As a 19 year-old INTP, I'm definitely starting to understand myself better - MBTI helps! After years of feeling “different” or “abnormal”, it's nice to finally embrace myself. It just makes it harder to find love though :/
that's great that you're understanding yourself better :) i think mbti is great for helping us see and understand our strengths and weakness and help us develop as people. looking into mbti is helping me a lot too. -an 18yo infj
It hurts to watch my girlfriend go through this struggle lmao. Like, no, you're not gonna be corrupted if you get a fucking job... There's more to life than your fantasies... But my inferior Fe can't figure out a tactful way to say this lmao.
@@benjaminharmon6541 it’s hard because I’m in the same boat. Just don’t tell her to “just do it snowflake” or you’ll get smacked. I mean jobs do feel like death and I never been in one that has made me not want to commit not living.
As an INFJ, I'm going through the "be more selfish" development right now. I dropped multiple toxic people and things in my life and I'm learning to live my own life and go my own way, only focusing on what I need to do for myself and people that actually matter to me.
Same! Paired with learning to be more assertive/open about my opinions, needs etc. and feelings even when I know it won't please the people I'm talking to.
I am a teen INTJ and I do find myself pretending that reality isn’t real a lot. My mind just wanders off to if I had a magic lamp and 3 wishes isn’t enough. When I do pretend that my three main problems went away it kinda feels like they did but then I snap back to reality and figure out I have to deal with them which makes me kinda regret a lot of stuff. As I grow up I do find myself becoming a more efficient person and being able to focus on reality more with lots of practice. Good luck to all the INXJs trying to do the same! :)
Reading your comment sounds like I'm looking back on who I used to be as an INTJ, but never knew. I was one of those people who is basically the personification of "innocence is bliss", so I stuck myself in a preferred perception of things that I thought would save me from the ugly reality that it is. But the slap back to reality sucks, so yeah, I eventually learned to be mindful about what's going on around me in the present time and do something about it one day at a time.
In my case, my reality perhaps slowly shattered over time. Due to mold, bad beliefs causing me to throw my mementos away, being unable to fully attend a high school, etc., I've felt torn away from my childhood rather than gradually saying goodbye to it. Now I have no other clue about where I came from and who I am except my flawed memory, special emotions caged for years, my future aspirations, and my present tastes. Thankfully those are all I need, but I can only go so far stuck in my parents' home with little to safely express.
@@greatwavefan397 sorry this happened to you. It was quite hard for me to let go of my childhood. It was over the moment I turned 9 years old. The funny thing is that I couldn’t do most things that children way younger than me could do, like buttons and zippers and shoelaces and riding a bike. Being compared to children younger than me was the worst. False hope was always around through my childhood whenever it seemed like I could achieve something. That’s why I imagined the magic lamp thing a lot-I could pretend that I was in a top school with lots of friends and great grades. Fortunately it’s over now :) I still sometimes have to deal with stress but I know a lot of people are having it way worse than me so I complain to myself instead of my sibling or parents.
INTJ: To my fellow INTJs who struggle with the last part of development, here is how I reached a lot of it and it's a formula how you can do it yourself. Observe how you feel now and think of taking a cold shower. How do you think you will feel afterwards? Then actually take a cold shower (I know it's not easy, but trust the process). After you took a cold shower (btw. start with your right leg, then left leg, then right arm, then left arm. then the rest to keep it safe) pay close attention how you feel. Like that, I learned by heart, that you can not imagine the experience. So why would you care about that? Well, as INTJ you probably struggle like myself, to exicute a plan, after you made the plan. You think about task x and you really don't feel like doing it. With this shower method, your learn, that in these moments, you have to stop trusting yourself and that the expectation of the task, is simply an illusion and that most of the time, the doing part is less boring, less bad etc. that you expect. But you will know yourself how to utilize this, Im sure of that.
The recipe for an Infp: Lonely childhood, introvert traits, some form of abandonment, lots of daydreaming, and happy times using entertainment as an escape. All of this happening during childhood resulting in the Infp. An emotional, empathetic, sweet soul with an edgy twist 😂.
INTJ- I started seeing a psychologist when I was 27. When I was 28, by his recommendation, I took the MBTI test. It was one of the most useful things I ever did. I got out of the military and then did a master’s degree in math.
INFP and INTP early adulthood development: Become more organized INFP and ISFP in final stages of development: Become more cooperative with other people
INTJ above 40 here and yes, he’s right. But that doesn’t mean younger INTJs should try to ‘skip’ ahead. Just enough to know you will evolve in these directions, but it’s faster if you actually really live through it, like via real life experiences that facilitate is; not via proxy experiences which we usually feel is more efficient and less risky.
@@Pastpresentperfect Nah, Speaking to a Nachos bowl is more structured, reminds me of Norms stories. Norms comedy on live interviews however - yeah, was a peak wit.
Oh boy. As an ENFP, I'm at the point in my life where I need to start taking responsibility for narrowing down my possibilities so I don't waste my whole life chasing a bunch of ideas without ever actually choosing and _doing_ anything with any of them. But let me tell you, it feels *bad.* It feels really bad, and I don't quite know how to do it. However, I recognize that it needs to be done. It's the next step of my self development, and I need to do it if I want to do anything significant with my life. Damn, it feel so _boring_ and so _limiting_ and so out of alignment with who I am as a person. It's wild stuff, man.
SAME. We ENFPs love our freedom more than anything… but I don’t think it’s black or white, possibilities or one thing forever. Whether it’s a job or a place to live or whatever, I think things that inherently have variety in them are gonna be good, cause a job that changes all the time is much less boring than something “sensible” that’s the same everyday. Also, the more you involve things you love in your life (like creativity, cooperation, social interaction, adventure), the more your life is going to be something you love. ALSO- you’re already doing something significant with your life! You’re living! That has its own significance!!!
Same. I am actually rarted. I want to be a cartoonist, animal rescuer, and a celebrity biographer. Actually no, I want to live in the wilderness. Woops no, gotta ground myself into daily reality. Sucks ASS. Good thing I got my INTJ cousin's reality checks. He's a peach.
I'm an INFJ, but I have felt the same way because I have so many things I'm passionate about. However, like you said, I chose one to focus on for now so that I'm able to get to the others later. Otherwise, I wouldn't get anywhere at all, only sitting around with ideas.
Maybe I did this all backward but I’m a 28f enfp and I’m through my first career. I got the degree, got the corporate job and the promotions. Now that I’m on the other side of a lot of hard work, I realized, there is nothing special in it at all. Its sad but the obvious answer Is be bored, be annoyed and feel that pain of the grunt work. Now that it’s been 5 years, I can reflect and see the things I hated in it for my next career. I know life is about being you, but when you are a million different things, picking a probably/almost you is best for a first try.
I developed as an unhealthy INFJ, emulating everyone around me and not knowing what I really feel and prefer. I was always acting a bit more like the people around me instead of what I wanted. I'm learning a lot about it now and trying not to absorb everyone else and emulating them so I can figure out what I really want. Edit: Wow, I almost never get this many likes and certainly never so many replies. Thank you. And for those struggling like I am, it's nice to know we're not alone in this fight. I'm sure we'll all make it through this for the better. 💖
@@johnny_roots I am not an extroverted dominant. I relate very heavily to an INFJ. I also don't have the same fears or experiences as the two you mentioned and I had considered ENFJ at one point.
@@kymelatejasi fair enough. I used to think I was either ENFJ or INFJ, then I was professionally tested and found I am actually ESFJ, lol. And I relate a lot to your experiences, of focusing too much on others and almost losing a sense of identity. I guess this is what happens when someone relies too heavily on their Fe, no matter the type, although FJs are more likely because we are the high Fe users... Wish you good learning on that topic, speaking from my experience, it's a lifelong lesson, but we are able get gradually better and better at it :)
@@johnny_roots so far, I've related most to INFJ and INFP in many ways, including negative, so it's what I keep coming back to. I also have been getting a lot of help from self help videos aimed at INFJs. Thanks. It's been a huge help lately after going through a really bad few years.
As a fellow infj, i used to struggle a lot more in that sense as well, atleast now i know how to differentiate it, having time alone is quite useful for this matter (atleast for me) Videos that give insights into the human mind help as well, but nowadays i mostly only watch them for fun xd
have you ever thought about a video of like "16 personalities types who are different than their actual type"? if you know what I mean? like, far away from that type's stereotypes but still definitely that type. that might be challenging but I'm interested in seeing if it would work.
that would be great! as an INFJ that considered the ISTP type for a long time, that'd be really helpful (I knew the axis I am on, but I thought my Fe was much lower than my Ti)
I also don't remember that much from my childhood as other people do. I thought it was because my childhood wasn't happy (I wouldn't say bad, just not full of adventures and amazing experiences, we were poor family). But now I wonder if it is because I am an INTJ 😄
This is so true! As an 19 year old INFJ I finally chose a career I wanted to work on it. I started to discover what I really wanted to do like to work in communication, drawing, teaching. All of my life everyone (specially my mom) told me that I should be an engineer and be good at math, my beloved ones where happy with that so I just did what they wanted. But now I just started to know myself, mbti helped me a lot because I didn't know who I really was and I'm still struggling with that but at least I'm starting to have a vague idea of what I like.
ENFP input here- I had to start writing a grocery shopping list when I became a parent, and it rocked my world. I’m a lister now! I make a list for cleaning day, for grocery shopping, for packing a bag… I love lists! Still have a messy-a** home though, I can’t be bothered to keep my space organized long-term.
Part 3 and 4 INFJ Is where is i am now: Spent my life meeting others needs/visions/dreams to neglect of my own that I didn't have my own identity. That was a sobering revelation. Like a cold shower. Now I know that I need to build and defend my own identity with strong boundaries. Which leads to Part 4: Reality. I can't stay in the neverland forever. I must face reality while developing who I am. Wow. That's it! It just clicked for me, the lightbulb just turned on. 💡 This is all new territory it that there are no maps or blueprints. I'm pioneering me right now it's scary and exciting at the same time. Sounds like awfully big adventure. Edit: a mf'ing misspelled word.
The INTJ type sections really hit me hard a lot here. At the same time, I'm glad that I'm finding myself already practicing the latter portion of this video about my type; a self-measuring tool to pat myself on the back, and to see what more I can do moving forward.
I'm not convinced that even the walls of a prison could contain an ENTP. I know of one who enjoyed the acoustics and composed quite a good rock ballad inside, entertaining the inmates to the chagrin of the guard.
I Would Do TheSame Before I Lead A Revolt For More Chocolate Pudding. I Love Singing Is Amazing Acoustics So I’v Always Known That If I’m Ever Put Away I Will Be The Top Entertainer Of the Block
I sometimes have a fantasy of being trapped in solitary confinement just to make something out of nothing. I figure I probably would just draw on the walls with my blood or some crap.
As an ENFP who's 25, I've recently started forcing myself to sit down and become more organized in life. And, even though it feels weird, it does relieve a lot of stress and fatigue I get from having constant options and decisions to make. I also realized that everyone's mental health and overall wellbeing is not my responsibility, and that sometimes people walk out of my life and it's not because of my incompetence as a friend. Stuff like that.
I am an INTP- it may be genetic but I personally believe it’s based upon your circumstances and situations growing up and As a coping mechanism you learn to use certain cognitive functions that develop into your whole mbti type.
