This entire video hit the nail on the head for me, every word rang true. While I am slowly noticing the flaws in my character you spell them out so clearly. You are helping me grow at a much faster rate. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for what you do. I cant speak for anyone but myself, but your videos have and are making an impact on my life.
While I agree that sometimes a subtle, almost subconsious, fear of failure can be an attribute to an ENTP's inefficient utilization of potential; I believe, the ease with which ENTPs conquer the more 'challenging' challenges gives them a false sense of security or a conjured feeling of inevitable success that prevents them from putting in the apt amount of effort and focus in the more tedious early stages/ prerequisites of execution.
Me, an ENTP: *watches video* Me: I don't procrastinate! Me:*flashbacks to the 3 years in a row I've delayed applying to the writing school I've been wanting to go to.* Me: okay a little bit-
It is not a trap, we are not wasting our time. We are not wasting time in ”careers”. Life is short and an ENTP is simply maximising their free time by working as little as possible. The definition of success in life is different for us all. Avoid telling what I must do...
Yes. Absolutely 💯. Life is short. Enjoy it while you can cuz everyone is headed for the grave. So why aspire for achievement when doing so will not prevent you from going to the grave. People who worry about their life outcome are truly incompetent pertaining to wisdom
Am an a entp , and 17 years old. And last year i was really just drifting. Had a girlfriend, argued to much at school and just got ok grades. But this year i decidet what i really want is just to challenge myself. Am now almost a straight A student. And doing really well in politics where i crush 20-30 year old people in debates. And my life is so much better . I think the only enemy we entp’s really have is our own mind. So i just made it my bestfriend i guess
I'm 17 and I'm drifting too. I've recently been trying harder to do more than just exist. I'm getting decent grades but my parents expect more but aren't on my neck about it. I see no point in anything and my nihilism mixed with depression and I spent the last two years miserable and simply existing. But this year I've been putting in effort into art, into philosophy and school now. I still see no point in anything but I've been telling myself that's OK and I've been happier and I'm starting to see where I'm headed. Still miserable tho lol😂.
Just make sure that you argue in good faith and with intellectual honesty, and not necessarily to win. It is far more important to BE right than to be what you THINK is right in the moment.
Dang, I’m like you in the past, I’m 16 turning 17 next year, I’d say I’m decent with politics but I need to know how to argue my points and make sure my points don’t get counter-argued badly
You said it and as much as I dislike the truth, you're right. I'm an ENTP myself and younger I used to be more adventurous and built huge goals for myself even achieving some. Now I just have felt pushed back by the reality that things will not be as easy every time and the adulthood was a slap in the face for me and my dreams. I wanted to be a teacher and I have always known I'd be great at that job if I worked myself towards that profession. My skills have mostly went to being able to figure out (and sometimes even escape) all my debts and responsibilities which is just depressing because if I didn't screw up at some point I might be doing much greater things. This video was facing the harsh reality of my own actions. I will get up and start working towards my goals again and I will do it immediately. Not tomorrow. Not next week. Right now.
Fellow entp facetiously asking for an update 🤣 Has that little pep talk every worked more than a week at best? I’d love to hear that it did and hope you can understand my humor and I don’t come off more of an a$$hole than needed for the bit.
You just need to start sticking with things and make them progressively challenging. There’s no need to analyze anyone but yourself and what is blocking you and you do be sounding a bit shitty
I'm an ENTP and started searching these sort of videos to learn more about myself and now I find I'm just searching through the comments trying to find people to relate to or argue against. Honestly didnt even listen to the video.
Mee too ,i dont like to watch the full video,but like to watch the points not explanations....i,m attracted to the comments more than the videos,because it is easier to absorb information and can see some arguements .....
Bro.... I can't tell you how much this helped me just now. I don't really ever comment on videos but felt the need to this time. I appreciate you taking the time to put this video together. Much love brother!
This very practical and focus clarification of an ENTP has gotten to all my roots, simply because I have had many ideas taken to the 3/4 of completion and being afraid to Sell it and answer to myself of the not so good product. Sadly to say, I have seen my ideas taken to reality some years later for other people who thrived to the end. I have seen other videos nowhere close to this definition and the not only pointing out the bad side of ENTP, but a simple ways to achieve our goals and improve....this is where I needed some help....not to be drifting and maka a plan...only one at a time. Thank very much
Erik, the level of resonance this video had was astounding. You truly encompass such depth of understanding. Valuable feedback is like miracle grow for the mind. Thanks! - a grateful ENTP
Listened to this on replay during my walk. I need to hear these things multiple times for it to make me take action... Erik, it would be awesome if you'd upload the audio as a podcast somewhere. I'm listening to your interview with Frank James right now :) Thanks again for all your work! T.
This is so funny, because I just asked my INTJ friend how he stayed so focused within one field. After receiving his advice I have done much better at staying on track within one topic for a longer time. The trick is to try and see the possibilities within a field, and to pick an as broad field as possible. I´m an ENTP btw.
I’m a 60 year old ENTP professional and successful advanced degreed medical front line provider . Thank you for sharing your knowledgeable prospective. There are other expected including a successful ENTP “ expert” one line - that you for psychologically and scientifically and spiritual support for my unique type. Few types understand or motivate me (ENTP Southern California female- health care professional). 🙏🏻😎
all we do is think as big as possible lol but then we’re on to the next larger than life idea it’s not about thinking BIGGER for us it’s about holding on to one giant idea we usually set way too big of goals for ourself which is partly why we’re so optimistic cus we’re like LOOK AT THIS HUMUNGOUS POSSIBILITY!!!
Watching this as an ENTP, trying to find things I can do to boost my productivity and improve my success in 2020 (I'm an author), and Erik's advice boils down to 'plan stuff more the way my INTJ boyfriend does it'. Oh boy, this is gonna be a wild ride.
I agree getting to the top is an adventure in itself and discipline is a great virtue that all us ENTPs should revel in but the reason we do what we do is because we get bored with dealing within the same category for to long. Even with growth and trials we begin looking for a new adventure. A new flavor. Life is exciting and changing why not try on all the hats. In the end we want to have the most spectacular memories but yes money helps and to get money we need to build that platform well so we can have it all.
you should set goals higher than yourself. As an ENTP, I realised this, Yes trying new things is fun, it excites us, all the knowledge and all, but at the end what is our legacy??? And I'm focused on that part. A goal that is higher than my wants and desires. I hope I can achieve them. Oh it's been a hell of a struggle till now. But I'm not going to stop. and so be it I have to admit in some random comment, I will. But I can't stop now.
