Microaggressions are covert forms of racism that are more normalized and accepted over outright overt racial remarks. In the end both can cause psychological harm and damage. The key, calling it out immediately by unemotionally asking what the individual meant when they said it...Easier said than done at times but it can reaveal their intent.
When words become popular in the mainstream, they often get misused. It's so important to understand what microaggression means, and how it shows up in our relationships (whether that be at work, family or friends).
Hi, I hope you don‘t mind a question. I am writing a childrensbook in the moment and try to find out, if I need a sensitivity reader or not. This is quite a new field to me, so I try to understand it better. What you explained makes sense and I tend to agree but some questions creep up on me. How can we differentiate between microagressions and personal hurt feelings? Let me explain: in the time I still was able to work, I attended several business meetings and yes, I got talked over a lot and talked over other people, as it is quite normal in heated discussions, especially when they need to happen in a finite timeframe that doesn‘t allow to slowly try to include every little personal opinion into the conversation and need to keep stuff in track. And then there is a person with a shitty idea or opinion and after realizing that their input doesn‘t lead to any progress in the discussion, I talk over them to cut them short. This person will see me cutting them short, talking over them, as being „aggressive“. And since this persons opinion surely isn‘t wrong or shitty, there must be a reason that I talked over them, other then their opinion being shitty or wrong. And then you see my gender (used to be cis male for the most part but this is contributed to my lack of vocabulary to express me self identification) and the color of my skin (I am pretty pale and come from Germany, am 6‘3‘‘ and blonde) and come to the conclusion that me talking over you is a microaggression that is based on a sexist and racist framework in which I was brought up and that I continue, even if I don‘t realize me doing that. Then you talk to me and get the impression that I am very condescending and voila, you already had a good explanation for why I am like I am, so this fits into the picture. You don‘t see or know that I am nerodiverse, an autist, and my way of talking, especially when I try not to confuse or make mistakes is to talk a little slower, analyzing my own words, trying to be understandable - not because you are a woman, but because I know about the problems that my way of talking and thinking cause, when I talk to non-neurodiverse people. I am far from condescending or feeling superior (quite the opposite) but my way of communicationg often leads to that assumption. So for me your way of seeing me as a stereotypical white man doing what we white male misogyn people like to do, is a microaggression in itself. To shorten this and bring it back to the root question: when is it a microaggression, when is it a hurt personal feeling, when is it backward racist, sexist stereotyping, when is it legitimate critics and aren‘t we all a little bit too thin-skinned? Or do I need to say: „Well, tough shit, but I guess I just have to go with it and try not to use my inherit aggressive male tone, when communicating.“ and just take it as a given, that I will envoke the feelings of being microaggressive everytime I sate my opinion or try to argue? Disclaimer: I really try to understand this and these are the questions I struggle with. I do not try to challenge the existence of microaggressions and totally get that it is important to be sensitive to this.
I always says, nobody has to ask you "where are you from" in my opinion in an invasion to your privacy, especially when a stranger approach to you and ask you "where are you from" without knowing you, it is like is the only thing matters in their life. What about you as a person, we have so many other questions to start a nice conversation.
Oh gosh the examples of microaggressions I could share! I was an intern at an agency once where the CEO could never get my name right. I eventually gave up trying to correct him ☹️
microaggression is also known as "snow-flakery". It's reading between the lines to find reasons to be offended. It's fascinating fascism. It's done every single time leftists say that the US needs fruit picking immigrants, illegal immigration to do the jobs white people will not do. It's also done when leftists claim that black people are incapable of getting ID cards for voting.
It seems to me that people will disguise the comment (micro aggressions) as jokes and if you say something your being over sensitive because it’s only a joke… but the joke it keeping the ignorant behavior alive almost making it ok.. there are soooo many layers but I really think that people being willing and having the patience to educate and people being willing to learn is the best first step… all imo of course..we’re all learning everyday.
Asking :"Where are you from?" is not a microagression all the time. In the South, you could live close to each other, or I. asking for orientation questions. It's the tone.
Thanks for watching! Do you have any examples of microaggressions that we can look out for, and speak up against?
Always an eye opener! I love how you manage to pinpoint an issue, but please tell us how to deal with it soon!
Thank you Jade. We'll be sharing tips on how you can speak up against microaggressions VERY soon.
Love the examples - Really helps put it in perspective in terms of things we ourselves have experienced, and the areas where we can do better.
Thank you Jessica. Which example did you find most helpful?
Microaggressions are covert forms of racism that are more normalized and accepted over outright overt racial remarks. In the end both can cause psychological harm and damage. The key, calling it out immediately by unemotionally asking what the individual meant when they said it...Easier said than done at times but it can reaveal their intent.
