD in the last couple of years, I knew a lot - but this is the first video that reached me on a deep emotional level, and truly clicked for me. Thank you for your work, Kenny. You're making a big difference to me. I'm so thrilled I found your work.
I keep coming back to this video. If it wasn't for this video I'd never been able to get so far writing my book. Going backwards on when I felt feelings was so helpful and really healing. I got honest and mourned for things I have never mourned for. To be able to see everything gave me concrete things to forgive myself and it helped me to forgive others too. Huge healing happened for me. Really grateful for you works. Thank you very much!
13:40 Very true, I haven’t been present much in my life. Always on the go to achieve more. Very ignorant of my surroundings, hyper fixated on what others would think of me. High levels of anxiety. It took cannabis for me to actually feel what it’s like to be present and focused which is why being under the influence of it sometimes feels like a catastrophic but life changing experience lol. And all those inner traumas come to the surface.
Kenny, thank you so much. I have been struggling for so long to let go of so much pain around my family, both what I received and what I caused. I’ve been “working on it“ for decades with limited results. I’ve wasted money on therapists that were not helpful, some even harmful. Being of limited means, I really appreciate your generosity in sharing this method. I was becoming desperate and wanted to just give up. Now I have some hope for happiness in the autumn of my life. Thank you so so much.
@@kennyweiss how do forgive people who steal from me like me mother did... I really give others too much and trust too much, I am scammed too much! My mom always did this,, ?
I found this video to be quite supportive. Thank you! What’s particularly helpful for me is the sequence of what do I feel, where do I feel it, and what memory comes to mind when I feel this?
Great question. I have just created this new tool where you can type in any question and it pulls from all of my content to give you the solution you are looking for and it gives you direct links to the original source of the content and best of all, it is FREE. Give it a try. ;-) www.sentiyen.com/channels/KennyWeiss
Welcome aboard! So happy it helped you. If you are like me and love this kind of stuff, check out my new online magazine. It is FILLED with tons of free downloads and content to help you. All of my content goes there first so if you like it, you might want to subscribe. www.thegreatnessuniversity.com/ Enjoy The Journey! 🕺🏼
@@kennyweiss . Thank you.Your content is amazing. Perfectly imperfect. I try all the time. Straight to the point. Fab. I will take a look. Healing is hard but this helps make it so much easier. Not alone in this. We are all on our journey. Thank you greatley. 😊👌🌍💪☕👍🤓
When I have chemical explosions, I am not free. I establish a pattern of chemical explosions as my expression of any strong emotion. My parents were stuck in chemical explosions. Going gently works better for me.
Should be required for any parents to have this knowledge. My subconscious has been a back seat driver my whole life. Glad there is someone who took the time to adopt this. 24 years ago, I said the entire early development "system" was highly flawed. Starting from 2 years old, my parents were the worst. I was used as a weapon in a fight when I was 2.
Agree we need classes for most things certification, license, work, credit, pre Cana classes for marriage but no classes no requirements to know understand all these issues so they go on and on
As a Libra ⚖️, I gotta say that I love all the colors in your videos backgrounds. It's very artsy and fun. The blues, pinks, and purples. You look like the Cary Grant of Psychology. That's cool!Keep being you 😎!
I remember I was 4 or 5 and I killed a bug. My mother said" well, it probably had a family" . I remember that guilt I felt. I later thought a mayfly was a mosquito, same thing from my mother. However, I remember my grandmother actually teaching me which spiders I could handle and which ones to kill. My mother had a PhD in guilt trips. Excellent video. Wish my parents were as good at parenting as you are at psychological counciling!
Kenny- I like yer energy, yer message and yer channel. I COMPLETELY agree with your logic on this. Ironic how quickly we get stuck in thought. It is all about emotion, and feeling the emotions. Thanks brother. Keep up the good work and spreading the love. Andrew
I really appreciate you make this video in TH-cam. People watch over and over whenever they are stuck. My shoulder is always Sore(stressed even though nothing to do) , and my tongue is swelling( I thought is from allergy). The mantra you talk about, I just go frozen( I cannot even hear my voice). This video is helpful to hear you voice to guide my emotions.