I like your posts because they focus not only what one is, but on what one has to work on. I am very likely ENTP with highly developed thinking and also a strong sense of the obligation to mentor others. I know that that makes me likely to overlook people’s feelings and needs, so I work hard to remember those. I know that I over the sensing aspect of things, so I learn from my husband, who has a highly developed sensing faculty. I am one of the geeky ENTPs, so I work at learning social appropriateness. In other words, knowing that I am ENTP tells me not only who I am but also what I need to work on if I want to be a complete person. Saying, “I am like this because I am ENTP (or any other function stack) is only an excuse, IMO. I believe that saying, “I am ENTP” and I like that, but I would also like to supplement my strengths with other strengths,” offers a more helpful perspective. I really like your idea of studying INTJs. In fact, for a long time, I thought that I was one. I think that I was surrounded by many of them in my youth, and their thinking rubbed off. “Some kind of magic happens when you discipline an open mind.” That goes into my journal! Yes, we keep our dreams smaller to keep ourselves from being afraid. I am 71 years old, so I perhaps have a perspectives colored by experience. Life helps brings us opportunities in order to help us grow and change.
I find I have the opposite as an ENTP. I usually have some big idea, learn all the skills to execute, begin to execute, then get bored because it takes all that work to finish fully realize the idea. Plus side, I learn all this stuff, it's just a matter of keeping that motivation to fallow through until the end.
I'm 27 right now. And yes I have fallen in that trap. But I think I slowly started following the patterns of INTJ, as my shadow functions started to activate. I became more quieter, more observing, more thinking, more listening. And now I try to work like an INTJ. Still need to achieve loads. And been a procastinator but as you said, for me right now, my priority is getting things done and I don't want to waste this potential. I have higher ambitions set out, and someday hope to achieve them.
this issue is so challenging!!! God help me! I have a billion ideas, great ideas, but fail to do the hard tasks and pursuit them because they might not work, might not be worthy etc! def feel like wasted so many oportunities
I don't blame people for wanting to take it easy after all this world has little care to those who can't perform to the expectations and demand there of while at the same being shoved into the cult of productivity. 60-90+ hour work weeks are devastating to personal and family development so personally I do everything I can to keep things simple as reasonably possible.
MrKillswitch88 I know what you are talking about, and am glad you are not a part of the workaholic culture. I recently had a job interview when the guy said he expected me to work 50+ hours a week I said no to the job immediately. Currently I work 32 hours and hell no am I spending longer than that as a wage slave away from my private passions and interests.
@@ErikThor Why not make a video about this? Without inciting hatred towards them of course. Just explain how they're overprotective of Fi and reject Fe and that whole spiel. Sprinkle in a little about how it makes then uniquely unconformist and present the positive aspects of it, and it should be fine I think. :)
Damn, I feel so called out by this 😅 Honestly, I'm not afraid of challenges but looking closely, I realised that I just jump from option to option, only commit when I'm completely sure it will work out, weather it being work or relationships. I'm actively searching for short-term solutions. And I've been told so many times that I'm "wasting my potential" that I sometimes have the urge to prove that their isn't any potential in the first place. Just to proof my point and walk away high headed. And well, overthinking problems and until coming to the (quick) solution that it's pointless anyways. But hey, on the bright side, ones we make up our mind on something, there's no way we let loos and give up, stubborn as hell 💪
This video describes me so well that I’m really afraid now, but this is the kind of fear that makes you want to to something to change. Thanks for this video it really helps, and I’m mean really.
OMG wonderful!!!! You sound like my inner self speaking about my own core nature. Can't believe, it seems like you are describing me, each and every aspect of me. Commendable work my friend!!! Thanks a lot!!! *Thumbs up* :)
As an INTJ on a 3-person team with an ENTP team lead, you are exactly correct. LOL I just sit back and watch him run all over the place while I diligently take care of making sure things are done properly and keep our manager happy.
I agree with everything here and it's so true that we just dont put our ideas into motion. Like we need people around us to guide us and help us to see it through.
Thank you, you resumed everything perfectly. This is how I live everyday. I try to make it better little by little. And watching these types of videos help me. Thanks!
Dude, mercy... I only recently figured out that I am really supposed to do hard things instead of easy, and now you say I should aim at impossible :D Great video...
I think one of the worst feelings for me is when I know I could’ve done better but because of mind blocks I find it difficult to pursue my potential. In order for me to live up to my full potential I need big Motivation and a clear reason why I’m doing it.
Very true Eric, these are our issues. These reasons are also the reasons why ENTP and INFJ don't mesh. We like doing us and you guys like doing you. Therefore because of these reasons I never got super close to INFJ. Now when I meet an INFJ I keep the conversation light. It's best that ENTPs and INFJs keep each other at arms length
Taking it easy? Okay, thats not true with me (ENTP-A 8w7) I always take the best and hardest project in school and always aim for best results. I‘m lazy, but I still try to get to the elite school (in which i‘m now) and for best collages. Kind of mad that this is a stereotype ENTP‘s have.
I dont think they necessarily consiously choose to think "Lets do as little as possible". I think its more because its easier for them to just see the option that brings most gratification in the shortest ammount of time. Distracting them from the bigger things that take time. I think perhaps the biggest problem is a gap between instant gratification and more tedious tasks. And being good at getting quick gratification, kinda contradicts the other option. I think maybe an ENTP would be more happy accepting that things might take longer, and perhaps be ok with things taking even longer than what it would for someone who could just be happy continously working towards one goal. Allow for distractions, and not give up and percieve not succeeding right away as failure. I think it could be done, woring on larger goals, and allow for their native all over the place here and there along the way. It would kinda "sabotage". But its better than deciding "I cant do this, its not rewarding. Im failing, therefore i should just keep doing the quick and easy shit"
actually, it can be really conscious. I literally made it a "sport", how to have really good grades with as little effort as possible. Just for the sake of fun/challenge/laziness whatever. I even felt that getting prepared for exams is cheating. So for me, it's not really about instant gratification. I want to be quick with projects, because I'm afraid I don't finish them if they take too long
As an INTJ (it's flattering but) I kind of want to be more like an ENTP after watching this! 😂 Does it work for us too? The link between effort and reward has been broken in recent society, so our plodding approach throughout often doesn't pay off.
Your unconsciousness is ENTP. If you want to know what it's like to be ENTP, start paying attention to yourself when you're doing mundane tasks that you normally let your autopilot self complete.
I am an entp and my girlfriend is an intj. She says the exact same thing, she likes the spontaneity in me and my pool of ideas, while I like the commitment of hers and the ability to stay consistent for some goal.