@@Inka_Morrisson I’ve taken on the mantra “every day, start again” since consistency and instilling habits is very difficult, and it seems like I have to make a renewed effort each time. Remembering that phrase reminds me I can always start doing the right thing at any moment, I don’t have to wait for a new week/month/New Year’s etc. It seems to have helped a bit for organization, but still working on the relationships thing.... a week and a half ago someone asked me to text her so she has my number and we can plan something, and I still haven’t managed to do it 😕
@@clairet5636 it seems like we are living the same lives...i have a really well made plan with mantras and very detailed activities and routines, that i still haven't started because of a fear of failure that i'm trying to drop since years now...and people; i've ghosted all of my contacts so much, i don't know what kind of apologies i can come up with anymore... Cheer up mate...I hope you succeed with your resolutions; feeling this stuck with every aspect of life sucks...
I'm an ENFJ and I'm 30. I love getting to know people to their very core. Like, where their thoughts stem from and how they feel about things and why they feel the way they feel. HOWEVER!, I definitely have boundaries now with not allowing myself to put myself last. I've gotten so much better about not adopting other people's emotions and adopting other people's goals to ensure that they get to 'the top'. I still care and love people 🙂 I just put myself 1st so I can give more. You can't pour from an empty cup!
Here’s a challenge: make a type development video of each type - how it would show in practice. How they would act in actual situations when they are child, teen, young adults and older.
Still working on "being selfish" and "listening to my own thoughts"... Sensory world is awful!!! 😒 I am working on "living in the moment" more, being more present, and noticing all of the things around me... Thank you, Frank! Appreciate your hard work. Have a great day!!
This is really interesting. I'm a 22-year-old INTJ, and I've felt like I've been slowly developing my Fi since a younger age than is "normal." I think it's somewhat impacted by upbringing (both my parents are INFPs) and my own personal opinion that it is a very valuable thing to understand my own feelings about things. I do get stuck in these situations where I sort of forget about myself for a while but I eventually find my way back. I'm really pushing myself to gain some real world experience too by traveling a lot, so I think I unintentionally identified my two weaker functions and have placed great value in developing them.
I think traveling is good. The schedule doesn't always work out the way it's planned but that's the beauty of it. Back when i was more timid, slightly depressed and hardly ever talked, my family and I went on vacation together and i don't really know how it worked but maybe the change of scenery did it. After the vacay ended, at school, the teacher asked all of the students to talk about where they went on the school holiday. One by one all of us went around and took turns to talk. And surprisingly, i talked about my holiday with a bit more confidence than my old self before the vacay with less nervousness and stuttering. That was the first key to unlock me (find myself). In this experience, i would say it was like a getway from reality to me. My point is maybe it will do something to you that is different from me, like you said, to gain more real world experience. I would like to know what it did to you when you do travel but i guess being the introverted strangers that we are, is kind of hard for us to share. Hope this helps.
This all seems extremely (and scarily) accurate to me. As an INFJ, I am between the 2nd and 3rd stages. I feel completely lost as to how to engage with "reality," but at least I am trying to do my own thing now instead of going along with what everyone else says. Any tips from older INFJs on how to move forward into being responsible and successful in the "real world?"
Although I’m infp, I do have problems with dealing with reality before. However in my case it’s more of like what Frank James said: “You’re not the center of the world.” So I basically, a lot of times, had to swallow my pride and listen (actually Listen) to the criticisms from other people. Also I do procrastinate a lot still (I am doing it right now), and I just don’t want to focus on reality sometimes because it’s boring, hard, and tough. But then I look back and just tell myself that I’m just being petty. (I’m not. Saying that you guys are petty sry). Like I had to realize that my roots are still in this reality and this is where I was born and this is where I am going to grow up and this is the place that I am living in until the day I die. So maybe I would suggest like, finding something that you really like. Not like, just a hobby. It’s sort of like what schools say: gotta plan ahead into your future. Something like a job, you know, something that you are truly passionate about and can serve as a job at the same time. If you have no idea where to start from there then you can branch out from your hobbies and wishes for some world changes. After finding what you think you would like, you can do some research, consciously develop in that direction. If ur choice isn’t working out, or you think you can’t work on it long term (imagine years and years, and not just the good side of ur work), then you can change early on and keep on working. Also remember that there is no end to anything, and there is always room to improve, even if you have already graduated. Okay I think that’s all I can say and it is Not guaranteed that it can work out for everyone. I’m a teen myself, I’m not exactly what you would call qualified to give advice. Probably go ask your peers? If you can. Like I don’t know, just take my block texts with a grain of salt lol. I probably said too much, but bye.
I'm INFJ with the same struggle. I recommend you to see videos and read books about knowing yourself, asking you questions, I know it's difficult at first but if you keep trying you would start to have a vague idea of who you are. Also you can go to a therapist.
For me it was that I realized in the end it doesn't matter what I have but what I have experienced in life. I was living inside my head so much that I even tried to justify staying in my head is totally fine as it makes me happy. But it doesn't really make me happy, it makes me comfortable. It were rather mundane events at first but I went out more often and just felt the wind, the rain or even the water touching my feet while at the beach and I already felt so much more alive. I had body issues so I worked on them. I put myself into uncomfortable situations. I embarrassed myself a lot (and still do occasionally) but I kept trying. I tried to have a healthier, more positive attitude and suddenly attracted people that were also much healthier for me. I started showing people that there's more to me and I really did develop a lot by all those new experiences along the way. I think INFJs really just need a kick in the butt. Just do it.
Time passing by I'm less focused on peoples' feelings and more self centered. And a bit more working with my logical side than my feelings. Also, my values take up much more place in my life. It's like, people have to accept me with that or goodbye 👋 ~INFJ~
I grew up berated by a step father who made me feel very antisocial. I also was in a household where my grades were a direct measure of my perceived worth. Until my early adulthood I typed INTP. In college I studied chemistry and started to take ownership of who I wanted to be and started to type ENTP. As I continued to develop as a person and started to understand myself even more, I have typed ENFP since my mid twenties.
I am INTP but when I was young I was typed ENTP yeah it turned to ENFP and became INTP cus my grandma haha she made me antisocial my Ne Ti and Perceiving has never changed it was a short period of being ENFP. At this point I want to be ENTJ 🥲
Curious, any other INFP's (or any type for that matter) feel like they developed their functions out of order? I relate to having that moment where I decided Fi was my 'thing', I even remember that specific moment actually quite vividly. But, after that, I feel like I honed in on my Si instead for whatever reason, really valuing structure, predictability, looking to the past for answers, and never really questioning things. It was when I finished school that I started to feel my Ne coming out, as all of a sudden I started getting much more phillosophical about things, really questioning things deeply and getting out of my comfort zone more. But, Fi-Si still to this day feels like my comfort zone. I have a few theories as to why this might be the case in me, but curious if anyone feels similarly?
Interesting. My Ne developed at the end of Highschool/start of college. But it seems like one of those things where if you don’t use it constantly you kind of fall out of it. Or maybe it became more innate?
you should try researching abt the objective personality system. it explains abt ppl who are jumpers (1st and 3rd functions as the savior instead of the 1st and 2nd)
I'm an INFP and I have an INFP friend like that too. He values Si more, cause he said he was a slacker and if he is not forcing himself to follow his daily activities for even a day, everything will crumble😂
Well there’s this one theory that explains that quite well. So we develop our dominant function first (obviously) But after that we develop our tertiary/child function because it’s either introverted/extroverted just like our first function so we’re going to feel more comfortable using it. Thirdly, we develop our inferior function because it’s on axis with our dominant function (one can’t exist without each other). And then finally, as we become more accustomed to a function that isn’t introverted or extroverted like our dominant, our auxiliary/parent function develops. So order of development for an INFP would be… Fi, Si, Te, Ne. Hope that made sense lol
As Entp I am a disaster studying languages, let me explain: I started with English but got bored and decided to study Japanese. Then I got bored again and chose German. But only a couple of weeks before I get bored again ... Guess what? Now I am studying English again, hoping that I get bored and continue Japanese. Its like an endless cycle.
Struggling with the same thing here. I've been jumping from learning language to language for as long as i can remember. Glad to see I'm not the only one lol
I get ya, I have been learning italian for a couple of weeks and I am tempted to switch it to arabic but I am trying my best to stick with italian. -entp
I’m an ENTP that was raised to be a people pleaser, my household was quite toxic full of passive aggressiveness and not being able to express myself. Up to idk, 8? y/o I was way more talkative and open about my opinions, then at some point got shaped into a door mat. I’m 32 now and for the last 5,6 years I’ve learned to care for myself way more, but I always wonder if they hadn’t drilled some thoughts on me or shut me down whether I would have had more confidence and assertiveness from the beginning
In other words, we’re all like Pokémon. If you do include Mega Evolution. A computer Chip evolved to a tortilla Chip is also a good example 👏 I wonder what’s next 😆
ENFP here and this is so true! I started exactly that some years ago and had a hard time typing myself, because I mistook my development for Fe 😅 In the end it's still Fi, but I added other people and what is good for them onto my inner compass. One of my best friends is ENFJ and his Fe is very different from my Fi, so this helped me a lot. A friend who is a few years younger is also an ENFP and I wish that development for her too. She has all the stereotypical ENFP problems. I understand, I have been there, but I wish I could just open my head, take my experiences out and give it to her.
my best friend is an enfj while i''m an enfp too and that contrast is always so helpful for me to see, we share none of our function stack and seeing how it plays out differently in each of us is so interesting
i'm an INFP and my teacher told me in 5th grade to be more organized and now i make lists all the time. I'm 16 now have trouble finishing things but never any trouble organizing.
I have a really good friend who is an ENFJ and I’ve known her since I was 3 and I honestly agree that the same thing has happened with her (Not in a bad way at all! I love her to death! Just an observation). :)
I can vouch, the INFJ struggle is for real, and Frank's tip helped me break out of that mindtrap awhile ago. I still get lost in it at times, but I made a priority shift and continue to develop better routines for myself and a more balanced approach.
2:44 when I was about 12 my mother and I were waiting for out flight. I was watching people walking through a metal detector. A lady went through with a coat with big metal buttons. She set off the alarm. Security got out a wand and waved it all around her and it lit up on the buttons. They let their through (didn't ask her to open her coat.) I said to my mother 'if someone were to hide a gun inside the coat behind the buttons they would be able to sneak it through'. Ti/Ne in action. My mother said something like "why are you even thinking about something like that!?"
Yep young me was like “ohh I really like going on all these tangents, living in my own world and jumping from task to task with little consistency and control, being “random” but not realising and playing imagination games on my own with all my complex story lines and liking people but simultaneously alienating everyone around me and everyone thinks I’m weird but I’m oblivious” 😂. Fr though I’ve defiantly always been an ENFP. I ran with unbridled and unfiltered Ne until like 11/12. And now I’m 16 and I still run with unbridled and unfiltered Ne, except now I have the other functions more developed and know how to best develop and use them
Interesting. I was a fair bit different than you. I acted very ISTJ-like (always going to bed at the same time, wearing the same clothes, consistent and dutiful in school and extracurriculars, organized my stuff for fun, etc.)up until about Grade 12. Then I began thinking of different cool ideas, partying and connecting with ppl more, and slowly developing my moral compass. Now I'm full-blown ENFP and can't do anything consistent to save my life lmao. Ne powers the ship, for sure, but Fi is the one steering
I'm technically an ENFP, but since I'm in the middle of all the personality indicators (so almost 50/50), I don't fit with that type all that well. My friend, however, is an ENFP and she fits that type like a glove! Obviously, not everything about an ENFP will fit her perfectly and not all of her decisions are going to fit the ENFP type, she's a conscious human and 4 letters won't sum up her entire personality after all, but she fits the type so well that she's practically the embodiment of that type most of the time.
