Mom burn out is real: 3 ways to help yourself
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ก.พ. 2023
- Feeling Mom Burnout? Watch THIS!
There are so many reasons we're feeling the mom burnout.
Lack of a village, constantly ON, lack of purpose. It can be exhausting and we can spiral... quickly.
These are a few things I've found to help:
1. Be Present
2. Focus on what's working
3. Think about the Mom YOU want to be!
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These are a few things I've found to help:
1. Be Present
2. Focus on what's working
3. Think about the Mom YOU want to be!
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Personally, these mom chat videos are my favorite content from you!
I literally almost didn’t post this lol so thank you for saying it
Agree
Yup! I click right away when I see these vids!
Same! Old school TH-cam chats are my favorite.
Yeah, I’ve also really been enjoying a change in the contact -but I love basically everything you put out there😅
I'm brand new at this mom thing, I've got a ten week old baby napping on my chest as I write this lol. While the transition to this new version of myself was easier than I thought it would be, the burnout and then guilt from said burnout is so so real. I could write a novel of a comment about all these revelations I'm having as a new mom, or I could just binge your videos and continue to be shocked by how unbelievably relatable you are as you say everything that's already on my mind. Thanks Shayla!
Hahahah I'm SO happy to hear that it was easier than you thought! I heard Jess Hover say once, for the mom's that had an easy transition WE NEED YOU. Don't dim your light, or join the complaining, help us see the light! lol
Everything about this video resonates with me....not having a village - felt this in in my soul. Thank you for this. Nice to hear another mom experiences similar feelings and thoughts
Hey Shayla, I love your content and love the idea of a conference. I would like to share that there is so much good in the suffering. Sometimes motherhood is dang hard, but it’s good that we endure the hardship. This is where we find growth. I think sometimes we constantly try to figure out how to make things more comfortable or focus on what we want instead of looking at what is gained in our “troubles” or how we are humbled by our current condition. Yes I think we should always strive to be better humans, but there is so much joy that can come with sacrifice. Thank you for your content, you seems so genuine and show a great deal of vulnerability with all of us! Thanks again
Your past 2 videos could not have come at a better time for me. I’ve been struggling a bit and finding the balance is just TOUGH! But you always have such great advice and outlooks on things, it helps my crazy brain relax a bit 😵💫 so thank you!
I'm SO FOREVER GRATEFUL for you Shayla!!!! I am seriously the luckiest ever to have found you right before I had my baby. Your videos and podcasts have had such an incredibly positive impact on my parenting/motherhood journey and I just want you to know how much your videos and content help me become the person and mom I want to be!!!! LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!!!
P.S. I truly think this video and your podcasts with Tessa Romero have changed my parenting life. In. The. Best. Way. Please keep doing what you're doing!! You are so loved, and so appreciated!!!!
Shayla, YOU help change lives- you're doing so much good in the world. If you pulled together a motherhood group or a conference, Hell yeah, I'd be there. Yes to all of this. Thanks for the perspective. I'm going to go find some construction paper 🙃
Ha! Hit the nail on the head. I was JUST complaining/discussing this exact mood with my partner this week. Wild. I'm gonna look into that book for inspiration, but what you said makes a lot of sense. That focus on the positive and what it would feel like to be the person you want to be. It's really helped me in the past to manifest that reality with practice. Thanks Shayla, I've watched you for a while now, I always appreciate your perspective. ❤️
This was so helpful! I am experiencing so much inner chaos as a sahm to a 11 mo and 33 mo. I do not have the village I thought I would, and like you said, I'm grieving it. I am currently trying to build my own village, and it is incredibly hard. I like your peace starts with me, because yes, our kids feed off of our energy 100%! And also, picking 1-2 things to focus on and what feels good for my family. These videos are helping me so much, please keep being real and honest!
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Hi Shayla,
I've been watching your videos from Berlin Germany, and I'd like to thank you for being so open and honest!
My husband I have a 2-year old son and often struggle managing both our jobs and parenting at the same time.
Watching your videos helped me realize that everyone experiences hardships and that parenting isn't something that needs to be perfected.
I wish you and your family all the best and look forward to seeing more from you!
I love your videos. You're so genuine and relatable and REAL. I feel like I've had coffee with a good friend whenever I get a chance to watch them. THANK YOU for putting this content out in the world, you make it a more beautiful place. xxx
So timely! I have a 5 year old, a 3 year old and a 8 month old. Both my husband and I work full-time plus I try and put out social media posts and videos about my career as a prosthetist to help other amputees. Especially lately I have definitely been feeling the burn out and feel I haven’t been able to jump right back in as quickly with this last baby as I did with the other two. Such a good reminder to be present, but also incorporate little things to make sure that the life we’re creating is sustainable. Also I totally second the gym idea. We got an indoor play gym for the kids for Christmas and it has been wonderful!