💛 U r my kin ... n I can relate ... only today I found this video after decade or so researching c ptsd for PARKINSON'S SYNDROME for family member ... my surname is Zhang ... descendant of lost tribe of Jacob Israel originally surname YOSHUA supposedly YOSHUA ben Nun of the Bible, Descendant of general warriors, so need to release generational traumas encoded in the DNA. GBU SHALOM
I've been through hell, and watched tons of helpful, AND some not so helpful TH-cam videos. I've actually had a few years of therapy in my past, and this is the FIRST TIME I've ever heard of the feelings wheel. THANK YOU.
Hi Kenny, thank you so much for your effort and hard-work to share your knowledge with all of us over the world. It really helpful for better understanding and healing process for all of us. I really appreciate with your master pieces. ❤❤❤
well there is enough being said that I know this is a good direction... but what I don't understand is if I don't remember my childhood how am I supposed to work this? I have just a handful of memories and they are not traumatic - I get that I repressed them... but I don't know how to find the time I felt worthless or bothersome - its just in me.
Great question. You don't have to remember a specific event just the feeling. All you have to do is trace back to the first time you recall having that feeling? It might be an event or just an age range and a feeling, a knowing that you felt that negative feeling. If you are meant to recall a specific event in time it will make itself known. If not, that is fine. the process is still the same.
Where have you been my whole life?? I love you!! I have learned more from you in an hour than I have in most of my life. Thank you! Also, who IS your decorator? Stylist? You and those rooms are all so gorgeous! Sometimes I have to look away so I can hear you at all!
It really depends on the person and individual circumstances. Certain trauma will take a lifetime to transform. It is the journey of life. Many aspects will be cleared up immediately
Thank you. It has taken me years to accept that the answer is not in the thoughts but the emotion. I told my therapist years ago that when I was going in circles the cognitive discussion was not helpful. And I was left with no more advice than "just wait" for the emotion to go away and then do the discussion.
I know this will probably come across as skeptical. I'm curious about the studies you mentioned and conclusions drawn from them. Would I be asking too much if I asked you to share those studies? In particular, I'm curious how they were able to quantify that adults are not present to 95% of their life. How did they come up with that percentage? Thanks in advance for your time/help! My hope is to help myself and others with the info you can provide. We all can agree that adults are rarely present to their own lives; it seems like 95% of the time is a whole hell of a lot. Lastly, in full disclosure, I know something is up with me when I'm trying to put everything in my life on autopilot
Great question. You can find all that information on my website under the recommended reading list. All of the books that I have listed there contain the studies and the facts that I share in my videos. Remember I teach truth and responsibility which means we all have to go become an expert ourselves. We have to take ownership and put a plan in place and invest the time and energy to learn about all of these things ourselves. So if you want to dive into all the research as I said it’s in all of the books I list on my website and you’re welcome to do the research yourself and broaden your understanding of these dynamics just as I did
How do we get rid of these emotions and trauma. It's insane. This may be a dumb question but is there a correlation between nutrition and creating change.
That’s a great question. My book teaches you the process and then I have a whole catalog of online master classes that teaches you how. If you’d like the links let me know and I will send them. Nutrition is important but it won’t heal anything
I understand the process you are speaking of above. However, what do you do with the resentment and anger of those who did intend to cause trauma in your life. The boy who date raped, The bosses who confronted you with sexual-harassment and then fired you because you didn’t comply, etc. that is where my extreme hostility comes through. I have definitely grieved about it cried about it and tried to work through with healing And therapy, but I really never get any tools to handle this.
