Sis, you share so much freely and with no obligation required. I will never understand why someone would take pleasure in attempting to dictate your personal choices to you in response. I'm sorry that you deal with that ignorance, but I'm immensely grateful that you have passed those encounters on to us as your wins in self-care. I take your challenge to heart. I do need to more earnestly evaluate even some of the few that I have continued to allow into my interior circle. I wish you every level of joy as we enter the new year. Blessings and Appreciation! 🙏🏾💐
Whew chile! As you were speaking it hit me - "Woman, leave your own self-sabotaging self BEHIND! Stop feeling guilty for prioritizing yourself. Be who you want to be and show up for others how you want to and in a way that doesn't simultaneously harm you." Ive been doing this already, really but it's SOO hard to drop the guilt and to also NOT internalize others resentment of you ESPECIALLY in a Caribbean family.
Doing it. Started the process already. With church. Can't be in church where majority is white - who voted for orange man. Done. Dripped friends/ businesses who didn't vote. Stull working in other things to let go. Thank you for the reinforcement.
I’ve cut off so many “friends” and family members this year (2024) it’s unreal. And I’ve also set some serious boundaries with coworkers as well. My life has been so peaceful and stress free like never before. So much of my stress and unhappiness was because of other people. I really value my me-time now too. I’m absolutely loving life now and will never again allow anyone to stress me out or have control over my emotions 😂
I love this message and I believe this message came in at a good time because I’ve been feeling this way as well. As always your words are true and powerful. I realize that these days I have less to say to people. There is “no beef, no smoke” I choose to not participate in discord. This new year is going to be a major attack on all of us and I have to preserve my energy and allocate that energy in areas of my life that matter. Thank you 🙏🏿 so much for sharing this.
I agree with leaving people behind and this is to include not accepting friend requests on social media from the toxic people, especially from work including your boss or your boss' friend.
Every single time someone from work follows me on social media I block them and then immediately unblock them to get them off of my followers list and it deletes anything they’ve liked or commented on. I have one that kept refollowing me until she clearly must’ve gotten the hint😂 A coworker is a part of my life during work hours and work hours only.
This is right on point for me, but I must admit I feel guilt and hurt about it, but these people have brought no value to my life for some time! Unfortunately, some are family.
Why feel guilty when these people don’t give AF about you and your emotions or feelings😂. I use to feel that way until I stopped being ridiculous and putting so much thought and energy into these people who don’t take the time to think before they hurt, disrespect or whatever to me. Up all night thinking about people who get a real good sleep after they’ve done you dirty…. I will never be about that life again because it’s absolutely crazy when you really, really think about it😂
I began quietly backing out of some family connections a few years ago. There was little-to-no reciprocity. That they are family doesn't make it OK. It was so quiet that I doubt most of them noticed one way or another. I saw some of the folks earlier this year at an event. I didn't make a show out of not interacting. I simply enjoyed the event. I'm leaving some old perspectives on past narratives in 2024. They're outdated and don't need to move with me.
This was a great reminder that leaving people behind was the best choice. I'm an example of my friends have been more family than my family. You can't take everyone with you and sometimes you can't go back "home" because crabs in a barrel mentality is a real thing in my family. I will not be another Black woman who will die from stress & heartache trying to wear a cape. The election was another lesson of I did my part...let them find out. Sending you virtual hugs & many blessings in 2025.
❤ This video is my absolute favorite Ann Marie. I have learned many, many years ago that people come into our lives good or bad to “sharpen “ up our personality! But when it’s time to go it’s time to go. Either you are for me you are against me , no gray area. If you are against me, let me escort you out with a smile on my face!!!!😊
THIS IS WHAT I HAVE DONE FOR THE LAST 6 YEARS MY HUSBAND HAS DONE THIS MOST OF HIS LIFE AND ONLY REGRET IS THAT I DIDNT FOLLOW HIS ADVICE EARLIER.😂❤ THANKS FRIEND
Honestly they’ll remove themselves, I don’t make it known that I’m removing myself, but my actions don’t fit their so they end up removing themselves ❤
If injured at work is it lawful for work supervisor to insist on taking you to drug testing and go into your medical appointment with you and your doctor?