I am a 40 year old ENTP and what you said is spot on. To make things even worse, the many outstanding successes I had, I often do not recognize as achievements. I need others to remind me, that helps. Same with discipline.. I don‘t need a coach, I need a guy with a whip and bad temper and siffenly can rule the world. - Family members are a bad idea, though.
Agreed. I naturally minimize or entirely forget any achievement I've made while blowing up those of others I respect. Noticed this as far back as childhood. Simultaneously, I've always had grandiose plans and goals. And My perfectionist path toward said plans and goals always self-sabotage Me from ever reaching them. Lmao. The purity in path MUST be respected! And that has been a major problem all My life.
It is all depending on your definition of success. Having an interesting life where you constantly learn something new everyday while making enough money so that you don’t have to worry about money is my definition of it. Making more money or create big things that others will admire. I don’t really care what other people think of my accomplishments in life other than me being a trustworthy friend and human being.
This applies to ENFPs too actually. Sounds like a Dominant Ne issue. Don't know if this is ENXP male issue or not but I relate to this. I think Transcendental meditation would change everybodys life if they practiced daily but an ENXP's life dramatically.
not quite. the Ne dominance, yes, but then an EFNP has Fi second and third Te. thats very different. The Entp has Ti and cant Fi = decide on anything ever to be worth being followed though over a long time. and EFNP can Fi do that and they dont destroy every belief they have with Ti because the have Ti PolR also the are quite efficient with Te child. its a different situation although much that is Ne realted applys to them too. attention span isnt great and they also love change and the new stuff.
@@christineschreiber5073 I understand the functions. My problem is that I don't care too much to follow through on anything because there is nothing that I FEEL extremely for in this world. I'm not extreme in my feelings of DRIVE except for being as genuine as I can be at any given moment in time. Fi doesn't help me decide on following through on things, it helps me respond to situations, to life and outcomes. It says to me " wherever you go I will be here and this can be home ,you can be comfortable, you can adapt".
OMG, you must be clairvoyant. I'm serious. That's exactly how my ENTP ex was. You're so right about them questioning their intuitions. But it is their Te that seems to override a lot of their conclusions, or superfluous information floating around that they somehow have adapted to as their source of relevant information. Perhaps it's a gendered conditioning too, where some men are taught to not trust their feelings as much, as feelings are for "sissies." And intuition tends to go hand-in-hand with feelings, inklings.
Actually our intuition is most often overridden by outside influences, whether lack of acceptance by trusted people or our challenging nature and natural(or unnatural) distrust of absolutes.
I don't think I have much potential. I have no idea what sort of goal I would even want to set for myself .I only have one exceptional ability and that is an understanding of the spoken word. What can I possibly do with that?
Thank you SO much. This is most helpful. I'm not sure that I can self discipline enough, though, tried million times, usually I don't get to day three with whatever new system I try to keep. Probably I need others's help. I have some grand things I wanna do (not sure when I plan to start doing them :D). Sometimes I have some accomplishments in a short time, people think it was long and hard work, then I get embarrassed, because I know I just put in the minimal effort to make it good. Your book example was spot on... I wrote one in not even two months with 3-400 scientific references. I mean I didn't really get any criticism, people have a very good opinion about it, but I know I could have done a better job on it. This "wasted potential" just feels so real
Stretching out our time to enjoy it the best way by refusing to acknowledge it. It turns a finite amount of time into something approaching the infinite
Everyone have original nature, words alone can't change the nature of people , ENTP's understand themselves very deep, similar to INFJ's like you , but here you are use what you programmed for as INFJ person to help everyone as some kind wisdom , like this video , but if you look more deeper , you know that experiences in life and also fate or luck have huge role to make people change their lives to something better or worst not advises in general, even if the other person accept the advise, the root of personality nature + fate or luck + experiences have the final words on how the person should live ,I'm ENTP by my self , i have successful life , yet i see it as nothing , i also see if I make this successful life more huge , it dosn't matter , you need to understand with every gift , there also limitations, i think you tried your best to help others , but it is not enough to change people , I'm ENTP and i know that one best advises for those who close to my nature is , working with others as teamwork , the Ne and Fe have high impacts on ENTP's performances in order to achieve goals , but they will never change their complex nature like the way you advised them , ENTP's = smart brain that need people and teamwork, we are not INTP's , For INTP lonely = best performance For ENTP lonely = worst performance ENTP can give better performance on achieve many things at once with the power of group on a lot of fields INTP can give best performance on one single study , without anyone , but they can't study many things at once on deep level even if they were alone.. Now i hope you understand that ENTP they meant to be in this way , but if no people source that they can work with , their potential going to be wasted.
Thank you so much for this video! For me, it's some kind of sumarazing my thoughts about productivity. I have to say, that you fascinate me, and cheer me up:) positive vibe to you, hugs and smiles!
great video, Eric. :-( its true. and the biggest problem is to decide on something. I know I can do all you said if I only could see any goal I want to achieve. You talk about plan and no distractions as if there was a goal. they have problems to decide on a long term goal and I think its because of Fi PolR. You descrivbe: "now I have this big idea", thats where you are wrong. Its many ideas, and they also often have a cynical desillusionment about everything, so what is even worth being done? I had six educations, many jobs, was always succesful but always left at some point, many places where I lived, many relationships. Everything you describe is accurate. Just give me something to heal the lack of Fi. As an ENTP you dont believe in much, because if the Ti does its job you went through the beliefs and ended in ambiguity because noting else is not just a belief. Ti and Fi are excluding each other.
I'll give you a small clue to how we INXJs do it: We decide quite early on what we want, but usually, our goals are quite abstract and can be realised in many different ways. The path there is also unknown even to us, so it's like, we know we're going to get there eventually, but not necessarily what to study or what to do to best realise the idea. And we tend to rewrite the past and our past actions and see it all as a coherent line, like, a random study of calligraphy became important to Steve Jobs Apple design. And your six different educations and jobs might all tie up and lead to the same thing too. I usually give the advice "connect the dots and find the one thing all your jobs had in common" -- theres usually a common theme, even if you can't see it right now.
@@ErikThor That's because INTJs have Fi child, so they what THEY feel. They know what they are comfortable to and ended up knowing what they want. But ENTPs are the opposite. We have Fi trickster so we don't know what we actually feel, our comfortness is rely on others (Fe), simply we don't know ourselves emotionally so we ended up don't know exactly what we want. We need someone who's Ni Fi user to tie us down, after Ne Fe creates wings so we fly high almost all the time and don't really know how to keep grounded. As ENTP i said this.