When we hold onto that anger and resentment we are holding onto the anger and resentment the perpetrator had inside themselves that they used to literally dump in us. We get to choose if we want to keep holding onto THEIR unhealed pain. Ultimately, if we stay angry and resentful it is because we won't let it go. We won't give it back to them. At that point the anger and resentment has turned inwards and now we need to forgive ourselves. The assault may have happened years ago but for many, each day they choose to bring it out and assault themselves with it. They get to decide if they want to forgive themselves for doing that to themselves? For some they don't. They enjoy having that victim power and being able to place their own self abandonment, abuse and blame on the perpetrator. I don't judge them for that. Sadly, they can't outrun that deep in their core.They know they are now the perpetrator against themselves. When they are tired of doing that to themselves, they will decide to love themselves and stop devaluing themselves that way. Ultimately, that can all be traced to the messages they received from their parents. That is what they are really holding onto. They don't want to see, admit, face and heal that truth and how those messages put them in the position to be cross paths with the perpetrator. If you decide to invest in learning how the Worst day cycle works, all of this will make sense and you will be able to let it all go and heal.
This just came to mind: one of the primary reasons I keep reliving this worst day cycle, is none of the perpetrators (and there have been many) were ever held accountable. So, I spent the better part of my 20’s medicating myself and “giving” myself away which to no surprise, led to a slew of negative consequences that, of course, I blame myself for. That damn cycle!
@@franceshess1865 And do you see how you took on their identity? They were never held accountable and so you never held yourself accountable. You couldn’t say no to your own self-destructive behaviors. Therefore you could not hold yourself accountable. We become the pain we experienced until we heal it
@@kennyweiss So, in essence, I’m angry at myself and them because of how I responded? Instead of taking control i.e. holding myself accountable/taking the high road , I relinquished my mind, body and soul and took part in their hedonistic game. I became what they wanted. I have been carrying that load of crap and devaluing myself ever since.
@@franceshess1865 When you consider the possibility that by holding onto the anger and resentment, the trauma becomes self-inflicted and then you consider letting it go and forgiving yourself, how does that resonate deep in your soul? Does it release you and feel like freedom?
Can you imagine if we were all taught these concepts at school.
Perhaps one day, content like this will be on the curriculum. I hope so.
Great video, so powerful. Thank you for creating/sharing.
After years of different therapy you are the 1st person who makes absolute n total sense..it’s insane as a lot of things are finally coming clear to me..Thank you for your videos.
You are so welcome. If you want to learn the full process I wrote a book on it. Here is the link. www.amazon.com/Your-Journey-Success-Answers-Discover-ebook/dp/B078JKSYPJ I also have online courses that people all over the world use and I go live twice a week to catch them through the healing process
@@kennyweiss i will be ordering it next week, Thank you.
You are amazing! You make so much sense. I’m so sick and tired of trying to explain myself to people that don’t deserve an explanation, who don’t have a clue, and fighting myself for feeling so much pain, everyday! Thank you so much Kenny!!!
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@@kennyweiss ty Sir. Please pin the same message, and copy this to description, so it's on top of comments so people could find them ... GBU SHALOM
First video of yours that
I came up on TH-cam back November 2021 post abdominal surgery feeling like a broken toy
I had made notes as I brought up your feelings wheel
Ordered your worst say cycle book
To truly look at my own real issues
Now 30 months to present day
I have emotional connection to myself
Better movements in my body
Working on my daily Journaling including the worse day cycle fear & resentment [trauma]
This is such a source of emotional healing for me
Like you always say
Enjoy the journey
Just simply saying
Thank you
Kenny
Not trying to blow smoke here but Kenny might be one of the most important people online. I feel like I will make some breakthroughs after following his advice. After all these years.
"mindfullness won't work...because they're getting you to focus on thoughts" Wow, you master your stuff!
Oh Kenny, your video came right at the right time. I've been trying for decades to feel healthy. I know it is my responsibility to get healthy for not only myself but for my children and those around me as well. You are right, I did the best I could raising my children and tried to do 100% better than my mother; that just did not happen though; how could it? I've already written a rage letter to my mother and you are right, I sensed a release immediately. I wrote an apology letter to my son this morning. I hope he takes it well. I have been telling my friends about you. Your voice is truly needed in this day and age. Thank you!