Thanks for the video Frank. Well I have always tried to develop myself even before I knew about MBTI. But after knowing more and more about my personality type (INFP), it has become helpful to focus and prioritize certain areas that I need to enhance myself further and to be cautions about certain thinking patterns that I need to avoid or come out of at the earliest. So being AWARE of myself has been one of the best developments of my personality over the years. 😇🌟✨
As an ISFP, I really relate to wanting to keep my options open. I'm constantly thinking about how there might be something that's better than what I'm thinking of or doing right now, and that I don't like making a ton of time commitments because of the unexpected things that could come up and that I would rather do. I like seeing all the possibilities and then pick what I think would be best for me overall or see what I like the best. And as a procrastinator it really doesn't help when it comes to starting a project lmao
i think you took a very istj approach to the understanding of Si when talking about the ENTP and ENFP, this is great for the ENFP as their ISTJ side needs to develop thinking in relation to Si, but the challenge for the ENTP i think, in relation to the Si of it is more focused on taking responsibility for what makes others happy, just my thoughts lol
@@randomfornow no, that’s not what i said, i said that his explanation for the later stages of development for the Ne types was too based on how an ENFP matures, (as an ISTJ) while ENTP’s mature into Si like an ISFJ would instead, thank you for letting me clarify 😀
I'm INFP and I feel like I'm working with the third and fourth phases at the same time. I've burnt myself out with doing every interesting idea that pops in my head and not trusting other people to work on my ideas. So now I'm trying to be more organized and limiting the amount of things I'm working at and including other people and letting them do things their way. And it's really hard 😅 And it's funny cause I've always thought I'm an organized person, and other people think so too, but now I've realised I'm not organized, I just want other people and my surroundings to be organized so I can be a chaotic mess.
Is it Frank James birthday today? I saw ppl saying that in the live chat so I tried searching him on Famous birthdays and some criminal came up 😂 If it is your birthday, HAPPY BIRTHDAYY UR AN ICONNN! You are my favorite channel by far.👑👑✨🎉 If it isn’t, then…. This is awkward. Also, when is chip’s birthday? That needs a huge celebration as well 🎉🎂🥳 Edit: Ik it’s not his birthday but I’m going to keep this comment anyway :)
Im an INTJ and I do see all angles of things... All of it and all possibilities.. all the time.. that's why I think too much and I do neglect my reality sometimes... But I do not have blinders ok? Just pointing that out.
I accidentally sent my last grocery list to my brother and mom. Big bro replied: "Please don't involve me into your experiments" and mom was like "How are you still alive?" #INTPbrain
@@asrafkhalid1231 Nah....I just thought it would be fun to write the list in a language I don't understand nor actively learning....but now if I travel to Finland I will know how to ask where can I buy 5kg coffee, 5kg lemons, 5kg honey and 1 cucumber.💬
I'm a 21 year-old ISTP, and I used to relate to the things I see online about the type but now, even tho I still am an ISTP I don't really see myself in these videos about the type, but I still somehow feel MORE of an ISTP than I used to be it's like I understood that personality, which made me think that maybe before I was just an asshole not an ISTP lol, I'm not making sense it's complicated to explain. Maybe my fellow ISTP's would understand?
As an ENTP, I can surely confirm that being the one with infinite options makes me feel content. I am really good in extempore and debate, I wanna learn astrophysics, quantum mechanics and even literature...That is surely crazy. But, you know what, in the end I can surely do them all. Choose the one I like the most and continue to learn the others as a passion...Some people find it weird, but I like living under pressure. I wanna do everything I love and I feel like life is too short when I keep my options open...
Im a 21 years old istj and this is so accurate!! I feel so much happier after I start to ignore the expectations on me and trying to do things I really want to do.
Your interpretation of ExxJ growth is spot on. I'm a 22 y/o ENFJ and you described me perfectly in that I'm having a spontaneous arc and want to explore my Se because that's where it's at honestly. My Ni has caused me nothing but trouble and anxiety so I'm seeing the value in living in the present and outside of my head. I'm trying to branch out and (because my Ni won't let me forget about the future) try all the things I'd like to while I have the chance to explore. I'm trying my best to incorporate Ti mostly as a way to reel back from FeNi emotional spiralling and that'll do for now. I also very much see your points for IxxPs in my ISTP brother. He's 25 and has started to settle in with what his interests are and where he'd like his career to go in the future. I also see a lot more Fe in him recently which is heartwarming. We're relating a lot more to each other than we have in years and I have a feeling as we round out we'll find we're quite similar (FeNi SeTi vs TiSe NiFe)
Yes.. ENTPs arent always sociopathic-narcississt douchebags that all they like to do is argue that every MBTI community seems to think they are, which isnt exactly quite true. Think of the ENTP as the Ne-version of INFJ.
When I was younger I think that I listened a lot to what others told me about myself. Particularly in the sense of Judging vs Perceiving. I use to think that I was go with the flow and think of the all the possibilities but I was a pretty decisive person as a kid. I knew I wanted to be a singer of some sort at a very young age and then when I graduated I moved straight to NYC to do musical theatre. I've always been a big planner with vacations or parties. I was very stubborn about my beliefs. But people told me I was everywhere with my thoughts but I wasn't. My brain was just moving faster than others and I was picking on things they weren't. Now I understand that my brain as an intuitive type is thinking without thinking and doing it very quickly. I'm still 50% when it comes to extroverted and introverted but I'm pretty sure I'm an INFJ at this point.
Idea for next video: Explaining what dominant, secondary, tertiary, and inferior functions are, how each one works, and why each type only has 4 of the 8? I am having a hard time understand this concept and I think you could probably explain it quite well.
As an ENFP in the age of 21 who has had rough yet entertaining childhood, I think I have developed the core of my Complicated personality type way quicker than a average person (No Offense) even though I didn't know about 16 personalities because I was pretty selfish when it came to abstract ideas as a kid in more feeling way until I became 12 where I was like maybe I should see if it was true or what they think is true but at the same time the feeling of wanting to protect someone else's feelings (like ENFJ) and then at the age of 18 I started to feel the responsibility of organizing but also blending in with people and reading people (like INFJ) and also being more into my personal desires (like INFP).
As a 52 year old INTP, I went through all those phases and am back to Ti-Ne. During my late teens and 20s I developed my Si, during my 20s and 30s I developed my Fe, then lived my 40s doing what I thought was right and necessary. Now in my 50s I feel like I want to retire and live the rest of my life using my Ti-Ne to the fullest, which is what makes me happy. I already "control" my Si and my Fe, but I don't want them to control me and be free again doing what I like.
Yes, I'm in my 60s. I got interested in this, thinking of it being maybe a useful tool in figuring people out quicker, since that's a thing I don't really like, but it needs to be done sometimes. Anyways, I can see these various phases and going back and forth in my life as well, and that feeling of now I'm going to retire and just dive into what comes naturally!
As an INFP, I can tell you that I will value your idea, but will probably not consider including it in my ultimate final idea for the group project (but only if everyone else is more introverted than me)
FRANK LOOK HERE :). INTJ: "....That is all fake. That is not real." Sitting here and listening that again and again. What is the definition of real? Is it only the sensory world? Can`t imagination and all the worlds inside our heads be real, too, just defined in another way? Edit: Almost no other comments from INTJ on this one. Makes me wonder why.
"Of course, it's happening inside your head but why, on earth, should that mean it's not real?!" -Dumbledore 😉❤️ I'm an INTJ, too and I know what's real and what's only my imagination but the real world is often so boring , depressing or challenging that I prefer to live in my imaginary world.
Hopefully we all evolve as we get older and gain and react to life experiences. I believe it is possible to "change personality type" in that we can become kinder or meaner, better listeners, etc. Learning to compromise, and gaining a speech filter, have been life advantages for me, which I didn't have an appreciation for in my youth. So yeah, I have learned to work with what is good for the group (my family). BUT I still need alone time to recharge and do my ISTP thing.
Any INFPs or people who know them out there, I’d appreciate your input. I’ve always felt as though I was different and that people often didn’t relate to my idealism or sensitivity, thus, I developed a habit of valuing other people’s feelings or needs and attribute it to my affinity for service (Fi value.) It rarely feels as though I stick out like a sore thumb when I’m being myself. It actually often feels like people value it when I do. It’s just that, as INFP 9w1, having Fi, Ne, and a tendency to suppress those emotions and values for the sake of harmony, it often times doesn’t seem like I embody an Fi dom like people often describe them. Also, I have no doubt that INFP is my type. Fi and Ne out the waz. Does anyone relate?
It seems like I may have contradicted myself. Some people would relate to the idealism and sensitivity and some people wouldn’t. It hurt when some people didn’t and I felt as though they didn’t understand me when I wanted to connect with them. Thus, those experiences trumped the positive ones and I developed a tendency to mesh and only express “me” when I felt it would be received well. Also, I’ve made strides in all of this and don’t feel as though it’s much of a problem anymore. I’m just curious if other people relate to that.
@@timefortee Yes, I have some of those characteristics and have done some research on it. There are helpful habits for it. It’s been a matter of adapting to it.
I guess I can relate 👀 When I was younger I was very sensitive and it always hurt when no one else I knew could relate to what I was feeling. But I also grew up with my mom teaching me to put others needs before my own and for a while I thought, this was who I needed to be until I realized that's not who I really am. I mean, I do like helping others but I also can't ignore my own values and feelings for too long. I start to feel trapped and anxious when that happens 🙃
You have helped me so much to appreciate the things I used to say I hated, that is another way I have changed but I get this for example I thought I was more of a p type for awhile because I used to be so messy but then k thought about it and it was because of the way my life was going and my circumstances at the time mainly because my grandmams is a p and I spent a lot of time with her and then I moved out and started doing more so I didn’t focus on my room and then other things got in the way so yeah also I believe I used to be a different emergency Tupe I was more of an artist type and now I am not and that could be also do yo my vision loss.
For future videos I want to know more about details of each type. Like as an ISFJ, I got attracted mostly to INTJs... but they can be dramatically different. I give you an example : one was basically about independancy, and he couldn't relate to my Feeling stuff. He found it a kind of codependency for both of us. But the other could undrestand my Feeling and decided to give attention as a kind of relationship plan! I found these two approaching VERY different for same personality type.
