How to Change the Way You See Yourself | Rock Thomas | Goalcast
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Rock Thomas delivers a powerful, personal story on how to resist the labels forced on you in order to redefine yourself. Rock Thomas is the founder of M1, a community of high achievers as committed to your success as their own. He is also the host of the #IAmMovement Podcast, where we believe, "the words that follow I am, follow you." Visit www.rockthomas.com to discover the power of progress, your mindset, and making success a part of YOUR identity.
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I wonder how he did as father to his own child/children.
Great
If he was almost a millionaire how did he go back to living in his mums has after couple weeks
Proud of you sharing your heart felt truth. Did you know your Heavenly Father, who created you loves you unconditionally, He is so proud of you and has been with you your whole life. Watch ‘ The Fathers love letter’ in you tube. Bless you 😊
I m complitly opposite i was borned seekly so i was rase well like a flower i newer had to work i was newer toth to work hard all those things that kid needs to lern in order to ne able to funltion normaly as a grown up i newer had that i have spend a long time with a simple and most normal of thing ewen to this day but im awer of this and im trying to reprogram my self to get rid of my old habits and replace tham with new im glad that i got to her your story and i hope you are doing bether
I don't care what the hell you have gone through in your life. If you're on your deathbed and you can't tell your son that you're proud of him, you have failed as a father. Plain and simple.
Not just as a father. As a decent human also.
Ahmed Hussain IM WEAK
You know, I was actually thinking about his story for months... Then one day I thought : What if his father objective was to make him the toughest person he could be. Like... He wanted say to him "Look, son, no matter how hard you work, there will always be people who will treat you like shit". I mean, chances are slim, his father was probably a jerk. But if his objective was to raise a resilient kid, he succeeded. As Thomas said, all he knew was work
Hello this story is fake
If you are teased with the end goal but never reach it you will create half the foundation for the perfect human
Any man can become a father but it takes a real man to be a dad
Switch dad and father
That what I’m saying
That's from the start of Daddy's Home
it's not the other way around...to be a father requires sperm, to be a dad requires effort/love/time, etc.
Wrong
My father once told me that if all I could ever be is a trash collector then be the best trash collector that I could be, and he would be proud. I never needed words of encouragement in life again.
Your father was right
Trash collectors get paid well.
The best trash collector In the world is probably cleaning oceans beaches etc. successful for sure
I told all of my Kids the same thing. Also, do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life. I never had any support in anything when I was growing up and I swore my Kids would never face that.
@@hummingbird9221 I understand what you mean. My sons'father never used to support them, always underating what they did and I did all I could to help them find their way and they are grateful now. I'm a teacher and always tell parents "trust your children"
I feel like I want to hug this guy. Childhood neglect is such a horrible thing.
Thanks Matt … my dad had a tough childhood and did his best !
@@rockthomas6937is that really you?
It takes more than DNA to be a parent.
@@RedRaaz you dont Have heart
@@RedRaaz good:)))
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Eminem beat mgks ass
Big time
@@nexusclarum8000 No, dude. Just no.
Dude..I can see it in his eyes.
Fact.
This man has been through a lot. Good for him.
But I can't see it in his eyebrows oh wait
same
@@commiedoggo2439 oml😂😂😂
@@commiedoggo2439 not funny
That father envied his son's success. He died poor, bitter & in debt, so he couldn't bring himself to admit that his son had done better.
No the father resented him from birth, that he had to provide for him. No doubt his own father was that way to him. You can't teach what you don't know and you can't give what you don't have. His father was, sadly an empty shell, hard and mean. His son finally found someone to teach him otherwise, and ran with it. The father never did, sadly.
I had a grandfather like this who envied my father's success and was incapable of showing him the love and respect he deserved from his father. Now my dad is bitter and depressed but he is determined to never treat me and my siblings the way he was treated by my grandfather.
It could be many reasons, we will never know.
I love that quote, "If you do what is easy, life will be difficult. If you do what is difficult, life will be easy."
it's kinda counterintuitive, because doing difficult things is difficult, not easy, therefore how can it make your life easy and sometimes it's so hard to see farther and wider, above those difficult things
I agree
It broke my heart so much when in the end he almost cried. You can still see how much pain his dad caused him. Sometimes all you need is a ‘good job’
Ilayda Bayram he needs a hug
@@lachiew4465 That as well
There are no two words in the English language more harmful than ‘good job'
Kevin Henderson i am in the same position like him.i came from a poor family with very low income but i was raised with high moral standards a good work ethic.
Dad was working a lot every day to provide for the family and i understand his decision.
I am 29 years old dentist implanthologist and i guess that i am happy because i had a difficult life...now i can face all the problems in life and i can behave like a real alpha male.
