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Craig was the smoothest guy I’ve ever seen around women
You ain't never lied about that ! He's the ultimate man when it comes to flirting with the most stunning women on Earth. He is so at ease with beautiful women.
Nah, patrice o neal
u guys are hilarious! i mean hes great dont get me wrong ...but ever heard if pickup artists? whose profession is to flirt with women and teach others how. thats a whole new level of mastery...i would show you infield footage but we are on a platform that bans that sort of material now. So i cant. But those guys are on the level of Casanova and Don Juan... they sleep with thousand woman who they picked up out whit out knowing them before, and without being a known, rich, talk show host. different universe
@@kresimirzex2720 a lot of that footage is staged and most pickup artists are fake. Even ones that get paid $1000 a session for lessons. Some aren't but you really can't know. At least with Craig it's 100% real
A. Daiy Patrice isnt smooth. He is aggressive. Different, but necessaire cause hè was a big, non attractive guy
Craig Ferguson is cooler than the other side of the pillow
MrKiddDiamondsTV nice Family Guy reference my dude. 🤘🏻✌🏻
RIP to Stuart Scott
Austin Sanders that’s not a family guy reference. That’s an expression that’s been around for decades
Kai’s Messiah Baby i believe you, first time I heard it was from Family Guy. Still Craig Ferguson is a pretty cool dude.
That makes him Abilene!
Descriptive of the pleasing coolness to be found on the reverse side of the pillow
- The Meaning of Liff (Adams and Lloyd)
"just talk and be yourself, always works for me" - Brad pitt
😂
Just treat attractive people as normal people. Believe it or not they don’t like constantly being treated weird by other people hitting on them.
@@angelgjr1999 how would you know?
ahh yes, thanks Brad Pitt aka one of the most attractive men who's ever existed.
@@BrokenGodEnt and rich, and famous
Since this aired, I've fathered 8 kids
What are their names?
@@EpicMRPancake Ben Dover, Phuk dat bich, Obama bin Laden, David Seaman, Gross Pantii, P. ennis, Mike litoris, Paul Twocock
@@rajatbhat7799 I approve. Bet you can't wait to witness them grow up into healthy, bright and successful shitstains!
@@EpicMRPancake I said I fathered 8 kids...didnt say I ever met em. BADUMTSH
Dating them single moms, eh?
Instead of wondering, “Will I impress her”? Wonder, “Will she impress me”.
Instead of wondering, “Will she like me?” Wonder, “Will I like her?”
That’s all it is my dudes, feel yourself and the chicks will feel you. Rejection is not a reflection of your lack of worth, it’s simply a lack of compatibility. So don’t take rejection personally and therefore, don’t fear it.
All facts but it’s still heartbreaking
Brendan Lorenzo well said my brother
@@jackharvey7824 Fucking hell, my sides. The combo of your name and your sage words almost made my surgery stitches pop.
Brendan Lorenzo good advice man
@M D Wow for real
now that I notice it
girls I chased after often friend zone me
But the few girls that came to me and they were interested in me before I even noticed them
They all approached me right after or exactly while I was minding my own business and being happy doing what I was doing.
This is why he’ll always be my favourite late night host. It never felt hokey or forced when he was talking to celebrities, he treated them the same as anyone else who was sitting in the chair opposite him.
@Everything Conan is fake and scripted as fuck. Even his laugh is fake. Craig was the only genuine late host when it comes to interviews.
@Everything conan falls in the same spectrum as fallon but not as severely fake
I never caught Craig's show when it was on but I always liked Conan. You gotta respect the fact that if a joke bombs, or something goes wrong in a sketch, or part of the set falls over, Conan not only keeps it in the show, but addresses it and makes it funny. A lot of shows would probably scrap the whole segment and start over.
Some female guests would even flirt back ten fold
As a entertaining modern talk show host, Conan is better than Craig Ferguson, but when it comes to flirting with hot women, Craig is far better. Craig gives a smart, smooth, funny bastard kind of vibe. Conan is hilarious, but he is not as flirtatious like Craig
I actually use to tell woman I was nervous to talk to them, and I would even be scared to death to ask for their number but I would get it. I really think it’s not about confidence at first it’s about courage. Courage is doing something even when afraid, confidence comes from doing courageous things till you’re no longer afraid so they’re not courageous anymore. Confidence is “knowing” you know what to do. And that’s earned.
Well said mayne
What about tax evasion? Can you be confident in doing it or no?
