As someone who is fat and in recovery from an eating disorder, I can confirm that permitting myself to eat cake, ice cream, sweets, etc. has taken some of the allure away from those foods. Sometimes however, my brain still wants to binge, but now I often find that a couple of cookies is enough; I don't feel compelled to eat an entire sleeve of them anymore.
I like how since the foods aren’t off limits, you aren’t tempted to binge, because you know you can have it again tomorrow if you want. And thus there’s no need to eat it all now.
Also fat and in recovery from atypical (I hate that term, sigh) anorexia and I second this. I didn't feel like it would work at first but IE has been amazing for letting me get out of the starve/binge cycle. I used to think I just couldn't be trusted around most food and now I hardly think about it on the better days (still working through recovery so not all days are great but more than not lately). I would definitely recommend anyone read the actual IE book and work with a HAES professional if they need more help. But it really does work, as backwards as it sounds, to take away moral judgement and feelings around foods and just give yourself permission to eat.
Annie Bellet I don’t believe in that term. Anorexia can be diagnosed in all body sizes and is relative to a set of behaviours. No shade, I was the same way until I was told recently that I have Anorexia; not OS-FED or Atypical AN. You’re doing amazing and thank you for sharing your experience.
I don't want to lose weight because of the "culture". I want to lose weight because my body hurts, I can't run up a flight of stairs without not being able to breathe. It's not because I want to alter my body so it looks Instagram pretty. It's so I can go on a walk without wanting to die. It's so my knees and hips stop hurting. Its for health reasons regardless if non diet large people have better blood pressure.
If losing weight is what you want to feel good and improve your life that’s wonderful. Too many people are chasing cultural acceptance instead of health when they set those goals. Do it with love and focus on health 🙂
K J. I'm the same. I am about 100 lbs overweight, and I've noticed that I get a lot of pain in my right hip when I walk for a long time. I think I wouldn't have that if I wasn't overweight. Also, I am at high risk of developing diabetes due to my weight. I also want to be able to walk up a flight of stairs without feeling winded.
That's exactly it, KJ!! Fat-Acceptance Culture proponents conflate "losing weight" with conforming to the "thin culture". That's wrong. Like yourself, many people lose weight to be able to play with their kids/grandkids, or get out and do and see the world without having to use mobility aids due to just being too heavy for their own body to mobilize on its own. :( Food addiction is insidious. Have you ever seen photos of morbidly obese people in Walmart or Costco, trying to get cases of soda while on their scooter, causing the scooter to topple over? They can't even walk, but the desire to get that sugar, which brings them "temporary shot of happiness" , is so overwhelming, they will do anything to get it. The problem with food addiction is, it takes more and more of the substance to get the same level of "rush", so you end up eating more and more calories, gaining more and more weight over time. Being fit allows you to enjoy so much more of life and feel great in your body. I feel for those people who will never get to experience how amazing our bodies can feel, or the amazing things it can do, because they think they cannot (or should not) lose weight.
In the absence of highly processed, highly palatable foods more like. The "foods" that are readily available today make us fat and unhappy, diet culture keeps us fat and unhappy. Blaming diet culture is a bit victim-blamey, whereas criticizing the diet and food industries is drawing attention to the actual problem. As always in life: follow the money to find out about the intricacies of an issue.
@@Iwasjustwondering89 do you have a job? Do you know anyone who has more than one job, or maybe goes to school and has a job? These are the people who don't have time to make their own food, and rely on readily available items for sustenance. You don't follow the money, you follow the demand. Also, it is perfectly acceptable and logical to be "FAT" AND HAPPY. Your words are fat phobic, so I don't think you understand what is really going on here...
I know I may be in the minority however as someone who works in food manufacturing, food companies make high palatable processed foods that most people will easily over eat because they taste good and are not satiating. This is true of many restaurants and take out as well. They utilize the right combination of fat, salt, and sugar to make food taste so good to us it overrides our natural cues to stop. I think we need a reform of our entire food manufacturing system if we really want to get at the root of why so many people in western cultures are "heavy" or "larger than normal". I know that eating whole foods is the ideal way to eat but when processed foods are so cheap and convenient it makes it very difficult to make better eating choices. Not to day processed foods cant be enjoyed, just not at the extent they are currently consumed by most.
I think you're right here, but that's not a contradiction with IE/HAES. Nothing in either of those approaches suggests we shouldn't pursue public health policies that nudge people toward more nutritious food choices and physical activity. What IE and HAES teach us is that approaches to health that are targeted on changing your body size through food restriction are completely ineffective at best and - in all likelihood - actually harmful.
My body knows that those processed foods don’t serve me so the intuitive approach works ~ but I wasn’t raised eating those foods and I know it’s different when your childhood diet was different. It’s a tough one.
I absolutely agree!!! Before I was vegan there were foods that were just soooooo good that even thought I was stuffed I still wanted to finish it because of how delicious it was.
I've commented this before, but as a fat person who has to live with weight stigma and experiences it every single day, I think it's really easy for you as someone who does not have to live this way to say that the number on the scale doesn't matter. It feels like gaslighting because it does matter. My weight has affected every single part of my life. I know that's what people see when I come into a job interview, when I try to date (my weight is literally the reason I'm still single), it's what gets brought up when someone is ending a relationship with me, it's what the audience sees when I speak on a stage. It affects ever part of my life and I don't think I'm a bad person for wanting to lose weight and be free. Finally be free.
I love that you say everyone can EVENTUALLY intuitive eat!! I feel like a lot of the disconnect between you and other weight/nutrition based channels (like people in the comments talking about Obese to Beast, etc) is that when you briefly mention intuitive eating you dont really touch on how long and intensive the path between eating disorder and intuitive eating can be. As a person who used to be overweight bordering on obese as a child, and anorexic throughout high school and college, I lost the ability to feel hunger and fullness on both ends of the spectrum at different points in my life. Since entering recovery, learning to work out in normal amounts, and using meal plans to regulate how many calories I eat in a day, I’ve been able to determine mostly intuitively how to eat what I need in a day to get to about 2000 calories and what I need to adjust based on macros, micronutrients, calories spent in exercise, etc. It does take years and can include a LOT of planning down to the last calorie for a long amount of time just to regain hunger and fullness cues. But all the years can eventually lead to intuitive eating if thats the goal you set for yourself. If anyone out there is on their journey to eat intuitively, just know it can be done!!! The years will be so worth it in the end :) Best of luck, and lovely video Abbey!
Same thing here. Was in the hospital for emergency surgery for weeks , didn't eat the whole time, didn't eat for weeks afterwards I was on a strict liquid diet. After I was cleared for foods my body wasn't working right still couldn't hold down food. Went back to hospital for another week. First time I saw people after all that people kept saying how great k looked since I lost all that weight.....I weighed like 100 lbs!!!
Me too! I was so sick I was literally losing a pound a day, couldn’t stand up, or sit up with out help, and had gone blind. I actually had a healthcare practitioner say other women would kill to lose a pound a day like me, while I was literally starving to death because of undiagnosed gasteroparisis - which lead to severe malnutrition which lead to other health conditions. So gross, I didn’t even have the strength to respond and I was in my underware on his table at the time.
@@NatsFan18 Bad take. I would rather not have a comment on my body at all than a compliment when I'm unhealthy. When I was recovering and became a normal weight, it took years for me to accept my body again because I was convinced that I had to be underweight to look good. Even when people said I looked healthy, I thought back to those comments that "[my] figure never looked so good" when I was underweight.
Well, many people don't dig in and watch a whole video. That's like the majority of people act. The part of problem is movement name though, which is partly misleading. If it would call "happiness in every size", there would not be problems at all.
@@beth8775Yeah, probably, but at least, less than now and a lot of misunderstanding would be avoided. I'd rather worry not about haters, but about people with obesity that misunderstand this (health in every size isn't healthy in evere size), because they also tend not to dig in. I'm not even talking about that in HAES community also exist toxic personalities that shame people who want lose weight.
@@dmytrandr I agree I recently took an Intuitive Eating class. The facilitator told use to eat what we want whenever we wanted. She also had a weight issue and body shamed thin peweigh from that class. She
When I was in the hospital immediately after having my twins they gave me an iPad with apps to order food, review my charts, call the nurse and other things like that. But you wouldn't believe what I saw there on my chart. Based on weight only, my chart said that I was there for obesity. Obviously nobody reviewed it and consider the fact that I had just carried to full term and pushed out two babies and was probably actually considered underweight for someone who had twins. I'm so glad that I didn't have postpartum depression and it even bothered me a little without that, but if their system is automatically adding that to every woman in the maternity ward then I can only imagine how that's making women feel and how it's making them distrust their doctors. I'm going to give birth again in November and will be at the same hospital so I think this time around if I see that on my chart I'm going to point it out to somebody and tell them that they need to find a way to change that in their system so it doesn't damage somebody further while they're already struggling with all their postpartum hormones
I’m really looking forward to this series. I’ve been told my whole life that I’m a bad person for not being skinny enough, and because I kept trying to diet, I kept gaining weight. Now, I truly am overweight, though not obese. I started working on eating intuitively over the summer after discovering your series, I have actually started to lose weight just by asking myself what my body actually needs me to eat. I don’t ever feel restricted and I’m feeling less and less guilty about the food I do eat, though some days are still a struggle.
Hey Abbey! I’m a future dietitian, and all the dietetic students here watch your videos religiously. Thank you for addressing this issue, as I want to make sure I’m sensitive to all my patients and their needs
George EX I plan on it! And yes, I’m very aware of the state of chronic diseases related to diet. I work in a nursing home, so I see the effects every day. I hope that my studies pay off and I’m able to help people turn their lives around!
I starved myself in high school, then became a binger. For me intuitive eating took some mental training, learning to have a healthy relationship with all kinds of food and it took A LONG TIME. This was after unconsciously doing Stephanie buttermore's 'all in', but intuitive eating would not have made me healthier as a binger as I still had that diet mentality.
Something that’s been bugging me is I don’t fully understand how to eat “healthy” without becoming prone to orthorexia. My efforts to eat in that healthy, balanced way spiraled some, and now I think I might be prone to that disorder. I came from anorexia and now I’m worried that I might be orthorexic. Could you touch on this in your series maybe? I love your videos by the way :)
As someone who used to fluctuate between binging and orthorexic behaviors, it will get better. One good mindset is adding foods rather than taking them away. For example, the other day I wanted corn dogs. There was also a salad in my fridge. So I had both!
I think seeking advice from a dietician would be helpful but I started out with just looking for foods that I like. I would go to the store and walk around saying oh I like bananas let me get those and I like nuts let me buy some of those. Also, I keep fun snacks in the house for whenever I feel like having them. I will keep chips and candy but I have found that I only want to eat them sometimes. I think it is just something that takes awhile to figure out what works for you. :)
I'm just over a month into eating disorder recovery using the "all in" method AND **IMPORTANT** UNDER THE GUIDANCE OF DOCTORS & A THERAPIST SPECIALIZING IN EATING DISORDERS (!!!) When I started, I was in an 'overweight' body (by BMI). I haven't weighed myself & don't plan to, but I have had to buy new clothes because my old ones are too tight. I'm probably considered 'obese' and if I had to guess I would say I weigh 200lbs (in a 5'7" body). I'm still learning to accept this. Want to know what else has happened? -> I have become better at healthy confrontation in my relationships, which are starting to feel more mutually respectful and nourishing (even ones that were previously difficult, like with my mother) -> I spend much less time thinking about food and much more time thinking about how I'm making my mark in my community and the world at large. -> I sometimes leave food on my plate, which was previously not something I did ..ever -> I sometimes go for walks or do yoga just because I want to! I'm still working on my relationship to movement, but I feel a shift starting -> I am less judgmental of other people's appearance and find myself being friendlier -> I don't feel like a victim anymore or like my body is holding me back. I know I can create the reality I want and my body is not an excuse to not do something that's calling me. MY BODY IS HERE TO HELP SUPPORT ME IN THE LIFE I WANT TO LIVE!! I have struggled to find information on 'All in' and Intuitive Eating from the perspective of someone in a bigger body (with an eating disorder that isn't anorexia) which is why I want to share this here! So that maybe someone will see it and feel like they can do it too :) Thanks for keeping this v important conversation going, Abbey! Love your channel, it is helping me immensely on this journey
As a fat person, I have had bad experiences with counselors and dietitians that practice HAES. My concerns about my joints hurting, sleep apnea due to excess weight, having mobility issues, and multiple other ways that being larger has impacted my life are greatly ignored and dismissed. They tell me I’m not allowed to talk about wanting to lose weight. I think HAES ignores the dialectic that we can work towards body-neutrality AND want to change our bodies. As I learn to love my body more, I more so want to take care of it and reduce the amount of fat surrounding vital organs and the extra stress it endures due to the extra weight. Intuitive eating can be great, and it helps a lot of people, but I think HAES is dangerous.
To be very honest, it's hard to intuitively eat processed foods. I suffer from PCOS and insulin resistance as well as overeating whenever stressed, and the insane hunger I experience after eating things like white rice, bread or pasta is something I cannot control. Not to mention the crashes. I'm perhaps a special case, but for people who already struggle with obesity and hormonal issues, we may have to resort to a whole foods diet with few, rare exceptions, in order to undo the damage. I found that a mostly vegan, whole foods diet has really helped me keep fuller for longer. It's incredible to me, but I now eat 2 meals a day, not feeling hungry in between. The only dairy I consume daily is kefir salad dressing and my latte. And well. yeah, I do cook with butter instead of olive oil (not sure which is better, if you can help me there I'd really appreciate it!) 50% of the meals being green salads with nuts. The other 50%, mixed veggies with some type of protein . I reserve animal products for the weekend and I make my own weekend dark chocolate bars with nuts, dried fruit, oats and bananas. I find that eating a little bit of each, and playing with textures, colours and spices has deeply enriched my eating experience.
My friend does bright line eating and lost a lot of weight, so I started adding more fruits and vegetables. I feel so much better. Then I started eating intuitively. I didn't want to have foods that I can't eat. It does not mean I eat everything I see, but now I can take or leave food which has always been a struggle. I am still working on being better at intuitive eating, but for the first time in years I am not struggling with bulimia. I used to hate the feeling of feeling full. I feel more in control of my life more than ever. Also I can not stand when people (who have seen my weight loss, but mostly due to intuitive eating) see me eat a popsicle and say oh no someone is being naughty. No its hot outside I bought a Popsicle. Relax. Intuitive eating would be so much easier if other people would stop treating food like its wrong. No wonder so many people binge eat in shame, because if they ate just one oreo someone might say something about it! If you struggle with food addiction PLEASE seek help. It is not an easy journey, but it is doable. Changing the way you eat and look at food is possible. The last thing is diet culture is toxic. Many people lose weight and are still ashamed of their bodies after or become more insecure. Fixing relationship with eating first will help your relationship with your body. Much love and positive vibes Thanks for this one Abby
Abby, there are a couple of TH-camrs that do "what I eat in a day" on poverty budge in order to raise awareness I think it's important that you review these. ♥️ Love your videos thanks for the education!!!
@@AbbeysKitchen Thank you Abbey! From someone who grew up hungry, thank you. You have a wonderful platform to raise awareness and to discuss how being hungry impacts everything from how well we can study to how well we can sleep and how it affects our health in the long run. I know you'll do a wonderful job. ♥️ The first two I sent are from Caitlyn Shoemaker. Everyone loves her and you may have reviewed her before...but I'll send you a couple more that aren't focused on vegan eating.
@@AbbeysKitchen the second link is probably the most realistic poverty style food. I couldn't find any real good Kool aid and bologna videos. I am guessing because people on that diet can't afford cameras, easily access Internet etc....
I used to love Abby, but she has gone in the wrong direction in several ways... I wonder wether this is her trying to make more money or if she actually believes the heas crap. At least she still promotes actual healthy eating (though for 'people in larger bodies' should lose weight to get to a healthy weight, no one has a set point of 300lbs...) I too, would love to see a discussion between her and "the four" (everydamndayfitness, swolenormous, obese-to-beast and michelle mcdaniel)
So she is “going in the wrong directionl” because she relies on evnidence based information? Those channels only speaks from their point of view. Evidence are suggesting that it is the extra calories that are the problem, not the weight itself. So if someone at 300 pounds decide not to gavn anymor, the fact that they stop over eating, Will improve their health, regardless of they’re going to lose weight.
@@TheAmariii Sumo wrestlers for instance can have lots of fat and still be healthy metabolically and cardiovascularly but most obese people are not that. They became obese because of maladaptive behaviors surrounding food and part of getting healthy would be dealing with those underlying issues. Most people would naturally lose weight if those issues were dealt with. I dont get the pandering to obese people and saying you can still be healthy as long as you maintain your weight. What if instead of eating more fruits and veggies they just eat a few less calories and end up maintaining on a SAD diet. That wont help them. Even people who are normal weight get sick from eating that diet. It is really important to impress upon people that being healthier includes changing their food choices at the very least. And a good part of health into old age includes walking. Having enough stamina to walk at least a mile would be a good benchmark for how healthy you have become. Just walking does wonders for the maintenance of your cardiovascular health. FYI a mile is only 2000 steps so its not that far.
Actually food addiction, like other addictions tend to be the result of low dopamine and is based on emotions. It's not necessarily the result of restriction.
Luca M lmao well that’s sure an over simplification, but sure. I would consider myself somewhat addicted to junk food and whether or not I’m already “filled up on legumes” doesn’t really mean I’m not going to eat the junk food.
