A neighbor of mine found love in The Villages. They were both single and had their own homes here in The Villages. They sold both homes bought one together and now are getting married.
That gives us all hope! But seriously I love hearing stories like that… Christine and I both have a friend who is getting married in November and met her husband at Edna’s when she moved to The Villages. Very sweet and so perfect together!
Great video Tina. Thanks for helping a guy get a little insight into Villages dating. I’m relatively new to the Villages and still trying to navigate the waters. I think both of you ladies are the cutest and I hope to see you around sometime. Happy Labor Day!! 👍🏻👍🏻
Glad to hear this was insightful for you. I’m sure you’ll get your footing soon enough in The Villages. It may take a little bit of time to figure it all out but the longer you are here the smaller The Villages becomes if that makes sense… hopefully we will see you around!
This was a great video. I am single widower and it is nice to know what women are looking for from their perspective. It is tough to get back into the dating world after many years of marriage. You have to get through your loss before you can move on. This is a great interview. Keep up the good work.
Thanks so much for the lovely feedback. Yes it’s important to work through your loss so that you are open for a new relationship… wishing you the best of luck as you work through it all🩷
Yes, I agree we need to keep ourselves open to what might happen relationship-wise -- w/o any preconceived notions/scenarios we may have (which may limit/confine us or our expectations) -- but at the same time, IMO it needs to be natural, and ideally, be a mutual attraction (not one-sided). We also need to "put ourselves out there" to some degree as we won't meet many people staying at home constantly. It's kind of like someone praying for help getting a good job but never going out looking for one! And in The Villages -- if we stayed @ home mostly -- we wouldn't even see the Mail Carrier...but maybe a FedEx/UPS driver? I mean that IS possible, even if highly unlikely he/she would be suitable "relationship candidates." Still, that's somewhat a limited pool-of-candidates (if you will), I'd say -- FedEx & UPS (!) -- so we'd probably want just a bit more selection. ;-) Again though, IMO relationships (friendship and romantic both) have to happen naturally...even though KEEPING a relationship going/healthy DOES take some work, and by both sides (not only one). ...but that's another topic in itself. ;-) Good luck to us all, -- BR
Well said. I agree, the best relationships are those that happen by chance/naturally…. You certainly have to put yourself out there as much as you may not feel like it sometimes. Good luck :)
Loved this. I am an Alpha Female as well, which was due to a lot of childhood trauma / abuse. Men were untrustworthy. As I age I feel more confident, safe I find myself wanting to relax more, not be so 'in the drivers seat' and let my man take the lead. So well said. I am not single, married for 25+ years, however this episode touched my heart. Note to self, relax into my feminine energy more often. ♥ Love y'all so much ♥
I loved reading your response but sorry to hear about the childhood trauma. Yes, I too want to relax more, it’s like the “waiting to exhale” thought… thanks for watching maybe we both can exhale and let him lead :)
Wow. Very Interesting talk Tina and Krista! Some thoughts… You both are so open , honest and engaging that I just know that whatever dating status you each are in at any given time that you’d be happy… in a content sort of happy way… You don’t give off ANY AIR OF DESPERATION which , I bet, goes a long way in just being “ out there” and going with “ the flow”….. When it comes to a physical relationship…I wonder if newly divorced men or maybe widowed men are more “ pushy”? I do think men are wired to be more physically needy( 😂) and women more emotionally wired…. Like maybe that could be another red flag type thing? I took away that living in TV is so wonderful, that men and women ( for the most Part?) are there to enjoy the great environment of TV and that if love comes along then that’s terrific… but that there are so many real Friendships between people that whatever your love life situation is that you’re surrounded by some Great people to live life with every day!! My 2 cents!!😊 Thanks for an engaging video!!! And 🥂 Cheers to happy dates !!!
Wow Mary, so well said and what a great recap and analysis ! I think both men and women here are looking for a physical relationship, I hear it from many of the women here as well. But of course we have to be careful as living here is like living in a small town…🙈. Thanks for watching, we always appreciate your fun and insightful comments!