Kenny is easily the most intelligent human being I have ever come across. He helped me in one video achieve what I've been struggling with for over 40 years to do and no one would or could help me. This man needs to protected. Its the only real truth anyone has ever really offered me. Thank you Kenny!
Because of you… I have healed the pain and hurt. What amazing information. Who would have thought about your worse day cycle? Now I understand it all ❤️
That’s wonderful to hear I’m happy things are better for you
It gets stored in the liver kenny, the colon too. Your emotions are your reality. You are right kenny
I appreciate this so much. I didn't realize I had PTSD from my childhood. After 30 years of marriage, I literally had a triggering event with my spouse and I had to leave instantly. My reaction was shocking to me then and I am coming to understand myself so much better now. I am starting to access my feelings of anger and rage and my parents and ex. It doesn't feel good to be angry when I know they are damaged also. But, it's time to be honest with myself about how they hurt me so I can feel the feelings and release them.
My grandmother raised me. I went home from school one day and my grandmother pretended to be dead. I was only 11 years old. That traumatized me beyond words. I can't get past that even today.
😮omg I can't imagine 😢. I'm so glad you've found Kenny's YT channel!!!
I know I need to do anger work. This is very helpful. I was about to journal about my anger but rage letters sounds better. Thank you for these videos.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤ sending love to you for helping and careing enough to do these videos
Fibromyalgia flares up in emotional moments.
I love u Kenny! And I love myself cuz underneath all the rubble I attracted u! Which means I starting to heal myself!
Bless you. Sincerely, bless you for this video. This resonates so much, in every way. This is true healing. Thank you to infinity and beyond.
Download Feelings Wheel Here: kennyweiss.net/resources/
Your colour coordination is ridiculous! Probably the best on TH-cam.
You’re describing many aspects of EMDR treatment. I only know that bc it’s the only treatment thats ever began to help me. It was working but the feelings I started to access was too much, I stopped. It was extremely overwhelming and I shut down 2 light memories in. Yes, healing feels empowering and I know I deserve to be happy but you gotta get through the grief first. And most people can’t handle it. trauma pain is the worst pain in the world. There’s a reason they call it trauma.
Absolutely.
yes, EMDR
Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing this profound wisdom with the world.
Thank you, Irene!
Great video thanks
Glad you enjoyed it
God bless you. Thanks. This is my prayer
I love you! Thank you for all that you have done to help me get out of a black hole. God bless you for your help and support!
Thank you Kenny
I’m so glad I could finally find this ☝️ video as I’m in a foreign country
Ive been doing inner work as of April when I had enough of narcissism in my life and meant it
Before that I had almost no childhood memories and they’ve been flowing in steadily
It seems like I need to begin to add forgiveness to the inner work when the memories come because I really can not control what comes in
I’ve been on this recovery road a very long time (10 years) and I feel that the right alignment has occurred to make this ☝️ work
You’re welcome
I am working throught your youtube, your book, your free course.
My eye was open last year after 56 years of stuck in cycle. Didn't even know. Watching narcissist, jow to heal, all didn't work after one point. Because it just blaming other, didn't take responsibility, i choose them and why i choose them.
You made all sense to me. Why i am getting sick when i try to look back past, i couldn't rven show anger, couldn't cry unless i put fake mask. All denial, disassociation, frozen feeling. I will keep watch, hear, read yours until my mind agrees ( in my thoughts/ brian understand and agree your course, my mind/feeling is not there yet)
Once it get closer , i will book your private session so it would be more effective.
I am having a hard time to grief my relationship with my soon to be ex husband, is very hard to cry. I got the book you recommended about PTSD and is helping. Next step is get a few minutes a day to grief. But is hard life doesn't stop to let you recover.
Thank you for your work
You're welcome
We are a Spirit having a human experience
70% of the information we downloaded was negative, self sabotaging, and disempowering. Crazy.