After you get laid .... No more stress
BushidoKi if you tell them that you’re “nervous” to talk to them that already gives them the upper hand and lets them know that your confidence is lacking. I don’t agree with Craig here
Fuck yeah man when you show this side of yourself to women and are unapologetic about it they love it
Just would like to add: If all you want to do is talk to a girl, you would just go up and talk to her. But what's blocking you is that you don't want to just talk to her, you want more. I know this sounds crazy but you should try lowering your expectations and the stakes. Next time you talk to a girl, don't expect anything to come of it. She might like you, might not. Then try it again with another girl. Then another and another, and remember to talk to each one as an individual. Pretty soon you'll be so comfortable talking to girls you won't even notice. Practice makes perfect and remember: They're human, just like you.
Being comfortable talking to girls is not hard - knowing that they're not comfortable talking to you is reality for a lot of unattractive men.
I think that's a good advice man, here have an imaginary beer
When your sole form of social interaction is forced moments with your dependant pet cat, don’t be pontificating to other people about how to speak to a hole.
@@Frieslick I take it back, you should ignore my advice and just listen to the guy who refers to women as “holes”
Laughed at myself reading this. Nail on the head my dude! Modern pornography is responsible for this phenomenon imo
Craig Ferguson>James Corden. Craig deserves his late night show back
Craig is 10x better
Craig deserves to do what he wants to do, which was no longer being on the late show. He had enough of it, he was bored, he quit. It was his choice
@@Raemnant I'm sure they were mistaken that he was fired or something
"We got to see James Corden as a fat Pus*y. He was also in the movie Cats"
Those 2 shouldn't even be mentioned together in the same sentence. Craig is in another galaxy.
Remember, he learned and mastered this over many years. Everyone starts out somewhere.
So, when did this shit happen? Not even joe rogan has had Ferguson.
Well, 1.5 thousand people agree with me... joe needs to have Ferguson on🤙🏼
Carlos Montes Ferguson came out the cave just for Bobby
Seriously. I know he has some sort of talk radio deal, but I would love for him to do some more podcasts. Rogan would be a good one, H3H3, YMH. Just get him around different elements. Craig is like a folk legend at this point. His show was just beyond anything else on TV.
@@kc2094 yes, I agree. And they should go deep into the psychology of what he was doing, which in shorter terms was undressing guests without ever reducing their own desire to do it in front of cameras. Complete breakdown of inhibitions. + A psychologist for some background would be cool.
Maybe he did not want him. maybe. I think i remember one of those in sober October pack saying he was a something of a jerk or somthing? Now i better check and confirm i don't want to perpetuate false rumors.
#185
Forget “Hook-Up Artist” videos, just take Craig’s advice. He is a smooth talker to all his female guests, and has never been accused of being lewd.
To be fair, he HAS been pretty lewd at times. He's made jokes that anywhere else should be seen as inappropriate and unprofessional, but that's his show and people expect it. Context is everything.
@@derek96720 Fair point. I have just never heard any women accuse him of anything uncomfortable. Two men can say the exact same thing, but it feels pretty obvious that there is a difference between it coming from the charming man and the average guy, who you can’t tell what they are really up to. We’re mistaken if we think women don’t appreciate some flirtation and sexual tension, it’s the predatory guys that make it unwelcome and threatening.
@@PatrickMHoey at this pace he will get a gazillion accusations in 20 years from now. LOL
This so true, even when he talked to the guys the same way
I love Craig Ferguson. He is sex on legs.
I told a girl how nervous I was to talk to her she tells me to grow a pair and then come talk to her Sister Mary Katherine was always brutally honest
but do you regret doing it? you know a lot about that girl now
@@bigboilover6936 idk if u got it. Doesnt seem like it but he was making a catholic nun joke.
@@whydef269 idk if *you* got it.
@@chubbymike3372 pardon me sir? May you please explain your incorrect point of view please? Lol. Nah seriously tho what didng i get?
@@whydef269 I think he was joking too
Craigy Ferg is ALWAYS going to be the coolest cat in the room.
You mean hugh jackman stunt double.
You can tell a woman you are nervous to talk with her, but do it in a confident, straightforward way. Or, at least not in a whinny "please like me" tone of voice. Being bemused by your own "weaknesses" and vulnerabilities is a sign of strength.
Su.
Exactly! If you own your weaknesses, they are seen as features and not bugs.
I never get tired of montages of Craig flirting with people on his Late Night show. Total master.
Craig Ferguson's Late Night Show on CBS really was brilliant. His opening monologues were unlike any before (or since, for that matter..); dealing primarily about sobriety & the come up.