Hi Erik Thor, I´m an ENTP and love your videos! I'm curious to know how you would be able to activate this INTJ mindset. I understand that you need to find ways that make you more focus, in my case, music, depression or run before I sit down. In reality its much harder. Almost like it requires a ritual. My imagination immediately made me think of Ben 10, which turns into different monsters with different specialities depending on the situation, now Imagine if you could turn into any type at will. Now that would be an interesting thought. How to activate each one even more so. Could you do it?
This is so true. My whole family can’t figure out why I don’t have a degree. It’s because it takes too fucking long to have to do each class. If they did all accelerated classes I’d ace them all. Lol
When I'm stressed, I act like an INTJ so I took those skills and incorporated it into my daily life. Obtained 2 degrees and moved into a manager position. Also, I started running at the beginning of the year. Instead of quitting, I continued. First road running, and as my fitness improved, I moved into trail running 🤩 BUT, on Sundays, I have NO schedule just COMPLETE FREEDOM! 😃🤩 Time to think, dream and just be 😅 Yes, an ENTP with INTJ skills can take over the world 😝 - ENTP
Very insightful. You had me up until you said "maybe i should do it the hard way" at the end. I was like.... "...naaah" but i get your meaning.So i'll meet you half way and do things the quick way but try and stick with it for longer ;-p
Such a hurting reality, but it’s still the truth for ENTP, we know about our outstanding potential, but inside we can be able to feel frightened about how in the future we'll can achieve that goal, or well, personally it is what makes me concerned.
This video is scaring me lmao i had the same thought though and the fact that it will take so long is killiiiiiing me. But what i found out is that we would have to actually make up our minds on what we actually wanna and who we wanna be and thats my fork in the road at the moment. Also no money but ill figure that out.
I only do things that are difficult for me to do otherwise I get bored easy. It kicks my butt but I an happy. Other people think I am crazy and should relax and settle into things I know how to do but I know I wouldn't be happy. My husband hates it and it totally turns him off. As far as I know he is an ISTJ.
I have this issue, I actually have a intj in my life and he gets pissed. Off with me.. in my course he really will push me as he says you have so much potential Thing is if yr running from a idea cos it’s boring it’s not boring it’s fear.. we change the word.. Y I love this intj but as soon as I get close to think this could be good I get wobbly, he is the one who believes in me.. but it’s fear it could work but the challenge.. and I know he’s the one .
Whenever I imagine myself doing something, it s like a crazy 1980s rock and roll montage of different activities and interactions, but when I sit down to actually do well this is boring what's the quickest way to get it done and move onto something else.
so, if I were to simplify and narrow it down.. Don't say things are easy. Make them hard and then see how you can get yourself out of having set yourself an impossible goal.
I had to do a project for my final year, and we had 8 months, I really started 1 month before the due date, but the major work was done in the last 3 days and I finished at 6am of the day we had to return the project! But actually doing something other helps me concentrate, I couldn't have finished it if "Avatar: the last airbender" wasn't always playing in the background for the 76h I didn't sleep to finish the damn work.
What I do when I have to study and my mind starts thinking of something else i treat it like a panic attack. ok, wait let me explain lol. When people have panic attack some psychologists says that you have to trick the mind to think at reality or simple telling yourself that the panic attack is not "real" so they Advise to literally tell yourself STOP and then to focus on objects that you can see in front of you. This is exactly what I do when my mind strat going places i say STOP and i start thinking ok this is a book, this is the pen, this is my desk, i am studying so FOCUS. Hope this can help someone ok bye. P.s. i am not a therapist so of course my explanation is what it is 🤣
Sadly, I think this also applies to their relationships. It's the notion that people are a problem to "solve" and so they shortcut their minds not to probe too much into other people's mental and emotional landscapes.
Agreed. My last few relationships were about me trying to solve my partner. We are so focused on self growth we don't understand why others aren't as driven.
2:18 well actually I'm trying to fix All the problems and mistakes human kind made in the past even the things we have not yet discorded about us and all the dark secrets lost too the past, im trying to fix all the damage delt to the earth by us humans.
ENTPs are the people that are too lazy to try at school so they get ok grades by default, even though they know damn well it'd be no sweat for them to ace every class if they actually tried 😎
Today we're talking ENTP procrastination and laziness. What's the pride in an easy victory? And why do ENTPs make things so easy for themselves?
This entire video hit the nail on the head for me, every word rang true. While I am slowly noticing the flaws in my character you spell them out so clearly. You are helping me grow at a much faster rate.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you for what you do. I cant speak for anyone but myself, but your videos have and are making an impact on my life.
While I agree that sometimes a subtle, almost subconsious, fear of failure can be an attribute to an ENTP's inefficient utilization of potential; I believe, the ease with which ENTPs conquer the more 'challenging' challenges gives them a false sense of security or a conjured feeling of inevitable success that prevents them from putting in the apt amount of effort and focus in the more tedious early stages/ prerequisites of execution.
I am an entp. This video is so true. Thank you.
Me, an ENTP: *watches video*
Me: I don't procrastinate!
Me:*flashbacks to the 3 years in a row I've delayed applying to the writing school I've been wanting to go to.*
Me: okay a little bit-
lol thats a perfect example of how hard it can be to be self aware :P
@@ErikThor 😪😑😭
It is not a trap, we are not wasting our time. We are not wasting time in ”careers”. Life is short and an ENTP is simply maximising their free time by working as little as possible. The definition of success in life is different for us all. Avoid telling what I must do...
Lol. In character
I agree, what is the success definition. Subjective. Because of this i hate people.groups, hierarchy etc. They interfere lots of things.
Agree!
Yes. Absolutely 💯. Life is short. Enjoy it while you can cuz everyone is headed for the grave. So why aspire for achievement when doing so will not prevent you from going to the grave. People who worry about their life outcome are truly incompetent pertaining to wisdom
Am an a entp , and 17 years old. And last year i was really just drifting. Had a girlfriend, argued to much at school and just got ok grades. But this year i decidet what i really want is just to challenge myself. Am now almost a straight A student. And doing really well in politics where i crush 20-30 year old people in debates. And my life is so much better . I think the only enemy we entp’s really have is our own mind. So i just made it my bestfriend i guess
very clever said. I've found this to be a huge problem aswell
Simon z trying finding a interest, and really go for it. Changing your learning enviorment is also a big advice
I'm 17 and I'm drifting too. I've recently been trying harder to do more than just exist. I'm getting decent grades but my parents expect more but aren't on my neck about it. I see no point in anything and my nihilism mixed with depression and I spent the last two years miserable and simply existing. But this year I've been putting in effort into art, into philosophy and school now. I still see no point in anything but I've been telling myself that's OK and I've been happier and I'm starting to see where I'm headed. Still miserable tho lol😂.
