Sisters, if a man is “turned off” by you trying to define what your relationship is or where the relationship is going, he doesn’t want a serious relationship. That’s not your fault, it’s not your mistake, and there nothing you can do to change that (that’s on him). If he’s serious he’ll step up, and if he doesn’t AND doesn’t want to talk about it, move on. Don’t get dragged along and have your time and emotions wasted.
Sisters, the intention behind the video was educational, not judgmental. Please don't be confused. The title is worded this way for reasons that aren't essential to explain. 🙏
I'm not Muslim but I watch your videos. Your advices are universal for every country. Many men are over friendly with women in work place to the point that it becomes confusing sometimes. You are right, we should first check now the person behaves with other women before we assume that he is interested.
Workplace relationships: Rule 1 : NEVER DO THEM!! It's work. If you break up and are both still employed, then one gets very hurt and you can not longer focus on the precise reason you are there! Professionalism will get you noticed and promoted. And make friends with colleagues. Stay focused on you and exercise more. Join a dating service if need be to meet a man who wants a real relationship.😊
This is really good advice. Straight to the point 👍Us women, read too much into things unfortunately. We take every little thing into account even when the guy hasn't said anything to us directly. If a man wanted to, he would. If he likes you, he'll pursue you and tell you directly. It doesn't mean that you are unattractive or that they don't like you if they don't say anything. There's various reasons why they might like you but won't tell you. They might not be ready for a relationship financially, physically, mentally or emotionally. Or they might be insecure and don't see themselves worthy of the person they like. That doesn't mean you should wait for them to be ready to tell you. Us women, see the potential in a lot of men, but not the reality of what is currently. Take everything how you see it. Don't try to justify their wishy washy attitude and mixed feelings. If they don't show interest, it's because they don't care or they're not ready. So, go find someone that will show you they like you instead of waiting around.
Absolutely, friend, love what you had to share here. If you find yourself in such a situation, you should not let that affect how you view yourself. See, if you are the most attractive woman, in and out, there are still mistakes you can do that will put you in a less favourable position.
A man who loves a woman will WORK THROUGH "mistakes." We are all only human. I like the comment above about why a man may not be "ready," and therefore does say how he truly wants and feels. Men make mistakes too! I made my husband say sorry too much. I was too righteous. I needed to be more humble. As did he! I am meeting Arab men who are engaging, but who lie to me. This is never ok !! Trust is the most important thing between two people. The Prophet was respectful and honored his wives and said if you cannot treat them equally, it's better to only have one.
Im dating an Iranian man, and one of the hardest things for me is to express my feelings but worrying that he's doing something out of politeness, just because I want to do it. I don't want to pressure him that way, if that makes sense. Of course this is true in all relationships in general.
2:30 She is not misreading the man’s attention. He is a player. 4:40 She didn’t pressure him. He misled her, and flirted with her, and she naturally developed an interest. It’s normal. And she wanted to clarify things with him. It’s no pressure. Communication is good! It has nothing to do with wanting to secure him. She just wants clarity.
Okay, that woman is starved for attention because it’s not normal for anyone to get attached after a small gesture. #Pause First story is escalating by the minute 😂 #NotFunny
Sorry to disappoint you but It’s very common and normal as it is in human’s nature because we as humans start to fantasize who we like and think we are in love after few moments of imaginary love.