When Courtney Love was released from rehab; I'll never forget how kind and empathetic he was towards her. Instead of lamely going for "low hanging fruit" inevitable relapse jokes about Courtney, like eveey other late night comedian, he sincerely wished her the best. Such kindness & sincerity is a very rare thing in Hollywood. I really miss hearing Craig Ferguson's insight & perspective on a nightly basis.
_Peace&JahBless_
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As someone who used to be extremely socially awkward and used to go out of their way to avoid talking to women, and now here I am with plenty of female friends and someone who admittedly can get the attention of a women through conversation alone, I truly think the best way to talk to women is to talk to them without clear sexual intent (at least not at first).
When you talk to a woman I think it has to be in a sort of gray area, where it’s not quite flirting but you have to make it obvious that you’re attracted to them or curious about them. Ask them lots of questions, find common interests, etc. and here’s a thing I do to try to get their numbers or Snapchat’s, say you find out that she’s never eaten at one of your favorite restaurants, just casually say “You’ve never eaten at (insert place)!? Nah I’ve gotta take you there soon.” Then proceed to ask for some contact information. This makes it clear that you’re interested in seeing them in the future while not exactly being flirting.
I’m not the best at picking up women, but ever since I became more confident in myself, started taking better care of my appearance, and started talking to women like regular people rather than talking to them like sources of sex, I have received way more female attention then I ever have.
I'm still shocked by so many men: "Hi. I'm Tigerbelly. Can I touch your button"? And then wonders why women turn and walk away instantly.
Yea, for some reason people are afraid of attractive women and talk to them as if they're not also a human being. Just talk to them like you would anyone else, and if you got it then you got it. Most people either get really shy, or they get overly confident and start acting like fuckin James Bond or something. In my experience, some normal banter, some jokes, and eye contact go a long way. Getting comfortable with rejection also helps quite a bit, because not everyone is going to be interested. I'm no expert on picking up chicks, but I've been successful at dating some beautiful women, and I'm average looking at best. It just needs to be natural.
I'm only nervous or shy after spend long periods in isolation. Like when locked up and I spent 60 days in the hole it was harder for me to talk to anyone including the officers. When I'm working in customer service and socializing daily I could talk to anyone and not be the slightest bit shy. And the more time I spend alone the harder it is to talk to people and the more I stray from even trying. Then the thoughts come in. You know the kind you can't talk about cause they'll put you away. Basically the Taxi Driver effect.
Shit that's rough have you thought about therapy might help
Stay strong and dont be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
Hope you’re doing ok buddy, stay strong 👋🏻
Same with me
I’ve got the same issue brother, in a place where I know nobody so it’s a bad cycle. Just letting you know you’re not alone
What an insightful and kind man. He offers such amazing advice. Yall gotta have him on again!
Vulnerable honesty and confidence in that vulnerable honesty go a long way.
I just want to point out a couple things. If you've ever seen Craig Ferguson flirt with the women on his talk show he looks really smooth but the thing people often forget is that the actresses are there to promote something and know part of Craig's shtick is to be flirty. My point is they know what they're in for and respond accordingly. To address what Craig said in this clip I think there's a lot of truth to what he said. There is no magic line, there's nothing wrong with being vulnerable, and don't put anyone on a pedestal. What I think he is missing is that telling a girl your nervous to talk to her can show some respect but you are definitely going to want to balance that out with being confident in some form. Ask any woman what she's looking for in a guy and confidence is always in the top 3. The longer you dwell on approaching someone you want to talk to the more pressure you will put on yourself. You want to come off as relaxed and confident. So say your nervous but say it confidently. Start thinking of talking to girls in the context of abundance. If she rejects me it's no big deal. Life goes on and there are plenty of other girls out there. If you pigeon hole on one perfect girl from you class, at a bar, or maybe the idea of the perfect woman in your mind you're setting yourself up for failure. There's tons of material out there on gaining confidence. All in all be respectful, be confident, and don't be afraid of rejection. The guys that win the most also lose the most.
Edit: spelling
Exactly!
Respect
I tried this I'm nervous information shit once only because the girl was way out of me league and i think beautiful girls are aware of their influence on average guys so she probably know that being nervous around her is the normal thing and then she wouldn't be judgmental anyways it was a long shot and I had nothing to lose and it worked .
Craig's game is just effortless. Smooth as all hell.
Calling out the nervousness takes the piss out of everything--he's absolutely right.