I don’t provide advice via my comment section and I don’t advise that you take advice via the comment section. I recommend that you get legal advice or you can feel free to book a discovery. Call to talk to me about the actions of your employer. Take care.
“Everything starts with a decision!” I love the aspect of ‘checking the vibe’, sometimes it can be calibrated and restored to be beneficial. But often times when the vibe is off, that’s the instinctual indicator that the time is up… and that’s okay! Having the perspective that ‘releasing’ is an act of making space, in order to have the capacity for new things… makes the process a lot easier to understand and implement. 💆🏽♀️🤞🏾🙏🏾🫡✨💕🥰😘 🗣️ “This too shall pass!”
Love this! You don’t have to let them know in order to let them go. No need to announce your exit or do goodbye tours.
Sis, you share so much freely and with no obligation required. I will never understand why someone would take pleasure in attempting to dictate your personal choices to you in response. I'm sorry that you deal with that ignorance, but I'm immensely grateful that you have passed those encounters on to us as your wins in self-care.
I take your challenge to heart. I do need to more earnestly evaluate even some of the few that I have continued to allow into my interior circle.
I wish you every level of joy as we enter the new year. Blessings and Appreciation! 🙏🏾💐
Thank you! I decided to let them go TODAY. No need to wait for the new year. "Everything begins with a decision." So true.
I don’t have anyone to leave behind in 2024 because I left all those ninjas behind in 2020! 😊
Thank you for being a voice of reason
Whew chile! As you were speaking it hit me - "Woman, leave your own self-sabotaging self BEHIND! Stop feeling guilty for prioritizing yourself. Be who you want to be and show up for others how you want to and in a way that doesn't simultaneously harm you." Ive been doing this already, really but it's SOO hard to drop the guilt and to also NOT internalize others resentment of you ESPECIALLY in a Caribbean family.
Just because we are RELATED does NOT make us FAMILY !!!
Asé. You offer the best advice. Thank you. Peace.
Fruit bearing trees are healthier and more productive when you prune them.
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯❤
Doing it. Started the process already. With church. Can't be in church where majority is white - who voted for orange man. Done. Dripped friends/ businesses who didn't vote. Stull working in other things to let go. Thank you for the reinforcement.
Already done! It’s very true.
People were cut off after the election. I agree; there is no need to drag dead weight into the new year.
This is wisdom and excellent life advice. 👏🏼👏🏼
It's called my review and remove annual evaluation.
I do what devil won't do; I will leave you alone!
I’ve cut off so many “friends” and family members this year (2024) it’s unreal. And I’ve also set some serious boundaries with coworkers as well. My life has been so peaceful and stress free like never before. So much of my stress and unhappiness was because of other people. I really value my me-time now too. I’m absolutely loving life now and will never again allow anyone to stress me out or have control over my emotions 😂
Good for you!
Me too!
I love this message and I believe this message came in at a good time because I’ve been feeling this way as well. As always your words are true and powerful. I realize that these days I have less to say to people. There is “no beef, no smoke” I choose to not participate in discord. This new year is going to be a major attack on all of us and I have to preserve my energy and allocate that energy in areas of my life that matter. Thank you 🙏🏿 so much for sharing this.
I agree with leaving people behind and this is to include not accepting friend requests on social media from the toxic people, especially from work including your boss or your boss' friend.
Every single time someone from work follows me on social media I block them and then immediately unblock them to get them off of my followers list and it deletes anything they’ve liked or commented on. I have one that kept refollowing me until she clearly must’ve gotten the hint😂 A coworker is a part of my life during work hours and work hours only.
Leave them behind CHECKMATE!
Yes Ma'am 😊😊😊😊
On point & on time! Thank you.
You are so welcome
I’m cleaning my “not wanted” people, places and things for 2025 right now. I feel released already.