Lets be clear, Christian ladies don't hoochie coochie all day over men in any capacity, thats a bias as well assumptions of Western ladies. Ok got that off my mind. I was listening to you Fuad very much and agree . I was saying out loud " no no no she didn't no oooo noo dont!". I think ( hope) that internal confidence comes with age and wisdom. I am a natural shy lady and a lady at that ( you got the point). So as someone that has spoken with and worked with ( on a older lady mentor roll) young women of all cultures and have as you know most of my life arabic experiences as family 2.... ok so we ladies have to learn to respect ourselves, stand tall, hold ur head up be strong because the male office butterflys are everywhere no matter the culture ready to smoosh and get attention but be a lady be on a human level say thank you have a nice day. One has to realize they love female attention so be a lady not a seeker of attention. Plus work romance is never good. He is just to be nice I guess but its easy if you are young and no experience to think ooh he likes me when in fact he is probably enjoying female attention so focus on yourself, muslim or Christian, neverrrrrrrrr never ever proposition a man in any situation " what about us" its pushy and crass not lady like. Self Respect ladies, some men enjoy female attention but you are a Princess and the Princess keeps herself clean, shy and observant not in someone face assuming things , your brain is the most expensive thing you have ladies use it and let Mr Ego discover ( if he so chooses ) ....men like to be the leader) ... never ohmystars be pushy in someone face. These strong inside confidence qualities will be strong as your faith no matter your beliefs and as you get older. Wisdom comes with age. Some men are just the office Mr Personality giving chocolates to everyone except his wife or girlfriend. As my dear mother would say " Do not be the mat that people wipe their feet on". Come on ladies be strong you 🎸🌷💘💪🏼😎
I found the part about how her culture doesn’t provide for strangers to talk a little odd. Coming from a small town, it would be considered rude here if , for example, you came upon a stranger walking down the street and didn’t stop for a twenty-minute conversation. We are friendly people. It doesn’t imply any sort of romantic interesting.
Haha, I know this may be unusual to you. Muslim women, in general, are not open to having male friends, but they do greet their neighbors out of politeness, maybe not for as long as 20 minutes though. :) I am all for limiting unnecessary conversations with men. I think that the majority of men, especially Arabs and Muslims, would not want to see their women standing somewhere in the street and speaking with a man. I know it is normal in the West. But not recommended. It's just an open door for unnecessary drama. Even within the same culture. You never know at what stage of life the person you speak with is, and before you know it, someone is having feelings for the other. Can't control that. Boundaries are good. That's why you'd find the majority of Muslim women with clear boundaries, while remaining very respectful and also very friendly. The issue for some Muslim women is that sometimes the culture of their surrounding, the workplace in our example, makes them pressured to fit in with the group they work in. So, while adapting to the group, things go wrong. All the young lady needed to do is keep the level of professionalism she was brought up to have. There are things we may slightly bend because of a circumstance, but then we put things back together once possible. You know, you learn and grow. Lesson learned.
Well this man who buys chocolates all around is then crazy weird, of course she interpretes this in a romantic way.. I am not muslim but still think the woman is not clear why is he even giving her gifts? Actually i agree with her...
Men will take even a courteous smile that is required by a woman’s job as a sign of liking or flirting but if the woman thinks the same way then he is turned off?????? WTH
I think these woman did not make mistake by asking the men about his plans. A man should think what he is doing. If someone would give me chocolate every day I would also think that he somehow "invests" in me and is serious. Even if she had suffered for some weeks it is better than being uncertain what is going on. Fortunately the man I met was sure and serious about me and told me that at the very beggining (after 2 weeks).
Everything is not from the loved person. Shythaan is controlling if anyone doesn't talk straight forward. At least a postal letter needs to understand and clarify everything. Shythaan is playing in between them, a loved person may be trusted in Allah's time.
Ok No I do not agree with this concept. Shyness has nothing to do with experience or concept of relationships. I grew up in western country US. Every woman is not the same experience and age plays apart big part
Yes, it is just a general assumption that when a woman is young and has had no relationship with a man before, she would be shy. We expect a person to be nervous when getting on stage and delivering a speech to a large audience, but we also know that some experienced speakers will be less nervous or not nervous at all.
Sisters, if a man is “turned off” by you trying to define what your relationship is or where the relationship is going, he doesn’t want a serious relationship. That’s not your fault, it’s not your mistake, and there nothing you can do to change that (that’s on him). If he’s serious he’ll step up, and if he doesn’t AND doesn’t want to talk about it, move on. Don’t get dragged along and have your time and emotions wasted.
Sisters, the intention behind the video was educational, not judgmental.
Please don't be confused.
The title is worded this way for reasons that aren't essential to explain. 🙏
I'm not Muslim but I watch your videos. Your advices are universal for every country. Many men are over friendly with women in work place to the point that it becomes confusing sometimes. You are right, we should first check now the person behaves with other women before we assume that he is interested.