I’d rather live with myself knowing I made a fool of myself trying to talk to her, than live the rest of my life thinking, “What if?”
A good rule to live by.
I wouldn’t
@randywhite3947he would rather coom than boom
The unspoken truth: you have to have something that stands out, whether it's your hair, clothing, physical good looks, being in a different country where your enthnicity stands out, or a certain situation occurs and you handle it, there really is no black and white answer, but giving off some kind of unique vibe is truly where it all comes down to. The other day I was in a packed restourant/bar in NYC and offered two old people my place that had 2 chairs in place for their 1 chair spot; people round the bar took notice of this, a couple next to me engaged in good conversation with me and ended up buying me a glass of wine, a beautiful woman on my other side asked where i was from.... all from a simple gesture and being polite. It made me stand out, or better said, it was an opportunity to stand out... I honestly did it out of courtesy with no apprehension of what it would bring to me. But it is interesting to keep your eyes open if a certain situation occurs where you can lend a hand. On the other hand, being a celebrity makes you unique on it's own, so Mr. Ferguson doesn't have ordinary peep's problems.
This is beautiful. You don't have to stand out; just be you and what makes you unique will show through. And anyway, who'd want to be a celebrity, those people have the most mental and emotional problems of everyone on the planet.
You just have to say and do stuff that's popular and look good - nobody cares that you're hardcore fan of obscure hentai and have collection of 10 000 photographs of manhole covers...
my whole philosophy with girls is that it's either "fuck yes" or nothing at all. If they don't want to be with me 100%, I'm not interested in them either. I just show them who I am, and they can decide if they want to stick around or not. It's worked well so far. It takes a while to connect with someone, but when you do, you REALLY connect.
Love IT man! I was really into this mindset. Then fell in love with a girl who asked to date me. And got nervous, tried to become cooler and whatever. Really stupid because I lost myself. Later on it became clear she wasn't in love anymore. No idea if it was because of me stressing or not. But we gave it some time and she never fell in love even though she was at the start when she initiated. Now I'm like: if she doesn't want me 100% then she is not the one. :)
Fire Kimmel, Fire Meyers, Bring back Ferguson and Kilbourn.
Bobby about to lose his girlfriend right now
Dr Greywolf Nearly every episode dude
Lol
He doesn't give a fuck
@@shodak9445 I think he gives a lot
No if he was gonna lose her he would've. I mean look at him bro. Clearly she is staying with him for more than superficial reasons
Lol never any women in the comments to weigh in. Just a bunch of dudes arguing back and forth.
anorourke because women give the worst advice on women. Not even they know what they want
@@mikemugs7 its cause woman have lives and significant others, men jerk off to porn than bitch on youtube.
Voltaire Locke 2024 Tell that to the group of men who own 50% of the worlds total wealth.
Go to backstreet boys videos, mostly women there commenting.
@@zaydossful only the ones without a black eye
The problem is that too many guys are putting girls up on a pedestal and acting like getting turned down by them is social suicide. When every single one of these females have just as many (if not more) flaws than the insecure boys trying to approach them. But guaranteed, there are more people in the world who will respect you for having the balls to stand up and ask them out as opposed to just staying silent and cowering in the corner.
Hell, some of the most cringe inducing rejections that have personally happened to me...I later repurposed into funny stories. Which I then used to retell on later dates in order to make girls laugh and like me more. You can literally turn a loss into a win and build yourself up through it. Just Be Brave!!!
@green jesus ;)
100% agree. I'm the exact same way. Just treat people like people and be honest. Don't be anyone but yourself, because nobody else is going to be you.
If you tell a girl you want to talk to her but also you're nervous, that's perfectly fine, and just by doing that, you're already showing her enough confidence to even a approach her on the first place
Craig is fantastic as always, hopefully he'll enjoy his new travel adventures and allow us to hear his routines
01:54 Ferguson's face. The "I know" face had me dying.
Now I know I was onto something at about 16 when I decided if I was nervous around a girl I was just going to admit it. It lasted about 10 minutes before I asked several friends (all guys) if this was a good plan and they all said it would never work. And look at me now! 21 and haven’t kissed anybody. Thanks Chad.
I understand this is not Chad’s fault but like this is my emotional support unhealthy emotional resentment please respect that.
Go to a club..
Hitman Hutson yeah, going around telling women that you're nervous and stumbling over your words as you talk to them won't help you. They make think you're cute and will entertain you, maybe they'll even give you their number to make you feel good about yourself, but they probably won't respond to your texts. They're not gonna fuck you just because you were honest about being nervous. They're gonna treat you like a little kid.