A man should be a man and to provide
@@akamatsuken What? why?
The dad did exactly something jordan peterson perfectly put into words : "if you want to hurt someone you don t punish them for doing something wrong, you punish them for doing something right."
@Dr Phil thats not really what it means
Thats deep
@@kubistonek shhhhh. Dr Phil knows what hes talking about
Wow i got so many likes!!
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@@kubistonek yes it does
I play with my son almost every day and when I get home from work he jumps into my arms with joy. I am the happiest father in the world.
When my sons were little boys they did the same and one evening their father said to me: "no need to wait for me behind the door it gets on my nerves. When I get back home I want to have time to undress lay down my things and blow my nose." I'm about to leave him.
@@marie-heleneallesiardi4989 Godless people have no love for anyone, they only love themselves.
@@florinmarc5510 I will always blame myself for not realizing he took some kind of pleasure putting down those who were not like him. Fortunately I never forget to tell my sons they are the best thing that happened to me and I love them and I am so proud of them. They made me less selfish. When you have children you should live for them first.
My brother in law works two jobs so that my sister can stay home to raise their children.. yet he always makes time to play with his kids. I truly admire that about him.
@@neoncherry3070 your sister is a lucky girl my husband hardly took time to play with his sons.
Nurturing your children will make them a better person. Don’t let them go thru life alone.
Do not overprotect your child and do not crush your child's spirit.
Andrés E. It's good to have a balance.
Yes! It's hard at times, though.
I had the opposite of overprotective parents...they didn't care for my or shown it. I left my home when i was 16 and moved in with my GF. I'm 26 and never heard from them again.
I'm 11 and I have to deal with what he was talking about and my mom passed my dad isn't with us and I live with my grandma.
It's really hard
“The most important relationship, is with yourself” -My 6th grade teacher
Masturbation
Your teacher was 100% single when he or she said it haha
IPlay Games i have three friends me myself and I
@Danny Danko no its not I think it is vet good, because when you are told to put others before yourself so much you feel that you don't matter as much
IPlay Games No, it's with Allah.
This is my narcissistic mother, but today, I say, I Am Worthy.
Say it again.
@Ashley C thank you. We are strong 💚
@John Adams sounds like projection, but thanks for the music ✌️
@John Adams sounds like you might be a sociopath lol
That was my father! I was absolutely afraid for my life when my dad was around. He never came to one of my dance recitals. He never really interacted with us as a father. My father used to beat us. My brother sexually abused me. I left at 16. What a very sad beginning to my life. Now I am my best friend, I love me for me! Finally I am almost at peace with what has gone on in my life.
licks n kicks , so sorry that you also had such a childhood . Sending love even as a stranger 😊❤ . You matter ! May all that is good , wonderful and right find you in this life ❤.
@@XSCAPE-eg2dl thx so much. Support from anyone including strangers is always good! 🇨🇦❤️
@@dunkbanga6749 thankyiu for your kind words! 🇨🇦❤️
We are stronger than we think we are
@@licksnkicks1166 true. When you can't find love with your parents you find it in other people.I love my sons unconditionally and so do they.
He needs a ted talk
So weird my parents were raised with 8 siblings and 11 siblings and they were told children were to be seen and not heard. It was the only thing anyone knew
@Ehsan agreed
He need a dad
.. not funny.
@@eternity-308 he wasn't joking lol
When a stranger gives u more love than ur own blood parent.
That wasn't the point of the story.
@@derianschmidt7252 So what??
@@derianschmidt7252 he/she never said it was
Ik so sad but,amazing
I felt that
"You can change your programming" Amen
So sorry!! Your dad was suffering from so many insecurities that he took it out on you. You deserved so much praise and love. ❤️
God please continue to watch over this man.
Truth Factors Amen🙏🤲
there is no god, life is only with yourself.
@Tiaan22 _ Lol
Don’t discredit his achievements like that
@@RobertMichaelTodd i think like you are your own god
I appreciate good and kind people. But those who were abused by their caretakers, and yet chose to break the cycle instead of passing it on...man I don't know how to describe the amount of respect I have for them.
John C this guy described my grandfather and my dads relationship. My dad in many ways was psychologically stuck at a 12 year old level of maturity due to that abusive relationship where love was always withheld. Till the day he died, he was broken in many ways. Sad for sure but he swore he’d never be like his father. I am forever grateful my dad broke that cycle with me. I’m plenty tough, work very hard, had many hard jobs, saved many lives, and I feel like I’m happier then most without all the machismo bullshit.
My parents are like that! They came from a poor country and got hit a lot. I have so much love and respect for my parents, and will feel forever indebted to their kindness.
❤️
This comment should be the 1 with 5k likes
My father was terribly abused by his father and he chose to not abuse us.. he was an awesome father.