So glad I am single, and never married. I dated a lot from 17 to my late 50s, that was enough for me. Yes, I had proposals but turned them down, and looking back now am positive I made the right decisions for me. Love being on my own, making my own decisions, handling my own money...but to each his own. Definitely agree on smokers, never dated one - that was a definite no.
Here’s to living life on your own terms! So glad to hear you are happy with your relationship decisions. Always a great idea to try and live without regrets… Wishing you all the best.
Very interesting perspective. I have been married for many years and we want to move to TV soon. My husband can’t do many things with me due to his health and I was worried about being able to meet people and make friends to do things with. What group are you a member of that you were you referencing?
I HATE texting. It is so impersonal. I am older than you and I prefer to call you on the phone and ask you out. The problem there is I have to somehow get your number first. If you tell me that you dont have a phone, then I expect that you are lying, and just dont want anything to do with me. If you dont want to go out, then just say so. If you are not available or your screening your calls, then I will leave a short message. If you dont call me back, then I take that as a bad sign. If you text me, after getting my voicemail, then I take that as a bad sign. I want to meet in public so we can be face to face. That is so much better and easier. Meeting face to face allows us to focus on each other, and to get to know each other faster, and allows us to see our expressions and mannerisms when we talk so that we can understand if we are enjoying each other. Then we can decide if we have a connection and want to meet somewhere more private. I must be the only person that feels this way. I find that most women just want to stay on the dating website so that they can spend money to chat. I have not found anyone that wants to meet in person.
@@brentseizer1019 Don’t give up! I agree with everything you said: chemistry between people can only happen in person. If they like you, they will call. I called first after the first date and I didn’t even care because I wanted to hear his voice. He was not physically what I thought I was attracted to but when I met him at a friend’s party I was absolutely taken. Unicorns are very rare but do exist. I came with a trainload of baggage. We have been together 20 years and still going strong. God bless you and send you a sweetheart!
Oh, I didn’t realize you were looking for our dating profiles! Well, how about this: I'm a 59-year-old, financially independent woman who retired at 58 (yes, early retirement-score!). I’m intelligent, determined, adventurous, and loyal, with baggage so light it fits neatly in the overhead compartment. 🧳 While cats are cute, I’m actually a proud dog mom to a 14 1/2-year-old pitbull rescue who’s the real love of my life. 🐾 So, what do you think? Maybe we’re a match after all? I eagerly await your response… or maybe a rose? 🌹😉 BTW we have an episode on dating from the male perspective, perhaps you will enjoy this one more: th-cam.com/video/UbVxtdNpGD0/w-d-xo.html
@@LadiesoftheLanai-yb1ns Thanks for your response Tina. My comment was for your guest Krista? ( hope I spelled that correctly) There's already a built in location barrier between us. ( a red flag in dating) We are close in age! ( I like that!) I live in Indialantic Fl. My 6 kids are all grown adults now, and we've always had a poodle dog! My job does take me through The Villages on my travel to Ocala. ( about 100 trips over the past 5 yrs.) In the near future I plan to travel back to many of my delivery destinations across the state and spend a few long weekends. How's the dancing at the villages? I am currently starting my 3rd year of ballroom dancing. I dance /practice dancing 6 days a week. ( I'm blessed with several dance studios just a few miles from my house.)
I got dating advice from my 16 year old neighbor: Don’t kiss them until at least second date. I had to relearn how to go slowly as married means going all the way all the time. 😅❤🎉
It's a totally joke more than entertaining. Sounds like if someone has some age on them their going to be very lonely there. One event after another so easy to meet people 😂😂 Guess some people will believe anything they are told.
Sorry going out to eat every day is very expensive. A deal breaker. If the ideal man is 55+ chances he will be sick within a few years. Men in their 50's+ at the Villages are like a women in their twenties. These men can pick and choose. Ladies forget about being choosy. I'm 75 and I guess good looking, There are no age limit to the women I can approach. Honestly, I am quite surprised.