Just make sure that you argue in good faith and with intellectual honesty, and not necessarily to win. It is far more important to BE right than to be what you THINK is right in the moment.
Dang, I’m like you in the past, I’m 16 turning 17 next year, I’d say I’m decent with politics but I need to know how to argue my points and make sure my points don’t get counter-argued badly
You said it and as much as I dislike the truth, you're right. I'm an ENTP myself and younger I used to be more adventurous and built huge goals for myself even achieving some. Now I just have felt pushed back by the reality that things will not be as easy every time and the adulthood was a slap in the face for me and my dreams. I wanted to be a teacher and I have always known I'd be great at that job if I worked myself towards that profession. My skills have mostly went to being able to figure out (and sometimes even escape) all my debts and responsibilities which is just depressing because if I didn't screw up at some point I might be doing much greater things. This video was facing the harsh reality of my own actions. I will get up and start working towards my goals again and I will do it immediately. Not tomorrow. Not next week. Right now.
Awesome!
Fellow entp facetiously asking for an update 🤣
Has that little pep talk every worked more than a week at best? I’d love to hear that it did and hope you can understand my humor and I don’t come off more of an a$$hole than needed for the bit.
@@rc8770 I was about to ask that😂
how are you doing now? hopefully too busy to check youtube comments
hows it going
Oh no, I can't watch this thing after you said "wasted potential". It is my sore spot. But I am so aware of it that I think about it often.
I'm an ENTP and that's exactly my problem. Thank you for your videos. I need to get someone INTJ in my live and investigate more about them.
Careful their assholes
You just need to start sticking with things and make them progressively challenging. There’s no need to analyze anyone but yourself and what is blocking you and you do be sounding a bit shitty
yea I want an intj friend too
I'm ENTP and my mother INTJ. I think I achieved more things in life because her helping me.
@@Lizzzi86 wow that sounds so cool
I'm an ENTP and started searching these sort of videos to learn more about myself and now I find I'm just searching through the comments trying to find people to relate to or argue against.
Honestly didnt even listen to the video.
😂😂😂
Mee too ,i dont like to watch the full video,but like to watch the points not explanations....i,m attracted to the comments more than the videos,because it is easier to absorb information and can see some arguements .....
People with this Xbox 360 profilpics are definitely ENTPS …. @joshua
Such an ENTP thing to do 🤣
Bro.... I can't tell you how much this helped me just now. I don't really ever comment on videos but felt the need to this time. I appreciate you taking the time to put this video together. Much love brother!
This very practical and focus clarification of an ENTP has gotten to all my roots, simply because I have had many ideas taken to the 3/4 of completion and being afraid to Sell it and answer to myself of the not so good product.
Sadly to say, I have seen my ideas taken to reality some years later for other people who thrived to the end.
I have seen other videos nowhere close to this definition and the not only pointing out the bad side of ENTP, but a simple ways to achieve our goals and improve....this is where I needed some help....not to be drifting and maka a plan...only one at a time.
Thank very much
Erik, the level of resonance this video had was astounding. You truly encompass such depth of understanding. Valuable feedback is like miracle grow for the mind. Thanks! - a grateful ENTP
Listened to this on replay during my walk. I need to hear these things multiple times for it to make me take action... Erik, it would be awesome if you'd upload the audio as a podcast somewhere. I'm listening to your interview with Frank James right now :) Thanks again for all your work! T.
This is so funny, because I just asked my INTJ friend how he stayed so focused within one field. After receiving his advice I have done much better at staying on track within one topic for a longer time. The trick is to try and see the possibilities within a field, and to pick an as broad field as possible. I´m an ENTP btw.
I’m a 60 year old ENTP professional and successful advanced degreed medical front line provider . Thank you for sharing your knowledgeable prospective. There are other expected including a successful ENTP “ expert” one line - that you for psychologically and scientifically and spiritual support for my unique type. Few types understand or motivate me (ENTP Southern California female- health care professional). 🙏🏻😎
Keep up the good work 😊
all we do is think as big as possible lol but then we’re on to the next larger than life idea
it’s not about thinking BIGGER for us it’s about holding on to one giant idea
we usually set way too big of goals for ourself which is partly why we’re so optimistic cus we’re like LOOK AT THIS HUMUNGOUS POSSIBILITY!!!
Watching this as an ENTP, trying to find things I can do to boost my productivity and improve my success in 2020 (I'm an author), and Erik's advice boils down to 'plan stuff more the way my INTJ boyfriend does it'. Oh boy, this is gonna be a wild ride.
I agree getting to the top is an adventure in itself and discipline is a great virtue that all us ENTPs should revel in but the reason we do what we do is because we get bored with dealing within the same category for to long. Even with growth and trials we begin looking for a new adventure. A new flavor. Life is exciting and changing why not try on all the hats. In the end we want to have the most spectacular memories but yes money helps and to get money we need to build that platform well so we can have it all.
you should set goals higher than yourself. As an ENTP, I realised this, Yes trying new things is fun, it excites us, all the knowledge and all, but at the end what is our legacy??? And I'm focused on that part. A goal that is higher than my wants and desires. I hope I can achieve them. Oh it's been a hell of a struggle till now. But I'm not going to stop. and so be it I have to admit in some random comment, I will. But I can't stop now.
I like your posts because they focus not only what one is, but on what one has to work on. I am very likely ENTP with highly developed thinking and also a strong sense of the obligation to mentor others. I know that that makes me likely to overlook people’s feelings and needs, so I work hard to remember those. I know that I over the sensing aspect of things, so I learn from my husband, who has a highly developed sensing faculty. I am one of the geeky ENTPs, so I work at learning social appropriateness.
In other words, knowing that I am ENTP tells me not only who I am but also what I need to work on if I want to be a complete person. Saying, “I am like this because I am ENTP (or any other function stack) is only an excuse, IMO. I believe that saying, “I am ENTP” and I like that, but I would also like to supplement my strengths with other strengths,” offers a more helpful perspective.
I really like your idea of studying INTJs. In fact, for a long time, I thought that I was one. I think that I was surrounded by many of them in my youth, and their thinking rubbed off.
“Some kind of magic happens when you discipline an open mind.” That goes into my journal! Yes, we keep our dreams smaller to keep ourselves from being afraid.
I am 71 years old, so I perhaps have a perspectives colored by experience. Life helps brings us opportunities in order to help us grow and change.