It’s so hard not to desire human approval. I choose to believe who God says I am and what I’m capable of instead. And yes speaking positive words out loud and even scriptures really help.
It is important for a father to teach his son to be disciplined, but it is also important to show love and that you're there to support your son.
When he said "nothing that I can think of" my heart just shattered 💔
ALDBY* same
Same
What an asshole
Same... :-(
I almost cried
When his father was dying and he said, “Dad, has there ever been a time that you have been proud of me?” and he said no, that broke my heart
Akidawesomeness I feel u man
Pull the plug!
@@juliam.426 with the quickness of a whip!
Shino excuse me?! ;-; stop. Cutting. Onions.
Or turn down the heat, my eyes are sweating!
hes an actual sociopath
I can't believe this guy described my early life with an alternate ending... I found my mentor when my son was born, my son. I raised him by myself and tried to instill all the values I needed and he became incredible! I watch him and try to emulate him. However, I still see myself as a failure no matter how much I tell myself differently. Im 50 and I want better for me. This guy is awesome!
Hey intrepid thought I would say hi and encourage you to continue the journey of transformation it’s never to late to change the programming
I never had a mentor. My father always told me to do something else after failing once. He never ever encouraged me to try again. He basically told me to give up and not try when I failed. I still feel that way.
I can relate to parents not coming to school events. My dad didn’t even know how old I was when I asked him to come to my graduation dinner. He told me, “I’ll go to the next one.”
4:04, he's got tears in his eyes. That hurt. Really.
Imagine getting no appreciation from the person you've done everything for. The person whose acceptance mattered the most, didn't care enough.
Omfg what a looser
@@alanair7019 Depends on how you define "loser".
Also, Loose and Lose are completely different words. Just saying.
Don't even know the spelling of loser read the dictionary or read more books
@@alanair7019fuck you little bitch
Alan Air, everyone knows you are but don't compare others to yourself
Off topic....
He's the only guy I've seen who looks good without eyebrows
Jesse B yup. I agree. He look ruggedly handsome.
How about Mr. Clean
@@user-ie6tw6ps5h LMAO
Jesse B
haven’t seen Jeffrey star then
Jesse B he has but he’s so blond!!
That u will not gonna be able to see them
Watching this hit me so hard! so much emotion ..the mentor was godsend im so glad they crossed paths!! So powerful
I’ve had this video saved for a few years now, and it still gets me every time I randomly decide to watch it. It’s motivating in many different ways. I relate in many different ways. I hope more people come across this and have it resonate inside like it did with me
When his father said “Nothing that I could think of” I cried
Nice
me too smh what a dick
When I saw you and realized your cute I cried
This was days even after paying that scumbag narcissists debts off! The sad thing is the father would have had a father like this also going back some generations and he is repeating the pattern. Thankfully, Rock has broken that cycle and that will hopefully not poison his future family tree!
Shafe Jawad I was just going to say that too. Piece of shit only thinking about himself and the lack of what he has. If you are going to be a destructive hurricane. Do it over away from others till you figure yourself out so you don’t drag down other people too.
This just broke my heart
AmericanLunitic 383 this made me think about how fortunate I am
AmericanLunitic 383 same
same
Thousandth like
I'm just happy most of the commenters realize how abusive and horrible his childhood was. When I saw this on Facebook a while back, most of the comments were about how he should feel lucky his father taught him such a great work ethic. No consideration to the fact that his work ethic was solely a cry for his father's love. The man had time to sit in the car but couldn't watch the hockey games. That tells you everything you need to know about how his dad saw his son.
Hearing him talk and express himself makes me think he’d be a good actor
"The words that follow 'I am' follow you." Thank you.
Father's like these are more common than people think.
true
Every 4th father deadass
So normal lol this guy is just victim
My dad left us a few years ago I had to take care of my family while also caring about my grades it was hard especially that I am an immigrant in Croatia I tried my best to get good grades that some day I can give money to my mum coz we get like 2000 kunas a month which is very little
My grandpa was kind of like the man's dad. When I look at the way he tells the story and the way he behaved as a child to get his dad's attention. I saw my dad in him. My dad always worked hard. And therefore he gave me a great work ethic.
Edit: currently I am 12 years old and I'm washing windows. It's not much but it's a start.
God bless this man, he earned his life the hard way
Wow. I didn’t know there’s someone out there who has the same story as me. Brings back all the bad memories. But I’m inspired to do better.
I wish they didn't put this tacky music. His words are powerful enough, no need to convince us.
Agreed. It was distracting.
Yeah hey, makes it feel “cheap” some how
Yeah… The music was kind of distracting
Lol... thank you!.. yes!