Kelsey Doyle It doesn't mean you wont eat junk food, but when we get into the rhythm of healthy eating habits, like an adequate breakfast, lunch and early dinner, plus healthy snacks on hand, cravings for junk foods will be minimal. Its nice to have a glass of champagne and piece of cake for a birthday or special occasion, but their isn't some biological imbalance that causes us to eat junk food regularly. The wonderful thing about healthy eating, is that you can eat generous portions and eat to satisfaction, have great energy, calm nerves, you can have it all!
I always find myself referencing you for many presentations for my uni (I'm at my first semester in Nutrition and Food Science) and let me tell you, you are a big inspiration. I love how well structured your choice of words are, it shows how much you are passionate for this. Love you 💗💗
GILBERTO RUBIO VILLAFUERTE yes, I know that, but if you really want to reference her, don’t you think it would be better to reference her scientific papers - if she published any?
Emma M Using APA Reference allows me to use this platform as a source. OF COURSE I do my fair share of investigation using papers published by many Universities around the world + Many published books by doctors, registered dietitians, biochemists, etc. I use her acknowledgement as a plus to give some extra support to my presentations and to show that I want to be very involved around the Dietitian/Nutritionist community. After all, she IS a registered dietitian and what she has said in many videos can be verified by researching with reliable sources (depending the topic of course). Part of the moral of a dietitian is to provide information that it is accompanied by a previous investigation based on the Scientific Method and that corresponds with what has been published by the community of Health Sciences. I've also referenced other TH-cam channels like Khan Academy, Osmosis.org and AK LECTURES. As well, I've asked my teachers if I could used them as references and they didn't have a problem at all (They asked me to show the video, watched it and gave me the green light). Maybe my teachers are giving me a chance to use this platform as a tool because it's my first semester or whatever, but it doesn't mean that I will be able to use it further on my major, so who knows. But yeah, I just wanted to clarify that 😬 No hard feelings though. I'm open to constructive criticism. 🤗 So if you have anything to say, I'm all ears 👂
What about people with chronic illness that disrupts their hunger cues? or someone who has to take medication that causes their hunger and satiety signals to be off? I think this video has some GREAT information for people coming from a restrict/binge mindset but ignores other large portions of the population who are unhealthy or have unhealthy relationships with food for other reasons. Also I think it is REALLY important to acknowledge the role of processed and sugary foods in obesity. Diet culture isn't the sole reason for obesity. In the US at least, it is processed foods that disrupt people's abilities to eat intuitively, causing the weight gain, THEN causing repeated attempts at dieting. Again I think this video is great, but it comes at IE from only one angle when there are so many other health backgrounds to consider when giving advice on IE. But I assume your audience is mostly composed of those who have the binge/restrict background which is probably why you chose to approach it from this angle :)
Yes exactly! It's very frustrating that she is taking something that was designed for a very specific population (people recovering from anorexia or other restrictive eating disorders) and applying it to everyone despite it being clear the problem is overconsumption for most people, not restriction. If she honestly thinks 50% of the US population "restricted" or "dieted" themselves to obesity, type 2 diabetes, and heart failure she's living in a bubble.
@@jamient Right on. It's not that she's living in a bubble. She knows better. She's hoping her audience does not and that she can make them feel better. Her content is about feeling better, not the cold hard truth.
I’ll cover this more specifically to the IE population and I’ll speak more to this soon in the series but definitely there are health situations (ie think joint issues) that could benefit from weight loss, I’m not discounting that. However we still know that weight loss diets don’t work, so prescribing them is sticky. It’s a benefit risk analysis that should be done with a IE RD to help you navigate nutrition without falling into the restrictive patterns that often result in making issues worse. This is why we suggest IE which incorporates gentle nutrition without the shame or guilt. More to come. Hard to type lok
I believe no matter a person's weight they are valued and important. I believe every person's concerns should be taken seriously and not pushed off to be just about their weight. I also have worked in the geriatric field for a while and can tell you I see younger people coming into geriatric care facilities regularly because of obesity. Maybe their diseases weren't directly caused by their weight, but their lack of mobility was. Whether they couldnt lean down to dress themselves and put their shoes on, couldnt properly clean themselves or just couldnt fit into their shower/step over a tub (and couldnt afford a bathroom remodel), could no longer fit in their car to drive to doctor appointments, were no longer ambulatory, had become bed bound and were developing sores from so much skin on skin contact, they were using a cpap because the extra weight on their chest caused them to quit breathing at night, or they were needing to get out of bed with a hoyer and couldnt do that alone... they were losing quality of life. They had wished someone told them how hard it would be sooner. I would never shame anyone for their weight but when I have held patients crying because they are so hopeless from being bed bound, watching their muscles atrophy more everyday making it harder to move the extra weight, knowing they cannot physically exercise is they wanted to, feeling like it is there fault and like there is nothing they can do, hating that they hadnt taken their weight more seriously when they were physically able to, I feel like it's doing people a disservice acting like disease is the only dangerous thing about obesity.
Love the switch to person-first language. It’s such a small but important change (it makes a huge difference when talking about mental health) and I love hearing the switch for other medical terminology as well
I don't agree with you on some points, but I appreciate you taking the time to break down and clarify your views for everyone. Looking forward to the next installment in the series!
Bit of a long post and it may be triggering to those with an ed, but I wanted to share my story. I grew up with a family that constantly fat shamed my older sister, and when I started to gain a little bit of weight in high school, it was turned onto me. This caused so many issues to arise for me, including disordered eating and really just this obsession with looking “perfect”. At around 20 is when I really took a nosedive for the worst and would eat so little that I felt full from just a few bites of a meal. And the sick thing is that I was proud of this. Even though I’m 5’4 and my lowest weight was just 128lbs, that for me made my rib bones stick out so much that my bf at the time questioned if I was eating enough. Weight carries so differently on my body, and I’m still coming to terms with the fact that even though I’m 150 lbs now, I’m not fat, despite what the bmi measurements tell me. Abbey, thank you so much for your videos. I’ve always believed that because I’m not in the “healthy” weight range for my height that I need to lose weight. This has caused a lot of restrictive eating and binging patterns for me recently, when what I really need is to simply listen to my body. I cannot wait for this intuitive eating series and to learn more on the topic.
Intuitive eating saved my life. I would’ve continued to binge... on junk food... every. single. day. The harder I tried to control it, the worse it got. I was always making plans - to try a new diet, to fast, to restrict... “I’ll start tomorrow”. It never happened, of course. But the intention to restrict alone pushed me to eat and eat and eat. It was awful.
I feel like this intuitive eating thing is more geared towards people who are obsessed with loosing and gaining 10 or 20 lbs but still relatively healthy. As someone who is over 200 lbs and already has health issues like diabetes, I feel like this would just make the health issues worse or maybe I just dont understand how exactly one is supposed to regain health, forgetting about weightloss for a second, but just regaining health and be able to get off all this medications
Yes, I agree. I am still in the 240s (but working on it!), and despite eating pretty healthy, there are days where I just need to force myself to eat vegetables despite what I feel like eating. I appreciated hearing a more detailed breakdown, despite disagreeing on some points.
I'm also over 200 pounds but I eat intuitively and all of my other health levels are perfect. In fact, my doctor told me to keep it up. Cholesterol, blood sugar, blood pressure, all perfect. Weight isn't the only indicator of health. As she said, health problems that overweight people tend to have are correlation, not causation.
@@jessicamann6258 right I get that. But I'm talking about someone who already has all of this conditions and how to go about fixing them without relying on counting calories or counting carbs. I'm not even talking about weight at this point. Just hot to regain health when u already have diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol
I just made a video about this on my channel, but you're kind of right in most cases. Intuitive eating is fantastic for maintenance for a healthy or nearly health person but does not guarantee weight loss or weight gain if that is what your body needs to be healthy. For example, someone who is severely underweight due to chronic undereating should not be trying to eat intuitively if their hunger cues naturally cause them to eat only 900 calories per day. I've seen this happen with many young girls and encouraging them to eat intuitively is dangerous. Same goes for those who are overweight. Imo, tracking macros/calories for a while is SO important just to learn about your food intake and what your foods are composed of. From there you can start to make healthy changes to get to an optimal weight and oftentimes eating intuitively won't help with that until you're closer to your healthiest weight
Fellow dietitian here, Abbey! I have really been enjoying all your videos lately and am so proud to see your channel grow! To all the viewers, it is really hard to accept HAES and intuitive dating approach when you first hear it. I remember going to a speaker in my second year of nutrition (about 6 years ago) and thinking the presenter was sooo out to lunch... It hasn’t been until this year that I have fully embraced the approach. It takes a long time to change your beliefs when it has been engrained in you since you were a child. Keep up the good work!!
Did I cry watching this? Yes, yes I did. After struggling to love my body after my babies, despite “doing everything right” and going to work “feeling fat” I so desperately needed this today.
I like that you’re addressing that it’s not a new diet and not a quick fix. It is getting back to what is right for our bodies, so we decide what that is.
I agree with all of this! Fat shaming, whether it’s teasing or serious “we’re saying this because we care...”. It’s always frustrating and does not help. My stubborn nature has kept me from the bulk of fad quick weight diets, and I believe it has helped - my blood pressure, cholesterol and blood sugar are all well within normal ranges. It doesn’t matter to most because of the way I look.
I am 5'1, I went from being 158lbs to 135lbs in 3 months. I did it by dieting mostly. My flexibility now is incredible, and I was not working on that while I was losing weight. Just having a smaller body has greatly improved my movement even though it was a small change, I can't imagine how much of a change it would make for someone who is 300lbs+ please encourage overweight people to try and become healthy and lose weight, it drastically would improve their lives
I think that the main focus of the video and of intuitive eating is to eat healthy and to cover all your nutrionional needs and to not demonize certain foods, and live without fear of carbs, in order to keep a Balanced diet, it is to learn jow to properly eat. If someone follows that rule and complement it with exersice weight loss can be achieved.
I loved this video so much! I'm literally sending it to a bunch of friends that always ask me these questions. I'm still in the process of learning about Intuitive Eating and Health at Every Size and I share what I know as much as possible. This video will help me do that! Thank you! I appreciate all the time and effort you put in these videos!
as someone who is larger bodied, has done ridiculous diets, and has experienced eating disorders this is so amazing and im so glad u addressed all of that in peoples ability to eat intuitively. its so much more complicated than to "just do it" when it comes to eating in general because its all so ingrained in your life and so many factors tie into it.
One of my questions, which stems from my own insecurity and fear, not taking a stab at Abbey or others is: Why do dieticians that prescribe IE, and I've listened to a lot of them, all look like the ideal social norm body type and when they tell you what they eat in a day it's ALWAYS super healthy foods?
Abbey, I can’t even begin to explain how much you’ve helped me. I was always the chubby kid and experienced so much weight stigma from school, friends, family, doctors, the whole world. My mom has struggled with weight loss for as long as I remember, yo-yo dieting and turning to slim fast and similar weight loss products. Basically I had the ever-looming idea that being bigger was bad and that something was wrong with me. I starting binge eating so young and wishing I was skinny. After struggling with dieting and weight as a young adult, your videos have helped me tremendously in accepting my body, unlearning the toxic diet culture and helping me mend my relationship with food. Thank you!!
Hey abbey. I’m a public health student with a question: You keep saying the research is flawed in showing causation between weight and disease. What about diseases such as breathing issues and strained joints due to higher weight? Wouldn’t these be causation, not only correlation, or no? Love your videos ❤️❤️❤️
Or estrogen-sensitive cancers? Don’t get me wrong, there is too heavy of an emphasis on people having a normal BMI for good health. And in many conditions, people see benefits from losing just 5% of their body weight (rather than hitting a “normal” BMI). But like you said, some conditions have a more likely causal relationship with obesity than others!
Yes, I have to agree. Obesity has been linked to type 2 diabetes, and heart disease/inflammatory diseases as well. Again, people don't have to become stick thin, but losing some weight can alleviate or cure the disease (especially Type 2 diabetes). So I'm not sure what Abbey means about the flawed causation between weight and disease.
Maddy Lewis obesity is a symptom. In my research and personal experience, obesity can be a symptom of insulin resistance. Excess insulin can throw off homeostasis in a lot of body systems. Homeostasis being disturbed is the cause of most chronic disease from a high level. So someone obese without hormonal issues related to insulin or inflammation could in theory be healthy and not plagued by disease. However for me being obese has wrecked my health even when i was a teenager. It’s unfair to blanket obesity as a for sure chronic disease sentence.
@@Jleigh225 wait, I studied that obesity or a high-fat diet are risk factors for insulin resistance. The insulin resistance is the symptom, lifestyle, diet, genetics and other possible conditions are the causes. Not the other way around. The insulin resistance is the first step to diabetes, but is reversible by losing weight. I'm not saying that it can't be correlated to a weight gain, but the problem is the caloric surplus. Please correct me if I'm wrong
I think overweight is the best way to discuss it. I would absolutely never want to be called fat and I feel like it’s dangerous having a few prominent people in the body positivity community say that it’s ok to call someone that. I would so rather a medical professional say that I’m overweight cause that’s a fact. It could even be broken down to slightly overweight, moderately, and significantly overweight. I think that’s so much more respectful.
Abbey, I think you are incredible. My relationship with food has been ‘complicated’ since I was young. Watching your videos, alongside my own research and recovery, has been extremely beneficial. Thank you!
I never restricted my foods in the past and it led to me being obese. Not the other way around. As a?child or teen i never stressed or restricted my Eating or foods... my disorder is wont stop eating. I love food and will just keep shoveling it til im sick and now "morbidly obese" bottom line i have to cut my self off at some point. And if you're like me know you're not alone or wrong with giving your self boundaries.
When I was in middle school/high school I wanted to lose weight because I felt like I needed to look a certain way. There were times where I was afraid to eat in front of other people and I let food have so much control of my happiness. I'm in college now, and I still want to lose weight, but now for completely different reasons. I don't care so much about my size anymore, but more about my overall health. In the past three years of my life, my mom, dad, and other close relatives of mine have had major health complications because of their unhealthy eating habits. So while going down a few sizes may be a plus, it's not a huge concern for me. I want to be the one in my family who won't have to let these health complications get in the way of their lives, I want to be able to be active with my future kids, and I just want to feel good. I am very grateful for channels like Abbey's because they remind me that I am perfectly normal and will have ups and downs but in the end, I am valued and loved and should never punish myself for who I am or what I eat.
As someone who's dealt with disordered eating since childhood (binging, food addiction, orthorexia, and restriction) who's now in early recovery, I know I'm simply not ready for intuitive eating. Believe me, I'd love to get to a place where I'm able to eat a nutritionally balanced diet that also incorporates all of my favorite foods and trigger foods in reasonable amounts. But not all restriction is bad, and I currently have to restrict a few foods because I know eating them usually leads to me binging. It's not because I attach some sort of moral value to those foods and see them as forbidden. I know I'm allowed to eat whatever the hell I want, but I also know it doesn't seem to work well for me when I try to incorporate certain foods into my diet with any regularity. For me, it's an exercise of self-love and honesty to admit that keeping foods like bread and ice cream in the house is bad for my mental health. I really don't care what experts agree on or can properly name yet. Many of us deal with food "addiction" on a daily basis and it's not simply a response to restrictive behaviors. These issues can look similar to the way drug addiction presents itself (of course drug addiction might be stronger and is more imminently dangerous, but that doesn't make food addiction any less of an addiction). Certain foods in particular have biologically and psychologically addictive qualities, such as refined sugar and flour. Even people without a history of food addiction have problems limiting their intake of highly processed foods. If you're a person who has no difficulty with this, you're very lucky and actually the odd one. I agree that diet culture is very toxic and unhelpful, but that doesn't mean that no meal planning is ever needed and we can all eat intuitively. Our bodies are not "wise" and "all-knowing". Intuitive eating is simply not for everyone, and that's okay. I wish people would stop acting like it is. I really enjoy your videos, Abbey, but I find that you gloss over and invalidate the lived experience of people with eating disorders and mental health issues, even when it seems like you're trying to sympathize.
Thanks for this. I will try harder to Articulate my empathy and understanding. Is there something I could say that is encouraging but doesn’t undermine these experiences?
@@AbbeysKitchen Hey, Abbey, thank you so much for taking the time to reply! I want to say that I really appreciate your videos and love how much you speak out against the toxicity of diet culture and body shaming. The idea of prioritizing self-care and changing one's relationship with food OVER losing weight, is difficult to digest (pun intended). I'm currently in the midst of recovering from out of control binge eating (with no restriction), and trying to lose the weight I gained so I'm no longer technically obese. Unfortunately, when I try to eat intuitively and allow myself to eat essentially whatever I want, the amount of very rich, and/or processed foods always gradually increases, or I find myself binging because I've given myself "permission" to eat as much as I want. I can't speak for everyone with eating disorders, but this is my experience and not an uncommon one. I probably need to work with a psychotherapist before I'd consider intuitive eating. Anyway, to answer your question, I guess you could perhaps acknowledge in your videos that intuitive eating might not be a one size fits all approach, particularly for those who come from a background of disordered eating or are currently struggling. Also, you could perhaps acknowledge how complicated our relationships with food can be, and that some people's desire to overeat is due to a need to self-soothe. Our stress level/mental health issues often shape our relationship with food, and those issues might need to be dealt with first. To complicate matters, some people, myself included, were never even taught how to properly feed themselves in early life by the adults who were supposed to be making sure our diets were nutritionally adequate. We had to learn all about nutrition and normal portion sizes as adults. I've tried looking into the most current peer-reviewed research on intuitive eating, especially how it relates to eating disorder recovery, and the information is scarce. But even without that data, I'm highly skeptical of the idea of one particular way of eating being the ideal for everyone. Do you know of any current research that discusses intuitive eating as a tool in eating disorder recovery itself or as it relates to those in long term recovery? Is there a particular intuitive eating expert you'd recommend who's inclusive of people with eating disorders? I get the sense that anorexia nervosa has been studied far more extensively than binge-eating disorder, since the latter is newly recognized. But anyway, thanks again for your content, reply to my comment, and for reading this, if you've made it this far.