I find I have the opposite as an ENTP. I usually have some big idea, learn all the skills to execute, begin to execute, then get bored because it takes all that work to finish fully realize the idea. Plus side, I learn all this stuff, it's just a matter of keeping that motivation to fallow through until the end.
Why you gotta kill me like that?
Thanks tho.
I'm 27 right now. And yes I have fallen in that trap. But I think I slowly started following the patterns of INTJ, as my shadow functions started to activate. I became more quieter, more observing, more thinking, more listening. And now I try to work like an INTJ. Still need to achieve loads. And been a procastinator but as you said, for me right now, my priority is getting things done and I don't want to waste this potential. I have higher ambitions set out, and someday hope to achieve them.
this issue is so challenging!!! God help me! I have a billion ideas, great ideas, but fail to do the hard tasks and pursuit them because they might not work, might not be worthy etc! def feel like wasted so many oportunities
I don't blame people for wanting to take it easy after all this world has little care to those who can't perform to the expectations and demand there of while at the same being shoved into the cult of productivity. 60-90+ hour work weeks are devastating to personal and family development so personally I do everything I can to keep things simple as reasonably possible.
MrKillswitch88 I know what you are talking about, and am glad you are not a part of the workaholic culture. I recently had a job interview when the guy said he expected me to work 50+ hours a week I said no to the job immediately. Currently I work 32 hours and hell no am I spending longer than that as a wage slave away from my private passions and interests.
"the great gifted minds of INTJs"
and then moans of pleasure echoed through the hallway
schh, don't tell them
Forgive me for asking but moans of pleasure from what? Being an intj if theres some habit i have thats an issue i do want to know
@@ErikThor Why not make a video about this? Without inciting hatred towards them of course. Just explain how they're overprotective of Fi and reject Fe and that whole spiel. Sprinkle in a little about how it makes then uniquely unconformist and present the positive aspects of it, and it should be fine I think. :)
Damn, I feel so called out by this 😅
Honestly, I'm not afraid of challenges but looking closely, I realised that I just jump from option to option, only commit when I'm completely sure it will work out, weather it being work or relationships. I'm actively searching for short-term solutions. And I've been told so many times that I'm "wasting my potential" that I sometimes have the urge to prove that their isn't any potential in the first place. Just to proof my point and walk away high headed.
And well, overthinking problems and until coming to the (quick) solution that it's pointless anyways. But hey, on the bright side, ones we make up our mind on something, there's no way we let loos and give up, stubborn as hell 💪
I am a low functioning ENTP. I mean i have great ideas and the brains, but i dont have any motivation or drive.
This video describes me so well that I’m really afraid now, but this is the kind of fear that makes you want to to something to change. Thanks for this video it really helps, and I’m mean really.
OMG wonderful!!!! You sound like my inner self speaking about my own core nature. Can't believe, it seems like you are describing me, each and every aspect of me. Commendable work my friend!!! Thanks a lot!!! *Thumbs up* :)
As an INTJ on a 3-person team with an ENTP team lead, you are exactly correct. LOL I just sit back and watch him run all over the place while I diligently take care of making sure things are done properly and keep our manager happy.
I agree with everything here and it's so true that we just dont put our ideas into motion. Like we need people around us to guide us and help us to see it through.
Thank you, you resumed everything perfectly. This is how I live everyday. I try to make it better little by little. And watching these types of videos help me. Thanks!
Obviously I'm ENTP.
Dude, mercy... I only recently figured out that I am really supposed to do hard things instead of easy, and now you say I should aim at impossible :D Great video...
dating my intj has made me so much more productive, it's insane
I think one of the worst feelings for me is when I know I could’ve done better but because of mind blocks I find it difficult to pursue my potential. In order for me to live up to my full potential I need big Motivation and a clear reason why I’m doing it.
My problem is not being unable to know or understand things. My problem is struggling to even do anything. ENTP-T (troubleshooter subtype)
thank you. i’m going to look into this today
Hardest as possible huh....
Project "becoming a Greek god" here we go
Im an ENTP and literaly my waste of potential is the problem that all my teachers warn me about
Very true Eric, these are our issues. These reasons are also the reasons why ENTP and INFJ don't mesh. We like doing us and you guys like doing you. Therefore because of these reasons I never got super close to INFJ. Now when I meet an INFJ I keep the conversation light. It's best that ENTPs and INFJs keep each other at arms length
GREAT video supergreat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can’t express it enough, it’s really important to hear that for me thanks for the content
Taking it easy? Okay, thats not true with me (ENTP-A 8w7) I always take the best and hardest project in school and always aim for best results. I‘m lazy, but I still try to get to the elite school (in which i‘m now) and for best collages. Kind of mad that this is a stereotype ENTP‘s have.
My dad is an INTJ and he's like the me who can actually get things done but is even worse at emotions lol
So young and so wise! What about getting tired of the institutional and societal resistance and blocks to efficiency?
Damn, you described us spot freakn on. I’m in the military and not progressing in my career because I’m so caught up in certain beliefs 😂
I dont think they necessarily consiously choose to think "Lets do as little as possible". I think its more because its easier for them to just see the option that brings most gratification in the shortest ammount of time. Distracting them from the bigger things that take time. I think perhaps the biggest problem is a gap between instant gratification and more tedious tasks. And being good at getting quick gratification, kinda contradicts the other option. I think maybe an ENTP would be more happy accepting that things might take longer, and perhaps be ok with things taking even longer than what it would for someone who could just be happy continously working towards one goal. Allow for distractions, and not give up and percieve not succeeding right away as failure. I think it could be done, woring on larger goals, and allow for their native all over the place here and there along the way. It would kinda "sabotage". But its better than deciding "I cant do this, its not rewarding. Im failing, therefore i should just keep doing the quick and easy shit"
actually, it can be really conscious. I literally made it a "sport", how to have really good grades with as little effort as possible. Just for the sake of fun/challenge/laziness whatever. I even felt that getting prepared for exams is cheating. So for me, it's not really about instant gratification. I want to be quick with projects, because I'm afraid I don't finish them if they take too long
As an INTJ (it's flattering but) I kind of want to be more like an ENTP after watching this! 😂 Does it work for us too? The link between effort and reward has been broken in recent society, so our plodding approach throughout often doesn't pay off.
Your unconsciousness is ENTP. If you want to know what it's like to be ENTP, start paying attention to yourself when you're doing mundane tasks that you normally let your autopilot self complete.
I am an entp and my girlfriend is an intj. She says the exact same thing, she likes the spontaneity in me and my pool of ideas, while I like the commitment of hers and the ability to stay consistent for some goal.