Would have actually been more powerful to let them stand on their own - at least at some point in the video! This background music always seems to let the processing of a video like that appear cheap since somebody thought it was necessary where it‘s not..
This is the opposite kind of video I was expecting. I thought the thumbnail meant this dude owned horses and he endeavored not to eat until he fed the horses under his care. Lol total 180 from what I got.
Lmao, I forgot about them bitch ass horses. Good video, true shit.
😂
subseven n
Lmao same dude
I thought it was a video about illegal slavery and hiw he was one lol
You don't become a father by having a child, you have to earn the title of father.
Edit: This got more likes than expected, glad people agreed :).
Brexit Monger Couldn't agree more, friend.
Couldn't have been said better.
Except that you actually *DO* become a father by having a child....
The definition of father is "a man in relation to his child or children".
The only case in which the word father is a title is if the man having it is a priest....
I know what you meant by your comment but It's still wrong....
@@ballisticbadger9955 I think you're missing the point
Ballistic Badger You get the name of father when u have a kid. You have to earn the name of dad.
This story really resonates with me. I often look at my young daughter and it makes me want to cry for the little girl I was at her age. The things I had to deal with at such a young age make me want to hug my daughter so tight. I love that both my kids have spirit and have the confidence to just be themselves. At their age I was frightened of my own shadow and still haven't found my peace but seeing this has inspired me to keep going. Making sure my children grow up knowing they're loved, wanted and supported is a start.
I think one of the biggest lessons any father hopes to teach his son is the importance and reward of hard work and how far it can take you. But do so in an uplifting manner. Sometimes there is a need for being stern, but it shouldn't overshadow encouragement. Belitting, degrading insults do absolutely nothing to "toughen up" kids from a young age, if anything it breeds resentment and anger which is counterproductive. Give discipline where it is needed, but always remind your son that he is loved.
Many parents killing child confident and don’t realize it breaks child life as he/she grow...i been in same what you been in.....
obviously you don't understand the fucking point of the story.
Rose Rose learn some grammar
Rose Rose my mom would do it intentionally. Said I deserve a life of pain, but then again she is a narcissist, psychopath
u probably grew up without parents
if his father did not that , he wouldnt be here today
Had a stepfather like your dad. His favorite thing to say was that I was too stupid to tip over a bucket. I too moved out when I was 17. Now I have children of my own and I vowed to try my best in giving them confidence and to make sure they love and believe in themselves. The other day my eight year old came in the kitchen and just told me what a lucky and happy child he is and how much he loves me... I got so teary, bless him... I think I'm on the right track...
Much love and happiness to you!
That's the best!
Much love and happiness to you and your family
Idk why but I feel like this is a r/thathappened moment
My step father sounds like yours. He belittles me, cusses me out, anf calls me names. He also physically abused me, and assaulted me just a WEEK AGO. I want to press chargers but I'm afraid to because I'm afraid he'd hurt me.
@ayan lol?
At some point in grad school, I had a professor talk about how the way we label negative behaviors will dictate how we view ourselves forever. One of the examples they used was about a child who takes something that doesn't belong to them. Instead of them developing the understanding of "I am a person who has stolen," they are taught to believe "I am a thief."
Society teaches the person to label themselves with a permanent stamp. That then lingers as a factual belief in their minds, so it will be used to excuse their future behaviors. "I'm so sorry I stole again, it's who I am."
Rock's story here is a perfect illustration of what that state of mind can do, but it's also proof that beliefs can be un-taught with the right support. Everyone should have at least ONE PERSON - friend, family member, counselor, doctor - whom they can turn to for support and feel is on their side. If you dont know who that person is for you, start sharing your story with people and see who responds; it only takes one good support to make all the difference.
My father once told my sister that my (then) fiancé (now wife of 32 years) would wind up supporting us. It lit a fire that has never stopped burning. He was a high ranked manager for AC Delco in the world HQ in Flint, MI and very well paid. When I made partner at a packaging firm in 2010, I out-earned him for the first time. Now I own my own packaging company, am working on real estate investments, writing, and more. We have taken our kids on trips to the Caribbean, owned beautiful homes in beautiful places, boats, bikes and all the things that money can buy. More importantly, we have been there for our kids and have a happy marriage as an example of what one looks like.
I was really hoping his father said "I have always been proud of you."
Life isnt like the movies
Me too
lol at least he was being honest though
@@nh-uu3cs honest is overall good but there's a way to still be honest and not be an unmitigated asshole while stating your opinion. What a shitty father......
His real father, God, his creator, his true supporter, has always been proud of him. This guy he calls "dad" was just a sperm donor and didn't deserve to have a son as good as him. But God is proud of him. God is his true Father.