-So relatable! I have to reframe so many times as well.
-“Grow Good Humans” is one of the best shirts I’ve ever seen
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-Working on creating my village, too.
-“TV” being part of the village is a funny way to say it 😆
-Yeah, while I agree TV shouldn’t be on 24/7, I do get sick of seeing “screen time” shaming and the snobbery that goes with it. It’s often wealthy people who can afford to always hire help or expensive toys that act so self righteous. OR I read moms who are afraid to use screens complain about how often their kids complain about being bored but stubbornly won’t let them having any time with technology. I’m thinking- “why do that to yourself??”
-Also, I’ve been working on staying connected to the higher realm instead of getting stuck on all of the day to day chores myself. Just this morning I posted instructions for a specific type of meditative technique in my kitchen and dining area. The kitchen especially has been a trigger area for me lately, a place I tend to get angry about cooking/cleaning 😅
Lastly, have a 9 month old and totally relate to those baby hairs in the front growing back in 😆
I watched this two days ago when I didn’t have time to really do anything cuz I was so busy with everything. I didn’t have time to give you a comment cuz my brain couldn’t even think in English😅. But for two days I have been thinking I need to write to shayla. I have been following you since I was early pregnant and you have been my big supporter without you knowing it. The last two weeks I was so busy with work and taking care of my baby and also getting enough milk supply. I was pumping and watching this video thinking I might not have enough milk for the following day. Hearing you say “ the universe got your back” I believed in it and it made everything work for me. Thanks Shay. You are really good with what doing doing. Keep doing it. I was your supporter without you knowing but now you do.
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I feel you on so many of these things. Your mom chat videos are the best -- keep them coming!
Such a relatable video! Definitely was going through the rut FOR SURE too. I do feel like I’m on the up now. I definitely want to read that book. Also, you should definitely host an event with speakers and stuff. I totally would be there. 🤗
Stay tuned 😏
Thanks for videos like this. I'm pregnant with my second child, due in July, and am having a sad phase right now, where everthing feels too heavy and just like I can't manage and especially won't be able to manage it all with a happy mindset once #2 is here. Your videos really help.
I cried when I was pregnant bc I thought the same thing. Idk how but you just do it. And it’s beautiful and messy and imperfectly perfect
Omg please continue these videos because it helps so much to make me feel like I’m at not alone as a mom! Thank you!
I love how relatable you are Shayla! It’s like you’re friends with all your followers and I love that. I think you’re so on the path to hosting a big conference with speakers and being a speaker yourself and going to give talks about motherhood. We all have preparation seasons and I think this is yours, especially since you’re still a mom of littles. Gain that experience, and keep those goals and work toward them (like taking public speaking courses) cuz one day I have no doubt I’ll see you giving speeches at events and hosting your own gatherings!
OMG this actually made me teary... thank you!
I'm loving your recent videos because I feel like I'm going through so many of the same struggles and it helps to know that I'm not the only one and get some of your advice.
Shayla, I have been subscribed to your channel for years now. It helped me when I had my first born.
I love what you have been and are currently doing for moms out there.
We definitely need more of you!!! More people like you.
I’m so excited for your goals and dreams and hopes and wishes!
And excited for your new flow!!
You got this!
Oh my god i needed this so much in this very moment. I'm currently baking crisis cookies because motherhood feels just TOO HARD today. Really wanted to scream but held it together. I'm very deep in the rut right now & I'm SO GRATEFUL to you for sharing this & all your videos. I love you. Thank you for being part of my village 😘
Thank you for these videos, I really mean that. They usually find me just in the right spot, questioning the same things, and you help me formulate what goes through my mind and how to handle it. So this one also hit the same spot. Thank you
Been feeling in a rut too, thanks for keeping it real Shayla, I relate to you so much ❤
Bless you for this. I needed this. Just like you said, connecting with the higher power and what you need will come to you. Thanks Shayla!
Thank you for this video Shayla. I really needed to hear this today ❤️
Love the chat videos, so relateable, living as a midwest mama myself with a 3y and 6mo old...life is blurry-beautiful!!
Thank you so much. These sorts of videos are very helpful to me. They give tips and make me feel not alone!
As a mom, I thank you for this!!!
Shayla, I am a newer follower. I started following you in July when i found out i was pregnant with my first. I keep coming back to your videos because you inspire me to be a present, calm mom. I love how REAL you are and how honest you are. Please stay true to yourself and if that means more random whats on your mind videos that perfect. Thank you for sharing everything you create on here and your podcast i love it all and cant wait to start implementing some of what ive learned from you once baby is finally here.