I am a 40 year old ENTP and what you said is spot on. To make things even worse, the many outstanding successes I had, I often do not recognize as achievements. I need others to remind me, that helps. Same with discipline.. I don‘t need a coach, I need a guy with a whip and bad temper and siffenly can rule the world. - Family members are a bad idea, though.
Agreed. I naturally minimize or entirely forget any achievement I've made while blowing up those of others I respect.
Noticed this as far back as childhood.
Simultaneously, I've always had grandiose plans and goals. And My perfectionist path toward said plans and goals always self-sabotage Me from ever reaching them. Lmao.
The purity in path MUST be respected! And that has been a major problem all My life.
It is all depending on your definition of success. Having an interesting life where you constantly learn something new everyday while making enough money so that you don’t have to worry about money is my definition of it. Making more money or create big things that others will admire. I don’t really care what other people think of my accomplishments in life other than me being a trustworthy friend and human being.
This applies to ENFPs too actually. Sounds like a Dominant Ne issue. Don't know if this is ENXP male issue or not but I relate to this. I think Transcendental meditation would change everybodys life if they practiced daily but an ENXP's life dramatically.
not quite. the Ne dominance, yes, but then an EFNP has Fi second and third Te. thats very different. The Entp has Ti and cant Fi = decide on anything ever to be worth being followed though over a long time. and EFNP can Fi do that and they dont destroy every belief they have with Ti because the have Ti PolR also the are quite efficient with Te child. its a different situation although much that is Ne realted applys to them too. attention span isnt great and they also love change and the new stuff.
@@christineschreiber5073 I understand the functions. My problem is that I don't care too much to follow through on anything because there is nothing that I FEEL extremely for in this world. I'm not extreme in my feelings of DRIVE except for being as genuine as I can be at any given moment in time. Fi doesn't help me decide on following through on things, it helps me respond to situations, to life and outcomes. It says to me " wherever you go I will be here and this can be home ,you can be comfortable, you can adapt".
Fuck... this is so accurate!! Also useful!! Nice job, sir!! - ENTP
OMG, you must be clairvoyant. I'm serious. That's exactly how my ENTP ex was. You're so right about them questioning their intuitions. But it is their Te that seems to override a lot of their conclusions, or superfluous information floating around that they somehow have adapted to as their source of relevant information. Perhaps it's a gendered conditioning too, where some men are taught to not trust their feelings as much, as feelings are for "sissies." And intuition tends to go hand-in-hand with feelings, inklings.
Yes, intuition and feeling are both stereotypically feminine traits
Actually our intuition is most often overridden by outside influences, whether lack of acceptance by trusted people or our challenging nature and natural(or unnatural) distrust of absolutes.
I don't think I have much potential. I have no idea what sort of goal I would even want to set for myself .I only have one exceptional ability and that is an understanding of the spoken word. What can I possibly do with that?
Thank you SO much. This is most helpful. I'm not sure that I can self discipline enough, though, tried million times, usually I don't get to day three with whatever new system I try to keep. Probably I need others's help. I have some grand things I wanna do (not sure when I plan to start doing them :D). Sometimes I have some accomplishments in a short time, people think it was long and hard work, then I get embarrassed, because I know I just put in the minimal effort to make it good. Your book example was spot on... I wrote one in not even two months with 3-400 scientific references. I mean I didn't really get any criticism, people have a very good opinion about it, but I know I could have done a better job on it. This "wasted potential" just feels so real
Thanks !
Stretching out our time to enjoy it the best way by refusing to acknowledge it. It turns a finite amount of time into something approaching the infinite
Everyone have original nature, words alone can't change the nature of people , ENTP's understand themselves very deep, similar to INFJ's like you , but here you are use what you programmed for as INFJ person to help everyone as some kind wisdom , like this video , but if you look more deeper , you know that experiences in life and also fate or luck have huge role to make people change their lives to something better or worst not advises in general, even if the other person accept the advise, the root of personality nature + fate or luck + experiences have the final words on how the person should live ,I'm ENTP by my self , i have successful life , yet i see it as nothing , i also see if I make this successful life more huge , it dosn't matter , you need to understand with every gift , there also limitations, i think you tried your best to help others , but it is not enough to change people , I'm ENTP and i know that one best advises for those who close to my nature is , working with others as teamwork , the Ne and Fe have high impacts on ENTP's performances in order to achieve goals , but they will never change their complex nature like the way you advised them , ENTP's = smart brain that need people and teamwork, we are not INTP's ,
For INTP lonely = best performance
For ENTP lonely = worst performance
ENTP can give better performance on achieve many things at once with the power of group on a lot of fields
INTP can give best performance on one single study , without anyone , but they can't study many things at once on deep level even if they were alone..
Now i hope you understand that ENTP they meant to be in this way , but if no people source that they can work with , their potential going to be wasted.
thank you this is exactly my point, perhaps age, wisdom and research can help Eric understand that.
Thank you so much for this video! For me, it's some kind of sumarazing my thoughts about productivity. I have to say, that you fascinate me, and cheer me up:) positive vibe to you, hugs and smiles!
“Ok what I’m really trying to say is that if you guys were more like INTJ’s there wouldn’t be a problem with ya’ll”
👌🏾
I am saying when Ne meets Ni its like👌✨✨✨🌟
@@ErikThor Ya it do be like ✨Having an Ni dom bff has been pretty useful actually.
ENTP here. This is so true. Next: study INTJ and do nothing with it 😄
Thank you for making this video 💙🌻
That was awesome man! Thanks!
You were on point, very exact
great video, Eric.
:-( its true. and the biggest problem is to decide on something.
I know I can do all you said if I only could see any goal I want to achieve.
You talk about plan and no distractions as if there was a goal. they have problems to decide on a long term goal and I think its because of Fi PolR. You descrivbe: "now I have this big idea", thats where you are wrong. Its many ideas, and they also often have a cynical desillusionment about everything, so what is even worth being done?
I had six educations, many jobs, was always succesful but always left at some point, many places where I lived, many relationships.
Everything you describe is accurate. Just give me something to heal the lack of Fi. As an ENTP you dont believe in much, because if the Ti does its job you went through the beliefs and ended in ambiguity because noting else is not just a belief. Ti and Fi are excluding each other.