@@TIENxSHINHAN But it depends on the situation. You added the caveat that he was stumbling over his words. Of course if you're like that you'll be looked at as "adorable" in a bad way and that's not what Craig meant when he gave that advice. He's saying that you should be confident, but if you're nervous you should admit it. He's not saying to act like a nerd pushing his glasses up, sniffing his nose, and saying "uhhh I'm n-n-nervous to t-t-talk to you..."
He's saying to just say "you make me nervous, because of _______". And that wins you points for sure if you do it properly.
Oddly I wasn't all that nervous about getting the date or whatever, but when it came time to make the first move I messed up many chances with girls by taking too long
I think that the main problem is deeper than "being nervous about talking to women". In fact, I think that inherently, all people are very outgoing (contrary to the annoying "introvert/extrovert" dichotomy that's pushed in pop culture). It's more about risking being given the cold shoulder after leaving yourself in a vulnerable emotional state, especially in front of groups. Popularity is a vicious contest that exists in the adolescent and early adulthood atmosphere, and I believe that it is in those stages of life that a person's attitudes towards life are molded. And as many psychological practitioners may know, early stage emotional experiences are very impactful.
Introversion and extroversion are real things
Bobby when girls don't like him- *time to do standup*
Me when girls don't like me- *TIME TO PLAY DOOM*
Wow
Eternally?
Nervousness comes when you place someone at higher importance and fear it to reject you back.
That was me at 14 when I was in love with this girl in my Maths class. Never had the courage to tell her how I felt.
maybe in some ways but it could also be general anxiety
Craig looks so relaxed he is gonna melt with the sofa
I used to watch his late night show, and Craig used to make all those sexy female stars giggle and blush. He knows what he's talking about.
Jordan Peterson said almost this exactly. When men are nervous about women, it’s not necessarily the woman-it’s that the woman is the manifestation of the judgmental aspect that makes men self conscious and the need to be worthy and approved by them which hits men at the core of their sexual security or lack thereof. Which is basically saying, that they’re not seeing the woman for who they are as a person. It might seem logical that a woman would feel flattered that she’s being exalted as an unattainable goddess and maybe it is for a moment, but I feel that when men just approach a woman kindly but confidently just like Craig says about treating everyone with a certain level of respect, the woman feels seen not only as a woman, but for who she is as an individual and that feels very wholesome. It takes a lot of inner work for men to get to that level though-but hey, that’s growing up and maturing physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. One could say, the judgment serves as a basis for inner growth.
Well said
Over-idealization often means that there will be a flip side to it eventually. I think most people, if someone over-idealizes them, will be skeptical of that person off the bat.
That smile Craig cracks when she said its endearing. He knows he still got it
“Let’s put it all in an umbrella”
It all makes sense now..
It depends what type of girl you're approaching I'd say the majority of girls like a confident guy so if you're coming up to a girl telling her your nervous sure some might find if sweet but a lot of them will be turned off by it
John Schmidt exactly. A lot of guys who have always been good with women give terrible advice on women.
Did you completely miss the point where he explains afterwards its about being honest with information not about being nervous and vulnerable. The honesty shows confidence.....
Women prefer money and fame over confidence.
Omg I'm that girl lol. If a guy is nervous around me, I find it so cute and endearing bc he actually likes me and cares what I think😊
The girls that don't like it are probably not as mature as the ones that can appreciate the honesty. So you are filtering problematic ones out like this.
Being genuinly present and authentic along with the conviction that your feelings matter calm the nerves to the point that people regardless of details turn to energy
Craig to Billy ya doing great 👍👍👏👏 (Billy n Khalya thanks for being real n bringing phenomenal guest where we can see the human side of them)
Ferguson should have his own podcast ! On how to talk to chics and how to be smooth
He is 100% correct. As soon as I started doing this in life, women were more drawn to me.
Yea, drawn to you as a friend, or maybe you got lucky with a few outliers. That advice is terrible IMO. The best quote I've heard a girl say regarding the situation was along the lines of "If a guy is intimated to talk to me, that's the exact guy i'm not attracted to anyway". Craig Ferguson giving average guys advice, with his off the charts charisma is dumb...
Genghis Khan I hear ya. Everyone’s different. Agree to disagree!