You can only be single once. If you were married or in a committed relationship, then you can only be divorced or widowed. If you are 50+ years old, and you tell me that you are single, I automatically start to wonder, * have you ever been on a date * are you a virgin * have you ever lived with a man If you have dated many men and never been married, then I have to wonder if there is something wrong with you. * Are you not mature enough to have an adult relationship? * Do you find it difficult to talk about sex and other personal issues, that a couple in a committed relationship would talk about? * Why cant you find compatibility with anyone? * Are your standards too high? I find it hard to believe that anyone enjoys living alone.
Brent, I find it hard to believe your comments. Seriously! There are so many reasons why someone is single at our stage in life. You make it sound like a person who hasn’t had your path is a loser. Sad!
It is more difficult for a man to be alone than for a woman. Women have girlfriends and activities that keep her interested and busy. The Bible says it’s not good for a man to be alone. But let’s be honest, it would be wonderful if we met our soul companion that’s in good shape, takes care of their health, finances, and body, and has a wonderful life! Most people seem need to exercise more; and get off the diabetes meds.Also, a woman who can’t easily make a nutritious dinner is like a man who can’t pump gas. Ugh. Go carnivore. BBQing a ribeye with butter is easy. And stop with eating any bread and all types of sugar, it’s awful for the body. God wants us healthy.
It’s still 55+ but there are a few exceptions to the rule. One household resident must be at least 55. There is also the 80/20 rule where at least 80% of the residents must be 55 or older and the other 20% may be occupied by those younger with certain restrictions that must be older than 18.
If a woman is divorced or widowed and you go on your first date, and you notice that she is still wearing a ring or band on her left ring finger. Is that a deal breaker for you? That is a deal breaker for me.
I would have to agree that if someone is still wearing a wedding ring and divorced/widowed, they haven’t gotten over the other person and aren’t ready for a new relationship. I would say that’s a dealbreaker too..
Krista is still working hard but definitely rich in the friends and family department. You’re right, not all men can live in The Villages, it’s just a preference like say8ing you’d like someone who lives in the same city. Thanks for watching, we appreciate you!
A neighbor of mine found love in The Villages. They were both single and had their own homes here in The Villages. They sold both homes bought one together and now are getting married.
That gives us all hope! But seriously I love hearing stories like that… Christine and I both have a friend who is getting married in November and met her husband at Edna’s when she moved to The Villages. Very sweet and so perfect together!
Great video Tina. Thanks for helping a guy get a little insight into Villages dating. I’m relatively new to the Villages and still trying to navigate the waters. I think both of you ladies are the cutest and I hope to see you around sometime. Happy Labor Day!! 👍🏻👍🏻
Glad to hear this was insightful for you. I’m sure you’ll get your footing soon enough in The Villages. It may take a little bit of time to figure it all out but the longer you are here the smaller The Villages becomes if that makes sense… hopefully we will see you around!
This was a great video. I am single widower and it is nice to know what women are looking for from their perspective. It is tough to get back into the dating world after many years of marriage. You have to get through your loss before you can move on. This is a great interview. Keep up the good work.
Thanks so much for the lovely feedback. Yes it’s important to work through your loss so that you are open for a new relationship… wishing you the best of luck as you work through it all🩷
Such fun! So good to know that no matter what, The Villages is the place to enjoy and find love!! ❤❤🎉🎉. Thx so much for doing this!! 😊😊
Thanks Mia :) we are definitely all enjoying ourselves here and if we can find love, it’s an additional bonus!
Very well done. Super interesting from the ladies' point of view!! Both beautiful! ❤
Thank you!!
Yes, I agree we need to keep ourselves open to what might happen relationship-wise -- w/o any preconceived notions/scenarios we may have (which may limit/confine us or our expectations) -- but at the same time, IMO it needs to be natural, and ideally, be a mutual attraction (not one-sided). We also need to "put ourselves out there" to some degree as we won't meet many people staying at home constantly. It's kind of like someone praying for help getting a good job but never going out looking for one!
