I wish selena would see this reaction. Its so interseresting considering these two dont really know who she is, so this review is much more pure..love it
Miranda Bullard So many of us few just like you... (ignore the haters; they’ll never completely go away). I’m a heterosexual man and this video as well as the music video brings tears to my eyes. I’m not mad at men who think real men shouldn’t cry...I’m sad for them. I’ve grown up in a world that’s told me I should be one of them. It sucks. I hope they figure it out soon because honestly there’s sometimes nothing better than a good cry. Sometimes it’s needed.
I hate the fact that he hurt her so bad and now he’s just married to someone else like nothing happened 🙃 Selena reallyyy deserves better at the end of the day. Boy bye
Helen no she doesn’t no one does, I don’t know who you are but you better watch your mouth start from the beginning of Selena’s history’s and let me know how it goes for you, wake up and get educated. no one deserves hurt but it happens but doesn’t mean everything will be perfect, thanks!
@@kaylinm.183 I think Helen meant that Selina deserves the experience, we learn and grow from our experiences, both good and bad. We become more real and honest about who we are...if we get hurt but don't go through it, we are stunted- we don't grow, and then we tend to repeat the same thing again and again. Is that right Helen?.. Does this make sense to you guys?
The part I choked up on the most of the song is the end when she says “ and now the chapter is closed and done , and now it’s goodbye , it’s goodbye for us “. It hit me hard bc it’s like well it’s all over now.
CC Alexander I think that’s so true. We’ve all been there. It may not be a happy moment but we all get to a point where we realize it’s really over and even though it still hurts we know we can move on and find something better. Healing takes strength
Love yourself is about Chantal Jeffries (Justin’s mom loved Selena) and the original lyrics are “If you like the way you look so much then maybe you should go and fuck yourself.” also it’s written by Ed Sheeran but I’m pretty sure Justin co-wrote it and obviously wouldn’t sing a song he couldn’t relate to..... anyway.... the original lyrics are “fuck yourself” which makes SOOOOOOO much more sense but of course they couldn’t have the F word in the chorus if they wanted it to be a big hit so they changed it to love yourself lol. He wasn’t telling someone “you should love yourself❤️❤️❤️” as if they needed better self esteem lol..... he was saying, “if you’re so self absorbed, why don’t you stop messing around with me and go fuck yourself instead?” THATS why it’s the best lyrics LOL. I am always shocked by people who don’t listen to lyrics at all like to the point they think the song is about the opposite what it’s about. Not in a mean way, some people prefer the beat, I just mean for me I always listen to the lyrics most of all and play it back if I miss something or can’t make something out the first time I listen to a song. Like I base 60% on if I like a song or not on the lyrics lol so that’s why it’s weird to me.
Nikki Marie nah this songs about Justin lol. “2 months you replaced us” Justin and Selena broke up and after 2 months Justin went w Hailey and got engaged
It's crazy how many people she made cry. How many people she touched with this song. I think it's her most or one of her most impactful songs. And people criticize her. She might not have the greatest most amazing vocals but this is EXACTLY what an ARTIST is supposed to do.
I had heard people make fun of Selena Gomez plenty but I never heard any song by her until this one… and my only feeling was wtf? Whyyyyy? She’s amazing!
i personally don’t relate to the song but my gosh it made me cry anyway😭selena has the kind of voice that makes you feel everything, she made me feel so much with just her voice and the lyrics on top of it all makes it all the more emotional. it’s beautiful❤️❤️
I think what she means when she says “I needed to hate you to love me” because it’s so hard to leave a toxic relationship. No matter how bad things get you want to stay with that person... eventually when you go through so much toxicity you hate that person and that’s when you’re capable of making the choice to leave. No matter how awful things are you love that person, until you don’t.., and then you leave. I think it’s an important line in the song.
I agree but i belive it also means theirs no in between its either you keep hating yourself or decide to leave the person and the ONLY way to leave them in the past is to end up hating them. TO REGAIN YOUR LIFE.
I agree with you both and I also think it's about the fact that when you're in love with the person you're being abused by (at least emotionally) you don't want to believe it's their fault. Because you love them. So if it's not their fault the only option is that it's yours. So you blame and hate yourself. You can't truly love yourself until you let yourself see the blame does lie with the other person and not you.
I take it slightly different. She says "I NEEDED to hate you to love me". The "needed" to me, is showing that because of the toxic way she was treated, she had to get to a place of hating him in order to be able to leave him for good. Most relationships don't require you to hate the person in order to leave them. Anyway, just my thought / opinion
@@shannondavidson683 I'm so late! But you're completely right, i went through that and the only thing that made me leave was me realizing how shitty i was being treated, i hated how he blamed me for everything and i started "hating" him and that was the exact moment i knew i was worth more than a few crumbs of love. So I'm sure that by that phrase she means, i needed to hate him to know my worth and have my self love as a little something, at least a single "rope" that i can hold on to, to get out of this hell hole"
Not just a kidney Transplant but, Lupus in general she’ll live with for the rest of her life. I know I have been battling lupus plus so many other illnesses lupus patients have to live with different issues forever.
7:24 the HARDEST part in the whole music video that breaks me every time, that sweet smile... and it was soo nice to see the left guy (i'm sorry i don't know his name) smile with Selena. I had the exact same face when seeing that part of the video. Loved this.
She was in a very toxic relationship and most likely suffered narcissistic abuse. It starts slowly and you don’t realize it and you believe all the lies and manipulations. They make you feel crazy, punishing you when they don’t get their way, then blaming you and making you believe you deserved it while never caring about how they hurt you. ...or that you are ill or already going through something. It’s so hard to get out of these kinds of relationships because of the effects of the abuse and trauma bonding and it takes a long time to heal. I hope she is able to stay away from him. ♥️
Relationships go 2 ways, the point is why did this toxicity took so long, in a way a narcissist cant execute without a victim, but narcissists also are victims in a way.