I'll give you a small clue to how we INXJs do it: We decide quite early on what we want, but usually, our goals are quite abstract and can be realised in many different ways. The path there is also unknown even to us, so it's like, we know we're going to get there eventually, but not necessarily what to study or what to do to best realise the idea. And we tend to rewrite the past and our past actions and see it all as a coherent line, like, a random study of calligraphy became important to Steve Jobs Apple design. And your six different educations and jobs might all tie up and lead to the same thing too. I usually give the advice "connect the dots and find the one thing all your jobs had in common" -- theres usually a common theme, even if you can't see it right now.
@@ErikThor thank you very much for this answer. I think about it and see how that goes!!! (y)
@@ErikThor That's because INTJs have Fi child, so they what THEY feel. They know what they are comfortable to and ended up knowing what they want. But ENTPs are the opposite. We have Fi trickster so we don't know what we actually feel, our comfortness is rely on others (Fe), simply we don't know ourselves emotionally so we ended up don't know exactly what we want. We need someone who's Ni Fi user to tie us down, after Ne Fe creates wings so we fly high almost all the time and don't really know how to keep grounded. As ENTP i said this.
Hi Erik Thor, I´m an ENTP and love your videos! I'm curious to know how you would be able to activate this INTJ mindset. I understand that you need to find ways that make you more focus, in my case, music, depression or run before I sit down. In reality its much harder. Almost like it requires a ritual. My imagination immediately made me think of Ben 10, which turns into different monsters with different specialities depending on the situation, now Imagine if you could turn into any type at will. Now that would be an interesting thought. How to activate each one even more so. Could you do it?
You described exactly how I feel about my INTJ friends and now I'm scared
Great video, thanks
Man, this hit hard.
This is so true. My whole family can’t figure out why I don’t have a degree. It’s because it takes too fucking long to have to do each class. If they did all accelerated classes I’d ace them all. Lol
Uncomfortably accurate...Hahaha. The struggle is real for sure. :/
When I'm stressed, I act like an INTJ so I took those skills and incorporated it into my daily life.
Obtained 2 degrees and moved into a manager position.
Also, I started running at the beginning of the year. Instead of quitting, I continued. First road running, and as my fitness improved, I moved into trail running 🤩
BUT, on Sundays, I have NO schedule just COMPLETE FREEDOM! 😃🤩 Time to think, dream and just be 😅
Yes, an ENTP with INTJ skills can take over the world 😝
- ENTP
Great video Erik!
Very insightful. You had me up until you said "maybe i should do it the hard way" at the end. I was like.... "...naaah" but i get your meaning.So i'll meet you half way and do things the quick way but try and stick with it for longer ;-p
holy shit this is golden advice! great video
infj!
I think it’s really being there..authentic
Such a hurting reality, but it’s still the truth for ENTP, we know about our outstanding potential, but inside we can be able to feel frightened about how in the future we'll can achieve that goal, or well, personally it is what makes me concerned.
Dude. Thank you so much.
I’m watching your video to procrastinate
You could parallel this straight to ESTP. It all sounds quite familiar, just a bit more on the conceptual verses practical orientation.
This video is scaring me lmao i had the same thought though and the fact that it will take so long is killiiiiiing me. But what i found out is that we would have to actually make up our minds on what we actually wanna and who we wanna be and thats my fork in the road at the moment. Also no money but ill figure that out.
Surely it will help.
Thank You Erik ❤️
Spot on
0:08 it's not wasted it's discarded
I only do things that are difficult for me to do otherwise I get bored easy. It kicks my butt but I an happy. Other people think I am crazy and should relax and settle into things I know how to do but I know I wouldn't be happy. My husband hates it and it totally turns him off. As far as I know he is an ISTJ.
I have this issue, I actually have a intj in my life and he gets pissed. Off with me.. in my course he really will push me as he says you have so much potential
Thing is if yr running from a idea cos it’s boring it’s not boring it’s fear.. we change the word..
Y I love this intj but as soon as I get close to think this could be good I get wobbly, he is the one who believes in me.. but it’s fear it could work but the challenge.. and I know he’s the one .
Whenever I imagine myself doing something, it s like a crazy 1980s rock and roll montage of different activities and interactions, but when I sit down to actually do well this is boring what's the quickest way to get it done and move onto something else.
this is great!
Entp's can believe in themselves and that's about it because everyone else tends to fall short. I say that because it's true and without ego sorry.
Speak for yourself man, I'm falling apart here lmao
Thank you
I wish my brain wasn't dopamine depleted to the point I cannot focus for more than three hours in a row.
True.
so, if I were to simplify and narrow it down..
Don't say things are easy. Make them hard and then see how you can get yourself out of having set yourself an impossible goal.
Yeah, that's just about it, and I think that's the essence of for example Bill Gates got where he got in life. :)
@@ErikThor hmmm
how would getting 'perfect grades' sound for a start?
I had to do a project for my final year, and we had 8 months, I really started 1 month before the due date, but the major work was done in the last 3 days and I finished at 6am of the day we had to return the project!
But actually doing something other helps me concentrate, I couldn't have finished it if "Avatar: the last airbender" wasn't always playing in the background for the 76h I didn't sleep to finish the damn work.
same patterns here
You have to develop the project before you can fight for it
What I do when I have to study and my mind starts thinking of something else i treat it like a panic attack. ok, wait let me explain lol. When people have panic attack some psychologists says that you have to trick the mind to think at reality or simple telling yourself that the panic attack is not "real" so they Advise to literally tell yourself STOP and then to focus on objects that you can see in front of you.
This is exactly what I do when my mind strat going places i say STOP and i start thinking ok this is a book, this is the pen, this is my desk, i am studying so FOCUS.
Hope this can help someone ok bye.
P.s. i am not a therapist so of course my explanation is what it is 🤣
Sadly, I think this also applies to their relationships. It's the notion that people are a problem to "solve" and so they shortcut their minds not to probe too much into other people's mental and emotional landscapes.
Agreed.
My last few relationships were about me trying to solve my partner. We are so focused on self growth we don't understand why others aren't as driven.
Saw this video was 18 minutes and couldn’t do it.
the trick is 1.5x speed
The more of your videos I watch, the more im certain i was typed correctly.
2:18 well actually I'm trying to fix All the problems and mistakes human kind made in the past even the things we have not yet discorded about us and all the dark secrets lost too the past, im trying to fix all the damage delt to the earth by us humans.
I'm ENXP
4:40 lol
5:20 lol
7:07 lol
8:20 i have information from perspective just my challenge is how to get people to talk to me about these things
Iam not gonna waste my potential anymore
How do you know all this about me Erik Thor???!!! 👍💗
ENTPs are the people that are too lazy to try at school so they get ok grades by default, even though they know damn well it'd be no sweat for them to ace every class if they actually tried 😎