This is a very amazing story...you turned all that disappointment into something positive
I create my outcome pretty sure is successful today because of a strong work ethic
It’s sad knowing that not everyone has it well to love in a great atmosphere. Some live in areas with abusive people, lack of necessities, etc.
i mean not to be a asshole but, he probably got paid for this and faking the cries and shit
any anyone who got triggered im kidding
I create my out come
But, how can we teach the children around us to do so?
So heartbreaking to think his dad was such a dried up human being he could not express love to his own son. What a failure as a parent. The only gift he gave his son was a bucket of hurt and shame.
This was inspirational. I will never again let other label me. THANK YOU!!! Your pain turned to gold.
My Father was a very broken man. He was the toughest man I've ever known. He got that way; because his life was so hard. He had epilepsy when it was considered a mental disorder. He was sent to a hospital for the mentally insane on several occasions as a child. He was kicked out of school because of his seizures, yet was an amazing student. Had a sharp mind even into his final days. He wasn't able to drive and was never hired for a normal job. He worked odd jobs for anyone he could. For years, the only thing he lived for were my grandparents. Once they passed he had nothing to live for. Going to church and meeting my mother, I believe, saved his life. They had me when my dad was almost 60. He was not good at showing emotion and was very frugal with words of praise. I'd only seen him cry twice.
As he grew closer to his death I'd learned a lot about how little love he'd received in his life. Even though my mother, brother, and I would tell him we loved him, he always had a bit of doubt that we meant it. He almost had the attitude that no one could genuinely love him. He was convinced that he was the reason I grew up with physical issues. I learned all of this from other people; because he never talked about what he'd been through. Towards the end of his life, I told him everything I had felt as a kid. I mentioned my frustrations about our lack of time spent playing together. I told him that I loved him and that it wasn't his fault for my physical conditions. After that conversation, we bonded as Father and Son for the first time in my life. As I said he wasn't emotional, but I knew he loved me. He started to say he loved me first, and expressed his pride in what I've done in my life. Once I learned to understand him better, and expressed it to him, our relationship became so much better. I'm very thankful we were able to become close at the end. I know, not everyone has that opportunity, so I realize I have reason to be grateful. I love him and miss him and Mom so dearly to this day.
"A little bird told me about real estate".
*Whispers* "It's free real estate"
@Spuzva Rahil its a meme
@Spuzva Rahil it's a meme bud
r/wooosh
𝙸𝚝'𝚜 𝚊 𝚖𝚎𝚖𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚍𝚒𝚙!
Eric Iverso I DID THAF
The first 7 years is what defines a human child.
But what about alien children? We are defined in the incubator
Wrong.
It does not defines you, it programs you because of what u learnt/know during that time. All of that can change tho if you know how to achieve the warrior mindset; you'll know how to handle every emotional stress.
@@upstate5101 exactly. He just said you can change the programming.
Shrek Norbert omg r u ok?? Stay strong❤️ things will get better
I grew up in a similar way. It was and is hard to battle those demons, but it is all worth it. And I'm winning, because I have that work ethic.
Your great
I'm glad you still worked hard and kept going. I did the opposite. I wish I could do it all over again as a kid. I'm so sorry for the pain I see on your eyes. Parents a broken raising broken people when they don't fix themselves.
Don't feel bad yes it's obvious every child would feel so, you did your best, I lost my mum 5 days before my bday she didn't had CoVid yet got sudden heart Attack 😭😭, she was my emotional support
"If you do what is easy, life will be difficult. But if you do what is difficult, then life will be easy."
I love that quote
Life is not easy for him
No way
His father was crazy !!! plain and simple. It just goes to show you that everyone should not have children and I wouldn't marry his son because he wasn't raised in the house of love so imagine what kind of husband he will be?
@@lisatillett4960 that man is amazing. He has changed lives of hundreds. I don't think it matters what home you grew up in. It matters what your mindset is and if you're willing to change it.
Beautiful message and words
@@PersisP you dont want to force things, that's not the way to go about it, well depending on what it is. But that quote means that the harder you work for something the easier it will get, remember there's always two sides to a hill, the uphill part, that is hard to get up and the downhill part that you can just glide down
People make fun of this extremely positive frame of mind. Honest to god if you just let yourself take it seriously EVERYTHING falls into place.
Aggreed, all my friends douted this positve fame of mind but here i am makeing more money and cool opatunitys!
Jillian Jacques God*
@@tonymorales428 thanks so much.
@The Awesome Pie126 isn't all of this a joke?
Bad grammar
This makes me appreciate my father so very much. He is far from perfect, but he is so much better than the man this guy is describing.
This man is so wholesome and honest. I wish him happiness, truly.
*nothing that I can think of*
Really dad????? REALLY???????????
This man did it all. And his father couldn’t see it.
