Girl yes the men that look like horses, crickets and something straight out of the jungle seem to be drawn to us! 😅 Church does raise women especially black women to be pick me types. I'm so glad l saw through it at a young age!
And it raises incel corn addicts to think they’re supposed to get a Christian version of Beyoncé. (I’m not kidding, one guy literally tried to date me and he said his type was Beyoncé yet Christian, so apparently I fit into that or he thought he could mold me into that ) the delusion is hilarious . No wonder the Christian guys end up having red pill rage .
Same. They stopped inviting me stating "You take all of our men" meaning men were interested in me over them. I was never a man collector. They'd rather ex a good friend for a chance with a guy who wasn't even their match. Girls who felt invalid without a man. Who asked their partners not to fall in love with me b4 meeting me. Who put off introducing us until they felt secure in their relationship. Looked down on me when i was single while they weren't and said, "I cant figure out why youre single". Who thought my hair products confirmed my blackness. We can go on and on.
Thank You For Sharing Your Story, It was incredibly unfortunate all around that young people could not be more inclusive and Christ-Centered. Many, Many people fall away from their walk with God because of situations like this. Storytime, If I May: I was 17 and in my senior year of High School. Being from Kansas, I was used to being in non-diverse spaces so when I went to my older brother's Non-Denominational church, it wasn't that different for me. I was told that "I would go to hell if I didn't study the bible" and used this as my main motivation for doing so. The problem was that the older women that I studied the bible with actually had different intentions than I had hoped. After microaggressions (including one women asking me if my brother and I had the same father because I was lighter than him) I decided to endure all of this--instead of the terrifying alternative. I was working my way through several bible studies and came to The Cross, which is the final one where you reveal all of your sin to another and write a letter corroborating it as well. I was shamed for being scared throughout and for what I had to reveal (which was not that much at the age of 17, but felt like it was). I was then told that I "wasn't ready to be Baptized." *MY SIN LETTER WAS PASSED AROUND THE ENTIRE CHURCH AND GOSSIPED ABOUT* Now, I can completely understand why some people do not dwell in these spaces simply because they have been spiritually violated. Could you really blame someone for their second guessing intentions regarding the church?? I found my way back to God, but had to fight demons INSIDE the church to get back to him. 🤌🖤
Omg that happened at a church when I was a kid ! We had to write a letter to God in fifth grade Bible class . I wrote down that I wanted to stop being mean to my brother. He told us to crumble the letters up and put them in a basket. The teacher was an unambiguous black guy. Later on after class he was like “so you want to stop being mean to your brother?” Even though it wasn’t a big deal I was so embarrassed. Why did he single ME out (the only “black” girl in the class) and also why was he reading the prayers that were supposed to be between us and God. I consider that a microagression honestly because did he invade other peoples privacy like that? I didn’t see him walk up to anyone else and comment on their personal sins
@@ExoticalsUnited I feel like that was adultification toward you on that part of the teacher: many black women are seen as 'older' than and therefore, entitled to harsher criticism/punishment from adults-even at a much younger age. This teacher seemed to go out of his way to project a type of shaming technique, most likely due to a past rejection/insecurity in his personal life-possibly by a woman resembling your phenotype. Perhaps, his flawed character and unwillingness to compartmentalize his work-life balance attributed to this particular situation. I can COMPLETELY empathize, (having been severely bullied by teachers myself). My main criticism/concern is that many children look to adults for guidance and care--blindly. If a child is dejected/mistreated in this life stage then what kind of aversion to trust will manifest in adulthood and what kind of social skills might be affected as well? I'm sorry that happened to you and the many, many others as well. Kudos to you for starting the conversation 😎
Thank you for this story time 😂 stuff like this is what made me distance myself from the church unfortunately. A common thing I encountered were older women trying to play matchmaker 🙄 the matches were a lot like the guy you described lol
I grew up listening to Baptist preaching my parents aren’t that religious but I heard the gospel from a Baptist pastor and I’m a Christian still but even though baptists believe in eternal security strongly and not losing your salvation or using hell as a control tactic to believers, however being in that group as a woman it’s very gender role based and toxic in a lot of ways and you’re taught to be a pick me and your life purpose is to be a wife and a mom and that’s it and anything outside of that is sinful and it took me a long time to form my own identity and I feel bad because I hurt a lot of people and I am rebuilding myself and it hurt other people when it didn’t even benefit me
You guys have always been welcome to email your stories at exoticalsunited@gmail.com. Depending on how long the story ends up being I will post it but lately people have been just emailing me and telling me not to post their stories . As for panels ; you can follow my second channel exoticals unfiltered. All the panels I did on this channel got demonetized by TH-cam
Girl yes the men that look like horses, crickets and something straight out of the jungle seem to be drawn to us! 😅 Church does raise women especially black women to be pick me types. I'm so glad l saw through it at a young age!