Agreed! My bf was my bestest friend in the whole world and we just got each other and it is correct you love them and adore them that you forget you! Then the mental abuse happened and he was always right and I was always wrong, it’s mentally draining going round and round in circles doing there thinking and your thinking also, but he was a good soul as well! To this day I love him and miss the part where we where good 💔
Ileana Guerra - you’re right in that an abusive person must have a victim. When you’re young and idealistic, you think you can “help” that narcissistic- selfish person. So you stay and yes, allow behaviors that are sometimes- deplorable. But... You grow and learn and hopefully get away. It doesn’t matter if it’s 10 months or 10 years, it’s important you learn that you can’t love someone into being a better human being. I respectfully disagree- a narcissistic isn’t a victim, but rather a manipulative and cunning individual, who preys upon the empathetic and kind hearted.
this song is so heartbreaking. when I first heard it my heart just completely broke for Selena. justin destroyed her. “In two months you replaced us” ... Sel and Justin got back together and were happy and then literally 2 months later he was with Hailey and then engaged to her ... poor selena. I was always a JB fan, but that was a dick move, and I am so happy selena is finally able to love herself again and I hope she never ever takes him back.
Yes, they did look happy when they went back together last time. She was kissing him while he was playing the ice hockey. They spent a quality time together too. It's shocking how things can change.
I guess he came back just to hurt her, it was intentional. He was angry because she dated the weekend and went public with him. I know his type, that dude is heartless, he wanted to hurt her with Hailey now he's stuck with Hailey. Karma
This song is about her relationship with Justin Bieber. He was her first boyfriend but was a toxic relationship, Justin Bieber proposed and had a new girlfriend 2 months later braking up with Selena, he is now married to her.
The only thing I hate about this song is that her ex knows that it is about him. It just drives his ego. I wouldn't want to see him get the satisfaction of knowing I'm hurting.
This is how I feel about my addiction to ecstasy I was on for almost 2 years taken up to four to five pills a day I thought it was making me happy when all it did was drag me down now that I'm sober I see that
@@selinaross9179 his talking about for him we know it's about Justin but we all have something we relate to the song rather it's a relationship or with a relationship with alcohol and drugs that's how he feels he has a right to say how the song makes him feel in what he relates it to
I think a lot of time when ppl fall in love, they love the person more than they love themselves. If you are a self blamer you have to learn to hate that person so you can stop blaming themselves and learn to love themselves again.
Its been over a year since the release date of this song and "2 months you replaced us, like it was easy" will forever stick with me. I can't believe what she's been through.
I love how one of you guys is paying attention to the lyrics and in the song's meaning while crying and the other one is like: "this was shot on a iphone"
The whole Rare album hits so close to home for me right now. But in this song and video, I just LOVE the acceptance on her face and in her voice at the end. She's at peace and is able to move on, and that's all we can hope for.
This is a powerful song ... Crazy how you listen to the song and your broken heart you thought was healed but the wounds resurface... I just rather not listen to the song and I can feel his hurt those tears are so genuine...
Yeah, same. I think sometimes, it can be because we didnt get closure so those emotional wounds can still seem so fresh even if the hurt happened years ago.
I love it when Chris show us his Manic personality. he can be very jolly, moody, and emotional at time, but what I see is how beautiful Chris really are. People can wear makeup to appear fabulous, but when you're already golden inside, it flourish on the outside. You're very BEAUTIFUL to me Chris. #LYLT GUYS
I think the song is very positive because it is about coming into your strength despite a relationship that suppressed it and even found you willingly giving up your power. The song sounds like an examination of a past relationship that hurt deeply and was hard to overcome. She's looking at it honestly and sees how she contributed to how things played out, not just what the other person did in the relationship. Often times, songs can depict a victim/perpetrator type thing. This song doesn't do that. She lives in her strength now and can look at the relationship as a lesson learned. This is an excellent song that will resonate as long as human hearts beat.
This is the first video I’ve seen on this channel idk why it popped in my recommended. I honestly thought it was a troll at first but I’m so happy I watched thru you guys are so lovely.
This song hits me like a bullet. Im in the process of leaving a toxic relationship. And i do hate him and its for me. We’ve been through so much. A 23 year old shouldn’t be going through. Six years of bull..
Found this a month later, I usually don’t play videos recommended by TH-cam but I’m glad I did with this one. The reactions of these two men was so pure 💛
I had more emotion at Chris crying than the song to be honest. Chris you have such a kind heart. Love you both! Loving the frequent reaction videos! ❤ xx
this song was about her ex whom she'd been with for years, who mentally abused her and cheated on her, and when they broke up for the last time, she was hospitalized, and he got married to someone else two months later which is why she said, "In two months you replaced us, like it was easy."