Oh my goodness! After this video I had a pivotal breakthrough!!! I wish I could explain it. I am two years out of a 16 yr abusive relationship and have watched every narcissist video imaginable. But today I started listening to your videos and I now know where my codependency came from. It was a memory I had suppressed since I was around 3 yrs old and today I remembered it. I am 49 now and just figuring this out! It wasn't even my parents, it was a babysitter that kept me then
..This has instantly changed my mind about this whole process. 2 years ago I was in denial about being co-dependant of the narcissist, now I know that I really was. Yes, I still believe they make it worse by beating us down, but now I understand why I allowed it to happen. I can't tell you what a wonderful moment this is for me. Many blessings to you Kenny!!!❤
You’re so welcome and I appreciate your diligence to keep confronting your self deception and denial. It takes tremendous courage to recognize and take ownership of the part we played.
Until we do that, we are stuck in purgatory and they still control and own us.
Once we see how our childhood created the attraction and we can own, the part we played, we can forgive ourselves and be free from the resentment and anger we have towards them.
Everybody wins .
FUCKING LOVE THIS MAN!! I have been obsessively trying to change core beliefs such as "im not enough" etc.. I've been doing affirmations etc but the shit laid out in this video instantly works if you do it right. Thank you so much 😭
I'm so thankful 🙏 🙌 💛 for your video.I was so broken for many years
You are so welcome
At last. The missing intuitive emotional component! I cogniioned my way to the moon and back with zero healing. I knew I was right as a child in what I experienced but was talked out of it by the perpetrators. Now I get to grieve and give the pain back.
You are brilliant Kenny, I love listen to you, competent, warm
I'm so glad I stumbled upon your videos. I like that their simple and easy to follow. I also like that you focus on releasing suppressed emotions and trauma, especially in the body. It's not really talked about in most traditional therapies. It's been very helpful to me so far, thank you Kenny!
Glad you like them!
What a powerful video... I cried my eyes out. I will use this process... After years of researching and studying all this stuff, and a particular deep-dive into CPTSD in the last couple of years, I knew a lot - but this is the first video that reached me on a deep emotional level, and truly clicked for me. Thank you for your work, Kenny. You're making a big difference to me. I'm so thrilled I found your work.
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You hit the nail on the head Kenny! As always Thank you so much for all your videos.
61 years old and I am still crying and saying nothing.
Or the complete feeling of no one knows you exist
I keep coming back to this video. If it wasn't for this video I'd never been able to get so far writing my book.
Going backwards on when I felt feelings was so helpful and really healing. I got honest and mourned for things I have never mourned for. To be able to see everything gave me concrete things to forgive myself and it helped me to forgive others too. Huge healing happened for me. Really grateful for you works. Thank you very much!
😭 ...I feel the relief already letting go the pain from the parents and giving back to them..wow thank you Ken.
I LOVE this SOOOO MUCH!!!!!❤ THIS is what we all need to know! Ty for what you do!
You’re welcome
Thanks for the video 😊❤
I believe, sincerely, that this information is straight from God.
I have no words. Just thank you Kenny. ❤
Thank you kenny.....thank you
Watched sone of your content. This is by far your best video.
Looking forward to reading your book
Awesome, thank you!
13:40 Very true, I haven’t been present much in my life. Always on the go to achieve more. Very ignorant of my surroundings, hyper fixated on what others would think of me. High levels of anxiety. It took cannabis for me to actually feel what it’s like to be present and focused which is why being under the influence of it sometimes feels like a catastrophic but life changing experience lol. And all those inner traumas come to the surface.
You are so authentic ❤
Kenny, thank you so much. I have been struggling for so long to let go of so much pain around my family, both what I received and what I caused. I’ve been “working on it“ for decades with limited results. I’ve wasted money on therapists that were not helpful, some even harmful. Being of limited means, I really appreciate your generosity in sharing this method. I was becoming desperate and wanted to just give up. Now I have some hope for happiness in the autumn of my life. Thank you so so much.