Genghis Khan then at least guys who do get nervous can weed out the women who aren’t into that type of guy cuz there’s always gonna be some like khalyla who appreciate their vulnerability. Not all women think the same so there’s no one surefire solution
@@karooby2439 PREACH
I figured out the same thing when I was younger, in that I couldn't figure out what to say, so I just said what was on my mind. But the funny thing that happens is that you can get older and forget that massive lesson and start falling into trying to mask yourself again. And eventually, you hope to remember that "Honesty is the best policy."
Lesson i learned when i was younger, that pretty girl is actually single.
Because most of the other boys, thinks she's taken, cause she's pretty.
..but yes, as I grew older, I forgot the lesson, got back into my shell.
Ok. That was THE most simple and profound advise for talking to girls I ever saw anywhere. It's so simple that its overlooked. There's no list of 10 things of this and that. Just talk to them like you would anyone.
My philosophy has always been that I want to talk to/meet a girl before I build up anything in mind, that way if rejection happens it's no big deal. The worst thing in the world is crushing on a girl for days, weeks, months, and THEN be rejected if you ever get up the courage to talk to her. It's also a numbers game: for all of us average-looking guys it's all about putting yourself out there as much as possible so you can eventually find the right person. It may take a lot of rejection to get there, but it's worth it. What Craig is says is invaluable advice to, and something I've always innately adhered to.
I can't stop staring at that painting of Bobby Lee...
It only sounds good, because the way he says it. Hes charming and makes everything sound fun. Which there is the real answer, it's not what you say but how you say it.
You mat need to add the caveat "if you already know how to make friends, then be yourself," some of us in our younger years didn't fully develop that skill.
Craig Ferguson: 100% American but here in Scotland we so love watching re-runs of Craig on the late show where his natural ability to make people laugh and smile helps bring a glimmer of sunshine into a dark and scary world. 🌤
Craig looks so fcking relaxed
Nick Sobanski thats his personality trait
RJ bro why u so mad for he wasn’t even hating on Craig.
Craig tries too hard to be funny
ExMachina SC2: What? He’s effortless if anything.
He is prolly on drugs as usual
Something very important was illustrated here but may have escaped notice: the interviewer was all about what persona to wear, i.e. "oh, be vulnerable!" Like it's an act and he wants to know which act you should portray. Craig corrects him. Craig never said be vulnerable, he said be honest rather than trying to put up a front. Interviewer heard "I put up the wrong front." Craig said don't put one up at all. Respect. Give a person the respect of being honest with them.
He was right the first time. Treat everyone the same. Don't say, "I'm nervous to talk to you." Are you nervous to talk to your friends, the old lady down the street? And don't trust any woman who says that's "endearing"
The part about treating everybody equally is right on. Guys can either worship women or hate them, causing them to treat pretty girls differently. But if you just don't care - ie., you're not impressed - then you can treat everyone equally and be so at ease doing it because without caring you are being yourself. Basically, just don't care too about what people think of you. Don't focus on yourself. That has helped me out a lot. It's when I feel like a loser and start focusing on myself that I get into trouble.
Took me a stupid long time to realize it's all about compatibility. Instead of thinking, "is she to good for me?", I should have been thinking "let's see how we work together." When trying to talk to girls, there's too much focus on impressing, instead of connecting. I would get in my head, get nervous, panic and blow it. Because, for the most part, there really is no such thing as too good or not good enough. In the end, it all comes down to compatibility. You connect, or you don't. It's not a good or bad thing, it just is. Look at rejection as them saving your time, so you can spend more time with a better fit.
"So, how do you get people to like you?"
*Craig:* Well, let's just all establish the fact right now that I'm the coolest guy in the room
Ladies and gentleman, this line right here is all you need to believe in yourself. Full stop.
Even though Bobby Lee agreed in the high-pitched voice, I think the realization sunk in for real.
That picture of bobby jon il naked in the background.... I lost it 😂🤣😭😭😭🤣😂🤣
This should be taught to boys in 7th grade health
Craig Ferguson is just a smooth talking playa that's intellectual and understands body language , the mind on how it'll respond if you say a certain thing , salute
Jason Gallardo Craig Ferguson is a genuine person who treats people like people and not some puzzle to solve. There's no secret technique to body language and magic words to get the ladies. It's all intuitive. If you try to fake that, women can easily tell and most will get turned off.
I've seen many channels post his interviews as examples of "How to flirt with ladies" but what they don't get is that the reason Craig is so relaxed is because a) it's a talk show and not a private conversation b) he knows it's a joke and is intentionally playing up the "creepy old man in basement" personna so he says a lot of raunchy stuff on purpose which would be inappropriate in real life and c) he's already happily married with a beautiful wife so he isn't interested in other women and so isn't going out of his way to impress them, which comes off as confidence.