😂 This is true. Even when I was looking like Miss Piggy's cousin at ine point, I attracted boars and I.... oh my lol
@@RedAndTheCompany567 lol not boars. I remember a guy that looked like a Warthog.... yes! 😳
Yes!! And the animal looking dudes ALWAYS wanted a slow hug. 🤢 Not today, Brother Satan! 😑
And it raises incel corn addicts to think they’re supposed to get a Christian version of Beyoncé. (I’m not kidding, one guy literally tried to date me and he said his type was Beyoncé yet Christian, so apparently I fit into that or he thought he could mold me into that ) the delusion is hilarious . No wonder the Christian guys end up having red pill rage .
@@RedAndTheCompany567 😂
Same. They stopped inviting me stating "You take all of our men" meaning men were interested in me over them. I was never a man collector. They'd rather ex a good friend for a chance with a guy who wasn't even their match. Girls who felt invalid without a man. Who asked their partners not to fall in love with me b4 meeting me. Who put off introducing us until they felt secure in their relationship. Looked down on me when i was single while they weren't and said, "I cant figure out why youre single". Who thought my hair products confirmed my blackness. We can go on and on.
Thank You For Sharing Your Story,
It was incredibly unfortunate all around that young people could not be more inclusive and Christ-Centered. Many, Many people fall away from their walk with God because of situations like this.
Storytime, If I May:
I was 17 and in my senior year of High School. Being from Kansas, I was used to being in non-diverse spaces so when I went to my older brother's Non-Denominational church, it wasn't that different for me. I was told that "I would go to hell if I didn't study the bible" and used this as my main motivation for doing so. The problem was that the older women that I studied the bible with actually had different intentions than I had hoped. After microaggressions (including one women asking me if my brother and I had the same father because I was lighter than him) I decided to endure all of this--instead of the terrifying alternative. I was working my way through several bible studies and came to The Cross, which is the final one where you reveal all of your sin to another and write a letter corroborating it as well. I was shamed for being scared throughout and for what I had to reveal (which was not that much at the age of 17, but felt like it was). I was then told that I "wasn't ready to be Baptized." *MY SIN LETTER WAS PASSED AROUND THE ENTIRE CHURCH AND GOSSIPED ABOUT* Now, I can completely understand why some people do not dwell in these spaces simply because they have been spiritually violated. Could you really blame someone for their second guessing intentions regarding the church?? I found my way back to God, but had to fight demons INSIDE the church to get back to him. 🤌🖤
Omg that happened at a church when I was a kid ! We had to write a letter to God in fifth grade Bible class . I wrote down that I wanted to stop being mean to my brother. He told us to crumble the letters up and put them in a basket. The teacher was an unambiguous black guy. Later on after class he was like “so you want to stop being mean to your brother?” Even though it wasn’t a big deal I was so embarrassed. Why did he single ME out (the only “black” girl in the class) and also why was he reading the prayers that were supposed to be between us and God. I consider that a microagression honestly because did he invade other peoples privacy like that? I didn’t see him walk up to anyone else and comment on their personal sins
@@ExoticalsUnited I feel like that was adultification toward you on that part of the teacher: many black women are seen as 'older' than and therefore, entitled to harsher criticism/punishment from adults-even at a much younger age. This teacher seemed to go out of his way to project a type of shaming technique, most likely due to a past rejection/insecurity in his personal life-possibly by a woman resembling your phenotype. Perhaps, his flawed character and unwillingness to compartmentalize his work-life balance attributed to this particular situation. I can COMPLETELY empathize, (having been severely bullied by teachers myself). My main criticism/concern is that many children look to adults for guidance and care--blindly. If a child is dejected/mistreated in this life stage then what kind of aversion to trust will manifest in adulthood and what kind of social skills might be affected as well? I'm sorry that happened to you and the many, many others as well. Kudos to you for starting the conversation 😎
Thank you for this story time 😂 stuff like this is what made me distance myself from the church unfortunately. A common thing I encountered were older women trying to play matchmaker 🙄 the matches were a lot like the guy you described lol
I have so many more church stories 😂
I’m so annoyed by the mocking 🙄 idk why people do that but it makes them look VERY ugly to me. They did you a favor ✌🏾
I grew up listening to Baptist preaching my parents aren’t that religious but I heard the gospel from a Baptist pastor and I’m a Christian still but even though baptists believe in eternal security strongly and not losing your salvation or using hell as a control tactic to believers, however being in that group as a woman it’s very gender role based and toxic in a lot of ways and you’re taught to be a pick me and your life purpose is to be a wife and a mom and that’s it and anything outside of that is sinful and it took me a long time to form my own identity and I feel bad because I hurt a lot of people and I am rebuilding myself and it hurt other people when it didn’t even benefit me
I love your storytimes 😂😂😂keep them coming!
More to come! 😂😂😂
Thank you for sharing. Sometimes I wish I went to an HBCU, but do not regret my college
Love the story time. Another suggestion tell other peoples story time and have a panel discussion on certain topics
You guys have always been welcome to email your stories at exoticalsunited@gmail.com. Depending on how long the story ends up being I will post it but lately people have been just emailing me and telling me not to post their stories . As for panels ; you can follow my second channel exoticals unfiltered. All the panels I did on this channel got demonetized by TH-cam
The description pf the guy 😂😂😂😂
😂💀🤣😂 9:21
11:00 😂🤣🤣
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How petty.