This song was about many painful events that happened in her life since the release of her Revival album, yes it's partially about her relationships, in a non offensive way, yet it's about a lot of other things, like how some of her own 'so called' fans bullied her, yet she is not directly calling anyone out. She also said that she tried to take the experiences in her life and make them more relatable to what goes on in normal life. She released the song for two major reasons. 01) To help people feel better, about what they are going through, helps them to not feel like the only ones, helps them to grieve. 02) For her own healing, she refuses to let anyone silence her voice, a lot of foolish untrue lies have been told about her, and she has the right to defend herself. Justin Bieber's fans have been bullying her aggressively online since late 2010, and the bullying started in 2009, when Justin said in a Radio interview that he thinks that Selena's pretty. In 2010 and 2011, a majority of them had sent her death threats, threats of violence, Justin knows how dirty they are, and he takes advantage of them and uses those fans of his for his own gain, no matter who it hurts. Clearly Selena told him that she is releasing this song, Justin came clean on his instagram about what he did shortly before the song's release, in a way that his fans went after her, I am sure he knew it would happen too, just like the song he sang in for Chris Brown June 2019, was just a repeat of negative/fake online gossip that Justin's fans were saying about Selena. I highly doubt that was just a coincidence. Justin's cousin went on instgram live somewhat recently with a friend of his. They mocked Muslims while one of them was dressed like a woman, they said they were going to go and bomb Selena's house and so on. It seems like Justin's sister is the only nice one, in that family. She misses Selena a lot. Selena is the kind of person that is unusually nice/unusually forgiving, then eventually she looses her cool and explodes over bad things happening to her, that don't get better. In Selena's case, with Justin, Justin was on hard core drugs while he was with her, and I strongly believe that they broke up repeatably because of his drug use, Justin has indirectly admited this by telling the world when he was on hard core drugs. I suspect that he started using the hard core drugs shortly after they got back together again in early 2013, in 2013 is when he started the hard core drugs. Hard core drugs are very abusive to the person taking them and to those around the person taking them. I think that what the drugs did to him and her destroyed most of the trust that she had in him, and in time after he stopped taking them, what little trust she had left in him was shattered. Some damage can not be undone. She has admitted that she has not dealt with the things that happened between them as well as she could of. Yet she is only human, and he has put her through a lot of BS. He has tried to directly sick his fandom on her once, at first it backfired on him, and most of his fans supported Selena. Then in time they went back to their dirty ways, hating on her. This music video was made with 1 iphone, the 'Look At Her Now' music video they had iphones mounted from every angle.
This is definitely about herself, and her past relationship that turned out to be toxic.. I've definitely been through this myself.. I can relate to this song on very deep level..
I’ve listened to this song before. But I cried with your reactions and the song this time. Made me think of my own experiences and I think it put perspective into it for many people as well. It’s funny how a song can change with different people and reaction channels. You two are amazing. ❤️
This hits differently to me than most people would think. This describes my relationship with my eating disorder but at the moment I haven't let it go but it shows what the process of healing from an ed is really like
In two months he started dating someone else (at least that's when they were spotted together), they got engaged one month after that and married 2 months later.. so like 5 months after the break-up (which is still really fast)
This video hits me hard... since I was in a relationship for 5 years and the person I fell in love with changed into someone who I don’t recognize anymore. It was so hurtful that I’ve been dealing with depression and anxiety that I never had... this song I can do relate! So I agree you have to hurt like this to feel the lyrics. Love you guys 💕
Awwww Selena’s song made you cry ! Made me cry too. The song , video everything. I been there done rhat. It reminded of someone from years ago. I’m 100 all good now tho !!!
Watching y'all react made me more emotional, lol. Without fail, when she sings, "two months to replace us/like it was easy/made me think I deserved it/in the thick of healing," I start crying, every. single. time. The way she sings that part hits *so* hard.
I've cried when I saw this music video of Selena. I felt her pain because I went threw the same thing, was in a abusive marriage for 18 years. I felt every pain I went threw when listening to this song.
This song when i first heard it hit me pretty deep once i really started to listen to the words. Because my most previous relationship was with narcissistic mental abuser who made things seem so perfect then turned on me and played with my hurt like a song and the sounds of my hurt were his moment of peace. On top of that he made me almost think that it was me that needed to change and that i was the crazy one. So this song is almost too deep for me to listen to at times.
Im crying . 😭 How many times i watched "reactions about lose you to love me ,but everytime i heard this song its really made me cry gosh.. my tears down to my face 😭💔
I just found this video and I wish I‘ve seen it before. You guys are amazing and your reactions is so pure and honest because you don‘t know her and the story behind the song so this is just the purest thing and reaction.
i reacted to this on my channel and boy did it hit me hard. this entire year i have been in and out of a toxic relationship and i finally had to be done with it about 2 months ago... which killed me because i would've given that man everything. i would've married him and had kids with him but i quickly learned my self-worth and that i shouldn't allow someone to treat me the way he did. now i'm a totally different person, i have more confidence in myself and had to learn to love myself. so while the relationship was toxic, i had to go through that to come out a better person. great reaction guys!
Never cared for him period And always thought she could do better But it's a lesson learn she's moving forward and healing. And he still stuck... being a Wipe. 🤷♀️
WOW!! yes this song plus chris talking about his past stuff made me cry!! WOW!! thank you Chris for sharing your little bit what ever past you had. Thank you Thank you!!
You guys should react to Gomez's "Back to You" and "a heart wants what it wants" and that'll help give some context to this song. I agree with your "hate you to love me" critique. As we get older and wiser with experience, we realize people are messy. We never fall in love with perfect. Love makes us see imperfect as perfection, and Justin Bieber was going through his own bit of a life crisis. Hopefully, with time and experience, Selena will see that and truly heal in compassion that also releases herself from blame. Touching review, guys, from a fellow Midwesterner on the heels of the Ozarks.
Laurie Davies I get way more emotional to “ The Heart Wants What It Wants.” Those lyrics and that video are heartbreaking. I remember when it first came out, she would cry while performing it live.
Sara01977 Me too. It's such an amazingly raw and vulnerable song. Took a lot of guts for her to put that out. Especially with a line like, "Save your advice cause I won't hear." And knowing millions knew who that song was about and all their back and forth drama offering up their advice to "get over him." That is probably my favorite of Selena's. We've all been there.
Guys, I am so thankful for being brave and feel vulnerable on camera and show that this doesn't mean being weak as a man, nor means losing your manliness. You are showing a good example and I just hope this will be seen by men who struggle with anxiety.
This is really rude? And they look the same age so why you would think he’s his dad I have no idea. Try keeping your nasty comments to yourself I promise you nobody is impressed by them.
1st time I watch you guys...WOW! I’m so surprise to see you being touch with the words of this song. I think we all go through a broken heart time, but even though we pick ourselves up, the pain stay with you.