THANK YOU !! MINDFULLNESS does NOT WORK!
You're welcome!
@@kennyweiss how do forgive people who steal from me like me mother did... I really give others too much and trust too much, I am scammed too much! My mom always did this,, ?
I found this video to be quite supportive. Thank you! What’s particularly helpful for me is the sequence of what do I feel, where do I feel it, and what memory comes to mind when I feel this?
CRYING?? . . . What is crying? 🥴🥴🤦🏼♂️🤦🏼♂️🤦🏼♂️🤦🏼♂️😖😖
I'm feeling done. I've moved on. Don't participate at all.
Great talk! Thank you! For all the information you gave us , finally! 😀
You’re welcome I’m happy that it helps you
How do you deal with being an unwanted and unloved child?
Great question. I have just created this new tool where you can type in any question and it pulls from all of my content to give you the solution you are looking for and it gives you direct links to the original source of the content and best of all, it is FREE. Give it a try. ;-) www.sentiyen.com/channels/KennyWeiss
Holy crap....This is brilliant. Just started following this guy...laymens terms...👌💗🌍🌐
Welcome aboard! So happy it helped you. If you are like me and love this kind of stuff, check out my new online magazine. It is FILLED with tons of free downloads and content to help you. All of my content goes there first so if you like it, you might want to subscribe.
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Enjoy The Journey! 🕺🏼
@@kennyweiss . Thank you.Your content is amazing. Perfectly imperfect. I try all the time. Straight to the point. Fab. I will take a look. Healing is hard but this helps make it so much easier. Not alone in this. We are all on our journey. Thank you greatley. 😊👌🌍💪☕👍🤓
When I have chemical explosions, I am not free. I establish a pattern of chemical explosions as my expression of any strong emotion. My parents were stuck in chemical explosions. Going gently works better for me.
Should be required for any parents to have this knowledge. My subconscious has been a back seat driver my whole life. Glad there is someone who took the time to adopt this.
24 years ago, I said the entire early development "system" was highly flawed. Starting from 2 years old, my parents were the worst. I was used as a weapon in a fight when I was 2.
That is so sad to hear. I am happy the process I teach has helped you!
Agree we need classes for most things certification, license, work, credit, pre Cana classes for marriage but no classes no requirements to know understand all these issues so they go on and on
As a Libra ⚖️, I gotta say that I love all the colors in your videos backgrounds. It's very artsy and fun. The blues, pinks, and purples. You look like the Cary Grant of Psychology. That's cool!Keep being you 😎!
I remember I was 4 or 5 and I killed a bug. My mother said" well, it probably had a family" . I remember that guilt I felt. I later thought a mayfly was a mosquito, same thing from my mother. However, I remember my grandmother actually teaching me which spiders I could handle and which ones to kill. My mother had a PhD in guilt trips. Excellent video. Wish my parents were as good at parenting as you are at psychological counciling!
Thank you so much for helping me realizing the importance of the work I have to do. Greetings from France
You are so welcome and I commend you for having the courage to DO the work!!!! :-)
I enjoy your art and clothing ! All shows you enjoy your path. x
Your a lifesaver 🙏🙏🙏
I’m happy it helped 😁
Kenny- I like yer energy, yer message and yer channel. I COMPLETELY agree with your logic on this. Ironic how quickly we get stuck in thought. It is all about emotion, and feeling the emotions. Thanks brother. Keep up the good work and spreading the love. Andrew
You’re welcome and thank you. I’m glad you find it helpful.😁
I really appreciate you make this video in TH-cam. People watch over and over whenever they are stuck. My shoulder is always Sore(stressed even though nothing to do) , and my tongue is swelling( I thought is from allergy). The mantra you talk about, I just go frozen( I cannot even hear my voice). This video is helpful to hear you voice to guide my emotions.
You're welcome. I am glad you "found" your voice!