Shayla, I found your channel in my first pregnancy about a year ago. Of course Mom life has taken over but I've been going through some of the exact same things you have been talking about and your videos have been so meaningful to me, especially these last few. I could go on and on but want to thank you for your content, honesty and positive vibrations. I wish we could be actual friends in real life lol. Thank you for all that you do and don't ever stop. The universe is definitely working through you, even on the rough days. 💗
I loved this video Shay! I related to it so very much and I am totally digging this style of video where you just come on and talk about your current feelings!
As a mom to a 13 month old, I can happily share you have made such a difference in my motherhood journey, and what you do is so meaningful to our family!
I also love your idea for a mom conference.
Keep being you girl! Love ya!!!
😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️ thank you for taking the time to write this!!
I looove this heart-to-heart format!!
Here with my 13 month old I'm also thinking when I'm gonna get anything *substantial* done again and then it's like this feeling of ah but I want to have another, will I get anything done with two? We will. In our time. Also: in the meantime in between the "important"stuff (career-wise, academically) we're doing the *really* important stuff - raising tiny humans..
Love witnessing your journey and feeling you in all the things - grieving the village, navigating digital usage, struggling with childcare. Thank you for your relatability ❤️
I LOVE your videos girl 💖💖💖I needed this video thank you
Your podcast is fire! Keep it up! I check for new ones all the time.😊
This is exactly how I’ve been feeling, I just haven’t been able to articulate it!
I don't comment on TH-cam videos very often but I wanted to say thank you. I've got an almost 14 month old and I started watching your stuff when I was pregnant with her. You've been so incredibly relatable from the beginning and coming back to your content time and again is always helpful, entertaining and encouraging. I watched a couple of your more recent videos today, including this one and the relationship one, and I appreciate the realness. It's not boring, or hard to follow. I love it. We are definitely all going through this stuff and having other mothers talk about it openly like this makes us feel less alone (and less crazy haha) and more understood. Keep it coming girl.
I appreciate you❤️
I giggled hard when you pointed out your pp hair regrowth - experiencing the same (have an 8mo). Appreciate all your honesty as I feel seen with your comments. Thank you!!❤
Thank you soooo much for this video, the transparency!!!
I feel this. Today was a bad day for me. I like calm begins with me thing, I needed that today for sure.
OMG! I feel you so hard!!! I too long to talk at conferences. It's been a goal of mine for a while now ( no clue where to start lol) . Thank you for addressing the "rut", I have a 5 yr old and a 5 month old... I'm finally starting to climb out of this rut!
Yesssssss! Feel much less alone today! Thank you.
I just ❤ you.
Mama of a newborn and 3 yo. Discovered you last year. Love your videos. So real.
Yes! I’d totally come to your conference! 😊
This video popped up in exactly right moment, thank u☺️
Thank you for every video 💜
I needed this! I’m glad it’s not just me.
So relatable! Love these
My girls are exactly 3 months older than yours. I felt in a super rut around the 9 month mark. I think it's really because you are entering a new stage and now have a more mobile baby and your older one is on the cusp of preschool age at the same time. I really needed to refocus and change up our routine. Before that my little one was just an attachment, but at the 9 month mark its like "oh crap, you also have needs and need to be learning and doing things, etc.." It took me some time to come up with a good plan that fits us, and I'm always adjusting but I think I'm finally at the end of the rut. I still feel like I'm going crazy half the time though lol, so it's good to just sit in your thoughts and re-evaluate your priorities (as you pointed out).
This is a good point, thank you.
A doula friend if mine said 9 month is a hormonal change too with baby in more solids
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You are doing great Mama! I feel you on all of this and you are part of my makeshift community!
I relate to these videos so much. It is comforting hearing that other moms have the same struggles. Also not related,but could you make a reading list of the books you have read and loved on your website? :)
YES! I have it on Amazon right now: www.heyshayla.com/books but a little summary would be nice!
Please do more of these ❤
Please keep making these 🎉
Excellent vid!
Mom conferences should totally be a thing!!
You are my #1 mom role model. So 1000% I think you should pursue hosting live events if you want to! I'd try my damnedest to come.
I feel all of this!! I currently teach prenatal yoga and have a goal to create a monthly mom meet up. Create some local community.
OOOOOH WOW
I FEEL YOU!!!
My problem with screen time is that my kid is a huge brat when he watches TV. 🤦♀️
So so much....just 30 minutes ago I was bawling my eyes out while my 2 year old told me I was sad maybe I'm hungry while simultaneously demanding I play another game with him while my 4 month old rolled around next to me not napping. 🤦♀️
Omg i know that exact moment. Sending you calm
Did you know there is a conference called Mom meets WOW summit in LA. You would be a great speaker there! I haven't been but I am considering going there this year. They have a general admission and a content creator admission!