And in The Villages -- if we stayed @ home mostly -- we wouldn't even see the Mail Carrier...but maybe a FedEx/UPS driver? I mean that IS possible, even if highly unlikely he/she would be suitable "relationship candidates." Still, that's somewhat a limited pool-of-candidates (if you will), I'd say -- FedEx & UPS (!) -- so we'd probably want just a bit more selection. ;-)
Again though, IMO relationships (friendship and romantic both) have to happen naturally...even though KEEPING a relationship going/healthy DOES take some work, and by both sides (not only one).
...but that's another topic in itself. ;-)
Good luck to us all,
-- BR
Well said. I agree, the best relationships are those that happen by chance/naturally…. You certainly have to put yourself out there as much as you may not feel like it sometimes. Good luck :)
Loved this. I am an Alpha Female as well, which was due to a lot of childhood trauma / abuse. Men were untrustworthy. As I age I feel more confident, safe I find myself wanting to relax more, not be so 'in the drivers seat' and let my man take the lead. So well said. I am not single, married for 25+ years, however this episode touched my heart. Note to self, relax into my feminine energy more often. ♥ Love y'all so much ♥
I loved reading your response but sorry to hear about the childhood trauma. Yes, I too want to relax more, it’s like the “waiting to exhale” thought… thanks for watching maybe we both can exhale and let him lead :)
@@LadiesoftheLanai-yb1ns ♥ your channel has quickly become one of my faves! ♥
@Susie-Joy love this! Thanks 💋
She has a beautiful heart and spirit, it will work out well for her !!!
Krista really does have both of those! 🩷
My Linda girls!! I love Tina!! But I really like joy!! Life is short, and the world is life...
Wow. Very
Interesting talk Tina and Krista! Some thoughts…
You both are so open , honest and engaging that I just know that whatever dating status you each are in at any given time that you’d be happy… in a content sort of happy way…
You don’t give off ANY AIR OF DESPERATION which , I bet, goes a long way in just being “ out there” and going with “ the flow”…..
When it comes to a physical relationship…I wonder if newly divorced men or maybe widowed men are more “ pushy”? I do think men are wired to be more physically needy( 😂) and women more emotionally wired…. Like maybe that could be another red flag type thing?
I took away that living in TV is so wonderful, that men and women ( for the most
Part?) are there to enjoy the great environment of TV and that if love comes along then that’s terrific… but that there are so many real
Friendships between people that whatever your love life situation is that you’re surrounded by some
Great people to live life with every day!!
My 2 cents!!😊
Thanks for an engaging video!!! And 🥂 Cheers to happy dates !!!
Wow Mary, so well said and what a great recap and analysis ! I think both men and women here are looking for a physical relationship, I hear it from many of the women here as well. But of course we have to be careful as living here is like living in a small town…🙈. Thanks for watching, we always appreciate your fun and insightful comments!
So glad I am single, and never married. I dated a lot from 17 to my late 50s, that was enough for me. Yes, I had proposals but turned them down, and looking back now am positive I made the right decisions for me. Love being on my own, making my own decisions, handling my own money...but to each his own. Definitely agree on smokers, never dated one - that was a definite no.
Here’s to living life on your own terms! So glad to hear you are happy with your relationship decisions. Always a great idea to try and live without regrets… Wishing you all the best.
Have no fear...Elvis is here, girls 🎉
Woo hoo! Elvis is in the house!!! Love it 🙈
My mom told me the same thing! Looking at a man’s shoes will tell you alot.
I totally believe it! Especially when I was living in NYC. But as Krista mentioned, in Florida, a lot of guys wear flip-flops! Ha ha.
Very interesting perspective. I have been married for many years and we want to move to TV soon. My husband can’t do many things with me due to his health and I was worried about being able to meet people and make friends to do things with. What group are you a member of that you were you referencing?
The group is “50 Something in The Villages “. But there are many other groups that that you can make friends and do lots of activities with here!
@@LadiesoftheLanai-yb1ns thanks, enjoying your shows!
Call you? I wish I could, your both great ladies, great show, keep up the great work ❤
You’re too funny Kyle. Thanks for watching :)
I HATE texting. It is so impersonal.