Workplace relationships: Rule 1 : NEVER DO THEM!! It's work. If you break up and are both still employed, then one gets very hurt and you can not longer focus on the precise reason you are there! Professionalism will get you noticed and promoted. And make friends with colleagues. Stay focused on you and exercise more. Join a dating service if need be to meet a man who wants a real relationship.😊
This is really good advice. Straight to the point 👍Us women, read too much into things unfortunately. We take every little thing into account even when the guy hasn't said anything to us directly. If a man wanted to, he would. If he likes you, he'll pursue you and tell you directly. It doesn't mean that you are unattractive or that they don't like you if they don't say anything. There's various reasons why they might like you but won't tell you. They might not be ready for a relationship financially, physically, mentally or emotionally. Or they might be insecure and don't see themselves worthy of the person they like. That doesn't mean you should wait for them to be ready to tell you. Us women, see the potential in a lot of men, but not the reality of what is currently. Take everything how you see it. Don't try to justify their wishy washy attitude and mixed feelings. If they don't show interest, it's because they don't care or they're not ready. So, go find someone that will show you they like you instead of waiting around.
Absolutely, friend, love what you had to share here. If you find yourself in such a situation, you should not let that affect how you view yourself. See, if you are the most attractive woman, in and out, there are still mistakes you can do that will put you in a less favourable position.
A man who loves a woman will WORK THROUGH "mistakes." We are all only human. I like the comment above about why a man may not be "ready," and therefore does say how he truly wants and feels. Men make mistakes too! I made my husband say sorry too much. I was too righteous. I needed to be more humble. As did he! I am meeting Arab men who are engaging, but who lie to me. This is never ok !! Trust is the most important thing between two people. The Prophet was respectful and honored his wives and said if you cannot treat them equally, it's better to only have one.
Im dating an Iranian man, and one of the hardest things for me is to express my feelings but worrying that he's doing something out of politeness, just because I want to do it. I don't want to pressure him that way, if that makes sense. Of course this is true in all relationships in general.
2:30 She is not misreading the man’s attention. He is a player.
4:40 She didn’t pressure him. He misled her, and flirted with her, and she naturally developed an interest. It’s normal. And she wanted to clarify things with him. It’s no pressure. Communication is good! It has nothing to do with wanting to secure him. She just wants clarity.
Thank God for being Australian! We just tell each other what we are thinking and feeling. No tip-toeing around any issues. JUST SAY IT!
Great. I also like clear situations.
Fuad, many thanks! You have such a calm and beautiful spirit ♥️
You are very welcome, Victoria! 🙏
The man I was dating told me after two weeks since our first meeting "I hope you are serious about me".
He would never give chocolates to anyone 😂
Okay, that woman is starved for attention because it’s not normal for anyone to get attached after a small gesture. #Pause First story is escalating by the minute 😂 #NotFunny
Sorry to disappoint you but It’s very common and normal as it is in human’s nature because we as humans start to fantasize who we like and think we are in love after few moments of imaginary love.
Lets be clear, Christian ladies don't hoochie coochie all day over men in any capacity, thats a bias as well assumptions of Western ladies. Ok got that off my mind. I was listening to you Fuad very much and agree . I was saying out loud " no no no she didn't no oooo noo dont!". I think ( hope) that internal confidence comes with age and wisdom. I am a natural shy lady and a lady at that ( you got the point). So as someone that has spoken with and worked with ( on a older lady mentor roll) young women of all cultures and have as you know most of my life arabic experiences as family 2.... ok so we ladies have to learn to respect ourselves, stand tall, hold ur head up be strong because the male office butterflys are everywhere no matter the culture ready to smoosh and get attention but be a lady be on a human level say thank you have a nice day. One has to realize they love female attention so be a lady not a seeker of attention. Plus work romance is never good. He is just to be nice I guess but its easy if you are young and no experience to think ooh he likes me when in fact he is probably enjoying female attention so focus on yourself, muslim or Christian, neverrrrrrrrr never ever proposition a man in any situation " what about us"
its pushy and crass not lady like. Self Respect ladies, some men enjoy female attention but you are a Princess and the Princess keeps herself clean, shy and observant not in someone face assuming things , your brain is the most expensive thing you have ladies use it and let Mr Ego discover ( if he so chooses ) ....men like to be the leader) ... never ohmystars be pushy in someone face. These strong inside confidence qualities will be strong as your faith no matter your beliefs and as you get older. Wisdom comes with age. Some men are just the office Mr Personality giving chocolates to everyone except his wife or girlfriend. As my dear mother would say " Do not be the mat that people wipe their feet on". Come on ladies be strong you 🎸🌷💘💪🏼😎
Great post, very true.