💛 U r my kin ... n I can relate ... only today I found this video after decade or so researching c ptsd for PARKINSON'S SYNDROME for family member ... my surname is Zhang ... descendant of lost tribe of Jacob Israel originally surname YOSHUA supposedly YOSHUA ben Nun of the Bible, Descendant of general warriors, so need to release generational traumas encoded in the DNA. GBU SHALOM
@@kennyweiss ty Sir
Kindly do a playlist series on PARKINSON'S SYNDROME please. I know it's c ptsd but it'll be helpful. GBU SHALOM
This is beautiful and so truly gentle 🌻🌻🌻
Dr. Caroline Leaf re: neural pathways. Very helpful.
No one loves me, I would run away from home, saying no one loves me
I wish my parents would have rolled their eyes at me.
Wow Very powerful message!
I've been through hell, and watched tons of helpful, AND some not so helpful TH-cam videos. I've actually had a few years of therapy in my past, and this is the FIRST TIME I've ever heard of the feelings wheel. THANK YOU.
That’s completely heartbreaking to hear. If a therapist is not teaching you how to deal with your feelings, then you’re not getting help.
This was powerful thank you
Hi Kenny, thank you so much for your effort and hard-work to share your knowledge with all of us over the world. It really helpful for better understanding and healing process for all of us. I really appreciate with your master pieces. ❤❤❤
Happy to help :)
chakras 😁
i am finally starting to understand myself my life my experiences.
Thank you for giving clarity to me 😁
Wonderful!
I still drive my folks crazy lol.
Hello...great vídeo.. Great
..thanks
So very grateful to have found you ❤❤
Thank you so much for this. But what when they really didnt love. They did it on purpose. I cannot give them empathy because of that.
Happy to help!
Thanks!
You're welcome and thank you for the donation. I really appreciate your support. ;-)
well there is enough being said that I know this is a good direction... but what I don't understand is if I don't remember my childhood how am I supposed to work this? I have just a handful of memories and they are not traumatic - I get that I repressed them... but I don't know how to find the time I felt worthless or bothersome - its just in me.
Great question. You don't have to remember a specific event just the feeling. All you have to do is trace back to the first time you recall having that feeling? It might be an event or just an age range and a feeling, a knowing that you felt that negative feeling. If you are meant to recall a specific event in time it will make itself known. If not, that is fine. the process is still the same.
Wonderful wonderful wonderful
Totally NAILED it!!!
Thank you so much. Xxx
I did the rage letter thing. Very therapeutic, boss!
I'm so glad!
Where have you been my whole life?? I love you!! I have learned more from you in an hour than I have in most of my life. Thank you!
Also, who IS your decorator? Stylist? You and those rooms are all so gorgeous! Sometimes I have to look away so I can hear you at all!
You are so welcome! It is me. i used to build homes and custom furniture and would do the design work for my clients. ;-)
@@kennyweiss Stop it! You've had like six careers and you're not even old enough for that! And soooo much talent-my GAWD. Thx for changing my life.😘
This is insanely good
❤ Very interessting!
Love your outfits!
Thank you!!
Thank you so much.
How many times we need to repeat this technic if it is needed to be done more than once?
It really depends on the person and individual circumstances. Certain trauma will take a lifetime to transform. It is the journey of life. Many aspects will be cleared up immediately
Thank you!
You’re welcome
Thank you. It has taken me years to accept that the answer is not in the thoughts but the emotion. I told my therapist years ago that when I was going in circles the cognitive discussion was not helpful. And I was left with no more advice than "just wait" for the emotion to go away and then do the discussion.