You can't replicate what he does in his interviews in real life because it's tied to a specific format and platform.
@@xtmt1234 I don't disagree with you being able to spark conversation like nothing you're a people person but for example being able to know when you offended someone by their facial expressions is key sometimes also being able to know how the mind works to control conversation your way
@Jason Gallardo yes it's helpful to look at body language to gauge things but remember those things should become intuitive. If you need to look for reactions everytime after saying something you're doing it wrong. Also remember that a lot of it is pseudo-science and isn't accurate all the time so you have to be careful. People are different and think differently and there's no one magic way to impress someone.
Most of the pick up channels, once you look past their own "secret" technique, end up inadvertently working just because they help give you that push needed to get the basics down which is to have confidence so as not to appear creepy or desperate and be friendly and approachable. That's really all it takes at the end of the day.
@@xtmt1234 all I gotta say to you 👏 nothing else to discuss
*_after a few mundane exchanges of conversation_
Boy: "hey, you know what? I'm kinda nervous when I talk to you..."
Girl: "um, okay?.." *_starts distancing herself_
yeah, some basic social skills are mandatory here
I can say this works...being truthful about being nervous. This was exactly what my husband said to me the first time we met.
Craig’s accent has been diminished being here in America 😂😂😂
No he just changes it whenever he's back in the US for ease of understanding. He switches back into his own accent when he's back here in Scotland.
He didn't even laugh shyly after saying "I'm very cool." 😂😂
Just be handsome and 6’2 and be yourself. Brilliant
Ehh, being short filters out the shitty attitude and shallow girls. Show me the hottest girl you’ve ever seen and I’ll show you the guy that’s tired of fucking her.
Spirit of 1776 shut up and keep watching Joe Rogan
James Wynne I’ll definitely follow the orders of some random stranger on the internet. Maybe it’ll get me down the same path you took to where I’ll end up barking commands from my keyboard to random comments.
Dude I'm 6'2 tall and I havent gained a fucking thing with that. I'm also average or below average in looks and never had a relationship. 25 y old.
@@GreedAndSelfishness this im 6.4 avrage looking and talking to some girs can be a bit scary
I got the answer for this question. You get nervous only talking to girls you like, go after girls you dont really care if you get rejected or not, it serves are training and makes you better at talking. Trust me that shit works, had a friend who only dated 3s and 4s for 2 years and then got his confidence up and started landing 7s and 8s.
1:59 a super important point that was talked over was "When someone tries to mask it, we see it." They can smell desperation because they face this situation 100 times a day. If you're trying to deceive someone, there are alarm bells.
Genuine. Be you. That takes courage. People respect that. You just might not be ready to be that vulnerable and brave and that's ok too. Until you work yourself up to being able to do that, you'll be acting like something your not and getting results if lucky that you aren't actually ready to deal with. Be patient with yourself. It takes time. She's likely not the one you'll keep forever anyways so it may seem devastating at the time but you'll grow, evolve, desire differently and when the time is right you will be ready; at least as ready as you'll ever be - it's never perfect and that's ok. You'll be just fine. Trust your process. Increase your awareness but keep moving forward. You've got this! Best
The trick to talking to women is simple. Just treat them like a regular person and not someone you're trying to get into bed with. And that's it, nothing more to it. You're welcome.
No, that actually doesnt work.
@@GreedAndSelfishness For you, no.
@@GreedAndSelfishness we notice negative motives from men. if your up front about just wanting to fuck i find that refreshing (even though i wont let him) and they are more trust worthy. if you try to be sneaky we spot that a mile off.
Keep thinking that
The trick to talking to women is understand your miranda rights!
Love it
Please have Craig on again
A few weeks ago, I was 1 of 3 people interviewing a guy for a job. He was honest about how nervous he was, because he really wanted to work with us.
He officially started as my co-worker last week.
I don’t think that this should be one of the biggest criterias when picking someone
Many people prepare very well for job interviews to not look nervous
It’s called professionalism and shows passion and determination
@@wombatZ I mean, he was well-prepared. He just broke the ice that way, and it helped us see how professional he was being anyway
@Siôn Davies I haven't been called a Muppet before. I'm honored!!
Am I Kermit, or Fozzy, or Miss Piggy, or Gonzo? I just love being a part of the Muppets!!