Your father's approval is like the Little Rascals goat cart. Hang a carrot on a string in front of the goat and he pulls your cart trying to get it. He will never get a bite of that carrot, but the cart is always pulled. Sort of like the hamster wheel of a job.
Maybe he was blind
@@qoaeramv wow hahahaha
I can't think of a sadder thing for a child to hear.
You may not believe me when I say that I’ve watched this video everyday from the time I found it. It’s changed my life by turning me from a lazy bastard who can’t stop procrastinating to a hard working person who can’t work hard enough. I’m very appreciative for this mans story and I really don’t think I would’ve changed my ways unless I saw this video last year.
Michael WTP this vid was made in February of this year. It could've been a year. No hate.
Just telling you.
Ava Lps yea I know but since last year I’ve picked myself up
This Man is amazing , I agree.
I’m dead af
High key I hope you fuck up
Maybe it would make me feel like I’m not the only one
@@zarmadyl5038 hey me too
We have no choice to bless those teachers that propel us forward to greatness. We pick those teachers before we come here. If you had a different dad you wouldn't be as great man you are today. ❤
This is terribly sad about this guys dad. Nothing but bitterness in his heart. How do guys like this turn out as well as they do with parents like that?
Its drive to not become the monster that hurt you.
They grew up seeing what they could become. So they chose the opposite.
I feel for this guy on too many levels. I have no memory of my dad playing with me or caring either. Still don't and I'm now 26 and Father to a beautiful 3 year old girl. At least she will always have me there.
People like you make me happy. 👍🏻
Same brother except I've got a beautiful boy who fills me with sheer joy.
Same...taught me the best life lesson how not to be like him. I love my 2 daughter's to death
Check out the Personal Development School...it addresses the core wounds and helps with reprogramming. It helps so you can reset your subconscious and parent your child in a conscious way, so they have a secure attachment.
It’s so powerful.
I wish you all the best!
Sounds like he was talking about my dad’s relationship with me up until I was about 25.
I stopped paying so much attention to his abusive behavior about then. I told him in the kindest way that I just wouldn’t stick around and listen to it. No one should have to.
Also he started respecting my personal space once I asked him to. I used to say, “give me an arms length please “. He was always a close talker and in my face. Funny how 6 feet back seems to be just what the doctor ordered these days. I’m 49 now and have what I call a pretty good relationship with him.
Developing strong self esteem is a tough process but its an important one.
Brian Tobias you’re everywhere lol
MULTIMILLIONAIRE Haha I know :P
Ah not gonna try to offend you here, but you're using the wrong word. Its not self-esteem but confidence. Self-esteem is admiring ones self and it is completely overused in our society. The problem with millenials was the fact that they were raised with having a high self-esteem from participation trophies and etc. So now they don't know whats it's like to fail and are completely narsisitic. So again not trying to offend you here, but try to use self confidence from now on because your kinda apart of the problem in our future generation's success.
I think your confused about this video, his dad clearly blured the line between being a good dad and a someone who didn't have any idea of how to bond with a child. (100% you don't have kids do you?)
Self esteem come from support and encouragement, not being smashed at such a young age, he wouldn't understand why his dad was being like that.
If you don’t have the right mind set become rich is ten time harder
When you watch this video many times over the span of a week because of teaching multiple classes, it burns in your head, but it's such a great video
My dad was a play pal and mentor. I now appreciate him so much more.
*Goosebumps overload tear jerker*
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Probably the best 8 minutes I have ever spent on the internet
I saw an 8 minute meme compilation that was pretty good
thank you
This.
Fucking this.
The pain in his eyes as he speaks hits me so close to home!!!! You sir are an extraordinary man. You deserve everything life has given you. One of the greatest videos i have seen on TH-cam alo year!!!!!!!!
Came here after watching the greatest run chase in IPL history
(indian domestic cricket league).
Then sat down and watched this.
Never even thought my mind could be blown for a second time this evening...
What a personality!!
Nothing but respect for this man...
Hurt people hurt people. Sounds like his dad had demons he didn't deal with. No matter your age, the foundation (childhood), plays a huge role throughout your life. It's a fight loving yourself if your upbringing was anything but loving.
Agree 100% if you dont learn then no one else will I had to teach myself that and if you dont love yourself no one can love you because you don't respect the love they try to offer. In order to love you have to have and be loved. Thanks for what you wrote I liked it.
Amen
People like that are taught to value money above all. But when he made his money the dad was simply jealous. His dad just didn't have anything to give him as he didn't have anything himself.
People should be wary of expecting praise, from people unworthy to praise them.
Facts! Childhood is literally what builds most of a person’s character
NOHOPEFORHUMANITY tell us
*Many Parents are bad at Parenting because thats how they themselves were parented. Some others are just going through Life projecting their problems on their children and not even seeing them there. It is really such a thing, our childhood years are the most formative and we carry along a lot of things from the past. This story just helped prepare me for so much including parenting which I am super excited for. Thank you so much Rock Thomas for sharing so much of you in such a selfless way!*
True .