When words become popular in the mainstream, they often get misused. It's so important to understand what microaggression means, and how it shows up in our relationships (whether that be at work, family or friends).
Thanks for another great video Leyya. We're already looking forward to the next one 👀
Hi, I hope you don‘t mind a question. I am writing a childrensbook in the moment and try to find out, if I need a sensitivity reader or not. This is quite a new field to me, so I try to understand it better. What you explained makes sense and I tend to agree but some questions creep up on me. How can we differentiate between microagressions and personal hurt feelings? Let me explain: in the time I still was able to work, I attended several business meetings and yes, I got talked over a lot and talked over other people, as it is quite normal in heated discussions, especially when they need to happen in a finite timeframe that doesn‘t allow to slowly try to include every little personal opinion into the conversation and need to keep stuff in track. And then there is a person with a shitty idea or opinion and after realizing that their input doesn‘t lead to any progress in the discussion, I talk over them to cut them short. This person will see me cutting them short, talking over them, as being „aggressive“. And since this persons opinion surely isn‘t wrong or shitty, there must be a reason that I talked over them, other then their opinion being shitty or wrong. And then you see my gender (used to be cis male for the most part but this is contributed to my lack of vocabulary to express me self identification) and the color of my skin (I am pretty pale and come from Germany, am 6‘3‘‘ and blonde) and come to the conclusion that me talking over you is a microaggression that is based on a sexist and racist framework in which I was brought up and that I continue, even if I don‘t realize me doing that. Then you talk to me and get the impression that I am very condescending and voila, you already had a good explanation for why I am like I am, so this fits into the picture. You don‘t see or know that I am nerodiverse, an autist, and my way of talking, especially when I try not to confuse or make mistakes is to talk a little slower, analyzing my own words, trying to be understandable - not because you are a woman, but because I know about the problems that my way of talking and thinking cause, when I talk to non-neurodiverse people. I am far from condescending or feeling superior (quite the opposite) but my way of communicationg often leads to that assumption. So for me your way of seeing me as a stereotypical white man doing what we white male misogyn people like to do, is a microaggression in itself. To shorten this and bring it back to the root question: when is it a microaggression, when is it a hurt personal feeling, when is it backward racist, sexist stereotyping, when is it legitimate critics and aren‘t we all a little bit too thin-skinned? Or do I need to say: „Well, tough shit, but I guess I just have to go with it and try not to use my inherit aggressive male tone, when communicating.“ and just take it as a given, that I will envoke the feelings of being microaggressive everytime I sate my opinion or try to argue?
Disclaimer: I really try to understand this and these are the questions I struggle with. I do not try to challenge the existence of microaggressions and totally get that it is important to be sensitive to this.
I always says, nobody has to ask you "where are you from" in my opinion in an invasion to your privacy, especially when a stranger approach to you and ask you "where are you from" without knowing you, it is like is the only thing matters in their life. What about you as a person, we have so many other questions to start a nice conversation.
Oh gosh the examples of microaggressions I could share! I was an intern at an agency once where the CEO could never get my name right. I eventually gave up trying to correct him ☹️
Thanks for sharing Roshni. Maybe send him the link to this video? 😉
microaggression is also known as "snow-flakery". It's reading between the lines to find reasons to be offended. It's fascinating fascism. It's done every single time leftists say that the US needs fruit picking immigrants, illegal immigration to do the jobs white people will not do. It's also done when leftists claim that black people are incapable of getting ID cards for voting.
I think some people might wake up and have that thought 😅 great video and loved doing diversity dictionary, highly recommend to everyone!
Thank you for your continued support! What's your biggest takeaway from the video? 👀
Very good editing Leyya 😎
Thank you for your support Adam! 🤜🏽
I also think that dark colors are slimming, good job
It seems to me that people will disguise the comment (micro aggressions) as jokes and if you say something your being over sensitive because it’s only a joke… but the joke it keeping the ignorant behavior alive almost making it ok.. there are soooo many layers but I really think that people being willing and having the patience to educate and people being willing to learn is the best first step… all imo of course..we’re all learning everyday.
Exactly this Leontina! Do you have any examples of microaggressions that we can look out for, and speak up against?
The definition itself is racist being that it’s limited to a specific demographic.
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Asking :"Where are you from?" is not a microagression all the time. In the South, you could live close to each other, or I. asking for orientation questions. It's the tone.
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Thank you for watching and engaging Matt! What was your biggest takeaway from the video? 👀
@@_OtherBox the paper-cut analogy is the perfect way to describe why it matters