1:50 "I wish I came up with being honest!" 😂
yeah i did that....i told a girl in my class that talking to her made me nervous. made me feel like nothing i said could be right. i told her that talking to her made me feel like i was exposing myself .like all my inner demons were on the display for her to see.........time went by and nothing changed.......she went on ignoring me and tbh i cant blame her.......sometimes being honest or vulnerable is like being in a car crash....u may survive but ull still limp for the rest of ur life......
Rip for that middle guy with a laptop who doesnt get noticed
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Rule 1: Give respect and take respect.
More important rules
Rule 2: Have and accent.
Rule 3: Be handsome.
I don't know man, if you see them every day in class I'd say that stating you're nervous is a bit too much. I'd feel them out with some light conversation and see if you have chemistry or not, just talk about class or whatever. If you say you like them right out of the gate it makes it awkward in class
Luke but by saying to them that it makes you nervous in a cool way, as in you're surprised you feel that way, it will make it easier. Also if you already talking to them in class about school you're half way there.
Now also it depends on your character. Are you a cool guy, loud, quiet type. Are you a nerd. Is she a queen of the school completely out of your league, or do you have a lot in common. All these things matter. I wish I knew all this to boost my confidence when I was younger. And I was one of the cool kids in school if that helps
It’s situational, but your way can get you friend zoned quick. Craig’s way is a bit more to the point with your intentions.
“talk to everyone the same way & be open- & when you a so the pretty woman admit your nervousness as a genuine gesture - people are more willing to connect to more open people. Thanks for the life lessons Craig! :)
Just keep doing it and it will get easier. I remember I was even afraid to look at my sister's friend in the eyes. She asked me, why are you turning your back to me...and I was thinking umm, stop asking questions and just tell me what you want to know. She was asking me about my sister as they hadn't met in a long time.
Then I progressed from that to using a tightened fist as a crutch to build up strength...then I went from that to asking out random women for their number without even a plan. No pickup line, no strategy, just straight into the fire. What about now? Well I can talk to any woman, no matter how beautiful but I can still get nervous every now and again. Talking to women when you are afraid is easy, because you can practice with women you will never see again. Public speaking I find harder, because I can't find the right audience to practise with.
You don't even know how much I think about this.
He's right, you just gotta tell a woman "I'm naervous to talk to you". This always works.
Being honest and admitting you’re nervous whilst remaining strong is the way to overcome a lot of anxiety. Just be honest 😂👊🏼
Bobby Lee’s reaction is perfect
Dang it bobby! (Hank hill's voice) that portrait in the back got me LOL!!! XD
It's simple - put a cup over them, slide the paper under the cup, and remove them from the wall.
Or was that spiders?
Spray them with a sticky goo, that holds them firmly in place when it dries.
Or was that flies?
No no no, you're both wrong. I'm pretty sure you dress extravagantly, call them "my little dears", and lure them into the back of your carriage with the promise of lollipops and sweet delights.
Or was that children?
Craig, I have made unkind comments at you in the past as I misunderstood you, your humour and especially how smart and deep you are.
As an addict and trauma suffering person this rang so true to me, I cannot put into words. I have undying respect and admdmiration for you and you are now ranked amongst one of my favorite people to hear banter and watch your gears turn. Thank you for your gift of you to the world.
I think people act different when they want something from the situation vs not wanting anything. So my humble advice would be approach every interaction with zero expectations. You’ll be more yourself. May not get the girl still haha but you won’t be fake or uncomfortable
"All the pretty girls would like you if you weren't so shy" -some song
Craig is right. Say what’s on your mind WITH BOUNDARIES for sure
Yo. Bobby Lee was me and my brothers fav person on MadTv. Good to see hes doing a good podcast
It's about priorities. I prefer to feel tough rather than get the girl. In the past I've been honest about my feelings and made myself vulnerable to be with someone and it worked -- Craig knows what he's talking about. Thing is, it made me miserable. And I realized that -- though being lonely is not great -- it is far better than being vulnerable.
I know he was done with the show but he was the best late night host ever to myself.
Don’t chase em, treat yourself as the prize, because you are ❤️
You know he's 57. long time to feel comfortable with yourself and others. I think that's why he was having a moment thinking about being a young guy and being nervous. We all go through it. I think the being at ease is why a lot of women find older guys attractive. If I was going to tell a younger guy what he could do to be able to talk with people they are attracted to I'd suggest talking to them like you might talk to an elderly lady or something. Basically trying to be nice and engaging as your end game.
Mark Manson's Models book seeks attraction through honesty by openly being vulnerable.