Love love LOVE this video!! So much positivity and such good messaging! Love the emphasis on “person first language”. As a healthcare provider it is SO easy to fall into stigmatizing language without even realizing it, and this was a great reminder to step back and put the person first. I cannot wait for your intuitive eating series!! I would also LOVE a video, or even a series, about raising body confident kids! My son is only one year old but I really want to do everything I can to make sure he grows up body positive and learns to have a healthy relationship with food!
Thanks for listening to your audience @abbeysharp I made a question about intuitive eating a while ago and for some reason I knew you would eventually reply. May not be the answer some of us expected and it does not mean we will all now agree on your take regarding the subject but I truly respect the fact that you listened and took time to prepare this video in response to our questions. It shows how much you respect and take our feedback. Thanks x
I shared this video with my coworkers because one of them has been talking nonstop about her diet and fitness obsession lately and not only are the rest of us concerned for her, but it's also toxic diet-culture talk that I don't want to hear anymore and it's causing me to question myself in relation to my attempts at being more body positive with myself. I found this video so informative and fun, as I do all of your videos! Thank you so much for all that you do.
I went into this with the mindset to not agree at all and I'd say you explained yourself so well. Thank you for sharing your point of view it has provided a lot of clarity!
There are plenty of studies that strongly suggest CAUSATION with obesity not just correlation, including ones over the pandemic. I disagree also based on personal experiences. I ate MORE fruit and vegetables when I was overweight and had severe abdominal obesity and it caused prediabetes fatty liver, when I lost fat & gained muscle through dropping calories & exercising, I was much healthier.
Isn't obesity more a result of privilege than being thin/ lean? Historically speaking the privileged/ royalty is often pictured being overweight, especially for that time. But I guess we need to keep that victim mentality going.
Becky Riesinger it is absolutely a result of privilege. I really hate the victim mentality of the fat acceptance movement for literally complaining they have the privilege and ability to over eat for years when much of the world doesn’t have access to such amounts of food
I've had this video in my watch later list for too long! Glad I finally watched it, and I am yet again grateful for your content! Thank you for sharing this with us, Abbey!
I have struggled with food and was obese for most of my adult life. Over a year I have slowly lost 20kg and have really been trying to have a healthy relationship with food. This video made so much sense to me and was so relatable. Thank you so much for all the videos you make!!
I have an anecdotal story for around minute 11. I was prediabetic, my blood pressure was increasing, I switched to a plant based diet, lost no weight and my fasting blood sugar range is now 20-30 points lower and I am no longer suffering bouts of low blood sugar. My blood pressure also improved. I can definitely see the impact. Now I am focusing on trying to get in touch with my body's hunger cues and exercising in my favorite way (hiking out in nature) and strength training. I am seeing weight loss and look forward to improved health.
Have you considered reacting to ADIF (alternate-day intermittent fasting) videos from people like Rachel Sharp? I know you’ve addressed intermittent fasting at large, but I really enjoy your WIEAD review format, and I’d love to get your thoughts!
One of THE best videos I have seen in years on TH-cam. As a former food & carb addict, emotional eater & as someone who has been "dieting" for over 30 years, I THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!!
We have an epidemic of obesity and type 2 diabetes in the US. We know that these conditions are problems that reduce the quality of people's lives. We should not shy away from recognizing and naming these conditions even though doing so may hurt people's feelings. Everyone has to deal with reality. If we look at overweight and obesity rates in the US over several decades and generations, it's clear the we are getting fatter. And many Americans are unhappy about this. They ate *intuitively* in an environment that is filled with toxic junk food. They didn't have to *think* about their food choices. This is the definition of intuitive. And each year, they gained a pound or two or more. And over the years, it added up to the point where they were overweight and then obese. And they grew unhappy when they realized what had happened to their bodies. And diet culture was born. As flawed as diet culture is, diet culture did not make us fat. As frustrating as dieting may be, properly planned and executed diets -- not crash diets -- are not bad for our health. Restriction -- avoiding certain foods (like alcohol) -- may benefit our health. The unfortunate underlying tone of this video is to suggest that everything's okay -- that being obese is the new norm and that eating oneself to obesity is not a problem. It is a problem. Real problems require real solutions. We have to recognize that navigating our current environment and culture in relation to food requires caution and may require us to *think* carefully about the options we have available to us on a daily basis.
George EX Like I said. Go check your history. Fad diets started being written about as early as 1830 with a high fiber diet then 1863 with a low carb diet. And so on.
This was so good ❤️ I’ve always been average- so I always restricted myself out of fear of gaining weight. Because “healthy” was demonstrated to me as women who eat like birds. When I started eating intuitively I gained 10 lbs, but I never felt stronger and more energized in my life. (I was finally getting the right amount of protein and healthy calories.) It’s been a journey- but I can’t wait to teach my daughters how to actually feed their bodies. My relationship with food has greatly improved and so has my quality of life.
I don’t think dieting is always the reason for poor eating choices. I gave up on dieting for 2 years and began “mindless eating”. I would over eat and snack on unhealthy food to cope with stress or boredom. No foods were “off-limits” in my mind. I gained 25kg, and would have kept gaining if I hadn’t stopped myself and started to focus on changing poor habits. I value intuitive eating, but I don’t think it’s fair to say everyone who isn’t eating intuitively has a “diet mentality”.
Samantha thanks for that! Sometimes this mentality isn’t just about restriction, it’s a deep seeded frame of mind that moralizes food. I’ll be speaking with some colleagues on how to best articulate this
Can confirm, as soon as I stopped worrying about my weight, I began healthier behaviors. I got enough courage to join a sport without worrying if I was "too fat". I exercise to gain flexibility, improve my athleticism for the sport, and for energy and enjoyment instead of weight loss. Abbey, thank you for this video. I suspect it'll be a shit show in the comments because people really don't want to believe this stuff, but it's absolutely correct.
Do you really believe that people don't want to believe intuitive eating? I think just about everyone would rather ignore calories and satisfy their cravings. Problem is, in this environment, people have a lot of poor food choices to choose from and there may be consequences in the long run for those choices.
@@general_electrics However, if a person doesnt to demonize or restrict those choices then the appeal lowers and people don't restrict, binge, repeat. Instead they develop a healthy relationship with food and eat those less than beneficial foods moderately instead of excessively.
@@jessicamann6258 There are a lot of assumptions behind "restrict, binge, repeat." Not all people become overweight by restrict, binge, and repeat. In fact, I would argue that most people simply skip to binge. And because foods are designed to be addictive, their brain doesn't stand a chance. Eliminating certain foods altogether can help people to maintain a healthy weight. Knowing how those eliminated foods are no good for one's health can promote better choices that do not lead to cravings for clearly detrimental choices.
@@general_electrics I didn't say that people get overweight from restrict, binge, repeat. Your comment seems to assume that everyone starts at a lower weight, and then eats themselves to being fat. But that's not how it works. Look up set point theory. However, restrict-binge-repeat can cause someone to lose weight, gain even more than they weighed before, and binge on "junk" food. If someone is intuitively eating correctly, they won't eat solely "bad" or "junk" foods.
As a overweight male I don’t think being thinner is a “privilege” but I can tell you the clothing thing is real and even more so trying to find clothes for sports, so you are told to exercise but then you are lucky to find a company that makes clothes for by given sport you want to play to get in your exercise. Not to mention that when people see a fat person they assume they are lazy or unintelligent. I’ve fought my weight for years now and we really need to be holding highly processed food companies accountable for the addictive quality they are putting in there food. That being said I’m a massage therapist and I practice Jiu jitsu and enjoy cycling so if any over weight individual is reading this and needs clothes for those given sports I have suggestions.
There's nothing wrong with the word obese. I myself am morbidly obese and even though I¨m not happy about it, that word describes me. It just is the truth as much as any other chaaracteristics I have, like being right handed, it's just a term to descibe something.
Thanks for sharing! If it doesn’t offend you then amazing! But since I work in this field I just am sensitive to what I hear can feel stigmatizing, and a shift in language really isn’t a burden to me
@@AbbeysKitchen But don't you get the feeling that this change of language is leading to more problems? I think that this is becoming a problem of itself to be honest.
Thank you Abby. Intuitive eating changed my life. I was diet and weight obsessed with losing weight my absolutely only goal, passion and desire. I was fucking miserable and was using weight, food, and dieting as a way to deal with my emotions and anxieties. The bullshit thing about was I was always a normal size lol. So really it does affect us all. Nowadays I consider myself an intuitive eating veteran but honestly with all the marketed diet culture shit we are exposed to every fucking day, having more reminders on what actual health is and what actual healthy eating is, is more than welcome. I'm super excited for your intuitive eating series!
Love this video and so excited for the series! I would love to see you discuss metabolic issues associated with PCOS, diabetes etc and can intuitive eating be attainable for folks with these conditions?
I work in the eating disorder field and just attended a presentation about bridging from a meal plan over to intuitive eating. One really interesting takeaway was that, in some treatment centers, clinicians are moving away from the term "weight restoration" in favor of the term "nutritional rehabilitation." I really like this as it takes away the emotional connotation of "weight" and removes confusion and shame for those in larger bodies who may feel they do not need to "restore" weight if their body is at or above a "normal" BMI. Everyone with an ED is malnourished in some way, regardless of weight or body size. I think this is a great language shift!
I noticed a big difference in how doctors interacted with me when I gained weight. Especially younger doctors (UK), say those under 35. For example I went to the doctor about unusual for me breathlessness, including breathlessness when sitting on my sofa! And also with a huge difference from day to day (some days getting breathless, other days not/less), and the doctor literally said to go away and loose weight and if I was still breathless to come back (and also if something drastic happened in the meantime to be fair). I was in the “overweight” section of her chart, not the “obese” section. Probably around 13-14 stone, a UK size 14/16 (US 10/12). Not shaming anyone else, just saying that although “overweight” and admittedly not as healthy as I’d like, me telling her something was unusual for me was dismissed as being weight related. This is the most obvious example but the overall mood of being essentially “told off “ about my weight has been a pattern and TBH I choose the doctors that don’t do this. Ironically these are the doctors who have come through the newer training system that is supposed to be more patient centred. I’ve also seen poor trainee doctors who clearly don’t want to bring up weight etc with a patient twice their age but must have been told they have to, and so awkwardly bring it up. And bless them I really feel for them, they feel so uncomfortable doing it. Good instincts guys, you can feel that something is “off” in what is being asked of you. Don’t loose those instincts and become too hardened.
I am so happy intuitively eating. Im so lucky my bodies intuition is to eat predominantly vegetables and fruits. Coming from such disordered eating to somewhat normal has saved my life. I have been sharing your videos and talking about intuitive eating to others as well :) i really love your videos and your approach. You never ever tell anyone what to do and you always seem to have understanding of everyones choices and opinions. You show lots of respect to vegans and other diets and are always honest. Thank you 🖤🙏
"in a larger body"... ugh. A 5-foot-tall woman has a small body, and if she's carrying 100 lbs of adipose tissue, she still has a small body. A 180 lb, 6'3" man has a large body. Adults' bodies do not change size, but they can change composition as a result of our daily routines. If we're agreed that being fat is not in itself a character flaw, and I think we are, then why are we avoiding using the word fat? Or obese? It's not an insult.
Jessalyn Rogers fat has been reclaimed by the movement but a lot of people in larger bodies don’t like the word obese as I mentioned in the video. We all can call it whatever we want but since I work in the field I try to be sensitive to this
@@AbbeysKitchen ''a lot of people in larger bodies don’t like the word obese''....well tough cookie they don't like it. Obese is literally a medical term. So you're refusing to use medical terms for the sake of feelings? Imagine if doctors did that.
If doctors considered patient feelings, many of them would be more inclined to open up about their issues and get help, this is what Abby is doing, elevating the feeling of guilt that come with a larger body to be able to truly focus on our health and what we are giving our body in terms of nutrients
eve winter as a medical term it should be more limited in its use. in the same way that anxiety or depression shouldn’t be used flippantly. Me calling someone obese is incorrect because I don’t have access to their complete medical history. I am not a doctor. Abby can’t use specific words in a general setting like TH-cam. She can’t diagnose over a video.
@@jessicabaros9803 There's no diagnosis needed when you are talking about obesity as a nutritionist because you are talking about it as a general topic, you're not talking to one person. Nobody talks to a single person on a youtube video. Her refusal of using correct terms just shows that she's more interested in not offending anyone for the sake of making money, instead of actually trying to help people. You can't help people if you don't identify the facts. You can help your wallet if you sugarcoat them tho. That's exactly what she's doing. It's transparent.
HI ABBEY! TW // Food, Eating Disorder I just realised this was uploaded on my birthday and I came back here to tell you how this whole "Intuitive Eating" has helped me a lot. I used to have eating disorders (I was obsessed with laxatives and I used to work out to a point my body was in actual pain, I was also obsessed with "health" foods). I do still struggle with coping with the whole eating disorder thing but I am making progress because I am slowly starting to learn about my body and food. By intuitive eating, I actually gained a lot more strength, my hair started becoming thicker again, my skin was glowing. I used to be afraid of eating a cookie to a point that I would cry or have anxiety attacks once I finish a whole pack of cookies. Now, I just have the damn cookie when I want and I was so satisfied and it's funny how much intuitive eating can change the way you see food. I also realised that I am able to exert more strength and be more motivated while working out. It used to be so hard for me to do yoga when I wake up even though I've been doing yoga for the longest time. Now, I can stay in my poses longer and I can even engage my muscles to a level I did not expect before. Nowadays, I work out more because I have energy and I love that boost in my mood when I work out, I do yoga in the morning 6 days a week then I do pilates and some slow jogging in the evenings. For some, it can seem a bit much but for me, it makes me so happy that I am excited to go for a 10-minute walk without worrying about losing energy halfway! I didn't even realise I actually lost some inches, I don't use the scale much until I need to go to the doctors. Even though my ultimate goal from this was not to lose fat but to gain more confidence and strength, I did lose some fat! But I wasn't gaining it again, the weight I kept off remained off through intuitive eating because I knew what I wanted and what I needed. Like- I realise that I am able to listen to my body when it's both hungry and not hungry. There are certain days where I don't feel hungry until I want to eat and some days, I want to eat. Having mental health issues certainly does make it hard for me to actually distinguish between it but it's still good progress. I am now also not afraid to supplement as well because I used to be afraid of supplements. Since I eat plant-based mostly while intuitive eating, I listen to my body when it wants an extra boost. Sometimes when I look at pregnant people and how they crave and how the foods somehow turn to be important for the person and their baby, somehow that applies the same way to us and it took me so many years to realise this. I wish I learned about this a long time ago, I am still trying to make some progress with dealing with my disorders but I am maintaining a positive mindset and have to be more accepting of fluctuations! Thank you for your videos and teaching me that I can be healthy while having a good relationship with food and having a good relationship with my body, no matter what size it is.
The oversimplification ... healthy at every size is not a real thing. It's a great idea, but it's not real. As I said in another comment here, I am morbidly obese. I don't have any major chronic problems, there's generally not much wrong with me .. yet I have a raging binge eating problems. So I could just say "I'm healty at my current size" and go buy more cake, or I can actually try to do something. Even tho the physical damage isn't prevelent yet, I am very aware of how this affects my mental health. I understand that you're trying to do a good thing and encourage people to take care of themsemlves, but to recommend intuitive eating to an obese person is a really, really bad idea.
Klára Krčková like I said, I’m not suggesting that everyone can jump into IE right off the bat. They may need some structure at first to learn to fully trust their body to get there, and that’s what working w a IE RD can help with.
Klára Krčková I’ve struggled with overweight and overeating most of my life. I had an eating disorder when I was a teenager and there I could lose much weight that eventually came back through the years. What I’ve learned is that IE is a long term decision that can correct the problematic relationship we have around food and eating. Ok, yes, traditional diets and structures can work faster and help to lose potential problems related to weight, and it’s important to educate ourselves about nutrition, but if we don’t correct the way we see food/eating, the unhealthy patterns will prevail for the rest of our lives.
@@eliade356 I'm not saying that it's not a valid tool. It is, of course. But not for everyone. If you're so far gone as I am right now, this can not help you. This is just my opinion of course.
@@klarakrckova4362 "Health" at every size really means taking part in healthy behaviours regardless of your body shape or weight and feeling comfortable enough in yourself to pursue healthful activities (example, going to the gym without feeling shame around your body image). If you struggle with binge eating or compulsive/emotional eating, I strongly recommend you work on that along side IE. For someone who uses food as a crutch in their life (like me), IE will be very difficult. It's important to learn other ways of coping with stress or anxiety, otherwise you will struggle to eat for hunger and fullness. If you can afford one, I recommend seeing a therapist. I've been working with one and reading "Well Nourished: Mindful Practices to Heal Your Relationship with Food", if that book connects with you.