@xraf32 that's very interesting. Being blunt about your "Thinking" pattern s is something that gives me a smile cause you guys are always so proud of your logic doesn't matter what KIND of INTJ (wink emoji). I dont want to offend you but sometimes it hurts in a real relationship because its not always about decoding the pattern in your abstract mind and sometimes you have to let go of that far fetch things and reach out to the person beside you. Use that human heart ( personality growth XP ) Speaking of it I should mention these INTJ could help me connect to my Thinking side as well. It's a good think but I swam in my own blood and tears to learn that and GROW! Anyway I enjoyed reading your reply. I loved it how you said the third option. I could totally relate lol I hope Frank consider this , you see this Frank ? Make it a video !
exactly! i’m an isfj & my best friend is an enfp so i just find it easier to go along with what they wanna do instead of making my own decisions when i’m with them lol
@@Nataliesohh I'm an ISFJ too! Oh I totally relate with what you said because I used to be like that in the past. Always adapting to the wishes of others, putting others before myself etc etc. But not anymore! Respect yourself, because if you don't, no one else will.
I used to be an ESTP going by all cognitive functions, but as an adult and currently I function as an ISTP even though I keep a balance between being an observant and intuitive because I consider both very vital for myself and I confirmed this when doing tests its always a balance right there. I find that interesting
You know it's crazy. My older brother and I are both ENFP. Which makes sense somehow since we are brothers, had the same upbringing, almost the same childhood and therefore similar struggles and values. The funny thing is, if you don't know both of us for a while, you would never say that we are the same type. He stayed very extrovert, diplomatic and energetic over his whole life. I, on the other hand, got more and more Introverted. Instead of gaining energy from social interaction, it started to drain my energy and I rather stayed alone. While my brother and still posses the enfp super powers like Charme and sensing other peoples feeling and needs, we have complete different strategies in using them. Development seems to be a more complex topic. And special experiences that one makes can really hit on different levels, so one can't really predict, how one is going to change over time.
Frank thank you much for making us laugh and learn so much. Your channel feels really blessing. And I also want to thank you for the word of the week it is so very inspiring. It would be nice if you could teach more about the cognitive functions and the shadow functions and co. Thank you for all your great works. Your actingskills is rocketing TH-cam. Thx have a nice week
18-Year-old INTP here Can confirm that I have only recently levelled up (lol) Si, but I still do not have nearly enough experience to unlock the illusive Fe….
Mid 30s INTP here. In the last decade I've managed to make huge strides with my emotional intelligence and empathy. I've also come along way with not allowing myself to have a toxic level of independence, which borders on an avoidant personality. Life is so much easier now that I can relate to others. I wish 20 year old me had the insight I do now.
Word by word. Good to see that it works for others too, and best wishes to cope with the decade long delay. Past is just the past no matter how much we think it's over. That's an other thing that for I needed too much years to accept.
On point there was a turning point somewhere between adolescence - I just found out my mbti during med school- intj, helpful in understanding why people are the way they are
I'm curious to what scientific source says that our personalities are largely adapted by genetics? Sure, some of our traits are inherited, but the majority of our images of "self" are gained from experiences and the people around us. Self and personality is a social construction that takes place within a social context... from birth, to school, to death. What you call your personality is this whole complex of experiences you have with others. What we call the "individual"; is a melding of any one of those "selves" (or experiences) into a unique expression (personality). To a good extent, what we call ourselves is the result of the kind of social interactions, you have with other people. It's basic Psychology and sociology. No one is born inherently prejudice, racist, sexist, outgoing, shy, introverted, anxious, or mischievous... it's our upbringings that modeled us into our personalities--the people we were surrounded with and the type of affection we were shown is what makes up our personality (and it doesn’t always have to be an abusive household, it could be a toxic school environment.. it varies from person to person). When we are born, we are a completely blank slate, but the second we come into the world, the slate starts filling itself up. it's all the same logic: nature vs. nurture. Anyhow, nice video. I just disagree that we're born with a sense of personality already developed. -INTJ
Actually babies understand things around the world and I think they have a sort of preferences based on their personality even if they can’t express them and if you’re talking about the first millisecond you’re right but if you’re talking about the whole baby stadium I think you’re wrong because everyone has all the cognitive functions and babies can prefer personality things, for example when babies born they see their parents and introverted babies are like “those strangers talking with me are draining me” while extroverted babies be like “you’re energising meeeee lmaoooo” (obv these words I’m writing are just their perception). And your point makes sense but I don’t think personality grows, I see it more to a preference between two parameters as the position of your cognitive functions
Ok, I don’t think it’s not genetic because I never heard about “alleles of the brain” but I think we’re born with (I don’t know how, but, from what I learnt from studying the MBTI science, I believe in it) -another INTJ
@@i3ignorantidelweb43 for the first 1/2 of your response: hence why I said “when we are born, we are a completely blank slate, but the second we come into the world, the slate starts filling itself up” Second 1/2: I agree too. When I as a child, I hated anyone other than my mom holding me and I was known to be a bitch to people who tried to pick me up, but as the years went on (and especially after starting school) I went from extremely extroverted to considerably introverted because of the classmates around me. Anyway, i still think those first 78 hours of life can be a vital changing point in a child’s personality. Babies recognize facial expressions so accurately, so a disconnected parent will lead to a child who builds walls and learns comfort from theirselves instead of their care takers… that’s my outlook
@@i3ignorantidelweb43 HAHA “alleles of the brain”. I do think Mbti and astrology both are interesting… humans love fitting into categories (thus why everyone enjoys buzzfeed quizzes or Hogwarts houses, or anime character quizzes…and obviously astrology and mbti). I enjoy science (physics and bio mostly), psychology, and sociology in my free time so that’s where I get this information… still, when I look at things like astrology and mbti, I don’t tie it with science. Instead, to me, it’s but a fun hobbie that satisfies our human curiosity :)
TLDR (INTP) So, I was forced to operate with my Fe a lot as a kid, and now that I don't have to live like that anymore, I'm definitely more selfish with my time. But, I think its a good thing, I'm more comfortable voicing my boundaries now. I still feel kinda bad when I decide to do things that aren't the most convenient for someone else, but that discomfort is no longer enough to sway my decisions. I developed weirdly for an INTP - with the way things were in my household as a young child, other people's needs were greater than my own - especially from a health/care standpoint. So when I was at home, I just tried to stay out of the way and I essentially ignored my wants because even then, I could understand they weren't important in the grand scheme of things. I moved out as soon as I could, at 17 and left to my own devices, I finally felt like I could breathe and just be/do what I wanted. I still tend to downplay or even hide the things that interest me because growing up, I just didn't want anyone to spend their time or money on me - it was just easier that way. I was lucky to find a fantastic partner (ENTJ) who has helped me so much with kind of re-learning that it's ok to want.
Yeah. It's like the more we use a function or it's attributes, the better we get at it. Sometimes even passable enough in our blind functions just because of certain repetitive patterns of conditioning.
ESFP here I've given into too many people in my life - go along to get along and/or screwed! LOL I'm glad to like what I like and looking to find other crazies ( like ENFPs) to do more creative things productively. Let the other MBs chips fall where they may. BTW AKA stale chips! LOL
"You get the IxxP types and thy realize that some point early on adulthood "Maybe it would be a good thing to narrow things down"" Noo please, don't say that :D I'm an ISFP, and I want to find a way to proceed with all my 6 interests and also get some more (at least 3 or 4) in the next like 3 years xD Don't ruin my plans Mr!
If you have any questions about the 16 Personalities you'd like answered in a future video, let me know in the comments!
This video is right when I sleep I'll still watch it though
Ok thank you Frank ♥️.
How do each types' mind work??
How opposite healthy types could help each other out?
@Skilly Lily I beg you! YES
As a 19 year-old INTP, I'm definitely starting to understand myself better - MBTI helps! After years of feeling “different” or “abnormal”, it's nice to finally embrace myself. It just makes it harder to find love though :/
Lmao th-cam.com/video/yFm2xmX1S34/w-d-xo.html
you hitted the point lol
that's great that you're understanding yourself better :) i think mbti is great for helping us see and understand our strengths and weakness and help us develop as people. looking into mbti is helping me a lot too.
-an 18yo infj
How did you become sure that you are an INTP, is there a moment where you know that?
wdym by "different" lol
*anime butterfly meme, INFP version*
Butterfly: doing what others expect you to do/what society values
Dude: "Is this the death of my soul?"
It hurts to watch my girlfriend go through this struggle lmao. Like, no, you're not gonna be corrupted if you get a fucking job... There's more to life than your fantasies... But my inferior Fe can't figure out a tactful way to say this lmao.
Literally INFP in a nutshell lmao
@@benjaminharmon6541 ISTP?
@@benjaminharmon6541 it’s hard because I’m in the same boat. Just don’t tell her to “just do it snowflake” or you’ll get smacked. I mean jobs do feel like death and I never been in one that has made me not want to commit not living.
yeeess i am related to thisssss
As an INFJ, I'm going through the "be more selfish" development right now. I dropped multiple toxic people and things in my life and I'm learning to live my own life and go my own way, only focusing on what I need to do for myself and people that actually matter to me.
Same! Paired with learning to be more assertive/open about my opinions, needs etc. and feelings even when I know it won't please the people I'm talking to.
Same, i love it :3
Good for you! ❤️
Same now im changing from too much nice to a little selfish for myself
Good for you, but wasn't the "be more selfish" developement a thing the ExxJ - Personalities were going through, according to his Video?
I am a teen INTJ and I do find myself pretending that reality isn’t real a lot. My mind just wanders off to if I had a magic lamp and 3 wishes isn’t enough. When I do pretend that my three main problems went away it kinda feels like they did but then I snap back to reality and figure out I have to deal with them which makes me kinda regret a lot of stuff. As I grow up I do find myself becoming a more efficient person and being able to focus on reality more with lots of practice. Good luck to all the INXJs trying to do the same! :)
Reading your comment sounds like I'm looking back on who I used to be as an INTJ, but never knew. I was one of those people who is basically the personification of "innocence is bliss", so I stuck myself in a preferred perception of things that I thought would save me from the ugly reality that it is. But the slap back to reality sucks, so yeah, I eventually learned to be mindful about what's going on around me in the present time and do something about it one day at a time.
I'll be taking notes from you, a fellow teen INTJ as well :)
In my case, my reality perhaps slowly shattered over time. Due to mold, bad beliefs causing me to throw my mementos away, being unable to fully attend a high school, etc., I've felt torn away from my childhood rather than gradually saying goodbye to it. Now I have no other clue about where I came from and who I am except my flawed memory, special emotions caged for years, my future aspirations, and my present tastes. Thankfully those are all I need, but I can only go so far stuck in my parents' home with little to safely express.
oh I can relate to that.
@@greatwavefan397 sorry this happened to you. It was quite hard for me to let go of my childhood. It was over the moment I turned 9 years old. The funny thing is that I couldn’t do most things that children way younger than me could do, like buttons and zippers and shoelaces and riding a bike. Being compared to children younger than me was the worst. False hope was always around through my childhood whenever it seemed like I could achieve something. That’s why I imagined the magic lamp thing a lot-I could pretend that I was in a top school with lots of friends and great grades. Fortunately it’s over now :) I still sometimes have to deal with stress but I know a lot of people are having it way worse than me so I complain to myself instead of my sibling or parents.
INTJ:
To my fellow INTJs who struggle with the last part of development, here is how I reached a lot of it and it's a formula how you can do it yourself. Observe how you feel now and think of taking a cold shower. How do you think you will feel afterwards? Then actually take a cold shower (I know it's not easy, but trust the process). After you took a cold shower (btw. start with your right leg, then left leg, then right arm, then left arm. then the rest to keep it safe) pay close attention how you feel.