I am with you Chris it set off a lot of emotions in me to, if you have lived as long as I have (71) then you have been in a lot of bad places in life when dealing with other people, all I can say to you is, when dealing with your current situation just hang in there and I think you have a pretty strong person in Russ to help you through it. love you guys .
What's crazy is I had no idea how much I needed this video. I knew about her song, and loved it, but the meaning changed for me because I'm going through something recently, that song is basically what I'm going through right now. I lost myself when I got sick 5 years ago, it shattered me like I had no idea was possible, and finding a life after a part of you is missing and can never get back, is rough. And jumping into a relationship because I felt forced to by family & circumstances, was a very bad idea. And 2.5 years later, after the start of the relationship, things degraded over time, the love faded, til there was nothing left but ice, which is where I found myself, frozen in time and in a toxic relationship. It took that long to hit me & wake me up. So her song changed meaning for me big time. I've started loving myself and finding myself again after 5 years of living like I'd given up and was ready for my illnesses to hurry up and overtake me. But treatments have changed my outlook, and even though I'll never be able to work in the traditional sense, and that my current relationship is ending, I finally feel relief and independence and like I'm ready to save my own ass. It's very bittersweet to me. But I did need to lose him to find me.
Selena does this amazing thing making it bittersweet! You can tell her pain and sorrow but she pulls herself out of it in not a hateful way but a powerful way in its own right. It’s a true glimpse at someone who is still tender after a breakup.
Many women often give a part of themselves to love another. That is what Selena means by having to " hate you to love me." I thoroughly understand that lyric.
I wish selena would see this reaction. Its so interseresting considering these two dont really know who she is, so this review is much more pure..love it
agreed
Totally agree!
@SelenaGomez #SelenaGomez i love you
Yes
Absolutely!!!
His tears, his lil red nose. Aw.. Him crying made me cry. Stay strong, friend!
Awwweee.
Let's send him some concealer...this man needs it. Nah, really, I think raw emotion is beautiful!
Love his reaction! Selena when through so much with that stupid little boy. Hopefully soon she will find a real man who would love her forever.
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It’s like you want to laugh and cry at the same time.. These emotions are killing me😅😭
Aww he does this Everytime
Only real men can record themselves getting emotional over a song. You guys are great. Not to mention Montana rocks!!
Nora Batiz I agree with you.
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@assrapes Boy byeeeee leave.
@assrapes yeah no.
Miranda Bullard So many of us few just like you... (ignore the haters; they’ll never completely go away). I’m a heterosexual man and this video as well as the music video brings tears to my eyes. I’m not mad at men who think real men shouldn’t cry...I’m sad for them. I’ve grown up in a world that’s told me I should be one of them. It sucks. I hope they figure it out soon because honestly there’s sometimes nothing better than a good cry. Sometimes it’s needed.
I hate the fact that he hurt her so bad and now he’s just married to someone else like nothing happened 🙃 Selena reallyyy deserves better at the end of the day. Boy bye
Helen no she doesn’t no one does, I don’t know who you are but you better watch your mouth start from the beginning of Selena’s history’s and let me know how it goes for you, wake up and get educated. no one deserves hurt but it happens but doesn’t mean everything will be perfect, thanks!
@Helen nobody deserves this kind of pain..
@@kaylinm.183 I think Helen meant that Selina deserves the experience, we learn and grow from our experiences, both good and bad. We become more real and honest about who we are...if we get hurt but don't go through it, we are stunted- we don't grow, and then we tend to repeat the same thing again and again. Is that right Helen?.. Does this make sense to you guys?
This song is not about Justin but about The Weeknd
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The part I choked up on the most of the song is the end when she says “ and now the chapter is closed and done , and now it’s goodbye , it’s goodbye for us “. It hit me hard bc it’s like well it’s all over now.
I fucking needed it, like I’m finally done with someone in my life and I’m so happy it’s closed. Done. Finished. I’m finally happy.
She looks cute and adorable when she was on that last part.
CC Alexander First time i heard it gave me chills.
Me too
CC Alexander I think that’s so true. We’ve all been there. It may not be a happy moment but we all get to a point where we realize it’s really over and even though it still hurts we know we can move on and find something better. Healing takes strength
Justin Bieber -“you should go and love yourself”
Selena Gomez- “I needed to lose you to love me”
Jalisa Nelson Justin didn’t write that song it was written by Ed Sheeran.
love yourself isn't about selena
And pretty sure this song makes more sense being about The Weeknd
Love yourself is about Chantal Jeffries (Justin’s mom loved Selena) and the original lyrics are “If you like the way you look so much then maybe you should go and fuck yourself.” also it’s written by Ed Sheeran but I’m pretty sure Justin co-wrote it and obviously wouldn’t sing a song he couldn’t relate to..... anyway.... the original lyrics are “fuck yourself” which makes SOOOOOOO much more sense but of course they couldn’t have the F word in the chorus if they wanted it to be a big hit so they changed it to love yourself lol. He wasn’t telling someone “you should love yourself❤️❤️❤️” as if they needed better self esteem lol..... he was saying, “if you’re so self absorbed, why don’t you stop messing around with me and go fuck yourself instead?” THATS why it’s the best lyrics LOL. I am always shocked by people who don’t listen to lyrics at all like to the point they think the song is about the opposite what it’s about. Not in a mean way, some people prefer the beat, I just mean for me I always listen to the lyrics most of all and play it back if I miss something or can’t make something out the first time I listen to a song. Like I base 60% on if I like a song or not on the lyrics lol so that’s why it’s weird to me.
Nikki Marie nah this songs about Justin lol. “2 months you replaced us” Justin and Selena broke up and after 2 months Justin went w Hailey and got engaged
It's crazy how many people she made cry. How many people she touched with this song. I think it's her most or one of her most impactful songs. And people criticize her. She might not have the greatest most amazing vocals but this is EXACTLY what an ARTIST is supposed to do.