I am older than you and I prefer to call you on the phone and ask you out.
The problem there is I have to somehow get your number first.
If you tell me that you dont have a phone, then I expect that you are lying, and just dont want anything to do with me. If you dont want to go out, then just say so.
If you are not available or your screening your calls, then I will leave a short message.
If you dont call me back, then I take that as a bad sign.
If you text me, after getting my voicemail, then I take that as a bad sign.
I want to meet in public so we can be face to face. That is so much better and easier.
Meeting face to face allows us to focus on each other, and to get to know each other faster, and allows us to see our expressions and mannerisms when we talk so that we can understand if we are enjoying each other.
Then we can decide if we have a connection and want to meet somewhere more private.
I must be the only person that feels this way. I find that most women just want to stay on the dating website so that they can spend money to chat. I have not found anyone that wants to meet in person.
@@brentseizer1019 Don’t give up! I agree with everything you said: chemistry between people can only happen in person. If they like you, they will call. I called first after the first date and I didn’t even care because I wanted to hear his voice. He was not physically what I thought I was attracted to but when I met him at a friend’s party I was absolutely taken. Unicorns are very rare but do exist. I came with a trainload of baggage. We have been together 20 years and still going strong. God bless you and send you a sweetheart!
@jeaninekelly4271 you answered wonderfully and true. I don’t think there’s anything for me to add!! 🙈. Thank you both for watching!
All I hear is " what I want, what I want" not a damn thing about what I can provide! Enjoy your cats ladies!
Oh, I didn’t realize you were looking for our dating profiles! Well, how about this: I'm a 59-year-old, financially independent woman who retired at 58 (yes, early retirement-score!). I’m intelligent, determined, adventurous, and loyal, with baggage so light it fits neatly in the overhead compartment. 🧳 While cats are cute, I’m actually a proud dog mom to a 14 1/2-year-old pitbull rescue who’s the real love of my life. 🐾
So, what do you think? Maybe we’re a match after all? I eagerly await your response… or maybe a rose? 🌹😉
BTW we have an episode on dating from the male perspective, perhaps you will enjoy this one more:
th-cam.com/video/UbVxtdNpGD0/w-d-xo.html
@@LadiesoftheLanai-yb1ns as always you are a class act. Great response.
Thanks. We try to keep it classy 🩷
@@LadiesoftheLanai-yb1ns Thanks for your response Tina. My comment was for your guest Krista? ( hope I spelled that correctly) There's already a built in location barrier between us. ( a red flag in dating) We are close in age! ( I like that!) I live in Indialantic Fl. My 6 kids are all grown adults now, and we've always had a poodle dog! My job does take me through The Villages on my travel to Ocala. ( about 100 trips over the past 5 yrs.) In the near future I plan to travel back to many of my delivery destinations across the state and spend a few long weekends. How's the dancing at the villages? I am currently starting my 3rd year of ballroom dancing. I dance /practice dancing 6 days a week. ( I'm blessed with several dance studios just a few miles from my house.)
I have two left feet in ballroom dancing or the man must be a great lead! Happy dancing 😝🕺🏼
I’ve heard it’s best to bring a raincoat.
Probably a good idea
Fellas. What out for them Villages cougars!😬
"Cougars? I think we prefer 'experienced adventurers'-we know the terrain and how to have a good time!" Ha ha.
Damn, Krista ❤looking good.😊
I’ll make sure Krista sees this comment! 🩷
@@LadiesoftheLanai-yb1nsGood because she’s an attractive woman and she should be recognized ❤as such
I got dating advice from my 16 year old neighbor: Don’t kiss them until at least second date. I had to relearn how to go slowly as married means going all the way all the time. 😅❤🎉
I 🩷 this! Great advice 😝
Imagine all the shit talking that goes on at these types of places hahahhhH GREAT PRESENTATION THO
Thanks for watching. Glad u found it entertaining 😝
It's a totally joke more than entertaining. Sounds like if someone has some age on them their going to be very lonely there.
One event after another so easy to meet people 😂😂
Guess some people will believe anything they are told.