@@shishidoseijuro7770, your mom's true.
I can see your age clearly by commenting that joke bud .
My grandparents had 13 children and if one misbehaved they would beat all of them on their legs with a stick until they bleed. When my mom is nervous she touches the scars behind her knees, she told me that she promised to God she would never make her kids experience that pain. I'm 24 and none of my parents have ever hit me (except once when she threw a Chancla at me because I was being a hurtful brat), so yes a lot of those neglectful parents had abusive ones but you always can be better than them but that requires work and not a lot of them want to do that.
@@shishidoseijuro7770, I could see your mom's age.
This story broke my heart! I'm so glad that mentor stepped in and finally said the words he needed to hear. What a powerful message! Thank you!
All I can say to anyone who ever asks me about my dad,
well,.......when I think about it, He was the Best dad Ever...even when I don’t think about it...well, He was the Best dad I could ever hope for. DAD, I miss you sooo much. Thank you . The world didn’t see you as perfect but my heart knew who you really were. All I ever needed to know from you is that you LOVED me. See you soon!
That’s the kind of father you don’t ever wanna be
No one deserves how the father acted.
Osama bin laden?
Why not?
Cant really blame the father (in a sense) imagine how he was treated by his dad as a kid. Its a broken cycle.
Jake's Tree and Turf he cared for him though he must’ve been stressed
Mine did
It's people like this who live life with humility & steel integrity that are always on a knifes edge of suicide. Please know as I am 30 NOW, you've inspired me for many years. As a child of an alcoholic abusive mother & absent father, you are so worthy and yes, absolutely ruggedly handsome & beautiful inside & outside.
Whenever it gets bad, REALLY bad, repeat these words over and over. I. AM. STRONG. and you will survive. I have survived the worst year of my life, and those words helped me do it. Looking back at it now, as the chaotic flood waters begin to recede, I realize how right those words are. I am the strongest person I know.
Why do people have kids if they don't want to interact with them?
People like that don’t really have children. They have sux.
Children are simply consequences that they most likely resent.
It is really sad for their children, their partners and even themselves because they throw away the chance to experience true joy and pure love.
To be slaves.
It’s not always a choice. Many people have mental issues and many of these people were raised by people that didn’t teach them empathy and care! His father had issues.
To get money from the government for the kids
I don’t every remember ever having a conversation with my parents or being comforted by them or anything. When my mother wasn’t yelling the house was dead quiet. No dinner time conversations or anything with my parents. So I’ve often wondered why they even had me if they never wanted me.
I really can’t tell what his dad wanted out of him.
He wanted him to be successful man thats every parents dream
@@someone-eo1zf yeah but also every parent wants their kid to know they love them......
some one are you stupid?? Or just ignorant?? Nothing his dad did set him up for success, yes he learned to work hard. But his whole life he never felt loved or was good enough to his dad. Fuck his dad.
You'd need to know his dads story, why his mom wasn't there? His dad probably hated his life, yet couldn't end it because of "responsibilities" (his son). I know a bit about what that feel like. I'm just not as shitty as this dudes father was.
Atleast hope he remembers his dad as a symbol of hard work and motivation and not a complete dick and a horrible father
Lord, can I relate to this. My father committed suicide when I was four, and my mother was a narcissist and clinically depressed. She never once said, "I love you" or "I am proud of you." She was cold, critical, and broken. I thought my dad was in heaven watching over me, and I strove for perfection, trying to be a perfect daughter, ever seeking my mother's love and trying to make my dad proud. When I was 13, she said, "You are nothing and a nobody and no one will ever love you." I will go to my grave hearing those words, never once hearing "I love you." For years, I set about reprogramming my brain. Those who didn't know me probably thought I was the most conceited person in the world, but I felt like the smallest person on the planet. It's amazing the effect that broken parents have on a child. More amazing still is the resilience and strength of character that it can build if that child as an adult can overcome and rise above it. The cycle must be broken.
Thanks to Rock Thomas for sharing his story and the powerful message. Too many seem to be focusing on how poor of a father he had to the point where they're not hearing the message being delivered in the video. Love the "What follows the 'I am' follows you."
I don`t know you, but I love you man.
Αλέξανδρος Χριστόπουλος I don’t know you, but I love you
Love you too Alex.
Και εγω τον αγαπω
Well said. Sometimes the stones thrown our way, become the building blocks we need. Inspirational
Cut my family out of my life permanently 5 years ago. Best decision of my life. I dont stick around and keep getting abused.
Your whole family or?