Like that, I learned by heart, that you can not imagine the experience. So why would you care about that? Well, as INTJ you probably struggle like myself, to exicute a plan, after you made the plan. You think about task x and you really don't feel like doing it. With this shower method, your learn, that in these moments, you have to stop trusting yourself and that the expectation of the task, is simply an illusion and that most of the time, the doing part is less boring, less bad etc. that you expect. But you will know yourself how to utilize this, Im sure of that.
The recipe for an Infp: Lonely childhood, introvert traits, some form of abandonment, lots of daydreaming, and happy times using entertainment as an escape. All of this happening during childhood resulting in the Infp. An emotional, empathetic, sweet soul with an edgy twist 😂.
Nailed it.
Damn that's a whole book summarized, nailed it!
Abandonment and escapism in the form.of entertainment happen to any type, and may not necessarily happen at all to many INFPs...
YA DARN RIGHT
Entertainment is not just an escape. It serves way too many other functions to be called that.
INTJ- I started seeing a psychologist when I was 27. When I was 28, by his recommendation, I took the MBTI test. It was one of the most useful things I ever did. I got out of the military and then did a master’s degree in math.
Are you feeling better about yourself?
did you took like a personalised test given by your psychologist or online? if online, lmk cuz i still sort of have a hard time finding a genuine test
INFP and INTP early adulthood development: Become more organized
INFP and ISFP in final stages of development: Become more cooperative with other people
Personal notes to yourself? You have 3 types listed with one overlap.
INFP and ISFP*
INTP and ISTP*
@@felixtownn あっぷ
INTJ above 40 here and yes, he’s right.
But that doesn’t mean younger INTJs should try to ‘skip’ ahead. Just enough to know you will evolve in these directions, but it’s faster if you actually really live through it, like via real life experiences that facilitate is; not via proxy experiences which we usually feel is more efficient and less risky.
Frank's humour sometimes seems like he was a big fan of Norm MacDonald.
@@Pastpresentperfect Nah, Speaking to a Nachos bowl is more structured, reminds me of Norms stories. Norms comedy on live interviews however - yeah, was a peak wit.
@@edwartvonfectonia4362 definitely know what you mean. :) old, OLD jokes. The sort you peel off bricks walls under a bridge.
Oh boy. As an ENFP, I'm at the point in my life where I need to start taking responsibility for narrowing down my possibilities so I don't waste my whole life chasing a bunch of ideas without ever actually choosing and _doing_ anything with any of them. But let me tell you, it feels *bad.* It feels really bad, and I don't quite know how to do it. However, I recognize that it needs to be done. It's the next step of my self development, and I need to do it if I want to do anything significant with my life. Damn, it feel so _boring_ and so _limiting_ and so out of alignment with who I am as a person. It's wild stuff, man.
SAME. We ENFPs love our freedom more than anything… but I don’t think it’s black or white, possibilities or one thing forever. Whether it’s a job or a place to live or whatever, I think things that inherently have variety in them are gonna be good, cause a job that changes all the time is much less boring than something “sensible” that’s the same everyday. Also, the more you involve things you love in your life (like creativity, cooperation, social interaction, adventure), the more your life is going to be something you love. ALSO- you’re already doing something significant with your life! You’re living! That has its own significance!!!
Currently here rn, finding it so so difficult.
Same. I am actually rarted. I want to be a cartoonist, animal rescuer, and a celebrity biographer. Actually no, I want to live in the wilderness. Woops no, gotta ground myself into daily reality. Sucks ASS. Good thing I got my INTJ cousin's reality checks. He's a peach.
I'm an INFJ, but I have felt the same way because I have so many things I'm passionate about. However, like you said, I chose one to focus on for now so that I'm able to get to the others later. Otherwise, I wouldn't get anywhere at all, only sitting around with ideas.
Maybe I did this all backward but I’m a 28f enfp and I’m through my first career. I got the degree, got the corporate job and the promotions. Now that I’m on the other side of a lot of hard work, I realized, there is nothing special in it at all. Its sad but the obvious answer Is be bored, be annoyed and feel that pain of the grunt work. Now that it’s been 5 years, I can reflect and see the things I hated in it for my next career. I know life is about being you, but when you are a million different things, picking a probably/almost you is best for a first try.
I developed as an unhealthy INFJ, emulating everyone around me and not knowing what I really feel and prefer. I was always acting a bit more like the people around me instead of what I wanted. I'm learning a lot about it now and trying not to absorb everyone else and emulating them so I can figure out what I really want.
Edit: Wow, I almost never get this many likes and certainly never so many replies. Thank you. And for those struggling like I am, it's nice to know we're not alone in this fight. I'm sure we'll all make it through this for the better. 💖
Are you sure you are not ENFJ/ESFJ? That's also a typical struggle for Fe-dom types...
@@johnny_roots I am not an extroverted dominant. I relate very heavily to an INFJ. I also don't have the same fears or experiences as the two you mentioned and I had considered ENFJ at one point.
@@kymelatejasi fair enough. I used to think I was either ENFJ or INFJ, then I was professionally tested and found I am actually ESFJ, lol.
And I relate a lot to your experiences, of focusing too much on others and almost losing a sense of identity. I guess this is what happens when someone relies too heavily on their Fe, no matter the type, although FJs are more likely because we are the high Fe users...
Wish you good learning on that topic, speaking from my experience, it's a lifelong lesson, but we are able get gradually better and better at it :)
@@johnny_roots so far, I've related most to INFJ and INFP in many ways, including negative, so it's what I keep coming back to. I also have been getting a lot of help from self help videos aimed at INFJs.
Thanks. It's been a huge help lately after going through a really bad few years.
As a fellow infj, i used to struggle a lot more in that sense as well, atleast now i know how to differentiate it, having time alone is quite useful for this matter (atleast for me)
Videos that give insights into the human mind help as well, but nowadays i mostly only watch them for fun xd
The triumphant return of Chip!
This time, his name is literal.
🤣
Chiiiiiiiiiiip! The most important character!
Wow i didnt even realize that ☺ lol
have you ever thought about a video of like "16 personalities types who are different than their actual type"? if you know what I mean? like, far away from that type's stereotypes but still definitely that type. that might be challenging but I'm interested in seeing if it would work.
Yeah that would be interesting. Maybe make it in subtypes, you know. That could be easier to make and explain to people.
that would be great! as an INFJ that considered the ISTP type for a long time, that'd be really helpful (I knew the axis I am on, but I thought my Fe was much lower than my Ti)
Sounds like the defying stereotypes Love Who does
As an INFP, I was so called out when Frank was expressing how we'll ask ourselves "how do I, ya know, write a grocery list?" 😂
In stores, I used to rush my mom because stores tire me out physically and mentally
@@FireFoxie1345 SAME BRO!
"I can't just try to get around the sensory world intuitively like I've always done" 😳😬 felt called out 🤣
My memory of childhood is super blurry. I was so focused on getting through school, i have very few memories up until graduation- INTJ
I also don't remember that much from my childhood as other people do. I thought it was because my childhood wasn't happy (I wouldn't say bad, just not full of adventures and amazing experiences, we were poor family). But now I wonder if it is because I am an INTJ 😄
INFJ & INTJ need to be a well balanced paradox 🖤
Yes we are
Hard to do 😆
THIS.
The paradox is only _seemingly_ a paradox
Hi
This is so true! As an 19 year old INFJ I finally chose a career I wanted to work on it. I started to discover what I really wanted to do like to work in communication, drawing, teaching.
All of my life everyone (specially my mom) told me that I should be an engineer and be good at math, my beloved ones where happy with that so I just did what they wanted. But now I just started to know myself, mbti helped me a lot because I didn't know who I really was and I'm still struggling with that but at least I'm starting to have a vague idea of what I like.
ENFP input here- I had to start writing a grocery shopping list when I became a parent, and it rocked my world. I’m a lister now! I make a list for cleaning day, for grocery shopping, for packing a bag… I love lists!
Still have a messy-a** home though, I can’t be bothered to keep my space organized long-term.
I know where everything is within the mess, so I’m like, why bother?
Part 3 and 4 INFJ
Is where is i am now: Spent my life meeting others needs/visions/dreams to neglect of my own that I didn't have my own identity. That was a sobering revelation. Like a cold shower. Now I know that I need to build and defend my own identity with strong boundaries. Which leads to Part 4: Reality. I can't stay in the neverland forever. I must face reality while developing who I am. Wow. That's it! It just clicked for me, the lightbulb just turned on. 💡 This is all new territory it that there are no maps or blueprints. I'm pioneering me right now it's scary and exciting at the same time. Sounds like awfully big adventure.
Edit: a mf'ing misspelled word.
Could you please make a video about the differences between introverted and extraverted cognitive functions? (Ni vs Ne, Si vs Se etc)
Yeah it's kinda confusing and a video about it might help understanding it
try watching fj’s vid abt what’s creative abt each type. It will give u an insight about the main things each of the functions do
The INTJ type sections really hit me hard a lot here. At the same time, I'm glad that I'm finding myself already practicing the latter portion of this video about my type; a self-measuring tool to pat myself on the back, and to see what more I can do moving forward.
ooh a ninjago fan nice!
There’s Only One Way To Narrow Down The ENTPs Options. It’s Called Prison.
I'm not convinced that even the walls of a prison could contain an ENTP. I know of one who enjoyed the acoustics and composed quite a good rock ballad inside, entertaining the inmates to the chagrin of the guard.
lol I just diagnosed ADHD as an adult and with medication finally I can get a hold of my Si 😁 (but still uncontrollable tho)
I Would Do TheSame Before I Lead A Revolt For More Chocolate Pudding. I Love Singing Is Amazing Acoustics So I’v Always Known That If I’m Ever Put Away I Will Be The Top Entertainer Of the Block
LMAO
I sometimes have a fantasy of being trapped in solitary confinement just to make something out of nothing. I figure I probably would just draw on the walls with my blood or some crap.
As an ENFP who's 25, I've recently started forcing myself to sit down and become more organized in life. And, even though it feels weird, it does relieve a lot of stress and fatigue I get from having constant options and decisions to make. I also realized that everyone's mental health and overall wellbeing is not my responsibility, and that sometimes people walk out of my life and it's not because of my incompetence as a friend. Stuff like that.
As a 20 year old developing Enfp. I really needed this. Thank you.
I feel you❤
INFP: To stop thinking about my feelings and focus solely on other's feelings is like learning multiplication tables. My poor brain 😅🤣
Truth. Also grocery lists? What’s that?
@@loisrabies8713 So tru like I’ve never even seen a grocery list in my life 😆
I am an INTP- it may be genetic but I personally believe it’s based upon your circumstances and situations growing up and As a coping mechanism you learn to use certain cognitive functions that develop into your whole mbti type.
As a 25yo INTP I’m definitely trying to get my physical world more organized and attempting to care about relationships...
Well, fellow 25yo INTP if you find the recipe let me know please...