I had heard people make fun of Selena Gomez plenty but I never heard any song by her until this one… and my only feeling was wtf? Whyyyyy? She’s amazing!
i personally don’t relate to the song but my gosh it made me cry anyway😭selena has the kind of voice that makes you feel everything, she made me feel so much with just her voice and the lyrics on top of it all makes it all the more emotional. it’s beautiful❤️❤️
I think she has great vocals love the song has lots of meaning in it real raw emotion😢 love it hate the reason for it but it's for the best
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I think what she means when she says “I needed to hate you to love me” because it’s so hard to leave a toxic relationship. No matter how bad things get you want to stay with that person... eventually when you go through so much toxicity you hate that person and that’s when you’re capable of making the choice to leave. No matter how awful things are you love that person, until you don’t.., and then you leave. I think it’s an important line in the song.
I agree but i belive it also means theirs no in between its either you keep hating yourself or decide to leave the person and the ONLY way to leave them in the past is to end up hating them. TO REGAIN YOUR LIFE.
I agree with you both and I also think it's about the fact that when you're in love with the person you're being abused by (at least emotionally) you don't want to believe it's their fault. Because you love them. So if it's not their fault the only option is that it's yours. So you blame and hate yourself. You can't truly love yourself until you let yourself see the blame does lie with the other person and not you.
I take it slightly different. She says "I NEEDED to hate you to love me". The "needed" to me, is showing that because of the toxic way she was treated, she had to get to a place of hating him in order to be able to leave him for good. Most relationships don't require you to hate the person in order to leave them. Anyway, just my thought / opinion
@@shannondavidson683 I'm so late! But you're completely right, i went through that and the only thing that made me leave was me realizing how shitty i was being treated, i hated how he blamed me for everything and i started "hating" him and that was the exact moment i knew i was worth more than a few crumbs of love. So I'm sure that by that phrase she means, i needed to hate him to know my worth and have my self love as a little something, at least a single "rope" that i can hold on to, to get out of this hell hole"
selena is going to find someone so much better than justin
Samantha Sanders amen
Of course !!! Yummy Yummy
Samantha Sanders Niall Horan 😍
100%
Any man is better than Justin actually she is going to find someone that will DESERVE HER and that will treat her like she is RARE because she is
Justin and her were together for years and he married someone elese while she was suffering from kidney failure and searching for a transplant
What a As* = bad word...
I was crying when I first listened to this song... I felt her pain...
What a shitty thing to do.. I think he married his rebound. I hope not though.
Nikki Valine feel better...
Not just a kidney Transplant but, Lupus in general she’ll live with for the rest of her life. I know I have been battling lupus plus so many other illnesses lupus patients have to live with different issues forever.
Woman are so gifted in showing emotion. She does this so gracefully and it is soo impactful!
7:24 the HARDEST part in the whole music video that breaks me every time, that sweet smile... and it was soo nice to see the left guy (i'm sorry i don't know his name) smile with Selena. I had the exact same face when seeing that part of the video. Loved this.
I got chills seeing him smile with her
And the fed up expression she had, my best part
The song is about her relationship with Justin Bieber
Misty H Yaaassss!
Is it about him? He's gross.
I think soto
Of course it is like, the only thing it's missing is she to says "Justin" but it's not even needed, no doubt
@@donaldstorm4959 when they dated they were teenagers and it was a toxic relationship back and forth so yeah Justin is gross
She was in a very toxic relationship and most likely suffered narcissistic abuse. It starts slowly and you don’t realize it and you believe all the lies and manipulations. They make you feel crazy, punishing you when they don’t get their way, then blaming you and making you believe you deserved it while never caring about how they hurt you. ...or that you are ill or already going through something. It’s so hard to get out of these kinds of relationships because of the effects of the abuse and trauma bonding and it takes a long time to heal. I hope she is able to stay away from him. ♥️
Yup : '/
Relationships go 2 ways, the point is why did this toxicity took so long, in a way a narcissist cant execute without a victim, but narcissists also are victims in a way.
No more toxic relationship💜
Agreed! My bf was my bestest friend in the whole world and we just got each other and it is correct you love them and adore them that you forget you! Then the mental abuse happened and he was always right and I was always wrong, it’s mentally draining going round and round in circles doing there thinking and your thinking also, but he was a good soul as well! To this day I love him and miss the part where we where good 💔
Ileana Guerra - you’re right in that an abusive person must have a victim. When you’re young and idealistic, you think you can “help” that narcissistic- selfish person. So you stay and yes, allow behaviors that are sometimes- deplorable.
But... You grow and learn and hopefully get away. It doesn’t matter if it’s 10 months or 10 years, it’s important you learn that you can’t love someone into being a better human being. I respectfully disagree- a narcissistic isn’t a victim, but rather a manipulative and cunning individual, who preys upon the empathetic and kind hearted.
this song is so heartbreaking. when I first heard it my heart just completely broke for Selena. justin destroyed her. “In two months you replaced us” ... Sel and Justin got back together and were happy and then literally 2 months later he was with Hailey and then engaged to her ... poor selena. I was always a JB fan, but that was a dick move, and I am so happy selena is finally able to love herself again and I hope she never ever takes him back.
Yes, they did look happy when they went back together last time. She was kissing him while he was playing the ice hockey. They spent a quality time together too. It's shocking how things can change.
I guess he came back just to hurt her, it was intentional. He was angry because she dated the weekend and went public with him. I know his type, that dude is heartless, he wanted to hurt her with Hailey now he's stuck with Hailey. Karma
Justin will get his, he married a pig
This song is about her relationship with Justin Bieber. He was her first boyfriend but was a toxic relationship, Justin Bieber proposed and had a new girlfriend 2 months later braking up with Selena, he is now married to her.