@@eliade356 my grandda says fuck off and drank hinself to coffin. If we put him off alcohol and toxic drinking events, he could BE still alive. U wouldn't let a psycho patient with history of murder running around right? When doctor told u, ur obessed, loose weight or death, ppl around them give support like don't buy high calorie food & blablabla. But the body positive movement now it's more like i don't care im gonna eat whatever i want till i die. Some ppl can't BE changed, suicide slow motion.
As an autistic kid who grew up unable to eat anything but grits my mother pushed me to eat anything! Anything!! As a result nothing was truly off limits. Have cake every week? Sure! And as a result i also got more easily into trying new things. I still over eat and feel a small pull towards fast carbs but i am also able to feel my body when that is not what it craves. I forgive myself for wanting chocolate because i know it's not bad to do so. Because i have days when i crave kale also. Both have their place in a healthy diet.
I developed an eating disorder after my dr. at 16 made me go on Adderal to lose weight. I would not eat for days then binge when I finally got away with not taking it. I also clearly become addicted to Adderal. I actually cried watching this. This is the first time my body was talked about without being told of absolutely disgusting. Thank you, this cycle is exhausting and the stress of hating my body stops me from enjoying life, finding love, even leaving the house. Thank you for a few minutes of feeling a little bit of respect for my existence.
I would love to hear your perspective on weight loss surgery. It seems to wreak havoc on the body, and after many of the procedures, people who undergo them are only able to eat around 600 calories per day. Do you think there is a point at which people need to lose weight so quickly because their health is in jeopardy, or would implementing healthier behaviors immediately but not focusing on the weight loss itself help them more?
@@AbbeysKitchen it's not ur job tho, ur not a doctor. BTW my grandfather had a "happy diet" n drank himself to die, my other grandfather is obessed and ill, obesity is a medical term, i don't know why u would think this is fat shaming or whatever.
Thank you so much for your videos. I have struggled with an eating disorder for years and after being submersed in diet culture for so long I have been trying so hard to learn intuitive eating and balance in my diet and how to love food again. Your channel has really helped me, because it's based in science and it really helps me to cut through all of the noise about different crash diets and get back to the basics and be okay with nourishing my body and learning to embrace my physical and mental health. Plus your videos are just so well made and entertaining! THANK YOU!
I have bad ibs. I often feel talked down to on this channel because if i eat what i want to try to take some of that mysticism away from it I end up doubled over in pain. So for starters thank you for this video; i better feel like i can trust that you actually want people to be healthier and it isnt some call-out for views. But where do i fall into intuitive eating? When i cant eat most foods i feel like i cant really listen to my body AND my mind at the same time... Would love for something like this to be mentioned in the series: ibs, food allergies, and food sensitivities.
This is the first time in my lifetime of restrictive dieting, losing 60, 70, 80 pounds at a time and gaining it back in a cycle of binging that I heard a nutritionist talk about food and healthy behavior without shaming me and larger body. I’m so happy to have discovered your channel and it inspired me to reach out to a therapist who specializes in disordered eating.
I'm so glad she made this, I'm 100% one of the people who referred to her attitude towards intuitive eating as "flippant" and this is exactly the kind of response I needed!
I think you made quite a leap from dieting raising blood pressure and making people gain weight to how no dieting would solve the obesity problem... The fact is that a lot of people are uneducated, or don't care about their health, and constantly eat foods that are engineered to be addictive. This is why I like your more nutrition-focused videos. I think they put the message of balanced eating across a lot better, and they're easy to learn from.
1234ZGirl so glad! And I’m still doing that as well! And we will be covering nutrition in IE, it’s part of it. Sorry if that seemed like a leap in thought, I’ll try to continue to articulate
Natalia Román A. Of course there’s no such thing as TRUE causation in nutrition research but we often try to control for as much as we can. Which we can do in a lab, but we can’t do so well with population research on humans in larger bodies
I am in the heaviest weight when I tried to diet. On that time, I tracked every single things that I ate. I worried about meal plan. I felt like I think about food all the time, and I gained so much weight from binge eating. After that I gave up on my diet. I stopped tracking, and let myself eat what I want without restriction. Surprisingly, I lost all gained weight. I even lost more weight than when I am on diet with slow jogging 3 times a week. I am still on my journey, but this time I don't set a weight goal. Now my goal is to be healthy until I am old.
Humans evolved eating cooked food and it allowed us to double to triple our brain size from this due to the amount of calories we were able to take in from cooked foods. Raw food diets are whack and nutrient deficient.
Leia Malone hi, I would say a dietitian is not someone who really should answer this. Instead, I would look into the evolutionary history of the hominin species. We have never had a specialized diet (except for Paranthropus Bosei, who were herbivores). We can eat a very wide range of foods and are generally omnivorous. Freelee and others like her will say that our teeth are similar to those of frugivores. However, our evolutionary histories are quite different. Our canines (generally used for tearing flesh) most likely shrank in size due to a shift toward cooking our food. I could go on forever, but hopefully this incites some interest. If you are interested in learning more, you can read more about Anthropology via google and google scholar.
on the 20 minutes watching this video, I tried unconsciously about 5 times to press the "Like" button, only to realize I had already done it. This is how much I liked this video
A magician never reveals her secrets. To the unaware, "studies" is interpreted as "scientific fact." Without discussing study flaws and limitations, it's just about the most dishonest tactic someone can use on those who don't know any better.
George EX I think Abby is careful about her wording when she mentions studies. She says “studies suggest” and “there are links” a lot which implies correlation and not causation. Mentioning scientific studies is important keeping in mind that all scientific studies have an element of human error.
I absolutely love that you point out privelages and evidence in your videos. I also love that you point out the diet culture even if it's really subtle. It really helps to see how deeply diet culture is in our lives and I think being aware of it helps. My problem with food that I want to overcome is that I binge on sweets after dinner even though I don't want to or feel the need to. It feels like a compulsive behaviour. I'm looking forward to your intuitive eating series and figure videos, I'm sure it'll help me in some way.
There is no enough evidence that on intuitive eating junky foods lose their allure and that people start to crave more healthy food. It's just a theory. May be at some point - yes, but we don't know actually. What people say and think they do and what they actually do - a big difference. A lot of people tend to choose high calorie foods on evolutionary basis.
I tried intuitive eating a few years ago. I never got sick of junk food. The more sugar I ate, the more I craved it. I gained 20 lbs in about a month and developed sleep apnea and depression. I realized that it was so mentally unhealthy for me to be so fixated on food all the time. I was part of the haes community, and they all told me 5that eventually the junk food would lose its appeal and i would naturally fall into a new set point weight. I wasn't going to allow myself to get over 200 lbs at 5 ft tall, I felt awful all the time. My body just wants to eat junk, I have to have self discipline to have a balanced diet. I'm not on a diet, but I just don't pig out anymore, and I eat mostly healthy.
I love that you’re so woke about how to address folks w/ diabetes, obesity, etc., while also understanding we all need positive relationships with actual NUTRITION not just being thin. V refreshing on TH-cam!
I really need you to clarify how you define "diet" in the context of "diets don't work". Because a person's diet is what they eat, and if you change what you eat you can change your weight and maintain that change. You probably mean heavily restricted/crash diets, BUT a lot of people in the health at every size/fat acceptance movement claim that people can't lose weight and keep it off (or that 92-97% cant, it's a common statistic mentioned). It sounds so fatalistic. And it also does not match your description of intuitive eating which includes a varied diet and learning to stop eating when you're full. It might sounds obvious, and you may assume everyone knows what "diets" are, but it's very vague and I think it lessens the impact of your message.
I thought it was pretty clear what the context of the word being used here was. When someone says drugs are bad, do you go off on a rant about "Ummmm actually someone might misunderstand you and think they shouldn't take their heart medicine". Are you being anal on purpose, or are you legitimately confused?
I had never heard of intuitive eating until I started watching your videos but it sounds like its what I've been doing for the past 8 years or so. I struggled a lot in the past with eating disorders and obsessing over my weight. I was at a point where I was scared and stressed and weighed more than ever before and had limited ability to choose what I ate. Idk what clicked, but I decided to focus on making healthy choices and not make anything off limits. I decided to focus more on just having a balanced diet and stop trying to worry about calories. Along with taking an hour walk nearly every morning (which was also really good for my mental health as well), it led to me getting down to a weight my body is comfortable stand I've been able to easily maintain it ever since. My BP actually improved as well. It used to be really low and now it's much better. I'm excited to learn more!
Telling a fat person to lose weight is not discrimination, it’s advice, for the wellbeing of the person. People with obesity have a way, way higher death rate than those of average weights. Maybe you’re right, maybe weight isn’t an indicator of health, but you’re not taking into account the fact that almost all people with obesity reach that level _because_ of unhealthy habits. Once they drop those habits, they can be healthy again and lose weight. That’s the reality, you can’t ‘speculate’ on it because it is what the truth is. Intuitive eating is not possible for those on the verge of death. They need a faster, more guaranteed approach to get them to a safe level, and then they can begin to implement those longterm habits. But I’m not the dietician here so idk 🤷🏽♀️
I'm so glad I just found out about this. I've struggled with my weight since I was 5. I would eat fatty foods given to me but still hungry, I was shamed for wanting more. When I was able to pay attention to my fullness cues, I was told to finish my plate and not waste food. Now, I feel guilty for leaving food on the plate. Sometimes I go for seconds even after I'm full. Sometimes I eat even when I'm not hungry because I may not have reached my weight loss calorie goal. I just have a disordered way of eating basically and I'm ready to try this again for my mental health first and also physical health.
I am a dietetics major, could you do a video on alternative careers for those of us in this field not interested in MNT? I just really dont see myself in a clinical role and am feeling very lost and panicked in my program, but I do love nutrition and have a passion for body positivity.
So there is a woman in my hometown who is a registered dietician, and she's actually a restaurant owner. I think it creates an interesting perspective on food. So that could be an interesting career path.
Alexa Silvers for sure! There are so many career paths in dietetics. I have some courses if you’re interested in media training. Check out my website for these courses
Hey Alexa!! Same!! So happy to see a fellow dietetics student here🤗🤗🤗But yeah, I totally get you!!The clinical setting just isn’t for me! But I’ve always loved community! Or you could also go into research! That’s an awesome, growing field! Or even food science! Or private practice!
Me as well! I just did a rotation with a private practice that does some food relationship work and would HIGHLY recommend you request a rotation with one! It was life changing!
The takeaway for me is to eat until I'm full, no more, no less. I think that mindset can help me as a weight lifter and a food addict. Weight lifting has improved my life but it makes me hungry. The shame I have with eating 4 meals is hard on me as someone who used to get called fat. I still have a lot of fat, so when I get hungry 4 times a day, I feel that shame. But it's because I lift a lot and lifting has improved my life too much to quit
When I was a child I had an aggressive stomach disease, which caused me to be nauseous chronically. I couldn't stomach food and I was so incredibly thin. I wanted food, I just felt sick all the time. When I was 12 I was 157 cm (5ft1) tall and weighed 27 kg. (60 lbs). After treatment and much fear around food because of how it used to make me feel I could finally eat again. So I did, and suddenly, at age 27 I am still 157 cm (5ft1) tall, but I wheigh in around 75 kg (165 lbs). I've tried dieting, fasting and all sort of stuff and all aggravates my fear of food and my disease. Now, I feel like I've found my haven. With intuitive eating, I've figured out what makes me feel good, what agrees with my body and when I am full and when I am actually hungry. I still like all the "siiiinfuuull" foods (sarcastic here) and that's okay. The one promise I've made to myself and the only thing I track is getting at least 600 grams of vegetables every day and that I move my body at least 30 minutes every day. As long as that is taken care of there is nothing else I have to think about other than eat what feels good and also makes me feel good later. Sometimes that's steamed salmon and avocado sometimes that's a spinach and cauliflower smoothie, sometimes it's a cup of hot chocolate with orange syrup. And that's okay. All of it is okay.
Causation is how we know smoking is bad for you Abbey, should we ignore that as well because we can't prove that smoking X amount of cigarettes causes X amount of cancer? Trying to pretend that being obese doesn't increase your disease risk is some next level pandering bullcrap.
So fun thing about science correlation alone does not imply causation, and you can't do a controlled double blind study on obesity in humans (like I can't round up 1000 people and assign 500 to an "obese" group and 500 to a "thin" group). So all we can do is look at relationships, but what we don't know is does A cause B, B cause A, or A and B are both caused by some unknown factor, C? Smoking, while presently unethical, you could theoretically randomly assign folks to smoke or not. But even if you look at correlations, you can see things like an uptick in cancer after smoking became widespread. Obesity isn't something you can choose to be or not, not in the same way you can choose to smoke or not. Also we need to eat to live, that is pretty well established. You don't need to smoke.
there is a difference in eating to fat and someone who has like a hormone imbalance that just puts on weight regardless of diet and exercise. So it's a person to person basis same with smoking. I had a great aunt who smoked from like 12, lived to 100 and had perfect lungs after all that smoking. Then my mom had lung cancer at like 40. All people work differently is the point
Annelise Koskiniemi yessss! I’ll speak more to this soon in the series definitely health situations (ie think joint issues) that could benefit from weight loss, I’m not discounting that. However we still know that weight loss diets don’t work, so prescribing them is sticky. It’s a benefit risk analysis that should be done with a IE RD to help you navigate nutrition without falling into the restrictive patterns that often result in making issues worse. This is why we suggest IE which incorporates gentle nutrition without the shame or guilt
I ate whatever I wanted for five years without restriction and my appetite never balanced out. My binging never improved. My cravings for carbs only intensified in that time. I think it’s false to suggest that people only binge in response to restriction.
As someone who is fat and in recovery from an eating disorder, I can confirm that permitting myself to eat cake, ice cream, sweets, etc. has taken some of the allure away from those foods. Sometimes however, my brain still wants to binge, but now I often find that a couple of cookies is enough; I don't feel compelled to eat an entire sleeve of them anymore.
nergregga thanks for sharing your experience
I’m so glad it’s working for you!
I like how since the foods aren’t off limits, you aren’t tempted to binge, because you know you can have it again tomorrow if you want. And thus there’s no need to eat it all now.
Also fat and in recovery from atypical (I hate that term, sigh) anorexia and I second this. I didn't feel like it would work at first but IE has been amazing for letting me get out of the starve/binge cycle. I used to think I just couldn't be trusted around most food and now I hardly think about it on the better days (still working through recovery so not all days are great but more than not lately). I would definitely recommend anyone read the actual IE book and work with a HAES professional if they need more help. But it really does work, as backwards as it sounds, to take away moral judgement and feelings around foods and just give yourself permission to eat.
Annie Bellet I don’t believe in that term. Anorexia can be diagnosed in all body sizes and is relative to a set of behaviours. No shade, I was the same way until I was told recently that I have Anorexia; not OS-FED or Atypical AN. You’re doing amazing and thank you for sharing your experience.
I don't want to lose weight because of the "culture". I want to lose weight because my body hurts, I can't run up a flight of stairs without not being able to breathe. It's not because I want to alter my body so it looks Instagram pretty. It's so I can go on a walk without wanting to die. It's so my knees and hips stop hurting. Its for health reasons regardless if non diet large people have better blood pressure.
Same.
That's very valid! And honestly I think that's why you should lose weight, for your wellbeing, and not for the culture
If losing weight is what you want to feel good and improve your life that’s wonderful. Too many people are chasing cultural acceptance instead of health when they set those goals. Do it with love and focus on health 🙂
K J. I'm the same. I am about 100 lbs overweight, and I've noticed that I get a lot of pain in my right hip when I walk for a long time. I think I wouldn't have that if I wasn't overweight. Also, I am at high risk of developing diabetes due to my weight. I also want to be able to walk up a flight of stairs without feeling winded.
That's exactly it, KJ!! Fat-Acceptance Culture proponents conflate "losing weight" with conforming to the "thin culture". That's wrong. Like yourself, many people lose weight to be able to play with their kids/grandkids, or get out and do and see the world without having to use mobility aids due to just being too heavy for their own body to mobilize on its own. :(
Food addiction is insidious. Have you ever seen photos of morbidly obese people in Walmart or Costco, trying to get cases of soda while on their scooter, causing the scooter to topple over? They can't even walk, but the desire to get that sugar, which brings them "temporary shot of happiness" , is so overwhelming, they will do anything to get it. The problem with food addiction is, it takes more and more of the substance to get the same level of "rush", so you end up eating more and more calories, gaining more and more weight over time.
Being fit allows you to enjoy so much more of life and feel great in your body. I feel for those people who will never get to experience how amazing our bodies can feel, or the amazing things it can do, because they think they cannot (or should not) lose weight.
In the absence of diet culture - intuitive eating would just be called eating!!
Lindsay Noble yep!!!!
In the abscenes of eating disorders. Ftfy
In the absence of highly processed, highly palatable foods more like. The "foods" that are readily available today make us fat and unhappy, diet culture keeps us fat and unhappy. Blaming diet culture is a bit victim-blamey, whereas criticizing the diet and food industries is drawing attention to the actual problem. As always in life: follow the money to find out about the intricacies of an issue.