This is an extremely helpful video. Thank you for making and sharing it ❤
Glad it was helpful!
This is right on point for me, but I must admit I feel guilt and hurt about it, but these people have brought no value to my life for some time! Unfortunately, some are family.
I agree with your message 1000%!
Why feel guilty when these people don’t give AF about you and your emotions or feelings😂. I use to feel that way until I stopped being ridiculous and putting so much thought and energy into these people who don’t take the time to think before they hurt, disrespect or whatever to me. Up all night thinking about people who get a real good sleep after they’ve done you dirty…. I will never be about that life again because it’s absolutely crazy when you really, really think about it😂
@ My 26 yr old son shares your sentiments. I’m working through it; therapy helps.
I did not attend the X Mas work party while at work but did go to the conference room to get My gift card! It felt so very rewarding!
I began quietly backing out of some family connections a few years ago. There was little-to-no reciprocity. That they are family doesn't make it OK. It was so quiet that I doubt most of them noticed one way or another. I saw some of the folks earlier this year at an event. I didn't make a show out of not interacting. I simply enjoyed the event.
I'm leaving some old perspectives on past narratives in 2024. They're outdated and don't need to move with me.
I agree! I’m struggling with that now; thank you! Unfortunately my family is causing me anxiety, grief and unhappiness.
There must reciprocity in ever relationship; no relationship is free.
Wow 🎯 Yes!
This was a great reminder that leaving people behind was the best choice. I'm an example of my friends have been more family than my family. You can't take everyone with you and sometimes you can't go back "home" because crabs in a barrel mentality is a real thing in my family. I will not be another Black woman who will die from stress & heartache trying to wear a cape. The election was another lesson of I did my part...let them find out. Sending you virtual hugs & many blessings in 2025.
Ase!!! Someone said happy new year to me and in my head i said only if i dont see you in it!!! Hoping it comes true
I totally agree with this method here. Thank you for the confirmation! 😊
You are so welcome!
Amen 🙌🏾
I have a coworker who likes to talk but rarely listens. She also speaks very negatively about other bw. She's 1st on my cutoff list.
Hahah! Healing, healthy, happiness! I don't release them I bless Me to be well with Me and they simply no longer invest in others lol!
You know dats right absolutely 💯
Mic drop 🎤!
Happy New Year Ms. Anne Marie!
Happy new year!!
❤ This video is my absolute favorite Ann Marie. I have learned many, many years ago that people come into our lives good or bad to “sharpen “ up our personality! But when it’s time to go it’s time to go. Either you are for me you are against me , no gray area. If you are against me, let me escort you out with a smile on my face!!!!😊
THIS IS WHAT I HAVE DONE FOR THE LAST 6 YEARS MY HUSBAND HAS DONE THIS MOST OF HIS LIFE AND ONLY REGRET IS THAT I DIDNT FOLLOW HIS ADVICE EARLIER.😂❤ THANKS FRIEND
Honestly they’ll remove themselves, I don’t make it known that I’m removing myself, but my actions don’t fit their so they end up removing themselves ❤
❤❤❤❤
Amen
Preach! 🙌🏾
I've had to leave a few behind due to their negativity and argumentative behavior.
I appreciate you! Yes, I've had to do it. Thank yoi!
If injured at work is it lawful for work supervisor to insist on taking you to drug testing and go into your medical appointment with you and your doctor?
I don’t provide advice via my comment section and I don’t advise that you take advice via the comment section. I recommend that you get legal advice or you can feel free to book a discovery. Call to talk to me about the actions of your employer. Take care.
“Everything starts with a decision!”
I love the aspect of ‘checking the vibe’, sometimes it can be calibrated and restored to be beneficial. But often times when the vibe is off, that’s the instinctual indicator that the time is up… and that’s okay!
Having the perspective that ‘releasing’ is an act of making space, in order to have the capacity for new things… makes the process a lot easier to understand and implement. 💆🏽♀️🤞🏾🙏🏾🫡✨💕🥰😘
🗣️ “This too shall pass!”