Yeah, that marriage won’t last. PeriodT. Still a child.
Bob Smith right chill he’s moved on let them be happy
He was not her first boyfriend. She dated nick jonas and others before him
Selena is the first love and greatest love of justine
Can we take a moment to appreciate how beautiful these men are
Oh yeah!!
The eyes! Wow!
I love them
The only thing I hate about this song is that her ex knows that it is about him. It just drives his ego. I wouldn't want to see him get the satisfaction of knowing I'm hurting.
She’s good now tho.
It's good he knew
Alisha Kassi I agree.
No she was hurting years ago not anymore
@@gabrielcornelia9995 I think that we can all see that she is still hurting. You can see that
This song describes my relationship to alcohol.
Interesting!!!!!
It’s certainly is not it’s about Justin
This is how I feel about my addiction to ecstasy I was on for almost 2 years taken up to four to five pills a day I thought it was making me happy when all it did was drag me down now that I'm sober I see that
@@selinaross9179 his talking about for him we know it's about Justin but we all have something we relate to the song rather it's a relationship or with a relationship with alcohol and drugs that's how he feels he has a right to say how the song makes him feel in what he relates it to
@@mistyh8689 im glad you are sober now😊👋👋 Keep it up!!
Love this song... Finally got rid of a narscistic bf of 22 years...i had to lose you too love me... So true in any toxic relationship
Very very interesting that you say that!!!
Just got out of a relationship after 17 years. He decided drugs were more important. Wish it was another guy, I could understand that better.
@@themanwins8102 WOW!! that shocking!!!
I’m older, he is younger and never had any responsibilities, taking care of everything for him was probably my fault.
@@themanwins8102 OK I am the younger person in my relationship and we be together for about twenty years. not every relationship is perfect!!!!
These men are so attractive and how they react is so sweet.
These are good folk. You can just tell how pure their souls are.
I think a lot of time when ppl fall in love, they love the person more than they love themselves. If you are a self blamer you have to learn to hate that person so you can stop blaming themselves and learn to love themselves again.
stephanie anderson said perfectly ❤️
i really hope selena would see this video, and knows how she inspires people with her music
Its been over a year since the release date of this song and "2 months you replaced us, like it was easy" will forever stick with me.
I can't believe what she's been through.
What’s interesting about these two Selena and Justin is that they have written most of their songs about each other.
Selena has written many songs NOT about Justin. She wasn't even sure she would release this song.
These two are so thoughtful and kind
I love how one of you guys is paying attention to the lyrics and in the song's meaning while crying and the other one is like: "this was shot on a iphone"
I felt the same thing as Selena with my last boyfriend, he Makes me feel bad , but I'm so happy now I found my husband
The whole Rare album hits so close to home for me right now. But in this song and video, I just LOVE the acceptance on her face and in her voice at the end. She's at peace and is able to move on, and that's all we can hope for.
This is a powerful song ... Crazy how you listen to the song and your broken heart you thought was healed but the wounds resurface... I just rather not listen to the song and I can feel his hurt those tears are so genuine...
Yvette Rosales same!
Yeah, same. I think sometimes, it can be because we didnt get closure so those emotional wounds can still seem so fresh even if the hurt happened years ago.
You have no clue tho. Unless you know each of them personally and have spent days and days as best friends or something
I always have the same reaction as the guy in red shirt when Selena says *"and now the chapter is closed and done"*
I love it when Chris show us his Manic personality. he can be very jolly, moody, and emotional at time, but what I see is how beautiful Chris really are. People can wear makeup to appear fabulous, but when you're already golden inside, it flourish on the outside. You're very BEAUTIFUL to me Chris. #LYLT GUYS
I think the song is very positive because it is about coming into your strength despite a relationship that suppressed it and even found you willingly giving up your power. The song sounds like an examination of a past relationship that hurt deeply and was hard to overcome. She's looking at it honestly and sees how she contributed to how things played out, not just what the other person did in the relationship. Often times, songs can depict a victim/perpetrator type thing. This song doesn't do that. She lives in her strength now and can look at the relationship as a lesson learned. This is an excellent song that will resonate as long as human hearts beat.
This is the first video I’ve seen on this channel idk why it popped in my recommended. I honestly thought it was a troll at first but I’m so happy I watched thru you guys are so lovely.
This song hits me like a bullet. Im in the process of leaving a toxic relationship. And i do hate him and its for me. We’ve been through so much. A 23 year old shouldn’t be going through. Six years of bull..
hope u are feeling better❤
Found this a month later, I usually don’t play videos recommended by TH-cam but I’m glad I did with this one. The reactions of these two men was so pure 💛
I love how the end of song ends with with hope in her peaceful smile. She found closure, she has peace she ready to close that chapter. Move on
I wonder who else cried along with Chris thinking about their own memories? 🙋me..somehow i feel better 💃💃💃☺☺
YES I did!
🙋🏻♀️
@@sandraeliana11 I think most people did!!
i use to cry when thinking on past memories... but now, i dont cry anymore.....
I had more emotion at Chris crying than the song to be honest. Chris you have such a kind heart. Love you both! Loving the frequent reaction videos! ❤ xx
This song makes me cry every time because of the emotions
This is what happens when an artist truly expresses her real pain. Everyone feels it.
That was so cute when he said, you're my first & only romantic relationship.😍
This song was literally me and my ex’s relationship. It made me cry but I’ve moved on, and so happy with a man who knows how to treat a woman☺️💛
This really shows how talented Selena is. People who don’t know her understand her message
this song was about her ex whom she'd been with for years, who mentally abused her and cheated on her, and when they broke up for the last time, she was hospitalized, and he got married to someone else two months later which is why she said, "In two months you replaced us, like it was easy."