@@Iwasjustwondering89 do you have a job? Do you know anyone who has more than one job, or maybe goes to school and has a job? These are the people who don't have time to make their own food, and rely on readily available items for sustenance. You don't follow the money, you follow the demand.
Also, it is perfectly acceptable and logical to be "FAT" AND HAPPY. Your words are fat phobic, so I don't think you understand what is really going on here...
Absolutely! It's so sad that this is a radical concept!
I know I may be in the minority however as someone who works in food manufacturing, food companies make high palatable processed foods that most people will easily over eat because they taste good and are not satiating. This is true of many restaurants and take out as well. They utilize the right combination of fat, salt, and sugar to make food taste so good to us it overrides our natural cues to stop. I think we need a reform of our entire food manufacturing system if we really want to get at the root of why so many people in western cultures are "heavy" or "larger than normal". I know that eating whole foods is the ideal way to eat but when processed foods are so cheap and convenient it makes it very difficult to make better eating choices. Not to day processed foods cant be enjoyed, just not at the extent they are currently consumed by most.
Basic B Cosplay totally! It’s a huge obstacle! We can touch on this
It’s referred to as ‘The Bliss Point’ for a reason right?
I think you're right here, but that's not a contradiction with IE/HAES. Nothing in either of those approaches suggests we shouldn't pursue public health policies that nudge people toward more nutritious food choices and physical activity. What IE and HAES teach us is that approaches to health that are targeted on changing your body size through food restriction are completely ineffective at best and - in all likelihood - actually harmful.
My body knows that those processed foods don’t serve me so the intuitive approach works ~ but I wasn’t raised eating those foods and I know it’s different when your childhood diet was different. It’s a tough one.
I absolutely agree!!! Before I was vegan there were foods that were just soooooo good that even thought I was stuffed I still wanted to finish it because of how delicious it was.
I've commented this before, but as a fat person who has to live with weight stigma and experiences it every single day, I think it's really easy for you as someone who does not have to live this way to say that the number on the scale doesn't matter. It feels like gaslighting because it does matter. My weight has affected every single part of my life. I know that's what people see when I come into a job interview, when I try to date (my weight is literally the reason I'm still single), it's what gets brought up when someone is ending a relationship with me, it's what the audience sees when I speak on a stage. It affects ever part of my life and I don't think I'm a bad person for wanting to lose weight and be free. Finally be free.
Right. It's always the people in smaller bodies who try to say that stuff
I love that you say everyone can EVENTUALLY intuitive eat!! I feel like a lot of the disconnect between you and other weight/nutrition based channels (like people in the comments talking about Obese to Beast, etc) is that when you briefly mention intuitive eating you dont really touch on how long and intensive the path between eating disorder and intuitive eating can be. As a person who used to be overweight bordering on obese as a child, and anorexic throughout high school and college, I lost the ability to feel hunger and fullness on both ends of the spectrum at different points in my life. Since entering recovery, learning to work out in normal amounts, and using meal plans to regulate how many calories I eat in a day, I’ve been able to determine mostly intuitively how to eat what I need in a day to get to about 2000 calories and what I need to adjust based on macros, micronutrients, calories spent in exercise, etc. It does take years and can include a LOT of planning down to the last calorie for a long amount of time just to regain hunger and fullness cues. But all the years can eventually lead to intuitive eating if thats the goal you set for yourself. If anyone out there is on their journey to eat intuitively, just know it can be done!!! The years will be so worth it in the end :) Best of luck, and lovely video Abbey!
Helen H yesssss it’s such a process! Sometimes months, sometimes years!
Thanks for sharing your story!
I wish this was emphasized more. It takes TIME to learn intuitive eating if you come from a disordered background. Like A LOT of time.
my little public health heart sang when you mentioned social determinants of health and privilege ❤︎
Jessica Moore 🥰
It makes me SO happy when others are in public health :) that’s what my undergraduate degree is in :)
I'm an Exercise and Wellness major but I'm taking a social determinants of health class right now, and I totally agree!
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yessss! (I'm also a public health student)
When I was underweight from being so sick from my disease people told me I "looked" good when I could barely get out of bed. It was disgusting
Same thing here. Was in the hospital for emergency surgery for weeks , didn't eat the whole time, didn't eat for weeks afterwards I was on a strict liquid diet. After I was cleared for foods my body wasn't working right still couldn't hold down food. Went back to hospital for another week. First time I saw people after all that people kept saying how great k looked since I lost all that weight.....I weighed like 100 lbs!!!
Nicole Sams that was me too
Me too! I was so sick I was literally losing a pound a day, couldn’t stand up, or sit up with out help, and had gone blind. I actually had a healthcare practitioner say other women would kill to lose a pound a day like me, while I was literally starving to death because of undiagnosed gasteroparisis - which lead to severe malnutrition which lead to other health conditions. So gross, I didn’t even have the strength to respond and I was in my underware on his table at the time.
Hey at least you have people compliment you. No matter what I do I'm lucky to have a compliment on my body maybe every few weeks. Maybe
@@NatsFan18 Bad take. I would rather not have a comment on my body at all than a compliment when I'm unhealthy. When I was recovering and became a normal weight, it took years for me to accept my body again because I was convinced that I had to be underweight to look good. Even when people said I looked healthy, I thought back to those comments that "[my] figure never looked so good" when I was underweight.
It's amazing how many people missed that whole "Health at every size isn't healthy at every size" part.
Delilah Miller yes it really is lol
Well, many people don't dig in and watch a whole video. That's like the majority of people act. The part of problem is movement name though, which is partly misleading. If it would call "happiness in every size", there would not be problems at all.
@@dmytrandr No. There would still be haters.
@@beth8775Yeah, probably, but at least, less than now and a lot of misunderstanding would be avoided. I'd rather worry not about haters, but about people with obesity that misunderstand this (health in every size isn't healthy in evere size), because they also tend not to dig in. I'm not even talking about that in HAES community also exist toxic personalities that shame people who want lose weight.
@@dmytrandr I agree I recently took an Intuitive Eating class. The facilitator told use to eat what we want whenever we wanted. She also had a weight issue and body shamed thin peweigh from that class. She
When I was in the hospital immediately after having my twins they gave me an iPad with apps to order food, review my charts, call the nurse and other things like that. But you wouldn't believe what I saw there on my chart. Based on weight only, my chart said that I was there for obesity. Obviously nobody reviewed it and consider the fact that I had just carried to full term and pushed out two babies and was probably actually considered underweight for someone who had twins.
I'm so glad that I didn't have postpartum depression and it even bothered me a little without that, but if their system is automatically adding that to every woman in the maternity ward then I can only imagine how that's making women feel and how it's making them distrust their doctors. I'm going to give birth again in November and will be at the same hospital so I think this time around if I see that on my chart I'm going to point it out to somebody and tell them that they need to find a way to change that in their system so it doesn't damage somebody further while they're already struggling with all their postpartum hormones
I’m really looking forward to this series. I’ve been told my whole life that I’m a bad person for not being skinny enough, and because I kept trying to diet, I kept gaining weight. Now, I truly am overweight, though not obese. I started working on eating intuitively over the summer after discovering your series, I have actually started to lose weight just by asking myself what my body actually needs me to eat. I don’t ever feel restricted and I’m feeling less and less guilty about the food I do eat, though some days are still a struggle.
Dorothy Couper sounds like you’re on the right track!!
Hey Abbey! I’m a future dietitian, and all the dietetic students here watch your videos religiously. Thank you for addressing this issue, as I want to make sure I’m sensitive to all my patients and their needs
Lutheran Ninja thank you!!
Dear future dietitian,
Americans are suffering from obesity and metabolic disorders that are largely related to our diets. Please help us.
George EX I plan on it! And yes, I’m very aware of the state of chronic diseases related to diet. I work in a nursing home, so I see the effects every day. I hope that my studies pay off and I’m able to help people turn their lives around!
I starved myself in high school, then became a binger. For me intuitive eating took some mental training, learning to have a healthy relationship with all kinds of food and it took A LONG TIME. This was after unconsciously doing Stephanie buttermore's 'all in', but intuitive eating would not have made me healthier as a binger as I still had that diet mentality.
Something that’s been bugging me is I don’t fully understand how to eat “healthy” without becoming prone to orthorexia. My efforts to eat in that healthy, balanced way spiraled some, and now I think I might be prone to that disorder. I came from anorexia and now I’m worried that I might be orthorexic. Could you touch on this in your series maybe? I love your videos by the way :)
Løng Live the Løcal Dreamer hey there, have you ever met with an intuitive eating dietitian?
As someone who used to fluctuate between binging and orthorexic behaviors, it will get better. One good mindset is adding foods rather than taking them away. For example, the other day I wanted corn dogs. There was also a salad in my fridge. So I had both!
I think seeking advice from a dietician would be helpful but I started out with just looking for foods that I like. I would go to the store and walk around saying oh I like bananas let me get those and I like nuts let me buy some of those. Also, I keep fun snacks in the house for whenever I feel like having them. I will keep chips and candy but I have found that I only want to eat them sometimes. I think it is just something that takes awhile to figure out what works for you. :)
YES!!
I feel this too. Some great suggestions from the others here. Thanks for putting this out there. Needed it tonight.
I'm just over a month into eating disorder recovery using the "all in" method AND **IMPORTANT** UNDER THE GUIDANCE OF DOCTORS & A THERAPIST SPECIALIZING IN EATING DISORDERS (!!!)
When I started, I was in an 'overweight' body (by BMI). I haven't weighed myself & don't plan to, but I have had to buy new clothes because my old ones are too tight. I'm probably considered 'obese' and if I had to guess I would say I weigh 200lbs (in a 5'7" body). I'm still learning to accept this.
Want to know what else has happened?
-> I have become better at healthy confrontation in my relationships, which are starting to feel more mutually respectful and nourishing (even ones that were previously difficult, like with my mother)
-> I spend much less time thinking about food and much more time thinking about how I'm making my mark in my community and the world at large.
-> I sometimes leave food on my plate, which was previously not something I did ..ever
-> I sometimes go for walks or do yoga just because I want to! I'm still working on my relationship to movement, but I feel a shift starting
-> I am less judgmental of other people's appearance and find myself being friendlier
-> I don't feel like a victim anymore or like my body is holding me back. I know I can create the reality I want and my body is not an excuse to not do something that's calling me. MY BODY IS HERE TO HELP SUPPORT ME IN THE LIFE I WANT TO LIVE!!
I have struggled to find information on 'All in' and Intuitive Eating from the perspective of someone in a bigger body (with an eating disorder that isn't anorexia) which is why I want to share this here! So that maybe someone will see it and feel like they can do it too :)
Thanks for keeping this v important conversation going, Abbey! Love your channel, it is helping me immensely on this journey
Cleo this is fantastic!! Thank you for sharing
As a fat person, I have had bad experiences with counselors and dietitians that practice HAES. My concerns about my joints hurting, sleep apnea due to excess weight, having mobility issues, and multiple other ways that being larger has impacted my life are greatly ignored and dismissed. They tell me I’m not allowed to talk about wanting to lose weight. I think HAES ignores the dialectic that we can work towards body-neutrality AND want to change our bodies. As I learn to love my body more, I more so want to take care of it and reduce the amount of fat surrounding vital organs and the extra stress it endures due to the extra weight. Intuitive eating can be great, and it helps a lot of people, but I think HAES is dangerous.
To be very honest, it's hard to intuitively eat processed foods. I suffer from PCOS and insulin resistance as well as overeating whenever stressed, and the insane hunger I experience after eating things like white rice, bread or pasta is something I cannot control. Not to mention the crashes. I'm perhaps a special case, but for people who already struggle with obesity and hormonal issues, we may have to resort to a whole foods diet with few, rare exceptions, in order to undo the damage. I found that a mostly vegan, whole foods diet has really helped me keep fuller for longer. It's incredible to me, but I now eat 2 meals a day, not feeling hungry in between. The only dairy I consume daily is kefir salad dressing and my latte. And well. yeah, I do cook with butter instead of olive oil (not sure which is better, if you can help me there I'd really appreciate it!) 50% of the meals being green salads with nuts. The other 50%, mixed veggies with some type of protein . I reserve animal products for the weekend and I make my own weekend dark chocolate bars with nuts, dried fruit, oats and bananas. I find that eating a little bit of each, and playing with textures, colours and spices has deeply enriched my eating experience.
My friend does bright line eating and lost a lot of weight, so I started adding more fruits and vegetables. I feel so much better. Then I started eating intuitively. I didn't want to have foods that I can't eat. It does not mean I eat everything I see, but now I can take or leave food which has always been a struggle. I am still working on being better at intuitive eating, but for the first time in years I am not struggling with bulimia. I used to hate the feeling of feeling full. I feel more in control of my life more than ever.
Also I can not stand when people (who have seen my weight loss, but mostly due to intuitive eating) see me eat a popsicle and say oh no someone is being naughty. No its hot outside I bought a Popsicle. Relax. Intuitive eating would be so much easier if other people would stop treating food like its wrong. No wonder so many people binge eat in shame, because if they ate just one oreo someone might say something about it!
If you struggle with food addiction PLEASE seek help. It is not an easy journey, but it is doable. Changing the way you eat and look at food is possible.
The last thing is diet culture is toxic. Many people lose weight and are still ashamed of their bodies after or become more insecure. Fixing relationship with eating first will help your relationship with your body.
Much love and positive vibes Thanks for this one Abby
Julia Groman thank you for sharing!!
Abby, there are a couple of TH-camrs that do "what I eat in a day" on poverty budge in order to raise awareness I think it's important that you review these. ♥️ Love your videos thanks for the education!!!
Veronica can you send me a link??
@@AbbeysKitchen th-cam.com/video/8LGCG_Bd-XI/w-d-xo.html
@@AbbeysKitchen Thank you Abbey! From someone who grew up hungry, thank you. You have a wonderful platform to raise awareness and to discuss how being hungry impacts everything from how well we can study to how well we can sleep and how it affects our health in the long run. I know you'll do a wonderful job. ♥️ The first two I sent are from Caitlyn Shoemaker. Everyone loves her and you may have reviewed her before...but I'll send you a couple more that aren't focused on vegan eating.
@@AbbeysKitchen the second link is probably the most realistic poverty style food. I couldn't find any real good Kool aid and bologna videos. I am guessing because people on that diet can't afford cameras, easily access Internet etc....
@@AbbeysKitchen thank you!
I will be VERY interested to see Obese to Beast or Every Damn Day Fitness respond to this.
Their channels scream tough love 😂 we already know this
Or michellemcdaniel or swolenormous
I used to love Abby, but she has gone in the wrong direction in several ways... I wonder wether this is her trying to make more money or if she actually believes the heas crap. At least she still promotes actual healthy eating (though for 'people in larger bodies' should lose weight to get to a healthy weight, no one has a set point of 300lbs...) I too, would love to see a discussion between her and "the four" (everydamndayfitness, swolenormous, obese-to-beast and michelle mcdaniel)
So she is “going in the wrong directionl” because she relies on evnidence based information? Those channels only speaks from their point of view. Evidence are suggesting that it is the extra calories that are the problem, not the weight itself. So if someone at 300 pounds decide not to gavn anymor, the fact that they stop over eating, Will improve their health, regardless of they’re going to lose weight.
@@TheAmariii Sumo wrestlers for instance can have lots of fat and still be healthy metabolically and cardiovascularly but most obese people are not that. They became obese because of maladaptive behaviors surrounding food and part of getting healthy would be dealing with those underlying issues. Most people would naturally lose weight if those issues were dealt with. I dont get the pandering to obese people and saying you can still be healthy as long as you maintain your weight. What if instead of eating more fruits and veggies they just eat a few less calories and end up maintaining on a SAD diet. That wont help them. Even people who are normal weight get sick from eating that diet. It is really important to impress upon people that being healthier includes changing their food choices at the very least. And a good part of health into old age includes walking. Having enough stamina to walk at least a mile would be a good benchmark for how healthy you have become. Just walking does wonders for the maintenance of your cardiovascular health. FYI a mile is only 2000 steps so its not that far.
Actually food addiction, like other addictions tend to be the result of low dopamine and is based on emotions. It's not necessarily the result of restriction.
Tee Alliayah I’m going to cover this more thoroughly in my upcoming video
People eat junk food when they are happy and sad. Fill up on whole grains, legumes and some fruit and veg and you won't have space for junk!
Luca M lmao well that’s sure an over simplification, but sure. I would consider myself somewhat addicted to junk food and whether or not I’m already “filled up on legumes” doesn’t really mean I’m not going to eat the junk food.
Kelsey Doyle It doesn't mean you wont eat junk food, but when we get into the rhythm of healthy eating habits, like an adequate breakfast, lunch and early dinner, plus healthy snacks on hand, cravings for junk foods will be minimal. Its nice to have a glass of champagne and piece of cake for a birthday or special occasion, but their isn't some biological imbalance that causes us to eat junk food regularly. The wonderful thing about healthy eating, is that you can eat generous portions and eat to satisfaction, have great energy, calm nerves, you can have it all!
Luca M 🙃 ok BYE lmao. 🙄
I always find myself referencing you for many presentations for my uni (I'm at my first semester in Nutrition and Food Science) and let me tell you, you are a big inspiration. I love how well structured your choice of words are, it shows how much you are passionate for this. Love you 💗💗
Anthony Zuba yay love it! Thank you 😊
Not hating, but since when is citing a TH-camr as a source in a university course a good idea...??