Im not shy. Im checking them out.
I like this guy. Common sense.
I know something about male office butterflies,😂
I found the part about how her culture doesn’t provide for strangers to talk a little odd. Coming from a small town, it would be considered rude here if , for example, you came upon a stranger walking down the street and didn’t stop for a twenty-minute conversation. We are friendly people. It doesn’t imply any sort of romantic interesting.
Haha, I know this may be unusual to you.
Muslim women, in general, are not open to having male friends, but they do greet their neighbors out of politeness, maybe not for as long as 20 minutes though. :)
I am all for limiting unnecessary conversations with men. I think that the majority of men, especially Arabs and Muslims, would not want to see their women standing somewhere in the street and speaking with a man.
I know it is normal in the West. But not recommended. It's just an open door for unnecessary drama. Even within the same culture. You never know at what stage of life the person you speak with is, and before you know it, someone is having feelings for the other. Can't control that.
Boundaries are good. That's why you'd find the majority of Muslim women with clear boundaries, while remaining very respectful and also very friendly. The issue for some Muslim women is that sometimes the culture of their surrounding, the workplace in our example, makes them pressured to fit in with the group they work in.
So, while adapting to the group, things go wrong. All the young lady needed to do is keep the level of professionalism she was brought up to have.
There are things we may slightly bend because of a circumstance, but then we put things back together once possible. You know, you learn and grow.
Lesson learned.
@@Fuadtalks Fuad, I love that you don’t apologise for our Muslim religion, even if at times it seems so alien to non-Muslims. Islam is beautiful ❤
Thats it, im a new subbie! You have a great deal of common sense! I hope you have a ton of kids, a great dad!
Thank you more videos ☺️
This was a great video!I have to agree with every point!also you make a video about signs an arab man likes you?
Noted
Well this man who buys chocolates all around is then crazy weird, of course she interpretes this in a romantic way.. I am not muslim but still think the woman is not clear why is he even giving her gifts? Actually i agree with her...
They are not mistakes though. They can be cultural differences.
Men will take even a courteous smile that is required by a woman’s job as a sign of liking or flirting but if the woman thinks the same way then he is turned off?????? WTH
I think these woman did not make mistake by asking the men about his plans. A man should think what he is doing. If someone would give me chocolate every day I would also think that he somehow "invests" in me and is serious.
Even if she had suffered for some weeks it is better than being uncertain what is going on.
Fortunately the man I met was sure and serious about me and told me that at the very beggining (after 2 weeks).
Everything is not from the loved person. Shythaan is controlling if anyone doesn't talk straight forward. At least a postal letter needs to understand and clarify everything. Shythaan is playing in between them, a loved person may be trusted in Allah's time.
Can a female person be only a friend with a Muslim man? Thank you for your help.
I have an Iranian friend.. he and I are only friends.
From religious perspective, he can’t.
I think it is harder than having the one is western society.
May I ask what is your nationality? 🥰
Yemeni
Ok No I do not agree with this concept. Shyness has nothing to do with experience or concept of relationships. I grew up in western country US. Every woman is not the same experience and age plays apart big part
Yes, it is just a general assumption that when a woman is young and has had no relationship with a man before, she would be shy. We expect a person to be nervous when getting on stage and delivering a speech to a large audience, but we also know that some experienced speakers will be less nervous or not nervous at all.