“I wonder what happened” he says😂😂😂😂 I love this
I Wonder too. But it seems like the Jb did things that even Selena understood lol
This song was about many painful events that happened in her life since the release of her Revival album, yes it's partially about her relationships, in a non offensive way, yet it's about a lot of other things, like how some of her own 'so called' fans bullied her, yet she is not directly calling anyone out. She also said that she tried to take the experiences in her life and make them more relatable to what goes on in normal life. She released the song for two major reasons.
01) To help people feel better, about what they are going through, helps them to not feel like the only ones, helps them to grieve.
02) For her own healing, she refuses to let anyone silence her voice, a lot of foolish untrue lies have been told about her, and she has the right to defend herself. Justin Bieber's fans have been bullying her aggressively online since late 2010, and the bullying started in 2009, when Justin said in a Radio interview that he thinks that Selena's pretty. In 2010 and 2011, a majority of them had sent her death threats, threats of violence, Justin knows how dirty they are, and he takes advantage of them and uses those fans of his for his own gain, no matter who it hurts.
Clearly Selena told him that she is releasing this song, Justin came clean on his instagram about what he did shortly before the song's release, in a way that his fans went after her, I am sure he knew it would happen too, just like the song he sang in for Chris Brown June 2019, was just a repeat of negative/fake online gossip that Justin's fans were saying about Selena. I highly doubt that was just a coincidence. Justin's cousin went on instgram live somewhat recently with a friend of his. They mocked Muslims while one of them was dressed like a woman, they said they were going to go and bomb Selena's house and so on. It seems like Justin's sister is the only nice one, in that family. She misses Selena a lot.
Selena is the kind of person that is unusually nice/unusually forgiving, then eventually she looses her cool and explodes over bad things happening to her, that don't get better. In Selena's case, with Justin, Justin was on hard core drugs while he was with her, and I strongly believe that they broke up repeatably because of his drug use, Justin has indirectly admited this by telling the world when he was on hard core drugs. I suspect that he started using the hard core drugs shortly after they got back together again in early 2013, in 2013 is when he started the hard core drugs. Hard core drugs are very abusive to the person taking them and to those around the person taking them. I think that what the drugs did to him and her destroyed most of the trust that she had in him, and in time after he stopped taking them, what little trust she had left in him was shattered. Some damage can not be undone. She has admitted that she has not dealt with the things that happened between them as well as she could of. Yet she is only human, and he has put her through a lot of BS. He has tried to directly sick his fandom on her once, at first it backfired on him, and most of his fans supported Selena. Then in time they went back to their dirty ways, hating on her.
This music video was made with 1 iphone, the 'Look At Her Now' music video they had iphones mounted from every angle.
I love this song. One of my favorite songs of hers.
This is definitely about herself, and her past relationship that turned out to be toxic.. I've definitely been through this myself.. I can relate to this song on very deep level..
*gives Chris a massive cuddle hug cause, I understand too*
Wow everyone in this world has the same pain and feeling, like our queen has.
These guys are so real. Such an honest reaction. Gentle giants these men are.
I’ve listened to this song before. But I cried with your reactions and the song this time. Made me think of my own experiences and I think it put perspective into it for many people as well. It’s funny how a song can change with different people and reaction channels. You two are amazing. ❤️
This hits differently to me than most people would think. This describes my relationship with my eating disorder but at the moment I haven't let it go but it shows what the process of healing from an ed is really like
Montana Guys this is about her relationship with Justin bieber and how he replaced her with someone else. In two months he married someone else
In two months he started dating someone else (at least that's when they were spotted together), they got engaged one month after that and married 2 months later.. so like 5 months after the break-up (which is still really fast)
This video hits me hard... since I was in a relationship for 5 years and the person I fell in love with changed into someone who I don’t recognize anymore. It was so hurtful that I’ve been dealing with depression and anxiety that I never had... this song I can do relate! So I agree you have to hurt like this to feel the lyrics. Love you guys 💕
This reaction is pure, I appreciate you guys being so real with it, please keep it up, these type of reviews are rare to find 👍🏻
Awwww Selena’s song made you cry ! Made me cry too. The song , video everything. I been there done rhat. It reminded of someone from years ago. I’m 100 all good now tho !!!
This is genuine. I love that you have no idea what really happened. You reacted based on your experiences and how it relates to you. 💗
Watching y'all react made me more emotional, lol.
Without fail, when she sings, "two months to replace us/like it was easy/made me think I deserved it/in the thick of healing," I start crying, every. single. time. The way she sings that part hits *so* hard.
I've cried when I saw this music video of Selena. I felt her pain because I went threw the same thing, was in a abusive marriage for 18 years. I felt every pain I went threw when listening to this song.
The video is about Justin Bieber...he was toxic and hurt her badly.
and he cheated on her when she was In surgery
@H D yes, that's surgery
Never heard her sing before... I'm impressed
This song when i first heard it hit me pretty deep once i really started to listen to the words. Because my most previous relationship was with narcissistic mental abuser who made things seem so perfect then turned on me and played with my hurt like a song and the sounds of my hurt were his moment of peace. On top of that he made me almost think that it was me that needed to change and that i was the crazy one. So this song is almost too deep for me to listen to at times.
Im crying . 😭 How many times i watched "reactions about lose you to love me ,but everytime i heard this song its really made me cry gosh.. my tears down to my face 😭💔
*and the "in the thick of healing" part has to do with when she was healing from kidney transplant bc of lupus*
You guys are awesome, like you both so much. Greetings from Guatemala central america
My heart goes out to the guy in red shirt if I was closer I'd give you a hug and not let u go
This is the very first video I have ever watched of you guys and I love this you have a new subscribe you two are so honest and I love it.