GILBERTO RUBIO VILLAFUERTE yes, I know that, but if you really want to reference her, don’t you think it would be better to reference her scientific papers - if she published any?
Emma M Using APA Reference allows me to use this platform as a source. OF COURSE I do my fair share of investigation using papers published by many Universities around the world + Many published books by doctors, registered dietitians, biochemists, etc. I use her acknowledgement as a plus to give some extra support to my presentations and to show that I want to be very involved around the Dietitian/Nutritionist community. After all, she IS a registered dietitian and what she has said in many videos can be verified by researching with reliable sources (depending the topic of course). Part of the moral of a dietitian is to provide information that it is accompanied by a previous investigation based on the Scientific Method and that corresponds with what has been published by the community of Health Sciences.
I've also referenced other TH-cam channels like Khan Academy, Osmosis.org and AK LECTURES. As well, I've asked my teachers if I could used them as references and they didn't have a problem at all (They asked me to show the video, watched it and gave me the green light). Maybe my teachers are giving me a chance to use this platform as a tool because it's my first semester or whatever, but it doesn't mean that I will be able to use it further on my major, so who knows. But yeah, I just wanted to clarify that 😬 No hard feelings though. I'm open to constructive criticism. 🤗 So if you have anything to say, I'm all ears 👂
What about people with chronic illness that disrupts their hunger cues? or someone who has to take medication that causes their hunger and satiety signals to be off? I think this video has some GREAT information for people coming from a restrict/binge mindset but ignores other large portions of the population who are unhealthy or have unhealthy relationships with food for other reasons.
Also I think it is REALLY important to acknowledge the role of processed and sugary foods in obesity. Diet culture isn't the sole reason for obesity. In the US at least, it is processed foods that disrupt people's abilities to eat intuitively, causing the weight gain, THEN causing repeated attempts at dieting.
Again I think this video is great, but it comes at IE from only one angle when there are so many other health backgrounds to consider when giving advice on IE. But I assume your audience is mostly composed of those who have the binge/restrict background which is probably why you chose to approach it from this angle :)
Yes exactly! It's very frustrating that she is taking something that was designed for a very specific population (people recovering from anorexia or other restrictive eating disorders) and applying it to everyone despite it being clear the problem is overconsumption for most people, not restriction. If she honestly thinks 50% of the US population "restricted" or "dieted" themselves to obesity, type 2 diabetes, and heart failure she's living in a bubble.
@@jamient Right on. It's not that she's living in a bubble. She knows better. She's hoping her audience does not and that she can make them feel better. Her content is about feeling better, not the cold hard truth.
I’ll cover this more specifically to the IE population and I’ll speak more to this soon in the series but definitely there are health situations (ie think joint issues) that could benefit from weight loss, I’m not discounting that. However we still know that weight loss diets don’t work, so prescribing them is sticky. It’s a benefit risk analysis that should be done with a IE RD to help you navigate nutrition without falling into the restrictive patterns that often result in making issues worse. This is why we suggest IE which incorporates gentle nutrition without the shame or guilt. More to come. Hard to type lok
I believe no matter a person's weight they are valued and important. I believe every person's concerns should be taken seriously and not pushed off to be just about their weight.
I also have worked in the geriatric field for a while and can tell you I see younger people coming into geriatric care facilities regularly because of obesity. Maybe their diseases weren't directly caused by their weight, but their lack of mobility was. Whether they couldnt lean down to dress themselves and put their shoes on, couldnt properly clean themselves or just couldnt fit into their shower/step over a tub (and couldnt afford a bathroom remodel), could no longer fit in their car to drive to doctor appointments, were no longer ambulatory, had become bed bound and were developing sores from so much skin on skin contact, they were using a cpap because the extra weight on their chest caused them to quit breathing at night, or they were needing to get out of bed with a hoyer and couldnt do that alone... they were losing quality of life. They had wished someone told them how hard it would be sooner.
I would never shame anyone for their weight but when I have held patients crying because they are so hopeless from being bed bound, watching their muscles atrophy more everyday making it harder to move the extra weight, knowing they cannot physically exercise is they wanted to, feeling like it is there fault and like there is nothing they can do, hating that they hadnt taken their weight more seriously when they were physically able to, I feel like it's doing people a disservice acting like disease is the only dangerous thing about obesity.
Love the switch to person-first language. It’s such a small but important change (it makes a huge difference when talking about mental health) and I love hearing the switch for other medical terminology as well
Megan Joie yessssss
I don't agree with you on some points, but I appreciate you taking the time to break down and clarify your views for everyone. Looking forward to the next installment in the series!
Kimberlee Green thank you for listening
Yayyy. I agree with Abbey but appreciate your politeness rather than trolling in the comments section. Thank you for being a kind human Kimberlee.
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Kimberlee Green i wanna know what you don’t agree on
Bit of a long post and it may be triggering to those with an ed, but I wanted to share my story.
I grew up with a family that constantly fat shamed my older sister, and when I started to gain a little bit of weight in high school, it was turned onto me. This caused so many issues to arise for me, including disordered eating and really just this obsession with looking “perfect”. At around 20 is when I really took a nosedive for the worst and would eat so little that I felt full from just a few bites of a meal. And the sick thing is that I was proud of this.
Even though I’m 5’4 and my lowest weight was just 128lbs, that for me made my rib bones stick out so much that my bf at the time questioned if I was eating enough. Weight carries so differently on my body, and I’m still coming to terms with the fact that even though I’m 150 lbs now, I’m not fat, despite what the bmi measurements tell me.
Abbey, thank you so much for your videos. I’ve always believed that because I’m not in the “healthy” weight range for my height that I need to lose weight. This has caused a lot of restrictive eating and binging patterns for me recently, when what I really need is to simply listen to my body. I cannot wait for this intuitive eating series and to learn more on the topic.
Intuitive eating saved my life. I would’ve continued to binge... on junk food... every. single. day.
The harder I tried to control it, the worse it got. I was always making plans - to try a new diet, to fast, to restrict... “I’ll start tomorrow”. It never happened, of course. But the intention to restrict alone pushed me to eat and eat and eat.
It was awful.
I feel like this intuitive eating thing is more geared towards people who are obsessed with loosing and gaining 10 or 20 lbs but still relatively healthy. As someone who is over 200 lbs and already has health issues like diabetes, I feel like this would just make the health issues worse or maybe I just dont understand how exactly one is supposed to regain health, forgetting about weightloss for a second, but just regaining health and be able to get off all this medications
elvaaude Absolutely agree with you! This sounds ideal for someone who is already at a healthy weight that just needs a little improvement
Yes, I agree. I am still in the 240s (but working on it!), and despite eating pretty healthy, there are days where I just need to force myself to eat vegetables despite what I feel like eating. I appreciated hearing a more detailed breakdown, despite disagreeing on some points.
I'm also over 200 pounds but I eat intuitively and all of my other health levels are perfect. In fact, my doctor told me to keep it up. Cholesterol, blood sugar, blood pressure, all perfect. Weight isn't the only indicator of health. As she said, health problems that overweight people tend to have are correlation, not causation.
@@jessicamann6258 right I get that. But I'm talking about someone who already has all of this conditions and how to go about fixing them without relying on counting calories or counting carbs. I'm not even talking about weight at this point. Just hot to regain health when u already have diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol
I just made a video about this on my channel, but you're kind of right in most cases. Intuitive eating is fantastic for maintenance for a healthy or nearly health person but does not guarantee weight loss or weight gain if that is what your body needs to be healthy. For example, someone who is severely underweight due to chronic undereating should not be trying to eat intuitively if their hunger cues naturally cause them to eat only 900 calories per day. I've seen this happen with many young girls and encouraging them to eat intuitively is dangerous. Same goes for those who are overweight. Imo, tracking macros/calories for a while is SO important just to learn about your food intake and what your foods are composed of. From there you can start to make healthy changes to get to an optimal weight and oftentimes eating intuitively won't help with that until you're closer to your healthiest weight
Fellow dietitian here, Abbey! I have really been enjoying all your videos lately and am so proud to see your channel grow! To all the viewers, it is really hard to accept HAES and intuitive dating approach when you first hear it. I remember going to a speaker in my second year of nutrition (about 6 years ago) and thinking the presenter was sooo out to lunch... It hasn’t been until this year that I have fully embraced the approach. It takes a long time to change your beliefs when it has been engrained in you since you were a child. Keep up the good work!!
Did I cry watching this? Yes, yes I did. After struggling to love my body after my babies, despite “doing everything right” and going to work “feeling fat” I so desperately needed this today.
I like that you’re addressing that it’s not a new diet and not a quick fix. It is getting back to what is right for our bodies, so we decide what that is.
I agree with all of this! Fat shaming, whether it’s teasing or serious “we’re saying this because we care...”. It’s always frustrating and does not help. My stubborn nature has kept me from the bulk of fad quick weight diets, and I believe it has helped - my blood pressure, cholesterol and blood sugar are all well within normal ranges. It doesn’t matter to most because of the way I look.
I am 5'1, I went from being 158lbs to 135lbs in 3 months. I did it by dieting mostly. My flexibility now is incredible, and I was not working on that while I was losing weight. Just having a smaller body has greatly improved my movement even though it was a small change, I can't imagine how much of a change it would make for someone who is 300lbs+ please encourage overweight people to try and become healthy and lose weight, it drastically would improve their lives
I think that the main focus of the video and of intuitive eating is to eat healthy and to cover all your nutrionional needs and to not demonize certain foods, and live without fear of carbs, in order to keep a Balanced diet, it is to learn jow to properly eat. If someone follows that rule and complement it with exersice weight loss can be achieved.
I loved this video so much! I'm literally sending it to a bunch of friends that always ask me these questions. I'm still in the process of learning about Intuitive Eating and Health at Every Size and I share what I know as much as possible. This video will help me do that! Thank you! I appreciate all the time and effort you put in these videos!
Mani Fitness so glad! Thanks love
as someone who is larger bodied, has done ridiculous diets, and has experienced eating disorders this is so amazing and im so glad u addressed all of that in peoples ability to eat intuitively. its so much more complicated than to "just do it" when it comes to eating in general because its all so ingrained in your life and so many factors tie into it.
One of my questions, which stems from my own insecurity and fear, not taking a stab at Abbey or others is: Why do dieticians that prescribe IE, and I've listened to a lot of them, all look like the ideal social norm body type and when they tell you what they eat in a day it's ALWAYS super healthy foods?
Hi Niki, I’m assuming that’s because they learned through experience with their own diet that more nutritious foods feel better to eat.
Abbey, I can’t even begin to explain how much you’ve helped me. I was always the chubby kid and experienced so much weight stigma from school, friends, family, doctors, the whole world. My mom has struggled with weight loss for as long as I remember, yo-yo dieting and turning to slim fast and similar weight loss products. Basically I had the ever-looming idea that being bigger was bad and that something was wrong with me. I starting binge eating so young and wishing I was skinny. After struggling with dieting and weight as a young adult, your videos have helped me tremendously in accepting my body, unlearning the toxic diet culture and helping me mend my relationship with food. Thank you!!
tcbio I am so happy to hear
Hey abbey. I’m a public health student with a question:
You keep saying the research is flawed in showing causation between weight and disease. What about diseases such as breathing issues and strained joints due to higher weight? Wouldn’t these be causation, not only correlation, or no?
Love your videos ❤️❤️❤️
Or estrogen-sensitive cancers?
Don’t get me wrong, there is too heavy of an emphasis on people having a normal BMI for good health. And in many conditions, people see benefits from losing just 5% of their body weight (rather than hitting a “normal” BMI).
But like you said, some conditions have a more likely causal relationship with obesity than others!
Yes, I have to agree. Obesity has been linked to type 2 diabetes, and heart disease/inflammatory diseases as well. Again, people don't have to become stick thin, but losing some weight can alleviate or cure the disease (especially Type 2 diabetes). So I'm not sure what Abbey means about the flawed causation between weight and disease.
Maddy Lewis obesity is a symptom. In my research and personal experience, obesity can be a symptom of insulin resistance. Excess insulin can throw off homeostasis in a lot of body systems. Homeostasis being disturbed is the cause of most chronic disease from a high level. So someone obese without hormonal issues related to insulin or inflammation could in theory be healthy and not plagued by disease. However for me being obese has wrecked my health even when i was a teenager. It’s unfair to blanket obesity as a for sure chronic disease sentence.
@@Jleigh225 wait, I studied that obesity or a high-fat diet are risk factors for insulin resistance. The insulin resistance is the symptom, lifestyle, diet, genetics and other possible conditions are the causes. Not the other way around. The insulin resistance is the first step to diabetes, but is reversible by losing weight. I'm not saying that it can't be correlated to a weight gain, but the problem is the caloric surplus. Please correct me if I'm wrong
I think overweight is the best way to discuss it. I would absolutely never want to be called fat and I feel like it’s dangerous having a few prominent people in the body positivity community say that it’s ok to call someone that. I would so rather a medical professional say that I’m overweight cause that’s a fact. It could even be broken down to slightly overweight, moderately, and significantly overweight. I think that’s so much more respectful.
Jessie J 271 are they saying it’s ok to call someone fat or them fat?
I think we should focus less on being offended by medical terms and focus more on just being healthy and happy with ourselves.
@@farah_lynn obesity is a medical term.
@@farah_lynn some ppl just eat themselves to death.
My grandfather drinks himself to die, he's very happy btw
@@marjattakolari521 Yup I said it was.
I wish you could be my dietitian. You’re so unbiased and passionate about what you do.
Courtney Myers aw thanks love
Abbey, I think you are incredible. My relationship with food has been ‘complicated’ since I was young. Watching your videos, alongside my own research and recovery, has been extremely beneficial. Thank you!
I never restricted my foods in the past and it led to me being obese. Not the other way around. As a?child or teen i never stressed or restricted my Eating or foods... my disorder is wont stop eating. I love food and will just keep shoveling it til im sick and now "morbidly obese" bottom line i have to cut my self off at some point. And if you're like me know you're not alone or wrong with giving your self boundaries.
When I was in middle school/high school I wanted to lose weight because I felt like I needed to look a certain way. There were times where I was afraid to eat in front of other people and I let food have so much control of my happiness. I'm in college now, and I still want to lose weight, but now for completely different reasons. I don't care so much about my size anymore, but more about my overall health. In the past three years of my life, my mom, dad, and other close relatives of mine have had major health complications because of their unhealthy eating habits. So while going down a few sizes may be a plus, it's not a huge concern for me. I want to be the one in my family who won't have to let these health complications get in the way of their lives, I want to be able to be active with my future kids, and I just want to feel good. I am very grateful for channels like Abbey's because they remind me that I am perfectly normal and will have ups and downs but in the end, I am valued and loved and should never punish myself for who I am or what I eat.
As someone who's dealt with disordered eating since childhood (binging, food addiction, orthorexia, and restriction) who's now in early recovery, I know I'm simply not ready for intuitive eating. Believe me, I'd love to get to a place where I'm able to eat a nutritionally balanced diet that also incorporates all of my favorite foods and trigger foods in reasonable amounts. But not all restriction is bad, and I currently have to restrict a few foods because I know eating them usually leads to me binging. It's not because I attach some sort of moral value to those foods and see them as forbidden. I know I'm allowed to eat whatever the hell I want, but I also know it doesn't seem to work well for me when I try to incorporate certain foods into my diet with any regularity. For me, it's an exercise of self-love and honesty to admit that keeping foods like bread and ice cream in the house is bad for my mental health.
I really don't care what experts agree on or can properly name yet. Many of us deal with food "addiction" on a daily basis and it's not simply a response to restrictive behaviors. These issues can look similar to the way drug addiction presents itself (of course drug addiction might be stronger and is more imminently dangerous, but that doesn't make food addiction any less of an addiction). Certain foods in particular have biologically and psychologically addictive qualities, such as refined sugar and flour. Even people without a history of food addiction have problems limiting their intake of highly processed foods. If you're a person who has no difficulty with this, you're very lucky and actually the odd one.
I agree that diet culture is very toxic and unhelpful, but that doesn't mean that no meal planning is ever needed and we can all eat intuitively. Our bodies are not "wise" and "all-knowing". Intuitive eating is simply not for everyone, and that's okay. I wish people would stop acting like it is. I really enjoy your videos, Abbey, but I find that you gloss over and invalidate the lived experience of people with eating disorders and mental health issues, even when it seems like you're trying to sympathize.
Thanks for this. I will try harder to Articulate my empathy and understanding. Is there something I could say that is encouraging but doesn’t undermine these experiences?
@@AbbeysKitchen Hey, Abbey, thank you so much for taking the time to reply! I want to say that I really appreciate your videos and love how much you speak out against the toxicity of diet culture and body shaming. The idea of prioritizing self-care and changing one's relationship with food OVER losing weight, is difficult to digest (pun intended). I'm currently in the midst of recovering from out of control binge eating (with no restriction), and trying to lose the weight I gained so I'm no longer technically obese. Unfortunately, when I try to eat intuitively and allow myself to eat essentially whatever I want, the amount of very rich, and/or processed foods always gradually increases, or I find myself binging because I've given myself "permission" to eat as much as I want. I can't speak for everyone with eating disorders, but this is my experience and not an uncommon one. I probably need to work with a psychotherapist before I'd consider intuitive eating.