@@Inka_Morrisson I’ve taken on the mantra “every day, start again” since consistency and instilling habits is very difficult, and it seems like I have to make a renewed effort each time. Remembering that phrase reminds me I can always start doing the right thing at any moment, I don’t have to wait for a new week/month/New Year’s etc. It seems to have helped a bit for organization, but still working on the relationships thing.... a week and a half ago someone asked me to text her so she has my number and we can plan something, and I still haven’t managed to do it 😕
@@clairet5636 it seems like we are living the same lives...i have a really well made plan with mantras and very detailed activities and routines, that i still haven't started because of a fear of failure that i'm trying to drop since years now...and people; i've ghosted all of my contacts so much, i don't know what kind of apologies i can come up with anymore...
Cheer up mate...I hope you succeed with your resolutions; feeling this stuck with every aspect of life sucks...
I'm an ENFJ and I'm 30. I love getting to know people to their very core. Like, where their thoughts stem from and how they feel about things and why they feel the way they feel. HOWEVER!, I definitely have boundaries now with not allowing myself to put myself last. I've gotten so much better about not adopting other people's emotions and adopting other people's goals to ensure that they get to 'the top'. I still care and love people 🙂 I just put myself 1st so I can give more. You can't pour from an empty cup!
Here’s a challenge: make a type development video of each type - how it would show in practice. How they would act in actual situations when they are child, teen, young adults and older.
Thats tough
Chip our beloved is back! Also, I love how we were discussing carrot pizza in the end! XD Best chat ever. Keep up the good work, Frank!
Carrot pizza sounds good ngl
Still working on "being selfish" and "listening to my own thoughts"...
Sensory world is awful!!! 😒
I am working on "living in the moment" more, being more present, and noticing all of the things around me...
Thank you, Frank!
Appreciate your hard work.
Have a great day!!
Me too! It's tough!!!
This is really interesting. I'm a 22-year-old INTJ, and I've felt like I've been slowly developing my Fi since a younger age than is "normal." I think it's somewhat impacted by upbringing (both my parents are INFPs) and my own personal opinion that it is a very valuable thing to understand my own feelings about things. I do get stuck in these situations where I sort of forget about myself for a while but I eventually find my way back. I'm really pushing myself to gain some real world experience too by traveling a lot, so I think I unintentionally identified my two weaker functions and have placed great value in developing them.
I think traveling is good. The schedule doesn't always work out the way it's planned but that's the beauty of it.
Back when i was more timid, slightly depressed and hardly ever talked, my family and I went on vacation together and i don't really know how it worked but maybe the change of scenery did it.
After the vacay ended, at school, the teacher asked all of the students to talk about where they went on the school holiday. One by one all of us went around and took turns to talk. And surprisingly, i talked about my holiday with a bit more confidence than my old self before the vacay with less nervousness and stuttering. That was the first key to unlock me (find myself). In this experience, i would say it was like a getway from reality to me.
My point is maybe it will do something to you that is different from me, like you said, to gain more real world experience. I would like to know what it did to you when you do travel but i guess being the introverted strangers that we are, is kind of hard for us to share. Hope this helps.
This all seems extremely (and scarily) accurate to me. As an INFJ, I am between the 2nd and 3rd stages. I feel completely lost as to how to engage with "reality," but at least I am trying to do my own thing now instead of going along with what everyone else says. Any tips from older INFJs on how to move forward into being responsible and successful in the "real world?"
Same, I'm a teen infj and I would also like some advice
Although I’m infp, I do have problems with dealing with reality before. However in my case it’s more of like what Frank James said: “You’re not the center of the world.” So I basically, a lot of times, had to swallow my pride and listen (actually Listen) to the criticisms from other people. Also I do procrastinate a lot still (I am doing it right now), and I just don’t want to focus on reality sometimes because it’s boring, hard, and tough. But then I look back and just tell myself that I’m just being petty. (I’m not. Saying that you guys are petty sry). Like I had to realize that my roots are still in this reality and this is where I was born and this is where I am going to grow up and this is the place that I am living in until the day I die.
So maybe I would suggest like, finding something that you really like. Not like, just a hobby. It’s sort of like what schools say: gotta plan ahead into your future. Something like a job, you know, something that you are truly passionate about and can serve as a job at the same time. If you have no idea where to start from there then you can branch out from your hobbies and wishes for some world changes.
After finding what you think you would like, you can do some research, consciously develop in that direction. If ur choice isn’t working out, or you think you can’t work on it long term (imagine years and years, and not just the good side of ur work), then you can change early on and keep on working. Also remember that there is no end to anything, and there is always room to improve, even if you have already graduated.
Okay I think that’s all I can say and it is Not guaranteed that it can work out for everyone. I’m a teen myself, I’m not exactly what you would call qualified to give advice. Probably go ask your peers? If you can. Like I don’t know, just take my block texts with a grain of salt lol. I probably said too much, but bye.
@@darkirdaftersnow9985 that's a dam long reply bro
I'm INFJ with the same struggle. I recommend you to see videos and read books about knowing yourself, asking you questions, I know it's difficult at first but if you keep trying you would start to have a vague idea of who you are. Also you can go to a therapist.
For me it was that I realized in the end it doesn't matter what I have but what I have experienced in life. I was living inside my head so much that I even tried to justify staying in my head is totally fine as it makes me happy. But it doesn't really make me happy, it makes me comfortable. It were rather mundane events at first but I went out more often and just felt the wind, the rain or even the water touching my feet while at the beach and I already felt so much more alive. I had body issues so I worked on them. I put myself into uncomfortable situations. I embarrassed myself a lot (and still do occasionally) but I kept trying. I tried to have a healthier, more positive attitude and suddenly attracted people that were also much healthier for me. I started showing people that there's more to me and I really did develop a lot by all those new experiences along the way. I think INFJs really just need a kick in the butt. Just do it.
Time passing by I'm less focused on peoples' feelings and more self centered. And a bit more working with my logical side than my feelings. Also, my values take up much more place in my life. It's like, people have to accept me with that or goodbye 👋
~INFJ~
I grew up berated by a step father who made me feel very antisocial. I also was in a household where my grades were a direct measure of my perceived worth. Until my early adulthood I typed INTP. In college I studied chemistry and started to take ownership of who I wanted to be and started to type ENTP. As I continued to develop as a person and started to understand myself even more, I have typed ENFP since my mid twenties.
I am INTP but when I was young I was typed ENTP yeah it turned to ENFP and became INTP cus my grandma haha she made me antisocial my Ne Ti and Perceiving has never changed it was a short period of being ENFP.
At this point I want to be ENTJ 🥲
@@g.i.r.l. what do you mean extraverted feeling? ENFP has Fi, not Fe
Hmm what's your cognitive function?
Video suggestion: 16 personalities as chefs/ in the kitchen 👨🍳
Curious, any other INFP's (or any type for that matter) feel like they developed their functions out of order? I relate to having that moment where I decided Fi was my 'thing', I even remember that specific moment actually quite vividly. But, after that, I feel like I honed in on my Si instead for whatever reason, really valuing structure, predictability, looking to the past for answers, and never really questioning things. It was when I finished school that I started to feel my Ne coming out, as all of a sudden I started getting much more phillosophical about things, really questioning things deeply and getting out of my comfort zone more. But, Fi-Si still to this day feels like my comfort zone. I have a few theories as to why this might be the case in me, but curious if anyone feels similarly?
Interesting. My Ne developed at the end of Highschool/start of college. But it seems like one of those things where if you don’t use it constantly you kind of fall out of it. Or maybe it became more innate?
Interesting. A fellow infp and lots of time I feel like this too.
you should try researching abt the objective personality system. it explains abt ppl who are jumpers (1st and 3rd functions as the savior instead of the 1st and 2nd)
I'm an INFP and I have an INFP friend like that too. He values Si more, cause he said he was a slacker and if he is not forcing himself to follow his daily activities for even a day, everything will crumble😂
Well there’s this one theory that explains that quite well.
So we develop our dominant function first (obviously)
But after that we develop our tertiary/child function because it’s either introverted/extroverted just like our first function so we’re going to feel more comfortable using it.
Thirdly, we develop our inferior function because it’s on axis with our dominant function (one can’t exist without each other).
And then finally, as we become more accustomed to a function that isn’t introverted or extroverted like our dominant, our auxiliary/parent function develops.
So order of development for an INFP would be… Fi, Si, Te, Ne.
Hope that made sense lol
As Entp I am a disaster studying languages, let me explain: I started with English but got bored and decided to study Japanese. Then I got bored again and chose German. But only a couple of weeks before I get bored again ... Guess what? Now I am studying English again, hoping that I get bored and continue Japanese. Its like an endless cycle.
Struggling with the same thing here. I've been jumping from learning language to language for as long as i can remember. Glad to see I'm not the only one lol
Same!! I'm an INTP though but I'm close to ENTP so I identify to you as well🤗
I can relate hahah (INFJ)
I get ya, I have been learning italian for a couple of weeks and I am tempted to switch it to arabic but I am trying my best to stick with italian.
-entp
I’m an ENTP that was raised to be a people pleaser, my household was quite toxic full of passive aggressiveness and not being able to express myself. Up to idk, 8? y/o I was way more talkative and open about my opinions, then at some point got shaped into a door mat. I’m 32 now and for the last 5,6 years I’ve learned to care for myself way more, but I always wonder if they hadn’t drilled some thoughts on me or shut me down whether I would have had more confidence and assertiveness from the beginning
In other words, we’re all like Pokémon. If you do include Mega Evolution.
A computer Chip evolved to a tortilla Chip is also a good example 👏 I wonder what’s next 😆
Would that be considered evolving or *devolving* I wonder?
@@indigo_rozes3196 LOL! I think this is a subjective matter.
machine -> food
The things you say about my type, the INFJ, are always just so accurate, I'm actually shook every time. thnx
ENFP here and this is so true! I started exactly that some years ago and had a hard time typing myself, because I mistook my development for Fe 😅 In the end it's still Fi, but I added other people and what is good for them onto my inner compass. One of my best friends is ENFJ and his Fe is very different from my Fi, so this helped me a lot. A friend who is a few years younger is also an ENFP and I wish that development for her too. She has all the stereotypical ENFP problems. I understand, I have been there, but I wish I could just open my head, take my experiences out and give it to her.
my best friend is an enfj while i''m an enfp too and that contrast is always so helpful for me to see, we share none of our function stack and seeing how it plays out differently in each of us is so interesting
i'm an INFP and my teacher told me in 5th grade to be more organized and now i make lists all the time. I'm 16 now have trouble finishing things but never any trouble organizing.
As an enfj I've found myself becoming more reserved over the years when as a child I was very energetic and extroverted
ENTJ here and I find the same for myself. I attribute it to being more discerning about my socialization these days.
I have a really good friend who is an ENFJ and I’ve known her since I was 3 and I honestly agree that the same thing has happened with her (Not in a bad way at all! I love her to death! Just an observation). :)
I can still be very energetic and extroverted.
It scares people. :_( - INTJ
same !! i am still social and energetic, but not as much as when i was a kid
That happened to me too but I'm INFJ
I can vouch, the INFJ struggle is for real, and Frank's tip helped me break out of that mindtrap awhile ago. I still get lost in it at times, but I made a priority shift and continue to develop better routines for myself and a more balanced approach.
2:44 when I was about 12 my mother and I were waiting for out flight. I was watching people walking through a metal detector.
A lady went through with a coat with big metal buttons. She set off the alarm. Security got out a wand and waved it all around her and it lit up on the buttons. They let their through (didn't ask her to open her coat.)