I know this will probably come across as skeptical. I'm curious about the studies you mentioned and conclusions drawn from them. Would I be asking too much if I asked you to share those studies? In particular, I'm curious how they were able to quantify that adults are not present to 95% of their life. How did they come up with that percentage? Thanks in advance for your time/help! My hope is to help myself and others with the info you can provide. We all can agree that adults are rarely present to their own lives; it seems like 95% of the time is a whole hell of a lot. Lastly, in full disclosure, I know something is up with me when I'm trying to put everything in my life on autopilot
Great question. You can find all that information on my website under the recommended reading list. All of the books that I have listed there contain the studies and the facts that I share in my videos. Remember I teach truth and responsibility which means we all have to go become an expert ourselves. We have to take ownership and put a plan in place and invest the time and energy to learn about all of these things ourselves. So if you want to dive into all the research as I said it’s in all of the books I list on my website and you’re welcome to do the research yourself and broaden your understanding of these dynamics just as I did
@@kennyweiss awesome thank you!
@@mserth22 you’re welcome
70 percent!😯
How do we get rid of these emotions and trauma. It's insane. This may be a dumb question but is there a correlation between nutrition and creating change.
That’s a great question. My book teaches you the process and then I have a whole catalog of online master classes that teaches you how. If you’d like the links let me know and I will send them.
Nutrition is important but it won’t heal anything
The links are in the description of all my videos
Thank you 🙏 thank you 💯so good 👍I truly need this , thank you 🙏
There it is.
Too bad, we're doing it. Going it heal! Pain and all.
This is my second listen, thank.you so much
You’re welcome
Your life experience, learning and insights are a true gift to others. Thank you for showing us the path to re-connecting with our authentic selves.
You are so welcome
I understand the process you are speaking of above. However, what do you do with the resentment and anger of those who did intend to cause trauma in your life. The boy who date raped, The bosses who confronted you with sexual-harassment and then fired you because you didn’t comply, etc. that is where my extreme hostility comes through. I have definitely grieved about it cried about it and tried to work through with healing And therapy, but I really never get any tools to handle this.
When we hold onto that anger and resentment we are holding onto the anger and resentment the perpetrator had inside themselves that they used to literally dump in us.
We get to choose if we want to keep holding onto THEIR unhealed pain. Ultimately, if we stay angry and resentful it is because we won't let it go. We won't give it back to them. At that point the anger and resentment has turned inwards and now we need to forgive ourselves. The assault may have happened years ago but for many, each day they choose to bring it out and assault themselves with it.
They get to decide if they want to forgive themselves for doing that to themselves? For some they don't. They enjoy having that victim power and being able to place their own self abandonment, abuse and blame on the perpetrator. I don't judge them for that.
Sadly, they can't outrun that deep in their core.They know they are now the perpetrator against themselves. When they are tired of doing that to themselves, they will decide to love themselves and stop devaluing themselves that way.
Ultimately, that can all be traced to the messages they received from their parents. That is what they are really holding onto. They don't want to see, admit, face and heal that truth and how those messages put them in the position to be cross paths with the perpetrator.
If you decide to invest in learning how the Worst day cycle works, all of this will make sense and you will be able to let it all go and heal.
This just came to mind: one of the primary reasons I keep reliving this worst day cycle, is none of the perpetrators (and there have been many) were ever held accountable. So, I spent the better part of my 20’s medicating myself and “giving” myself away which to no surprise, led to a slew of negative consequences that, of course, I blame myself for. That damn cycle!
@@franceshess1865 And do you see how you took on their identity?
They were never held accountable and so you never held yourself accountable.
You couldn’t say no to your own self-destructive behaviors. Therefore you could not hold yourself accountable.
We become the pain we experienced until we heal it
@@kennyweiss So, in essence, I’m angry at myself and them because of how I responded? Instead of taking control i.e. holding myself accountable/taking the high road , I relinquished my mind, body and soul and took part in their hedonistic game. I became what they wanted. I have been carrying that load of crap and devaluing myself ever since.
@@franceshess1865 When you consider the possibility that by holding onto the anger and resentment, the trauma becomes self-inflicted and then you consider letting it go and forgiving yourself, how does that resonate deep in your soul?
Does it release you and feel like freedom?
33:00 please explain the chatter... the replay n review ... the insomnia... ty Sir
Forgive cos we've been forgiven
We need the lingo to set healthy boundaries to protect us from predatory events