Anyway, to answer your question, I guess you could perhaps acknowledge in your videos that intuitive eating might not be a one size fits all approach, particularly for those who come from a background of disordered eating or are currently struggling. Also, you could perhaps acknowledge how complicated our relationships with food can be, and that some people's desire to overeat is due to a need to self-soothe. Our stress level/mental health issues often shape our relationship with food, and those issues might need to be dealt with first. To complicate matters, some people, myself included, were never even taught how to properly feed themselves in early life by the adults who were supposed to be making sure our diets were nutritionally adequate. We had to learn all about nutrition and normal portion sizes as adults.
I've tried looking into the most current peer-reviewed research on intuitive eating, especially how it relates to eating disorder recovery, and the information is scarce. But even without that data, I'm highly skeptical of the idea of one particular way of eating being the ideal for everyone. Do you know of any current research that discusses intuitive eating as a tool in eating disorder recovery itself or as it relates to those in long term recovery? Is there a particular intuitive eating expert you'd recommend who's inclusive of people with eating disorders? I get the sense that anorexia nervosa has been studied far more extensively than binge-eating disorder, since the latter is newly recognized. But anyway, thanks again for your content, reply to my comment, and for reading this, if you've made it this far.
Love love LOVE this video!! So much positivity and such good messaging! Love the emphasis on “person first language”. As a healthcare provider it is SO easy to fall into stigmatizing language without even realizing it, and this was a great reminder to step back and put the person first. I cannot wait for your intuitive eating series!!
I would also LOVE a video, or even a series, about raising body confident kids! My son is only one year old but I really want to do everything I can to make sure he grows up body positive and learns to have a healthy relationship with food!
Thanks for listening to your audience @abbeysharp I made a question about intuitive eating a while ago and for some reason I knew you would eventually reply. May not be the answer some of us expected and it does not mean we will all now agree on your take regarding the subject but I truly respect the fact that you listened and took time to prepare this video in response to our questions. It shows how much you respect and take our feedback. Thanks x
WonderWomanS thanks so much.
I shared this video with my coworkers because one of them has been talking nonstop about her diet and fitness obsession lately and not only are the rest of us concerned for her, but it's also toxic diet-culture talk that I don't want to hear anymore and it's causing me to question myself in relation to my attempts at being more body positive with myself. I found this video so informative and fun, as I do all of your videos! Thank you so much for all that you do.
I went into this with the mindset to not agree at all and I'd say you explained yourself so well. Thank you for sharing your point of view it has provided a lot of clarity!
s l I’m so glad !!!
There are plenty of studies that strongly suggest CAUSATION with obesity not just correlation, including ones over the pandemic. I disagree also based on personal experiences. I ate MORE fruit and vegetables when I was overweight and had severe abdominal obesity and it caused prediabetes fatty liver, when I lost fat & gained muscle through dropping calories & exercising, I was much healthier.
Isn't obesity more a result of privilege than being thin/ lean? Historically speaking the privileged/ royalty is often pictured being overweight, especially for that time. But I guess we need to keep that victim mentality going.
Becky Riesinger it is absolutely a result of privilege. I really hate the victim mentality of the fat acceptance movement for literally complaining they have the privilege and ability to over eat for years when much of the world doesn’t have access to such amounts of food
I've had this video in my watch later list for too long! Glad I finally watched it, and I am yet again grateful for your content!
Thank you for sharing this with us, Abbey!
I have struggled with food and was obese for most of my adult life. Over a year I have slowly lost 20kg and have really been trying to have a healthy relationship with food.
This video made so much sense to me and was so relatable. Thank you so much for all the videos you make!!
Finnick and Annie forever I’m sooooo glad
I have an anecdotal story for around minute 11. I was prediabetic, my blood pressure was increasing, I switched to a plant based diet, lost no weight and my fasting blood sugar range is now 20-30 points lower and I am no longer suffering bouts of low blood sugar. My blood pressure also improved. I can definitely see the impact. Now I am focusing on trying to get in touch with my body's hunger cues and exercising in my favorite way (hiking out in nature) and strength training. I am seeing weight loss and look forward to improved health.
Have you considered reacting to ADIF (alternate-day intermittent fasting) videos from people like Rachel Sharp? I know you’ve addressed intermittent fasting at large, but I really enjoy your WIEAD review format, and I’d love to get your thoughts!
Gus Berg will take a look!
I am so glad you’re going deeper into intuitive eating and food addiction. I’ve felt really lost lately. Thanks for the videos. 💜
Elissa Peach you’re so welcome! Check out my book mindful glow and also the links I left to help
Can you please do a video reviewing the British show supersize vs super skinny they basically trade unhealthy habits for a week
V Wagstaff yes !
I'm pretty sure the only reason they do that is for shock factor. They then give them healthy eating plans for the next few months.
One of THE best videos I have seen in years on TH-cam. As a former food & carb addict, emotional eater & as someone who has been "dieting" for over 30 years, I THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!!
As Toronto I’m so happy to hear
We have an epidemic of obesity and type 2 diabetes in the US. We know that these conditions are problems that reduce the quality of people's lives. We should not shy away from recognizing and naming these conditions even though doing so may hurt people's feelings. Everyone has to deal with reality.
If we look at overweight and obesity rates in the US over several decades and generations, it's clear the we are getting fatter. And many Americans are unhappy about this. They ate *intuitively* in an environment that is filled with toxic junk food. They didn't have to *think* about their food choices. This is the definition of intuitive.
And each year, they gained a pound or two or more. And over the years, it added up to the point where they were overweight and then obese.
And they grew unhappy when they realized what had happened to their bodies.
And diet culture was born.
As flawed as diet culture is, diet culture did not make us fat. As frustrating as dieting may be, properly planned and executed diets -- not crash diets -- are not bad for our health.
Restriction -- avoiding certain foods (like alcohol) -- may benefit our health.
The unfortunate underlying tone of this video is to suggest that everything's okay -- that being obese is the new norm and that eating oneself to obesity is not a problem. It is a problem.
Real problems require real solutions. We have to recognize that navigating our current environment and culture in relation to food requires caution and may require us to *think* carefully about the options we have available to us on a daily basis.
I didn't get the message you got at all.
Intuitive eating is not saying that we can eat whatever we want and that being obese is okay.
George EX Check your history. Fad diets and Diet Culture started BEFORE the average body weight of the population increased.
@@violettefemme21 So fad dieting and diet culture began when the people were fit? Tell me more.
George EX Like I said. Go check your history. Fad diets started being written about as early as 1830 with a high fiber diet then 1863 with a low carb diet. And so on.
George EX you definitely missed the point and tone and in fact I explicitly say in the video “I’m not saying we should all just be fat”.
This was so good ❤️ I’ve always been average- so I always restricted myself out of fear of gaining weight. Because “healthy” was demonstrated to me as women who eat like birds. When I started eating intuitively I gained 10 lbs, but I never felt stronger and more energized in my life. (I was finally getting the right amount of protein and healthy calories.) It’s been a journey- but I can’t wait to teach my daughters how to actually feed their bodies. My relationship with food has greatly improved and so has my quality of life.
Plank Eyed Saint so glad
I don’t think dieting is always the reason for poor eating choices.
I gave up on dieting for 2 years and began “mindless eating”. I would over eat and snack on unhealthy food to cope with stress or boredom. No foods were “off-limits” in my mind. I gained 25kg, and would have kept gaining if I hadn’t stopped myself and started to focus on changing poor habits.
I value intuitive eating, but I don’t think it’s fair to say everyone who isn’t eating intuitively has a “diet mentality”.
Samantha thanks for that! Sometimes this mentality isn’t just about restriction, it’s a deep seeded frame of mind that moralizes food. I’ll be speaking with some colleagues on how to best articulate this
Can confirm, as soon as I stopped worrying about my weight, I began healthier behaviors. I got enough courage to join a sport without worrying if I was "too fat". I exercise to gain flexibility, improve my athleticism for the sport, and for energy and enjoyment instead of weight loss.
Abbey, thank you for this video. I suspect it'll be a shit show in the comments because people really don't want to believe this stuff, but it's absolutely correct.
Do you really believe that people don't want to believe intuitive eating?
I think just about everyone would rather ignore calories and satisfy their cravings. Problem is, in this environment, people have a lot of poor food choices to choose from and there may be consequences in the long run for those choices.
@@general_electrics However, if a person doesnt to demonize or restrict those choices then the appeal lowers and people don't restrict, binge, repeat. Instead they develop a healthy relationship with food and eat those less than beneficial foods moderately instead of excessively.
@@jessicamann6258 There are a lot of assumptions behind "restrict, binge, repeat." Not all people become overweight by restrict, binge, and repeat. In fact, I would argue that most people simply skip to binge. And because foods are designed to be addictive, their brain doesn't stand a chance.
Eliminating certain foods altogether can help people to maintain a healthy weight. Knowing how those eliminated foods are no good for one's health can promote better choices that do not lead to cravings for clearly detrimental choices.
@@general_electrics I didn't say that people get overweight from restrict, binge, repeat. Your comment seems to assume that everyone starts at a lower weight, and then eats themselves to being fat. But that's not how it works. Look up set point theory. However, restrict-binge-repeat can cause someone to lose weight, gain even more than they weighed before, and binge on "junk" food. If someone is intuitively eating correctly, they won't eat solely "bad" or "junk" foods.
I'm a vegan subscriber!!! Love your content, you've changed my relationship with food rather then change what I eat :)
Gabby Peterson I’m so so happy to hear
As a overweight male I don’t think being thinner is a “privilege” but I can tell you the clothing thing is real and even more so trying to find clothes for sports, so you are told to exercise but then you are lucky to find a company that makes clothes for by given sport you want to play to get in your exercise. Not to mention that when people see a fat person they assume they are lazy or unintelligent. I’ve fought my weight for years now and we really need to be holding highly processed food companies accountable for the addictive quality they are putting in there food.
That being said I’m a massage therapist and I practice Jiu jitsu and enjoy cycling so if any over weight individual is reading this and needs clothes for those given sports I have suggestions.
There's nothing wrong with the word obese. I myself am morbidly obese and even though I¨m not happy about it, that word describes me. It just is the truth as much as any other chaaracteristics I have, like being right handed, it's just a term to descibe something.
You are an angel of common sense in the hell that is now TH-cam FACTphobic humans!
Thanks for sharing! If it doesn’t offend you then amazing! But since I work in this field I just am sensitive to what I hear can feel stigmatizing, and a shift in language really isn’t a burden to me
@@AbbeysKitchen But don't you get the feeling that this change of language is leading to more problems? I think that this is becoming a problem of itself to be honest.
Thank you Abby. Intuitive eating changed my life. I was diet and weight obsessed with losing weight my absolutely only goal, passion and desire. I was fucking miserable and was using weight, food, and dieting as a way to deal with my emotions and anxieties. The bullshit thing about was I was always a normal size lol. So really it does affect us all. Nowadays I consider myself an intuitive eating veteran but honestly with all the marketed diet culture shit we are exposed to every fucking day, having more reminders on what actual health is and what actual healthy eating is, is more than welcome. I'm super excited for your intuitive eating series!
Sarah Schech amaZing!
Love this video and so excited for the series! I would love to see you discuss metabolic issues associated with PCOS, diabetes etc and can intuitive eating be attainable for folks with these conditions?
Mary-Kate N yes absolute will
I work in the eating disorder field and just attended a presentation about bridging from a meal plan over to intuitive eating. One really interesting takeaway was that, in some treatment centers, clinicians are moving away from the term "weight restoration" in favor of the term "nutritional rehabilitation." I really like this as it takes away the emotional connotation of "weight" and removes confusion and shame for those in larger bodies who may feel they do not need to "restore" weight if their body is at or above a "normal" BMI. Everyone with an ED is malnourished in some way, regardless of weight or body size. I think this is a great language shift!
Allie Link i LOVE that! Thank you for sharing !!
I noticed a big difference in how doctors interacted with me when I gained weight. Especially younger doctors (UK), say those under 35.
For example I went to the doctor about unusual for me breathlessness, including breathlessness when sitting on my sofa! And also with a huge difference from day to day (some days getting breathless, other days not/less), and the doctor literally said to go away and loose weight and if I was still breathless to come back (and also if something drastic happened in the meantime to be fair). I was in the “overweight” section of her chart, not the “obese” section. Probably around 13-14 stone, a UK size 14/16 (US 10/12). Not shaming anyone else, just saying that although “overweight” and admittedly not as healthy as I’d like, me telling her something was unusual for me was dismissed as being weight related.
This is the most obvious example but the overall mood of being essentially “told off “ about my weight has been a pattern and TBH I choose the doctors that don’t do this. Ironically these are the doctors who have come through the newer training system that is supposed to be more patient centred. I’ve also seen poor trainee doctors who clearly don’t want to bring up weight etc with a patient twice their age but must have been told they have to, and so awkwardly bring it up. And bless them I really feel for them, they feel so uncomfortable doing it. Good instincts guys, you can feel that something is “off” in what is being asked of you. Don’t loose those instincts and become too hardened.
I am so happy intuitively eating. Im so lucky my bodies intuition is to eat predominantly vegetables and fruits. Coming from such disordered eating to somewhat normal has saved my life. I have been sharing your videos and talking about intuitive eating to others as well :) i really love your videos and your approach. You never ever tell anyone what to do and you always seem to have understanding of everyones choices and opinions. You show lots of respect to vegans and other diets and are always honest. Thank you 🖤🙏
"in a larger body"... ugh. A 5-foot-tall woman has a small body, and if she's carrying 100 lbs of adipose tissue, she still has a small body. A 180 lb, 6'3" man has a large body. Adults' bodies do not change size, but they can change composition as a result of our daily routines. If we're agreed that being fat is not in itself a character flaw, and I think we are, then why are we avoiding using the word fat? Or obese? It's not an insult.
Jessalyn Rogers fat has been reclaimed by the movement but a lot of people in larger bodies don’t like the word obese as I mentioned in the video. We all can call it whatever we want but since I work in the field I try to be sensitive to this
@@AbbeysKitchen ''a lot of people in larger bodies don’t like the word obese''....well tough cookie they don't like it. Obese is literally a medical term. So you're refusing to use medical terms for the sake of feelings? Imagine if doctors did that.
If doctors considered patient feelings, many of them would be more inclined to open up about their issues and get help, this is what Abby is doing, elevating the feeling of guilt that come with a larger body to be able to truly focus on our health and what we are giving our body in terms of nutrients
eve winter as a medical term it should be more limited in its use. in the same way that anxiety or depression shouldn’t be used flippantly. Me calling someone obese is incorrect because I don’t have access to their complete medical history. I am not a doctor. Abby can’t use specific words in a general setting like TH-cam. She can’t diagnose over a video.
@@jessicabaros9803 There's no diagnosis needed when you are talking about obesity as a nutritionist because you are talking about it as a general topic, you're not talking to one person. Nobody talks to a single person on a youtube video. Her refusal of using correct terms just shows that she's more interested in not offending anyone for the sake of making money, instead of actually trying to help people.
You can't help people if you don't identify the facts. You can help your wallet if you sugarcoat them tho. That's exactly what she's doing. It's transparent.
HI ABBEY!
TW // Food, Eating Disorder
I just realised this was uploaded on my birthday and I came back here to tell you how this whole "Intuitive Eating" has helped me a lot. I used to have eating disorders (I was obsessed with laxatives and I used to work out to a point my body was in actual pain, I was also obsessed with "health" foods). I do still struggle with coping with the whole eating disorder thing but I am making progress because I am slowly starting to learn about my body and food. By intuitive eating, I actually gained a lot more strength, my hair started becoming thicker again, my skin was glowing. I used to be afraid of eating a cookie to a point that I would cry or have anxiety attacks once I finish a whole pack of cookies. Now, I just have the damn cookie when I want and I was so satisfied and it's funny how much intuitive eating can change the way you see food. I also realised that I am able to exert more strength and be more motivated while working out. It used to be so hard for me to do yoga when I wake up even though I've been doing yoga for the longest time. Now, I can stay in my poses longer and I can even engage my muscles to a level I did not expect before. Nowadays, I work out more because I have energy and I love that boost in my mood when I work out, I do yoga in the morning 6 days a week then I do pilates and some slow jogging in the evenings. For some, it can seem a bit much but for me, it makes me so happy that I am excited to go for a 10-minute walk without worrying about losing energy halfway! I didn't even realise I actually lost some inches, I don't use the scale much until I need to go to the doctors. Even though my ultimate goal from this was not to lose fat but to gain more confidence and strength, I did lose some fat! But I wasn't gaining it again, the weight I kept off remained off through intuitive eating because I knew what I wanted and what I needed. Like- I realise that I am able to listen to my body when it's both hungry and not hungry. There are certain days where I don't feel hungry until I want to eat and some days, I want to eat. Having mental health issues certainly does make it hard for me to actually distinguish between it but it's still good progress. I am now also not afraid to supplement as well because I used to be afraid of supplements. Since I eat plant-based mostly while intuitive eating, I listen to my body when it wants an extra boost. Sometimes when I look at pregnant people and how they crave and how the foods somehow turn to be important for the person and their baby, somehow that applies the same way to us and it took me so many years to realise this. I wish I learned about this a long time ago, I am still trying to make some progress with dealing with my disorders but I am maintaining a positive mindset and have to be more accepting of fluctuations! Thank you for your videos and teaching me that I can be healthy while having a good relationship with food and having a good relationship with my body, no matter what size it is.