I said to my mother 'if someone were to hide a gun inside the coat behind the buttons they would be able to sneak it through'.
Ti/Ne in action.
My mother said something like "why are you even thinking about something like that!?"
I wonder whether Timmy or Chip is more of a nuisance to their respective counterparts (Estj and Frank) 🤔
Yep young me was like “ohh I really like going on all these tangents, living in my own world and jumping from task to task with little consistency and control, being “random” but not realising and playing imagination games on my own with all my complex story lines and liking people but simultaneously alienating everyone around me and everyone thinks I’m weird but I’m oblivious” 😂. Fr though I’ve defiantly always been an ENFP. I ran with unbridled and unfiltered Ne until like 11/12. And now I’m 16 and I still run with unbridled and unfiltered Ne, except now I have the other functions more developed and know how to best develop and use them
Interesting. I was a fair bit different than you. I acted very ISTJ-like (always going to bed at the same time, wearing the same clothes, consistent and dutiful in school and extracurriculars, organized my stuff for fun, etc.)up until about Grade 12. Then I began thinking of different cool ideas, partying and connecting with ppl more, and slowly developing my moral compass. Now I'm full-blown ENFP and can't do anything consistent to save my life lmao. Ne powers the ship, for sure, but Fi is the one steering
I'm technically an ENFP, but since I'm in the middle of all the personality indicators (so almost 50/50), I don't fit with that type all that well. My friend, however, is an ENFP and she fits that type like a glove! Obviously, not everything about an ENFP will fit her perfectly and not all of her decisions are going to fit the ENFP type, she's a conscious human and 4 letters won't sum up her entire personality after all, but she fits the type so well that she's practically the embodiment of that type most of the time.
@@bchaotic905 Me too, sort of. I thought I was an introvert before because I don't have the best social skills, but now think I'm more of an ambivert.
mbti is not about letters tho
Chip is my favourite character in the FJ cinematic universe.
Thanks for the video Frank. Well I have always tried to develop myself even before I knew about MBTI. But after knowing more and more about my personality type (INFP), it has become helpful to focus and prioritize certain areas that I need to enhance myself further and to be cautions about certain thinking patterns that I need to avoid or come out of at the earliest. So being AWARE of myself has been one of the best developments of my personality over the years. 😇🌟✨
As an ISFP, I really relate to wanting to keep my options open. I'm constantly thinking about how there might be something that's better than what I'm thinking of or doing right now, and that I don't like making a ton of time commitments because of the unexpected things that could come up and that I would rather do. I like seeing all the possibilities and then pick what I think would be best for me overall or see what I like the best. And as a procrastinator it really doesn't help when it comes to starting a project lmao
Youre the only sensor in the comments...
that was waay to accurate. literally me- isfp
i think you took a very istj approach to the understanding of Si when talking about the ENTP and ENFP, this is great for the ENFP as their ISTJ side needs to develop thinking in relation to Si, but the challenge for the ENTP i think, in relation to the Si of it is more focused on taking responsibility for what makes others happy, just my thoughts lol
You think he's an ISTJ? Enneagram 5/6/7?
@@randomfornow no, that’s not what i said, i said that his explanation for the later stages of development for the Ne types was too based on how an ENFP matures, (as an ISTJ) while ENTP’s mature into Si like an ISFJ would instead, thank you for letting me clarify 😀
@@Calmind Ah yes, that's interesting😆 my sister is an ISFJ and is friends with an ENTP hehe so that's intriguing come to think of it.
Thanks, FJ :-)
^o^ I’m really excited to learn about my type and everyone else’s type in this!! :) can’t wait for the vid!!
6:45 lol I've been on that for a while now-> 15 yr old ENTP
Tortilla Chip seems not as smart as computer Chip
I'm INFP and I feel like I'm working with the third and fourth phases at the same time. I've burnt myself out with doing every interesting idea that pops in my head and not trusting other people to work on my ideas. So now I'm trying to be more organized and limiting the amount of things I'm working at and including other people and letting them do things their way. And it's really hard 😅 And it's funny cause I've always thought I'm an organized person, and other people think so too, but now I've realised I'm not organized, I just want other people and my surroundings to be organized so I can be a chaotic mess.
Is it Frank James birthday today? I saw ppl saying that in the live chat so I tried searching him on Famous birthdays and some criminal came up 😂
If it is your birthday, HAPPY BIRTHDAYY UR AN ICONNN! You are my favorite channel by far.👑👑✨🎉
If it isn’t, then…. This is awkward.
Also, when is chip’s birthday? That needs a huge celebration as well 🎉🎂🥳
Edit: Ik it’s not his birthday but I’m going to keep this comment anyway :)
They were saying they don't know when it is ....
@@flora1121 oof 😅 maybe I’ll just delete this comment then idk
@@cameron4715 oh 😶
@@flora1121 or actually maybe not it will be funny to keep it
@@cameron4715 I agree on the funny part , but u decide anyway
Im an INTJ and I do see all angles of things... All of it and all possibilities.. all the time.. that's why I think too much and I do neglect my reality sometimes... But I do not have blinders ok? Just pointing that out.
I accidentally sent my last grocery list to my brother and mom. Big bro replied: "Please don't involve me into your experiments" and mom was like "How are you still alive?" #INTPbrain
that...must have been one peculiar list. im guessing you buy a lot of cleaning chemicals?
@@asrafkhalid1231 Nah....I just thought it would be fun to write the list in a language I don't understand nor actively learning....but now if I travel to Finland I will know how to ask where can I buy 5kg coffee, 5kg lemons, 5kg honey and 1 cucumber.💬
@@uncommonsense7476 hahahathanks for sharing, this is legit hilarious
@@asrafkhalid1231 let him alone. bleach is tasty
I'm a 21 year-old ISTP, and I used to relate to the things I see online about the type but now, even tho I still am an ISTP I don't really see myself in these videos about the type, but I still somehow feel MORE of an ISTP than I used to be it's like I understood that personality, which made me think that maybe before I was just an asshole not an ISTP lol, I'm not making sense it's complicated to explain. Maybe my fellow ISTP's would understand?
As an ENTP, I can surely confirm that being the one with infinite options makes me feel content. I am really good in extempore and debate, I wanna learn astrophysics, quantum mechanics and even literature...That is surely crazy. But, you know what, in the end I can surely do them all. Choose the one I like the most and continue to learn the others as a passion...Some people find it weird, but I like living under pressure. I wanna do everything I love and I feel like life is too short when I keep my options open...
You know it's a good Professor FJ video when you have to watch it multiple times to absorb all the information.
This made me chuckle. I had to keep “rewinding” it and listen to parts of it again.
Im a 21 years old istj and this is so accurate!! I feel so much happier after I start to ignore the expectations on me and trying to do things I really want to do.
I liked it even i haven't watch it, cuz i know every FJ videos will be great video
Your interpretation of ExxJ growth is spot on. I'm a 22 y/o ENFJ and you described me perfectly in that I'm having a spontaneous arc and want to explore my Se because that's where it's at honestly. My Ni has caused me nothing but trouble and anxiety so I'm seeing the value in living in the present and outside of my head. I'm trying to branch out and (because my Ni won't let me forget about the future) try all the things I'd like to while I have the chance to explore. I'm trying my best to incorporate Ti mostly as a way to reel back from FeNi emotional spiralling and that'll do for now.
I also very much see your points for IxxPs in my ISTP brother. He's 25 and has started to settle in with what his interests are and where he'd like his career to go in the future. I also see a lot more Fe in him recently which is heartwarming. We're relating a lot more to each other than we have in years and I have a feeling as we round out we'll find we're quite similar (FeNi SeTi vs TiSe NiFe)
Did You Hear That, ENTP? Check Lists Will Make You A Complete Human So There Is Hope.
Yes.. ENTPs arent always sociopathic-narcississt douchebags that all they like to do is argue that every MBTI community seems to think they are, which isnt exactly quite true. Think of the ENTP as the Ne-version of INFJ.
@@RainbowRoadCrashTest Ooo, I Love That. My Girlfriend Is INFJ And She Completes Me.
When I was younger I think that I listened a lot to what others told me about myself. Particularly in the sense of Judging vs Perceiving. I use to think that I was go with the flow and think of the all the possibilities but I was a pretty decisive person as a kid. I knew I wanted to be a singer of some sort at a very young age and then when I graduated I moved straight to NYC to do musical theatre. I've always been a big planner with vacations or parties. I was very stubborn about my beliefs. But people told me I was everywhere with my thoughts but I wasn't. My brain was just moving faster than others and I was picking on things they weren't. Now I understand that my brain as an intuitive type is thinking without thinking and doing it very quickly. I'm still 50% when it comes to extroverted and introverted but I'm pretty sure I'm an INFJ at this point.
Idea for next video:
Explaining what dominant, secondary, tertiary, and inferior functions are, how each one works, and why each type only has 4 of the 8?
I am having a hard time understand this concept and I think you could probably explain it quite well.
Yeah, he seldom touches these areas when it's more accurate to do so.
Plot twist you actually have all 8 of them
As an ENFP in the age of 21 who has had rough yet entertaining childhood, I think I have developed the core of my Complicated personality type way quicker than a average person (No Offense) even though I didn't know about 16 personalities because I was pretty selfish when it came to abstract ideas as a kid in more feeling way until I became 12 where I was like maybe I should see if it was true or what they think is true but at the same time the feeling of wanting to protect someone else's feelings (like ENFJ) and then at the age of 18 I started to feel the responsibility of organizing but also blending in with people and reading people (like INFJ) and also being more into my personal desires (like INFP).
Ooh this is a really good idea for a video, looking forward to it 😊
As a teen ENFJ learning how to react in the moment is one of the most relatable things ever.
As a 52 year old INTP, I went through all those phases and am back to Ti-Ne. During my late teens and 20s I developed my Si, during my 20s and 30s I developed my Fe, then lived my 40s doing what I thought was right and necessary. Now in my 50s I feel like I want to retire and live the rest of my life using my Ti-Ne to the fullest, which is what makes me happy. I already "control" my Si and my Fe, but I don't want them to control me and be free again doing what I like.
Yes, I'm in my 60s. I got interested in this, thinking of it being maybe a useful tool in figuring people out quicker, since that's a thing I don't really like, but it needs to be done sometimes. Anyways, I can see these various phases and going back and forth in my life as well, and that feeling of now I'm going to retire and just dive into what comes naturally!
As an INFP, I can tell you that I will value your idea, but will probably not consider including it in my ultimate final idea for the group project (but only if everyone else is more introverted than me)
FRANK LOOK HERE :).
INTJ: "....That is all fake. That is not real." Sitting here and listening that again and again. What is the definition of real? Is it only the sensory world? Can`t imagination and all the worlds inside our heads be real, too, just defined in another way?
Edit: Almost no other comments from INTJ on this one. Makes me wonder why.
*When Other Personalities Were Struggling to Adapt, INTJ Evolved*
"Of course, it's happening inside your head but why, on earth, should that mean it's not real?!" -Dumbledore 😉❤️
I'm an INTJ, too and I know what's real and what's only my imagination but the real world is often so boring , depressing or challenging that I prefer to live in my imaginary world.