@markhicks71 not sure what exactly you mean. What is it that people believe in if they are told??
I am looking for my retirement place. You may help with my decision
We’re always happy to help :). Good luck in your search 😝
Keep in mind, many of these fellas are seeking a “ nurse with a purse”
Yikes. Will have to keep our radars on the outlook for those kind of guys!!
😂😂😂...right on babe
Sorry going out to eat every day is very expensive. A deal breaker. If the ideal man is 55+ chances he will be sick within a few years. Men in their 50's+ at the Villages are like a women in their twenties. These men can pick and choose. Ladies forget about being choosy. I'm 75 and I guess good looking, There are no age limit to the women I can approach. Honestly, I am quite surprised.
Go get em Tiger!!
You can only be single once.
If you were married or in a committed relationship, then you can only be divorced or widowed.
If you are 50+ years old, and you tell me that you are single, I automatically start to wonder,
* have you ever been on a date
* are you a virgin
* have you ever lived with a man
If you have dated many men and never been married, then I have to wonder if there is something wrong with you.
* Are you not mature enough to have an adult relationship?
* Do you find it difficult to talk about sex and other personal issues, that a couple in a committed relationship would talk about?
* Why cant you find compatibility with anyone?
* Are your standards too high?
I find it hard to believe that anyone enjoys living alone.
WTF? And who are you? 😂
Brent, I find it hard to believe your comments. Seriously! There are so many reasons why someone is single at our stage in life. You make it sound like a person who hasn’t had your path is a loser. Sad!
It is more difficult for a man to be alone than for a woman. Women have girlfriends and activities that keep her interested and busy. The Bible says it’s not good for a man to be alone. But let’s be honest, it would be wonderful if we met our soul companion that’s in good shape, takes care of their health, finances, and body, and has a wonderful life! Most people seem need to exercise more; and get off the diabetes meds.Also, a woman who can’t easily make a nutritious dinner is like a man who can’t pump gas. Ugh. Go carnivore. BBQing a ribeye with butter is easy. And stop with eating any bread and all types of sugar, it’s awful for the body. God wants us healthy.
I’m with you Ruth! Those are wise words 🙌🏼
Your not 55 . I’m confused.
I’m actually 59!
"The blonde" "You can talk to men because they understand women better than other people do"??" WHAT ARE YOU SMOKING?
I’d something good! Ha ha
I'm a retired naval aviator.. are you ladies for real?
I’m not sure exactly what you mean but yes our experiences are real…
I thought you had to be 55 to live in the Village? Are they opening up?
It’s still 55+ but there are a few exceptions to the rule. One household resident must be at least 55. There is also the 80/20 rule where at least 80% of the residents must be 55 or older and the other 20% may be occupied by those younger with certain restrictions that must be older than 18.
If a woman is divorced or widowed and you go on your first date, and you notice that she is still wearing a ring or band on her left ring finger.
Is that a deal breaker for you?
That is a deal breaker for me.
I would have to agree that if someone is still wearing a wedding ring and divorced/widowed, they haven’t gotten over the other person and aren’t ready for a new relationship. I would say that’s a dealbreaker too..
I'd love to meet a woman from The Villages and would be willing to travel to date her, then move.
You’ll have to do a “Lifestyle” visit and meet some of the fabulous ladies here :)
Well not all men can live in villages...your lucky to be 48 and rich
Krista is still working hard but definitely rich in the friends and family department. You’re right, not all men can live in The Villages, it’s just a preference like say8ing you’d like someone who lives in the same city. Thanks for watching, we appreciate you!
Looking for a active 60s lady in California .
Good luck!! I’m sure California has lots of lovely active ladies :)
What do you think of transgender women living in the village?
We’re not one to judge and feel to each their own
Stop laughing so much. I cant tell if your serious or not.
Sometimes we have to laugh but I am totally serious! Hope you enjoyed the show! We plan on doing a men and women discussion in the future
The Villages is on my retirement list. Glad to hear there is a 50s group.. She will have to like a cold beer and golf. 😅
You will definitely find a woman like that here!