The oversimplification ... healthy at every size is not a real thing. It's a great idea, but it's not real. As I said in another comment here, I am morbidly obese. I don't have any major chronic problems, there's generally not much wrong with me .. yet I have a raging binge eating problems. So I could just say "I'm healty at my current size" and go buy more cake, or I can actually try to do something. Even tho the physical damage isn't prevelent yet, I am very aware of how this affects my mental health.
I understand that you're trying to do a good thing and encourage people to take care of themsemlves, but to recommend intuitive eating to an obese person is a really, really bad idea.
Klára Krčková like I said, I’m not suggesting that everyone can jump into IE right off the bat. They may need some structure at first to learn to fully trust their body to get there, and that’s what working w a IE RD can help with.
Klára Krčková I’ve struggled with overweight and overeating most of my life. I had an eating disorder when I was a teenager and there I could lose much weight that eventually came back through the years. What I’ve learned is that IE is a long term decision that can correct the problematic relationship we have around food and eating. Ok, yes, traditional diets and structures can work faster and help to lose potential problems related to weight, and it’s important to educate ourselves about nutrition, but if we don’t correct the way we see food/eating, the unhealthy patterns will prevail for the rest of our lives.
@@eliade356 I'm not saying that it's not a valid tool. It is, of course. But not for everyone. If you're so far gone as I am right now, this can not help you. This is just my opinion of course.
@@klarakrckova4362 "Health" at every size really means taking part in healthy behaviours regardless of your body shape or weight and feeling comfortable enough in yourself to pursue healthful activities (example, going to the gym without feeling shame around your body image). If you struggle with binge eating or compulsive/emotional eating, I strongly recommend you work on that along side IE. For someone who uses food as a crutch in their life (like me), IE will be very difficult. It's important to learn other ways of coping with stress or anxiety, otherwise you will struggle to eat for hunger and fullness. If you can afford one, I recommend seeing a therapist. I've been working with one and reading "Well Nourished: Mindful Practices to Heal Your Relationship with Food", if that book connects with you.
@@eliade356 my grandda says fuck off and drank hinself to coffin.
If we put him off alcohol and toxic drinking events, he could BE still alive.
U wouldn't let a psycho patient with history of murder running around right?
When doctor told u, ur obessed, loose weight or death, ppl around them give support like don't buy high calorie food & blablabla.
But the body positive movement now it's more like i don't care im gonna eat whatever i want till i die.
Some ppl can't BE changed, suicide slow motion.
As an autistic kid who grew up unable to eat anything but grits my mother pushed me to eat anything! Anything!! As a result nothing was truly off limits. Have cake every week? Sure! And as a result i also got more easily into trying new things. I still over eat and feel a small pull towards fast carbs but i am also able to feel my body when that is not what it craves. I forgive myself for wanting chocolate because i know it's not bad to do so. Because i have days when i crave kale also. Both have their place in a healthy diet.
AgentPedestrian yes!!! How freeing
I can never hear what shes saying even with volume all the way up and with headphones in cuz I'm HoH. Please add captions.
Sorry! I didn’t realize it was still an issue
@Mel Ro they dont help me
What’s HoH?
@@kikolou946 hard of hearing
Quinn thank u☺️
I developed an eating disorder after my dr. at 16 made me go on Adderal to lose weight.
I would not eat for days then binge when I finally got away with not taking it. I also clearly become addicted to Adderal. I actually cried watching this. This is the first time my body was talked about without being told of absolutely disgusting. Thank you, this cycle is exhausting and the stress of hating my body stops me from enjoying life, finding love, even leaving the house. Thank you for a few minutes of feeling a little bit of respect for my existence.
I would love to hear your perspective on weight loss surgery. It seems to wreak havoc on the body, and after many of the procedures, people who undergo them are only able to eat around 600 calories per day. Do you think there is a point at which people need to lose weight so quickly because their health is in jeopardy, or would implementing healthier behaviors immediately but not focusing on the weight loss itself help them more?
Ugly Vegan ugh it’s terrible. It’s such an individual situation and one I definitely think warrants professional consultation w a IE RD
All they do it's sleeping on hospital bed, 600 kcal it's enough.
Or u want them to just die?
@@AbbeysKitchen it's not ur job tho, ur not a doctor. BTW my grandfather had a "happy diet" n drank himself to die, my other grandfather is obessed and ill, obesity is a medical term, i don't know why u would think this is fat shaming or whatever.
Thank you so much for your videos. I have struggled with an eating disorder for years and after being submersed in diet culture for so long I have been trying so hard to learn intuitive eating and balance in my diet and how to love food again. Your channel has really helped me, because it's based in science and it really helps me to cut through all of the noise about different crash diets and get back to the basics and be okay with nourishing my body and learning to embrace my physical and mental health. Plus your videos are just so well made and entertaining! THANK YOU!
Andrea Wilberding I’m so happy to hear
I have bad ibs. I often feel talked down to on this channel because if i eat what i want to try to take some of that mysticism away from it I end up doubled over in pain. So for starters thank you for this video; i better feel like i can trust that you actually want people to be healthier and it isnt some call-out for views. But where do i fall into intuitive eating? When i cant eat most foods i feel like i cant really listen to my body AND my mind at the same time...
Would love for something like this to be mentioned in the series: ibs, food allergies, and food sensitivities.
I'd look into dr.amy Meyers and healing your gut, then you could probably work into intuitive eating.
This is the first time in my lifetime of restrictive dieting, losing 60, 70, 80 pounds at a time and gaining it back in a cycle of binging that I heard a nutritionist talk about food and healthy behavior without shaming me and larger body. I’m so happy to have discovered your channel and it inspired me to reach out to a therapist who specializes in disordered eating.
Finally! Thank you for making this overview.
Thanks for watching!
I'm so glad she made this, I'm 100% one of the people who referred to her attitude towards intuitive eating as "flippant" and this is exactly the kind of response I needed!
I think you made quite a leap from dieting raising blood pressure and making people gain weight to how no dieting would solve the obesity problem... The fact is that a lot of people are uneducated, or don't care about their health, and constantly eat foods that are engineered to be addictive. This is why I like your more nutrition-focused videos. I think they put the message of balanced eating across a lot better, and they're easy to learn from.
1234ZGirl so glad! And I’m still doing that as well! And we will be covering nutrition in IE, it’s part of it. Sorry if that seemed like a leap in thought, I’ll try to continue to articulate
11:25 “...in other words it seems that is the dieting” THAT IS CORRELATION TOO!
Natalia Román A. Of course there’s no such thing as TRUE causation in nutrition research but we often try to control for as much as we can. Which we can do in a lab, but we can’t do so well with population research on humans in larger bodies
@@AbbeysKitchen Yeah some people don't get the concept of correlation does not equal causation aspect in research studies.
I am in the heaviest weight when I tried to diet. On that time, I tracked every single things that I ate. I worried about meal plan. I felt like I think about food all the time, and I gained so much weight from binge eating. After that I gave up on my diet. I stopped tracking, and let myself eat what I want without restriction. Surprisingly, I lost all gained weight. I even lost more weight than when I am on diet with slow jogging 3 times a week. I am still on my journey, but this time I don't set a weight goal. Now my goal is to be healthy until I am old.
can you talk about how freelee says humans are frugavors (how ever you spell it lmao) i just don’t think it’s true
I am pretty darn sure it's not since fruit, while delicious, probably wouldn't meet the nutritional needs of a human.
I think she kinda did already, I know she did two videos on freelee and another on a couple that is “raising a fruitarian baby”
Yup i did discuss this in a past video. Check out my diet review playlist
Humans evolved eating cooked food and it allowed us to double to triple our brain size from this due to the amount of calories we were able to take in from cooked foods. Raw food diets are whack and nutrient deficient.
Leia Malone hi, I would say a dietitian is not someone who really should answer this. Instead, I would look into the evolutionary history of the hominin species. We have never had a specialized diet (except for Paranthropus Bosei, who were herbivores). We can eat a very wide range of foods and are generally omnivorous. Freelee and others like her will say that our teeth are similar to those of frugivores. However, our evolutionary histories are quite different. Our canines (generally used for tearing flesh) most likely shrank in size due to a shift toward cooking our food. I could go on forever, but hopefully this incites some interest. If you are interested in learning more, you can read more about Anthropology via google and google scholar.
on the 20 minutes watching this video, I tried unconsciously about 5 times to press the "Like" button, only to realize I had already done it. This is how much I liked this video
If you're going to mention 'studies suggest that..' can you please link to those actual studies.
A magician never reveals her secrets.
To the unaware, "studies" is interpreted as "scientific fact."
Without discussing study flaws and limitations, it's just about the most dishonest tactic someone can use on those who don't know any better.
There are a bunch of links to the research studies in the description.
@@general_electrics they're in the description, idiot
@@lilamasand5425 Those were added later.
George EX I think Abby is careful about her wording when she mentions studies. She says “studies suggest” and “there are links” a lot which implies correlation and not causation. Mentioning scientific studies is important keeping in mind that all scientific studies have an element of human error.
I absolutely love that you point out privelages and evidence in your videos. I also love that you point out the diet culture even if it's really subtle. It really helps to see how deeply diet culture is in our lives and I think being aware of it helps. My problem with food that I want to overcome is that I binge on sweets after dinner even though I don't want to or feel the need to. It feels like a compulsive behaviour. I'm looking forward to your intuitive eating series and figure videos, I'm sure it'll help me in some way.
sionv2009 this is very common. Definitely check out the book I recommended
There is no enough evidence that on intuitive eating junky foods lose their allure and that people start to crave more healthy food. It's just a theory. May be at some point - yes, but we don't know actually. What people say and think they do and what they actually do - a big difference. A lot of people tend to choose high calorie foods on evolutionary basis.
I tried intuitive eating a few years ago. I never got sick of junk food. The more sugar I ate, the more I craved it. I gained 20 lbs in about a month and developed sleep apnea and depression. I realized that it was so mentally unhealthy for me to be so fixated on food all the time. I was part of the haes community, and they all told me 5that eventually the junk food would lose its appeal and i would naturally fall into a new set point weight. I wasn't going to allow myself to get over 200 lbs at 5 ft tall, I felt awful all the time. My body just wants to eat junk, I have to have self discipline to have a balanced diet. I'm not on a diet, but I just don't pig out anymore, and I eat mostly healthy.
I love that you’re so woke about how to address folks w/ diabetes, obesity, etc., while also understanding we all need positive relationships with actual NUTRITION not just being thin. V refreshing on TH-cam!
I really need you to clarify how you define "diet" in the context of "diets don't work".
Because a person's diet is what they eat, and if you change what you eat you can change your weight and maintain that change.
You probably mean heavily restricted/crash diets, BUT a lot of people in the health at every size/fat acceptance movement claim that people can't lose weight and keep it off (or that 92-97% cant, it's a common statistic mentioned).
It sounds so fatalistic. And it also does not match your description of intuitive eating which includes a varied diet and learning to stop eating when you're full.
It might sounds obvious, and you may assume everyone knows what "diets" are, but it's very vague and I think it lessens the impact of your message.
I thought it was pretty clear what the context of the word being used here was. When someone says drugs are bad, do you go off on a rant about "Ummmm actually someone might misunderstand you and think they shouldn't take their heart medicine". Are you being anal on purpose, or are you legitimately confused?
Sorry yes I mean weight loss diets
I had never heard of intuitive eating until I started watching your videos but it sounds like its what I've been doing for the past 8 years or so. I struggled a lot in the past with eating disorders and obsessing over my weight. I was at a point where I was scared and stressed and weighed more than ever before and had limited ability to choose what I ate. Idk what clicked, but I decided to focus on making healthy choices and not make anything off limits. I decided to focus more on just having a balanced diet and stop trying to worry about calories. Along with taking an hour walk nearly every morning (which was also really good for my mental health as well), it led to me getting down to a weight my body is comfortable stand I've been able to easily maintain it ever since. My BP actually improved as well. It used to be really low and now it's much better.
I'm excited to learn more!
Rainwing Silver so happy to hear!!!!
Telling a fat person to lose weight is not discrimination, it’s advice, for the wellbeing of the person. People with obesity have a way, way higher death rate than those of average weights. Maybe you’re right, maybe weight isn’t an indicator of health, but you’re not taking into account the fact that almost all people with obesity reach that level _because_ of unhealthy habits. Once they drop those habits, they can be healthy again and lose weight. That’s the reality, you can’t ‘speculate’ on it because it is what the truth is. Intuitive eating is not possible for those on the verge of death. They need a faster, more guaranteed approach to get them to a safe level, and then they can begin to implement those longterm habits.
But I’m not the dietician here so idk 🤷🏽♀️
I'm so glad I just found out about this. I've struggled with my weight since I was 5. I would eat fatty foods given to me but still hungry, I was shamed for wanting more. When I was able to pay attention to my fullness cues, I was told to finish my plate and not waste food. Now, I feel guilty for leaving food on the plate. Sometimes I go for seconds even after I'm full. Sometimes I eat even when I'm not hungry because I may not have reached my weight loss calorie goal. I just have a disordered way of eating basically and I'm ready to try this again for my mental health first and also physical health.
I am a dietetics major, could you do a video on alternative careers for those of us in this field not interested in MNT? I just really dont see myself in a clinical role and am feeling very lost and panicked in my program, but I do love nutrition and have a passion for body positivity.
So there is a woman in my hometown who is a registered dietician, and she's actually a restaurant owner. I think it creates an interesting perspective on food. So that could be an interesting career path.
Alexa Silvers for sure! There are so many career paths in dietetics. I have some courses if you’re interested in media training. Check out my website for these courses
Hey Alexa!! Same!! So happy to see a fellow dietetics student here🤗🤗🤗But yeah, I totally get you!!The clinical setting just isn’t for me! But I’ve always loved community! Or you could also go into research! That’s an awesome, growing field! Or even food science! Or private practice!
Me as well! I just did a rotation with a private practice that does some food relationship work and would HIGHLY recommend you request a rotation with one! It was life changing!
The takeaway for me is to eat until I'm full, no more, no less. I think that mindset can help me as a weight lifter and a food addict. Weight lifting has improved my life but it makes me hungry. The shame I have with eating 4 meals is hard on me as someone who used to get called fat. I still have a lot of fat, so when I get hungry 4 times a day, I feel that shame. But it's because I lift a lot and lifting has improved my life too much to quit
Love you abbey❤️ I would love to read some of the studies you reference when you say “research suggests,” as a biochemistry student
Tessa Gebert yes!! I’ll make sure we get them up!
Biochemistry. Awesome! You'll no-doubt be able to understand the flaws and limitations of the "research" Abbey uses to push her agenda.
When I was a child I had an aggressive stomach disease, which caused me to be nauseous chronically. I couldn't stomach food and I was so incredibly thin. I wanted food, I just felt sick all the time. When I was 12 I was 157 cm (5ft1) tall and weighed 27 kg. (60 lbs). After treatment and much fear around food because of how it used to make me feel I could finally eat again. So I did, and suddenly, at age 27 I am still 157 cm (5ft1) tall, but I wheigh in around 75 kg (165 lbs). I've tried dieting, fasting and all sort of stuff and all aggravates my fear of food and my disease. Now, I feel like I've found my haven. With intuitive eating, I've figured out what makes me feel good, what agrees with my body and when I am full and when I am actually hungry. I still like all the "siiiinfuuull" foods (sarcastic here) and that's okay. The one promise I've made to myself and the only thing I track is getting at least 600 grams of vegetables every day and that I move my body at least 30 minutes every day. As long as that is taken care of there is nothing else I have to think about other than eat what feels good and also makes me feel good later. Sometimes that's steamed salmon and avocado sometimes that's a spinach and cauliflower smoothie, sometimes it's a cup of hot chocolate with orange syrup. And that's okay. All of it is okay.
Causation is how we know smoking is bad for you Abbey, should we ignore that as well because we can't prove that smoking X amount of cigarettes causes X amount of cancer? Trying to pretend that being obese doesn't increase your disease risk is some next level pandering bullcrap.
So fun thing about science correlation alone does not imply causation, and you can't do a controlled double blind study on obesity in humans (like I can't round up 1000 people and assign 500 to an "obese" group and 500 to a "thin" group). So all we can do is look at relationships, but what we don't know is does A cause B, B cause A, or A and B are both caused by some unknown factor, C? Smoking, while presently unethical, you could theoretically randomly assign folks to smoke or not. But even if you look at correlations, you can see things like an uptick in cancer after smoking became widespread. Obesity isn't something you can choose to be or not, not in the same way you can choose to smoke or not.
Also we need to eat to live, that is pretty well established. You don't need to smoke.
there is a difference in eating to fat and someone who has like a hormone imbalance that just puts on weight regardless of diet and exercise. So it's a person to person basis same with smoking. I had a great aunt who smoked from like 12, lived to 100 and had perfect lungs after all that smoking. Then my mom had lung cancer at like 40. All people work differently is the point
Annelise Koskiniemi yessss! I’ll speak more to this soon in the series definitely health situations (ie think joint issues) that could benefit from weight loss, I’m not discounting that. However we still know that weight loss diets don’t work, so prescribing them is sticky. It’s a benefit risk analysis that should be done with a IE RD to help you navigate nutrition without falling into the restrictive patterns that often result in making issues worse. This is why we suggest IE which incorporates gentle nutrition without the shame or guilt
I ate whatever I wanted for five years without restriction and my appetite never balanced out. My binging never improved. My cravings for carbs only intensified in that time. I think it’s false to suggest that people only binge in response to restriction.