@@haramansari0904 this
Hopefully we all evolve as we get older and gain and react to life experiences. I believe it is possible to "change personality type" in that we can become kinder or meaner, better listeners, etc. Learning to compromise, and gaining a speech filter, have been life advantages for me, which I didn't have an appreciation for in my youth. So yeah, I have learned to work with what is good for the group (my family). BUT I still need alone time to recharge and do my ISTP thing.
Imagine being an immunodeficient INTJ during a novel virus pandemic.
Situational awareness is strong sensor.
Teen INTJ here, and I really started learning about my self when I found out that Im INTJ.
Chip is very cool. I hope Frank doesn’t feel upstaged by him
Blondes do this every time 🤷🏼♀️
or eat him
Any INFPs or people who know them out there, I’d appreciate your input.
I’ve always felt as though I was different and that people often didn’t relate to my idealism or sensitivity, thus, I developed a habit of valuing other people’s feelings or needs and attribute it to my affinity for service (Fi value.) It rarely feels as though I stick out like a sore thumb when I’m being myself. It actually often feels like people value it when I do. It’s just that, as INFP 9w1, having Fi, Ne, and a tendency to suppress those emotions and values for the sake of harmony, it often times doesn’t seem like I embody an Fi dom like people often describe them. Also, I have no doubt that INFP is my type. Fi and Ne out the waz. Does anyone relate?
It seems like I may have contradicted myself. Some people would relate to the idealism and sensitivity and some people wouldn’t. It hurt when some people didn’t and I felt as though they didn’t understand me when I wanted to connect with them. Thus, those experiences trumped the positive ones and I developed a tendency to mesh and only express “me” when I felt it would be received well. Also, I’ve made strides in all of this and don’t feel as though it’s much of a problem anymore. I’m just curious if other people relate to that.
Have you looked into potentially being Empath or HSP in addition to INFP?
@@timefortee Yes, I have some of those characteristics and have done some research on it. There are helpful habits for it. It’s been a matter of adapting to it.
I guess I can relate 👀 When I was younger I was very sensitive and it always hurt when no one else I knew could relate to what I was feeling. But I also grew up with my mom teaching me to put others needs before my own and for a while I thought, this was who I needed to be until I realized that's not who I really am. I mean, I do like helping others but I also can't ignore my own values and feelings for too long. I start to feel trapped and anxious when that happens 🙃
You have helped me so much to appreciate the things I used to say I hated, that is another way I have changed but I get this for example I thought I was more of a p type for awhile because I used to be so messy but then k thought about it and it was because of the way my life was going and my circumstances at the time mainly because my grandmams is a p and I spent a lot of time with her and then I moved out and started doing more so I didn’t focus on my room and then other things got in the way so yeah also I believe I used to be a different emergency Tupe I was more of an artist type and now I am not and that could be also do yo my vision loss.
For future videos I want to know more about details of each type. Like as an ISFJ, I got attracted mostly to INTJs... but they can be dramatically different.
I give you an example :
one was basically about independancy, and he couldn't relate to my Feeling stuff. He found it a kind of codependency for both of us.
But the other could undrestand my Feeling and decided to give attention as a kind of relationship plan!
I found these two approaching VERY different for same personality type.
@xraf32 that's very interesting. Being blunt about your "Thinking" pattern s is something that gives me a smile cause you guys are always so proud of your logic doesn't matter what KIND of INTJ (wink emoji). I dont want to offend you but sometimes it hurts in a real relationship because its not always about decoding the pattern in your abstract mind and sometimes you have to let go of that far fetch things and reach out to the person beside you. Use that human heart ( personality growth XP )
Speaking of it I should mention these INTJ could help me connect to my Thinking side as well. It's a good think but I swam in my own blood and tears to learn that and GROW!
Anyway I enjoyed reading your reply. I loved it how you said the third option. I could totally relate lol
I hope Frank consider this , you see this Frank ? Make it a video !
I am so excited
As a ENFP I can confirm limiting myself and Organization r a constant battle:-) I organize my life to deal w/my perpetual interests and chaos 🙏🙏🥳🥳🥳🥳
7:31 I agree with this 10000%. It's not an easy thing to do, but definitely something necessary for us IxFJs.
exactly! i’m an isfj & my best friend is an enfp so i just find it easier to go along with what they wanna do instead of making my own decisions when i’m with them lol
@@Nataliesohh I'm an ISFJ too! Oh I totally relate with what you said because I used to be like that in the past. Always adapting to the wishes of others, putting others before myself etc etc. But not anymore! Respect yourself, because if you don't, no one else will.
@@starfish5267 thats so true! im glad for you :D
"Life is not just about what I think is cool"
Ha, sure.
-enfp
I MEAN ISN'T IT
I used to be an ESTP going by all cognitive functions, but as an adult and currently I function as an ISTP even though I keep a balance between being an observant and intuitive because I consider both very vital for myself and I confirmed this when doing tests its always a balance right there. I find that interesting
Yo, that is some awesome Childe cosplay you got in your pfp there
@@hemlock1881 Thank you! he is my favorite one! and my main :D doing his cosplay was the best i ever done
You know it's crazy. My older brother and I are both ENFP. Which makes sense somehow since we are brothers, had the same upbringing, almost the same childhood and therefore similar struggles and values.
The funny thing is, if you don't know both of us for a while, you would never say that we are the same type. He stayed very extrovert, diplomatic and energetic over his whole life.
I, on the other hand, got more and more Introverted. Instead of gaining energy from social interaction, it started to drain my energy and I rather stayed alone.
While my brother and still posses the enfp super powers like Charme and sensing other peoples feeling and needs, we have complete different strategies in using them. Development seems to be a more complex topic. And special experiences that one makes can really hit on different levels, so one can't really predict, how one is going to change over time.
Frank thank you much for making us laugh and learn so much. Your channel feels really blessing. And I also want to thank you for the word of the week it is so very inspiring.
It would be nice if you could teach more about the cognitive functions and the shadow functions and co. Thank you for all your great works. Your actingskills is rocketing TH-cam. Thx have a nice week
18-Year-old INTP here
Can confirm that I have only recently levelled up (lol) Si, but I still do not have nearly enough experience to unlock the illusive Fe….
Mid 30s INTP here. In the last decade I've managed to make huge strides with my emotional intelligence and empathy. I've also come along way with not allowing myself to have a toxic level of independence, which borders on an avoidant personality. Life is so much easier now that I can relate to others. I wish 20 year old me had the insight I do now.
Word by word. Good to see that it works for others too, and best wishes to cope with the decade long delay. Past is just the past no matter how much we think it's over. That's an other thing that for I needed too much years to accept.
Why "toxic" though??
On point there was a turning point somewhere between adolescence - I just found out my mbti during med school- intj, helpful in understanding why people are the way they are
I'm curious to what scientific source says that our personalities are largely adapted by genetics? Sure, some of our traits are inherited, but the majority of our images of "self" are gained from experiences and the people around us. Self and personality is a social construction that takes place within a social context... from birth, to school, to death. What you call your personality is this whole complex of experiences you have with others. What we call the "individual"; is a melding of any one of those "selves" (or experiences) into a unique expression (personality). To a good extent, what we call ourselves is the result of the kind of social interactions, you have with other people. It's basic Psychology and sociology. No one is born inherently prejudice, racist, sexist, outgoing, shy, introverted, anxious, or mischievous... it's our upbringings that modeled us into our personalities--the people we were surrounded with and the type of affection we were shown is what makes up our personality (and it doesn’t always have to be an abusive household, it could be a toxic school environment.. it varies from person to person). When we are born, we are a completely blank slate, but the second we come into the world, the slate starts filling itself up. it's all the same logic: nature vs. nurture. Anyhow, nice video. I just disagree that we're born with a sense of personality already developed.
-INTJ
Actually babies understand things around the world and I think they have a sort of preferences based on their personality even if they can’t express them and if you’re talking about the first millisecond you’re right but if you’re talking about the whole baby stadium I think you’re wrong because everyone has all the cognitive functions and babies can prefer personality things, for example when babies born they see their parents and introverted babies are like “those strangers talking with me are draining me” while extroverted babies be like “you’re energising meeeee lmaoooo” (obv these words I’m writing are just their perception).
And your point makes sense but I don’t think personality grows, I see it more to a preference between two parameters as the position of your cognitive functions
Ok, I don’t think it’s not genetic because I never heard about “alleles of the brain” but I think we’re born with (I don’t know how, but, from what I learnt from studying the MBTI science, I believe in it)
-another INTJ
@@i3ignorantidelweb43 for the first 1/2 of your response: hence why I said “when we are born, we are a completely blank slate, but the second we come into the world, the slate starts filling itself up”
Second 1/2: I agree too. When I as a child, I hated anyone other than my mom holding me and I was known to be a bitch to people who tried to pick me up, but as the years went on (and especially after starting school) I went from extremely extroverted to considerably introverted because of the classmates around me. Anyway, i still think those first 78 hours of life can be a vital changing point in a child’s personality. Babies recognize facial expressions so accurately, so a disconnected parent will lead to a child who builds walls and learns comfort from theirselves instead of their care takers… that’s my outlook
@@i3ignorantidelweb43 HAHA “alleles of the brain”. I do think Mbti and astrology both are interesting… humans love fitting into categories (thus why everyone enjoys buzzfeed quizzes or Hogwarts houses, or anime character quizzes…and obviously astrology and mbti). I enjoy science (physics and bio mostly), psychology, and sociology in my free time so that’s where I get this information… still, when I look at things like astrology and mbti, I don’t tie it with science. Instead, to me, it’s but a fun hobbie that satisfies our human curiosity :)
@@Randomaccountname511 ok I your point wrong then and anyway I was like that too when I was a child
TLDR (INTP)
So, I was forced to operate with my Fe a lot as a kid, and now that I don't have to live like that anymore, I'm definitely more selfish with my time. But, I think its a good thing, I'm more comfortable voicing my boundaries now. I still feel kinda bad when I decide to do things that aren't the most convenient for someone else, but that discomfort is no longer enough to sway my decisions.
I developed weirdly for an INTP - with the way things were in my household as a young child, other people's needs were greater than my own - especially from a health/care standpoint. So when I was at home, I just tried to stay out of the way and I essentially ignored my wants because even then, I could understand they weren't important in the grand scheme of things.
I moved out as soon as I could, at 17 and left to my own devices, I finally felt like I could breathe and just be/do what I wanted. I still tend to downplay or even hide the things that interest me because growing up, I just didn't want anyone to spend their time or money on me - it was just easier that way. I was lucky to find a fantastic partner (ENTJ) who has helped me so much with kind of re-learning that it's ok to want.
I can safely say that within type development it is different depending on the unit and function we focus on (like subtypes).
Yeah. It's like the more we use a function or it's attributes, the better we get at it. Sometimes even passable enough in our blind functions just because of certain repetitive patterns of conditioning.
ESFP here I've given into too many people in my life - go along to get along and/or screwed! LOL I'm glad to like what I like and looking to find other crazies ( like ENFPs) to do more creative things productively. Let the other MBs chips fall where they may. BTW AKA stale chips! LOL
"You get the IxxP types and thy realize that some point early on adulthood "Maybe it would be a good thing to narrow things down"" Noo please, don't say that :D I'm an ISFP, and I want to find a way to proceed with all my 6 interests and also get some more (at least 3 or 4) in the next like 3 years xD Don't ruin my plans Mr!