Alyssa, I did the same thing. It hurt at first. I still cry at night sometimes. But I realized I wasn’t doing it out of spite, I realized I just didn’t have the emotional capacity to deal with their judgment and them interfering with my life in all areas. I decide who comes into my life nowadays, I decide how much I disclose about my life now to anyone. I choose who gets to walk along side me in life now. And if one day I decide to let my family back into my life, they will know my boundaries and they will respect them and I will demand respect from them. Or they will just get cut off, and not just them, anyone who passes my boundaries on purpose is not family/friend nor someone who has your best Interest. Keep sticking up for yourself. I had to do major counseling because of my family. They almost ruined my marriage and my career.
Alyssa Stevens It depends. I did the same thing, and then I came back because I didn’t want the rest of my time on this earth, that I could spend with my family, to be without them. You only have so much time, and there is definitely NO time for pride
@@50shekels Everything you've just said has reminded me of what my grandma has once said to me (when I started to cut off my family and parents out of my life)
"Never let your pride to impoverish you"
Those words made me rethink my life for a long time, I still do sometimes when life is being hard on me
I totally understand. And agree.
Okay I’m crying !!! 😭😭😭 I could relate to this because my mom was like that with me I always felt I was never good enough , she would belittle me , make fun of me and blame me when bad things happened and now I currently work as a caregiver and one of my clients has been such a blessing because she always thanks me for my work ethic , praises me and lets me know I’m a good person . So now I’m a strong believer in encouraging and motivating others
Some fathers dont deserve the love of their sons. But this man loved his father regardless unconditionally and I think that speaks volumes of his character.
His dad taught him the value of hard work. But never once he had said I love you or I'm proud of you, etc. That's kinda hurtful
Dad: Omae wa mou shindeiru
Son: Nani
But that's not true why so much you already have to say about what you say happened and there won't be nobody to tell anybody different and you've had that privilege from the beginning and you still walk the floor with the same privileges can you just at least this one thing just this one these please you don't have to lie about it's not even a very big one in all reality so please
Thank you for stating the obvious
Always stay positive. 👊🏽
Except this is a fantasy for the large majority of people. "I had absolutely nothing, until one day I thought I'll get into real estate... then this guy steps into my office". If you have your own office and the money to just "get into real estate" on a whim, you're nowhere near struggling.
If someone can overcome this. They can overcome everything!
I try to stay positive but everything or mostly everything turn negative so i gave up on being positive. So now i just always think that nothing good will happen and i cant do anything significant. Its a bad way of thinking but it makes me feel better than hoping for something that wont happen.
@@br1an_235 Keep your head up, Brian.
@@br1an_235 why?
Problem I had with my working father no time for me only the money. All you ask for is some validation...but you have to overcome that and believe in yourself whether they support you or not. Only way to take control of your life, you can't live through others. They're too busy living there own lives...live yours!
I'm 61 and still working on changing my programming daily ... My kids know that I love them .... but I still have to work on loving myself .. I'm doing better 😊
" *_IM RUGGEDLY HANDSOM AND I'M PROUD_* "
"LOUDER SPONGEBOB!"
🤣🤣🤣
this comment is great lmao
Why is peace so hard to get i actualy want his dad and his peace
Sometimes the mentors are the ones who give you that final push to establish your persona
Or Igor
Thank you for sharing this because we all need a reminder of who we are. Sometimes the people we love the most don't realize how much they hurt us.
My heart wept for this man. He went through some pain. I wish I could hug him- you did amazing things my good sir. Thank you for your time- this was enlightening
Wow, this appeared in my suggested videos and I clicked on it thinking “why not I’m bored”. I have worn labels such as introvert, untalented, unworthy, unimportant, shy, not good enough, and many more. I’ve used these for so long and also used them to perceive myself. I’ve never tried to think of “good” labels. One thing I’ve learned from this video is that we should always focus on our strengths and talents rather than our weaknesses and false identity. This video touched my heart and definitively changed the way I think about myself. Thank you for this wonderful, inspiring, motivational speech. 💛
iEatPastaSometimes I have too worn labels like untalented, unimportant, and not good enough
I go through the same thing but I mainly chose your comment to say I like you name
U awesome
You literally just described my own experience word for word
can you tell me how it going whit being positief i hope its going wel now after a week
People like this make me realise how lazy I really am sometimes
Ikr. I though my dad having me lay concrete and carry up shingles was rough. Yeeesh.
Yeah try fighting from the lowground sometimes
But like where were u when the rebels were there
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Dude I was thinking the same thing about me not you. There's just no excuse
same here..I am 40 yr old..still..my family treats me like an outsider..I spent my whole life to please my parents..still they r not happy with me..
thnx for this video...👍👍
now I know what I have to do in my rest of life