No, But I'm Googling it now!
I’m in the middle of my Saturn return. Please send good vibes. 😭🙏🏻
The Gospel is my rut breaker. When I’m overwhelmed and drowning in life or frustrated to distraction with circumstances; I meditate on the Gospel. God created us and choose to love us. So much so that He sent His son to die for us to pay the price for our sins. So that our sin will no longer separate us from Him. (John 3:16, Romans 5:6-11.) When I think on this incredible reality I realize that my greatest need has already been addressed, and this frees me up to thank God instead of being anxious. (Phil 4:6-8)
thanks for the new video! highly needed here!
One quick Q: wanted to get one of your sweatshirts(or 2), do you sell them anywhere in the UK or should we get them through your website? (tad worried about the extra taxes etc) Cheers!
It’s just through the website! I’m not sure what customs stuff would look like 😅 send me a dm on Instagram
I would love to attend a conference if you make it! I’m currently struggling with being soooo present and not tending to my own needs.
Haha motherhood is a trip 😂🙌
Me, 3 years into being a mom, and I still have a hard time leaving my "baby". Not really sure why, I need to bc I need some space but I feel paralyzed.
What’s the indoor plaything you’re getting? My son wants to climb the gate to the stairs and I want to redirect 😅
It’s not cheap but there are tons of options Avenlur on Amazon amzn.to/40BEkOg
Thank you!!!
Talking about being in flow.. I've really been enjoying Mia Magik & Sahara Rose. All around amazing & empowering women
Me too! I just found those sisters, so glad they've popped into my life I've learned a lot 💚
Where do I find their stuff?
On you tube is where I found them through "Skylife" channel. Her channel is also good.. offers so many options for healing & spiritual journeys. Wim hoff.. yes theory.. she introduced me to them so good
Hey Girl, thank you for sharing your thoughts!!! One thing I noticend is, that you have the desire to connect with something or someone... Maybe you could try to connect with god, because he is the god who sees you and wants to reach out to all of us. I have experienced so many incredible things with him on my side and I want to encourage you to just talk to him and see what happens. Love your videos!
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6
Barnacle Baby momma over here lol 😅 I legit just cancelled my dentist appt bc I didn’t want to leave the baby with anyone bc she just cries if she doesn’t see me for too long. Plus I’ve stopped pumping bc breastfeeding is going well but now she won’t take a bottle and my boobs aren’t used the pump anymore so ouch.
She’s 6 months old and I’m JUST about to venture out of the house with both of them on my own to meet up with another mom bc I’m tired of not seeing other humans lol
UGh I feel you on the dentist, and I promise the trip WILL be tricky, but you'll figure out things that make it easy. I have AJ climb in on Esme's side and go sit in her seat (I also bribe her with a car safe snack).
Then I get the baby, have her push to loosen her carseat and off we go!
You'll do great and you 'll leanr your own tricks!
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Not to be that person but is the title Felling on purpose? Should be Feeling? much love❤
Nope. I’m the typo queen ahaha thank you
Moms.... how do you remain mentally ok when you have no outside help? I have no support system. Not a friend, not a family member. My mom moved thousands of miles away. My husband's family are self absorbed and seem to give no craps about me, or the kids. I'm pregnant with an extremely hyper 3 year old boy and a 1 year old and I'm beyond exhausted. How do you not get so angry at your in-laws or family for not wanting to help when it's so obvious you're drowning.
I had to accept the circumstances I was in. And choose to be happy for myself. Accept that I can’t do everything bc I don’t have the support. And focus on the things I could control and how I wanted that to feel. Aka get out and do things with kids even when it’s hard.
It’s not the advice you want to hear when you’re so angry (I didn’t) but when I did I felt peace and control in my life. Sending you love.
Thank you so much! It get so hard sometimes, but it really is all about perspective and just trying to remain positive and understand that I can't control other people. Thanks for the comment! I'm subscribing! ❤@@heyshayla
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I’m on holiday with my little barnacle and it’s a full time job. I didn’t even get any sun today (I’m on my own to be fair, so basically there is no time for me lol) but yeah - I am feeling this! He is worth it though. I don’t think I was parented anywhere near as selflessly as this and I make terrible life decisions and my relationships are always bad. I need praise, I pick the wrong people, I put up with all sorts. Hopefully I am growing a strong confident little man ❤
Also it’s not you, it’s TH-cam. People want fast, pointless content (TikTok) well, not everyone, I much prefer this, and good podcasts with professionals talking about how to be the best parents, and reading books, but less and less people like this stuff and most people just want clips. Please don’t stop though, the people who are watching are very grateful for your content :)
I love your videos! It gives me a lot more peace of mind 🫶