I cried alot when I listen to this song my heart so hurting for break up song coz me and my ex
I just found this video and I wish I‘ve seen it before. You guys are amazing and your reactions is so pure and honest because you don‘t know her and the story behind the song so this is just the purest thing and reaction.
i reacted to this on my channel and boy did it hit me hard. this entire year i have been in and out of a toxic relationship and i finally had to be done with it about 2 months ago... which killed me because i would've given that man everything. i would've married him and had kids with him but i quickly learned my self-worth and that i shouldn't allow someone to treat me the way he did. now i'm a totally different person, i have more confidence in myself and had to learn to love myself. so while the relationship was toxic, i had to go through that to come out a better person. great reaction guys!
This is the best reaction video I’ve seen!
Now everybody hates Justin😂😂😂
Never cared for him period
And always thought she could do better
But it's a lesson learn she's moving forward and healing. And he still stuck... being a Wipe. 🤷♀️
WOW!! yes this song plus chris talking about his past stuff made me cry!! WOW!! thank you Chris for sharing your little bit what ever past you had. Thank you Thank you!!
this is the cutest reaction of this song i’ve seen so far
The guy with the green hat on brought tears to my eyes... you have a beautiful heart.. 😁
You guys should react to Gomez's "Back to You" and "a heart wants what it wants" and that'll help give some context to this song. I agree with your "hate you to love me" critique. As we get older and wiser with experience, we realize people are messy. We never fall in love with perfect. Love makes us see imperfect as perfection, and Justin Bieber was going through his own bit of a life crisis. Hopefully, with time and experience, Selena will see that and truly heal in compassion that also releases herself from blame. Touching review, guys, from a fellow Midwesterner on the heels of the Ozarks.
Laurie Davies I get way more emotional to “ The Heart Wants What It Wants.” Those lyrics and that video are heartbreaking. I remember when it first came out, she would cry while performing it live.
Sara01977 Me too. It's such an amazingly raw and vulnerable song. Took a lot of guts for her to put that out. Especially with a line like, "Save your advice cause I won't hear." And knowing millions knew who that song was about and all their back and forth drama offering up their advice to "get over him." That is probably my favorite of Selena's. We've all been there.
Some people deserve to be hated. Especially some men that destroy, use and play a woman.
@@Jayy_sadWish you the best in your healing journey. Hope you’re further in it now.
Guys, I am so thankful for being brave and feel vulnerable on camera and show that this doesn't mean being weak as a man, nor means losing your manliness. You are showing a good example and I just hope this will be seen by men who struggle with anxiety.
Have y’all listened to Selena’s “Look At Her Now”?
From Brazil ❤️ Him crying made me cry 😭❤️
Oh shit, all this time I thought he was his dad😂🤦🏽♀️.
Wow. This took me months to figure out that they’re together.
Really?! this is my first time watching them....glad they found one another
Moron
This is really rude? And they look the same age so why you would think he’s his dad I have no idea. Try keeping your nasty comments to yourself I promise you nobody is impressed by them.
You know, thats really rude. It's clear they are together and this is my FIRST TIME EVER WATCHING THEM. and I knew right away.
Ive never watched their channel before and legit thought he was his dad too. People need to chill, not everything is that obvious..
Awe!!! I wish the best for both of you. And I can see the pain in your eyes. Thank you for being open about that. ❤️
First time seeing you guys! You're amazing! And your reaction made me cry!
The sincerity that comes from your reactions are are wonderful to see.
Haven’t watched the video yet but I wanted to comment because you guys are the coolest. You guys don’t kiss enough!!
Kiss and make out😜
1st time I watch you guys...WOW! I’m so surprise to see you being touch with the words of this song. I think we all go through a broken heart time, but even though we pick ourselves up, the pain stay with you.
I am with you Chris it set off a lot of emotions in me to, if you have lived as long as I have (71) then you have been in a lot of bad places in life when dealing with other people, all I can say to you is, when dealing with your current situation just hang in there and I think you have a pretty strong person in Russ to help you through it. love you guys .
What's crazy is I had no idea how much I needed this video. I knew about her song, and loved it, but the meaning changed for me because I'm going through something recently, that song is basically what I'm going through right now. I lost myself when I got sick 5 years ago, it shattered me like I had no idea was possible, and finding a life after a part of you is missing and can never get back, is rough. And jumping into a relationship because I felt forced to by family & circumstances, was a very bad idea. And 2.5 years later, after the start of the relationship, things degraded over time, the love faded, til there was nothing left but ice, which is where I found myself, frozen in time and in a toxic relationship. It took that long to hit me & wake me up. So her song changed meaning for me big time. I've started loving myself and finding myself again after 5 years of living like I'd given up and was ready for my illnesses to hurry up and overtake me. But treatments have changed my outlook, and even though I'll never be able to work in the traditional sense, and that my current relationship is ending, I finally feel relief and independence and like I'm ready to save my own ass. It's very bittersweet to me. But I did need to lose him to find me.
Chris, YES! It hits hard....😢
I love you both!💜❤💋💘💞💖💕💙💙💚💗💓
This is the most honest and beautiful review for this song I’ve seen.
I know this is a more serious video but when the guy on the right goes “Aw I wonder what happened?” 😂
Selena does this amazing thing making it bittersweet! You can tell her pain and sorrow but she pulls herself out of it in not a hateful way but a powerful way in its own right. It’s a true glimpse at someone who is still tender after a breakup.
Para las personas que hemos tenido experiencias similares, esta canción lo es todo
Me too 😢😢
Such great reactions from you guys! Thank you for sharing your ❤🤍💙
Finneas O'connel actually produced on this. billie eilish's brother who's also her co-writer and producer
Many women often give a part of themselves to love another. That is what Selena means by having to " hate you to love me." I thoroughly understand that lyric.
“We always go into it blindly”
“Story of my life”
“It was killing me softly”
“Sometimes not so softly”
HAHA LOVE IT
This is my first time watching Montana guys. Loved your review and your story behind it. I’ll be watching more of your reviews ☺️